[Full Story] My mother forced me to break my wife’s heart and my wife retaliated.

[@Expectation69]

This is NOT a mother❌🙅‍♀️‼️

[@animekid290]

She is in love with him lol

[@HannaBronja-vy3vx]

​@@animekid290 you think its funny?

[@GOJO44569]

​@@HannaBronja-vy3vxcalm down it's a joke quit taking it up the ass

[@KanjiKZX]

Bro what💀?​@@animekid290

[@davinaoakley-wy1pi]

​@@animekid290God get a life

[@yailynchevere577]

a mother like that shouldn't be called a mother .

[@liztewliztew]

UNLESS mother is also known as MA…as in the 2019 psycho triller movie, MA!

[@Idk_and_idc..]

@@liztewliztewuh…ok?

[@RaulIsVeryPro]

Thats some mentally ill garbage of a mother

[@marvelpower9674]

Agreed, seems like she really groomed him and shit

[@J0NNY.]

​@@liztewliztewyou need a therapist or sum cause where does the movie Ma come in play

[@I-like-mangoes2]

I felt like puking when I heard what his mom thought of him as her husband like I was eating chocolate and I how to put it down🤢🤢

[@thatonekidfromschool7554]

honestly I don't blame you. although my chunky self wouldve kept eating the chocolate xD

[@zadaDreiling]

@@thatonekidfromschool7554same

[@TanishiChaudhary]

Did you finish the chocolate then ?

[@I-like-mangoes2]

@@TanishiChaudhary I just had to take a minute and then I ate the rest of it

[@TanishiChaudhary]

@@I-like-mangoes2 phew 😅 good thing you didn't waste the ✨PRECIOUS CHOCOLATE✨

[@4rt3m1s-m00n]

I do feel horrible for the guy and was being manipulated by his mother and even though everyone in the comments is talking about the poor wife.He wasn’t dense.He was constantly being gaslit and indecently used by his mother growing up and his wife should have seen the signs if she even claims to see that.Therapy for him should’ve been an option from his brain unless she didn’t even want him in the first place

[@dragames]

my question for this is, if she was gaslighting him this hard, why wasn't she doing it before they were married? Was the father's death post marriage?

[@alunchange7975]

Thank you According to the story the wife never tried to helped him Almost like she never even wanted to help him Notice how she quickly went on a date with what she called an old flame? That was her back up and everything just gave her an opportunity to make it public

[@khendralibbey617]

@@WillBerserkAnytimewhat brain? That was one of the most brain dead things I’ve ever read.

[@hunterblane610]

​@@dragamesGoing by the video, it started when he qas 21. If his dad passed away around that rime, that would explain it.

[@HunyBread_]

​@@khendralibbey617you are the most unhelpful person here.

[@BCSTUFF]

The woman was sexually harassing the son, and so many people are saying OP is in the wrong. If the genders were reversed then I guarantee he would get a life sentence and nobody would be on his side

[@FlynnFoxly]

What the actual Fuck do people think when they do sexual things to their FUCKING KIDS?!?! It genuinely makes me feel like throwing up

[@CosmoNinja27]

Yeah, you're right.

[@Ajlikestraveling]

Accurate

[@donmak1614]

Yeah, sounds like some people watch too much porn

[@FlynnFoxly]

@@donmak1614 tf is that supposed to mean?

[@damnimstillalive8310]

Wtf is wrong with the ppl in the comments. No way is the wife in the wrong but neither is the husband?! Like tf he was abused! Manipulated! He thought it was NORMAL! Does that sound ok?! His mom sent him NUDES in work. Why tf are you blaming op? Idk what would happen but im just saying if the roles were reversed, the wife would’ve a LOT of sympathy (ima girl)

[@bakedandbeaded]

You’re so right! Also a woman here, the comments are baffling Me????

[@x_Solaris_x]

For real. He was a victim of possibly long-term abuse (because that is straight up what it is from that poor excuse of a mother) and literally no one gave a shit, no one noticed, not his wife and not even himself. While the wife's feelings are quite understandable, I feel like she should have at least TRIED with the couples counseling like he suggested, and if that wouldn't work, proceed with the divorce. Poor OP tbh, his whole life was ruined because his mom was mentally unstable and abusive, and everyone blamed it on him.

[@Emerald_Forge]

Bro refuses to stand up to his mother and i guess that's fair if that's what he grew up with but if you won't stop verbal abuse to your wife what else will you let pass?

[@user-nr1dx4us4d]

@@x_Solaris_x I'm disappointed with the wife for not trying, he genuinely wanted to try and help himself, if she knew all he went through and did not care to help or stay by his side, then that bad from her, an L

[@user-nr1dx4us4d]

@@Emerald_Forge you've never heard of abuse before?

[@solomonadjei758]

The wife was already done with the relationship. The mother was just her final straw

[@Nuh_uh568]

Now no one will know what i was talking about

[@ltalpha9697]

I totally agree as a wife or husband you should be trying to help the person. She probably never loved the guy. It disappointing how people would just refer to divorce. The only valid reason for divorce is being abused and cheating there ain’t any other valid reasons

[@Abi-ee1kn]

​@@ltalpha9697 no no no relationship is not about 1 person but both i dont think she should fix him after having a child if that person is not mature enough to know whats right and whats not even missing aniversary for some chore i dont think he would be fixed if she didnt divorce him that is the thing that made him realise he is in the wrong i know he is a victim and she is too of verbal abuse and neglect in marraige so we cant blame one the only one to blame here is the mother

[@noneYabBizstoplookibg]

@@Nuh_uh568they never said he was in the wrong though 🤨

[@ace1x177]

​@@Abi-ee1kn marriage is not a math question, you people get into relationships and get married like idiots. And when you realise you've made a mistake. You just head towards divorce, ou people clearly don't have any form of respect towards marriage at all. you people are selfish, marriage is not for selfish people. That's why it doesn't last very well in your cases. You people as a society are a disgrace.

[@loudandnerdygames5986]

The wife aint really give him a chance. He actually changed and realized he had been groomed and gaslit since his father died. The wife had already broke up with him in her head the moment he was late to their anniversary and didnt stick up for her. He was one of the few people who realized what he lost and did a full 180. I'm glad he not letting his soon to be ex wife's refusal to see he was a victim too to stop his healing process. Her thinking they playing house when he has cut all communication with his mom is wild. He went from a mama's boy to a guy who was determined to put his family first. He need to fight for shared custody. If he cant have his wife he need equal access to his daughter.

[@sonalikashaw6820]

he gave him a lot of chances already

[@ABucketOfFrogsWithPaint]

Nah, the anniversary was the straw that broke the camels back. It wasn't about the anniversary. It was about everything else but the anniversary. The wife was tired of OP putting her second to everything

[@loudandnerdygames5986]

But let's be honest, people don't see they in the thick of some real bs until reality aka his wife leaving makes him reanalyze his life. He literally did not realize that the relationship he had and his mother was toxic until therapy. No one ever told him dude I think your mom is trying to turn you into her husband. Dense people like him need a two by four to the head to realize something not right. I understand why she left. I'm just saying she said she will see if they could work it out and refused to see he actually changed when she mentioned it felt like they were playing house for the mom's sake.

