Frasier's edge - Tewksbury scene

[@MScorpioM]

"I'm sorry caller. I can't help you." That line almost made me cry. Simply heart wrenching. Didn't appreciate this scene when I was younger, but watching today after so many years made me realize the depth of it. Frasier, in that moment, suddenly realized that hes unable to deal with people's emotions, and has been running away from consequences by putting the onus on the other person. That is the reason he has been unable to establish any meaninful relationship in his life. Brilliantly acted by Kelsey Grammar. Frasier was truly gem of a sitcom. They don't make shows like this anymore.

[@jedimaster250]

Scene did make me cry, because such a line is my greatest fear. That I'm beyond help.

[@janetlowden5960]

Living_Legend no one is beyond help. Life is fluid. Just when we think nothing could happen to make us excited, it does happen. We were wrong. Love comes along. Someone needs us. We see that others are worse off and we help. There is always the next stage of life. The surprise.

[@barbarak2836]

@@janetlowden5960 It is five months after you wrote that to someone else, but I needed to hear that today. Thank you, Janet!

[@saintnick7252]

It's the line before that makes my eyes water. The distressed outcry of "because it's all I have!!" from a man we've seen for years exude almost too much confidence, almost breaking him on the evening he's supposed to be cherishing and appreciating his life's work... This is easily one of, if not my absolute, favorite scene from this show.

[@porridge57]

Absolutely true. Frasier is, of course, primarily a comedy. And a brilliantly written one. But occasionally, it dived deep into poignant philosophical and psychological truths. And when it did, boy did it ever strike deep.

[@cr2370]

Just because you understand the problem doesn't mean you're immune to it. Hard lesson to learn.

[@georgeheaton]

C R so so true

[@dying101666]

that hit hard.

[@therizinosaurus214]

the hardest person to heal, is thyself.

[@williamhorton5569]

😂bb

[@HocusPocusAlimagocus]

Rest in peace René Auberjonois, he was such a wonderful actor he will be missed...

[@artygunnar]

Odo!

[@DBAllen]

He will always be Clayton Endicott to me.

[@seikibrian8641]

@@DBAllen He'll always be Father Mulcahy in 'M*A*S*H' to me.

[@thiagodeandrade7081]

Was he? Cool!

[@marsneedstowels]

@@seikibrian8641 Damn you think of the movie over the show, that's a first i've ever seen.

[@fleurelise997]

"Because that's all I have." Doesn't matter how many times I hear this line, it hits hard. One the best scenes acted by two of TV"s greatest, Kelsey and Rene.

[@keversley]

Reminds me of the painter on Escape from Alcatraz

[@jordanchen23]

Indeed. The delivery was just so.. Cathartic.

[@kickanwaa]

Hits me so hard....everytime I see this. Especially "it's all I have". Feel like me.

[@ursaminor9780]

My mom got me hooked on this show as a kid, but I was initially drawn to the physical humor (most of which, unsurprisingly, involved Niles). So this scene just kind of bored and confused me at first. But years later, coming back to it, this might be one of my favorite scene sleep of the show. Especially that last line. “I’m sorry, caller. I can’t help you.” It took me years to realize the poetic symbolism of this. I always thought it was Frasier talking to himself, meaning he couldn’t help his own problems. It made me confused and a little sad. But now I realize that was Frasier the impressive psychiatrist, virtually his entire identity, speaking to Frasier the human, his basic emotions (the subject he’s supposed to best handle). He’s realized that he needs to bring more into his life than accomplishing breakthrough after breakthrough, patient after patient. He needs to build close, intimate, fulfilling relationships in order to truly be happy, not just excel in an impressive yet finite career. I truly did not appreciate this show enough as a kid.

[@Reuben_95]

Very well put

[@TheTruthKiwi]

For a black bear that is a marvel and disney fan you sure understood the nuances of that scene. Very well put sir.

[@wanderingsouls2302]

Well said, and it makes me wonder how amazing it would be to know his Professor who had learned this lesson long before his conversation with Frasier and tried to indirectly teach it to Frasier.

