Things you MUST know before you go to Therapy!

[@chryblossomsakura8548]

My last therapist was kinda manipulative towards me but it's been like 2 years (since I've been to a therapist). I've been wanting to get back into therapy. I typically express my self through art but now that I know about art therapy I'll definitely check that out! Thanks! Also I absolutely adore you arcane videos I'm a huge fan of arcane and I really like your videos! Keep it up! Lots of love and support coming your way!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Oh art therapy is wonderful I hope you have a good experience with it

[@chryblossomsakura8548]

Aw thank you so much for your kindness!

[@Smartie234]

I am doing art therapy right now and it works really well for me. I am also a talker personally so we also talk a lot. But art therapists are great because they can tell a lot about you and how you feel and experience things on the things you draw or make. You don't have to be good at it, they'll know who you are or what you mean through whatever you make. I have made a small clay statue and drawn circles with crayons. One time she asked me what kind of music or what song I was feeling and just gave me two crayons. I only had to move across the paper and whatever came out of it was ment to be. It is great

[@chryblossomsakura8548]

Thanks that's amazing that you've had a good experience! But unfortunately my mom isn't gonna let me go. I don't know if it's just art therapy or regular therapy but I know art for sure. Maybe one day I can save up and pay for sessions.

[@Smartie234]

@@chryblossomsakura8548 oh that is too bad. Some therepists do art therapy and other forms of therapy so that it can still be payed with insurance or that people will accept it easier. Where do you live? I personally live in the Netherlands

[@violet4239]

Since I was 10, I’ve had six therapists. For seven years I hadn’t found a therapist that was good for me. Sometimes I would face mistreatment, incompetency to focus on my current issues and focusing on other things that don’t affect me anymore and have already healed through, or their contract would end with the business that my insurance supported. For seven years I didn’t receive consistent or proper mental health treatment. The therapist I am with now, I met at 17, she is an Angel. She is a trauma therapist, and in the last two years I have made more progress with her than the five other therapists combined. I had given up on therapy long before I found her, but I’m glad I didn’t when I realized I needed to continue searching because I was NOT getting any better. I actually recommended you to her, to watch your analysis on arcane characters. She said you were “spitting FACTS” and that made me so ridiculously happy LOL she caught everything that you and I did on our arcane watch-throughs. I let her know how much I really love your channel and how great you are. Thank you Georgia, for helping others the way you do. You may not be an official source of therapy for many of your viewers, but you sure as hell help push them in the right direction to find what they need. My therapist also said she really enjoys your thoughts, commentary, and how you explain things. Just all around. Edit: YES I definitely recommended arcane to my therapist. Their portrayal of trauma, grief and mental illness, blew my mind. It was so refreshing, and my therapist enjoyed it too. Only as much as you CAN enjoy Arcane with the suffering LMAO.

[@GeorgiaDow]

This was so touching to me. I am just smiling ear to ear. So wonderful you have a great therapist. So kind you recommended me to her and that she liked my assessment is so encouraging for the work I do. Appreciate you and thank you for being a part of my community. I am so fortunate

[@elisabethenglisch3835]

I was put in therapy. Was a teen with far too many issues at once who didn't want to live anymore. So I didn't get to think about these kinds of things. But we got off on the right foot. We tried a lot of things and found out what works and helps me best. I've been working with her for over six years now. Never would give her up again. She helped me a lot and we are still far from over. It is amazing though to see that she managed to make me answer all these questions for myself without ever knowing I should ask them. Thank you so much for your content!

[@GeorgiaDow]

So happy you found a good person and it is working out =)

[@elisabethenglisch3835]

@@GeorgiaDow awww, thank you! She has the exact same kind of energy as you do!

[@derekstorm-larsen8454]

This came RIGHT after having a conversation with my mom about her finding a therapist she likes. I think this will really help her. Thank you for all you do

[@GeorgiaDow]

Aww yay happy the timing was good

[@CuddleFish124]

I have the biggest therapist crush on this lady I swear to god. She reminds me SO MUCH of my last therapist who I was with for over 5 years (young, friendly, full of life, into similar things). Sadly, her and several other members of her family were tragically killed in a car accident last May. Since then I’ve been looking for someone like her to take over, it’s just hard finding someone who specializes in autism disorder. I have a temp therapist at the moment, but she is really old and even said herself that she doesn’t think she is a good match for me because she doesn’t understand the youth language. This video might actually help me find someone who is a better fit.

[@GeorgiaDow]

aww huge compliment. I am so sorry for the loss of your therapist, that is so tough. I hope you find a wonderful person and I wish you the best in that journey.

[@SkTzO76]

I want to have you as my therapist. You have such an awesome personality. You cry in several videos which displays empathy, compassion and you are brilliant. You must have a long list of patients, simply to sit and chat with you because you actually listen, understand and speak clearly.

[@GeorgiaDow]

so kind thank you for that

[@alfonczarnowski971]

Wow this really shows the intricacies of therapy and how different each therapist could be. I am actually going into the psychology field and you are big reason why. Thanks Georgia!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Awww I am so touched that I am a part of you choosing this field it is wonderful to help be a part of another persons journey

[@inventiveowl395]

Things I must know: What do you want - Aaaand we're on a dead end straight off the line. I guess I don't wanna stay the way I am. To find at least one other reason to stay alive. Possibly some dreams or at least goals to strive for. Fabricating them doesn't really work even if lying to myself is a useful tool.. As for the approaches, I don't really care. Haven't tried any, so might as well try all. Can't guess what could work. Forming an alliance seems important. But I don't build them easily. The opposite actually. About 1 person in 10 years. Transparent or opaque - doesn't matter. They can be themselves, but as I'm pretty closed off I think that overly emotional therapist could become somewhat.. irritating. Clinical. I'm already on a rollercoaster, no need to double that down with a 'journey.' Talkative/quiet - Both, at the right time. Time to see a therapist - Heh.. I mean.. 11 years late but better late than never. When to leave - I'm pretty good at leaving xd If something isn't working - Technical approach. Scrutinize, discuss, fix. (with WD40, ducktape and a hammer) So I guess I'mma try jumping into therapy half blind. I like blind mtb runs better anyway..

