The 16 RED FLAGS You Need To Avoid When DATING... | Matthew Hussey

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In this week’s brand-new video, I invite you to play a game with my brother Stephen and me as we dive into a topic everyone’s asking about: red flags and amber lights (or “yellow lights” depending on where you live).
While I’m guessing you’ve heard of the dangers of red flags, amber lights can be misunderstood. In fact, they can do one of two things: they can either reveal a major compatibility flaw between you and the person you’re dating, OR if appropriately handled and resolved, they can bring you closer together and even be the making of your relationship.
This is not the case with red flags, however, and when you ignore them, you do so at your peril.
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[@agirl5242]

my red flag is when the guy says “i feel like i don’t deserve you” from now on i will not be opening Pandora’s box 😂

[@michellelaudet5363]

Proper response to that is you are quite possibly right about that. 😉 then run.

[@greggibson4528]

Girls do the same but say things like “you don’t want a woman like me” NOPE 👎

[@yourfavoritememory4223]

Can you explain, why that's a red flag? (So that I don't fall for it in the future)

[@dita62]

Biggest red flag for me too. It might sound flattering in the moment, but that kind of low self-esteem in men, you'll be paying for it later. Controlling, push-pull, tear you down, tear your heart out bs. Never again lol sometimes goes hand in hand with love bombing.

[@tikioluu2321]

@your favorite memory they are clearly insecure, my ex-boyfriend would always tell me that, it comes from insecurity and run because they will either be jealous or end up hurting you in someway. Believe them!

[@Revolution-tl5wo]

17. Signs that they are either a Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant attachment style 18. React inappropriately when they don't get what they want or when you tell them no 19. Dismissive of things that are important to you 20. Condescending about things that you do well or which show your strength and competence 21. Mansplaining 22. Disclose a pattern of disrespectful behavior toward women but assure you that YOU'RE different and special; ie. implying a belief that certain types of women are "deserving" of lesser treatment 23. Indications that you're gonna be stuck doing all the emotional and/or mental labor of the relationship 24. Indications of narcissistic behavior 25. PUA (Pickup Artist/Seduction community) tactics, like backhanded compliments and other forms of manipulation or attempts to keep you off balance 26. Signs they have a problem regulating and taking responsibility for their emotions 27. Inappropriate or abusive behavior when angered 28. Name-calling, character attacks, or put-downs disguised as teasing 29. Repeated boundary violations after said boundaries have been clearly communicated 30. Pronounced differences in political and/or social values 31. Compete with you outside of a mutually playful context or turn things into a power struggle 32. Is emotionally unavailable to you during conflict or overly wrapped up in their own internal experience with no room for yours

[@silenthero2795]

33. People who make 32 list that is very redundant to each other.

[@Daniellem291]

Nailed it 👏🏻

[@Greenwitch_Garden]

33. Is an anxious attached judging the other attachment styles but hasn’t worked on themselves 😅 But for real those avoidants… as an FA I just cannot.

[@JD-fx1np]

​@lillfrigg14no that isnt what that means

[@thecurrentmoment]

or anxious attachment style

[@UrUrbanRockstar]

Red Flag 🚩 CONSTANTLY finding a way to dodge answering important questions. "What are your intentions? How can we better communicate? Do you want this to progress into something more?" He completely ignored the questions EVERYTIME by finding a reason to go ghost for days.

[@just4chanell]

There is no charm equal to the tenderness of the heart. That is a must know in a relationship

[@englishpro759]

Oh yeahhh. .. tenderness of the heart... you can feel it and confirm on their acts..

