INFJ Ni-Ti Loop -- What Is It? How to Get Out Of It!

▶️The INFJ and the Ni-Ti Processing Loop... what it is, what it isn't, and how to get unstuck.
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[@safia_og_1.0]

I just love listening to INFJs talking because it feels funny to hear my own thoughts being said out loud by someone else, while I think that I am a weirdo.

[@MadoSteino]

Just like me reading your comment 😂 and others reading my reply 😂😂😂

[@ch-17vevo55]

@@MadoSteino and me reading your reply, and someone reading this one, and so on, and so on, there’s no ending, no rest, a constant cycle of discovery and infinite possibilities..... sorry I got lost in thought for a second there

[@MadoSteino]

@@ch-17vevo55 no prob 😂 it's very fun 😂 and interesting

[@ConvenientlyShapedUsername]

Yeah, we’re all in this together fellow wizards!

[@ivankawnartist]

@@MadoSteino I'm still struggling to find my place, or, my role in all of this. I simply hope I'm good enough. 😑

[@tati2660]

Can you do a video on INFJ toxicity? I'm an INFJ and feel like I'm becoming toxic and self-centred because of all overthinking. Like you said, I'm always by myself, processing things, and kind of ignoring everyone else and their problems.

[@matthew3774]

Get a job or volunteering which is focused around catering for other peoples needs

[@rachelk4805]

Have you considered that maybe you are burned out? It has been a very rough year. I think I am a pretty empathetic person, but we all only have so much patience and empathy to give and I find that when I have been through a lot of stress/negative feelings, I have nothing to give to anyone else. If your resources are completely depleted, you NEED to just take care of you. There is no shame in that. You are not toxic just because you can't be a ray of freaking sunshine for everyone else all the time, and you have every right to take care of you first. You also matter.

[@ConvenientlyShapedUsername]

Thank god I’m not alone in that. You’re not dead right? Maybe I’ll be okay too lmao

[@tati2660]

@@rachelk4805 Thank you for your kind words. Yeah, it's a burnout for sure, and just coming in terms with it makes it kinda better, making time to figure it out also helps a lot, just like you said! Thank you, thank you for caring and taking time to write it in words that I needed. Hope you're taking care of yourself too and staying safe!

[@tati2660]

@@ConvenientlyShapedUsername noo, I'm not dead :) And you will be ok too, and we're not toxic. Time passed, and I don't think that exhaustion and a need to retreat and healthily isolate are signs of toxicity anymore. Sometimes you need to listen to only your thoughts and needs, and it's ok. And you're for sure not alone in that, please take care of yourself and stay safe

[@fiorellalescano]

Talking about my emotions is so hard. I need to find the right person to talk to. Not everyone is there for you in those moments. It's disappointing when you are there for them, but when you need help, they disappear. :/

[@hylh04]

I would say that I don't tell others about my worries because I don't want to worry them, but I don't exactly want to keep it to myself either, so I talk to walls...

[@heathermcdougall2399]

@@hylh04 I talk to myself.

[@hylh04]

@@heathermcdougall2399 I talk to essentially everything except for others haha

[@astridtheearthling]

That problem runs through my head all the time :/

[@katarina1416]

@@hylh04 i almost never tell people what's going on when it's bad. I guess there are few reasons. And if i do tell them, it's usually after it's over and i'm like yeah this happened. But my way of letting some things out, or better said, calming myself is by drawing, angry drawing if needed, loud music, running, running is good! Or writing things down in this one book for thoughts that i have, did you try that?... What i understand is that you seem to need the company of others more than i do. And these are my solitary ways, but they can be a good option :) Also, what i'm kind of saying is that i have no idea how we can get people to be there with us... me, i'm just used to going trough things alone and frankly that's always been my way, but it has also drawn me to loneliness, and what i learned just recently is that it doesn't have to be that difficult to say to somebody, even in a basic situation, like taking a walk: i'm going to take a walk, you can join me if you want to... you know, to put yourself out there... if you already have some people that are close to you, or anybody that you know or don't know that seems to be open to listen, try with Hey, i'm going trough something right now, can you tell me what you think about it, it'd be nice to hear another perspective... and this is also true... and i see now that by saying it this way you are kind of lifting the weight off the subject, because you are asking them for an opinion and not for an actual support, but one can come with the other

[@bierrollerful]

2020 is one big Ni-Ti loop. And it only seems to get loopier.

[@TaunellE]

Yeah...

[@WARPAINTandUnicorns]

Sadly I've been in this Ni-Ti Loop for years about my failure of a career so going into this lockdown with basically no options as an "essential work" (which I'm really not.. I work in FAST FOOD for GOD SAKES and I'm also at HIGH Risk with Covid symptoms being type-1 Diabetic if I catch it). I'm trying to just work and not think as they pile on more shifts as people keep quitting!!! I literally can't do anything right now as I NEED money to live and for expensive medication so my trapped feeling is only gotten worse as I literally have no options now. Thank you 2020 for making a bad situation worse.

[@nospecialmeaning2]

loopier... >_

[@aldajoao474]

@@WARPAINTandUnicorns I'm sorry to hear that. Hope everything works well for you.

[@sorrychangedmyusername3594]

Fruit löops yim yum

[@dreamyotter6982]

INFP making a phone call: God I hope they don't answer.

[@christinemccoy4471]

G G Your the best

[@mlandry491]

Haahaha.. ace! I just let it ring sometimes. My brain says if it's dreadfully important, they will call back... why?? Lol i dont know, man. But its a thing

[@rheanasmith9011]

@@mlandry491 same if someone calls me randomly i mentally prepare myself and let it ring for a bit, calm myself, then wait for them to call back except for my family i love it when they call me every once in a while

[@violetchadwell]

Basically Ixxx making phone calls

[@Ra_Es]

happened to me (infp) a few minutes ago. But they answered :(

[@joyhuebert1219]

Looping looping looping obsessing obsessing worrying worrrying thinking thinking SCREAM

[@aldajoao474]

This explains a lot actually! As an INFJ I always wondered how could I be so emotional and racional at the same time. I'm really sensitive to feelings and emotions (altough I don't feel comfortable expressing them to others), but I have this need of logic and objectiveness in life. While studying I always needed to understand the logic of things or else I couldn't memorize them. It's really interesting to understand how the perception of paterns and symbols, when allied to that need of logic, can boost your awareness of what surrounds us. Eventually I ended dedicating myself to a field which combines perfectly the both core strenghts of an INFJ : Architecture. It's the perfect discipline for people who want to create something emotionally meaningful yet concret and objective. Thanks for clearing that out!

