Narcissists 3 Secrets They Keep & 1 Secret YOU Should Never Tell

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[@lvamv8283]

They pretend to never lie but their whole life is a lie they are a lie .👍

[@simonshura9144]

Chill we all lie tho at times in life, but i get it what ur saying there

[@frankfordification]

That is the best description of a narc I have ever seen on here. So true! They project a false persona to the world. Phonies to the Max!

[@kalaniprice1007]

lv amv yep. Exactly how my parents are.

[@lovegoddess3912]

@@frankfordification exactly! eventually they will be exposed tho.

[@chrisy941-]

Mine tells me he never lies! And he silent treatments me all the time randomly!

[@humanity1st.]

Sheep in public, wolf at home.

[@ReyEssential]

Very true

[@VriendaGanguly]

That's his spirit animal.

[@versatyle253]

I would hardly call that an accurate description simply because wolves have an excellent understanding and respect for social norms, hierarchies, and functionality of a group familial unit. Such a statement would be an insult to such a respectful animal, much unlike your garden-variety narcissist. Just a little biological, themed commentary and humour. 😁

[@anneoftheland1658]

So very true, I'm so glad for these videos that open our eyes and realize theres so many of us victims that are going through this.

[@semharsemere3033]

Wawwwew

[@v.britton4445]

I think a lot of murders and suicides come from dealing with these confusing destructive relationships that nobody believes when you go looking for support.

[@jonesfredrick94]

Ooowee you talking truth

[@launabanauna8958]

Virginia B. Britton I agree. Drastic behavior from normal people who have been jerked around by the narcissist.

[@natashabrown6147]

I can believe that!!

[@jonesfredrick94]

@@natashabrown6147 it's true Baby girl

[@Jamesfckoffscammers]

Good point

[@williambeaumont1312]

They never feel sorry.

[@jonesfredrick94]

Never I mean they will look at you like you crazy

[@launabanauna8958]

william beaumont Never, they don’t have an ounce of remorse.

[@ethnicalbert]

Total rubbish I'm afriad. you are talking about psychopathy. Narcissists feel love shame etc all that normal stuff. But they suck up love to heal themselves

[@jonesfredrick94]

@@ethnicalbert and the other stuff we mentioned

[@ethnicalbert]

@@launabanauna8958 as someone who developed narcisstic tendencies I can attest that is simply not true. I wish you well

[@loonylinn8824]

3 secrets narcissists doesn’t want us to know are: they are evil, they are evil and they are evil.

[@Bonnie-fh8up]

I agree with that. Seems to be the best kept secret. They are reprobate. They are evil. If they were followers of God and Christ, then they would never do the horrific and evil things that the CHOOSE to do to others.

[@DgenerationX31619]

no worries, theres a hell for that. Their victims will be the demons that torment them, and the one they call devil will be the undeniable truth in their face and for all the underworld to see. we will laugh at them and watch them suffer for the rest of all time. A true paradise. A holiest of vengeance. The punch line of the greatest joke ever told. THEM! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

[@individual1199]

And you're not' ___??? ? Lmfao'' Open ur mind We all have in a evil side and good side store attitude. Character.behavior. We come from a curse of the first humanity in the beginning..you know that every child (person)born has carry a good between evil) accept the facts.. Im not afraid of any narcissistic

[@charliejeans2413]

@@individual1199 and we are given freedom of choice. I don't believe we are all born of sin. It's learned. Conditioned. Nurtured from the cradle.

[@deuzamaria]

I find out everything about him he was dating 8 woman's and I was the youngest one who find out the whole truth through Facebook was married and he was getting another one and then I was the last one the last one who plays smart and I knew something was fishy I knew right away that he was a narcissist but for some way for some reason he manipulate me so well you knew I was so powerful when my words I felt like I was stock in the months passing by I knew something was not right with me that says what's wrong with me cuz it's not me it's not the way I am why is he making me feel like that if I'm not like that then I did a lot of research I started to read more I'm actually really wanted to help him for years he hurt me so bad I need a free to find out the truth about him and if I find out everything more stuff about him last months she follow me everyday he spies on me on social media I'm not even there trust me I'm not on no social media I'm not on Facebook for the past two years since because this issue he calls me I never pick up the phone he tracked me he called he calls me at work he still runs with a truck around the building would I work you name it and he will always go silent and I had to confront him and I said everything on his face he flipped he said I was a sick I said you a very evil person I try to help you I still want to try to help you and you still don't want it because you like to play and you know you no longer can't play with me I was so sick of four years bad resting I want to go crazy because of you I don't answer to his call I don't even want to see him you all I do I pray to the Lord to take him away from me I never knew a narcissist it was like that until I met one and I know he's coming back and I don't know what to do anymore maybe I'm going to move out of town.

[@8thdayman271]

Children should be taught about narcs at a young age....it would make life much easier!!

[@ayanabenjamin376]

Talking of kids...how do we manage no contact when kids are involved? Can they have a healthy relationship with kids? Edit: Not implying that you should have the answers.

[@fionam3735]

I wish they sorted them out in court. My daughter has to spend time with her poor narc father that’s is covertly very dangerous and there is nothing I can do about it. He has other daughters he doesn’t see that I never met in the six years I was married to him and one of them tried to kill her self. It’s so unfair that they should get any contact but they are convincing and manipulating in court and will stop at nothing to get one over you. It’s not so easy for a young persons mind to understand that of a psychopath

[@fredcuffy6255]

@@fionam3735 h

[@rapturecidal3756]

My mom was the primary narcissist.

[@MediaEnslavedNation]

You're basically fucked. Sorry. I hate to say it but the kids are doomed. There are a few lucky people who will shield the kids but if you bred with a narc you are probably already trained to be a submissive source of supply. They picked you because you passed their triage tests in the beginning. Look to your parents and or caregivers to see. Healthy people with strong boundaries don't attract them. It took exactly 20 minutes of speaking with my parents about my marriage to realize that they each thought it was normal.

[@justrenee1304]

"If they didn't know their behavior was wrong, they would do it all of the time." So simple yet so powerful.

[@LeahIsHereNow]

Absolutely spot on! He even eats and drinks differently when we’re at home alone. It’s insane! In public, he seems like a civilized human being. At home, he slurps and chews with his mouth open and it’s so disgusting I can’t even be in the same room. Of course it’s on purpose.

[@reggiemunch]

They don't deserve ATTENTION ...period. Be strong and move the hell on.

[@jonesfredrick94]

I'm trying it's rough doctor, it's a stronghold

[@alexc2265]

The attention they’re seeking needs to come from themselves. They abandoned themselves WAY long ago and that’s why they act like they have no soul.

[@garycordle5295]

Amen to that.

[@user-jm7ou9kk7n]

@@alexc2265 facts!!! Nailed it.

[@mannyt4319]

Who hasnt felt like knocking the shit out of the narc. Lol

[@tashamonasha7580]

Manny tapia I’ve done it that’s why I had to leave....

[@julianneparris4654]

Hahaha! You said it!!

[@tammyh.1769]

Which time?

[@lndingalle9605]

Manny tapia That doesn't seem good enough..They need to be in an exterminaton camp.

[@onlyme6662]

How about shooting the bastard praying to God strike them down!

[@KnittingArtisan]

Once you are wise to the game, the silent treatment is actually pretty awesome. The drama cloud followed them and you have peace and quiet. 😂

[@thearcascensionretreatcent3628]

Knitting Artisan we are sweethearts. We need a loving, stable and harmonious home environment for our family. If we were capable of giving The silent treatment, they wouldn’t be with us. I’m a tough cookie but just like men, the tougher we are in the world, the more we need our soft relationship and we wouldn’t be with them if they were all bad. When you’re freaking out because you’re sick of the game and then they make you feel crazy and say “it’s ok, I’ll always love my little psycho path” it’s so hard not to just finally get some love. I’m a perfectionist and an overachiever and when i have the comfort and security of our home, I have a place I can recharge. It’s really hard. We are the products of broken and messed up societies. There is no glory in losing someone you love, even if he is toxic. I’m sure we can work it out?

