This Internet Debate Is Making Men MAD

[@lucieisloosingit]

I was stalked by a man and other men just told me he’s a lonely awkward kid who doesn’t know how to talk to women. I WAS STALKED

[@GummyDinosaursify]

Same here. Family and friends kept telling me he just "reaaallly liked me" and I was just "playing hard to get". I was a shy teenage girl who barely understood the world. It's disgusting.

[@birichinaxox9937]

Because men lack empathy. They emphasise with their fellow man dispite the horrible behaviour instead of the person being terrified. The selective empathy is exhausting.

[@spongecakes1986]

Look, as a lonely awkward kid, I can relate to following someone for a minute or two hyping myself up to ask for someone's number or start a conversation or something, to the point where they were a little uncomfortable (and then hating myself for making them uncomfortable afterwards). That being said, anything more than a minute or two is too much. Stalking is absolutely unacceptable. If you wanted to start a conversation with a person and either chickened out or failed to hype yourself up, I'm sorry, but you missed your shot. Maybe you'll see them again and get a second chance, but until then, you can't do anything else. Stalking is never acceptable, no matter how pretty they are or how awkward you are. I'm so sorry this happened to you both. Sending virtual hugs (with consent, of course) to you and anyone else reading this who was made to feel unsafe by someone.

[@spongecakes1986]

@mimo.1467 you think stalking people is acceptable because it's not uncommon?

[@chiletoo8741]

@mimo.1467 That's not the point. Just because stalking women aren't that uncommon doesn't change the fact that this person was stalked by a man and other men downplayed the seriousness of the situation.

[@idontwannaknow9385]

My mom is not on the internet. A few days ago, someone cleared the overgrown land in front of her house. She said she was happy they did it because she is afraid by the possibility that a man may hide in the tall grass I immediately remembered the bear thing and asked her "You are afraid of the man, but not even the snakes?". She said that a snake could just go away and don't hurt anyone

[@Xeorboom]

snakes are still dangerous, atleast if a man is hiding in the grass it'd be kind of noticable but snakes are too small and stealthy! overall I'd have to pick the man this time because a randomised snake could bite me out of nowhere and I'd die quickly! I love snakes but they are long deadly creatures

[@cohengamertv6548]

Im pretty sure snakes only attack when threatened

[@Quesoquantum]

A snake attack can be avoided by wearing tough plastic boots. Men however

[@idontwannaknow9385]

Yeah, I'm not sure about snake attacks and all that. I just found it interesting that the first thing that comes to her mind every day when she lays eyes on that grass is the possibility of a man hiding inside it. She doesn't even think about snakes or other more likely dangerous things (because, as someone said, a man would still be visible). She instantly fears the man who could be there. This is the society where she grew up. This is the society we live in

[@wuzittooya]

@@Xeorboom Snake in grass > fucking unhinged man in my grass

[@bridgeotto3320]

The irony of that dude talking about HIS MOM'S experience and trying to use it for his own agenda, his mom actually did an AMA on Reddit where she literally says she carries a gun for men on the trail and has nothing against bears

[@loklok5559]

i handgun wouldnt take a bear down look it up

[@takabikkan]

​​​​@@loklok5559 of course. but the og comment said the mother has a gun for the _men._

[@duck_onYouDuxk]

​​​@@loklok5559she carries the gun for men not bears.

[@egorpozdnyakov8812]

I am so confused. Why are so many men like that? Is there like a special brainwashing type of camp or smth? How can he be soooo blind to the reality of his own mother’s life?

[@tinytortoise1998]

Out of all of the dumb videos of men trying to justify why women should choose a man over a bear, that one really kills me. He literally hijacks a woman's traumatic experience to make it about him and other men. And he's not even right about what she would actually choose!!!

[@tarrahmelton9183]

A bear wouldn’t tell me he can do it again because he already did it before, and then go hug my mom and call her his favorite aunt…

[@yoBmeF]

I'm sorry for the vile experiences you went through. I hope days get easier for you in the future and finding joy.

[@renawhitlock6752]

not only did they sexually harass that minor for picking them, they immediately switched up on her and started sending her death threats when they found out she's trans. she later admitted in another comment section that she picks the bear now because of the harassment she got, poor girl found out real quick why we pick the bear

[@somik-i3x]

Took a couple of days for creepy men to break the faith in humanity to a teenager. It fit and is depressing as fuck.

[@purpleflowers8723]

And then they wonder why we pick the bear....

[@Saibellus]

honestly i feel like a lot of girls who dont fit in with classic femininity go through a "not like other girls" phase (myself included) that gets brutalized out of them by adulthood

[@LeefLett]

Poor girl. I’m a transfem teen myself and I honestly couldn’t imagine something like that happening to me. Bear 100%

[@Maddie-ft8we]

I’m a transgirl and in my view I’d definitely pick the bear too. Smart girl! And thinking back a lot of my bad experiences I’ve had in my life was from guys.

[@1WildArtist]

Might I add, the guy who's mom wrote a book on being attacked by a bear said on a reddit thread that even she would choose the bear.

[@Io-ver]

she should've put this in the video 😭

[@Yoroiful]

What does this prove? That women don't learn?

[@1WildArtist]

@Yoroiful no, that he needs to stop using his mom as some kind of excuse. He is in the wrong. It isn't all men, no. It's all women. We have to worry about being attacked constantly because we don't know which men are the good ones. They pretend to be friends, family even, but that doesn't garentee they're to He trusted. Ask my 30 y/o cousin who m*lested me at 8.

[@lepjagman]

​@@1WildArtistDo women interact with bears at anywhere near the frequency they interact with men?

[@eclipseatsea]

@@lepjagman no, because bears don't want to interact with humans. Like a big majority of animals, they are scared of humans because we are something extremely unknown to them. There's very few animals that actively would hunt a human being, we've never been preys. It's clear that you're missing the point on purpose. Just use your empathy skills

[@callistourseides]

So, fun fact, my aunt happens to be a bear attack survivor. She worked in the woods for most of her life and dealt with wildlife daily. It happened in autumn over 20 years ago, and she unfortunately had to put the bear down to survive, which she found extremely upsetting. I asked her the question. She picked the bear, and added that she'd even pick a bear over deer ticks (she hates parasites). She had hundreds of encounters with bears through her career, and all but one were completely non-threatening. They're mostly big raccoons, and they're terrified of you. They're not nearly as dangerous as people make them out to be. Humans, on the other hand, are very much unpredictable.

[@voidgames645]

Oh wow! Maybe I would pick bear.

[@vernamu.]

Is it known why this bear attacked her?

[@darksidegryphon5393]

Deer ticks are vectors.

[@loyaleling]

That's because she's worked with and knows how to handle bears. The bears are only predictable if you are educated on the topic.

[@takabikkan]

yeah. I feel like theres a lot of stigma against bears, like there is against sharks. and iirc most bear attacks are caused because the bears cubs were close.

[@michellesutton202]

As a survivor of s/a at 12 and 24. I will always pick the bear. I told my father at 15 that i was s/a, his first statement to me was "what were you wearing, and what did you do to encourage his behavior?". No, dad i was walking home and adult man attacked me, thanks so much for blaming me. I'm almost 50 now and I still am processing the trauma and victim blaming. Its just so sad the lack of accountability of the whole "boys will be boys" and locker room culture.😢

[@lancewalker2595]

What unbelievable bullsh*t you're spewing. Your story is a complete fabrication, so clearly a lie that no one could possibly claim to believe it without making themselves as much of a liar as you are. Next time, try not to include patently ridiculous details in recounting your tale; there is not a single possibility in all the infinite number of universes that ANYONE, even a man of the most DEPRAVED character, would ever respond to a report of past SA with such inane follow-up questions as: "what were you wearing, and what did you do to encourage his behavior?"

[@electronicmusicluvrr]

God bless you. I hope you have nothing but healing and peace to your trauma. It wasn’t your fault.

[@salemmarz3809]

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, that’s awful. I hope you’re doing well.

[@michellesutton202]

@salemmarz3809 I am, but the trauma sometimes come back at unexpected times. Thank u for your kindness 💓

[@faye7199]

I’m happy you’re alive and so nicely aware and kind ♥️

[@StarkRavenMad88]

2 weeks ago a man in his 80s walked by and said, "Im passing by you, didnt want to scare you. Hope you have a good day." I said, "I spotted you way back over there, i keep an eye on every man i can see." We chatted awhile about women's experiences with men. Im 46 it was the first time in my life a man had taken any care or awarenesss of his impact on a woman standing alone. It was refreshing. Feel like he had a granddaughter who had the man vs bear convo recently. It was touching as hell.

[@kookie_2178]

He sound like a sweet man ❤

[@picklebulge6478]

You keep an eye on every man you see..wow chill out.

[@dunemae]

⁠@@picklebulge6478Better safe than sorry.

[@tazlen_]

@@picklebulge6478you’ve got issues

[@AGW99-df3yg]

​@@dunemae doing that in some neighborhoods will make you racist just so you know

[@MegaLpso]

It's literally a common thing where fathers are protective of their daughters and hate their male partner because they automatically assume that they are bad/dangerous because their a man. Fathers literally admit this to their daughters, including mine.

[@catandrobbyflores]

Heck, my grandpa took my boyfriend now husband aside and told him "remember I'm a trained killer," when my boyfriend told me that I thought it was really out of character but I know why he said it.

[@lali5416]

@@hawtsauce1122 their daughters' male partners...

[@fauna5328]

​@@catandrobbyfloresGOD boomers and gen x fathers LOOOOOVE pretending they're some kind of trained scary killer. Like they're OBSESSED with sounding badass they always do the whole " I know how to hide a body 😈" it's fucking cringe, nobody thinks you sound badass guys

[@lexa2310]

Yeah,my dad too. My mom was literally drugged once as a teen but its my dad who demands a call every few hours If meet with a male friend. He has repeatedly forbidden me from taking walks in the woods alone (we dont even have bears, wolves, or venomous snakes here.) He is very aware how dangerous men can be. Its probably why nothing really bad ever happened to me. A friend of mine wasnt so lucky.

[@AdaireKrickets]

​​@@lexa2310 Because they were in the locker rooms when other men admitted/bragged about the horrible things they've done to women. It was acceptable then, but now that these fathers have a connection to their daughters (probably realizing that woman are people.) Do they start to care.

[@aceofheartzxaver1366]

Lets call atention to the fact that most male victims of SA were assaulted by men

[@vantayuri]

Exactly, which is why the male equivalent to the man vs. bear question should not be woman vs. bear but rather still man vs. bear. I'm sure men would not want to be in the woods with a male stranger (or any stranger tbh) either.

[@xilj4002]

*reported Reported SA. Or admitted SA maybe. Men seriously underreport women assaulting them because of the whole "that kid was lucky with that hot teacher" thing

[@Indira-minuaga]

Damn as someone who got that experience without CONCENT as a child gotta say bears all the way~

[@aceofheartzxaver1366]

@@xilj4002 I'm not saying it doesn't happen just that the majority are men violating men

[@Totallynotsatan]

@@vantayuriI would never want to be in the woods

[@nikijames682]

People would believe you if you were attacked by a bear.

[@AmaltheaTheLast]

At least they wouldn't ask what you were wearing when it attacked you…

[@Cyborg_Lenin]

Well the maimed and half-eaten remains wouldn't leave much room for doubt.

[@Lively_Cha0s]

@@Cyborg_Lenin nor would the results of a rape kit.

[@Smiley_Fruitcake]

I feel horrible for men who are victims who have their experiences used as weapons against women. It's disgusting to use victims trauma to silence other victims

[@jeanivanjohnson]

they silence me.

[@adrenalineactivate]

Yeah. Imagine being a man who got 🍇 and only being acknowledged whenever it's about women whose been 🍇. Just to be little a women experience. It's like, their only existence matters when it's to put other victim/women down. I never seen a subreddit about men 🍇. Its only ever mention whenever the main topic is about women 🍇. Really shows how much other men really 'care' about their fellow male victims.

[@anakhavytla8141]

And they are the same people who shame male victims

[@jam5533]

It's pretty much a punch in the face for your own trauma to be weaponized like this to silence other victims..

[@violetta-mwah]

Right it’s actually f-ing disgusting. 💔😭

[@michellel.659]

Men have also spent my entire life warning me about men. “Guys only want one thing”, “No don’t go out with him, he’s sketchy”, “Do not drink with dudes, you don’t know what will happen”. Why are they surprised women believed them?

[@voidatethesun]

There’s literally a stereotype of the ‘overprotective dad’ that fears for his daughters safety…not from the world, but from OTHER MEN!! If they’re this self aware why the hell are they mad that we’re cautious ???

[@R.W.P.]

@@voidatethesunnot the same dudes

[@TiltedGlassesMedia]

@@voidatethesun There's a line between "caution" and "paranoia". That stereotype is quite literally meant to be a joke.

[@anushkaverma2203]

"its not that i dont trust you babe its that i dont trust other men cause i know how they think" ok umm eww???