[@FFLMrSamstar]

Holy shit you explained it so well and I am studying architecture too

[@catzbestfriend]

The exact reason why I almost failed algebra but aced physics

[@asmitharamesh1766]

Been waiting for this! Still it took me a lot of time to shut my mind off and actually focus on what you're saying. 😂

[@AmanyAhmed210]

Same here 🙆‍♀️

[@TaunellE]

Same here. He's right. But...that's not why it hurt.

[@bananabreadloaf]

I have to restart videos on KZbin all the time because I’ll find halfway through I haven’t been listening because I’m too busy thinking about something.

[@marymclove7153]

Same

[@illsam]

I swear to God I was just thinking about this before I saw it on the comments lol...

[@lizl1407]

I am ENFP with an INFJ partner. These videos are SO HELPFUL for me to understand him better. He is very good at understanding me but I'm not so great always at understanding him. I see him stuck in "the loop" from the outside, but I have no idea what's going on in his head or what he's stuck on. It can be very frustrating because until he pulls himself out of it, he won't say anything at all. So I find that I just have to wait (sometimes for days) until he's ready to talk about it. Which is easier than it would be for others, because as ENFP I can distract myself pretty well! I'm glad to hear that spontaneity is good for INFJs, that's definitely something I can bring to the relationship 😂 I would love to see similar videos about my type or other types, the way you explain things really makes sense!

[@Ra_Es]

I am INFP with INFJ partner. INFJs don't look complicated, but they are (We INFP also). They don't let you notice, if something is wrong. They do not show it. This can be a problem, because you are thinking all the time, everything is ok, but there are earthquakes inside of him. So you have to be very intuitive to see that something is wrong. You have to ask always, if you feel there is something. He wont tell it to you at that moment, but he will know that he can tell it to you and can talk if he is ready to talk about it. INFP people are very intuitive, for me it is not so difficult to see that something is wrong with him. But I think the combination with ENFP is easier for an INFJ. Because ENFPs talking about their feeling, INFPs don't do this, and waiting, that the partner will notice. If there is something wrong with my partner, sonstimes I think he never will tell the problem, but it's absolutely ok for him, when I am just asking. Because this is showing interest and that I care about his feeling. That is sometimes enough. I think because INFJs always care about other peoples problems instead of their own, they don't want to be a like a problem for you. They always find a solution for their own problem alone. They don't feel comfortable to ask other people about help. But they are happy and remember it, if somebody offers help. Good luck for you both! ( I am not native English Speaker, sorry for my mistakes here in this text, hope you get everything)

[@lizl1407]

@@Ra_Es thanks, this makes a lot of sense! I definitely let him know about my feelings, in fact I couldn't hide them even if I wanted to. I do sometimes ask him "what's wrong?" but I have to be careful not to ask him too often because it will feel invasive or controlling to him. Not sure if that is all INFJs or just my partner.

[@TaunellE]

Oh.. yikes.

[@Ra_Es]

Liz L yes, I think this is good combination with somebody who shows feeling and somebody who hides feelings. In our Situation we both do not Talk about our feelings. This is sometimes problematic. I think as a entfp you are also intuitive and sensitive enough to know where is the right time, when not for asking.

[@bananabreadloaf]

Liz L instead of asking what’s wrong you might be able to just ask how they’re feeling or what they’re thinking about. It’s a more neutral question. I’m an infj so I’m hoping I can provide some insight. I somehow always shut down when my partner asks what is wrong, my mind just says “No Nothing is Wrong! Don’t let him think anything is wrong or you’ll bring him down and then things will be even worse!” But if you just ask how an infj is feeling or what’s on their mind it’s more subtle and doesn’t always ring our alarm bells. We just have an alarm to avoid anything that disturbs the peace between us and other people. We value having control over the outside situation (how other people feel in relation to us) more than how we feel sometimes. I’ll put myself last to keep things peaceful. I hope this helps

[@bbsizzlegirl54]

As an INFJ I have learned that the best Fe Se things I can do for my Ni-Ti loop are: -Take my husband or best friend prisoner and make them listen to me talk about the spaghetti in my head til I feel better. Tell them not to try and fix it. -Throw the kids in the car and /spontaneously /go to Barnes and Noble or out for junk food. Or just to buy myself a little something. -Gardening. I have a huge garden where I am growing 60+ varieties of plants. Any time during the day I need a mental reset (I’m a stay at home mom, which is particularly exhausting for an INFJ-it forces me to use my Fe and Se ALL the time) I walk out to my garden. That is my ongoing, real world, sensory project that literally grounds me. -Give myself permission to put the heavy stuff down for a few days and enjoy videos like this and other encouraging, non-confrontational material to which I am not compelled to assign meaning. :)

[@Gio-sx7kt]

I can almost 100% relate to this, but maybe a baby version of it, just need more plants and family members to hold hostage for mental spaghett and food escapes. Lol

[@boojamay]

"I have a huge garden...that literally grounds me" 🤣🤣🤣💀💀🤣🤣 I am dying! It was a total perfect pun and/or play on words in my head (I might be the only one who's brain took it there)....this inspired my brain to go down my rabbit hole and I now have a string of brilliant playing in the dirt connections jumping from one to the next....thank you, I love it when that happens...😁...... Oh look cheese! (Scratches head..how did I get from playing in the dirt to cheese🤔🤔🤔).......

[@bananabreadloaf]

boojamay I always go to thinking about cheese 🧀

[@boojamay]

@@bananabreadloaf 🤣🤣....yum..cheese..the best food

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

The very best thing an INFJ can ever have is a spouse or life partner that will just simply listen to them. My wife is ISFJ so she doesn't suffer from the same mental jumble I have but its her nature to want to support me and she has learned that every now and then I just have to sit in front of her and let it all out. She will repeat much of what I say back to me to demonstrate empathy and then we just move on. I love her so much!!!!!

[@itscloudstrife]

i don't live on earth damn.

[@TaunellE]

Same here, friend.

[@bananabreadloaf]

You’re welcome to come to earth, can’t make it much worse than the people already here are. But if you come here you’ll probably end up Needing the counseling! : p

[@nargess8521]

Same

[@oxymedic777]

feels like our mind is a transponder or a place that receives signals and transmits that into our senses, so we can feel what other humans feel and sense. lol, not to sound hella like an alien but that’s my perception of it.

[@SirChocula]

Whenever I realize I'm in an Ni-Ti loop, I immediately stop the train of thought. I won't come back to the topic later until I have external information (Fe, Se) that can feed my Ni/Ti for correct analysis. Otherwise, the loop goes on forever.

