FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL AND YOUR BOUNDARIES

[@sewndebisdream6953]

Number 1. Narcissist know no boundaries!!! Say goodbye good ridden! Happy days ahead like never before!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙌💯🙏

[@christine11347]

🙏Amen. .. Hit the road jack and don't you come back no more no more no more...💯

[@ammj6202]

"Controlling your emotions." is HUGE! Even if you are busting on the inside, refraining and understanding who/what you're dealing with will spare you so much grief. I have a strong reaction to defend myself which seems very reasonable, however certain people and situations need your moment of pause. The "moment" needs your grace (not necessarily the person offending you). I have learned a million different ways of how to communicate with others, but also know, some people are dedicated to misunderstanding you and they don't ever want to see your side of things. You only hurt yourself when you fight that. There is also something called "compassion fatigue". A lot of people in the healthcare field can suffer from it. But essentially everyone you engage with is struggling or they are at the worst part of their life. This can and will break you down no matter how much you are willing to care and help others. We don't need robots or apathetic people in the healthcare field... but you can be crushed by the emotional demands of others much less the overwhelming personal stories of others. There is SO much suffering in the world. You have to know yourself and guard yourself appropriately. I think one of the things that isn't talked about as much is narcissists can inspire suicidal ideation in their victims. Again, separation from a trauma bond and the the horrific and horrible things they say and do, can certainly cause people to crack. Not to mention the stress of the times we live in. Control what you can. You may not have a plan for the next 6 -12 months and that's "okay"... if you allow yourself to heal, inspiration will find you...and if you just make it through today that's alright too.

[@cindyharvey1203]

Indeed. I was never suicidal but during narc relationship I wanted God to take me home constantly. Sad. Now I'm on the healing path and no longer feel that way.

[@johnscholetzky2899]

@Cindy Harvey You touched upon a button I was living myself, Cindy. I remember asking the Lord to "Just take me home, I didn't want to be here anymore in my abusive belittling toxic marriage." The Lord Shall protect his own! He'll make a way from this evil. He has for myself and for you Cindy also 💜

[@jannlewandowski5540]

@@cindyharvey1203 God is just! He wasn't ready to take you Home yet. I know bcse at times I thought the same. You will be fine! We will all be fine. God bless you, and a BIG HUG!! YOU ARE LOVED BY MANY PEOPLE CINDY...❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you AM MJ..💯🙌🙏🙌

[@cindyharvey1203]

@@johnscholetzky2899 Thank you for your healing supportive kind words 💖

[@icicle8384]

You help me a lot! You calm me down and you're showing me reality.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful 💯🙌🙏

[@christine11347]

🙏🕊️

[@kathk3203]

Im a newbie still and I keep finding this gems! This is so centering and useful! Keep coming back

[@curlygirl9023]

I cleaned my powder room and refrigerator out…. And changed the linens… and refreshed the room…. And i know it’ll be that way until i decide different ☺️… I’m enjoying my freedom. Its just me and my daughter now. I severed ties with my soon to be ex husband’s family….. i feel proud and empowered to take control of my life. Just accepted a new job offer. Things are going so well

[@christine11347]

Good for you Curly. It feels so good when you clean out the clutter and everything feels fresh. That's my plan for tomorrow. One room at a time. Stay blessed. 💛☘️

[@curlygirl9023]

@@christine11347 absolutely! I will be doing more tmw as well… your journey bring as much peace, joy, and clarity as it has definitely brought me🥰❤️❤️

[@christine11347]

@@curlygirl9023 Have a great night ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful growth and progress 💪🙌🙏💯

[@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood]

This is a very powerful and wise video. The growing and the boundaries lessons are not easy to learn but wholly beneficial. Whilst I am healing well, 4 months post narcissistic relationship, I’m happy to admit that yes, sometimes it does feel lonely but as soon as I am aware of those feelings, I get up and do something! It may not be anything exciting but it’s the fact of being able to do whatever you please, whenever you want and as soon as you’ve done it, you feel so much better. Today I cleaned out my entire garage and did the gardening- not exactly exotic but my sense of achievement afterwards felt like I’d won the lottery! I was so proud to think this is my home I’ve built for me and my children and I’ve done it all by myself. Be proud and blessed with everything you have and it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a romantic relationship, just knowing who you are and learning to love yourself is the most important relationship post narcissist. 💙🙏💙

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful inspirational message of healing and empowerment.. thank you Polly 💯🙌🙏💪😊💯

[@hotscorpiorouge]

Thank you Polly for this reminder! I am going for a bush walk! You have inspired me!

[@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood]

@@hotscorpiorouge walking is great! You’ll always feel better afterwards. I’m sure you are going to be fine! Keep getting educated and knowing you come first now 💙🙏💙

[@sll110]

always

[@hotscorpiorouge]

@@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood Thank you, such a wonderful community!

