public break ups suck

[@gdaymates431]

I totally skipped Christmas this year. I've been alone at home. I did the garden, I cooked a meal, I made a cake. No drama. No noise. Just me and my dog. Blissss

[@Torsee]

I’m totally envious. ✌️

[@jeandoessharpfarts8123]

As an autistic person who struggles immensely with every aspect of Christmas, I am extremely jealous.

[@lithia4483]

Honestly this is exactly what I want to do once I move out. It sounds so peaceful. My family is toxic and it's impossible to avoid drama, so I can't wait to cook and watch Christmas movies in peace.

[@louizelimepips3517]

Oooh wait 😂 you must be in Australia. The time had me confused 🤭 you’re hours ahead. Also skipping Xmas this year. 😊

[@gdaymates431]

@louizelimepips3517 haha. Yes I am in Australia. I feel bad for anyone who is forced to attend Christmas events they don't want to attend.

[@mahnoorasimx]

"I mourned a life I thought I was going to live or supposed to live" - didn't know it before the episode but I really needed to hear this right now. Thank you & take good care!!

[@SunnyPereira1]

You and Cammie helped me realizing who I truly was still when I was in middle/high school, and now at 30 years old, I am still following you and will continue to do so. You got this, you the best.

[@madelinegarden7554]

Same. They were the BEST couple

[@LisamarieNHtoTx]

You and Becca show that it’s ok for adults, no matter the situation or age can try a relationship and come out the other end mature if it doesn’t work out. That’s helpful for people to see.

[@Liz-r5l]

Well worded

[@LisamarieNHtoTx]

@ thank you. 😊

[@kendall9683]

i think the really harsh people definitely don’t watch these vids all the way through, they hear the worst lines out of context on tiktok and immediately comment their feelings with no restraint

[@madaleeX]

@@kendall9683 or they listen to the whole thing and are just rude people and say mean things

[@Knouk25]

They’re insecure people that choose to take personal offence to things that don’t even affect them.

[@madaleeX]

@Knouk25 right? Exactly

[@ayesha3915]

Shannon as the guest is the best guest🤍

[@karolinas5446]

agree!!

[@InternationalStrategyII]

I know. Right?

[@kaytiemyers2698]

I had a motto for 2024 "i don't chase". I don't chase love,attention,etc. You said if you were younger you might convince her of all these things but the truth is you shouldnt chase or convince. Youre right. Youre you and worthy of love as is

[@ss-xn1gf]

the discourse this past week has been awful, sending you both so much love and support ❤️

[@cailinh711]

I’m 23 but have known I’m gay for a few years and hated myself for it/was scared to try dating women, but back in October I stumbled across Becca’s podcast, and hearing her experience gave me the confidence to finally go on a date and kiss a girl (which changed my world for the better) and even come out to my family/friends. Becca helped me come to terms with my queerness and accept myself, which goes to show how her experience is just as important and valid and inspiring as anyone else’s !!!

[@WISH2025]

I hope you can tell Becca❤

[@RainSnow2505]

I admire so much both you and Becca for the maturity and understanding you showed. That's love. All the best to both, and have fun time with your family, Shannon ❤

[@Weejo0678]

Shannon, I’m so sorry you’re going through this and people are not being supportive. Just know that you will find forever love and deserve it. Please be patient with yourself and know that you are worthy. Surround yourself with your loved ones at this time and remember how much you are loved. Take care of yourself xx

[@lkelley5708]

Most productive, supportive, and kind comment I’ve found so far on this video. Thank you for being a kind human. We need more of you in this world desperately. ❤

[@DolceSuono9]

At 38, as a late-in-life lesbian, people’s discourse hurt many like us. “Don’t trust baby gays, don’t be with baby gays, question their sexuality.” Screw them. I’ve been in horrible situations where I could have developed extreme biases, but I knew that was wrong and I took the time to process my trauma to avoid viewing people like that. It is necessary work and requires a level of introspection too many people, sadly, lack. Becca is young. Yes, mistakes were made-how things were said and came out as incomplete thoughts-but she can only grow from here and work to become her authentic self; I wish her (and you) well. I, for one, am thankful for the mature, thoughtful, caring side of the social inter-webs, and I wouldn’t be where I am in my own journey without it. Happy holidays. 🩵

[@sds6303]

The thing about people talking down about “baby gays” is that they were once newly out too. They forget that they were once baby gays

[@LilaBartnik]

I see myself a lot in Becca except she's much braver than I am. This video^ was like a therapy session for me. Your love for Becca, your understanding, and you rooting for her is so healing.

