From Shame and Stigma to Pride and Truth: Celebrate ADHD Differences (with Drs. Hallowell & Dodson)

Society uses shame to ensure conformity. But what if a person can’t conform because of his or her neurology? What if a person is hard-wired to experience and manage her world in a fundamentally different way?
The only known antidote to shame is pride. It is required to accept yourself and develop a sense of who you are. It is hard to be different from most other people; taking pride in your differences is the first step toward navigating the world successfully. ADHD and learning differences come with challenges, but adults and kids with these conditions also have a host of special talents, abilities, and gifts. It is out of ignorance and fear that people ridicule and diminish those of us who are differently wired, too often robbing us of the chance to thrive and contribute to the world. It is time to band together to stare down stigma - one person at a time.
In this hour-long ADHD Experts webinar replay, learn how to embrace your ADHD and learning differences, with Ned Hallowell, M.D., and William Dodson, M.D.
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[@shelsea7245]

I like being who I am as a human being. I am happy with my personality. Though there are some things I'd like to change... like being on time, being organized, talk less and softer as I tend to get loud when I talk, and not procrastinate! Thanks for this webinar!!

[@richardmarshall159]

Thank you!

[@OrafuDa]

44:23 Wow! Two of the leading ADHD experts praising How To ADHD / Jessica McCabe. ❤ Well, I already knew how great she is, and now she also got endorsements. Wonderful. 😊

[@jjohnston5406]

It is relatively easy to stand up to overt shaming. The harder part is dealing with the silent looks of disapproval, and subtle social ostracism. Being late is considered by many people to be straight up narcissism.

[@maryhall4232]

My issue there also was the "verbal" good morning greetings. They were used as a means to force acknowledging to the greeting giver, a solid "head check" you were at your desk already going to work. It was agonizing in my later years.

[@edwong4178]

The trouble with shame, especially for an ADHD individual who is oppositional, is that they are invested in compensatory or avoidant strategies to not confront the shame no matter the cost to themselves and their relationships.

[@ottolandin]

truth over pride

[@suzymurr1252]

Extremely helpful: self acceptance

[@JnTmarie]

I did not find the center helpful in nyc. Met dr Ned. He was very glib as I was struggling myself and with my son. This was 18 years ago. Very expensive to see him. I felt shamed and helpless to help my son. I had read his book. Childhood was hell. My son got a neck tic from adhd drugs. My son is thriving now w systems and exercise and WFPB diet no sugar, no gluten, he graduated college w a degree in business , marketing and analytics now getting his mba. He has a successful startup company, works for and highly valued by a major company, he mentors kids in the Bronx for 4 years who have successful businesses. We did everything to save his life so glad we made it to this day.

[@Ikr2025]

That is great to hear. It is good to hear success stories.

[@bandieboo8102]

Imo..you are on the money...re Ned..I am so glad you have helped your son....heartfelt blessings. I am new to learning about ADHD...but I have had a lifetime of dealing with narcopaths...malignant, covert, overt etc and it's my considered opinion that the other guy Bill Dodson..is worse...he constantly.. refers to people who don't understand ADHD.....AS "flat earth idiots" ...he has done that in this video and other videos. Easy to check btw it's up there for all to see...I personally don't know whether we live on a spinning ball ..inside a snow globe or on a flat realm...but to call people who don't know the truth about ADHD.. "flat earth idiots" is beyond me.... Some of us are just learning about ADHD...and are doing our best to catch up...that is downright abusive...and not conducive to helping people learn He IS DOING EXACTLY WHAT HE ACCUSES OTHERS OF ......Abusing people for thinking differently... ...To anyone who is just working this stuff out and realising who you are...please don't waste your time watching this video..These 2 people are megalomaniacs..sending you up....ADDItude needs to start screening these people ..ahh no ....its their channel...so they can do what they like. Anyway for anyone who's still reading this..I don't know how to how tell you how smart, funny you are...you are not mad...nor you are crazy ...

