INFJ vs. ISFJ: More Similar Than You Think?

[@alextorres990]

I'm actually really happy that ISFJ is the most common, because they are such amazing people.

[@ragequit4537]

Are we?

[@BlackCat-qr6gy]

@@ragequit4537 yes, yes you are.

[@livelaughlovetartaglia_5221]

@@BlackCat-qr6gy This makes me feel so good :')

[@BlackCat-qr6gy]

@@livelaughlovetartaglia_5221 no problemo. We love you guys.

[@marlo2919]

I hope so lol

[@Ani-sw8vz]

Something that I love about the INFJ - ISFJ pairing, is that if there ever is a misscommunication, both are understanding and empathetic enough that noone is gonna take it personally anyways

[@laviniasnow4494]

Yeah, INFJs make us feel comfortable enough to ask “What do you mean?” when we don't understand stuff. - ISFJ

[@explorewiththeodore]

I am ISFJ and my fiancee is INFJ. Arguments are the easiest things to navigate when you both see each other's point of view.

[@Moon_lulu]

This is SOO true 💜

[@BiancaAlves-sh3dt]

Agree

[@RaZziaN1]

sounds like bullshit, both will at some point

[@J_Elizabeth2]

I’m an INFJ and I have an ISFJ friend, and I have to admit, we are very much alike in our quiet and crazy ways. Being an ISFJ, she is always there to defend me and stand up for my beliefs, which I love about ISFJs.

[@t.a.yeah.]

That's true. My father is an ISFJ, I'm INFJ, it's a great, calm relationship. He just knows what I need and I like listen to his thoughs. ^^ (Not like with my ESTJ-mother.. xD Uff! But with my INFP-sister it's cool too. But - no feelings, please!)

[@willowphoenix5926]

I'm an INFP, and my mom is ISFJ. We are very similar.

[@minerva_4509]

You are an ISFJ too

[@yurisurran9869]

Same!

[@Elizabeth29]

Same but I'm the ISFJ and my friend is the INFJ

[@nedwulff6196]

"You rarely hear people say "Am I an INFJ or ISFJ?" ....I am one of the rare ones. I've taken multiple tests. The results...split between the two.

[@Betterlattethannever307]

NTL WU05 I am right there with you! If I am around someone who is organized, logical, and is more “S”, I get to relax and be more big picture/thinking abstract. However, I was married to a super strong “N.” He was so big picture he couldn’t see the steps. I had to be the step by step one, or nothing would happen. I can do both and I flip on tests...

[@Kikketta11ify]

I’m confused between isfj and infp... and even isfp actually 😂

[@Kikketta11ify]

Ann Stropes me too!!! I act slighty different depending on the people i’m with, i don’t do it on purpose but it comes natural to me to kinda “balance”

[@annichan113]

Kikketta11ify me too, I‘ve gotten both in tests. It seems like on vacation or when I was jobless and searching I got INFP but once I found a job Im totally being ISFJ. I always relate to both just im not really spontaneous and never was. Always was and am more of a planner.

[@Kikketta11ify]

annichan91 yes same:/ i’m more an isfj when i’m with very vivacious and chaotic people (like my esfp friend), but more infp when i’m with my istj mom or intj friend😭

[@someonelazy3598]

Hello, i am an ISFJ and i work as a nurse in surgical department (: Spontaneously decided to be a nurse bc wanted to help people and bring them happiness ~ The job is hard but i love it !

[@rome5628]

I am an ISFJ too and I am going to the nursing field

[@andre_karavia]

Omg you are amazing! Hope you continue bringing people's lives happiness 🌞

[@thunderbirdice]

I’m ISFJ but I’m dental assistant

[@Ingemaja]

Being an INFJ and in a relationship with an ISFJ is kinda fun because of some of the things you mentioned. I happily wander around with my head in a bubble, contemplating various things. My boyfriend keeps pulling me back to the physical world, and he keeps asking me what I want to do. It’s also a rare thing for him to dream himself away like that. I can ask him where he sees himself in ten years, but he’ll ask me what I’m going to do in an hour. It’s this kinda push-pull-thing that’s actually rather comfortable. I have to take part in the real, physical world, although I would much rather stay inside of my own head. He has to allow himself to get caught up in dreams and fantasies every now and then, although he would much rather stick to the facts and the here-and-now. Being with him have made me realise how many things I need to see in the real world, and this have somehow stimulated my imagination and thought-process, so that I can see ideas and weird concepts in new ways. (I’m sorry if my english is bad, I’m not a native speaker. This was also something I just wanted to share, because I’ve thought a lot about these things)

[@tami370]

damn, i feel you. i am an infj dating an isfj and i experience the exact same things all the time.

[@easytoslip]

your english is excellent. I grew up with an ISFJ mom.

[@TheSdennis89]

Ingemaja have you ever considered whether you’re an INFP? The reason I ask is Si for an INFJ is normally viewed as pointless and basic, it’s the opposite of inspiring to us. Whereas an INFP uses Si as a tertiary function so strengthening with a dominant user would help feed their Ne providing that boost of renewed creativity. Food for thought..

[@heatherpence2145]

I loved your comment. What concepts do you see in new ways?

[@Ingemaja]

Sarah Dennis It’s an interesting thought, that I have entertained a few times. It would make sense, but at the same time not. I can’t quite explain it, but it doesn’t really fit. INFP would explain some things, but INFJ explains more. Could this be a sign of imbalance? Gathering and organising new things in order to feed my imagination have, for instance, helped me write some not-so-depressing poems. It seems (to me, who may or may not be wrong about myself) as though everything is set to serve my world of thoughts, but that doesn’t necessarily point towards one specific type. That’s more like... hi, I’m an I. The interesting question would be what kind of thoughts, right? Do I know my feelings, do I know what I value? Truth is: I’ve tossed around a lot of thoughts during the past six years, and my views regarding a lot of different things have changed. My self-worth is different, I’ve reconsidered some rather harmful views I had (I’ve also gone from 16 to 22 years old, so I’m quite young, and I have to keep in mind that I don’t know everything). If your thought is right, and I’m an INFP... then what would this change mean for the lead Fi? It seems like everybody can have tendencies that points towards functions that they don’t really like to use (that’s at least what I gather, from watching people trying to type others and so forth). My younger self lived 24/7 inside of this bubble of fantasies, and weren’t really willing to do anything else. The real world used to be boring, but my boyfriend showed me how it could sometimes be fun: like when you share a meal with someone you love, or when you go for a walk somewhere nice. I suppose the part about being in a bubble 24/7 also points towards an imbalance, but that’s where I feel the most at home: in a world that I’ve built for myself, where knowledge, ideas and loved ones take up most of the space. An INFJ have Se as their fourth function, whereas an INFP have Si as their third. You’re absolutely right in pointing that out, seeing as I’ve grown to like the world around me (although it’s draining to spend time outside of the bubble). F also deals with choices, and I’m terrible at making decisions (it can literally take days for me to find out whether I want to see a movie or not, and that should have been an easy decision). There’s also the question of the thought-process that goes into various choices. I do ask myself if something is good, but I also ask myself if the choices makes sense from a more logical point of view. I struggle a little to see how inferior Te would be able to be so present in this process, unless I’m some weirdo who’ve somehow managed to develop my inferior function more than my third (sorry, I’m not quite comfortable with saying tertiary and auxiliary) function. INFJ or INFP shouldn’t both be right, but I can seem like both. Living 24/7 inside of a bubble is in no way healthy, and I’ve had to practice being in the real world for the past years: having an ISFJ there have helped me a lot, but that also does suggest that I might be wrong. No, I’m not sure. INFJ fits the most, but I can definitely see the possibility of being wrong. Thank you for the suggestion, it definitely is some food for thought. I think I should go look more into it, and try to view these things without the glasses that reads “I’m this, not that. I’m like this and that, and that means I can’t be like that” (😅). Edit: fixed some typos