[@joshnewbill2069]

My favorite therapist was back in high school. I was a damaged teen. After she found out I was into art, and poetry...she got one of my poems into a book..I don't have a copy, or even remember the book. That was one of the first times someone wasn't telling me I was wrong, and appreciated my what I considered my escape. I wish I remembered who she was just to thank her. In the tiny town I lived in it was priceless to have someone who actually got to know me, when I felt everyone else either had judged me by book cover, or word of mouth. She helped me (I didn't realize till waaaaaay later) realize that life is never 100% but that's ok. Just do what you can every day. ...and that's got me this far :)

[@lorenzobergamini7923]

thanks for this video! I am an Italian psychologist and here we have several problems with the way mental health care is perceived. Many of us are trying to normalize the idea of ​​going to the psychologist, relying on creating stories that have meaning, rather than on curing an "evil". Discovering channels like yours, that help people navigate the jungle of various psychological approaches, makes me truly happy. ps: I have to thank you especially for the videos on Arcane. I have drawn various ideas out of them

[@GeorgiaDow]

Wonderful to hear. It is so rewarding to get confirmation from someone else in the field =)

[@rubncarmona]

Found you searching for arcane content and loved your content so much! These last years finally made me acknowledge my needs regarding therapy and all the different approaches always got me too confused to even start. It's such an investment of not only time and money but of your trust on getting better... but I'd love to fix a few things about my early years that may have caused me to never really learn how to engage with people and make friends without the fear of being awkward at any time. I developed myself a somewhat functional tool for that where I'm very comfortable in social environments that have purpose (watch an artist, enjoy a meal or a drink, work) even though I'm still anxious af in environments that require improvisation. However my point in life (working and growing in my career) requires me to already have many of these things sorted out. I really don't know if I would really benefit from going all the way back to the past (kinda scary to pull a string back there that may have a bigger snowball effect than expected idk) or if a more practical approach like the cognitive behavioral therapy you mentioned would be better.

[@mingemunch3r]

Ive had my therapist for 3 almost 4 years, and she is so beautiful and sweet, we both love animals and ive started going to her own therapy organisation, it is based at a farm, there are horses and goats and chickens, we can make clay, drawings and paintings, its all outdoors or in a cozy kind of environment which makes me feel so much better than a clean white room with couches, im very excited to go see her there more often

[@4.1132]

I have seen a LOT of therapists partially in different countries over the past 10 years or so and all I can say is it’s a trial and error process. I have seen about every approach by now and been misdiagnosed plenty of times (apparently neither the DSM nor the ICD have a neat enough box for certain dissociative symptoms xD). The best way I’ve found to deal with it, is to take what resonates and is helpful and leave the rest. My current therapist has been with me the longest and helped clean up some of the damage of others but also helped me work on the areas I could already get started on with other therapists and methods.

[@schaschia6332]

currently at my fourth and i think we finally clicked, dont feel misdiagnosed and "such a poor kid" anymore

[@GeorgiaDow]

happy that it has and that you kept on looking

[@OCD-Gamer]

Took me 2 years to get to a stage where i had the guts to a varsity psychiatrist about some social anxiety issues. Very cold professional, experienced and quite frankly intimidating woman. Really clinical and detached. Tried sharing and communicating but just got told i had to stop being irrational. And in my mind i was like...uhm yes I'm aware that all my fears are irrational but I just want to share some fears. Felt so judged. Never went back lol

[@visualartsbyjr2464]

Took me the better part of a year to find a counsellor that we (not just about my comfort) were comfortable with each other. Personal growth is a constant and I am so glad for the seven years. The tools and learning about myself has helped me overcome previous life events that would have crippled me in the past. Great video 😊 (Edited for spelling)

[@GeorgiaDow]

Happy you liked it and so happy you found a great person

[@VanGoWanderlust]

Perfectly timed video, thanks!

[@GeorgiaDow]

welcome = )

[@basedmarlon]

Shoutout to Georgia got this vid at the perfect time . Keep it up yo, this shit is mad helpful for folks like me.

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks !!

[@Soapy-chan_old]

One thing I have to say that it isn't easy to get another therapist when the other one isn't compatible, at least not in the current situation in germany where I live. Many people wait months or a year or longer to finally get one. Imagine changing then. It's very unfortunate and I was in a very lucky situation to have found someone quicker.

[@GeorgiaDow]

that is a long wait esp if you are in distress. sorry about that

[@Jenny-kt2xj]

This came at a great time for me as I'm starting therapy again next week! I was put off for a couple of years because my most recent therapist was very opaque and clinical and that did not work at all for me. But I'm feeling hopeful now and will definitely be bearing this video in mind when I'm at my first session. Thank you!

