Gen Z vs Millennial Agony Aunts - episode 2 (we got emotional)

[@honeyMSC669]

Sitting here sobbing with you both on losing a pet, it’s the biggest heartbreak I’ve been through. My advice is to make memories and save those memories when you can, take those paw prints, nose prints, save the whiskers you find, have a photo shoot, you’ll never regret doing it and you’ll have the memories to look back on whenever the heartbreaking moment happens 💛

[@JessieB98]

I couldn’t have said it better myself 🥹❤️

[@ClearlyCiara]

Thank you for answering my question about preparing for the loss of an elderly pet. 😢 So sorry for making ya’ll cry but thank you for answering and for validating how hard it is. My dog, Daisy (my little ‘old lady baby’ as I call her) is 16 years old. I often cry just thinking about having to say goodbye, so I know when the time comes it will be as hard as you say. A tattoo is a lovely idea. 💕 I’m sorry for your pet losses as well, but thank you again for sharing!

[@franceskacostamagna1036]

I lost my ten year old boy on my birthday last year and now my old girl is nearly 18, and has some health issues. There really is nothing to prepare you and I’m right here with all you guys right now in my grief and thinking about future grief. Grief is not linear but remember they loved you as much as you love them and they will live on in memories.

[@JessieB98]

Oh Daisy, what a beautiful name 🥹 I always said I’d love to call my next dog Daisy 😭 I totally understand, I cried over Lady dying so many times before she actually did, I had a therapist tell me it was called anticipatory grief and it’s like our bodies way of preparing us but it can also be a good thing as it forces you to be present with them/be more intentional 🥹 I am sending you the biggest virtual hug ❤ You also never know, often times our pets surprise us and are with us longer than we expect so bask in her love as much as you can! ❤ With my tattoo, I got her actual paw print which made it feel so much more special as I saw it as her always walking with me so definitely take her paw print incase you want to do something similar 🥹🤍 sending you so much love xxx

[@emsalarslan2098]

Something that helped me was to make sure I spent as much time as possible with my elderly dog, he was 16 when he passed. And when he did pass I made sure that we got a cut of his hair and it is now in a frame included with his paw prints and a photo. I look at it all the time. X

[@dancinginmaltesers]

I lost my ‘baby brother’ (dog) a month ago and we have paw prints and nose prints. Today we’re sculpting a ring for them to go on (you can get kits online!). Thinking about a tattoo too! There is nothing that can prepare you but the pain reminds you just how much you loved them and how they are so much more than just ‘a pet’.

[@Emiliemooles]

You’re definitely not embarrassing. It is such a balm to know that other people grieve for their pets like they are a family member. There’s a strange stigma around that, and around grief in general. Thank you for sharing. My family cat Toby recently died unexpectedly and I am working in another country for a few more months. I am going home for a visit late this month and I am so nervous about how I will cope in my family home without him. I know it will be hard but cathartic. Grieving away from home/not with your support network is hard. My advice is definitely to lean on loved ones. It maybe challenging to talk about but it is valid and you need support. I’ve been grieving for my Papa (grandpa) for eight years and it is the hardest experience of my life. He was like a second father to me. My whole world crumbled that day. Navigating the loss has been a minefield. It’s the same with pets I have lost. They will always have spaces in my heart for them. Grief in all its forms needs to be talked about more. It is such a struggle and it is universal. Anyone struggling with grief please know you will find ways to remember them, to keep going, to hold them with you and you keep going. Sending so much love to everyone 💙

[@abierosebooks7720]

My cat got in a hit by a car and they left him there to pass and it absolutely broke me that I wasn’t there with him. This made me ball my eyes out. Thank you for taking about your wonderful pets. They leave such a huge mark on our lives ❤️

[@Sophwaffles]

Ohh I’m so sorry😢😢 My cats are literally my babies, I couldn’t be without them now.❤

[@JessieB98]

Oh my god, that is awful! I am so sorry you had to go through that 😭❤️‍🩹

[@user-fw9zk6lo8w]

Absolutely loving this series, please please keep it going!! Thank you so much for taking the time to speak about these topics - particularly grieving a pet. We need to do better to normalise it because when I lost my dog, I didn’t even feel comfortable opening up about it or crying in front of my immediate family. I sure as hell would now but we shouldn’t ever feel ashamed of our grief, however it manifests. I have learnt so much about life from you both over the years and see you as so wise so to get an insight in this series is amazing. Hugeee thanks to you both! ❤

