How do men handle soul-ties?

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[@alyserhyne9336]

“The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.” -Bob Marley

[@fonda7760]

Totally agree with you!

[@grouson11]

Amen!!!

[@patriciawright7318]

Love that Qoute

[@patriciawright7318]

Quote

[@HellcatMad]

Oh,but they do

[@fiftyfiftylifestyle456]

Ladies - men are using us for their therapy. The problem is we are healers and empaths but we need to have boundaries. We need to toughen up. 💪

[@kianzasmommy11]

Bibi Lafleur THIS! Yes! Feminine presence/energy ALONE is therapeutic. And with that it is very valuable and sought after. Our feminine therapy is one of the many things we “bring to the table”. Indeed, we need to toughen up with those who mishandle/misuse our precious valuable gifts/benefits.

[@selenawilliams2219]

I Agree

[@faithandfavor7418]

Agreed!!

[@MsMGreen777]

WoW!!! Yes😔

[@akuasalaam490]

So TRUE.

[@audreycathcart3685]

Key statement “.If a man is supposed to be your husband, he would never leave you”. Ladies we are way too good for this foolishness! Stay Woke!!😎

[@daniellesullivan5]

Facts! 💯💯💯💯

[@amerokeewiya1320]

Not true. So I guess if he’s just getting treated like shit & he knows the relationship isn’t gonna work, he stays. Nope.

[@mariogomez5684]

Love each other and not one over the other.

[@b.michavery1363]

@@amerokeewiya1320 right! He better leave ! Love or not man or not he deserves to be treated with respect and value not be a prisoner in the name of love.

[@joannhamilton3546]

@@daniellesullivan5 Nothing but Facts God Bless Tribe

[@trinasworld9377]

Soul Ties I wouldn't wish on a single soul.

[@meuniversity8681]

Dont let the man in your body

[@mariogomez5684]

This might go against the thought, but soul ties is for more than a few people. It's our relationships to friends, families, yes of course men you date and the women we love. Feel free to disagree

[@royalbohemian9757]

Yes Lord

[@aquarianlotus3337]

💯

[@JesseJamesSalonBoutiqueLLC]

It’s like death.

[@cherh]

🤦🏾‍♀️ A lot of y'all will NEVER heal because y'all are so busy watching and worrying about him. Stop worrying about how the soul tie affects him. All you should take from a EX is that He didn't want you. He disrespected you, cheated on you, didn't value the relationship enough to try to work it out with you. And if a man does all that to you, that should tell you how much he likes you. He doesn't. Y'all put too much energy into an EX. Love YOURSELF the way you trying to love that man. He doesn't even want your love and he's showed you over & over again. Reevaluate your life sis. No more settling. You can't build a broken man. You can't heal him. That's not your job God is the healer. Be blessed bless tribe. 💫

[@TheeBratzDollxox]

You’re absolutely right 🙏🏾🙏🏾✨

[@anointedstilettos]

This is so real 💯

[@cherh]

@@TheeBratzDollxox 💯❤

[@cherh]

@@anointedstilettos ❤💯

[@cherh]

@@YaNa-xq4ll 💯❤

[@ProfessorNorris1]

Don't ever go back to what broke you. KEEP it MOVING. Learn and grow. Take loving yourself to another level.

[@asiapage5651]

Needed this

[@carlitadorsey7576]

@a Supernova ijjb

[@elainegomillion978]

U don't know how HARD that statement is.. 😥😥😥😥

[@chantanelsmith5656]

I wouldn’t always say that.. My mother went back to a man who broke her in many ways, but she left him rebuild herself and as she did he realized what he didn’t appreciate and chase her for 3 years. When she finally entertained him and made him prove why he was worth a second chance he jumped thru hoops to show her he was a changed man. Since then they have moved in and he has done a complete 360 and became everything he should of been the first time around. It’s possible but it’s a dime a dozen. I’ll just encourage anyone to work on themselves and if it’s meant to be, it’ll work it’s self out. No one is perfect and we all be unappreciative of something and realized what it meant once it was gone. Does that mean we are undeserving of a second chance, no. It just mean we needed reality to kick us in the ass to make us see what we really have before us. That’s what life lesson are for. We can get to comfortable with what we have. Especially when it’s again or 24/7. We won’t always get it right the first time. It’s possible.

[@bigbezzzy1231]

@@chantanelsmith5656 love this comment are they still together and how long has it been this time around

[@lynghee159]

Soul tie is deeper than emotional...it's spiritual

[@funandfacewithshanlittle5979]

Yes

[@Dajahgraves]

😩😩😩😩😩

[@MaryHudson-dt4gu]

Very true

[@sarahspeaks1384]

A key factor you mentioned is “She hasn’t been preparing herself mind, body & soul” but let me tell you when you prepare ladies & heal from prior relationships, put God first and take care of yourself without fornicating then you will be prepared in your mind, body & soul

[@kayb3327]

Thanks for the advice in this comment 🙏

[@sarahspeaks1384]

@@kayb3327 your welcome!

[@cynthiaduran436]

Consider your ways - God !

[@sarahspeaks1384]

@@cynthiaduran436 It’s a good way to go for sure!

[@LoveDutchess]

💯💞

[@candaceclark9266]

“ he doesn’t have control over his life, but he has control over your life!! 🤯🤯

[@kjhyler]

That was a whole word!

[@neriahsartandfun5752]

Fr fr!!

[@angelbasham6631]

💯

[@DP-yb7px]

Ain’t that something. I tell you...but it’s the total truth. I’m not having it though

[@candaceclark9266]

D P right they will just play you if you let them!!