[@kristendanks2964]

Why IS it we really are so inclusive, but so critical of those in our community? I would bargain a large portion of us have dealt with the same feelings as Becca… I know I have. It truly does feel devastating and so unfair-I don’t think people understand it’s because you love that person THAT much, not because you feel you can’t bond or connect with a child that isn’t both of you. So many comments saying don’t be in a WLW relationship if you feel that way… I did not have those thoughts and have to work through them until my wife and I started looking into IVF and it became real. It was a massive thing to process and come to terms with. That doesn’t make me any less queer, nor does it make me cruel. It makes me human. Sorry you are going through all of this. I hope we all can decide to be a little more kind, and understand we are all at different places in our journeys 🫶

[@karinenoblot7352]

You're so true, no judgement please, juste be kind ❤❤❤

[@SrtaVerde1999]

Holiday movies -Christmas at the Ranch -Under the Christmas Tree -Looking for Here -Happiest Season -A New York Christmas Wedding -The Christmas Clapback Also Shannon, give yourself some grace too. I can't imagine what it's like for every detail of your life to be on display. Love your content and take care :)

[@llollipopt]

Shannon, thank you so much for being there with us through it all. I’ve been both you and Becca-mourning the life I’d dreamed up as a little girl and supporting my significant other through her own devastation. You are so strong for letting her go, and while I’m sad to see the relationship end, I’m so happy to see how much you’ve grown with and because of Becca. I can’t thank you enough for sharing this intimate and meaningful moment between you, and I sincerely wish you both the best.

[@kennedykristi]

I feel for the creators who are exposed to such vast opinions and feel pressure to please so many people in their audience at once 😢 an impossible task. You guys are warriors. And some of us out here are listening with non judgmental ears, simply appreciating hearing your perspectives and lessons throughout your experiences. Thank you for being brave enough to share, it inspires me to get there one day. ❤️

[@juliamcelroyart]

this is one of the best podcasts you’ve had so far. Shannon, you’re so intelligent in many ways, especially emotional. you are empathetic and kind. we love you and having you as a role model in this community! 🖤

[@chelister27]

I just want you to be happy Shannon and I know a lot of us do because you've brought so much joy to us. Hopefully this negative energy all gets left behind in the new year.

[@oliviabarker141]

I’m sorry you and Becca are dealing w all the hate. I think the dialogue you’ve opened is so valuable, and I wish the community was more gentle and understanding.

[@CassidyQuinn]

Here's how I remember fiction vs non-fiction. Fiction = fake! Non-fiction = not fake! (Someone else has probably already said this... but that makes it easier to remember for me!)

[@emmamcphearson9942]

i actually really was interested in how you were talking about how we are predisposed to desire and seek out social approval !! not to complain that you stopped, but i just want to say it’s really unfortunate that lots of people do only care for the drama. but just know lots of us still care about you - just you, shannon, as a human. and that goes for becca too. i also am super gay, but that realization came after four- FOUR- years of on and off trying men out because it’s SO hard to accept internally that yeah, maybe i’ll have to end up with not a man, with a family that looks ‘different’, with a family my parents won’t call their family. i have so much respect and compassion towards you and becca, sending you both love shannon, thank you for being the voice of what i view the queer community as, what i think we should be. TRULY accepting, open, non judgemental, patient , and holy crap why have we become so quick to judge online. you keep it real and it’s painful… but thank you. ❤️

[@analarissadias299]

Hey, Shannon. I’ve been following you from Brazil for a while, but I’ve never commented before. I just wanted to reach out and say how much I admire the compassion you're showing towards your ex, even though you're going through something so painful. That takes so much strength. But please don’t forget to show that same kindness to yourself. I can only imagine how heartbreaking it is to hear someone you love say they don’t want kids with you because they hoped for a child that would be equally both of yours biologically. Your feelings are completely valid, and your heart deserves just as much care. Take it one step at a time-you’re not alone . ❤

[@Val-r7p]

Our relationships shape who we become. Sometimes we just have to be grateful for the time we shared with them. Then move on.... Shannon you are so emotionally intelligent. Anyone who gets any of your time is extremely lucky and blessed. 🌹

[@ClaireWedgeworth]

*Today is a hard one cause I lost my mum to cancer last year but seeing Shannon post has truly made my day🥹 thank you for posting on Christmas Day🙏🏻 Merry Christmas Shannon🥰*

[@Marigold502]

God bless you Claire. 💜🌻❄

[@ClaireWedgeworth]

@@Marigold502 thank you, Merry Christmas💕

[@Val-r7p]

You can borrow my mom anytime 😁 Seriously though Merry Xmas 🎄 My mom's not feeling well so we didn't do Christmas this year either.

