It’s about remembering, that is so true and powerful once you realize it. Earlier this year I started buying more books to read for fun. I had been reading for academics for so many years that I completely forgot that I loved to read novels and poetry as well. So I am really being intentional about remembering the things that I love
@LovlyHorror2 жыл бұрын
I've had that exact experience many times.
@lastdays91632 жыл бұрын
As much as we are told "we change" or "we grow" throughout life, we still face the barrier of that personal growth through other peoples perception of us. I believe we are kept prisoner by every iteration of ourselves that we have outgrown because the world around us has become attached to that version. And when we're ready to move on from it, it's a job in itself to change people's minds about us or to become comfortable about people perceiving us in an awkward and unreliable way. If we abandon the need for people to "get us" we can get to "us" much faster.
@SapphicKnits2 жыл бұрын
I had to screen shot your comment because that was a whole word 👏🏿
@Namine012 жыл бұрын
I haven't even watched the video yet but saw your comment, and it resonated so much. A word! 👏🏾
@Martina_E2 жыл бұрын
A word! 💯
@Iloona9742 жыл бұрын
That’s where the media comes into play, you guys need to support women who fit your new image so other people can get used to that instead of the raggedy image that has been created of us now.
@NallahBrown2 жыл бұрын
That last line is it!!! That's it. That's all. 💐
@dearjourneyxokamiahmonique2 жыл бұрын
“I think we all know who we are, we’re just socialized out of that knowing.” What is your internal work and consciousness gonna be?? #Rest #Remembering #Reclaiming
@PrincessSaskia842 жыл бұрын
'Rest and play is a divestment from white supremacy'-that is a game changing thought there. Great interview,kimberly 😃
@alwaysdaydreaming882 жыл бұрын
This conversation spoke to me so so much. I’ve been in a heavy state of nostalgia and have been missing the child/ teenage version of myself. This conversation made me realise that I need to frolic ALOT more and get back to mental and physical freedom of my younger self. Thank you both for the enlightenment ❤️
@NallahBrown2 жыл бұрын
Yes ma'am!! Also, I love your channel name 💐💐🤍
@mmaolisae36752 жыл бұрын
"Why do I want to be taken seriously? I want to be experienced joyfully." Wow. I had to rewind that part. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Another nugget - "we've been socialized into dropping pieces of our humanity"
@demilovatofaith2 жыл бұрын
When cici said "why do I want to be take seriously?", made me pause. I almost cried.... I wish someone told me that in my theatre education.... especially with all white NT profs.....
@serenity68312 жыл бұрын
The Frolic Queen! Love her work This was such a wonderful talk. I adore Cici's point about how we self police our frolic a lot, I've also been dancing more lately and tapping into my inner child, sometimes even at work. Because to shut it away for the sake of "public perception" was slowly k*lling me. That freedom of expression is crucial, and I don't want to lose it again.
@datBoondockingdiva2 жыл бұрын
Awesome job Queens ✨️ Love the juicy questions & answers! This video is exactly why I live the RV lifestyle and travel abroad more. I no longer feel selfish for putting my joy and my peace 1st. It feels so good when you realize that it's okay to reject & release the shame or guilt---especially from religion, stereotypes, or people who no longer serve my highest good 🧡
@lanievangline6372 жыл бұрын
Love this video. "Who does it serve for you to be an independent black women?" "Who does it serve to be a strong black women?" It hasn't served me... I am not sure in society if we can present any other way than a strong black women... I think we are never seen as being worthy of help whether we are "strong" or "weak" as black women. Unfortunately.
@lanievangline6372 жыл бұрын
@@neetabeeta6927 I hear you. I personally am not out in these streets identifying with the struggles of a strong black women any more. I have shed that ideal and I am trying to live my best life of comfort and softness.
@ChillingTales122 жыл бұрын
Well if you guys don't want to be strong than I will. Hmph. How bad could it be. Some of you just lack a spine.
@rejectionisprotection44482 жыл бұрын
@@ChillingTales12 Be our guest😊😊😊😊
@lanievangline6372 жыл бұрын
@@ChillingTales12 You're free to be whatever you want in the world. And I choose to be free of your expectations. Have a blessed life 😇
@tananario2 жыл бұрын
@@ChillingTales12 Thanks! Have at it!
@natachaunelus2 жыл бұрын
"Who does it serve to be a strong black woman? Most of that -ish doesn't serve us. They're manifestations of slavery; they're manifestations of capitalism that tell us we're only worthy by our labor." -CiCi. Say it louder for the people in the back!!
@tanettacaleb77672 жыл бұрын
Chile!!!!!!!
@jadewalker13552 жыл бұрын
a whole word!!!!!
@babeblue10002 жыл бұрын
@33:25 I FELT THIS SOOOO MUCHHH! People don't understand why I need alone time and its because they give me anxiety.
@tippygraham2 жыл бұрын
Preach!