[@navakefyrah126]

I wish I knew this

[@monylah8529]

I am happy when my husband goes silent. In this time i do what i want, I feel happy, play with children etc.. because if he around i feel always pressure

[@gracebe235]

Knitting Artisan......I wish I had known all of this long ago when I was younger. I wouldn’t have lost sleep while my first husband slept like a baby after an argument. Now, with this husband? Screw it! I roll over and go to sleep too!

[@cherieblock8296]

@@thearcascensionretreatcent3628 This in contradictory. On the one hand you say "We need a loving, stable home environment..." and then you say that the other person is toxic. If he is toxic, there is no "love," and there is no way that your family life can be "harmonious." You are fooling yourself. Take the children and run for the nearest door.

[@themarro6695]

Narcs are so cunning and manipulative! Once I figured out the silent treatment. It was game over!!! Please RUN from Narcs!

[@themarro6695]

They consistently lie! They believe their lies. Their whole existence is a lie!!

[@user-ky3np1sh5m]

The Marro sadie winters Honestly, i believe the popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist partner is not to be trusted. My greatest disappointment was discovering my husband cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cell phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a link on my phone. Contact him, he’s a genius. (cyberhackingsage@gmail) or WhatsApp [phone]. Thank me later.

[@themarro6695]

Patricia Luvenia Huff You are amazing! Thank you so much 😍🙏🏾

[@stevengrimes371]

@@themarro6695 no they know they are lying. They know everything they do.

[@stevengrimes371]

Only way to beat there game is to stop caring to stop playing but this is actually when they become the most dangerous. Mine tried to kill me in my sleep with a weapon.

[@suzannerose2130]

they have a game of "Victim" so they can entrap the empath. Once you get entrapped, they have you.

[@countrygirl4213]

But once u see it,u win if u play your cards right.

[@mushroommagic1697]

Yes, they love to use victim mentality to make themselfs look innocent

[@loonylinn8824]

@@mushroommagic1697 “play victim” especially if the Narc are women

[@mushroommagic1697]

@@loonylinn8824 that is so right

[@tdr_paraadvisor3996]

Until the empath discovers otherwise.....then they got nothing on the enlightened empath! 💯💯😎

[@creator2149]

Just don't argue with them. At all. Just know that they are crazy. They need someone to lash out their hatred and anger at.

[@mommabear5059]

creator that’s what I say. Would you try to rationalize with Charles Manson? Then don’t try to rationalize with your darling narc because the results will be the same.

[@aarythompson-robinson6694]

creator Yes that's the big mistake I made trying to defend myself and prove that he was lying. It was mentally tiring until I found how what his problem is. Now I have another problem. He knows that I know what his problem is.

[@randycoolbaugh1408]

but if you have had enough....just break out the audio recorder....instant silence.

[@mariamistretta3860]

They need rehabilitation that what I think these type of people need.

[@renyalune3293]

creator they actually are supposed to be who they are to help others find their way back to who their true selves are. There are always gems to find in these chaotic connections as fucked up as it sounds if you look in depth these are blessings. I met a man who was a true narcissist and although he hurt tremendously I wouldn't change it . The gems I gained and childhood blockages were unblocked and I feel amazing and value myself so much more.

[@jayong1977]

This should be a mandatory part of secondary school to learn about all of this at a young age, it would save many years of suffering and needless suicides of otherwise beautiful people. For all you survivors out there, you are all winners! Love to all X

[@kikicola78]

So far 660 Narcs have disliked the wonderful information that we NEED.

[@cjok8367]

707 now.

[@cindyharper1500]

👍😅

[@madluv5214]

Wya, baby 😍

[@chrisneedham5803]

797 now

[@jcb3259]

It now stands at 828 dislikes by these devilish fuckers they need to BURN

[@DynamicBailey]

Yep, I love it when he says “ask anyone... ask your brother. Ask your son. Nobody likes you. They all know that you’re crazy”.

[@frannym7023]

Bailey G this has been said to me, too! “You have no friends, nobody likes you” it’s reflection of themselves.

[@treevasparks4832]

Baily G. Wow ..that's exactly what the one who was in my life would say.

[@DynamicBailey]

Treeva Sparks you’d think we were all talking about the same person. It’s crazy.

[@88cindysue]

Me too!

[@missyv9581]

Bailey G yup! My husband does this all the time. Or after caught in a lie he would say that he has to lie because I’m not someone you can tell the truth too. It’s crazy. My therapist to get me to disengage told me to imagine the word sick across his forehead when he starts. I do it and now have to bite my tongue to stop me from laughing in his face.

[@ES-go9ue]

There is no communicating, no comprise. Its their way or the highway, and yes nothing is EVER their fault.

[@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690]

Truth in your words

[@kassandraLoveee]

Wow soooo true. I’m tired

[@godhimself3208]

Highway to hell

[@dwaynetempest3433]

And never a sorry for anything !

[@stevedouglas6956]

E S that is so true!

[@oOzephyrOo]

They don't want to change because they think they don't have any problem and are perfect and innocent. The whole world is the problem. Been there done that.

[@ane3488]

Best comment evet thank you so much !!

[@jlynne.7]

@Anni Anxiety I respect that and hope you succeed in your personal goals for the growth you aim for

[@missybella9046]

AGREE O my ex narc would put down everyones perspective and lifestyles. Hed say he lives life with a purpose unlike the majority of people. He'd say if the normal person likes something theres a 99% chance he doesn't because hes different

[@stevem5447]

Been there saw it first hand amazing to watch when u know the truth

[@laragreene8328]

i Thought she said they knew they were sick...but didnt care...they enjoy being sick

[@nadada247]

I privately recorded a narcissist for 3 yrs,when she started the smear campaign I released one by one,almost 200 recordings,that could put even the government on her back for her crimes

[@christianone6611]

Good job. Wowza.

[@ofcourse5478]

@Sarah Plummer lol, I was thinking you uploaded to the cloud....😁😁👍❤

[@audreysmit3731]

good idea

[@JJ-yu6og]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@JJ-yu6og]

What happened after that??? Did you scare away the narc??? Did he go away or apologize????

[@strugglingmuslimah2570]

"They don't want you to know that they know that they are doing wrong." Amazing point. That means its pointless to wait for them to change for good. And here I'm hoping that my love could change everything. I'm so stupid. But i realize my mistake now. I shouldn't have chosen this guy in the first place.

[@alexc2265]

They can only change if they love themselves. Truly and not just the appearance of it.

[@pa2359]

I spent 24 years and came to know 6 months back, he was cheating on me. I was devastated with no empathy and know about narcissism. Now I watch these videos as part of healing. What about you?

[@lucille1919]

Yes, I am no contact with my mother now, but years ago I started writing things down. I wrote down exactly what she said verbatim and the date. Because she always lies and then denies. One time she told me, "my parents did the same thing to me." So she is not Clueless. She realizes what she is doing. And You know I realized that a normal parent who loves their child would probably say something like well that's how my parents raised me, not "my parents did the same thing to me."🤔🤔🤔

[@truthserum5855]

You were trauma bonded, not stupid. If anything, you're smarter than they are, because you figured them out.

[@truthserum5855]

@@lucille1919 A counselor 35 years ago told me (about my parents), "Yes, they may have had sad stories, though it wasn't what you needed." If anything, their behavior is psychotic, because an authentic loving parent would end the cycle of abuse.

[@AlexisMitchell87]

I appreciate the silent treatment. I get a few days of peace and freedom from the constant attack on my emotional health.

[@JD-dh3yn]

Yeah right. Don’t fool yourself and cut them off.

[@JD-dh3yn]

Alexis Mitchell you know they are affecting you heavily directly or indirectly

[@AlexisMitchell87]

@@JD-dh3yn I am protecting my mental health as best I can until my circumstances change.

[@lacortneymaddox]

@@AlexisMitchell87 same here

[@boseefusmacmurphy1156]

I too often wish for the silent treatment just to make some music or get writing done. But always a crisis seems to pop up. Because being seen happy is forbidden.

