Our Virgin Wedding Night - Sex Q&A Part 2!

[@bnkn8431]

I've been married 4 months. I still have trouble sleeping in the bed with another person, I cuddle for what seems like a pleasant forever then I roll to my side of the bed. Also the switch from avoiding sex and having that self control for 29 years, then suddenly having sex and it's in covenant was challenging. I still find myself pausing when it starts getting hot (kissing/ foreplay) but I remind myself this isn't a sin, I dont have to stop and my husband also senses when I'm pulling away and he gently reminds me as well. No couple is the same, but communication and transparency are key.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with these things! It’s so beautiful how you both are so gentle in your reminders to yourself that it’s not sin. Thank you for sharing this!

[@jollygoodgordon5580]

I feel you, sis.

[@kennethfok]

It’s not a sin when you both are married. In fact, God wants us to enjoy sex when we are married. He designed sex for our pleasure and enjoyment so go ahead and have lots of it with your spouse. Also remember that God wants us to procreate in that process, not saying must have many but at least have a child because we have to be fruitful and multiply and not just enjoy sex without multiplying.

[@agirlwholovesgod1645]

@@kennethfok not everyone is able or willing to conceive babies. Some women are barren and some men are sterile. If they happen to have a baby, then cool! If not then cool! Leave them be ( ˘ ³˘)♥︎

[@mz8194]

A sin is when you deliberately hurt someone. There is nothing wrong with sex before marriage . It is a personal choise

[@sarahaulridge60]

This is so sweet! My husband and I also took our time and just let everything flow naturally. He was so patient and I respect him so much more for taking that time with me to learn and grow together. He never pressured he and he waited until I let him know I was ready; which was a week into our honeymoon! It proved to me that he married me for me and not just the sexual side of our relationship.

[@MK-ze1jg]

Great really.I feel that he is entirely devoted and very sincere for you.nice to hear this.but u gave him tough time as after many day of marriage u allow him for sex.where as naturly man always in hurry for sex specially first time.

[@kennethfok]

Why is there a need to rush? It’s good to go slow and learn to explore each other’s body first before going in to sex.

[@sarahaulridge60]

@@MK-ze1jg We discussed waiting prior to the wedding and we were on the same page. Thankfully, he was okay with taking things slow too. We were both virgins and had never kissed anyone before our wedding day. I never understood the concept of never being allowed to touch and then suddenly, because you say "I Do" you can turn all of those "nos" off and jump into bad together. We needed that time to get to know ourselves sexually before just hitting it out of the park. Everyone is different but this is our story and thats okay.

[@MK-ze1jg]

@@sarahaulridge60 really great talks.it shows you love each other from your hearts.May you be blessed with long liveing with love and all happiness of life.

[@susanwlasiuk9190]

My husband and I fell asleep opening gifts on our wedding night. That was almost 21 years ago.

[@kaylawaters2691]

Literally that's the kinda thing (if I were married) that I could see myself doing. I can't even imagine still having a bunch of energy to have sex after planning a wedding, basically taking up an entire day getting ready for it, the actual wedding, and a reception. I would want to sleep. Lol.

[@somethinggood9267]

Thats so cute : )

[@sophieghaffari9006]

🤣🤣🤣

[@MalloryNewcomb]

That’s so cute ❤

[@gracemorganspeaks]

Love the wedding night message. Whoever is reading i pray for God's protection over your dear life. No weapon formed against you shall prosper. God's favor outweighs all opposition.

[@mavis613]

Amen

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

Thanks. God bless you too.

[@kayulab5100]

You are always so encouraging I see you on many vlog commenting Lord bless you

[@jhenniferbillionz5125]

Mavis Amen

[@ifyify9245]

Amen!!! God bless you brother!!!

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

God bless my future husband. I'm saving myself for him and him only.

[@rae.quillzwilltree8267]

same here

[@erikamartinez4788]

Same

[@agilityquickness2129]

Wow, so refreshing to know women like these still exist

[@agilityquickness2129]

I’m a good guy , Christian and African. I’m a Physical Therapist at the end of my divorce process

[@DatCrazyOokamii]

me too uwu

[@LivAlexa32]

Thank you for being so raw and honest about this topic! This isn’t stuff many of us Christian girls are used to hearing and are afraid to ask (and maybe guys too!!) so I really appreciate this

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh good!! Your comment made me so happy!! Thank you for encouraging me - I’m so glad this was helpful! ❤️❤️

[@LivAlexa32]

Tiffany Dawn anytime!! This was so great! Often we can’t ask our parents and pastors questions so we either have to turn to worldly friends or porn in some people’s case, so it’s nice to have a good Christian source to answer some of these questions and concerns!

[@JaneLamb]

Thank you for sharing!

[@JustineMfulama]

Exactly! It's about time we take away the shame around that topic!

[@corneliusvoth5022]

@@TiffanyDawn kopp

[@aj402]

Didn’t have sex on wedding night either. Big frilly deal. Sex is a bonus. Intimacy, friendship, devotion and other aspects are way more important. We would still be together and laughing if we never had sex. 32 years this October.

