From stress to resilience | Raphael Rose | TEDxManhattanBeach

Facing stress in our lives is an integral component of being more resilient, says Raphael Rose. In his research for NASA, Raphael finds that accepting and even welcoming stress helps us become more resilient, leading to a more meaningful, joyful, and socially connected life.
Clinical Psychologist This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@SpiritualPizzza]

Stress is not here to harm us, it is here to build resilience. All obstacles in our lives are not to hurt us but to make us grow!!!!

[@facundogonzalez5815]

the stress is not the obstacle really... the obstacle is how big is your problem...

[@casperr1299]

Unless it’s toxic stress as a result of inflicted trauma in childhood

[@baldwin5510]

It's not impossible to become resilient from child trauma

[@cartergomez5390]

The whole world should do Sadhguru's Inner Engineering program! He will be in L.A. and Atlanta in June! You can also take the completion program! After that is Shambavi! 🙏

[@ava-if8xc]

When you not run for success, you no longer afraid of failure...you just do your work and keep god in mind.

[@MIB563]

I wouldn’t say welcome stress but having the tools to deal with it is the way to go!

[@Cassiearan]

Persistence and resilience can only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems. Don't hate struggles. they make you stronger. While standing in the storm and the wind tries to blow you away, adjust your sails. Know that deep inside, you are resilient, brave, and so much stronger than your fears. Hi guys! It's me again :) You might have seen me before but my desire to inspire more people is what keeps me pushing to reach out more. We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we just graduated college and were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. I started it out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second one currently under construction but launching soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.

[@quenganlam2310]

I have heard of the word "resilience" many times but I have never put an effort into understanding it. Your presentation has beautifully explained the importance of this characteristic to overcoming stresses and develop mental strength.

[@thepowerofhelpingwithreube4407]

I really find this useful as I'm training to become a counsellor and building resilience is such a key part of coping with what the clients have coming up. I find that working on resilience in the morning to be especially useful

[@Zarghami]

There are 2 ways to handle stress: 1- avoid stress thus producing more stress 2- lean into stress, learn the source and build resilience

[@kholoods.f3291]

Yes that's right

[@miles2code366]

How do you avoid stress while leading into stress?

[@sachiperez]

I loved that it seems he is walking his talk. He sounded nervous and like he wanted to bolt off the stage. I bet he will sound more comfortable during his next talk.

[@DougieWotherspoon]

Such a great talk, this should be taught in schools...

[@justthedejavuguy]

a wonderful and summarised video on how to build resilience, thank you sir.

[@rickharold69]

Useful couple of points. Awesome! Thanks!

[@Agsaikaashraf]

Amazing speech .

[@jocaartsysoul9105]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@Christ_Is_Life10-10]

Powerful message! I needed to hear this. Thank you!

[@mindfulnessasia1082]

A resilient person will not be too elated when things go their way, and they will not be too down when things are not going their way. Rather, they know this is part of being in this world of change. Just because the externals are changing does not mean that our internal world has to change as well.

[@googoo554]

Thank you so much for sharing you knowledge

[@mehrdadmohammadiani4406]

I found it super informative. The way he describe facing with stresses and anxieties was really practical. I highly recommend it, it’s worth to see it.

[@asmahafizi736]

i was always self criticizing but just now i learnt to be kind and compassionate with my self,i will welcome stress,rebound from failure and will be more resilient in my path and career than before thanks from such a motivating speach

[@adv.prashant]

*slow & gradual change plus be compassionate is the key*

[@kuystony]

I was looking for a video that may help me to more understand the stress to resilient mind. I found this one and I love the way he explains everything and the practicality of his examples. The ideal scenario of coping with stress are rightfully slowly but if we really trust the process, and all of his advices, well it may help A lot. More committed will surely result to much better results.

[@aakritipatodia2549]

Amazing talk 👍

[@KrishnaChaitanyamlv]

wow! what a speech... ending two minutes after listening to entire video perfect closure ! thank you so much

[@kr1221E]

Thank you

[@DanRyan_RyanSearch]

Great presentation-timely for me

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

We will always get stressed out by things in life but we all need to become resilient.

[@RamRam-zd6ey]

Thanks

[@Lloydy786]

Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient

[@HH-vg5sb]

Very Good!!!

[@andreiafreitas3280]

Jusr loved this talk!!

[@juan.zabala]

Ignoring that breathing might be the best challenge at handling stress...

[@_suryakiran]

Awesome Tips!!