[@brigid9048]

They just hate when we are happy and feeling good..When you cannot avoid toxic people..at workplace for example..I learned a little meditation..you go someplace to be alone for a few min..breathe deep and imagine golden sphere around you..and than imagine it close to your skin..protecting you..it instantly makes you feel better.. And it is better to feel lonely than be in a bad company..it will only dishearten you and ruin the progress you made..I am happy to see that more and more people are doing extensive work on themselves..we all need this..no matter what kind of story we have 😊🐾❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Drazenka..💯🙌🙏😊

[@christine11347]

There is nothing more lonely than being in a narcissist relationship. They do hate seeing you happy and knowing you are crushing it without them. That's for them to deal with. We keep moving forward knowing that our best days are yet to come 💛☘️

[@graveyardghost2603]

Grey rock really works! So does no contact and low contact. Another great video 👍❤🦋

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Lorelei 💯🙌🙏

[@tamiduncan777]

Composed, stoic,self controlled, respond not react!! respond. Yes we can only control ourselves. Amen no longer playing the game!! Peace stability structure order protection love Comfort and pursuing your goals and dreams,your health!! I'm There an it is ok to be you and be alone!! Very healing ! Blessings to you all and Thank you Andrew for sharing! God bless you!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Tami..🙏🙌💯

[@christine11347]

How we respond by not reacting sends a powerful message and its a sign to us that we have come along way on our healing path 💪💪

[@InspirationalDays2025]

Thank you as always for your support on our journey 🙏🏼 Greatly appreciated 🙏🏼🙏🏼💗

[@christine11347]

Knowing that we are not alone and are surrounded by people who are experiencing similar feelings makes all the difference 💛

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏🙌

[@angelacahill9083]

It's our time now. We are learning all of the time from you Andrew. Your advice is so beneficial to us all on the healing path. We need to focus our energy on ourselves now. We gave everything away in the relationship and we suffered and are still suffering. We can only control what's around us and we owe it to ourselves to become the best versions of ourselves. Keeping our boundaries strong and not letting anybody deplete us of who we are ever again. Keep moving forward in love, respecting who we are and healing everyday.

[@christine11347]

Beautiful 🙏❤️🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Angela 💯🙌🙏😊

[@stephaniemccleskey687]

I like the don't rush it part. I'm not rushing the healing. I'm 6 weeks into my new freedom. I've been exhausted for 6 years. I'm RESTING and practicing lots of self care.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful growth and awareness 💯🙌😉🙏

[@christine11347]

Enjoy your rest Stephanie you earned every second of it 💛

[@fin1shingtouch1212]

I am Free and loving it!♥️💃

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Carol 💯🙌🙏

[@christine11347]

❤️💯

[@iluvpink4102]

I once read a wise saying: “You can choose people who inspire you, or ones who drain you. Choose wisely.” As I have grown older, I realize the importance of these words. As empaths, we are fountains-endlessly overflowing. Narcissists are drains that are incessantly draining and sucking every bit of life and energy from us. When you have dried up, they are gone, and we are left shells of ourselves. It takes weeks, months and years to get that semblance of yourself back. I look at him now and his life is the train wreck he has created…and I move on.

[@denisguay4315]

I really like what you just said and i find myself in the same situation and i am rebuilding my new self. I am moving on, i have my up and down but going much better. I know now it take times and i know i will take all the time i need to get better. I hope soon i will be on the same level as you. Congrats and always stay safe and joyfull. Thank you.

[@hotscorpiorouge]

Well said Diana, thanks so much as I needed to hear this today. xxx

[@christine11347]

It's amazing how the tables turn when they lose our supply. We thrive and they go on a downward spiral.

[@jach.9138]

When I left the toxic relationship, I felt like I stepped off the train and now can watch the train wreck from the side.

[@christine11347]

@@jach.9138 💯 🎯

[@icicle8384]

Good Video thank you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Icicle 💯🙌🙏

[@bran2836]

Thank you so much Andrew. You are so great at this. God certainly gave you a great calling. I thank God for your advice. I really needed this exact talk today. You are a blessing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome B Ran..💯🙌🙏

[@christine11347]

🙏❤️🙏😇

[@christine11347]

Andrew I love the positivity of this video.🎉👏🙂 We can't control the narcissist, but we CAN control how we interact with them. Each of your videos past and present offers the tools that are necessary to help this community move forward and protect themselves if and when they come in contact with a narcissist. Using any one of them keeps us in control and leaves them powerless.💪 Stay strong and positive. We are strong! We know it! The narcs know it too! Once they get the message they step away; leaving us feeling extremely empowered and proud. 💪💪💛☘️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Christine 💯🙏🙌

[@margaretjohnson838]

IV just left my old life an feel free an I'm so light an happy. Thank for your words you've helped me so much thanks heaps. Have a lovely weekend

