This Mindset Shift Guarantees A Great Date (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

[@saras.2173]

The attitude that helps me in a first date is, “Let me see if I like him” vs. how can I get him to like me.

[@zipzap1561]

I’m a guy meeting someone who I’ve been talking to for 7 months online. We live so far apart and I’m definitely going to use your advice! I immediately felt less pressure.

[@ajh.4131]

"Play this video before every date you go on." Every? I'm still trying to get ONE 😅

[@SammieL80]

aw don't say that. The way I see things is if I can manage to get a mans attention anyone can. :)

[@ajh.4131]

Well, I don't mean this in an arrogant way, but I know I can get a mans attention. Getting him to ask me out or show that I'm interested is the hard part. I tend to make things awkward around guys I like.

[@SammieL80]

AJ H. no you don't sound aggrogant. What do you mean by awkard? For me I have found that if a guy does not ask me out or show real interest quite early on they are prob not that interested I always found that guys like talking to me and if they don't take it to the next step they are just not that interested for whatever reason and sometimes it can have nothing to do with me it is just them and their issues but I am a very light hearted etc person so even though we are all different I have found that guys are pretty comfy around me from the get go.

[@ajh.4131]

I can be awkward because sometimes I'll stumble over my words or I'll lose my train of thought when I'm talking. When I like someone, I'll do the complete opposite of showing them that I'm interested. I won't talk much because I'm too nervous and afraid that I'll say something stupid. I'm just always overthinking and it's frustrating sometimes. You're right though. If they don't feel the same way, then it's best to move on. I feel like the guys I end up liking are too shy to say anything. I'm in the situation now but I really don't want to overthink it. I try to keep myself distracted. It's a little more complicated because it's a guy that I work with.

[@SammieL80]

don't think I can give you any advice but have you thought about taking acting lessons and trying to get out of your comfort zone and going with the flow more and seeing what happens. If a guy likes you he will like you for you. Relationships in the early stages especially should be easy not hard. If you feel like a guy is to shy to make a move ask them out and realise you may get rejected and give them a hint and see if they take it if they don't well like I said either take a risk and ask them out or move out. Personally I would never date someone I work with but whatever happens I hope things work out for you just go with your gut and do what is right for you. Life is short and you need to be happy but if you want my advice just go with the flow and see what happens a relationship especially in the early stages should be easy not hard.

[@ClaireDS]

This applies to life, not just dating 😉

[@travellerswiss]

Yess🎉

[@froyo9674]

Yes, sis!

[@stephh_nz]

My workmates call me "snowflake" because I felt a bit weak and fragile at a particular time and referred to myself as "just a snowflake" - it stuck. Your definition of snowflake is so much more empowering - I'm gonna own it, at work and in my dating life! Thanks Matt!

[@SoraiaJF]

Totally agree. I also think we should just go and have fun.

[@viviennegreenwood443]

Thanks for that. Found it really helpful actually with my artwork. I'm trying so hard to get it absolutely right as I have not worked at it forever, it's actually not even enjoyable to do. Every snowflake is different and utterly beautiful. Going to start relaxing and having fun while learning... Just let it happen. With my essence to it. Much appreciated. Will apply to all I do. x

[@MsShutupndance]

Matthew hire that boxing guru. He's a genius.

[@iwonapaprocka755]

I believe that advice can reduce 110% of anxiety before any date really ;-)

[@MaeOfTrades]

I'm about to go on my first date Sunday and I replayed this video thank you so much lol I'll probably watch it again the day before too 😂

[@Jopie_H]

I know this is 5 years ago, but how did it go?

[@louiswright7991]

@@Jopie_H I doubt he remembers 😂

[@PimIam]

@@Jopie_H curious aswell lmao

[@hanzpotterman5396]

yeah tell me im curios

[@MaeOfTrades]

@@hanzpotterman5396 @NoDumbTheories @Pimlam oh I still remember lol it was a dumpster fire. The boy was a hockey player and he took me ice skating… I told him I was terrible but he still wanted to go. First- he lied about his age and was underaged, a junior in high school (was 17)…. Second- when it came time to pay he hesitated for what felt like hours so I told him i had no problem paying for myself and he just didn’t say anything back but threw his card up on the counter. Then i spent half the time falling on my butt and he only offered to help me up once and the rest of the time starred as I struggled… needless to say nothing happened after that lol.

[@michelleso364]

Matthew, I love that concept. I completely agree, we should stop trying to make everything perfect. But here's my question...you have mentioned in a few of your previous videos that we should always be our authentic self, but what should a person do if the other person is not authentic? How can you convey the message to them without making it awkward?

[@MsTomato100]

I’m so glad I remembered to come listen to this memo before I go on my date today! Thanks Matt!!!😊

[@wmalinowymstylu7670]

I agree completely. I have date today I'm not gonna stress myself. You are right. There are no perfect people. Let see what happens. Thanks

[@laurar.2053]

Great advice as usual,Matthew! I wonder how many ladies in here tend to have another issue-that is,I go on a date, not overthinking it too much,not expecting anything,just having as much of a great time as possible. The man usually wants a second date and I just couldn't care less. Forever alone lol

[@9turquoisemoon9]

Really wonderful advice in its simplicity. I wish I could relax while communicating with other people... It has been the hardest thing for me for last 8 years.

