Living in Asia is Hard (what I've learned)

[@GeorgiaCaney]

Oh my god please ignore my co-host, the tissue 😂🤦🏼‍♀ 00:00 Intro What I’ve learned living in Asia 1:06 My way isn’t the only way 4:55 Having a plan isn’t necessary 5:54 Communication 8:57 Loneliness 9:43 It’s OK to outgrow people 10:17 Always like a foreigner 11:03 You don’t need a lot of ‘stuff’ 11:37 A deeper sense of gratitude

[@zoneinfinite]

Naughty naughty 😉

[@5kplamse]

why don't you buy a HDB resale flat with another PR ?

[@janelbriggs2638]

I’ve been in Singapore under 2 years, love it here - can relate so much to what you’ve said! Great video Georgia. Thanks for sharing

[@evasccl7846]

Hi Georgia, it is always nice to watch your videos and listening to your own personal experiences of different places. I love the fact that you acknowledge how much you have grown and matured as a human being, and i agree with you that living in different countries for a period of time, DOES widen our view and understanding of ourselves, others and how much we can actually learn from one another and make life a little better for one another! I love, love what you said about gratitude, it is SOOOOO true!! it is so enriching to be able to appreciate the good around us, the good we see in others, the good in the places we live and experiences we go through... it completely transforms the way we treat ourselves and those around us, the way we live becomes so much fuller in all the senses, besides being a superb tool when it comes to difficult times, we already have developed the ability to spot the good in it and work the way to grow from the difficult times!! I am very proud of you Georgia, you are a champion!! 🤗😎 One last thing, it is true, that we overgrow people that have never had the experience and courage to live abroad, it was a choice they made... and that is where we see a huge difference, and it is okay. Grace goes a long way!

[@GeorgiaCaney]

Beautifully said!! And thank you for the kind words 🥺🫶🏼

[@serirayna2789]

Enjoyed the "rambling" Georgia❤ It is through your videos and interactions with a few expats in Singapore and my relatives in Malaysia that have made me think and look more closely to the positives of living in Singapore. I hope you continue to inspire and be bless with a good life wherever it brings you❤😍

[@KKang883]

The next time if i ever stumble upon you on the streets..i will make it a must to say hi and tell you how amazing your videos are. 😊 Really appreciate the vids you had put out all these years and how i have slowly came to understand peoples' perspectives of us. Keep up the great work GC!! ❤

[@ejsoh5291]

Every country, regions, has its own unique ways. What is more important is what works for you and also to enjoy your time while you are there!

[@hiroyukishinichi9873]

All the success and best, Georgia!💪💪

[@julias8763]

I am 42, live in Asia all my life (not asian actually), love Asia with all my heart, prefer Asia over Europe 😊

[@GeorgiaCaney]

That’s awesome! 😊What you you prefer about it?

[@julias8763]

@@GeorgiaCaney people, culture, food, weather🥰but most of all people🤩 chinese, koreans, thai, malay, singaporeans - they are true with their feelings, so honest, so kind, they smile all the time even if life hits hard sometimes… people in Asia work hard, and at the same time they know how to have fun, to live fully

[@torangclayruz4098]

​@@julias8763it's good to have friends of Asian but in Indonesia it's quite different than other region of South East Asia. I have a very specific reason about it. Caney lived now in Bali, not in Jakarta or other majority muslim regions. Believe me, it's not as good as we think.😅

[@ngkokwei6114]

I am okay if people say I am fat! It spurs me on to trying to get back in shape again. I am thankful to these comments actually.

[@ongpamela18]

Yea, it was only when I went to Adelaide, S.A to study that I've realized how much I've taken Home (Singapore), Family, close frens, church family meant to me and that I've taken many many things in life for granted until I met with 3 deaths in a year when I packed & came home from Addy. Life is truly short....things have not gone well for me in life but I told myself that there's nothing greater in life than to be thankful for what we have been blessed with that others do not have at all. 🙏

[@seanlingham5254]

It's general asian culture Georgia. It's the same in China when they comment on your appearance.