[@challo8067]

There is no such thing as stress, either positive or negative. The stories you tell yourself about life events (if in the past, are seen as memory or if in the future, are seen as imagination) is what makes it only apparently ‘stress’. Remain present in just this moment, without ceasing, and watch the stories your mind comes up with. And when you believe these stories, you suffer. How much have you been stressed about things that once were or things yet to come? And neither of these is happening now. Be free from ‘stress’ by recognizing the stories you tell yourself and actually believe. See what is revealed - that the present moment has been obscured, with no peace to be found, when stuck in this habitual pattern of mind. Notice the pattern without judgement or guilt and soon peace is here, now. Stress is just another concept. Busy happens. Stress is mind-created. Be with what IS, here and now! 😎

[@leagueofsuccesstv82]

I love the work of tedx keep u the work...

[@chimmyplayground]

This is a good to hear and start my morning 😊

[@otoiabimanyu]

Yes .. it's work

[@kartiksood2704]

Nice one!!

[@Sean-me4fv]

I just feel a whole ton of pressure to succeed and be perfect, and when I pull it off I get nothing out of it.

[@sourabhs14]

I feek exactky the same. Have you found any solution to thus.

[@Sean-me4fv]

@@sourabhs14 I try hard to imagine what I would do if I didn't succeed and how I could make it work. And I choose to accept that life would still be ok.

[@rika6722]

Great talk!

[@chrisbotcom]

I believe the NASA mission statement, "Failure is not an option.", refers to the mission overall. It seems to me the inference is to make the mistakes and experience the possibilities, learn from the real-world experience and adjust practices as needs. So your rebuttal to the slogan in the beginning is kind of moot to me. I liked the thesis, though. I needed the reminder and it was well done. Thank you for this, Dr. Rose.

[@saltanatissatayeva9437]

be compassion to yourself. use 5-minute rule on any area of your life. take challenges and welcome to any stress. each day improve your body , mind , spiritual and relationships.

[@NicholasAlexanderUpInThis]

WOW Really powerful stuff, what would you recomend to people dealing with terminal cancer?

[@Rien--]

what might help is taking full accountability for everything. that way you are in control of everything

[@swarup0553]

Wow

[@kholoods.f3291]

Everybody should forget what gives them stress so this will help them to be strong and never have any stress any more

[@robertsimon2885]

Stress is normal but deadly.

[@SpiritualPizzza]

Robert Simon that so true!!! It’s just crazy how we can make something such a big deal in our minds. It’s scary sometimes!

[@sajjadhasan8568]

qrm

[@TanvirAhmed24]

I made a video a few weeks ago about increasing your resilience where I basically talk about emotional diversity.

[@emmawatson6582]

Great video!

[@TanvirAhmed24]

@@emmawatson6582 Thank you!

[@ahmeds6421]

Tanvir, keep up the good work.

[@StayCool9948]

This man has most likely never spoken to a victim of burnout. Your body has its limits, no matter postitive your thinking patterns are or how much meaning you can find in the world.

[@challo8067]

Bloch_ perhaps you are speaking of exhaustion?

[@StayCool9948]

@@challo8067 Exhaustion is not a word I would use to describe what I'm personally going through, as I'm debilitated to such a degree that it limits my activities to mostly reading and watching calm movies, and that's from stess related "exhaustion" (not school or work related stress, but stress that I personally decided to take on, because I thought it'd be good for me and others) and have been so for about half a year now, and I can expect to be so for about a half a year more, along with a couple of years before I can expect to manage the same amounts of stress as I could before I *burned out*.

[@challo8067]

Bloch_ That is quite a story, friend! May you finally be at peace with all that you have offered others, while sacrificing your peace in the process. But there is another way....and you are more than capable of directly experiencing No Stress over any of it!! 🌀

[@StayCool9948]

@@challo8067 Thank you! That actually helps a bit.

[@challo8067]

Bloch_ Dear Fellow Human, you may never know the ripples of impact you have on the world! Thank you for your response! Be well and know this perceived hardship shall pass. That’s the very nature of life, eh?! I have endured loss of physicality, isolation, etc. too, and in an instant, discovered what is beyond all of it. Only gratitude and peace are here now. Blessings to and through you! 😎

[@toughluck8012]

That intro reminding me of stranger things

[@arslanbasharat9995]

Good

[@kirollosrady4525]

💟

[@Slava-om1sz]

Stress is not "there to build resilience". Stress is a warning sign that your body uses to influence your behavior in a way that would avoid potentially harmful outcome. It is quite literally your mind purposely triggering a shot of hormones that make you feel unpleasant. Just as it triggers release of dopamine when you think you did something beneficial to you. The purpose of this is that you adopt your behavior (stress feels bad > avoid repeating behavior that caused it, happiness feels good > repeat). Stress is a helpful tool. Just use it right instead of suppressing it, avoiding it, not focusing on it or making up stories about how it is there to build resilience.

