Fix Your Communication With Your Spouse! II Steve Harvey

Stephanie and her husband Rashidi are struggling to communicate effectively. Can ‪@SteveHarvey‬ get their relationship back on track? #steveharvey #relationship #advice
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[@paresaalizadeh2423]

Shes very unhappy, you can tell the way she keeps defending him but he doesn't do the same for her. He's not walking on eggshells when he talks to her but she is constantly. She needs to open up and be very honest with what she needs in order to truly be happy in her marriage.

[@zahramissy4837]

“Everything you going through is God preparing you for what you asked God for “ 🔥🔥🔥🔥these words really gave me goosebumps

[@YourRoyalHighness88]

God brings you together, but it's up to them to make it work.

[@YourRoyalHighness88]

Relationships are not guaranteed by God.

[@robinsonaustin7670]

This word caught me for real

[@robinsonaustin7670]

Quite frankly

[@nellyochieng6271]

Friendship and communication is always the key to a great marriage.

[@krisluck4541]

One of the few interviews I've seen where the couple seems to be very mature and not foolish like some of these other couples you see out there.

[@cindycranford6467]

Very proper

[@divinelyprotected144]

What a beautiful and healthy couple. They're so respectful of each other. They seem like they get a long we'll and have a string union. The translations were hilarious

[@MyWayWendy]

For me I think for any Relationship to be Successful, there needs to be loving Communication & Understanding..

[@carolyndelong4737]

Ella , amen amen amen !!

[@lindyameteorite8772]

Thanks God for letting me find this program. Thanks Steve... May God grant ease and goodness as well as good health. Amin

[@hokulele393]

My Ex used to say that all the time and NEVER gave anything and the spontaneous never came to be . He would always say "you made me mad or pissed me off so I just didn't get you anything. ".

[@shasma72]

Glad he’s an ex now

[@kwadjooppong6575]

Listening to Steve takes me to learning ,have fun and develop my life experience most of all

[@eyerusalemu4078]

WOW! I felt like this conversation is for me and my husband. Thank you Steve!

[@bestkksser]

I just wanted to say I don’t know what you might he going through Or what situation you’re in right now but I no god is there for you and he loves you God bless everyone who came across.🇧🇸❤️Marcia

[@teteobotanpa8550]

Uncle Steve, you are indeed on a mission. God Almighty is using you, well done for availing yourself.

[@valendajohnson7826]

Communication is key 🔑 👌🏾 💯 got it!

[@b.africa1348]

It’s the issue of having BUILT IN LOVE LANGUAGES yall!! It’s a tough one to conquer. Thank you for bravely putting your hearts out there ❤ we love and appreciate this insightful segment 🙏

[@notoriousimane]

Steve Harvey you‘re the best!

[@tamaramoore6069]

Thank you Uncle Steve for sharing your wisdom about communicating with your partner. Enjoy your day

[@WorldMusicFollower]

Her husband does not look impressed by this conversation 😂

[@wendyhestick8514]

She keeps apologizing and seems insecure about losing him.

[@sweetman5249]

Yup he is a good guy

[@dillmuloshi64]

Wow great conversation, I love this couple already 😘, and Thank you to Steve 😍

[@kenrickfoster383]

I agree with Mrs Steve , her days is okay , her birthday is first , just put her feels first.

[@iriemo721]

People need to get out of their feelings and realize that the world isn’t against them. Take my words for exactly what they say, don’t add your insecurities or chip on your shoulder to them.

[@Lyunea]

$5 can be a lot if you don't have it/hard times.

[@ykmification]

Steve ur a man+ thank u,keep helping & shining

[@ndayizeyeaboubakar5084]

I love this show Love from East Africa Burundi 🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮🇧🇮.

[@DDBb993]

Like "what did you hear". Steve looks sharp and love that he always refers to,Marjorie

[@diannestirling1089]

A great couple that love each other needs to be friends

[@metropcs7560]

Thanks Steve, so much!!!

[@zahramissy4837]

Steve was right . I am sure the lady was scared when Steve said “You have been stupid for a while “ her facial expression said it all but I loved how Steve went about it . Although I love spontaneous gifts; I love to be treated special on my birthdays

[@ucheiwuajoku1037]

Exactly, I saw the expression on the woman's face like, "oops! this will cause a quarrel when we get home". She quickly rose in her husband's defence. And Steve maneuvered his way around it to give him accolades. Lastly, there was Calm

[@petaljoa8734]

Caribbean upbringing is the best; the culture, morals and standards

[@beverleyhusbands2544]

He is not stupid. I like that as well, when I least expect it. I am with him!

[@heatherjohnston5427]

Great show today!

