It's so true! I had very love self-esteem when I was little. I liked one guy in our school and he knew it but he liked another girl. And one day, our teacher called pairs, girl and boy. And we had to say something about each other that is true, doesn't matter if is it good or bad. My classmates said different things about each other, good and bad. And suddenly, our teacher called me and that guy. No one knew I liked him. It was just random action. And in front of the class, of 30 teenagers, he said that I am very beautiful, clever, and funny. Beautiful... No one laughed or made any comments. It was like something quite obvious. I was 13. It changed my internal world forever. I'm 44 now. And I still remember that day, that guy, every single word, and my reaction.
@sabat80688 ай бұрын
So sweet...
@pansyflower96979 жыл бұрын
If you tell a guy that he is very attractive and he thinks he is a geek... He will love you forever.. Tell a guy who has to much ego he is attractive you get nothing in return
@begumyalcin74689 жыл бұрын
:( sadly
@paused88549 жыл бұрын
+Pansy Flower So true. Go for the loving geek, I say. Those guys with the ego and big following of sighing girls, not mentioning any names, rarely deserves the attention nearly as much as those loving ones who recieve so little of it. Pisses me off!
@RM-of4bu9 жыл бұрын
+Pansy Flower he said don't compliment the obvious
@gracesalvador20109 жыл бұрын
the best way to impress the egoistic men is ignore them, challenge them mysteriously and he will go crazy about you..show them that you're not that desperate and play with their game of love.
@tyanthony-james90919 жыл бұрын
+Gbc Means Love But let's say the guy is attractive and just so happens to be shy because his entire life women and men have ignored him and have tried to attack his confidence because they so insecure about his attractiveness, comparing themselves to him, when in fact they are just so desperately needy and possessive of him, making him believe this entire time that he is not attractive. Might mess up his entire life, but women are selfish and manipulative by nature. It's really up to the man to dominate her socially and let her know that he is attracted to her by touching her and by simply being a man.
@BronwynAlexandriaa5 жыл бұрын
As a 23 year old woman who’s never been in a relationship and had zero experience with men, these videos are VERY helpful on how to be a genuine person with integrity
@a.m.thomas93662 жыл бұрын
Beautiful !
@hhunstad20112 жыл бұрын
Agreed, I'm 35 and find them extremely helpful!
@warmlavender55252 жыл бұрын
Agreed! I feel like I don’t have to pretend to be someone else to be attractive but just be more conscious of things I already do that I should do more of
@amylama75832 жыл бұрын
Im 28 and never had experience being in a relationship so Im following this videos thank you 🙏 😊
@vhayashi73692 жыл бұрын
Men will play you, I'm not dumb and have been played a lot. Too many narcissists and games. I was married to my best friend and he cheated and abandoned me with babies. All my friends have been rejected after having kids with their man. Please be careful don't let them ruin your life. I am on a mission to tell young women. All the women I know are not that happy with their husbands or they've been screwed over. Make sure you are financially ok and not depending on them and don't put up with disrespect. It's hard to find a good guy after your 20s and when they're young they're immature. After 30 they're all damaged. And I keep attracting men who pretend to be straight. Watch out for that.
@xmine085 жыл бұрын
"The Compliment He's Dying To Hear" Any compliment, really.
@kikinatrone4 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@livinglifejaybyjay30634 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha
@thetruepuresoul4 жыл бұрын
xmine08 😂🤣🤣 exactly like girls we love compliments as well.....humans lol
@ararune373410 ай бұрын
@@thetruepuresoul Yeah no shit, you should try giving them sometimes instead of just receiving them.
@patie_tariro4 жыл бұрын
Who is here after 5 years😂😂😂 I love Matt's examples. They are so real and practical he makes everything easy to understand and apply.
@teresai18773 жыл бұрын
I'm here! Preparing for whenever I find Mr. Right :-).
@reillybab13 жыл бұрын
🙋🏻♀️
@mysweettlife9 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I'm afraid to give people compliments. Because I don't want them to think that it means more than it does. Like just because I say someone is handsome does not mean that I'm interested in having any type of relationship beyond friendship.
@gabrielasofia48166 жыл бұрын
You only would say that to people you would wish to have an interaction with. Why would you tell someone that he is handsome if you are not interested in being with him or dating with him.
