“I went so long without laughing” hit hard. Standing with all survivors in unity. The best is yet to come.

You are so weak of course you ended up with narcissist its your fault

We narcissist aren't attractive to strong we are attractive to weak. So if you are so stupid and weak then its your fault, nobody makes you to be with us, its your own weak personality. So dont cry later lol 🤣

22:41 I did exactly what you described. I unburied all of the things from childhood and everything through my marriage. It overwhelmed me and my state of mind was not good. The anger, the pain, and resentment was unbearable. I had to forgive them for everything in order to start finding peace. The only one that I haven't fully forgiven is myself but I'm getting there.

This made me cry. Family and friends don't understand. I tried therapy but it was sterile, cold, and all that they wanted to do was push pills on me. I needed someone to talk to more than anything. The only place that I have found answers is with these types of videos. It just hurts that no one understands what is going on. I have, however, recently started going for walks again. Thank you very much for putting this video out. God bless you!

Anyone here ever dealt with someone who used to abuse and miss treat you suddenly change? I feel so confused now. 😖

Yes. I have had a strong defense reaction. 13:42

He told me i was a control freak if i wanted my boundaries to be respected. He told his family, my family, and even the police when i had to call them, that i was trying to control him so that was what was making him lose his temper. So, eg I asked him to help with jobs around the house because he wasn't working but he just wanted to be on the internet from around 7am right through to midnight onwards. He was getting worse and worse. So instead of asking him to come off it, I asked if he would please just stick to a more reasonable time frame of 9am to 6pm. And even that wasn't going to give him time to help in the garden. But he was furious at me. He stopped using the computer all together and instead began drinking even more, sitting outside smoking and drinking from lunchtime to gone midnight. ..and he told everyone i was bullying him and wouldn't let him go on the internet! How could i prove what was actually going on? He finally showed his true colours to the police and eventually they made him go to his parents and said he wasn't to come into the house here again. I was so relieved. Even the kids felt like they were finding themselves. But i still feel really damaged. Trust is gone, my drive and motivation are virtually nonexistent. I never want to go anywhere. I still struggle to make decisions yet i used to be fine with it before I met him. Nothing i don't feels up to standard so i even struggle to make a card for someone! His influence is losing it's hold on the kids so that at least makes me feel a lot better. But its a long process.

10:18 not sure my trauma response but I don’t think I’m a fawn? I am hyper aware of how he’s feeling even when he doesn’t say anything. I’ve been told I’m in fight or flight a lot

All these are what im going through especially abuse amnesia and drug abuse I want to quit but every time im ready to quit he brings it around even more ive tried leaving him ao many times but i keep coming back to him i do love him but i also know i need to leave (started to cry as im typing) but i can't. on top of it i ger extreme stress exema on ny right foot whenever i get the curouge to leave and am away for more than three days my foot stops itching ( it gets extremely itchy down to the bone itchy) i don't know what to do 😭

Watching this video makes me feel like I missed out on a life of happiness and freedom of expression. In 22 now and still experience the same patterns and guilt-tripping tendencies my mother used on me from an early age. Makes me sad but I not know I’m now alone

Well, 17/23 strongly relate to. Yet I still struggle viewing them as a Covert Narc, despite friends and therapists and everyone telling me she is. I'm just using this knowledge to help our kids to flourish despite their other parent having these issues.

There are even NPD among non-family friendships. I tried so hard to replace my first childhood friend with another friend, but it was not to be. I did not know what it was called, but early on I noticed his sickness. Over the years I tried to distance myself from him. He even stalked me to a public venue where I was participating in a business meeting. He began dating one of my ex-girlfriends and flaunted that until he realized he met his narcissistic match. When he finally married a woman, that was the beginning of the severance away from me - thank God - but so late. He'd go on to marry three more times. His one and only daughter spurned and estranged him. About three days after he died, after years of kidney disease, his widow had a new boyfriend. I smiled at that because he had to have been there for her while the Narc wasted away in hospice the last year of his life. NPD seems to be the most prevalent mental/personality disorder out there. I was surrounded by it - my two parents and older sibling too - all mentally, emotionally abusive. All the aforementioned are dead now. But man, the damage they left in the wake of their lives.