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Margaret 🙏🙌💯

[@christine11347]

Good for you Margaret. I feel the same way. When you are free and happy life is so much better. ❤️✨

[@yvonnethomas2718]

Everything is clicking into place!..Thank you so much!..🙏🙌🏼

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks, Andrew! 👍🏼 Yes! 100% 👍🏼 The book, The Giving Tree, is wonderful. Thanks. 🙏 🎶 🌞 🎶 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Karen 🙌🙏😊

[@karenzilverberg4699]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🎶 🕯 🎶

[@patriciaserra5664]

Thank you Andrew for your daily dose of hope and common sense. Sometimes it is hard to regain your power when you have been conditioned to think that everything you did was wrong ,but doing little things the way you like is a step forward.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Patricia 💯🙏🙌😊

[@christine11347]

Know your truth Patricia and keep moving forward. The light gets much brighter as we remove the toxicity. 💛

[@patriciaserra5664]

@@christine11347 thank you😘

[@christine11347]

@@patriciaserra5664 Good morning Patricia. Your welcome. Remember you can never do anything right in their eyes. Let them think whatever they want we know better. What we do, we do for us going forward, so what they think is completely irrelevant. We understand now that they do everything wrong and project it on us. It's their way of trying to manipulate and control. What they don't realize is we know their play book now and turn a deaf ear to them. Their words or actions have no power over us anymore and they quickly realize it. Stay strong and have a great day. 🙏💪🕊️✨

[@patriciaserra5664]

@@christine11347 hi Christine thank you for your kind words. Knowledge is power and freedom in these cases.

[@donnaengelman1171]

AGAIN, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT ANDREW! TRYING MY BEST TO FOCUS ON MYSELF. BUT BECAUSE, THEY ARE TOXIC PEOPLE, DON’T STOP TO KEEP ON BOTHERING, ANNOYING, DESTROYING, RUINING YOUR TRANQUILITY. SOMETIMES, I’M JUST THINKING TO BE LIKE RUSSIA ATTACKING UKRAINE, JUST KIDDING. I LOVE YOU ANDREW FOR WHAT YOU DO, WE ARE ALL ENLIGHTENED AND EDUCATED ABOUT YOUR NICE VIDEOS. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼❤️❤️❤️

[@martyvirtue4051]

Russia is protecting Ukraine from the left globalist West. Dont turn it around and do some homework.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Donna..💯🙌🙏😊

[@donnaengelman1171]

@@martyvirtue4051 VERY EDUCATIONAL INFO AND THANK YOU! ❤

[@jeanwolfendale405]

The narsscasist and their enablers are targeting our self-esteem and reliant on a reaction. The trouble I found with going grey rock whilst in a Narsscasistic relationship is that the Narcissist knew I was doing this and became more persistent and I found myself explaining my distance was because I had things on my mind which was true, I was wishing that he would just shut up and on other occasions I was planning to leave. Nobody whom I associate with now, blows up my telephone and if anyone makes unreasonable requests the answer is a simple no without explanation. Stay blessed and thank you for everything you give.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Jean..💯🙌🙏

[@christine11347]

No is a sentence in and of itself! Your doing great Jean keep moving forward 💛

[@jeanwolfendale405]

@@christine11347 some people are absolute liberty takers and just three months ago a known narsscasist whom I'm loosely associated with approached me and apologised for being mean to me in the past. Before I knew it he gave me a sob story, told me that he wasn't happy where he was living and felt unwell and needed somewhere comfortable to sleep and somebody to look after him which involved proving food, cooking his meals doing his laundry ect... As with most narsscasists it's difficult to get a word in so I allowed him to babble on for a spell and he was delighted to tell me several times that he would contribute £50 per month towards my bills which equates to £1.64 per day. I was very tempted to say much more than "no" but I felt this was enough. This man is an absolute con artist and he even once conned a highly qualified clinical psycologist to look after him. Have a wonderful day and may your days also be blessed and free from users.

[@Kate-sc4mx]

Great advice, good subject. I so look forward to your daily inspiration- thank you 🙏🏻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Kathy..💯🙌🙏

[@debbyphillips6148]

I liked hearing that we can manage our own time and who we go with. I still have to relax with these decisions. I get anxious during these time because my ex controlled so much. But im trying.