@nicoletakasamas92015 жыл бұрын
@@gabrielasofia4816 you are right
@barbaragolden36205 жыл бұрын
JW McCabe exactly!! Thank you
@silver_sixth4 жыл бұрын
Thank you lol
@cookiemonster70994 жыл бұрын
@@gabrielasofia4816 I'd say it to anyone; when I see art, I simply praise it.
@thusharividanagamachchi9779 Жыл бұрын
When we were young, we did this. Compliment someone to a third party. It’s because we don’t have the confidence to say it to their face. My ex was not generous at compliments. Even when he did, they were backhanded. So I’ve learned to compliment people without a moment’s hesitation. It creates such an uplifting feeling for everyone. Life is beautiful when we make each other feel good.
@pricklypair4377 Жыл бұрын
Prayers, I am about to compliment my crush with no one around for comfort sunday, oh boy I am nervous.
@ararune373410 ай бұрын
So you've learned...meaning you did not give people compliments, yet you whine about not being given compliments. I swear, most women when they get a compliment they're just like "thanks" and never, ever give one proactively or even reactively.
@thusharividanagamachchi977910 ай бұрын
@@ararune3734 I’m always appreciative of compliments. I’m talking about giving compliments. For example, when I was young and found a guy cute, I would not say it to their face because it felt awkward. It takes a certain courage to pay someone a compliment because one never knows how it will be received.
@ararune373410 ай бұрын
@@thusharividanagamachchi9779 It does take some courage. When I was a teen, I wouldn't give any compliments, not because I didn't mean it, but because it was just awkward and didn't know how to say it, it's exposing yourself. Nowadays I give many compliments and I've learnt to be a much more supportive person. Though I still never will compliment a woman on her looks, just because of the sheer amount of hurt and emasculation I've been through, it makes me uneasy to show anything that can be interpreted as interest. The most I did was compliment a uni colleague on her outfit.
@thusharividanagamachchi977910 ай бұрын
@@ararune3734 it’s so relatable. I’m sorry to hear you had to go through these experiences and they make us hold back our authentic expression and women can react to compliments in a negative way because of their own trauma. When we’ve been wounded, compliments can hurt because they remind us of the unworthiness we’ve experienced growing up. I believe the best way to heal ourselves and others is to express what we feel in our heart through complements, regardless of how the other person receives it. It’s all about healing our collective emotions and feelings of unworthiness.
@naomicranston99727 жыл бұрын
'if you see something good in others - speak it' such great advice
@SuperWowstyle10 жыл бұрын
Oh he should make a video on 'how to get matthew hussey' ♥♥♥♥♥ He is soo HAWTT!
@mikalaroco941310 жыл бұрын
Im sure that is part of his 10% complement
@yuliag965510 жыл бұрын
I think there's a ring)
@janinarenner372310 жыл бұрын
***** naah I don't think that's a wedding ring :P
@yuliag965510 жыл бұрын
Janina Renner I thought it was because he's from Europe where it's on the right hand. But you may be right because I later learned he lives in US now :)
@colleenroberts4049 жыл бұрын
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@heatherdurds10 жыл бұрын
this is so true.. it's such a great feeling when someone says things about your character rather than your looks. i'd rather be told i'm funny than that i'm attractive because it shows that's not the only thing they see you as.
@roseann_ramos64349 жыл бұрын
its good to be praise by your character rather than your looks!.. looks change character dont!.. #slowclap #hisAWESOME :D
@nadiirly4 жыл бұрын
true but coming from experience, it's not that great 😔
@George-vd5tz3 жыл бұрын
@@nadiirly Hmmmnnn, I'd love to hear about why u think it's not.
@nadiirly3 жыл бұрын
@@George-vd5tz ngl i totally forgot i wrote that comment so i have idea what i was even talking about lmao
@nadiirly3 жыл бұрын
@@George-vd5tz oh! i think i was referring to being called 'funny' or 'nice' sucks if the person was kind of implying that you're ugly :/
@brunettehair110 жыл бұрын
Can this man be any more attractive? He speaks eloquently, he's funny, and he's English!!
@rosegarcia23717 жыл бұрын
kcjjfjd rkfjfj I know. I am learning tons from his videos but there are no cuties like him out there. He is so lively, witty, ahhhhhhhh. The real men pale in comparison.
