Get the Truth Out of ANYONE! 4 Easy Psychology techniques Revealed.

How can you dramatically increase your odds of getting the truth out of any conversation? These 4 psychological techniques have been used by interrogators and interviewers to increase the odds of getting someone to open up and tell you the truth! Learn them now.
Books mentioned in the video:
Get The Truth:
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Advanced Interviewing Techniques:
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6 Minute X-Ray (Chapter on elicitation):
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Full Interrogation of Cassandritz Blanc:
• Most Shocking Interrog...
Full Interrogation of Russell Williams:
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Interview of Jim Smyth (Russell Williams Interrogator):
• 💥 Interview with Jim S...
RESEARCH & STUDIES
Labelling/ Attribution
Miller, R. L., Brickman, P., & Bolen, D. (1975). Attribution versus persuasion as a means for modifying behavior. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 31(3), 430-441
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Reciprocity
Dennis T. Regan, Effects of a favor and liking on compliance, Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Volume 7, Issue 6, 1971, Pages 627-639,
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Goldstein, N. J., Griskevicius, V., & Cialdini, R. B. (2011). Reciprocity by Proxy: A Novel Influence Strategy for Stimulating Cooperation. Administrative Science Quarterly, 56(3), 441-473.
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André, K., Bureau, S., Gautier, A. et al. Beyond the Opposition Between Altruism and Self-interest: Reciprocal Giving in Reward-Based Crowdfunding. J Bus Ethics 146, 313-332
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[@daisyquinn6202]

I just used these techniques tonight, and I'm blown away. It's exactly like you said, he started to test the waters, finally let the truth out, and the dam broke. Everything came out. Watching this, and your other videos have taught me how to handle confrontation and how to handle the tough subjects with a bit more grace, utilizing none judgemental tones no matter how hurt I am. Thank you for all you do Spidey

[@TheBehavioralArts]

That’s so amazing that you’re seeing positive results in your life with this material 😊 I hope the truth that was being concealed wasn’t negative ❤️

[@addsxxx2727]

​@@TheBehavioralArtsmate you need to do one of these videos with the interview from Tara brown on 60 minutes with Prince Andrew scandal with that photo with him and that young girl, and his involvement with Jeffery Epstein , BE Very interesting 2 c what u say on Prince Andrew on how he reacts,, Be a Very Controversial subject an video if u do.. that's 1 I wanna see on ur expert advise

[@user-cv2df5cr8i]

Same., same: “Thank you” to whom, who wrote this comment which wraps up my learning experience and “Thank you” Spidey for educating us in such a positive way 🌱

[@Yuli-ed5nv]

I have a little story from my elementary years. And after watching your videos, I’ve realized something. Back in 4th and 5th grade, my class had this thing called the compliment jar and basically the concept was that if we ever got a compliment about the whole class whether it being quiet in the halls or someone compliments us for the classroom being clean, the teachers would put a ball in the jar and when that jar was full we’d have a celebration. Its now I realized that if we ever got a compliment we’d always try to keep that compliment true. So our classroom was always clean, we were always quiet in the halls, and always focused a lot on our work just because we don’t want this compliment to be false.

[@keen8271]

It makes me think about how I talk to my children. If I find the kitchen a mess after they cook, I tell them to clean it and call them messy. I will be much more aware of that in the future and tell them differently.

[@katfromthekong414]

I used to be a wild teenager and when people would make assumptions that I would behave badly I would always end up thinking "I'll show you bad behaviour" and so the assumptions always come true and nothing changed. Giving people a lable, good or bad, really does affect behaviour.

[@KizerMoore]

Thank you for this comment. This story will stick with me when I start having kids.

[@nikkib8811]

@@katfromthekong414 You're right, children in particular tend to work to a self fulfilling prophecy. If people expect the worst from them, that's how they'll behave, but if you expect good behaviour by praising and being optimistic about them, they'll rise to that.

[@heatherbryant4197]

I believe this is also part of why recidivism of inmates is so high. If you tell a bunch of grown men they're worthless human beings, just lousy criminals, pretty soon they will start to act like it. Initially it may be a case of, "If I'm gonna do the time, I may as well do the crime," for those who feel the punishment is undeserved. My dad would always say, "when you lock a bunch of human beings in cages and treat them like animals, pretty soon they start acting like animals." On the flipside, this phenomenon can work in your favor too. In college, whenever I asked a teacher for leniency or special treatment of some kind, like an extra day to complete an assignment, or excusing an absence, etc., I would write them an email and always close by saying something like, "Thank you for being so kind and understanding." Even if that professor was known for being a hardass and really not kind or understanding at all, I'd still say it. I think it might even mean more to them when it's an uncommon compliment about something they're normally criticized for. But once they get the idea in their head that you think they're understanding, they don't want to shatter that image. The genius thing is that since you've already thanked them for being understanding, now they feel kind of indebted to oblige. It's like when people say "thanks in advance for your cooperation," except I don't even bother saying "in advance." That just sounds presumptuous. Let them think you already see them that way and let them subconsciously feel obligated to keep consistent with that image.

[@jessicasakimae541]

Omg! “Need to correct the record” worked 100% for me about 13yr ago and I didn’t even mean to do it! So I suspected my husband at the time cheating on me and I had a phone number so I called her and asked and she denied denied denied. Saying they were only friends and he was helping her get through a break up and they never did anything together. I don’t know how I thought of it but I quickly thought to tell her that he already told me that they had slept together and that SHE was the one that instigated it because she was trying to figure out if she should divorce her husband or not because she thought she might be gay and she basically begged him to sleep with her so she would know whether she was gay or not. At this accusation, she got all defensive, and then started telling me the truth saying “he is lying that’s not at all what happened. Yes we slept together and had a relationship but I told him that I was getting a divorce because I didn’t want to be married to my husband anymore and he told me that he was going to leave you for me.” I ended the phone call with “thank you that’s all I needed to know. You can have him now.” She then went on to tell me that I was a liar, and how could I lie to her like that and say he said those things 😂🤣 (the nerve of some people)

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Wooowww lol you’re like a mastermind!!!

[@virtuallyme2518]

Wow... very imaginatively manipulative of you. I’d be impressed, but wary of you if we were friends and u told me that story...

[@davidrobert2007]

@@virtuallyme2518 Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. And you would be wary of a person who just wanted the truth?

[@lorimiller4301]

@@davidrobert2007 If we were friends, I'd be proud. You did excellent. Good for you.

[@stephanieb6461]

Nice! But men will take cheating to the grave and deny deny deny. Better chance asking the female

[@reneewallace8079]

Reciprocity will not work with narcissists or gaslighters

[@Mewkew3]

There is a woman who consistently likes to put me down with a slam under the pretext of humor--and then she smiles broadly and claims she "loves" me when that ISN'T love. Two weeks ago, I told her, "You know, the more time you spend with (my enemy) the MEANER you get," and she came unglued, screaming, "You can't talk to ME that way!" and playing the martyr card of how much she does for me, and I calmly replied, "I always thank you for all you do, and you know it. But it's interesting that you can dish out negativity and not take it." After that, she's not slammed me once--she knows that if pushed to the wall I will tell her the TRUTH of what I see going on and put the focus on her behavior/attitude and if she doesn't want that back, she'd better not dish it out.