Michele, This sounds just like my life. I have just left a 32 year marriage. Thank you, for your help!❤️🙏

It seems like these are strategies to deal with a narcissist, why not leave? That's really the only solution.

I finally see myself and what I've been through with a narc husband clearly. I'm currently working through a lot of guilt. At the end, I was not a good person and I feel very guilty about that. I'm very ashamed of how I acted though I recognize that my extreme response was a response to an extreme situation, I'm having a hard time forgiving myself. I'm a widow now and this presents other life challenges but it has given me the freedom to see my 40 years of marriage clearly. It's all very sad. What a waste.

Saying a therapist pointed out she was in an abusive relationship… that would have been amazing. I never had a therapist do that for me.

Impactful analysis, information and actionable steps to help those going through abuse.

Thank you so much. Thank you so much. I really need cause. I tell you I'm tired all of this. Tired of the Crying and then the fighting all the craziness. But I think you

In Kansas we women were all abused by narcissists by what the Freemasons and Illuminati secret society people did to citizen for their Covid agenda. I used to do ballet every day of my life, I was born in a ballet pose, my dream from age 3 was to be a professional ice skater, which I gave up by age 8. I haven’t been able to dance since the first year of Covid, nor do anything but hide in my closet.

I’m thinking poor people might be in a narcissist relationship with America bc people won’t hire, your success is dependent on if you have secret society on your side. Regular people don’t have a chance.

What if it’s not narcissistic abuse but instead from missing your dad when your parents split up? Father was abruptly removed from my life. There was some chaos when he was with us, but we loved him a lot.

As it was said on a reality show - one woman said “She didn’t steal my man, she saved me from my problem”

Good to hear and learn. Thanks!

Yes! my core self is beautiful and I can heal and unlearn unhealthy behaviours or those who treat me with blame, contempt or an attitude of worthlessness. I never lose my worthiness, self love or intrinsic self acceptance. So I already know projections are happening or something very unhealthy is happening when this is occurring. I will try to have boundaries in unhealthy situations of blaming and shaming, as they indicate to me, an unhealthy relationship. Blame is one of those huge red flags. Usually this is a signal to me the relationship is or could become abusive <3

Thanks for the advise❤

Good to hear, thanks ❤

Had a so called best friend like this, now I’m trying to better my life and focus on myself , so is she … but in a better way 🙄 so draining

I had parents who I wouldn’t call narcissistic, but they had very strong personalities, and didn’t always know how to show affection all that great. I knew they loved me, and they always treated me well, but could come off strong at times, and, well they are both very strong, confident people, who didn’t often get silly (my dad did sometimes- he had a silly side). Anyway, my point is, they are good parents, and not narcissists, but yet just because of their strong personalities against my shy, introverted one, I have these traits too.

Point on. Thank you for sharing this 🙏

Wow yes thank you so much for this exactly what I've been going threw on my own since year an half no contact bin slow painful process ❤but yes have been doing what you just suggested ❤on me own but struggling like you just explained ❤this is exactly what i needed too hear ❤thank you awesome 😎🌹

Omg. This has got to be why I’m so exhausted all the time. As if I need at least a month to just drool on my pillow. I have had years of therapy and nobody has quite put it as simply as you do in this video thank you wow.❤❤❤

This gave me horrible anxiety listening , which I figured it would because I already knew ..I'm in love with a man who can't won't and will never change and even if he's not a narc, it's still toxic..this is 2 relationships in a row of narcissistic abuse, and it truly feels like your watching yourself slowly slowly die inside and out..but I'm going to get out !! I haven't given up ..great video ❤

You are unbelievable!!!! I’m really thinking about helping her!!!