[@CrystalReneeMusic]

Men handle soulties by going out creating more and more soulties for himself, within the shortest time span he can possibly create them in. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@enatihaok3594]

Isn't that sad, the joke is on him

[@christinewarren8134]

Girl!

[@browneyenrs76noel34]

Exactly! Instead of men "building" they jump from relationship to relationship.

[@mrstrueblood6937]

@@browneyenrs76noel34 exactly. I mean ..you said it all in a nut shell.

[@nofybn7794]

@@enatihaok3594 How is that?

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Men know what they are doing and know when they playing a women they just don’t care

[@RareGem369]

As women we need to stop giving in to the desires of the flesh. Practice self control, self respect and honour ourselves and what our mothers and grandmothers have taught us through out our lives! 💯💜

[@EButta71]

👏🏾🙌🏾

[@theholyspiritslove4619]

So do men

[@Bigmike83007]

@@theholyspiritslove4619 While that is true, the main task to keep purity has the woman, because she is the only who can grant "access" to her body. A man has to put much more effort to seduce a woman, while women don't have to, they just have to exist..

[@carolinekimani3696]

When a man leaves you never take him back,he does not loves you,its the truth that many of us find so hard to swallow.

[@heyyashleyyy2669]

maca kim or even does not want you for that matter if he’s willing to leave the first time

[@CaramelKissez]

The truth!!!!!!!

[@dominiquespencer6728]

True ... Never take them back. when they go ,Bec when you take them back they are worst than before

[@jessicasmith7102]

Amen.

[@vturner]

@@heyyashleyyy2669 thats true, even f*ckboys dont leave the woman they ''love''

[@bintissa5929]

"He just miss how you make him feel " derrick jaxn

[@meuniversity8681]

He miss comfort and a soft body

[@zek280]

@@meuniversity8681 facts they cuddle 🥰 bunnies 🐰

[@tk567]

True

[@lherrera2886]

Soul ties are as strong as any drug. This message along with the Bible is pure rehabilitation.

[@AmericanDreamer]

amen!!

[@sweetscent2622]

Cut him loose, cut off the benefits of being a therapist to this fool and let him sort out his relationship on his own like a real man should Tired of these type of men. Taking advantage of empathic nurturing women for their own gain smdh.

[@tammybaker4690]

You said mouthful

[@marilynking527]

Healed alone!! Praise God. It was so hard.

[@TiffanyBTV]

Marilyn King yet so worth it 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@marilynking527]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@enatihaok3594]

Best way

[@browneyenrs76noel34]

Same here! I healed alone after a 5 year toxic relationship! It was very hard to do, but so much was revealed to me during relationship that I totally ignored, but after the relationship...wow!

[@daniecephifer7089]

I’m so glad I’m healing alone after 10 years of marriage with a grown boy! I don’t want to make that mistake again🙏🏾 32 yrs young & God will send Mr. Right one day. Patience pays

[@p.thomad8156]

If your EX found love and moved on, consider it a BLESSING and remove yourself. Soulties are emotions on steroids. It's a big fight but you can win. Go in the opposite direction of what USED to be. HE'S GONE and it's OK!.💛

[@myndeewoiton2875]

🙏💙

[@Sabrina11113]

Emotions on steroids.. man that makes so much sense it seems almost impossible to fight. I can date other people, I can live my best life knowing I have him in my pocket. When he’s absent it feels like my whole world has stopped. I can’t wait till this is over

[@samathaa2696]

Thank God, I ended a eight year relationship..to be truthful we grew apart. It became more bad times than good & I believe it was soul ties on both ends that kept us together that long? I wanted to advance my life as he didn't. I had to let go, its hard bt very much needed for us both. And I'm grateful for that🙏

[@iluvhugh329]

That's a great perspective to have ❤️ thank you.

[@mmommo2025]

thanks Paula, I'm going the other way.....saw thousands of dolphins while @ the Channel Islands for a hike on my 1-year anniversary of my ex leaving after 37 years .....for some reason, I got teary-eyed to see these little creatures in such a hurry and they were so happy going so fast......................................swimming under our boat....darting in and out.....on the move.....just like me!

[@kristytrent9875]

CONFIDENCE- whether you truly have it or not is the way to get back at an ex...Living well is the best revenge! So true💫

[@elainegomillion978]

I hope that is true

[@honeywest39j95]

@@elainegomillion978 it is true

[@latashaerving5063]

I was with my children’s father from the age of 19-33 years old ( Only him), until he was killed 10 years ago! My relationship was abusive in all areas. As I begin to date I was naive! I was token advantage of mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially! When I transitioned and begin to know my worth, I HEALED alone. Praise God💃🏽

[@bsheezybdazz]

How are u now?

[@KarenDelores]

Blessings to you

[@nikkinicole1495]

I can relate. I was with my kids father/husband from 17 to 33. The relationship was very abusive! He was several years older than myself and passed away when I was 33. I’m now 37. A year ago, I begin dating again and discovered I’m naive. I’ve stepped away from the dating scene to work on myself.

[@LarennPBel]

@@nikkinicole1495 I’m glad u and the rest of us realize it and are learning from it.

[@NadiaRamirez888]

This video made me cry, angry, and laugh. Thank you for doing the Lords work!!! I’ll never be a place holder again 15 years gone!!!!

[@ProfessorNorris1]

"He comes back for the fix! He misses his placeholder. His #1 fan. His human teddy bear." " You are his punching bag. His test dummy." And then the next week discard you. nd round and round it goes when it stops is when YOU stop it.

[@makeupmypitbull]

this hit me!! i didn't understand until now.. he's had told me on many occasions that's he needs to get his " me fix" ... now i know what i need to do

[@saucywatson1320]

Big facts

[@musicmaker1311]

Just stopped it...😔

[@sofi1672]

This is very true!