[@colletteprops8708]

But, brew​@@Mewkew3ski, don't just prevent the worst, ask for better and let her kick bricks.

[@coffeeteamix]

"Correct the record" reminds me of someone's life pro-tip post that when they have a programming question, they ask it on a forum, then log in as a different person to post a ridiculously wrong answer. People might not bother to answer your question, but they cannot help correcting the wrong answer, haha.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Hahaha genius

[@teresev1435]

Genius!!!

[@doubledragon9530]

I use these techniques all the time, but as a means to help someone change their behaviors rather than as a means to get at the truth. Always optimistic, projecting, and nonjudgmental, "You aren't broken; you've simply found your own unique way to deal with your situation." Emphasize the truth, "There are better ways to get what you want and need than what you've been doing." It is amazing how well these work to get someone to want to change. It's powerful stuff.

[@lyneemcadams8120]

Love this! In my work as a career advisor at a technical college, I can absolutely use these phrases! I’m noting them right now. Thanks for sharing!

[@BalanceEducation]

Most importantly though in any relationship that is not inherently hostile: Teach everyone involved what you are doing and why and that they can and should do it, too.

[@yasminegilbert554]

10/10 recommend these techniques with children! My relationship with my 3 year old (and therefore his behavior) is so much better when I consistently apply these concepts. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been angry about an action, squelched the anger in favor of assuming the best intentions, and come to find out that the intent really was sweet if not misguided. I’ve considered these techniques preventative measures to keep lies out of our relationship as much as possible as he grows. Thank you for codifying the techniques and inspiring me to apply them more intentionally in all of my relationships!

[@andreaskye]

Just the other day I started right off the bat with my grandson and his friend, gushing about I was sure they were a neat duo and picked up after themselves so everyone had more fun and just gushed like that every so often and lo and behold, they made less of a mess then when he is here by himself. It was crazy effective and they were proud of themselves as well which I think was better for them them Grandma having less to clean up.

[@johnnytony593]

Problem is, your 3 year old may find this channel and apply those techniques back to you. Watch out next time he makes you sit down and offers milk and cookies.

[@iKINDAdo]

@@johnnytony593 And sooner than you even think in the possibility it’ll be already happening 😅

[@sylviaolney652]

​@@johnnytony593😂😂😂😂

[@alienangel777]

You are an extremely intelligent and empathetic mother.

[@wondering1916]

This is how I try to relate to mom, so she doesn’t feel accused. It doesn’t extinguish her narcissism but it does help keep the peace and it’s been my attempt to truly connect and help her feel safe enough to be vulnerable with me, but you know narcissists are way too petrified to ever do that, but it’s as close as I’ll get.

[@nadinebeaumont7284]

If you pursue an abusive relationship, or one that leaves you feeling negative, you get what you ask for. Save your skills on people worth your whole. Enabling a person who brings you down doesn't do them any good either. They should be trying to improve themselves. You don't need to go above & beyond for someone who's sucking your soul dry. Doesn't matter if it's your mother or Satan. Negative is negative. Harm is harm. Leave people like that alone.

[@marlenathorvald]

Regardless of what that other person said I completely understand where you are coming from. Maybe it's easy for some people to cut their family out of their life like that but it's not for me either. Sometimes you just have to find ways to get the smallest connections I get it. Mine is my brother. I do keep my distance he's not in my life as much as I would like but I can't just pretend I don't have a brother.

[@nadinebeaumont7284]

Best to keep your family if you can. But if you have an established pattern of abuse, and they aren't interested in meeting you half way, love them from afar.

[@deborahpollock5594]

Family absolutely is complicated for sure. What has helped me is create a thinking framework that knows "you can't fix miserable" and don't even attempt to get pulled into their abuse. Emotionally distance myself to their unhealthy perspective. The negative diatribe they unleash, I place their dark heart and toxic worldview responsible for the words, not anything I have done. They had a choice to view a situation in several different ways and I can't control if they choose irresponsible thinking patterns and the worst conclusions. I've learned to hold my truth to myself and feel little need to express it to that person....just treat them with respect and leave if it gets overwhelming or unsafe. When they try to push my buttons, I purposefully chose not to engage. There's no fixing them, no magic words to motivate change: it's their responsibility to fix it.

[@rebeccahenderson7761]

I'm really glad you said that, I've been struggling with a friend that was helping us on our house and everything has to be done her way or the highway and she made up a problem that wasn't there last week and blew up. I have been very upset about it, because I go out of my way to be kind and thoughtful and your comment: "but you know narcissists are way too petrified to ever do that," really hit home. I hadn't thought of her in those terms, but yes, that is exactly what I've been dealing with. Thank you!

[@teacherspetism]

I’ve started doing something like this with my students who cheat on their tests, especially the writing part. Instead of hurling accusations, which always makes them go into protective mode and denial, I now point out how much they have grown in their vocabulary and sentence structure, thank you for trying your best, etc.etc. They almost always will say that they didn’t write all of it 😂. Then we have a conversation….I ❤ your work.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

What an amazing approach. I love It

[@alienangel777]

Aaaand now there is ChatGTP. Don't let the skeptic websites fool you, the Declaration of Independence was run through a GTP detection tool verbatim and was labeled as being almost 100% plagiarised by ChatGTP. I hold no judgments, critical thinking is so much more important than rote memorization and/or how to write perfect English essays. I say, use your mind, and use technology to make that mind effective. The world is changing toward more logical reasoning and away from useless rhetoric.

[@sassduffin4274]

I love you 💕

[@TxCarrie]

I really connected with your decision to use clips from the same interrogation. I've gotten lost when watching others who use clips from several conversations. With using the same encounter, I felt invested to see more of the progression toward a confession and it kept me watching and learning to the end. Great lesson.

[@ThatsBoujee]

Good point!

[@-_deploy_-]

Agreed

[@ryutenmen]

1) Optimistic outlook = "the road to hell is paved with good intentions but..." and he frames it with "Sandwich of compliments". 2) Project the blame = you are a good guy and didnt wanted this outcome, others are at fault". - correct the record 3) Emphasize the truth - honesty contract - reciprocity - labeling - short time thinking 4) Non-judgemental thinking

[@lisasim]

The cookies thing is like saying "you're just a kid" making him feel the interrogator is a calm and sympathetic father figure, then feeling more comfortable to open up to him.