[@hotscorpiorouge]

Thanks, Andrew, for this video. When the circumstances require you to stay for a finite period-of-time, I am realising that it is valuable time lost choosing not to live your life in the meantime. I allow for sorrow and heartache because I have endured 20 years of being an extension of someone else and experienced a very cruel discard. Grief, sorrow, joy and happiness can exist at the same time. I choose this! Time is an interesting thing, and it can allow things to unfold that you never thought could be possible. Living in the moment and not projecting too far into the future is the way through for me. Creating the flow for goals going forward can be done in your mind, through positive actions in the here and now and by taking small steps. I am truly grateful for this channel and for your unconditional positive regard Andrew. The community you are building is a soft spot to land and one that is greatly needed to educate, inspire and help peeps to recover and thrive despite this insidious thing called narcissism. Now to the business of finding/acknowledging myself and the beautiful, compassionate human being I am! Namaste x

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message thank you Hotscorpio..💯🙏🙌💯

[@christine11347]

Absolutely beautiful. It's so important to feel everything good or bad along the healing path. Not every day will be perfect and that is ok. By embracing all of life's lessons we can continue to move forward and heal. 💛☘️

[@hotscorpiorouge]

@@christine11347 thanx for your kind and wise words! ❤️

[@hollylorn131]

Thank you, Andrew, for this important video about focusing on what you can control and about how boundary setting will be a very important healing tool so that we use our energy wisely to concentrate primarily on our own inner healing. Our own inner healing does take a lot of time and energy. Namaste. 🙏 🦋 ☀️

[@paulag7108]

Nice as always! Thanks 😊🙏💗

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏😊

[@marybarton5651]

Exactly 💯 % what I went through...It has taken me a lot of years to believe in myself enough to be on my own and not NEED others to survive. I was never taught that I could be independent from my childhood and my marriages and romantic relationships. I have always made choices which placed me in situations of not beliving that I could put boundaries in place. In self defense of my health, my sanity, and my peace of mind, I finally got my fill of being used and abused, and I took the very scary steps to get away from toxic people in my life. I have been living on my own and although I get lonely sometimes, I have discovered that I don't NEED others to take care of me. Do I sometimes get lonely? Yes, but I got extremely lonely in the presence of toxic and narcissistic people who were in my life. I now can control who I allow in my life, what I will and will not allow, and I don't need to ask anyone for "permission", and I can do whatever I choose...sooo free...sooo empowering!!! Whooo-hooooo! Lol. 🙏✌❤🤓😎

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌

[@marybarton5651]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are welcome Andrew. 😊 🙏✌❤🤓😎

[@dashanefedova6009]

Thanks a lot again for the amazing video, Andrew! I have been in narcissistic long relations not ones, but four times, every time more and more sever cases and only now feel awakening, because your great help and now, I am taking my power back, setting and controlling our boundaries and be in the present moment its most important moments! God bless you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always Dasha 🙌💯😊

[@rebeccadolashewich7094]

I’m a bisexual woman who was born into a fundamentalist evangelical family & church was a huge part of my upbringing. I was raised as the “black sheep”, before anyone realized I was a part of the LGBTQ+ community, & I was already getting rebuked and prayed for, because of I even asked questions of the authority from figures, I was seen as a rebellious spirit. I left my church at 14 because of the sexism, racism, xenophobia & homophobia I witnessed in my own upbringing in the churches I was as in. Yet, not until five years ago did the abuse get so severe that I went no contact. When you choose to leave a cult, you often have to walk away alone, & it’s a terribly lonely and hard reality that to save your own sanity, you at times have to walk away from all of those who you knew your whole life. It’s very hard to have to go no contact from those you thought were your own family & friends, because they don’t love you or those like you and preach that you & your loved ones like you are possessed by the devil. It’s a hard truth that you must get far from those who would preach that you are less than they are. Science is now starting to explain how it’s biological to be born LGBTQ+ & less people are being driven by such superstitious & violent belief systems. Thank Heavens, yet if you are born into the extremist splinter groups, it’s going to be ok. When your own church preaches to your family members that you are the “ruin of civilization” & your family won’t stand with you, it’s a harsh reality that you have been born on such a hard path, yet you aren’t on the path alone. To be kicked out of your own family & to watch some friends not stand up for you and join your abusive family is a hardship that leads to being much stronger as a person. It’s painful as hell as it happens, yet after years of healing, I’ve found my own inner strength and it’s great to feel worthy to have the boundaries now that I never was expected to have. It is so hard as it happens, yet it gets so much better. Don’t give up and don’t get discouraged. I’m so happy I found this group. Much love and hope everyone is healing with each day. Remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You deserve to feel safe & you deserve to feel loved. ✨💞✨

[@gail1645]

Thank you Andrew for your videos. I remember seeing your first video that was titled, " It's not your fault." That was life changing! I now realize I have been a magnet for narcissists. I got a letter from an old friend wanting to reconnect. I took my time and realized that friendship was way too much work and not good for me. I think this person needed a new supply again. Fortunately with trust in God and videos like yours I saw that. Boundaries are keeping it safe for us empaths!! Life is getting so much better. Thank you again.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always Gail..💯🙏😊

[@leilagomulka5690]

♥️♥️♥️ so spot on. Thank you for being you.