[@chads3308]

All you do to test if someone is a narc, tell them NO! See what happens! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@carissawillard1508]

Chad S especially when it comes to making choices that shows you don’t need their help

[@MrsGodivajane]

Absolutely. They want you to side with them, and not offer your own opinion if its not the same as yours.

[@MrsGodivajane]

Theirs.

[@shaniquegrant5758]

😂😂😂 Yes, once you tell them no, you see their true colours.

[@marcosschleben4062]

So so sooo true...

[@ianmarkey9434]

When a narcissist can no longer control you, is it common for them to have panic attacks and other mental issues. I've noticed she goes insane when I don't listen like be obedient.

[@jefffunk863]

Fifty Five and One Half Year's

[@paulclinton6414]

Good they never cared about causing us aniexty.

[@cerenyldz2754]

Yeah, my mom and sis do too. My scapegoat cousin's dad does as well. They can't live without control over your mental state. Recently my (ex lol) flatmate moved out bc she had no control over me, she literally cried in her room bc she couldn't affect me. Pathetic. That's the load they make us carry everyday and they can't handle a tiny bit of it themselves. Let them collapse, let them go into attacks, or else it's gonna land on you.

[@truthh8597]

The victims go into panic They go into rage

[@laurarais7731]

How to make anarcissist miss you??? They dont....keep on keeping on, love yourself, be happy...keep borders

[@jcb3259]

Amen to that

[@jonesfredrick94]

I'm thinking thats true, too

[@asenseof5722]

Just accept it these people HATE you and everyone else that has a smile on their face.They come from is a place of HATE.Get out before they pull you so far down you cant get up.

[@jsmith3980]

good advice C B

[@hikerhobby1204]

C B : Great Advice!

[@BrandonDKirkwood]

I’m at rock bottom from mine

[@hikerhobby1204]

Brandon Kirkwood : Brandon hang in there! I prayed that Jesus would take him out of my heart several times a day! His haunting of my heart is slowly but surely going away. If you get to feeling to low, seek help. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY, THEY MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE ON PURPOSE!

[@mysa.relind977]

@@BrandonDKirkwood Same 😢 Although i had it all figured and sorted out theorically, that probably has to do with subconcious mind that requires more time, will and energy to worke on completely healing from the damages caused by the narc. Good luck

[@notinvogue4287]

Omg the wonderful person they are in public 😫

[@yime6631]

Bleu Ivy, Makes me want to puke the Jekkyl and Hyde chit they do.

[@rosalbavarela7333]

Bleu Ivy they really suck!!! They are not humans!!

[@johncurran1474]

You probably are as well

[@yime6631]

@@johncurran1474 May I politely ask you to specify this comment? Who is it to, and what exactly does it mean?

[@johncurran1474]

@@yime6631 Bleu Ivy

[@mmmfun77]

Life is not a game. It is time we commit to thriving rather than simply surviving .

[@lindagithaiga1974]

Word💯

[@janaand616]

i wish i knew this years ago!!! always thought everything was my fault!

[@suziewong2181]

I'm just figuring it out in the last few months AND have been in a "relationship" with one since 2008! I never knew a narcissist but I know what one is now. It's been a nightmare and I'm just now beginning to not let him "get to me" or make me feel less of a person that I KNOW I am.

[@jameshogue1639]

Educate, educate, educate. Knowledge is power. Don't generalize everything, but notice , observe ,write down observations and patterns. Your decisions will be from strength rather than weekness. God bless you!

[@truthfinder6932]

I wish schools would teach how to protect yourself. I had no idea what was happening and got very depressed while he was partying, drinking, and going to prostitutes.

[@colettedesjardins8026]

jana And I can say, the same for me. I put up with him for 40 yrs. Education is so important.

[@meredithheath5272]

@@colettedesjardins8026 You are so right - I wish I had been educated, as well. Similarly, I would have saved 44 years - and would not have raised the flying monkey son that he turned out to be; if I could turn back time and see what would turn out, if I had the child, and entered into the predatory relationship, I would have had an abortion.

[@epikcyne]

I was once a semi-narcissist, but then made a sincere effort to change once I realized this problem. Once I changed and bettered myself, I started to see narcissistic traits from my own former friends. This was the first time I was able to see myself in them, and let me tell you, I did not like it. After witnessing this, I’ve made a conscious effort to completely change myself to a well-rounded human being.

[@mannysky3201]

Congratulations and am really happy for you. God bless you.

[@DAVEMYZTIKAL]

Good on you for improving your life and relationships. My own wife was extremely narcissistic for many years. We separated several times. We were better friends when we lived apart. Finally, after about 15 years she began listening to various 'Life coaches' and she is now a very different person. She has always liked helping people and now she is much better equipped to be able to help others. So keep up the good work. God helps those who help themselves.

[@manichairdo6346]

@@DAVEMYZTIKAL Actually, God helps the helpless. But the rest of what you wrote is good.

[@jerseymolina767]

Good for you !!!! Keep it up blessings

[@teamgandeegandee1899]

Me too

[@kevindaniel2k19vlogs8]

I pray for the narcissists , because I truly believe they are demonic possessed

[@storiclement]

Me too. There is simply no other explanation.

[@catherineboehm9558]

Kevin Daniel 2k19 Vlogs Save your prayers for their victims.

[@dle6419]

@@storiclement there are plenty explanations, you are just too ignorant or stupid to see those and refer to god to anything you dont understand. psychopaths on the other hand are straight demon spawns, and yea they're just born that way. no further explanations needed, some people are just born wicked.

[@storiclement]

@@dle6419 you are entitled to your opinion as I am mine. Ignorant is one thing I am not. I cannot fathom someone that is in their right mind would treat the people they profess to love the way these people do if they weren't possessed by a demon. I understand just fine and dont need the likes of someone like you who takes pleasure in calling others names to explain it to me. That's something you have to account for. If it makes you feel better than so be it. God does have my back. Not sure about yours. Only you and he know that. You have a good day.

[@sadyoshhours2769]

No. Narcissistic personality disorder is a *mental illness,* not because of demons. Believe it or not, instead of imaginary (and conveniently invisible) foes, this is caused by a mixture of genetics, upbringing and societal factors. And yes their behavior is their fault, not some demon or whatever you make up.

[@brendanrowan23]

It’s devastating when you have a parent like this but we can recover 🙏🏼

[@shanti3152]

They might know they’re acting “wrong” with you, but that doesn’t mean they’re remorseful !

[@countrygirl4213]

They never apologize.ever.even after years. Hugh red flag.

[@librababy273]

These are demons that we're assigned to come into your life and destroy it.. when you finally open up and realized this that when you really learn how to fight these spirit... People be more attentive to people that are trying to enter your lives...

[@dianalorenzi4272]

Libra Baby Thank-you for this message, this is nail on the head. I wrote this down, this comment has opened my eyes. Thank-you.......

[@elliejudah7375]

I believe that is true God test our strength and sends us people like this we are strong and can over come love to all who's been in one relationship that has caused you pain today is my first day of really being truly happy x

[@angelkatfe2059]

Yes this is the truth. They are demons. Demonic spirits

[@whengmacalde14]

yes they are evil like my narc husband evev my chlidren are victims but he managed to turn the table up side down and manipulate my kids to go agsinst me now.at their expense just to destroy me.

[@TiaJoy1372]

Speak 👏🏿

[@milanjazbincsek155]

Helping a narcissist? Lady you are kidding, right? There is only one solution: no contact. Anything else is useless...

[@wishyouthebest5599]

Yes no contact is one of nice option

[@dymphnaguzman6312]

Some of us are disabled@dont have much of a choice.My sister who is 49@i am 44. it's been like a sick marriage all their years. I still feel that family is everything. The Narcissist will only use you. She only cares about her beuty@getting her way. Don't ever trust them,everything will all ways be about them. My love @i are working to make this better. We know now more then ever that I have to get away. PS ,do not let anyone take away your happiness this year!

[@traceyjoy7554]

Amen. I said the same thing. Distance or never ending torture. Only 2 options with narcs.