[@siowmingfeng1925]

when they're rude to service workers 0:21 when they try too hard to charm EVERYONE 1:50 when they like pineapple on pizza 3:19 when they judge you for liking pieapple on pizza 3:47 when they hate their exes 5:26 when they skip the intro on episode 1.... 6:42 when they call something you do "cute" 10:09 when they can't apologize 12:55 when conversations have to be about them 13:06 when he knows his zodiac sign... or when he doesn't 13:46 when he brings up zodiac signs 14:10 when they're comfortable offering criticism early on... 16:40 when they don't have any friends 17:01 when they're 35 and never had a long term relationship 17:24 when they have very different religious beliefs 17:46 when they can't enjoy their second choice 18:05

[@charisLUVSmj]

bless u!!!!💛

[@nerissahanopol6290]

Thank you for summimg it up 😃

[@nsbhater]

🙏🤲❤

[@leighparratt3015]

26:30. The most important 30 secs of this video: Really need more on this!

[@Fay8Fay8]

I know there will always be an angel summarizer in the comment. Thanks!

[@Danimal77]

I would like to add: 1. When a person still lives at home with their parents, as in someones in their 30's or older. 2. When someone is always argumentative and wants to debate everything with you, or always tries to compete, as in not being easy going at all. 3. When someone never offers compliments or says sweet things to you. 4. When someone doesn't show appreciation or gratitude for the things you do for them. 5. When someone never takes your feelings into consideration, as in trivializes or minimizes them. 6. When someone never apologies or takes ownership/responsibility over something they've done, as in never admits that they are wrong.

[@VerryJerry90]

“When a person still lives at home with their patients” *the south Asian community looking like :O*

[@thunabs7759]

@@VerryJerry90 I don't consider that one a red flag. People go through phases in their lives. It could just as well mean they have loving parents who support them and help them get back on their feet. If they've been with their parents for ages and never left.....that's something else. Depending on the culture

[@VerryJerry90]

@@thunabs7759 that’s why I was surprised at the generalization

[@karinazeier3186]

I'd like to add that sometimes someone lives at home with their parent because they are caregiving. Shout out to my amazing brother who's finding dating incredibly hard because everyone sees this as a red flag, but he's the kindest man ever, and taking care of our elderly father.

[@satadhi]

@@VerryJerry90 We literally live all our lives with our parents lol, unless we have to go out for work or something....

[@Caroo1313]

To me the "the way they treat people in the service industry" is about looking how a person treats someone they view as "below" them or rather whether they treat certain people as if they are below them and think that's a justification for mistreating them. It's like the Harry Potter quote _"If you want to know what a man is truly like, look at how he treats his inferiors and not his equals."_

[@Tan87ful]

I fully agree 👏🏼👏🏼💯💯

[@drewm7370]

I'd change the "they don't have any friends" red flag to "they don't have any *real* friends". I've literally been on dates where guys have judged me for only having a handful of genuine friends, and they've bragged about how popular they are and so on... cut to 6 months down the line, you meet this guy's friends and they're actually really mean to the guy and hit on you when he goes to the bathroom. That's the real red flag for me! lol When someone's friends are shitty and the person doesn't even see it.

[@lanny7683]

14:00 Did not think I’d laugh out loud at the Star sign red flag 😂 Hilarious riff

[@Tan87ful]

Yep 😂😂😂😂😂

[@jenelb3016]

Lol oh no 🙊 I have one 😂

[@angelawatson1594]

Loving ❤ the dry but witty banter. These 2 have a good and relaxed energy with each other

[@msliltrinity]

Enjoyed the entire video and especially the distinction between red flags and amber lights starting at 22 min in. This actually made me tear up a bit. I realized I’m going into flight mode to protect myself. No matter what happens in my current situation, I’m glad to have more clearly realized this about myself. Love the idea of amber lights being invitation for conversation. Thank you, Matthew, Stephen, and Jameson!

[@dzsenikertesz]

When they try too hard to charm everybody is a huge red flag. I had a relationship with a guy who did this all the time. He craved validation from everyone he meet. I swear everywhere we went he always just had to get into a small talk with complete strangers and be the most charming for them. He clearly needed constant validation from others and therefore we could not spend quality time together, his focus was mainly on others and his own needs.