[@smiley9987]

Hi Georgia. Nice video and topic. I agree with all you have said. Its both. Its hard and its enriching on a personal level. Its a great experience. I did live in different places too. The other part of the topic which people usually don't talk about is,how long one can have such kind of life. Few years here,few years there. Obviously its very trendy the last years. For the young people like 20 y.o.is the norm quite often. I like to think about all the positives about living abroad,but also about being realistic in a Long Term about it. I'd say 20s,30s till perhaps mid 40s( if one still don't have own family and kids specifically) is ok to be ok for this kind of lifestyle. What I noticed from all the well-travelled people is around beg and mid 40s latest,they start thinking about all the adventure slightly different. First steps of the more realistic self asking questions. Like,how many more years I'd like and feel comfortable to be here and there and explore but never settling. When abroad people usually meet other people from diff.nationalities and start having a romance and relationships and all is feeling cool and sexy and interesting and adventurous because opposite attracts,right? If its only casual to beat the loneliness and for the physical needs and obviously a good company where two people like each other, its going easy in this scenario. But if things go deeper,people are start asking themselves questions especially because nobody is getting younger. Parents are getting older and afther that real old slowly and surely. So one obroad start thinking about such stuff. If in a mixed union,where they ll live and settle for the upcoming years and on later stage,how they are going to be there for senior members of the family and look after in two different sides of the globe. Also I know people who lived in different countries for on average 30 and 30 + years,but all of them returned home when they enter more mature age. First because to buy a house become really expensive everywhere. In most of the cases those people never bought a home in any of the countries they explored and lived in. Most of the people are relying on the homes that one day they ll inherit in the future. Also they asked themselves questions like: Am I actually ready to build my life here,so I can welcome my older years or even senior years and is this the land where I'd like to end up my life. I know many parents who support their kids travelling abroad because they did themselves the same when they were younger. And that's great. I support this. Its importand and advisable one to have such experience and self-growth. Its amazing. As you said,its changing your mentallity and open your eyes and point of view for many,many things. I only would like somehow the people to gently start thinking about the other side of the coin at some point,while they are having their various,exotic in a way,interesting and international life. Because life is showing that eventually everybody get tired at some point from the never ending adventure and eventually almost,like 95% of the people end up back home. For one of the reasons or for all of them. As you said,a foreigner will always feel as a foreigner no matter how comfortable one feels in certain country or the amount of friends having there. Even your body dna do not belong there naturally. After I said all of this,I will repeat again. I support everyone to travel and find a way to experience a life in another country and even continent. It is an interesting experience that indeed can enrich an individulal on so many levels. I like you very much and I think you are grateful for all and I wish you all the best. Stay well and enjoy the beautiful place there and life in general. 🌞😊

[@sarahrnl]

Well said. I was wondering about all these points, too

[@YellowWhiteEye]

Great Video! I can agree on pretty much everything you say! I think the title of the video ("Living overseas is Hard") should be rephrased more positively, e.g. "Living overseas is to meet a challenge to grow your personality" 🙂 What I do not completely agree is when you say at around 12:00 that "you should leave home for 6 months". I think that when you keep a home in your home country, where you can always come back to, this does not give you the same mindset, compared to when you make a definite cut, e.g. sell your house, so that you have no "safe haven" anymore. But such a radical step is probably unthinkable for most people. However, the "I can always go back"-option hinders your creativity and can quickly overturn your attitude to the negative side. I am an expat myself, currently in a country where I do not speak the official language and only 16% of the population speak English (although in the capital city, where I am, it is much higher - about 70%, I would estimate, esp. the younger generation). I think most people see the language barrier as the prime argument to NOT move to another place. But from my experience, it is not that problematic. In most everyday situations, you can get along with hand signs and a few words in the foreign language; you can find an interpreter for situations like house repairs / craftsmen or government/administration issues; for more important things, like buying a house, you can find bilingual lawyers; and you can always use the Google Translate app as a last resort (which works surprisingly well, even in live conversation). But really, in almost 2 years I have lived here, I never got stuck completely.