[@alexandermfernandez9283]

You're gonna be fine 'cause you're a great human being . Wishing you the best !

[@alisamarotta2352]

I ❤ u discussed more than anything " Mourning a life you thought" bcz people don't understand what we go through....plus being scared of not being accepted. I'm 50's and still deal with it...just sad but we need to accept and move on, as well as, put boundaries in. Oddly we are the ones who do more therapy on ourselves than those who need it...this was great content..take care of yourself

[@cowboyjicjac]

Hey Shannon, I know you read these. Thanks for the explanation and I think you handled this beautifully. You felt so much like yourself in this relationship and I’m proud of your growth. I love Becca. I hope to see you both happy and on good terms in the future. You’re doing great. Allow yourself to cry and rest during this. Sending love 💞

[@adri7124]

In my eyes, you're the ultimate lesbian archetype that i hope to embody one day! Unfortunately, im not there yet in my journey but you put into words things i've only ever said in my head & by having these conversations out loud is how we heal the collective! Your true fans love you Shannon!! TY for sharing your experiences with us

[@1SophieDEF1]

Merry Christmas Shannon, thinking of you and sending so so much love

[@ashleighwaters3261]

We love you Shan. I'm so sorry people are silly and they don't know you and we're lucky to have you xxxx

[@SuzellevanRiel]

People who decided they don't like you shouldn't even watch your podcasts. If you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything. Thanks for this. 👌❤️

[@HanneKorsaksel]

I’ve been here so many years and you continue to inspire! You both deserve happiness and joy! I’m truly sad it ended, but I hope for the best for both of you! ❤

[@Raddiebaddie]

Ugh I can’t imagine having to have the breakups and the accompanying feelings and then also have to do so in public 😢I’m so sorry you’ve had to do that more than once in your life ❤

[@АннаШохина-ы8г]

I can't say that I relate to that feeling you feel about break ups and relationship, cause i haven't experience it. But in my mind, it's so awesome that you explaining your way of thinking. I wish more people could think that way. I admire your general filosophy, your openness, your ability to talk about all of this. It's all about trying to be the better version of yourself, the better human being, more mature, more honest. I wish more people can think like you, no matter gay or straight, that's for sure would make our world a better place. So, big thanks to you, and to Becca. By the way, sorry for my english, I'm just learning it. I live far far away from you, you never guess I think😊

[@TheKindnessChronicles247]

Same here. The holidays feel sad now as my mom has passed my grandma has passed some of my most favorite people in life have passed and with that Christmas has changed. My mom always brought such a lively fun spirit to each holiday. I try to replicate it for my daughter but it’s just different as you say. Merry Christmas to you! 🙏🏼🎄♥️❤️‍🩹💯🎉🙏🏼

[@TheKindnessChronicles247]

@ 🙏🏼♥️🎄🎉🤗✝️💯🙏🏼 merry Christmas and happy holidays to you and yours! 🥰

[@chloeduck8480]

merry christmas shannon i hope you’re doing okay

[@olivialozano8088]

You are always so well spoken. The reactions, specifically on tiktok, to the breakup video have made me so sad and I am so glad that you’re providing clarification. I believe a lot of the negativity that was projected was due to a lot of queer peoples fear surrounding family planning coming true: the person they love leaving them because they can not conceptualize a family. But being so harsh towards people who just wanted to be honest about where they were on their queer journey is incredibly dangerous and hurtful. I am so glad you addressed this and have always and will always look forward to context from both you and Becca🩷

[@biancamarlow8772]

Damn.. this was so beautifully worded. ❤I hope Becca stays strong thru this. I hope YOU stay strong thru this. And ffs- can we stop fucking using labels to hurt or discredit someone? Have we not learned from the 2010’s “thats so gay” comments? Do we think saying, “I knew she was straight” is any different? Imagine how fucked that would feel to hear that after a wonderful year long relationship. Ugh people are so frustrating.