[@rosetintved]

i've actually taken the personality test many times and i've always gotten ISFJ and INFJ back to back although i do feel more connected to being an ISFJ. it's very confusing i hope i'm not the only one who has had this happen to

[@saki-lx3jc]

this is why i’m here it’s like one day i get isfj and then next is infj but i feel more connected to isfj

[@Moon_lulu]

my bestfriend is like that too

[@LeeknowsminsAtdegreesinairfrye]

I’m the exact same I have always gotten infj but I took the test recently and got isfj but I really do relate to both of the personality types and I can’t really figure out which one I am so I’m just gonna call myself an infj/isfj

[@moonstargal_xox7887]

@@LeeknowsminsAtdegreesinairfrye exact same with me, I’ve been getting more isfj recently but now I’m going back and forth between them 😂

[@clementine.6.2.2]

@@saki-lx3jc same

[@Roguedaisey]

Lava lamp is clearly INFJ .. performance anxiety! 🤣😂 I feel you, lava lamp!

[@maxeen1974]

Kim Beadle 😂

[@xtremeninja.]

ANXIETY😂😂

[@marielredwall3052]

So I am an ISFJ and I really enjoyed this video. And I realized something while watching it - you talk about ISFJs being afraid of new concepts, and that's a take I often hear and makes me doubt my type (but looking at the functions it's pretty obvious). And while you were talking I realized - I'm not afraid of new concepts, but on my own it would *never* occur to me to change a concept rather than to gather more information. And sometimes you need to conceptualize something differently. I'm married to an INTP and one of our earliest conversations involved his suggestion that I change my conceptual framework about something, and it was a super helpful suggestion. So yeah, I'm not really averse to new concepts, but they also do not occur to me as an option.

[@dppool456]

Inferior functions (for you Ne) aren´t things that aren´t valued, their actually the direction of growth. INTPs (my type) want to take care of people but feel completely inadequate at it by nature. But as they grow, they get better and better at it. Approaching empathy is approaching self-actualization. For ISFJs, they value possibilities and new ideas, but they initially feel completely inadequate in the area. As they grow and get better and better at seeing the world through a more open lens, they approach self-actualization.

[@DianaGrace]

I'm ISFJ, and so are both of my best friends and my sister!

[@tylerpond1229]

From my experience, you are describing exactly what an ISFJ would say. They aren't really afraid of new concepts, they just aren't typically the type to think them up on their own. My ISFJ friends always, say "I never would have thought of that", but aren't afraid of the ideas themselves.

[@injunicecream]

i think that is not we're "afraid of" but we just don't see the need to change

[@phodilus2141]

introverted intuitioning away from my problems

[@easytoslip]

For me introverted intuition leads to solutions to my problems. The difficult thing is listening to your intuitive insights and lending them validity in a world that prefers the concrete and the rational to things you can't see or prove. But it's really good stuff if you get in the habit of listening to it, for instance dreams are a powerful way the benevolent energies of the world lend a hand to those of us sensitive and willing to accept that guidance. I like dreammoods dot com for possible interpretations, I ask myself if the dream symbol interpretation makes sense for what's happening in my life, and sometimes it does; it can give insight and show patterns.

[@easytoslip]

Another thing I've been doing lately is before I go to bed, do some kind of prayer or at least just mentally list five things at the forefront of my mind...my worries or confusions usually, with a 'please help' undertone. Oftentimes the next day, articles will pop up in my feed on the very topics I was seeking insight into, it's kind of fun and hilarious actually when it happens like that. You have to be open to it and accept it as valid though for it to work, you can't be judging it as b.s.

[@jessicakittykitty1115]

intuitioning into creating unrealistic problems

[@Jennifer-tb1vp]

I'm an INFJ and my husband of 22 years is an ISFJ. I think we're a great combination. We have a lot of similarities that make it easy for us to get along. He definitely keeps me grounded - well, he keeps our whole family grounded (which can be a tough job!). Our daughter is an INFP and our son is an INFJ. My husband is definitely a caretaker in a practical way - where I am more of a caretaker in a spiritual/emotional way. He makes sure things in the real world get done while my head is in the clouds (trying to figure out how to save the world). He's a firefighter and I am a speech therapist. I recently left my job to dedicate more time to volunteering. While I loved my job, I felt constrained by the practical side of it and felt more drawn to helping people on a deeper level. I'm really drawn to ministry, counseling, psychology. I'm so thankful for my ISFJ husband!

[@bcrwarlock1974]

Wow, that is so good to read! I had an amazing ISFJ friend, and my son is an ISFJ. Now I am dating an ISFJ, and so far it has been wonderful. They are great at being supportive (as you said) both emotionally and in a practical way (well, if you want to do this, here is what needs to happen). We INFJ's see the big picture and get the ideas, they see the details and the steps that need to be taken to get there. But the mutual empathy is amazing! And the wanting to care for the other mutually creates such an amazing bond!

[@raspberrytaegi]

i'm more confused than ever, i don't know what my type is

[@dppool456]

INFJ is about synthesizing things to form an ideal vision to help people because of a deep empathy. ISFJ is about reapplying past experiences to help people because of a deep empathy. The stats and facts thing he was saying was actually for ISTJs. Si is about remembering, whether it´s what other people think (Te) or what other people feel (Fe) depends on F or T.

[@Alicioussness]

😂😂

[@velvet1834]

Same bro.

[@moon8520]

This is so interesting because I can /feel/ almost literally everything you say about INFJs and our abstract thought process. Not having to deal with people in the physical world is one of the things that most stuck to me because it's so true, I don't want to help people on a material level I want them to think!!! I want to help people feel, philosophise, find their soul!!

[@NightCloudI]

Me too! -INFJ

[@bridgetmorrow7629]

I’m an ISFJ, and one of my sisters is an INFJ. We really are pretty similar, and the way you described the similarities and differences helps me see why! Thank you!! 😃😄😊

[@yebovay]

i’m was mistyped with infj now i’m 100% sure i’m isfj thanks 🙏

[@macaroni1121]

"why dont we stop, really quick, for a commercial break" My KZbin: * plays a commercial right after he said that *

[@theophila214]

I like how he gives a head's up. :)

[@tiotom9217]

Well duh, obviously - the uploader chooses where to put the adverts..