@engineeringbookisha2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, it’s hard for me to talk to some people in my life because they exhaust me
@abbybryant90192 жыл бұрын
👏🏽 this!!!
@TruthNloV32 жыл бұрын
My mama: why you ain’t been to church lately? Me: Kim been giving me all the church I need! Real Shit tho these kinds of conversations feed my spirit so much! Eternally grateful for this community
@NallahBrown2 жыл бұрын
"We internally police ourselves and then we police other people."
@jayceechester2 жыл бұрын
A 🍄 trip allowed me to sit with myself and remember authentic, kid me. (not telling any one to do 🍄) 😉
@CHayes-xr4yi2 жыл бұрын
I’ve always been curious about shrooming 🤔 sounds like you had a good trip
@lindsayt79502 жыл бұрын
I had to do an essay for a scholarship in college and it was about how do you see yourself in the future or something along those lines. I remember I said I wanted to stay funny. And my advisor pointed that out and said that was her favorite part. So many adults lose or don’t display a lightheartedness and I know it’s because life can and will be hard and suck it out of you, I started to experience that. But I made a. Choice one day To choose to be happy. To cut those ppl out who don’t intentionally choose the same. And to live a joyful content life intentionally. Yes I choose to be funny, laugh, and express joy all throughout my life.
@CulinaryGuide2 жыл бұрын
My whole life I've had other people monopolizing and insisting that I do things in their time frame or schedule.
@Heykay342 жыл бұрын
I just realized I’m on a twerking journey too 😂😅. My fave thing to do at the moment is dance it out by myself at home. I used to be so self conscious I never went to any school dances for this reason, always needed to be inebriated to dance going out, now I just don’t care. I love dancing and practicing twerking 😄.
@f.t.79332 жыл бұрын
to see this as i’m waiting for my orientation at a 2nd job and battling the shame around moving to a lower payscale to focus on building my business & salvaging the mental health they’ve been wearing down, is so much more powerful than you could ever know. thank you for everything, as always, kim ❤️
@MichelleNgome2 жыл бұрын
Great conversation. I'm turning 40 in a few weeks and I've been thinking a lot about how I need to simplify my life in the next 5 years. Thanks for the nuggets.
@mutecryptid Жыл бұрын
As a gen z news addict, this has been very calming and inspirational. I rarely see older people talking about this stuff and feel like I have to make the right words to tell myself on my own and it weighs heavier every day. This conversation is beautiful
@Karla-op1gn2 жыл бұрын
For me it's my dog.. he reminds me to play, he reminds me let's go to park and just people and animal watch. He helps me to be in the now. So I 100% understand all this video is saying.
@talisha58632 жыл бұрын
“Projected shame”….profound proclamation👏🏽 However, one thing that Kim and CiCi aren’t acknowledging is that they put the work in and gradually decided to chill and unwind both personally & professionally. There are many people that have not and have no desire to do anything for themselves and definitely not for others, but want to be pampered and adored just for their existence. We all need to have a purpose besides just aspiring to live a perpetual “soft life”. Self worth & self awareness are very important and significant towards achieving happiness🙏🏾😘
@jetunnadine2 жыл бұрын
Even though my licensed therapist (and my authentic inner self) has said every single thing in this video lol I feel so new after watching this video. My therapist has literally said all of these things and I'm such a thinker I think myself into not choosing myself. This was such a great video. Thank you both! Edit: I also think this burden is so heavy on Black women especially like over extending and not being yourself or the world will crumble.
@Neonnysh2 жыл бұрын
There are so many good points here I’m planning to reflect on and apply to my own life. Thanks to you both for this wonderful discussion!
@TarjiRochelle2 жыл бұрын
I love this interview. Took a lot of notes, worth exploring further. ❤
@inathi13292 жыл бұрын
"We all know who we are we were just socialized out of that knowing".....yes! Yes! Yes! Yyyyeeeeeeeeeeeeesssssssss!💕💕💕💕💕
@tippygraham2 жыл бұрын
33:35 mark…… where Cici describes that people come to her to get their tanks refilled and she left on empty! This! I have just relayed this same message to my friends, about 2-3 months ago, and the message was not well received 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️. Folks need to understand even a cell phone, like ourselves, need to be charged to work.
@lastdays91632 жыл бұрын
Twerking as meditation 👏
@ladiepink2 жыл бұрын
Yessss so I’m back this time to take notes !!! First listen was like oh yes ma’am go re listen to write down the many gems that you both dropped!
@OddWomanOut_Pi81 Жыл бұрын
SOCIALIZATION... That word should've been the theme of this conversation, because it came up many times. It's made me think...A lot of what we've been made to think adulthood is requires us to SOCIALIZE ourselves out of/away from true joy...🤔... and THAT... kind of fuckin sucks. We are made to feel that adulthood and joy are strange bedfellows.