[@jjc2323]

This is true. Have someone I dated that was always too busy helping friends and neighbors and hardly made time to date. And he was constantly hanging with his parents. He is 41. I was lucky to get one date a week. Idk what it’s called other than a savior complex? He claims he lives a balanced life. K 😉 I think the speakers missed the still talking to the ex. I know it’s obvious but you have to ask in a roundabout way. They stay friends with everyone they date or had a relationship with. Huge red flag! Run!!! They will never commit

[@sabinamazzacurati]

maybe we dated the same guy????????

[@Sophie-iu6zv]

Literally my last relationship... Funny enough, I was attracted to that part of him before seeing your comment!

[@Sophie-iu6zv]

@@jjc2323 My ex still drives his ex-wife to airport... And he convinced me to be ok with it by saying that because they were married for 15 years, she is the person he will always trust and care about, that he doesn't have feelings for her but she is closer than a friend...

[@jjc2323]

@@Sophie-iu6zv huge red flag. Unless it involves kids. Just no. Glad he is your ex

[@lillymarkova]

You guys are amazing! You deliver such quality information and at the same time you are bringing fun and light ❤️🙏🏼

[@DiraMcClintock]

This was delightful. I listen to you guys when I walk and this one ended too soon 🤗 Great mix of entertainment and education

[@nikkiminoz5262]

I've been hearing random podcasts with autplay and I came across this channel. I've finally moved on from my " toxic doesn't wanna commit but won't let me move on" 4 year relationship! I don't wanna waste anymore time! I feel so free as if all the burden holding me down has been finally gone!

[@CrazyLyn013]

I think the one about not having been in a serious relationship and you're past 35 is debatable. It depends on why. I know quite a few people who have not had a serious relationship who are in their 30s and I think they would make good partners. Same with the no friends "red flag". I don't have many close friends and most days I spend either by myself or I call my mom and I don't think it is alarming at all.

[@nicholerubes2959]

Like you said it depends. I would go with no close people at all. Family, friends, a dog. If the reason is something tragic. A betrayal or a death, then I would add that fact with something else before I mark it as a red flag. I think that one is a red flag only with another red flag to go with it. Cause I have friends but I never had more than a few at a time. I am closest with my parents but I am an only child. Like if they have no one. And no real reason why. That is a red flag

[@earthling7183]

If you're close to your mother, she counts as a close friend.

[@nicholerubes2959]

@dancewiththeshadow I still go with a red flag only with something else with it. My dad was closet with his mom but he was raised by a single mother.

[@rebeccayeatesmakeup]

I’m 39 and never had a serious relationship and that scares me that it puts people off. I have been on dates but have never gone to something serious because it’s never felt right. People say I’m too fussy and should just settle as not getting any younger. Also I have had trauma in my past and bad experiences that have left me not being good enough or not lovable. I have a few close friends but not many due to my social anxiety. It’s a lot for people to take on and I also worry that I’m a Amber light that might be seen as a red flag for possible future partners. It does make me feel shitty about myself 😢

[@MB-hz7wm]

Agree ~ while it’s something to be aware of, there are so many reasons why this could be the case. It’s important to assess situations on a case-by-case basis .

[@Jenn-mx4ym]

Love the comedy and laughter 🤣😂 This lads lair & listening to the conversations had about flags & lights, has been Very insightful & some gems in this one. Thanks for sharing from different angles & perspectives. Be nice to hear more of these with all three of you in. So happy for you and your girlfriend, so wonderful so hear you mention her more in your life. Audrey is a precious wonderful gift 🎁 to you, your friends and your family. Wishing you so much happiness and love one could possible experience together 🙏❤️

[@rorimegami]

I'm loving these videos you make with your brother, it's actually entertaining and funny 💀

[@tammymarie3704]

Love the idea that yellow 💛 lights are a chance for your relationship to grow. I've been experiencing that same "growth" in my current relationship. It's great to get to know someone deeper and work through things in my own past. I love it!

[@juniperbanerjee5755]

This was soooomuch fun hearing you guys. I love the red and amber lights discussions.