[@FudgeYeahLinusLAN]

I think Frasier indeed realized he needed close, intimate, and fulfilling relationships in this episode, but he seem to have forgotten all about it in later episodes. Or at least he's still in the bargaining stage, trying to cling to his perfectionism. This is from season 8. Frasier spent the last four episodes of the season involved with Lana 'Legs' Lynley instead of Claire French. Sure, might have been an intimate relationship with lana, but close and fulfilling it wasn't :) He also tried his luck in two parallel universes with Monica and speed dating pirate gurrrl Judy (both went nowhere), he tries to finagle money out of foundation trustee Penelope Janvier by using his dad as a beard, and he's unable to come to terms with Dr Tewksbury sleeping with Roz. He does resign from the whine club though this season, I guess that's something, nothing but shallow relationships there :) This scene from Frasier's edge is probably one of the best in the whole series, but I'm glad this is a sit com and not a drama, and that all this heavy stuff is mostly forgotten, at least until the two-parter Don Juan in Hell in season 9 where he again confronts his demons... cough... I mean ex-wives.

[@Constitution1789]

A+

[@starwolf99]

When Tewksbury first tells Frasier that he's stalling, you can hear a random audience member briefly chuckle as if this is part of a joke. Within seconds, it is no longer a joke.

[@gerishcolesc5374]

Cleansing

[@brianlane723]

This show was not afraid to become a drama when necessary.

[@Yesica1993]

Brilliant scene. In a matter of seconds this show can go from having you laughing out loud to cutting you to the heart.

[@cs512tr]

and without the cheesy gag at the end. it was never afraid to hang on a high or *low* note, and i have so much respect for shows like that

[@emanandchill]

@@cs512tr deep.

[@bobo42024]

There was so funny part in this. Or the whole series to be honest...

[@markorollo.]

There was a show in the UK. Only fools and horses, basically the UK's all time favourite comedy, to most of us anyway, that show could do that, go from the funniest comedy to tragedy in seconds, then back again. It was a comedy but in the middle of all that you got a miscarriage, death of a family member, the actor actually did die. it's on KZbin, check it out

[@rickspa8348]

The pause between “I feel” and “empty” is so well acted and probably reflects feelings from Kelseys own personal life struggles.

[@Heart2HeartBooks]

I think it reflects feeling from all of our own personal life struggles. That scene wasn't for Kelsy, it was for us.

[@youmustcreateachanne]

Or [pause] he's a brilliant actor.

[@jordanchen23]

@@Heart2HeartBooks They did say that all art is self portraiture. I mean what other reference do we really have?

[@jordanchen23]

The objectivity = distance thing was such a brilliant observation.

[@erikagilchrist4761]

Hands down, my favorite scene in the entire show. So insightful. The IMMEDIATE shift in Frasier's demeanor when he switched chairs is so distinctive. You can clearly see the "Elite" version of him vs. the more vulnerable and hurt version of himself. He clearly feels safe dispensing advice to unknown patients than diving into his own pool of unresolve. As Dr. Tewksbury said, "Deal with the feelings..."

[@mikekurtz6978]

Ya, my favorite episode of one of my very favorite series. As a clinical psychologist I’ve actually recommended this episode to a few supervisees.

[@Victoria-bh2ht]

"Glib, albeit insightful radio pundit"

[@Sirppivasara]

Such a powerful scene. Pretty much any phrase is noteworthy. For me it was "because it's all I have". It's because it took me so long to empathize with him. Deal with the feelings. He couldn't. He avoided himself. He hated himself.

[@papadop]

When you can laugh one moment, and cry the next, a show has some pretty talented writers, and actors.

[@michelel.egerton6369]

RIP Rene Auberjonois They both did this scene so exquisitely pensive, it quickens your spirit and soul

[@moeskido]

Goodbye Mr. Auberjonois. Thank you for your decades of great work.

[@ajaxlewis7664]

Never thought i'd see such a recent comment!

[@OnceAroundTheRide]

I think that was definitely one of the best ever scenes on Frasier. The tension and intensity between them trying to resolve this, awesome.

[@scotty6858]

Frasier was able to pull off dramatic moments surprisingly quite often. This was one of the best ones.