EXACTLY!!! When I was learning how to play guitar, she used to YELL at me every single time saying that I make a lot of noise!!! I ended up dropping my corses.

You are amazing! This is exactly what my psychologist told me.

That’s it exsactly. Thanks for the video was looking for just this. They pick people who are joyful caring and can put up with a lot of suffering in order to help others. Them. That’s why I was stuck hoping I could change her. If I did not have a daughter I would have stayed but did not want my daughter to have to see her papa get so warn down. Now I have my daughter half the week. How do you help your body ca 16:11 n you make a video on that specifically would be great

Is it possible to ask questions in the webinar or is it a lecture ?

Holidays with a narcissist spouse … yikes! Thank you for your advice.

Is that conscious ? I have the feeling they cannot help it but tried to argue to herself that she’s well meaning . Perhaps because she knows that being well meaning , a good person , is what is necessary to be seen by them and others as perfect . I think they have a weird oblique relationship to their own patterns and they and they need to deny their true enslavement to these evil goals before their own minds eyes . At least if they are not complete psychopaths . They may argue to themselves that it’s not evil . Because they cannot allow that perception .

I love the flower

1. Walking on eggshells. 2. hypervigilance 3. Live in fawn/trauma response 4. No boundaries 5. Uncomfortable 6. Gaslighting 7. Depression 8. Fight trauma response 9. Toxic shame 10. Personality changes 11. Confusion 12. Rumination 13. Lost sense of safety 14. Addiction 15. Amnesia 16. Negative beliefs 17. Physical pain 18. You don't recognize yourself 19. I miss me 20. Nervous disorders

I went through many of these symptoms.. especially developing mini seizures and depression and anxiety and all you said.. I was with him in 31/2 years...and he was a covert narcissist... Thank you for saying these things.. I'm not with him for 6 months now but I still suffer from being with him... I'm in threapy and have been.. I went overseas for a week and got back and seen his true colors... I needed this clip Rejection is God's protection..😮😮

This is not particular to female narcissist, this is particular to all narcs. They keep moving the finish line, so that the other person remains in that conflict. And they do it in all relationships.

Boundries mean these people cant be in your life. Its hard to explain what its like to be in this situation, but shes doing it . Its so spot on .❤

I now know for certain that even though I get angry 😡 and behave in ways not like myself especially towards my partner it’s not because I am a narcissist who willfully hurts others…in a way it is because I am reacting strongly to being hurt by my partner who could be high on the scale of narcissistic traits. I have come to notice that the ‘gaslight’ is always on!

My hands would slightly shake and it was embarrassing. I couldn’t control it. I always felt overstimulated and on edge around him.

23 years in 2 kids 1 grandkid here let me help you out f this save yourself you coikd have a girl like her that gets it vs being a scapegoat beware it doesnt get better if your lucky you will make it out

You explained it perfectly.iys hard to explain to people.thank you

Did you mention short term memory and lack of concentration? As you already realise, is that I suffer from both; I have to ask people to text me and leave something for me to read. My anger is on the lines of being toxic to me because I've tried to kill myself twice, well 3 times but the last time I tried I asked to forgive me again and I kept saying sorry to the Holy Spirit. My anxiety was painful, every part of my body hurts. God kept me alive, and I KNOW He did, because I took a huge amount of insulin and I'm a T1 diabetic; I fell asleep and when I woke up I was soaked through with sweat I couldn't stand but I had some biscuits to eat, I managed to call an ambulance but it seemed like they were asking stupid questions so in my slurred voice I said diabetic but he asking me to repeat it, in the end I threw my phone across the room. I just didn't care. Oh it was three hours earlier that I took the insulin ( 20 units) and I was still alive. Now my hero to this day and longer is my Lord and saviour Jesus Christ. I would have to write a book about all the times He's saved my life and that's just the times I DO know about. I nearly lost God through the Narc but God some how brought me back. I'M alive and there are no words on earth that can say Thank You God for saving me.