[@jenbrownbeauty]

This is, by far, the most interesting YT channel I follow. Thank you for being so open and transparent with this info

[@TheWhitepantheress]

After seeing you talk about attribution in another video, I have been using it in customer service calls (I work in student support at the Uni where I am doing psychology). It has been really effective not just in de-escalation but also in setting up the flow of the call so that escalation doesn't even start. I have been teaching some colleagues about what I do as well, when they express concerns about people being upset with them. Your videos are really informative and educational, thanks Spidey.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Wow! Awesome! So happy you’re applying this stuff with success 😊

[@brittanygrace9926]

@@TheBehavioralArts I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on Casey Anthony; specifically from the new documentary 🙏🏼

[@klauseba]

@TazTom, yeah I also worked in customer service and we were always told to say this when getting back to the customer from him being on Hold: "thank you for your patience" as opposed to "thank you for waiting".

[@pagemastrogiovanni9195]

@@klauseba that goes along with the idea of saying, "Thanks for patiently waiting" versus "I'm so sorry for being late" when you are late for something. The focus has shifted into positively complimenting them vs focusing on you being tardy.

[@sunnietoh5529]

@@TheBehavioralArts aa

[@femtorbyaida6787]

Spidey, thank you so much for all the knowledge you share so freely. I've bought all the books you recommended, and they have all helped me read people and protect myself from being manipulated. Im 38 and have always been taken advantage of. Not anymore, though. Because of you, I'm going to study psychology and take a new, more confident approach to life.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Wow! This is amazing! I’m so glad you found value in the channel and the recommended books 🤗

[@rogue_spirit]

Masha'a Allah sister, that's one great achievement! 👑🌹👍🏻 May Allah bless you and protect you from evil doers, ameen!

[@Trancymind]

I don't know you but I'm proud of you. -Some random homeless man. Ok, I'm not homeless. I may not be great but at least I'm good enough. You have a good day. 👍

[@user-hb5nj8zk3f]

I have a story to tell, I am a writer and I had a difficult time writing dialogue for characters who did bad things for good reasons this gives me a format for better conversations with other characters in the book even if they are on the same team. Thank you for the information and how enlightening it is.

[@morrigan908]

Hi Spidey! I mentioned this in comments in your community but going to add it here too. Topic suggestion--Body Language for Negotiations. Seeing negotiations from your body-language perspective would be both fascinating and useful, especially for your female audience. I'm an assertive woman who has managed people in male-dominated industries (coal, legal, and IT) for over 20 years, but I still despise negotiations. This could have a lot of applications--asking for a raise, responding to an initial job offer, at the car dealership. Thanks for all you do Spidey!

[@kicsianita]

OMG, I admire you for holding up in the male-dominated industries for 20+ years. I am a manager myself, in IT, for 3 years, and I am watching Spidey to learn techniques how to confront my managers/peers, and stand up for myself when I feel bias. I totally feel you, that even after that many years of experience and being assertive, there are some topics, like salary negotiationsare, still challanging for you.

[@michadawn234]

Car dealerships negotiations can be so tedious. Salary negotiations are terrible for me, I always sell myself short. There has been only one time in my entire working history that I went in and demanded a raise. My boss gave a coworker a huge pay increase when that person had hardly any experience, attendance and tardiness issues.The raise was based on her credentials. I don’t care what the credentials are if you don’t show up and don’t do a whole lot when you are there why get a big raise?

[@rebeccamay6420]

I did notice the interrogator's body language working toward reducing anxiety. When he rolled his chair to the side of the table, he put himself into a less confrontational position than face-to-face. Straight-on eye contact can feel very intimidating in a stressful situation. Moving to the side like that will make him appear less aggressive, more gentle, more understanding. Effective use of body language will help draw out the response you're trying to evoke.

[@allthingsnewlife]

This is generally my character & people do confide. Thanks for the info about looking like a liar when we think someone doesn't believe us, I was raised with interrogating narc, sociopath, bpd's they were my template on how not to be - but I always feel like i have to prove im telling the truth! They projected their bad motives onto me and i foolishly projected my good motives onto them till i was proved wrong and fled for my life. Lesson: when you have sympathy for the devil, do not let them have your shoulder to cry on! They will take your very breath!

[@auriuman78]

Takers will take until there's nothing left to take and will still keep demanding there be something to take even if it didn't belong to them.

[@laramccully3272]

Really starting to love it when I see you’ve done a new lesson.☺️

[@misse2013]

This was one of my favorite interrogations of all time and one of my favorite interrogators! Happy to see your coverage on it!!

[@Tasha22Bella]

This is definitely going into my keep and reference pile.. So much valuable info.. I've watched that other interrogation of Russell Williams so when you brought it up I was like Oh, yeah I remember that. I've watched so many interrogations over the years so you explaining these techniques helped understand why when cops and interrogators use them, they work so well.. and also helped make it feel like something practical to apply in my life which I 100% will use. Thank you Spidey. I keep learning and its your teaching style that has made me fascinated in learning more. You and the other members of the behavior panel make this topic so much more than just a topic people can brush off as nonsense. You give practical examples and back it up with real research. I've been so huge on crime and investigations for as long as I can remember and the one part of it that always fascinates me most is understanding the human element. How people's minds work, understanding them, understanding how to read them. I've been told I'm pretty perceptive and being introduced to you and the rest of the behavior panel has just fueled my interest in human behavior even more. I'd love, at some stage in life, when I can dedicate more time to it, to do a degree or so in human behavior and this type of stuff because its truly fascinating. I probably have to narrow it down first though. Thank you for being such a great resource and teacher Spidey!!!

[@lanaladenhauser]

You give out such useful information time after time! Thank you for all the effort, this is precious material right here!

[@lauras7857]

Thank you for OPENing our eyes Spidey! Sorry....that was terrible 😂

[@nathaliepickell1755]

I truly appreciate the way you address situations, with such a down to earth manner. You make your audience feel so comfortable and in a safe space that allows them to have a more honest internal look at their own behavior and reactions to other behaviors with less of a judgemental reaction, but more of a comprehenise analytical outlook at it. Since I have start watching your channel, I feel that I have improved my ability to look at a situation with more of an empathetic angle. Thank you for that.

[@DTheHAge]

O - Optimistic Outlook: Consider the "pros" for doing what the accused person may ave done. Assuming that the person did it in good intentions. Showing empathy by statements of empathy ("I know you didn't intended this, you just wanted to *positive point*."). Giving reassurance that you think he/she is a good person ("You seem like a really calm guy."). P - Project the Blame: Serve basic human need to be seen as good. Offer scapegoats, like circumstances ("You needed to do it to survive.", "It just went out of control."), moral, etc. Technique "Correct the Record": Put out a statement about something you want to know, that is deliberately wrong. People will feel the urge to correct it and tell you easier the truth. Can also be used to find a fitting scapegoat. E -Emphasize the Truth: Emphasize that the only important thing is the truth. Not the consequences. Technique "The Honesty Contract": Say "I promise I will be honest, but in return I want you to be honest too.". Also emphasize that you will be fully transparent and honest to him. Get a confirmation by "Does this sound fair?". After that show constantly appreciation for his/her honesty. N - Non-Judgmental: Taking the bad labels like "killer" and saying stuff like "You are not a killer, you eat cookies.". Moving the focus from the societal judgment to the act itself.