[@12klaasD14]

How do you do that, i get stuck where i cant stop thinking about the subject untill its solved

[@liliheaity]

Oh crap I didn't thought of this before. No really no sarcasm I get in those loops pretty often but I just...got ok with it I think. Like "ok it's 4:00AM and I can't find the meaning of my life to wake up tomorrow, even to go to sleep, or to do what I'm supposed to do tomorrow. But I think that's enough I still need to wake up and I'm gonna be tired just cause I couldn't stop thinking, let's go to bed now or I'm gonna be super angry at me later." xD So I guess being practical helps me a lot. I also listen to music like "Let me get me" by Selena Gomez, musics like that really are a slap in the face and a "hey YOU ! Yes, YOU ! You're not gonna be defeated by yourself, huh ? Do you ? I hope not ! Uh ? You're not gonna ? Ok then ! Stop thinking press the "resume game" button of your life !" It helps me think like I'm gonna think when I'm not in those loops anymore. Oh and eating is really helpful too. Cause food is good.

[@ConvenientlyShapedUsername]

”Am I going to go mad and die? I’ll go outside to smell the flowers and ask them first.”

[@Zuperbuuworks]

I've been stuck in this loop for years with my writing; stories that should be written, edited and published within maybe 2 years have taken me 6. I feel like I am slowly pulling myself out of it by reaching out to others for opinions and help. I imagine the perfectionism can really make the Ni-Ti loop insanely difficult too, or at least it felt like it did with me.

[@heathermcdougall2399]

The Infj has the capacity to be truly great writers. The perfectionism is best stared at the very beginning with the carefully crafted structure, of what you will write/fill in, in detail, from beginning to end. This helps keep you moving and you already have your end goal in sight. I've done national newspaper articles and had to keep to a maximum of 700 words, It's a great discipline to keep your chapters under control.Then that achievement we seek, actually happens.

[@Kyrunasu]

I was about to post the same thing! I've been writing on the same thing since 2014. I'm still nowhere because I get stuck in the Ni-Ti loop and a need to attribute meaning to everything - on top of the rest having to be perfect, too. Talking to my husband or a friend gets me out of thanks to Fe, but the loop soon comes back because I become too hung up on the opinions of others. Se activation like walks help with writer's block, but here too only for a short while before doubt and perfectionism kick in and I'm back to overanalyzing and what not.

[@niqueroberson8389]

100% there with you...

[@RaZziaN1]

You can't be stuck for years in this loop, that's impossible from definition. You might need to revisit typing. Sometimes it is not loop, check your mental health and take care of yourself.

[@demonaptly8727]

wow didn't expect a comment like this, but I have been stuck at the beginning for so long trying to find a way to make the first chapter have meaning and a lot of detail to it.

[@hollyp.8849]

Exercising? Spontaneity? 🥴 I’ll try it Frank, but I’m gonna complain the whole time!

[@aswineditz4276]

I am a 16 year old teenager. I grown up by seeing conflicts in my home. And it made me a cold infj. I am in a ni-ti loop. I am trying to improve myself. Now my responsibility is to recover from this loop and Be a good infj. This 2020 gave me lot of benefits. I improved a lot. But still this loop is a big obstacle. It makes me to procastinate.

[@sufisuf1975]

hi how are you doing now?i'm going through the same thing.i had a lot of conflicts in the house and also was friend with a very cold intp and i slowly became very cold and strict like 'facts don't care about your feelings' type

[@Sina-cg9oo]

I've gone through the same thing what worked for me is trying to reconnect with my family cause unconsciously i hated them (an esfj and an estj so it wasn't hard to do) it's important to be aware that you're not alone in this world. It was my dad who i started talking to after 6 years that made me realize that (entj). it's gonna take long but after actually living for a bit (talking with some friends even just sending memes, exercising, going on walks and observing people and schools opening up) you'll start to heal. I advice light hearted comedy shows to pass your time with.

[@misterspongeward7814]

I'm not an INFJ, but I have a horrible loop of Fi-Si in INFP where I'll get emotional over past things and long for the good ol' days again. It's kinda weird.

[@AudeSeyntMartinTheINFJlawyer]

Actually many patterns dot only apply to INFJ

[@mlandry491]

I am an infp that is definitely si heavy. I use my ne, yes. But I wonder Is it a loop if each function shines it's own light? Idk.. But I dont hate it . I"m a writer and perfectionist, myself. ( perfectionism does suck, I grant you. But it forces a high level of excellence, so l let it use me ill knowing the end product will be ace.) Using the si as much or together with, if not more than my ne, just puts more tools in the tool box imho.. I live wholeheartedly with/in my imagination. We are friend and foe. But when my boots are required on the ground, and not in the clouds, I need the boundaries/grounding that the si provides for me. I find it adds weight, levity, a certain credibility that I didnt always embrace. I like a good ne si cocktail. I will say this tho, if I ignore my ne, I can become ocd level compulsive. That does truly exhaust. Its the balance that works.

[@shellshocked5765]

Yeah, I hate when I get stuck in the Fi-Si Loop. It can feel like hell. Keeping myself busy and meditating really help me manage it. When I'm alone for too long I fall deeper into the rabbit hole.

[@Deliquescentinsight]

Nostalgia is a widespread condition, I don't think any of the 'I' band personality types are immune from this.

[@FreyMayBeHere]

Bruh I don't even know what would be happening to me😅

[@Kasia_Luna]

Holy crap, I don't know what's happening today but it's like KZbin is psychic and knows exactly what videos I need to watch. I'm an INFJ, and over the last few days I've fallen into this deep rut that it's hard to get out of. It happens mostly in the middle of the night, and I end up not being able to sleep until morning (6-7am). It's been terrible! Basically what happens is I start over-analyzing all of my choices and stressing about the things that I'm doing. It's a perpetual circle, because I realize I'm worrying about things I shouldn't be worrying about and then that makes me worry more. lol I begin to fear how my mind will process actual problems when right now it's suffocating over things that aren't that important. I fill myself with self-doubt and then get mad at myself for it. It's really silly but it honestly feels crippling.

[@NeziesStories]

Fellow INFJ here too and you just spoke my mind. Literally I’m so drained from overthinking that I’m making bad choices that I’m going to regret. Then I’m being too doubtful and critical about myself and it’s just so EXHAUSTING!! It’s fortunate and unfortunate that we’re not alone tackling these same kinds of problems. Sending you virtual hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@bananabreadloaf]

I’ve been in the same place. Also falling asleep at 6/7am and then sleeping in short naps throughout the day because nobody cares that I haven’t slept yet, it’s “daytime” and people expect you to live on their sunny schedule no matter what. I’d like to recommend Wenzes, it’s an infj channel by a lady, and she has a ton of videos on infj problems and how to deal with them, in all areas of life . I find it to almost be like a life handbook for infj’s, it’s obviously not perfect because she’s just a human but I found it really useful nonetheless.