[@BunnyxHeartx]

@@sonalikashaw6820She didn’t?Wtf is wrong with you?

[@BunnyxHeartx]

@@loudandnerdygames5986So your on the mom’s side cus that what you tryna make clear👁👄👁🙏

[@TJtheBee]

I'm with the husband, time to move states and start anew. Going no-contact with a parent is hard, but it can be done, and in this case definitely SHOULD Be done.

[@danacarter9147]

Same here.

[@lillianbartlesby6750]

He has a child, though. How is he supposed to be a parent from states away? Being a parent isn't about sending a child support check. It's about being present for your child. Everyone is always like, "Daughters need their fathers or they will turn out like this or that" and then say some s**t like, "Move states away from your child and start a new life for yourself".

[@bruhpink6957]

I really don't get why people are blaming OP like he wanted to get groomed and verbally abused; he's literally a victim, and he was manipulated by his own mother. and people are saying that OP didn't fight for his relationship. Yes, he did. He literally suggested multiple times to his now ex-wife to get couples counseling, and she refused every single time. I'm not saying she's in the wrong for wanting a divorce because what the mom was doing to both of them is not okay at all, but it's the fact that she did not want to help the relationship or try to make it better at least, and she said that it's like they've been playing house while he's trying to get help for himself and fight against his mother, and she says she's tired of the verbal abuse against his mother. and being placed second against his mother when she could have and probably should have told him about how she felt, but she didn't. She didn't want to get couples counseling; she didn't want to talk about it or how she felt about the mother treating her. On top of that, they have a daughter, and the divorce shouldn't be taken lightly since they have a child and how it will affect the child. Plus, for many years, he's had to deal with his mother, getting manipulated by her, and being abused, and somehow it's his fault, like he's actively trying to make himself better. Plus, I wouldn't be surprised if the wife hadn't already had an affair with that "friend" of hers.

[@MatthewHamish]

God yeah- this is so true lmao, I thought the same when she said she was already dating someone, I was like "mmm smells like cheating tbh"

[@bbdrgn]

Going over and not leaving in the first story is where i have an issue. I DONT care how abused you are if you cant pick your wife first in that scenario you're just a bad partner at that point... abuse doesnt justify his choices/action. While they are more understandable, victim or not they're still your choices. He deserves a divorce in this scenario. Last i hecked rape victims who go on to rape are still rapists.. like abuse and trauma doesnt take away your actions and how you treat people. As a victim of severe trauma its still MY fault how i act, Im responsible for my break downs, im responsible for what comes out of my mouth and what choices ive made..

[@Vinny-anims]

I agree, but you cant blame the ex either, because she was pushed away from him, so i think they were both in the wrong here

[@Ashley-su4yh]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@bbdrgnthis is funny so what I get from this is abuse is nothing all u need to do is grow a backbone and deal with it suck it up like u said u were a victim of trauma nd the way u act is ur fault alone but I wonder why maybe it’s because of the trauma YOU suffered the way ur now I am sure u grew a backbone and dealt with it right I am sure mental abuse doesn’t screw you up in the head I am sure the people placed in mental facilities because of abuse were okay to make decisions by themselves and it’s their faults they can’t think nd act out on their own this is op’s mothers fault for abusing her son and his wife the sad part is you are probably an adult.

[@boredboi6279]

​@@bbdrgnit does excuse that you don't know what he's feeling he's been abused by this sick woman his entire life to the point where he thought it was normal and his wife didn't even try to save the relationship try to make him see it or even try to stop the mother

[@hunterblane610]

Neither OP or his wife are the AH. He was being manipulated and gaslit and she was fed up of dealin with hi mother. However neither of them handled rhings well. He dhould have seen the signs and the wife did nothing to try and clue him in on what the mother was doing.

[@LyingOstrich]

OP didn’t see the signs because of the amount of gaslighting and manipulation he was subjected to. He was blind to red flags because he thought it was normal. You’re right about the wife not signalling the red flags, though.

[@Idk_and_idc..]

Op handled things as well as possible, he was being manipulated, you think differently when it comes to manipulation, especially from your own mother. He didn’t realize it.

[@miamyos]

I'm pretty sure the wife must've talked to OP several times about the strange, evil and inappropriate things OP's mother did and said. She finally had enough after putting up with the abuse for years and her husband not listening and defending her, himself and their children and enabling his mother. He only woke up after it was too late. Luckily he's trying to accept his wife's decision and is willing to be a good dad and he's trying to fix it as best he can but it's still too late and it's still his fault although he's also a victim.

[@hunterblane610]

​@@miamyos The post gives the impression that she really didn't talk to him at all. She seemed close off to any discussion. Even when OP offered couples counseling, she turned him down. Also, OP showed that he was willing to get therapy and cut his mom off when he when he became aware of what was going on, so the wife definitely didn't make any suggestions before this.

[@Idk_and_idc..]

@@miamyos I doubt it, it doesn’t sound like she actually conversed with him at all, and nowhere is that implied or stated. The only reason he could possibly still be manipulated by his mother must be that she just never had a talk with him about it. But who knows, maybe he really was just ignorant.

[@AnnagachabackLOL]

That’s not a mother that’s a animal

[@nightfury9441]

don't insult animals like that

[@_Yuri_But_Italian_]

​@@nightfury9441fr

[@vegas6990]

​@@nightfury9441 omg 😂

[@saintolengrace546]

@@nightfury9441 XDDDD fr tho

[@AnnagachabackLOL]

@@nightfury9441 HELPP

[@Gore-Labs]

Yeah no, this guy isn’t “dense”, he’s the victim of abuse. There’s no way this man wasn’t abused, and it wouldn’t surprise me if he’s terrified of saying no to his mom. On the outside it’s easy to see the red flags and leave, but if you’re raised in an abusive household, even if you yourself see the red flags, you usually just think you’re overreacting.

[@damen2053]

This was a train wreck it that kept getting worse

[@Salamander_Slander]

Like a train that crashed into an oil tanker next to a dynamite factory next to a children’s hospital…

[@malik_m4194]

That children hospital was next to a orphanage

[@Zukireese]

​@malik_m4194 and that orphanage was next to a preschool

[@Moncewer]

@@Zukireese and that preschool was next to the mom’s house (in the story) then it ended. The mom was found dead and no one else died.

[@stepheniddon1482]

If it was a father doing these things to the wife would everyone be blaming her?

[@lolisapiensa3134]

yes, they would, they do all the time

[@danicaersland3686]

The problem is that in that hypothetical scenario, the wife has been standing up for the father to her husband for years, and letting the father mistreat her husband and disrupt their family, and the husband has been putting up with it the whole time because he's madly in love with her. The scenario is less believable because men are probably a bit less likely to put up with that. They aren't as likely to be the primary caregivers for children and they are more likely to be the partner who has a job, so they have more freedom to leave if their partner was mistreating them so badly. This wife probably tried harder to stay because she needed someone to split the child care with. He was abused, but unless his wife literally never mentioned the fact that he was prioritizing his mom over her inappropriately, he was *complicit*. There was another Reddit story recently where a woman suspected that her husband was choosing his narcissistic mom over her. She was pregnant, and she (lying) told him she was going into labor. He called his mom to tell her, and his mom immediately faked a medical emergency so that he would have to bring her to the hospital rather than attend the birth of his own child. He chose his mom over his wife. She divorced him. She was correct to do this, even if asking for a divorce finally makes him reconsider his relationship with his mother. His actions were totally unacceptable. You will never be able to trust the judgment of a person who would violate you in this way.