@sumayzebecreating2 жыл бұрын
When I tell you I was not good(mentally) in 2020 then I was (mentally) good in the beginning of 2021 now in 2022 I definitely noticed a significant decline in mental sanity smh
@TyraHigh2 жыл бұрын
Great convo; I’d like CiCi to divorce the “woo woo” naming of human experiences that have science based study and things that are not validated by science. I know harm isn’t intended but physical manifestations of emotions is VERY real.
@roccafille Жыл бұрын
I wish more people knew about Sheena Mason and her theory of racelessness because America really needs it. Saying this as a darkskin person also living in a white country (Belgium). It really helped me see myself as a person and not just the colour my skin has and the same for other people. Respect is respect and love is love. If people show yoyu that, you can give it back, if they don't keep them at arms length. Thanks for sharing your guys conversation tho
@jadewalker13552 жыл бұрын
What an excellent conversation! Thank you so much Kim- I needed this video❤️💕
@c0ld_as_Dice2 жыл бұрын
i like to tell people i identify as a 30-something year old teenager
@DrCrystalHarris2 жыл бұрын
Another super powerful discussion. Interrogation of why these feeling as coming up and is it me or them? Self censorship is real and dangerously insidious
@NallahBrown2 жыл бұрын
13:06 "being cool with the highest version of me that's no in alignment with what people know about me." FELT THIS! Yes yes! That's why prioritizing and centering my solitude has been such an important call for me recently. I feel that so deeply. What a potent and fertile time to be alive and cultivating intentional space for myself.
@NallahBrown2 жыл бұрын
20:35 "but if I'm not doing it because I'm scared of what someone will say or experience..... I'm not going to sacrifice my highest self for you."
@monicaDD2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for this interview
@basicswithb5032 жыл бұрын
I love this so much! I was literally about to delete a vlog I posted two weeks ago because there’s one part where I was very turnt and I worried about how I looked to people, then I looked back at it and I laughed so much cause I’m actually really funny after a few drinks 😂 very silly example, but we really battle with things like this all that because of societal expectations, respectability politics, likeability etc etc and it’s so harmful to us and we’re indirectly telling other people not to show up as themselves either. Lastly- I often have these “oh no what is she/he doing” thoughts.. just PROJECTING, but so glad I’m aware and interrogate these thoughts. To more fun and rest! Thanks for this ♥️
@naeb94862 жыл бұрын
This conversation is exactly what I've been feeling! wow!
@kdennis24612 жыл бұрын
That intro is hard afffff
@mewmew61582 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this conversation, Kim! This is comforting to listen to while I try and feel less in pain today.
@TheTbmbishop2 жыл бұрын
I love this conversation because I have been trying to show up as my full self now instead of hiding so much of myself. It has been surprising me and other people who I actually am.
@ChillingTales122 жыл бұрын
If your frustrated with people not wearing masks you would have been livid if you'd have been on the beach this past Mknday. It was packed full of people. No maks in sight.
@kimc23572 жыл бұрын
Another great video. You should interview/ chat with Raquel Savage
@Tamisha7102 жыл бұрын
This convo is so necessary for us by us. 👏 💐
@IntuitiveTiff2 жыл бұрын
This was so good on Soo many different levels! Thank you!!!
@Hidden2u2 жыл бұрын
The conversation at the 31 min mark re: entertaining and engaging with non-matches was so timely for me-thanks, ladies! 🖤
@leahclark12962 жыл бұрын
I haven’t had real rest since I was a child and every time I have a chance to take a break I just sleep haha. I really needed to hear this and I’m hoping to reconnect with my inner child!
@lastdays91632 жыл бұрын
POWERFUL 🔥🔥🔥🔥
@AlishaDixonTV2 жыл бұрын
Such great commentary 💜💜💜
@chloesmith71272 жыл бұрын
I loved and needed this convo!! Thank you
@Heykay342 жыл бұрын
I could listen to y’all forever 🖤
@AntonioTorres-rk3ee Жыл бұрын
Im afro columbian
@Word-Smithy2 жыл бұрын
This was such a great conversation. So much of it was applicable to my own life. Thank you, Ladies.
@GvannD2 жыл бұрын
This is such a good discussion
@4ctina2462 жыл бұрын
I call them Energy Vampires!! Great discussion, I glad to know that there are others that feel the way I do!
@AntonioTorres-rk3ee Жыл бұрын
Okay
@AntonioTorres-rk3ee Жыл бұрын
Nice
@oxi8582 жыл бұрын
Phenomenal!
@heyiam45542 жыл бұрын
Love this!
@louisachalarca64942 жыл бұрын
I was thinking of Chloe!!! Loll
@Heidi20032 жыл бұрын
Another great video
@lacresha6252 жыл бұрын
This was so moving thank you
@Veronicababe2 жыл бұрын
This was a good one💕💕💕💖💖im learning to give myself permission to just Be.