forming real human connections? sounds fake but ok

[@lilintrovert9727]

"i feel close to people in moments, but then i go home and i don't feel that anymore"

[@alexandradun1953]

Mann......

[@leaoraissa]

I mean... god... yeah...

[@wolfgirl1659]

Literally me

[@bopin6922]

Oh fuck me, this relates to me so much

[@rctecopyright]

Answer is easy. NEVER go home! 🚶 🏡

[@swagmundfreud666]

"I used to hate being alone, until I felt lonely around other people, and that's the worst feeling of all" - Robin Williams

[@ahmad5640]

ig im living the life of robim williams

[@Capybaragee]

Robin Williams is a legend, but that quotes hits different for me now. I recently got out of a relationship where I felt EXTREMELY lonely. So lonely I was literally diagnosed with depression. After breaking up, I literally haven't felt lonely at all. I was definitely with the wrong person :,)

[@varchasva4829]

Thats what its really very strange to feel alone around people.

[@Primatenate88]

I used to hate being alone, then i felt lonely around other people, then I realized how foolish people are, then I realized how foolish I could be, then I realized Im never truly alone, then I realized loneliness is a symptom of something bigger, then I realized that the people in charge want us to feel alone, then I got jaded and isolated but alot less depressed and lonely than before, then I felt the crushing weight of insignificance and was happy that at least its been crushing my ego, too.

[@oskarigwe9247]

Its not a robin williams quote!! Its from a film called Worlds Greatest Dad.

[@ProfessionalSwag69]

It's weirdly comforting to know that a lot of people feel sad.

[@memesaremylifeline6723]

yea bc its like well as least im not the only one that is casually dying on the inside

[@kairidderbos5625]

@@memesaremylifeline6723 :(

[@averagebarbarian9258]

I guess it's just hella easy to drown in your misery without realising that everyone is doing the same

[@memesaremylifeline6723]

@@kairidderbos5625 ;...(

[@user-ik5ze1sh7i]

We lost are connecting to nature, most of us live like rats stacked on top of each other, breathing in the toxins of modern cities, eating foods that keeps us in a constant state of inflammation and that opens us up for sickness and spiritual death, we are sick and we need to start loving from within first

[@samistofsam]

"I always assume I'm not anyone's priority, so I don't go out of the way to make anyone else my priority." Holy shit i've never heard one sentence describe my life so well

[@dsaikon]

Making other people your priority is bad dont ever do that

[@alachingada3563]

real

[@DoomKnight07]

You shouldn't expect anyone to do that

[@WAZZA1235]

@@dsaikon Well....that is the essence of romantic relationships.

[@ivicavukasinovic8601]

so u just didnt know it as u wouldve heard it from yourself... besides u already fked up at decision to assume... also if everyone followed that logic how tf would it even begin?! .. priority is proxy...having priority indicates possessing precious which is wonderful but forceful making is just an attempt of pretending to be someone experiencing wonderful with hope of becoming it(pretending is bad unless core intention) ur statement is insignificant, not best not worst, just one out of many of ur truths..i dont know you but i know for a fact that ur not described by just that one sentence

[@healthwealthharmony4113]

"wish i was worse. wish i was struggling more for a joke" why is this an accurate artist mindset lmao

[@healthwealthharmony4113]

also I have so much to relate to in this video it's almost like I'm talking to myself. thank you for sharing!!!

[@notsotypical6202]

Such a mood

[@healthwealthharmony4113]

Kaelia Lana Grace yooo I had no idea what this meant so I looked it up!! Super interesting !!

[@leobellevue3848]

Can someone explain this line to me please ? What does it mean exactly ?

[@o.steinman3855]

As Word is Told are you alright

[@kaylapickett4598]

"When i arrive at the end of my life, I want to know that I loved so much and that i have been so loved." I have never felt so much emotion from one statement, i become so obsessed with the feeling that i forget to enjoy the time. I want to love without fear. I will remember to love without fear.

[@julianmunoz6034]

Maybe it’s not possible to love without fear, and we have to take both…

[@sillycatsayshi]

@@julianmunoz6034 yes maybe

[@mirellfernandes]

This hit me so hard. I just FELT SO MUCH when she said that omg

[@kaylapickett4598]

@@mirellfernandes LITERALLY!

[@billyboob94]

“We can always give more than we take”

[@jordanschumacher5776]

okay but this is so artistic, and the part where u said u felt like u were just speaking these weird l i n e s and not ur actual thoughts---- i felt that and i need to learn to speak my thoughts

[@julia-ex7im]

really i thought it seemed super try hard especially the intro

[@jordanschumacher5776]

@@julia-ex7im maybe you just couldn't relate to her words, and that's okay

[@OneMove33]

Sounds like mind control, watching too much tv and being programmed.

[@behemoth2887]

I’m lucky that I know some people who do that

[@jayl5811]

Stop thinking, just start talking. Life is simple so don't complicate it. What did that guy say? "Become like water my friend."

[@hankwicklund2182]

As an autistic guy I resonate with this kind of a lot. The bit about not knowing what to say or share because you have a "weird robot brain" so you err on the side of saying too little, aloofness, forgetfulness, wanting to know people in a way that's exhaustive but not smothering and how paradoxical that feels sometimes, this is really hitting home and I feel kind of validated hearing someone say this stuff out loud. You're not oversharing, this stuff matters!

[@annabelhamer4376]

It’s so painful, having such a desire for connection but having to hold back at every turn, never feeling comfortable. I wish I could see it from a non-autistic person’s perspective for a minute, just so I know what it’s like.

[@gufu21]

@@annabelhamer4376 Well ... shoot. I've been diagnosed with ADHD, and I know there's significant overlap with autism-but I relate so much to what you (and @hankwicklund2182 above) wrote. I crave deep connection and intimacy with people, but I just know that I'm going to be too much, so I try to not smother people or overshare or see them too often. I often feel like I'm an alien pretending to be a normal human around other people, and have to consciously try to think about appropriate social boundaries because I know that I would want to run roughshod over them if I don't hold back. Huh. Maybe I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum too?

[@ethanking4995]

do that stop being autistic

[@hicrhodushicsalta4382]

​@@annabelhamer4376you really think non autistic people don't have the same problems?

[@will506]

@@hicrhodushicsalta4382i’m not autistic and i feel this way, too

[@Sodapatches]

It’s so weirdly comforting to see somebody with the same fears as you. This is an actual work of art.

[@chickenfoot2423]

im actually on the verge of tears because of this haha, like every single tiny thing she says is something i have felt but kept hidden all my life. crazy

[@alachingada3563]

yeah

[@graves55]

?? but its like every person under 30 is like this at this point? If all of you talked more you would realise that...

[@chickenfoot2423]

@@graves55 not being able to talk to people properly is literally the point

[@graves55]

@@chickenfoot2423 if the other guy has exactly the same problems of you then you have so much in common... and how is it even considered abnormal to be like that if literally everyone is like that?? Youre all normal with your social anxiety everyone has it so no one has it actually.

