1. Stop endless question loop 1:15 2. Reasons asking questions, fantasies, trying to create a false sense of connection (break the false connection) 2:45 3. Memories, feelings, questions, stop it all to save yourself, move on 5:49 4. Emotions like sadness, grief, anger etc, don't supress at beginning.. let it all out.. 8:26 5. Start with small things (eat properly, sleep properly, take care of your most essential basic needs, get new friends, pet, do activities, find healthy relationship, etc) 10:53 6. End of process, once you feel better, start focusing on goal.. gym, plan, goal, meaning working on that, project, small business etc 12:09
@daniwanicki Жыл бұрын
These are great tips. What helped me process breakups is walking on nature trails. I make sure to not listen to music so I can be with my thoughts. I've also used the emotional charge from breakups to fuel my workouts, setting new goals like beating a speed record for each mile jogging. The idea is to leverage that emotional charge towards a goal, otherwise it can destroy you. It's kinda like surfing, you either ride the wave or it pulls you under.
@sinnombre3594 Жыл бұрын
Beautiful analogy
@rohitsancheti969 ай бұрын
Waves analogy was a home run
@Katie8ginny Жыл бұрын
Broke up 8 months ago.still hurts. Someday it will be better and I’ll be over it
@katarauchiha7332 Жыл бұрын
You are worth and you deserve being loved and supported, keep that in mind always, and I am sure you will heal and raise your energy. You are not alone
@Katie8ginny Жыл бұрын
@@katarauchiha7332 ❤️❤️
@arkokarmakar3596 Жыл бұрын
Working on yourself is the best way I think.. being there for yourself.. Be your own protector.
@marklee331 Жыл бұрын
i hope you are doing fine now
@KALYANEY_AOM Жыл бұрын
😢 mine is almost 2 years already
@monicamonica5924 Жыл бұрын
imagine that person doesn't exist, just doesn't exist in this world, and watch how you feel? Thank you Francesca, as always good video
@brittanysmith37169 ай бұрын
That makes me feel depressed, but that could be because of the stage of grief I’m in
@brianhornak59378 ай бұрын
@@brittanysmith3716I'm so sorry 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
@skromnyasha2 ай бұрын
I feel like I have no reason to live because there is no one that I would feel comfortable with, thanks
@luzvez Жыл бұрын
Is everyone getting broken up this month? Lol
@pallaviverma2505 Жыл бұрын
I guess
@monicamonica5924 Жыл бұрын
Yes 🥸
@jennabelanger1892 Жыл бұрын
Yep
@KALYANEY_AOM Жыл бұрын
😢 I still miss my ex
@suryanshshukla0777 Жыл бұрын
Apparently yes
@roopeshkumar2335 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Francesca for this video, it came at a perfect time for me.
@fabiob.707011 ай бұрын
Hi Francesca, thanks for the vid. There's a way I learned during my cognitive-behavioral therapy to stop the infinite question loop, it's to write on a sheet of paper every question and answer and the questions the first question brings until you're totally tired of writing, this will clear your mind, and it works!
@funnytv-1631 Жыл бұрын
There is a way to break free from burnout’s disengagement. It requires stepping outside the cycle of work that does not provide motivation and finding it from another source. The fact is, you are important. You are surely as important as all that you tend to. If daily tasks do not feed you right now, get your nourishment from those things that are most beloved to you. Be kind to yourself. Don’t forget to have beauty in your life. You are worth it.
@JaffaCakes-c7d8 ай бұрын
Thankyou for this. I'm still hurt from being cheated on and wake up everyday with anxiety and depression. Could you give me some tips to do other than cleaning the house? I go for walks in the evening but still don't feel good once I get home 😢
@subashparajuli2135 Жыл бұрын
Choose right words to describe events in your life. It is your illusion that breaks, not your heart.
@saikanusrat5864 Жыл бұрын
Can you make a video on Disorganized attachment style? and how to heal disorganized attachment style to Secure attachment style? please?
@aryseuphony9991 Жыл бұрын
Omg...one of the best videos on 'how to move on after break up'.. I am going through a similar process that you just described! Thanks a ton dear ❤
@malwaysfine Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I am grateful to be a subscriber of this channel. Lovely lady and ofcourse you distract me in a good way always! Stay happy and keep smiling.
@veronicac356210 ай бұрын
I can't get past the second step. I'm trying so hard. But it's so hard.