@beeb21697 жыл бұрын
kcjjfjd rkfjfj very personable
@juniper106 жыл бұрын
GoomyWoomy he's not
@nora220005 жыл бұрын
@kiwibrown It's the accent. Dreams of him reading Shakespearean sonnets...
@katrinaoliver41675 жыл бұрын
No, he can not be.
@brandib2649 жыл бұрын
I tell my boyfriend when go out for dinner or drinks etc how lucky I am that I get to take the hottest guy in the bar home. He lights up like a Christmas tree and I'm not lying most of the time!😉🎄
@celestinac11056 жыл бұрын
Brandi Bernethy awwwwww
@judithhermes65935 жыл бұрын
aaaaawww...lovely
@sitongliu9235 жыл бұрын
Awwww!! My heart
@artistic_mama22953 жыл бұрын
Lol
@artistic_mama22953 жыл бұрын
I like the “most of the time” part....!
@nicholecollett59824 жыл бұрын
I found out what my boyfriend's love language is and was surprised to realize that I had been doing it the whole time we'd been together. His is words of affirmation and I always tell him how proud of him I am and how great he is at things that he excels at in life. It has taken our relationship to such a deeper level of commitment and connection. I couldn't imagine a more perfect man for me. For all the women saying Matthew is the perfect man, remember there's no such thing. He is human and I'm sure he has many flaws. He's found a nice way to make a living and he goes with that but u don't see what goes on when the camera is off. I'm sure he's a great man, but no one is perfect.. However for each and every one there is someone who is perfect FOR YOU!
@George-vd5tz3 жыл бұрын
Wow... Thanks for spilling out this raw truth, it's so amazing the way u said it. I'm sure many of them know this deep down but prefer to say that to compliment Matthew and make themselves feel good.
@Ari_diwan2 жыл бұрын
What an intelligent comment 👏
@thusharividanagamachchi9779 Жыл бұрын
Awesome. Matthew sure looks like the perfect man in that light blue shirt 😃
@t.lc.777 Жыл бұрын
I too found my perfect for me partner recently. Worth the wait, I had to be very patient. I worked on myself while single and followed my North Star. Then the universe worked its magic…put your intentions out there, live your life, and love will find you in the most miraculous ways. ❤
@nicholecollett5982 Жыл бұрын
@@t.lc.777 Congratulations!! It honestly is amazing finding your true "perfect for you partner"! When I commented this so long ago I thought the relationship I was in at the time was it for me, I later found out that it wasn't and it was one of the worst heart breaks I've ever experienced in my life. However, I spent the next 2 years working on myself, rediscovering who I am on my own and learning to love the real me outside of being with someone else. I am now engaged to my TRUE "PERFECT FOR ME" person and although the road isn't always paved with smooth asphalt and we have to dodge potholes and bounce over gravel and even go through some mud at times, our love is always strong enough to overcome it.. I will say that we have found that communication is most definitely the key to overcoming the battles. but it's not just the communication, You both have to be willing to say "I'm sorry"...
@DefensePlayer410 жыл бұрын
I love this! It makes me think of what you say in your book "Get the Guy": "It's fun to make someone smile by offering a compliment, or asking their advice, or displaying interest in a book they might be reading. People, no matter who they are, feel good about themselves when someone notices them."
@sweetisaduff8 жыл бұрын
This guy looks like a mix between Patrick Dempsey and Daniel Radcliffe lol
@alyden5677 жыл бұрын
grace m cuter than Patrick D.
@deanieblades32447 жыл бұрын
You're right he does .
@kalaylaekdom79127 жыл бұрын
He totally does!!
@adargopatil7 жыл бұрын
grace m I know right!!!
@ChiselKilas7 жыл бұрын
I think he looks like Tom Felton haha
@ATrueLoveOfficial7 жыл бұрын
I soooo agree on this. I used to tell my bf, "Pa, you're so handsome" And he would just laugh. But everytime I complimented him about something deep, he would literally pause for a moment and then said, "Thank you, I love you" with sparkling look in his eyes.
@TheSarahRose1313138 жыл бұрын
I soooo get this! One time my friend said " you know what Sarah, your really funny, your soo funny!" I instantly felt so bloody good!