[@PENGUINGIRL1210]

ISFJ heals the body, but INFJ heals the soul

[@nicolasdanek5819]

INFJ'S can do both.

[@Anastasiya0x]

I literally relate to both. I love the real world and facts but I can also be in my head and think about the future.

[@TheReelAnna]

I really appreciate you making this video. I'm an INFJ and my husband is an ISFJ. I've learned a lot about the cognitive functions of these 2 types, but I feel like hearing you talk about it helped it click in a different way that will help me explain it to my husband better. He often just stares at me blankly while I talk about this kind of stuff 😅

[@fiskavia]

lol we are the same! i finally made my husband do this mbti test after 2 years of marriage. it turns out he is an isfj (while I'm an infj). i feel like we are much alike.. as if he was my male version.. but the other times we are so different. after the test i finally figured out why.. i told him about this but he just had poker face.. not really into this type of topic

[@EZE0001]

1- I’m an INFJ and now I understand why people use to say i’m a kind of “spiritual person” 2- my wife is an ISFJ and sometimes it seem we are talking about two different things, and now i understand why. We use to have very good talks and understand our different points. Excellent video, thank you!

[@MithraSemiramis]

It drives me nuts how rarely I see ISFJ/INFJ comparison, thank you 😘 There are a couple ISFJs in my family and that has a lot to do with me being an INFJ. I could write a book about it 😅😉 I think their nuances aren't explored enough in general... perhaps because they are generally subtle and unassuming. There is a lot going on under there 😁😊

[@jaimesonking4061]

I am in a INFJa, and my sister is an ISFJt. We are both really really close, like best friends for life! We were born only a year apart, so we’re basically like twins. This video was extremely accurate. The Dichotomy between me and my sister resembles the one between abstract ideas and Reality! I love coming up with ideals and she loves to hit those with reality. She also keeps me grounded, and I keep her open minded.

[@yuiitodoro7791]

Seems like a win win to me !

[@pia7120]

wait, you are an infj-(A) like actually assertive, damn. Im Infj-T and want to become assertive and less shy, insecure, self doubting etc. Got any tips??

[@northernbright7602]

So as an INFJ married to an ISFJ there are 10 stark differences. 🐟🐠 We are honestly loving soul mates and the best pair: ying and yang ♾ 1. ISFJ will have various mechanical tools organized & drawn out on the shop wall; INFJ don’t have tools, they have paint brushes & one screwdriver. 2. ISFJ have impressive time management; INFJ are amazing at losing time after reading a multitude of articles about how Bonobo matriarch systems function. 🐵 3. ISFJ enjoy the same meals at the same restaurant with the same hot sauce; INFJ will try anything: especially if dared 😅 4. ISFJ enjoy viewing historical documentaries and men especially sports live so they can continually yell at the tv; INFJ enjoy viewing fantasies or disappear in a labyrinth of SCI-FI. 5. ISFJ barely ever cry and don’t want to waste valuable time on a nonsense emotion; INFJ will cry over watching a struggling caterpillar trying to climb over a street curb to lush freedom!! 🐛 6. ISFJ will only help others when it’s essential; INFJ will help and love helping until mental exhaustion then disappear for three days or possibly a week... 7. ISFJ thrive in monotony; INFJ’s kryptonite is monotony- despise monotony- will sing lyrical ditties of “I hate monotony...” 8. ISFJ start to panic when clutter accumulates; INFJ are strong starters but not finishers- so clutter of dead visions are everywhere!! 9. ISFJ dislike crowds of people, obnoxious noise, putrid smells anything they can’t control; INFJ also dislike crowds, obnoxious noise, putrid smells anything they can’t control but are too curious not to investigate. 🔎 10. ISFJ have a tendency to not be ‘artistic’ or ‘creative’ in a sense; INFJ are super creative BUT no one will ever know because they procrastinate and question their gifts. 🤣 Hope you enjoyed; it’s truly a blessed partnership, he’s very supportive and my best friend 💕

[@nutzername6935]

Hey, same relationship over here and I laughed because a lot of things you said are the same with us 😂 man the Ying and Yang thing is great about the combination of the types. He (ISFJ) helps me to come back into my "base". Really would love to meet another infj/isfj couple in rl 😄

[@TirzaCS]

I'm ISFJ but related hard to half of the INFJ qualities on your list.

[@kimberlysoto3490]

INFJ with the ISFJ beat (figuratively speaking, in most cases) into me by my mother and grandma. So I get burnt out super quickly and am constantly at war with myself. It only made my INFJ perfectionism spill out into the tangible world. So now you have an INFJ who can’t be at peace in either space (abstract or concrete) basically. Who can’t handle mess and disorganization but will burn herself out to the point of letting it all crash and burn for a few days until she gets her next burst of energy. Sometimes I am great with details to the point of remembering someone’s name that was randomly thrown in a conversation a few months back. Other times, it takes me years to take into account the presence of something that’s been standing in the same place for years. The only reason I’ve been able to finally settle on being an INFJ is because I can handle tangible details very well. But it stresses me out immensely. The whole time I’m moody and freaking out. But things do get done.

[@voicegirl6997]

Wow

[@cbrunk5370]

I share some of both for example 3. I tend to stick with the same meal every time I go restaurants for example at Chilis I always get the fajitas. But I also like to go out of the norm and explore various meals from various cultures, I have a very refined pallet. 5. I do not like to cry, I avoid movies and music that makes me cry. and yet every time I see/here one I ball like a baby. I do both of 6. I will help others both physically and emotionally even past my own breaking point with no regard to my own personal health. I am typically an outgoing person, even still I have very strong feelings about keeping my privacy and enjoy being alone with myself. I need that time absorb and reflect. The rest I am 100% on point with INFJ's

[@MichelleMy_Unwell]

I'm good friends with an isfj, and the hardest thing I have found between us is that I'm nervous to share my artistic pursuits with her, even though she begs to see what I'm working on. She has a hard time seeing that something can be beautiful, even if it's not her personal style. She's pretty vocal about it hahaha like "No! I would NEVER like that" and my Fe is like "I just need you to say I did a good job!!" . That being said, she cheers me on more than anyone else in my life and I'm thankful for her.

[@avaricedsoul9936]

Ure like the infj pewdiepie

[@FrankJames]

i'm flattered

[@DrLiaraTSoni]

Pewds doesn't feel like an INFJ. I mean I love him, but he sticks to his attitude, his personality and ideas too much to see the virtue of trying to control how he expresses himself his anger, his thoughts and thus causing his rebellion against media. I think a relatively healthy INFJ would have seen all the wreck his war with Wall Street Journal would do to him and his channel long term.

