FULL GIRL CHAT: May 28, 2020

[@waneizasohail1764]

Y’all need to talk about George Floyd 💔

[@emanualcarr7408]

Thank you!!! How do you have a show that is supposedly based on "DIVERSITY" with a "WOMEN OF COLOR" Agenda, but you skip over MAJOR TOPICS within the BLACK COMMUNITY that can and will also affect other minorities (people of color moments)? Then you will have people uneducated/ unwoke up in the threads talking about "WE NEED MORE LIGHT HEARTED TOPICS." Meanwhile the world is at a standstill with this new Police killing in Minneapolis. Even Trump had an opinion on that. I'm sure Amanda may have mentioned it to the other panel members, but again. this is why I say it defeats the purpose of her even being in a "space" like this. Three other women worried about gossip, relationships and hair and makeup, while people in the streets being killed for little to nothing SMH. They need 2 Amanda's On here. This is part of the problem, people want to go around issues that affect their communities following the white man's script and brushing things under the rug. Yet when the Pandemic hit, they had all the conversation in the world for that, when people were blaming the ASIAN community. It was people in these threads going hard for BLACK PEOPLE to come in SOLIDARITY with the ASIAN community at the beginning of that issue. But like I said before, see how when it is a MAJOR ISSUE affecting the BLACK COMMUNITY, not a word, let alone any SOLIDARITY for those same people who had all that mouth about how we should support the ASIAN COMMUNITY. Where they at during the GEORGE FLOYD case? HAVE NOT HEARD A PEEP FROM THEM. Even on CNN, where they at during the protest? I see more white people than the ASIAN COMMUNITY. So how does SOLIDARITY work again?

[@yenitaylor683]

the show is pre taped

[@britbritnicole]

Emanual Carr these episodes were pre-taped and they’re done for the season. The real posted something about it on their ig

[@theinstitute7971]

Yes

[@agirl9491]

I thought they would 💔💔

[@britbritnicole]

I agree with Adrienne and Loni, some guys are very shy and aren’t as confident to just say it and pursue you. You can flirt and everything and they will flirt back but still be hesitant. Men get scared too and don’t just make moves quick.

[@StraDivina]

That’s absolutely true, the exact same thing happen to me

[@signalfire15]

Anxiety is a disorder that needs to be treated by medication or therapy. If you are shy or insecure to the point where you are not functioning well in life because of it, it's something that needs to be addressed with a medical professional so that the right treatment can be administered. When it comes to the art of pursuing, women seem to think men will pursue if they want you bad enough but they neglect that men can also suffer from anxiety related issues. That being said, if you don't have an anxiety disorder and you are simply shy or insecure or just introverted and quiet, there's no amount of fear that will stop you from going after the things that you desperately want in life. If there is, again, it's most likely an anxiety issue and needs to be treated.

[@miriammwaibula]

I’m with Jeannie on this. If I flirt then that’s your opening if you don’t take that chance then that’s it with me. I can’t keep pursuing a guy who has zero clue, he too slow for me even if we happen to end up together i feel that he’ll drain me tf out. That’s jus me tho

[@stacib3033]

Don’t fool yourself. He may have flirted but he wasn’t that interested 😂 your ego is assuming he liked you as much as you liked him

[@britbritnicole]

Sarah Ambriz really? I think I’m going thru it too lol. I think a guy I like likes me back but is too shy to admit it lol

[@gaila.9852]

This conservation was one of the best the five of them have ever had. They were all able to express their thoughts, and they listened to what each person had to say. What an insightful, healthy debate.

[@DJWaterfalls]

I’m with Adrienne on this one, because I’ve known guy friends who have been too insecure to follow through.. and it wasn’t that they weren’t into the girl.. they were just way too shy like Loni said.

[@gaila.9852]

I agree with that. I also agree with Jeannie that if someone likes you THAT much, they will make even the tiniest effort.

[@god-loverlisa8120]

I totally agree 👏 👏 👏

[@yenitaylor683]

Adrienne, you have a deadly fear of flying, but does they stop you from traveling? No. Why? Because you love to travel. If a man really liked you, he wouldn’t let the shyness or ego get in the way of him persuing you...