[@natalieg4225]

I cried so much watching this 🥲 but it's also kinda nice how so many of us can relate to the heartbreak of losing a pet. We have them for only part of our lives, but they're with us for their whole lives. And that's so sad and beautiful at the same time. Having a pet is almost like having a baby, that never grows out of being baby, and then you outlive your baby. Of course it's heartbreaking. Love you guys 🧡🧡🧡

[@JessieB98]

Reading these comments has me crying again, it is so touching how many of us can relate to one another 🥹 How lucky are we to have been able to experience such a pure, unconditional love 😭 Honestly you said it, they are just little babies 😭❤️ sending you so much love xxx

[@natalieg4225]

@@JessieB98 🥹🫶🏽

[@rogueshadows4664]

I'm 21 years out from losing my grandMother and what Melanie said about her being "in my bones" resonated hard core. It doesn't ever go away, but it does get easier to bear

[@julietsimmonds9167]

Me sobbing when you both started talking about your pets, never lost an animal but I have dog who is turning 9 and I can imagine just how painful it can be ❤️

[@JessieB98]

They really are the bestest friends we’ll ever have 🥺😭❤️

[@sydneystudds]

Ugh, guys I'm hear crying with you over pet loss. I lost my cat, and my two pups I had when I was a kid at different times when I was an adult. Before my two pups passed I got their paw prints tattooed on my feet. My one dog Max used to put his paw on my foot and I got his paw tattooed on that foot in the same way he would put it there. It's been some years now and I am okay but every now and then grief hits my like a wave. The love you feel for them never fades and that's why it hurts so much. It's because love came first. Sending love to you guys over your pets. It's doesn't matter how long it's been we all still need it

[@loudlyconfused3223]

It’s not embarrassing! people who haven’t experienced that type of grief don’t know, they weren’t close to the animal or haven’t lived with pets in the house… they really do act as family, part of the furniture. I lost my dog in 2019, and I still am so traumatised over that passing that I have only recently begun thinking of okay, maybe it’s okay if I have another dog in like a far future. She was my best friend, I had her since I was like 7years ago, so she was with me through childhood, high school, 20s… the unconditional love… like so precious. And I fully became so depressed after her passing, and all my work colleagues just didn’t understand like I felt like I had to kind of shake it off after a certain time period, but the girlies who get it get it, and the girlies that don’t don’t. And I think it’s so important to talk about these feelings, so thanks for bringing it up!

[@JessieB98]

Im so sorry you lost your baby too ❤️‍🩹 I couldn’t relate to you more - I had Lady from childhood right through to my 20s, I feel having them with you through so many transformative years makes it extremely traumatic when you do lose them 🥺😭 Don’t rush yourself, you’ll get another when the time is right for you and only you’ll know when that is 🥹❤️

[@sareletje]

When I was in high school we had an elderly stray that one day showed up at our house and then decided to never leave (we already had two cats so it really wasn't ideal). Anyway, he followed me everywhere after that and any time I called he'd come running. I loved him so much, he slept in my bed every night. He got older and ill... One day I came home over the lunch break during school and he was dying, he had hidden by the toilet. I put him on my lap and stroked him until he let go. He took his final breath while I was holding him and I honestly cried so much. I am really glad I was there for that moment though, and I always like to think he realized it was me and had held on until I got home to say goodbye. Our other two cats we had from kittens I never got to say goodbye to and that also brings me to tears, because I loved them all so much. Grief is a long process. I cried thinking of Claude, Gingy and Greyface, our three cats I grew up with.

[@emsalarslan2098]

When my little yorkie Ozzie died I couldn’t talk without crying. I had to take time off of work because I was so devastated and I grieved very hard for him. I actually grieved more for him than I did when I lost my grandmother who I adored. So that just goes to show how pets matter in our lives. He was like my baby, and he was so attached to me and would literally always be touching me. When he was gone, I was so aware of his presence being gone not just his soul but the feeling of him not being next to me constantly. Thank you for sharing your story’s on pet loss. I felt myself getting so emotional with you x

[@clandestinecxv]

Losing a pet truly is like losing a family member. If you think about it, we spend more time with our pets than almost any human in our lives. You care for them every day and they show you nothing but unconditional love in the purest form. I know it can be hard to think about going through it again, but take the chance on another pet. They will be their own individual and you will have a unique relationship with them as well. If we went into every relationship in our lives with the fear that we will lose them, we would never experience the joy and love they bring. Thank you for sharing 💚

[@riiaholic]

Losing a pet is hard, memories and grief stay with you for years 😭 thanks for speaking about it

[@angelflower176]

My animals who passed away in the past meant the world to me it’s so so hard to lose an animal you love so much 😢!