[@kaylawaters2691]

Seems like people assume that's what everyone does. I mean I have zero intentions of ever getting married but it seems like I would want to go to sleep after a long day/evening of getting ready for, having the actual ceremony, and the reception. Realistically speaking if it were me, I would take a good relaxing bath and go to sleep. Lol.

[@edwardconley7481]

Awesome

[@Sona77.]

Wow you are such a good man. That is so amazing to read. I feel the same. It’s a bonus.

[@megalopolis2015]

You two seem to be on the same page so often, and you really seem to enjoy each other's company. That's such a blessing.

[@missmlb3842]

I believe that married couples have this issue of expectations to perform. The main issue is that couples already know they love each other otherwise they wouldn't have walked down the aisle to be married. Foreplay in marriage is key to getting each other to relax in each other's presence, to be comfortable with being naked with each other, and to know each other's bodies: from curves, to beauty marks..to the way he or she moves. All of that is important for each to know in marriage. As it was said earlier, each couple... married couple that is...needs to do them! Take it slow and don't focus on performing! Focus on loving, touching, feeling, caressing, talking. That's how you're becoming knit. That's how you're becoming ONE. THE actual Act will probably not be as painful once all that happens. God is the initiator and the creator of sex. I know it sounds weird because in the Christian Community, sex is and has always been a Hot Topic and an avoided topic. Since God created it, why can't we trust Him to guide you as to when to have sex, which is in marriage, and how. I don't believe folks need to use pornography. Pornography degrades not just women, but men as well, and turns them into an object. God, on the other hand, wants a married couple to have sex cuz they love each other- not because they become simple objects for pleasure. Thanks for sharing your experience

[@TiffanyDawn]

“Take it slow and don’t focus on performing.” YES!! 🙌🙌

[@mieshaburley8466]

This is BEAUTIFUL and insightful - thank you so much

[@agilityquickness2129]

I guess the burden of performance comes from comparing with a certain ‘standard’ which could be porn, past experiences or stories about others’ sexcapades. We really have one challenge in my opinion- get the one that loves you and fears God (a total package) and you will be fine to focus on the right things

[@mrs.paulschmetz3912]

Michelle: Your writing is good and interesting😀

[@somethinggood9267]

AMEN AMEN

[@katrinagiven227]

Lol I've been married for a month and a half and I still don't sleep well! But it's wonderful to wake up beside my husband!

[@TiffanyDawn]

I’m glad it wasn’t just me!! Learning how to sleep well in a shared bed is such a learning curve! 🙈😂

[@FairlightChristianna1Cor318]

Nice to know about the lack of being able to sleep well. It is wonderful having a special husband, but yeah, definitely missing my sleep. 😂

[@MK-ze1jg]

Have you done sex or not yet??? If yes then is it painful for girl.how much bleeding for for how long time. How many timez daily you do sex.. Who must cum first husband or wife. Thanks for your detail and early reply.

[@florenced1649]

My husband and is struggled to sleep in the same bed for the first couple of months. It was awful! I even ended up quitting my job bc I was so tired. But NOW I can’t sleep if he’s not with me.

[@SternDrive]

My wife and I knew that we were going to wait until we were married. Being a virgin, she was very excited, but very scared. I also waited for miss right and was very shy on our special night. We had lots of foreplay and she said she was ready. And then she changed her mind and went into a fetal position. I said OK, we'll try again in the morning, at which point she totally relaxed and we went ahead. Later on she said it was a bit painful, but very delicious. Funny woman! Later that night she woke me up twice asking for more. We will celebrate our 16th anniversary this Sunday and have a beautiful 14 year old daughter who we are sending to a Christian school. Hopefully she will share our principles.

[@AnnaPotts818swifferbaby]

If I ever get engaged I'm definitely getting your wedding night series 😍 I love your common sense approach

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awwww thanks Anna!! ❤️❤️❤️ That means so much!

[@agilityquickness2129]

You will get engaged, it will come

[@ashleydowney1222]

I agree. I am not sure if it will ever happen. I haven't had any luck with the 3 relationships that I am almost 28 and I haven't been in a relationship in 4 years and my longest relationship lasted 3 1/2 weeks. It definitely frustrating sometimes because I feel like I am waiting for something that may never happen. I am trying to trust God's plan for me.

[@agilityquickness2129]

God’s plan for you is good , yours need to align with His. Learn more, test hypothesis or principles you value against the Word or other knowledgeable perspectives and you will see what needs to be done

[@astheticlemon5312]

@@ashleydowney1222 it will be ok, whatever Gods’ plan is it is going to be great!

[@zoetcollins]

My fiancé and I are getting married in 4 days and this video was so great to watch. I love the way you guys talk about sex and intimacy, and how it’s something so beautiful! I am ecstatic to go beyond boundaries and be one with my husband. Thank you guys for really explaining how and why sex was never meant to be a bad thing! Blessings and love 💖

[@TiffanyDawn]

I'm so glad this could be helpful!! And I'm so excited for you and your fiancé - congratulations!!

