For Anyone Who Feels Rejected or Invisible in Dating

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Dating doesn’t feel magical and fun when nothing seems to be going our way.
Sometimes it feels as though love and attention come easy to everybody else, meanwhile, for us, dating feels like a string of painful rejections or endless cycles of feeling used and overlooked.
The reality is that some people simply have an easier time in dating than others. So if you are someone who doesn’t identify with getting a lot of attention or having much luck, how can you combat the insidious feeling of panic that it simply won’t happen for you?
If you relate to this, today’s new video will provide a much-needed boost. It will help you overcome the pain of frequent rejection and reframe the situation you’re in so you can feel hopeful again.
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▼ Chapters ▼
0:00 - 1:31 - When We Feel Invisible
1:31 - 2:14 - Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
2:14 - 4:05 - A Comparison
4:05 - 5:12 - You’re Not Supposed to Be for Everyone
5:12 - 7:38 - Your “Prescription”
7:38 - 9:14 - Permission to Get Rejected
9:14 - 10:41 - It Isn’t Just a Numbers Game
10:41 - 12:24 - When You No Longer Feel Like Your Best Self
12:24 - 14:35 - Investing in Yourself

[@stuartmartin3321]

“If you’re for most people you’re doing something wrong.” So true.

[@raphael5426]

Rejection is just Redirection ❤

[@SenpaiTheExplorer]

aww love this lil quote :)

[@MT-yx5cu]

And protection

[@louisedeutzebeling6748]

Absolutely ✔️✔️✔️

[@ADifferentVibe]

Yeah, from someone worse

[@TheVioletMagic29]

It's not just rejection, it's struggling to find men that interest me as well

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

Exactly! I haven't been interested in a man for many years! 😢

[@Lev1232]

I am not an expert by any means, but I think that these two emotions could be correlated. It´s exactly what Matthew has been talking about... you think you´ll get disappointed and therefore you don´t even give yourself a chance to like someone.

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

@@Lev1232 for me, I just don't look anymore

[@artandculture5262]

That’s right, and the more interesting your life has been, the harder it is to find someone who is enough. And when trying to be with people of less experience who’d be better with ordinary beautiful people who are less complex, that doesn’t work either.

[@SenpaiTheExplorer]

for real, i can't find a girl or guy who interests me and when i do its always a no.

[@AryaDeVil_EN]

This video came in the perfect time. Thank you for reminding us that we’re aren’t for everyone. A lot of shame comes from rejection but that shame goes away when we remind ourselves that it shouldn’t reflect our personal value.

[@mathildelingrand4177]

I feel like we never speak about the issue of NOT actually meeting anyone, so many people struggle in manifesting one single date, they don't even have the opportunity to experience failure in relationship. It could be good to address this as well, as it is a reality for so many people even if they're socially active.

[@milliebly]

EXACTLY. What do we do, those of us who have no one interested, no one to get to know to even reject/accept in the first place. No one.

[@Kilian88754]

I've been in a similar boat my entire life. Most of the time I find it very difficult to even go on dates with anyone, let alone start a relationship. Sure I'm kind of a loner, I'd dealt with social anxiety most of my life which has mostly gone, but growing up with this issue really developed a mindset of scarcity, because it was just a thought, dating was and still is scarce. So it's very difficult to not be incredibly interested when someone does come along that you get a long with. I'm sure on the other side of the spectrum, for those that have had ease of access to dating their whole lives it's easy to think abundantly, but for us it is not as simple as just saying, oh there's a lot more out there for me, because in our entire life there hasn't been. So how do you change a mindset that is based on 17 years of life experience? It's not as easy as the flip of a switch and affirming that's for sure

[@nickus51]

Exactly what I feel lately. It's frustrating to go over the same experience again and again. It is hurtful to meet someone, get along, have same values and goals in life, build an amazing connection, only to end up alone without even a chance and with "I don't feel the same". The problem is you start to doubt yourself, your self-worth, start asking yourself what you could have done better. You lose trust in others and yourself. I do believe though that I have a lot to offer and I can be a great partner.

[@weirdchannel4428]

I don't like getting stressed out when it comes to this, so I prefer meeting people by my own pace and not when a timeline is set. (Before everything is over) Only when I feel ready to. And it's not always my fault either when I get passively or actively rejected. People/Girls also have a Problem with their unrealistic standards, emotional baggage, etc. So it's not always just me. It's a 50/50.