[@DaDualityofMan]

10:54 No one's gonna talk about how she's crying?

[@eylljusteyll]

Please add more language options!! '( 🙀

[@GeeksGumbot]

🚫suppression Lots of friends and happiness 😊

[@jorgeromera3861]

Sometimes I have a dream: what would life be like without stress?

[@lennon_richardson]

death

[@lennon_richardson]

in other words, stress is a sign of life. the daed have no stress.

[@chilodore4247]

What is the intro music?

[@xXtenseXx]

All the great phylosophers said at one point "Love thyself" because if you dont learn to accept who you are, you are never going to start improving yourself in a healthy way.

[@imthewholeman9126]

She, she, she is a goddess that brings life into the world and runs it too, farce. He makes the world, she makes the men who will make the world.

[@Burdflu]

heh, story of maaah life ;) not to the resilience part yet. Workin on it.

[@JenniferGait]

I found this speech very difficult to understand as around the middle of each sentence his voice dropped to a level which often, for me, made what he was saying difficult or impossible to understand. I have a hearing loss, but have hearing aids and was using headphones to enhance the sound, but still only got about half of each sentence. This is the first time this has happened to me while listening to Ted Talks.

[@MonsterBstarcraft]

Use close captions

[@mnam5426]

Как перевести ролик?

[@bmcm21]

The message is simplified below... Avoid stress!!! Be happy and stay true to yourselves...

[@wolfferoni]

You can't avoid stress forever.

[@bmcm21]

Wolfferoni forever is not a reality...at some point everyone meets their end BUT the point is to make the little time we have as beautiful as possible...

[@lennon_richardson]

That's not what he said. The point is to effectively deal with stress, not to avoid it. If you want to accomplish anything of meaning, then you are going to face stress. For me, accomplishing meaningful things leads to a more beautiful life.

[@bmcm21]

Lennon Richardson that's a good reply...well said

[@lennon_richardson]

@@bmcm21 Thanks

[@whi5tler_1337]

If I was in space I would hope the 🚻 toilet works well 🚽

[@sbbbjhjuuu776]

RAPHAEL ROSE

[@dr.redacted9162]

I have depression and a bad home life,and get bullied in school ☹️😔 Is there anyone that can help me?

[@Nino-ye5uf]

i can speak from expierence that watching videos of selfcare and selflove helps if you want i can recommend some youtubers

[@dr.redacted9162]

Thank you for telling me. 😀

[@andzar0460]

Please add Indonesian language..

[@justicecrying]

The root of stress is dissatisfaction with your current self. So satisfy yourself by trying harder.

[@cia6880]

10:52 Albert Einstein?

[@SiamHosenYT]

11:30

[@lala-rt4nb]

Subtitlesssss pleaseee

[@bitsbard]

Excellent content here! If this topic fascinates you, you'll benefit from a book of the same ilk. "Rising From Within: Unlocking Your Innate Power to Conquer Adversity" by Vincent Starling

[@JustinDon]

🤔🤔

[@tactics-mnk6084]

Well, he was quite resillient to his failing jokes.

[@luke-db2es]

Oof

[@lessevilnyarlathotep1595]

*me, with severe anxiety and rejection sensitive dysphoria* haha, coping with stress healthily, good joke

[@tamukabasera2044]

just try you will see the results try try try

[@lessevilnyarlathotep1595]

@@tamukabasera2044 no

[@MyriophyllumTuberculatum]

exactly @Cillit Bang

[@lessevilnyarlathotep1595]

@Cillit Bang scary.

[@tactics-mnk6084]

Cillit Bang Wrong, exposure does not help some if you do not address stuck patterns of thinking. Did exposure therapy for ages. I did do more things though, but anxiety or mood never changed with it.

[@Theweyjournal]

How about we lump everyone into the same situation and think it’s an easy fix. 👎🏻

[@pigolympus1086]

poopy fartsPSFFSFFRRTT alalalalala sorry i farted and then started singed because of my farty fart

[@arenlario5296]

this guy seems a bit stressed

[@rawstarmusic]

Absolutely useless talk. Did he teach you resilience? Do something else instead of what is giving you stress? I was expecting more from a well payed talk.

[@Ahmed35956]

Can eat fried chicken to relieve stress

[@Ahmed35956]

Netflix

[@stopkillnkenny]

This guy his breathing and lip smacking are stress triggers for real......

[@PaniniMan111]

liberals

[@ekennahutchinson1636]

Thank you