11 Signs He’s Serious About You | Matthew Hussey

[@ChristianaSenibo]

When he’s serious about you and wants a healthy relationship, he’ll be more open to conversations about making things right and moving past the misunderstanding.

[@CrazyCormac]

I have been trying to talk to my gf since last 9 days about fixing the relationship and miscommunication we had.. she dumped me after 8 years just bec of some miscommunication.. she just keep saying i dont love you anymore and i dont have feelings for you.. and just like that.. she broke up with me via msg.. have been crying ever since.. its really heartbreaking bec i put all my heart into it.. I can definitely fix the relation if she would give then... its scary.. and exhausting..

[@Key_1111]

So true!

[@aali1134]

@@CrazyCormac i'm in a 4 year relationship and sometimes I just feel like I want to give up because he doesn't communicate well with me. I've told him exactly what he needs to do to communicate better but its like he doesnt try. Maybe one day this will be the reason i leave him. Maybe she tried with you for years and couldn't do it anymore. As a woman you want your partner to be your best friend but how can he be your best friend if he can't even talk to you properly.

[@CrazyCormac]

@@aali1134 i did talk with her properly.. we were the besttt friends everrr.. like literally everrrrr... I loveddd here unconditionally... Its just that m going through depression and m struggling with my career a lit.. and since she just started intership.. she gets tired a lot.. only in the noon 1:30 PM she has lunch break.. and whatever m doing.. i m 99% of the time, be free at that time so i can talk with her for half an hour.. and at night when shes at home shes soooo tired that she cant even open her eyes.. so i dont bring up heavy conversation.. i believe thst at night you should just talk abt soft stuff..and just be there for herr.. so she can have a good sleep.. tell me is it really that bad to think abt your GFs mental health and physical health??😭😭

[@itz_vee-ho5ug]

@@CrazyCormac how are you now? Did things mended with her?

[@roseannare]

Nothing makes me happier than seeing a man in love and knowing a woman being loved. I've been single for 7 years now and I hope the same bliss and love will find me too.

[@cabincrewunuseditems7147]

6 years over here. May God bless us with one that do love us in return.

[@thesocialintrovertchronicles]

Amen to the three of us 🙏🏻

[@TubeManagement]

@@cabincrewunuseditems7147 if you two are over 35 with kids …. May as well call it a day

[@suzyclear7668]

I pray you find the right person soon and it’s easy and long and happy ❤️

[@cabincrewunuseditems7147]

@@TubeManagement lemme correct that. Im 33 never been married,no kids instead I own two houses, 2 cars, not just some cars ya.. career driven of course and im still smokin hawts af. what about you tho? 🍺

[@ER-km6tn]

1. He brags about you infront of other people 1:12 2. He's willing to mix your lives in a way that might be inconvenient to him 1:36 3. Your happiness becomes more important to him than his tastes 2:08 4. He's willing to adjust the temperature of his house 2:36 5. He plans a trip with you months in advance 3:06 6. He respects the things that are important to you 3:30 7. The fights have less ultimatums 4:21 8. He's less affected by his friends' teasing 5:15 9. He stops worrying so much about "Fear of Missing Out" 6:36 10. He starts collecting momentos that tell your story 7:59 11. His associations with commitment itself change 8:47

[@han-oc8vl]

Good work

[@anna-mariavesey6137]

🤔 Hmm I get 6 out 11 😂

[@thaobenn6339]

Thank you for this good job. 👏👏👏👏👏👍👍👍👍👍

[@PtolemyXVII]

The irony if I’ll only date a guy who has these 11 qualities already 😂

[@shannond.5916]

@@anna-mariavesey6137 Better than 1 out of 11 😥

[@MsBee-oz7vd]

I am 60 and started dating again. The guy I am dating put in a ceiling fan in his room because I sleep hot. He also does adjust the temperature when I am at his place! He also replaced his mattress because his was over 10 years old and hurting my back. He actually bought the mattress I suggested! I was shocked and pleasantly surprised when he did that!

[@simini1837]

Such a cool comment! Enjoy Miss Bee!