[@gamarjamil1747]

I am not dating or active sexually but listening to you helped me to think differently about life in general...Thank you

[@mariapericleous9640]

"Chamelionizing!" Yes, it's a thing! I love the word, it's so expressive!

[@djs12007]

I've been single and haven't dated for many years, you're right about not wanting to try anymore, too many times I've been told I'm not what they're looking for. But it doesn't make me feel unworthy or worthless. It just makes me feel uninvited. I've kept my sense of purpose, and still have some goals that I've accomplished. I've maintained my financial independence but the one thing I want to do is SHARE my life and just haven't met the one that will say, "Yes" to that.

[@josephhiller3182]

I'm 21 and felt depressed for being rejected 6 times in a row. For a while I thought that there was something wrong with me until I had the desire to work on my goals instead of having the pressure to look for a relationship. Now I'm feeling happy because I know that the right person will come in the future. If there is a young person like me reading this, please, ignore the pressure of finding a partner and start focusing more on yourself. You don't know where life is going to take you and I promise that you will meet the right person at the right time.

[@PawsForAndrea]

Wise advice for such a young adult. Wish you the best :)

[@josephhiller3182]

@@PawsForAndrea aw thank you so much. I wish you the best too!

[@nibeditarout9649]

Hey! I'm 21 too. And I too got rejected by a person many a times who was an important person in my life since childhood days from school and i experienced that I gained an acceptance of who I am and what in am really late in life and he kinda destroyed everything and pushed me to the insecurities again. Yes as you are saying focusing on growth can only help. Hope you will also get that person soon ✨

[@JanChacn]

way to too young for that; focus on yourself, build your empire and over the time your love will pop up

[@josephhiller3182]

@@nibeditarout9649 Thank you! And it's his loss. You are a great person and remember that it doesn't matter how many times you could try to impress him, if he is the wrong person it will never be enough. You are destined to find the right one in the future 😃.

[@paintmyheartout90]

I think one of the bravest things we can do in life is not compromise our worth, just because we’re afraid of being alone. I’m so exhausted from constantly being forced into my masculine yet shamed for not being feminine enough so I held his interest, and being told I literally deserves to come second in every way that counts in a relationship. After 6.5yrs of having a broken spirit, I don’t think I’d say I’ve given up. But I am exhausted enough, that I’ve completely retreated into myself and don’t want to date at all again because I just feel traumatised and I’m sick of feeling betrayed. I’m just happy to distance myself from men and reclaim my energy. I miss feeling safe enough to be feminine. Saw your dad and brother twice in London. Love your videos. 🖤

[@janetn.garcia51]

Everything you just said , I feel the SAME exact way. I’m exhausted and just want to be whole heartily loved. It’s exhausting at this point

[@deryaderya6922]

Keep being the best version of you and you will attract the right one on the same vibration ❤

[@paintmyheartout90]

@@dinahn6955 Wow… reply is full of so many “you should haves” and pretentious “you probably don’ts” that I can’t seem to find significance of your comment. 🙄

[@FiTTWithHannah]

Take care of yourselves, workout, heal your mind and body so when the ‘right’ person comes you are at your best and without any issues ❤️

[@HannehYA]

I'm a 30 year old woman, childfree/voluntary childless, a far-left socialist and feminist, proudly introverted and don't have a need for constant external stimulation, I feel like I don't value most of the things others my age value like traveling a lot (I view that as a form of escapism combined with hedonism, and it's ignorant due to the state of the climate); I value intentional/slow living and authenticity + transparent and assertive communication and high emotional intelligence - and it just feels like I'm trying to find a needle in a haystack. Most men I meet and see on the dating apps can't live up to any of these points, they aren't compatible with me; I get told a lot from guys that I'm not like the usual woman (???), that I'm "refreshing" and they want to date me cause I'm "interesting" or almost exotic in contrast to what they are used to, and it's honestly tiring cause they don't want to date me because their own values align with mine. Most people on the dating apps don't even write anything in their profile or about their values, if they do write something about themselves it seems to be the same f*** things as everyone else: I like to travel, I like beer, I like concerts, my family, sports or dogs followed by a long string of emoji's. I have been on tons of dates, and there is always something missing like physical attraction, incompatible communication styles, misaligned ideological views or lifestyles etc. I almost feel like giving up. I will though keep my head up and keep on going, and try to trust that there is also someone for me who lives up to my standards. He's just REALLY difficult to find. As an add on: One off the most frustrating things about this is, that while I'm trying to uphold my standards, and have spent years (10+ now) single, not able to find a compatible partner - I get to see all of my friends and people around me find partners, break up and find a new partners - most of them don't really think about having aligned core values or looking for other things than chemistry - but it just looks so easy for them, and I so envy the love they get to experience, while I stay single until I meet someone right for me.

