Therapy & Theology: The Daily Cure for a Heavy Heart

Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out with Lysa TerKeurst’s latest book, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, available now! www.p31bookstore.com/products...
A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This video contains content that might not be suitable for young children, and may serve as a trigger due to circumstances in your past. Please see the related resources section at the bottom of this page if you need help finding a counselor.
When we’ve been deeply hurt, whether by someone or by circumstances outside of our control, we often wonder if forgiveness is even possible. What if they never say they’re sorry? What if things will never feel “normal” again?
Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled with these questions, and she’s back with a four-episode installment of the popular series, Therapy & Theology, focusing on forgiveness, confession and codependency. Over the next four weeks, you’ll hear from Lysa, as well as Proverbs 31 Ministries Director of Theological Research Joel Muddamalle, and Jim Cress, Lysa’s personal, licensed professional counselor.
In this series, you will…
Reconsider the misconceptions you've always believed about the forgiveness process by discovering seven truths about what forgiveness is and isn't that may surprise you.
Let go of any bitterness holding you back from offering forgiveness to those who hurt you by understanding the necessity of daily confession.
Find hope in the losses that are unchangeable or feel unforgivable by trusting in the character of God, even when you don’t understand what has been allowed by God.
Recognize what codependency is and how it may be keeping you from setting the appropriate boundaries you need to ensure that you and your relationships are healthy.
Related Resources:
Ready to take the next step in finding a Christian counselor? Here’s a good place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances: American Association of Christian Counselors www.aacc.net

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

A cure for a heavy heart ❤️ for me is praise.

[@rachelchaney77]

This program is amazing! Thank you!!! It’s helping me navigate an emotionally destructive marriage.

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

Thanks for watching!

[@comeflyawaywithjesus8481]

Keeping short accounts with God keeps our hearts pure before the Lord. Confession & forgiveness IS HOW we keep short accounts. Face it, so God can erase it then replace it!

[@kimberleethomas3244]

Mark Twain said it best. Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet emits on the heal that has crushed it. For me, forgiveness is easy when I need to forgive someone I love because I know that their actions are not the total of who they are. On the other hand, I find it extremely difficult to forgive someone with whom I do not feel physically or mentally safe with because it is difficult to keep my guard up with the one who has hurt me. One day I would like to remember that person no more. And just carry the lessons i've learned to stronger and wiser. We are to be wise and yet joyful.

[@000CreamX0]

A cure for a heavy heart could also include, Thanksgiving 💛

[@Ana-rb7ws]

Louise Hay has said this for many years, unforgiveness is at the root of every disease.

[@debstrunk892]

I would love the men to talk more but I think these are incredible conversations

[@iamcristinea9358]

In my 25 years of existence, I’ve never thought that forgiveness would be this hard to give. I’ve been betrayed and I feel like I died. Everyday I suffer because of the other person’s action. I hope and pray that I can get through this.

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

Praying for you, friend.

[@iamcristinea9358]

@@OfficialProverbs31Ministries thank you 🙏🏼❤️

[@jodyirwin1046]

The devil enjoys us being conditioned to bear burdens through life. He works with the heavy-laden of the world, using their weary souls to continue damaging themselves and others they encounter. The lightness we know when Jesus truly takes our burden is foreign at first! We must trust Him to help us adjust as His frees us day by day to be the new creature He is making of us.

[@dorothymarks1596]

After evaluate the "Heaviness " now we move to resolutions for God's Wisdom. We shouldn't put ourselves in harm's way, to be beaten just to prove we have Forgiven

[@sandraantunesdewaal989]

Thank you. God bless

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

Thanks for watching!

[@kathrynjoseph3331]

This series is literally incredible.

[@jodyirwin1046]

“He who is forgiven much, loves much” Jesus❤

[@ThePossumone]

Sometimes though it’s not that you don’t forgive them and it’s not that you don’t recognise yourself as a sinner - it’s whether you can keep on putting yourself into their hurtful presence - knowing before long it will happen again That’s the hard part I find

[@Me-xn7kx]

Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to allow them back in your life. Forgiveness is about you and your safety.

[@LOspiritual]

@@Me-xn7kx Not sure why you think that is what Forgiveness is about. It is about doing what Jesus wants us to do and being like Jesus.

[@truthseeker4504]

I want to reach wholeness, thank you all for helping me on my healing journey 💙💙💙

[@karenabbott5974]

So do I!