[@DaChickin-ic7mp]

Yeah which sucks people should be treated equally if you don’t agree with a husband leaving his wife for getting groomed and manipulated by her father but agree with the wife in the stoythen you are the problem

[@packofflours]

seems like y'all love blaming the op 😭 (i agree with you)

[@amanchoudhury8135]

Trust me people would have blamed her even more because she is a woman

[@helio3928]

either OP is not talking about how his wife had tried to help him with this before the anniversary situation, or that's a shitty wife

[@lookitsapigeon9302]

THANK YOU someone needs to say it

[@Jay-eh4qv]

exactly

[@robynnhari4907]

Well he did say that she did not want to talk about so I'm guessing it's the latter

[@gamercentral2417]

I mean she blamed him directly for his mother being crazy. Using context clues I’d had to have guessed she’s just a bad wife who took a child from their father. Well it could always not be real but if it wasn’t then it would have somewhat of a happy ending

[@Castleofcagliostro]

⁠​⁠@@gamercentral2417 1. She didn’t blame him for his mother’s behavior, she was mad because he was enabling it which are two completely different things. 2. OP talked all the things that happened AFTER the anniversary, she probably already talked with him about that 3. Not once OP said he wasn’t able to visit their daughter, she probably moved to her parents with the daughter due to OP’s mother argument, would you as parent knowingly let your child with a person (I refer to the mother) that is not mentally stable, knows where you live and you don’t know what is capable of?

[@Vinny-anims]

I feel bad for the man, he was forced and locked inside a house, and the wife is blaming him for missing their anniversary, even though he was *barricaded, and locked in a house.*

[@shannonlaforme8344]

This was the part I was angry at OP for. His mother never “forced” him to miss his anniversary, he’s a grown ass man and could’ve gotten out if he truly wanted to. I agree that he was groomed, abused and manipulated all his life but don’t talk to me about being barricaded and forced to do dishes and vacuum… com’on! OP- at least admit that due to the lifelong abuse you made the wrong decision to stay at your mothers instead of going home to your wife. Or have the crazy bat charged with forcible confinement🤷🏻‍♀️

[@pyro7150]

@@shannonlaforme8344 you know that one of the aspects of manipulation is making the manipulated stay? its more common in toxic relationships. someone who was groomed and manipulated not for a year or two like most cases of manipulation but from his teenage life till his adulthood wouldn't and couldn't even see how fucked up the situation is, he was called dense and all but its not dense he literally was manipulated to a level he didn't even suspect those acts he considered himself to be dense in

[@figurante5079]

​@@shannonlaforme8344ok, you really don't undertand manipulation works or you are simply blaming the victim

[@TeenagePrince72]

​@@shannonlaforme8344this is such a woman take...manipulated and groomed means nothing to ya'll when its a man as the victim 🤦🏿‍♂️ "you could just go" except thats not even possible because of the mental shackles that hes being tied down with

[@Jay-eh4qv]

@@shannonlaforme8344babes…you clearly don’t think he was abused or manipulated then. his mom barricaded the door and started crying and begging him to stay. he was literally manipulated since 21 years old (he’s 30 now) to put his mom first. in now way is that on him….saying “i get he was manipulated and groomed makes no sense when you blame him for this. if this was a woman and her dad i bet you wouldn’t act like this straight up

[@larissagomes451]

She said that their relationship was never good, why then accept to get married and have a kid by him?

[@annalisanorman9013]

It was probably better when they were dating and the wife probably had hope that the mother wouldn’t be such a huge presence in their lives or that her husband would prioritize his family over his mother.

[@larissagomes451]

@@annalisanorman9013 she it was NEVER good. Also, if you marry wanting people to change that is on you.

[@baophung2609]

​@@larissagomes451that means she gave him chances, and he threw them aways too

[@larissagomes451]

@@baophung2609 y'all need to grown up and realised that be with someone for potential is play yourself. Accept someone as they are and don't expect them to change, even their flaws. The kid is now going to grown up in a broken home.

[@nathanramage1275]

@@baophung2609 she still expected someone to just realize horrid manipulation and gaslighting on their own, mostly. Wife never had a long and VERY hard talk about it. From OPs perspective, at least, she just complained, never sat him down and helped him. She was never invested and checked out after the honeymoon phase

[@aj_jackson64gaming21]

The people who are blaming the op are the reason why sexual assault will never be handled in the same manner on either gender

[@HunyBread_]

this comment section does not have sympathy at all. OP was abused and manipulated and he's being bashed for it. Although he disrespected his wife and she has the right to be enraged at him, he didn't know that what he was doing was wrong, he thought it was just normal because that's how he was raised. He grew up his entire life with that manipulative idea in his head. He wasn't in the wrong in as he wasn't aware of the weirdness of the abuse his life was built around. You guys really need to realise this.

[@treehouse2902]

It's not about right or wrong. He seems unconvinced that going permanent no contact with the mother is the right choice that must come from him, not the wife telling him what to do. That would only cause him resenting her. Dude is not done with his mother. He will come back running to her when she is old.

[@akkiko]

Dude is a grown man. Yes we are victims of our upbringing but at some point as an adult we must take accountability for our own self-improvement. He was old enough to see that as soon as his mother was fine, he should’ve 360’d out the door. No one is entitled to forgiveness. What about his wife’s suffering? What about his daughter’s? Too little, too late.

[@blehtbh]

​I wouldn't be surprised if the son is the only family the mom got

[@oreo-zl4uy]

Honestly, good for his ex wife, and good for him. Ex wife got out of a bad relationship and is focusing on herself and their daughter. OP got rid of a disgusting crazy mom and finally started therapy.

[@Who4reY0u.]

focusing on "herself and their daughter" except, she's meeting other guys? this was just a excuse to get out of a marriage.

[@oreo-zl4uy]

@Who4reY0u. The relationship was toxic, And pure hell for this woman, she didn't need an excuse, she had a very valid reason. She can focus on herself, and her daughter while going on a few dates now and then. It's not like she's going out every night leaving her daughter at her grandparents 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Believe it or not, a woman is capable of being a wonderful mother and having a good life of her own.

[@SunshinePIRRATA]

The guy is also focusing on his daughter??? She might be a baby for all we know, both of them talked about the daughter during separation, he is doubting if moving out or not because he wants to be with his daughter, stop treating him like a deadbeat. Believe it or not, a man is able separated and in therapy, and still be a wonderful father.

