From an Avoidant’s perspective: What it really feels like to live with an Avoidant Attachment Style

[@halfdeadgurl]

Years of therapy never put me so simply

[@Strawberry-v4o]

This video describes best what avoidants feel

[@clintonking819]

I consider myself a " skittish Avoidant" whom darts in for a quick - flirt " then darts out at lighting speed : leaving the subject puzzled - ; wondering" is he the same person, crushing on me only few days ago!?!

[@michellepackman1484]

So.... just... don't try? Break up right away? If it was this cold cut I'd just leave but it's not. My avoidant says "I need patience", so he clearly doesn't want me to leave. Is there a point where you go "clearly I'm not actually unsafe by opening up as an adult, so I'm just going to face the existential fear so I can move on and finally be present in my life"? It might not be a disorder but ther is definitely blindness to cost-benefit clarity.

[@stephanieunderwoodrsw]

It’s a tough question to answer because every relationship is different, and many factors come into play, like how long you’ve been together. My general rule for determining whether a relationship has the potential to succeed or not is to consider if your partner; 1. Is open to personal growth and unafraid to admit they want to work on themselves, 2. Takes accountability, and 3. Shows genuine effort in making meaningful changes, then it’s worth being patient-within reason. However, if they’re defensive, dismiss personal development, and refuse to take accountability, it’s unlikely the relationship is going to last. And if it does last, then that probably means that you’re not getting many of your needs met. But again, that’s just my opinion. The truth is, you know your relationship better than anyone, and deep down, you likely already sense whether there’s potential for growth or not.