[@avaricedsoul9936]

@@DrLiaraTSoni im not saying pewds is an infj. I'm saying FJ is like the infj version of pewdiepie or pewdiepie, but an infj xD

[@chocoboasylum]

👏TYPE 👏 REVIEW

[@fayevibar7560]

Was actually thinking of the same thing 😂😂😂

[@JellyIsland]

I see quite many in the comments having an ISFJ mom. I'm INFJ and both my parents are ISFJ and I they are really loving and caring parents ♥ . However, there is often this disconnection between my more abstract ways of thinking and their rational preferences which can make it quite frustrating sometimes. 🤔 Especially explaining about intuitive stuff. 🙄

[@hirsch4155]

Try being an ESTP with ISFJ dad. It almost destroyed my life.

[@tiffaneereyes4398]

That moment when you said, “let’s have a party”...I was like noooo let’s not lol. I find it interesting that most INFJ jobs include positions in religion. I’m definitely not a religious person. It actually freaks me out. I do have a job where I help people indirectly. Yay! For laboratories!!! You can help someone and never have to meet them lol.

[@andraste6746]

Tiffanee Reyes introverts dream ;)

[@KyrieW]

I am an INFJ pathologist and it's like the best job in the world I could have imagined ! Yay background work

[@PhStateOfMind]

Taking up a pre-Med course and I knew I could relate here to the idea of helping people indirectly. It’s just boring to interact with people especially the unworthy ones so 👍

[@di3486]

I am infj in science and i love post job party time at a brewery🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Granorla]

honestly I love isfjs 😭 and even though they are more ‘common’ i have came across many types/variations of isfjs, so type-ception. I have noticed that older isfjs, with developed ne can be very open minded but it’s always based from si experience. a great video!! 🎠

[@Qanwa]

I like that you have noticed that there are many variations of us depending on our experiences. I always feel maybe that's why I am so different from the ISFJs I see online.

[@katiemurphy3601]

Very interesting. My husband is between ISFJ and INFJ and he is a pastor. He's very organized and intuitive with remembering the little details of who's in the hospital, who's aunt has cancer, and when it's the anniversary of a widow losing her husband and she needs a phone call. He's also really good at listening and taking in new information and challenging what he knows with that new information. I don't know if that would put him more in the INFJ category.

[@aims_plays]

Every time I watch one of your videos comparing INFJ to something else, it always re-solidifies why I am an INFJ. Also, in reference to the occupation, that was perfect. I love the idea of being a nurse but a "spiritual nurse" is more of what resonates with me.

[@ayp5177]

Dang, I relate to both. I always got INFJ, except this year where I got ISFJ. Weird how I'm actually considering becoming a nurse/doctor, but also more passionate about reaching out to people in more personal/spiritual levels 😳

[@flaiirenn]

sensors are more common than intuitives, so that makes sense. in fact, a great deal of intuitives are mistyped sensors

[@Shermanys926]

Me too and I’m confused of myself is like living in heaven and hell, for me INFJ is my heaven and ISFJ is kind of a hell for me, But I don’t know any of you feel what I’m feeling, base on my research, so I want to know,

[@prof.reuniclus21]

@@Shermanys926 If INFJ is heaven for you, you're not an INFJ.

[@Shermanys926]

@@prof.reuniclus21 is between right and wrong haha and I’m against towards INFJ and ISFJ, and heaven means in a peace

[@katyadade1041]

My 2 best friends are an INFJ-A and ISFJ and I am an INFJ-T and we are just so on the same wavelength. 10 years together and this is such a fulfilling friendship, we all often feel disappointed and drained communicating with other people, so it’s so great to go back to them to discuss our experiences with other people.

[@kimbashae964]

Very Helpful! I'm an INFJ and my sister is an ISFJ. This really helped me understand her better and also learn that there are thing we have in common :)

[@Sand1955]

I debated with myself about whether I am ISFJ or INFJ. But decided I am ISFJ. Circumstances made me realize I am really good at caregiving for my loved ones and my pets. People even suggested I would be a good nurse after watching how I cared my for dear husband with terminal cancer many years ago. Then I became a caregiver for my elderly and legally blind father. He told me I added years to his life.🥰

[@lovisasellman5005]

❤

[@tabby_youtube]

You are probably the most relatable INFJ I've ever encountered. Your content is GOLD. Thanks. Really Appreciate.

[@sarahjanesmithmusic329]

Such an insightful and informative video! Thank you FJ. My Mum is an ISFJ and my partner is a INFJ and your descriptions of the similarities and differences between the two were really spot on. They both get on so well and my partner has really acted a bridge between my Mum and I, and helped me to understand her more which has been so healthy for our relationship. Now I can understand why - because the middle cog functions literally are the bridge! As always, thank you for your insight and humour :)

[@kyliejene]

I have been mistyped as an INFJ, but am actually ISFJ. Having the ability to retain a lot of information was one of my key identifiers. This is also what tripped me up, I use Si to remember the past to predict the future. I thought I had intuition lols. I really identified with all the INFJ Memes out there ....

[@daniellemarie4728]

I'm on the borderline of Sensing 54% and Intuition 46%. Base on the test I've taken, I can be an INFJ and ISFJ depending on the situation...

[@Kelseysophia]

Me too(:

[@nicolelyon2530]

Same! 😊

[@tadm123]

Exactly. I got 51% sensing

[@myangimeowgi]

Danielle Marie that’s me but with ISFJ & INTJ

[@PhStateOfMind]

Try keys2cognition cognitive test and you’ll see what you really are.

[@emilyboelle8724]

I’m an INFJ dating an ISFJ and this helped me understand so much! Perfect illustration: yesterday I was painting while he was sitting in the room trying to plan out a shelf he wanted to build. I was trying to organize the abstract and the aesthetic of something and he was trying to plan out prices and dimensions and materials. But we were both able to ask each other questions and help with each other’s projects.

[@bethnewberry8626]

Emily Boelle i would do both of these 😅 im very much an aesthetics person but measurements and symmetricalness are apart of this. though the measurement part isn’t my favorite cause i’m not a math person, it’s a part of it and i’m the type of person with the mentality of “if you want it done right you’ll have to do it yourself” (low key don’t like that about me tho)

[@NightCloudI]

I relate to it so much

[@xHighHope9x]

I'm an INFJ and my best friend is an ISFJ: after watching this video I've got finally lot of things figured out! :D

[@khoney32]

You seem clear and balanced since you stopped drinking. I wonder if alcohol was depressing you. Glad to see you looking fresh and dapper. Have a great day.

[@MJax-pf3id]

Excessive drinking gets me, if I drink more than 2 days a week I’ll live inside my head to the point I lash out. I over analyze to the point of worrying about what my damn beta fish thinks of me. Life is tough in this head, I need to be sober lol.

[@Snickers9991]

omg why even point that out. as an isfj i feel offended because thats mean

[@isaacsanchez2003]

@@Snickers9991 lol fr why would she say that

[@marlo2919]

Hmmm he didn't want to date you so you had to go there? How rude.