[@aashilr]

I'm a straight guy & find tons of value in your content, Matthew. I think hearing what women typically go through & the things they have to think about is important for me to be a well-rounded person, so thank you (even though lot of your advice is meant for life in general, which is super nice). I really digged the ending remarks on this video though. Personally dealing with someone that I had romantic interest in, however after two attempts of asking her out & getting excuses (and without her offering any alternative), I decided to move on. It's been tough trying to move on since she says all the right things, but her actions don't match her words - this was a topic of discussion in one of your previous videos & I agree with what you had to say about this. It sucks because I know objectively I should move on, but it's so much easier said than done. Perhaps something might happen one day, but I respect myself too much to wait around for someone that isn't interested in me the way I am right now. I think lot of other people can likely relate to this, maybe you should do a video on this between the three of you!

[@bhauvana]

Good on you man! You’re already miles ahead of other straight guys if you’re here, so you’re winning!!

[@lisanathan7336]

These are so great. What a great feel good piece of content. Love Jamieson egging involved too. Keep it up guys. Love it

[@klawz91]

This is my first time commenting , and I seriously just laughed so loudly when it came to the topic of star signs, and a man who knows theirs. That is the chuckle I needed after mind dwelling on my own chaotic dating. Thank you for all your videos, I especially love when you and your brother do these type of banter topics that are in and of themselves serious.

[@rebeccayeatesmakeup]

I had a co worker who I took on for an assisting job to be part of my team, who was obsessed with star signs and was a complete nightmare. She was rude, unprofessional, didn’t listen or take on instructions. Also lied about her past work experience and made excuses for everything. I think they right that that is a massive red flag. I never thought anything it of it as I use to love the zodiac and found star signs fascinating as a teen. But it’s one now that will ring alarm bells 🔔🚩

[@a-s-y-a]

Why is it a red flag if he knows me talks about his zodiac sign?

[@louc313]

Is this Matt’s brother?

[@vitabuonavita2565]

Yes I need to pay more attention in the beginning of the relationship and ask questions, not be so invested because some guy just pays attention to me

[@fatimam5490]

Loved this episode! ❤️ made me laugh a lot and the content is helpful and great!

[@EmmaLouHMup]

Such a great video, informative about important subject, but you guys being the laughs. Thank you!

[@kaylachristinex]

Honestly. I absolutely love your advice & energy. I wish i found you sooner. 😊❤ definitely going to look inwards and reflect with your voice in mind. 💯

[@jenelb3016]

You and your brother have such a hilarious and entertaining dynamic. Love it

[@kirstendirks9820]

I laughed so loud and from the depth of my belly during the conversation about “star signs”.

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂💯💯

[@cyndigooch1162]

It's a month later and I'm watching this for the first time and want to mention that it's good to have a laugh about these serious subjects sometimes! And I'm not even thinking about dating anyone, but these points come in handy for friendships too. I could totally relate to the second one about becoming aware that a person is charming with nearly everyone else as well, then the reality hitting in regard to not being special to them after all! I certainly don't expect to be everyone's number one, yet this seems to be apt for the type of individual who views others as objects. It happened with the last highly narcissistic man I got caught up with and other people I've known, so it's an issue to look out for in the future. 😊

[@raer9712]

I really liked this light-hearted approach to red flags, which I find is a term often thrown around (like 'toxic') so much it loses its' meaning. Often, red flags discussion doesn't really go beyond a list of sometimes unrelatable content that someone has bashed together after breaking up with bf. Yet, it is incredibly beneficial to disect them in this way as in to prevent damaging, unhealthy and potentially abusive relationships, and without sounding hyperbolic, can save lives. I think the best part is at the end in the summation around amber lights and discussion along side the balance to recognise feelings within yourself. Honestly, its like free therapy, 😃 talk about💡😅Thank you and Great job, guys

[@Tan87ful]

I fully 💯💯👏🏼👏🏼

[@christinelindberg-gilhus1590]