[@lordweneedu8217]

Oh wow 👀

[@carino96]

Yessssss

[@gaila.9852]

That was a great analogy!

[@user-ce5yh3zx4v]

Period

[@bnatrl88]

Bingo!

[@huntermarie621]

They really need to take into account that some people (men and women) have social anxiety. Sometimes it’s more than just being “shy.”

[@rebeccaromero3237]

💯💯💯

[@tshepisokanono9387]

You actually broadened my mind up, I forgot about this. They get overtly anxious to a point of giving up, even if they wanted it badly. Thank you for broadening my perspective.

[@tamikamoana]

THIIIIIIIIS! This made me SO mad with what they were saying, like nah, not everyone is like yall.

[@NaNa-wy2tk]

I feel like it's hard for them to grasp the idea of social anxiety, that and asexuality.

[@KenfnboxingHL]

thank you for saying this because I really dont think people realize how crucial social anxiety is and it feels like people that dont struggle with it, kinda shame others who do by labeling them insecure, or self absorbed, etc when thats not always the case. trauma also plays a big part in social anxiety so it really isnt easy to get over.

[@mrspat3222]

If he doesn't make an effort to approch you, he is willing to lose you forever, so hes not that into you. Period.

[@snoopz2]

Or maybe he is not single, gay, married and my favourite “he/she is just not that into you” women and men tend to forget that last one.

[@jesslee5560]

Amen

[@gaila.9852]

This goes both ways!

[@user-ce5yh3zx4v]

Facts

[@MoreofAaliyah]

I love this topic!!! You know when a man likes you.. he shows it. When you question it...he ain’t that into you

[@aaliyahcorbin381]

Exactly!!

[@itsLeeLeexo]

So true!

[@aura5944]

Yes. Idk how people have formed various conclusions/excuses why someone won't let you know they like you,... he's mom said don't talk to strangers, he can only be seen at night, he's new to the whole operating a phone, you have to be the man and pursue him! Whhhhhaaaaaat

[@Drawingboredi]

This convo is so regular and real. Love it.

[@JT1L]

The best virtual girl chat thus far.

[@gaila.9852]

@@JT1L Absolutely!

[@JT1L]

Lol women could like men for years and they would never know. Insecurities are real

[@Camii0496]

Preach

[@Tan87ful]

Yep. Same goes for men

[@qicle]

Same vice versa though.

[@burrito8600]

for real

[@jewels8286]

This literally has happened to me!

[@tamikamoana]

Nah, this is the first time in a long time A (and Loni) has been SO spot on and everyone else is too busy thinking about themselves to consider how others react. Some people want others, opportunities whatever but are so scared, think they aren’t worthy, are shy, insecure etc. That doesn’t in any way question or take away from how badly they wanted someone/something.

[@indigobeauty1]

Just focus on friendship & once the trust is developed...Everything will naturally fall in place.

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Sorry. Doesn't work that way. Romance and Friendship are two different ballgames. Never be just friends with someone you want to have a Romantic relationship with.

[@clmediazw]

I love this perspective

[@elul979]

This is better than what has been said for 14 mins

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

@M Muss Yes. Key word Relationship. When you're in a relationship you should be fiends...but not before. Act like a Queen. Friends meet at the Restaurant. If you want him to see you as a future Girlfriend. Act like one. He comes to your door and gets you. 😉

[@indigobeauty1]

@@CrystalDatingCoach If I notice a guy is into me, and I have some feelings as well...I would casually spend time with him.That way, there's no pressure, no reason to over think...with time, trust was built without really realizing. It's worked for me.But it might be different for all Dear.

[@savannah-leegodsprincess8498]

I had come here to hear thoughts on George Floyd and nothing... Apparently this was pretaped so I’m out... Grace and #PeaceBeWithYou. LORD JESUS wipe tears. GOD rest your soul #GeorgeFloyd

[@gaila.9852]

They filmed several episodes a day and finished filming weeks ago. We unfortunately will not hear their thoughts about any new events on the show. You can go to their personal pages for what they have to say.

[@carmellem6813]

For reals. I skipped half the clip thinking that they were going to talk about George Floyd.....maybe tomorrow?

[@aaliyahmarais]

Exactly

[@Strawberryfearsforever]

Go to Amanda’s IG. She always addresses things there.