[@AnnieWilson-dg3wj]

You’re one of the most human human beings I have ever seen

[@milam_is_ok]

Vanessa Ives is watching you

[@jassmeenem3893]

The most honest about their humanity. everyone’s human, not everyone admits it

[@xanthra592]

That montage of her talking and thoughts overlapping almost feels like the definition of anxiety? Like you're physcially there but you zone out and start thinking, then you overthinking and all your thoughts become mush and someone asks you a question and you dont know how to answer them then you say something stupid and overthink the stupid thing you said and it goes on and on

[@airpls2822]

Oh, so that's what it's called

[@willspider0548]

i have an anxiety disorder and shit like this makes me wanna tear up my brain like a shitty drawing

[@moonskipper]

I think this video highlights some of the technological weirdness of the contemporary era-she is simultaneously connecting with thousands of people around the world and not connecting with those people at all (because I am only absorbing her, she is not absorbing me). Anyway, I relate to everything she says in the video, and I feel connected to her as a result, but the format of our connection prevents us from being actually connected. It’s strange and sad and happy simultaneously.

[@clover_55]

this reminds me of liquid modernity by bauman

[@Bornstellar071]

The takeaway from this is that anyone you ever meet in real life is the same way. The main difference is in real life, you aren't just a view number, or a username/profile pic, or some comment, you're a full physically present human body which may or may not fit the image you want to project. So then you repeat that first takeaway I mentioned. Everyone understands and is willing to accept and deal with a lot, other people want to connect too! Just keep it in mind without turning it into entitlement because every now and then you miss a connection even though nothing is wrong. That's what "life's not fair" really means imo. Be safe friend and good luck out there :)

[@WAZZA1235]

It had to be this way. If you met in real life, most likely you and her wouldn't have been able to be so open with each other, as you would be just strangers talking to each other.

[@behrpalomo4479]

Yep, exactly, no exchange. Only sending.

[@devenpapineau6261]

@@clover_55 DUDE I JUST GOOGLED THAT AND I NEED TO READ IT NOW HOLY SHIT

[@kimmie-4580]

*"independence isn't reclusion"* that hit home jfc sav

[@AthenaIsabella]

She spoke right to my soul at that part lol

[@sirshrooma]

This reminds me of a conversation I had with a previous girlfriend of mine a couple years ago. We clicked the first moment we actually talked (which was a year after actually knowing of each other) and we were both idealists with lots of opinions to share. She made me think about my sexuality in a way I've never thought of before. She believed she had few redeeming qualities, and she had a habit of raising herself up after an achievement in the short term only to let herself down later. The portion of the video around the 8 minute mark reminds me of her so much, it portrays the mental discourse I know she dealt with on a cycle. Our mental states were polar opposites at the time, which foreshadowed our failure to continue our relationship long term. She was an oxymoron, genuinely sure of herself in some moments and questioning everything about her life the next. I was the epitome of consistency, my days of mental instability and identity crisis' had mostly passed. One night she caught me on one of her "unsure about life" moments, she would ask me questions like "whats your deepest darkest secret". In that moment I struggled to even conjure up anything substantial enough to satisfy her, so I said "I suppose I don't have any". This led to me talking about how I went through most of my emotional struggles early on in life, and have learned to accept myself, my current path (albeit an ever changing one). In short, I told her "I am content". That made her cry. She couldn't imagine living without the mental struggles she had. The other part of her would normally say something like "My struggle makes me all the more strong, all the more interesting", and she would believe it too. This current state of mind however, couldn't. In time our relationship was tested heavily, I realized I couldn't be her pseudo-therapist and be with her romantically at the same time. She began to push me away in a self fulfilling prophecy to be alone, and I wasn't arrogant enough to think I could change her. So I left, figuring she could grow on her own. The split was clean, we were both rational, and neither of us have talked since. I think if we were older and more experienced it could've been the greatest relationship of my life.

[@stuffedtoylover]

i relate with her and sometimes it is nice that my boyfriend is so stable but i feel like im insane sometimes for having to reconvince myself all the time that i am real and worthy

[@sirshrooma]

@@stuffedtoylover I think a large reason why we didn't see the problems before they happened is because we didn't acknowledge the long term. It felt good when we were together and that's all we really cared about. We were fresh out of high school together going to university, young people with that much on their plate have a hard time holding onto "stable" relationships let alone struggling ones. I hope whatever your situation is proves to be a better environment to grow as both an individual and a couple. And you are real, and valid, and none of us are more pure or worthy than the other. Dark clouds and messy pasts follow many people, and in my experience form more genuine individuals. In the same way you need a mirror to see your full physical appearance, you often need dear friends and loved ones to help you see your true worth. Trust their love, don't always brush off the outside perspective as it can be clearer than your own.

[@stuffedtoylover]

@@sirshrooma hi. and thank you. I was not expecting a reply, not this fast, and definitely not this long and thoughtful and...reassuring. yeah, were also both high school seniors, like your story. I think we're aware that we work together great right now...but maybe not in the future. and maybe thats okay. maybe we should savor the last few months of high school before we have to worry about all the other factors that make love hard. not out of ignorance of what's to come, but out of choice to be present in right now. to look at who we are in this moment clearly, and to make our choices based on that. and as time passes, to just keep choosing. not on our past selves, or future "maybes" and "will-bes." but to choose what's best for us in any given moment. with some sense of clarity, without resisting and clinging. maybe this is just me rambling at this point. not sure if I actually said anything or if I just went in a circle, but that's okay. thank you for your long reply. this is this first time I feel like I'm having a vulnerable conversation with an internet stranger. it was nice.

[@sirshrooma]

@@stuffedtoylover It seems you've wrapped your head around the idea that your current relationship might come to an end due to your circumstances. I've always been on the more realistic side and you've shown a preparedness to accept whatever outcome, I respect that. Short term relationships are more about gaining experiences and having a pleasant time anyway, definitely not about struggling to sustain it as long as you can. I'm a romantic at heart, but my brain will always maintain a realistic approach before anything. Rambling is good, talking out your thoughts can help you realize why you have them in the first place. You have wisdom in your words, what will happen will happen.

[@stuffedtoylover]

@@sirshrooma yes, I'm a complete hopeless romantic as well. thank you for listening and your reassuring words.

[@JackHoward]

This is my favourite thing you’ve ever made

[@-rayn-4934]

What helped me a lot when it came to forming true connections was realizing that what other people truely want is to be seen. Like, really seen. And that you can help that process by asking questions, like, real questions, about how they feel and what they learned and experienced. And by listening, you are able to see if what makes them tick resonates with you and if you want to proceed to getting to know them even better. And when you do, you can deduct whether this is a person who you want to take the next step with, the actual emotional part, like, sharing their pain, sharing their joy, but also sharing things about yourself. Because deeply feeling what another person feels is very exhausting, but if it's someone you relate to, it's the most fulfilling thing.