[@MotoCrazy66]

That which is as good as the script in this scene, is the space between the words. It's like a well crafted piece of music, the space is pretty much as important as the notes themselves. I'm not much of a Frasier fan but this scene really is extremely good, and very well acted. Facial expressions, hand and eye movement, posture, mood, etc, etc. It's all there.

[@618033988749]

Are you a fan of Aaron Sorkin?

[@mranster]

That little lip quiver right before he says, "I feel empty." Sublime.

[@kennethjohnson7579]

Yes. Yes.🤙

[@ardizd]

THE best scene in the ENTIRE 12 year run of the show...simply superb, brilliantly acted and definitely leaves one wondering of how to deal with the ego. I sincerely miss that show....

[@troyg3831]

Well you are in luck 6 years later because they just announced a reboot with Kelsy grammar

[@jasonito23]

That scene he had with Roz when they were in Spokane was a pretty great moment too.

[@kimkimpa5150]

Frasier discussing with the imaginary versions of his three ex-wives in the log cabin is also up there among the great ones, but yeah, this scene is slightly better, definitely cuts deeper, probably because there is no resolution unlike the log cabin scene.

[@ajaxlewis7664]

I like how he knew all along what Frasier needed to realise but knew it was better for him to discover it himself. I've seen therapists, they have some sneaky but clever tactics.

[@allyhamilton5465]

Dr tewkesbury is a very clever that line when he says why do you bury him in psychiatric exercises and Frazer says that's all I have he gets to the root of the problem very quickly.

[@kimkimpa5150]

Now that's what I call a two minute McSession!

[@sertorrhenclegane]

And this a thread that will follow Fraiser for the rest of the series. That search for meaning, that search to find that something that makes the emptiness disappear. It was never resolved and that's a good thing, in my mind. That sort of feeling doesn't disappear, it just dulls over time once you find something...if you ever find it, at all.

[@sitcomchristian6886]

In all seriousness, I prescribe you the book of Ecclesiastes. Yes, it's in the Bible. But your comment...I just had to put it out there.

[@captpicard6894]

This scene encapsulates everything that was brilliant about Frasier and why it’s the best sitcom and arguably the best show ever seen on TV. Brilliant writing backed up by 2 truly superb actors at the very top of their game. Stunningly good.

[@Agent52k]

This the episode that made me realize how deep this show can be. And it also made me have a new found respect for psychiatrist.

[@burgerkalif]

So strong .. and touching .. brilliantly scripted and acted .. this is why I loved the show

[@ARKHAMxMaverick]

RIP René Auberjonois

[@gyorgyor7765]

Yep I watched this clip for the same reason. This and Odo are my favourite characters that I saw Rene play.

[@TheMustang100]

"Thank you for honouring my life. I just wish I knew what to do with the rest of it".

[@GreenGlo1991]

Loved Mr. Auberjonois as Odo in DS9. His voice is fantastic and he played one of the more interesting characters in the whole thing. Can’t believe he’s gone.

[@riversong4997]

Odo was a terrific character, and he played him so well. I always loved Odo's back-and-forths with Quark. Rest in peace, Mr. Auberjonois.

[@therizinosaurus214]

a fairly good number of people from Cheer's and Frasier have been in Star Trek, including grammer himself

[@me1735]

Most heartbreaking scene in the whole show

[@Doreai]

This really hits you a certain way. "Because that's all I have! I'm sorry caller. I can't help you." Frasier being able to help nearly everyone that calls in, yet he may never be able to help himself. Truly depressing to the core, if this realization was to ever strike someone in a similar position. If there were ever a literal example of someone's 'personal hell', it'd be this and no one deserves to suffer it.

[@EveryoneElseIsWeirdImNormal]

Since this is a therapeutic scene I require to inform you that you used "depression" in an incorrect circumstance.

[@scaper8]

@@EveryoneElseIsWeirdImNormal To be needlessly pedantic-and if a clip from _Frasier_ isn't the best place to be needlessly pedantic, then I don't know where would be- they said "depressing" not "depression." One in an emotional state, the other is a condition.

[@TheTsar1918]

This is one of the truly psychological episodes of the series. Loved it.