[@jennifermasiello2128]

I wish I would have known this at the time. I was with my ex about 8 years ago. To this day, the horrible names I was called, the way I was treated, and just so shut out. Not knowing what I did wrong really affected me. I am learning that I'm not the only one. He had a smear campaign alright. His own mother called me a whore over two dozen times. This guy told mommy everything about me. Which was used against me. I am not blameless. I shouldn't have engaged in such behavior. I should have kept my mouth shut. How could I have not seen it? I used to think of him as my friend over the last 20 plus years. I always knew he had a temper, but never factored in this narcissism. He emotionally tore me down, then cut me out of his life. I let it hurt me so much. Actually believing the cruelty these people spewed at me. Even though in reality, I know I'm not a whore. Or a, "Cum dumpster." Which is the most vile thing you could ever say about a woman. I spent many years taking the blame. Especially when he would read but not answer my fb messages. Here we go again, what did I do this time? Well for the first time, I am no longer grieving the loss of this FAUX friend. Just because you have known someone for 20 plus years, doesn't mean that they ever cared about you. He was Dr. Jeckel and Mr. Hyde. He got angry with me once for simply having to empty my bladder before sex. He once yelled at me during sex. He is now married to someone much younger. Prior to this, he told me of his expectations of a potental wife. Cook, clean, do his laundry...etc...etc. I recoiled and secretly thought, thank god that isn't me. As a child, I saw how my father too expected all of this from my mother. After 25 years, she was done. It always had to be his way all of the time. I wonder if I was subconsciously attracted to that. I used to think of our fights as the spark in the relationship when really, it was abusive. The more research I do, the better and more validated I feel. I was catching myself often thinking of him. Thinking that some small part of me would always love him. Now I see, it was like an addiction to a rush, not love, not at all.

[@sanctusignis9746]

You can't help someone who doesn't think they need help,leave that to codependents....just help yourself find peace in no contact. If you like to help/fix toxic people, just go to CodA n help YOURSELF.

[@CoachTaraTucker]

Wow this was powerful. Thank you. I made the mistake of telling him, and it’s just as you said. My husband has been giving me the silent treatment for a month now. I found out I was in a narcissist abusive relationship during 2020. I had no clue prior. We separated and I gave him another chance and we are back in this cycle. Now I’m preparing my leave

[@beaglerescue5281]

We’ve all made mistakes.

[@frankly5171]

My ex wife is a heavy weight champion narcissist. But I knocked her out by leaving her and going no contact...three years later I am a champion narcissist killer 😎

[@lisas1625]

This makes me happy. Mine is in jail 🤜🤛

[@sshrestha2814]

Ha! Ha! 😀😀🎑

[@YesuAiNimen]

Boss!

[@feliciaandmartinmartinez1154]

Good job champ

[@paulclinton6414]

Love it!

[@antisocial_socialite]

Step 1 to dealing with a narcissistic person....become emotionless!

[@BeeRich33]

The Happy Teflon. It also drives them batshit.

[@jaiyannamaquelline7516]

You’d only be turning into a narcissist yourself

[@ileniab.s.2318]

This is so accurate...

[@allyma3]

It doesnt work when its your mom. She will just beat you or take what is helping you against them, for me its my phone, and force you to listen.

[@Crystalblue58]

Grey rock is our friend!

[@audreybunyan1493]

I so wish I had known this years ago !

[@norekoescada3202]

Audrey Bunyan me too wtf

[@denisenelson1989]

I always called these people BITCHES and am still right but now with a real name for it.

[@bluecollarlit]

Me too.

[@nicolegray5788]

Everything was true for me in this video, so I feel the same way, waste of 3years of my life.

[@samuelmillar8125]

Me too. It must be one of the most confusing thing for a person to go through a relationship with a narcissist

[@78luck37]

Darkness always comes to light...SAYS THE LORD

[@josephholdman1037]

Amen!

[@G3mini33]

AMEN!!

[@jennifer.ann83]

Amen

[@eileenalexander1440]

So true.

[@HEfavoredme2]

Amen!

[@morganfalkdesigns]

Omg who isn’t thrilled when a narcissist shuts up? I’m so glad when my mother is angry bcs I’ve held the line...she leaves me alone.

[@TheRealJohnHooper]

Yes narcs get better and more sneaky if you call them out..

[@lilredrh4273]

John Hooper you're absolutely right!

[@bluecollarlit]

Fly Pelican good tactic, thank you

[@Noor-jw2tn]

I just pulled a few of his own tricks on him. It was funny to watch, he was so confused.

[@LordKaydenBreak]

Robyn if you don’t mind would you be able to give examples? XD

[@poetrymotion2027]

@@Noor-jw2tn 😁😂🤣

[@BobBob-ye9sc]

These people are absolutely mad !!!

[@masterartist1025]

Yes, they are insane, and trying to drive us CRAZY, too!

[@BobBob-ye9sc]

Master Artist I completely agree with you !!!

[@iks9120]

Bob Bob Yes,you are absolutely right. But there is one huge problem; they are very enough crazy do ruin people from their close surrounding, but still not crazy enough in way to get concrete professional diagnose (like schizophrenics, physical abusers etc...) which would define Them as ill persons with mental disorder. I want to say...if somebody beats you,you will very easily prove his aggression with visible bruises on your body, but how to prove all that terrible damage on your soul which narcissist did to you? Society still didn't recognize narcissism to be hard and dangerous behavioral and mental disorder.

[@carolynbarkey5912]

Bob Bob and there serious!!

[@Amarachi5]

most times the mental abuse done by narc is more painful and damaging than the physical.

[@endorphinrider1633]

When I was a child I used to think how shocked my relatives would be if I audio recorded her when they weren't here and they could hear how she really was. She always acted so holy and religious to the public but in private she was a raging monster!! It used to make me sick!!!

[@m.d.d4250]

Same

[@summerhill93]

Same here too

[@beaglerescue5281]

Do it! That would be epic 😂

[@niyah5299]

I did audio record some😶

[@niyah5299]

I’m trying to escape

[@rebeccayun4873]

I’ve met a man that said he wants to “mold me.” It’s so terrifying. To think about. To reflect upon.

[@SBecktacular]

Ew -what a creep

[@whatwouldaudreyhepburndo4260]

Run Forest RUN!

[@beaglerescue5281]

Huge red flag 🚩

[@achimwokeschtla7582]

Hearing what the narcissist is thinking is so disgusting and appalling ... all I want to do is puke and run ... Thanks for making it so clear and obvious

[@therealmotherhood]

They always have some drama going on

[@lovegoddess3912]

@@therealmotherhood yup..ALWAYS!

[@Sefriu]

I feel the same way. I can't believe I was with a narcissist for 7 years...never again!

[@jcb3259]

I actually cried as well as that is EXACALLY what John Boyle mentioned in another comment is more than obviously thinking. I feel sorry for the gal he is with now

[@soniabhagwan]

Volcano erupts 🌋

[@abbylavoe1401]

Absolutely true! The narcissist comes near you, RUN, they are capable of severe evil!

[@tedschmitt178]

Narcissists will even turn their (your) own (adult) kid against you in order to get supply.

[@quasimobius]

@Annette Zainea My narcissist has his mother and sister help him with every aspect of his controlling my family. I call them The Grifters. Never let them manipulate you into giving them a key to your home, you'll end up having to change the locks and buy a weapon.

[@Lavendermoonmedia]

Oh yeah. My little sister and I used to be best buds and now whenever I FaceTime her all she says is that I’m ungrateful, I need to respect Dad, I’m going to be nothing without Dad and that I’m not that smart. She’s become completely brainwashed since I left for college. She still has her hiding spot from Dad though when he goes on a rampage.

[@Aamy444]

Very true..they make our kids enemy of us.

[@kcole5177]

🗣💥💥💥💥😩🎯!!! FACTS.