[@juliaskagfjord6207]

hi, i think i am naturally similar to you. I am early 40s. I have been single 8 years now. I had 1, 1 yr relationship, but the rest of my life Ive been single. I would also like someone who is aligned but like you say the norm is people go for others based on how they feel and the chemistry. That seems to be all others are going for. There has to be a fine balance. We may want to try a different approach to dating for example. I seem to know a few women who started as FWB and ended up in many year long relationships, so it seems to be a gamble. I find that men if I am not physical with them on first date dont ever wish to go on a second date. I am really challenged by this as I love to inject some intellect and personality into my first date, its most often a mismatch. You are young still, stack up a lot of dates in a month, and then do your own call backs for those you may have potential for. For myself I go on one date a year now as I cant tolerate the mismatching. If you still have drive, I think really weeding through multiple matches would be the fastest way...plus ideally pre vett the match before meeting!!!

[@susanparkes5096]

I'm in my mid 60s and find exactly the same problems dating as you do - and I'm running out of time, and patience 😂

[@user-vs2sx9et1p]

@@susanparkes5096the world is full with single men searching for single women but the frustration is they never tend to meet each other

[@Nhd4bc]

This 100% applies to looking for a job as well

[@sheenam677]

This guy- he speaks the truth. Lol. i watched him when i was dating over 10- 15 years ago. He's still spewing gold and why DOES HE NEVER AGE?!!!!!!

[@pistolchimp217]

This all makes sense. One thing I have learned since my break up is I'm stronger than I ever knew. I'm also learning to make myself happy and I no longer need to completley rely on others to do that. I've discovered that I feel lighter and more engaged in my surroundings and I know I'm giving off a positive vibe now and it feels great. One day I'll meet someone but until that day I'll keep on being me.

[@jeffsmith9384]

Keep being you AFTER that day too

[@hadi20233]

Bravo 👍❤

[@davidsisson2026]

Damn, I really liked her and wanted to develope. But whatever went wrong. I'm ll have to examine myself. But realize she was just not that into me.

[@pistolchimp217]

@@davidsisson2026 nothing wrong with some self introspection but focus on the good parts not the negative. Good luck bro

[@davidsisson2026]

@@pistolchimp217 thank. You

[@peacemaker54]

Also every breakup adds to this feeling of rejection

[@hadi20233]

Definitely, every breakup hurts as much as our first rejection. Whatever age we are it doesn't get any easier.

[@donnab8345]

Not if you're the one who did the breaking up.

[@peacemaker54]

@@donnab8345 thats where you are wrong my dude. I broke up and regretted it then she didnt want me back so yeah the rejection is real

[@vulnerableability2921]

@peacemaker54 I feel if we can start looking at rejection as redirection instead. Sure rejection hurts our self esteem and we take it personal like something is wrong with us. But I've learnt that it's not about us, and those rejecting us has just shown us more of who we are and what we want, if we're willing to see the lessons. Sure let it hurt for a while, but if you can see the beauty in the pain, it honestly makes you so much stronger and see your self worth. Focus on yourself and your values and open that beautiful heart of yours. You will collide with that other person eventually x

[@adamhall5332]

The giving up on yourself that happens when you hit rejections is so true I didn’t understand how far I got from self respect or even what “self care” is. It’s treating yourself like someone who matters, keeping yourself healthy and improving mentally, physically, and emotionally. Great video! You’ve earned a new sub!

[@manic6030]

Being rejected after a date means that you are able to date, not being able to date is another problem. I have a date every other year at best, I think that hurts more than rejection itself.

[@raymondray25]

This! Yes!