[@moonteacup]

this is solid advice. thank you, this was extremely helpful to read as a 23 year old trying to figure out how to really connect with other people. also it’s comforting to read the other comments under this video who are the same age as me going through similar feelings

[@Corn-qq8ot]

Completely

[@veryclearenglishspeaker4557]

This is the most profound thing I've ever heard in my life

[@lorenasimoesz]

“I feel like I’ve already wasted time. And people. And time with people.” Really felt that. Ouch

[@annapoohbear98]

This feels like a film. I don't know if that makes sense, but that's the only way I can describe the feeling it brought me.

[@jon_escamilla_]

The use of color does that

[@tinyfreckle]

Gives me Submarine vibes

[@Gull32]

@@tinyfreckle yeah or lost in translation

[@enidmasai9384]

Eat pray love

[@heinoustentacles5719]

She directed it

[@333PatA333]

Some times I play out conversations I want to have with people in my head and then when I am around those people I say nothing because I have already had the conversation

[@Druidavet]

or it doesn't go in the ''right way'' or they aren't interested

[@starscream1423]

I feel that

[@Arygua]

Bruh same Ill take multiple different paths

[@billyboo2864]

@@Druidavet can you stop being right

[@Druidavet]

@@billyboo2864 no

[@mr.berries4060]

this is the most relatable stream of human thoughts i've ever encountered in my 34 years on this earth

[@napppstar0]

"Independence isn't reclusion." Is so important. "When a bird lands on a branch it feels secure not because it thinks the branch will never break but because it knows if the tree fails her she can rely on the strength of her wings."

[@hytrader3241]

thats good.

[@samanthadiaz7556]

there’s something so comforting about just hearing someone else pour their feelings out and it not making sense, but also hella relating to it

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

It feels bad. I never want anyone else to suffer like me or worse than me

[@ivicavukasinovic8601]

unexplained feelings are corrupting.. delete it.. ur relying on inherited ability to experience given....and if u feel like keeping it short expl. is that it enables you to do the same without being judged and reconcile with its occurrences from past (assuming description "comforting" is correct)

[@actionjackson2721]

Ever thought “I wanna go home” when you’re already home?

[@maggiem3110]

Jackson Fung my friend and I were talking about this exactly!!!

[@Alexandra-uk4vr]

Too often, my dude

[@blackdarknessboy4476]

Sadly

[@TigerTT]

E.T phone home lol

[@mynewollabilyne4004]

Ahhh I finally found my people

[@Sambasohly]

As someone nearing 40, hearing what you were going through at that time (maybe potentially still going through) and realizing it's where I still am currently...is both eye-opening and disconcerting. Not sure why the video was recommended to me, but thank you KZbin, and thank you Savannah Brown.

[@tenn4splayer]

umm i just realized one thing recently that when youve been doing something for a long time and youve had more than enough time to realize its not working, then that just means you need to try another way. cause trust me cuz just keeping the way it is no matter the different circumstances that might come about in every one of those situations is not gonna do jack shit to change the outcome. its gonna be the same outcome over and over as i said ive very recently just realizd that shit. so in a nutshell, that thing requires a different apporach thats what it just means and it might not be the one thatll work as well but in th e least youll get a new outlook on it

[@parkermccarthy4265]

who is this girl, why is she so cute, why is this in my recommended, how is she articulating my subconscious dilemmas

[@parkermccarthy4265]

shut up bitch you're making me feel things

[@ethanaldridge1639]

Hahaha relatable

[@asthtk4098]

holy shit same. felt like one of those weird facebook ads that read your mind.

[@ethank.6602]

@@parkermccarthy4265 did you just reply to yourself mate

[@posteego]

yep, this is was what I was thinking, word for word

[@brinleymccully2123]

this reminded me of that nietzsche quote "the demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions" but we ask anyway, how could we not

[@billyblueberry]

The part where you say "I feel like I'm just saying lines. Curated forms of my actual thoughts made to be presentable to other people". I feel that. I feel completely disconnected from people, I can completely express my thoughts when I'm alone but I'll never be able to communicate in the same way to another person. It's terrifyingly isolating, but as an introvert, I can accept it.

[@yinssleepydiaries380]

I have to swallow sooooo many words to not make myself sound 'boring' and i feel scared that people will lose interest if i share everything i think

[@Samboleyful]

This may sound stupid and cliche, but I just want to mention I've felt this same way. I felt this way for almost two years, and trust me, it passes. One day I woke up and things changed and through experiences I found myself coming back to reality. I promise you it will pass.

[@luckyseptem487]

Wtf, I always stay true to myself and always present my true emotions and thoughts, especially when asked.

[@aaronmuller2545]

I don't think it's right to just write it off as being introverted. You say the isolation feels terrifying, but an introvert would feel better when they're alone, and you're probably confusing this with feeling more comfortable at home when you're not being judged. I think that you just have a lot of anxiety when it comes to social interaction, but you can overcome it if you just keep talking to people and try to be as honest as possible to them. Please don't give up on this, it'll make you much happier in the long run :)

[@dylan-uw9vt]

@@Samboleyful you are right I once was like this but then I found what I truly love doing, which is everything to do with pianos and music and this feeling of not being able to express my true, pure emotions disappeared! you just need that one thing that is truly special to set you free from this evil curse ;) (although I'm not so much attracted to pianos anymore and have retracted this curse again there was still that brief couple months where nothing was scary, and that was pure ecstasy)

[@paulaoviedo5773]

Tell me that this isn't the definition of art! I mean, this girl deserves an academy award, at the very least more recognition! Her authenticity, the transitions, the lighting, music, and how she expresses herself! I am still astonished!

[@mea5989]

"indistinguishable one-note days lost to the interminable current of time" hits different during a pandemic

[@nkopanelesedilebona9227]

indeed

[@ACH9523]

I don’t write in the comment sections ever but this video honestly hit really close to home and I felt that I needed to say something. You were able to sum up exactly how I’ve been feeling for years. Thank you.

[@savbrown]

thank you so much for watching!

[@gracethompson5277]

i love this video because this is extremely self-aware and intellectual, but also shows you are so human and struggling with something that everyone experiences to some extent. i definitely related and the conclusion hit me hard. this was a small masterpiece.

[@rabs7290]

mist be hard to watch yourself saying all this deep stuff to a camera, then editing it and make a piece of art from it and finally uploading it where everyone can see it, and somehow be ok with it, you are a strong human being savanah, and one a lot of plp would like to know and be there in that time you mentioned, congrats 👏

[@izzypankhurst2335]

you word things so beautifully?? How is your brain constantly one long poem

[@numericalhorror185]

Izzy Pankhurst this is a curated clip show of filtered thoughts, nothing is as clear and concise as it looks or sounds

[@iloveselenagomezyeah6486]

her voice and accent definitely helps

[@blan123.]