[@jen2196]

Very insightful, thorough, wholesome, and I really appreciate your ethics when explaining everything.

[@gretchenthreet6750]

This is fabulous! This reminds me of the books "Spy the Lie" and its sequel "Get the Truth". These books are the gold standard in interrogation techniques. One thing these authors emphasize is the interrogator sincerely and honestly leveling with the suspects, as opposed to just manipulating them. So much better than brow- beating and scare tactics.

[@nicholasyoung2867]

This video popped up on my feed the other day, and I'm so glad it did. I'm totally fascinated by human behavior and really want to understand people better, and I think your channel will be a great tool for that. I'm all in. Can't wait to see more.

[@O2life]

I instantly know where I'm going to use this information. It's a family situation in which no one has done anything wrong, but we need to make some big decisions and it has been very difficult to get certain individuals to open up about how what they actually want or think or need. One family member and I have already been using optimism and nonjudgment, but I think emphasizing the importance of being honest and getting the truth out there could really help, especially in one particular case.

[@Mekanayze]

Good luck

[@greenjupiter]

Family members like you are a blessing

[@lourdesdelapena1852]

🥰♥️🙏

[@MarieAntoinetteandherlittlesis]

Lol I was thinking I could use these techniques to inquire as to who stole the tamales at our last family gathering. They’re like gold around my family, and last time the remnants disappeared and we don’t know where they went. I have my suspicions 🤔

[@O2life]

@@MarieAntoinetteandherlittlesis yeah, do it and let us know!

[@DD47N1]

I really enjoyed learning this and you made it so easy to understand with clear examples! I have apparently used this method somewhat intuitively in various situations in my life, primarily as a preschool teacher and child caregiver! I would love to see you use this method similarly in a job interviewer situation. My husband frequently has to interview people for employment and feel your teaching style would benefit him. He already prefers to interview people in person because he gets a good feel for honesty by their body language, but I think adding this method for the overall questioning would help him even further get to the truth in their responses! Regardless, thank you for these types of videos that teach us how to apply these methods in our daily lives! I really appreciate you taking the time to do these!

[@ac8274]

“Correcting the Record” is something I can’t help myself in doing. Thank you for pointing out this stuff!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Same lol. Even when I know what it is I can’t fight the urge.

[@martls6]

@@TheBehavioralArts Europeans wouldn't correct that record ;)

[@TheBehavioralArts]

@@martls6 you must be joking. First of all, European isn’t a culture it’s a continent. The behaviors of someone from France vastly differ from those of a German and there are parts of Europe where correcting the record is much much much more effective than in the U.S.A…. By the way. Your comment itself is an example of correcting the record 😂 😂 😂

[@Gabrielle4870]

@@martls6 are you German or Dutch by any chance?

[@dustylong]

@@Gabrielle4870 Probably Dutch 🤣😂🤣

[@christinecammarata7231]

Wow , this was so informative, what a great job you did explaining the open technique ! Looking forward to more of your videos

[@kgummee]

Great video. I work with youth in the judicial system and find that the more of these type videos that i watch the better i can communicate with the youth in our program. One boy calls me "the lie detector" ... he doesnt realize his lying face goes on before he says a word!!

[@wendeltoro]

Hi Spidey. Thank you so much! The last stream of videos that you have been uploading is amazing, it really teaches you to navigate through some of the most difficult situations you can encounter in life, and at the same time it helps you in daily bases! You are such a great teacher, things that we may think "yeah but how am I supposed to do that as a normal person or in such situation", you just give such simple examples of of common situations, and your minds goes "oh....." Thank you so much. Also, I wanted to tell you this. I am digital marketing specialist, so I study online human behavior as well as their shopping tendencies, what triggers them and how to sell something. Your channel has helped me so so much, to understand some of the most basic human tendencies, and I have been able to apply them to my work. I am a wed designer, a copy writer and a sales funnel developer (just graduated ), so this channel and your amazing teaching skills have really helped me a lot. Thank you so much Spidey.

[@virtuallyme2518]

So you’re thanking Spidey for helping you understand human weakness so you can target and manipulate people into buying stuff ... onya! Very commendable profession... yay!

[@KitKatSukiKat]

@@virtuallyme2518🙄

[@constructenglish1]

I think you are so brilliant and I am loving all your videos. Not only are you extremely successful, and at the top of your game but you have that extra quality of being a great human with an authenticity that just inspires trust and respect. Don t stop please!!

[@mtjc5336]

SPIDEY this is all so so good! It’s a good way to relate to people, and eye opening to see how much it resonates with me, personally. We WANT to see the best in others; we WANT to be the best we can; we WANT to be judged for our motives not our actions. And for those reasons we are so susceptible to how others perceive us and reciprocity and fulfilling labels and all of that. I’m a mother of young kids and wow this had some major takeaways for me for how to handle conflicts and dealing with bad things that happen in a coaching, productive way rather than focusing on the negative and the “punishments.” Thanks as always for amazing content!

[@yaelisme]

This was excellent. Thank you so much. I am being targeted by a malevolent narcissist, who is trying to control the people around me and is gaslighting them regarding me. A lot is on the line here as I am the one being accused of something I never did. I do wish that there was a Boot Camp for myself my husband and my whole family that we could afford to attend. where we’re one on one trained and then go through practice sessions, etc. However, this is extraordinarily helpful and I do appreciate it. Thank you 🙏

[@katfromthekong414]

Compact and comprehensive! This was a really excellent summary of those little tricks and levers. It also made me think that it's also generally a nice way to approach people, with empathy and honesty, even when you're not trying to get the truth out of someone. P.S. thank for the great recommendations, as always! ✌🏼

[@kellythrash3154]

Just found your channel and now bingewatching. I can't believe how much of this applies in my life! I feel empowered and knowledgeable for the future. Thanks, Spidey, you Rock!❤❤😊

[@zanastrange1878]

Thank you for this Tutorial and your book recommendations. I always love the way you structure your videos and explain things so well!!!

[@TODOMATIO]

I have watched so many interrogation videos I think I can practice myself 😂 you do Reid technique - build a rapport, don't confront immediately. Make them feel your on their side. Then start recounting events not from the event itself, but much more into the past. After they recount the event you ask a lot of clarifying questions. Then you catch them in small lies to show they've lost credibility. Then you do soft confrontation. Then you ask them to explain discrepancies. They dig deeper hole and go into deeper denial, so you do "objection handling", an reject their explanation. Typically they prefer to Confess to a lesser crime, an that's totally fine. You tell they're doing a good job, keep going, we are very close to getting to the truth. You believe they're a good person. Finally offer several scenarios that justify the crime. Basically confession is not a one step process.