[@ilanieb2423]

I left this comment on Becca's video. I hope you guys see it in some way. Thank you for sharing a very honest raw conversation that I feel more of the community should embrace and see and have. The conversation you had is so mature and beautiful and honouring of the path you've walked together and yourselves. Many people doesn't know what these types of conversations looks like bc of never being exposed to it. Thank you for showing this to the world. We have a lot to learn from you both. Having gone though a break up myself last year this time and not ever having these types of conversation with my person, hearing yalls converse healed a part in me, validated my feelings and more. Thank you Becca and Shannon. Then my comment on this video: Thank you Shannon for your maturity in navigating this chapter and journey. Genuinely many of the things you said healed a part in me in the ways it's making me reflect on my last relationship, the things I was shamed for saying, how you feel and say them too and having someone equally mature (Becca) being able to reflect that back to you and validate you and you guys not handle it in a toxic way, this has all been so inspiring and healing and groundbreaking I think for me, many of us and the queer community at large. As well as how you're communicating about the comment you see about yourself and how you take the ones that triggered you and work through it, this is GOLDEN. You are navigating it so well, even if it doesn't feel like it. I think you articulate your thoughts perfectly and thank you so much for being a human that loves and empathizes above all else in the world. If you've ever doubted your abilities or your place in this world I truely wanna tell you you are doing a lot for the community and this world.❤

[@ShadyLeahx]

The truth is: even tho you have public images, everybody should be respectful to you and to the people in your life. Yeah, you choose to share a part of it with your audience but at the same time you deserve to be able to navigate the good and the bad situations that happen to you at your own pace and as you want. Hope you are ok. Big hug

[@ekaterina6758]

Great first question. Thank you. Truly. I was so scared, all the time. And I still am sometimes. But I've been following you for years and I genuinely believe that you and Rose&Rosie are the reason I've made it, I'm alive and CAN cope with everything. Love you, Shannon❤️

[@thepokemonfreak117]

I have no idea what to say, because I have a similar struggle in my life right now. I just wish you all the best and that you can process this breakup nicely and fast. And that it will stop hurting soon

[@jellymae7632]

Ily always Shannon since 2016.

[@Vickysader]

oh shannon, you're so brave. have always been. it makes me emocional that you hold so much empathy, love and kindness inside you instead of just pushing away or building walls to defend yourself

[@rileyjin707]

Merry Christmas Shannon! Thank you for posting today.

[@Jordan-jag06]

I feel like I can always see it in your eyes when you’re feeling bogged down- you hold so much stress in those brows haha. Take care of yourself Shan 🖤 @ Deb, give our girl some extra hugs today !! Merry Christmas to the Beveridge squad and safe travels to everyone.

[@InTheEighthHouse]

I really appreciate you sharing about your parents “unconventional “ divorce and how it impacts you. I have a child with my ex-ish-husband but I live in the backyard with my wife because even though we aren’t romantically together, this man is my family and we both want to show up for our child. It confuses a lot of people but it’s actually really loving and it makes all of our lives easier & happier. My wife is amazing and has dealt with a lot of weird looks and questions from people for our unique arrangement, but now that it’s been 4 years of us all living together-ish, people are staring to realize it’s not so weird, it’s just family. People change and grow and relationships evolve. Our kid is amazing and we all love him and life is better together.

[@OrlaKen]

I’m Only half way through her video but it’s sad to hear her talking about being seen as a character .. I don’t see her as a character. Shannon comes across as very human and very grounded. The way she talks about her vulnerable moments , 😂 even the quivering lip. I just love listening to her ❣️

[@paytonpetter]

I've seen the tiktoks and comments, and I don't know how you do it. It's not even to me or about me and I get so so upset. People aren't being fair or aware on peoples singular journeys and growth. It's so sad you have to look at yourself as a character because you aren't that, and you don't deserve that. So proud of what we have seen you accomplish. Sending you and Becca love

[@paytonpetter]

I had to comment multiple times saying "for a community who is so open about being open, the bashing is just so close-minded and disappointing" its very confusing how people can't take a step back and see everyone is on their own journey and just because you as a human don't get it or you are somewhere different etc etc... that shouldn't invalidate what this person feels or where they are at on their journey. It genuinely boggles my brain