[@GeorgiaDow]

I am so happy to hear this and I wish you the best in your upcoming therapy. let me know how it goes

[@cynthiameyers7529]

I loved how you touched upon the therapeutic alliance. It's probably the most important factor when it comes to healing and trumps any modality or technique the therapist might specialize in. A good rule of thumb is to imagine yourself telling your therapist one of your deepest darkest secrets and imagine how they'd react. If you don't feel they would accept you and comfort you in a way that feels right, then either the relationship hasn't matured yet or it is the wrong one. Another thing I've found is that the environment where therapy takes place can play an important role, too. Sometimes the office location or decor can make you feel uncomfortable and it is important to let the therapist know about these details, too.

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

A lot of the things we think are normal in childhood are actually in need of a lot of therapy.

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes very true

[@mustafahussam9616]

I once spent an entire year with a manipulative therapist, I can (and I learned this later) sense when something is off with people, but back then I chalked it off to me overthinking things, he would have me doubt myself in every move I made, and I would feel absolutely awful after each session, but I was in desperate need to be heard or talk to someone which might be why I put up with him for so long, luckily, the last straw was when he was trying hard to have me forsake what I'm passionate which is racing cars for the sake of more "realistic" goals, said realistic goals would've involved working with him in special education - because I was studying it at the time - and I really disliked it which then prompted me to walk away and that happened right when Covid hit. Thank you for this lovely video, I find myself learning from you and gaining new insight abut how to deal with myself and people.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Sorry that happened and I am happy you find these videos helpful

[@rekoom95]

This video can really help people to find their way. thanks for sharing it my childhood self could have used this kind of help. I struggled to find someone that actually helped me back then.

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you that is my hope

[@MT3A]

When I was in elementary school, I had a therapist who I called miss Christine. I loved her. I remember in summer she picked me up, and we’d meet up with other kids at the school who also met up with the school therapists. We played games and had fun. She helped me through the toughest of times.

[@GeorgiaDow]

she sounds like a lovely person

[@lmp6317]

You're very comforting

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks

[@yanis905]

One of your best videos out there. How I wish I had been more open to the idea of therapy 15 years ago!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks =) it was not as openly talked about unfortunately but now people know they deserve to life better

[@ashrannafkhiend9728]

From what I've seen of you, I think that if I had ever seen you instead of the therapists I've actually seen that I would have a better handle on the person I want to be instead of who I currently am. You're transparent, you like to share, you have a deep understanding of microexpressions and what they mean, and you're emotional. I just wish I could afford the therapy.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you for your kind words. I hope these videos give you a mid ground and there is free therapy out there ( maybe see if it’s in your area) and some wonderful therapists who offer it. I hope you find something and appreciate that you are a part of my community

[@roxannegrey9187]

This video is very helpful, because it proved me that I'm not too selfish or picky because I want to feel comfortable with my therapist. The first steps in therapy are really hard and it's reassurating to hear that I'm able to choose what is good for me.

[@centurah]

I wrote a comment on one of your videos a few weeks past about finally starting therapy thanks to you. I'm two sessions in and I couldn't be more grateful. I've met a great therapist and I already feel so relieved! The road ahead is still long one, but I sure am glad that I finally started this journey. Thank you again, so much💕

[@GeorgiaDow]

I’m so thrilled you did it and you found someone wonderful! So kind of you to let me know and may the journey be a good one.

[@mihaip08]

I keep hearing in my head the voices of my foster brothers that I accidentally killed as a child. I have to deal with the loss of not 1, not 2 , but 3 of my father figures, 2 of which , again, I accidentally killed. My sister replaced me with someone else and I just blew up a room full of politicians. What kind of therapist do you recommend Georgia? This is a disclaimer in case people didn't get the Jinx joke.

[@avon_c6199]

I was halfway through your comment, until I realized the reference. xD

[@GeorgiaDow]

Jinx we need to talk =)

[@dsmurf5377]

Omg!!! Im a 25 yr old man and been thru several therapists from middle school onward but you very easily explained how to answer their very first question “what do you want out of therapy” I grew up being told I needed to talk to someone for depression and stuff and that question was always so vague and overwhelming but this recontextualizes it for me thank you

[@GeorgiaDow]

im happy it was helpful =)

[@HiddenClaws]

I haven't found a therapist that makes me feel comfortable yet thanks for this video it gives me hope to keep searching, I think you would be my type of therapist

[@GeorgiaDow]

they are out there and I have hope you will find them

[@VitoMusic88]

Thanks for the information. As someone seeking therapy, I have been exposed to different modalities and I find I favor the emotional approach. I do not find the blank slate works for me and the silence often leads me to over explain and fill in the gaps with unnecessary fluff. Thanks for these videos!

[@anonymousfellow8879]

Watching this after finally moving on from a therapist who wasn’t a good fit and felt manipulative (especially when I decided to try and see someone else) + stuck with the therapist I was going to switch to being forced to drop me because of administrative bullshit vs us deciding I’d need someone else…and YEARS of false-starts off&on. -insurance is a nightmare. can’t afford without. not always covered with or it only covers 3-5 sessions a year. fortunately my medicaid does cover mental health therapy…but it’s still been a miserable experience when I could finally focus enough to try- Need something to finally work out. Hope I can get some insight with trying Yet Again (at least. once I’m no longer so angry my vision spots looking at clinics etc or full on anxiety attacks.) Or at the very least…finally have an answer to “what do you want” that I’m expected to Just Know when I tend to blank out. (Hell. I don’t even know how therapy is supposed to go?? Only “that’s not right” but the therapist who tells me that then often ends up being shady as well.)

[@theleftphalange7588]

As mush as I liked my therapist, my issue with her was that I didn’t know what my problem was until like 2 years later, and it came out mid talk as if I knew that already + there was a time when told her about my anger issues, and her respond was “ don’t let it make u angry “ ? Overall it was a good run w her but hoped for something better.