I'm 34 years old I've only had two short realationships, and one dating experience. The two realationships, one I was sexually abused in, the other I was verbally and emotionally abused in. The one I dated for a couple of months was definetly healthy though, but we just didn't match, lifestyle etc. Very sweet and kind guy though! Anyway, I'm curious, how is being 35 and not having had a long realationship even an amber flag, or any flag for that matter? 😅 Plenty of long realationships are abusive. I just got out of my two abusive ones after the first incident of abuse/betrayal, I found out both were cheating on me also. My trauma pshycologists actually was really happy I got out asap, as she said many end up staying/going back. I've never even looked back. And it's been over a decade since my first realationship, where I was sexually abused. Still firmly no contact on my part, with both abusers, and it will stay that way forever. ✊

[@larendahadenart208]

Go to 23:15 and listen to what he says about amber lights. A snippet “Amber lights are actually the makings of a relationship.” They’re not really problems, just places to have a good conversation. 🙂

[@bethrock2477]

#Christine Lindberg-Gilhus, There is nothing wrong with you. Relationships are difficult, and everyone is unique. Honor yourself and look for someone of a high quality character who sees your value. Good luck to you!

[@theuzers]

wel lyour 2 relationships in a abusive one and based on your profile pic your pretty attractive so it wasnt lack of men trying

[@Tan87ful]

@@theuzers Good point. She is very pretty so I assume a lot of guys have approached her.

[@idivas_Tricia]

You have to know how to attract and identify your soulmate....kzbin.info/www/bejne/gWKvgat-eddlabc

[@plamitodorova5952]

Matthew it is so funny( in a good way )how you always “fixing “ the microphone 🎙 during the conversation.😁 Love the topic!

[@radicalhonesty3628]

I sit here watching this video, with every cell of my being: saturated in grief. (How to escape the intensity of such pain, such agony, such torment?)

[@Elizabeth-tb5oh]

That was excellent and funny and entertaining. Thanks!!

[@MarciaFialho]

I loved the concept of red flags and amber lights! Thank you, Matthew!

[@Liurika]

As always, great video

[@MK-zm7de]

Can confirm: I went out with a polyamorous guy and he liked to make his own pizza with fish sticks, peas and an egg. Guess I'm very narrow minded, cuz I judged the shit out of him. Like… all the frozen foods are just going to make it soggy. And what’s that lone egg doing on there?

[@katietimms5491]

🤣😂🤦‍♀️

[@JaZmine147]

You escaped a sociopath for sure. 😂😂😂

[@moonflower8607]

I love this video. I learned a lot. Thank you.

[@mooretodream]

I’m at minute 20 and this video is ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUSSSSSSSSSS! The zodiac sign and second option restaurant topic ~ I LITERALLY CANNOT 😂😂

[@saraansari2088]

Also if they are rude to Uber/Lyft drivers it’s a red flag!

[@krisztinakobanyai]

Loved this video, I discovered many red flags which was once disguised as exciting qualities (he was charming everyone, saying all the right things, but after a few months we would only have conversations about his work, life, family etc. and was extremely judgemental about me building my own business), and the breaking point was when I was unable to discuss "amber lights" with my partner, he would lash out on me and made himself the victim. I should have left ages ago, but held up suffering for a year and a half. We are not together anymore. Learned a big lesson.😁👍 Edit: also both guys who I let close to myself were Geminis and mechanical engineers. WTF 👀😆

[@KP-mb9jx]

Well done for having the strength to leave, instead of wasting more of your life on someone who clearly didn't deserve you.

[@gp9888]

the same on me now! extremely judgemental on OMG everything, and blaming me pretending hes the victim!

[@juliafisher5844]

Gemini men ... you won't know where you are

[@krisztinakobanyai]

@@juliafisher5844 Never again for sure😆

[@krisztinakobanyai]

@Victor Alex I highly recommend you to seek help from a "How to stop spamming people with stupid shit on KZbin" coach ✌️

[@sanllg]

The burrito moment it's hilarious! I loved this video. I agree with the amber lights, many people nowadays if you hear them talking everything is a "red flag" for them, instead of communicate and work on it. Great video xx

[@marie-andreehueglin9051]

"Why is this important again?" . I am using this every day from now on!