[@NoNakersAllowed]

@@musicmaker1311 same, after 3 yrs of future faking. Was dealing with him for 6

[@amadeon827]

This encourages me to remain single , too many games. I’ll just stay alone after my divorce. I don’t take any man serious anymore

[@dhaniblacrose6720]

Same here

[@jennifersalinas716]

Same here

[@kimmie5626]

Time heals all wounds...I said same thing...I took a year and a season and enjoyed me...Im pretty cool...then I attracted my balance, my King...we are now engaged. Ex who?...I don't even remember the pain. This too shall pass. Enjoy you for now.

[@danielleridgeway3857]

I feel the same way. I was single for 6 years and abstinent for four. Met a guy who proposed to me and then changed his mind about me. I created more soul ties and know that it will take a miracle for me to move forward in love. Realizing that this man never loved me bc he would have never left me. I will be over the top careful next time.

[@julifunnygirl71]

It really is exhausting.

[@3D3LIA]

“TONY GASKINED HIM” 🤣🤣🤣 Tony be giving us free session on these videos. Can’t nobody ever say he do things for the money. He give gems for free !

[@tayoriginal4067]

I'm healing alone, and it's so hard. I can't just jump into something else still married, and after 7 years with who I thought was my soul mate. Yet, he's out here jumping into bed with whoever he can. This is how I know I will come out on top. Healing and getting myself back is hard but so good for me. It's devastating knowing he was not the man I thought he was. I used to hang on every word he said. We were best friends at one time, and now I don't even know who he is anymore. Lot's of praying, and therapy. I WILL get through this.

[@Jules-zn2bo]

You will love! I went through it for 19 years. God touched me and brought me through! I initiated divorce and now he's wanting to come back. Hold on my sweet sister! 😊😘

[@cynthiaduran436]

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE IN THE HEALING! GOD IS ALWAYS IN ALL WAYS WITH YOU !

[@approvedreader]

Sis, I hear everything you are saying but one of the things that keep us bonded is we tell ourselves we were good friends at on time. We dwell on what could have been. Hope deferred makes the heart sick...Truth be told you may have been a good friend to him but he was never our best friend. True best friends would never do this to us. We will begin healing much faster when we realize what we thought we had and all those dreams were smoking mirrors. It just wasn't real. It will hurt but it is will start us on the road to healing.

[@jenniperkins4260]

28 years married to my soulmate and I felt this comment.

[@tayoriginal4067]

@@clarissaharris2170 well I found out that the girl who "claimed" that she had been with him was actually a drama starting child. She wanted my husband and he was faithful. She finally admitted that she made it up. She is trash so at the time I didn't know if I believed it or not. But with no proof on her end when I asked for it, she had none and was trying so hard to cause a wedge between us. I assumed that he was cheating when he really wasn't. I know this sounds like I'm turning a blind eye but one thing I WILL NOT STAND for is cheating. He really was telling the truth. She's a drugged out drunk. Long story short, we are happily still married raising our son together. I've never had any other woman tell me he cheated. I thought if one did then there must be more but nope. She is trifling. We are doing good and it kills her lol 😆 She looks like a gorilla. I really didn't think he'd go for her if he was going to cheat. He could do way better.

[@ericabostwick4033]

One of the things that stuck out for me is the fact that when a man comes and goes he misses his placeholder! Wow! That was my ex for over 3 years until I started listening to your teachings. I thank God for learning about situationships and finally cutting it off! Now God has blessed me with a real relationship and I now notice the difference.

[@elainegomillion978]

I can't wait until I get there, a real relationship not a situationship. I'm now working on my healing, its really hard. 😰

[@danielleridgeway3857]

The thing that hurts is im too old for situationships. I'm so happy you met someone better. Praying the same for me ❤🙏🏿

[@taes.8724]

Trying to find the strength to leave a 6 yr toxic relationship with a certified Narc who was the guy I made my first bf where I was in it to be married in the long run

[@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858]

Interesting. 😡

[@flooremeagan]

This hit me like a ton of bricks I was definitely that person with my child’s father and ultimately got pregnant he left me half during my pregnancy as well and came back. Then once my child was born he left within 7 days and once my son was born I had enough I couldn’t take it any longer. But just to look at this video and knowledge given I was 25 when I met him he was 31 the self-love that I have now did not exist back then. All of this was a game but I’m just glad I was strong enough to let it go🙌🏽🥲and to this day in his eyes I’m bitter and he legit hates me. I believe the hates stem from him thinking he will always have a place in my life or I’ll be revolving door for him. But all I ever did was love him deeply.

[@esl.977]

My ex.came back after a few years and I told him boy now you're coming around because you're all washed up...smh no sir...✌

[@whoKnew1621]

Right! tell em boy bye😂

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Es L. FACTS

[@gorgeous1043]

🤣😂 so true....that way sir take your inadequacy, impotence and your self hate with you. Bye!!

[@merlinsvdd]

@@gorgeous1043 yes.

[@LeeDaCosta]

Yup, GOT TO GO!!

[@camilleandriette]

Watching this in 2021. I end up blocking a guy that was trying to pursue me because he still lived with his ex (baby mama) saying it was because of Covid and she lost her residence, didnt want her to be homeless 🙄. Yet calling me to talk and hookup. Some of these men just think women are stupid and desperate, willing to do anything just for a warm body. I’m good ✌🏽

[@bamnbamn7453]

Gurrl Where Ur Church At ?😭😭😭

[@selenadiaz2665]

He is literally describing these men as Malignant Narcissists

[@MsSugarDyme]

I thought I was the only hearing him describe Narcissistic abuse 🤔

[@Lala11699]

Lmaoooooo wowwwww

[@lavinder11]

that's how they're socialized

[@nyahbrown9804]

Noooo seriously and its even more mind-boggling that ppl aren't realizing this

[@amerokeewiya1320]

Yup

[@ProfessorNorris1]

Interesting-" A man will never let go of what he loves." Will refuse to leave... You will have to be the one to leave.