I mean... She must have thought the beautiful wording before filming... right? But still, even if it's not spontaneously beautiful, it still is beautiful

[@jakeoswald8017]

eloquence is just inherent to some people, but it can be developed through reading and observation,

[@orhunolgun5039]

it's called script and editing

[@rubystimson5606]

"we're flesh and bone when we're all alone, but together, forever, we'll live"

[@NotLeda]

such a great line from werewolf heart 🖤

[@stonecat676]

A cult master's last words before nailing himself on top of his hundreds of conscious followers - all stitched together, arms to legs, bellies to backs, hearts to hearts, and every single face turned outwards. The cult master smiled. He never got a chance to decorate a Christmas tree growing up.

[@cultivatepod]

"I always assume I'm never anyone’s priority and so I don’t go out of my way to make anyone else a priority" ugh I felt THAT

[@neilbedwell7763]

And if you decide to make everyone else a priority, one day, a year or so later, you realise that if you never start conversation with your friends, you never hear from them.

[@cultivatepod]

Neil Bedwell and that’s the paradox, isn’t it?

[@neilbedwell7763]

@@cultivatepod I mean, it broke my heart when I figured it out, but then trying to understand if that was somehow my fault sent me neurotic. Some people are so eager to tell you the truth that you can't trust it isn't a lie, and some people are so afraid to lie that they can't even tell you the truth.

[@cultivatepod]

Neil Bedwell Damn. Heartbreaking, indeed. Not sure how old you are, but it’s the kind of thing they don’t tell you about adulthood - how people can come and go, sometimes intentionally, and sometimes (hopefully) not. I think we’re all feeling this weird, in-between space at one point or another. Hope it gets better on your end...

[@hexiris]

@@neilbedwell7763 I did that, make people a priority and still... feel like you I'm not their priority. So now I just isolated myself, it's just tiring going after people that don't care.

[@Peneya]

I really relate to the part about saying lines. For me, I think it’s that it’s easier not to risk your true self, just kinda go on autopilot and hope you make it through all your interactions smoothly. I’ve learned that it’s not really living thou.

[@lukedmoss]

yea it's a tough act bc on the one hand we need cliche and basic facts to be able to recognize each other and establish some sense of shared experience like 'yea, we live in the same world' but on the other hand the goal (that might be most rewarding, at least) is to get to a level of emotional connection, shared feeling, and maximum truth. Clichés are true, so we start there, but we want to express ourselves on a level so much more real and heartfelt than that. maybe.

[@albanachn7618]

⏹ Annoying or irrelevant ⏹ Spam ✔ I'm in this video and I don't like it

[@shy8054]

Great meme format

[@theomeister8162]

This might be the most relatable talk I will ever hear.

[@ximonwhhatt3796]

Me too

[@SkaTerBoiI256]

You have no idea haha

[@rororezak3703]

Me too

[@Mhdightman]

“Other people are terrifying because you can’t know what they’re thinking” ugh this hit harder than I wanted it to😵

[@lewisharold]

Max Dightman Probably similar things to you.

[@Mhdightman]

Lewis Michael Harold and thats what makes it so much worse !!

[@lewisharold]

Max Dightman Maybe they're not thinking similar things to you. Maybe they're wondering what they will eat for dinner that night or what pair of shoes they will own next?

[@Mhdightman]

Lewis Michael Harold exactly. Its the not knowing that fucks with me bc for some reason i have this desire to know what I never will.

[@rhibon]

Maybe they're also wondering if they would be able to control themselves when they lose control in public and do something really terrifying

[@LukeTheArtist96]

Sometimes I like to imagine myself as an old man, sitting on the porch drinking coffee and watching the clouds go by, content with a life well lived. And knowing that all the hardships and failures along with the good times and successes will have been meaningful, and I can just be at peace.

[@adrianaadame8272]

“when i arrive at the end of my life, i want to know i’ve loved so much and that i’ve been so loved.” i think about this all the time. all the time. and sav, i don’t know you but i know love your creations. so much

[@Kuma-AKA]

"sometimes I feel like I'm just saying lines. I mean it. Like I'm not actually saying anything besides some weird curated version of my actual thoughts... and then I'm like, 'well, maybe that's what everyone does...' but I don't think everyone does that" OH GOD OH GOD EDIT omg my weird ass has never gotten this many likes tbh so thank you for relating to my existential desolation

[@videospielesindkunst]

gummolife This was just so incredibly relatable. I also always get the feeling that we have these lines that are defined by our social standards but we never speak the truth

[@gnickthegnome1981]

@@videospielesindkunst it's because that's the truth. There are certain things you can say, but say something thats a little out of the ordinary and suddenly youre different, and a little alien, and that can scare some people. Read the script to your circle, or speak your truth alone.

[@gnickthegnome1981]

@sammmas its all pretending to me. I can express any thought I have adequately, but unless I follow these weird social rules, i run the risk of putting people off. Not saying i will always repulse everyone, but ultimately social interaction is a game which, upon playing, makes my expression feel unnecessarily diminished.

[@gnickthegnome1981]

@sammmas yeah, thats true. I wish we could stabilize enough to not have to need to worry about survival, there are so many mechanisms for survival that dont fit in our modern lives. But thats probably impossible

[@Kuma-AKA]

@@gnickthegnome1981 I spend wwwaaayyy too much time thinking about shit like this. 'couldnt we circumvent this otherwise seemingly arbitrary rule which makes everyone feel shitty and alienated?' only to rebut myself and be like 'oh. nope. this is just the human condition. like, you dont get to exist without this thing that makes it suck' :/

[@crabstickz]

This might seem a bit nuts but over da years I'm realizing that committing to your own character as if you've been cast in a cosmic play and want to play the role you were given as authentically as it should be played seems to move the narrative forward. It's when I'm angry at the world for not being what I know it could be that I have to sit in the 'dressing room' of life mumbling while the show goes on. I've seen it too many times in my life where making the switch of perspective has resulted in something happening almost immediately, like the video is paused until the right moment, wait I can't do a theater metaphor AND a VHS metaphor. Fucks sake. You get me, you get me.

[@savbrown]

OOF! NOT NUTS! that's exactly the root of all of my bs, the world not being what u know it could be. so much angst. am v into this

[@truther249]

Our mind is more powerful than we give it credit for indeed. If we could just get over the fact we're the way we are because we think of ourselves that way... We are always subconsciously convincing ourselves to be a certain way, a certain personality type, a certain kind of person. Smart or stupid, greedy or generous, lonely or not. Building a caricature of us that we reinforce at every opportunity we get. Surely we are this way, and we get happy when we agree with everything around us that agrees with our idea of ourselves, be it actually how we are or just this obscured view of our soul, projected on a wall. I think humans are destined to have this flaw though, it may be a trade-off for our consciousness.

[@eHeroine]

I've been thinking about *something* like this recently, and reading this... this is it! Instead of whinging or being sad, like I feel I do on repeat, I have to take the stage, press play, y'know. Felt more hope when I was younger, maybe just because I did play my own part with more than I do now.

[@thoughtsfromahead]

Can confirm not nuts. Very into this!! Insightful in a big way, gave me a lot to think and write about!

[@Littlehickish]

crabstickz oh this is! This is exactly how I feel!