[@vickiepunkin03]

@voidatethesun well something I don't understand is the way you're talking about men like they are all one collective and that they all do the same things and/or can rightly be held responsible for *each other's* actions rather than each individual held responsible for their own because a person's own actions are all they can control

[@Hearts4kazuhei]

as a western canadian, they literally tell children in school that bears are not exactly harmful if you don’t provoke them. men are provoked by women doing literally nothing 😃

[@Hearts4kazuhei]

to clarify something! not all bear attacks are provoked, but a lot are!

[@Batz-on-paws]

​@@Hearts4kazuhei yeah, most of the time if a bear is in the woods you won't even know unless it makes itself known, and that's usually by leaving and making noise, if you're even close enough to hear it. They don't want to deal with us lol

[@ethankiter9323]

Just look at them reacting to Taylor Swift

[@MoronicPlague]

Fr? OH MY GOD, UR A WOMAN!? >:O *Physically assults you in 404 ways bcuz I guess that's what folks do now*

[@kiarablack5349]

​@@Batz-on-paws Yep, bears go out of their way to avoid humans. Most people who've been in the deep woods have probably been in the forest with a bear without even knowing, because the bear doesn't want to interact with people.

[@evansgc77]

I'm a man and I'd rather be stuck in the woods with the bear over the man because bears gonna bear no matter who's in the woods but a rando dude? Nah, wtf is he there for? Camping? Where's your friends at? Hunting? Definitely don't wanna be around a stranger with a firearm. Gotta go with the women here, random dudes lurking in the woods is NEVER good.

[@derGlasdrache]

But the premise is that he too was placed there by chance. He has no intention of being in the forest, so how can his presence be suspicious?

[@evansgc77]

​@@derGlasdrachewhat you think, this is Naked and Afraid?😅 The hypothetical was: women, would you rather be in the woods with a bear or a random man? You know, like a day hike or camping, not air dropped into the middle of the forest like some Survivor contestants. Point is, statistically, men kill more women than bears kill ALL people.

[@derGlasdrache]

@@evansgc77 I understand the fear but I don't understand the terrible generalisation. The video said that the meeting would be by chance. It could be with any man or any bear. It might even be Ned Flanders from The Simpsons. If it's not by chance, it means it was planned, which would be weird because why would you be afraid of a planned meeting? A man who lives in the woods is unusual, but it doesn't mean he's dangerous to women. However, bears in their natural homes can be very dangerous, especially when they have baby bears. If you meet someone in a city or at work, it's more likely to be a dangerous man than a dangerous bear. It's hard to compare the danger of a random man to a random bear. Both can be very different. The situation, place, and what they do are important. They can change how we think about the danger. That means the thought experiment is flawed. Our ideas about men and bears can affect our opinions, even if they don't reflect the truth. A person's fear is justifiable. Fear can be strong, subtle or nuanced and comes from life experiences, what we learn from others, and what society teaches us. I do respect and understand why someone is afraid, but I don't need to agree with either fear itself or this thought experiment.

[@evansgc77]

@@derGlasdrache That's the essence of the hypothetical: fear, and apparently the women like their chances against a bear over a man. Wonder why that is?🤔

[@derGlasdrache]

@@evansgc77 As I said, I agree that there is a reason for fear and distrust. There is a real chance of encountering an attacker, but at the same time it is minimal. And I find the "bear" answer to the thought experiment irrational. This is not to devalue the experience of women. Let's say that 1 in 5 women have experienced assault by men. If we assume an average woman aged 40-50 (that's the average age of women in the US, Germany or Japan) who happens to encounter one additional man per week or per day, that's 2,000-2,600 weeks or 14,000-18,000 days in her life, or that many men. 1 in 5 means x5, so every 10,000th to 90,000th man an average woman encounters is a possible attacker. Of course, the numbers are only imaginary and the numbers vary depending on the actual number of additional men a woman encounters per day.

[@emilyresch3835]

"If I survive the bear attack, I wont have to see the bear at family reunions." "No one will say I liked the bear attack." "No one will talk about the bear's bright future." "A bear wouldn't film it and send it to all his friends." "A bear wouldn't hold his hand over my mouth and brag about what he did to the entire school the next week." "If I scream loud enough the bear might actually run off." "Nobody would defend the bear." "No one would ask what I was wearing when the bear attacked me." "The bear wouldn't take my tampon out while I was unconscious."

[@bloodyrosary]

Retweet :3

[@candied_co]

Also when a bear attacks a person they are literally killed to protect other people from also becoming victims. when men attack women, only 6% will ever be convicted.

[@saehtnyS]

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[@slyar]

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[@luissoriano8850]

Somewhere I heard an argument along the lines "when you go to the shooting range the first thing they tell you is to treat every gun as if it were loaded... That's the same way women see men" that clicked

[@Moogithetitan]

I know it's really sad how all men are treated like their rapists but I guess if that's what keeps people safe then it's for the better.

[@VelaiciaCreator]

@@Moogithetitan It's funny how they get upset over it, when all they have to do is prove themselves safe via action and sentiment. Their focusing on normal caution just cements them as not worthy of trust.

[@Moogithetitan]

@@VelaiciaCreator I know but it's still kind of sad that there's a group of people who get treated like criminals by default.

[@VelaiciaCreator]

@@Moogithetitan I regularly get distrustful stares because I'm photosensitive, always wearing sunglasses, a mask and a black cloak with the hood up. Sure, it bothers me, but I'm the one giving off the vibes they respond to. I acknowledge that. People need to stop being so effing self-centred that they can't recognize the vibes they are giving off.

[@Moogithetitan]

@@VelaiciaCreator that's not what I'm saying though. you're in a fringe situation where you're forced to act in a way thats suspicious but as a man we got those potential r*pists vibes by default no matter what we do. How come we can recognize that it's wrong to prejudge someone based on the colour of their skin no matter the crime statistics yet we can't do the same for sex. I hate to bring up racism as a comparison but the principle of prejudgment on a group being wrong needs to be remembered.

[@eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh]

I'm from Finland. A few days ago, a 15-year-old girl was found r*ped and k*lled in the woods. Suspect is an adult man. What does one of our most well known caricature artist do? He draws a caricature, relating to the incident, about a girl encountering a bear in the woods and feeling relief that it was not a man. Keep in mind that he does this a couple days after the girl was found (in the woods). Best case scenario is that the picture has a very unfortunate timing. Worst case scenario is that he's poking fun at the incident. And then they wonder why we would choose the bear.

[@TheGhostofAbigailMills]

Yet another reason to choose the bear: the bear won't make a mockery of your gruesome death, but a man sure will.

[@CeeGeeFursuits]

Those caricatures are drawn the day/morning before It was not unfortunate timing

[@eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh]

@@CeeGeeFursuits thanks for the clarification. I was trying to be hopeful about his intentions, but once again we are let down

[@amrivail]

Iltasanomilta oli tosi paska temppu toi. Valitten karhun

[@ironman_546]

​@@eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeehIt might have been social commentary. "This is why women pick the bear" kinda thing. Not a mockery but a comment

[@Jasmine-ho9iz]

I go to the backcountry multiple times a week to forage, hike, hunt, camp… there are tons of bears. I’ve never had a bad experience with one. Just walking down the street in my city I’ve been assaulted, harassed, and stalked by men. Once in the forest I even got chased by a naked man. The worst a bear has done to me in my 15 years of backcountry adventures is steal all my food.

[@KrisJimenez-y9j]

"No one would think i led the bear on." "No one would question my history with other bears." "No one would ask me, what i was doing out so late around the bear." "The bear could never get me pregant, and then, make me fear not having a choice." "The bears money could not get him out of trouble." "I would not be shamed by the public for surviving a bear attack." "My religious family will not refer to me as damaged goods if i survive." A bear only gets one chance to hurt me, and when its done its done...its not statistically likely that it will happen to me again. Bear attacks are rare." "I know once im dead, the bear would leave my body alone."

[@glimmerlarue7382]

Never even considered the "once im dead" part. Statistics for male employees and morgues just came to mind...

[@LuBloome]

This is actually insane. Especially that last one, holy fuck, that's horrifying

[@sherlockwho5714]

I mean you were carrying smoked salmon :) But yeah the bear is safer

[@lisao7600]

I live in a very rural area with a forest in my backyard where there are sometimes bears that show up. The thing is, the bear will most likely run the opposite direction and leave me alone when it sees me. Men that get mad that we don't want to come across a man while we are alone in the forest don't realize that it's not them personally. It's just that so many men are creepy how are we to know by looking which one will help us find our way out of the woods and which one will try to put his hand down our pants even when you ask him to stop. That happened to me when I was a young woman. I was stuck in a pick up truck on a backroad with a couple friends and two guys. We were on our way back from a trip to go swimming at a creek in the woods. No matter what I tried the dude would not get his hand out of my shorts on my bare whooha. Was it my fault for wearing a bathing suit? Edit to add, these guys were supposed to be our "friends"...if we can't even trust men who are our supposed friends how can we trust men who are strangers. It's for sure not All men, or even close to all men, but it's a lot of men, and we don't know which ones they are.

[@Ladiofthewoods]

​@@lisao7600I am incredibly sorry that happened to you. Much ❤

[@FalconX299]

As a man it embarrasses me that the men responding to this with “I could save you but I will just watch you die” because you are just proving their point

[@MoronicPlague]

Noones saying that.. you just made that up to prove your point to be better. Get actual existing evidence to support your claim. Plus, I do hate how men are antagonized, but the parents are never blaimed. I mean, the largest amount of grape happened in poor countries with worse education (Nigeria or India) or in WW2 by Nazis where.. well, they all were horrible people, so why be surprised over them doing horible things. For example, it's difficult to stumble upon a serial killer who wasn't bullied in their childhood, didn't have a wrong role model or hadn't have abusive parents.

[@snailbrainss]

​@@MoronicPlague the "watching you die" example is shown right here 13:51

[@DropDread]

​@@MoronicPlague okay keyboard warrior I ain't reading allat

[@somik-i3x]

When I see men being creepy like that, I wish I could give my penis away just to not be link to any of that.

[@2clownz.1circuz]

@@DropDreadhe’s got 47 comments on this video alone 💀

[@Trixabella87]

Making a whole freaking creepypasta creature in response to women saying they would feel safer with a bear than a man is WILD

[@toxihex876]

Honestly, I can see someone who just wants to be edgy making it for the sake of being edgy and using this because it's a popular thing.

[@cawingcrows2072]

Shame it was used to be awful to people, it looked kinda cool :(

[@JCArules13]

@@toxihex876no excuse though!

[@ninjamantis8309]

Legit what do you mean i am confuse and out of the loop

[@alwaysforgetful1089]

I'd still choose the creepypasta creature tbh. That shit looked amazing.

[@Extra4UUU]

The bear ignores the word “No” because it doesn’t have an understanding of the language. The man ignores it because he wants to.

[@ShitDigester]

You act like every man is a rapist and I don't understand why

[@hektor7798]

Their intention doesn't change the outcome

[@SavSmith-qm5nt]

The man who mentioned Jeffery Dahmer seems to forget that Dahmer was gay

[@lil_mis_smiles]

That and only went after men, I think?

[@leah6820-y9v]

@@lil_mis_smiles Yep. Only men.

[@FG-tu4fq]

@@lil_mis_smiles They hate women so much they turned "bros before hoes" literally

[@AD-dg3zz]

I thought it was unclear if he was truly gay or not. But either way, he did exclusively target men. Maybe they meant to say Ted Bundy? 😂

[@Tenkoshimura_Z]

I agree. But he was a killer anyway, and he's literally dead???

[@bread-gz3rl]

I mean, as a dude id take the bear too. Mainly because the last time i found a random dude in the woods i almost got stabbed and the last time i found a bear it just fucked up the tailgate on the truck i paid -50$ for

[@ShibaStruck]

Damn hope your ok

[@memory.3015]

Jesus christ I hope you’re good now dude

[@vitisvinifera1590]

@@bread-gz3rl I'm sorry you went through that...

[@FlyingFox86]

Is the truck okay?

[@Giga_Ratt]

How’d you get a truck for 50 bucks?

[@alirentzios5279]

Someone said, "I'd rather a bear kills me to feed itself and it's cubs than to feed a man's sick fantasies."

[@sarajaksic2928]

the way i gasped at this comment..

[@Smoobiedoobie]

Great way of thinking I’d much rather have a bear kill me bc it was hungry then a man bc hopefully he wouldn’t try to eat me

[@crystalbuffaloe]

The reasons a bear kills, 1. It was trying to protect its cubs 2. It was starving enough to attack a dangerous target that it wouldn’t normally hunt Both are instinctual, justifiable, have nothing to do with who you are, and will serve a purpose. Reasons a man would attack someone, They don’t get why it’s wrong and think(or know) they won’t be punished Never justified, never necessary and leave someone permanently traumatized or dead.

[@pearlangeline]

​@@crystalbuffaloe Pretty sure by 2024 all men know attacking a woman is wrong they just don't give AF.

[@TiltedGlassesMedia]

Whoever said that probably secretly has a death wish.

[@Hades_Greek]

Even as a trans female, I still have to take precautions when I’m near even my friends that I’ve known for years. It’s honestly sad.