[@flaiirenn]

lmao why the hell would you even mention that? tf is your point. lady, you have issues

[@jpedrovianna]

I’ve met an ISFJ girl and I’m an INFJ.. we’ve been talking for more than a week and we noticed we have lots of similarities, but those similarities were not enough to keep us together.. we are not split, but we had an argument last night and Idk.. I thought that she was the one, but I’m super confused.. It’s probably just something in my head, she has nothing wrong.. sometimes I hate having this personality.. not all of us wants to be a monk, or a priest.. It’s like I feel I have a greater purpose on society, but I don’t want that burden.. I just want to be a normal person, but I just can’t.. sorry about all that drama.. It is just how I feel..

[@izzya2515]

No apologising needed. I deal with it on the daily too. It's not easy. Eventually, you'll figure it out. Just keep going :)

[@jpedrovianna]

A little update.. our relationship didn't go forward.. and I've met a couple more people these past few months.. but still single 😅

[@poonelizabethyan]

Wanting to have a greater purpose is not a fault , nor is imaginary, it’s what we seriously need as human. Think and live outside the box. Btw y did u decided to end the relationship??? From curious ENTP

[@jpedrovianna]

@@poonelizabethyan we were constantly having arguments and she would get annoyed by some simple stuff.. I don't blame her. I think we both needed to go in different paths. The getting to know each other's part was something.. kinda like the honeymoon phase.. everything is great.. but once we came back to reality we realized that we were looking for different things, different objectives, goals... you know.. we weren't that compatible

[@poonelizabethyan]

@Pedro understandable, sometimes it does take a long time to really get to know a person and felt like all would go to waste at the end if it doesn’t end well.. It’s may difficult for The intuitive types to find someone who understands and supports our worldview / goals. But I believe there is a right person, the best is yet to come.

[@stephaniestafford3797]

Why does it seem that INFJs explain personalities so well? It’s so neat. You INFJ especially more in males seem so childlike, eyes darting around the room expressing with your hands it’s so interesting to watch and so cute. I’m an ISFJ and could spend hours with an INFJ. You seem to really get me. Thank you for sharing this.

[@invisiblevoice7820]

Infjs explain personalities well because of their understanding of people's feelings and they are kinda logical but strongly connected to their feelings and intuition. They are known as "most logical feeler". I am infj btw.

[@stephaniestafford3797]

@@invisiblevoice7820 that makes sense “logical feeler” so true! Thanks for sharing. You INFJ are so interesting. My daughter is an INFP, and your personality type seem so similar to INFP (minus the head in the clouds, INFJ’s seem more grounded). But I really get these two types and wish there were more of you in the world:)

[@invisiblevoice7820]

@@stephaniestafford3797 Thanks mam. My sis is infp so I do have fair share of understanding of their personalities. The main difference is Infjs are little more realistic compared to Infps. Btw, Isfjs are one of the nicest and most caring mbti type. I love them for that 😀.

[@stephaniestafford3797]

@@invisiblevoice7820 aww, thanks so much! Very sweet of you to say. INFP and INFJ, in the same house? wow! That would be awesome. I bet there is a lot of balancing out and understanding between you. So neat:)

[@invisiblevoice7820]

@@stephaniestafford3797 Ya, good understanding. But she is kinda different from my personality. Makes me doubtful that Infjs and Infps are similar. Btw, how many Infjs you know in real life?

[@NightCloudI]

I'm finally sure I'm an INFJ. I related to both types, but what makes me different from the ISFJ is that I like abstraction, I live in my head, I think about the future and I'm not a down to earth person. I was at some point between INFP and INFJ but I'm not like the P types. I don't like improvising and I'm not spontanious. So the only type left is the one I related to the most and It was my result from the begining of my journey with MBTI when I didn't know about it much, so I hope I was honest with my answers. I think INFJ really is my type. :)

[@pollovy]

Do you think you could make a video where you explain the four main functions and how to determine them for the types? Like extroverted feeling etc. I cant seem to find an explanation for those online and you got it all figured out 😩👌

[@june23]

I'm a bit late, first letter is direction of the first function, second and third letters are the preferred perceiving and judging functions in the top 2, and last letter determines which of the preferred perceiving and judging functions are extroverted: For INFJs, I says their dominant is introverted, NF says they have Nx and Fx in their top two, J says that F is extroverted, so it's Fe, which makes their N into Ni, and since their dominant is introverted, Ni goes first. The third and fourth functions mirror the natures of the top two, so if top two is Ni then Fe (perceiving then judging) then bottom two is Ti then Se (judging then perceiving, oh and don't forget about the functions alternating directions (Xi Xe Xi Xe or Xe Xi Xe Xi) Last one: ESFP, E says the dominant is extroverted and makes the alternation Xe Xi Xe Xi, SF says S and F are top two, P says S is Se and F is Fi, fill in the alternation and boom u get Se Fi Te Ni

[@hasgoodles7807]

Frank’s too famous now for such nonsense.

[@dunmate27]

Check out the youtube channel :Objective personality

[@yoontopia6153]

@@june23 THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS EXPLANATION! It helps a lot! 🙌

[@fayeysantiago]

I'm an ISFJ and I am working as a Chemical Engineer. Kinda agree of what you have said. For most of the items, I rely on the facts and is very cautious of particular steps to do. I am also organized of what I need and also of what others might need. Though I am an introvert in nature, sometimes people mistake me as an extrovert for I can sometimes easily relate to people, thought most of the times I feel that I needed more "me time" after interacting with others

[@lucyleviston7271]

I have done the 16personalities test twice, the first time getting ISFJ and the second getting INFJ. From research and from your videos, I have concluded that I am an ISFJ. This video matched my situation perfectly.

[@Nurhazimah-kr8qz]

Me too. I get isfj first but after that i always get infj. i think I'm infj but sometimes i doubt myself

[@alyssamccall3828]

So much on point! I thoroughly enjoy watching your videos Frank. This is one of my new favorites. I’m an INFP with an ISFJ husband and a good friend who is INFJ. I love them both very much and based on my experience with them, you have nailed some of their major qualities. My husband keeps me grounded with his focus on facts and figures. My friend, who used to be a missionary, feeds my interest in spiritual/personal growth. If you have more to share about similarities or differences between them, I’d love to hear. Thanks!

[@alyssamccall3828]

@Susan Wojcicki is a sad, lonely hag Great question! I offer my INFJ friend calm, grounded, nonjudgmental energy and emotional support, plus a distraction from her worries. I offer my husband daydreams about our future and add spontaneity to his planning nature. We’ve since found out he’s a closer fit with ISTJ.

[@Essie1234]

Actually, this makes a lot of sense. I'm definitely ISFJ. Thank you for an informative video!