[@janetsmith818]

He said you got back to the room at 11:58 and the vid is 11:58 long 😍 My husband and I both saved ourselves for marriage and it has been such a beautiful experience learning and growing today in that way. It wasn’t awkward at all. It is beautifully designed by God. We’ve been married 8 years and it’s still as great as it was then.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh my gosh that’s so funny about 11:58! I didn’t notice that! 🔥 And thank you for sharing your experience too! So beautiful!❤️

[@gracefulhumble7248]

So choosing between sex and an extra few hours with people James choose people lol,. I am a 28 year old virgin and not currently dating but I just adore you guys. The idea of being in pain does scare me. Love your transparency

[@TiffanyDawn]

😂😂😂😂😂 he LOVES people. 🙈

[@ullishw8098]

Don’t be afraid about the pain! For some women it’s not painful at all! Just take it slow

[@bnkn8431]

Take it slow, try different positions. Different hymen types calls for different positions that would make it a little easier to have sex for the first few times. Also the use of water based lubricant can also help. If it's painful, slow down with more foreplay, have your spouse back down a little. You will feel pressure but it shouldn't be painful. If after sex for the first few times is painful, talk with your gynecologist as something else could be going on. And one of the most important things is relax, breath out when he pushes in. Woman have sex in their minds first, so stay in the moment, don't think about pain or other things, focus on what feels good in that moment. That also helps with female orgasm.

[@righteousfroce1254]

One thing I don't like. Really don't want to hurt someone I love.

[@gracefulhumble7248]

@@ullishw8098 Thanks

[@MJKT95]

I did nothing to prompt KZbin to recommend this to me, but I’m glad it did. I really hope my future husband and I reach this level comfort with each other about our sex life.

[@geoboy700]

Mhmm good luck wit that!

[@MJKT95]

@@geoboy700 Didn’t need your encouragement...

[@sophiareinbergs8730]

I am so proud of you guys. I am living through you! My first marriage was awful. I was so stressed from drama from my family, and I did not want to have sex with my new husband because of the stress. He raped me on my wedding night. I was not a virgin but I wanted to wait until I was destressed, and he forced himself on me. I hated him from then. I love you guys for honouring your bodies. Thanks you . I have never seen this before. God bless

[@The_Food_Police]

What the fricken heck?!!

[@hannaasfaw1234]

OMG I Am so sorry. I hope you heal. You are an amazing woman. I pray for you and god will find love for you . Love from Germany

[@UnAshamed2010]

Intended for Pleasure was the most helpful book that I read before I got married. So many “advice” books out there - not all good! Appreciate your guys’ raw honesty - it’s much needed!

[@MJKT95]

“How more Christian can you get than having sex with your husband?” One more time for the people in the back! Sex is normal when experienced in the proper perspective.

[@U2Brrr]

_No one said they didn't have sex at all or didn't believe in sex!!!_ Where does it say in the bible that consummation MUST happen on the day that vows are made? Don't foist modern ideas into the 'Christian' paradigm?Historically consummation has happened whenever it suited the couple in question for many different reasons INCLUDING waiting to get to know each other better within the marital (versus dating) context. UNLIKE YOU this couple did the Christian thing by being generous with each other, taking it slowly and thereby increased anticipation etc.

[@kiarahodgson7606]

U2bR woah.. why you attacking her? I think she was just saying it’s important to remember that sex within marriage is a GOOD thing, not a compulsory thing and not a bad thing

[@JustineMfulama]

Amen!

[@janinebohl7488]

@Zapper Zapped Do you think unmarried couples who have sex are only about sex? That is not at all the case, especially over time it is more and more about companionship. Also, DNA is hardly a clean, perfect thing ever. A lot of the information contained is just noise or there for unknown purposes and we have a lot of DNA originally from viruses. Mistakes in copying DNA happen all the time and they usually get repaired (if they don't for too long, tumors can be the result). Our mitochondria, the little things that give us energy to move were bacteria once and get transferred separately. They are always from the mother btw.

[@MJKT95]

@@U2Brrr Are you even replying to me? Because your response has absolutely NOTHING to do with my comment.

[@Texas_Bricklady]

Saved myself for my husband. We did have sex on our wedding night . We were so excited his friends paid for a fancy honeymoon suite. Right in the middle of our first night those same friends pulled the fire alarm! We have been married for 27 years last month and our sex life is still wonderful. Wait. Wait wait and grow together!

[@linuxsurfer2002]

We went from having our very first kiss together during our wedding to having sex about 6 hours later (we were both virgins), and this worked well for us both. So it can be done! As I commented on the other video, we had left it up in the air (sex on the wedding night) but we were both ready that night. Had she not been ready, that would have been fine with me and we would have waited. The big thing, as Tiffany and James say, is to communicate about it and find out what your needs/wants are.

[@Sona77.]

Never knew men like that existed!

[@horschiday9449]

7:46 I laughed so hard 😂😂. I’m new to your channel and thank you so much for this. You guys talked about stuff school doesn’t, church doesn’t, even parents don’t!! GOD bless your marriage.