[@D.C.626]

We lost our dog of 11.5 years during covid. About 6 months prior, he had suddenly developed heart issues for which he was prescribed multiple medications (I wont describe his symptoms in detail as it was very upsetting to witness). But I took on the role of administering and managing all his medications, and during this time he seemed to come back to his old self (maybe getting tired as he was technically a senior dog, but otherwise fine). One day I'd been working a morning shift at my nursing job, when I got a call from my family saying our dog was at the emergency vet hospital. His heart had been surrounded by fluid and although they drained it, they told us it could happen again. He looked so tired and confused, and we ultimately had to make the choice to put him down. Because of covid regulations, only 2 of us were allowed in the room during the procedure (me because I hadnt been with him all morning, and my dad). After we cuddled him and said our goodbyes, I was permitted to hold him and sing to him while the medication was administered. While it broke my heart, I could see the relief in his face from no longer being in pain. I was so grateful to have him pass in my arms, knowing he wasnt scared. We had him cremated in an urn that sits in our family room, and the veterinary staff gave us stamped prints of his paws and clippings of his fur to keep (a month later they also mailed us a lovely condolence card). Around the clock for the first month, I kept hearing him around the house - the sound of his nails on the tile, the jingle of his collar, the sound of his hanging bells he'd ring to ask to go outside, even the smell of him when we vacuumed the carpets. After he passed it was like the world got dimmer, like nothing held the importance it used to. But 3.5 years later, our hearts are a little less heavy. Grief is the cost for loving someone, and we were so lucky to have our little bear in our lives. Knowing the joy and laughter he brought to our lives was worth every bit of the pain in the end. And when we do get another dog someday, we'll know that they were sent by our first dog to look after us ❤❤

[@allypurin]

i commented on your video when you lost lady as it was around the times i also lost my king charles. i just want to say thank you for being vulnerable about it as it's also been over a couple years for me and it's comforting to see others who cherished a fur darling so dearly.

[@EnnyOwl]

Wow I wasn’t expecting to get emotional. I haven’t adopted my cat yet and I’m sobbing imagining this happening to me 🥺😭

[@stelamo6747]

love you girlies, thank you for your realness that the world is missing

[@JessieB98]

🥹 love you gorgeous girl! xxx

[@linneaedander]

You guys should release this as a podcast as well as video. It’s perfect for a wholesome ambient podcast ❤

[@Luz.conejo]

I've been watching your videos since I was in middle school and ive always felt like you were the big sister I never had. Now that i'm all grown up, watching this video made me feel like I had a big sister giving me advice all over again 🥹 love you sooo much 🥹💓

[@2trickyvicky]

Sending love for your losses. Pets are family. We are their lives and it's never easy when they go ❤

[@ellouisebadger849]

Feeling behind in life is a difficult one though and it's difficult to remember everyone has their own timeline 😅

[@kmdkiki]

Beautiful ladies… love and follow you both for ages…I was having a sad night and feeling so alone. Thank you for giving me what felt like a good cry with sisters. I can’t tell you how much it meant to me to have this “girl time”.

[@TheVallex]

You're so right about pet animals. I feel more attached to my cats compared to "regular" people, it's hard to explain. I know i'm gonna be a mess when they die, especially since they live back at my mom's and i don't live there anymore. Thank you for talking about it and letting your emotions out 🥺 it's super refreshing to see as i've been following you guys for years, so I know how Lady, Bilbo and Molly meant a lot for you 🤍🕊 Sending love to you and Mel, i really love this new series and i'm happy to see you guys back filming together

[@shauneevampyre]