@sharipeterson1126 Жыл бұрын
When I was 10 years old a couple on an airplane kept staring at me, and then told my mom right in front of me that I was beautiful and should be in modeling. Never in my life had anyone said that about me. I thought I was ugly and very plain. Now I make sure to always find things to compliment people about. It sure made a difference in my life because I had no self esteem whatsoever.
@amberlucito10685 жыл бұрын
I took your advice and used it in a third date with a guy I really like tonight and it definitely worked. He referred to me as a “rare bird”. Thank you for being so helpful and honest.
@afra21598 жыл бұрын
His friend's story is adorable
@saimazameer14708 жыл бұрын
afra alfalasi
@rosegarcia23717 жыл бұрын
afra alfalasi I have not even listened to his speech cuz he looks so cute in that shirt!
@jenniferinderlee93968 жыл бұрын
Compliment openly! No need to be shy. Early on in my life with great losses it has been learned we may only have so much time with someone and that one good thing, one compliment, one generous exchange of genuine truth could change the entire course of someones day. I believe it is important to give the compliment when there is an impulse to. It feels good to make others feel good about themselves too. Yet, it must always be with truth.
@Dinahsaurs9 жыл бұрын
I've compliment a guy I've been with before but every time I say something nice about him he doesn't believe it. It's very difficult.
@colleenc.80519 жыл бұрын
+Colleen C hello name twin
@HToothrot9 жыл бұрын
+Colleen C do you want advice from a random guy on the internet? Don't call him 'sweet' or 'nice' or 'cute'. Call him a gentleman or handsome
@Dinahsaurs9 жыл бұрын
I have a man and I call him handsome every chance I get. :) Thanks
@cloudyskeyes15929 жыл бұрын
+Colleen C I like to be called sweet. I also like to be called hot ;)
@Dinahsaurs8 жыл бұрын
+BrawlingGrizzlyBearProductions Thanks for your input but I'm going to call my man handsome if he is. I've said sweet and hot too and I've had no complaints so far.
@Anna-vd1nh3 жыл бұрын
This makes so much sense! I've never realised how often we miss telling the person rather than the third party something positive about them!
@DianaThermopolis3 жыл бұрын
This is so true. A little over 15 years ago an ex boyfriend told me loved I was so brave. To this day, it really helps me do things and get on with stuff. The power of the compliment. I might not be as brave as I am today if he hadn’t seen that in my fifteen year old self.
@evaannmarie5 жыл бұрын
Hey Matthew - Im a counselor working with people on Probation/parole and have CPS cases. Within the curriculum that we use, 1 of the sessions is on “giving and receiving compliments”. I’m so glad you brought this topic up. This is one of my favorite sessions to teach/facilitate. I have everyone pass around the group a piece of paper with their name on it and everyone has a chance to write a compliment. Then I give my patients an opportunity to read the compliments others wrote. They then journal about how the compliments made them feel. Often times, this is the first time someone has said something nice about them. I love watching how people leave the group that day - high up on the clouds!
@jessicajenson34808 жыл бұрын
I am amazed. This guy is super smart.
@rhodacampbell4 жыл бұрын
When I receive a compliment, I always see it has a lovely reflection on how astute and generous the person is. It’s nice to have good feels all round and that’s what sincere compliments do :) nice video Matthew, like the two levels- going deeper . Thanks
@George-vd5tz3 жыл бұрын
Very true, compliments are very good.. They bring a sense of appreciation and help the partner to be even a better partner.
@elky36010 жыл бұрын
Godamnit Mathew that blue shirt on you is just... I can't.
@gone.sailing7 жыл бұрын
I complemented him today oh my gossh , i said, " i really like your hair cut". and then he started a converstation about his barber and stuff and told me he liked my eye brows 👀
@FireSilver255 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. I've dated soooo many narcissists that giving compliments just sucks me into their manipulations. And in romantic situations I feel I need to have the upper hand. I hope I can learn to just relax and be ME!
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann10 жыл бұрын
Nice advice! I love finding what people are good at! I love finding even the most little thing that make them unique and special and tell them about it. Not only because it makes them feel good and it makes me feel good as well, but because I believe that when people feel appreciated even in the small things, it makes them want to do more, to do better. I won't lie nor over-compliment, but I will always try to find the good in everyone :)
@cocojenise10 жыл бұрын
I loved your comment. Positivity all around!