[@gigi9301]

Congratulations!! Sounds like a Keeper for Sure!! I'm 54 and feel jaded and lost after online dating for quite a while....I seem to pick all the "unavailable" guys and I have that Horrible Anxious attachment style.

[@MsBee-oz7vd]

Gigi,I am in Florida, where are you at? If you want to chat, Let me know dear!

[@gigi9301]

@@MsBee-oz7vd I'm in Colorado; how do we chat? Yes, I would like that!!

[@AstarionWifey]

@@gigi9301 dang men don’t change even throughout the ages huh

[@mrslinajackson7775]

Number 1. When he starts pumping gas and making sure you always have fuel in your vehicle. And cleaning your windshield and checking the air pressure in your tires, you know you have a winner! 33 years married. 🥰

[@pickmeupstix]

Oh my gosh.... he literally topped my car off with gas and then treated me to lunch a few days ago 😹 First time hanging out one on one lolz

[@josephang9927]

Lol i don't even do that for my car.

[@-.a9942]

I don’t know but my brother does that for me 😂😂I wouldn’t consider that important for a future husband to do thought

[@mrslinajackson7775]

You have a wonderful brother, he is or will make a wonderful husband, an act of serving that should be greatly not over looked but appreciated. Blessings 🙂

[@beecat9951]

That's sweet 😊 I don't have a car but I have a guy who goes out of his way to drive me to places, which is something I also appreciate.

[@ambercockcroft9801]

My boyfriend also proposed to me 2 weeks ago. Congratulations Matthew on your engagement 💍. Your advice has really helped me with my relationship.

[@ErikaGB33]

Congrats!

[@chicoutimicucumber3351]

Few things harder than cultivating a meaningful relationship. Think the best sign is when it feels natural and organic from the start. If you have to work too hard, sacrifice too much, find yourself ignoring obvious red flags, and sometimes contorting yourself in the hope the other person will change, then there’s a good chance you’re not with the right person. I think we all know the ecstasy of that first flirtatious glance and the feeling of closeness, safety and pure joy when you’re with someone you trust and love. Those feelings need to be there fairly early on in a relationship. Shouldn’t require that much chasing. When it’s right you just know it. I wish us all boundless love.

[@danielavallejo7306]

totally agree with you, great comment

[@icequeen491]

Not in all cases dear. Sometimes you have no clue and sometimes it takes a bit of time to realise

[@patiencemtetwa]

Well said, I always thought I have to work hard at it and I found myself miserable I'm just glad I decided to say enough is enough. I'm more happy just by myself

[@piak78]

in my experience the only sure shot way to know if a guy is serious about u is if he proposes to u for marriage. Some guys will do all these relationship stuff and yet be detached from u emotionally. Ladies please dont b fooled. Taking you to his mom has nothing to do with him popping the diamond ring at u.

[@icequeen491]

I believe in letting love lead. Love will make two people drop the silly act and just wanna make it work for the sake of being together.

[@lisahurst1940]

The temperature of the house thing had me rolling! True! I would add that he knows what kind of bed pillows you like best and always makes sure you are comfortable and content to your list. Best lines in the whole video: commitment isn’t him giving something up, but that which he wants to go to because it brings him peace and contentment. That is the true game changer for any relationship! Congrats on your engagement Matthew!

[@skullbitehead7317]

Funnily enough, I watch this because I want to see if I do a good job for my girlfriend, and it has been all true of what he stated. Makes me so happy, even when she is angry at me right now.

[@abby7070]

What was she upset about? Did you work it out?

[@JM-yh9pd]

I have a lot of sympathy for people who are not sure whether they're ready for a relationship--I myself was quite hesitant at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend. That being said, if you're looking for 'signs' someone is definitely ready, they should be pretty obvious. My boyfriend told me on the second date that he really liked me, he made a mid-week date happen after our first because he was going to be out of town the next weekend, we met each other's friends early on, like a month in he told me he saw a future with us, and then two months in he asked me to be his girlfriend (as opposed to leaving the status unclear). I met his family three months in and he was excited when the opportunity came to meet mine.