[@li.theo.4]

What an amazing video!! I'm an ISFJ nearly always mistyped as an INFJ, and I just wrote an accidental essay on how much I loved this and how much it made me think. Somehow, though I accidentally typed a command to exit the browser, and I'm frankly devastated, so I'll try to sum up. In short-thank you for another wonderful vid! You've summed up the main similarities and differences with eloquence and ease-and with minimal intuitive bias! That's always really nice to see. I do think a lot of INFJ stereotypes apply to ISFJs, too, which leads a lot of people to lean towards INFJ (in addition to the bias). I'm always lost in my head; however, although I don't shy away from intriguing concepts or my imagination, the way my brain functions without any prompting is to connect what I'm processing now with an infinite network of specific memories, leading me to something completely different. And ISFJs often struggle to be in the moment, but because of an inferior-Ne crisis creator ("What if this goes wrong? What if that goes wrong? What if I mess this up?") rather than inferior Se. I can't even be mad about the traditional stereotype, as so many ISFJs follow convention, but my philosophy (one that I've seen in quite a few fellow ISFJs!) is to analyze our current systems, understand how we arrived here, and then change what we know doesn't work-i.e. what causes harm and hurt to others. As a member of a couple marginalized communities and an ally to others, it's very important to me to say, "We've seen this cause pain; we know it doesn't work. We need to make a change." I'm guided by the past, for sure, but that past guides me to make a better future, and a better present as well. I guess I just wrote a slightly shorter essay, but really-awesome job! These videos are truly fantastic. Love your content!

[@찬넬하니]

I'm INFJ and my husband is ISFJ. We're comfortable wity each other but there are things I hate about him.

[@flaiirenn]

i'm in a similar type of situation. except that i'm isfj, while my boyfriend is infj. there are some things about him that i can't stand, but i like that we can work things out through a good conversation

[@invisiblevoice7820]

Lmao, isfjs are very calm and kind people.

[@katielarsen2630]

I think sensor/intuitive differences are hardest to overcome, I'm INFP married to ESTP and I think he would much rather be married to another sensor (ESTP often gets matched with ISFJ and INFP with xNFJ and other intuitives)

[@invisiblevoice7820]

@@katielarsen2630 lmao, personality type doesn't matters much in marraige. It's more about mutual understanding. But there will be some discomfort with mbti types that are very different from each other. Well, mbti type is just 30-40% of a person's overall personality. Carl jung himself said that every person is an exception to these rules.

[@beatrizfroes7228]

What do you hate?

[@comingoutspinster-rebellik1479]

OMG! This was SUPER helpful with clarification! I’m absolutely an INFJ… no doubts whatsoever, now! I always said, “Although I’m an empath, I could NEVER be a caregiver or a nurse!” YODA, the religious thang, that’s precisely how I resonate! Beautiful distinction, and I’m so Grateful!!!

[@alishastreet7110]

I almost spit out my Lucky Charms when you coughed, and the colors changed. Thanks for the Monday morning laugh. :)

[@simplyme7821]

The more you talk about being an infj, the more I appreciate being one. I like living in my head and wanting people to understand the abstract. I have one more day before I take Mark to have radioactive beads put in his body. I have been preparing for the last 5 days all in my head. You couldn't tell by looking at me that I was in a very hard workout. I wasn't doing sit ups or running around a lot. On average it takes me 5 to 7 days to build up my mind and my spirit in order to be able to take care of anyting. I am ready to be in rooms for surgeons and anesthesiologist and I am ready to sit by myself for 6 hours waiting and I'm prepared to become a nurse even though that type of personality is what my daughter is. Thanks for describing all this in such an easy-to-understand way. Easy to look at too. I told you you were going to get to 35 thousand subscribers by my birthday. And, I DO WANT ALL THE NEW FRIGGIN INFORMATION I CAN GET!!!🐵 My mom always told me that I learn best by watching and then copying the other person. Monkey see monkey do! CJ

[@criistinafl]

6:40 Definitely relate to what a previous commenter (ISFJ) said about their relationship with taking in new concepts. As an ISFJ, I’m not adverse to new concepts they’re just not at the forefront for me. I still value Ne even if it’s repressed so I really appreciate others insights on different perspectives I wouldn’t immediately consider even if I have no intention of immediately adapting them 😊

[@spyry7682]

I'm an isfj and my career is a nurse!! Its so true we like to things in steps and we keep situations calm when they escalate. Love your videos! Keep up the great content!!!

[@jeremysmith9694]

So I've always been super good at math and science. Apparently I'm an ISFJ. My brother out of the blue told me I would make a great nurse. But despite all that I can't stand things like blood, sickness, trauma, anything medical related really. Medical field has always sounded intersting but really gross too. I can't stomach it. It's too bad really. Otherwise I feel like I might really enjoy it. Oh well.

[@noeliagutierrez4223]

Same here. As an ISFJ I feel like I would've been really good. I genuinely care for others and I have an analytical side that would help me learn all that complicated medical stuff. But the reality is that I get squeamish with blood, almost passed out many times over topics in health class, and I have a condition where my hands shake.

[@Laura-Yu]

That’s what annoys me about some of these MBTI stereotypes. NTs being seen as the “intellectual” types, in my field (physics) I know plenty of sensors and feelers. It’s actually funny because I know a lot more feelers in astronomy

[@nhuthanhnguyen7452]

Hey same with me. I am an ISFJ and I am pretty good with anything related to science. When people ask if I wanted to be a doctor or anything that related to medical field since I am majoring in Chemistry. I was like ew no. I can't stand things like blood or sickness. I thought I just only me.

[@flyingdart9819]

So bad ISFJ occupations are pretty bloody like nurses, doctors, soldiers etc.

[@justkort8025]

Thanks for putting together such an informative video. My husband of 11yrs now is an ISFJ and he’s a retired paramedic…how you explained it makes so much sense. I’m an ENFP wanting to absorb as much knowledge as I can from the internet and this video was a lot of fun. Thanks again!

[@ImNotTellingYou-ht8uq]

YAY, HE DID AN AD THIS TIME !! Thank you Frank !

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

Isfj here- you nailed it! Well done. :)

[@sliceoflife2470]

“All about that bass” 😂 I love the deadpan delivery.

[@Paula-ov8ep]

with a little theory and some examples you are a good teacher

[@ARNO8265373]

I’m an INFJ and turned out most people who I’m really close with are ISFJs, my family members, my best friends and even my crush. I think we are pretty similar in many ways and we balanced each other out really well. Idk what it is but I just love being around ISFJs I feel more comfortable with them than being with an ENFP lol.

[@fleurpeffer5212]

Lava lamps usually take an hour to warm up just so u know:) great vid! My sis is an infj and I'm an isfj, so its very applicable to me:)

[@elizabetheighmy1131]

Thank you! This helped me realize I’m an ISFJ not an INFJ.

[@samantavegadiaz693]

Wow this video clarifies many other types beyond the initial comparison between ISFJ and INFJ, super insightful!👏

[@sarah52292]

Took the Myers-Briggs test multiple times and got INFJ. Then, I took a different test and got ISFJ. I was so confused, but realized, yup I’m and INFJ.

[@Maggie-zb7gx]

You are visibly more excited to discuss the ISFJ. Ni/Fe at work. Great vid. I always love a good close but distinct comparison.

[@ClandestineGirl16X]

great video, i like how you break things down. you look handsome ;)

[@khaeriya888]

He does not look handsome. He is handsome.

[@jaytonbennett9722]

INFJ married to a ISFJ, so dead on for us. We were high school sweethearts and I have always loved how loyal and grounded she has always been. I never knew how to say it till now.