[@anikarahman193]

I really enjoyed this solo episode and the lighting is pretty good. I get an eye quiver too sometimes if I'm nervous but it's mostly associated with dehydration/exhaustion that day. my fav sapphic films are imagine me & you, the half of it, and carol 🎄

[@amberhope7822]

You're so much more than a character Shannon. You are a full person. Thank you for sharing this. We're all human at the end of the day. I can relate to points you made in this video. Public scrutiny is so challenging and heartbreaking at times. You're brave and strong for continuously sharing your life with us all. Social media connects us but also disconnects us. It's easy for people to hide behind a persona, a screen etc. We all want to be liked and accepted to some capacity. It's okay. It's human nature. The older I get the more I need and want human connection. I haven't watched your and Becca's video together yet but I can relate to both. When I first came out 6 years ago, it was a whole process and I didn't have all the support I needed but I found my own community and support system in time. Now I'm in the place you are. I fully embrace, welcome and I'm excited for who I am today and where I am going. It does get better for anyone reading this and struggling and starting their own journey. You aren't alone. It takes time. I'm holding so much space and love for you all 🌻🤍🫂🤞🏼 we got this! Love, a pansexual, millennial still figuring out life

[@colleenparisi1291]

thank you for your vulnerability. your empathy and love for becca is beautiful ❤️

[@morganmackenziemarta]

One way to "trick" yourself into working out, at least for me, is following a video online and doing it with the instructors. I feel less alone and the time flies because it's a set time- you see how long the video is, and then you're done. You also push yourself more I find when I go back to the same video to try it again, and know what to expect. And they congratulate you, so you feel even more successful. Also reading the comments and seeing you're not the only one who is glad for the ad breaks during the workout haha I just love online/group fitness workouts

[@TheKindnessChronicles247]

What’s really funny is that I’m 99.9% sure we all experience these feelings at various times but we forget that when interacting with someone. We think so much about what we’re doing wrong or what to say etc but the person on the other end is processing and doing the same. We all get awkward even if we’re normally appear confident. We’re all just living and learning and trying to get through this life without too many hiccups. The funny thing is those awkward moments sometimes become the funniest memories … keep on keeping on girl. Be blessed and happy always! Your path and purpose is a beautiful one 🙏🏼♥️💯🎉🙌🏼❤️‍🩹🎄✝️💪🏼🙏🏼

[@elizabeth9451]

i love solo eps, merry Christmas shan!!!! 🎄💖

[@shotbyash.mp4]

happy xmas shannon, hope you’re getting rest from social media and everything that happened this week. love you take care xx

[@annejoseph7]

Merry Christmas, Shannon. Thanks for the Pod. ❤

[@leximiller309]

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas Shannon! I’m sorry you’re having to go through this at this time of year especially. I love how raw and real both of have been. I think this is perfect especially for your podcast because this is a common thing for many in the community. I think it’s incredibly beautiful that you are loving her through this journey of hers and giving her the distance to be able to do that. They say if you love something let it go and if it comes back to you it was meant for you. I hope that it works out for the best either way. ❤

[@BrookeSearleArt]

Shannon you are inspiration for all of us, not necessarily for the relationships you have been in but for the person and love you share. You are truly an inclusive queer that is teaching all of us how to love our queerness and to love other queers with no conditions! Wow. Speachless. Inspiring episode!

[@gracey95]

Shannon, thank you for posting this episode during the holidays. It is appreciated and has brightened my day. You are so loved by so many, and your vulnerability within this episode is beautiful 🤍 If the people leaving hateful comments had an ounce of the empathy and introspection you have, the world would be a better place. Keep being you, wearing that beautiful heart on your sleeve and don’t let these hateful people change you 🤍 Happy Christmas 🎉

[@soccerstrikerful]

aw shannon i’m sending you sm love rn

[@naomia2708]

I watch your videos because I enjoy watching and listening to this woman named Shannon's perspectives, personality, and stories. You are likeable, entertaining, and I feel like I grow when I watch your content. I see you as a person and not a character. With that, I don't assume to know anything that I don't hear come out of your mouth or theorize about you or your experiences outside of your videos. Here's your reminder that --social media is flooded with people who 1. spend way too much time 2. think they are much more connected to the people they are subscribed to than they should 3. feel like they should voice their opinions about humans they don't know on major platforms. BUT there are also people who are happy to just be a viewer, spread love along the way, and don't step into the lives of people they don't know.