[@V33-Vee]

Omg, I wish sm safety and peace of mind on u, some times I consider if I’m a misanthropist bc of things like this 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@Hades_Greek]

I’ll just fix it😭

[@Hades_Greek]

Also thank you so much for

[@HyperfixationCreation]

I saw a video that was like “Woman or tiger” Male s/a victim- Tiger because a woman wouldn’t hold me down and 🍇 me until i’m sobbing and all the replies were like, “Omg i’m so sorry this happened” “I hope you recover and get therapy.” “You are loved don’t ever forget it!” from women. and then we have “Man or Bear” Female s/a victim- “Bear because i’d rather be mauled than be s/a’d again.” and the replies were “Not all men!” “I’ll do it again!” “I wouldn’t” “You would enjoy me.” etc from men. I thought i should share edit: when i wrote this i wasn’t attacking a whole gender i just thought it was kind of sad-that pattern

[@artemis1159]

This is so real, I noticed this too, women generally have sympathy, however I don't think a lot of men possess that

[@sxftpixie]

@@artemis1159 they possess it, they just don’t have enough in their hearts to wholesomely express it, especially watching from an outside perspective. it’s really sad to see

[@justaboringhooman]

most of the time those comments about men choosing the woman over the tiger are just copy pastes of actual comments of victims. ive known many males who would and have done such things to belittle an SA survivor

[@bellelovessamandcolby]

every time the topic of SA is brought up, nearly all of the negative responses i see are from men - either invalidating other men who are victims with stuff like "you should've liked it!!!!😡😡😡" and bs like that or saying bigoted things to women. women seem to have overwhelmingly supportive and empathetic responses to victims regardless of the gender

[@Mortis845]

And also, I never see this kind of sympathy from men towards men’s struggles. They often joke about it like ‘’game is game’ and ‘was she hot’ and somehow they manage to put the blame solely on women that male victims never get taken seriously.

[@broses9038]

I’m a male. I was sexually assaulted by two men. They’re straight men, and it wasn’t for their sexual gratification or because they “just couldn’t help themselves.” It was deliberate and simply to prove that they could do anything that they wanted to me. But, because time passes and cognitive dissonance is a bitch, my girlfriend brought the bear thing up a while back and I got defensive and instantly spouted the “not all men” argument. It took me a while to come to terms with the fact that, given the choice, I’d also choose bear.

[@ArissaHaque]

Oh god i am so, so sorry to hear that. I really hope you’re doing much better and remember, its wasn’t your fault

[@coffindweller.]

Honestly it's already an admirable thing that you can actually acknowledge the issue at hand, you're doing great and I wish you the best.

[@amarissilas810]

God are you okay, honestly i hope they ended up paying for it even if they already have.

[@midnight_blu3]

i'm so so sorry for what happened to you. I wish you all the peace and healing of the world :C i hope you're safe now. Also thank you for taking a deeper thought into the question about the bear thing! Wish you the best, buddy

[@iiCLOAK_0000]

I’ve been molested as a child by a woman, I’d choose the bear over a woman

[@arashu5436]

As a man, I'd say bear too. Why is there a random man in the woods? That's way more suspicious than a bear.

[@Isabelle-hv6ny]

Omg a Man who is not offended

[@feathered_turtle]

saw someone say “if there’s a random bear in the woods it probably lives there, if there’s a random man in the woods he probably followed me there”

[@SnowFlightVA]

Actually that's a good point too, one should be in a forest while the other often doesn't go in it.

[@Transwithhands]

​@@Isabelle-hv6ny Trans guy would also choose the bear😂

[@Lazy_Gay_Man]

Being mauled by a bear is cool compared to what the man would do to you…

[@ManuelRamirez-yy7pe]

Bears kill out of fear or desperation. Men kill for rejection or embarrassment. Men kill for a difference of opinion. Men kill to make a point. Men kill for fun and pleasure. Men kill for profit or status.

[@RealBadman554]

You look like you’d kill for food

[@your_neighborly_bisexual]

@@RealBadman554 oh, boy! that's a real knee slapper!! ain't that the case for bears when they're extremely hungry?

[@CoolCat68]

This is so stupid bro 😭 why for some reason you all believe men are evil and just want to cause suffering

[@antran2057]

Bruh men arent "serial killer" 😂😂😂 heroes are men too you know

[@prottyesilaus]

​@@antran2057young people youtube

[@kittencomicslol]

The guy whose mother wrote a book about being mauled by a bear actually made a tweet herself, and she said she would pick the bear even after her attack.

[@Known_ErrorMe]

Sad :(

[@Irreverent9]

No way!! Hhhhhh

[@UnkownWonders]

Hope she also grounded his ass for this bs

[@virustheglitch9836]

Family dinners must be so awkward for them

[@jenicacrous3568]

😭😭

[@emilyjohn2034]

My favorite part of the “not all men” thing is that not a single guy says that to the dads who tell their daughters it’s all men. My dad told me as soon as I got into high school to be suspicious of ALL MEN and that ALL MEN want the same thing, he was suspicious of ANY MAN I was friends with or dated and would assume ALL MEN if I was around a strange man. You cannot blame woman when their fathers have drilled this into their heads their entire lives, we have to assume all men because THATS WHAT THE MEN SAY, if men are telling us all men think that way of course we will believe it

[@mirandapanda5439]

It's no different than the "not all cops" shit.

[@michaelmitchel3471]

What is all men? It feels like your trying to use the same words as proof without understanding it's a different context

[@BelleDraws-i5d]

​@@AGW99-df3yg damn boy, have you been doing stretches? Because that's such a reach😉

[@AGW99-df3yg]

@@BelleDraws-i5d woman is victimized in some way, man tells her a way to avoid it in the future, woman says she "shouldn't have to" and that men should just stop doing bad things. you're right, that totally never happens.

[@BelleDraws-i5d]

@@AGW99-df3yg that's because it's a useless advice. If I'm told not to go out at night or wear provocative clothing, that still doesn't mean other women are safe. If not me, another woman out there is being assaulted. If we want to put a stop to it, we should focus on the real problem which are the perpetrators

[@feathered_turtle]

men say women are the ones that are dramatic over hypotheticals (“would you still love me if i was a worm”) and then write an essay every time this is mentioned

[@rainpooper7088]

Ding ding ding!

[@SAGE5798.]

REAL

[@Moogithetitan]

you arent wrong.

[@MollysDevice]

I get it though. They are being compared to wild animal. I can see how that would feel dehumanizing or upsetting. Particularly when you’ve never done anything wrong. Men are allowed to feel hurt when an intentionally provocative question frames them as worse than a wild animal.

[@south452]

@@MollysDevice it literally doesn’t do that the entire point is ‘ you don’t get to choose the man. some people are fucked up. the bears aren’t. ‘ you choose the bear because they’re significantly more predictable than a strange, unknown man in the woods

[@pixelash1069]

I’m a man who’s a big supporter of Men’s Mental Health but even so I still wanna support others and their struggles. This video helped me understand the struggles of women and the shit they have to go through everyday! Loved the visual of the venn diagram too! I’m a visual learner and that helped me a lot!

[@Sugar_Crash1]

Fun fact! The one dude who said "Erm actually my Mom was attacked by a bear, so I'd say people who picked the bear are privileged" His mom did a Reddit AMA A bit after the bear attack. His Mom was asked the bear or man question. She chose the bear

[@SilverAceOfSpades]

I feel bad for laughing at "she chose the bear" I fully understand why she chose the bear and I would choose the bear.

[@33melonpaws77]

That's funny but also what a little shit of a son

[@sunnydays07]

I hope she shamed her son for his decisions, and that he learns not to use his mother's trauma to push his views on “women being weird”

[@caro0605]

But the post is 11 years old. How was she supposed to be asked that question if it just came up now?!

[@dabdabthethird2410]

Ontop of that she also said dealing with the insurance and healthcare was worse then the attack

[@poppy_fl00wer90]

they don’t understand that women prefer the bear because they KNOW what the bear will do. women don’t want to choose a man because they DONT KNOW what he’ll do. that’s what scares us.

[@MoronicPlague]

You don't know what a bear will do, you've never had contact with one, it's big and your fear instincts with a beast will go wild, unless you're professionally trained. Have you never spoke with someone with a Y chromosone? Jeez, they take up half the population.

[@Winnie589]

Exactly

[@ShadowSorel]

it’s like that line from azula from atla: “Well, then, maybe you should worry less about the tides who've already made up their mind about killing you, and worry more about me, who's still mulling it over.”

[@Flowery_Borinquen]

Fax. And honestly, I wouldn't even answer the question. 'Cause Idk what the kind of bear it is. Idk if the bear is aggressive or not. Idk if the bear will eat me, or kill me, or ignore me. And it depends the intentions of the man. Idk if he will rob me, idk if he will threaten me, and like, IDK WHO HE IS.

[@jadecoolness101]

No, it's because you're statistically safer with the bear. Literally. It is very easy to not be attacked by a bear, because bears generally don't WANT to attack. Bears don't usually take sadistic joy in mauling humans. Bears aren't known to enjoy eating humans unless they are quite literally starved. If you come across a bear in the woods, and turn around and leave it alone, it's very likely to leave you alone. A man? Not so much. Women choose the bear because they know what a man will do to them if he sees her. She can't turn and walk away from him, because he will follow and hunt. A bear wont.

[@Version0111]

I was once trapped in an elevator with a woman. The second we realized we started texting and calling people. About a minute later the woman asked if she can take my picture because she told her husband there was a man with her and he wanted to make sure he had something he could give the police in case i did something to her. Every man I've told this story to has told me they'd have thought the same way. Any man saying they don't feel threatened by the unpredictable nature of a random man IS LYING!

[@itcouldbelupus2842]

bingo

[@UNSTABLE111]

right on the button sir..

[@PeterParker-ff7ub]

Every human is random. Lets just put you in prison now

[@g.ctheweebbecomefat]

what about a random woman

[@Chud-mb7gl]

Should have spit on her for humiliating you in distress

[@anonymoiscat]

wow, i am SO immensely thankful KZbin recommended this vid for me. Just this morning i was trying to say the same exact thing to my male dominated team at the office who were praising the "pickup artists". The amount of predators masquerading as "pickup artists" who harass women on the street and view them solely as targets is OVERWHELMING and you summed it up perfectly as a response to the hypothetical "bear vs man" question. "its men who dont attack women and men who dont see the harm in demanding the phone number" i wish you were there at the office cause i literally wanted to say every word you said in this video but i just ended up crying from frustration :D

[@melvin9888]

As a male survivor of a female perpetrator I completely understand why most women choose the bear , they don’t know what man they would get and they can’t know if he’ll do something or not. I don’t feel attacked at all when women say they would choose the bear because I know even if I’m not a threat they can’t know that immediately same with any other man. Men can be very scary and I know quite a few women and enbys who are also survivors of SA harassment or DV , the perpetrators were anyone from a random crew member backstage to their intimate partners or even their own fathers. The thing is those people actually understand and empathize and respect with my experiences, much more than the random men on the inside weaponizing the trauma of other people like myself just to try and get back at women who are justified in being wary of men they don’t know. I hate when misogynistic men use the trauma of people like me just to get back at women , even though they are probably the same people who would call us “lucky” for being victims. Meanwhile all the women I know who are survivors also care about and respect male survivors much more than those random guys who just use us to invalidate the women who share similar trauma to us. Moral of the story, male survivors are NOT a gotcha moment we are real people.

[@crypticcryptid4702]

Hey man, just commenting so say I appreciate your input and I hope you're doing well

[@Lil_Anxiety_Bean]

I’ve never been a victim, but as a woman I sympathize with any male survivors because it truly does get over looked. I sincerely hope you are doing well and I thank you for your courage to speak out

[@LeakyPotato]

@@Lil_Anxiety_BeanI am a victim of sa and agree 197%

[@redtailarts101]

You really do deserve an apology from every dipshit who only ever cares about male victims when the topic of male perpetrators comes up. They literally ARE the types that claim male victims of female perpetrators are lucky, even when they're literally children.

[@TheYokaiRadio]

I'm writing a piece on SA of men & boys, actually, 1 in 6 males will experience SA before the age of 18 & changes to an astonishing 8 in 10 men... That are SEVERELY under reported because men dont even know what it looks like. I'm collecting stories, I'm interviewing a male friend of mine that is taking our Highschool teacher to court for SAing him while he was still her student. If you want to talk, completely anonymously, you won't ever have to share your name, just your story. I've survived a lot but I'm a woman... And one of us have to stand up for men so I might've well be it! Lemme know, I hope you heal 💕 Edit: solid 400 that'd care about your story

[@Damientouchedgrass]

When Any single trend where women open up about their negative experiences with men gets popular there are men that literally show why trends like it become popular and keep happening

[@iiCLOAK_0000]

Ironically same with women, when the “soft guy era” was a trend women got all mad about it

[@djotchuiangela9955]

​@@iiCLOAK_0000 what is a soft guy area I never heard about and I am a woman, this sound but cool to have a soft guy friend

[@Angelina_1111]

"a bear would hurt me because it thinks I'm dangerous, a man would hurt me because he knows im not" damn.

[@insomnolant6043]

Bears aren't thinking that. They want food.

[@KrunchWorld]

​@@insomnolant6043Depends on the bear

[@SirHorned19]

@@KrunchWorld It also depends on the man... Its just a weird overgeneralization.