[@Misagonna88]

I’m 42 and feeling very fatigued with dating. Came out of a relationship in March. Then a couple of months afterwards, met someone who lovebombed me and was a Narc. I haven’t the strength to go through the dating sesspool anymore. I’m off the apps for good. If I meet someone, it will be off line and in the real world. It’s mutual attraction. The men who want me-I’m not attracted in either their personalities or looks. It’s exhausting all this, just to have the basics. I’ve worked on myself and healed. I have a lot of love to give, I’m kind, caring and understanding and I think I’ll just be happy sitting in this uncomfortable phase of my life-concentrating on myself. I’m not settling for someone, just to have someone. I’m happy to wait until I find someone I really want to be with-and who wants me as much in return!

[@kiramarin8569]

And if it happens that you don't end up with the perfect match as soon as you wanted, at least you have your peace. For me thats sacred. I can put all my energy in creating a life with someone but not at the expense of my own standards or the potential someone may have. Of course when it comes to love you have to be flexible but not an idiot. All the love and strength, we are enough ladies.

[@clara_1212]

I actually watched this video in a different context because I am struggling with health issues, but Matt reminded me to not give up and stay in the game “in the face of all the pain”. Thank you, Matt.

[@grannyronna]

Good luck on your health journey--hoping that the Sun comes out for you soon.

[@katrina8336]

5 years ago I had such an active dating life and I felt desired, but at the same time I was just miserable. I tried to fit the “perfect girl” stereotype and be as the men want me to be. Now I rarely have dates and feel like dating pool is very shallow, but I am the most authentic I have ever been and also my mental health is way better. Better to be authentic and not for everyone than a people pleaser and desired by everyone.

[@swiftkarma4436]

Same here. I am the best I have ever been with no one flocking my way and I am not even mad about it. When I was my most insecure I had men coming out of the woodwork.

[@benjoayson4700]

This helps a lot, matthew. Really reframes rejection. I look forward to being rejected until my person embraces me for all I am

[@happycat85]

This video just popped up after I got rejected a couple of hours ago. Good timing and thank you for what you are doing, it helps enormously!

[@TisDana]

Virtual hugs to you. 🤗

[@glaizataberna3002]

Same here😢

[@kathryn3802]

This video came of the perfect time for me! I really needed this message. I have been facing rejection in my love life and job hunting. I was about to give up on my dating. Thank you for reminding me not to go into the cave/ stay stuck in survival mode!

[@silver2therescue1]

This entire video describes me. I'm exactly like everything you've said in this video line for line. I'm Autistic so I've always struggled with socializing. I have been getting better as I've put work into it and tried really hard to be myself and be confident in myself but it's been hard and I've had a lot of failures and taking steps back. I've only had a handful of dates in my whole life and never had a relationship and I'm 30 years old now. I've always felt like I was invisible and worthless and unattractive and awful and no one wants me and no one will ever love me. I've always been a people pleaser and tried to be what other people wanted me to be and not be my true self and do what made me happy so no one really knows the real me. I've felt like quitting many times but something always pulls me back. I can't help it, I just want to be with someone so badly. It's what I want more than anything in the whole world and yet it's the one thing that I can't seem to get. I have to do all the things I can't do in order to get the thing I want most. I know I too am a specific kind of person and that line from your co-worker really hit me because it helps me realize that perhaps this isn't meant to be easy for me either. I really hope that one day I do find that special someone who just gets me and loves me for who I really am but now I understand it won't be easy.

[@saoudahmed9665]

Sometimes you need to be little angry/serious and say “no” . If you are the type of guy who say “yes” to everything; ofcourse nobody will want you brahh

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

You'll never feel rejected if you don't reject yourself! ❤

[@tomw4678]

Going through yet another rejection. So tired of how that feels, time after time. My self confidence is shattered. I'd like to try again, but I don't know how, and don't think I can.

[@askew9976]

I don’t even get a look in my direction, talk about rejection… 😂

[@rikki7953]

Can’t tell you how helpful this was. I have been so discouraged by dating, and my friends and family (while well-intended) tend to make me feel worse about it all. This video expressed EXACTLY how I feel, and the new perspective you offered instantly changed my mindset. Going to get back out there. Thank you Matt ❤️

[@anonymousperson8259]

rikki7953, I feel you! And yes family and friends sometimes don't help, especially the kind that want to say "Well maybe there's something you need to work on, what can you improve in your life? Could you try to be more attractive?".... Because feeling more insecure about myself is precisely what is going to make me a magnet for healthy relationship with a respectful person--NOT! Always thinking it's my fault if things aren't going right has only invited manipulators and abusers into my life.