[@Lo-px4ed]

This is my favourite video on the internet. Whenever I’m feeling down, I always find myself coming back to this video because it’s comforting to know someone else feels exactly the same way. ❤️

[@999aki]

1. The idea that the person sitting next to you on the underground yesterday reflexively looking at their phone or reading their book could have been feeling the exact same way - this intense disconnect- and wished someone out there felt the same way, and maybe he or she stumbles across this tomorrow and feels less alone, and wishes they had turned round and smiled or maybe talked to you for a few minutes 1b. Probably unwise to be this sincere on a public website’s comment section but 2. The seemingly hokey idea that these connections exist, are waiting to be discovered all around us everyday, but require people to be brave, tenacious, vulnerable, honest and kind with themselves and others. To be prepared and willing to share real things and be shot down and dismissed as pretentious and grandiose 3b. Thanks for making this, you can have and do have a massive impact on the people around you and I hope you know it✨

[@dfhajaj]

"Overthinking Will Kill Your Reality" Alan Watts

[@justinwiden]

Oh... yeah. That seems to be true.

[@harrisonbrand8985]

i agree. really seems to be the root of so much of the suffering in and around us. and it's not really anyone's "fault", because we are so rarely offered an alternative, but at the same time it looks like we are all just a bit too attached to the idea of our own suffering. i see it in myself, in my friends, certainly in the comment section of this video and many others. thankfully my past few years of coming into buddhist practice (beginning with alan watts like so many westerners) have begun to really transform my relationship with thoughts, suffering, the world as a whole... good to see this comment

[@lukamagicc]

I honestly think about this quote every day. It helps a lot.. really.

[@landcruiserfan4206]

@@harrisonbrand8985 Harrison that really resonates with me. The huge importance placed on the ego and 'the self' in Western society also ties in to the idea of being attached to our own suffering, which you mention. Technology and advertising constantly bombard us with ideas, products, and thoughts, which I think definitely plays a role in our overthinking. We 'live in our minds' for so much of our days, and it is only when we escape the trap of thinking that we can find a little peace.

[@doppelgangerp6733]

thats an issue I currently have right now and I fuckin hate it so much. I feel like Im not myself anymore because of this overthinking bullshit tht goes on in my head.

[@alluneedproducer4638]

“Man is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides.” ― André Malraux

[@ilmarilamminpaa6081]

Hmmm gotta think about that

[@thomastum6992]

So if you have nothing to hide, you are nothing yourself?

[@Yellow.1844]

@@thomastum6992 yeah youre loser

[@chadretrofilms7824]

Thomas Tum yep. And paradoxically everything

[@abanustrickland368]

i am 14 and this is deep

[@davidlangley2605]

“You are loved more than you will ever know by someone who died to know you.”

[@damnib4722]

Came back to watch this a second time. It’s even worst when you’re the interested person in everyone trying to connect & you never met anyone who mirrors the same energy

[@oliviadiamant9997]

dudeeee i totally get you!!

[@mabururozu5954]

I feel you

[@FrenchyWilly]

youtube is the perfect shelter when having existential crises

[@chironeros]

huh well that explains why im only ever on youtube

[@SlimShayster]

You said it!!

[@amadeuscrossing7061]

Yes, the algorithm just shot me this video. Now this person is me.

[@mbsucks101]

Mhmmmm

[@samsworld1770]

Tru

[@noodle_typhoon]

"I wrote books and stuff but like who cares, am joking ... I cared" *looks down* big oof, I felt that.

[@lliw4934]

This video appear at my recommendations and it feels weird how relatable it is. You articulate that strange feeling between wanting to connect with people and being comfortable with your own company beautifully.

[@tenn4splayer]

damn boy your pfp reminds me of somethin

[@Endmonaut]

I've felt like this a lot. Like, almost my whole life. It's been wearing off slowly since I was like 20, but that was only with the help of someone else. A more extroverted person who for whatever reason took interest in me and me in particular. They were willing to go out of their way to interact with me because I genuinely believe they just liked me as a person. Which was kind of weird because sometimes I cringe at *myself* as a person. But that's how it was. Maybe they saw something I didn't. They not only interacted with me, but brought me into their friend group as well which was basically a morphine shot for my social life. I *really* needed this at the time. Like, I didn't know I needed it, I mean I did, subconsciously, but I didn't take seriously how much I needed it. For others who feel like this and don't like it, I realize this is a terrifying thought. That that the only way out is through someone else's random interest. And I of course don't know if that's the only way out of feeling this way, it's just the way out I found. I don't talk that specific group of friends much anymore but the same thing occurred to me again not even a year after I started drifting from the first friend group. I found another extreme extrovert who for whatever reason, thought I was cool. That I was equal with them in interests, wit, and banter. It was an amazing click. this time, however, instead of being brought into a preexisting friend group, this friend and I were the center, ground floor of this new and growing friend group. I felt like that shouldn't have changed the dynamic but it did. I was no longer on an outside ring so I was made to interact more and by interacting more I learned more things and by learning more things about my new friends it allowed me interact with them even better in the future. Honestly, while highly convenient, you don't need some extrovert who's out actually looking for friends to pick up your lonely ass and say "this one's mine now" and just scoop you up and drop you in the friend circle. What you need is to find people on your level. On your wavelength. Someone who you can explain your concerns, fears, and beliefs and they don't just answer "haha, cool" or "what?". What you need is people who understand you, the way you think, the way you act, and are willing to deal with those tendencies. Find people who listen to you, not just people who hear you.

[@rivallo251]

i don't normally reply to comments but i judt wanted to say that this was a very comforting and insightfuk read. thank you for this.

[@Endmonaut]

rivallo quick update: Just moved in with that second friend this week. This is one of those lifelong friendships. There are very few things I wouldn’t do for this person. Keep trying guys, this person’s out there for you too.

[@abbiem5498]

That statement regarding being in the same wavelength as other people resonated with me. When I entered uni, I had this thought all along that I could not fit in with people. I was probably the most quiet person while every one was outgoing. I earned looks from people whenever I could not laugh at their jokes that I do not find funny at all (maybe I just have a different type of humor?). Then I met this extroverted person who eventually became my friend, surprisingly. We instantly clicked when we first met. We talked like we were old friends. I met two other people as well who also became my friends. Now we are a friend group of 4. Whenever we are seated together, we would crack jokes and talk about random things that every one would find interesting. That's when I realized that it really is about the vibe. You cannot be genuine friends with people who are not on the same wavelength as you.

[@kayzzzzzzzzz]

this is actually happening to me right now, i met this extreme extrovert a few weeks ago and for whatever reason, he has some major interest in me. he’s also trying to get me to meet his friend group and as a super shy person, it’s a little bit intimidating but i feel like i need this right now :)

[@hitroy1054]

@@abbiem5498 do you consider it rare to find someone on the same wavelength as you?

[@uwuanime3651]

This is way too relatable. Talking to people is hard especially when you dont know who you are. I am always feeling like I portray someone who isnt me.