[@Dee_ann94]

Funny story my dad is an ENFP and he worked as a manager in Costco he had to give all the employees a mbti test and thought well I should see what employees got my compatible type and only my mom got infj so he pursued her. They got married a year later in 1993 they have been married 25 years now. what’s funny is my mom tested as a INFJ but she is definitely a ISFJ lol either way they work super well together my mom brings him back to reality and like you said they are very similar in ways. I came out ENTP my twin sister is ENFP and my younger sister is ESTJ

[@ashjade86]

Wow, that's incredible. :)

[@beautynbrainzxo]

Yeah you’re dad must be pretty confident lol

[@kristinad.2000]

The first time I took the mbti personality test (at home) I got INFJ. A few months later I had to take it at school and got ISFJ. When reading the descriptions I would relate to both. So glad I found your video! Thank you!

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

Hey, Frank, what a refreshing video. Lots of variety & input. Funny about that monk thing, I have gone from psychiatric counseling, to Bible study, for ministering to people. 🙏🏼 I guess I’m right where I belong. 😉 Keep up the good work 💪🏼

[@heatherpence2145]

Ya psych, child development, social work, Bible, missions here too!

[@cherramos3727]

Mom (ISFJ) and myself (INFJ) 🥰🥰 loved this and thoroughly enjoyed watching your video together... TY!

[@nataliek878]

Hey mr. FJ sir dude, I have a theory that I developed with my brother based on what's called a "shadow personality". For example, INFJ's functions are Ni, Fe, Ti, Se so our shadow personality would be ENFP (Ne, Fi, Te, Si). My brother had suggested that we can all go between 2 personality types and this is where my theory developed. For additional information, my brother is ENTP (former ISTJ), my dad is INTJ, my mom is ESFP, and I am INFJ (former INFP). I was having a hard time typing my mom because I had discovered that I knew very little about her personality. It was crazy to find out that even though I love her so much, I rarely get to see her true self. I ended up typing her as ISFJ. This is where it gets interesting. I knew the ISFJ personality was really shallow compared to how much more complex my mom's personality had to be and it never seemed to really fit her. There were certain incongruencies. For a long time, I didn't really consider why this was happening and I didn't think about retyping her. When she originally took the test, she got ESTP but we all knew that couldn't be right. She herself said she doesn't identify with that type. A few days ago my brother suggested that we all must be able to go between our original personality type and the one we are now. For him, he said he would be able to go between ISTJ and ENTP, and that I could go between INFP and INFJ. That's when it hit me, we all have a shadow personality. I knew my mom had repressed her true self once she married my father, (kinda dark, ik but our family situation isn't that bad). She deals with the narcissistic dad that I have every day, I can only imagine how hard that must be on her ability of self-expression. I knew she became watered down and changed who my dad saw of her. I was able to find out that the ISFJ shadow is ESFP. So, I pulled up the ESFP profile and asked her to read it over. She was amazed to relate so much with the type. I'm not sure how much of this theory is true or has been developed by other people already. I tested this out with my brother to see if he thinks we can all semi-revert to another type. My brother would be able to switch to INTJ which he found to be true. Similarly, INFJ's can revert to ENFP going by this theory. I have a TON of ENFP friends and I think it's one of my absolute favorite types to be with. Anyways, I realized that I do relate heavily with some of the social traits of ENFP, especially in social situations where I am pretty comfortable I can probably come off to others as that type. But again, I'm kinda a noob to MBTI and wish I knew more about it. Hopefully, this theory is true or at least partially true.

[@lucieirl]

Tezzi look into shadow functions, this is what you’re kind of describing, (: it’s the 5th 6th 7th and 8th function in the stack and they’re called trickster parent demon (?) i can’t recall, but yes it’s a thing. when people are under really big stress, even past grip stress (Se for INFJs) then these poorly/lesser used functions come out badly. i’m not so well versed in it but yes INFJs shadow functions are the ENFP. whilst the shadow functions aren’t terrible for you to use; one could compare it to writing with your opposite hand or sleeping on the other side of your bed- it’s uncomfortable but you could learnt it, (‘it’ being the function E.g for INFJs our Fi is very very weak) but it’s not our natural stance. hope this ramble made some sense and that you research and find more about it

[@stefani.danielle]

Hi, Frank. Interesting video and perspective. In high school, I received INFJ results on these tests, but from college onward it's been a consistent ISFJ result. Hearing your comparison, I think ISFJ is the closer choice for me (despite relating to the popular INFJ careers of your 1980s MBTI book). I appreciated taking a deeper dive into their similarities and differences. Thanks for the video. :)

[@Larea81]

I have always been intrigued by this subject, and frankly I am confused. I get INFJ or ISFJ pretty equally. When online testing shows percentages I am nearly equal in sensing and intuition. I do strive to think and behave logically because I perceive that as more admirable and reliable. However, at my core, I am constantly a swirl of thoughts and emotions.

[@karinacarvajal9919]

Because they both feel like that because I and F. :p S people, are more in touch of reality and could be more focused on small details and N, can be general and start getting abstract

[@stonebridgeoxfordhoa2829]

LOVED this video! You are right on target, and the reason I know you are is because I'm an ISFJ married to an INFJ. (My occupation before retirement was as a secretary, since I love organizing). And organizing is almost a religion to me -- I go beserk if I have to live in a cluttered environment! Oh, and my husband was a much loved high school English teacher. (Interestingly, not one bit interested in religion). But one of my best girlfriends is a nun, and I adore her spiritual qualities and life.

[@takapuna4]

My daughter is an INFJ and I am an ISFJ and we really ‘get’ each other. They should teach kids in high school what their personality type is we believe that knowing ‘who and why you are the way you are’ would alleviate a lot of anxiety and angst in your teenage years and beyond. Sadly we are surrounded by people who are not like us, we are constantly thinking of others but sadly never get this back. We both thought that everyone’s first thought was “how can I help” we have only just come to the realisation that most people are inherently selfish, they don’t listen and don’t hesitate in exaggerating or telling untruths. How do we stop ourselves from caring so much about others ? Thank god my daughter and I have each other.

[@TestaRosssa_]

I dig your unusual modulation, man

[@light5634]

Great video! My Mom is an ISFJ and I gotta say she's one of the most backwarded people I've ever met. Guess she's stuck in Si-land (I love how you play with words, I adore doing the same) and for 30 years now she refuses to accept my dislike towards having to constantly occupy myself with sensory stuff that drain the hell out of me. She hates anything non-traditional, she's full of nasty dark fears that she loves feeding me with and lashes out when I refuse to live in fear and compliance with faulty castrating norms. Now I don't know if I know any other ISFJ, but mine is really a lot more self-serving than you describe them here. She does things for me that I don't need and that often times make my life worse and then guilt-trips me for that and has this tremendous inability to give proper emotional responses to people. She sticks to what she knows which is 18th century concepts and demonizes everyone who's different than that....