[@Rubatose]

@@insomnolant6043 Bears rarely attack humans to eat them. They attack them for territorial reasons, or because a human has come between a mother and her cubs. And even if a bear is desperate for food, and attacks and kills me to eat me, at least then it will be more quick, more dignified, and more *justified* than what a man could potentially do to me.

[@keepingitreal727]

Damn this open my eyes I was on the other side thinking why the hell a women would choose a bear but now I understand thx

[@oliviadrago7419]

Hi! Female hiker & backpacker here! Every single time I go hiking or have gone backpacking, especially when I went on a multi-day trip with another female friend, the concern has never been “oh what if we run into bears or coyotes or whatever?!” I have literally made the statement “it’s not the animals I’m afraid of. It’s the people.” Mind you, I don’t specify “it’s the men, all men are so scary and evil.” But on that days-long trip on mountain trails with just myself, another girl, and her dog, it wasn’t worry of bears that kept me from falling asleep every night.

[@Don_com_cq]

Hi Male hiker and backpacker here... We men avoid treks and tours in which there are women participants. Because most of these female solo travellers or female trekkers only create problems for other male travellers and male trekkers in the group.. So, now we men avoid going for tours or treks in which there are other women participants. Even if there are women in our tour group or trek group, we avoid talking to these women participants because they usually ask us for some help..

[@Don_com_cq]

We do many road trips in our SUV all over our country. Along the way we can see many solo women travellers and local women also who are waiting for some vehicle to reach her destination. Local Women know that we are tourist men and so we will not give free lift to unknown women in our car, if women ask us men directly. Men will think that she is planning to do some scam on him and so he will not alllow unknown women to enter his car. So, instead of asking us directly, women will select an intermediary like restaurant owner or tea shop owner etc to ask on behalf of her if we can take her in our car to the next bus stand or town ..

[@Don_com_cq]

Example.. We go for lot of road trips in our car to tje mountains and other isolated routes which have very little public transport like bus. On the way we see many solo female travellers and also local women who are stuck in various restaurants along the way without any bus to her destination.. So, these women will ask the restaurant owner or tea shop owner to ask someone to take her to her destination. So, if we stop our car in any such restaurant and order food, while we are eating food, the restaurant owner will come near us, befriend us and ask us, where us we are going, our job, our tour plans etc and then after we pay the bill, he will ask us if we can take 2 of his friends to the next destination. He will not tell that those are 2 women passengers.. Thinking that they are 2 male passengers, we agree. Then suddenly when the restaurant owner calls the women only do we realise that the passengers are 2 women. But, because we already agreed to the restaurant owner in the beginning without asking the gender of his friends, we are now trapped because we cannot change our word now. So, we will be forced to take these women to their destination.

[@Don_com_cq]

Also, we men travel from our home by flight or train and join a tour group whom we are seeing for the first time as part of an organised package tour to places like high altitude mountain tourist destinations etc. Many families with husband, wife and daughter etc from other parts of the country also join this tour group. Most of these married men traveling with family start drinking alcohol in the bus itself. So, in the night, these family men will be completely drunk in their hotel room and unable to walk and the tour guide will also be drunk and unable to walk. So, once in a high altitude mountain resort, at the night at the hotel, 1 girl had low oxygen saturation or acute mountain sickness, and both her father and the tour guide were drunk and unable to walk, and so we 4 men had to take this stranger girl and her mother to the government hospital in the tour bus for treatment.

[@Don_com_cq]

We are also members of many trekking groups. And we do online booking for many treks. But, when the trek starts we see that there are many unknown women whom we are seeing for the first time in our trekking group. Unfortunately most of these women are not able to climb the hills and some of these women will have to be carried by us for many kilometres just because we cannot leave these women alone in the forest even though we don't know them and we are seeing them for the first time. Most of the time the women who are able to walk cannot carry her own back pack and we men in the group will have to carry some of these women's backpack along with his own backpack.

[@riarivera5995]

Bear vs woman? This man IMMIDIETLY assumed he was in a relationship with the woman. Mate, its a RANDOM woman. A random woman you may have no relation to. The fact you can assume you'd be together shows you aren't actually afraid for your safety. Yiu can always make more money, heartbreak will heal and you can survive divorce. Some women and girls will never see their families or loved ones again. Theres no recovery for them, they have no future to worry about. Because they were killed and most likely raped.

[@teletubbiesharvest5615]

god you're right I didn't even consider that he just assumed that

[@wasnlos2676]

He couldn't even fanthom that it may be a woman he's not attracted to. So wild. He's afraid of having to get a divorce or losing money while women are afraid of being raped, tortured and/or killed.

[@frenzy2061]

I never even picked up on that wow. Why do so many men just view women as essentially just 'things they can date' as opposed to being fully fledged people that can exist outside of them.

[@michaelmcninch425]

@@frenzy2061 A variety of cultural reason and taught behaviors ingrained into us from a young age. Remember that - unlike what a lot of these chuckle nuts wanna believe (when its convenient to them anyway) - men are trained to think this way - its not some natural aspect of just being a man. A lot of media also paints it that way due to said culture. These men are convinced of this because - even if only passively - this is what they are told women are for. Therefore almost every women is viewed through the lens of what the man desires - it's also why so many guys act confused that woman would dress up or wear makeup or even act in a certain way including having hobbies for any reason outside of winning a man.

[@firemaiden029]

accusing a person to be a gold digger usually do not have a gold to dig, was my actual thought when that guy said those things about bear vs. women lol

[@imauburnme]

A bear won't be in my chemistry class after assaulting me for hours. A bear won't be the reason I switch colleges and lose any sense of self I had. A bear will either ignore or kill me. A man would do and has done much worse.

[@MulberrySeason]

I'm sorry.

[@shaynestanz1]

I hope that person encounters a less than friendly bear.

[@fortmacmom3122]

I’m so sorry

[@AmarisFrede]

My heart goes out to you, I hope you can heal. I wish everyone you meet believes you. ❤‍🩹🌱

[@ObieDobieZoomer]

I hope those creeps got their just desserts

[@an_awkward_crybaby]

The pastor basically saying that women “asked for it” just for wearing shorts and dresses was infuriating. Our bare skin aren’t a damn invitation.

[@omoriiboy_]

its insane to me. they say men are superior to women then they cant even control themselves seeing a women in a dress or shorts?

[@raediation3016]

That pastor: men are men Jesus: if your eyes cause you to sin, gouge them out

[@rustyhowe3907]

But then when we don't dress up they complain we're not pretty enough and need to be more effeminate.

[@lesterven1847]

@@rustyhowe3907 Too real.

[@seez6963]

Its funny how these men are never satisfied with women; the western pastor doesn't want women to wear shorts but prefers pants and jeans; in some places in India men don't want women to wear jeans but prefers traditional clothing; and in some middle eastern countries men don't want women to wear anything but a Burkha. One day they will also prefer that we never walk out of the house and if we do we will be blamed if anything unfortunate was to happen.

[@bbgorl33]

One of the answers i dont think gets enough spotlight is the "bear will JUST kill me" like i am a male as well, but even without the ability to live in the shoes of a woman i could tell the thought process of choosing a bear over a man. Its crazy the level of selfishness men have to have to be pressed over the choice

[@xdarkwolf2255]

Not gonna lie, I'm a man and I might still choose the bear

[@Unlesstheworldendsthengoodluck]

"Have fun being mauled by a bear" So they assume the worst of a bear, but don't you dare assume the worst of a man?

[@YOURISAWHAT_2841]

THIS!! They literally demonize bears when bear attacks are rare while there are hundreds of cases of abusers in a year ;-;

[@augustusfreeman4032]

​@@GobDob The first part of your comment contradicts the rest of it. Even when people encounter bears the bear is still most likely to leave that person alone. And since you love making up scenarios to prove a point, answer this: If you were alone in the woods in your cabin, would you rather see a bear outside or a man? Answer honestly.

[@kirbyjoe7484]

If you are out wandering in the forest you are FAR more likely to be attacked by another human, most likely male, than a bear. The numbers aren't even close. It's over a hundred times more likely. The question is obviously rage bait, but people are idiots if they fear bear attack more than an attack by a fellow human.

[@L0G1CAdittion]

​​​@@GobDob please put into the perspective that some women cannot fight back, science also proves an average healthy man is much more physically fitter then an average healthy women

[@YTVanZD]

​@@GobDobNews flash, different men also have different levels of aggression😂 Is it ideal to be stuck in the woods with a bear? Obviously not. You're missing the point. No one here is delulu enough to believe a bear is not dangerous. But a random bear is much less dangerous to a woman than a random man (statistically speaking). You can argue about the accuracy or skewness of these statistics and how applicable they are to this hypothetical scenario all you want... Even if women are choosing a bear based on their perception of lower threat instead of 'reality', the whole point of this discussion is why this perception exists in women's minds. Let me tell you, it's not because they are uneducated about bears🙄

[@Drak_buddy]

The facts that they made the ONE woman that chose them so uncomfortable that she realized WHY everyone else chose bear should make them all realize

[@animeotaku307]

It gets worse. Apparently she was a trans girl (she was also a minor) and when they found out it got so much worse. Poor girl learned the hard way why we pick bear.

[@Drak_buddy]

@@animeotaku307 REALLY?? That poor girl

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

Punished for picking bear, punished for picking men. ://////

[@spicymayo623]

She learned quick why it doesn’t pay to be a pick me. Hard lesson.

[@rollfaceonkeyboard]

​@spicymayo623 She was too young to understand. That's not an ok way to treat a minor. I get what you're saying, but it's who it's in relation to that’s the problem. Likely she's either being actively abused to the point it's normalised. Or maybe she only has good men in her life. So this is a horrific experience. Either way that's a minor that doesn't need anymore criticism.

[@Manyo569]

Men bring up the “women are horrible people too” argument only when women speak about sexual violence.

[@MoronicPlague]

I'm a woman bringing it up, bet. Anyways, still. Men and women are pretty much the same, so about 1 in 4 grapists are gonna be a woman. Does that mean we should fear all women? No. It just means humans are overall goddamn stupid and selfish.. whatever. Why would you think that having both X chomosones makes you unable to commit crimes? What's your point anyways? Clearly I missed it.

[@shaynestanz1]

It's the "ALL LIVES MATTER!" of sexual assault, only used to deflect

[@inazuma2332]

Theres a Tiger vs Woman trend and its upsetting how men started it to mostly use it to shame women or try to act all tough saying "tiger, because she wont make fun of my height" while women choose bear for much better safety(they know bears CAN still attack as they are not toddlers who forget bears are wild animals) and the issue men commonly or say or bring up in the trend is theyre scared of the myth of gold diggers using them as the worst thing to happen to em by women?? Its sad for that but also a very wasted potential since that trend can be an outlet for any sa survivors who were specifically sa'd by women regardless of gender for victim but especially for men who were and developed trauma of women and are scared of them even if statistically and logically theyre very much safe around women in general and less likely to be targeted for sex, because trauma doesnt care whats most likely to happen it has happened and the body reacts as if it could or is about to happen in rational and irrational manners. Invalidation, mockery, and normalization of victim shaming/blaming tho, do amplify that victim's skepticism and fear. I dont want men to keep being gaslighted by men (and some women) that they can never be sa'd, their experience, if its not used to diminish someone else's experience of sa, should be heard, validated, and sympathized. Its also unfortunate the dumb sexist men who created the tiger vs woman trend and made it viral to make fun of women werent thinking properly since a tiger is one of the major animals existing that is known to actively attack humans. Luckily tho, Ive seen tiktoks of men who used it for a good purpose to showcase their personal horrible sa exp, same goes that theres a lot of men who say their own sa exp. With women and also with men using men vs bear. Despite statistic showing only 7-14% of men are sa victims, its women who in the comments are the ones more likely to empathize, even some going so far to apologize in behalf of the assault with the self awareness that the perpetraror probably would not ever apologize and doesnt blame him or try to make fun via calling out the technical flawed logic of tiger vs woman because a tiger is actively dangerous, because at the end of the day, man vs bear or women vs tiger, is a hypothetical question. If men cant empathize why women choose bear, its because of that ignorance and lack of at least sympathy. p.s the statistic is from both "Male Victims of Sexual Assault: A review of the literature" by John C. Thomas & Jonathan Kopel and taken from the "National Alliance to End Sexual Violence" website

[@commandercorl1544]

They don't actually care about the valid experience of male victims, they only bring it up when it's convenient.

[@pinkperfumefairy9205]

​@@commandercorl1544yup, they are only an activist when it benefits them

[@corcborc2547]

I saw a video that said "Dog or Women" and a guy commented that "A dog because it wouldn't falsely accuse me of r@pe." Well, it wouldn't correctly accuse you of r@pe either, because it can't talk.

[@Don_com_cq]

Woman dies after dog s. in Limerick 8 Jul 2011 - A 43-year old woman died after suffering a massive allergic reaction brought on after she had s. with a dog in Limerick. ... irish-woman

[@Don_com_cq]

Irish Woman Dies after Having S. with Dog [NSFW].. 11 Jul 2011 - A 43-year-old woman in Ireland died from a severe allergic reaction she suffered after having s. intercourse with a dog.