[@livinggg]

Carmelle M I think they’re on a break and won’t be filming new episodes anytime soon.

[@kitten101l]

just a reminder to spread love everyone

[@destinywilliams8797]

Insecurity often trumps how much you like somebody. We can be in love with someone for years & that person we never know 😂

[@ingrid8994]

I like Tam’s “Bitch Please” t-shirt 😂😂😂

[@gaila.9852]

It says beach, haha.

[@bushraaaa949]

“RARA DADA YO MA WASSUP WHAT IT DO MAMACITA “ lmfaoooooo Adrienne got me rolling

[@rycr92]

Other than being shy, what if a guy just suffer from anxiety? Agree with A & L

[@snatched.8135]

Exactly, thank you.

[@samreen2037]

Let’s all wear black and not tell Jeannie

[@Annaaaaaaaaaaaa]

I agree with Jeannie & Tamera on these topics. I've been in the situation where you think the person is just nervous so you make more moves & after a tumultuous time, realized that they were never as into you from the start. Adrienne kept saying "No, what we're talking about is..." and completely changing the situation each time🤔 The topic wasn't about how some women like to be pursuers it was about letting go of guys that you've been with who make no effort for you now?? At least that's what I got from it. And on the second topic as well- RELATABILITY is everything. That's why this show is called "The Real." With so many issues, especially things like mental health. In the case of depression, you feel like no one is feeling what you're feeling. In this case, it's not that you wish bad on anyone, it just makes you feel seen and heard when someone else shares their struggles.

[@SamanthaN92]

Im 27 and never been pursued. Im always the one making the first move. I like to know how it feels for once for someone to pursue me. I dont like feeling like the man in a courtship 👎

[@aura5944]

So do you think they saw you, and we're into you? Why did you approach, couldn't let the chance go by?

[@SamanthaN92]

Alexandria Culver I was desperate in highschool and even in my early 20s. The dudes weren't going to make a move, so I knew I had too. I wanted to be liked so badly which is why I desperately made the first moves. Now? No way! I've matured and I will never allow myself to be embarrassed like that again. Im no longer desperate for a boyfriend so if someone comes along, fine. If not, oh well. Im done making the first move. Never again. I dont care who likes me and who doesnt. I never had anybody like me in a romantic way. And if they did, I certainly didn't know about it.

[@gaila.9852]

@UCRVa5-WJC8dAgO3YdzC8OEQ You shouldn't let your period of desperation determine your attitude for the rest of your life. If you truly like someone from now on, don't be afraid to let them know. "I don't like feeling like the man in a courtship." Gender roles have got to go.

[@SamanthaN92]

Gail A. I hate rejection. Its a very awkward and embarrassing place to be. I also hate feeling vulnerable so even if im attracted to someone, ill act like im not interested to protect myself.

[@bushraaaa949]

Hey girl! I can agree with you to an extent! I typically always have to pursue and make the first move as well. I know you don’t like feeling like the man in the courtship but have any of them opened up and mentioned that they always liked you but were maybe too intimated,shy etc to make the first move. Most of the guys opened up to me by saying they did not want to come off as disrespectful but were interested in me. I was flattered nonetheless and I don’t want it to discourage you from making the first move again! Let me know your thoughts. I am 26 btw

[@gaila.9852]

I totally get what Jeannie is saying. If you feel really strongly about someone, you will step out of your comfort zone to pursue them.

[@chantellarmoed9058]

If a guy really wants you he will persue you. In my first year of Varsity I liked this guy so much but he just seemed to not be interested. So I went on to dating other guys but I still made sure that he knew I was still around. It took him 4 month to ask for my number and another 4 to ask me on a date. It turned out he was really shy and was also recovering from depression. Till this day we've been together for almost 3 years. So yes if a guy is really into you he will persue you. Even if it takes him a whole 8 months 😅 and if not then honey he's just not that into you

[@MajesticMyronn]

Having trouble dating is one thing , just not finding the right people to date are another... because a person could be the best date and do all the right things but some personalities don’t mesh and that’s fine... just keep going out and getting to know people til u feel a spark

[@user-om8lu4nq4v]

Shy guys who don’t talk to anybody WILL go after the woman they really want 🤞🏿

[@snatched.8135]

Umm not really. I will convince myself a thousand times over that the "signs" are all in my head and that I will just completely humiliate myself or make them uncomfortable if I try to pursue them. And I'm a guy.