[@lgurley]

Thank you for your honesty! It is so refreshing and encouraging to see Christian couples who actually waited. This was wonderful! ❤️

[@TiffanyDawn]

I’m so glad!! 😍🙌

[@hotremchurchabeokuta]

It's part of the HONOUR in Christian marriage to wait for the worth.

[@savannahrose4447]

Hi Tiffany! I just found your videos last night! I just wanted you to know that God is using you two in such beautiful ways you might not even expect. I know your videos are probably directed to people who waited to have sex on their wedding night, but I didn’t wait, and that was before I got saved. So I’m now engaged to him, and I cried watching this! It’s just so beautiful how you speak of sex, and the way you see it as God’s GOOD gift. I found myself feeling sad and guilty watching this, but then realized it’s so sweet that God is still willing to redeem my view of sex to be good and pure and beautiful instead of bad and dirty as James called it. (We are being abstinent until our wedding in December!) its just so so sweet. I really loved watching this, even though I’m not a virgin! Thanks for making your videos. God is using you! 🤍 -your new friend

[@jillianjohnson6921]

Thank y’all for being so open and honest in all of your videos. I am no where near that season of my life but y’all answered so many questions that I had and didn’t know where to get them answered. Thank you for being the ones that aren’t shying away from topics like this. The unfiltered truth is what people need. So many people keep such a tight filter on this that I think it adds to the mystery and feelings of anxiety for those of us with questions. So thank you thank you thank you!

[@TiffanyDawn]

I’m so glad it could help with the questions and feelings of anxiety! That makes me so happy to hear!!🙌🙌

[@JustineMfulama]

Yes that is so valuable!

[@amberabroad723]

I found your videos last year, (or the year before, maybe) and have been so blessed by them! At the time I started watching I was a single in her late twenties, traveling part-time to help missionaries with projects, and really identified with your thoughts on how singleness is a gift, a time to get close to our Heavenly Father. I really enjoy your personality, and your balanced perspective of a lot of tricky issues. Most of all, I love your love for God's Word! One thing I always was curious about was your wedding night talks, but since there was no fella in my life, I didn't think I would ever have a reason to explore them. Well........God did something I never expected, and brought someone into my life last year, and we got married in February! We are going to be missionaries to central America, helping to train nationals to be pastors and missionaries. So excited! I definitely knew I wanted to watch your "wedding night talks" videos, and I watched them about a month before our wedding. I'm so glad I did! As an older single, I knew a lot of the facts about sex (you really can't avoid that, in the world we live in, anyway), but I was helped by your discussions about the emotional side of it, especially about what it's like from the guy's perspective. It helped mentally prepare me to think from my husband's perspective on our wedding night. We were both virgins on our wedding night, and I can echo what you've shared in this video: It is SUCH a special night! I don't regret anything about waiting. We had even waited for kissing until our first kiss at the ceremony, and even though we went from "zero to nothing" (as you put it), for us it was an easy transition. I think the biggest reason is one that you referenced: we both thought of sex as something good and natural and beautiful. We didn't hold off on it because it was "wrong" but because we knew it's made to be enjoyed between husband and wife. Another reason is was so easy for us might be because we chose to do a 6-hour drive from our afternoon reception to our honeymoon location, and we spent the entire drive talking about what was ahead of us, and sharing expectations and such...and yeah, some of what James said he did on the highway. :) DEFINITELY recommend that all couples have a good talk like that before starting their honeymoon! :)

[@TiffanyDawn]

Wow!!! I loved hearing your story, and I feel so honored to be a small part of your journey over the past few years! I also loved hearing your experience on your wedding day! I love that you guys had a 6-hour drive to talk (among other things😉) - that's SO SPECIAL. Such great advice for all couples to have a good talk like that before starting the honeymoon!

[@adelinesadventures5196]

This video is a blessing. I feel like not too many people are this honest about this topic especially for other virgins like me who need to know what’s going to happen and I appreciate it so much!

[@diamyjalloh7115]

I love how u liked and/or commented on almost everyone’s comment. it shows that u really pay attention to what we are saying. PS thanks for all this information, people like me really needed this cause our parent a don’t really talk to us about this.❤️

[@annmathews]

James is such an amazing guy! Wow. So honest. Where was this video the whole of my life?? You guys gave so much clarity! Thank you. Love you both.

[@sofiasoto2214]

Me... a non-virgin separated from my husband... it's beautiful to see these topics being discussed in a positive light ❤

[@jg1990]

I think there is a confusion with a lot of virgins that "sex" means exclusively intercourse, but it can also be outercoarse and other things too. Could you maybe explain this is another vlog?