My first dog, who I'd had since I was 10, died 4.5 years ago now. I'm 28 and have been through my fair share of stuff but losing him was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. I have a new doggo now, and I love him to bits. But my heart still aches when I think of my old boy. I'm thinking of getting a tatt dedicated to both dogs soon 💙 also...this video was beautiful and I'm glad you said about feeling insane cos you felt you were the only person who felt like this about losing an animal....I felt the exact same. I literally felt like I was grieving a family member. Because I was. Sending healing and loving vibes to you both 💙

[@charlitaitcreative]

I feel so validated in my grieving for my dog. I cried with you both. I have never known heartbreak like it. I lost both my Grandads within the space of a month, and as bad as it sounds, losing my dog broke my heart more. Pets are with you every day and are part of your daily routine, so I feel like this is partly why it's so much harder to deal with when they're gone.

[@krii9]

As a gen z myself you guys are amazing both physically gorgeous and so intellectually gifted. Keep doing your thing!

[@juliaodonovan]

Laughing and sobbing with you both 🤎 My cat Binx passed at 17 six years ago and I still cried when you started talking about the pets. It felt very cathartic to have this moment with you ladies who seem to really understand 🤍

[@RachelKay528]

Grieving pets is horrible but time does make it easier. Omg that story of your dog getting hit by a car and dragging himself back to your house...that just rips my heart out 😭💔 Also people need to stop using rat/mice poison though. It's not only horrible for the rats/mice, but then other animals can eat them (including pets) and they get poisoned.

[@MsAsh3070]

My Rory passed away last Monday. He was such a little ass, I could’ve strangled him at times 😂 he was a rescue who came from a very bad situation so sometimes he’d be misbehaving and we’d pretend not to notice. So he was very bold 😅 he started to have seizures. It was really scary. But we got him on medication and we’re controlling them. Up until the week before last when he stopped eating and therefore wouldn’t take the medication in his food. He had multiple seizures that weekend and when we brought him to the vet on Monday, he told us we could put him on more medication but we were only going to be prolonging things a couple of weeks and in the meantime, he would be in so much pain. Saying goodbye to him was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make but it wouldn’t be right to keep him here suffering, it wouldn’t be fair. His brother is so lost now. That’s almost harder than putting Rory down because at least Rory’s suffering is over now. But my other boy…he just lays in his bed crying. It’s heartbreaking. Anyway, thank you for discussing this topic because it really came at the right time for me ❤

[@MRJarwson]

Yeah definitely crying with you over the pet dying part 😭 Two of my cats were poisoned in July last year and one of them didn’t make it, I still think about him everyday. We have his ashes and pictures on the bookshelves

[@NezziieFF]

We all cried with you guys 😢 i thought of my two cats in heaven 😭😭😭 i lost one in 2009 and the other in 2022 and both times it happened after moving house and i do feel guilty about it because I think if i hadn't been busy with moving, things would've been so much different. I still have one cat but it breaks my heart when i think about losing her too

[@spiritflame]

Lost a dog who slept with me nightly. It broke my heart, id start crying when i would my legs in bed and realised i wouldn't accidentally kick him cause he was no longer here. I had a rough week but i had so many photos to look at of him

[@marloesk9753]

Thank you for let us cry with you! it's so cathartic, thank you!

[@lizziie.]

Honestly I can't even imagine how I'm going to get through it when my cat's eventually die. They're apparently senior cats now, the vet was kind enough to say "aw he's got a good 4 or 5 years left" and I just break down every time I imagine one or both of them dying. The way cats sometimes go away to hide when they die also gives me a lot of anxiety, that I'd never know where/when they passed or what happened. It was really hard to hear you guys talking about losing your pets, I know how hard it's been for you Jess, I'm so sorry about Lady. And Melanie... obviously I had no idea about Bilbo and Molly, and I'm so sorry. Having them both taken from you like that is gut wrenching and my heart aches for you. My cats will probably die when I'm just about starting having kids and I can't begin to imagine how I'll carry on, so while it's so hard for you both to talk about it, you give me hope that I can keep going after I lose them, because I know I'll feel the way you both do 💓 thank you xxx

[@mostlypostcoincidental]

I haven’t even gotten to the preparing for pet loss question but reading these comments already has me wrecked, it’s something I have thought about daily, for years now ❤️💔

[@JessieB98]

😭 it’s absolutely heartbreaking but seeing how many of us can relate to each other just shows the mark they leave on our lives, we’re so blessed we get to experience their love 🥹😭 sending you so much love ❤️‍🩹❤️

[@asilallam]

I love listening to you guys talk 🥺 have you ever watched the show this is us? I feel like there's a lot of deep conversation it can spark about parenthood and connections

[@hugablestpersonever]

Oh Mel! I can't believe that happened to your cats. How awful! It must be so hard to move on from such a tragic experience. I'm so sorry that happened to your cats and you.