[@RupertTheOctopus]

I started therapy in school since it was included and was actually feeling better but covid ruined everything.

[@GeorgiaDow]

i hope you get to go back soon. Stay safe

[@stargirl8931]

I hope I could take therapy sessions with you 😣, I love how u express your ideas and your kindness 💗

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you StarGirl I hope you find someone wonderful be it me or someone else

[@talhamasood9669]

Nice video👌.i'm impressed as always by your explanation .i learned so much about therapy and therapists in just 12 minutes. RESPECT 👍

[@GeorgiaDow]

Yay thanks

[@thorfinn518]

My therapist made me felt like I was mad, that I was not in the same world as her and I'd was dealing with verbul/emotional abuse from someone.

[@nightwatcher1650]

Good video filled with interesting information answered a few of my questions in life.

[@robbiestroud2858]

I LOVE THIS VIDEO! The information is vital even from a perspective of not being someone who needs therapy but can bridge understanding when someone close to you may need it and what they can look for to ensure an advantageous experience overall. Your perspectives of it being a team, a pair, a partner to adapt to you is so key to understand. On the other side of it, it's also vital that you're breeding understanding that you can indeed pair yourself with the wrong match. Maybe convention has built a cliche that all therapists are one size fits all and that because you need therapy, any therapist is your correct option. In some cases, when people are exceptionally vulnerable to influence based on either circumstance of personality type, a wrong pairing could set them on the incorrect path. Although the information portion IS an exact science, the compatibility of pairing people together is far from predictable. This video offers a road map. An emotionless guide or criteria that people in our lives can cross off so that they're without being offended by our suggestions. It also serves as a personal guide in the case we ourselves should need therapy. Knowing what to look for is equally as important to knowing that you're looking at all. This video is enlightening. You just can't find this stuff in conventional media, yet. Thank you so much for building so many bridges. Therapist...are you sure you're not an architect or engineer? Grateful.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I guess in a way we are all trying to build bridges and create more connections with those around us. Thank you for sharing

[@robbiestroud2858]

@@GeorgiaDow I appreciate your perspectives on bridges. They're yours. Bridges, like people and motivations, are entirely unique. Connections aren't everything to everyone. Everyone comes here looking for things from you, wanting things from you. I don't want anything from you. I do recognize your core values, and transparent authenticity of character when viewing your videos, though. Aromantic, Asexual, Empath, living with Neurodiversity(savant syndrome and misophonia). Human entropy can be a gross thing to view when you see through eyes like mine. I build bridges specifically to counteract negativity(to help). Just like you. Unlike everyone else, I'm not here for your knowledge(although a pleasant bi-product). That can be sourced millions of other places. I show up because I see who you are and feel you're capable of making a positive change. I recognize YOU. Specifically. I feel we could begin a compelling conversation, as professional equals(not a paid service). Not on this platform though. We both have professional services creating positive impacts. Maybe being on KZbin(away from the Island I live) you may not recognize a similar rate of growth. Uncomfortable(but willing). Here's an email to reach: [e-mail] I feel beyond intelligent enough to recognize there's not another Georgia Dow. Can you recognize(with such small context) an ally in the making? Art and Therapy are a match made in heaven. This reach out is anything but random. The bridges I build have emotional purpose. Reaching out to a KZbin sensation is not comfortable, yet, good things can genuinely come from it. We live in a new era. I live on Vancouver Island, without KZbin, we might have never crossed paths otherwise. Why would either ignore an advantage of the modern world? Trust in people(the right kind). You're an empath, feel it out. Don't waste an opportunity. You may never come across another mind like mine, again in your life. I feel the same sentiment when viewing your videos. Thank you for everything you do. Your deep ocean of devotion. Grateful.

[@housey_]

It would be interesting to hear about in person vs remote sessions via video calls, gut feeling is that you will always be better trying to have a face to face session in person given the choice but maybe that isn't always the case?

[@adamwhite6797]

Me personally I like to go in person for my therapy. I think it depends on the person

[@GeorgiaDow]

I find in person better than remote. If the therapist and you connect it is better whichever modality over a therapist you do not connect with though

[@KevRyanCG]

I definitely preferred going in person, even if it meant me travelling some time into my nearest city to do so. I'm in a bit of a packed house so it's hard to really open up if you think people are listening.

[@Vox_Curio]

I now know I need a therapist that deals with childhood trauma and dissociation, one of these days hopefully. lol the 1st one taught me great anxiety techniques. The 2nd was very new, too casual and after asking me what I wanted {talking figuring out me} and said if I needed to word vomit then I can do that and then we will start the real work......that hurt and she didnt handle anything very well. Ended after 4 sessions. you voice is really nice

[@GeorgiaDow]

Personality matches are hard sometimes. I hope you find another one you mesh well with

[@alexanderconners4775]

I've been watching your Videos for the past few Days, and I'd Like to say thank you I think they will Help me in the future, and I will practice what I Learned from your great content. So, Thanks Georgia Dow.

[@GeorgiaDow]

appreciate that thanks as well for watching and sharing

[@lenap4956]

I've been really lucky with my therapists so far. The one I'm currently seeing is really good at making you feel safe and being non judgemental. He even makes sure to apologize when he's late and explain quite well just what the heck is happening behind my thought process. I'm at a point where I can actually feel confidant about myself. (Well, it's still buried under loads of anxiety and self esteem issues but it's there!)