[@debbiel]

The book and on-line Bible Study in early 2021 literally saved my family. We were going through a HORRIBLE time. So how wonderful to now find these podcasts. EXCELLENT system. Hard hearts shatter easily is one main takeaway as I encounter people with hard hearts. Thank YOU LYSA and P31 ministry and these two "experts"....

[@Czibs111]

Anger and bitterness are a direct result of the pain.

[@Annamelese]

God bless you with more wisdom 🙏 I hold on to past hurt the worst one is I Have hard time forgiving myself 🙏

[@pamboire6973]

Anna.. I can't let your comment just be scrolled past.. I hear you!! The lord has forgiven you. He is gentle and humble in heart.. He's faithful , He's loving and safe to approach ❤ you are loved by the one who created you 😂 be kind to yourself..GBU

[@dorothymarks1596]

I've find that "Heaviness" isn't always unforgiveness? I think one should take the Heaviness to God for clarity of the Heaviness? Sometime I've been heavy for approaching danger, neither for myself or someone else.

[@dominiquerivero6611]

Forgive release the pain set boundaries

[@fazirualhassan4470]

Lysa I love you without Confessions No matter what circumstances , one God forever and ever🕊 ❤ ❤🙏

[@VictoriaC777]

This is sooooo good!!!! Forgiveness can be difficult but it is required to be whole in jesus. Not perfected in this area... lord I need your grace! Forgiveness is not saying it's okay or good what the person did. Forgiveness is releasing me from the responsibility to seek revenge/ payback on the other person. It releases the offense to the Lord for him to deal with. I honestly think forgiveness can be the hardest thing required to follow jesus but it can be done.

[@reg8297]

Wish i knew how i lost my life my health after abuse from a parent that dug a pit for me to meet another abuser who abused me and brainwashed my kids against me i lost all forms of joy family life friendships healthy ones as a. Direct result of that parents abuse of me ive never felt so destroyed in my hole life left empty-handed

[@patriciacole8773]

Holiness = different

[@bonniefournier495]

So true after 20 years post divorce I contacted my ex and confronted him for avoiding his children. His reaction was the same as 15 years ago. Now watching this video I realize I am still working through the long-term repercussions. I can now forgive myself for seemingly breaking down again. Thank you.

[@karenabbott5974]

Bonnie, sending love 💖 to you. I understand. I'm just 3 years & 8 months post- divorce. I must listen to this over & over!

[@patacan7]

Great great insight !!! Thank you to all of you !!! It came to me that the shared steps as a recommendation of a process of how to forgive and Jim added the seventh of wholeness this represents 7 which means the number of complements.

[@fazirualhassan4470]

Thank you family Thank you holy Spirit May our Lord jesus christ forgive us our sin what we done wrong❤❤🙌

[@gailbarnes5830]

This helped me understand the other side. I was hurt by someone and as he confesses to me how he hurt me, I am feeling hurt again. But if I accept this as his confession, I can forgive and close that door. See it as a confession, not as manipulation. Your words speak truth and allow God to speak to my heart through you.

[@ThePossumone]

Sometimes yes

[@karingraham1452]

I Love your systematic approach to making the change!! I have such difficulty with hearing about what I need to feel or have an end result of, but I don’t know HOW to make it happen.

[@heatherfredenburg7545]

YES Exactly what you said is what I also struggle with. This series is fantastic.

[@elizabethy2912]

I think it's practicing grace to OURSELVES. It's something that doesn't come easily to me- shame does.

[@sharonpeck88]

Thanks for this insight on the words of Jesus' teaching on prayer...confession and forgiveness as an every day practice to help lift a heavy heart. When Jesus said "My yoke is easy and my burden is light", He seems to be offering to take our burdens from us and let us rest our minds and not try to be the one to fix everything. It seems fitting yet often overlooked that confession and forgiveness are part of His plan for our wholeness and healthy relationships. It is one thing to have that head knowledge but it will take discipline to put that into practice. I will be thinking about the Lord's prayer with new perspective.

[@Luisa-cs2pd]

This is very helpful. Thank you and God bless you for doing these videos. 🌹🌹🌹

[@kellydalton2663]

This is so good, Lysa…thank you for talking about it!

[@dawnfranks8497]

Love this!

[@adwoaa5768]

God bless you all sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@moleshoe]

Thank you so much for this

[@maudegone1]

This was excellent! Taken many notes and will try to implement, thank you all so much

[@monicapearson6915]

Thank you for these videos! They have been such a blessing in my life.