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann10 жыл бұрын
cocojenise Awww! Thank you for taking the time to reply :) Have a lovely day or night... whenever you might read this!
@nkosiguduza213110 жыл бұрын
you should investigate me :) and tell me what you like about me :) aha
@soneelita9 жыл бұрын
***** I over-complimented sum1 n now i regret it !
@GabrielaCenturionNeumann9 жыл бұрын
soneelita Well, that can happen too. We're all human and we're all in the learning process. But don't let that one mistake take you away the joy that comes from making others happy by finding their good side and telling them about it, OK? You'll do great, I'm sure :)
@felonyharlem22198 жыл бұрын
Attractive, smart, charming, and secure. What a great combination! Keep being you Matthew!
@bananaisyuk2310 жыл бұрын
Please do more videos like this Matthew! Little tips that can make a huge difference, I love it!
@POONyukfai9 жыл бұрын
Man you just give such good advice for anyone in general to become a better person and create better relationship with others. Thank you for being such an honest and giving person! Wish you the best! x
@writerspen01010 жыл бұрын
I try to do this a lot with people.--I feel like you had another video like this a few years ago, and it's what kick-started this habit in me.--I feel like doing this not only helped look deeper into the people I know, but also helped me become a bit more outgoing and honest with those around me. And I noticed that some of the people I would compliment regularly started speaking their minds more not long after I made the effort. Kindness is contagious it seems :)
@danielamaria14658 жыл бұрын
Why Jameson never answers? 😂
@NaturalDivineGoddess5 жыл бұрын
"People Like People Who LIKE THEM Maybe if You SHOW That You Like Someone They're more Likely to like YOU.."
@ssmith9689 жыл бұрын
wow. that was one of the best tips that hardly anyone, including myself, is aware of. I'm always trying to make sure they don't know my feelings lol
@resawohlrabe27499 жыл бұрын
Just recently, I've been complimented on that other 90%! I've been working outside doing yardwork and my husband just out of the blue mentioned that he likes the fact that I like working in the yard because I have a "vision" for landscaping. And I was like... huh... that's really strange, but I really liked it, and I can't stop thinking about it! It's been a week! Totally makes sense:)
@quilequila8 жыл бұрын
It's a great thing to be specific about what you like about another person, and then share that with them. It can build vulnerability and intimacy, even on a smaller level. It is equally valid and important to supply that affirmation for yourself, to yourself... It's important to be enough for yourself 1st; or else you can risk being someone who is searching for compliments and validation because of personal insecurities.
@katharinah.3343 жыл бұрын
Giving him compliments all the time :) I also like to compliment my female friends. Everyone is happy about such a thing.
@aliciaguiang96798 жыл бұрын
Matthew, with your program you made me feel I'm in my 20's again! I enjoy listening to your program! Thanks for sharing!
@ayamewilliams20656 жыл бұрын
This is a valuable tip. No only for getting a guy/girl, but rather for making friends in general. We all have our insecurities, and having someone just tell you something new and good about yourself can make a world of difference.
@happycustomer1046 Жыл бұрын
So true. I always tell people their amazing traits from my heart, you don’t know when your going to make someone’s day with that one comment and uplift them for a long time to come
@TheMichellearc8 жыл бұрын
I felt so unusual as a woman complimenting others for what I felt was pretty neat about them. Once it came to mind, I would tell them. It didn't matter whether or not I knew you. Having heard Matt say in this video, "tell them...," helps me feel like I'm doing it right. :)
@Rima-ll5pe2 жыл бұрын
The reason no one tells us our nice things is bcs we ourselves do not recognise and acknowledge them. Once we stop focusing on our flaws, and begin to highlight our positive traits, we will begin to attract more compliments in our lives. 💗
@agotacsaszar433 жыл бұрын
To me this goes down to the mere fact that if someone gets good feeling from you they will come back for more and compliments give good feelings anyway 😊
@elleari899 жыл бұрын
How true! Funny enough I instantly fell for a guy who took a moment to really see me and gave me such insight into myself, and he even complimented me on things i never thought anyone saw in me. needless to say, he and i dated for 2years :)
@ReddArrow10 жыл бұрын
Excellent video. I want to make a vlog episode about this point. We don't complement a lot as human beings, it's easier to judge people because it takes less courage and effort, but with complimenting, people think about the risks of rejection and what they don't think about is the fact that they might change someone's day in one sentence. Thanks for inspiring me!