[@GeorgiaDow]

Sounds like you found a great one. Good luck in your work

[@escott1981]

What a great video! This video has helped me understand some things. I have been seeing a psychiatrist for decades for med management and I never liked how when I told him about something in my life, he'd not give me any real help with it. He was always a nice man, but he wouldn't ever say much to help me with my problem. Even something major like when my father died, he just said, "I'm very sorry to hear that, I know that can be tough to deal with." And a session with him would only last 10 or 15 mins. And one thing that your video made me realize is that could just be his style. You called that being Opaque and I never thought of using that word to describe him, but that's made me realize I'd want someone who is more transparent. I'm going on Tues or Wed of next week to a place that will help me match up with a therapist and med management specialist. This video has given me some things to look out for and the knowledge to express how to describe what I want in a therapist. So thank you so much for your video!!

[@weareone5768]

I rlly love your channel- and i realize what I thought might be true- I need someone who’s very empathic, outwardly, and emotional and just emotionally connected and wanting to discuss things with me, to guide me, not just listen to me rant. This video was so helpful! Im also a psych major, so I can already tell i might be a therapist like that- lowkey I wanna be just like you 😆❤️

[@luway100]

Thank you so much for this. Finding the right therapy feels very overwhelming for me. But with this video, you've given me a good overview on what I should focus on. Please keep up the good work, it really helps me in those dark times.

[@adamwhite6797]

For me, so far, I've had 2 therapists. My first therapist we worked on relationships and one very toxic one that was really in my way. My current therapist is for my depression and anxiety, who was recommended by my first therapist. Both therapists are great and helped me grow as well as getting me comfortable with sharing my feelings with my wife. Also when my sessions my therapist always tells me that she's here whenever I need to go back. Sometimes, it's months before I go back other times it's a week. And I love that she gets it

[@GeorgiaDow]

sounds like you have found a great therapist. I am so happy for you

[@saltyduckie]

i think youtube is trying to tell me some things by recommending me this video LOL. i love your insight and really appreciate it

[@waberoid]

I remember I had a therapist for anger management, I am better now, but she did the opposite. She was making me angry. She tried to get me into an argument with my dad. After her, I became guarded.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Oh so sorry that you had such an experience

[@fabianshedenhelm2986]

I'm struggling to find a mental health provider so I can go through what I need as a trans person. Also to help myself heal from the trauma of what was an extremely abusive friendship, apparently also a mental health provider for my asd though it's not bad at all, doesn't really affect me now.

[@ParadoxFreak]

Thank you so much for this video. I feel more confident in my decision about therapy.

[@GeorgiaDow]

wonderful

[@theodorethebaron2154]

Thank you Georgia!

[@kaestralblades]

As someone who likely has something cluster b, this is super super helpful. Thanks!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Glad it was helpful!

[@kaestralblades]

@@GeorgiaDow 🥰

[@niklas6923]

I love those Videos they really help me to put my Stuff togehter and its a bit Therapeutical in itself. Thank you :)

[@manakakisaragi9121]

Fantastic video, so interesting. A great starting point, to begin considering your options. I didn't even know about most of these options and I've been in therapy.

[@GeorgiaDow]

great I hope you have some more options =)

[@KevRyanCG]

This video is great, there's so many different types of therapists out there. I lucked out and managed to find a therapist that's been really helpful to me over the last few years. I had tried it before about 6 years ago, but it didn't really land with my younger self at the time, or I was very good at shutting it down for myself. Though the experience was enough that when I had a crisis moment again a few years later, I instantly knew that I needed to talk to a therapist again, and while I pretty much just picked somebody randomly based on very limited criteria, she's ended up being somebody that I've been able to really confide in since. What's funny though is that through my confusion with overall terminology of it all, and the different types of therapy out there, I assumed something was off because we were "just talking", and I wasn't getting a solid diagnosis and treatment plan. Also there's a popular Irish Podcaster talks alot about his own time spent spefically doing CBT, which had me even wondering "where's my homework?!". So it took me a while to even realise that what I was doing was it's own specific and equally effective type of thing that I thought up until this point was called Psychotherapy. But from looking into it even as I wrote this comment I'm realising that I'm doing a mix of psycodynamic, humanistic and intergrative approachs, essentially depending on whatever I'm talking about each week. A video explaining all the differences could be really helpful as well!

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes that is a good point. I think that would be a great idea =)

[@FreshlyBakedMori]

I was recently moved to a counsellor that specialises in helping people with trauma, we get along well but while she specialises the trauma side, her coworker works with people that autism and understands it more than she does. I've never met the other counsellor, so next time all 3 of us are going to be there as, one, I don't know him at all and two, I'm not comfortable being in a room with a guy on my own. We're slowly figuring things out and hopefully, said things will get better over time! :D Thanks for making these videos, they help with a lot of things!! :DD

[@SDBartel]

I am considering therapy and this video was brilliant and right on time for me!! I like your pop culture analyses and I think they are helpful in their own way but I personally found this more direct video instructive and informative and impactful. Thank you

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks so much

[@pearlpaws913]

Thank you for explaining. When you mentioned all the things to consider I realised just how little I know about myself and what I want. I guess that's something for me to think about. Thanks again

[@GeorgiaDow]

Hope you keep learning about you : )

[@pearlpaws913]

@@GeorgiaDow Thank you 😊

[@sundalosketch4769]

I feel like there should be a test or a check-up of sorts that you can do to see what type of therapy you're better off using based on the answers you give. That way people can save themselves the trouble of figuring it out from their heads alone. I say this bc i feel like one of those people that has a thousand vague ideas on what's wrong with me and why i can't fix it myself, but i don't know what would be best or worth the money i put in. I don't wanna spend money on ones that turn out to be duds.. I like the idea of art therapy, but i also want to practice with my voice more as i barely talk, it becomes a weakness i want to overcome but i hate the thought of practicing weird things with my vocals. It's annoying to figure out if i even need therapy! What if this whole time i needed counseling or some kind of boot camp?

