Flirting for Christians

[@benjaminsmithers6278]

The best flirting tips I have for girls.... 1) Find whatever he's interested in (video game, sport, chess, etc.) and DESTROY HIM at it. 2) I couldn't agree more with the compliments point they made. COMPLIMENT THE DUDE! Most guys only get 1-2 compliments per year, and we don't admit that we want them bc most guys aren't open. 3) Smile. Smiling conveys approval and shows that you think they're pleasant to be around (which is a non-verbal compliment (and guys love compliments)). Plus, all girls look prettier when they smile. Period. This was an awesome video Tiffany! I love the content you put out so keep it up! God bless!

[@abbym2898]

When my husband and I were dating we were CONSTANTLY laughing! That's what was a game changer for us. We just were two cheese balls giggling all the time. 😍

[@TiffanyDawn]

That is such a great sign!! I'm so glad you pointed that out. Someone you just have tons of fun with is a great sign!

[@shayla6871]

Awwww two cheese balls🙈🙈🙈that’s so cute

[@Quntah888]

I like to give compliments about something someone worked on instead of his appearance, for instance: “you play drums really well!” 😇 I mean I like his eyes to but he hasn’t done anything for that so

[@brumbybailey6599]

That's really meaningful! I like it a lot. However my most memorable ever compliment was "your eyes must be so blue from showing kindness." That was from a little old man carrying a large parcel out of the post office when I simply held the door open for him. And I'll never forget it.

[@xxmamaxxable]

Brumby Bailey that is sooo sweet! Love that!

[@TiffanyDawn]

That's an AWESOME way to compliment people. Thank you for sharing that!! 🙌🙌

[@TiffanyDawn]

That is soo sweet!! Oh my goodness - heart melting!!

[@linuxsurfer2002]

I'm an IT pro and in college my now wife (then friend) plugged her Internet cord into her phone line on purpose (she claims) to get me to come up and pay her a visit to fix her Internet.. It worked! We will be married 14 years this May.

[@TiffanyDawn]

That is too funny!! I love that idea! And congratulations on your 14th wedding anniversary! 😍🥂

[@autumnspring6624]

Josh Stroup She has a good sense of humor!😂👍

[@Elizabethmarie1313]

Adorable!

[@robmooreproductions7160]

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[@christywoelfel838]

You have such a cute, hilarious, laugh Tiffany! I love it when James is on cause you get so much energy from him 😆

[@TiffanyDawn]

That is SO TRUE - I do get so much energy from him!!

[@alisontaylor3977]

I was just having a group video call the other day and we were discussing weird compliments we've received, and both of the guys who were there said they've never gotten a weird compliment and they don't get many compliments in general! When I asked my friend if he liked compliments, he said, "Well yeah... Who doesn't?" I think giving a compliment could be a great way to flirt, but it could also just be a nice gesture as a friend if you do it the right way... Idk

[@TiffanyDawn]

That's SO TRUE!! Thank you for sharing this - compliments are so important just in general, not just for flirting!

[@cameronwaddel4072]

@@TiffanyDawn I have found, in regard to love languages, that many guys initially think their main love language is physical touch (for obvious reasons) but with a bit of further thinking many soon realise that physical touch is their second and words of encouragement is their first.

[@brileyemmajane]

Save yourself and others from unnecessary pain by controlling the earge to flirt just to be flirty. It's not cute, its damaging. I learned the hard way my first two years at college. Guys notice when you flirt with other guys. With my personality, I pick up traits tha people have around me and I mirror them, meaning I was flirting with guys I didn't even like because they were flirting with me. I got hurt (a lot) till I recognized how I was hurting them too by leading them on, however unintentional it was.

[@TiffanyDawn]

It's so true - flirting just to be flirty can really hurt people! Thank you for sharing this story from your own experience!

[@anhelinakichihina2173]

“Thou shalt not flirt" - 4-th Peter 3:15

[@TiffanyDawn]

I just died when he said that 🤣

[@joshuaokoro-sokoh2993]

Heck, there isn't even a 3rd Peter, now that's Clever.

[@RoelfMartins]

@@joshuaokoro-sokoh2993 There is not a 4th of any book in the Bible. My guess: to say 4th was just to be extra safe.

[@hannahjoy9451]

1) Compliments 2) Inviting (offer to hang out/spend time together) 3) Express interest in their interests 4) Physical touch 5) Laugh

[@viviancardenas5032]

I'm the complete opposite. If I like someone I try not to touch them. I'm regularly really huggy and touchy with everyone.