[@naomia2708]

that goes for Becca too

[@naomia2708]

also I COMPLETELY understand the struggles and see you are genuinely good people

[@user-ht8ue4eb3x]

I'm really sorry you're hurting, especially at Christmas. You're incredible, never forget it x

[@tacilamarqs]

i hope things get better for you both, you deserve to be happy

[@lassam333]

I'm so sorry that you have to go through such a public break-up. As a pan person I can totally understand Becca's position. This certainly doesn't make her any less Queer. I find it very brave of both of you to let go and give each other space. It's very disappointing that in 2024 there is still so much bi-erasure within the Queer community. This is also one of the reasons it took me such a long time to officially come out. This feeling of having to "choose" being gay or straight wasn't the environment I felt welcome to become a part of the community.

[@jessstep5536]

Merry Christmas Shannon and Deb❤🎄🍻

[@CassidyQuinn]

You're so right about everyone, at some level, deep down wants to be liked. Thank you for saying that. It can be so hard to keep hearing, "stop caring what everyone else thinks of you!" over and over again... yes, I've been able to care LESS over the years, or maybe it's more that I've been able to care more about how I feel about myself... but I will still forever care what people think about me on some level, and that's ok. If I didnt care at all, I would wear sweatpants forever and never wash my hair again 🤣 so caring on some level is healthy!

[@livewithintention1625]

I am so incredibly fucking proud of you Shannon. I've been watching and growing up alongside you (from a little town in the UK) since 2012 and you have helped me to accept myself beyond recognition. Some of the comments/TikToks/videos I see people create make me physically angry 😂 you have done so, so, so, so much for our community and it is only incredibly small minded people who cannot see your kind and accepting nature. The other day I saw someone use the word narcissist in a TikTok comment and I burst out laughing. If they class you as one then God help them, they're going to have a big old journey ahead of them. I can only assume they have lead a very sheltered life. Why people feel entitled to project their own issues onto you is beyond me, I can't think of many people who deserve it less than you. Thank you for always remaining honest, genuine, kind and open to your audience. Thank you for sharing your fears, mistakes and feelings with so many people in such a vulnerable way - not many people dare to do so, probably for good reason as I'm sure they have much more to hide. I don't comment often but I always admire you from afar. Thank you for being you. Xxxx

[@zoehummer1934]

merry christmas shannon

[@nicolette329]

Merry Christmas Shannon. Wishing so much peace, health, love and happiness to you and your beautiful family. I hope 2025 is an even a better year for you and I believe it will be. Here’s to you receiving as much joy as you bring to all of us. Thank you for sharing your life and experiences so openly with us for so many years. You are appreciated and your podcast has been my favorite thing to look forward to each week this entire year and can’t wait to see what else you’re going to do. Have a Happy New Year, much love 🤍 Ps i see you as a human and not a character and think of you as just another fellow queer who loves love and likes to help others with the platform you have and you do a damn good job at it so don’t ever stop and I hope you’re proud of yourself bc you should be 🫂

[@WritingRN2]

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you and your family Shannon. I saw this episode today, and I also LOVE tactile hobbies! Especially anything that involves drawing, scrapbooking, or painting. Journaling is also a favorite of mine. I actually just had this conversation with my sister about the loss of tactile art to the digital age, and how I want to always engage in art using my hands. And I was definitely wondering about the whittling! LOL. On to the episode...I hate that people are so mean and I will NEVER understand (nor do I want to) people who interact with someone's content just to be mean! Like, why? Just...ugh. I can't. And I feel really sad that people make you feel like you're not seen as a real person. I certainly see you as a person and not a character. But it could be a generational thing because I grew up in an age where so much of our interactions with people didn't occur on a screen. My mother taught me that not everything requires my opinion, and I wish more people realized that. And one thing I can't stand as someone who used to deal with them? A BULLY. I am so sorry people are being so disgusting and cruel to you and Becca. As someone who is also newly accepting my bisexuality, I can sympathize with Becca. It is a lot to take in because knowing that about yourself definitely changes everything you thought you knew about who you were "supposed to be." And then having to also figure out how to navigate your life with people who THOUGHT they knew you as a straight individual, to find out that you are in fact not straight, and one day hope to bring a girl home is hard. And by the way, you both have handled this with so much grace, warmth, and respect to one another. This episode broke my heart, because even though I could never know HOW MUCH you're hurting, because that's not my business, I KNOW you're BOTH hurting and I am so sorry that people feel so inclined to add to your pain by being insensitive. Mean people suck, that's it. They just do. But just know that I am one of the people who is rooting for you AND Becca, because both of you have created content that has made an impact in my life, and for that I thank you both. Stay strong Shannon. You will be okay.