[@sabrinnamena9607]

UwU Anime literally same.

[@Filmyism]

i feel like im watching a prettier, more eloquent and dreamy version of myself through a screen when I watch your videos

SAME

[@Rickyrocks2020]

You are special

[@Rickyrocks2020]

Sike

[@kikyoinuyasha123]

THIS

[@heinoustentacles5719]

You could always be thinner, look prettier, read more books.

[@hillmanhung3846]

Sometimes we're not smart enough to figure out things by ourselves. That's why we have friends to help figure it out. And that's why friendship is magic.

[@StickerzinhoPT]

We are the most interconnected generation, yet we are lonely and lack proper communication.

[@jeevand.5148]

Its a weird contradiction

[@DubmanicGetFlazed]

Arbiet Macht Frei... Except Unironically. In working with your fellow man at your side, in both struggling toward a commonality we connect and understand each other more. The most Honest interactions are ones side by side at work. "can you pass me that thing?" "can you help me with this?" However since the industrial revolution the nature of work has evolved past the point of no return. the Common struggle has been almost eliminated. Depression and Alienation from your fellow human beings is a logical outcome. you want fulfillment and real interactions? You will have to sacrifice more then you are willing in order to get it... you will find out there are conveniences that you value much more.

[@joemency2242]

@@DubmanicGetFlazed I want fullfilment and real interactions. But the way I am seeking these out at my current stage of life, might just end up destroying my path towards the career that I've chosen (who am I kidding, I was already destroying this path long before meeting my new friends). So now there is part of me that wants to live one way, part of me that wants to live a different way, and pressure from my family to live in the most "correct" of the two ways. And I just think I'm tearing myself apart

[@TheFeriner]

Plenty of people were lonely before the internet. And plenty of people have friends today. Don't blow it out of proportion to sound edgy or to justify anyone's fears

[@StickerzinhoPT]

@@TheFeriner No one is blowing nothing out of proportion to sound edgy. It just seems that people nowadays focus too much on their screens than on people. For example: You go out to dinner with some friends. Tell me how many people will have their goddamn phones on the table and be always looking at them. I see so many people walking around always looking at their phones. While crossing the road, on the train, at dinner, everywhere. Sorry, but in my opinion having friends means talking to them face to face and not constantly fiddling with your phone while on a conversation.

[@madicoronica9566]

Ok but like this video is beautiful,, not just what she was saying but the video itself; lighting, editing, everything..

[@thehomelessredranger]

@madi what is that profile picture, is so cute

[@lizardskynard4726]

Why did that feel like a black mirror episode

[@rmj8905]

All of the internet is a black mirror episode.

[@basselkhatib6745]

life is a black mirror episode

[@Abyssal_Dreamer]

Felt like looking into a mirror, alright

[@groovin-soul]

JAJAJA fukin right!

[@21donutave83]

Its nice to have a listener perspective of an alike mind. I’ve always struggled to connect fully with people over fear of being too close, yet i look back and cherish those relationships and recall those moments I’ve had. All that is now lacking, and what I’ve been pondering on the most is intimacy. A human necessity. Something I’ve lost and yearn to regain, and try without being too strong about it.

[@reinyy]

girl you have been watching contrapoints on repeat haven't u

[@savbrown]

i've been Called Out

[@sunlight9345]

This is exactly what I thought 😭

[@sandra-kq3mj]

@@savbrown omg i knew it but also i love this alot its great sav

[@o_o4750]

I also got euphoria vibes

[@veelaliddell]

Her videos are amazing

[@taliab.7329]

i’m still in the middle of watching buuuut i think for the first i’m ever, i’m first to comment and i just wanted to say - thank u for uploading this video and for creating content. i’ve been watching you for what feels like forever and i’m so glad / proud ur still around !!

[@savbrown]

thank u so much for watching!! actually cannot tell u how much i appreciate it!

[@taliab.7329]

Savannah Brown i only just woke up and saw this but ! thank u so much for replying, it’s brightened up my morning !! frm one writer/creator to another, again - thank u for work ur videos, for continually being urself, unfailingly, and helping to show littler AND older me that u don’t have to fit a particular mould in terms of ur personality to be successful, loved and creative

[@Venus-id2mu]

You have no idea, and by that I mean N O I D E A, how many thoughts I have on this topic and all the ways I relate to you. You're not alone thinking like this

[@jl1550]

I am also autistic and I just made a very similar video at age 39. Tip: it is never too late to make those who are nice to you and care for you a priority. Fix your relationship with your parents and siblings if you have them. Last but not least, there are no templates to life. No shoulds, musts or need tos. Everyone is just flailing around trying their best at some semblance of normality and stability be it externally or internally. 🌸💗

[@onesecondsniff5840]

i can't explain how soothing her voice is...it's like she's singing

[@mescode]

“We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and-in spite of True Romance magazines-we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely-at least, not all the time-but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.” - Hunter S. Thompson

[@loismartha4859]

the way that to me this is basically an 11 minute poem: soul = fed

[@orlarihan6336]

this is so fuckin real ESPECIALLY the bit about never feelin like ppls priority so not making them a priority that shit got me tearinf up

[@DanniSaezA]

wtf, i feel like we all are going through the same things, it's so crazy and weird, but kinda nice

[@vaishukrish6507]

Canela But somehow everyone on the Internet is going through the same thing but irl, no one really lolol

[@ashelfishisttortle]

@@vaishukrish6507 we're alot more similar than you think. Just on diffferent pages at the same time

[@privatejr2702]

since were all feeling the same, we should start a large cult. I think

[@danielflanard8274]

We're all human beings. Some people share their problems, many don't, but everyone has them.

[@LazyPoet101]

These thoughts literally come to everyone. I mean the people who are lonely and aren't brain dead. It just makes me feel a little bit more human and comforting to know that I'm not the only person thinking like this and all I need to do is ask someone, if they're lonely as well, then ask if they want a drink.

[@yashiegurl98]

"I feel like I'm just saying lines" this video. holy shit. i related to all of it.

[@Armannnnnn]

1. Define love. I like to keep it simple; "To will the good of someone". Being concrete, though it may be simple, helped me to determine whether I loved any one else or if any one loved me. 2. You get what you give. Specifically in reference to the definition above. I have been able to find people who truly love me because I took the step through my fear of rejection and non-reciprocated love and although it has not panned out every time by a long shot, I have found true friends that I would feel confident in saying love me and whom I love. 3. Trust is a decision. The feeling is just that; a feeling. Like I said, it's scary but you must take risks to have any change. I guess I could keep going but I feel like I'm ranting and nobody cares hahaha I just have experience in the exact things you speak of.

[@christa4172]

Nah we don’t mind your ranting. Tbh it’s comforting to read your hopeful works, that one day I will get out of all of this. So did you do it? Did get out of this sort of situation?