[@christywoelfel838]

Vivian Cardenas saame! My love language is touch but I feel like that makes it more important to be very reserved with any touch I give to the guy I like

[@livkhammonds]

Same here!

[@brendafarfan5403]

Me too!😩

[@caisleeerica7633]

This guy is sooo funny and I literally remember a time in school he said something and me a few seats away laughed so hard for so long and I couldn’t stop and it was rlly awkward 😂

[@TiffanyDawn]

LOL!!! That's hilarious! And then when you can't stop and feel awkward, it just makes it even harder to stop! 😂😂

[@peterernst1455]

James that's a wild haircut!😎 It's in human nature to flirt, as long as you don't let it get out of hand, or control you. But if it's because you want to meet s.o. then maybe it's ok! Compliments reflect positive thoughts.

[@TiffanyDawn]

That's a great way of explaining it! - just not letting it get out of hand or control you. And oh my goodness - every morning I wake up and think, "I can't believe I did that to his hair..." 😂🙈

[@peterernst1455]

@@TiffanyDawn You have a great sense of humor, I absolutely love the caption about being skinny on your fb!!!😉

[@megalopolis2015]

You two are still flirting. Very cute. :0)

[@TiffanyDawn]

🤗🤗

[@isabelladejonge5189]

I never clicked on a video so fast. Thanks so much!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Hahaha!! I'm so glad!!

[@aliciashanks5239]

Eye contact, baby! 👀👍

[@TiffanyDawn]

💯 Yess!!

[@marjorymsuku9312]

Special eye contact? I like to make eye contact with everyone I talk to. Not necessarily to flirt. And I feel it wierd when someone wont make eye contact. Like what are they trying to hide; n why are they bothering to talk to me for? N the conversation ends quickly.

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

When you look into each other’s eyes and everything else just fades away and you get stuck like that.

[@bryceredd3509]

I was laughing so hard when James pushed your hand a little and then you pushed his shoulder with like dead eye contact 😂😂I had to go back and rewatch that!

[@TiffanyDawn]

LOL me too!! I was dying when I watched that part during editing.

[@cadencehogge8528]

You do such good advice videos! I actually write a lot of articles for Catholic Match about Christian dating, and we're on the same page about so many things. And I've linked your videos here and there in posts :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

That's so cool!! Thank you for sharing the videos - and I'm so glad you enjoy them! ❤️

[@cadencehogge8528]

@@TiffanyDawn You're welcome!! Keep up the good videos :)

[@annetteorrick5498]

This is great, but how do you do this online? I don’t live close to my crush, but even for those who are just social distancing right now... how can I flirt or let him know I’m interested without coming off too strong through messages?

[@aras1762]

I am a muslim and not sure why I got recommended by this and not sure why I clicked it.

[@estherbrown650]

I laughed

[@autumnspring6624]

Aras Ahmedov I'm not sure why either.... but I've got a tip for you!💡 Check out David Wood's youtube Channel: Acts17Apologetics He know quran better than any muslim.

[@TiffanyDawn]

That's too funny! Well I'm glad to have you here! ❤️

[@butterflyofgrace5651]

God wants you. You are his child. And he loves you. He is knocking on the door. Will you answer?

[@connyslife2926]

Like you guys so much :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

🤗❤️🤗❤️

[@norawhite7397]

Great advice, Tiffany and James. Thank you!!!

[@TiffanyDawn]

❤️❤️❤️

[@dcharmed2]

What about guys who are introverts? It seems a bit challenging to reach out to them.

[@lynawilliams3958]

Thank you James! For showing us the cross on the back of your head

[@TiffanyDawn]

😂😂👍👍

[@corlialeroux4646]

You guys are raw and real people! Thank you for your videos!