[@princessmuslimah5706]

I really struggle with my past trauma and red flags. Almost everything are red flags now because of my trust issues and abandonment issues. Its really hard dating after trauma and not self sabotage. 😔

[@annasommer5414]

Matthew was so funny in this episode. I really enjoyed it!

[@Tan87ful]

Yep 😂😂😂😂

[@kirsteneobrien]

Number 2: I think that people should be consistently kind to everyone without favoritism. Expecting favoritism is just as much a red flag for me as showing favoritism. Intimate relationships are set apart by the degree of any given trait, not by ones (like compassion, empathy, respect, etc.) that should be extended to everyone.

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed 💯

[@steventale2616]

you women only want bad boys who treats u like dog pile of sh t so shush women

[@stillme7535]

That moment with burrito instead of pineapple pizza at Stevie's place ,gush so hilarious 🤣

[@sunshinedayz7032]

I just had a guy try to use his zodiac sign and mine to try to get me to sleep with him!😆😂🤣 I had to block him.

[@heidiz5215]

l met a guy showing his zodiac sign description online to let me get to know him.🙄

[@sophiawatt7021]

that bit was seriously the best hahahah

[@Tan87ful]

Damn lol.

[@dita62]

The way he passionately went on about pizza made me laugh so hard.

[@Tan87ful]

Lol

[@TreasuredDay]

Luvin the whole amber light reference. Enlightening!!

[@tknwindsorful]

Your interactions crack me up. 😂 Thanks for the heads-up. 👍😉

[@thebettercouple5572]

*haha, this will definitely be a good watch Matthew 🤣* - *Everyone has to pay attention to those red flags!! 🚩*

[@acutiff7125]

I wonder if person that said “it’s cute” in response to your career was from the US or not? The reason I ask is because it may be a difference in cultural interpretation. One thing I’ve noticed (may be wrong) but culturally US people tend to over thank people and over compliment people. I have experienced British people getting offended when I told them “thank you” for handing me something. They interpreted it as me being sarcastic or condescending for doing such a simple task but for me it was just an innocent, polite, and culturally appropriate response. I have found British people tend to interpret that thanks or compliments over simple things as condescending when it wasn’t intended that way. It’s just a friendly response in the US. However, now that you brought it up I can totally understand why you would interpret it as condescending.

[@leannesmith1207]

Great video! As always :)

[@louera]

I love listening to intros of shows just to really be immersed and give honor to the people who took the time to make it. I also like staying for the credits of a movie I thought was good for the same reason, to take the time to appreciate/acknowledge the people who made it happen. My partner has ADD and doesn’t have patience for those things if I wasn’t with him.

[@sufiheart]

one of my red flags is an aggressive, unsafe driver.... if they feel that entitled and rude and unsafe on the road... guess how they are with people in their lives

[@Frangipani10687]

Thank you so much for bringing this to my attention. I really appreciate the information you shared.

[@emp9413]

True! I have that happen all the time - jump in quick and lackluster performance, but if I get centered prior then come in with passion. NOTED: Always state WHY prior!

[@spiritinkling7581]

OMG you guys are hilarious in this video. Glad you see you can poke fun at yourselves and each other .😁

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Onelightbody]

This is undeniably... 💯… The greatest video y’all have EVER done. 👏😂👏

[@lmariecarroll]

This may be my favorite one!! 👏🏼

[@brattymagg]

When the background on their phone is a picture of themself 😵‍💫

[@godsplan7726]

Matthew Hussey..u always say the right thing..nd u always do the right thing..u always mean what you say..u give meaning to the words.. Matthew Hussey..every time I watch ur video I am in love with myself nd I am in love with my life..I love you the most..