[@RedHanded1969]

Yes in Indonesia dont mean I agree, or that I will do it, or even I understand you.. It just mean; I hear what youre saying. Its just a polite reflex answer. 😅😂😅

[@russ7874]

For me, every place or country is beautiful depending on the people who live there. Like I have some friends from the UK too and they always say they don't like the UK. And for me who is not from the UK I say the UK is beautiful and nice, Why don't you like it? And they answered that they didn't like the people there. ( I don't know because I've never been there and maybe it's just where my friend lives ) 😊😊 So yeah any place or country is good as I said at the beginning 😊🙏

[@Swizzyinsg]

i love the example about the car park ticket! its the same in Switzerland 🙂thanks for sharing x

[@leenathayil2039]

same in Canada too especially Vancouver. :)

[@RedHanded1969]

Spore has 3 diff cultures; Chinese, Malay & India. They are all diff. The best way to make friends is with the mom n pop biz that you frequent, be willing to chat w them on personal issues. Ask them how long they ve been in biz, how many children they hv, what their children do.. Malay are the friendliest, followed by Indian, last is the Chinese. Tell them about yourself, stop by for a chit chat, give them snacks, visit them during the native celebration, like: Chinese New Yr, Hari Raya or Deepavali.. Call older ppl by their family name for Chinese or first name for Malay/Indian, like; Aunty Lim, Uncle Wong, Uncle Nathan, Makcik Aminah, Pakcik Ali.. Theres simply a lot of cultural nuances, that even some local may not fully understand.. 😮

[@xfridayinlove1]

Can you give an example of how people in the UK have demonstrated more “critical thinking”?

[@y2kjericho86]

I am Singaporean and I still complain. I lived in Canada for 10 years and I love Canada so so so much! But I guess because I do look a bit different, I too agree on the "foreigner bashing" because I got the local foreigner bashing name calling and derogatory remarks like "little white face" in Mandarin. Warmest wishes always to you Georgia! Have a good time in Bali! Hope to see you back in Singapore sometime again!

[@GeorgiaCaney]

Haha love the honesty!

[@keangwooichoo6138]

I lived in Canada for more than 2 years. It is awesome but cold.

[@y2kjericho86]

@@GeorgiaCaney Thank you for letting me speak my mind honestly and being totally cool with it! I look forward to more interesting insights and content from you!

[@sarahrnl]

Thanks!

[@1337hacks]

Long time viewer here Georgia. Greatly appreciate you using a mic for the videos but sometimes the sound peaks a bit when you emphasise words or get too excited. You could benefit from clipping it a bit lower, like on your top or holding it a bit further from your face. Look forward to more good videos!

[@GeorgiaCaney]

Haha yah Sorry about that, noted for next time! ☺️

[@audreyang902]

Hi.Been to Bali .. My 1st visit , pillion ride to 20 km to Balagan location. Wonder how you can live in Bali for more 2 mths...luckily you have support from friends, co living..

[@audreyang902]

Rather to live in Thailand ,provinces.. Perhaps ,u may explore there.

[@guru0503p]

❤

[@sarahrnl]

U're right about people here being less in critical thinking.

[@hannahd79]

Totally agree with point 5! It’s such a difficult feeling to put into words but you did it so well haha. And yes, you don’t need so much stuff! I travelled around Asia for 1 year with a 40L backpack absolutely fine and now I’m back in the UK I’m finding it hard not to want to buy new clothes all the time because it’s just the norm here, crazy how much impact your environment can have on you. I plan to move to Bali next year and live in Asia for at least a year but not travelling around, do you think 20kg luggage is a normal amount?

[@sharonfletcher1753]

If you really do not like asia...especially for the lower cost of living.....maybe it time to take a hard look at what you want

[@MrRambee]

Singapore is very different to other parts of Asia. It’s real whack.