[@oreo-zl4uy]

@SunshinePIRRATA OP is a great dad, and never stopped thinking about his daughter either, he just happened to be a bad husband unknowingly. I never called him a deadbeat🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@SunshinePIRRATA]

@@oreo-zl4uy Why leaving that part of him out then? Why does only the mom get that pointed out?

[@aussiebear738]

op was clearly abused and manipulated, however his choices to not stand up for his wife is what ultimately cost him his marriage. feel bad for the wife and op

[@terrellhatch8191]

Do you really think it is just that easy or simple for a victim to do that?

[@justiceconcepcion3694]

She never loved him, he was clearly being abused and manipulated. Tf? That’s was his MOM, give me the dude a break. He had no idea she was psycho and when he found out he got rid of her. It’s like no matter what he did it was never gonna be good enough bc it wasn’t on her terms and timing which is ALSO very mentally abusive.

[@kristiemiller5406]

I bet the ex-wife told him dozens of times how his relationship with his mother was not normal, how the mother's behavior was not normal, and bro ignored it. So now, when it finally dawns on him that his mother is batshit crazy, the wife is done. If you try to communicate with your partner, and you are very clearly not their priority, nor are they listening to your concerns, then you eventually get fed up with it all, and there is no amount of therapy that will make it right. Expecting the wife, who has been continuously abused by her mother-in-law while her husband did nothing, to stay with the husband because he FINALLY gets it is absurd. The poor woman has suffered enough, and she can't trust that he won't fall back into letting his mother run their lives. She had to protect herself and her daughter because her husband failed to do so for so long.

[@Nox.x_ART]

@@kristiemiller5406it’s pretty obvious oop was probably groomed by his mother. It’s no big surprise that grooming victims, especially victims of people who are family or otherwise close, don’t want to see that person as a bad person. I used to know a neighbor who would constantly tell me my family hated me and he was the only person who truly cared about me(along with other things but wtv) and for literal years I mentally excused his behavior because I believed we were friends and I didn’t want to believe a friend would actually have bad intentions.

[@shannonlaforme8344]

⁠@@kristiemiller5406I’m not sure what story you were listening to but in this one OP never said anything about his wife repeatedly telling him anything except to choose HER over his mother. To me, that’s layering on the abuse and it’s just as manipulative as his mother.

[@TeenagePrince72]

​@@kristiemiller5406bullshit. Bro literally understood the moment it was said to him so theres no ways she said anything about it before

[@btshoeforlife9534]

This is a much longer story than just 10 minutes so it’s missing a lot. I’m pretty sure there was even a post from the wife’s perspective and the truth is the husband was just a spineless a$$. Yes the $exual abse wasn’t his fault but he knew for a loooonnngggg time that his mother was getting in the way of his relationship(s)(cause it’s happened with previous gfs) and yet he brushed off all his wife’s concerns. This was just the last straw for the wife she tried to get him to open his eyes for a long time and he just wouldn’t until she finally left him. She was checked out of the relationship after all that bs so what exactly was there for her to give a chance? She already gave him so many and tried to help him so much. It’s really his own fault at this point that he’s lost his family.

[@dmurphy82]

I get that the wife was treated disgustingly but WTAF? The Wife is victim blaming like her life depends on it. Who can she blame next and for what? Their daughter for the divorce maybe? OP and his ex-wife need to go to therapy both individually and as a family otherwise they are going to be terrible at co-parenting being stuck not knowing how to communicate to each other.

[@drunkpekka4284]

The wife has a daughter to raise; removing herself and the daughter from that crazy situation is reasonable. The wife didn't keep the husband from being a father, but she is done with him as partner. I think she tried for a long time until it took a forgotten anniversary to change it. The husband needs to work on himself. It is not the wife's responsibility to raise her husband.

[@9thEdits]

I would be fighting for custody scorxhed earth to be honest and would use that "old flame" as proof she was not fit to have full custody since they are not even divorced, the nerve on some people

[@milkyeyez34]

@@9thEditsyeah the fact shes not even divorced yet rubbed me the wrong way

[@TeenagePrince72]

​@@drunkpekka4284shes a horrible woman that cant 3ven look out for her own husband and see that hes being abused and manipulated...shes def not fit to raise their daughter.

[@dmurphy82]

@@drunkpekka4284 There's a difference between supporting a partner and parenting an adult. OP could have used empathy and understanding to use it to try and work through the issues with her husband. Also, the Husband didn't forget the anniversary, he was deliberately blocked by his mother from attending. He was taught that this is the way things have to be through training and conditioning. The husband's relationship with his mother is the bastard lovechild of Stockholm's Syndrome and an Oedipus Complex.

[@jadesterbaby]

To all the sons of “Boy Moms” out there, this could be your future too if you let your mom’s delusions and irrational beliefs continue forever.

[@InfernoBlast-th1ot]

The mother was bad and shameless. Understandable. The wife, was also unsupportive and not understanding enough. And now to top things off, that daughter will have one hell of a life. Bro's just unlucky in every way.

[@pichu_isbee7294]

true, but realistically the daughter's life won't be a "hell"

[@InfernoBlast-th1ot]

@@pichu_isbee7294 yeah not hell, I actually meant 'not normal' 😓

[@blahblahblahblah729]

​@@InfernoBlast-th1ot 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is pretty normal, and a lots of kids have a better life, cuz surprisingly not having your parents fight all the time it's better for them

[@amyyaku5022]

The wife was more than supportive and understanding. She even married him after his mom's stunt at their wedding. At some point, we have to stop shaming women for leaving these type of situations.

[@InfernoBlast-th1ot]

@@amyyaku5022 Firstly you do not marry people before knowing their family. Secondly, she forced him to go against his mother (which was necessary indeed) but left him, after at the end, with nothing. You do not leave people after fighting for them. Thirdly, it's difficult (but not impossible) to go against the only family you have ever known, in this case, his mother (who is terrible). Fourthly, bro should have been responsible and mature enough, I agree, but he did not deserve to lose everything.

[@aynun1647]

The wife is terrible at voicing her opinions and feelings until they reach a breaking point.

[@Hamilton-TheMusical]

Very true

[@kenyattabillups4769]

She's probably done that on multiple occasions. Let's not make her out to be 3. This has happened for awhile and she got tired of him not hearing her. Context clues

[@Ship-Girl_Override]

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[@aynun1647]

@@kenyattabillups4769 probably hard to hear things that aren’t said

[@aintnotroublebigenough]

​@@aynun1647and you can tell that she never said the things how??

[@breannakay9829]

Dang the wife wasn’t in it in sickness and in health and all that shit you say during a wedding , the mom is locked away and she still wanted out! She just wanted to wipe her hands clean of him and go see other people. Poor guy

[@sonalikashaw6820]

no she was done with the abuse . if this was a guy in the wifes place all you men would even support him cheating on her

[@Monarch-Of-The-Shadows-Jinwoo]

​@@sonalikashaw6820The thing is, no, we wouldn't, some people say that and are women it's both genders saying that not just men also, he tried his hardest to work things out and talk while she made no effort to tell him that she was even being abused or tried at all

[@woerm]

@@sonalikashaw6820 if it were a woman in the husbands place, y'all would've stood up for her and shamed her husband for leaving.