[@WhiteWolfBlackStar]

Andrew, you're wearing my favorite color! 🌊 The Beach 🐬 and the Kids must be calling my soul! 🐠

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful 😊💯🙏

[@BlessedChosen7]

Thanks once more for your messages Andrew. I need this today. I need to try to keep the boundaries.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@tanyakashyap6944]

God give me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change.. the courage to change the stuff I can.. n the wisdom to know the difference 🤺💜

[@christine11347]

🙏Amen

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Tanya 💯🙏🙌

[@loreley3126]

The stories of Shel Silverstein are so deep… and nice illustrated. I really like them…🙂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful 🙌🙏😊

[@eloisem3214]

WONDERFUL!!! I needed that! Thank you, Andrew.😇🥰🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Eloise 💯🙌😊

[@sherimascote7495]

Thank you so Andrew I always focus on my job. You are a beautiful person thank you so much I'm on healing journey

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Sheri 💯🙏🙌

[@1Tmally3]

Thank you , Andrew. Have a great day! You are appreciated🤗🙏🤟

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Stacy 🙌🙏😊

[@kathy7253]

Yes, absolutely - keep your boundaries strong. You are worth more. Know your own value and never give in to these parasites.

[@christine11347]

Absolutely 💯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Kathy 💯🙌🙏

[@anuhankio4934]

This is so true! My narcissist ex-coworker contacted me and apologized their behavior regarding one incident after almost three months. The reason was that they have been so ill that they hadn't energy to do anything that would add to their discomfort. What a ridiculous apology! Thank you Andrew for your uplifting and motivating message! #throughethefire 🙏🔥

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always Anu..💯🙏🙌💪

[@luke76tuy]

Just want to say Andrew you have been pivotal in me keeping my sanity, nobody understands but your videos help enormously. Much love brother

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Luke..💯🙏🙌💪

[@dannim5268]

The giving tree has been my favorite book for decades now. With this video I just realized why. 🥺 Thank you Andrew for what you do and all your advice.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Danni..🙌💯🙏😊

[@billiemunn]

Great video, Andrew! 👍 Sometimes I wonder if I’ve become antisocial, but when I really think about it, I just don’t wanna spend my time with people I don’t really want to be with, doing things I really don’t want to do.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

You are in control of yourself ..😉💯💪😊

[@sll110]

yes, truly wisdom and powerful information. angel Andrew.. love you... 👍👍👍👍🌸🌸🌸🌸🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌹🌹🌹 you are EXTREMELY important for narcissist survivors, because your eyes shows what means true love... 🍃🍃🍃🍃🍀🍀🍀

[@christine11347]

Always absolutely beautiful Mark Twain. Your words speak right to the soul and are so meaningful. Thanks for sharing 💛☘️

[@sll110]

@@christine11347 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Mark Twain 🙌🙏😊

[@sallyebrahimi7491]

Thanks Andrew. Makes sense and gives me encouragement. It's not easy, but I've been told it gets easier

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Sally 💯🙌🙏

[@christine11347]

Keep moving forward Sally. With education and commitment to self love and inner healing the light gets much brighter.💛☘️

[@Zirve-pn3wr]

Lots of love 💕

[@Bak23471]

Best always remain positive I know this your proof of this this is all you do is no matter what you try to correct what you say even make sure that you're positive and it's a big thing in life be positive accentuate the positive eliminate the negative don't go from Mr in between

[@christine11347]

,,,,You've got to spread joy up to the maximum. Bring gloom down to the minimum. Have faith or pandemonium...x😊❤️✨🎶

[@izawaniek2568]

Amen. God bless you Andrew. Focus on what you can control. Built and protect your strong boundaries!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪💯🙌

[@pamelamuench4900]

Andrew, thank you immensely for the uplifting and wise words! It was so needed today! May you be blessed and rewarded for your good deeds and compassion for others.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Pamela..🙌🙏💯😊

[@vickymoore2520]

Thank you again Andrew for this .. eight years with a narcissist 4 1/2 months clean of ex narc . It was very shocking at first when he discard me in a cruel and unsuspecting manner . He saved his money and went off to Paradise, meeting up with a new supply ! I had my pity party and then found your channel ! What a difference you and the tribe has made it easier along with time . I am working on myself more, trying to get back the things that I have lost because I gained nothing the whole time I was with him ! It does get a little lonely for now but at least I am not with the dictator ! Looking forward too new beginnings ! Namaste 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Vicky..💯🙏🙌

[@cindyharvey1203]

As always super helpful thank you Andrew 💜

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Cindy 💯🙌🙏😊

[@stevenkimpriktzis4322]

Thanks again for your time and education Andrew sending happy vibes your way ✌🏽😎

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Steven 💯🙌🙏

[@suejohnson535]

You are right , true on all of it . Thank you for all your videos ,it helps me so much & every one comments here as well . I Hoped you & every one here have a wonderful blessed day !!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Sue..🙌💯🙏

[@Destiny-il9nf]

Your video started my morning off right I needed this

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Destiny 🙏🙌😊

[@enetyjones4303]

This is really great food for the soul. One of my favorite. Thank you .