[@chimoney8161]

Especially when you're the "package"... Why would he want to let go of that... She/ I gotta go🖐

[@arielsamuels4941]

@@chimoney8161 ahahha

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

Sometimes that can be bad if he’s also not trying to marry you either. Won’t let you go but won’t progress...

[@nicolegodspower5018]

@@klickingkayasmr7585 yes ma'am now that's a Tony Question

[@briannarichardson1596]

That’s why is difficult when your stuck in a soul tie relantionship that resulted in a baby. Now you his baby momma, and bonded for life . But whose to know if he will EVER marry you ....

[@marvinwilliams2633]

From another man to another, Tony I appreciate you changing the game by helping lay out a road map for our Queens! I myself have broken hearts, knowingly and unknowingly, nevertheless pain doesn't differentiate. Most cases because of my own insecurities I blead on women and they bandage me up! However, We hurt to, and in some cases we (men) are just as lost as you women are! In my case trauma, abandonment, and feeling less than a man has caused a major part in me hurting women! I really want you women to trust Tony, listen to me it will save you so much heartache! I was one of those guys he's speaking of, and from an psychological, emotional, and physical standpoint he's dialed in and are giving you truths! Again, thanks Tony!

[@TonyGaskins]

Thanks a lot brother!!

[@chantelcaldwell598]

Nice to hear that another man agrees with and supports sharing this unique male perspective knowledge. I’ve been praying for perspective; within a week, several pieces of the perspective puzzle have been provided. Though I wish I had heard this stuff years ago, I realize that God’s timing is always perfect and that I surely would have missed the lessons I need to hear in these videos. What I am coming to realize is that the things I love about myself the most, that I refuse to let any bad experience or person take from me, are often exploited by the men I choose. I continue to be grateful for all the “blessings in disguise” (aka unanswered prayers) because those endings were always going to be inevitable. In the midst of a globally pandemic, civil unrest, and a looney presidential election-I am more at pace than I’ve ever been. 🙂🙂🙂🙂❤️❤️❤️❤️🙂🙂🙂🙂 Thank you!!! As God works to refine me, and as I learn to trust Him more and more, I’m learning what REAL love and faithfulness looks and feels like-while at the same time realizing more than ever how a man applies his faith in his love and his relationship with Jesus will ultimately determine whether or not he will be capable of loving me the way I know God intended me to be loved. Anyhow, I’m binging on this “man knowledge” and find the comments can sometimes push my thinking or reiterate points I didn’t yet write in my notebook.

[@mejustbeingme1207]

Thank you Marvin. You are very kind and I hope all is well in your life.

[@mejustbeingme1207]

@@TonyGaskins thank you for everything. I am so greatful for brothers like you. I will be lost in this game but you and others like yourselves are helping us find our way. A lot of insecure and hateful males hate brothers like you but may God bless real men for helping us women. We love you brothers. Our real "black men" that's doing the work of restoration

[@GG-cl9ww]

Thank you. Hearing from a man prospective.

[@bgossett31]

My ex did apologize to me after 2 and half years after the break up it took that long for me to agree to see him and it gave me a since of release to finally be able to truly let it go and forgive him. No i wasn't crazy, i wasn't "tripping" and he asked me "How did you know?" Meaning how did i know every single time he was lying, cheating etc. He covered up his tracks well but i just told him "I could feel it" it just reinforced the power of my intuition trust your gut ladies. The feeling alone should always be enough it will save you years of wasted time. 5 years later he still acts like he wants me back but so much damage has been done. It's a shame. Because i truly loved him

[@yolandasmith6810]

Suffering only last so long but a sense of healing last a lifetime

[@MsDlo85]

Yolanda Smith thank you for saying that; I needed to hear your words 😊

[@vangoghsotherear4114]

That’s power. When you love someone sooo much but you stay away cuz you’ve learned better. I want that power back but struggling right now.

[@bgossett31]

@@vangoghsotherear4114 you'll get there. Just stay away.

[@ThePossumone]

Yes 100% maybe we can’t play poker but God gave us intuition

[@fayes9184]

Some men don’t understand that when they create a soul tie, it hurts someone & to the point you can never trust him with anyone because he created one while still chasing you. The difficult part is he constantly chasing so who knows what other soul ties he’s created. So finally you let him have the soul ties & decided to walk this life alone rather than deal with him at all...

[@anointedstilettos]

It is soooo much easier to heal alone.

[@anointedstilettos]

@@tiffanydiggs7625 Hey Honey 👋🏽.

[@TiffanyBTV]

Best thing i ever did. Two years alone and I’ve never been this peaceful in my life......but Lorddddtttt It’s time for a husband na honey lol

[@anointedstilettos]

@@TiffanyBTV I'll agree with you on that he's coming 🙏🏽❤.

[@enatihaok3594]

It makes you "tough"

[@anointedstilettos]

@@enatihaok3594 Most definitely

[@ProfessorNorris1]

"His ego is hurting, if left by you. Sense of rejection. "

[@ladonnatrapani3873]

But yet he still texted me acting as if he was a victim. I don't have time for Bullshit!

[@danielleridgeway3857]

Wow! Men are something else. I would never put anyone that I loved through that. I dont want to be with anyone who wants someone else. She can have him.

[@YahToldMe]

YEP!!!

[@mommywynne749]

As much as I don't want to believe that I was just an overused "bandaid"....its the Truth and it hurts so bad.