[@charliebledsoe2749]

Stop thid cognitive dissonance. Fix yourself ​@@sonalikashaw6820

[@Jay-eh4qv]

@@sonalikashaw6820i’m a woman and i don’t support her descision at all so no this isn’t just a gender thing. he went to therapy and saw the abuse. he even tried to go to couples counseling but refused. she clearly didn’t want him at all. he was being abused that whole time. ya he didn’t defend her. no duh he wouldn’t. he was grommed by his own mother who raised him since he was a literal baby

[@Breakfastmemeus]

oh wow so the wife really just blamed op for being manipulated and didn't make an attempt to salvage the relationship despite having a daughter

[@olaoye7980]

Salvage what? the relationship wasn't working she would have been unhappy if she was still with the op

[@Jay-eh4qv]

@@olaoye7980he suggested they went to couples conseling and she refused. she could have just went to 1 to see how it is….she didn’t want to work on the relationship. she’s supposed to be his wife in sickness and in health. he was being abused but his wife didn’t even seem to care how it affected him…he clearly wasn’t happy

[@chill-ified2913]

@@olaoye7980well if the manipulative “mom” was in the psych ward it could be very well salvaged, the mom and wife are both horrible people and should be punished for treating this poor dude so bad, he couldn’t do anything and the wife still was a b!tch

[@styxjunkii]

⁠@@olaoye7980its the fact she was blaming things that he already fixed. She proved she never loved him when she was fucking someone else not even a week after their divorce. If she was unhappy in general she should have said that. But she never did it was always about coming second to a woman who was sexually assaulting and abusing him. Shes just as pathetic as OPS mom. I wouldn’t be surprised if she and this “old flame” were sneaking around during the relationship.

[@btshoeforlife9534]

This is a much longer story than just 10 minutes so it’s missing a lot. I’m pretty sure there was even a post from the wife’s perspective and the truth is the husband was just a spineless a$$. Yes the $exual abse wasn’t his fault but he knew for a loooonnngggg time that his mother was getting in the way of his relationship(s)(cause it’s happened with previous gfs) and yet he brushed off all his wife’s concerns. This was just the last straw for the wife she tried to get him to open his eyes for a long time and he just wouldn’t until she finally left him. She was checked out of the relationship after all that bs so what exactly was there for her to give a chance? She already gave him so many and tried to help him so much. It’s really his own fault at this point that he’s lost his family.

[@rwdswght4057]

OP is a trainwreck because of his mother, but his wife does not deserve to continue to suffer.

[@chimmy_vibez1251]

Exactly! People in the comments are blaming her for what happened. If the roles were reversed, the husband would definitely get sympathy from the commenters and wife would get the blame!

[@terrellhatch8191]

No, he wouldn't. He would be getting crapped on just like all men do.@chimmy_vibez1251

[@user-bp5qv8hh2r]

I think the wife was in the wrong here, if she had any past problems with him she could mention it, talk it out or heck couple counselling. But she din’t talk to him about his problems and his mother abuse to her, and he told her he was trying to change he understood where he was wrong and the fact that his mother had been emotionally and physically abusing him. But yet she decided to keep on the divorce and especially if you have children you should take divorce more seriously. Btw that “old flame”. im pretty sure she cheated on the husband with him, i mean she served him divorce, and two monts later she is officially dating someone, i mean its a bit sus

[@kathrynthorne819]

I agree

[@julokreen2074]

Are you stupid? If she DID try to talk about it, its not like OP would know. I genuinely hope you never get married for your partners sake. Two months is more than enough time to see someone casually.

[@dmurphy82]

It's the wife's victim blaming that screams "I'm a cheater" to me

[@lucitheduckking]

yeah, if the wife actually cared about her daughter and her family, she would have tried to salvage the relationship

[@Cyborg_Lenin]

The amount of mental gymnastics it took for you to blame her is absurd.

[@mariabop]

Your wife took this as chance for a perfect time to get a divorce. I can understand her that she's tired of the mother thing, but even after he got rid of her, she still mentioned the same thing. There's another reason why she doesn't want to be with you but she is hiding it and only blaming you. And the fact that literally right after a week y'all got divorce she immediately went to see man, shows that she probably didn't love you.

[@ElleHocky]

I didn't think of it that way but that does make sense bc all her answers about getting back together are just about how she's tired of being 2nd but even when he WAS trying to put her first, she said the same thing- which is mad fishy

[@laylachristina5605]

I would think that years of your spouse choosing someone else over you, would make you see the relationship as something not worth keeping or at least put an end to your love.

[@gamercentral2417]

⁠@@laylachristina5605well maybe she should’ve voice her opinion at all. She remover a husband from his daughter and a daughter from her father cause she got butt hurt that an abused person was being abused

[@danicaersland3686]

Well, she probably put up with it for as long as she possibly could, but once you're over it you're over it. It's pretty hard to salvage a relationship once that love has turned to disgust, and it kind of sounds like she was disgusted that her husband chose trivial chores for his mom over her on their anniversary. It's cool that he's fixing it, but he's fixing it for himself at this point. Admittedly, she probably abused herself by not leaving earlier. She passed her own boundaries thinking there would be some payoff. The problem is that he was never going to realize how serious this issue was until she actually left, and she liked him enough not to actually leave until she truly couldn't handle it for a moment longer. I have a friend who put up with his ex-wife in this way. By the time he worked up the nerve to leave, being around her made him physically ill. Like they tried to go to couples counseling and he threw up in the car on the way there. He found her actively repulsive. That's the only way he was able to get away in the first place. Some people are just really not in tune with their boundaries until it's an emergency. This wife already pushed herself well past her breaking point, and she is partly to blame for not setting better boundaries for herself, but this part of the comment section sounds like they've never been there. You let somebody step on you enough and eventually being in the same room as them, even if they're trying really hard not to step on you, is pretty much the most awful thing you can imagine. I do hope she works on herself as well, because she's right to be disgusted in herself - she never should have stayed as long as she did. But there's no way that she could get back to a place of loving him. She probably stopped loving him a long time ago because she stopped loving herself.

[@antuniverse6979]

She was probably already seeing somebody as they were still married and saw this as an excuse to divorce him

[@LuvLexyU]

Wife was more in her own feelings than ever thinking about her husband... Everything here screams "I was wronged, I need to take care of myself." But the husband just... wanted to have his wife. Yet he was groomed to believe he needed to be there for his mother, its a common enough story.

[@run4fun94]

Omg you’re mom is not a good mom

[@emporiumjohn396]

That’s not a mother that’s a stalker, abuser, manipulator and a mentally ill thing.

[@anather7073]

Bro got rid of 2 bad women....god bless

[@Julia-by1ri]

How come too?

[@keshariacharya6941]

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[@hunterblane610]

​​@@Julia-by1ri The wife blamed OP for being amnipulated by his mother despite never trying to help him see through it and when he did see through it and started taking steps to fix things, she completley disregarded him. Aside from that the fact that she started dadting and "old flame" before their dciorce was even finalized is a huge red flag.