[@Armannnnnn]

@christa4172 yes and the only way I did it was through finding a community of good people and getting really close to them, and developing spirituality which I could only define as a relationship with God or a higher power. Not to say I don’t still struggle, but the top three things I did were: 1. Community (like I said) but also I had to have a few people specifically that I could trust and confide in and be very honest and vulnerable with. 2. Spirituality, like I said. Might be through religion, might be through prayer meditation or something else. Personally my journey has lead me to become Eastern Catholic. 3. Service. By having a commitment to help other people for no reason than to genuinely help someone else out I was able to develop a sense of self worth. The hard part about this is that isn’t usually genuine service if it’s convenient. Therefore try to go out of your way consistently to help others for the sake of helping, and try to be discreet and not take credit. That way, the only pay off will come from within. Hope this helps, let me know if you have any more questions!

[@Armannnnnn]

Also, having a support group of some sort is probably very helpful. That’s how I started, and I still attend meetings regularly. Very helpful in finding people if you cannot find any one willing to be in your corner.

[@kristansaint-preux932]

You're the voice of a generation. Your writing is so comprehensive, insightful, intelligent, and beautiful. What a wonderful video!

[@scarletgiry3958]

This is literally just my journal entries in video form." I think there's something wrong with me." "How do you get others to love you?" "I've never really had friends, just acquiantances." "I just turned 23 (22 in my case) and woke up wondering "Where are my friends?" I don't trust people." I get it, I get all of it.

[@julianmunoz6034]

Lmao same. And then that part where you have fully figured out everything wrong with yourself but it’s still solves nothing…

[@scarletgiry3958]

@@julianmunoz6034 Literally. It kinda just makes you feel worse, like a mountain of issues to fix before you can consider yourself "normal" or "worthy".

[@sophilia8565]

@@scarletgiry3958 ugh i feel this so much, it's really comforting that people share the same feelings as me. I've been journalling about my fear of rejection and my inability to form deep connections, and while it helps me work through my anxiety and maybe find the root cause of these feelings, i can't really fix it? Self-awareness is only the first step, it's so much harder to heal. Sometime i think I was born to be alone, not in a sad way, but independent and happy on my own. Yet i crave other so bad, yet somehow do everything without even noticing to deter them

[@scarletgiry3958]

@@sophilia8565 I think we're all meant to be independent and be able to be happy on our own for sure, after all you've got to live with yourself so why not be your first best friend. I guess that's all we can really do, be friends with ourselves and extend that towards others whenever we can. But it's weird to think of it that way too because it's just weird to be alone, especially when you REALLY want to share with someone else. (I love watching old movies and for the past few years, I've been craving a friend to share the experience with and just talk to someone. Just connect with someone who has the same interest for once. Laugh, cry, discuss, find new things, etc.) How do you deal with the bouts of loneliness?

[@sophilia8565]

@@scarletgiry3958 I think most of us crave that validation and attention from others because we're insecure and unable to give it to ourselves. I really like how you put like 'extending it to others' cause I feel a lot of the time we love selfishly. Like do I actually like this person or do I need them there to reaffirm me because I can't do it myself? So I think the solution is definitely independence and learning to rely on yourself for everything, including love and companionship. Because if you love yourself completely you have no need to seek affirmation and validation externally from other people. Thus, your relationships are healthier and based on your genuine love for each other. I have friends, a friend group and plenty of acquaintances, but I am still lonely because I know no one cares about me as much as they do other people. I really crave a close friendship like u said but it never seems to reach that? They'll be moments, short periods where I'm close to a friend or two, but they always leave when they find someone better. This has happened sooo many times and at this point I'm kinda done with struggling. I know that people won't always be there for me and that I need to rely on myself. Not in a sad way, I rlly appreciate the people I've met and talked to the last few years of highschool, even if I probably won't ever talk to them again. So yeah, when I feel lonely I remind myself I am my own best friend lol, and anything a friend can do for me I can do for myself.

[@IMattType]

There are deep talks at 2am and then there's this, very courageous of you to make a video with such honesty.

[@mango_tree6133]

Possibly the best part of the Internet is that you find people who are going through or have gone through the same things as you

[@ninaswan561]

“I think something is wrong with me.” oh if I had a dollar for every time i’ve said that to myself.

[@Ozymandyas69]

I could pay for the therapy I obviously need

[@mathematicalninja2756]

Amanda Godman therapy is a joke all woodo mumbo jumbo

[@noname-yw2gw]

according to what standard?

[@haniii3]

Algorithm chucked this vid to me outta nowhere and 30 seconds in im like "dam shes just one of my fav youtubers now huh"

[@messer7450]

LIKE I GOT DIPTHERIA

[@C4-620]

Who shot hannibal?

[@AJShotDat]

Yup

[@_Yohanan]

Pretty much :^)

[@jamalkherry5296]

You want that pipe too huh?

[@pennielane58]

I can’t believe this video came up literally while I was having a breakdown about the fact that I don’t think anyone will ever romantically love me wow

[@ishimoshi]

Pennie Lane feeling the exact same :(

[@DeepMoon45]

Pennie Lane Exactly the same. The timing of this vid popping up in my feed is frighteningly accurate

[@redabadaoui1641]

same. the idea of not being loved is horrifying.

[@jasminehawkins3891]

Dude, same.. I've been crying about feeling apathetic and terribly lonely the whole evening and then just popped up!

[@CHIBIR3XX]

same

[@Jokeryosef]

The scariest thing for me is the thought of dying alone, when nobody shows up to your funeral and you get forgotten the next day, sometimes the thought of suicide makes it that maybe people will notice the death for a more period of time not just 2 days then nobody remembers you existed. The thought of me being forgotten by everyone I interacted with is unpleasant.

[@brandontiev7663]

The fact that KZbin recommended this to me makes me feel like KZbin knows me better than I know me

[@emilyscloset2648]

The algorithm is omnipotent and omniscient. To think of the power of big tech companies is terrifiying

[@synth1955]

Never related with some random KZbin recommendation as this one

[@carlas.m1539]

we are the most connected generation, yet the looniest

[@drastiqndu1008]

Thats deep

[@heinoustentacles5719]

It's exactly because of that connection that people are lonely. People are not doing things in real life anymore. Only online. In essence, they're playing with their imaginary friends at the expense of their real lives

[@unhxlysilver1688]

@@heinoustentacles5719 well said

[@BenDover-ch7rf]

lol looni

[@varchasva4829]

Cuz there are no real connections between ppl.

[@luancosta199]

Personally I've been going through a very weird and kinda opposite crisis- till a couple of years ago I only had one friend and we knew the best and worst parts of each other, which is already scary in the first place. But now for the first time I have an entire group of very close friends who get to know me better every single day, and that's fucking horrifying because I love them so much that losing them because Im not good enough just feels more real, and when I feel specially shitty, just inevitable. I had a lot of hollow relationships bc i was put on the side as a friend for so long that I did the same to everyone else bc it was all I knew. Now being that emotionally unavailable isn't an option anymore, because I feel so invested in the ppl around me that it feels like if I lose them I'll lose everything. And that's so fucking scary

[@saracub20]

“Hey ive spent a sever amount of my life with you and its weird to never talk to you again” wow i don’t really know why but that really hits home

[@BooksUnboxed]

Not to sound too distant, but... the editing on this was top notch.