[@SamaC713]

♥️💜

[@OpulentAristocrat]

Same here sis🕊

[@Beautifullybyg]

I learned alot! So basically I won't be talking to any more men giving away free counseling sessions! 🤣

[@gloriousjohnson1807]

Just keep your senses & legs intact & crossed.

[@lyciadaniels2457]

Can't believe I put up with this man unhealthy Soul tie but I'm going through healing process so much better

[@xervia3032]

lycia Daniels I’m happy for you! So many of us are not fully equipped to pick a healthy relationship...hopefully, we all will continue to love ourselves and heal. I know that the work is NOT easy but it’s extremely necessary. I wish you well.🌻

[@daniellesullivan5]

My ex and I definitely have a soul tie, but I’m slowly but surely ending it so that my potential husband can find ME 💪🏾 Thank you got the informative videos 🙌🏾❤️

[@trinasworld9377]

Souls Ties are like a circle of chaos, it's so destructive toxic and definately a killer stay away.

[@maerose5053]

Going back is almost always a bad idea

[@CaramelKissez]

Mae Rose you ain’t lying!!!!

[@enatihaok3594]

Good point

[@drucillafoster174]

You are so right

[@shiquettawilliams2955]

Absolutely the truth

[@lakisha1235]

Always a bad idea......love, hurt, unlove.....repeat.

[@daniellemiller9457]

I know a lot of SITUATIONSHIPS ended after this video was viewed ... 😳

[@chanteljubilee982]

Facts

[@acaciajohnson9632]

thank God 🙏

[@mariakoszegi]

😢

[@Bunzi3L]

Ikr!!!

[@melaniegonzalezart8506]

Lol!!!

[@klauren7353]

Never met a man that ever loved me

[@deeegnima2541]

Same 🥺

[@LadyAngela678]

Thats okay. Look at you. Still living.

[@daRich_X]

Lets hope then that the best is yet to come 😊

[@naijax80]

I understand what you mean!

[@ProfessorNorris1]

They're missing out. Their loss. The best is yet to come! You're so precious only a particular kind can appreciate YOU

[@cheekscheeks5840]

I’m on my way to healing and NOT looking back ....

[@iloveangelmonroe4864]

Praying to be fully healed and to Move forward with my life. I’m tired of being rejected and hurt and holding on when I’m not valued or chosen to be the one

[@MsLovelylady75]

Fasting and prayer together will deliver you completely. God healed me after I did just that. May God continue to bless you🙏🏾

[@sweetcandigirl2751]

But you are already chosen 😊 God has your husband for you and is preparing him just as much as he's preparing you. You've already been chosen just have faith and work on becoming the woman you desire to be and everything will fall into place. Remember, you are the prize/gift not the other way around. God gave Eve to Adam as a gift she was not waiting to be chosen. It took me a long time to realize that and that keeps me strong and moving forward everyday knowing God will make sure my husband finds me and understands I'm the gift and I hope you can move forward knowing the same. Stay Blessed! Im rooting for you👏👏👏😁

[@a.l.1786]

Lol y'all please stop feeling entitled to a man/ woman or relationship, let it happen on God's time, not yours! Be so smart in these streets that you can not and will not be finessed, and to everyone that has been hurt or played... It's all good baby, the game is not over yet, karma pays back and earned blessings are still on deck.💋

[@TimesSignsofThe]

💯💯💯 and I'll Drink 2 That 🍷🍷🍷

[@a.l.1786]

@@TimesSignsofThe I separated myself and it hurts but it's better than suffering by the hands of someone else.

[@tiffanywelton7843]

💯💯🙌🏾

[@elainegomillion978]

Thank you

[@lashondaward2924]

I received that word

[@starrjanai2623]

I am one of these women that have gone back over 30x no lie and each and after time for the course of 2.5 years, it never got better! I just got more confused questioned myself more then ever before and I felt less confident in myself and he’d always tell me that it’s because of me that things aren’t working but really his actions never improved. Even though I tried making improvements within myself, he would only make improvements for the short term never consistent! I’ve watched every one of Tony’s videos through the years of the relationship trying to understand everything Tony’s taught and my mistake was thinking that Tony’s teachings were only one point of view but everything he said would happen did happen, that’s when I knew TONY WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG‼️

[@lolon6605]

Remain blessed ❤

[@roneccia1]

Definitely can say I agree with you on the using women to heal then running back to ex’s.. lol smdh💀 I wish my soulmate would come on it’s ghetto in the streets🙄

[@BUTTA408_]

If a man leaves you or let go of something he doesn't love you

[@kizzyrock]

Some of them ATTEMPT to drink that pain away! Lord give the them peace and wisdom to know that ONLY YOU ALONE can HEAL those wounds 😇

[@northernroots6807]

Facts

[@kizzyrock]

@@northernroots6807 ❤

[@ericabostwick4033]

Yes indeed!

[@TiffanyBTV]

Yes. I tried. Jesus told me to stop drinking. It’s been a year since i even bought a bottle of wine. It makes the healing faster. I don’t even crave alcohol anymore

[@kizzyrock]

@@ericabostwick4033 Sadly 😥

[@knz1642]

I needed this video six months ago, before I got pregnant by him 🤦🏽‍♀️😞

[@diaem]

same 😭

[@candacehunter9582]

Right 😩😭

[@Bunzi3L]

Focus on healing and where you want to be in future... your situation is a temporary slow down... be the best mummy ever and work on your dreams... it gets better and you'll find your freedom

[@Rosie503z]

girl let me tell you it be tough and scary when you get prego w the dude . i almost went thru that but girl stay strong. youll be able to get away from those problems he causes

[@sweetpea7455]

Same, a year and a half ago for me. Love our child but....