[@Don_com_cq]

Irish woman had s.with a dog; died from an allergic reaction to dog semen.. 08-Jul-2011 - She fell ill 7:30 p.m. that night, and he took her directly to the hospital where she died around 8:00 p.m., presumably from an allergy to the ...

[@Don_com_cq]

Woman Dies of Allergic Reaction to the Dog She Had S. With.. 08-Jul-2011 - She had s. with an Alsatian dog and then had a severe allergic reaction shortly afterwards, possibly from the dog's semen.

[@shaq74]

Breaking news: Man uses same logic as woman, commenter gets angry because it inherently exposes how stupid their bear point is.

[@bloodymary9404]

I’ve lived in the Appalachian mountains for 41 years. I’ve never been attacked by a bear. I was only alive for 4 years before I was graped by a man.

[@kvadratra]

I'm so sorry.

[@zxoe]

I hope you are doing well ☹🩷

[@aroilyace]

😢🤲♥️

[@randomstranger8938]

@@bloodymary9404 I’m so sorry, I was three myself, before I was sold. Did the man ever get caught?

[@Kiwifruiti]

How men will vocally maul women over so many dumb things when a bear rarely would even touch anyone unless they feel threatened

[@goldi7965]

⁠@UTTPWwhat- huh- bros bot bouta get banned

[@ChumleeTPC]

@UTTPWhello bot

[@christosdoesthings]

Depends on the bear really. Kodiak and Polar bears would actively hunt you, so I'd take a man in that situation. Grizzly is 50/50, and spectacled bear, black bear, panda bear, sun bear and sloth bear I'd take 100% The variable is thrown off based on which person I'd be with, if the "safe" bears have kids, (calling em safe but they're still wild animals that should be respected) and if pandas are actually more carnivorous when wild (there's not many of them left in the wild so they could be more omnivorous than we'd expect) As a fun bonus, I'd take Red Pandas and Koala Bears (these aren't actually bears, members of Ursidae, but we call em bears) and I'd take the red panda home with me and make a friend. If it's a water bear, most likely you already have more than one of those in your house so it'd just be a hike. Edit: oh also in terms of extinct bears, if you're with the greater short faced bear and cave bear no one will save you because those bears directly competed with humans, so I don't think they'd be too keen on having a stinky hominid in their habitat. Humans are directly responsible for their extinction after all. If it's the dawn bear, you take it home and become friends because it was herbivorous, looked like a dog and was the size of a cat. Dog bears I dunno enough about to say. Edit 2: oh I just thought of this, as far as prehistoric animals that aren't bears we call bears, 50/50 for bear dogs (amphicyonidae) since there's variation in size and their behaviour isn't certain since they're so old.

[@feathered_turtle]

do your duty and ignore the bots 🫡 “just report and wave boys, just report and wave.” 🐧

[@nicolettejohnson]

women just have to exist in order for insecure men to feel threatened

[@katiscool34]

It is so silly that men say how could she pick a bear over men, after we have been taught to avoid men, sold pepper spray and protection for our drinks, told to not go out when it's dark, stay on the phone with someone if they do, told to leave hair and fingerprints in Ubers, leave men's boots outside their houses, audios are made if your uber driver is creeping you out, and God forbid if something does happen to you, its what we're you wearing, maybe they misread you, did you say no loud enough, are you sure that's what happened, i know him, hes not mean to me.

[@Luni-ew9qw]

Fr. "If you are not careful its your fault, but if you are careful im offendet and how can you assume im a meany? Cant you look in my head and see im nice?"

[@Winnie589]

And these things are told to us BY MEN. Like why u getting so mad.

[@MoronicPlague]

Yh, a woman can't hurt you. (Fck the logic that both parties have free will and dangerous abilities if incorrectly raised)

[@sourlimerick]

What does the men’s boots one mean?

[@manic_cosmic_artist]

@@sourlimerickIt makes it look like a man is staying with you, so creeps think you aren’t alone

[@sariannedavidsson6597]

A man is scared that a woman will reject their advances. A woman is scared that the man will kill her. So yes, I would definetely also pick the bear if had to choose.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

This is more of a gender-sterotyping narrative that speaks over men. This is why for example I and other men, are certainly scared of other things other than rejection, especially things like divorce, false accusion, or physical/mental abuse or harmed from a woman, without her being caught because of the pre-assumption of her being innocent. However I do not use my fears against women to compare them as lesser than animals.

[@クリス-e7h]

In my personal opinion it's so tiring to hear how guys say "Why would you choose bear over fellow humans, honestly would rather see you get mauled." Like how can you not see that you may be adding onto why we choose bear

[@Lazy_Gay_Man]

Also, why is a random man in the woods with you?

[@Ashbrash1998]

They blatantly ignore that a bear has two reactions to a human in its home, a human has a big range of actions to take. And a number of them are a lot worse than getting mauled.

[@nerfherder4284]

I would honestly choose bear over random woman, there are awful women too.

[@talkingfez1265]

EXACTLY!!!!!!!! Like, you are NOT making a good case for yourself guys!!!!!

[@toxihex876]

Many of the responses don't make any sense and it's low key funny how little self awareness they have. If they had to compare what men do to women to something of the same caliber a person is likely to do to a man, that person would still be a man.

[@kirolee9345]

I went on a trip recently, my first solo trip. The very first day, I couldn’t even walk a block away from my hotel without a man following me. He followed me for two or three blocks, tried to grab me to lead me to a second location, and only left me alone when I lied and said I was going to meet friends. When I went home, and I told my family about it, instead of “I’m sorry that happened to you”, I got, “why didn’t you go into a store? Why weren’t you carrying paper spray? Why didn’t you call 911? What were you wearing?”. Even my therapist asked those. This is why women choose the bear. If I were to return from my trip and say “I almost got attacked by a bear”, I’d just receive “I’m so sorry! That must have been scary.”

[@concept5631]

Sorry you went through that.

[@biscuitsfrombidita]

I hope you're in a better situation now, and I wish that these incidents never happen to you ever again

[@jingle1833]

I'm so sorry that happened to you hun, and also sorry that you got such an incompetent therapist. That's the last thing you'd expect from a person who's supposed to help you with trauma, not give you trauma!

[@jeanivanjohnson]

me me me

[@perpetualsick]

@@jeanivanjohnsonthat’s what stories are like, babe. what’s the confusion?

[@2VeeOrNot2Vee]

i saw a video of a guy who asked “what can i do to make women feel safe around me while i’m hiking?” in response to this question. we need more men like that

[@matthewjones2513]

Hell no. I'm just going for a hike and I need to change because women are bieng programmed to believe all men are dangerous. Not happening. All I'm doing is walking. If you think a man is dangerous simply because of his gender then stay home. Carry a gun or something. I'm not tip toeing everywhere I go because of your paranoia. Your fear doesn't Trump my rights to simply enjoy a walk.

[@godplus7963]

He saw the real problem🙏

[@MsSilverTulip]

My answer would be the same for men and women: unless someone is calling out for help, ignore them, look away, walk away or keep your distance. Make it obvious that you're minding your own business and you are not interested in interacting with anyone. I would feel safer to see a male who is with a female partner or friend and/or their children

[@AB-ce3nn]

Protect that man at all costs 😢

[@joinspace3864]

a good man

[@tetsupannn]

The most frustrating part about hypotheticals like these are that the men who are offended just refuse to listen. Im tired of seeing their takes. Im tired of explaining to them with statistics and logic. Im tired of having to explain myself when they clearly dont care about understanding the core of the issue.

[@fortunatecookie]

It was a hypothetical question. And they still couldn’t take no for an answer

[@thebritishmarypopinscat8945]

damn man

[@sassysass6202]

This goes wild ngl. It was because they knew that if the woman chose the men they would've been safer with the bear 😔

[@courtneylee643]

That hit hard.

[@cristelamata7622]

Boys 😭

[@harsh3948]

If you added “black” men, would that be less true? The crime statistics agree with your logic

[@mimmidauria5405]

my 48 year old italian, conservative, catholic mom, who is very much not a feminist nor was she aware of this debate on the internet prior, was asked the same question by my brother (in hopes that she would respond with “man”, to prove his point to me) and she legit said bear. it just shows how much of a universal experience womanhood is regarding being legitimately scared of men, especially random ones you might find in the woods…

[@harenohisugarwave]

How did ur brother react lol

[@LeadrynMcKrotch]

My dad is a boomer and pretty traditional and conservative(we fight a lot) but Even he said Bear. Especially after he confirmed it was just a random guy he doesn't know. He was like nah

[@jeanivanjohnson]

PEOPLE ARE EATING LIES

[@LeadrynMcKrotch]

I should also mention that he's a veteran and has the unfortunate experience of not even being able to trust a random child. So he can definitely understand not being able to trust a random man

[@Seoul_Soldier]

I was raised not to trust strangers. I don't get why this is suddenly a bad thing.

[@Falsehooddiaries]

Steve Irwin quote says it all fellas. Crocodiles are easy, they try to kill and eat you. People are harder. Sometimes they try to be your friend first.

[@VOMITQUEEN]

Intelligence and manipulation can be very frightening things.

[@alchemicmercury]

Remember guys just beceause your know your male friend one way, doesn't mean that you know how he behaves with a woman.

[@PRAYINGMANTIS.]

a long time ago i read something along the lines: "i don't want a man who can take a bear, i want a man who can protect me from other men. because the chances of me getting attacked by a bear is far less from getting attacked by a man" and i couldn't agree more

[@issecret1]

That's a trad wife trap. I don't need a man to protect me from othe rmen, because frankly, Americans, men don't really attack you randomnly and your boyfriend or husband is more likely to be the person you need protecting from.

[@DVAIKONNE]

Oh, I think it's from the Vietnamese woman and her German husband! (Uuhh)

[@PRAYINGMANTIS.]

@@DVAIKONNE yesss i think it was from her!

[@yuunahanabi2576]

UYEN??

[@Wardeez_]

Why not both

[@Temmie5626]

I had a similar experience with both with different reactions. My parents called and said they saw a man walking around near our house as they were leaving. I immediately locked all the doors, turned off the lights, wondered “what if he already got in and he’s hiding somewhere?”, and hid in my room. On a vacation to Colorado, my mom called and said they saw a bear as they were leaving. I immediately went outside to the patio to see if it was still there and take a picture.

[@silverrsauce]

did you get a photo of the bear? would be sick af if you did 🔥

[@bingus9119]

They saw a man walking around the house and left anyway?

[@ReyBees1]

I bears are cool 🐻

[@kaylas717]

​@@bingus9119right...made up story? Probably.

[@carnevalmefisto]

@@kaylas717 Are you aware sometimes you just can't cancel the leaving? They could cancel trip to the shop, but not nessearily job/hospital/airport etc.

[@moemoracle6720]

Bears won't vote for your human rights to be taken away and tell you that men own your body, bears won't assault you when you're 12 and then claim you're a liar when you report it, bears won't threaten to bash your brains in because they were in a drunken induced rage... I could go on and on over the fear and trauma I've faced in my life simply for just existing. And this is just one person. These stories aren't uncommon, at all.

[@11Tits]

why do people think bears just kill you outright? Most bears play with their food and kill it after a few days once its bored. however i would still take the bear cause they rarely attack and only ever come close if provoked

[@pc_txears]

Exactly. I told my stepsister what happened to me and she went to my cousin (the perpetrator) and told him what I told her while also saying she didn't believe me because he had always treated her nicely. Never will I ever trust another person who knows me personally with information on what happened that night my cousin did what he did.

[@justjoking5841]

Points to the bear for not voting for the foxes or wildcats to have full rights to the chicken coup.

[@cobaltblu4196]

And a Bear won't threaten you with a knife because you told them to stop grinding on a woman you know has been SA'd in the past. Even I as a dude get why women pick the bear. It's a total gamble if the man you are with is evil.

[@alchemicmercury]

I would raise the stakes by being stuck in the woods with two bears then a Christian.

[@CopperPenny53]

Bro this reminds me of when my grade 8 teacher told my class that boys and girls can’t be friends because “men can’t control themselves”. As a 13 year old girl at the time, even I knew that was complete idiocy at its finest, one of my best friends is a boy and I have no interest in him in a romantic way. Oh yeah, also at 13 boys followed me home saying they were gonna r@pe me and put cameras in my pool as a “fun little joke” ohhhh my family was fuming.

[@CopperPenny53]

Sorry, that last one happened to me when I was 12 actually. I don’t know how to edit a message 😂

[@Eckertainment]

“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.” - Margaret Atwood

[@fishman2586]

I think most people dont wanna get laughed at or killed

[@Eckertainment]

​@fishman2586 waaaaay to miss the point

[@fishman2586]

@@Eckertainment its what I do

[@Chriskindredsbi]

Why do you support women sa children? I saw your comment on another post/video. You disgust me ​@@Eckertainment

[@cheesecakeisgross4645]

Considering she wrote the handmaids tale. She's pretty much fucked in the head with her islamo-communist fanfic.