@bakalovinamvz9 жыл бұрын
This video is the blatant truth! Take notes everybody!
@practicallyheidi85058 ай бұрын
That is just really good, simple advice. We all remember the people that gave us those kind of compliments. Thanks.
@Khanarium5 жыл бұрын
Matt i'll leave my compliment to you " You really make a great contribution to this world " :)
@DeeLaBee9 жыл бұрын
two things to say: 1) Your accent is really neat, and no, i'm not saying that because of the video :D 2) I know what you mean. I like that, when people complement me to my face. I also like when people notice something new and instead of asking why i did that or saying (for example) 'You got a HAIRCUT!' it's nice when they say (calmly) 'I like your haircut!' 3) Another complement: i like that you're people-smart. That's a good thing! I like to watch your videos!!!
@joshuaroybosse6 жыл бұрын
Hazel Daly i
@itsnygeria2 жыл бұрын
I took your advice from another video!!! I’ve been talking to a guy I met online for a week now, we’d already been talking everyday from good morning until we fell asleep. In the video I watched you mentioned taking the initiative to have a phone call with your interest. So, I asked him to video call when he said he wanted to have another deep conversation like we’d previously done- we started a FaceTime call at 11 pm & stayed on the phone until 5 IN THE MORNING burning through conversations, sharing stories, & it ended with him asking if he could take me on a date!! Thank you SO much for your advice, it definitely helped us move to the next steps of getting to know one another!!
@corastory48178 жыл бұрын
I once told someone that they looked like they should be on a magazine - that their style was that good. One of my friends heard me say it, and they called me "a Gem" - compliment on top of compliment
@miladorotea23383 жыл бұрын
I agree that ppl forget to compliment I usually do make a meaningful compliment and it’s amazing to see their face light up
@samurilip5 жыл бұрын
thank you for putting this video up mattew, not enough men hear compliments from ladies these days. I usually get "hey cutie" or "hey handsome" line all the time, knowing its not genuine
@pinkmuffin98425 жыл бұрын
So true for girls as well. I was always told that I was smart and everyone told me only that. Last night a man I was sleeping with interrupted for a second and said "you are beautiful" (not in english but that doesn't matter). I've never been told that and it might seem superficial to some, but it totally made my day, maybe even my weekend.
@BinaBinaBee7 жыл бұрын
The other day a girl told me that I should have a talk show because I'm so funny. That compliment made my entire life!!
@gracegrace7909 жыл бұрын
I got complimented today after a guy saw me smile.. and they said I had a beautiful smile that changed my day, and people treated me differently because I felt better about myself! it's the little things. so I responded maybe a little ....silly but said thank you and merry christmas! and smiled again at them. I don't smile much as I am very shy, so people have to catch a smile to see it; im bashful.
@ericasun21218 жыл бұрын
I love your accent!!. You are so handsome!!!
@Karen-uu5fj6 жыл бұрын
The things you say are scary brilliant - i knew this on an instinctual level but recognized it first now when you pointed it out, its so obvious now that you have said it, yet I have never thought about it like this before :D keep doing what you are doing man, you don't only give advice on guys but you help regain women's confidence and that's beautiful, so thank you for doing what you do :)
@GeonelleRoseFineArts9 жыл бұрын
I imagine that you're essentially mr Rogers for adults. Love it!! Absolutely adore this advice.
@Patrizia4Christ9 жыл бұрын
My Compliment to You today and the part of "90 %" I see in you. You are consistent!
@valeriecollura6 жыл бұрын
This is such great advice on a human level. How often I’ve probably missed taking the opportunity to make others feel good about themselves!
@Nina-vv3ev4 жыл бұрын
I could picture little Matthew being “fun” and spinning around lol
@heatherkotrla73236 жыл бұрын
He's truly brilliant and he's giving the best advise and not trying to rip people off and charging an arm and a leg. I love his intelligence,knowledge, wisdom,and passion for wanting to help people fall and stay in love I give it 5 stars... And he's super HOTTT
@LiriTheDisneyFan6 жыл бұрын
Very valuable. It's the small details within daily communication that make the difference.