[@stevensuhar8302]

This does not work on true psychopaths, or even sociopaths. Only guilty minded people or people that just want everything to be over fall for those rudimentary techniques. I would have that cop wondering why he ever became an interrogator in five minutes. I would convince him his wife was cheating on him.

[@sorchajones1788]

I love this. As a psychotherapist, it’s a an affirming and funny thing that I recognise these techniques, as things I do. The thing is that I’m not trying to get someone to confess- or perhaps we are helping people say the difficult stuff. My understanding from both neuroscience and experience, is that people are actually ok. Our behaviours come out of instinctive needs, including those of connection and self preservation. I don’t know the story, however as this was his wife, I’m estimating that Cassandra’s instinctive need for care and connection felt threatened. He didn’t have the skills to negotiate them- and even if he did, re-enactment experiences would have brought up such instinctive emotions, like grief, fear and rage, that may have felt, in the moment, life threatening. It’s a multi layered tragedy. A young woman lost her life in an awful way, that if Cassandra had had enough of the sort of care expressed by the interviewer, regularly enough early enough in life, he wouldn’t have resorted to fatal violence, the multiple traumas before this happened and the multiple traumas to all persons affected by this, the ripple effect and so on. It’s not just a domestic tragedy, it’s national. It’s global.

[@rachelevans7286]

I understand that your conclusion is probably based on evidence-based science and experience, however I am concerned that a psychotherapist would make the assumptions asserted in your post. You stated “I don’t know the story”. While your statements may be true in a majority of similar cases, how can you make prejudicial statements about this man after admitting you do not know the story? From this video, we don’t even hear a confession or know if he was charged with murder, let alone convicted. We also don’t know the circumstances of his wife’s death. If he did kill her, it could have been justified self-defense. It is also possible that he has a mental illness severe enough to affect his ability to know right from wrong, he could have been on drugs that caused him to hallucinate or be out of touch with reality, or it is even possible that he has a physiological disease such as prior TBI causing damage to his prefrontal cortex or a tumor. These possibilities may be unlikely, but I am concerned that a psychotherapist would make assumptions about a person’s state of mind, childhood or guilt from a few minutes of video.

[@sorchajones1788]

Thank you for your response. Yes, it might have happened because those things you mentioned. Yet a quick google search did and still shows that Cassandritz Blanc was convicted. I felt sad for the young man. I am sorry and a little nonplussed if you read me as prejudiced. I was trying to understand the tragic event from- and offer a potential way to consider, from an affective neuroscience take. If Blanc was innocent of the crime, or even if he wasn’t and something of what you suggested had occurred to explain it better then sure, I’d be able to accept that. As a psychotherapist, I mainly listen. Sometimes I offer a way of seeing a behaviour that someone might struggle with, from an affective / instinctive framework. It can help a person understand their needs and themselves better and help them to be less hard on themselves. Thanks again for your feedback, which has helped me to think about this a little more.

[@rachelevans7286]

Thank you for replying to my post Sorcha. I appreciate your response and your honesty. I’m glad that it made you think about potential prejudices you may have (not meaning to be negative; everyone has them whether we want to accept it or not). I am finally able to see a therapist soon after waiting for months. I wish I had a therapist that was open-minded like yourself. Just remember that many people have been convicted of murder and sometimes death who ended up having brain damage in frontal love or an undiagnosed brain tumor. You are correct about most people convicted of violent behavior. Childhood abuse is the most common; with or without a brain injury when young. Mental illness is a complicated thing. I just don’t like to jump to conclusions without knowing everything about a situation. Something that I have said before is: I have never heard any child say that they want to grow up to be a killer.

[@sorchajones1788]

Hi Rachel, thank you for reading my response and getting back to me. I agree with you. While I’m writing, I can’t see if I previously thanked you also for pointing out mitigating factors- like, even the right person was found, that their thinking might be found to be physiologically impaired. It makes it more sad even. Thinking about this, I now think about physicality of our brains, how we grow them directly in connection with our carers and environment. And then even onwards- the opportunities as well as pitfalls, of their plasticity. So much to think about, to keep us all talking together and learning about- from what neuroscience can bring- what we can make of it and how we can help things be better for everyone. Please excuse this lengthy reply. I didn’t mean to write so many words! Best of luck with therapy. Many times I’ve been in lengthy therapy myself. I know psychotherapists are an imperfect bunch. I take heart from Winnicott’s concept of the ‘good enough mother’ and think in terms of the ‘good enough therapist’! I hope you get someone who will meet you warmly where you are, accompany you where you want to go and that you enjoy your journey.

[@rachelevans7286]

Sorcha, Thank you for your well wishes in my therapy journey. I appreciate how seriously you took my feedback and how well thought-out your responses have been. Based on these reasons, your open-mindedness, and sincere concern for those with psychiatric and/or neurophysiologic illnesses, I can tell you are far from just the “good enough therapist”. I also am saddened by the prevalence of mental illness including those within the justice and penal system. I wish more neuroscience could been elucidated by now, but the brain is so incredibly complex. (I think it may function, at least in part, in a quantum manner though that is a discussion for another day). I have access to my gene database so I have been looking up my allele genotypes for physiological and disease risks. There are probably tens of thousands of gene mutations available that it is quite overwhelming. I think there are over 15,000 genes alone that affect covid response. Just a couple of hours ago, I was looking through clinical studies for SNP’s and alleles associated with psychological traits and disorders. Almost all studies that evaluated genes and mutations were unable to make conclusions because the data was not statistically significant. The only genes that were found to be significant were either neurobiological diseases from birth or just personality traits. It surprised me that so little data was available, but it really shouldn’t have based on how much we are shaped by experiences, especially when we are very young. So much more to understand! At least we have come a very long way from simply banishing people we couldn’t understand to asylums and sanitariums. I’m glad that we are more understanding and realize that mental illness is a disability. Now I have rambled on! Thanks again

[@tiffanyhi2860]

Bravo, omg you're brilliant! I wasn't going to watch it, but couldn't stop watching til the very end! So captivating delivery! Thank you!

[@tulpenballerina]

This was so excellent! The interrogator AND you, dear Spidey! Thanks a lot!

[@lilylou4693]

The interrogation of Russell Williams is absolutely amazing. It's UNREAL to watch this man, crumble and fall in from of that beast of officer. They had NOTHING an still, he felt cornered and compelled to confess. A-mazing!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Agreed. One of the best interrogations I’ve ever seen

[@pamelac.3241]

@@TheBehavioralArts Behavioral Panel agreed! They couldn't wait to have him on their channel, and they all acted like kids in a candy story with questions for him. It was great!