[@HanaAli-ws1bd]

The thing is i stopped thinking i'll ever find someone for me

[@susanparkes5096]

This!!!

[@susanacm]

Thank you for this video! I really needed this message 🙏. After 3 years single and failing with every person I dated, I'm starting to lose hope, but this helps me to keep believing in myself. A huge thanks ❤

[@karenkim2534]

This is everything! 🙏❤️ Went into my „cave“ 32 years ago and am finally ready to come out but am terrified of all the work and rejection. Thanks for giving it a wonderful perspective 🤩🤩🥰

[@scribblydoodle2924]

Ditto. And be prepared, it is more difficult that the toughest job ever. So far, I'm teetering between going back to my contented self (alone) or facing rejection rapidly. I hope I have figured out to trust my instincts faster and better -- and to trust them. Like any good salesperson knows, you'll get at least 20 'no's before you get one yes.

[@mirandah6348]

But what about when it seems like it was easy for other people? some people find their person in high school, college, or on their first online date. Some people didn't have to experience countless rejections, bad relationships, and dates that go nowhere. That's what gets me down. Why must it be so hard for me but not for others?

[@lilwoodsprite]

This!!

[@ioanaanaoi8232]

Those are people pleaser that have a hard life. Imagine yourself in a hypothetical situation where you don't know your size shoes and you enter a shoe store to buy a pair for a long trip. If you pick the first pair you think is wright for your trip and gaslight yourself the shoes are the perfect one because you don't want to spend time trying other shoes, your are convinced that all other shoes none are better... then you either have a misery time on your trip (trying to adjust your feet to those shoes) or you drop them when you've had enough and walk bearfoot for the rest of the trip unless you waste time searching for shoe store along your route. Ignore others. You is what matters and you make the best decisions for youself.

[@dibelgelo]

It's hard for you because you try hard. It's easy for others because they were not trying at all! It just happened to them, because they weren't wanting, looking, obsessing, expecting, that is to say -- attaching to the outcome. So let go of the desired outcome and enjoy the process, it will get easy.

[@jarrodm9299]

You’re not alone

[@Sarahhenderson11]

We all have "karma" that's why we are reincarnated into human form. Some have more " relationship" karma than others, yet others experience issues with fertility, health, housing ...that we may never experience. So, it's clique but we seriously ALL have our cross to bear. It's also astrology related. Most people who have experienced high amounts of romantic rejection have a natal chart that illustrates this. I.e. when they have a chart full of squares from Saturn to planets like Venus...Saturn being hardship and Venus being relationships etc. But I know what it's like. I once had a friend who just effortlessly picked up a boyfriend at the bar where we she went. She was never alone. People who have been married to just one person are spared the rejection of multiple dates but they also never experience other people so they miss out in their own way too...and believe me many of those types secretly wonder about what it would be like to be with another person!

[@bebsi21]

This video has a perfect timing... the guy I have a crush on has been pulling away lately and I think the cause is another girl, that he likes more than he likes me. I feel like once again I was not enough. But as always, your video can help me to switch perspective and understand that his avoidant behaviour is not enough for me. I don't wanna lose hope. Thank you Matthew, your content is gold ❤

[@Rosa-fs2zk]

Thank you Matthew. Just what I needed to hear today 💖.

[@maythao8514]

Thank you, Matt. I really needed this today.

[@timeasarina8492]

Very well said! It's so nice you do this for people 👏

[@Jamila_88463]

I needed to hear that. Thank you, Matthew!

[@evapecznyik9491]

Matthew, this is exactly what I needed today! I am so glad you exist and do what you do! You have helped me so much in the last couple of years and continue to do so. 😊🥰

[@hadi20233]

This is the Matthew I love. This is Matthew at the top of his game. Hi everyone, Did you ever say or hear someone say, "She is such a nice person, she gets on with everyone" Listening to Matthew, it must mean she is probably a people pleaser. Also, that must be hard work feeling you need everyone to like you.