[@JB-bb4su]

@@hunterblane610 There's no account for what conversations and fights were had before the anniversary final straw. It's not the wife's fault that OP didn't wake up until she had given up. The wife isn't a bad person or evil for admitting to herself she lost her husband to his mother. Once your "view" of a person changes, it generally changes permanently. That view doesn't go back to every seeing that person the old way again. His wife did not love the new person she perceived. And more importantly, she didn't trust or respect him anymore.

[@Nugglepuff-TV]

If you call that a mum then go please just go

[@kishorkumarpoddar3757]

I just shivered when I heard she thinks of her son as her husband. It can't be possible, I how can a mother think like that . Now I think ( Thank God I am a female)

[@Eric.43]

Wife wanted an excuse to leave

[@cjtheguitarman3273]

Is it just me or do both the wife and mom seem toxic.

[@hunterblane610]

Kinda, the wife seemingly made no attempt to clue him on on what the mon was doing. Made no acknowledgement of his attempts ro recify the situation and started dating again shortly after they seperated. It seems like she wasnt happy in the relationship, but at the same time, it seems liek she was making an excuse to leave.

[@Crev_ce3]

Its just you not understanding, yeah

[@DaChickin-ic7mp]

@Crev_ce3 no I’d say their on the money 💴

[@Crev_ce3]

@@DaChickin-ic7mp . Leaving a toxic situation does not make you toxic. This was just the straw that broke the camels back.

[@DaChickin-ic7mp]

@Crev_ce3 Your correct however leaving your partner for them being manipulated and groomed and then not willing to even try therapy is

[@oreoslush]

Only with OP and daughter. Mom is a psycho and the wife doesn’t communicate anything? Like I understand the wife has also suffered crazy stuff from the mother but OP was groomed and manipulated ever since his father died presumably as a kid or adolescent. Not only did OP realize his mistake but turned his whole life around, and that the wife was already to move on is strange. I’m thinking the wife had hated OP for a while and didn’t say anything until the anniversary because that was her last straw, but if the wife never communicates anything then what was supposed to happen. Also poor daughter, getting displaced every couple months. I’m confused why the wife just takes her like OP doesn’t get an equal say? OP should fight for shared custody cause let him at least see his daughter.

[@shutterchick79]

Anybody with a brain, no matter how manipulated by another person, knows that things like missing your anniversary to please mommy is wrong. He could have had a neighbor check in on her. That's the first thing I'd do if my mom called me crying over an emergency, and it would take time to get there. Wife has probably been dealing with that crap from them for years. "Sorry I have to miss your birthday party, honey, but mommy needs me.", "I'm sorry I missed Valentine's day, honey, but I had to fix Mommy's sink"... Wife probably thought he was just a run of the mill mamma's boy, rather than a groomed, gaslit victim of a mentally ill mother.

[@lolmanv]

Wow, she really checked out the relationship long ago to not even wait after the divorce

[@saintolengrace546]

Ngl his wife proly just used that as a way to get out of the relationship cuz she does not love him anymore. It just does not make sense to blame OP when he was groomed and manipulated, and if it is because of his mother then she should have vocied her concerns earlier on to prevent this from happening.

[@-Chaos_Potato-]

I think only the “mom” was in the wrong, not the ex-wife or the husband, but dang that girlie moved on from the divorce quick.

[@pinkclouds6512]

We don’t know the time frame

[@luw1547]

Wife was in the wrong too

[@-CosmicChaos-]

​​@@luw1547The only person in the wrong was the mom. She not only manipulated the OP, but also the wife. She (mom) manipulated the OP to a point where he couldn't understand that fact until it was pointed out. I do think he made the right choice cutting her off, but to the wife the damage had already been done, so she couldn't see them having a stable relationship after the incidents regarding the mother.

[@nancyriggs8170]

How many times did this guys wife tell him all the crap his mother has said and done to her over the yrs.. I understand you grew up with looney tune, but you cannot believe mom was innocent and your relationship was normal?? I so hope you listen to your therapist.. I do wish you luck: and hope things get better for you; but your wife deserves a happy life also..

[@That_Venom_Lover]

Did you not listen to the whole thing? The man was literally GROOMED by his own mother, most grooming victims find stuff like that normal and just think other people are weird when they call it out.

[@blahblahblahblah729]

NO ONE needs to stay with a person that is traumatized just because they were traumatized. If the roles were reverse, the husband would be completely right leaving as well. No one should have to harm their mental health as well for someone else. Ever. If it is too much for you, you have every right to leave. Ppl talking like the wife wasn't ALSO verbally abused and probably manipulated by the toxic mil as well. Someone has to stay sane for that little girl. The father is also a victim, and he needs to seek treatment, and a restraining order as well. That mother is insane, and the ACTUAL villan of this story. That marriage wasn't working already, and for some years now, just staying because of a fucked up situation is trauma bonding and it's extremely unhealthy, and would probably hurt their family even more.

[@Lewis95xp]

Sounds to me like the wife was already done with the relationship and was looking for an out. It wouldn't surprise me if she hadn't already been seeing this "old flame" when they were together

[@Emerald_Forge]

What are you talking about if your spouse was ALWAYS choosing their mom over you when they often don't even actually need them then you'd probably not want to be in the relationship. If he doesn't have a backbone with his mother then that could lead to issues in the future with kids

[@user-nr1dx4us4d]

@@Emerald_Forge there was no reason not to talk things out, she was looking for an out bc if you hear what he's been through and you don't even try couples counseling, you can't give her that argument

[@Emerald_Forge]

@@user-nr1dx4us4d I'm pretty sure getting verbally abused for years and never getting stood up for is enough. If a FRIEND did that they'd be a horrible friend for letting their mother cuss you out for years on end without defending you let alone the person you're meant to spend your life with

[@Ghost__6]

@@Emerald_Forgefirst of all, I would choose my mom over my spouse in ANY situation. Unless my mom is in the wrong 100%. And he never said that he knew she was being verbally abused, he said “I realized all of the abuse my wife went through when she started doing it to me instead.” Not that he knew she was verbally abusing his wife.

[@sonalikashaw6820]

@@Ghost__6 look your mom is ur dads responsibilty and ur spouse is yours . if you cannot understand that then dont get married

[@Person-ef4xj]

Given how the mother acted I think there’s a good chance that he could also have been partially acting out of fear, as if they needed to call the police on her, she went to a mental hospital, and locked him inside the house then he wouldn’t really know how his mother might act if he made her mad and he might also have not wanted to risk the worst possible reaction from her. It’s the mother who is in the wrong.

[@ethanout3927]

All kids deserve parents but some parents don’t deserve kids

[@DoeboyFreshNESS]

Ngl that guy's friends is real asf for not sugar coating anything. The amount of times this dude does something dumb and knows it, is unfathomable, im sure the wife was tired of this idiot for a while now

[@Breakfastmemeus]

if you are my homie and you insult me like that im finna pull up

[@Garrison-nh4rh]

@@Breakfastmemeus can we all agree that the common is stupid about him being dumb his mother tried to send him nudes. His wife didn’t even try to save the marriage and then talked about how she’s gonna go to dinner with somebody else he doesn’t care he doesn’t need to be hurt anymore and then, everybody else is talking about how he’s a bad person

[@pyro7150]

you understand that he understood that his actions were stupid IN THE FUTURE after he looked back on it, plus how can you call him an idiot when he was manipulated, groomed and abused from his teenage years, its so toxic and disgusting that i really hope that you will get the help you need to get so me empathy into yourself

[@Bunxana]

You must be hella sheltered to blame someone for getting groomed and abused.