[@ishakeister6725]

Love your analysis

[@olaademola2887]

Rashid looking so stressed out

[@brendah4773]

9:22 Again, she only asked a simple question. Why he got to be defensive?

[@anika14149]

It's about time and the understanding of the reader... remember these are messages not verbal questions...

[@savannah58]

My BD is six days before Christmas and I feel the same way as well. Two different days, don't attach them

[@Heavenly_007]

I’m happy for them that they have a good marriage, I wish the problems they have would have been my only problem in my marriage, but sadly being married to a narc for 16 years with 2 kids, my problems are way worse…

[@BrightMusic77]

Thank you sir

[@Shasha8674]

Control issues. Respect is needed. Not perfectionism.

[@diyallthings]

Dad’s always overlook things 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@isatukpanah3814]

They are mature and good people. I like them. Good luck

[@teresakelton8286]

That’s right.

[@susank2463]

The gift thing...if he won't give her that, he's not loving.

[@ifechi3698]

Her hubby says that he gives when he feels like but what about what she wants and when. Majority of the world celebrate birthdays & Christmas & to many it’s a time to show love. My “surprises” should do well to also dance to this tune. It doesn’t stop him from the one he invented - tru surprises.

[@Marshall_1990]

God bless

[@tiffanydavis172]

Girl please stop... He needs to step up and you are making excuses for him. He is in his EGO. Girl get off those egg shells or you will always be making excuses. None of this is her fault. You need to ask. Girl those egg shells hurt.

[@tiffanydavis172]

I think their marriage is in trouble?? She is dealing with a man who is trying to find himself and he is in his Ego..

[@lesegonkoana8463]

Agreed. He seems short fused and lacks EQ

[@aieshadaniels6104]

Caribbean stand up!!!

[@felixanams7791]

Great show

[@noobicorn_gamer]

That’s why txting sucks and always better to go old school: call or talk in person

[@Yourfavetwinmom]

Exactly!! When my husband and I were dating, he told me whenever I am upset with him about something he’d rather I call or we talk face to face but no texting. That’s because texting can be read the wrong way and escalate the issue at hand.

[@jessthecreativeee]

This goes to show that we all insert subtext into people's words to us (not just women) and therefore sometimes we have to work in opposition of how we feel because it may just be our individual perspective that's making something look bad to us... They have little disagreements which can be fixed by 1- acknowledging if thats actually what the person said or if its my interpretation of what they said and 2 - if it's my interpretation, asking for clarity in a nice/solution-orientated way.

[@ThisisMila]

This man needs to drop his ego a little bit

[@fred_ulysis]

2:32 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@fargakoigip6029]

I must admit people such as steve harvey are made for purpose is not that much schooled nor spiritual but he seems to get things very right at simplicity ....GOD is preparing you for what you have asked HIM for.... many hate the process including me often times we questions GOD's intent during the interval

[@brendah4773]

8:25 She was just asking a question. What’s the issue?

[@gregorypayton486]

It’s not the question… it’s the perception of what the question implies. It’s akin to asking an overweight person struggling to lose weight how’s the diet going. Additionally, certain circumstances for men can create a feeling of being inept(ex. not being able to provide for his family). Questioning a man’s actions can be perceived as passive aggressive emasculation.

[@brendah4773]

@@gregorypayton486 I get what you saying. However, in any body’s defense, she was simply asking a question, that didn’t warrant to become defensive

[@gregorypayton486]

@@brendah4773 depends… and it didn’t say he became defensive. It said how he received what she said.

[@amaragrace94]

@@gregorypayton486 I definitely hear you. I think people just gotta be more empathetic and imagine how they'd feel if roles were reversed. That and checking in with the "what I heard you say is..." to prevent and correct hurt from misunderstandings. It's a very effective communication/therapy technique.

[@ruthwayneperry3097]

My nephew loved beef jerky. We always knew even at 2,3 and 4 that he had had it because his breath would peel the bark off a tree, so Steve yes some four-year-olds specially if they're eating beef jerky, their breath is RANK..

[@Joryex02]

Rashidi is me 100%

[@lilianwangui1077]

High percentage of men behave the same live alone urs is 38 even my younger cousins when you live them on their own to do house chores high chance they will be busy playing P .S not what you ordered . if u are facing financial crisis l believe one should focus on important things eg basic needs presents 🎁 will come later give what you can afford don't struggle to give a car and you can only afford a bicycle Live Within your means

[@akindabili4449]

Please speak out and help The Christians in Nigeria 🇳🇬 🙏

[@keysahayes9617]

❤😂

[@juzeefruit9281]

Love ya Steve but I'm checkin you on that: had a beautiful home, lost it from a bipolar husband. The man I ended up with now, divorced and 12 yrs later same bunch of crap. God didn't have a dang thing to do with any of it...