[@sophieghaffari9006]

Thank you for being so open! It really helps young Christians like me understand! ❤️

[@Laura-ru9vr]

Love the message you give out in these videos! It´s always so funny to me to hear americans say they got home late from their wedding at 11pm because in my country the wedding celebration lasts usually until four or five in the morning xD

[@TiffanyDawn]

OH MY GOSH I would never survive that!! I’d be dead for the whole honeymoon!! 😂😂

[@Laura-ru9vr]

Yeah it can be very exhausting. My sister got married last year and at her wedding we were up for almost 24 hours, we pretty much slept through the whole next day 😂😂

[@TiffanyDawn]

OMG!!!!! An all nighter?? I’m tired just thinking about that!! 😂😂

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

@@Laura-ru9vr My siblings stay up till 2:00am - 4:00pm almost everyday. Then they wake up at 3:00pm the next day.

[@daniellekirkpatrick9965]

Another video added to "Liked videos" James made me laugh when he said "this area was off limits while we were dating/engaged but that night I was driving down the highway like this" where he put his hand xD And I'll be watching that series "The wedding night talk" one day when I get engaged

[@Lily-kk9lo]

this part took me out ! hilarioussss HAHAHAHA

[@TiffanyDawn]

😂😂😂 I know I was dying - I had totally forgotten about that! He’s hilarious. I’m so glad you enjoyed the video!😍

[@joshuamoore2341]

Very much, to me he spoke for a lot of guys that waiting.😂😂😂😂😂😢

[@RC-dp1gu]

Wow. Those of us who did not wait really missed out. I was not a Christian in my twenties. But am now. And I really hope the pendulum starts swinging the other way from where our western culture currently is with matters of sex. God bless you two and your family ❤️

[@Libra_Girl.]

Fornication and adultery are a sin. Married sex is neither of those!! Sad how that gets confused by so many Christians ...

[@marjorie5677]

So your telling sex in marriage is sin?

[@diplomat2623]

Hands down you all have the best video on this topic!! And I’ve watched several. 👍🏽👍🏽

[@Nopetynopenopenope]

I’m not Christian but I was pleasantly surprised at your candidness & non-taboo approach to this topic. Love the body positivity ❤

[@TiffanyDawn]

That means SO MUCH to me - thank you!!

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

At 0:20. I think waiting until later for consummation is a great idea. The wedding night is the end of a stressful and tiring day. There is nothing wrong with holding off until night two (or later).

[@faithtello3427]

This video has some great advice for people waiting till marriage or having sex with their bf/gf for the first time. I loved how they recommended talking to your partner if you are having any anxious thoughts regarding sex. It shouldn't be an awkward conversation if you are with the right partner. The right person wants you to be comfortable too.

[@cindyrost3429]

My hubby and I stayed up all night counting our bridal dance (a Pittsburgh thing) money to see if we could afford the next days honeymoon trip!

[@ekeneonuoha5478]

Smiles

[@ngreat4390]

Thanks guys. Your honesty is refreshing. We Christians are big on celibacy but nobody talks about when we're finally allowed to get some action. Thanks for keeping it classy.

[@wishingonthemoon1]

Thank you SO much for the details. I’m a big supporter of not going all the way on the first night. Oral and hand stuff and even orgasming during those things helps you get close before sex. AND these are things THAT SOLVE THE PAIN PROBLEM. Other kinds of sexual gratification help you loosen up and then not be in pain.

[@rscampbell3]

I love you guys! Just discovered this channel. You’re so chilled and content with each other, and it’s good to see you have a few laughs together about the “serious” stuff. Thank you for sharing your hearts x

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww this comment makes me so happy!! Yay!! So glad to have you here! ❤️❤️

[@DevilDog3330]

My wife and I spent the first 15 years of our marriage sleeping in a full size bed. We have had a king size bed the last 2 months and it is beyond glorious!

[@audreyamber4839]

I really really appreciate you guys being so transparent!! Your videos have helped me a lot in my relationship, and I thank God for using you guys to help us who wanna honor God in our relationship. You guys touched on topics that the church don’t really talked about...and I really really appreciate that. Keep it coming! May God continue to bless your ministry.

[@TiffanyDawn]

This comment encouraged me so much!! Thank you!!❤️❤️❤️

[@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon]

I had fun listening to both you and James. I'm no where near marriage (I have never even talked to a guy my age before.) but I like to know things ahead of time. God bless. Stay together forever:)

[@brennapatrick8793]

Such a great video! You both are refreshing to listen to, thank you for sharing with honesty and wisdom.♥️ Tiffany, I watched your videos while I was single and when I got engaged my fiance and I watched your wedding night talks. They were SO helpful and helped us to have an amazing honeymoon even though I was a lot like you and we didn't have sex until day 5. We saved our first kiss for our wedding day(had a private first look and first kiss♥️), so for anyone that is wanting to save their first kiss and is wondering about it being weird, it's not. If you and your spouse truly love each other then expressing that love physically is something you naturally want to do. Sex within marriage is so worth the wait.😊

[@TiffanyDawn]

Thank you so much for sharing this, and your experience!! It makes me SO HAPPY that The Wedding Night Talks were so helpful for you guys!!! YAY!!! And I loved hearing your experience with the first kiss as well!!