[@avnigarg2505]

Exactly!! I understand. I’ve been trying to get out of this loop, but I always come back to it. I end up staying up all night thinking about my decisions, even the little ones and regretting them. I also tend to think a lot about the future so it’s really not helpful that I’m thinking about both the past and the future. It’s not healthy for me, but it’s so hard to get out of that loop

[@eamaxdxw]

YES. Cause sometimes the fear itself is about how the duck my mind is going to react to stuff since it’s hella ducked up you know. I’m scared of me and my mind cause it never shuts up and I’m scared that it will make me worry until I am scared for real. See what I’m talking about?

[@kimmietalks9632]

Imagine over thinking and being a mother and a wife everyone suffers coz of my insecurities and lack of self belief and motivation... I honestly need some INFJ friends

[@pianolover84]

"Try to be spontaneous." I love this and totally relate!! I have to plan my spontaneity! Thanks for sharing this helpful info about the Ni Ti loop. - a fellow INFJ

[@JanineKlingele]

YES! I am an *Plany-Plan-Planner"& I always Plan to be Sontaneous. I keep extra clothed and shoes in the car trunk... For Example : "You never know when game of touch football might spring up."

[@gracified4671]

The exercising thing is so true! It obviously won't miraculously solve your problems, but it takes your focus away from them. Engaging Se is SO important for your mental and emotional health, which sucks because it seems like we never EVER even notice that we need to worry about things involving Se. I've found that painting, gardening, cooking, and yes, exercising, just make me overall feel amazing in comparison to when I don't do them. It is extremely important, and honestly I believe it's one of the key things that help make INFJs feel happier in life.

[@alanamontero4743]

Having ENXP friends helps with engaging spontaneity. I mean, sometimes they might drag you screaming and you're thinking "What is this madness?!" but you're there and over time it grows you. Plus, you have experiences that you wouldn't otherwise have.

[@justdecaffeinated]

it makes so much sense... i haven't left the house for 9 weeks now because of the pandemic and for some reason, my instinctual response is to find more people to just talk to to remind myself the outside world still exists. I guess I really should pick back up on working out too though. There's also my violin... Hm. ...I'm still not gonna be spontaneous though. Gross.

[@Sabrina-ed2lt]

Founding out my personality type (INFJ) made me feel so understood and not alone. It's fun to know that we partially share our mindsets and a relief (at least for me) that I'm not a weirdo or just out of my mind. Thanks for your videos, after quarantine and a loop period I hope this one gave me some sort of recipe for not getting back into loop so often. Greetings from Italy 😊

[@stormcrown96]

I agree completely with you, the best way to get out of the Ni-Ti loop is to force yourself to go in the outside world, to interact with people and to get new information (so you can feed your Ni with it and improve it in that way). We need to keep in mind that all this Ni-Ti stuff is only in our mind, it's not reality! I know it's hard to get out of the perfect and idealistic abstract world in our mind, but this is not real and we have no advantage of beeing stuck there! It's much more satisfying to learn and improve our abilities and to use them in the real world! Greetings from Italy🇮🇹

[@AudeSeyntMartinTheINFJlawyer]

Taking action over and over again is what got me out of the loop

[@LittleMew133]

@@AudeSeyntMartinTheINFJlawyer can you specify on the type of actions? I'm in a loop, and I do take actions like producing work research reports, but it's not helping.

[@joyhuebert1219]

Trying to control the universe through ideas and analysis

[@katarina1416]

Mission impossible

[@anyaistired7060]

Surrender to the universe sis

[@saudadeanguish3139]

The functions are not going away just because you want them to lol

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

Control issues seem to underlie so many problems with so many people.

[@jamiemcgee6104]

Relatable 😀

[@YSFmemories]

Every time I try to find a friend, i wonder how and if we're compatible to become BFF forever or my soulmate.. and then i start doubting myself, whether I'm good enough, and I put too much pressure on myself (and maybe the other person as well) to make this all work out... Sigh. Things are so tough.

[@sofilicious2754]

I feel EXACTLY the same about exercising. 🙈😄 Social distancing made me workout a lot and now I'm addicted. 💪

[@judtihheek]

Same!

[@fredka2412]

So you can get addicted to that?! :D I also felt the same way, so I'm trying to exercise regularly. I hope I'll get addicted, it would be so much easier than convincing my lazy butt to move everyday :P

[@medhud609]

I still lazy :(

[@mariek.474]

Since I don't have to commute to work since two months I take the extra time to exercise, take walks outside etc etc... it has been so helpful with handling all the stress 👏

[@cheshtasagar8498]

This video really felt like therapy. Thank you so much. Getting into typology has totally changed my life because it has filled in a major part of the large puzzle I am always trying to build in my mind as an INFJ. Could you do a generic video on cognitive functions and what are the dominant, auxiliary and inferior functions for different types? I keep reading about it online but I think the way you talk would help me remember it better.

[@saudadeanguish3139]

As an INFJ, this video kinda hurt my feelings for some reason lol

[@cheshtasagar8498]

@@saudadeanguish3139 Oh! Why is that so?

[@TaunellE]

@@saudadeanguish3139 Me too. And it wasn't about the loop. I know about all that. It feels... not real?

[@ladyinthenorth501]

Infj s: exist Frank James: be more extroverted sensing (~￣³￣)~

[@saudadeanguish3139]

Me: confused

[@P_Shii]

Stumbled upon your channel by a whim and it's really helped me as an INFJ, I've been more motivated in doing stuff like learning about myself and being more open when talking to people, whether online or in person. The first video of yours I saw (how MBTI types react to stuff I'm not sure which, I binge watched them), I laughed, related and felt understood by your other videos. I'm early this time and I hope you can see this. Thank you,FJ ♡! Luv from a 🇯🇵🇵🇭

[@AudeSeyntMartinTheINFJlawyer]

As INFJ we also forget to connect with ourself and when we do everything becomes easier. You need to first understand your self to be understood by others

[@P_Shii]

@@AudeSeyntMartinTheINFJlawyer Thank you for the advice, ever since quarantine I've been developing (dk if that's the word) skills in arts actually, I've always been focused on my academics and that really stressed me out this past years. And I'm glad and pleasant surprised to have found some creative outlets, learning about myself too. Again, thank you ♡!