[@Tatianarain]

Yep. Just met a man fresh out of a 5 yr relationship he is in no place or state of mind to be a provider that I want. His mindset is of a broken man looking to be pampered and use women as emotional punching bags. Giving the bare minimum but expecting king treatment. Don't be a man's band aid or mop up another woman's mess. Had to let him go because I did way too much work on myself after my last relationship to be dragged down that path again. Thank God I met him after I got counsel and worked on my self because he is my type.

[@cassanix9093]

Oh no, I'm glad you caught yourself before that started!

[@mexicanbeautyqueen7988]

He picks a woman who needs to be needed what you just said is priceless

[@shawancollins6457]

Definitely

[@meuniversity8681]

@@shawancollins6457 but yall knew this right

[@zek280]

Damsel in distress

[@notnsecure137]

My ex tried all this last year, he is egotistical. Kept calling me, I changed my phone number and told my family members to cut ties with him on social media and other areas because me and him are through and I don't want to hear about him nor do I care what he has said about me. The Blessed Tribe!

[@preciousruby7265]

Going through the same nonsense now.

[@lovexya555]

Same

[@joannhamilton3546]

Good for you

[@TheNYBully]

A soul-tie is kicking my *ass* right now lmao! I believe me, and the woman that I have the soul-tie with have it mutually, but she’s better at hiding her emotions than I am. When I fall in love I don’t mind going outside of my comfort zone, and being vulnerable which is something that I’m usually not. It just so happens the young lady that I’m tied with has been through so much trauma in her life that she purposely represses her feelings when she starts to “feel” too much. This has led to a semi-toxic/complicated ass relationship especially since we work together 🤦🏾‍♂️. For any woman that reads this just understand that fellas go through it too

[@kidchocolate9253]

Appreciate your transparency.

[@lori4414]

It's hard when u work together it's hard as hell🤦

[@shaybae111]

So may I ask you, have you told a women you were in love with her but still cheated?

[@purplelily6950]

A lot of women were raised to believe that, 1) it's not true love, unless you're suffering, 2) we are suppose to accept it, if we're in unhappy relationships, and 3) we must put everyone else's needs above our own. That's why we accept so much nonsense, from the men in our lives. We're not desperate, some of us are taught the wrong things.

[@liveandletlive9333]

oh Tony! so funny when 28:00 u playing the man crying. "My mom didnt value me. My aunt. My grandma. Your the 1st woman to value me." then other woman wiping his tears "Dont cry. I value you. You matter" hahaha My ex was a big cryer. Always about his mom. (who was a nice lady) And there I was...wiping his tears. Never again Tony. Thank you!!! I need a grown man. Not a grown boy

[@esthernichols4451]

This is soooo true. I have been that "savior" woman before. But when God opened my eyes, i was 100 miles and running. This is good info.

[@fiftyfiftylifestyle456]

Loved this moment. Tony is awesome.

[@messymamachronicles8962]

😭😭

[@Onlyme41]

Ladies, look up a woman named April Mason here on KZbin. She teaches us how to be an "Asset" woman. She goes in depth. She also has alot of other videos teaching us women about US! Stay prayed up ladies 😊🙏🏽🌹

[@kiwthebeauty]

I swear Tony need to do stand up on the low. Love Lessons and Stand Up Comedy...I would go!!

[@Beauti444]

Maaaan this is gold💯 , one thing ive learned when its said listen to a man, ladies get out of your emotions and feelings and really comprehend and listen. A man will tell you how he feel about you and what he want from you, but a lot of times you think hes referring to you and he could be speaking in general about any woman, for example marriage. Yall could be having a conversation about marriage and he says he want to get married one day and because you in a relationship and you in your feelings you think hes referring to you, but all he saying is he wanna get married one day he might not be even talking about you. Im saying this cuz this was me. When my eyes were opened and i took the emotions out, i was like wow he's not talking about me;i felt stupid. Now i know better gotta do better. Sad thing i was 4 years in when i woke all the way up. Looking at these videos has helped me and still helping me, it make you sit back and really listen and look at the situation and things just start coming clear. Probably things that's rt in ur face, these unhealthy soul ties can be prevented. Ladies stay safe 🙏🏿

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

🎯🎯🎯

[@klickingkayasmr7585]

i amissangel mua 😂💀

[@haydeejohnson8290]

I'll take the 5, and raise you 20🙏...

[@bamnbamn7453]

Yeah Whenever A Woman Says Real Deep Things To A Man, Like Asks Him A Question, That She Wants An Answer To, That's Important To Her, & He Doesn't Acknowledge It, To Speak On It, He Doesn't Care About Your Heart !!!

[@deynwill123]

I’m 49 years old ... this can happen... in matters of the heart.. I was stuck 31 years long .Sure wish I knew Tony at least 15 years ago.. but the man cannot get one minute more of my life...

[@TakishaDanet]

Ooo Lord. Save us from the pocker face illusions of the enemy. 😌 Save us from coaching and caring for men who have absolutely no interest in taking us seriously. Heavenly Father, thank you for @TonyGaskins and continue to beat the enemy off of our hearts and our backs. In the name of Jesus, Amen ❤️

[@fonda7760]

AMEN! AMEN! and AMEN!

[@dewandarunnels166]

Amen!

[@prestigiouswisdom1283]

Amen 🙏🏿

[@ginad8238]

Takisha D. Fields Yes and Amen 🙏🏽

[@AmarisLW]

AMEN

[@Alabasterbox]

I also wanna add that God uses bad things for his glory, he will give us beauty for our ashes but we gotta give him the ashes. Girlfriends get up " forgive, live your enemies, pray for them as well. All things work foe good for those that love God. Love yourself because God sure does and its when we can receive his love and forgiveness then we can love and forgive ourselves and in return we can love and forgive others, so be encouraged. Gods not done wit you and he will never leave you or forsake. What he has is for you .... ...all in his timing. Trust and wait are the hardest things to do sometimes. His will and his timing are perfect. I just wanna share the knowledge he has given me to help others. Much love...