[@Jay-eh4qv]

@@pyro7150mhmm

[@_Hi_-_]

Just because his wife was being ignorant, doesn't mean ANY of it was her fault. While she was ABSOLUTELY IGNORANT, she was doing all she could to protect her kid. I don't blame her for separating from him.

[@NoNo-bffr]

Finally someone who says it!!

[@ritaerror7829]

Being ignorant can still hurt others. Great that her leaving made OP realize how bad his mother was BUT wife took the easiest way out, instead of saying that she just don't love him (anymore or ever) and don't want to be with him. It is a bold move to let someone hope and try to please her, when she's set on divorce and knowing it's over. Seems like she didn't want to talk to him their whole relationship... Separating isn't the problem really. Heck, she should've done it long ago. They are both in rocky situation and she still decided it's better to make his one worse for whatever reason

[@werdiscord867]

Being ignorant is bad. Flat earthers are ignorant and people rightfully call them stupid. If she was a better person she would tell him how she felt and listen to him. She also found out how weird the mom is in her job

[@asmodeus1791]

That wife never really loved him, how could you not want to be there for someone who’s realising all that

[@EvidemPlays]

bro no way that wife was ever loyal bro should get a DNA test

[@femalepapyrus]

Are you ops mother

[@aquayz1382]

@@femalepapyruswdym the wife literally barely wanted to be with him and she immediately started to date another person that she broke up with

[@mariabop]

​@@femalepapyrusthe person is right. When op got rid of his mother, she still put all the blame on him. There's another reason why she got divorced

[@femalepapyrus]

@@mariabop probably

[@DaChickin-ic7mp]

@femalepapyrus Awww yes because loyal partners will leave their partner because they are getting groomed

[@CarterIsReal]

I’m gonna be honest, the mother is the only one at fault. She abused her son and tried to get “physical” with him. I do feel like the ex wife should have recognized it’s not his fault he was coerced and groomed by his own mother to the point where she demanded him over everybody else, including his ex.

[@snowflaker3608]

“Second to the drama”. Girl. I get it, but that’s not his fucking fault. At first you were divorcing him because of his actions. That’s fine. But this is completely out of his control. His mom is a nutcase and he’s doing his best to get her out of his and you and your daughter’s life. This just feels like a zero empathy moment for the abused 💀

[@ElskaTheAnimator]

Sounds like the wife was bottling her emotions… That is a highly toxic trait and it’s VERY underrated as a toxic trait, it is NOT normal to HIDE what you feel about a person and what you are mad about. Sure, you might feel anxious telling them what annoys you, but you HAVE to. Otherwise, anything they would be doing could be considered as okay since you NEVER told them it was something that crossed the line for you. Communication is key, I’ve literally just almost lost a friend due to the fact she was bottling her emotions. I also got bullied by an ex-friend that bottled up her emotion. NEVER bottle your emotions. SPEAK

[@um.grayson]

nah honestly the wife is also in the wrong with the mother, she gave him divorce papers because his mom manipulated him into thinking he was a bad son? messed up.

[@AMKRILLIN]

Thats horrible, his wife is not in the wrong but i can see how heartbreaking this whole thing is. He was abused and then abandoned even after everything. i still think the divorce was the right move but i still feel for the guy

[@theminatomansugardaddy638]

The fact that OP's own friend called him dense about the divorce, makes you realized how apparent it was for the others to know that OP's wife has been abused so much by OP's mother that drove the wife to mentally check out.

[@Legless_Orphan]

It's not the first time his mom has manipulated him, and I'd bet his wife has pointed this out in the past. He just refused to finally stand up to his Mom until she took it too far and his wife left him. I have no sympathy for him.

[@clawrean8355]

That’s what we call insanity. An unfortunate mixture of misinformation, a mentally ill “mother”, over reactions, and a lack of a backbone. This man has been effectively screwed over by everyone he thought was on his side.

[@itsyourgirlaub6357]

I think the wife is not understanding. He went through manipulation and SA, he thought his mother being inappropriate was normal and that he should do what shes says, he thought that was ok. But thee wife is saying that he puts his mother before her, which he is, but he didn't know that that wasn't normal for others.

[@John.Philip.Tan876]

Eeeewwww Unfortunate though... Mentally ill woman traumatized and groomed her own son while causing lots of harm to the ex wife. Damn... The amount of pain and suffering one unhinged person can do to so many people....

[@tanhasiddiky769]

Mothers like this shouldn’t be called a “mother”. Obsessed with their son.

[@JJ-blogs-]

Everyone deserves to have parents but not all parents deserve to have kids 😢😢❤❤

[@tracim3080]

At least your wife finally found self respect to take care of her needs

[@Hellobigboi]

So far this is good

[@junsake2797]

This just feels sad. Guy’s naivety has been manipulated by his mom for his entire life without him realizing it, but when he finallt did realize it, it was too late and he’d lost everything. Genuinely a sad story

[@Akira-Akari]

Poor OP, and his ex-wife

[@luw1547]

Nah ex wife ain't poor she just wanted out to hop on something new

[@Akira-Akari]

@@luw1547 not standing for being abused isn’t hopping on something new. Op quite literally acknowledged that his mom abused her and that he did nothing of that, and that he did mess up.

[@luw1547]

@@Akira-Akari he realized she was being abused and changed after he realised, she wasn't talking with him for shit and she's not the only victim he is in deeper shit than she ever was and she never acknowledged that he was being abused either she just wanted out didn't even wait until complete legal seperation to hop on new dick I won't be surprised if this bimbo was cheating on the dude with this "old flame" that suddenly appeared right after her marriage ended.

[@sharkboy2683]

@@Akira-Akari True but the thing is that she literally didn’t even try to make an effort to save the relationship op realized that his mom was toxic and manipulative so he cut her out of his life THEN he went to therapy THEN he told her he wanted to go to couple counseling but she turned it down there was no reason for her to say no to couple council ing if her only people with him was his mom AND she never even told him that it’s weird for his mom to act like that towards him so to me personally the wife is in the wrong because 1. She never tried to save the relationship 2. She never told op that it was weird for his mom to act like that towards him 3. BEFORE THE DIVORCE WAS EVEN FINALIZED SHE SAID SHE WAS DATING SOMEONE SHE KNEW THATS A RED FLAG BECAUSE THE DIVORCE WASNT EVEN FINALIZED AND SHE WAS DATING. To me it looked like she was just trying to get rid of him because she never loved him

[@Akira-Akari]

@@sharkboy2683 I mean, you don’t have to try to make a relationship try if you don’t want to, and she could’ve brought it up, but he ignored it and was doing something else. Like after she told him, he defended his mom instead of his wife first, still. Also, where does it say that she started dating someone else. That does really mean anything, because that might be sus, but she could just be trying to get over him, and stopped loving him when he wouldn’t defend her. I mean mom is very obviously a mama’s boy, so abusive comments, which he said happened, is a given.