[@Levelonesucks]

"don't look for forever friends, just look for people to hang out with for a bit" ..... why haven't I thought of that before. lol jeez.

[@Maracifer]

it really helped me with my relationships ngl. A friend opened my eyes once saying "Yeah sure people fall out of touch with each other all the time, for various reasons it's just how it is, but it's important to cherish those relations while they last and not feel like its the end of the world when they end. Worst case scenario you'll be left with good memories" Also that's why I stopped calling people "friends" - in my native language "przyjaciel" indicates much more stronger connection than word "friend" does in english. So I just sort of call people "znajomi" - our form of "acquaintances" and that's good enough for me.

[@hasgoodles7807]

I also consider very simple interactions to be quite fulfilling as an INFJ. I moved from Seattle, a very reserved city, to Brooklyn for 5 years, and I could so easily engage in such a variety of brief, but rich exchanges with people in a way I never could in Seattle. People were so interesting there, I was never bored because simply observing them was so entertaining, and any brief interaction with a stranger was always memorable. New Yorkers do this, so naturally.

[@link_team3855]

...I, truely, H A T E that idea. probably half the reason i can fit to being an INFJ lul

[@lovelyweather8794]

Spontaneity is a real challenge for me. I know it makes zero sense but, I literally have a day singled out to practice being spontaneous. The reason being, I have to be mentally prepared to be "spontaneous". I know it is ridiculous but I guess for me this is the only way to get there one step at a time😅

[@SeagoingJet]

Frank: Stay Cool... Me: yeah i can do that Frank: And Attractive Me: ... well i can try XD

[@nerdzel185]

You came in with this in the right time. I've been thinking about living in the moment for a WHILE now. And I've started implementing it too😳 I really am done with overthinking things that doesn't help at all anymore with things that are upsetting

[@heyitsimme2335]

Ekhert Tolle book NOW is a good reference for this! You can find it read out loud by him on KZbin as the full audiobook! Look for the one with his voice and the chimes (not the robot). :)

[@vsatonthebeat4101]

Yeah living in the Moment is great but when you arent anymore in the Moment it fucks your head. Really hard to handle

[@mikamikamikamik]

My Ni-Ti loops get the worst when I get angry but I suppress the anger cause I don't want to cause disharmony and then I get angry at the person even more cause I can't tell them? So I kind of just isolate myself for a time until I calmed down again cause else I'm scared I might snap at someone.. But yeah it's good to do things, I started working out daily and started learning guitar some months ago!

[@nadiarimbing1642]

Exactly, it is all about me in my head, about all my bubley talk and all the self accusations of myself from myself that I shouldn't over share to people and exhaust myself but then I want to help and listen....but then I am drained but then no.....yes...it is all about me in my head.... with my brain who is a big glutton for people's stories/emotions, and I just can being grumpy to myself that I cannot stand myself but then it is what it is

[@MrTrickster5]

Spontaneous? Ugh i hate that word :(

[@loref4200]

Ah yes, the paralyzing Ni-Ti loop. What can this look like? Imagine I am speaking to a friend. My friend suddenly appears upset. I catch this before they do. In my head I am zoning out and going inside my mind, intuiting their emotions/thoughts through the lens of Ni and Fe (I notice she/he seems upset. I feel that they are upset). Then, I analyze their words/behavior through Ti, looking for patterns/inconsistencies/etc. I ask the 'what if' questions (internally), and analyze the possibilities of why the friend could be upset (did I say something that upset her/him? is there something in their life that is upsetting them? what could be the reason?). I continue to utilize Ni to give me the information that they are upset, try to relate to it through Fe, and analyze it through Ti. The issue is, if I am not staying present in the conversation, I may miss where the friend mentions why they are upset. I may completely overlook it because of Se inferior and being in the dreaded Ni-Ti loop inside my mind. However, if I force myself to actually be present and verify by asking my friend why they are upset, asking them why their body language changed, asking them if there is something I missed (admitting that I am not an all powerful, all knowing, Ni user), then I force myself to be present and stop the loop. Ni-Ti loop with Se inferior is painful. It takes a lot of energy to pull yourself out of it, and to be present. Verifying, checking to see if we have all of the information, before we make an assumption or begin the process of worrying, is the only way to combat this on a daily basis. We get into a lot of trouble when we assume that our Ni is always correct.

[@christinekaye6393]

I need time to be spontaneous. But as to breaking the loop, I broke the Ni-Ti political situation loop I was in by telling myself--a few times--"You have all the information. You've found what it all means. There's nothing more to add, so stop looking for more." It worked pretty quickly and I felt such relief. It's been about 3 weeks and I have no desire to mull over the situation. Now I find myself saying, "It is what it is." BTW--I was able to do this because of what I've learned from your videos on how we INFJ's think. Thanks, FJ!

[@dianana7371]

Thank you, I also tend to overthink the same political problems again and again and it makes me so depressed. I will try to tell myself this from now on.

[@sopaesapos]

just want to say that because of this video I've learned a new word in English

[@frugalfrugal1307]

I totally get the "Pebble in the shoe" analogy. Can you IMAGINE walking around with that first huge rock in your shoe? At least now it's a little pebble, and a smooth one, even if you can't ever get rid of it. The rock-tumbler is a totally awesome analogy for our minds and souls! We are constantly working, all of the time, to make things as safe as possible. 👍

[@maaiker2977]

Hey thanks this explains a lot. I get into ni-ti loop trying to write an essay....my brain goes in overdrive (I literally gave myself a migraine for days) yet like 10% of my brain is actually working on the essay...90% is just freaking out that I might miss something. I drive myself completely crazy. I couldn't do my essay and couldn't make the loop stop....untill I turned on KZbin to watch a video....out of my head and listening to something else...just sensing for a bit to calm down. And weirdly enough, if I than ask myself "what would by teacher want to see in this essay?".... I can type that sucker up in seconds......its a no brainer. Ni-ti gives me a freak out panicking I might forget something trying to remember ALL the important stuff...Fe chill and clear headed simply thinking of the relevant things. Its like day and night. I simply need to approach this through my Fe.