@ArtMusicLife156 ай бұрын
How do you feel now? Did you feel hopeless when you wrote this, but now you're (hopefully) better?
@orimations35334 ай бұрын
I wish they see this and reply
@monikanimje5635 Жыл бұрын
Thankyou for your videos, Francesca can you make a video about guilt and mistakes?
@thelilflo Жыл бұрын
Hi Francesca ❤ I really enjoy watching your content, it’s really helpful 😊 I would like to ask if you can please make a video with some tips for the high sensitive people, and how to overcome the intrusive thoughts during the day ❤
@peterspadafora6717 Жыл бұрын
Thanks Francesca yes men suffer from a broken heart . We trying to keep it hidden. Also a broken heart can be a death of a llove one
@gregglockhart9551 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Francesca! That was very helpful!
@Yellowlabratory Жыл бұрын
I really like your expressions and your voice. Your presentation of your information is always stellar
@Theone-ou2xt Жыл бұрын
Once a person have accepted that the relation has ended then moving on and returning to previous level of happiness can happen faster if the person is willing to focus on health and do the things she said in the video but sometimes in some cases that false hope is so strong that the person doesn't let go , it keeps their suffering alive in many cases. Parents should take test before having kids if they are psychologically ok to be parents because most of the times times the extreme fear which a person feels sensing the end of a love relationship is due to mistakes of their first caregivers like fighting Infront of kids etc etc .
@Yellowlabratory Жыл бұрын
My heart was broken. I’ve been alone for 5 years
@monicamonica5924 Жыл бұрын
❤
@JaffaCakes-c7d8 ай бұрын
Me too. I'm 35 years old and have been alone for nearly my whole life. Every time I meet someone they end up hurting me so bad. I'm constantly having to heal from emotional wounds. It feels like a never ending cycle 😢
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
someday youll find someone. dont lose hope. just ask God he is always there no matter what. we will be okay. our hearts will heal one day.
@katarauchiha7332 Жыл бұрын
Fell in love with my friend, that is taken, and I really fell some connection between us.. A month ago I confessed to him, and he confessed that he liked me first time when we met, but he js afraid to start relationship with me, if it won't work, he would think to cheat, and he would feel as the biggest sh*t if so. So I continued to communicate with him, and it was really nice feeling, till I realized than I am the only one who changed towards him, and he stayed the same. He is still in the relationship with his girl friend, and I never understood why did he continue to be my friend if it is right to say... we had nothing, nor kiss or anything like that as I would never be someone's second option.. it is hard to explain how I feel right now
@qj2003fall4 ай бұрын
@katarauchiha7332 I would not be his friend or will keep my distance since he’s already taken. Imagine how sad his girlfriend is not knowing you are always there waiting. It’s scary.
@ashch4811 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your explanation, your tips makes me feel better, u know loves come with emotion and goes with pain, like bread and knife, the first time that I remembered to fell in love a girl and after break up, I wasn't myself almost a year, now I'm just falling in love with someone that doesn't care about to give me a msg but thus feeling that you mentioned are exactly going happen to me, it's eating me from inner without someone notice, your words make me calm, god bless u 🙏
@Martha34554 Жыл бұрын
Creative thumbnail ❤
@Dino-fl2cv Жыл бұрын
Thats what I needed. Ure and Angel. Thank you ❤
@winstondsouza3177 Жыл бұрын
Hey Francy ... been watching your videos past weeks ... u r cuuute nd seen to hav a great Insight! ... , its very rare to find Beauty with Brains! ... keep it up 😃👍
@ectasy5394 Жыл бұрын
It looks very helpful gonna try ❤😢
@KensWorld Жыл бұрын
I usually eat dark chocolate to heal my heart
@yunsemree Жыл бұрын
😢😢😢
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
how are you now my friend? its been 10 months, i hope that youre completely healed now.
@Goal_Zone10 Жыл бұрын
give us some book recommendations please
@sundance222 Жыл бұрын
Ok. This has helped me like nothing else. Been kinda stuck without proper help. This affirms things I know plus since I feel like rock bottom, this gives me a game plan better than a close friend. Thanks a lot❤💙
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
how are you now my friend?
@159lekamgel.r.r4 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Francesca. This is so valuable
@elsajavinez3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Francesa for this video it's very helpful,I'm so broken hearted right now,By the grace of Almighty God I can moving on maybe not now but someday I will.