[@Meg.1122]

Are you still together? I had a guy that told me he saw a future with me, which freaked me out, and not because I didn't want to -actually that was sweet and undexpected-, but it was because of my anxiety and fear of abandoment that I reacted that way. I right now thinking if it was really my anxiety/abandoment fear that hold me back to be with him or maybe I was just not ready. Anyway, hope you're still together, he sounds like he's a keeper.

[@JM-yh9pd]

@@Meg.1122 Yes we are! We’ve been together about a year and a half. I have some extreme abandonment trauma, like truly, so I get where you’re coming from. Honestly, it was very uncomfortable emotional work at first to learn to trust him, and sometimes it still comes up, but now we’re built so much trust that I know I can tell him when I need some reassurance, and he’ll give it to me. I don’t have to pull away. It only hurts both of us when I do that instead of communicating.

[@lc4972]

Had a guy do most of these. Even after telling me on the first date that he wanted somthing serious. After every weekend and a few complete weeks spent together for 5.5 months, he told me that he was just seeing what kind of relationship he could have and that he had no feelings for me. Essentially, I was his lab rat. But our friends met each other, we did lots of social events together, we hosted parties together, etc. Like I said most of what is mentioned in this video, including changing the temperature of his house for me. When I asked why he would do all that for someone he had no feelings for, he said he was trying to be a good partner. You better believe I walked. Got right back out there too. After previously being in a narcissistic relationship for almost 15 years, I've made a promise to myself to never stay if it's not healthy. And being with someone who has no feelings for you is not healthy. BTW, as I walked out the door, he voluntarily admitted that he had married a previous wife just to see if he could get her. 🙃🙄🥴🤯

[@domtekos7761]

Another narcissistic sociopath for you there then... seeing people as experiments and it all being about themselves and using people like it's all a game. Sorry you went through all that.

[@Grace-qb2vb]

proud of you girl!

[@amorx36]

Wow! Thats crazyy how did you found out he has no feelings for you?

[@lc4972]

@@amorx36 dating that long and not wanting to be wasting my time, I forced the conversation. Letting him know that I had feelings for him. After he told me he had no feelings for me, I asked him why would he do all the things he had done with me and for me. He said he was just trying to be a good partner. 🤷‍♀️. Asked him why he would tell me he wanted a serious relationship in the beginning. He said being with me helped him realize that he was mistaken and only wanted a casual relationship. He did say it wasn't intentional, but I think it was. If I had never brought it up, he would've let me continue until who knows when, knowing he had no feelings for me. On the way out the door, I let him know that he can't call me his girlfriend. That the term "girlfriend" was reserved for the guy who had feelings for me.

[@kassandra21590]

@@lc4972 he obviously has some kind of personality disorder or SOMETHING. That’s sooooo wrong and I hate that you went through that.

[@GinAmber]

I'm seriously so happy for you, I remember in the 2020 retreat you were crying during meditation, now so happy to see you smiling and involve, you deserve the best Matt xo

[@cosodesign8953]

This feels more like “hey look at me I’ve been in the same room as this guy” and less how you think it comes off. It’s inappropriate to tell us about a vulnerable moment he had. Yikes.

[@57andstillkicking]

@@cosodesign8953 Judging someone’s heart motives is way above your pay grade!!

[@MzRiley1272]

@@cosodesign8953 Exactly! We didn't need to know that.

[@cosodesign8953]

@@57andstillkicking it definitely is, but I stand by what I said 🤷🏻‍♀️ the comment was unnecessary.

[@Music4EverKanekavi]

This was almost the coolest comment ever,

[@marcela2699]

I’m so happy for you , you have been helping others to find the right one , now you get what you deserve !!!💗

[@thebullwhisperer916]

I was chasing guys to escape my own issues. I need to stop giving them my time because toxic attracts toxic. Time to really get my life together building my self-confidence. Gotta stay busy!