[@lindstheteacher1611]

THANK YOU!!! As a single Christian girl, this is helpful. I’ll come back to it when I find a crush😉

[@samckitty9891]

have you read Songs of Solomon

[@alaskanmolly4419]

Goodness, I feel like I'm constantly asking for so much advise on all your videos, but I have an unrelated question/situation. I graduated college 2 years ago, and at the end of my senior year I started to like one of my super close guy friends. Unfortunately I was graduating and moving far away, so I didn't bother trying to do anything with the feelings I was developing. Over the past 2 years I have still found myself battling with the fact that I still like him, even though I've only seen him once since graduation, and we've only talked about 3 times a year. For some reason, he's just someone that's terrible at long distance communication, but when we do talk, and when I did see him, it's very clear that we both care about each other deeply. I'm conflicted, though, as I want to tell him I like him, or something, but due to the distance, and already completely infrequent communication, I feel like it would do more harm than good. I don't really know what I'm asking, but it's just really confusing and frustrating to still like him, and not being able to do anything about it.

[@Sunbeargirl-]

Dang, if that ain't a mood. Been there, done that. Sucks every time. 😥

[@megalopolis2015]

I would go to Emily Wilson's channel for that one. She dated a Dutch guy for at least two years long distance before they got married. They talked a lot and found out they were on the same page about many important things. That's when they knew it was worth it to put in the hard work.

[@annmathews]

You both are amazing. Just watched a couple of videos.. But I absolutely love your channel.. Awesome.

[@annalama1237]

Hi Tiffany and thank you for your videos, you helped me and my boyfriend so much! Can you make a video about how long it would be right to be in a relationship? When is the right time to move on to the next step? Thank you so much!

[@love4eva617]

I love the relationship💞 its so cute🥺🥺

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww thank you!!

[@EtzEchad]

All your flirting tips are for people who want to actually make a connection with another person, perhaps leading to something more. It is also possible to flirt when both people know it is just for fun. When I was young, I almost never flirted. I was terrified of girls. :) Now that I'm older (I'm 67) I sometime flirt with women just for fun. I was in Jamaica a few years ago and I was talking to a young lady (probable 22 yo or so) who was trying to sell me a tee shirt. I wasn't interested so she said "Well, you could buy one for your girlfriend." I said I didn't have one so she said "I'll be your girlfriend, buy one for me." I said, "OK, lets have dinner tonight!" It was just innocent fun, both of us knew there was nothing serious about it. So, you can flirt for fun, but be absolutely sure that nobody takes it seriously. (A 40 year age gap is a pretty good indication. :) ) BTW, a lot of your tips sound like just being friendly. For instance, taking an interest in someone elses hobbies can apply to anyone, not just someone of the opposite sex.

[@julainem.3542]

Thank You Tiffany!!! This was really helpful!!!!! The two guys I’ve dated, when I was really interested in them I tended to laugh a lot at the things they said. Another thing I’ve noticed is that when you like a guy, you tend to want to be near to him. Also eye contact is another thing that you tend to do if you want to flirt.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Those are great additions!! - wanting to be near them, and eye contact. Yes!! Also I'm so glad this was helpful! ❤️

[@hanwhitcomb4263]

You guys are so adorable! Keep up the wonderful videos 💕

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww thank you!!!

[@lucias4560]

You are such a wonderful couple. Seeing you it's a way to remember what I really want and the pure desire of love God puts in my heart is for my good and pure happiness.

[@cameronwaddel4072]

I had a girlfriend for about 5 months last year and she had a cute phrase that she used with me when I used humour, "I think it's funny that you think you're funny". We had some good laughs and unfortunately some tears but in the end the romantic feelings she needed to being developing never happened, which made her sad as well as I was only her second relationship in 43 years, her first was literally about 6 months before we met.

[@musicislife7464]

Hi guys . So I the guy I like is actually my co leader of a Bible study . We didn’t know each other before but we have A TON in common it’s weird . I don’t think that is a coincidence . Do you have any suggestions for me moving forward ?

[@audreyhui5839]

So I like this guy but i don't really know if I should tell him I like him or not. For a Christian young woman is that appropriate of me? Should I allow him to have that "chase" that we always hear growing up or are we allowed to speak up and show our feelings. Also do you think is the best age to start dating as a Christian? Thank you so much. I really enjoy your videos!!

[@madysonmcdaniel3142]

Thank you for making this video! I feel like flirting has been soo demonized in the church. Prayers would be appreciated as I'm in process of overcoming toxic purity culture teaching from my teens. I want to have fun in a Godly way, get married and have babies. It's my dream to fall in love with a sweet Godly man. I'm 24 and feel like I have so much legalism in my head to overcome. I know it can be done with Holy Spirit's help.

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

Need flirting advice for Covid tide. Can’t touch, can’t smile (mask bylaw), can only meet on zoom

[@marjorymsuku9312]

Wow, I had no idea that complimenting and inviting were also signs/ways of flirting. Will look out for those...