@battragon Жыл бұрын
A little climate catastrophe should do the trick.
@christinakosma498811 ай бұрын
Very very helpfull !!!! Thank you soooo much!!!!!❤
@tess9481 Жыл бұрын
What about no one understands you at that moment, instead they’re judging…
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
Wow ! I understand Your This Statement Because I've Been Saying Something similar thats Why I Prefer being Alone and Talk With Myself ! Me and I have Deep Conversations With Each other
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
No One Has Clicked On Video More Fast Than Me Reading The Thumbnail
@irfanqaisar5591 Жыл бұрын
Thank you lady. You are so nice. But its not such easy. Its lonliness.
@owenclay8230Ай бұрын
Over a year since the love of my life left me. I'm still suffering, my heart aches every minute of every day! Why is it taking this long?! I want the pain to stop. I don't want to love her anymore
@doddsy900 Жыл бұрын
You are very helpful. Thank you.
@ModifyGame Жыл бұрын
Im not broken heart :)
@Wookinpanub23511 күн бұрын
I guess the same could be applied after losing a spouse to cancer?
@neverdenyChrist7 ай бұрын
It was very helpful. I couldn't breathe before I watched this
@jin_6986 Жыл бұрын
Where to dm herr... I wanna have a session
@ankitahahaha Жыл бұрын
This women changed me for good
@CitiesOfAsh17 күн бұрын
Every woman ive dealt with has changed me for the worse.
@alessadolan57187 ай бұрын
I broke up with my situationship almost 5 months ago, and i still feel so broken and i miss him everyday. I can’t wait to get over him 😭
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
how are now? i hope youre at a much better place now..
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
how are now? i hope youre at a much better place now..
@arvindjindal111 Жыл бұрын
After breakup she is still with me on Instagram and WhatsApp what should i do ? Should i remove her after talking with her or not? if yes/No why ? Could you tell!
@arvindjindal111 Жыл бұрын
Hey?
@Blushdoll5 Жыл бұрын
@@arvindjindal111talk to her
@flightydancerАй бұрын
great insights and wisdom. thank you!
@LauraPaglari10 ай бұрын
Long Distance....😢 I had to go...I didn't want to but , my soul was lost.
@JuliusAu-ff4ipАй бұрын
Yea my ex broke it off becasue of LDR. It sucks
@blixxfiend11 ай бұрын
We will be alright guys
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
Hope in reality is Opium
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
We Have To Do Something To be alright ! Which is not right ! Not Wrong Either !
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
I don't know if you are saying this to others or yourself ? Hh don't worry Cuz, "Everything Matters But Nothing is Important " Why Bother or Worry About It Then ?
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
Regretting ur Decisions? Hh which means adding to the first act of Stupidity a second
@TheExistenceClass02 ай бұрын
Everything matters I know But Nothing Really is That Important
@ShiftDrift-kh6wb Жыл бұрын
This really helped me. I'll try to watch it every time I feel down
@brianhornak59378 ай бұрын
Thank you 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
@tamiajanica44063 ай бұрын
Watching this while crying over a breakup. I know i will be okay soon. Thanks for this!
@virginiemazy70542 ай бұрын
I hope that you feel better now 🤗
@jessicalong601118 күн бұрын
Very helpful. Thank you ❤
@xenoxia83265 ай бұрын
Just recently went through a breakup with whom I consider as my greatest love. It hurts and I really don't want to love anyone anymore. I'll try hard to apply the learnings I received in this video. Will get back to this once I'm fully healed.
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
ill wait for you. we can do this, you can do this. i believe in you. we'll get through this ☝️
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
we have our heartbroken the same time very very fresh.. ill wait for you.. we can do this. ☝️
@JuliusAu-ff4ipАй бұрын
Healed?
@boolkid40982 ай бұрын
when she said "u promise the sad goes away" 2years later........idk how much longer
@harini_ssri Жыл бұрын
❤awesome video
@JuliusAu-ff4ipАй бұрын
This video did help me and I am going through some of it. I keep telling myself something which is true and that is I didn't lose her, she lost me and all then things I could have given her. She'll be looking for me in her next person but I won't be there.
@ΒασιληςΑλλος9 ай бұрын
You are the best
@ericmensah6402 Жыл бұрын
There's is lady i'm crushing on we've been friends for a year and she know i love her we talk almost all the time she shows her affection towards you but the end of the day she tells you she doesn't have romantic feelings for me but always want to be with me and it really hurt when she tells me she's has no feelings for me but her action is the opposite. What should i do?