[@nitakate10]

Lmao love it. I was married for 8 years. We were younger and he was immature. 11 years divorced and got back together on our daughters 18th birthday in Bali. Been 7 years now. I can tick all of these now. We’ve both grown up and now learnt by mistakes and now companionship. 🙏❤️

[@JMGblvd]

I wish you a wonderful life!! You give so much! I am 77yrs and still love to hear how you are advising the younger! Advice i know i could have used in a fun, busy life!

[@johnster02]

i literally had this happen to me this week after a first date with a girl i met in a ballroom dance class at penn state. it was intense. totally changed me. perfectly described. i’ve always been single but i think that is about to change

[@TanzaniteHayley]

I’m 6 months into a new r’ship and he loves, respects me and he is very committed. Looking forward to seeing how many of the 11 things he does

[@SKohli-js9lu]

Hi, I hope you had a success in your relationship. Please share the update, if it’s alright for you.

[@Charlotte-Willow]

Dang it! I’m 7 months out of a 12 year relationship with no proposal and too jaded to finish this video.

[@lanalane5856]

Because you didn’t make marriage a requirement.

[@nogasdivone2753]

You can tell you speak from the heart and the feelings you experience yourself, thankyou for making videos so timely to your own life, it adds a layer of deep honesty to your content, much appreciated

[@bobbirose2495]

He brags about you in front of others? That’s what narcissists do to make other people believe they are sincerely loving and appreciative towards their partners. My ex-husband did that all the time in public. I was always being told how lucky I was to have such a great guy. In reality, he had no interest in anything I did or anything about me and most of the time he ignored me.

[@JANEYZANEY]

I can second thats true

[@k.g.1698]

No Narks, brag about what they do for you, not about you. Big difference.

[@LifeandLoveTarot]

I really, really feel it’s the energy you put out and how open you are to them. You can tell within 3 to 4 dates if they like you and want something more.

[@sebastianmartin8665]

Can confirm!! As a man, i do this all the time

[@denisedorazio5424]

Congratulations on your engagement. I’m truly happy for you and your fiancé

[@vickiebush597]

Your vulnerabilty is strengthening to all men. Especially on this International Women's Day! Thank you Matthew....

[@jacquelinehovey2671]

that suits me 1000% now !! thx for this content these days . your channel has always been life changing as well as my best friend i met in kindergarten. she has teached me a lot and also she recommended me and my man using herbal drops spanish fly which are for both genders

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*It's all about the little things he does that show his genuine commitment and love. Excited for what the future holds!*

[@katherineping182]

I need these to remind myself that I deserve a lot better. Never be treated in any of these ways, a little sad, tbh.

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Me too. Says more about the man’s character than ourselves. ;)

[@MariyaTerzieva]

Love #11! Just by listening to you talking about it I can feel how much you love your fiancé.

[@IdiomofSad]

11 out of 11… I honestly feel like the luckiest woman alive. 💗💗

[@yeeyee353]

The last relationship I was in he did all of this and end up saying he doesn’t want anything serious.

[@shambhavipatel9183]

Now that's seriously a bummer. 🤦👽

[@mistywilliams2707]

Me too. Were together 8 months and decided to leave me. He fit in this category as well. Has me going crazy.

[@anjijack5392]

Yikes! So sorry.

[@yeeyee353]

@@mistywilliams2707 we we’re together for 5 months. He introduced me to all his friends and family. I went as far as introducing him to my family as well… I should’ve waited longer. After 1 month he got into a relationship….

[@justacoginthefkery]

Honestly, it's incredibly rare for a guy to be showing all these signs within 5 months... unless he's lovebombing. Lovebombers will do all the right things right from the start until they either get bored, gain control, find someone who better fits their wants or avoidance attachment rears it's head. Then, they drop you as quickly as they seemed to commit, often moving on at lightening speed. From where I'm sitting, you likely dodged one heck of a bullet & possibly years of trauma with that one.

[@k.e.h5753]

he did all these things and then left me for someone younger. this makes me feel more hopeless than ever. thanks for the reminder how unlovable i am.