[@zinedinezidane4771]

Or maybe she just is a nice person and gets on with everyone?

[@hadi20233]

@@zinedinezidane4771 Then she's a robot because nobody gets on with everyone. In an ideal world that would be great, everyone gets on, big smiles on everyone's face but life isn't like that. That's why there is bullying in schools, neighbour disputes, divorces etc etc, nobody can get on with everyone. Then there is the Green Eyed monster, Jealousy, I have had that in my career & it's not good but F##k them that's what I say. If people can't be happy for people's success then I don't let them into my life. This actually is a massive topic & I love that you have messaged me. If we were all the same it would be boring, wouldn't it? BUT I do wish there were nicer people in the world, fedup of seeing the news & the majority is bad news. Trying to get on is different to actually getting on, trying means people would fail, it's a facade and me personally I like real people.

[@giacomo7701]

​​@@zinedinezidane4771 think actually the meaning of a people pleaser is that you cannot agree with everyone everytime, sometime you have a different opinion than others but is what you do after this point that differentiates who is a people pleaser from who is not. If you disagree but stay silent it means you are afraid of what others will think about you, because you are afraid of confrontation. But this is a big red flag representing insecurity, so that is why is not okay to be a people pleaser, because if you are like this your identity depends on what others think of you and your wellbeing is based only on others' thoughts and opinions

[@zinedinezidane4771]

@@giacomo7701 hey, thanks for your response. But not sure what it your response is to from my message. I was just stating some are just nice and yet are not people pleasers :)

[@giacomo7701]

@@zinedinezidane4771 yeah, sorry you are right, i was not clear in my response. It is important to find the difference between a people pleaser and who is not. In the end what is fundamental is to know and understand who you have in front of you, so it is completely possible that the person that you meet is not a people pleaser, he/she is simply gentle with everyone but when it comes to ask for respect or saying an opinion he/she is willing to do it

[@tracyocampo9753]

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

[@minervag6777]

You are truly a gift to this world! I‘m glad you used your gift to share with the world

[@1classystyle]

Oh, how I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

[@natalie-pl2cd]

Thank you so much! I was crying before and during some of this. You are a blessing.

[@TheMaryberry6061]

Thanks so much!! Your videos always come at the right time! The right man for me is out there! Just live life and keep trying! Never give up at anything in life! ❤

[@NatalieZii]

I’ve seen so many of your videos and yet you still come out with helpful advice. All my gratitude.

[@alisaxenia]

just found your channel and I am absolutely obsessed! You are actually giving great advise that is really helpful. THANK YOU

[@user-zw4gj1ep1g]

Thanks Mathew for the advice you give us about our love life

[@juliegalea7720]

Love this ❤ and needed to hear this today ❤️

[@kryssajoanaerguiza5096]

Thank you for making this video i really needed it ❤

[@frankyb4958]

This video blew my mind. This is such helpful information. For dating life and life in general. Matt you are living your passion and purpose and you have inspired me. Thank you!

[@dyules7686]

thank you every time for your support ❤❤❤ greetings and lots of warmth, Giulia from Belgium ☺️

[@zebra20111]

Matthew Hussey does it again ❤️ thank you !

[@High_Priestess1111]

Amazing resonant video on so many levels which came at the exact right moment 👌♥️

[@hiiiroobee]

Matthew you come up with such great analogies! not only do I understand it more but also easier to remember. Thank you

[@buttermuffin1196]

Thank you, I have gone on so many dates in the past two years after my marriage ended. Many people I rejected upon meeting and many rejected me. Finally thought I had met someone, opened up to him, and got heartbroken. After being married to someone who had severe PTSD and couldn’t love me, thought maybe I had finally met the one. I know my value now, Im sporty and fun and intelligent but this recent breakup made me think maybe I should quit. I do want to be loved in this life so I am not going to give up. This was so encouraging, it may take a bit but it will be worth the wait in the end. 😊

[@mariadanilenko8430]

What an amazing person you are, Matt Thank you

[@podcast885]

iiiiiii ADORED this THIS WAS TOO GOOD BEYOND IDEAL grateful, matt!