[@jaserogers997]

Tewksbury really is a step up from Fraiser & Niles, for quality of analysis. I wonder what kind of rates he would have charged.

[@FudgeYeahLinusLAN]

High enough rates to be able to afford a classy gal like Roz :)

[@JVMultiProds]

This is one of my favorite shows ever. The quirks of the characters, the interactions between them, the air of sophistication that it had compared to other shows of the same time period ... it all made for a great show. I understand why some people say they "don't get it," but even as a kid, I appreciated the overall tone of it. I remember watching this scene back then and feeling a deep sympathy for Frasier. It was kind of a reminder that he was still a human character in spite of all the zany antics he got himself involved in.

[@Ontoe]

One of my favorite scenes of all time.

[@EternalNyappy]

My therapist linked me this and I am.....speechless.

[@diehard71282]

Truly one of the best scenes in the whole show which actually brought me to tears. Any character self-realising this kind of void in their life and cutting through the noise on this way is just phenomenal. Great juxtaposition of emotion and humour and a great demonstration that even those who probably have more of a monopoly of understanding of the human condition and emotions than most are not themselves infallible. If anything an excess of self-awareness can often desensitize to emotion due to this kind of overacademic explanation. I'll stop now. I've had wine.

[@WilbertLek]

Whoever invented English should be shot. What the hell kinda word is "juxtaposition" anyway?!?!?!!?! OP-PO-SITE..... THAT is a word.

[@Contemplationsinnature]

Frasier was pure brilliance . Extremely intelligent and well crafted comedy , blended perfectly with a journey to the depth of humanity . Such an amazing show .

[@BJ-zd2or]

Watched this yesterday and just shows how good this show was. Felt like it was rooting with many levels. He was frustrated becouse he doesn't know what what the caller wants becouse hes empty, and it went silent when Frasier said "becouse it's all I have." I appreciate this more now then when I was younger.

[@John-DC60]

Seen this scene for the first time today. A brilliant scene

[@Kelly14UK]

Why Frasier's one of the best characters ever.

[@wwmandalore]

Arguably my favorite scene from the show. Such a powerful performance from two incredible actors.

[@Quagmagorag]

When I was a kid, I used to love Benson. Rene was brilliant at every role he did.

[@renee9434]

In the first fifteen seconds, if you listen very intently, you can hear a phone ringing in the audience. Otherwise, these are the scenes, the moments, that set Frasier apart. This is why Frasier, unlike many sitcoms, is worth watching. This is why it is the best.

[@THEDFVIDEO]

One of the greatest scenes in prime-time television.

[@AWO4me]

Brilliant and touching scene

[@MotoCrazy66]

+AWO4me Indeed, very moving.

[@TheMightsparrow]

Rene was a underrated talent. Rest in peace Odo 🙏

[@sbeaber]

He was in a few SG1 episodes, too iirc. Excellent actor.

[@elcap22]

Isn't that the guy who plays Odo in Star Trek: Deep Space Nine?

[@MedalionDS9]

Yep, that's him. Rene Auberjonois

[@MotoCrazy66]

He looked even more handsome with all that make-up.

[@asterisk911]

I knew him from Benson.

[@Empedocles449]

No, it's just Odo. There was time travel.

[@mikestabile0526]

and Chef Louis from little mermaid! Les poissons, les poissons How I love les poissons Love to chop and to serve little fish

[@Dean_dialectic]

Such a shame Rene passed away. He would have made a more effective foil in the Frasier reboot. Nicholas Lyndhurst does his best with the weak material he is given. These scenes demonstrate much stronger and believable chemistry

[@epizetousi]

Did Kelsey not win the Emmy this year? This scene alone should have won him that.

[@francismallard5892]

A wonderful example - if not a bit dramatized - of coming upon an epiphany during therapy. Very touching.

[@daniellamcgee4251]

Just when I thought Oprah had buried alive the word 'epiphany' , replacing it with the infantile phrase 'aha moment', you have breathed new life into my hope for humanity! You may not be surprised to learn that I have had appointments more dramatic than this scene. Also, fear and self defensive yelling can become loud. :-)

[@sizedtoaster0278]

Dec 8 2019. He played the Shape shifting Character Odo from deep Space 9. I remembered him. RIP. Was unaware of his passing until today, Jan 13th 2021.