[@brittanyhernandez5703]

One of the best videos you’ve ever made! Straightforward, transparent, and pure honesty. Thank you 😊

[@5thdimensionliving727]

Many congratulations Matthew in your engagement ! Very thrilled for you both. Your advice has been instrumental in me finding my partner four months this ago after being single for 6 years prior to a failed 20 year marriage. Absolutely love all of your content. Interestingly, my partner meets all 11 points!! Gives me more confidence in my new relationship. Look forward to more Gr8 content 🙏🙏🙏

[@annesom5648]

When the right guy or a serious guy at least, comes your way, you don’t even wonder.

[@Incognit0777]

Met a girl online, we clicked almost immediately, I tried my best to do all of these as it felt right, there was a miscommunication on one aspect - talking about exes/previous experiences - but I got carried away with my stories due to insecurity about my lack of experience, so this ruined the great connection we had online for a month. I tried fixing it and she said she liked me but she could no longer see me as a potential partner after what I shared. We were talking day and night and were about to meet up next month and then it all went downhill from there just because of that. I'm still not over it as I thought she might turn out to be the one for me, while she already posted a story with another guy a few days after it all ended. This just goes to show how expendable I am and that she doesn't deserve my energy anymore. I'm tired of trying to find someone, I think I might be better off alone as I've always been. It's a sad state to be in, but once I come to terms with it, it's one of peace.

[@sayonosato702]

This is sad

[@dion5804]

Be open to new opportunities for love always. Don't close yourself like this.

[@scc8728]

Awww congrats Mat. Such a nice guy helping woman all over the world. That's such lovely news.

[@erinhappy-go-lucky5040]

Hi Matthew 😎. I guess that I’m the odd duck within your fandom. I wasn’t really curious about why you weren’t in a committed relationship. From my perspective, we as souls, have experiences that lead us to where we are meant to be and there is a perfect timing for everything. It brings a sense of peace when we allow life to unfold before us and trusting in the process. I am so happy that life has led you to your person! You deserve it! You have so much wisdom and helpful insights to bringing love and connection into people’s lives! I am grateful for the contribution that you’ve made to my journey of personal development and the tools that you have given me to love on myself, as well as confirming that I’m headed in the right direction to a romantic partnership. I’m in no hurry to attain the outcome, but enjoying the process as it unfolds for me. For the first time in my life, I am in complete awe of my person treating me the way that I deserve to be treated. His patience, effort, devotion, and respect for my standards and boundaries, makes me feel safe and cherished. It is incredibly magnetic and healing! I want to spoil him in a similar way, inspired by my own creativity. He is my muse. It makes my relationships of the past worthwhile, because they are like the milestones on a map, leading me to treasure.

[@poohbear6759]

Hi Matthew . Could you do a vlog on relationships with big age gaps. I talking age gaps of up to 25 -30 years plus . Also how realtionships that are formed as the result of cheating usually turn out in the long run. What does the research say. Love your channel. x

[@GwenivereYF]

1. He brags about you in front of other people. 2. He’s willing to mix your lives in a way that might be inconvenient for him. 3. Your happiness becomes more important to him than his tastes. 4. He’s willing to adjust the temperature of his house. 5. He plans a trip with you months in advance. 6. He respects the things that are important to you. 7. The fights have less ultimatums. 8. He’s less affected by his friends’ teasing. 9. He stops worrying so much about “fear of missing out”. 10. He starts collecting momentos that tell your story. 11. His associations with commitment itself change.

[@doaawaheed8947]

Congratulations on being engaged 😍😍😍😍 I am really so happy for you 🥰🤩🤩

[@Cahriicchuu]

The Encanto soundtrack is amazing!! Sounds like she is doing you a favor exposing you to great things! Haha. Congratulations to you both!!

[@hf1323]

0:19 that's my life. Family always says /thinks there's something wrong with me because no guy has ever took initiative to ask me out.