[@luannlouch9524]

Im sorry about your breakup. You have no idea how depressing the holidays are until you lose your Mom.

[@nowthisisliving]

this broke my heart to read.. thinking about you today and sending all my love 🤍

[@CassidyQuinn]

I feel this 💔 I'm so so so sorry you lost your mom too. This was my 4th Christmas without my mom, and I don't think it's gotten a tiny bit easier in some ways, but in other ways it's still just as hard as the first one! It's just so hard to try to embrace what the holidays are now, vs. still being in denial it can't be like it used to. I hope you got through this Christmas with a couple of moments of joy, but no matter what - CONGRATS you made it through!! Sending you so much love 💜

[@jamehs33]

Totally agree. 7 years now and it's still difficult 😢

[@karinenoblot7352]

You're a so emphatetic person, i admire you as a Queer person too, your podcasts and photos help me understanding many emotions in me, you got all my heart swear you'll have a great 2025, thanks for what you give us, thanks ❤❤❤

[@lindaguthrie8238]

I’ve followed you on Instagram for a very long time since you were in your 20s. You are a very mature, thoughtful woman. Breaking up is always difficult and painful, even when it’s necessary.

[@whalewhynot]

18:57 Regardless of the unfortunate circumstances of the breakup, the audacity some people have had when discussing your relationship(s) is appalling. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all - it’s not that fucking hard. Sending you all the love, I hope you’re taking the time to take extra care of yourself and your mental health ❤️

[@mommyissuesmusic]

I know saying this is not going to stop you worrying, but you are such a consummate professional and clearly dedicated to your craft. The interviews are always insightful, you always come off as being confident and present. I’m sure there’s a lot we don’t see tho, and I wish y’all both a lot of healing and all the best. ❤️‍🩹

[@tracythorpe2662]

Shannon you are seen , liked and respected 🎉 People need to be kind and caring xx It hurts to go threw a break up 💔 and Shannon and Becca need space and time as anyone would x The world would be a better place if we all thought about others more, come on peeps x

[@bhood6661]

Merry Christmas Shannon. Thanks for sharing even though it can be difficult to deal with the negativity. I look forward to this podcast every week ❤

[@vi07]

R.e depression around the holidays - right there with you! There’s nothing “wrong” per se, I have great people in my life. But just feel very sad around this time of year. Thank you for mentioning this, helps a lot!

[@angeliquerene9963]

carol is a spitting image of my dream woman. an elegant, intelligent woman with such class ❤✨

[@janeljones5552]

And this is how a breakup COULD look for a lot of people if they would just let ego exit the conversation. ❤

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Me and my best friend watch this podcast always together we live in different countries love you Shannon u got this ❤

[@Cathy15155]

Merry Christmas Shannon! I struggle with fiction and non-fiction too and definitely feel the lip quiver when I have to be ‘on’! As for comments, you comment on the negative, which is valid to set the record straight. But there are also so many comments that support, love you and ‘get it’. I hope you can glean some comfort and solace in knowing that.

[@oiloulou]

I’m also skipping Christmas this year. Just me, my cats, my sketchbook and a bottle of wine in front of the fireplace. 🤗

[@Rad_B_]

As always, thank you for sharing, Shannon (and Becca too!) Sending lots of love your way💗

[@cat_pb]

Merry Christmas Shannon~ 🎄This too shall pass, don't worry!