@hipnhappenin6 жыл бұрын
Nope. I compliment people all the time. For their character, work ethic, looks. Anything. And all to no avail. Even my really mean ex used to ask why I loved him (because he never believed me) and I gave him truthful answers, even though he treated me horribly. He ended up cheating on me, breaking up with me, and to this day continues to torment me
@MagdalenaH3 жыл бұрын
A compliment for you Matthew that under the surface of dating advice you are exceptionally inspiring when it comes to business relations. thank you!
@luckymodestar10 жыл бұрын
matthew you have gold advices that changes my life and helps me a loot thaaank you
@catataf6 жыл бұрын
A lot of what you said is such great advice in general, not just for dating or flirting. Compliment others, notice them, be kind!
@blacksheep97725 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. I paint funny designs on cars (just cause) & get comments about the paint job everywhere i go, am used to it. But one day was driving through a drivethrough in one of these cars. When the The young guy working at the window saw the car, he said "I like the way you express yourself". It was so different and unique to the usual and standard comments i receive. I will always remember that. Thankyou to that random guy at KFC Mawson Lakes (South Australia) 😃❤❤❤
@kdeloris22258 жыл бұрын
You are so right about that because people like feeling special both men an woman
@lindithomas82917 жыл бұрын
Thank you Matthew Hussey. Coming from a Life Coaching background.. And sharing your videos with my guy friends..(which can even imply to them and their insecurities) you have broadened my mind and my standards. Just a suggestion.. I know your videos focus primarily on woman but maybe you should expand and give some guys tips too. When I share your vids with them they are like.. Wow.. I wish I didn't put girls on "pedestals" that make us too shy to talk to.. or do that thing that he said we do. Thanks for being the voice of reason that we so often need.
@mikimiki-s9g7 жыл бұрын
Hi, dear Matthew. I found this techniques work well with most of the guys but it didn't work for my ex. I was involved in a verbally abusive relationship. When I told him the compliments he told me . 'awww, you are not too bad yourself...'At that moment, I sense something wrong. Then he became quite verbally abusive like calling me awful names, trying to push me down, saying he is too successful for me . I broke up with him, then he said I am controlling and abusive because I broke up with him. I took his stereotype comments personally for 8 months after the broke up. Yesterday I went to the therapist, I decide to move on. After the session I understood I was in a verbal abusive relationship for so long since the beginning. I think many women experienced that . Matthew, I look up to you a lot, could you please do a episode on 'verbally abusive relationship' and how to walk out of the abusive situation. Thank you so much. Miki
@4.11325 жыл бұрын
Have a tendency to be too honest so sometimes I just randomly throw out oddly specific compliments for people... which tends to earn me very confusedly pleased yet irritated stares (especially from my male friends) 😂
@francesariannetaron10208 жыл бұрын
you look like ryan gosling i like him ;)
@SuperNdo0osh8 жыл бұрын
even better
@vamanosninja41438 жыл бұрын
I think he looks like Orlando Bloom.
@SuperNdo0osh8 жыл бұрын
Vamanos Ninja orlando + ryan = mathew lol
@vamanosninja41438 жыл бұрын
***** Totally :) British accent and brown hair from Orlando, facial features from Ryan.
@watchwoman166 жыл бұрын
I said a prayer to Thank God for you, Matthew Hussey. You have an uncanny gift for identifying human behavior and decoding it. It’s teaching an old lady like me of 53 what to do. Who says you can’t teach an old dog new tricks? 😉
@marlaheiler27962 жыл бұрын
53 is NOT old...🙃
@Gg-rssystG82 жыл бұрын
Absolutely right and if people don't like you because you're not 15 there's not much you can do about it.
@lilacw2 жыл бұрын
Wanna hear something silly? I'm often complimented about being smart. I'm often teased about being too kind (that I'm a pushover). Last summer, a lady told me I had a beautiful smile. And no one had ever told me that before. (I have a huge insecurity about my crooked teeth.) She made me light up the whole trip and she still does whenever I think of her compliment, whether it was genuine or not.
@andreahoyosl9 жыл бұрын
Have no idea how I ended up in your channel. But I'm subscribed already! I Loved these tips about complimments. You are so smart and sensitive. Greetings from Ecuador.
@jobellesephine149510 жыл бұрын
Excellent, thanks Matt. Oh and Jamieson ~ great taping and recording. Love to you too babe!