[@zitatoth2333]

Hi there! I follow your videos for a month now....and it's very useful. Thx 😊 I actually learn how to look at my relationship objective and come and not get excited and frustrated about everything. This is a chapter of my life where I learn how to grow, how to respect myself more and pick a right guy . I don't get angry if something doesn't work,I just realized "ok this is not what I want and it's not good for me" . Thank you for that 😊

[@Chinaza-ekpere]

Congratulations on your engagement. Lots of blessings

[@unicornsarereal8484]

This is one of the most wonderful news I've heard this week (and oh boy, don't we need more wonderful news!). It made me smile with happiness. Congratulations to the both of you. 🧡🧡

[@maryblue75]

It’s so sweet you seem so much more calm and loving. The love shows. Lucky her and lucky you. I wish you all the happiness in the world…

[@RenaWith]

Great stuff....only narcissist will also plan future travels, dreams, houses...that's one of the love bombing techniques.... He'll also move things fast, secrifise and move in with you in no time...love bombing again and not wanting you to have the time to think. He LL also do stuff you want to do...at the beginning..and he'll make sure you pay one way or the other for it ...um just saying all this stuff mentioned could be love bombing too...so be aware..Too good to be true, it's not true.

[@stephaniemand]

I really needed this video! I was losing hope in mankind and hearing a wonderful man actually ready to get serious into building a long-lasting relationship with the woman he loves, just warms my heart! Thank you for sharing these incredible insights of what true love from a man looks like! Thank you & God bless !

[@andywang6918]

Thank you very much. Your video just confirmed my break up with my ex was just, and I was not acting crazy or needy. I am always his backup plan. I come after his friends and after his ME time. And when we are together he would appear bored. I would be carrying most of the conversation. But he would always tell me he likes me and he’s just weird like that. But he would never change his schedule for me or make any inconvenience on his part for me. After 4 months I finally was fed up and broke it off. I was doubting this decision, but your video helped me to see it clearly that I did the right thing. Thank you!

[@973shero9]

You made the right situation. I had almost the same experience during 1 year

[@RivitaMusic]

This isn’t just true for men, this is also true for women.

[@melocoton7]

Funny your video popped up :D I haven't watched any for years... it reminded me of a time when I was sort of starting to date a guy. We texted at the beginning of the week and the topic came to Friday evening. He was all vague and "yeah let's see closer to Friday if there is something fun to be done" instant turn off for me. I literally wrote back "do you really think I'm going to be waiting around all week, just to see if you have no better plans than to hang out with me?" I never saw him again. I like thinking back to that moment, because when I met my now husband, none of these games were even an issue. It was easy from the start and almost 9 years in it's still easy.

[@hippiechic15kelsey7]

Congratulations on your engagement 💍 👏 It is absolutely beautiful, to hear about love and commitment ❤️ I appreciate your work 😊

[@klaudiam8396]

you're wonderful with all your videos and advice - I'm a big fan - well done!

[@succulentlife3343]

You got engaged!! That's so awesome. You need to bring her on and introduce her. She must be amazing 😁🥰

[@5-minute-witness356]

Congratulations Matthew, what a fortunate woman! And fortunate you to have found her. If there is just one good thing that has come out of our broken society with its broken relationships and relationship expectations, it's that men like you shine out with empathy, integrity and all the best qualities of masculinity in action. It's become so rare, and is one of the things about your videos that makes them stand far above the rest. They have helped me many times in navigating difficult, painful courses while trying to both give and receive something genuine and real. Warmest regards to you and your fiancee, with many thanks that I may through your work one day have and give something as high quality as every human heart needs.

[@Amelia..B.B]

Oohhhh.... Someone's met the one... Congratulations Matthew and your beautiful finance ❤️

[@HaydenNightingale124]

I loved the banter between Matt and Jamason. Thanks for not editing that out. Couldn't hear what Jamason said though.

[@katherineemery789]

Congratulations!! It’s your turn ❤️

[@darlenelorenz4607]

So happy for you congratulations to your engagement 🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉🍾🍾🍾🍾

[@SheOnEarth]

My boyfriend has 2-3 of these, does it mean he’s not as serious? We live together but he can’t give me quality time.

[@kavyamalladi7300]

Do you have any tips for gay/lesbian dating? you have such a wonderful take on these things and I would love to hear anything you have for the other side!