[@Nsuxx]

Matthew, I have e-mails from your newsletter starting from 2012. I was almost 18 years old and really interested in relationships. Now I'm reaching 30, after a 8-year relationship and a huuge heartbreak, still here and watch your videos. You are a huge value to us, what you are doing is incredible

[@shellb1633]

Extremely thoughtful and very interesting ❤

[@user-de2lo8iz7y]

Dear Matthew, thank you for the helpful video. 🤗

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Thank you for your videos

[@kemiraji613]

Thanks for sharing.

[@StArkyBuildZ]

This vids a banger. I do frequently feel like tapping out

[@glitch2479]

Perfect timing :) Great video💫🤍

[@3chickenlegs]

Thanks mate 😊 much love to you xx❤

[@rimmadickson3841]

Love this, Matt! 💯 true and resonates with me ❤

[@french_with_emilia5334]

OMG, you are so right! I just needed to hear this today :) I loved the analogy you made w your videos. Thank you you, Matthew, you are awesome!

[@Paula-fd6lj]

Liked, subscribed and been following for years

[@pamilahanuman7182]

Thank you for your advice

[@tiffanykimble9465]

Ohh Matthew ❤😊🎉this was so beautifully said, I wish millions of women and men see this video.

[@SilkyMoon1]

The look worked - I liked your video. 😊

[@MsLilac88]

I always found your relationship advice videos useful, I am married for 4 years plus now. 😊

[@kevinzelaya2587]

Thanks for your words Matthew. They really do help. I have been listening to your stuff for months after having gone threw a painful rejection. Im a trucker, and there were days where i was just driving. The music is on but I cant hear it, im lost in my mind as im driving staring at the road. Thinking of the two years spent building somthing that i thought would be forever. I felt lost and like all the feelings and thoughts in my mind were out of order. So i decided to turn the music off and find somthjng i could listen to as i drive that could help to motivate me to get threw this. I eventually found one of your videos. Then i listened to another. After that I started listening to one on everyone of my night drives. The more i listened the more it felt like the puzzle that was in my mind was being put back together. Thank you so much for all of the videos you have made. I always look forward to watching the next. Also im in a better place now thanks to your assistance. Im still working on some stuff but im getting there.

[@margymckenzie7417]

you're really good at describing or phrasing an idea to help me crystalise thoughts i have that i've never properly brought into focus. im not 100% convinced though that finding someone is 'all worthwhile' like you say. maybe thats fear..but it just feels like im not that fussed about it. good either way.

[@navineon4961]

Thank you, I appreciate how many of your videos are just a subtle "I'm giving you a permission to x" that many of us desperately need :)

[@sunday88]

I like your videos from the start to the end❤

[@ngbeagloriajames336]

Matt you are just the best in this dating advice thing jeez

[@Peenklotus]

I love you Matthew for giving me hope trying

[@187jamjam]

Thank you Matt!!! I needed to hear this today, I've been feeling so low and alone about dating 8:24

[@0Laura199101]

You are amazing ❤

[@friedaholmes3782]

Exactly, Amen...Nothing More and No One Less.

[@joyh.729]

Loved the analogy that you used about how different ppl’s reaction even to your own KZbin content is an example of how we should view dating!🌟 Very helpful!! I just subscribed btw :)

[@KathrynWilson-xv2lt]

Thank you, Matthew. I really loved this video. Your honesty and trustworthiness keep me coming back for more nuggets of wisdom every week. You have truly changed my life and I just can’t thank you enough…and I haven’t even gone to one of your workshops, but I have joined you online numerous times. A big thank you to your entire LoveLife team!!

[@danyjackful]

Love this. Very helpful to communicate to young people with low self-esteem as well as to take on board ourselves.

[@DanielPriddy-do7rw]

I agree. Not just the young though. I'm 42 and it helped me. Wish they made a dating site that connected individuals that were seeking this type of information. Just shows they are trying to grow and be better. God bless

[@evacastillo4510]

Your amazing Mr. Matthew 😊

[@cindygonzalez4240]

So this is life. Dating is so weird to me pretty new to this all so this was perfect to hear & made it so simple. What a great video changed my perspective ferrr sure! Thanks Matt!!

[@Nate_The_Great69]

This is the exact video I need right now, can’t wait to say one day that Matthew knew all along.