[@alejandrariera8572]

If I were able to work with u, i would choose u as my therapist. Thanks for the advices

[@GeorgiaDow]

aww thanks

[@04nimmot]

I guess it’s a little different in the UK having been referred on the NHS by my GP, but when I did it a few of years ago I got booked into 6 sessions with a therapist; this was a talking therapy but I didn’t feel I got much out of it, the guy was so opaque a wall may have responded more, I understood I’d be doing more talking but was hoping for some direction or prodding. Fast forward to end of 2020 I started CBT, it was fantastic, I don’t think it was the type of therapy that made the difference, but that the therapists (I had two, apparently they deal with slightly different things) were much more conversational and asked me questions trying to get me to figure answers out. Although I had a set number of sessions again, NHS have to help a lot of people with limited resources, but the tools are so helpful I still use them.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Wonderful thanks for sharing. I hope it inspires others to find the right person. Thanks for being part of my community.

[@hannahsmith6407]

First therapist was very kind and I liked her but she was super into all this guided meditation stuff, and she also tried hypnotherapy with me and I hated it, it felt uncomfortable. I also expressed that I was thinking and that others had said I might have ADHD and she completely ignored that It was a shame because She was a good person, when I first contacted her to book a session I cried on the phone and for free she talked me through it for almost half an hr but yeah we just didn’t mesh in the sessions

[@winston_bishop]

I think it would be interesting to hear you talk about what to expect when someone goes to see a therapist. What the whole experience is like and such.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I’m planning on that ! Thanks for suggestion

[@5._songbird_.3]

If my parents decide to find a therapist for me I will send them this video so they can watch it and I can tell them what I think I need

[@GeorgiaDow]

wonderful I hope it goes well

[@LeChevalierduLys]

It took me therapy to realise I had suffer physical and mental abuse as a teen. I just thought they were bad people and I didn't realise I was actuly a "victim" (I hate that word). Some of the "self harm" decisions i made make SO much sense... I would recommend to EVERYONE to go to therapy, it helped me tremendously! But enough about me 😆, love your content fellow Cannuck 😀.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I am sorry you had to go through that. happy you had someone to help you through it

[@frhhmmm5225]

Also i really loved your arcane videos and your encanto video.i think u would also enjoy watching the (tuca and bertie) show and (ron gone wrong) movie.

[@Eckister]

makes sence - therapy is about exposing your innermost, intimate secrets with someone you know nothing about. to be perfectly honest - I am an emotional person and would prefer someone like Georgia (someone positive, I can mooch off of and listen to. it is weird, but active listening is therapeutic to me. guess that is why I started dating my wife to begin with lol), but I know TONS of people who would rather prefer someone, who is downright detached and strictly professional in their approach. thank you for the vid Georgia, times are getting better but I still see so many people in the world, who were affected very badly by COVID, who would definitely benefit from therapy. and if that is you (the person reading this) - do not be ashamed. you are not alone in this world and it will benefit you if you make use of that fact. ;-)

[@GeorgiaDow]

Beautifully said and touching. thank you for this Jan

[@ajtroche7941]

Thank you, I really needed this video.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Glad it was helpful!

[@classicslover]

Georgia! Was so busy typing away elsewhere, I didn't even notice this until now! Your videos are invaluable to me as a writer and even as an actor, because one of your many talents is that of an educator in the human experience. Right in my wheelhouse. And you have SO many talents! My devious plot is to...wait...beguile...? Yes! That is the word! Beguile you into at least one of my future projects. And once you're corrupted...I mean, blissfully enjoying your experience of motion picture production...it will be less difficult to beguile you again. ;)

[@GeorgiaDow]

Haha CL who knows =)

[@classicslover]

@@GeorgiaDow Here's hoping! Does beguiling involve being charming? I'll have to practice that...

[@tiadraws8123]

Oof, that is quite a load to keep in mind 😅 in my area i am only aware of like... 3 therapists and I've been in therapy at one of them for 2 years. The first half of the sessions were okay, enough to feel somewhat comfortable, even if she was specialising in life and existential crisis. When it came to more complex things (the skin picking disorder, which replaced the "worse" SH. The schizotypal personality disorder in combination with dissociative episodes, just to name a bit) she was at a loss and i noticed her frustrations, she mentioned that she talked about my case in counselings, which didn't stick well with me. I know that therapists need also their counseling but it turned out to be the thorn in the side and i became very wary, even snarky and sarcastic, dreading appointments, cancelling them. It's understandable she became upset with my withdrawal but i couldn't handle it anymore, so i stopped going completely. I became very picky and whenever i scroll through websites to look for a potential therapist they are either too far away or it doesn't click. It's hard on the countryside in my country when you are looking for someone with a specialisation in certain areas... Anyways, watching your video made me realize i don't know what I want in therapy, as weird as it sounds. I was sent there due to being tired of existence and being on the edge of burn out. Maybe it's the best to make a list first of things to tackle. Thank you for the video, i appreciate it!

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes writing down a list is a great idea ! i hope it helps

[@jeffhale1189]

Thanks for sharing this video. I appreciate your answer to important questions. Blessings on your day.