[@waterydepths5584]

I'm so happy for you and your lovely partner. Best wishes on a beautiful future together.

[@bt4582]

I feel like this was such a non-intentional diss to Celine! Too funny.

[@anjijack5392]

Our hearts will go on! ❤😁

[@liliyabaneva]

Happy for you Matthew! Hope to see many more videos from you! ❤

[@merylparks1584]

Congratulations Matthew I wish you much happiness in your marriage, I'm very happy you and your partner found each, love for a lifetime ❤

[@babysab8013]

Wow Matt congratulations ! Happy for you

[@madamecurious]

Beautiful and heartfelt message… thank you so much 💙

[@priscillalynch21]

I'm crying I can't wait to find my person, all these things are my new standard. My ex and I recently broke up and he did the exact opposite of ALL the things listed instead.

[@sharkbait9068]

I love your #1. I love when a guy doesn't this, but I didn't realize how important it was to me or how secure it made me feel until someone actually did it for me. This might just be included in my standards now 😎.

[@deliapasqualini970]

I am very sad to say I am absolutely skeptical a man could ever do all the things you mentioned for a woman.

[@drunkencitizen6168]

Are women capable of doing the female equivalent of this for a man? Probably the same answer.

[@deliapasqualini970]

@@drunkencitizen6168 I guess women are more likely to do this than men

[@Ksam9803]

Congratulations Matthew and prayers for abundant joy, peace & love for you both💗 Thank you for sharing all of your brilliant insights & wisdom😘

[@veronicamitchell9378]

Congratulations on your engagement. Wishing you infinite happiness & success in your relationship

[@deirdresantos5642]

The sad thing is that everyone knows this and unfortunately some will use it as a manipulation tool.

[@raniafakir4482]

OMG!!! in this case i think that'll be single in forever , Ain't no man i dated has reached these levels of commitment , just keep wondering where did i went wrong?!!

[@lynaeeakettgreene7208]

I like this guy, we've become friends. My ex husband asked me to take my kids to see him a 12 hour drive away, which is about 2 days closer in travel than he lives. I mentioned that I hoped I could find someone that would come with me so I didn't have to drive alone. Within a week he told me he could come with me, and we've been making plans for driving down ever since. And it's still several weeks away. We aren't yet together, but it does seem like the liking is mutual

[@princessthato7984]

Congratulations! 🎉🍾🎊🎈

[@selenemotoko]

Your face when you spoke about listening to Encanto in the car, priceless the pain was very evident lol 😂 great points as always thank you Mathew

[@jenniferbyers1375]

“ why so many audience members ask me that men these days won’t seem to want to commit “ - not to sound condescending in any way - this could be due to sample bias. The people who have found the the men who will commit are in a serious relationship now, and are a lot likely to become Matthew’s audience. The people who are actively seeking help are the people that are struggling. There are plenty of good men out there , you just need to learn to 1) become great women yourselves 2) know how to identify them. But also , just love yourself - even if you don’t find a man you can still live a fulfilled life !

[@takde]

CONGRATULATIONS! 🎉

[@janettemcnally814]

Congratulations Matt you deserve every happiness!!! Whoever she is I hope she knows how lucky she is 😊

[@janettemcnally814]

@Write Me 𝟴𝟬𝟯𝟳𝟴𝟬𝟰𝟮𝟯𝟵 Hey

[@CrazyFlynPandaz]

Gs, Ive been with my fella for 10years. Ive asked him to move in together.... His response was "where we gonna live". Guess he'll never be ready.....

[@saraifascinetto5437]

Congratulations for living this wonderful experience! May it last a life (and others, why not?)!!! ❤️🌺✨🍀🥂🤲🏼🙏😊💯

[@mandi5417]

This is the best talk I've ever seen you give in years, thank you for your honesty.

[@annettec8261]

Congratulations !!🥂 Beautiful news. 🌹

[@guroberger4101]

I'm so happy for you! It's really inspiring! 🙂

[@essencesky8236]

It is not just men who won't commit. Women too. And I can relate to.this post of yours. Because for 15 years now my relatives, parents, grandmas asks the same thing with added salt. Its not that we don't want to commit it is just that we just don't see the point esp if one is not deserving of us.