[@saritmakeupfun2279]

Thanks for that video

[@donnaanderson7954]

Because of my age Because I'm not attractive enough Because I'm not smart enough Because I'm not successful enough Because of my body . . . All of the above.

[@TheBlessedQueen2000]

same 😢

[@MC-lw8dh]

For some of us the chances of rejection are simply statistically higher, and we know it. Single moms for instance-men just don’t want the responsibility or complication of dating one, let alone committing to one. There are far fewer people in the pool to be rejected by or to reject. My own experience bears this out. Widowed suddenly at 34 with 2 young kids. Now 4 years later, and yes, the constant rejection- plus a greatly diminished pool of appropriate mates to even consider-I’ve completely given up and who could blame me?

[@margiem5173]

Hi MC, completely given up? Why do you think that way??? You’re only 38. You have your whole life ahead of you, don’t give up on love, love comes when its our time to find it. We’re in this life to experience and Learn then tweak what we need to, to be go onto the right path. We are all a work in progress and live experiences help to mold us into better versions of ourselves! I’m also a single mom, filed for divorce when my son was 14 months, he’ll be 30 this month; I’m 20 years older than you and I have not given up on love. I know he’s out there somewhere, we all need to work on ourselves to be the best version of ourselves. Maybe we need healing, or to open our minds and see the bigger picture, something. No one is perfect and we can’t focus on trying to find the perfect man But the perfect man for us. Maybe you just need to put yourself out there, in different places where you’ll come across larger variety of people. Where more people are able to see you. If you having kids is their problem then they aren’t the right person for you. Of course be cautious you have small kids and predators are everywhere so Beware. Listen to your gut feelings, your intuition. But don’t give up because when you do your walls will go up and you won’t be able to see the person that is right for you…. Many times it’s when we stop looking that things start happening… also pay attention to the energy you project. Try meditation or something that can help you clear any negative energy, thoughts, and/or any self criticism and bring positivity in, smile more, pay attention to your facial expressions as you may be projecting something that isn’t and it can be misinterpreted by others. Just somethings to think about…. Remember a person is old when they’re 90 something, not 30 something… think about it this way you have about 50-60 more years to go! Be optimistic! Raise your vibration! I don’t normally respond to posts but your message caught my attention and felt I needed to reply. Take care. PS: I have dated throughout the years but when i start seeing red flags I’ve ended it. Don’t settle.

[@tylergrant4196]

I needed to hear this

[@h8stupidppl]

I've met this girl during jury duty by sheer chance. Before seeing her, talking to her, and spending some time by her side something changed in me. For the first time, I saw myself in the future. I envisioned great things happening with someone by my side... Then my bubble burst when I learned that my feelings were not mutual. Now Im left wondering how couldve I been so utterly naive and stupid. Im trying to move on, keeping myself occupied but the image of her keeps haunting me.

[@seanmeantime]

Feels you ain’t alone

[@belle9184]

Be glad that you had those feelings, your heart is still alive. Keep your spirits up believe in possibilities

[@scribblydoodle2924]

Not even as a friend? Becoming a friend first to most women is a way of demonstrating your self-confidence. Funny how things can change over time (on both sides). Love at first sight is nonsense and fantasy. It's amazing what perspective might do after each of you have had more time to reflect on reality vs. fantasy.

[@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534]

Same thing happened to me

[@whitneyhill6544]

First saw you on tik tok, and now on here. Very helpful, thank you

[@poorvik7256]

Thankbyou Matthew.......I am so grateful to you ....because of your wisdom that you shared helped me heal my wounds and for the first time I was able to see things differently.....i wish to attend to ur 6 days retreat someday .....although i am far away....... Hoping to meet you in person soon....Thank you for being you❤😊❤😊😊❤

[@charli4815]

Oh dear i love the videos that are not only for women but for men aswell. This is one of it and it is one i needed to watch. I watched more before but never had the feeling of Matthew talking to me. The more "mathametic" lense of seeing how life works was just for me who had studied physics. I really like the fact that there are so many people out ther not wanting me like i dont want them. That seeing make me confident on going further and dont give up. Thanks Matthew :)

[@StoneAgeWarfare]

I clicked on this video with cynicism and that first sentence hit me hard before I could even open my mouth.

[@Isndbrbwhoxnenso]

Good Morning Matty, I hope you have a nice day