[@celesteabdon]

I just love this channel so much. Thank you for everything you teach us Spidey 💖💖

[@blanchespinkblossom]

I love all your videos especially this one. Very insightful that I watched it twice, saved it on my playlist and bought all the books you recommended. Please make more videos like this! 😊

[@iamtwatson]

I love the video, great examples. I also often learn from mistakes, and would love to compare with botched interviews as well. Thanks for helping me be more aware in my interactions.

[@BeDifferent77]

I grew up in a home with abuse and domestic violence. Statistically, daughters of abusive fathers end up dating abusers. It took years for me to stop giving the wrong people the benefit of the doubt and listen to my gut. I got there because repeatedly I would uncover information months into a relationship after my gut had felt uneasy. Now, I do trust my gut, but it would be great to get the truth sooner more directly without having to wait for them to slip and leak evidence for me to find in a forensic shake down. Part 2 of why I need this is.... Because my dad has NPD, I've been studying behavior patterns of narcissists. I have actually learned how to detect when a person displaying narcissistic behavior is purposefully mining me for vulnerabilities. Interestingly, they often do things in the OPEN technique during their love bombing phase. (I'm proud of myself for identifying it before a first date about a year ago! It was just bizarre how he tried projecting sadness onto me to try to get me to open up about something causing pain when I was completely happy and satisfied with my life. -Too damn odd. The red flags were all over the place...I cancelled the date. But that OPEN misplay was just...smh... 😂) I think it's important to also see when unsavory folks who are gifted in manipulation are collecting ammunition they later use against you when you don't give them everything they want. I know that seems paranoid, but I seen these things happen. So it's a practical skill to avoid being too gullible as well as to find out the truth. Self protection is just so important , especially to a female city dweller who attends large social events regularly.

[@yvonneyvonneable]

Labeling is a very very very effective tactic teachers use and I used it daily when I used to teach.. it’s basically setting a standards and taking about it so positively, everyone is excited to embody it and be recognized for embodying it… After I left teaching I had to tweak my labeling to be a bit more sophisticated for adults though it’s funny to see which adults relate to the child-focused labels 🤣 Teachers use many of these and it’s almost innate when you study human behavior day to day which teachers do. Great video, thank you! ☺️

[@toriinprogress]

Love this lesson. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@angelavanderweijden1525]

Thx, love the way you keep it on the point!

[@paige6028]

I always fill up a notebook with notes when watching your videos. I enjoy taking notes the old school way! Some of these investigative tools seem to be common knowledge but it's not until you can put them all together that they give you that light bulb moment! I think back to the many interrogations that I've watched & recall how they used these tools. You are an AMAZING teacher! Thank you.

[@virtuallyme2518]

Lot to be said about the “old school” way... I can relate. The mind absorbs so much more when manually writing something down. I remember in high school, learning to write something ONCE, was equivalent to repeating something in your head multiple times. Physically writing something down on paper is associated with more robust brain activation... and significantly better memory optimisation... which kind of explains why kids these days don’t learn as effectively as they used to. Sometimes technology makes ya dumb...

[@pameladigaetano8119]

Fantastic! So intriguing...I missed a calling ❤

[@pameladigaetano8119]

Keep hearing Joe Navarro's name. 😊

[@denizday7785]

I burn out watching other (non-Spidey) people do behavior analysis because there seems to be a tendency to attribute negative meaning to the majority of analyzed behaviors without considering more innocuous causes. Spidey's analysis generally contains what comes off as compassion and humility by considering potential meaning from both positive and negative angles, which stops my brain from screaming "but what about..." I appreciate that the OPEN technique essentially requires the person asking questions to practice ascribing positive intent to a person's suspected actions in order for the technique to work. And I love that it leaves space for people, both guilty and innocent to tell the truth. I'll never be an interrogator, I have enough trouble just accurately conveying what I mean in day-to-day interactions, but I think the optimistic outlook and non-judgmental portions of the technique would be useful and relatively easy to incorporate into regular interactions, and would probably lead to understanding people better. I'm excited to have something from a behavior analysis video I feel capable and desirous of employing!

[@virtuallyme2518]

I struggle to believe that you have any difficulty conveying what you mean in day-to-day interactions ... you seem exceptionally intelligent and write so well...

[@briannab5296]

Very well said.

[@denizday7785]

@@virtuallyme2518 I apologize for not responding; I didn't see your comment earlier. You're very kind, so I wanted to say thank you. My ability to express myself varies; I've forgotten the word "shoe" in the middle of saying a four-word sentence.🤣🤦‍♀️ Brains are fun, and being human is an adventure 😂 But thank you for your kindness! I hope you're doing well.

[@virtuallyme2518]

@@denizday7785 Hi Deniz… I usually never bother to check my notifications to see if anyone’s written to me. For some reason today, I did… and found your sweet message. Thank you! Cok sevindim! I can thoroughly relate to what you said, but find it difficult to believe that someone who knows where to correctly place a semicolon, could possibly struggle with simple words 😂 … ❤️

[@kolosksenya1494]

Amazing and extremely useful stuff, thank you ❤️

[@tanyabeautycoach]

Thanks so much for making this! Saving it to re-watch and memorize it!

[@gallaieousyehudai12]

In order to find the truth, you must be patient, do not force it, be gentle, be determined. Applying truth and only speaking truth in your life somehow opens others to be truthful back. Relaxed facial expressions, relaxed body expressions, and calamity of your voice also helps. Also encouraging help, and use of a 2nd party (demon, substance, or person) due to people not wanting to take the full blame of their actions. There's a comfort zone that you have to work your way into, to unlock the door of which you seek. Trust plays it part as well. Sincerity. It's a big puzzle you have to work your way through, and there's a lot of moving peices like a an old watch. It requires honestly, someone who is mostly honest throughout their life to open a liars book.

[@marjoleinewelters1728]

The stars have aligned! Just started listening to the 6MX book, and am checking out the ABR these days. This fits so perfectly!! Loveing it!! Thank you for providing these cool clear examples 😄

[@macawlovers1964]

ABR?

[@marjoleinewelters1728]

Yes. Its made by the same man who wrote the 6MX books. 😄

[@EpicElevate]

Thank you so much for sharing your incredible knowledge! Your channel has become my absolute favorite, and I always look forward to your insightful content.

[@GetmydickouturAIDSinfctdmouths]

Thank you Spidey! Hopefully your information gets out everywhere. I can't believe how blind people are. Your combination of neurolinguistics and psychology are wonderful. Have a great life dude peace

[@jeffwhalen1978]

Spidey you're a genius! Thanks for sharing brother!

[@crimsonvixen9218]

My sister lies often so this will be useful to get the truth rather than another over exaggerated story/excuse on why she can’t do something or claims to not remember/says wasn’t there for past family events when she was etc. thank you for an informative video!

[@realestatecoach8626]

I actually use these techniques without realizing it was a technique and it does work. Wow! Thanks for sharing and being you!