[@hannaj9534]

Such a great video, will definitely be looking into the wedding night talks once I get engaged!💕

[@TiffanyDawn]

Yes definitely!! I would have loved to have a course like that before I got engaged!

[@JustineMfulama]

HAHA I love how raw and honest you two are!!! THANKS FOR SHARING 🙌

[@Ms.Opinionated]

As a non virgin, this is interesting...... 1 tip, ladies, men like direction. Always remember to say it with love and kindness

[@SpongeBobSquarePants-zu3qt]

It's great you waited. It makes it more meaningful. It doesn't happen anymore. Most newly married couples have already had multiple partners. People don't wait but sleep with as many people as possible. This is the world we now live in. Sad times.

[@Sona77.]

That’s why I’m saving myself. I don’t want any disease.

[@morganwhite2176]

This is so nice. Also there's something to be said about spontaneous raw animal intimacy. I think if I had to have a conversation planning about when exactly and how, I don't know if I could do this. But you are a beautiful couple and I hope you have lots of children so the next generation will be as nice as you! xx

[@andisiwemnyazi328]

I’m single and hopeful even during this quarantine 🙈 I’ve been single for 11year now I just never saw the need to date because my missionary lifestyle is way too busy for that and I’m traveling most of the times or I’m just serving as a missionary at my home in South Africa 🇿🇦 I’ve watched your talks and I find them honoring and just beautiful I will definitely save this and listen to it again when I’m engaged thank you again for it

[@andisiwemnyazi328]

Sarah van Os are you in South Africa right now I miss home soo much I thought I was going home on the 16th but my plane ticket got canceled 😢 My heart is so sad bc I miss home so much

[@floriane5903]

great video! I had a good giggle here and there. 😁 It's awesome how confident you guys share! And it is really helpful especially to those who are close (me too) to that step in their relationship with their partner.

[@TiffanyDawn]

I’m so glad it was helpful!! And that you got a giggle here and there 😍😍

[@flowergirl79]

The last remark, though. Love it! I can tell that you guys communicate a lot and that's awesome. God bless your marriage! 😌

[@SmAshlie17]

This is so informative for someone who is saving herself for marriage! I'm always worried that when that time comes then its gonna be super awkward and my husband will hate me and divorce me XD I know that is unrealistic but its still something I worry about.

[@GoodlifeTruth]

"How more Christian can you get than just having sex with your husband?" Whoa! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽 The act is already a celebration of God's goodness!

[@jennjeffs4893]

My husband and I chose to not sleep together. I can't sleep with someone else in the bed & neither can he. Plus he's a morning person and I'm a night owl. It works for us!!

[@susanhaines3153]

Amazing to have this information I am thinking of my two young men Great job It has to be a conversation said amongst Christians

[@elysedefoe1287]

Loved James' comment about how he drove down the highway after your wedding! That made me laugh out loud! D-Mannose is also a great supplement to prevent UTIs - it acts as a sponge for the bacteria essentially. So the bacteria leaves your tissue and clings to the supplement and is flushed out of the body. Ya'll are the best!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh wow!!! I never heard of D-Mannose before! Thank you!! (And I know - he is hysterical 😂😂)

[@agentorange153]

Actually, that is NOT how the supplement works -- the way it works is by marking (certain types of) harmful bacteria for white blood cells to attack before they can multiply and do you harm (so in casual terms it's like an early-warning radar for your white cells) -- but the end effect is the same!

[@misswinnie4.8]

This is an answer to my prayers. I'm a worried virgin, but this talk is helping me. Thank you.

[@userdoesnotexist5160]

Wow u guys r brave to share all your details to the whole world...! But it's helpful with full of wisdom....

[@CaptainQueue]

If I had waited five days I would have exploded. Super respect for you both.

[@daniellaAsk]

I just got married as a 29yr old virgin last week and we didn’t have sex on the wedding night either because we were tired. We tried the next day but it was extremely painful. It took about 4days for us to actually have sex, as it was a gradual process cos it hurtttttttt! Well I’m glad that’s over 😄

[@JessicaFrameMusic]

I cannot fall asleep without my husband next to me. It takes ages if he's out around the house and doing other things. And if is in bed reading/watching tv, I make him snuggle with me until I fall asleep because otherwise it takes forever to fall asleep! I'm a heavy sleeper once I'm out, but it takes awhile to get there lol! Loved hearing your story, you both look so happy! !

[@astheticlemon5312]

Such a great video! I’m so glad to have my questions finally answered! So thank God has brought me to this channel🤍

[@harrycarson2119]

As being a married couple i would look at it as making love not just having sex it sounds better ! Thats one of gods blessings i wasn't blessed with im 58 i do not pray about that no more ! It hurts when i think about . and i was one of the few that i was only look for that 1 special woman 😰

[@m-sms]

I loved both videos! They were so fun and both appropriate and informative at the same time. By the way, I LOVED The Wedding Night Talks! I just got married last year (our first anniversary in a week and a half, yay!) and it was SO helpful! There was so much stuff I never even though of asking or talking about to my fiancé because I just had no idea!