[@christine11347]

This video is packed with such important and valuable information from start to finish.

[@enetyjones4303]

@@christine11347 Yesss it is b-loved. Enjoy your peace.

[@christine11347]

@@enetyjones4303 Thank you Enety. You also. When we love ourselves and have the love of others it brings so much happiness, peace and uplifting positivity into each and every morning. Life truly is beautiful as we continue to move ahead on our own individual journeys together. Have a blessed day ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙌🙏

[@enetyjones4303]

@@christine11347 I miss your words of friendship mi Amiga. You can find me anytime. God bless bless u. Peace ND Love.

[@warriormom5843]

I actually loved the book “The Giving Tree,” because it gave me…..perspective. A wake up call, right? Well, this tree here is taking in as much sunlight as I can, including in the form of your immensely validating videos, Andrew, so that I may be a source of cooling shade to others in my life, who deserve beautiful leaves to shield them, and my strong branches and trunk to hold up their weary souls…..empathic tree forever over here. 🌳☀️(and a little 🍀 luck for upcoming St. Patty’s day 💫)

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Warrior 🙏🙌💯

[@julieannfrikuj6346]

Thank you for sound advice! establishing boundaries not so easy but sticking to it!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Julie 💯🙌😊

[@lauracarstiou3505]

Good video. Boundaries are essential. Learning to say no. I recently messed up. Live and learn

[@misasmith6180]

Andrew, hello. You're doing great thanks, I really do watch you daily. A kind word is always nice.

[@christine11347]

Your daily videos consistently teach this community the necessary tools to heal and move forward through encouragement and positive motivation. You bring light to the darkness. ✨ 😇

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Misa..💯🙌😊

[@dianepinkyharman1346]

I absolutely agree with you Andrew. You can only control what is in your reach. You can't control the ex narcissist. I realize this person is smearing my name. She not only took thousands from me from her sob stories, but, now I am educated. I left this person 3 weeks ago and feel fabulous. Of course, I am a strong person. I did get manipulated. I will never talk to this person again. I am important... no more abuse. I am taking care of myself. Thank you Andrew for the education. I have a psychology degree and was still manipulated. I am doing fine and everything commenting take care of yourself. You are first. I had a massage, nails done, etc. Things that make me feel good. That is the first step.... Do for you. You can't control the smear campaign, however, let it go. The person looks bad... Why did this person have a relationship in the first place. They look awful....I would wait a year for any new relationship. Andrew is right.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 🙏💯🙌☀️

[@1ajtg]

Great video thank you. Boundaries are a huge thing going forward. Clarification is everything 🦋

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@sunshinelalu]

I'm continuing to move forward

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌😉

[@brendaartgirl]

Thank you so much for sharing your messages.💜

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always..💯🙌🙏

[@Bak23471]

I have not listened to this video yet but I always believe in the Bible and God change what you can and let go what you cannot

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏

[@christine11347]

🙏 Amen

[@nancydowling4049]

As I'm awakening from this nightmare there is so much to process. And I will need to watch this one again to properly absorb it and allow any good things to get past my automatic defense mechanisms that have become the norm.. But you must know it is a curious thing to me that I came home last night after a long day with my ex, and we were having words and I had turned on the TV and turned my head to look away in an effort to deescalate, and there was the title of this video and it was such a gift because I just spoke those words into the room, as he stood there with that look of disdain on his face.( Focus on What You Can Control and Boundaries) And a bit of calm came over me and it allowed me to regroup for a minute. So thank you!❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Nancy..🙏🙌💯

[@jach.9138]

It does take time ⏲️

[@christine11347]

Slow and steady wins the race 💛☘️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely correct 💯💯🙌

[@jklxn]

Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙌🙏

[@lisajolly9340]

Very good advice Andrew.❤️❤️❤️

[@christine11347]

As always 💯🎯. ❤️❤️❤️ Happy Sunday. ☀️☀️ Have a great day🙏❤️🙏

[@lisajolly9340]

You too hunnie x

[@christine11347]

@@lisajolly9340💯❤️xv

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Lisa..💯🙌🙏

[@KatesTake]

This is so important and life changing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes..🙏💯💪🙌

[@lynnfincham6839]

Spot on Andrew 🌸

[@christine11347]

💯🥂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@denisguay4315]

Again thank you for your video. I like what you are saying and i try my best to apply what i can to my life and i repeat myself that i am a good person. Again today i had to affirme myself on my ex and told her if the only thing you can say to me is toxic or negative keep it to yourself i don't need that in life. I have the strength now to block her (placing my boundaries like you say) toxic word and i am happy now, i have more joy in my life and my energy is going to where it need to go.