[@eileengabellini6935]

Such great information. I always enjoy your content, and clear articulate unbiased presentation. Thank you🙏❤️

[@RMaines]

Spidey, this video is extremely helpful and the techniques are fascinating! Thank you for sharing your expertise and book recommendations. My favorite part: "No killer in history has ever eaten cookies." 😂 UPDATE: I just finished two of the books ("Get The Truth" and "Advanced Interviewing Techniques"). I enjoyed both immensely. Great recommendations!

[@FailFries]

This was great information. Thank you! I've experienced these points working in different situations without really knowing why they worked. The biggest thong I've found is the non judgmental and along with that, presenting yourself as a suuuuuper calm and logical person. It's a great tool against a defensive person.

[@pebethgbalidiong15]

This is why I like your channel spidey, very informative, methodical in presenting information, even your plug to "like" the video is on point. I am more inclined to like the video because you kept me so informed that not to like the video is just wrong. It only shows well you know your stuff. Kudos and more power to your channel 😊

[@deblarosa1703]

Great job of presenting information and in instructing on a level that anyone should be able to use. Thanks!

[@ShadowElen]

This was so interesting, thank you again Spidey! I realized that even though I am not an interrogator or an interviewer, I have been unconsciously using these techniques while talking with other people. I do social work and love to talk with people about their problems and sorrows and I want to know what they are thinking and feeling (so I could offer them better comfort and help). I think this makes me want to "know the truth" and I unknowingly try to coax "the truth" out.

[@wesmclaughlin9369]

Why people talk without an attorney is just mind blowing, never answer questions without one!

[@Kalancodragon]

Agreed, the winning move is to stonewall until you have a lawyer, but it takes some willpower and mental discipline, and it's understandable how in a high stress situation that can crack.

[@GusThePianist]

Yes, if the legal system was entirely corrupt I would agree that this would be recommended to everyone, but on the other hand I'm glad that it's not often thought about because otherwise there could be a chance of some serial murderers running around the streets when they wouldn't be otherwise. I think that our correctional situation is messed up, because recidivism is high in the US, but I also think it still serves more of a purpose than not. (Kinda like Richard Pryor on the importance of prisons) ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ One step at a time, we'll either degrade or improve, the carrot is often healthier than the stick. ❤

[@leetuki8166]

Really enjoyed this video, very useful personally and professionally thank you for making this one

[@jperez3995]

Great information and advice, Spidey! Thank you.

[@sunnycieli]

What worries me the most with all this brilliant content to be applied when facing someone to get the truth - It’s when you realise you are dealing with a serial con artist or liar who incessantly believes their own lies. Worst fear. But. Love this content and will try this when the opportunity presents itself ! Great material - Keep it up!

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Yes or someone who has such immense shame/denial defenses that they don't recognize what they're doing as being wrong.

[@aliciab4236]

Terrific video! This will require multiple viewings. Thank you! Agree with you on the chapter 8 in 6 Minute XRay.

[@almondhastings]

Jg

[@almondhastings]

Did interrogations for 15 years and disagree with you on P (place the blame). Too many people grab on to your suggestion and use it. They don't have to make up a lie as you gave them one. You can try an excuse for what they did if you plan to show later it could not be true, but you are gambling that they will grasp your approach and you will lose all trust. I think it's better to say something like "I don't understand what happened, can you please help me", then wait a bit and often they will fill the silence.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

It’s not “place the blame” it’s “project the blame.” Two very different things. You don’t blame someone else, ever. You are projecting the REASON. If they latch onto it it’s still a confession. Projecting blame is taught by the top CIA, FBI and military interrogators, I literally learned it from them and it has been proven to be extremely effective in allowing someone to feel better about what they did and open up.

[@almondhastings]

@@TheBehavioralArts thank you for your response. I obviously need to watch the video again and ruminate the difference. I think it may be connotation. Specializing in child abuse it's vital not to place blame but to approach with "let's work together to identify the problem and be a team to find a solution". They must see you as an advocate not a threat. Have to see how projecting fits in. I watch all you and Rob and Chase teach as it is never too late to learn.

[@desahastie8237]

This was fascinating. Thank you for sharing your vast knowledge and passion for what you do

[@heatherhawkins7808]

I love your OPEN technique. I think this information paired with James O. Pyle & Maryann Karinch's Find Out Anything From Anyone Anytime is extremely powerful.

[@hannuback]

Funny thing is that as a youthworker I've pretty much learned this by doing my work :D Of course I learned some good details from this video, but it's good to get some confirmation that I haven't been totally off in my behaviour. Though most of the time it's not necessary to know the whole truth, or even what exactly happened, but what are we gonna do now about the situation. Optimism and non-judgemental attitude goes a long way. It does help that I genuinely believe that the teenagers are not malevolent and act upon their best knowledge and intent at least most of the time.

[@bobhopeiv6987]

I hope for most that read it, the example at 32:28 was extremely impactful. Thank you for pushing excellent communication; it might just save the world. 🙏🏽🤙🏽

[@croneyr]

This is fantastic. I stumbled on some of this myself while trying to improve my debating skills. But this helps so much more. love the framework.

[@rick.d]

VERY nicely done, looking forward to the rest of your vids.

[@chriswilson7274]

That is brilliant. My biggest problem with those 4 is being nonjudgmental. And my sister, God rest her soul, used to always tell me that I sound condescending when speaking to people. I can't remember if it was to everyone or just some people. I want to get a degree in psychology to just have. Although, my friends say I have a gift for giving people the best advice for their situation. I am fascinating by human behavior, the brain and how it connects our minds with our souls and how emotions can greatly control us. My main problem with going to school is that I'm afraid. I'm afraid to pay money for school and then not be able to complete it because of Klinefelter's syndrome. I'm 52 and I feel like I dont have time to waste with failure. I've never been good in school. When they took the D grade out I quit high school. I later went on to do medical transcription but it took me 5 yrs to really get it down. I did that for 16 years. I learned a lot but I lack confidence in myself to pursue my dream and it remains a dream.

[@DawnDavidson]

Hey Chris, I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I wanted to mention that I’m in grad school right now to get a degree in psychology. I’m 60 now, so I really get not wanting to waste time or money! It took me a long time to make the jump (obviously), but I’d still encourage you to follow your dreams, especially if both you and others around you think you’d be good at it. I’ll also offer that I’ve found my school to be super supportive, and it’s not difficult to get admitted. They have programs to help people with various disabilities and learning challenges as well. I’m taking it a bit slowly, at 2 classes rather than 3 each term, and I know someone who is taking only one class a term. It’s possible to do it at your own pace. I’m on California, and the school I am attending is Golden Gate University, based in San Francisco. But there are students from all over. The school is aimed at adult learners, and they assume you have a life outside of school. When I started everything was online, but even now, most classes at least have an online option. That’s important to me because I’m constantly running back and forth to TN to deal with my own parents (both are in assisted living and one in memory care.) Check it out! If you don’t have an undergrad degree yet, GGU has programs for that too. I hope you’ll go after what you want and get that education!