[@kagomeotilia]

James' face at 4:08 is just gold xD

[@katiev8793]

When I was in high school I had this one guy who always picked on me and teased me. I Didn't really react extremely strongly like I do but one day he just sang my name out loud in the cafeteria. Talk about humiliating. Unfortunately I never knew if he actually liked me or was really teasing. He's not a Christian sadly. His parents are but I don't think they really instilled their Christianity into how they raised their sons. He was a nice guy too when he wasn't teasing me.

[@christinapace5150]

You guys are so cute - keep up the amazing content!!!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww thank you Christina!! That made my day!

[@psalm91rdwlkfpgrl]

Sooooo......1 and 3 especially (and a little bit of 5) are just how I treat all my friends because that's how I want them to treat me....

[@TiffanyDawn]

Yes, such a good point! We almost put into the video a section saying, "You'll use a lot of these tips just in friendships too." I'm so glad you brought that up!

[@psalm91rdwlkfpgrl]

Oh, thanks! :)

[@rebeccap6878]

Tiffany!! Help!! I have a history in the past with boys and... I've been in one toxic relationship for 4 months, and it wrecked me... Long story short, through that relationship, I met the Lord, I broke up with the guy, and gave God my love life.❤ Of course, being a girl, there was still the lingering desire to date, and part of me was stll checking out guys in the church, but the closer I got to the Lord, the better my boy craziness was getting. (Also, sidenote, before my failed relationship, I was SO, SO, SO, SO, SO, SO boy crazy.🙈🤦😅😂 During that time, God told me that He had someone better for me that I wouldn't find where I was expecting.) Almost a year ago (May 10th), I had a dream about a guy, and the next day, it came true. And I met him where I would have never expected to meet. (I'm leaving out so many details!😂😬) Throughout this year, we've become close friends, and by the way he acts around me, it's clear that he has feelings for me, too. What's confusing me is... I have all these hints from the Lord that this guy might be my future spouse. And I just love hanging out with him, and he has all the qualities I want in a man. But i don't want to be so sure about all this, because I feel like if i do, I'm taking The Author's place of writing my love story. But also, I feel like holding back means I'm not completely putting my full faith and trust in the Lord.😬😭 WHAT'S GOING ON?!😭

[@___Wendy___]

Hey girl, It can be very scary to start dating again after what you've been through. However, I want to encourage you to just start taking small steps. Let him know you're interested, ask him out or whatever you feel like is the next step. Don't do this on your own. Pray to the Lord first and again after every single step you take. Learn about how God designed relationship and marriage to be and keep that in mind. This will help you recognise red flags earlier. Trust the Lord that whatever happens He is good and all mighty and glorify Him in everything you do.

[@rebeccap6878]

@@___Wendy___ Awe!!!😭❤ Thank you so, so, so much for this! I was actually just asking the Lord for confirmation to something else that i believe was confirmation that I saw recently. Then, i got this notification! Thank you SO MUCH for your encouragement!!❤🙏🙏

[@milealasea6563]

Oh wow... I just doing all of this with the most people😅 is this wrong? My personality is really open too. I don't want that people get hurt from me.

[@JMKrech]

Great video!

[@bekkyw.8942]

I appreciate your videos so much! ♡

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww I'm so glad!! That means so much!

[@louisaclarke3286]

What no one here seems to be remembering in reference to James's new do is 'the back of your head is ridikulus!' reference from Key and Peele. 😂 So good, James!

[@TiffanyDawn]

LOL!!! I love it!!

[@Sunbeargirl-]