[@nubian_queen4471]

I like how #3 was so personal looool. Congratulations, Matthew!

[@sarahqamar6377]

Mathew the look on your face a while back and now Ma Shaa Allah the spark is back👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❣❣❣

[@lesleyfjelly9816]

Congratulations Matthew. Best wishes for a wonderful journey with you love❤

[@Sophie-fq8ef]

1. He brags about you infront of other people : check 2. He's willing to mix your lives in a way that might be inconvenient to him : no 3. Your happiness becomes more important to him than his tastes : no 4. He's willing to adjust the temperature of his house : no 5. He plans a trip with you months in advance 3:06 : some 6. He respects the things that are important to you : some 7. The fights have less ultimatums : no 8. He's less affected by his friends' teasing : maybe 9. He stops worrying so much about "Fear of Missing Out" : never 10. He starts collecting momentos that tell your story : check 11. His associations with commitment itself change : some well.. not sure my ex was serious about me.. we tried to marry but broke up 3 months ago. It wan't healthy relationship but still hurt..

[@gigi9301]

I wish I had watched more videos like this BEFORE i started online dating. Since getting divorced seven years ago...here I am still single and just burned out. I think I put too much effort into the wrong relationships (meeting interesting but unavailable guys online), and I'm jaded/ lost. I have probably turned down many more appropriate people, but I'm afraid of caring and trusting again.

[@tinaschultz1976]

Congratulations so happy for you Matthew 🙏🏼🥰

[@mrtarn55]

omgg the FOMY part hahaha, i find this video treasure congratulations matthew you look like the happiest partner in the world 🙌🏼🥺

[@wherethesunsets1082]

Congrats, dear counselor 🎊🥳

[@marialaben9089]

Congratulations!!! 9 out 11 you mentioned his doing! Thank you for this video, I knew he really cared and this Video have me clarity. Finally someone who takes responsibility on their action vs words.

[@lichen9071]

Hi Matthew, thanks for sharing that. A lot men have first to lose the person they with to understand how important this person is in their life. They actually expierence the fear of missing the person during a break up. So I am curious about did you also find out her importance to you because you already have had the situation where you felt the anxiety of having lost the person? If not yet, how long has you spend time with her till you notice she has become the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? It is often a difficult situation for women that they are in, because as long as they are with the man, he won‘t have any pressure to make a commitment. Many men will delay it, sometimes it can take many years. This makes the woman feel more and more insecure in the relationship. Very often the relationship takes a negative turn even because the woman feels more and more stress in the lack of security. The men themselves don‘t see it as a problem. their justify it by saying they need that time to be sure and blame the woman for her „lack of patience“. But this reproach is not fair. Because sometimes you deal with a man who may not want a commitment per se. So he will keep as long as you can. You are going to waste your time, energy and another chance if you are being patient with this kind of man. But it is very difficult to know what is the real reason for his lack of commitment. If he is missing something of her qualities, she could improve herself. But if the reason was his own personality issues, then there’s nothing she can change. Many men claim they will settle down once they meet the right person. But I would also count many of them among those men who do not want a commitment. Because these men often have an unrealistic vision, or very high demands that are simply unrealistic. But at the same time, they are never willing to improve themselves in order of being a good partner in a longterm commitment. For example, some men believe that the right woman would never argue with him. Therefore, as soon as there is an argument between him and his partner, he immediately questions the whole relationship by asking whether there is a future for both. Some of these men are already 40+ or 50+ and still on the journey of finding the right woman

[@yokosato6617]

Li Chen Youre name...😂 My Japanese name is embarrassing too

[@goodmusic729]

So true

[@hiromiyamaguchi2951]

Congratulations on your engagement ‼️…greetings from Maui,Hawaii 🌈🏝🤙🏾

[@fransa2]

The color cordination on this video is phenomenal😄😍💛💚👌