[@melissakalopedakis3602]

I love the way you break it all down , poetic is a great description .. bottom line , it’s disarming someone deceiving them and trapping them , so it’s a complete form of manipulation softened with empathy … we both know that this interrogator carried absolutely no empathy for this murderer , he just wanted him to believe it with the goal of getting a confession … effective and brilliant , but it’s also deceptive , the worst kind of attack on a person is one delivered with sweetness and softness … hey I subscribed , you have some powerful knowledge . Thank you

[@JennWatson]

I low key want you to read those books you recommended, to us, in your videos! You are such a great teacher!

[@sassduffin4274]

Great comments! Thank you Spidey for sharing your knowledge, l feel comforted, because the truth that people predominantly are good and desire to be good. Life throws curve balls, our inner journey throws them too so we find ourselves in situations that are "not good". By working with the good in people we can see the truth is keen to come forth. Really remarkable. Thank you so much for this teaching/learning. 💖👍😎

[@LeaMessenger]

I agree with much of this. In a nutshell we could say just to apply the golden rule. Treat others as you would want to be treated. Yet for me I am so strong inwardly that if I was being interrogated I just keep listening to myself tell myself i.e.: “I won’t give in. I am not going to tell them XYZ. “And I follow that through and through I’ve been told I have a strong personality or a strong will that’s just me.:) Having said that I’m no criminal! I was raised in a partially abusive and traumatic home. People like us generally have a very strong survival or self protective mechanism inside. For me I also have a low tolerance for BS or being falsely accused etc. subconsciously I believe I have that three strikes you’re out rule. It’s sad sometimes because in one case I’m no longer at ease with a relative that I loved beyond… When I analyze what happened this person is severely critical and judge mental so there you go! Shut down because why keep going on with this person who wants to be in a position of power and why would she want this when we have been closely bonded it makes no sense to me but something like a thought or emotional wound is binding her to act this way. So it seems.

[@Rose-jz6ix]

Sometimes people who are judged or criticised a lot become that way as they age.

[@NicolaMaxwell]

Jim Smyth is a phenomenal interrogator. Someone commented on TPB "Jim Smyth keeps the Canadians friendly" 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@GApeach1313]

I always love your videos & learn so much from you Spidey. Thank you! Apparently I do some of this naturally. I can definitely remember individual times where I done some or all of the things you just talked about in your video, either in separate situations or the same situation. It’s great to have a more in-depth understanding now though. 😊

[@legitlyspelunking]

Lots of great things to take away from this video, thank you for always sharing your knowledge with us 😁

[@boldchick101]

Love the content, am certainly going to apply the techniques. My question would be on how to handle hardcore narcissists who live their lies as easily as they breathe. Your answer should be interesting, can't wait for your input. Thanks in advance.

[@kreshenahill5344]

I found this really useful. I have recently had a Foster child who lied about everything and got into a lot of trouble all the time (usually at school). She even made up stories about things that never happened. I wish I had known this when she was living with me but will definitely carry this knowledge on for future children. Thank you, Kreshena from the UK. 😊

[@shonta]

Thank you Spidey! Very informative and useful. You're the best!!

[@loresenra3011]

This video just blew my mind. Awesome content!

[@InvisibleRen]

This is mind blowing. My sister is a liar, has been since childhood and still is at nearly 30, and I always hated how my parents let her lie to them. They know she’s lying to their faces but they never call her out. Them offering her an explanation for her actions infuriated me the most because it meant she’s never telling you the truth. She’ll take the explanation they offer that’s softer and makes her look good because she wants to keep her real actions and motivations secret. There’s no desire to correct the record. She doesn’t admit the truth until things blow up in her face and she’s calling them for help. And even then only half of the truth is revealed. So yeah, it’s mind blowing to see you say that’s the best way to get the truth out of someone. Just watching the interrogation makes me bristle. I think I’m a very empathetic person but I’m also very straightforward and I really cannot imagine myself pandering to the humanity of a murderer or someone who endangers their kids when I know there’s no humanity in them in that regard. But this is why I don’t talk to my sister when she gets like that. 😂 I don’t have the patience for steadfast shameless liars. Anyway, OPEN obviously works for many people, but I don’t know who I’d use it on. It’s the steadfast liars hurting me and my loved ones I need to get the truth from and none of the acronym works on them.

[@lwolfstar7618]

Yeah I think it isn't very likely to work on those with personality disorders (based on life of exp with them and studying cluster b personality disorders for a decade)

[@eda703]

Spidey out here giving us uni without the tuition fee

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Hahaha ❤️

[@zoeymichael3966]

Just want to say that your videos are amazing! 👌 Thanks so much for your fantastic explanations. Love it!

[@victoriagrow30]

I love all of these tips! I’ve never heard of these either!! And the scripts at the end was amazing to have examples of real life situations… Like suspected cheating! Great job

[@ts-ok9mo]

Could you maybe do a video on how to avoid „Uumm“‘s or on what techniques we can use to not lose our train of thought? I would be very interested in that. :-) Also, I love this video. You always manage to put so much information in every sentence, it‘s fascinating.

[@taylorseigler]

This! I interrupt others more than I'd like in conversations because I can't keep a thought long enough to finish listening to what they're saying.

[@virtuallyme2518]

@@taylorseigler at least you admit it’s something you don’t like doing... or is it? Most of us stop doing the things we don’t like doing Simply because we don’t like doing them. There are multiple reasons why people interrupt others when they’re speaking... one of which might be that you have ADHD ... or you might be narcissist ... you might have borderline personality disorder ... it might also be ingrained in your DNA... your culture... a result of your environment... growing up in a large family where it was a struggle to be heard is also a possibility ... or you simply lack communication skills ... patience... respect for others. If you’re more concerned about forgetting an idea before the other person finishes speaking... you might even have poor focus or ability to retain information... either way you have an over inflated sense of self and importance and believe that what you have to say is more important than the person you feel the need to interrupt ... this goes hand-in-hand with having control issues... you may have been the oldest child in the family where you had to take control ... where you had adult responsibilities for your siblings ... you might also feel a sense of insecurity where you constantly need attention ... born out of childhood neglect or abuse or you might simply be hard of hearing ... but either way it’s just plain rude!

[@okeydokey3120]

Thank you! This will be interesting. Raising teenagers is a bit daunting, and I've got 4 teens! I'm thinking I'm gonna need practice.

[@pearlhartney9]

Loved this! It is always so interesting to find out these techniques.

[@sallybuckley9186]

Brilliant thread of information delivered succinctly to get to the truth. I really needed to hear the intentionality of staying positive and weaving the conversation in the direction and outcome to end in truth. I've screwed up ALOT and own it. These techniques are priceless. Wish I met you years ago. Would hv saved $$$ ... a lot of $$. Bought the lies, deceit. Ty very much...