[@VelvetVolcano]

Sobbing with both of you 💜I am dreading the day I lose my sweet girl (she's a 13 year old Jack Russell) she has been with me through the most horrific times of my life, keeping *me* alive and I cannot imagine life without her... I not only cried from your stories on this but then I just started sobbing (very quietly not to wake her up / concern her 😅) like I do everytime I think about her not being here

[@caoimhemulholland231]

In an equal state to youse after watching that! 😂sharing in the grief and sentiment you were so vulnerable to share with us

[@clarisset2081]

I love this series, it's really valuable for me to hear your insights. ♥️ Plus I really like the sleeves on your shirt, where did you get that from? 😊🙃

[@sophieirwin3497]

My best furry friend, Maximus the German Shepherd had to be put down when I was doing my PhD and couldn't go home to say goodbye. Luckily my mum phoned me the week before, trying not to cry, to tell me that it was in Max's best interest to be put down. Luckily on the day, it was pancake day and my ex and I hosted pancakes for our friends so I was at least distracted. My ex (great lad, there's no hard feelings and I still hope for the best for him) could tell I wasn't really myself so lots of good company, sugar and beer helped me get through that day.

[@laurakane4164]

I haven't been the same since I lost my dog Coco back in 2023. Had her nearly 15 years. My best friend. Thanks for sharing this❤

[@anamaria94088]

Loving this new series of advice

[@lizziie.]

Omg so early I love this series ❤

[@FrauSjoeblom]

I love this series 😭♥️

[@kristinab6135]

Just come on my period and end up bawling my eyes out with you both. Even the thought of losing my dog (best friend/ soul mate) breaks my heart.

[@sophieirwin3497]

I'd say to the girl with the fiance who has a relationship past, maybe he's insecure that she doesn't have a history or bad exs. He's thinking 'oh wow I really have to step up and be perfect' when she's thinking 'I hope I can compete with his exs'. It's all about insecurities and they need a good chat over coffee or dinner.

[@christyfig]

Aw sorry to hear about Molly and bilbo 😢I remember your video of when you first got Molly and bilbo had to get used to him. And how Molly would play fetch. I taught my cat to do that after watching it ❤

[@laraforner2567]

A few years ago our 2-month old kitten died of typhus, which he caught from nibbling on a dead shrew, and it was so heartbreaking because it only took a matter of hours, and kittens that young can’t get vaccinated against typhus yet 😢

[@cinemanicalectora]

Omg i didnt know Bilbo AND Molly passed😢 im so sorry 😢 its so hard specially like that . Pets are family AND losing them its hard

[@alexwhitelaw2003]

I had a son alone and it's hard but so worth it

[@angelacacace3705]

My dears, 🙂 I think I would take it as my friend didn't approve of my new fiance... so if they don't have something nice to say about it then they're not going to say anything at all lol but what do I know 😅

[@brihannonstrathern8801]

Am loving this series my loves but would we be able to perhaps just be a bit more aware and continous of the fact that the people sending in romantic dilemmas may not be heterosexual cis women? I just noticed when discussing the different situations you both tended to say 'he/his/him' in relation to the persons partner without knowing if they are a he/his/him

[@JimTimber]

How lovely ! ..I would have explore further (with a torch.. lol) to find out your ages.. I know that my wooden leg can be authenticated by the growth rings ! lol Blessings.. love the accent !!

[@RicoMyers-f6n]

Nice room 😈👹 interesting video

[@RicoMyers-f6n]

Black is cool 😈👹

[@deepakdinakaran180]

wOW!sar

[@ambermum21]

Fun fact after my delivery of my son that what my OBGYN told me to do because my poop got stuck 🫠😬 as gross as it was……….it worked

[@angelacacace3705]

I'm 100% sitting here crying with you girls feeling nothing but complete empathy😢💜🫶 I have been there like so many of us have been....