[@farahsummers1171]

Right, :) You say when somebody is trying too hard to charm everybody that's read flag & means they need everybody to like them & are a potential narc. But, what if the person is just trying to bring some positivity into lives of those they meet? I believe there's usually beauty in everybody(few exceptions like serial killers etc.) So if we see that persons 'Gold' why not let them know? It takes maybe a bit of courage on our part in stepping out of our comfort zone perhaps & could make a huge difference to that person. I personally try & do this when possible & it's totally genuine & not done out of any desire for 'everybody to like me'. I just feel life is short & showing kindness is a must. ♡

[@x.f.4171]

Thank you for the interesting content in this video. The „second best choice as a disappointment“ happened to me with the guy I’ve went out several times. The not doing the one and only thing that he wanted during the day brought miserable mood and negative comments throughout the rest of the day. It was hard to have a person around who is constantly disappointed and there is no way to make him feel happier because you can not turn the time back! So this is a red flag for me and the reason I’ve decided I do not want to deal this negativity. Sad story because the guy was actually nice and we connected well on different levels.

[@sandracastillo3317]

The not enjoying second choice hit home. We could be in the most luxurious restaurant but if we didn't have the right TABLE...dinner and the whole experience was ruined. He would get so angry.and could get over it and wpuld would bring it up later. And he acted like this towards also most everything he had a choice about. If he didn't get his way he would rather go without. Makes life hard and no fun. I used to make excuses that he was just really disearning and just wanted the best and had really high standards and taste. But no, there is something really really wrong and it caused me to walk on eggshells and thier attitude just wear and grinds on you, where you don't want to go anywhere, so you do not have to deal his attitude and god forbid you say something to calm him because then he would unleash his disappointment on you. Run...it never gets better.

[@liesbethverhaeghe8252]

Someone who doesn't have friends or hasn't had a longterm relationsship isn't necessarily a red flag. They could have had other things going on that took priority over having friends or a longterm relationship. I know these two things look like red flags from a mainstream piont of view but please note that there are always exceptions to this rule.

[@Flightofphenomena]

This was very entertaining. Loved the zodiac bit lol

[@lavaniyam9788]

From watching this I have come to the conclusion I am a red flag 🚩 😳

[@lynettejacobs8662]

I try & treat everyone respectful so hopefully everyone feels good around me but I don’t think that makes me narcissistic. I think it just means you are a positive person & charismatic.

[@lynettejacobs8662]

@Mary Jane why in the world would I want my ex back?! I left him for good reasons. That would be horrible

[@amandast858]

You had me at dough - thank you for the chuckle Matt! Judging one on pizza selection - run for the hills

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂

[@EmilyRaskett]

condescending to someone who is trying to show their competency is so frustrating

[@halilenz4901]

You are so right about amber lights being disguised as a red flag. Oh my my gosh 🤯

[@NormaGarcia-el9im]

Great video also funny thank you! :)

[@Degen_Damsel]

I so resonate with seeing how they treat people who have no "meaning" in their life! Dated this guy, and he kept complaining about how the busdriver didn't do his job right because he missed his stop, and how the guy at the sofa point ignored him even though their shop was closed, and how customer service mistreated him. Should've seen it coming, because when I became less shiny and new, he ghosted me after consistently dating for 5 months! 😑 Ugh

[@jenelb3016]

😂that was hilarious about the pizza bit. So funny

[@alicia2484]

😂😂😂 the star sign segment pure gold .. so funny but I will use that as a criteria from now on

[@Ayesha_F]

The sense of humour in this conversation is * chef's kiss * 🔥🔥🤣. Also really loved the discussion on amber lights disguised as red flags because of our own demons. ❤️

[@lucyobillo35]

Oooh that food theory is really interesting 😯🤭

[@hiefia8568]

12:26 I agree. Sometimes people are trying to complement you but you can read microagressions into it when there's no malice intended

[@melcarling]

As an Italian, I reserve the right to be disappointed by people who like pineapple on pizza.

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂

[@melluques8475]

🤣🤣🤪

[@Chiungalla79]

Conservatism at its worst. 🤣

[@litzburger]

As a Canadian, I differ!

[@Yourbf500]

Sometimes I like pineapple on pizza sometimes I will hate it all depend what my body crave and yes I am Italian

[@missdennis6744]

The horoscope comment was hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@lindalazda2617]

My cheeks are hurting from "Steve's place" episode :D I also read it somewhere that there is a connection between openness towards foods and intimate adventures. More open person is to try news foods more open he/she is for things in life in general. Are they curious to try, are they judging it only from the look, not trying it at all. Do they have a lot of stereotypes.. It might be that the person is also not so open in bed, not flexible and open minded perspective on things. It makes sense and have observed it to be true in my experience.