[@marieperez3796]

Need a man with confidence. Pursue me , but again I know women that want to play game . Not me something about confident man make me feel great about myself . I do appreciate the effort.

[@erivera4517]

Exactly. I prefer a man with confidence.

[@gaila.9852]

Consider shyness. A shy person does not automatically equal an insecure person.

[@FeliciaElsa]

Even a shy guy will find a way. It has happened a lot around me. When I was working in Foreign Affairs, I watched this guy interactions for a whole week. She came from the US and him from the Army, and they were both there for research. They would talk together when they would arrive and at the end of their day. There was chemistry but I could tell that he was very interested. I just kept looking at their interactions because they were cute together. Except for a good morning, we never truly talk. At the end of the week, it was their last day and he has to leave early. He came to me with a note, asking me to give it to her once would finish. Of course, I read it and in his note he was very respectful and left her his email address. It was very smooth. I gave it to her and she was very surprised! But she still blushed. That's when I realized that even though he didn't seem like it he was too shy to be upfront with her. However, he still found a way to let her know that he was very much interested.

[@heyrina4836]

“Yo suavemente” lmao 😂

[@cyn725]

I saw your comment before it was AMANDA that said it... twice 😂🤣 Unexpected!

[@annebrady1870]

Loni's face every time Tamera talks about motherhood, hahahaha!

[@mayloop123]

9:40 i felt that hand raise Amanda 😫 dating is a struggle ESPECIALLY in quarantine

[@carlylifting]

I love you guys! I'm constantly watching The Real. I'm a new fitness KZbinr and you guys give me so much motivation to keep pushing myself and working hard for what I want! Love you guys! XOXO

[@KenasDanielle]

Adrienne described me ... I'm the pursue me but quietly type girl. Guys chill like that are the ones who are the best to me, not because I might be the alpha but I think they trully are, they are just humble

[@giulia2098]

I'm like you but I find that chill guys never pursue me🤔🤔🤔

[@JackGeezy]

Thanks Tamera, there was some good episodes with you and the original 5. Gonna miss you.

[@jasprerph]

I completely agree with Tam ! I've always told my single friends.... If a guy does not pursue you then he's NOT INTO YOU. Don't waste your time pursuing him, coz he's not interested into you. Any man who really likes you will make every effort to be with you. And if the guy is too insecure to approach you then you don't want to be with him.

[@shalomchild7414]

One of my best Girl-chats. I like what Amanda said about if something is stopping your elevation, it needs addressing. Also on the topic of sharing failures, yes I believe being more open, transparent, real about our downs as well as our ups helps others by way of them relating to us. People can make progress when they know someone they admire/someone that is at the top of their game... went through various things too 🙏🙌

[@rosiemorrison6281]

I‘m all about A‘s insight👏🏼 My guy is most definitely the one and he needed a little nudge from me in the beginning anyway. Don‘t be afraid to approach a man you like, ladies.

[@petrinegordon]

Finally they post full girl chats!! Took them long enough. Yay!!

[@sevenof00]

Failure is definitely at times a necessity for growth. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve fallen, messed up, made poor choices because it’s been well a lot. However, I’m better because of it. I think that definitely people talking about an intimate failure on social media is difficult but also helpful. It makes you feel less alone in your struggle, and even if you can not relate to the specific situation, you may learn something from it. In respect to people complaining about the lack of conversation about the George Floyd issue. I’m sure it has something to do with how the seasons episodes were laid out. I have been listening to these powerful beautiful and inspiring women for a long time now. I have no doubt that each of them have very deep thoughts and emotions about what has happened. From the little that I’ve gained about them from just the show; I am very sure that this is in their minds and hearts. They have also touched on numerous social injustices and systemic inequalities so I have no doubt that they are doing do diligence with respect to George Floyd. This show isn’t the only place where they demonstrate their values and they have other projects. I’m just saying, before we place judgement upon them and the show we should take time to recognize that it is in fact a show that is representative of all kinds of topics and that given that they have never shied away from real conversations about brutality and injustices against the black community; I definitely do not believe that this is what is happening. We have too much pain, too much hate, too much judgement without forethought in our world. Please don’t take this as me coming at anyone in particular; just saying before we judge we should reflect and recognize that there may be other reasons for the topic not being addressed. I know our nation is in a very fragile place right now and there is a tremendous amount of anger as there should be; but we do have to take time to listen and be patient with ourselves and community leaders who have proven to be constructive (these ladies included).