[@crayoncer]

Having an ability that helps others is extremely rewarding especially if it can earn you a living. But when you allow them activities to create the same problems for you that you try to solve for others, there is often a shortage of people to turn to for your help, everyone has relied on you. This is why I try to make sure to I provide the same level of commitment to people in my personal as I do my professional, often we help the world but hurt our homes. When I feel empty, it's the personal relationships that give me a feeling of meaning and they always are there, not just for themselves. Frasier let his most important indicator of purpose be taken to a far away place to hardly ever see.

[@DanielAlejandroFuentesToro]

What a powerful scene, these to really bring it.

[@thenakedsingularity]

This scene is the most authentic and insightful one of the series.

[@Superfly9999]

Wow odo's shape shifting is on point.

[@boneykingofsomewhere]

so glad you posted this video. I love this scene, Frasier is my favourite comedy show and this scene is amazing, theres no comedy that comes close to this. Thanks

[@InMotionForAMillion]

♥️ RIP, René Auberjonois. ♥️

[@j.d.4697]

Both funny and deep. *Unmatched*

[@sandytinky]

Oh, how I miss this show!

[@ked4]

Because that's all I have!

[@maemorri]

I'm sorry, caller. I can't help you.

[@jasonito23]

In college a professor asked me if I took the two classes he taught. I said yes and he said, "Well, that's all I got."

[@david.majchrzak7069]

One of the Best. Comedy Shows, that stretched the depths of life and humor, not to be seen again.. Yet hopefully, hopefully, a one season return.!

[@xcesar4impx666]

This show was and still is a masterpiece, R.I.P mark mahony,😢

[@langdonalger9219]

albert speer do you mean John Mahoney?

[@belindamehlman1448]

The best show ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@MedalionDS9]

Frasier and Star Trek shows shot on the same studio lot, they were like within walking distance of each other... you saw quite a few Trek actors appear on Frasier

[@riversong4997]

Didn't Kelsey Grammer appear on an episode of TNG, too?

[@MedalionDS9]

@@riversong4997 Yes... he played a Captain in an episode called "Cause and Effect"

[@RJSRdg]

Perhaps he should have gone to see Troi....

[@dropkickmurphy4114]

@@RJSRdg Are you kidding? I felt she was fairly worthless as a counselor.

[@MotoCrazy66]

The caller, is you. Fine!

[@The1baddman]

Rest in Peace Mr Rene Auberjonois.

[@treavam5653]

I LOVE THIS SCENE!

[@mooncatty13]

Years of watching this show on and off and I've never watched this scene before, this was great.

[@langdonalger9219]

mooncatty13 this is great! This is great!

[@Antonicane]

Almost certainly one of the most heartwrenching scenes in the series.

[@CalChristiansen03]

i swear this show is a masterpiece

[@raulbetancourt5795]

The actor of that old man shifting between seriousness and funny is so great.

[@raymichaels5022]

I really powerful scene, I felt the same emotion from this scene that I did when the Tony Soprano described his feelings about his son AJ's bleak genetic existence. Both the late James Gandolfini and Kelsey Grammer are extremely powerful thought provoking performers.

[@skylernewsome3011]

This is awesome. Also, if anyone remembers Legacy of Kain, or Soul Reaver, the doc opposite Frasier plays Janos Audron and delivers one hell of a performance. Anyone loving story and character driven narratives should check out those games.

[@ColdPillowz]

Dreamcast game?

[@rockoperajon]

If we’re talking video games, I’ll always remember him as Mr. House from Fallout New Vegas. Amazing character!

[@frezerh]

"Im sorry, caller, i cant help you..." 💔

[@ivanwolf3]

Fanstastic writing. Brilliant acting.

[@usernamepasswordG]

RIP Odo

[@foxnewsfanify]

This is, quite simply, the deepest, most moving scene in the history of this great comedy. Brilliantly acted and written. Semper Fi.

[@TomPark1986]

what a great actor.