[@tracyalip3779]

INFJ. This is great. I get SO stuck processing. I call it “paralysis of analysis.” Thanks for the reminders of how to flip the flow. 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@bluelemintt]

Spending time with a pet more often has been a good way for me to get out of that Ni-Ti loop & is more quarantine friendly. Like maybe instead of trying to assign meaning to everything, I can just like, play fetch with my dog more and practice being really present with him. Thank you for this video! Very relevant for me, haha! 🐶💜

[@AliSalicia]

Good idea

[@kristastar2065]

Me: “what day is it? Friday ok” me: 10 mins later “what day is it? Friday ok” me: 20 mins later “what da....Friday get it together Nessa” lol days like that take awhile to get anything done. That seems to be my self asked question to try and get me out of my head, sometimes it works sometimes I ask that question out loud 10 times in a day. People are scary, and dealing with thinking about having to be around people sends me into a spiral of how horrible the encounter is going to be. Luckily I have a husband who works with me and stands behind me as emotional support and slightly keeps pushing me into those encounters. The encounters are never even slightly as bad as I make them out to be but knowing that doesn’t stop the spiral from swirling around me and dragging me down the next time around.

[@infinity7647]

I have to admit that exercise really helps. It helps to improve my mood and I feel better about myself

[@misce_]

Thanks FJ. As an INFJ, I feel like using our Fe and Se can be really useful when we are feeling bad or something. Like, when I feel bad about something I usually DON'T wanna talk about it and absolutely figure it out by myself but I just can't sometimes, so in those times I think we can actually consider, at the very least, talking to someone we trust. Also doing exercise. Yes, this is good. When I'm unealthy I'm usually thinking "exercise is meaningless" but if I end up actually doing sports or something then I feel sooo much better. So yeah that's my insight, good luck to all the Infjs out there. Don't get too stuck in your head fam, usually when I feel down I'm like "everything is meaningless --> especially Fe and Se using" but it's a wrong induction. Just gotta reconnect with our Fe and Se sometimes.

[@retrogradepink]

ohhh, a group of people i engage with just for, like, fun? like i don't really have to care about them or care if they really care about me? i can just use them for my own benefit?!?! i'm kidding, but... honestly, i don't think i've ever truly let myself believe that this is like a thing that's OK to do. i'm not a group-joiner, but i've always wanted to be.

[@iuryfranca8793]

"Don't look for a friend, just look for people to hang around and be social" Oh, I see a lil bit of an ESTP in you (and I like it)

[@Darren-yg2bd]

The patterns…. That’s what has me stuck. Every time I try to go out of my comfort zone…. People do the same things. I just don’t think I can deal with people anymore. Every time I try to get out… I end up sinking back in the loop further. This video is so spot on! You explain it all more than any therapist.

[@mariafilar3077]

Being more spontaneous amidst a global pandemic: step off, sir 😆

[@TaunellE]

Lmao, right. I'm not going to drink the kool-aid.

[@gel2234]

Ive unconsciously been in this Ni-Ti loop for almost 4 years now, building up as the years go by and me thinking that "its making me a better and well-built person". Oh how I was so wrong. I REALLY appreciate these videos that you make tho! It really helps. Ive only recently gotten into mbti for a few months now and recently found out im an INFJ(A shadowed one too at that). So im a little knew to everything but I still want to improve and be better. life is short and I dont wanna spend almost half or all my life or even at the start of my life being broken or lost. So might as well try my best to get the best out of it! Im still like, 13 so im really hoping I can fix myself after this.. Thank you again!

[@CristiRenaeVaughan]

Was totally stuck in the Ni-Ti loop right before watching this. Haha thank youuuuu

[@lindsayjeanchannel]

This video couldn't have come at a better time! Myself, and I'm sure quite a few other INFJs, are in a Ni-Ti loop right now just based off of what is going on right now in the world. I actually decided to take a test during this time and for the first time in my life I got INTJ (I took the same test months ago and got INFJ). Being off from work and being stuck at home has really messed with me and I haven't been utilizing Fe and Se as much because of it. I think right now more than ever we need to try and put in the effort to use Fe and Se in whatever ways are available to us. The examples you gave in this video are great. Thanks FJ.

[@Caffrey987]

1BetterHelp: What type of counceling are you looking for? "Individual" 1BetterHelp: What is your gender? "Male" 1BetterHelp: What is your age? "33" 1BetterHelp: What is your orientation? "Asexual" 1BetterHelp: Would you like to be matched with a LGBT specialist counselor? "Yes" 1BetterHelp: What are your pronouns? ...what fresh hell is this... "Him/he" 1BetterHelp: What is your relationship status: "Single" 1BetterHelp: Do you consider yourself spiritual? ...Weird no religious option... "No"..."Yes"... lets check other options 2Betterhelp: What type of counceling are you looking for? "Individual" 2BetterHelp: What is your gender? "Male" 2BetterHelp: What is your age? "33" 2BetterHelp: What is your orientation? "Straight" I am Omni-romantic so its good enough haha! they skipped the LGBT question. 2BetterHelp: What is your relationship status: "Single" 2BetterHelp: Do you consider yourself to be religious? ... *unsubscribed* ... as an INFJ I went in-depth to see all the different options. and lets just say, no thank you.

[@StingrayMk1]

Hi Frank and others. Does extroverted sensing, in this context, include talking with and touching physically with an intimate partner? I'm sure the answer is "yes", however I suspect that it may have to be MORE out in the world than that. Thoughts?

[@veronicagardiner2085]

"Be spontaneous." You say... Yeah, I do *planned* spontaneity... I think of something I'd like to do that feels spontaneous, then think about it some more, then some more until it's planned out... It might take a day or two, but to me, it's spontaneous lol.

[@elizabethacosta-rayos6061]

Can you do a video on the Ti-Ni loop for ISTP? Whenever I get depressed physical activity really helps, but SE is higher on my function stack. I know I get stuck on a Ti-Ni loop from time to time, but when I finally see reality (SE) I quickly get out of it. For me I feel the cure for my Ti-Ni loop to “SE”.

[@benjames648]

This is EXACTLY where I am at right now! I have never been so connected to a video before. I cant wait to get out and do stuff again to stop the inner dialogue of descriptive meanings about what everything means and how everything is patterned against me, which is just in my mind, thankyou Frank ❤👍

[@HollyFrances19]

Thank you Frank for promoting mental health care and crisis supports. I am a mental health therapist and I appreciate the awareness you have provided regarding the need in our world for support during these challenging times.

[@kitsune.stitch]

INFP here. This actually has helped me understand my two modes of cooking. Recently heard a friend call cooking, "chaos art" and I oscillate between wanting to follow recipes to the letter (always stressful / triggers overplanning), and improvising recipes I'm comfortable with (more relaxing / allows me to be more "present" in the kitchen and engage with what's actually in front of me rather than comparing to a perfect recipe).

[@Odani_Fam]

I have not learned the balance between acceptance and working toward change. I think sometimes we see things as they really are (and they can be really bad), and instead of acknowledging the reality so that we can then start changing what we can, we deny it, perhaps because we feel there is nothing we can do. We need to tell ourselves that we can always do SOMETHING.