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you jeff blessings

[@frhhmmm5225]

These are all some really wonderfull advice.in my case...there are things that can triger me or cause me a huge amount of stress.i more or less know how to deal with them even if i can't solve the cause completly and i feel i really need to see a thetapist.but then as always time makes me forget that feeling or even by the passage of time that problem loses it's importance.so i just assume it was not important enough to invest more in it but now i'm not so sure anymore.

[@xAggression]

Wow thank you so much for this, couldn't of come at a better time in my life. Been putting off going even though i need to very badly, think i may finally get on it

[@GeorgiaDow]

Hope you find someone wonderful

[@RavinkaMalinka]

Wow. This vid offered me a lot of insight. I had therapists but they were all terrible for me, I kinda resent therapy to be honest and I'm dealing with stuff myself and wellp.. it worked... I just feel in general like they simply don't care :D ... there was no initiative, no advice, it was just me talking and... that's it, I just talked, but I needed solutions, not a wall I can talk to while they are looking shocked and scribbling notes. I honestly hate people who throw around the phrases like "get help" "get therapy" ... it's not that easy/affordable and it just leaves you bloody disappointed and even more hopeless most of the times. Don't even get me started on "betterhelp" or "7cups", they are bloody terrible.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Therapy isn't for everyone but there are good therapists for each person out there. I am happy you found the video helpful

[@juliam7358]

I really want to go to therapy, but I'm afraid I'm too young for it and that I wouldn't get as much out of it because I'm only 15. I'm worried that if I go to therapy, because I don't have as much to unpack, it won't make as much of an impact on my life as it would if I had more life experience. I guess my question is can you ever be too young for therapy?

[@NoMustang273]

I'm obviously not a therapist and I'm not OP but you're never too young for therapy. I mean school counsellors exist for a reason. Life experience doesn't necessarily mean you'll get more out of therapy. You just have to be able to open up about what problems are there and try to work through it. There's never an age too early or too late.

[@GeorgiaDow]

If you feel a need and think you would want to. I have worked with many children and had great success. Age (if old enough to process) isn’t a factor long as you want to do the work

[@juliam7358]

@@GeorgiaDow Thank you!

[@prophecyempresslerena358]

You aren't too young for therapy. There are therapists for children and for teenagers. It's best to deal with emotional issues as early as possible so your life as an adult is healthier and your problems are recent enough that a therapist can help you now rather than later. It's always harder to change as an adult.

[@jcnorn]

I just really don't like being the center of attention that I feel like I am when I go see someone to talk to. And every time, I've gotten to talk to a new person, so I have to repeat all the things. Health care systems can be so complicated sometimes.

[@Weiningc66]

I personnel find this to be very helpful to me. I am seeing an counselor about emotion distress.

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks so much !!

[@IshidaSado]

I literally just want someone who will listen to me rant and allow me to spill very personal info onto them. I want them to be empathetic and talkative (because I'm so awkward with social situations) I think I honestly just want a friend out of a therapist. I'm autistic and one of my special interests is psychology, so I like discussing my feelings/actions/interests and their origins in depth with a therapist.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Hope you find that person

[@blubala5893]

I went to a very old therapist and he just fell asleep during a session… my issues just hit different lmao

[@GeorgiaDow]

really ? I am so sorry that that happened

[@crystals.7161]

I've done a lot of work on myself in the last 5 years. I've been to Alanon and deep some work on my flaws. I tried to find a therapist, but he wasn't much of a talker and wanted to focus on calm breathing. That was his homework after every session. I need something a little more to deal with my anxieties. I think after watching your fvideos, I'm ready to get out there and try and find another therapist.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Good luck with finding one

[@andresardon841]

I wish you were my therapist. ❤

[@KniteSparxx]

Liked, saved, shared, and subscribed..thank you for being awesome & informative

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you

[@Szt19970130]

Your videos are really helpful, I really appreciate your work!

[@GeorgiaDow]

appreciate you thanks

[@valentinephotography5547]

Maybe a video on how to become a therapist? Thank you everything you do btw!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Good idea thanks

[@generalatlasdiamokov1354]

I want a clinical with a sense of humor that knows when to slow down or get my attention because I tend to ramble on and sometimes off topic

[@GeorgiaDow]

You can for sure find that

[@mouniaismail7634]

Can u please make a video about schizophrenia? I watched most of your videos, also the one about narcissism and I think you explained that very well. So I was wondering if you could make a video about schizophrenia and explain that people with schizophrenia are not just weird screaming serial killers, that they are instead normal people, but with dangerous delucions and paranoia. That you explain what the illness really is about and how it should be treated

[@GeorgiaDow]

That would be an important video

[@Dainurian]

Hi Georgia, I have tried therapy a couple times without success. I am not autistic or diagnosed with any other type of disorder that would affect my ability to socialize, but I have always felt like I was born some type of alien and have had a lot of trouble understanding why interactions in my life go the way they do. It's as if everyone else played a tutorial on how to exist but I skipped it by accident. What I have wanted is someone who can listen to my experiences and explain to me why things happened the way they did because I feel like many years of living a fairly isolated life in my own head has distorted my perception of the world to the point where I don't trust my own thought process in some areas (like a compounding error over time) and would like a second opinion. I know it isn't possible to respond to all these KZbin comments, but if there is a therapeutic approach that could help me understand these things I would greatly appreciate a suggestion or any direction.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I would say a mix of psychodynamic and CBT therapy would be perfect for you. Nut again pick therapist over technique. Hope this helps

[@brianstocks8049]

Thank You. Always insightful. my therapist need to be able to dress up as characters of shows I"m watching

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks haha

[@fcasias7]

Thank you so much for this video, I was trying to figure this out last month and was struggling.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I hope it is helpful