[@19katsandcounting]

Lina R that sounds like my ISFJ friend! The irony is she jumps from one relationship to the next in short order after spending years alone like a young grandma. She said she can’t get a guy to stick around because she needed to be born in the 1800s. I try to explain that her life likely would have been much worse back then. She thinks I’m dark, but I am better at seeing people’s true intentions. I will say she’s better at getting over injustices than I am.

[@misschocoholic2126]

Omg same. Me as an INFJ living with my ISFJ mom.

[@19katsandcounting]

Periwinkleeyes70 yuk! She was threatened or jealous of you.

[@light5634]

@Periwinkleeyes70 Well, I guess ISTJs are similar, don't know. I know things only about the few types I'm surrounded with. Still haven't had the time to delve deeper into all of the types.

[@light5634]

@@19katsandcounting Yeah, I realized that at some point although t make no sense in my head. She's acting normal and then snaaaap and something happens and...

[@bluishquiron]

The last thing you said "we wanna help people in the intuitive world" just felt extremely right as an infj, it just represents deeply what I've been going after my whole life, it is just- wtf, I'll never forget this.

[@TheCozzie99]

More MBTI vids please. I love the dating and job interview ones. I'm an ISFJ

[@GabrielleKnighton]

Same here!!! I stumbled upon some of his videos a few days ago and now I'm hooked! I love MBTI!

[@silentcookie7261]

Thank you so much for this comparison video! I'm mostly sure I'm an ISFJ, but watching your Personality Sketches I could relate to the INFJ Type sooo often, too. So that was a little bit confusing, especially since, as you said, in the comments the INFJ type was often compared to INFP or INTJ, but I basically never read something about ISFJ, wich made the impression that they're totally different and I'm just really weird to relate to INFJ as an ISFJ so much. You pointing out the similarities of the two types in this video really makes me feel better, like it's actually not _that_ weird to feel that way...

[@snugglebug5274]

Yay, finally. My hubs is ISFJ, so I’m double-y interested in this topic. He runs the IT infrastructure of a big corporation, and people love him. I, on the other hand, have had close to 40 jobs, and I finally found a do-able one working as a lab technician. I always wondered what the frick I was gonna do with this personality type when it comes to careers, but I think I wouldn’t have learned how to recover from complex PTSD if it weren’t for my insatiable interest in abstract areas of study like, Ethics, Philosophy, Religion and Spirituality. Presently, I’m looking into Day Trading so that I can become wealthy enough to do something monkish. 🤠

[@marianbergroth8228]

Relate so much to this, both in the changing of jobs and in being able to recover from cPTSD due to the extreeeeme self studying and in planning for (continuing a) monkish life. Also with a partner though :)

[@elypelowski5670]

You have a solid grasp of both these types as I think of all my relationships of the two types. Pretty spot on with your explanation of similarities and differences.

[@enaidr]

According to your explanation I can safely say that I'm still in the INFJ club. Thanks for the clarification. And you look very nice in red :)

[@lynnmiklik5092]

Hey Frank! Thank you for your video! I'm an INFJ from Germany with a mommy-issue! 😬 When I was younger, we understood each other so well and were very close, but now any interaction leads to conflicts and frustration. For a long time I thought that she was an INFJ, too, and that all our fights derived from our similarities, but recently I discovered that she is actually ISFJ. Watching your video helped me so much unterstanding why we are so similar on one hand and have such trouble communicating on the other hand and get frustrated with each other. I'm speechless! Thank you! You helped me unlock a new level of understanding for my relationship with my mother!

[@janemerrick2936]

Hi FJ! Thanks for making this video. I find myself grappling with whether I am INFJ, INFP, or ISFJ. I've been trying to get into inferior and shadow functions as I'm learning to work through my dx social anxiety and dx ocd and become cognitively healthier. The problem is, I see that I can catastrophize things when stressed (inf Ne), refrain from engaging in the physical world (i.e. have a hard time eating when stressed, inf Se), and also I will kick into high gear with organizing and turning toward science videos/factual videos when having panic attacks (inf Te). Please forgive me if I have distorted these functions, but I'm just torn between various functions. I would say I make decisions based on my values because I want to help people (Fi), yet I can feel what others are feeling instantaneously such as when someone is crying or someone is happy (Fe), then that's how I will feel. If you'd be able to help out with this, that would be awesome, if not no worries, I understand ^__^ '

[@FrankJames]

Hi Holly, I would say that yes, your interpretation of the functions is a little off. My go-to is DaveSuperPowers for learning about typology!

[@EmilyLouiseSpangler]

This was so helpful! I now understand the difference between my INFJ sister and my ISFJ personality.

[@jennifergrove2368]

Can you do one on MBTI types and trauma making them seem different? (If that's a real thing.)

[@chocoboasylum]

Good one! Like growing up it wasn't safe for me to express feelings so even though the test tends to tell me I'm INFJ I present more as an INTJ. There's probably more examples like that.

[@cocoplatinumpink2663]

Jennifer Grove are you still in that crazy ENTP group?

[@titanking5956]

@@cocoplatinumpink2663 im curious. Whats that? 😁

[@hirsch4155]

Well I’m ESTP with trauma and I grew up with an ISFJ dad and just repressed my true self just to seem “responsible”. It almost destroyed my life.

[@lowellmiller6663]

That was really good. You're good at simplifying complicated information and delivering it in a logical and organized format. I'm a fellow infj trying to make sure that is my true type and this helps confirm that. Thank you 👍

[@SoniaJbrt]

I am INFJ and my wonderful husband is ISFJ 🌹🌹

[@captainnemo9736]

I took the test several times in different years and get either ISFJ or INFJ. Didn't know there are videos about their differences, wow. Thank you!

[@fredericpownall8512]

He'd make a great teetotaler bartender telling people about themselves. He's gotta get out of that room !

[@camilamoraes6648]

That's the most accurate representation of the INFJ paradox I've ever seen: Wanna connect with people but don't really wanna leave my house.

[@leticiaargolocastro2679]

that’s 100% me and my twin sister. we’re ISFJ and INFJ. loved it!! 💖

[@kita3256]

"I'm more confused than ever, I don't know what type I am." I took another test yesterday, turned out ISFJ. But I am certain I am INFJ 🤔

[@miavida5057]

Same.

[@rania9177]

same..

[@hildcit]

Ever considered the fact that tests are unreliable, and you have to look into the functions yourself in order to actually know what you're talking about?

[@Lindamorena]

Get to understand the cognitive functions of both types and it will become more clear.

[@karinagriggs7677]

I'm an ISFJ married to an INFJ. You've just described all the reasons why we, sometimes, get our wires crossed and can't understand each other. Lol. I also now understand how we can be totally on the same brain wave one minute and then completely at odds the next. Thanks!

[@nadiachocano1361]

Your beard is fierce 🔥 & this was fantastic 😁

[@FrankJames]

well thanks

[@koshironekoya8812]

Thank you for this vid! It's not often to see ISFJ vs INFJ comparison. I'm not a native speaker so I am still confused about what type I am 😖