[@lukec6897]

Lmao these comments - I don't think I've ever cringed so hard.

[@user-kd2ez2mb3c]

Your comment is underrated

[@karituffin9415]

Hi Frank! Your videos have really inspired me, of course, I'm an ENFJ! Please can you do a video on the difference between infj and enfj & (hopefully) infj and enfj dating? It would be super helpful :D Thank you for all the wisdom you have shared with the world. Everyone should watch your videos. Kindly, Kari

[@osheen9219]

So I grew up being a nerdy introvert stuck in my Ni-Ti loop throughout my teen years but started using my Fe more and more which eventually made me over indulge in bad behaviours. I created a new kind of suffering with Fe-Se 🙃 Now dialing back on that has sucked me back into the worst kind of depression I have ever experienced. Ni-Ti again :/ Tell me how to find balance!

[@Ado_Remi]

OH MY JESUS I just found ur channel today and realized that I am an INFJ, and I was like, I must tell my brother who is an INFJ. And even though I just binge watched a bunch of ur videos I didn't remember what ur name was haha, and then I saw it and thought, hmmm, wonder if it's a punny alias, and then I looked up the meaning of James and it's supplanter or underminer. Sneaky sneaky. I love aliases too. ty for explaining my mind to me. i feel frankly undermined. sorry that now you have attracted all of these people like this to ur channel to analyze you. u really took one for the team. literally first helpful person on the internet. 🙌🏼

[@mappsanchez]

You gave a lot of great advice! I especially like the one about just hanging out with people, instead of requiring deep connections all the time. 😊

[@cancelthis3891]

Oh my god..... Is this why I keep flip-flopping between INFJ and INTJ?! This would make so much sense...

[@heffthehecked]

i hate talking about my feelings with people. i only do it if it's good feelings. if they're bad feelings, they're extremely intense, and confusing. i feel like if i ever spoke about my feelings i would become annoying. i always know i can figure my emotions out on my own too, so i hate talking about them like it'll ever solve anything. it could, but it feels embarrassing? i become really intense to be around when i feel in these horrible ways. so i just ask myself what do i tolerate, what do i expect, and then after allowing myself to remember what i value, i feel so much better and wonder what i ever worried about in the first place. i dislike so much when i have those moments, because i know i'll get over it, and i much prefer just not feeling things that aren't true.

[@annepaulinetiu4036]

How come others type Frank James as other types when here he is a clear INFJ. Lol. Also I realize that INFJs are so cold and monotone when alone.

[@EmiliaLevante]

Honestly, a year ago I had some pretty bad rumors spread about me by a toxic ex bff. It caused me to withdraw COMPLETELY. I did not hang out for like half a year. I am still in that phase but the last thing i wanted to do was get out and have fun. I am finally feeling the need to socialize now that school has started again, and i feel much happier. However, i do still have a lingering feeling of apathy.

[@wingwaves940]

Very good FJ! And you're right. I think I'm feeling guilty for using this whole distance thing as an excuse for not getting together with my friends :( And I miss them! Better Help is a good call 👍

[@CantWaaait]

Greetings from your friendly neighborhood Fi-Ni loop over at ISFP! AKA what I like to call "What If..." paralysis. You're drowning in thoughts of different worst-case scenarios that give you such a sense of impending doom, that you're 100% sure they will happen to you. But 99% of the time they never happen, of course. You try to tell yourself "It''s only my imagination", Kevin McAllister-in-Home Alone-style. But in that moment, it's like the loop is brand-spanking-new. When it's all over you're exhausted, just like in all the other types' loops. Wouldn't it be great if all the loops were connected so we could try to pull each other out? Someone throw me a rope! 😆

[@ellan1664]

It’s funny how we all have our own types of loops we could get caught in. Before learned about functions, I always thought people who get stuck in loops of thinking “what if” for bad scenarios were just being ridiculous and needed to snap out of it, since I had never personally dealt with that. But now I know I do actually have my own version of a loop too, just happens in a different way. If I ever start accidentally trying to solve a problem like “what is the meaning of life” then I most definitely will get a bad Ni-Ti loop and have an existential crisis where I lose all connection to reality and my mind just can’t move on

[@mantecada5660]

So that makes sense. I... think I'm an INFJ, and since I was like really, really young I had this loop that didn't give me the chance to know what's going on. Even sometime I was making a science work with a friend, and she explained everything like really simple and I wanted to know the behind of all of thi, but she just told like "cause that's what happens in life", and I was really stressed out. That kind of issues added with the fact I had social problems and was kind of verbally bullied didn't help. Since I started noticing I had trouble with it, I started to try to repress my Ni-Ti, like, when I started to think about meanings, I just tried to stop them, but didn't work. Now I'm trying to manage the loop in a healthy way

[@vanessaclaire999]

You just told us how to make friends and I think I needed to hear that🤣🤷‍♀️

[@MauraLaine]

This is so interesting because I was aware I do this, I knew I had to force myself to be around others to get out of the cycle, but I didn’t know it was an INFJ thing and actually a known problem. That’s super cool, thanks for the video!! Very helpful

[@rhinoculousaurus]

This one gets a gold star. Needed to hear this. Actually this understanding is what I was searching for. Thanks for the examples. Apperication for the videos

[@ZenDiva333]

Thank you, I needed that reminder - we don't need to find "forever friends" in every situation, be open to different kinds of connections without attaching to specific outcomes.

[@josegarza3532]

I’ve found that just going out in the world and interacting with other people can only serve as a temporary distraction to the Ni-Ti loop. You’re in a loop because there is a problem and it won’t stop til you find a solution. Talking about it with other people helps but it needs to be people you trust and feel understood by else you really won’t be opening up about the problem and start to resent bringing it up and now having them aware of what’s going on in your head. So you confront the loop head-on until you find a solution or change in mentality.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Problem comes up when you're an INFJ who doesn't have any emotional bonds to people, and no one understands you, so you just get stuck in the Ni-Ti Loop all alone.

[@silva-schattensang]

Thank you so much! Especially for stating that the Ni-Ti-thing is the main way we process and not just a negative phenomena when we get stuck in the loop. To only hear about the negative aspects is something that really confused me. I really enjoy seeing some more of you "serious" videos these days, though I like the comedy too. 🙃

[@behemoth6sic6]

Careful Dysfunctional Ones the Loop de loop usually ends in, HULK SMASH! Puny god.