[@Aprilhojazz]

Sometimes you just know. When he says”i respect you and i don’t take you for granted.” He is doing or thinking something opposite. If you respect someone you show it in action. Only when you internally conflicted do you need to vocalise it.

[@annalearmonth4715]

Love your vibes

[@siandavies7886]

I’ve been on a couple of dates with someone and he displays some selfish behaviours, red flag? No, on reflection so do I. Why? because we have both been single a while, live alone, no kids and behave selfishly because we’ve not had to think of someone else. We are both learning how to take someone else’s needs into account by ‘calling each other out’ in a friendly way mind. Ultimately our open communication has shown us we are more friends as our future goals don’t match up but helping each other out to be more open and accepting of others.

[@XxSnowXCrystalxX]

One other red flag for me is when they're 'TOO comfortable' too early. Like if we go lunch on our second date and he rocks up in sweatpants & a hoodie. Or if I've only been seeing him for two weeks and he starts burping & farting in front of me. Like SIR. It's so early on, you should be wanting to impress the other person.

[@thekarmicdf]

the astrology men 😂😂😂😂 thanks for lookin out for us hippies!!! 😂🙏🏼

[@tabbee2980]

Saying someone is "cute"for doing a typical adult act is condescending. Saying it's "cool" or "awesome" is not condescending. We consider baby animals learning to walk, "cute". We call a strutting tiger "cool".

[@misery8264]

Regarding Nr7 - Dont underestimate that stuff. One of my exes did this and it can tear your confidence to shreds. You do something or try to improve yourself and they do the old "Oh it's so cute that you think you can do that." And it's very hard to argue against it, since it's "just his honest opinion." and "He wants to protect you from failure." "Naaww baby don't be upset, I can't take you serious when you're angry." etc. If you see your bf doing this, run.

[@NeziNez]

15. I went in a date… and the restaurant was his choice, day and time, I chose were we sat and he got so annoyed and didn’t enjoy his time, even made it a thing to tell me few times after!

[@MagdalenaH]

"always leave others with the energy of increase" ☺

[@karynboatman994]

Awww I'm happy to hear you have a girlfriend again Matthew!

[@dianagula8101]

"It wasn't my fault and I'm not sorry." 😂😂

[@andyuxd]

A great example of #1 in After Life S3!

[@lomotil3370]

#6 Skipping the intro to a show. To me, this is analogous to judging someone's' choice of pizza toppings. The reasoning you give for this being a red flag in no way demonstrates how this is connected to a character flaw. To me, judging someone for something so trivial is a red flag.

[@MiMi-ch8zr]

I won't go as far as to say that #3 & #6 are analogous But rather there was indeed an overdramatization of how negative skipping the '' first ever intro of a show'' can be perceived , and most DEFINETELY bcz , as it was shown, ( and I'm in no way defending or justifying said reaction) that Matthew identified with it very much to the point of it being similar of how he approaches his own work ....life even

[@rosiepestel7836]

😂😂😂😂

[@DiraMcClintock]

He was just having fun with this video. They were reading other peoples red flag ideas and putting their own spin on it.

[@christinelindberg-gilhus1590]

Absolutely agree. My mom, and my bestfriend of 20 years, love pineapple on pizza, I hate it. We just get each our own small pizza, or get a big one half without pineapple. No one is getting judged, we just easily worked out a solution. Not being judgemental and teamwork, that's the green flag!

[@vzain3082]

you guys are hilarious!!!

[@StephanieFrance0304]

I skip the intro sometimes... I feel personally attacked 🤣🤣

[@Tan87ful]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@randomgrl33]

The part about Astrology...🤣🤣🤣

[@loribothwell5493]

#4 Matt is passionate about pizza🍕LOVE the pizza analogy.