[@Catseye189]

Empty chair is a very powerful technique!

[@daniellamcgee4251]

Sure is! I had flash backs to the time my then new psychologist and I discovered I had different personalities. . I have done the work and am integrated now. It was a long time ago. Nonetheless, the power of the technique came to me so strongly it was difficult to watch this!

[@tomtomtomato1]

I'm not crying, you are.

[@harkejuice]

Real mood. Right here Fras, you my boi.

[@funkmike]

Pizza! We're gonna have pizza!

[@Ascertain4Yourself]

Brilliant dialogue for a television show....

[@gerishcolesc5374]

I love this clip. It hits home to Frasier Crane, its purging, such good actors. I also love Niles, Martin all of them. I can’t wait till Kelsey Grammar’s “Frasier’s Return”

[@JAntonSaad]

I am not sure why, but this got me right in the gut.

[@slowpoke96Z28]

The probing former professor. A smart man’s best friend.

[@gazzyb1079]

The best free therapy i’ve ever had

[@matthewlloyd3255]

20 years ago...that's what I needed to hear from a dr...the last line.

[@MrKaywyn]

I really wish that Dr. Tewksbury appeared more frequently.

[@jcoriha]

RIP Rene

[@glipoi6528]

Brilliant writing

[@keversley]

WHAT DOES IT ALL MEEEEAAAANNN?????!!!

[@grimgroove]

Amazing part

[@Mr.dnicholson]

Wow. From all these years of him advising others in their problems, the one problem he has he realises that all he has is physiatric mumble jumbo. Great scene, really opens your eyes on the ones who we feel are the strongest are really the most weak.

[@cactus00001]

The problem with 'sitcom television' is that for the most part the writers don't understand the field of psychiatry nor do they understand how the mind works. Comedic writers are part of the unwashed, untrained masses who tend have a distinct confirmation bias against the field, and they write from that uninformed perspective. IOW they 'know' just enough about psychiatry to disparage the field in a funny way.

[@levelwithme8535]

You’re assuming the writers have no experience in psychology, which is bold. This show doesn’t disparage psychology in any way. It shows the benefits of it very well with how many people Frasier and Niles helps thoughout the show.

[@ubuynow]

@Pat Terson Have you not read your DSM-5 Cambridge Edition? I'm sorry poster, I cannot help you...

[@meznaneTB]

I think the point of this scene is you can't always help yourself. Even a psychiatrist needs someone else's input to help them with their own issues. That's why many therapists have a therapist of their own. We are biased in our own self diagnosis because we often have blind spots when looking at ourselves or we could be in a stat of denial in order to avoid feelings and truths that make us uncomfortable.

[@handsoman99]

@Pat Terson in other words

[@DeltaStar777]

Masterpiece

[@ca1682]

Greatest psychological, intellectual dialogue ever!

[@crivket1233]

The man is a master , just ask Frasier!!! Lol!!

[@richardgreen1491]

RIP Rene!

[@Kruitvat]

Simply wow!!!

[@grantcampbell9560]

This scene is literally me in my life atm. Feel like I want to make so many people happy even if I feel I am not. Help?

[@HeatSeekingMouse]

Read Salah, open the Quran, find Islam the truth

[@marsneedstowels]

Hey, maybe talk to someone, someone like Tewkesbury.

[@pralad1]

Masterpiece of a scene here. If I was Frasier the psychologist, maybe I could've asked Frasier the caller why he was feeling empty..and then take things from there...😊🤔

[@alking7655]

Yes, and that's the thing, it is often said about doctors that they make the worst patients because they are forever trying to find the means to fix the problem from an objective viewpoint, they don't ask themselves what is causing the heart of the problem. Fraiser realises, through his mentor, that he uses intellect and "buries himself in psychiatric exercises" as a means to have some control. From a subjective viewpoint, I've always seen the "good grief" storyline (this and the scene with the other cast members where he's depressed) as the way they tried to integrate trying to help their friend (Kelsey) deal with his own pain, particularly that of his sister's death and the knowledge that, for all the awards (Emmy's, Globe's) it wasn't filling that "emptiness."

[@FullCircleStories]

He already knows why