[@lordofdegeneracy8568]

men pretending women don't know bears are dangerous then get mad when women explain why they would rather be eaten than whatever a man's gonna do

[@celestewoodworth5627]

I know, right? My good sir (derogatory) I spent a significant chunk of my life obsessed with predators, I'm not ignorant of how dangerous a bear can be. But I'm not ignorant of how dangerous a man can be, eithed.

[@nymphLBBH]

i would rather drown myself to death than be raped by a man

[@lfr8666]

Exactly. This isn't "which is good and which is evil?" It's closer to "Which risky encounter am I more likely to survive unscathed?" The chance of bear violence is low, but the potential is there, it's a large wild animal. Men run the gamut from Mr. Rogers to Ed Gein to Weinstein to your good Christian nice guy. A strange man is fucking Russian roulette.

[@STAWTEREHWYREVE-dx7si]

I was 16 or 17, I was taking computer lessons. A guy was sitting next to me, I didn't like him, but tried to stay polite. He started following me around, complimenting my looks and still kept hitting on other female students in front of me. I was hanging out with my usual group, he stayed even though nobody wanted him there, we were all ignoring him. We were talking about a horror movie that just came out and would joke about how we would torture certain people in our lives the same way - not okay, I know that. Later I was waiting for the train, he was still taking about the movie, we were unfortunately alone, suddenly he starts telling a story about his last school. Apparently there was this one girl in his friend group and she was hitting on him all the time, but he was so not interested - his version of course. Then out of nowhere he asks me ... DO YOU EVER FANTASIZE ABOUT DRAGGING SOMEBODY INTO THE BUSHES AND RAPING THEM!? The look in his deranged eyes told me, he wasn't joking, that piece of sh*t had all kind of issues, I'm pretty sure that 'fantasy' of his didn't stay hypothetical for long.

[@dahktuh]

i really can't believe it doesn't strike them harder cause like....FUCKING OBVIOUSLY. OBVIOUSLY bears are dangerous!!! OBVIOUSLY being mauled to death by one would be horrific. LIKE....THAT SHOWS YOU HOW UNWILLINGLY WOMEN ARE TO PUT THEMSELVES IN HARM'S WAY AT A MAN'S HANDS. they'd choose literally being mauled to death by an apex predator than whatever the fuck a man could do to them. probably also comes from these types of men's innate assumption that women never know what they're fucking talking about. like yes. yes they do. they know the risk. they would STILL choose the damn bear, buddy.

[@justqueerky]

“What if the man was gay?” Not all queer men are safe to be around. My attacker is gay, told me he was a gay man, has a man boyfriend, still assaulted me

[@MooseMan-r6o]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you can heal and I hope you have a good life ahead of you

[@rachelgreen9566]

The guy suggesting that women who have experienced assault have had 'privileged lives' due to the fact they haven't ever been attacked by a bear absolutely raged me to the core. I don't meet many women who can't relate to me when it comes to trauma at the hands of a man. Far less shocking or suprising to hear about than a bear attack.

[@epitaphzz]

There's a very simple analogy that makes you realize just how stupid this man vs bear argument is. The analogy goes as followed: "Would you rather be stuck in the forest with a bear or a black dude?" The reason this stumps a lot of people is because people are very comfortable making biased or discriminatory statements when it comes to sex (mostly when it comes to males), but not when it comes to race, because then they'd be racists. It's the same thing. One makes you a racist, the other makes you a sexist. Hope this helps!

[@margusiraptor9729]

​@@epitaphzzbot

[@Beth_Dutton_]

@@epitaphzzthat’s brilliant

[@intanayu8674]

@@epitaphzz still the bear, and no it won't make me a racist. in fact, you are the one making it about race, racist.

[@gotosleep504]

​@@epitaphzz I'd choose the bear 🐻

[@SalmaSnyder]

fun fact: you don’t have to be a r@pist to make a women feel unsafe

[@WynneL]

One time I was in an elevator with a guy. Somehow his energy made me feel completely unafraid of him already, but then he nervously complimented my hat and I was like, "aww, he's worried I'll feel unsafe with him so he's talking." I could just tell. Hilariously, that's when I DID get nervous because I'm socially anxious as hell... 😂but if he'd asked for my number and I'd been single, he'd have gotten it. Adorable.

[@Yamspotatoes]

@@AGW99-df3ygare you being fr?

[@isabelladominguez348]

​@@AGW99-df3yg stupidest comment goes toooooo

[@Yamspotatoes]

@@AGW99-df3yg what do you mean by your first comment?

[@_juliette_marie_]

@@AGW99-df3ygdid you have the police called on you before or is this just something you’ve heard about

[@ferninthehouse]

the fact that you sat here and explained this for 20 minutes and there are still men who will watch it and not understand just goes to show why this conversation is happening in the first place.

[@MoronicPlague]

Men and women aren't that different from each other.

[@ferninthehouse]

@@MoronicPlague I fail to see your point in stating this

[@cloudyskyz2237]

@@ferninthehouseignore them. They’ve got like 50 comments on this video alone just trying to get engagement

[@ferninthehouse]

@@cloudyskyz2237 ah, I couldn’t see that when I first looked at their profile for some reason. Thank you

[@madalice5134]

They understand. They just don't care and feel entitled.

[@susannahmitchell5558]

6:45 “What if the man is nice? What if the man is me? WHAT IF I HAVE A GUN? What is the man is gay? What if the BEAR is gay- are completely irrelevant… The bear is gay, by the way.” I love when FunkyFrog makes jokes like this. I’m a sucker for obvious humor, and this channel teaches me a lot of things I don’t usually think about or consider. 🐻

[@kkhagen2170]

As a women who has been in the woods with bears and men the man has tried to attack me 3+ times. The 50+ bears who have cornered me by mistake have done nothing. The men corned me because they wanted to hurt me. The bears wanted berries. HUGE DIFFERENCE.

[@kkhagen2170]

I have been surrounded by 16 bears at one time. 10 50 feet in front of my 6 100 feet behind me. They did nothing. I have been followed by well over 10 men in my time but 3 have tried to assault me. My dog bit at them and they screamed at me over and over until I took my bear spray out. So yeah….. I have used bear spray on men more than bears …… that says everything ……

[@I_Burnt_the_toast]

So TLDR: bears are chill if they want some berries, nice :)

[@MoronicPlague]

Bullshit, are you a zoo keeper? Why do you keep invading private bear space? Leave them alone, don't come near wild life, isn't disrubting wild life illegal? I mean, you'd have to somehow attract the bears to coner you. I doubt you have meet even 2 bears, what so ever 50.

[@cawingcrows2072]

​@@kkhagen2170 GOOD DOG!! Also yea i hear ab bear spray being used on people much more than bears tbh

[@Aaa-vp6ug]

@@I_Burnt_the_toastsuddenly, per bears are sounding a lot more feasible

[@lifewithlynn8137]

I’m a female who was victimized by a female, and I still picked a bear over a male. I asked my father and my 18 year old nephew the same question and both said that they would prefer all the women in their lives to end up with a bear instead of a man, because they both understand the truth of the situation that women live in this world.

[@fungustheclown666]

I've been abused and victimized by multiple women, and I would choose the bear over a man, or a woman for that matter, though I'd pick the woman over the man if i had to choose. At least I might have a fighting chance with a woman trying to attack me now that im grown. People can really suck. They're dangerous, they're selfish and vile. They choose to be evil, a bear is hungry or scared. A bear can be scared away, a person really can't.

[@Xeorboom]

random guy here! I pick the bear! doesn't matter if I'm picking a man or a woman, the bear will 97% probably kill me (unless it's a panda) whereas the random person could literelly be anyone! Sure it could be my closest friend ever *or* it could be an infamous killer who was never caught, I'd prefer to have an almost definite outcome than a randomised outcome that could end up with me in torture worse than a bear mauling ...again, it could be a panda and then I'm fine (probably)

[@thepenguimoose562]

I really like that your family understands the issues, as a man victimized by a woman, fuck finding a man in the woods I'd pick a bear to, men suck in so many ways, and I hate it as a victim being called things like a bitch or pussy by other men, after I've been threatened for speaking out BY A MAN I'm picking bear

[@geminihexx9858]

Lmfao I’d pick the bear over any human. I’ve learned genitalia or gender expression isn’t the issue. All humans are garbage.

[@originalscontent9259]

It truly is just the correct choice, people are capable of evil acts. And not knowing who you encounter in the woods especially as a women or a afab individual is much more dangerous than a bear which oftentimes would not even attack a person.

[@KathiEOSp]

The amount of men getting ANGRY rather than being concerned just makes woman want to pick the bear more.

[@MoronicPlague]

Honestly, why do strangers even trust strangers? We should all dump the whole society thing and just life solo, afraid of other homo sapiens. Sounds great.

[@Korvaxis]

@@MoronicPlague what a wild idea.

[@gingerweasel2]

These are the same guys that get pissed if you want to have your first date in a public place and don't want to invite them over to your house. On some level they do understand that there's a chance of a woman getting raped, tortured, or killed (although their estimation of the likelihood is probably way off). They just value not having their *feelings hurt* over the woman taking precautions to not be attacked. They'd literally rather more women get raped or killed due to taking less precautions, than risk having their *feelings hurt* over said precautions.

[@Lumberjack_king]

@@MoronicPlaguewe are a social species being a lone wolf is not a good idea

[@KathiEOSp]

⁠@@MoronicPlague The point is that women are afraid, and they shouldn’t have to be, but instead of quelling their fears, many men are making it worse. If you don’t see that, that’s a YOU problem.

[@Nimatoir]

"The man understands your screams for help, knows what he's doing is wrong, but continues anyway. Not out of necessity, but pleasure." Well, damn.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

Well, that depends on the man itself. Same how a bear hears your screams, but doesn’t give a crap because either it’s hungry, or is just “playing”. But even vial actions of a person doing something wrong, and continue it despite knowing it’s wrong, isn’t special to men, hence why we still commonly have underreported female abusers, assaulters, child predators and the such. I bet one of my female assaulter knew it was wrong, but didn’t care.

[@Nimatoir]

@anotherrandomguy8871 It doesn't take away the fact that women trust bears as a whole than they do men as a whole

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

@@Nimatoir Some do, true but I wouldn’t really see it as a reflection of men, as much as I would see it as a reflection of the state of mind the woman who specifically see my sex as lesser than an animal is in, the same way I don’t see a racist not trusting Mexicans, as a reflection of how poorly Mexicans are doing, or a misogynist trusting and valuing a crocodile over women. Ironically, I wouldn’t trust any woman that does continuously openly state that they’d trust a bear over me, specifically based off the fact that I am a certain sex along with their assigned sterotypes that come with that.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

@@Nimatoir Some do, true but I wouldn’t really see it as a reflection of men, as much as I would see it as a reflection of the state of mind the woman who specifically see my sex as lesser than an animal is in, the same way I don’t see a racist not trusting Mexicans, as a reflection of how poorly Mexicans are doing, or a misogynist trusting and valuing a crocodile over women. Ironically, I wouldn’t trust a woman that does continuously openly state that they’d trust a bear over me, specifically based off the fact that I am a certain sex along with their assigned sterotypes that come with that.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

@@Nimatoir Some do, true but I wouldn’t really see it as a reflection of men as a whole, as much as I would see it as a reflection of the state of mind the woman who specifically see my sex as lesser than an animal is in, the same way I don’t trust a racist’ views on minorities as lesser than animals as a reflection of minorities, even if that person had bad experiences (which would explain where their view comes from). Ironically, I wouldn’t trust a woman that does continuously openly state that they’d trust a bear over me, specifically based off the fact that I am a certain sex along with their assigned sterotypes that come with that.

[@Kiraiko44]

The way men have REFUSED to understand this and just get angry about it proves the point

[@cam3851]

Yeah, I was highlighting that exact point in another comment. Imagine having a ego of the size of Texas to try and counter argue against what? 99% of women who answered? and still be certain that you are right anyway. They don't even try to understand why we would chose the bear. And we are the problem ? My Fucking god.

[@PeterParker-ff7ub]

The way women say men instead of bad people proves different.

[@burntpancake834]

​@@PeterParker-ff7ub i wonder how your mom feels about this

[@AmiraFortune]

@@PeterParker-ff7ub The reason women say "men" is because, while yes, crimes being committed against anyone is an issue, the "man or bear" question brings up a very specific issue: men committing sexual and violent crimes against women. Obviously, we don’t mean all men.

[@uirukii]

@PeterParker-ff7ub When all the people on ‘To Catch a Predator’ are men, then yeah , I’m going to say they’re men. Statistics show that around 93% of all sexual assaults and rapes are instigated by men so yeah. Y’all want the label of people here to dilute the ugly fact that a near 100% chance of sexual violence is from a man

[@mprpdx]

As a solo traveler, I’ve stayed in many primitive and backcountry campsites by myself and I’ve most definitely thought about this question many times. Let me tell you something, when you are in a tent, in the middle of nowhere, and you hear a questionable rustling outside, as a woman and horror movie fan, I pray it’s a bear. Bears are meant to be there, a human bumping into your site, when no one else is around, likely has bad intentions. The bear wants food, you just happen to be around. The man, most likely wants you! Fun fact: I posted this comment in another video on the same topic and men were going wild in the replies.