[@behemoth6sic6]

How are you all doing today? = Probing for who's going to make life harder lol

[@TaunellE]

Lol, coming from a person named "Must Kill" I'm going to take you seriously. 😋

[@pamelatify]

This was so helpful. I get stuck in this loop over work stuff such that I can’t get started on anything. I keep thinking and pondering how to do a project or what methods to use, etc, I just go round and round and I never start. And then when I do get started I get hung up on a detail and get lost on some other tangent. It’s really been a problem. It’s like I can’t get started until everything is right in my mind, but nothing ever is The only thing that helps is cleaning my office and organizing all my stuff. But still, it’s a problem. I will try some of your ES advice.

[@youtubeaccount-yr6hb]

Working on that Se is so important cause we can get impulsive and destructive if push comes to shove. I like meditation, sitting with a glass of something or in front of a fan breeze lol, petting animals, decorating, painting, flowers, looking at pretty stuff, coordinating outfits, cooking. I think I've developed this function over the years to a healthier point. Even better is if you pair Ti and Se to learn an immersive hobby.

[@Magical_Beats]

12:47 Oh man does always have to be exercising😂💔

[@sollinw]

Can u talk about the weakness with MBTI test, if theres any.

[@kikivon3501]

He is so right about getting around people. I’m a 52 year old who only just now found out that I’m an INFJ. I finally figured out years ago that the more I stay home the more I want to stay home and then I get stuck with my gerbil wheel thoughts. Put a time limit on that alone time. For me no more than 2 days.

[@figs449]

Every time you uploaded its exactly what's going on! I was thinking about being stuck in this loop last night! It's pretty dreadful sometimes and this really helped me understand!

[@InsideTheMindOfAnInfj]

Good video and so helpful for our type. Yes exercise too is so good at keeping you grounded in the sensory world while also making you feel mentally, emotionally and physically awesome! I really need to get back into it when I have the time.

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Totally agree!

[@InsideTheMindOfAnInfj]

@@JonasAnandaKristiansson 😊

[@CantWaaait]

Same girl, same!

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

@@InsideTheMindOfAnInfj I hope you are having an amazing day my friend!

[@bananabreadloaf]

Thank you! I have been stuck in an Ni-Ti loop because of some issues I haven’t solved, letters about debt and done nothing about my information being stolen when I know it will be bad to leave it unsolved for this long. I’m kind of falling apart because the unsolved problems are a huge source of anxiety. I’m trying to get on some schedule (give myself not a deadline, but rather enforce time Not to think about it so I can actually Do something instead of just thinking and procrastinating) I am going to try and work on one issue at a time. But this video helps me with the more abstract part of the loop I’m in, because I really do need to work on my extroverted functions to get out of this loop, as well as managing the issues I’m trying to solve. I go like a whole year just thinking about something and putting it off when it should take a week to actually Do it. I have noticed that being out in nature has always been relaxing for me if I resist being sucked into thought while outside. Experiencing SE is like a surreal and intense feeling for me when i focus on it enough to use it. It’s like I’m suddenly experiencing all the things that were always there but with new eyes as If seeing it for the first time. It’s almost like an intoxication, a strange feeling, using my inferior Se because I’m so unused to experiencing it.

[@ethanscofield1013]

I think the reason your videos are so popular with INFJs is because we are the ones that are spending the most time trying to understand and find meaning about life in general. Im just trying to understand more about myself which is difficult having introverted thinking as the weaker trait

[@blindsoul7915]

Anybody know which loop has a taste for conspiracy theories?

[@Kevin-md8go]

Hey Frank, I enjoyed your discussion. It's nice to see your serious side in the midst of all the 16-Type skits (Fe). My experience is a little different than yours when it comes to the Ni-Ti loop. I can get stuck in over-thinking because my Ti fails to recognize that my Ni was never intended to conform to the pure logic of Ti. The best that Ti can accomplish is to place a rough logic on Ni that tends to make it more manageable or functional in everyday life, but of course logic can never fully describe or understand intuition, and so that's where I can get mistakenly stuck in over-thinking things. For me, the solution is to trust my Ni (even though I'll never rationally understand it), and to remember that Ti in the INFJ stack serves the primary role or expediency or pragmatism. I've found that self-doubt results from trying to go too far with Ti, and that I can never be who I most am as an INFJ if I don't trust my dominant function of Ni. You gave the example of just being in the moment via meditation. To me, this is very helpful for the INFJ in particular because we can simultaneously tap into both the deeply transcendent (Ni) and the very immanent (Se) at the same time. The Ti can add to this experience while outside of meditation because it can provide a supportive logic for the practice...even though it will never be adequate. Once again, I get myself in trouble if I stop trusting the wisdom of my dominant function, and begin to overthink it with Ti. Ti is tertiary within the INFJ stack for a reason, i.e., it serves a more limited role in the whole of who we are as INFJ's. Hopefully some of this was interesting or helpful. Peace. :)

[@AK-0111]

Thanks Frank. You said the things I was finding difficult to untangle. Like always, this came really at the time needed. It's not common for Indians to check with therapists to discuss their issues. Thanks for everything. 😇

[@Sara-gb3cc]

It would be really helpful if u gave some examples of real situations while explaining introverted functions. Anyway amazing video!

[@heathermcdougall2399]

You know those parties with loud music and loads of people? INFJ's and other serious introverts hide either in the laundry/utility room or escape to the garden.

[@Sara-gb3cc]

@@heathermcdougall2399 I'm one of those people😂 but I'm still learning about my INFJ cognitive functions

[@Julia-LArt]

heather mcdougall or don’t go at all!

[@jiji_w273]

anyone thought they were an INTP bc of this loop thingy? i do lol until one day i realized that its making me suffer so much that i had to do something about it.

[@ThePriestess1949]

Me too... I took one test 3 times and it said INFP but after taking over 5 separate other tests I am INFJ! Finally finding out who I am after 71 years of searching!🙏❤️🙏💥

[@mariomu5ic]

The act of searching this video was itself an example of me perpetuating this loop, analyzing and formulating. Of course the content is also very helpful in breaking it.

[@bread5414]

Ikr..

[@beekind14]

Call someone? Yeah freakin' right.

[@SpacedTrooper]

Wow, i was about to comment walking in nature and connecting with people as a way to deal with depressive feelings, so much recognition in the other things you bring up and clear insights, thanks

[@erinsjourney315]

This video is gold. There were additional factors but the being caught in the loop of over processing over thinking my fear contributed to the end of my relationship. It didn’t help that it was with an INTJ. I didn’t understand the type at the time. That he would never articulate emotions so I was constantly churning about what he felt.

[@alisonpetersen3933]

I needed this advice! I call the NiTi loop “the fog” and I can’t get out of it. I hope these strategies help! Thanks!