[@robinberry6939]

True word! The Blessed Tribe.

[@Her_shey_bar]

I Love your reply, I choose to forgive as well and keep working on me knowing that there is a lesson in everything.

[@deniselapaix9918]

I gave him 10 months, I just blocked him. Tony thank you for helping us!!

[@kimlovell1740]

This is crazy amazing! Perfect timing. I'm going through, yet again, a separation. While I sit home crushed, he's out with other women. Puts those poor ladies in another light. Now I just feel bad for them, instead of resenting their presence in his world.

[@koffeebeans8421]

Upgrade or downgrade looks mean absolutely nothing when the motives and heart are not right.

[@moniquem8581]

Soul-Tie can tell a person a lot AFTER a relationship is over ugh

[@CaramelKissez]

Facts

[@p.thomad8156]

Indeed

[@angelbasham6631]

Big facts

[@MISSLOVELY_REE]

Facts💯

[@gods_child_8398]

Whew! You've said a whole lot! 👌

[@holdmie4ever]

A woman keeps going back to a partner who is abusive because of a "trauma bond" attachment. This happens to a relationship where one is a narcissist. Accdg to psychotherapists, trauma bond is formed when the abusèr "lovebomb" the partner then suddenly devalue, gaslight, and ignore her. Then give her attention again, lovebomb her for a short time and then abuse her again. This is the highest form of emotional abuse and this is evil. This is done intentionally by narcissist to the partner in order to chain her to him while he is busy with another woman. This is a technique used by abusive men (called a narcissist). The sanity of a victim woman is endangered. This narcissist has narcissistic personality disorder.

[@irenebuford8930]

I love how you mentioned that you can have a soul tie without having love... Great point that you made... Many people think that just because the man keeps coming back that he must love them... I am so glad that I took steps to be free of any soul tie... This is definitely a video to watch again... 'Excellent Video'...

[@latonyabell9551]

I have always believed men hurt just as much as we do, they may cope with it differently and sometimes there's can sometimes be destructive.

[@karenkyanja4686]

Once I know or have the feeling he is seeing someone else, am like 'bye ✌🏿"

[@olikiahill17]

Hello Karen listen to your woman intuition it wouldn't lead you wrong blessings

[@mmommo2025]

starting to see how demons take down as many as they can with them!

[@sharroberts9083]

A whole lot of women needed these messages from their fathers when they were young.

[@TikaRoxanne]

Damn I was a "bandaid" multiple times 😭😭 never again...

[@theteacherstouch]

No worries 😉 when we learn better we do better ! Be encouraged ❤️❤️❤️

[@elainegomillion978]

Don't feel bad, we were all a band aid at one point or another, u live and you learn.

[@nakiagullett9890]

Be blessed. Yea I got sick of the whole therapy role and then they run back to them and it still doesn’t seem like it works out. Dating seems so draining, it’s so many hurt people out here. Then when you cut them off they say you don’t care. I care but I will not allow you to drain me , not anymore. Selfish !

[@enatihaok3594]

Im struggling with fixing that problem myself.

[@ketakool11]

Yes so draining 😷

[@ddthelonewolf8164]

I'm scared that if I walk into church I may pass out... lol but I'm going though. Please send a prayer for my strength.

[@LoveAlways1002]

Dear Heavenly Father, We come before you lifting up your child behind this message. Lord, we ask that You bless your child with the strength, comfort, support, love, peace, you know they need to get through whatever situation is hurting their soul and their heart and hindering them from being in a closer relationship with you. That is the ultimate goal of life, to get closer to you!! 💯💕💎🙏🏽 Lord we thank you for allowing your child to type this on youtube and ask for prayer. Lord protect their mind from voices of depression and discouragement and condemnation and shame in their darkest moments. Continue to give your child hope and strength to continue to press towards your unconditional love!!!! Lord we pray that whatever church family you surround yoir child within, that they genuinely love you and love your child. Also Lord help your child to see that the church is in the heart of your children, not the building, so may your love, forgiveness, protection, strength cover your child wherever they go. In Jesus name we pray, Amen 🙏🏽😘

[@Lacilove1991]

I think this guy I was dealing with, I feel bad but I think I left a soul tie on him. I stopped talking to him because he was a grown boy and said marriage isn’t for him so I left. Well he hit me up 2 weeks ago after not talking for 4 months and he asked what was up and I told him I moved on and we weren’t compatible and he went on to say he loved me but when I asked him what do you know about me or my dreams and goals, he couldn’t say anything

[@moneyfletch5571]

Just sounds like really good sex. Just my opinion

[@Lacilove1991]

@@moneyfletch5571 😂😂😂😂😂. I don’t know. He still hits me up after clearly showing no interest.

[@Isa-Amor]

I just walked away from a guy that said the same thing. It was only 5 months but I have learned so much from TG. I feel empowered. We got this ladies we have all the power.

[@Lacilove1991]

@@Isa-Amor you have too in order to save your dignity and time

[@ebonyisrael5700]

Proud to say that Tony is helping me through this phase of abstinence and singleness. It use to be so hard being alone and suffer through bad soul ties but I'm now at peace and prepared to meet my husband whenever I meet him. 🖤

[@daniellesullivan5]

I’m right there with you on everything you said sis 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@kikinyte6806]

WHEN TONY SO GOOD ....U END UP CREATING HIS OWN PLAYLIST 🤷🏾‍♀️🤜🤛👍

[@shaunabee]

KiKi Nyte Right, this is my playlist all day everyday!