[@Sam-wq9vi]

get ready for battle on this video

[@ExilaArika]

Low-key curious on the probably batshit insane responses you got under that other comment lol

[@youropinionsareshitandsoar1954]

people really don't think before they say something it's so astonishing... Sometimes I wonder if there really are NPC out there

[@verbatim3752]

For me, I agree with the sentiment of everyone saying that the men are freaking out over this, but I'd rather have a man come up on my site in the middle of the night than a bear, lol. If you're packing(at least what I advise and what I do), you can deal with a human intruder. Stop a hungry or aggressive bear in your campsite? Yeah, fat chance. Ik this has nothing with the question, I'm just dumping thoughts lol. Although you could probably scare a black bear off

[@airacummins5076]

​@verbatim3752 you can get a grizzly to f*ck off too, unless it's babies are involved or it's spring and it wants to eat you

[@sirius1696]

I'm a man and I totally get why women are picking the bear. Just today I saw an post about a man who killed his "wife" after "walking in" on her with "another man". She had separated with him over a year ago after _he_ cheated on _her_ and taken out a restraining order against him because he was physically abusive; so he put spyware on his daughter's iPad, waited for when the woman had her friend over, used a copy of the house key he made to break into the house and murder her and the other guy. The comments were full of men saying she totally had it coming and justifying the femicide. A lot of men are normal, pleasant people to be around but also a lot of men are sick, terrifying individuals. It's so scary out here for women fr

[@hellsbells-b9r]

It's also just monstrous because even if he didn't cheat before or wasn't abusive, how is this a normal response? I'm all for revenge but you're just fucking killing someone. That daughter must hate him so much.

[@acheetah6762]

@@hellsbells-b9r hate how guys always back up men in scenarios like these: "well, she must've done SOMETHING to deserve it 😂" "she probably took all his money and the kids". even IF she did these things, no deserves to die because of it.

[@FranconiaForever]

@@karahoglund Are you being this dense on purpose?

[@hannahleigh6152]

​@@FranconiaForeverWhat do you mean? A bear wouldn't stalk you and wait till you're having sex to murder you.

[@rainpooper7088]

@vivi5771 Unfortunately, in most cases like that, the children end up trauma-attaching themselves to the murderer parent who killed other one, claiming their daddy is innocent and whatnot, because they can't bear to lose both parents, so they end up idealizing the murderer who's left.

[@annamo9354]

I listened to a podcast a little while ago where they interviewed a lady who got sexually assaulted at a company meeting by one of her managers. She went to the hospital to get all the evidence recorded. Then she went to a women's help centre and had chats with various people (lawyers, therapists etc.) and then she decided not to press charges. Why? Simply because it would take 1 to 3 years until her lawsuit would get to court, then the hearing would be public, and she would have to recount again and again what happened...with the chance that her assaulter would walk free in the end. She quit her job, telling everyone on her team what happened, and while all of them couldn't believe that she didn't take that piece of crap to court, after hearing her explanation they agreed. So, yes, that sorry excuse for a man still walks free, although everybody knows what he did. That's why we choose the bear.

[@picklelikely]

I’ve had a similar conversation with my dad a while ago. I’ve been sexually assaulted twice. And my dad has always gotten mad at me for not trusting males after that. Saying “it’s not all men”. As he’s gone to jail for sleeping with a minor. Yep I totally trust you dad. 🤦‍♀️

[@icu3869]

@@rekapinter4894Either you don’t know what “hypothetic “ means or you don’t know how to communicate appropriately. Pretty embarrassing .( And if you’re being sarcastic, note that, otherwise the implication is offensive)

[@sanez25]

Almost all women were sex*lly harassed or went through SA once in their life especially when they were young. RN I have four close friends (friends I made as an adult,never knew them when I was kid) and two were SA'd when they were minors, me and the other friend sexualise* when we were young. (I had 3 adult stalkers when I was 14-16). So even if not all men are bad,MOST men definitely are and we don't know who is a creep hiding in a good guy image. Instead of getting offended,they should be had analysed their own kind and encourage for change so that future children especially their own daughters won't go through all this trauma.

[@lexa2310]

Creepy men will bend over backwards to pretend their shit doesn't stink. Seems like those making fun of a legitimate fear do so because they know that they are no better.

[@sylverscale]

​@@sanez25As someone who isn't a woman but has also been (fortunately only) groped by a man in a park - it is not most men as there were dozens and dozens I met before and after in that park alone, but it's too many men. The fact that it is still seen by people as a "gentlemen's crime" and "not so bad" and that perpetrators get away with maybe a slap on the wrist is disgusting. The same is true, BTW, for female perpetrators, especially if the victims are male. SA/SH isn't a "harmless" crime. Even a "mild" form is traumatizing. I've forgotten more encounters with people than I remember, but that man is still on my mind after decades even though it was basically nothing compared to what so many victims, most of them girls and women, have gone through.

[@rekapinter4894]

@@icu3869 I used a wrong word. What I meant was hypocritical. Sorry.😅

[@MuQingMyDear]

As someone who has seen MULTIPLE bears irl, the bear does not care. It won’t attack you unless you provoke it, it’s hungry or it feels threatened. I once saw a polar bear, it couldn’t care less about me. It looked at me, knew I wasn’t a threat and just went back to sleep. So I would choose a bear over a man, thank you.

[@K_Nightshade]

It situation says that you’re STUCK in the woods with a bear. I don’t think a bear will appreciate seeing the same person in their area over and over again

[@NoahPeanutbutter]

@@MuQingMyDear As a person who has seen MULTIPLE men irl, the man does not care. It won’t attack or bother you unless you provoke it it most scenarios, just like a bear would. Once I saw a built 6ft 4in tall man and he couldn’t care less about me. He just walked away and went along with his business. So I would chose a man over a bear, thank you.

[@Fisheryboi-o4m]

@@NoahPeanutbutter Every time I see a comment like this, I think for a second about how the comment is in some way fallacious, before I realize that the issue was never about which is safer, why do you think this individual would choose a bear, is it because they have never had a man not assault them? No, obviously not, it's because they feel safer around bears compared to men. Instead of trying to understand what forces are at play to cause such a response, you treat it like a question with a set correct answer that one must solve for, so many people do this that the idiocy is saddening to witness.

[@arrretrorus]

So many people are missing the point of this argument.

[@ghostinyourcloset]

@@NoahPeanutbutter so after reading this comment and seeing your name, i see you are a man. men do not have to worry about being harmed (whether murder or sexual assualt/rape) any time you are alone with a man. nice to know a man thinks his opinion is worth more simply because men dont hurt you just for existing. considering you seem to lack any sort of empathy, how about you put your mother, your sister, your girlfriend, your daughter, or even a good female friend of yours; would you rather one of them be in a forest with a random man or a bear? funny how your perspective changes the second its someone you love and care about.

[@randomhumanbeing357]

Fun fact: the dude whose mom got attacked by a bear, his mom answered the question a while ago and said she'd choose the bear

[@venoshock77]

"Bet that" -the bear,probably

[@crypticcryptid4702]

@HB3-wd5ig She did. It was put out on Reddit, almost immediately after the video

[@kozuamee]

​@HB3-wd5igsource*

[@podgy5]

This is my new litmus test for whether someone is able to have a discussion and listen to the other party's thoughts. If you think it's crazy for anyone to pick the bear, you don't know how to read the statistics we're showing you, listen to lived experiences, listen to the actual hypothetical being presented, or have basic empathy for people/bears

[@haell8741]

That dude talking about his mothers trauma: "I have some experience with this question." Like no, your mother has the experience not you.

[@belerina007]

I’d like to know what the mom who got attacked by the bear would pick

[@bisexual-final-girl5171]

THATS the thing, the question was apparently asked to her years before this ever became a big thing and guess what? She chose the bear. She would rather be attacked again than have a chance to suffer through what a man could do to her

[@lillylovegood2300]

​@@belerina007Oh, boy, do you! If I recall correctly, she came out and claimed she'd rather be with the bear again lmfaooo

[@lalaaaaa9070]

I said the same thing like huh lmaoooo

[@CloudedKitty282]

No hate but second hand trauma is still very real, he still had to watch his mother go through that ya know? No kid should have to see that

[@teritt]

It was so tragically sad for me to read a comment by a male victim of a female r@pist: “Despite being harmed by a woman, women are still the only ones to believe me” And holy fuck dude. I broke. That is so disgustingly tragic, this dude was straight up attacked in a horrible way by woman but he still feels he can trust women more than men for the simple fact that women on average were the only one’s to actually show him support compared to his fellow men. Men typically live in a separate reality of safety than women, and male victims live an even more separate reality than that. Whereas women spend a large amount of time making sure they can defend themselves in case something does happen, pepper sprays and drink caps alike. Men describe emotional and financial safety. And male victims… they describe how they don’t feel safe physically with women, and don’t feel safe emotionally with men. Female victims with male perpetrators obviously don’t feel safe physically or emotionally with men, but they tend to at least feel safer in both ways with women. Male victims are existing in a horrible limbo just for their gender and that’s a horrible reality to grapple with. Nobody is suffering “worse” in this scenario, it’s just suffering in a uniquely horribly way.

[@daniADKapi80826]

The way you worded this complex topic in such a fair and grounded way is truly great. Thanks for making this comment, I'll try and pass these words to others that need to hear it.

[@RenegadeShepTheSpacer]

You should look at r/mensrights. Plenty of them will believe the victim.

[@irjectjade]

that's actually so fucking sad dude-

[@pinkrobot8147]

i swear to god if some fucking 8 yr old says i aint reading all that

[@zorlockts5744]

Oh yes women are just the most empathetic angels sent from heaven to earth to show us men how absolutely pathetic we are 😢 wow so much emotions . You women are just the best that’s why in USA alone the female teachers having sex with their underage children students is at an all time high and only rising , also why lesbian relationships have the most abuse between 2 women

[@divinecrime]

Putting actual SA aside for sake of argument: If I stand still, stay quiet, and mind my own business, a bear will leave me alone. A man won’t. End of story.

[@PeterParker-ff7ub]

What bear? not a hungry one. Most men wont eat you or look twice at you.

[@crypticcryptid4702]

@@PeterParker-ff7ub Clearly you haven't been around many men. I've camped a lot in woods with bears and my closest encounter was when one wandered in around the early morning. I have been harassed by men by walking down a street.

[@Ella-g2m]

You're supposed to make noise to announce yourself to the bears, actually. Some hikers even wear bells. Otherwise the bear gets startled. But if they know you're coming down the trail generally they move out of your way. The only time bears lash out is if they're afraid of you, protecting their cubs, or starving.

[@Chud-mb7gl]

Nobody even looks at you 😆

[@cryptidcrow282]

@@PeterParker-ff7ubBears don’t like to eat humans unless you provoked them or messed with their children actually lol

[@xXxTheWhiteflowerxXx]

If you’re so pressed over it become the man that they would rather choose over the Bear🐻

[@notyourdamnbusiness8795]

2 types of guys out there. those that do understand why the women would choose the bear, and the ones that are the reason why they choose the bear in the first place.

[@vegetacultminorityhunter]

​@@notyourdamnbusiness8795 I understand exactly why the Woman would choose the bear. But I would always choose the man. Because humans are easy to beat

[@LolaShrimp]

They'll say women are too emotional yet this is how they react to a hypothetical question.

[@MoronicPlague]

NOONE CALLS YALLS OVELY EMOTIONAL, THIS IS NOT THE 1900s, I SWEAR TIME TRAVELLING STILL ISN'T A THING. Edit: I am female, you can stop saying how the response is emotional.. since at that point yalls just being counterproductive.

[@justabird7882]

@@MoronicPlague Wow, what an emotional response.

[@pixelad3584]

@@justabird7882Wow, what an emotional response.

[@mollygriffin5474]

​@@pixelad3584 Wow, what an emotional response.

[@toxiczombiewolf5692]

​@IdiotxnderTheMoon yeah now they say must be that time of the month.

[@mushroom_dance5219]

growing up i was told to yell fire if i was being attacked, because people are more likely to pay attention if you do. my mom told me if im attacked to fight like hell and get dna, bite to get their blood on me and leave teeth marks on them, get their skin under my fingernails, fight dirty, and do literally anything to avoid being taken to a second location. its sad that a mother has to tell their kid that dying is better than whatever will happen to you there. the most warning i ever got about bears was to not to go near their cubs

[@ladielydkyd1281]

I've also heard that yelling mom also works in an attack.

[@johnboehmer6683]

You will live among millions of men your whole life. How many bears total have you been around for a whole day?

[@KairaTepes]

​@@johnboehmer6683 watch the fucking video. we are like this BECAUSE of the men around us.

[@blisschamp]

@@KairaTepes uh huh stop victimising yourself and face reality most men arent like that and unless they sexually assaulted or trying to force themselves on you then you are chosing the wrong men to hang around and it is your fault stop having a victim mentality when human has the right to be strong

[@johnboehmer6683]

@@KairaTepes Really? Men have the power to make you a foul-mouthed, angry, bitter person? Please, don't let them. That's what you are exuding in your response to my simply speaking common sense to the fact that it's obvious why her mom would only say a few words about bears, but plenty about men. And by the way, the video has another hateful woman in a bear outfit that can't manage to speak truth even 20% of that diatribe, to look at that once was enough, thanks. I get it though, all people are sinners, we all need Jesus. He gives us the means to love the unlovable, see through the strategies of hell trying to divide and conquer us, and maintain peace in our hearts, no matter how bad society becomes. He is awesome Kiara, I really hope at some point you just see about him.