[@rrun2life]

Again LONI is looking gorrrrrgeous 😍😍 so is everyone else but Loni, the hair, the eyes, the coy laugh at everyone's commentary ❤

[@narmeenpallett2770]

I know right! I always thought her and tam were the most beautiful but loni has something about her. Shes beautiful and funny and she looks even more gorgeous during the quarantine. Dont know how she does that 💗💗💗

[@uchechiuwanaka]

especially in times of unrest and because of advocates like Amanda and Loni and what this show represents in the community, it's important to keep the show and topics fresh especially because you are filming from home now, this is not a time to take a break or air pre recorded content. thanks from an avid viewer season 1 episode 1

[@bukolatestimony]

It's easy to share failures on social media when you have overcome it than when it's fresh and you are still walking through the process. There are so many critics and trolls out there who may do damage to your emotions rather than appropriate your openness.

[@l1lunk0wn]

Amanda : "Oooh, I didn't know he was Ozarking" LOL !

[@nanaakuapokuaa8155]

Wherever you are Be Safe out there famz💖💖

[@MsMak03]

Tamera isn’t here for the rah rah guy 😂🤣

[@thesalahchannel8984]

Kevin Hart said in his new audiobook the decision that in order to succeed you have to be uncomfortable or pushed passed your limits so I completely agree with Jennie and Tam. If you REALLY want something/someone so bad you will push past yourself in order to get what you want. PERIODT. But I do completely understand what Adrienne was saying.

[@rachrach8679]

Took me a WHILE to figure out Lonnie doing the applause sound wasn’t a blender 😂

[@pikamom20]

Same lol I was convinced she was making Margaritas under the camera lol

[@rachrach8679]

Sandra EXACTLY lol!

[@aneiciaray9041]

LMFAO Amandas face when Tamara was talking about the moms crying is priceless 🤣🤣🤣

[@deborah8194]

Why Jeannie always got a question for the question. Girl just answer

[@Nlovexo]

Lmao

[@DeclanD2]

All the time lmao but I love her !

[@poeticjustice3839]

Some people just like to be clear on what the question is. It’s called a conversation.

[@adduranadrian]

Jeannie is my fav but this comment had me rolling 😂

[@erivera4517]

🤣🤣

[@jewels8286]

I agree with all the ladies but definitely Adrienne because that has happened to me, and being the woman that I'm I did loose a good man because of thinking that he's to good for me. The men that I have encountered over the years throghout my life have told me you can have any man you want , but I have to believe that myself.

[@OSinghGyallll]

Tamara is on 7900% on that topic n Jamie. Because if a man let's good insecurity block his chance at you... Then he feels you are not worth the risks....also just have to add Tamara is probably the most gorgeous woman on TV and she doesn't need to make those faces that she had been and I'm glad she has a relaxed her face because that natural beauty just shines through with absolutely zero effort

[@UrbanDecayLova247]

I agree with Tamera...after a certain point shy men do take a risk.

[@danielarroyo265]

Tamera at 7:19 😂 WE KNOW U WOULDN’T want that Tam, it quite evident 😂

[@trishedmondson4278]

😩😩😂

[@Angie-nb4pg]

No I get what Adrienne was saying like there are guys who could be super attracted to and want Beyoncé but know inside that they’re not going to be good enough for her, and therefore not even try.

[@Nlovexo]

Adrienne running her mouth to be first for every topic is driving me crazy. She never did this pre Amanda. Girl, speak your mind but relax a little

[@tiabee1637]

Yes and half the time she misses the point or rambles about nothing.

[@helenmayberry6010]

@@tiabee1637 Exactly..that's all she's doing.. rambling, being so extra with the Amanda gestures..she got on Jeannie nerves

[@SKYYLOVE]

*go to her insta & @ her.*

[@beebee__]

I agree! I said this before and peeps were coming at me *shrugs*

[@paulajett2756]

I totally agree with the point that you made about Adrienne.