[@justinyoderallison5998]

Sorry about that I hope you move forward happily,nice to meet you can we be pretty friends here?

[@petaljoa8734]

She is too damm petty.. you got a great Caribbean man be thankful

[@goldengirl7125]

He screams red flag to me

[@lesegonkoana8463]

Me too

[@ShutUpAndBump]

You are the red flag! That man just wanna be appreciated and to have peace!

[@aieshadaniels6104]

Getting your hair done for a couple hundred bucks NOT a gift girl, he had you looking extra lovely I'm sure! You best be thankful because hard times is actually affording the $5 gift only!!!

[@FF-fd4tm]

Thank you! I’m like he spent that much money on her hair she should be HAPPY. Material things mean nothing!

[@aieshadaniels6104]

@@FF-fd4tm Exactly there is a difference of being born surrounded by Caribbean waters it keeps you grounded and vitalizes humbleness! So many couples wish they had that $100 bucks to feed their kids much less do something nice!

[@aieshadaniels6104]

@@FF-fd4tm I'm a Caribbean Queen that lived in Brooklyn for a while. There are just different mindsets I've learned but couples should be reaching for the same wave length or someone going to get wiped out!

[@FF-fd4tm]

@@aieshadaniels6104 exactly. If she don’t stop this I wouldn’t be surprise if they end up divorcing. He looks 😣

[@kenrickfoster383]

Being in to relationship or marriage with out financially can cause big problems.and some time depends on the person you get in to relationship. Is not every woman will work with you till things get better , some lady u will not get any sex . No hugs ,no kisses . They just ignore you. Some ladys lock down on you . When this happens,this raise a lot of alarms in the thoughts of the man . This is what I being through. I have being lock out . I feel bad because If I don't do this now ,are because am in financial situation,you lock me out ,

[@tiffanydavis172]

Women stop defending him. Let's be clear. He need to honor her. Let go of the Ego. He need to get something for her Birthday... I know for sure I will not be able to let that go. I celebrate me on every Bday and anyone I am with will get the memo. It doesn't matter what you believe. Love your woman that is her love language.

[@AndrewR9717.]

Mr Harvey I know you love your country music if you want some fantastic in my opinion artist you might be interested in My personal favorite Alan Jackson and George Jones. Your best wishes Andrew Ryan.

[@7thfret.]

I'm a woman and she got on my nerves. 🤦🏽

[@blackmass1082]

Rashidi on point, he ain't doing nothing wrong.

[@Jaybird-be1tt]

I agree with him all them holidays are made up.. if I think you will like it fine if not then don't complain.

[@nabadonofficial]

First one watch this video

[@dr.sheilawitherspoon1667]

She appears to act like his mother versus his wife.

[@katrinadixon6500]

She seems a little Older than Him, She is thinking like a older or Just Matured Some seems like in a way.

[@katrinadixon6500]

Men Have feelings too though, Delivery is Important. The Holy Spirit helps me to communicate Gentle even through text. If I let the Holy Spirit Guide me

[@alvitaphillips-scarborough8667]

Any Trinis here thinking this brother is one of us??

[@maggien222]

Does she talk to him while raising her hands like that???

[@diyallthings]

When I am in an argument, I don’t have time to play “he said, she said”

[@nyesej]

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@stevenkurui5081]

Sigma male...

[@melissasmorris2210]

nothing for her bday , i can’t accept that you know every year her bday is coming , he could have cooked for her, anything to make her feel special. It sounds like they need a solid financial plan.

[@11marchand11]

she's not materialistic but she wants something from him even if it cost $5... lol.. ok

[@sheilaholman2479]

Make a gift or cook special meal sentimental gift from how fist dated

[@mstree9985]

A lot of times it's now what you say. It's how you say it. It's not what you ask. It's how you ask it. A woman should be mature enough to know when to do without. If y'all facing hard times financially it's no fair to expect a gift. At a specific time.

[@isabelleveilleux1526]

A loving husband a beautifull couple. But this is so me I am like the wife don't need much just the taught but do think of me and also the texting for the kid 🙋‍♀️

[@gypsyhermitishtarot]

Is it me or is all the criticism coming from her side? I think this is a great opportunity for us to learn the lesson of how not to treat a good man who is also a good partner.