[@dilaralove6084]

I have been with a narcissist and I didn’t know at first. When he gave me the silent treatment and ghosted on me for the first time, I was in physical pain I swear... then I came across these videos and learned what to do. He came crawling after ignoring him and not giving him what he wished. Then I realized he is giving me silent treatment almost every time we have some really little argument... if we are together in his place I would cry and go crazy and he would literally smile. (So scary) he wouldn’t care my tears!!!! and if I am in my home that gives me time to relax and not be in his trap. But I learned a lot from this video and it helped me protect myself emotionally. These people are really sick in the head. Also I recently found out he was married and lied to me whole time. And he looked so innocent all the time and promised me honesty. Beware of these evils. I hope nobody has to experience this type of relationship.... amen

[@Cinder1987]

Yes, then there are the married ones. Don’t hear many people mention them. See, the thing with the married man narc. is they find us, something on the side to get ‘thrills and new fuel’ and tell you that they love you and they aren’t close to their wife, they don’t have sex with her, relationships been dead for years.... cough cough on all that, right? Yet, their wives think they just love them and truly believe these freaks are loyal. I’ve had a similar experience to yours... and honestly I still think I should expose him for the creep his is. Stringing me along, being the little ole kind, loving, and loyal man in the beginning then poof, out comes the lunatic! After they’ve already made you fall for them and believe them. I want to expose him.

[@dilaralove6084]

urthebest1122 oh wow.. yes, I think you should expose him if you can. (In my case, his wife is in another country and I can’t expose him.) But I would do that if I was in your situation 🙏🏻

[@Cinder1987]

dilara güneş Oh this narc lives in another state. You can expose him if you’ve got emails, texts, photos from him. You can google her name to get a phone number or if you have his address send the proof you have in the mail to her name. Don’t have to expose in person. Their BS should be revealed.

[@stephenn77]

Took me way more than a year to get over a narcissist that came into my life, moved quickly and fully manipulated me. All the blame was cast my way and it caused me so much pain and stress at the time. Looking back, wish I knew then what I know now. Don’t feed into the game, don’t supply oxygen. When I finally started ignoring I reclaimed my power back. Took a long time for things to sink in. I never want to go through that again.

[@scotleoqueen704]

As an Empath, it's never "total" silence cause I hear reason for it, also near impossible to NOT want to fix it or defend yourself BUT it can be done! Practice it every day, to the mirror is good place to start 😂

[@Nikencycollects]

omg yessssss , always overthinking and wanting to fix shit .I know that feeling.

[@truthseeker7532]

Emotionless, Fearless, Silent treatment, concentrate with your life and don't tell anything, talk to them like strangers and their friends or family and you will see how powerful you become they will even try to treat like prince/princess but don't fall for it, stay safe keep strong. Many thanks

[@mihaela255]

Yeah, they are twisted in every way.

[@sensearch]

talk to them like strangers...yeah cuz that is what they are.

[@beaglerescue5281]

My husband and I know that we’ll only ever have a surface relationship with our adult daughter. We no longer hope or expect any good thing from her. It will always be us giving, giving giving.

[@NEBSpecialEdition]

Whenever my narc starts the silent treatment on me, I say, "Oh, the silent treatment? Great, that means I get a vacation from you!" He HATES when I say that to him and so he hasn't done it in a long time!

[@lmcbayne529]

Amazing, I have to try that. Thanks alot ✌️

[@toidean633]

So, y'all want them to talk to you even though it'll be abusive? I'm confused!

[@HEfavoredme2]

Lol, this is a good one

[@nunyah1111]

My narc never does silent treatment? Is this normal for narcs ? Hes loud , doesnt listen to my feelings , never changes Hes constantly scattered, hes brain is fried, suffers Gord, always right , controlling too the T and gas lights. His mother is exactly the same , puts me down and laughs like she said it as a joke. My narc partner goes and goes to prove himself right hates to be wrong. Hes always negative, sees no positivity in anything. Hes more like a friend I have no more feelings . Hes pushed me away with his narsassitic behavior. Hes made me rely on him. So now leaving him will be hard but I need to regain my independence. I've been in this situation 6 years and things have just got worse. And if I tell him something that upsets me , he smiles. Pure evil. Makes me sick.

[@Nikencycollects]

@@lmcbayne529 Run

[@OscarTorresWork]

Thank you for this, I generally ignore the narcissist all together and don't really care if they are ignoring me. I know their mind games.😂😂😂

[@akele7390]

It's kind of interesting.. especially from a man's perspective.. I caught my narc on her lying and mental cheating.. so I kicked her out.. (we have a child) .. when I told her to collect her stuff she started effing and b'ing, calling me the p word but I stayed calm each time.... i didn't say a word.. and she walked off.. all because I wouldn't play her game.. PEOPLE, PLEASE DON'T PICK UP THE ROPE.. IT'S ALL A GAME 🤗 .. she's already written your ending but the book will only sell if you play her game.. create your own ending .. stay positive

[@carolynnalvarez7032]

Wow, well said. Love it.

[@bluecollarlit]

akele 73 sounds like "gray-rocking" -- a term I just learned recently.

[@jsmith3980]

Carson what's gray-rockin?

[@faithgrace9143]

akele 73 what do mean by "mental cheating"?

[@prettypoisedproductions5757]

Idk you may be the narc...mental cheating accusation then you kicked her out , kept the kid and YET you're convinced she walked away for attention not possibly a response to crazy accusations at all??...js

[@mjrotondi5086]

They are too messed up to spend any time with....drop the freak, move on.

[@arkdibby7140]

I was dragged into this world, but it wasn’t till I came across these videos and realized all the things that are defined as covert narcissist completely describes my ex. The past 18 years of marriage and counseling and all the stuff that made no sense, suddenly fell into absolute clarity and now makes total sense. Unfortunately, the damage is done, and our children are suffering because I spent the entire time thinking I was in the wrong and crazy. I had no chance of a successful marriage. I have been completely isolated from my entire extended family, because they believe all her nonsense. Of course I am just realizing, that I never knew she was working her smear campaign for the past 18 years. And not once did any of my family come to me or ask me, anything. Wow, was I blind and naïve.

[@beaglerescue5281]

Hopefully, the mask will slip and smart people will make the connection. I’ve endured two smear campaigns from two different narcissists. The first one totally backfired because everyone already knew he was bonkers. The second one will have to play out. I don’t plan on defending myself at all because I truly don’t care what other people think about me. I’m just glad I’m no longer the main target.

[@sabrinahilton8957]

GOD KNOWS THE TRUTH THEY CANT FOOL HIM🙏❤Keep praying to Him In Jesus Name Amen....

[@theforeigner6988]

Exactly. Jesus helped me to spot and deal with my narcissistic wife. Thank God

[@heatherschaeffer4579]

No, prayers could help these evil hurtful mf's. Yes, GOD will see how they treat people and decided what happens to them for their rudeness. Great, post.

[@y.k.9705]

@@heatherschaeffer4579 Some say it's Jesus, some say it's Moyshe Pipick, I'm confused. ;)

[@itsjustrenee1320]

Pray for the children of narcissists. I know two who need deliverance from their narcissistic parents.

[@saranagh7097]

AMEN.

[@masterartist1025]

Thanks, Michelle! I know that I am overcoming narcissistic abuse because for the first time in a long time, I am truly taking care of the entire ME, not just my physical health. As a matter of fact, I just got through scrubbing every inch of my kitchen like in the old days! A clean home is my happy place. Cleanliness is Godliness, so goodbye to evil.

[@lorraineblessed242]

Amen!!

[@zoestallone9582]

Master Artist 🌸😄Amen, So Happy For You🌸Let Freedom Reign.🌸

[@redhotchillypepper3234]

This is so true!!! ♥️♥️♥️😊😊

[@jonnaperila6791]

Oh god.. This was the thing I needed to finally start cutting the final cords holding me back. 💕

[@jonnaperila6791]

@Mr. J Thank you for your concern. I made even if it at first looked like I wouldn't.

[@marktalksmoney1956]

Good for you!!!

[@darrynreid4500]

They also do not know how to handle it when you stop explaining yourself, and when you stop conditioning your view of yourself based on their approval.

[@SBecktacular]

I would give your comment 10x thumbs up if I could- So true.

[@jerig8137]

Got my running shoes on

[@delphinecoleman993]

I thank God for opening up my eyes so I can see my self worth is more to me than it was when I was in a narcissistic relationship. it is so freeing when you allow yourself to start to see yourself as greater instead of lesser as it has been projected to you by them. Because of your kindness sense of compassion which is God given has been abused don't give up on yourself learn how to love and appreciate you, give yourself new goals and achievements, seek help if necessary but remember God first and thru HIS love you can be restored.