[@denkikaminari8475]

(Sorry for what I'm about to say. TW: talking about suicide, mental illness, trauma etc) I am on 4 kinds of therapy for 10 years now I'm 15 now and nothing is working. And the point is they don't understand me! I've had so many therapists and coaches and shit in my life that I've actually lost hope of getting better. I am trying to heal from severe childhood trauma , i get bullied and allot more. All they can say is that is that i have to leave it behind and forget about it. It's been so shitty. I suffer from clinical depression and severe anxiety cus of all the stuff I've been trough and actually i feel so selfish for talking about myself right now. I feel like my problems don't have a voice , like it doesn't matter. So many people have it worse then me. I keep asking myself "just cus other people have it worse. Does that mean I'm less worthy of help and care?" I keep saying to my therapists that i love music and animals. I wanted to be a singer. But my therapist told me that my dreams are unrealistic and that i need to seek another dream cus I'll never have the power to reach the dream i have. I love singing but i gave up when i was 13 cus i feel so ignored and useless. I have had multiple suicide attempts and yet they think that I'm overreacting and that I'm dramatic. It's so overwhelming! It hurts so much to hear that not even my own therapist takes me seriously! I mean i wouldn't expect my family to care about it or anything so I'm just dumb why did i expect my therapist to care about my feelings. Sorry for this. It probably made y'all very uncomfortable. I just needed to tell someone. I'ma go now i don't wanna be more of a nuisance you know. Have a good day everyone and remember it's okay not to be okay and if you ever need support , I'm here for you

[@GeorgiaDow]

You are not a nuisance. I hope your person will take you more seriously cause your thoughts and worries matter, You matter. I hope you keep working at being better and healing.

[@denkikaminari8475]

@@GeorgiaDow yeah i hope i can heal to. Right now I'm going to a mental institution again for about 2 months. This is the third time in my life and I'm getting basically sick of it. Cus i know it's all gonna be the same. They know me and they know i won't listen to them if they force me to do stuff that i don't wanna do. But whatever I'll just accept it and see how it goes. The good thing is that I'm allowed to take my phone tho.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I hope you connect with someone there. I hope you do and can have a different experience there. Happy you get your phone. It’s okay not to be okay but I do hope you get to okay.

[@denkikaminari8475]

@@GeorgiaDow thank you miss you are truly amazing and i hope you'll get good luck and an amazing day , I'm proud and the people who have you as therapist must be very lucky 😊✨

[@dlw6792]

I honestly would like a therapist, to deal with my procrastination. You are actually my ideal choice for a therapist, if that was possible!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Procrastination is usually linked to fear of failure or avoiding negative emotions. Thank you for the compliment

[@dlw6792]

@@GeorgiaDow wow 🤔🤔🤔 well I'll admit that's true! I recently changed a career path for me into being an entrepreneur. But I've been stifling my own growth.

[@DannyBellTheAuthor]

There's a question I have that I didn't think I'd be asking today, but here goes: Last three therapists I've tried to set up an appointment with have just absolutely been silent. Zero response. Not "Nothing available, sorry" I mean absolutely nothing. And I've taken my time, tried to get someone I think will be good, even made sure they took my insurance. Then when I reached out, via their email or their site or however they prefer, I've heard nothing. So, I guess my question is just what the heck? I can't imagine zero response is the norm, but it kind of feels like it might be given this.

[@GeorgiaDow]

That’s dishearteningly. I assume right now they are overloaded because of the pandemic and the time of year. I hope they get back to you. I have sometimes missed an email or message in my career and it’s one of my biggest fears. It takes so much for someone to reach out, to not reply is upsetting. I hope you get a reply soon and keep reaching out. Someone will.

[@LesOubliesQuebec]

I personally live in Québec and I'm functional in our system. And because of that i find it pretty hard to find a psychotherapist for me and my gf since we both suffer major trauma when we were young. Any tips to know where to look at. Or at least were to start from.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I would ask any friends who may be seeing someone that is often really helpful. There are lots of great people out there.

[@TheyCallMeZiggs]

Love your work Georgia :) this is as good as the arcane Videos

[@GeorgiaDow]

[@shadoe6794]

Hey, I was wondering if you could do a video addressing that even in therapy you are also allowed to disagree with your therapist, clarify and explain things if it doesn't seem like your therapist understands something about how your processing things correctly (especially so the right things are being addressed), and generally self advocate for things you want if that's something you feel a need to do. I don't think it's super addressed and had been really important in my therapy for finding things that are right for me as well as figuring out what things I do and don't want in my life, even if not everyone would choose those things. And that's having a wonderful therapy experience where I've learned a lot, taken many lessons, and figured out how to do a lot of self growth. So I think it may be even more important for people not having a therapy experience that is working well for them. P.s. recent viewer/subscriber and I'm really loving your videos!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks that is a wonderful addition yes you can and should actually,

[@forkykitty1888]

After my therapist last week lashed out at me for asking for advice on how to handle jury duty with it being a trigger. Long story there, but she told me to basically shut the f*ck up and just deal with it on your own. I have since disassociated from the to therapy due to that interaction. All I asked for were things I could do to keep the PTSD and C-PTSD from getting triggered so hard while there. I wish I could find an art therapist seeing as I'm a professional artist and get a lot of my baggage out through it. I know I need therapy because PTSD and C-PTSD are serious, but it's so difficult to find one that will understand and work through this with me.

[@GeorgiaDow]

There are probably some art therapist in your area and it is a wonderful method of treatment. I hope you find someone caring. I am so sorry you had that negative experience