[@hostee251]

Is this the cry of a generation? I feel so alone, yet surrounded, But I enjoy feeling bad, Because it makes me feel human

[@BroccoliBrigardist]

Yes this is our generation In this world be are more alone than ever i would say But i changed and i recognized being miserable is not cool, being lonely and sad is not good Do something about it, escape the sadboys/girls club

[@sashs8461]

*Very Poetic*

[@BillyDawg101]

the influx of the internet and globalization as a whole has lead all of us growing up in this world to feel like this. I love the internet and all, but its so clear in this video and in many other people's works how the quench to feel, see, and touch other human beings physically is super important, and how by isolating ourselves in the real world and allowing the wired world to take control of us, how we lose touch with the people literally one dorm, one house away. If that makes sense. And I think knowing that the yearning to be with others is a positive thing and embracing that is the first step to not allowing yourself to go into a depression where you stay alone and never talk and go outside and see others. Or at least that's what helped me, realizing that sitting in my room on my computer all day maybe isnt the healthiest thing, and getting up, going outside, making connections, getting a job, and just trying to live a "normal" life maybe was something that could benefit me, and it did. It's just that some people realize that too late, or are caught up with many other issues that don't allow them to really live. So I encourage people to get out there and be extroverts, ask others questions and to form friendships, because honestly it's an amazing thing to know that everyone else you are meeting has flaws too, and just want to make connections with people like me and you.

[@olliepopAMV]

Étienne Plante what do you mean when you say it makes you feel human

[@michel333alfa-kun3]

THE LAST SENTENCE EXPLAINS WHY I LIKE BEING DEPRESSED AAAARGH

[@Flipora2]

It takes so much balls to post something like this and I hope you get a great feeling when you realize we are all going through some type of version of this deep down, we just hide it

[@criewolf]

This is about the seventh time I'm typing this out cause the first six were incoherent messes, but anyway, I don't know who you are, I don't even know why this video landed in my recommend feed but I just wanted to say, I have never been able to relate to anything in the same manner that I relate to this video. I usually don't comment cause what's the point. Like what am I expecting from making this comment, but at the same time you felt the need to make this video and I'm so glad that you did. You describing your life felt like someones was narrating mine. I also grew up with no friends, University was where I somehow developed a group of friends, and similar to you finding yourself in a group chat, I found myself in a discord that we still use to this day. It's still surreal to me. Growing up, I never knew what I really wanted, I just basically went with the flow. And when you're a kid, that's pretty easy to do, just do what you're parents and teachers are telling you to do. But then there comes a point where it's completely up to you to start deciding on things. I don't know why I went to University, I don't regret it but at the same time I'm not entirely happy. It wasn't until I got my first real job that I started to realize what I actually wanted. I got a job as a software developer so basically everyone I talked to was another software developer, which wasn't a problem for me at all because this would be the first time that I'm able to talk with people that aren't my age. When in school, whether it be secondary or post secondary, you are for the most part only interacting with people your age. Being at my job and being able to talk to people at different stages of life made me realize that what I really want is to be with people because it's the only time I ever forget how sad I am. I want to be able to form a deep connection with someone, at least one person, but at the same time I know that I'm not putting any real work into actually developing a deep connection with anyone. I've spent so much time alone that it's basically all I know how to do.

[@zachblackwell2760]

This.

[@matsab7930]

Eryk I get you. I’ve forced myself to actually lean on friends in the last year and show them some struggles I’ve been having. I truly believe you can’t just share your positives with people, every time you cover up true feelings you lose some of yourself and this person comes to ‘know’ a false version of you. It’s hard to be vulnerable I think, and it’s especially hard when you’ve made a habit of keeping these things to yourself.

[@oscar8112]

litterly. mood

[@accipitermagna7104]

I feel like I'm on the same path as you. Everything is weird sometimes, y'know

[@jvioletdee]

Second this

[@SemiDanMan]

I relate to this so hard. I'm 28 years old and I feel like I have no meaningful relationships. Thank you for this video. It makes me feel a little less alone.

[@mort2247]

Why did i feel like i was listening to a friend. Like, in real life. This video made me feel different things and i love it.

[@fraserking4747]

This one hits a little different after the newest video.

[@idkmd6288]

i just had one of the worst days of my life and i’m crying while watching this but crying feels oddly comforting, and seeing these comments are making me feel less lonely

[@racheledinger]

Crying is so comforting because you are reminding yourself you have real, full, functional emotions. You can feel things, and it's nice that you can, even if those things are upsetting in nature. I'm glad you don't feel as lonely.

[@islandearthangel]

Samesies 🫂

[@abijade574]

"I will never ever truly know what they're thinking, but god do I understand"

[@Dog-vb5dc]

"When I arrive at the end of my life, I want to know that I've loved so much, and that I've been so loved. That I spend my time on earth enjoying my own company, sure, but also made it through in camaraderies with the only other beings I will ever encounter, who have any semblance of understanding of what it's like to be looking out the window on this absolute nonsense train journey towards oblivion. And I want to have look to as many of them in the eyes as I could and said to them, that I will never ever truly know what they are thinking, but god do I understand. And god do I hope they understand. Maybe in the pursuit of making sense of ourselves, and in the pursuit of making sense of any of this, the most important resource we have is each other."

[@damnib4722]

Ryre this part SMACKED me

[@toba6245]

It doesn't matter how many times I watch this video, mostly when I pay close attention to the "intimacy" part of it. I feel such a relief bc I can literally relate to every single sentence she said, it's like talking to myself when I'm alone, only that it's a diferent person that I don't even know and we don't even speak the same language, that makes me feel like I'm never alone. If I can relate and feel supported by this person that has grown around a totally different environment and culture, and that I never met before and doesn't even know about my existence, that means that all this thoughts and feelings that I'm experiencing are not just mine, they're rather inherent to every other human being's existence, and that alone is enough for me to find some sort of wierd peace in the belief of some mystical connection that ties every live being on earth or some sci-fi shit like that. Thanks from Argentina, Savannah :)

[@lyokofan212]

The Homies gonna roast me if they saw me watching this Lol

[@zoranhacker]

fuck those kinda homies man

[@Spoeism]

Grow up then

[@PZJJProductions]

don't be afraid to be yourself. there's homies watching this too, like me. you're good fam

[@AdrianA-yo8jd]

be yourself

[@LookingForAName...]

@@zoranhacker Don't say that, he may be young, people need to be given time to grow. Caring is seen as corny, but it takes maturity to change your mind.

[@Alex-kr3pb]

youtube suggested said "we crying tonight"

[@emilyscherer7474]

This makes me wanna cry. Never having any friends has always been my biggest insecurity.

[@gimbabnim]

it’s like seeing myself talk it’s crazy to know I’m not alone in feeling this it’s comforting too in a way.