[@oscarmannheim7434]

Delphine Coleman so where do I begin? I want out. Realized that I only ever feel bad about myself with my narc. When in his presence I feel nervous and like I’m a loser. That can’t be good.

[@kaiana3047]

Amen!

[@mihaela255]

They are twisted. Hate them, they will love you, love them they will hate you. They laugh in sad situation and get envy in good situations. They love dirt and laugh about innocence.

[@forthepeoplenottheparty1502]

I think it's far worse dealing with a narcissist when you aren't aware that you're being gaslighted. Years I was dealing with this, the pain mentally and physically of being ghosted have been so damaging and being told and made to feel like I was crazy and doubting myself over and over again. Having affection held back and feeling ugly and untouchable. This is horrible.

[@oluwaseunmabinuori98]

I think It’s better we understand that Life isn’t a bed of roses and it only takes a smart and determined mind to know what he or she is getting into. There’s a popular saying that: “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist shouldn’t be trusted. I discovered my husband of 13 years cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned his cellphone and i was able to read all his messages and uncover his Infidelity without having to touch his phone. All i did was share my husband’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to his social media accounts. I read all recent and deleted chats On his WhatsApp, Snapchat, and emails with a remote link on my phone. I’m here in L.A and able to read my husband’s text even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I found out through his chats that my husband has been secretly diverting our hard earned savings to his old school mistress for upkeeps. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i am going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him.. You can contact this Sage hacker Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail ) Or Text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp [phone] and don’t forget to thank me later.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

You are right on with your statement that they know what they are doing is wrong. Why? Because they can turn it on and off. The fact that they can control it around certain people (authority figures and people whom they "respect"), proves that it is NOT unconscious behavior. If they can comport themselves decently on the one hand, but drop their pants with YOU, well then they know right from wrong. Thank you for pointing this out. I'm over the narc excuses: "I just couldn't help myself" and the classic, "You made me do it."

[@kikierwin1745]

Yes, they do know what they are doing. My mother used to shout the hell out of me - every day - sometimes twice a day a scene. No matter how I tried to be perfect. I could clean the whole house and having A-s in School - and cooking food for the wole family - I never could escape her raping me with shouted words and saying the meanest things. But-when a neighbour came she stopped at once and they had nice Cup of tea-and the neighbour went on to the grocery store-and mother closed the door and went on. Must be kind of stupitidy, alcohol and sadism. I hate my mother - so often she poisenend me with washing pulver and salt- after I had found out she is sick and mean and letting her know, maybe a fault-I dont know ! My mother is mean -and so stupid that I could cry or beat her to death-if only that would be possible.She needs hours in the bathroom,cannot cook the simplest meat-dishs,tried to kill my sisters baby with a pillow-puts liquid washingpulver on the stones and takes seven towles to rub it into the Garage floor to remove the oil rests.She eats chocolate and liquorice the whole day and we have to stay allert all the time.But she can drive a car - has a low -profile job as an telefoniste for big pharm-and looks clean in her Dolce- and Gabbana Outfits.But ,when she opens her mouth - you can really watch some people are literally shocked !Every man ran away from her as soon as possible.My father ran and said help she is crazy as hell !Unfortunately he didnt tell us nor took us with him.He has a new family today. Stupidness is very dangerous.On the other hand-they must suffer big fear when realizing they cannot do anything real. My mother has a maid for her laundry. It should give nice homes for such people-in which theri could get some good pocket Money and their own rooms. And they could work supervised very easy work-six hours a day.There are such homes but run by the Nazis who giving them deadly laxatives calling it Psychopharmaka. The People who are sick knowing this and fear it and do try it on their own - and what else can they do.Friends they will never have-at least some who would Show them something. So they have to be Lovers in order to have a past-when at least they have learned all their needed and find the ultimate last one to marry and be fine with it. But thats my crude fantasie....dont known why parents sadistically torture their children-I mean that are the biggest helpers they would have when being nice. I am quite confused. maybe ist an alcoholic Thing only and their are in a mental coma and do not realize theri behaviour afterwards......

[@anniemaymcneely2013]

Breakthrough Moment yes a d they show you their disrespect by their comfort level with mistreating you

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Annie May McNeely 👍

[@elcalifornio9356]

Breakthrough Moment. This is because they're evil. Psychopaths and narcissists are simply evil, they enjoy causing others pain and suffering. A psychiatrist will not use the word evil to describe them but I know that's what they are because I've dealt with a few of them in my life, some of them in my own family. They know exactly what they're doing and would rather cause pain than joy. They are actually more common than people may realize and my advice to all is to avoid social media as it is full of narcissistic people. Narcissists need attention and use social media as a weapon.

[@NarcSurvivor]

Very true Breakthrough Moment. They are professional abusers with years of practice. Their lives are pathetic just like they are, so they've given up on that. Instead, they choose a victim to destroy, to give the illusion that they're living a good life. The sad thing is... if they actually put all this time and effort of abusing into their own lives, they could actually be something. Instead, they'd rather lay in their hate, anger and bitterness. There are two paths we can take in life, I think we all know which one the narc has chosen.

[@pieterloftus5488]

These are probably the best advice videos about narcissism I have seen. I have a qualification in Psychology and I learned many things here.

[@zaz4jaz]

I second this, this woman is a genius on narcissism- shes really helping me heal!

[@wendyjohnson9576]

This truly hit home for me ....I'm still learning

[@fatima5959]

Dan doc... I wish I can come to you......

[@tonykuli]

Cruel fiends, they seduce you knowing full well we would bring our defences down as theirs stay intact since they feel nothing and can never truly become intimate!

[@alcudiababe1]

"They don't want you to know their behaviour is wrong!!" Spot on! That is how they manipulate emotions and can make you feel like you need to be the one to explain and help them because they want to leave you with the impression of they are almost misunderstood and I guess a lot of us can relate to being misunderstood and you feel the need to protect

[@DodgaOfficial]

The truth is these people are some of the most miserable people there are on the planet. They cannot find joy in life unless they have a billion dollars are are worshipped, and even then they would only be happy for a small amount of time. They can't run from themselves, and they are the true problem in their own lifem

[@keithsnider4402]

Daniel Mihalko 100% agree!

[@krystalberryhill2772]

Daniel Mihalko 🙏

[@scottanderson1964]

True Daniel Mine had me a bodybuilding champion for sex and her ex husband a Doctor for money but they get sick off everything and just live everyday COMPLAINING when they are happy it's for only a very short time

[@marthaal-beitawi2448]

you're right, they are miserable. I am reading everything about narcissist because a narcissist killed my son because my son didn't want her back. Now I need to find a way to help his two kids, who she is raising now. If anyone has any leads for me please help. my email: [e-mail]

[@TMonique6969]

This is so true. They have a new toy, the excitement is short lived and they discard. They don’t know what they want! They think money will provide happiness, how misinformed are they! They are incapable of managing money and it is always someone’s fault....blame shifting, denial.

[@Gloria_All_Day]

This information is right on point . When I learned the truth, I ran for my life .

[@ilovesamyo]

Jill ! GOOD ON YOU! WAY TO GO TO SAVE YOURSELF!!!! So many of us are not strong enough to do that

[@GigiDrummond]

What goes through their mind when they're giving you the silent treatment? Not a damn thing because they don't give AF🤷🏽‍♀️

[@hnsfamily]

Your 😆funny

[@roshakasravi1989]

Don't help/teach any wierd-0 personality ANYTHING ! ... GET OUT ... dissapear fast ... Your mind is NOT their playground to reck havic in ... Don't look back. Protect yourself, your one life is all you have. * BE GOOD TO YOURSELF

[@strongfaith1311]

Great video but God has promised NO weapon formed against me shall prosper, and every tongue risen against me in judgement shall be condemned.

[@tbird2952]

I've been starving my narcissist for awhile now and he's slowly disappearing. So gratifying....and fun! They are so easy to destroy.