[@christine11347]

Congratulations Spaceland. The more you put these tools into practice the happier and more drama free your life will continue to be. We don't have to entertain or engage in their stupidity and rudeness. By remaining composed and stoic it sends a powerful message that we are no longer their punching bag. 🙏💪🕊️✨

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙏🙌

[@EP61]

Valuable guidance. You continue to help me on my journey of strengthening boundaries and staying NC. Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome E P..💯🙏🙌

[@debrajanzen6661]

I always pointed out at work when I wasn't being treated with respect or right, and It was because I thought everybody was the same that I thought I could do that. I consequently lost my job for telling him off and standing up for myself. That was how they handled it this group. I had worked so hard to get the career that I had and in an instant I lost everything for standing up to them and for myself.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely..💯💯💯

[@namingnarcissism9229]

Thank you💖💖💖

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@theresaconley5930]

Thank you Andrew! Keep moving forward in your healing and continue to educate others. God Bless.

[@christine11347]

Andrew continues to make such a huge difference in the lives of so many. This channel is so special. Knowing we are not alone makes all the difference as we continue to move forward along our healing paths. 😇

[@theresaconley5930]

@@christine11347Yes, it is. Keep moving forward on your path. God Bless!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Theresa 💯🙌🙏

[@theresaconley5930]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Your Very Welcome! 😊❤👍

[@amaliagkouma6270]

What is totally amazing in my healing process is that while doing so.. I was left alone.. And I realized that most of the pro narc circle were parasites too.. It was like a water fall of cleansing energy.. and small insects were dissappeared..the bacteria people.. Let's say. . And Ok it's scary this kind and unexpected loneliness but it makes you feel so strong.. So super hero... Wow. The only weapon we have, we humans is education... Namaste.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙌🙏💪

[@TheMisssy2]

I had one after me in the workplace...I couldn't think of anything except being MAD which made me screw up and made her...look like she was right about me. Yes, that statement about babysitting the whole time is really true...I was thinking of how I lost ME the other day. I actually had lost my identity and did not realize it was happening. I do have goals...I am into watching what laws they want to pass in my State, ,I stopped drinking, I am going to start the gym and I have been taking my sons dog for a walk daily. No more GIVING TREE.....unless it is love, courage and empathy. I've never had a LIFE without someone making my decisions...without realizing it...its so weird.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Suddenly 💯🙏🙌💪

[@christine11347]

It sounds like you have an excellent plan Suddenly. Keep moving forward taking baby steps. In time you will begin to heal and feel more like yourself everyday. 💛

[@debbyphillips6148]

I keep trying to remember what I was like, how I reacted to life. Im having a time of staying in to much. I can't think of what I want to do and when I do I back off of it.

[@a.j.4661]

Thank you Andrew!! You have no idea how much this helps.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@monicabelle8581]

You always make your videos that resonate with exactly what I’m going through… almost like a spiritual gift… After escaping the narc 4 months ago and blocking him… I educated myself on narcissism and it’s like a curtain fell…and all narcs around me have been revealed… I can’t believe what this education does… and yes, this whole time I was focused only on my relationship but then realized wow… there are narcs at work…narcs in the family and the list is endless… I have a very crazy vindictive narc colleague who is so in my business …copies what I wear…insists on knowing where I go on weekends, whom I hang out with and what my plans are …but in a very controlling and rude way… I was so naively kind and friendly to her… typical empath… but now..I try my best to avoid her… she scares me…she has a vindictive look on her face if things don’t go her way… I can’t wait to leave this job…This education has done such a. Big reveal on peoples nature for me…that it’s scary Andrew…they are everywhere…so yes…gray rock and boundaries boundaries boundaries…🙏🏻

[@christine11347]

They are everywhere, but with our education they are much easier to spot and stay away from. Keep maintaining your boundaries and grey rocking. We can't control how they act but we can control how we act and respond when we come into contact with them. Keep moving forward you are doing great. 💛

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Monica 💯🙌🙏😊

[@nicole.m_official]

The best thing you can do is ignore what they say/do and recognize it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

[@christine11347]

Absolutely 💯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly 🙌🙏💯

[@AaronMiller-rh7rj]

Wow you really understand.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌💯

[@tinablok5700]

Yes, I was babysitting in this realationship. Thanks Andrew! Greetings from Bavaria 😎

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🇩🇪🇨🇷💯🙌

[@elainesetford549]

Thank you! I’ll be up late tonight waiting for your next video. 🙂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏 🙌☀️

[@lindazivere9429]

🙏🏻thanks a lot!😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@Deutschlehrerin888]

Great advice 😉🌹🙏🏼 Keep up the light work! Wishing you to get completely healed one day 💝

[@christine11347]

☀️✨🕯️✨

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💪❤️🙌💯

[@bakkalaw]

Andrew, please do a video about narcissists use financial control to control the victim.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I can certainly look into this..💯🙌🙏

[@jayneweaver8695]

It's a giant sucking sound and it's going to drain you of ALL of your energy, emotions, appearance, everything. IF I didn't answer the phone, the narc would come over knock on every window, look in the window, knock on every door, the garage door and would call every 5 to 10 minutes until I would relent b/c of sheer exhaustion. It took one and a half years AFTER the relationship was over for me to get rid of him, the most miserable relationship since my parental "relationship."