[@jonathanberry1111]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:05 🎙️ *Introduction to ADHD Awareness Month Webinar* - Introduction to the final webinar of ADHD Awareness Month with Drs. Hallowell and Dodson. - Mention of the excitement to discuss moving from shame to pride in individuals with ADHD. - Brief overview of Dr. Hallowell and Dr. Dodson's credentials. 03:00 📊 *Poll on Obstacles in Seeking ADHD Treatment* - Poll conducted on obstacles faced in seeking ADHD treatment, with emphasis on shame and stigma. - Results highlight shame and stigma as significant impediments in seeking ADHD treatment. - Acknowledgment of common challenges related to time and money. 04:35 🧠 *Understanding Guilt, Shame, and Stigma in ADHD* - Dr. Dodson introduces the concepts of guilt, shame, and stigma. - Explanation of the difference between guilt and shame. - Exploration of how shame governs expression, perception, and societal understanding. 09:13 🌍 *Being Different and the Neurodiverse Perspective* - Discussion on being neurodiverse and feeling different. - Overview of the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD and learning disabilities. - Emphasis on the struggle to conform and the prevalence of neurodiversity. 13:54 🤝 *Building Self-Compassion and Advocacy* - Steps to cultivate self-compassion, including education and strategic disclosure. - Importance of having an advocate and the role of strategic disclosure. - Encouragement for involvement in advocacy and outreach for ADHD. 17:41 🌈 *Pride as an Antidote to Shame* - Advocacy for developing pride as an antidote to shame in ADHD. - Comparison to other pride movements and the importance of acceptance. - Encouragement for individuals with ADHD to come out of the metaphorical closet. 19:53 🤲 *Supporting Each Other in a Community* - The need for a supportive community for individuals with ADHD. - Importance of finding a new tribe and connecting with people who understand. - Reference to the motto of the CHADD convention: "Together we can, together we will." 20:45 📖 *Telling Positive Stories to Overcome Shame* - Dr. Hallowell's perspective on telling personal stories openly and honestly. - Emphasis on leading with successes rather than failures in ADHD stories. - Encouragement to tap into positive qualities and find advocates to support a positive self-image. 25:09 🚀 *Standing Up to Shame and Embracing Positive Attributes* - Advice on standing up to shame and confronting shamers confidently. - Encouragement to focus on positive attributes and accomplishments. - Recognizing the importance of self-coaching to combat negative self-image. 26:43 🌈 *Embracing ADHD Pride* - Encourages individuals with ADHD to take pride in themselves. - Advocates for coaching oneself up and finding supportive people to offload shame. - Calls for starting an ADHD pride movement, emphasizing the historical contributions of people with ADHD. 30:11 🌅 *Creating a Positive Daily Routine* - Acknowledges the challenge of maintaining high expectations and not meeting them consistently. - Recommends recognizing and avoiding self-sabotage by setting realistic goals. - Emphasizes focusing on accomplishments rather than shortcomings in daily routines. 32:03 🔄 *Interrupting Generational Emotional Neglect* - Advises breaking the cycle of emotional neglect transmitted from parents to children. - Stresses the importance of insight into one's own past and working with a partner to create a supportive environment. - Suggests involving children in the process, empowering them to provide feedback and help break harmful patterns. 35:18 🏢 *Navigating the Workplace with ADHD* - Recommends practicing conversations about ADHD-related challenges with realistic individuals. - Encourages presenting solutions along with identifying weaknesses to supervisors. - Discourages invoking the term ADHD in workplace discussions and emphasizes the value of finding the right job. 39:12 🤝 *Addressing Skepticism About ADHD* - Advocates for presenting scientific evidence to skeptics to clarify the reality of ADHD. - Differentiates between providing an explanation and making an excuse for ADHD-related behaviors. - Encourages focusing on self-acceptance rather than seeking validation from skeptics. 42:52 🌐 *Resources for Support* - Recommends seeking support from ADHD-related resources, such as "How to ADHD" videos. - Acknowledges the value of ADHD coaching for college students and emphasizes life skills preparation. - Encourages parents to stay involved in supporting college students while fostering independence. 48:36 🚺 *Gender Differences in ADHD* - Recognizes the unique challenges faced by women with ADHD, especially postmenopausal women. - Highlights the importance of understanding and addressing ADHD differently based on gender. - Encourages further exploration of the topic due to its complexity. 52:35 🌟 *Embracing Intensity* - Encourages individuals with ADHD to embrace their intensity and stop apologizing for it. - Advocates for celebrating unique qualities and resisting societal pressure to conform. - Highlights the value of being passionate and true to oneself. 54:12 🤹 *Challenges of Adolescence and Conformity* - Addresses the challenge of teenagers resisting acknowledgment of ADHD due to the desire to conform. - Acknowledges the pressure to fit in during adolescence and the reluctance of teens to stand out. - Advises talking to teens about the advantages of being different and embracing individuality. 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[@robinwhitman8840]

Everyone is busy with someone or something else🏵🌼🏵🌼

[@robinwhitman8840]

Celebrate now every day🏵🌼🏵🌼

[@lisawhitehall1870]

Help please.

[@JnTmarie]

How old are you? Do you need help or is it for your child? There is help out there. Apps, is organizing the problem or relationships You’re not alone. Things can get better.

[@hanskraut2018]

Mr Hallowell u live in a different universe. U might be very lucky in your situation but much what you say sounds utopic and overly euphemistic almost lying

[@susanhartline7539]

In what way??

[@hanskraut2018]

Since when is "being passionate" adhd? Do you guys have braindamage?

[@JnTmarie]

Keep that edge it may protect you from pain or just cause more. Passionate May mean you can’t stop working on an idea and show up where you said you would like work. Passionate May mean you insult people and lose compassion and common courtesy and look like you have brain damage because your brain isn’t staying conscious of the outside world

[@shelsea7245]

I'm so passionate and emotional that people think I'm intense most all the time. Many people don't like that. I have always been different and felt like an outsider all my life.

[@umagrey5608]

Of course you "are passionat" with ADHD what else is the hyperfocus