@amandagioia18 жыл бұрын
I throw great qualities at every one that part no one sees. I get the same obvious comments a lot so I know what it feels like for ppl not to see you.
@pollypockets5085 жыл бұрын
I don't know. My cat scratched me and I'm so nice to him. I even feed him and pet him. ;-)
@vamanosninja41438 жыл бұрын
This is the best he's looked of all his videos I've watched (which I started doing today.)
@themeek019 жыл бұрын
I agree. Ive definitely gotten better at giving compliments over time. It was not something I was really taught. Good advice :)
@anthonyburwell28603 жыл бұрын
So true especially men we don't always get compliments
@punkybrewstar8310 жыл бұрын
Great advice- you also have really good clothing sense and style Mathew. I've been bought up in such a way that I struggle to compliment people- especially if I care about them- but then nobody says much nice about me and if they do it isn't really nice... I had a job interview today and the interviewer said that I had managed to scrub up nicely at the end. Not only did this lovely compliment imply that I don't normally dress for work that way or look like that for work(depending where it is but for an office it is literally my normal look), but it was generally done in a degrading way... I already know that I'm not employed there... but to receive a genuine compliment? I barely ever do... so it is hard to break out of that culture of criticism... but I also don't try hard enough. I know that I could easily compliment people a lot more if I set out to do so, and so many people in my life really do deserve it. Thanks :)
@MeliLeani6 жыл бұрын
Sweet buttery biscuits when Matt put his hand in his hair... 😳😍
@TheLovely9908 жыл бұрын
I try to give compliments as well, when its in my head.
@SomeGal10 жыл бұрын
This applies to both men and women! I tell you what.. I am tired of being called pretty. Mention one of my inner qualities to win me over!
@alea55869 жыл бұрын
That was a great tip! I usually compliment people on looks, for example when I see a nice scarf or a cool hairdo. Somehow I'm always shy to compliment them in something deeper because I fear that they think I'm clingy or annoying or something... weird, I know!
@josiepedere13162 жыл бұрын
I admire you Matthew because you are so straightforward and honest with your advices.. thanks for the info and advices 🇬🇧
@suzannestammer38293 жыл бұрын
What a wonderful observation, so true! I can't wait to implement this.
@iam6Machine5 жыл бұрын
I just told my man, “ Did you know Matthew Hussey?, He’s damn so hot, but you are triple hotter than him, baby.” And my man lights up like a fire works!!! Lol 😂
@pooja3503 жыл бұрын
He's one lucky guy haha
@a.m.thomas93662 жыл бұрын
😂 STOP MESSING WITH THE MAN.
@g7show10 жыл бұрын
Wow, I am just starting to date again at the young age of 59, I look great, just have to lose a few pounds and I working on that-but Matthews tips are so right on-so simplistically practical and I am sure effective if not for him ( my date tomorrow ) for me to feel better and more confident on taking this journey to find a life's partner for the next 40 years of my life- thank you Matthew . . . Pamela from California
@shphonic9 жыл бұрын
KZbinCrush Right there. Hes so intelligent..Educating us all. No we don't tend to voice what we thinking in the moment. Sometimes it good to speak our minds ;-) Thanks for all your advice Matt...I'm learning fast. Just saying Hi from the UK.
@a.m.thomas93662 жыл бұрын
This is such an awesome video ; you sound like a life coach. Everything you said here can help everyone who wants to be positive. These videos with never be outdated.
@day_dreamer_7 жыл бұрын
This is so true I'm so happy you mentioned it. It's something I've been working on last few years, vocalizing what you appreciate/admire in someone to them. I never needed acknowledgment and didn't like inflated praising so didn't regularly dish it out but some people in my workplace were so frequently appreciative and complimentary to me and I realized how much confidence it gave me that I was doing a good job and it did make me feel good even though I wasn't looking for that kind of praise, so I realized it was something I wanted to be more proactive about and give to others. Sometimes it's tricky with women, they feel like they have to compliment back before they can really just receive the compliment you've given them. I do think noticing something about them that comes from a deeper place is really powerful, I've remembered those times when others have done that to me and it's quite special :) I wish I had done this more frequently in my previous relationship, I don't think I recognized how much/how often he needed to hear praise, I just acknowledged this to him the other day. And he's a Leo I should have figured that out sooner :/