[@user-ce5yh3zx4v]

I am not pursuing any man. Men are 'hunters' if he does not put in any effort I am not making the first move.

[@paprika7930]

Eh, that don't make me a "prey". I generslly loathe those terms. They don't make sense, plus they subliminally add to the rape culture lingo. How about any one can make the first move?!

[@oneinamillion8037]

There will be negative trolls but sometimes sharing your personal shortcomings can help other people relate and see you as normal. You don't have to share everything but it is ok to be vulnerable and relatable as a woman, wife and human being!

[@dcundeniable7804]

As a woman I cannot assume to understand the male ego however men are said to be hunters if they aren’t pursuing THEY JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU

[@lakeshabambury5664]

It is important to share your failure when building any relationship to be vulnerable and to find relate ability with someone. I most definitely will share my failures with my daughter as life lessons.

[@ForeverFloraI]

I don’t agree with Adrienne’s use of the word insecure, but I do agree with Loni that some men are just shy.

[@bukolatestimony]

If a lady shows a guy that she likes him and he is still not pursuing in the assumption that he is "Shy", Then babe just take a walk cos HE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU. Period.

[@flowerchild2150]

Adrienne’s eyes when she’s talking go back and forth faster than a tennis ball during a match.

[@toinylaudy9209]

I'm with Jeanie in this.. In all honest, if a guy really need you and really like you, for really he wouldn't be shy or scared to pursue you. I mean, nothing can stop him. NOTHING

[@josephinescere6086]

If he doesn't THINK he's capable of being your man, then he isn't... I dont understand what else there is to say. "It's up to you to decide what ther things are that are standing in the way of your elevating yourself?" YASSSSS Amanda!

[@khodani_h]

Ad is right, some guys are literally shy and it doesn't mean they not into you

[@Ryh_Ryh]

I agree with Jeannie there are some things you just want sooo much that you go for it.

[@LMLification]

Flirting and signals are oftentimes misconstrued, with people assuming that someone is interested when actually not. Friendship is a better place to begin anyway if a lasting relationship is being sought after.

[@daphneymarc9420]

So that's like basically saying shy people aren't capable of going after things they want. I'm shy and if I want something bad enough I will work my around my shyness, point blank. Jeannie's face @ 7:19 while Adrienne is doing her weird reenactment of how men approach women is hilarious!

[@MajesticMyronn]

Somebody pursing doesn’t mean they’re chasing they could be doing something but simply just being chivalrous , asking questions that pertain to how serious he wants to get , cuz chasing to me has another stigma to it... I want someone to pursue me as much as I pursue them ! We’re grown we don’t have time to play games lol

[@lordweneedu8217]

No loni, not a tree monster. Lmaooooo. Amanda reaction 👀👀

[@sheritzy]

I know tia and tamera are twins but tamera reminded me so much of tia in this segment, everyone looking great as always 🥰

[@tineeashmon9223]

Some men over think and they assume you are with someone. We can't put men in a box. We don't want them to put us in a box. A man can be into you but very insecure. Sometime fear over ride passion. It also depends on what a man has been through. Some men don't handle rejection well. Pluse men sometimes they are not ready. All men are not to same. Some are passive-aggressive. Some are too aggressive /passive. Some are just slow. 🤔

[@aura5944]

Do you want the man who isn't ready? The one who is not interest that you haven't put in a box? Or will you take the passive aggressive one or settle with the very insecure? All great reasons for sure❣️

[@jyn88]

Did Adrienne say her products sold out is a business failure @11:55? Sounds like you're doing well to be selling out!

[@cmvisperas]

i don't want no fly guy, i just want a shy guy :P

[@evelynramirez6390]

Adrienne is so New York in this chat i love it 🤣 rah rah rah

[@gaila.9852]

This goes both ways. If a woman really likes a man, she will forget the silly gender role and make her feelings known.

[@YaYa-hr2rr]

Listen, just because you think you're giving off come hither signals doesn't mean you are... perception is different for all of us...other than that I agree with Jeanie

[@taliavoider]

And maybe he is struggling with his sexuality???? 🤣

[@neeshespieces]

Oop🤭🤫

[@Nique1986]

Luv the topic so many women struggle with this I’ve been divorce almost two years now n honestly I’m not in no rush to date etc because its not same as it was years ago !!!!