[@existentialqueer]

i was emotionally/sexually abused by a woman in a relationship and yet i can still understand that women face far more danger in public than i do. i can walk at night in the city with decent confidence that i’ll be okay. my partner? she can’t. absolutely not. i don’t get how men cannot grasp this concept. it’s gross. even i would choose the bear over the man. men making the argument that men go through abuse too is absolutely ridiculous. how is saying ‘more abuse happens’ a good thing???? it shouldn’t happen at all ffs

[@Tranitosaur]

Agree, as a man, I would 100% choose the bear as well.

[@angueobamenzaou]

I’m sorry for what happened to you, men on women abuse is higher but you shouldn’t take your trauma for less because of that(if you did and i hope you don’t what happened to you is not OK,never forgot that) . And as à sa victim myself I hope the disgusting woman who did this to you got punished for what she did to you and then you heal from that trauma and have a good life. (Sorry for my english)

[@Bayloy]

Maybe you can hit the bear with your purse 🙄

[@BelBelle468]

That’s cuz those men WANT to be victims for sympathy. Yet people like you who are actually victims are smart enough to know that it’s not worth the trauma and the fact that unless you “brag” about it you won’t get much support anyway. It’s funny how much support goes towards fake victims and doesn’t go to real ones.

[@2sigma_2handl]

@@Bayloyerm...

[@maybeperhapsnot-o6r]

It's interesting how personally some men took this hypothetical considering them being the "random man" would be astronomically unlikely.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

As a man, put it like this: it’s like a man making up a random hypothetical scenario to compare the opposite sex, with the intent to see the opposet sex as lesser than an animinal, using their biases, experinces, and preassumptioning steptypies of the opposet sex to justify seeing that sex as the lesser option than an animal.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

Plus as a man, it’s not unlikely at all that you’d be seen as the “random man” in that situation, though maybe not in the forest. As men, by default on the street we get seen as potential grapist and murderers first, human not even second, and that’s all just based off the fact that your male, tons of men already get the feeling that they are “intimating” because people treat him as a threat for being male. Remember even in the bear vs man scenaro people already equate “random man” = perpetrator, grapist, torture, etc rather than a normal person, but that’s how people already see random men (note that random women on the street are not treated the same way at all, even tho there are many women who are also guilty of casually harming others and pretending it’s fine. Not all ofc course, probably not even most, Vice versa for men). And men get constantly told and made pretty well-aware all the time that they are seen as such.

[@maybeperhapsnot-o6r]

I really like your extrapolation: that the bear question is being answered every day in how women view/treat random men in public. I can see how it would be upsetting to be on the receiving end of women who consistently hold this view. Is it unwarranted? + Men are stronger than women on average and therefore better able to exert their will on the unwilling + Our culture promotes in men a sense of entitlement of women Men are the aggressors in this exchange. Being treated as a bear is bad; being assaulted by one is worse. To act otherwise feels disingenuous, especially considering one problem is a consequence of the other. I feel the solution is for our culture to promote more healthy and less toxic outlooks, leading to less bears among men which can result in women letting their guards down. That's where I'll argue this bear would-you-rather is beneficial. It gives form to this intangible unease felt by women in a manner that is more relatable, particularly to those who haven't experienced this fear firsthand (men). The impact? + In men, this hypothetical can inspire empathy and influence their behaviour for the better. + In women, this hypothetical can make them more wary. Good - they'll become more alert which should reduce assaults. This can be reversed in time should our climate become safer for them. (I will also note that at inception women were already answering the bear, before the question in itself could influence their perception. This hypothetical didn't create this level of wariness whole-cloth.) Now, to how this can be taken personally. This mirrors a problem I see an overall level: any acknowledgement or actions against issues between identity groups is seen as an attack against the hegemony (my new favourite word by the way). In this case: just because you are a part of the men group doesn't mean you are a contributor to this issue. /But it can/. This bear hypothetical is a call for introspection: do the women who know you find you trustworthy? Do you make them feel safe and comfortable? Or are you a bear? Improvement can't happen unless we first face the issue. It is uncomfortable - undoubtedly so. But dismissing the message outright - including taking issue with the manner in which it is presented - accomplishes nothing. To you I would suggest adopting a more healthy outlook. Women who don't know you can't possibly know your trustworthiness. Their wariness towards you merely grants themselves comfort and safety. These are feelings you want for them, are they not? I'd hope you find solace in that. Side note: The irony is not lost on me that in this discussion regarding the random man that your username is@@anotherrandomguy8871 lol. Also, I love your profile picture.

[@anotherrandomguy8871]

@@maybeperhapsnot-o6r I’m someone that belivies that taking a group or an Identity in a made-up scenaro so you can compare them to animals or lesser than, is specifically singling out that group in the first place, and an attack against them, because at that your your not really talking about social issues within some men, but just taking that identity and fearmongering them as worse than an animal. It’s purposely general, and will always cause discomfort within that Identity that you attacked. It can be from race, or gender, or sexually. It’s why I don’t talk about my issues with even some women, by comparing them to bears, because saying that adds nothing to talking about the issue other than being toxic. For example, what does comparing women to less trustworthy and more abusive than dogs, add to the topic of how women treat others? You can be wary a group without demonizing them. Comparing men to animals is 50/50 on if it’ll inspire empathy, might not even be that. I see tons of men do share empathy toward women who choose bear, were likely already empathic towards women, but understandably tons of men are mad and won’t give someone empathy for someone else using their biological identity against them by again, comparing their identity to an animal, and grouping their identity up as nothing but brutes. Any bad men that women would actually want to change (so the actually rapist pycopaths that these women group men up to), won’t care either way, so all that happens is that you attack people as an identity. I don’t think gaining empathy from a biological group, will usually result from someone demonizing a group as worse than a wild animal, as it’s very backhanded to expect empathy from someone you compare as “worse” than you or a wild animal. It’s not adding onto any talking-points about the issue itself of bad men, or women not trusting men, but just fearmongering men because you are wary of men, and expecting men to agree with your feelings, because comparing men to animals adds nothing to talking about those issues, other than to get a reaction out of offended men. Sure I can talk about say I prefer a crocidal because xyz group CAN do xyz, and call that group entitled or as aggressors in the scenero, but to expect empathy from that group, and belittle any offened or disagree it just because that identity feeling upset doesn’t compare to my feelings of the worse case scenero is said hyepthical scenaro, won’t really fix or help things. It’s not bad to be wary of strangers, but there is a difference between being wary, and just dehumanizing someone as less trustworthy than a animal or fearmongering, just because they aren’t the same biogical make-up as you, and that’s why I cannot adopt a heathy outlook or Isolde for women solely comparing my identity as a more dangerous than an animal (while seeing her own existance as passive), the same way I wouldn’t accept the same question about my race or other.

[@maybeperhapsnot-o6r]

@@anotherrandomguy8871 I too see the difficulty inspiring empathy in those who lack it.

[@nixthelapin9869]

My mom at 16 was r*aped by a 20 year old man who she was supposed to trust. A friend of mine almost died at 14 because a random group of men gang r*aped her while beating her. I’m so fortunate that I’ve never had an attack, but I was terrified of something happening once when I was on a date when I was 16 because we carpooled with his friends (all guys) and the way they talked about me (rarely ever to me) made me feel extremely unsafe. Or at 21 when a 40-50 year old man I didn’t know starts talking to me, alone, saying I should be his wife, not listening when I tried to turn it down. The men I know right now are some of the best I’ve ever known, and if I could get a guarantee that I’d be in the woods with one of them, I’d absolutely say man. But I don’t have that. Instead, I have the chance to get stuck alone with one of these monsters. At least with a bear, even if it mauls me to death, I know that’s the worst it will do. Bear. Every time.

[@rikimura_rishi]

this is legit what the women who picked bear mean.

[@leonaluna3307]

Imagine being SO SENSITIVE that the mere thought of a woman rejecting a man, and choosing a bear, will send men spiraling.

[@weirdlittlesister]

I would reject a man and choose a BEER any day lol

[@Ivory097]

There is one horrifying case of a girl saying no and then ermmmm...

[@11Tits]

people who are sensitive are normally people who only have one or 2 brain cells. Another reason is they think too much about women. 1. Bears are not really that aggressive and take a lot of provoking ot get them to kill you. granted they like to play with their food so gl with that. 2. We dont know what type of bear. so it could be completely harmless. 3. Most the men are pissed cause the reasoning is centered around the men option and why its bad and ignores the bear. 4. If you flip the question changing the sex and the sex of the person asked they would choose the bear. 5. I can understand the people getting pissed at the reasoning that cause a lot of men assult or rape or abuse women. Its annoying for a few reason. the prime one i can find and relate to is most of the cases posed are normally false but due to the severity of the accusation they just go through with it. Another one is most women abusers or rapists are normally ignored or just dont even get caught, this is because of sterotypes. The actual question is designed to get people mad so idk why people read too deep into it.

[@updated_autopsy_report1]

@@weirdlittlesisterI mean, I’d choose the bear and the beer. Mostly the beer though.

[@PeterParker-ff7ub]

What exactly was spiraling? Do you want to be compared to a mindless animal like the leech, vulture shark worm? If this was really about bad people then focus on stopping the BAD PEOPLE. Making this about a whole group doesn;t solve the problem. This acts like I want to hurt women. This acts like men are simply bad. That doesnt solve anything.

[@routin3]

As a 14 year old girl, I’ve encountered so many creepy men and nearly been killed by one and people still expect me to choose a man over a bear???? And they act as if I would genuinely get the choice to be thrown into a forest with a man or a bear, if you’re mad, you’re the problem dude

[@fionacalou11303]

I’m so sorry you experienced that and I sincerely hope you are given/take the opportunity to rest and heal 💛

[@routin3]

@@fionacalou11303 you’re so kind i wish the best on you 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 much love

[@kookie_2178]

Stay safe girli ❤

[@idontknowwhatmynameis8525]

Honestly the only valid reason why someone would pick a bear over a man. If I had want thru the same shit then I would pick a bear. I already know how to deal with all bears anyways(expect polar bears mainly because there isn’t a way to deal with them your cooked)

[@visiblechaoticbread]

I'm glad you got out ok girlie, but you really shouldn't share your age on the internet

[@yetispaghetti5754]

As a man I’d like to add something, hear me out. A lot of the dudes who don’t get it and brush it off as stupid do so not just because they imagine the man being them specifically, but because we see men as just people and assume that people as a whole are better than that. (Unfortunately, incorrect) I myself was confused until I read other comments and watched the rest of the video. Now I get it. 4:09 in particular was really eye-opening. That being said the dudes who let their true colors show (like at 13:41) are the types of dudes that make women choose the bear. Funky if your reading this, Fantastic video. Hopefully society evolves and “the Bear Question” will one day be a lesson in history class to explain the severity of the western Patriarchy.

[@shezyam460]

you can reuse the logic at 4:09 and say it's best not to go outside at all because a car could hit you, or a guy could run up and shoot you, or random debris from a construction site could fall and hit you on the head. each and every day is like picking from a bowl of poisoned m&ms, and framing interaction with the world like this game of chance you could lose at any moment is a great way of justifying rotting away in a room, away from the wider world which is full of chaos

[@naymeequillo]

I was very surprised to learn that not A SINGLE MAN seemed to ask any woman WHY she would chose the bear. The second she does, she just gets a flood of hatred. Because no man wants to ask himself why. It would mean they could be the problem.

[@MoronicPlague]

Why would they be a problem if a small part of their community did bad? It's like asking all furries to apologize since a small part of their community are pe-dolpines. Like, no- Theres goddamn 4 billion men out there, of course there will be bad apples.

[@TaliVarda100706]

They know why women would choose a bear, they're taking it personally because they feel attacked. Which is telling.

[@hermine1657]

That’s such a good point. One can definitely make a logical argument for the man option being safer but at the same time that’s not the point. It’s not about reality and actual surviving, but about feelings. A bear might not be safer but it feels safer. It sounds insane, so the first question should be: why is that and the second should be: how can we change that

[@jestry7246]

Absolutely. As a man, i see this everywhere online. Men in the modern day especially are such emotional wrecks that any “criticism” (in this case, literally just pointing out that the most intelligent and dangerous animal on the planet IS in-fact more dangerous XD), even indirect, towards them is almost never taken as a suggestion towards a solution. It is almost always taken as a personal insult and a threat. It’s pathetic and genuinely sad.

[@Frenchsmokeswide]

As a man, I understand the issue. Honestly, it makes me really upset that so many people would value their ego more than a person. Women being scared of men is perfectly reasonable. Humans can be little devils at times and it’s literally just the right choice to pick a bear, a animal that has practically two outcomes when encountered, versus a random dude, someone who could literally do anything and you have no idea. It’s honestly sad seeing this many guys reinforce why women are afraid of men.