[@isleofcats9052]

"denser than a block of bricks" lol

[@jacksonsdumbstuff]

This is actually a crazy story, a good story too

[@1hp197]

Bro was picking all the bad options at the start

[@9thEdits]

Divorce I could deal with, not being divorced and already jumping on another man... I would hire Rob Kardashian...

[@BabalonNuit]

Don't blame the wife at all; who knows how evil that MIL was to her where no one saw it? Or how much momma's boy hubby let slide? Wife has had ENOUGH; sometimes people get pushed to the point of no return and there is simply no "coming back from" or repairing the damage. Her love for him was completely destroyed at last when momma's boy got conned into ignoring his anniversary, and she was DONE.

[@blueanima8623]

Don't call him momma's boy. His own mother used him for emotional and probably literal masturbation in her head for who knows how long, and obviously she broke him bc he was never allowed to be whole. That's not what momma's boy means. If the parent is willing to have a physical relationship with the child, then that's no longer "momma's boy" or "daddy's girl".

[@Vaedh]

Poor dude, I genuinely got so nauseous hearing about what his mom did and treated him. However the wife got over him wayy too quick. Sounds like she wanted an excuse to

[@user-iu3hv2yi4w]

The wife and mom are in the wrong. The wife didn’t even listen to what he had to say she just assumed that was it and that he wanted to be there

[@Aero-100]

¿After what she did to your relationship; do you love her or she isn't anymore? (The mother)

[@Ryantheanimator2345]

That was interesting

[@dislikebutton6723]

Bro it’s been out for only 30 seconds💀

[@lowerosendahl6250]

@@dislikebutton6723 fr

[@Ryantheanimator2345]

@@dislikebutton6723 so the part I heard was interesting

[@littlemissmarie6681]

I feel bad for this guy’s marriage, but at least he’s gotten help to see the years of mental and emotional manipulation and the unhealthy/disgusting blending of motherly and romantic love he’s had to endure and is coming to terms with it. I just hope that the OP can move forward and have a better life one day.

[@jessicab6131]

Hugs and hope the guy heals from all this. Wish him happiness 🥺🫂💖

[@Changbinana]

Wild-

[@greendayandnirvanafan]

nah wife was kinda an asshole, like the dude was emotionally manipulated

[@tatacousin]

This sounds like that TLC show "I love a Mama's Boy"

[@LaylaTow]

I don’t understand why people sympathise with this man. He is not a material for a husband and i feel sorry for his wife. If you have toxic family members you cut them not allow them to torment and abuse your wife/husband. The f. He is a grown man not a child to feel sorry for him.

[@terrellhatch8191]

That's not how this works, his mother was beyond toxic. She was abusive and manipulative. He wasn't even aware he was being groomed just like most if not all victims. To make things worse is his abuser is his mother the very woman who is suppose to love and support him unconditionally.

[@terrellhatch8191]

You are apart of the problem and why men can never get help. If the role were reversed you would probably have sympathy for op but I guess because he is a man he is automatically the wrong party here.

[@LaylaTow]

@@terrellhatch8191 no its exactly how it works. He is not a child anymore. I went through hell as a child. When i was teenager i was the first to go to court against my step father other people followed and he had five or more court cases. I also had a toxic mother that was on his side and i cut her out of my life. I only regret that because of that I couldn’t have better contact with my little sister and i was never able to take care of her. Now im married and i can’t imagine allowing anyone from my family affect my relationship.

[@nihalmahesh4158]

46 secands ago gang!

[@gaintturnip]

No one is TAH. Though I think the wife should have at least given new OP a chance. Though, she probably just didn't love him anymore.

[@olaoye7980]

SHes been giving him chances he missed there anniversary to clean his mother's home !!!! wtf he should have seen it coming

[@LowQualityIdiot]

@@olaoye7980 I think you missed the part where he was locked and barricaded in the mom’s house? He didn’t have a choice.

[@bougiepeaches5497]

Feel bad for both of the op and his ex wife. Their marriage was jeopardized by his gross mother.

[@grandparedpill2695]

I only had to deal with an NPD for a stepmother, you had to deal with a sociopath, probably even a psychopath.

[@girishpurushothaman8238]

Damn crazy tho

[@Dangev-jh4id]

I thought HIS mom was going to be a Karen and she is but OML HIS WIFE IS CRAZYYYY

[@TygR3]

People need to realise cheating isn't always about finding romance somewhere else. Putting your partner second every single time they're expecting from you is just as bad because you're cheating them out of being an equal partner to you.

[@buffaloefilms3079]

Wife seemed pretty harsh ngl. Sounds like she moved on a long time ago and the mom was the excuse she needed to get out.

[@misterzer051]

This is the most left and right story... its hard to follow.

[@stephanien6237]

A grown man is prevented from leaving his mother’s house? That’s on him. At least he knows he is spineless! I love that when he had the balls to ask if there was someone else her answer was “yes, me!”

[@treehouse2902]

I know right. The woman barricaded him and he's like "mom's antics." The wife lived with this and concluded her husband is weak and she got down with him. The mother is not going away. She's not spending the rest of her life in a mental hospital just because she has sexual feelings toward her son. He will come back to her eventually when she gets old and sick. I see it coming: "That's my mom, what am I supposed to do?"

[@terrellhatch8191]

Wtf is he suppose to do hit his mother? Bro was literally emotionally abused, and groomed. I swear people talk smuch shit who never had any expirence with abuse.

[@gradyjones7017]

Nah dude, that’s in you for fucking up your marriage

[@rey_ispog]

Terrible wife.

[@lowerosendahl6250]

i was the 4th viewer of this video

[@RandomBeing123]

Horrible wife and mother tbh, wife is self centered and can’t forgive something small, mother is a narcissist who thinks everything belongs to her

[@iliasdimGT]

that mom is the worst example of parentingof the wayyyyyyy to much freedom and abusive of right people do, not in USA only, but everywhere.

[@emiliaka4179]

Honestly, I get it. He only started fighting for this relationship when it was too late. I know it's toxic and he was abused as well, but he was letting his mother abuse his partner for years and covering up for it (i. e. the situation where mother threw fit and he asked the wife 'What did you say to her? '). His attempts on manipulating his partner are not acknowledged by oter readers only because the wife didn't fell for them and drew boundaries. I hope they both find peace. It looks like the marriage was a sacrifice to them all in order to cut off toxic influence of the mother. The child here will actually have chance to not be used by its crazy grandmother. Shame on the breaking of the family. Shame the OP didn't do anything before it was too late.

[@Toastedguyig]

Horrible mom terrible wife

[@greendayandnirvanafan]

real

[@Cyborg_Lenin]

Despicable husband

[@olaoye7980]

The wife did nothing she deserves someone better

[@Toastedguyig]

@@olaoye7980 left him over being slightly late to a pointless milestone of a marriage

[@XxWolfzyxX]

​@@olaoye7980😐