[@donnaparks1919]

Thank u for video GOD BLESS

[@micht5358]

I have learned today that forgiveness is required everyday, hence Jesus emphasized that we need to forgive so many times. To make provision to forgive the menial things that grows overtime

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

Amen!

[@barbarakenney8288]

Excellent discussion

[@vanessarenae5169]

My husbands actions broke my heart in so many ways. I want to stay with him but as time has gone on I find myself being more and more hurt. Especially when he goes to work and I'm alone during the day. How did you handle the days upon days of heartbreak. And not knowing if you wanted to start over? The thought of leaving is just as painful as the staying. Idk what to do?

[@odeah883]

Seek the Lord’s counsel on this with all your heart. If possible, get some Christian counseling, talk to a wise, godly leader or friend and know that God will show you what to do. He had led me to stay and forgive my husband unspeakable hurt many years ago, but when he became very abusive and returned to old destructive patterns, the Lord clearly led me and my children out and has provided for us in miraculous ways since. It’s not been easy, but the Lord has been so faithful in leading me and revealing His will, because I truly, wholeheartedly endeavor to do His will even when it’s hard. Sometimes He will tell you stay, work through those painful issues and He will restore the relationship, and at times He will let you flee especially when your marriage vows have been broken or your spouse becomes very abusive to the point of having you live in fear for your and your children’s safety which is where I unfortunately found myself eventually. It’s not been easy, but staying had become completely unbearable and unsafe and once the Lord made a way for us to finally leave, He really came through for us every step of the way. And my husband has become even more hardened, hostile, unrepentant and more marriage ending sins on his side have been exposed in unbelievable ways that let me know I made the right decision. His actions made a mockery of a godly, God honoring marriage and his horrible behavior became a stumbling block to our kids’ view of and relationship with God and so much more. If you seek the Lord on your situation with all your heart, you WILL find Him and He will make His will for you very clear. God bless!

[@ramtuffmama8060]

I’m also in this place, waiting on the Lord to direct me. Paul says we are to run the race with perseverance. So hard to do, especially since the one who shattered my life and heart is still communicating with me. Prayer for both of us. 💜

[@000CreamX0]

🙋‍♀️ Me that actually raised my hand for that first question.😅

[@barbarajones7904]

I have a person in my life who shot holes in my living room window . They are doing drugs they’ve told me they do. I feel this person is mad at me because I wouldn’t let her move in with me. I just can’t take the risk. I’m a Christian and forgive her.

[@donnaparks1919]

My life full of trauma went no contact just want the trauma over I'm so tired vision loss to little help why some people have so much trauma ?out side personal disasters one after another

[@bree3]

What do you do when the person doesn't forgive you when you've apologized over and over?

[@holmesworks93]

I would love to know the verses you used for your systems approach. I have your “system” written down but not sure where to begin (what verses to use). Thank you!!

[@KimSartorius]

What are some of the verses that you study about relational issues where you can apply this method of progress, suppress, digress, regress, confess, and forgiveness?

[@lindamclaughlin7916]

I need help to find the link mentioned in the video for the session regarding what forgiveness is and what it isn’t. Thank you.

[@ericdill5445]

Does anyone have the link to the previous session Lysa references on what forgiveness is and what it isn’t?

[@VadaS5009]

Where is the link for the forgiveness session she mentioned?

[@OfficialProverbs31Ministries]

Hi Sara! We actually have an episode on forgiveness coming out with Season 3 of Therapy and Theology. Stay tuned in the coming weeks!

[@debragibbs9347]

Repentance and Forgiveness are GIFTS from God IN ORDER TO protect us from evil and help us MASTER SIN when tempted???!!!???

[@butterfly-pf8lj]

I love god but why is it that we have to repent to ask God to forgive us. But we our supposed to forgive even if the other person doesn't acknowledged that they hurt us?

[@ThePossumone]

Do we though ?

[@donnaparks1919]

I was trying to move cause I want out of the trauma I let myself be talked out of it 😥 😠 at me & the ones still causing it & the one who made judgment with out knollage & won't here it

[@reg8297]

U cant automatically remove deep hurt and pain u cant

[@ThePossumone]

That’s so true

[@debragibbs9347]

Lu.7:37-50 [47] Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little. --- With whom do I identify in this account...the woman...or Simon? Do I KNOW I have been FORGIVEN MUCH?!?

[@sabinastadler]

Wow progress suppress digress suppress

[@fazirualhassan4470]

Lysa is Misunderstood and is not Confession please do not close the door, My fathe jesus christ speak to me through to contact you, one God forever and ever❤❤