[@aura5944]

You look young💗💪🏽💪🏽

[@trueexclusives]

This is not true. I have been friends with someone for YEARS and REALLY, really, wanted to take our friendship to the next level, but I was too scared to ruin the friendship, too scared of rejection. etc. Of course that may hinder things in life, but that isn't the question at hand... so no, just because a guy doesn't take that step, it doesn't mean they aren't always into you. (Most times yes LOL).

[@gaila.9852]

I wish they had talked more about shyness. You can't assume all these people are insecure.

[@ogeairyn5035]

I've loved this though I believe if a man wants a lady, he has to pursue as much as he can , I think I can't do the passive aggressive kind of men

[@brittiniroye6732]

So, this was Amanda's last show or....?

[@mariee1336]

Adrienne talking about herself...talking about my friends like "shy dudes..." lol that friend is her!

[@oneinamillion8037]

It's true if a guy really wants a women they should and will pursue them. However, some guys are more shy and layed back and want the women to pursue them because they don't want to come off thirsty.

[@god-loverlisa8120]

I looooveeee when Ade brings that NYC! 😘😘😘

[@kareenar.1687]

I've never been this early!!!

[@vanialegall8194]

Same! Lol!!!!

[@hillaryrc]

The show is coming out like this on tv or this is just for KZbin ?

[@ellet7946]

The right woman will make a guy come out of his shell,because he most definitely doesn't want anyone else to snatch up his prize..

[@stacib3033]

There’s a difference between to pursue and to chase. A man who pursues you comes from a secure stance. He knows himself as a man and knows that you as a woman will compliment his life. A man chasing you comes from an insecure place of he must have you or his life will end which is not attractive to me anymore. Those ones fizzle out once he’s won you. With regards to Adrienne’s point, I don’t agree because even shy dudes can have confidence and will approach you in a genuine manner. An insecure man, is one who will eventually be the jealous type. Please ain’t nobody got time for that.

[@AwkMind]

The camera quality for Amanda is lower than the other ones

[@Sandra-sr7ww]

This isn't about random guys approaching you at a bar. It is about consistency in dating. Yes, men can be shy but women shouldn't blame a man's inconsistency on "shyness". Even the most shy guy will put forth effort in a way that feels comfortable to him. If you don't really hear from him, if he hardly sets up plans with you and if he is not actively trying... are you still going to blame it on his "shyness"?

[@Candie4JC]

Some people are don't know their own worth to pursue what they desire because they don't feel they deserve it out that they wouldn't be go enough for that person & don't wanna hurt that person with their brokenness. I agree with Ade.

[@missbibi209]

Amanda.. Your hair looks beautiful today!

[@shannonarchie3681]

i avoid sharing some of my failures in dating because of wanting a certain way of the whole process of how they way someone should pursue me and the way i envisioned how it should go in my mind

[@lizberry010]

i think even if hes into me, if he can' be consistent and there for me due to his insecurities... the he isn't the one for me. we all have to work on ourselves before we're ready for the relationship

[@sheillyjanice3514]

Why does it say "Full Girl Chat" and then it's cut off while Tam was still talking? How long are TV episodes really? Half an hour or an hour? Just wondering.

[@SaL-on2ki]

Women need to be straight up Men need to express

[@snoopz2]

First of just because I don’t automatically pursue you, doesn’t mean am insecure, I hate that stereotype, secondly women make it to hard for men to pursue them like that, and thirdly, why do we need to play these high school game, you and I ain’t got time for that, just be straightforward. He/she can either yes or not.

[@vanessafly5143]

What they are speaking about this??? Is it pre recorded?!

[@KJNov]

Trust me most men will see u want to talk to u and stuff and yes it is that we may or may not have confidence but majority of the time is rejection. That is a knife to the heart.

[@marieperez3796]

Adrienne come down. Talk to much . Go Loni . Go Tam .🤣🤣

[@helenmayberry6010]

Yes she can't debate so argumentative ..let's agree to disagree

[@GreatRhyno]

Adrienne annoying loud and obnoxious