@taliatut Жыл бұрын
Run from her. She’ll break your heart.
@JaffaCakes-c7d8 ай бұрын
Maybe use some of the tips from the video to implement in regards to her not wanting you in return. Maybe try to seek someone else who may want you and you will feel better that you eventually moved on? I know how you feel too, but back into the day when I went through this there wasn't youtube to help me
@annegreen821410 ай бұрын
Thank you Francesca for your very basic advice. But that’s all about this. Keep it simple when going through a very painful time. Simple! At least try to keep it simple and run down your overexcited system. Most important. Thank you again 🙏
@陈秀蓉-b6g Жыл бұрын
I can't help thinking if my decision was the real trigger for him to end the relationship all of a sudden. That's the reason why I enter the vicious question loop time and time again. I think that maybe it was all my fault due to my decision, my complaining my insecurity.
@qj2003fall4 ай бұрын
Just ask him
@jcpolititalk37810 ай бұрын
This was fantastic
@mina8XO5 ай бұрын
Visualizing myself take care of the little girl version of me made my cry my eyes out omgooodness
@pranavwani Жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@robertstefan10902 ай бұрын
You should sale your eggs
@auragraf Жыл бұрын
If I have a guitar... And 4 decades... Easy mija... Tis' all I need... How smart and beautiful!
@briefcasedude1842 Жыл бұрын
will you be my mommy pls
@mwahha69655 ай бұрын
still stuck on the first step, because he can’t communicate clearly for months
@hieule8 Жыл бұрын
Lmao was this how your KZbin channel started?
@yunsemree Жыл бұрын
sahiden epey düzgün ve inci gibi dişlere sahipsiniz.
@marsfab3979 Жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤
@gusso.leonardo4 күн бұрын
Thank you 🫶🏼
@amitbhojwani2675 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful
@microstar815 күн бұрын
Great video
@Praaaise2 ай бұрын
Hi Francesca, thank you so much, i’m 6 months nearly into a breakup, i was left by someone i never i wanted everything with, we lived together and her family was like mine so i pretty much lost like 10 people along with her, we haven’t spoke in 5 months now, i keep feeling so lost and sad and they come in waves but i constantly think about her still and miss her & just want to have a chat but i know we can’t its the worst feeling, i know with time i will naturally be okay but its so hard with the trauma to ever give so much to a girl again, we broke up nicely and left it on good terms but i was a mess and was so emotional that she ended up never replying to me, i wish her the best and she’s a great person i just feel like i lost the love of my life and i was a good boyfriend and would of done anything for her, just so hard but thank you for the video 😊
@JuliusAu-ff4ipАй бұрын
dude. You didn't lose her. She lost you and the things you would have given to her
@sonali.dfernando7603 Жыл бұрын
Much love❤
@quinnkiwalabye718711 ай бұрын
Her advise really worked for me
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
im happy for you. soon i will be healed completely.
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
i hope and pray that ill get over this sooner.. God will get me through this very hard and dark part of my life.. Feeling come and go, i cant be sad forever. i love you all guys, ill pray for us all. we can do this. God will help us. ☝️
@deerlow18514 ай бұрын
how are you?
@Jasmin-gt5lu8 ай бұрын
Best video so far. Thanks for the good tips ❤️
@candymasesane7785Ай бұрын
Thank you
@RosemarieSadimsandilantan6 ай бұрын
Silent quitting 3months ago. We just ghosted each other and assumed that we broke up. It hurts to be abandoned and never spoken 🥺
@qj2003fall4 ай бұрын
I will speak about it for closure if I were you.
@painbil Жыл бұрын
beautiful eyes
@RamonRomero-s9p2 ай бұрын
Here
@slyyneha9254 Жыл бұрын
i love this video sm and youre really pretty ^^
@radheradhejayshreekrushna2517 Жыл бұрын
💯 🙏
@saraiallure87137 ай бұрын
This is very good information
@user-vw1qp2vr2u4 ай бұрын
7. Forgive yourself .
@JaffaCakes-c7d8 ай бұрын
I feel sick from being cheated on. I have really bad anxiety and depression every day. I don't know if I will ever get over it 😢
@JaffaCakes-c7d5 ай бұрын
@@alexanderalzate8560 it's okay. You'll be okay. In time you will find someone better too!