[@aaronhall7862]

Facts.. she knew they had a hardship.. he spent HUNDREDS of dollars on your hair and got stuff for their son and you mad he ain't spend $5 on you. Though you're not materialistic? Lol get out of here

[@natashanaki]

am the second 😂

[@yahudahthelionking6190]

Rasheed this is America culture bro. And they created the idea of making “pagan holidays” important but all other black cultures get the spontaneity with “pleasantries” and it’s based on inconsistent financial standings due to poverty but it’s not “weird”, in my opinion.. Steve is rich now and forgot the rules of economic instability so we can’t all follow his guidelines. 🤔😎😍

[@gloriakemunto9490]

He's too young for him

[@maneytalk9296]

The women only needs respect and give chance to talk with you thats the best solution about relation

[@petaljoa8734]

She is doing too much and will drive him away and crazy

[@m.faisal8638]

Love from Pakistan dear

[@jasminasinanbegovic6225]

Why women have to compare themselves if they don't get something for birthday? And be jealous when the other one gets something. Yes she is wrong for being pissed over a nonsense, she should grow out of it when she was 9. You should be appreciative of him coming home, be financially and emotionally supportive and generous and loving spontaneously. Consider yourself the luckiest on the planet cause a bunch of women don't see that in their daily life and thank God that you do.

[@YourRoyalHighness88]

Relationship between husband and wife is a two person circles to make it work, don't let a third party involved. Even God can't help you.

[@Bkrunz]

Lol if God can't help my marriage I don't want it

[@YourRoyalHighness88]

@@Bkrunz Then you have to learn how to live alone. LMAO! 🤣

[@YourRoyalHighness88]

@@Bkrunz God brings you together but it's up to you to make it work, relationship are not guaranteed.

[@sadagathajiyeva5]

God can't come and fix your issues. Otherwise where will be test? This life is a test. God gave mind and free will so you can find your way out in any given situation

[@YourRoyalHighness88]

@@sadagathajiyeva5 That's what I'm trying to say.

[@apurple86]

Can't stand greedy self centered wives, um hair done he just said financial issues appreciate what you have and who you have death is real sister. Women can work to. 💜

[@Precious0100]

Harvey is so full of it by degrading the man instead of providing constructive feedback. This is no way to be an elder in the community?

[@susannefitzpatrick9955]

I thought she was his mother, first of all ...... And also she has double standards because she says she "doesn't want anything" because he's a good husband ...... then goes on to bemoan the fact that he didn't buy her something! This is heading for the divorce courts, sorry.

[@veronalipka3597]

Steve, I was disappointed when you acted like toothbrushing is unimportant! If the habit is not established and maintained by both parents, there will be hell to pay in the teen years. Most boys do not like brushing their teeth so, if his father does not help him in a pleasant way, it makes things worse. PVEL.

[@distorbia20]

The wife sounds overbearing. Gosh she needs to back off. I would never text or ask my husband if he washed and brushed our children teeth. He is loving caring and responsible father. Sometimes you need to stop being too controlling as a female

[@TheWhitetailrancher]

I completely disagree. obligatory gifting is useless and means NOTHING it is just like saying I love you, just to hear it back. This man has a pure heart. he IS a GIVING man! She meant to send it to her husband, no doubt about it. This woman is passive aggressive and demanding. when ANYONE makes a situation about what they get in stead of what they can give it makes me sick. The very first time I met my mother-in-law, we had a nice dinner, talked etc. when it came time to wrap it up and leave, she said "i like you AND I also like perks ( i have a buck or two and it is obvious). I instantly replied to her " Just because you just said that you have guaranteed that you will never receive any from me" I haven't given her one single "perk" since that very day. and I never will. greedy entitled people make my stomach turn. My wife gets to spend up to and including 20 bucks on her mother for gifting.

[@fayepatrice1672]

It means nothing TO YOU. When you love someone, their perspective should matter. If it's important to your partner, it should be important to you. And disrespecting and mistreating her mother indefinitely for one thoughtless remark reflects more poorly on you than your MIL. You should be ashamed but instead you are bragging. I don't know how your wife puts up with you.

[@amaragrace94]

@@fayepatrice1672 🙌🙌🙌

[@d.h.dd.h.d.5230]

Sorry, but she's petty with high expectations beyond her means & she is absolutely materialistic. That's what he's not saying because he's a discrete husband. A marriage is bet 2 not 3, sister inlaw out. It's never a good idea to bring a 3rd party into the marriage bed. Child care, hmmm...Does she want a hubby or a nanny? She married a man...not a boy.

[@reginaharrigan7454]

She too bossy and they need to divorced

[@kimoybrown9206]

Why would you say they need to divorced? This is something they can work on pray on

[@sorrywhoareyou887]

@@kimoybrown9206 exactly people advise divorce for the smallest things .

[@SultryNeoSoul]

Why do they need to be divorced when they clearly love each other and this is something they can work on? ❤