I think I was doing all of these things subconsciously with the guy I used to like (yay me), but he never really initiated back with me so I just have to accept that and move on. Now that we're in quarantine, though, it's just hard to find another person, since there's no one to meet and online dating gives me anxiety (I tried it for 2.5 days and gave up). 😅 Trouble is that this guy was into some "Christian" girl who kept rejecting him over and over again because God was "telling her not to date him despite how much she wanted to". That being said, she kept reeling him back in and flirting with him, only to "break up" with him at least three times within the course of the first six weeks. 😤🤦‍♀️ I even met her once, and she was rude enough not to introduce herself to me even though I was sitting just across from him, talking to him. He was so into her that he forgot to introduce us to each other, and I tried and failed to introduce myself before she whisked him outside to talk privately, leaving me alone. 🙁 He and I had come to hang out with another guy, but that friend was busy and I ended up just sitting there by myself for hours. Eventually, the friend and I were seriously worried because the guy had been gone for so long, but he'd been talking with that girl by her car the whole time. 🙄 Before anyone jumps to conclusions, this guy is really sweet and friendly and completely NOT a jerk, even though ditching like that was really thoughtless of him. He just has his priorities in the wrong place and easily get's blinded by infatuation, sadly. 😕 Which makes him harder to forget than an actual jerk would be. 🙃 Soooooo. #RIP me, I guess. 🤷‍♀️ It clearly wasn't meant to be. At this point, I'm over it, I just wish I had someone to flirt with, y'know? It's fun, and I miss it.🙁

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh man I'm so sorry that happened!! That sounds like such an awful experience!! I'm so glad you had the courage to let him go and say, "I deserve better!" ❤️ And wow, that girl sounds like someone he needs to stay away from!!!

[@ndiamanda5653]

I love you guys😭😭😭😭😭

[@MonteCarloHD]

Why are they mainly giving advice for women? Does this work vice versa as a guy?

[@ticahehe9603]

Me realising I've already done all of these things with my crush 0-0

[@tralaritralarajiju2652]

For touching tips watch K-dramas😂😂😂 Bruh. When they finally HOLD their HANDS. The drama is over 😅🤣🤣🤣 You are just like: OMG they touched their hands!!! Pure looove♥♥ 😂😂

[@aramintawilliams5205]

Hey Tiffany do you have an email? There’s something I would like to talk to you about or get advice on.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Ohhh yes!! I do! ❤️ My email address is [e-mail]. That being said, I sadly haven't been able to keep up on my emails for the past couple years. Mom life + the number of emails I receive have made it so I'm not usually able to read and respond to them anymore. 😭 BUT James tries to keep his eye on them for me and let me know when a certain question pops out that he thinks I should talk about in a video! 😍 I hope that helps! ❤️❤️

[@aramintawilliams5205]

Tiffany Dawn thank you for your response I really appreciate it !

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awwww I'm so glad you like the emails!! This made my day!! ❤️❤️

[@aramintawilliams5205]

MaryUkraine thank you for that information!

[@HPTFan]

I'm not good at flirting.

[@TiffanyDawn]

That's okay! I Think the main idea is to treat the person you like a little differently than you treat everyone else, and they'll *hopefully be able to pick up on that :):)

[@HPTFan]

@@TiffanyDawn Thank you for the advice, Tiffany. :)

[@gbemiroomokayode1917]

Whoa sorry James

[@uikmnhj4me]

That haircut is a great Lenten look

[@harrycarson2119]

There is good and bad of almost everything

[@ashleymuhoro]

Yay 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@beefcakees]

this had 666 likes, i had to change that...

[@danacetz1162]

You are so sweet James, I hope my future husband will be just like you.

[@borahope3220]

Tiffany's fake laugh😂😂🤣

[@TiffanyDawn]

I'm just glad it wasn't totally annoying! When I watched back I was like, "Oh wow that's an annoying fake laugh" 😂😂

[@borahope3220]

@@TiffanyDawn oh, it was totally funny... you got it sooo right, that's what made it most funny for me😂

[@HaoPieldeoso]

0:22 - BUT UHM! DRINK UP! - Only some will understand

[@thomasfurber8692]

I was brought up in a very strict Christian family and we took our faith very seriously. However, my mum was a terrible flirt!! I really don’t think Jesus would mind though!! Not like she slept with loads of men

[@jocypare6019]

such safev content.

[@denver_entertainment]

Christianity + flirting = Song of Songs

[@TiffanyDawn]

😂😂😂💯💯

[@rezvia.1070]

I'm a muslim.why am I watching this?

[@foolishdrunk2181]

News flash ...1953 is over

[@matthewbrown6628]

In 2020 you can be charged with sexual harassment just for breathing so it's probably best to just listen and learn.

[@jacksonkurtz4200]

Damn I thought this said flirting for christmas...

[@TiffanyDawn]

LOL!!! Now that would be awesome!

[@harbar3000]

4) Physical touch? Are you freakin’ insane? A woman would have you arrested.

[@GuyUWishUWere]

Deus Vult

[@savanahtompkins1565]

Flirting for amateurs...