[@redennachan]

First of all Shannon, thank you for being so vulnerably honest in this video. I relate to you and this situation at a level I did not expect. It's not that the same exact thing happened to me, but you extending out your queer love and human-ness reached me. Even though you say people view you as a character (granted I probably did for a period), times like these when I listen to your honest and sincere thoughts, I really just felt "there, I have a friend somewhere else in the world who I can connect to, even though I've never met or talked to her". Recently, I went through a bunch of crazy episodes as well. I broke up with my girlfriend of 6+years. We were so compatible together, she knew me sometimes better than I knew myself, but we reached a point where we weren't growing independently as our own beings, and so, I decided it was best to drop the status of "girlfriends"/"partners". I still thought that we would be best buddies, or life buddies as we once mentioned after the break up. We openly went on dating apps, and I was honestly quite happy when she met new people she could talk or connect to. Few months later though, I noticed she stopped texting me, and when I dug further to ask her if she was ignoring me, she told me that we should live our separate lives and stop talking altogether. I think the grief I felt then was a million times more than when we were 'breaking up' as girlfriends. Because I just never thought I'd lose all contact with her as a human, as a precious friend. But well. It happened, and I had to accept it. It was still one of my deepest relationships I've been in. Some time later, I went on a hike with a few guys. I told them about my recent breakup with my girlfriend (so proclaiming that I'm gay and to not bother me). But one guy still did not get the memo and hovered around me the whole trek, with many cringey moves like putting his hand over mine when I was riding the scooter up with him behind me (was just offering him a ride since he didn't have a bike). He also jokingly texted me the day after about 'having sex after' whatever we planned for the next day. I was so uncomfortable I started to give him a cold shoulder and ignored him as much as I could. I really don't know why it's so hard for a guy to accept it when a girl says they're gay. Then, the universe did something I did not expect. There was another guy in the hike, who also liked me, but took it when I said that I was gay and did not push further. But weirdly, I actually found him cute. Being in my 'lets be brutally honest about everything' phase, I texted him, told him he was cute, and one thing led to another, and now he's the only guy that I'm not repulsed to, and actually, really feel comfortable being with (yes we're together now). I'm still confused af how it happened. When the cringey guy knew about us, he said to me "you never really convinced me that you were gay anyway". And even though I knew that WASN'T true, like I know how gay I am (and still are, since I'm still watching lots of wlw and liking it), that comment made me furious. when you told me about how people called Becca 'straight' now, that really struck a cord in me. This whole gender thing about who you date really is so messed up. Now, when I'm with a guy, all my family members could talk to me about my relationship, whereas when I was dating a girl, my relationship was never once brought up. Everyone in my family is so happy now I'm with a guy. I'm happy that I'm dating him, but seriously, I hate how my previous relationship with a girl is like shrivelled to nothingness, even though they were my most heaviest and happiest 6 years with someone I love. Okay, I'm not one who writes comments, but apologies for turning it into an essay. I guess I just felt like the comment section of your video would be a safe enough space for me to finally voice these thoughts.

[@deborahsnyder9398]

Merry Christmas Shannon love you and things will get better. Someone will love you to the moon and back. Love your podcast Shannon 😎

[@swiftiekitty420]

Carol is such an amazing movie! Hang in there...I know it's hard but you've got so many great people behind you. And most of us still love Becca too!! 😊 Merry Christmas!

[@olafgutte5381]

Merry Christmas Shannon, have a nice, relaxed time! 🎅🎄🎁 Shan Bam 🎁

[@portialyons6096]

The one and only ... me. AND WE LOVE IT

[@sydbrown1820]

I totally understand the issue with non-fiction and fiction. The thing that helped me was thinking fiction = fake so non-fake for nonfiction.

[@angelicakosasih]

Shannon’s podcast is my therapy 😌

[@Carriehammer718]

Love you ♥️ Merry Christmas. See you in nyc for your podcast show. I'm so happy you are in nyc for Christmas

[@ALIEN3966D]

I'm sorry Shannon you are going through that hopefully 2025 is much better for you sending you a lot of good vibes 👍😁

[@suzannapenny357]

Hope you’re doing ok Shannon ❤ Happy Holidays from UK love your pod wish I had this when I was coming out aged 19 many moons ago xx

[@charjadee]

I found you on yt when I was 13, I’m now almost 23 and you helped me come out all those years ago, safe and special spot for you in my heart because you were one of the only people i would always come back to for comfort and support within your videos 🤍

[@deanapierson7355]

Just watched this and after spending the day alone this uplifted me. Loved this short film. Not about Christmas, but really good

[@ShadyLeahx]

Someone once said: if they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personal, but I think it’s easier to say it than to do it