[@christine11347]

I'm glad you were able to get rid of him Jayne. Keep moving forward and enjoy your freedom ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Jayne 💯🙌🙏

[@motowngirl5891]

I feel we all get with these types of monsters because we were mistreated as children, we felt we were not good enough so we settled for anyone

[@christine11347]

Getting to the root of how we wound up in these relationships is necessary in order for us to heal from within and protect ourselves from being involved in these types of relationships in the future.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏

[@kevinmyrick218]

Very aware thought processes.. I have not got to that side of things yet. Seemingly have thought of her mother I know is a large reason for my ex and narcissist behaviors.. I must discern what it was ok to let this person into my life but I know I was in a low place in life and vulnerable. Wish you peace on this awakening journey. I can’t thank this channel enough for being a baseline resource and sanity right now.

[@tracyjordan5157]

Dear Heavens Handsome, Thank you for much needed advice!!!! Trying to just Focus!!!! Be safe and Me n God love y’all! Not all, BIG Difference! Hey sincere THANKS for Sharing N Caring!!!!!

[@christine11347]

I love your comment Heavens Handsome. 😇❤️😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Tracy 💯🙌🙏😊

[@jackidezell3401]

Thanks for this. My daughter's step dad who is an ok person but was super toxic to me, has been over our home all the time. It's causing me extreme anxiety and I don't know how to get him to go away for a while. He lived here for over a year and his home was fixed back in October and he's still always here. I'm avoiding my daughter and my mom to avoid him. To top it off I've made some serious health changes and my anxiety and trauma is kicking off and I feel trapped. But my mother who I live with her and my daughter has some unhealthy attachment to him and doesn't understand why its upsetting me so much. Him being around definitely played a part in my last relationship...

[@jackidezell3401]

Played a part in the ending of my last relationship.*

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Jacki..🙌🙏💯💯

[@jennie7599]

Ty❤🙏

[@christine11347]

🙏❤️💯vx

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏❤️

[@Bak23471]

I am a beautiful soul you seem to be a very beautiful soul as well I'm sure most of the people that you're talking to are probably beautiful souls as well we're very empathic individuals and I know what this means true and true cuz it's my life I've had and I've been around people that are not so it all attacking my spiritual being you're a bless you have come on here to help us to understand your beautiful soul thank you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏🙌🙌❤️❤️

[@jademuller8548]

Your videos are so inspiring you really make me feel I can be in control of myself and this situation I’m learning so much through you and am implementing it in my interactions it’s helped me sooo much I’m less sad and can get past my anxiety quicker … I can’t Thankyou enough xx

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏☀️🙌

[@cherrybacon3319]

There is a prayer called the Serenity Prayer which goes "Let go if the things you cannot change, and try to make a difference with the ones you can, but have rhe wisdom to know the difference ". 🍒

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@vickery8205]

Andrew..congratulations on 31 K subscribers 👍👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Vickery..🙏🙌💯

[@Bak23471]

I have a HomeTown full of flying monkeys it's ridiculous there's so many people in my hometown that he's known for a 30-40 years he knows where I come from he claims it to be his now :-)

[@treelover1050]

I DON'T WANT LIARS AND USERS NEAR ME. SO I USE MY BOUNDARIES, LIST OF DEAL BREAKERS, AND MY NO TO CONTROL WHO IS ALLOWED IN MY LIFE. I MAKE A LIST OF GOALS I WANT TO DO EVERY DAY AND WEEK. AS I DO THEM I MARK THEM OFF AND FEEL A SENSE OF JOY AND ACCOMPLISHMENT. FOR ME, I DO EXERCISE AND MAKE SURE I EAT GOOD FOOD TO STAY HEALTHY. THESE ARE SOME WAYS I CONTROL MY LIFE.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Tree Lover 💪🙌💯🙏😊

[@treelover1050]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone HI ANDREW. HOPE YOU ARE WELL. HOPE YOUR LIFE IS MOVING FORWARD LIKE THE REST OF US. TAKE CARE AND AVOID THE NARCS.

[@christine11347]

Keep moving forward with your plan tree lover you're doing great. Self care and self love is so important as we continue to heal 💛☘️

[@wendylock6949]

Aww, I would love a loving relationship but I’m too scared…. As really don’t want to get hurt again, ♥️ thankyou so much for doing these videos, 🙂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