[@TiffanyDawn]

That makes me so happy!! Yay!! That’s exactly what I was hoping The Wedding Night Talks could be 🙌🙌😍😍 And happy first anniversary!! 😍😍🥳🥳❤️

[@m-sms]

@@TiffanyDawn They totally were amazing! And thank you, I can't believe it's already been a year! 😍 All the best for the three of you as well (from Germany)

[@faithchristina3688]

I’ve watched both parts and I just need to say thank you!! So so so much. I don’t want to get into details in a comment here-but because of some things in my past, I have a very very hard time not being scared of/embarrassed by sex. I am not dating or anything yet (I’m 25 🙄) but this is something I think about. But you two make me feel better about sex and I am excited to dive into your sex course. I have a long way to go, but this helped me relax. Maybe someday we can talk more in detail!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh I am SO GLAD this could help!! Your comment blessed me so much! I have heard from friends of mine who’ve been through sexual trauma and/or bad past relationships how much that can impact your view of sex. I think it’s so awesome that you are already aware of that and slowly going through the healing process!❤️❤️

[@nicolegordon129]

We got back late too. Our wedding was in the evening. Even still hubby had been looking forward to it so we did. It was good but even better once rested on the honeymoon. We didn’t have a physical progression. Our first lip kiss was on the wedding day. It was a personal boundary that we set because we were concerned about going too far. Just stroking my arm or playing footsies got me hot and bothered. But after we said “I do” all systems were “ a go”. Lol.

[@elizabethlennon572]

My husband and I made the same decision to not have sex on the wedding night. We also were virgins and had not been naked together so that was plenty of excitement!! Also we were totally exhausted from the day.

[@kateroberts000]

Not sure how your video ended up in my feed. As a Christian woman married for the second time...I was just captivated by your candor, openness, love with one another. Just wanted to say thankyou for loving God and being real and making this topic comfortable for people. Wow I'm so inspired by your energy and vibe and beauty as 2 people who love God and love how he made us to relate with our spouse! Sending such gratitude and deep admiration!

[@Lalablah18]

Hello is the “Wedding Night Talks” given in a DVDs package or how?

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh yes, great question! It's actually an online course. You can check it out here: tiffanydawn.thinkific.com/courses/the-wedding-night-talks - I hope that helps! 🤗🤗

[@avoicecallingout7487]

oh em gee this was sooo funny to listen to! 😂 totally different from our wedding night experience!

[@emmahiegel4172]

You guys are cute and realistic, refreshing to see from a Christian couple

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww thank you!! ❤️

[@avoicecallingout7487]

Yep! Sex is not wrong, never was, never will be! If you think like that, you definitely don't want to think like that. Not having sex until you get married doesn't mean that sex is wrong, but so sad many think that it is :(

[@kennethfok]

Agree with you. It’s never wrong. Because God created it to be the best gift to married couples. And we all are in this world because our parents also had sex. Sex is a normal activity in marriage not just for procreation but also for enjoyment. What better way to bond with our spouse than having our sexual organs joined together.

[@clothyoriginal]

I'm laughing at what you consider late! That's still early! I think we got back to our room at 6:30am. I'd hardly even be in bed by 11 on a regular night. Nice to hear other peoples experiences though! We had a bath together then took a nap then went down for breakfast with everyone.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh my goodness 6:30am?!? Wow!!!!! I wouldn’t have recovered for at least a week!! 😂 That’s such a great idea to do a bath together- I love that!

[@clothyoriginal]

@@TiffanyDawn oh yeah it def took a while to get back to normal! We didn't plan to stay up quite as long but the band were enjoying themselves and wanted to keep playing and the hotel weren't kicking us out so.... it's very much the norm here in Ireland.

[@lauram.3666]

We also took a bath! It was the perfect way to be naked together without being completely exposed, if that makes sense. And so romantic...

[@EleniWiebeMentalWellness]

So worth it to wait for marriage thank u God that he made this beautiful thing to enjoy with our spouses guilt and shame free!👍❤️ It's worth the wait to be married family,! Jesus loves u keep going! 👍🙏 Love how open u are

[@brandidean579]

If I ever get engaged im def getting your wedding night series

[@TiffanyDawn]

Yes, totally do it!! 😍

[@haleyklapp8797]

I’m engaged but have a little over a year before I’m married. I want to talk to my fiancé about all of this and have him understand everything so bad but I don’t want to do it to early.. when would you suggest is a good time to bring this stuff up to talk about with your fiancé? Thanks!

[@georgakely158]

You should be able to talk to him about this anytime. Why wait

[@jasminesmith5447]

I just stumbled across your channel. Y'all are so cute! Gonna watch more videos of yours!

[@Lexi_NurturelyGrown]

I was one of those people who got a UTI on my honeymoon 🤦🏽‍♀️ Not fun at all, especially since this was all new to me. We did it on our wedding night, but oddly enough it got even better after the honeymoon 😆

[@millanapoleon2041]

I am subscribing. You guys were so real. I love it. And, I feel like God sent your channel on my feed. Thank you. I can't wait to binge all your videos.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awwww!!! Your comment just made my day! Thank you so much Milla!! ❤️❤️

[@christinebutcher591]

So good! So how often do couples have sex after the honeymoon? Like throughout the wedding? What would be considered normal??