[@jaymmycolon7465]

I wish I had your strength

[@jaymmycolon7465]

I wish I had your strength

[@nadiayofav8]

@@jaymmycolon7465 u do just give it time

[@jaymmycolon7465]

@@nadiayofav8 Thank You! The Lord is given me strength. Now, he wants custody. This abuse is too much. My daughter is autistic, she needs consistency, he has none. I am nervous because court is this week.

[@johnnyblaze2257]

“My Narcissist”?.. looks like your owned for life!

[@gratitude1181]

It's awful how devastating it is dealing with Narcissist😶🙏🏾😐 Thanks for sharing🧡💙💚💛

[@lc-bb6bd]

My husband of 24 years has all the symptoms of being a covert narcissist. He never screamed and cussed but he was so mentally and emotionally abusive. He played mind games. He shut me out. He stonewalled. It was awful. He discarded me in November after all the years. He’s tried to Hoover me a few times but I have ignored him. I am thankful to finally be free. I just hate I stayed in it so long.

[@CherryVanHolland]

I told the narcissist at a time on the phone (without showing suspicion) that I’m writing an academic paper about narcissism for my study. He just said ‘heavy stuff’, tried to fob me off on the phone and didn’t respond to my calls anymore for a while. 😂

[@umeshbandi7436]

Cherry van Holland 😀😀👍

[@redeemerl5212]

you said you were writing a paper , was he not just giving you space?

[@buffhotchkiss7400]

Cherry van Holland the response he gave you showed he was not interested heavy stuff. This is so fake and cliche. Trust me he could have cared less. Thats a common response as to say keep yalking but im not really

[@johnrabolloro2568]

Concentrating completely on oneself and not what the narc is doing... Very good point...

[@user-se5gg5cy4y]

If they are slandering you, they deserve to be stoned. Jail. Expulsion from civilization.

[@davidoaikhena4380]

That’s the key and Antidote! We have been applying it! LOVE YOURSELF and BE CONFIDENT! That will put the nail in their coffin

[@TruthSeekerNC]

I so wish I had known during my relationship that it was narcissist behavior so I could find channels like yours to gain insight THEN instead of after the whole ordeal was over. What I wouldn't have given for this knowledge because I just felt so defeated and worthless and unwanted. Sadly, it's been a year and a half and I still have these feelings that I just can't seem to overcome. They have the power to completely break a person, to destroy their spirit, to make them hate themselves! Every time I even have an inkling that he might be seeing someone new all I can think about is how sorry I feel for this woman because I KNOW her life will eventually be the hell that mine was. What you said about them being, in a sense, a bear at home and a teddy bear in public is so true and it's what eventually broke me. It left me feeling as if there was something wrong with ME, like I was a disgusting, horrible person that didn't deserve to be loved. I still carry that with me and fight it every day. Thank you for the good that you're doing for the people that are in this type of relationship. I had no idea what it was before but narcissism is REAL.

[@LoLeKarlchen]

whenever my bf and i talk seriously, when i "earned" his seriousness for once, he says i make him sound like he abuses me and asks if i think he abuses me. well, i say no to him, but we all know he does at least know what he is doing. i not any longer will see a middlefinger in my face or be told that i'm fake. i will no longer be insulted through a complimentatory filter and smile. i will no longer take part, this is not love. and honestly, he never really had me. i was aware from the beginning, yet was lonley. he makes me feel guilty for wanting to leave, but i have found my selfworth.

[@SongOfTheStars]

Hey uh, I saw that in your situation he asked you if you thought he abused you, and was wondering if you think that’s a sort of tell sign- asking you if you think they’re doing something bad to you kind of thing. Like.,, “do you think I’m manipulating you?” “Do you think I’m lying to you?” Glad you made it out of that situation :3

[@LoLeKarlchen]

@@SongOfTheStars Hi, I'm glad too; we even could end our relationship quite peacefully :) I cannot say for sure, as this is an extremely subjective question, right? I think it really depends on the context of the situation.

[@zennsketch]

I've been in multiple narc relationships. I've gotten away from all of them (the last two, at the same time, last year). It's crazy how accurate this is, and how much better off I am now. I'm in therapy and working through a lifetime of narc abuse. But it's empowering to know that I'm free from all of them, and never have to talk or see them...ever again.

[@daughterofgodwarriorofchrist17]

I made that mistake, i told my narc that he is a narc and showed him the traits. First he said whats wrong with that? Everyone acts like that. Then he just became more covert. Same thing when i showed him abusive traits. He became more covert. Having a loving caring heart is something that cannot be taught. Ive tried that too and he doesn't comprehend it.

[@bradmcewen]

Daughter of God Warrior of Christ Exactly. Empathy is not learned behavior. It's organically there or its not. Anybody who can not introspect is truly showing their ignorance.

[@ursamagick]

Daughter of God Warrior of Christ He is not human and he will never be anything more than he is now. You can't fix stupid and you can't change narcissists. BTW They can't handle exposure. Like vampires when the sun comes up. They fly away.

[@daughterofgodwarriorofchrist17]

Yep he told me that everyone is naturally selfish and when we do good things/care about others/love others, we only do it because it feels good or to get something back out of it. I told him its more than that, and he doesnt believe me. He cant comprehend love

[@marrionhues7296]

Daughter of God Warrior of Christ I think our culture is more self-centered than ever! Narcissism is just as much as an epidemic as the flu.

[@kayh156]

I told my husband that he is a narc but I also told him about some others that are narcs. So now he tries really hard to prove he is not one and I use the observe don't absorb method so it is all around better. I know what he is, he knows that I know and life is somewhat calmer. If he discards me then good.

[@CarolanRoss]

"Also they can learn to be 'better narcissists'" UGH > wow, now THAT'S a phrase! Yet I think I GET it. Seems there's no such thing as a 'better narcissist' but they DO learn tricks and manipulative strategies to become much better at their game. Despite their evil pathology, they also tend to be intelligent enough to observe and read people over time, and especially once accused of being a narcissist, many will 'up their game' by purposely displaying tactics that might make them fall OUT of the description of a narcissist. For example, I know of one who uses the word "empathy" a lot on social media. Since we know narcissists have ZERO empathy, people may think > 'oh he's showing empathy, so cannot be a narc' > NO he TALKS about it to throw you off, does not mean he ever actually FEELS it > just one who has "learned to be a better narcissist". Another narc I know makes a big deal publicly about his volunteer work for a local charity, and we may think > wow NO narc does THAT, eh? Smart narcs might. He does it in ways to beg attention and despite that it happens only once per year, gets him a lot of notoriety on the ultimate goal, the facade of Mr. Good Guy. Amazing the numbers of people why BUY it. He even got media coverage, all the while acting in 'humble' ways. BEWARE the Narc, even MORE the Smart Narc.

[@jamesjames1364]

Michele, I must say. I have watched, listened to, researched, escaped and survived this topic for 4 years and you are the only one that I have found that has hit on and detailed these 4 key areas. Mainly the 1 secret you should never tell, which was my big mistake. Thanks, and please don't stop helping others with this life-altering nightmare. JAK

[@samanthaspeaks4206]

Gosh as i learned i was starting to mimic the narc characters of my mom i realized i could repent so i am pressing on now praise Jesus im free and my mother is just so sad and only Jesus can change our heart from so so negative to encouraging and positive. I use to blame my childhood and how my family use to say its ok youre slow blah blah blah and i believed it but now im not a victim,i choose good and I CAN grow for good to the world and be happy in myself. This hurts my heart so bad. We should never validate negative behavior or belittling each other especially self 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@naida6958]

True

[@terryfisher7810]

Yes true

[@justicerelax2854]

So true. Well the narc knows I know. The narc knows the last discard and game was the last one. Now they are trying there best to fix what I won't allow to them to fix. I've shown I'm cool and not even bothered by there acts of evilness. Living and loving me....how your day been??? Hahaha

[@denisenelson1989]

Yes, my sil knows now I'm on to her and keeps telling me I love you, when I see her soon she will see a very strong side of me and the guard at the front gate when I tell her "NO". Can't wait to see her reaction but still keep cool about it!!.