[@kikinyte6806]

TG is a whole Mood.... Anytime of the day...

[@msrichierich1951]

The MGTOW movement made me open my eyes to really not wanna deal with men or have kids at 31 I'd rather travel and enjoy my freedom/peace of mind and get money. Period

[@feleciamoore8860]

I Pray for every women on here that if you have a soul-tie with a man that’s not rooted and grounded in the real love that God has for you, I break that soul-tie right now In The Name of Jesus and you will have more love for yourself and God than for anyone. God will bring your real mate so stop looking and acting like your desperate because you are worth so much more.

[@much2lovely]

Soul Ties can also have a lot to do with the physical intimacy that has happened. Most of the times it is because of the physical intimacy but Tony is right that doesn’t always have to be a factor

[@cheekscheeks5840]

This pandemic showed me his true colors after all these years

[@monzthaqueen3778]

Same here

[@acaciajohnson9632]

me too sis

[@tracysimon7972]

For a lot of folks lol

[@katerose3558]

Me too 😔

[@yanaabao5436]

Same sis

[@user-tk9wx8bl3s]

Yes. He was controlling, jealous, and when on FaceTime I had to show him where I was and he had me to turn around and ask if anyone was with me. Now, 6 months no contact with him. He has tried to see ,talk to me. He wrote and said I haven't replaced you with better yet! He had the best!

[@vickyalvarez6886]

His insecurities, inferiorities and resentment towards you being self sufficient and self reliant. He sought out a needy woman who love bombed him and fake futured him. He thought he upgraded, and found out different. He failed himself, he didn't know how to love me, did not know how much of a high value man he is. He still very immature and needs to grow up. He doesn't love himself, how can he love me. His rejection was definitely my blessing.

[@quinntheqt4281]

Yep... when you see the dysfunction & toxicity that HE brings - the residue... cut it. Cut your losses quick and thoroughly. Let a lesser chick accept the foolishness.

[@chevellecrusan6930]

Omg you just told my story, I was the bandaid. I hate that he made me fall for him, telling me he loved me, & other things. I was so used. He cut me off cuz I told his other woman everything, & he is mad that he was called out on his bs.

[@blissfulessence8707]

Somehow I was guided randomly to your video, as a matter of fact, 1 of my fingers accidentally clicked on it & it was exactly what I've been needing to learn. Thank you so very much for explaining this. I don't have a brotherly perspective but this is close enough. I appreciate you for creating this video. Happy new year to you both coach! =)

[@nataliekyles6363]

I appreciate you doing the work to become healthy and giving back to those that need help in the process!🙏🏽🙌🏽💙

[@tailoredbyyhwh1007]

HOLLERING at the re-enactment of the soul tie therapy. Omggggggg. THIS WAS SO GOOD!!! the blessed tribe

[@nikkirowland]

Taelor Alex&ria so good and the crazy part is I dated a guy that did that same thing!! SCREAMING!!! Lol I’m cracking up now but lord I was so blind to the foolery

[@sglow444vibes]

It's true. I left him for 5 yrs and he never stopped trying to reach out, and now, he is back putting in effort to show me that he is serious. But, I'm still going to give it more time before I decide if we are meant to be together, because I have no problems with closing the door, permanently. Thank you, Tony for all that you do!

[@shukosworld5754]

Close the door. New chapter...mingle in new circles and just live your life to the fullest

[@chinyerefidelis5015]

How did it go

[@jmillzpgh87]

Watched this video at least 5 times already. Thank you Tony!! Be blessed 😇

[@iwishitwassnowing1638]

"No other woman in her right mind will put up with his mess." Hahaha.

[@enatihaok3594]

1 Corinthians 13:11, WHEN I WAS A CHILD I SPAKE AS A CHILD, I UNDERSTOOD AS A CHILD, I THOUGHT AS A CHILD "BUT" WHEN I BECAME A MAN, I PUT AWAY CHILDISH THINGS. "POINT BLANK PERIOOOD!

[@kgreen4853]

I hope everyone is learning from the Covid-19. Life can be short. We all can be wiped out overnight.... Learn to appreciate life more, love each other more, respect each other more, and most of all stop stomping on people's hearts..... Both Men and Women.... Get your life right so you can treat each other better ❤️

[@elainegomillion978]

This is soooooo true, but people ( men & women) don't realize or respect this until its entirely to late.

[@SassyMrsK]

Amen

[@rebecamartinez3887]

Not only from Covid. You can perish at anytime

[@reneemceachern5311]

This is worth listening to the end. Good stuff! The blessed tribe!

[@shwanaattopley7197]

The bless tribe! Thank you so much for helping me through my glow up! I appreciate everything do do and I’ve never had someone give me knowledge in your perspective! Keep on blessing us with your word you truly have a gift from god! Thank you so much. I’m stronger because of you

[@balancecodes1076]

Tony given that game today he not playing everything he said is 100% on point!!!!! 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️💯

[@TuBella14]

“15 rounds in the rain with Mac Tyson” 💀😂 OMG.!!!! Just be funny with the straightest face, idk how you do. But thank you for the video. Aside from the small comedy, I took some vital notes.

[@alohnnaking3465]

I am so thankful I just found your channel just a few days ago. I believe everything you are educating us women on about how men operate. I had no clue until now! Thank you Tony and GOD bless you and your family. Peace

[@devotedfan9841]

This is by far the best video that “spoke” directly to me. I was very impressed. It makes so much sense why I have never had a successful nor even a moderately successful relationship with a guy/man. I’m so grateful for this video. God bless you and your family and your desire to help us understand the opposite sex a little clearer. 💙