[@sarahaubrey320]

It really just depends on the couple. Each person has a different libido some higher some lower. If one person works day shift and the other night shift that can complicate things, or if someone is out of town alot for work. There isn't really a normal or expected amount. You'll find what works best for you and your partner and it may change over time.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Sarah really answered this so well! It totally depends on the couple and your season of life - ie, illness, work schedules, young children, etc are all factors. The important thing is to keep talking about it as a couple and find what works for you both in each season. ❤️

[@lauram.3666]

You'll quickly find out how often your husband is in the mood, and how often you're in the mood, and then find a happy compromise. But being married for 8 years, I would say that apart from childbearing or illness, going a month without sex is the sign that something needs to be adjusted in our relationship. I hear some couples that say "we haven't had sex in 8 months", and that's not something I want for my marriage.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Laura that’s a great way to explain it!!

[@uuuhmanda]

Buying a king bed was the best thing we did!! It was our first big purchase together and we regret nothing hahah we don’t cuddle sleep. We kiss and then roll over to our sides haha

[@TiffanyDawn]

YES!! Hahaha my mom said "our king bed was the best investment in our marriage." 😂

[@rachelknapp7271]

I soooo wish I’d heard this before we got married. I reeeaaalllyyy wish we’d waited to have sex until a few days in... time to get used to each other’s bodies and sexuality. Edit: Because I associated sex with pain for years. (I’m the one who pushed it, not my husband! I thought it was a wifely duty lol.) I think I had the same problem Tiffany had with being super small. Also we hadn’t touched much or kissed so... yeah, trying the first night = not the best idea 🙃

[@kennethfok]

@Rachel Knapp It might seem like a duty but it’s really more than just a duty. Of course one is not obliged to give in daily. But sex is a wonderful thing for a married couple to enjoy and because men are naturally born with those desires for sex, it would be good if his wife can satisfy him as often as she wants. There are many benefits associated with having sex such as having a more healthy and happy life. A man produces lots of sperms daily so by having regular sex with your husband, you are actually helping him to constantly have a healthy supply of sperms for the time when you both want to have children. Other benefits include burning of calories to stay healthy and the hormones produced helps make both persons happy and feel more confident. Do not feel burdened to have sex but remember that you should be the best and only person to satisfy your husband and not other women.

[@MalloryNewcomb]

7:35 This is really reassuring to hear. Brilliantly said 😊

[@jazminestryder]

Not that anyone needs to inform people of their sex lives - but talking to several wise older women then me... literally all of them said them and their husband passed out after the wedding and just slept for hours and hours lol. Someone even said they just didnt' change out of their wedding clothes and fell asleep lol.

[@childofgod4347]

My husband and I got separated 3 days and nights after we got married, bcoz he had to accompany his family and friends that came with him from abroad all the way from the U.S which is understandable. Don't get me wrong we wanted to spend our wedding night together but we had to put that aside and we went straight to honeymoon after his family and friends flew back to their country. And we never had have issue to perform.. We both were very comfortable and in love. Thanks a lot for sharing this topic.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It's beautiful how you took time out for the family who traveled so far to see you guys. That's so kind!

[@sarahmarie4392]

So first I love your videos!! I know they will be such a help to me when I'm engaged and ready to marry. Also awkward question, for showering/bathing together, can't you get a yeast infection or UTI from that?

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh such a great question!! So as far as sex in the shower, I don’t think you can get UTIs from that, but I have heard that if you are having sex while submersed in water (ie bath or hot tub) you can. But I would talk to your doctor to confirm that that’s actually true. I hope that helps! ❤️

[@ericbarnes6728]

You two are adorable!

[@kaylaemmerling2025]

thanks for cranberry juice tip

[@somethinggood9267]

You guys have a really unique and special bond, its so cool to see. : ))). you are both so blessed with such good listeners as spouses!

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

Use candles. Everyone looks even more amazing in candlelight. It will also hide imperfections like scars and stretch marks. Cellulite dimples will be less noticeable. Candles are amazing.

[@TiffanyDawn]

What great advice!!

[@alischaschmidt7821]

More please this is so good thank you!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh yay!! I’m so glad you enjoyed this!!

[@cathybaldry7822]

Much respect with the great communication you guys have got going on

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awww thanks Cathy!!

[@won2beme]

Did you use protection during your wedding night

[@dixienicoara]

Thank you so much for this!! This video will be so helpful for me and my husband!!

[@TiffanyDawn]

I’m so glad! That makes me so happy! 🙌🙌

[@TM-tc3om]

HaHa this is great! So fun, thanks. I'm single btw and I'm perfectly fine with that. God makes me happy. I enjoy hearing others lovely stories of what God is doing in their relationships and lives.

[@ДимитърКитов-х9ю]

Why is this in my recommended videos again?