[@naliashanon7620]

let's pray for these people. those are demons inside them

[@shanti3152]

Agreed. Thanks for your kind thoughts- Nalia Shanon

[@jonesfredrick94]

Mam that's who they are period

[@That.Lady.withtheYarn]

Stop blaming fictional beings for their behaviour. Its giving them an excuse why they can kerep acting that way without concemqurences. Stop with the religious bullshit. They need to be held accountable and everytimre some one brings up god or demons it removes the accountability from them and places it on a fictional being!

[@mercytruth1945]

@@That.Lady.withtheYarn Every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that JESUS is Lord....

[@aprils.9726]

So true!! The first time I called my abusers Narc to his face, that was the first day he hit me. IMMEDIATELY! I said it and got hit! I don't advise calling them a Narc to their face. DON'T DO IT!❤

[@GH-zg2wu]

April S. I would love the narcissist in my life to hit me, he never would though ☹️

[@BullZEyeReview]

The thing about me is I hit back. I was brainwashed for a bit but realized I was in the presence of a narc. He is terrified of me and my confidence now.

[@mixberry3181]

@@GH-zg2wuIKR! it would be the quickest and cleanest break!

[@Dillanfn]

I did

[@debsday5445]

Omg I hope you left him.

[@Witchofthewoods.]

These characteristics are exactly what my ex did and said to me especially the silent treatment. My god I hated it. I just wanted to talk and work it out but in 8 years that NEVER occurred. It was ALWAYS my fault...even though I treated him like my king. Now he's moved onto his next victim and left me and our BEAUTIFUL son...his loss my gain...my sanity and life back

[@oriaascentiant174]

Tara Elizabeth Right there with ya.

[@vanessaddaisley9580]

Tara Elizabeth same happened to me ...I tried for years and years ..... everytime I tried to talk to him to get him to understand what I wanted he would ignore me and then say that I only quarrell all the time...even when I am not.... disgusting people

[@buffhotchkiss7400]

Tara Elizabeth thsts the problem you treated him like a king and put yourself last. When your too giving the opportunist loses respect for you whuch as normal.healthy people acknowledge but they are not healthy.

[@kaiana3047]

If it's easy for them to replace u that's the sad hard Truth!

[@PopiBear54]

In Jesus Name Amen !

[@randomelvis3359]

Heal your Codependency the Narcissist disappears....get strong, trust intuition, have self respect ....if it feels wrong, leave......as soon as you stand up for yourself they will discard you...then you’ve your answer 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 think smart...mind your “own business” heal your Codependency....enjoy your life, too many youtube videos on this is not good....form healthy boundaries 👍🏻 trust intuition...be well 🙏🏻

[@carmel-wayfinder5401]

On point🙋when you start to heal your personal stuff keep it moving...

[@sagewisdom3371]

I'm an Aquarius so his silent treatment is no match to mine😂Nope, I learned to stay mute and let them be..I figured out mine was covert, let him know I see his BS, standing in my power

[@nuna2968]

OK.. Team Aquarius... WE WILL NOT LOSE !

[@sagewisdom3371]

@@nuna2968 That's right!!

[@candicejaid6107]

Yass TEAM AQUARIUS 🌊🌊🌊💧💧💧

[@jumjam6116]

My ex was an Aquarius. She was also a narcissistic person. It was the silent treatment from hell

[@CS-dw4kw]

@@jumjam6116 narcissists can be any astrological sign. Victims of narcissism can also be any astrological sign.

[@cindylong624]

I've seen the 'two faces' of the narcissistic parent. How they talk down about a person-boss,coworker,etc,then go through narcissistic rage. After that,it seems like they 'reset' and act like nothing happen/no anger towards their boss/coworker..

[@prairrie]

God this was my ex husband , no one would believe me , he took over my friends , my assets and my family saw nothing wrong .

[@carolynjones5142]

My mother was one, on her death bed she wanted to see me I REFUSED .SHE DIED WITHOUT MY NARC SUPPLY DEATH SHE SHIT HERSELF ,THEY ARE REALLY SCARED OF THE AFTER LIFE, BECAUSE THEY KNOW THEY HAVE BEEN TWATS IN THIS WORLD .MY MOTHER I PRAY IS IN HELL FOR THE LIFE SHE GAVE MY FATHER. MY BROTHER ONE, NO CONTACT .LAST THING I TOLD HIM IS THAT HE IS NOT IN MY WILL .THE WILL IS A FORTUNE, SUPER LIFE CHANGE 🆖 MONEY AND THERE IS FUCK ALL HE CAN DO ABOUT IT.SMEAR CAMPAIGN IF PEOPLE BELIEVE THEM ,THEN FUCK UM .WERE THEY YOUR FRIENDS IN THE FIRST PLACE????STAY STRONG NO CONTACT IGNORING THEM KILLS THEM.THEY ARE FUCKING TRASH.

[@eduardoborrego5714]

@@carolynjones5142 Thanks a lot for sharing. Same situation here, narc mother, narc only brother no contact at all. Your example encourages me

[@nancyfahey7518]

@@carolynjones5142 I hope you can find peace and happiness in your freedom.

[@fionam3735]

Jude Linsell mines too, control freaks with no boundaries. I have a daughter with my narc husband which he uses as another tool in his bag😕.

[@carolynjones5142]

@@eduardoborrego5714 thank you ,sorry about the language, but no contact KILLS THEM STAY STRONG

[@MegatronSmurf]

thank you you are actually one of the few people who truly understands whats going on

[@BeauSC4Ever]

Gwyneth Von Thunderthighs I agree 110%!!!

[@realempath8327]

Thank you so much,I won't tell my mother I know what she is 😉❤️👍

[@lvamv8283]

Thats mean .

[@maepeterson7197]

lv amv it seems that way at first but I have to think like this: I would never allow any friend of mine to invalidate, undervalue, or control me right? Why would I let my mother do it? Being a parent doesn’t mean that you can’t be held accountable for your BS. Narcs WILL NOT be held accountable. Period.

[@navydogsadventures3500]

I love when I get the silent treatment, I have peace in my life!😀😀😀

[@CoachCreesh]

It's sad that you accept that! You can have 100% peace every day and all day. I pray you learn to love yourself and walk away from every abusive person that you've allowed in your life.

[@navydogsadventures3500]

@laromitchell Still the same old crap. My fault I guess, but extenuating circumstances.

[@tc2333]

So true. When I first learned about NPD I learned to go no contact quickly and quietly.

[@adolfwong4663]

Covert narcissists do not act badly ever, they manipulate, they use different methods of harming so you never become suspicious, otherwise they would not be covert, they would be overt.

[@ivy3839]

Adolf Wong you right, I am with the person 3 years, suspect he is a covert Narc... still not entirely sure, but there are some signs ... anger, rage and yes, never in public, hard to reason with, he is always right and his favorite is cold treatment ... I do not react anymore as he always comes back, but these time I have to call it a day I think.

[@garymarshall3212]

@@ivy3839 PLEASE be safe, protect yourself at all times x

[@ivy3839]

@@garymarshall3212 Thank you, I did, the Vampire is a history !!!!

[@kirahoward23]

They're the worse ones too! When I was doing some research just to find some clarity after all of his bs came forward full throttle, thanks to a scorned side chick, my mind was baffled about covert narcissist! This is so so true! I remember it like it was yesterday, I was floored that there even was a difference. I can't tell you how much I felt like all kinds of fool's.!

[@kirahoward23]

@@ivy3839 everybody likes and loves the covert narcissist. They have a damsel in distress complex and they love to be seen with their family. It's so damn weird. With the covert narcissist, you and the kids make him look good. They are super sneaky because with the covert narcissist,there's a specific image they want to be heralded in. With an overt narcissist,what you see is what you get. But boy when you pull off the mask of the covert one! I'm talking full narcissist rage! They're the ones that hide behind titles and intelligent, beautiful people and suck their spirit because they don't have one.

[@independentvoter2448]

I exposed mine on National television in a TV program. She was destroyed. I told all the truth about her.

[@Sunflower88685]

🥳🥳

[@chantalcraven5089]

You're absolutely correct Each narcissist has admitted they don't want to change and played victim each time.