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
thank you so much. every little kind words helps me. i do believe ill be okay. not now, but in time i will heal. theres no storm that lasts a hundred years, after the storm, the sun will shine. how are you now my friend? i hope youre in a much better place now.
@JaffaCakes-c7d5 ай бұрын
@@alexanderalzate8560 thankgoodness I am, after 3 months I feel better. I'm surprised that it took that quick because usually it takes me much longer to get over emotional pain. But I think it's because I went to my place of worship and prayed in peace so it really helped.
@aiin07 Жыл бұрын
No voice 😕
@josealfredfernandes Жыл бұрын
1. Stop endless question loop 1:15 2. Reasons asking questions, fantasies, trying to create a false sense of connection (break the false connection) 2:45 3. Memories, feelings, questions, stop it all to save yourself, move on 5:49 4. Emotions like sadness, grief, anger etc, don't supress at beginning.. let it all out.. 8:26 5. Start with small things (eat properly, sleep properly, take care of your most essential basic needs, get new friends, pet, do activities, find healthy relationship, etc) 10:53 6. End of process, once you feel better, start focusing on goal.. gym, plan, goal, meaning working on that, project, small business etc 12:09
@josealfredfernandes Жыл бұрын
Here to help
@jessklay85948 ай бұрын
Great advice
@don-ent82726 ай бұрын
Thank you. i need this now 😢
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
you will be better, you can do this. i believe in you. feelings come and go. we will not feel the same forever. i dont know if this helps but i love you, we all love you. our hearts will heal just trust in God that hes always on our side no matter what.
@MariaFlores-yx3ke5 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@Theone-ou2xt Жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭😭😭4:08
@i_like_to_move_it_move_it7 ай бұрын
9 months...still awful pain everyday
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
😢😢😢 mine is 3 months. i give up everyday. i cant handle the pain at all. i pray non stop. i cry non stop. i dont know how am i going to survive this.. i pray for your healing 😢
@i_like_to_move_it_move_it5 ай бұрын
@@alexanderalzate8560 11 months now. I got a lot better mindset. Then small events trigger me back into the pain cycle. But hope never stops that ill one day meet someone better.
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
ill pray for you.. we can do this.. we have to. i hope and pray that well overcome this very dark part of our life.. ☝️
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
dont hope for someone to come to your life, otherwise you will never really be free from the pain my friend.. you can do it alone, only you. dont cling to the idea that you need someone to heal you.. we have to let go.
@JuliusAu-ff4ipАй бұрын
Whenever I have a memory of her pop up in my head, I immediately imagine a door in front of it and turn off the lights in my head. It takes training to have it on auto but it works for me
@SS-in1ts Жыл бұрын
❤
@urielbp2756 Жыл бұрын
I'm the kind of person that is six months hahahah
@JaffaCakes-c7d8 ай бұрын
It takes me a year to get over being hurt by anyone anywhere 😢
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
@@JaffaCakes-c7da year? im only 3 months now 😢😢 does it get better as time goes by? or the pain is the same all through out?
@JaffaCakes-c7d5 ай бұрын
@@alexanderalzate8560 I can honestly say that it does get better as time goes by for sure. I've been through this a few times in life, so sadly have repititive experience lol. You will honestly get through it quicker once you train your mind to not think of them at all and focus on something more worthwhile instead.
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
@@JaffaCakes-c7d thank you so much ♥️🙏 this will help me a lot from getting over.. im in so much pain right now. i hope and pray that ill be completely healed in a year ( feb 2025 ) i think im only on step 2 in this video but i will definitely get thru all of it with God's help.. im glad that you gotten past that dark times of your life im happy for you.. thank you so much..
@alexanderalzate85605 ай бұрын
@@JaffaCakes-c7d thank you so much 🙏🙏♥️ i hope and pray that ill get over this very dark time of my life sooner than later. i know theres no short cut to this. may God be with me and light my path until the end.. im glad that youve overcome this, im happy for you brother ♥️☝️
@stefeuphoria60864 ай бұрын
If your heart is still beating, it means your heart isn't broken.
@JuliusAu-ff4ipАй бұрын
Well mine did break literally with a cardiomyopathy for about a seconds.
@Sarah-c3d2v Жыл бұрын
Sorry to bother you, but do you have a facebook messenger. I have a question . I feel you will have a good answer. Thank you.