[@ritalorenz-mark4212]

oh thank you so much, am single for over 3 years, after 13 years of marriage am divorced and single for over 3 years! and I didn't know how to go on a date after my divorce. I was putting to much thought and pressure to my self. but your advice is gone help me gain more confidence when I finally decide to go on my very first date after such a long time. thank you Matthew! be blessed!

[@SammieL80]

hey Rita I was single for a long time before I started dating for me it was the best thing I ever did cause I found my life improved whilst I healed from my past relationship. I lost a really good fuy because I was to scared at first to meet him. I do think in the back of my mind we will meet again but I have needed to let go of the situation and move on with my life. If you want my advice start talking to men either if it is just online or out and about and build your confidence back up and see where life takes you. A man who likes you will accept you for the person you are but maybe get to know them a wee bit before dating them and get comfy around them. Good luck with everything.

[@heartrose4]

Thank you! Your effort at being specific and touching on a lot of subjects and being constant has been my nutrient needed to grow from caterpillar to butterfly! ❤

[@eleonorelemay5719]

Go with the flow! It's like dancing x Dancing take you in every direction... oups I lost balance! you should do a video right now... when you feel like it... do not wait until Sunday because we are expecting it... you going in circle!!! lots of discovery this week ... go deep!

[@aneczka413]

Sound advice for anything really!

[@jillbelanger9111]

Thank you so much for this. Made me cry because I felt so much relief. Thank you for understanding!!!

[@juliandranl5424]

Beautiful!!! Thank you. I wish everyone of us to love and to be loved!!!

[@mrstlbc]

This is really great advice. I'm a fundraiser and this is really helpful in approaching ask meetings. Thank you.

[@rachelweston1716]

I think that finding a guy is really easy. I find it hard to see through the false depiction because people always come across as being something they are not. you are then in a relationship with someone completely the opposite of the person they had originally portrayed.

[@DearSybersue]

Excellent video Matthew! We discussed a similar topic at my meetup group last night for women dealing with a divorce or getting over a breakup. You are right about over thinking things. Love the snowflake analogy!

[@loryneokoth609]

Weirdly enough this applied to my worklife as well, Thanks Hussey!

[@Silviluv]

i just found my new favourite quote :) ❄️

[@island_girl]

I was thinking the same thing with that last sentence! 💖

[@Tes73792]

+Vanessa Perez So "I will see you next week" is your favourite quote?

[@island_girl]

tss92777 lol...No, that is just his send off, not his last sentence if you think about it. 😜

[@Tes73792]

Vanessa Perez Hih, I was just kidding :P

[@island_girl]

tss92777 lol I know....but I bet there bound to be at least 1 person who's going to read your reply and not get it. 😉

[@babydoods]

Great training advice and practical relationship analogy. Will help me focus on shadow boxing & sparring

[@zachogan6255]

I like how his advice is also applicable to men ... well done Matty

[@7a11]

this is exactly what i needed to hear ! thank you so much !

[@olejdi2092]

So true, we should allow ourseves to be fully human :)

[@nathaliafernandes7581]

This man is perfection 💫✨Honestly!!!

[@nieah206]

how do you forgive a cheating ex for yourself, inner peace? Thanks to your videos, I am starting back to believe there's someone out there right for me after being cheated on. However it's so hard to let go of resentment. I think many women endure this paintful time after infidelity. Please give us wise advice as you always do.

[@MariaMartinsson]

Great advice as always!! Love your videos ♥

[@AnniemalPlanet]

Wow, this is probably the best thing i've ever heard. Thanks again

[@JS-ei4xf]

Great analogy! I loved it

[@unfolding_love4898]

I'm soo glad I press the sub button a year ago !! Love u Matt

[@Monizss]

I went on a first date a few days ago and i was so nervous i just said "sorry I'm just really nervous" lmao :( ...

[@rubywhite1582]

Great advice as usual. Love it!

[@marshareed1438]

I’m going on a date tonight. I’m not nervous about any personal insecurities. I’m nervous about my guy friend wanting more. I’m nervous about another future with a man, I’m nervous about going to new places. I’m a recluse to adventuring out unless it’s with a person that I trust. If given a choice I’ll stay home vrs leaving. My friend was smart lol he got us tickets without my permission. Now I feel that I should go.

[@asmahk76]

Great advice!

[@sarahbuckman9860]

Loved this one so much! Really hit deep 👌🏼💯

[@albrenza]

Just be yourself :) Totally true in every ways :)

[@V_II_IK_I_IN_G]

I’m a guy and this applies to us too! Just about to go to a first date! 🤣

[@mariumashraf3349]

watching this before a date like

[@Leila-yk8li]

Life saver ! THANK YOUUUUUU

[@suzywilson1649]

This applies to life! Thanks Matt xxx

[@Gorejess90]

i totally agree! I remember going this 1st date with a guy and I could tell he put all this effect into it and it wasn't going to plan. i just said we are going to have the best first date story and he ask why as everything was going wrong. I said because know while it was on paper a dream it was the random imperfections that made it perfect and allowed me to see the type of man you are or we will have get story about how horrible it was. His mood change instantly and it was an amazing date even thought stuff kept going wrong.

[@zoeparkour4665]

Dear Matthew! I really need you (or anybody else) to give me an advice: There's a boy, I met three weeks before at a party. Next weekend he invided me to his house party and last week we met only the two of us. It was great even if both of us were a little shy. Since then we are texting and he aked me about my weekend. I told him I'm not sure, because I have to visit my grandparents. So we're texting like 😘 and I think we're both interested in each other. Is 😘 too much? And should I stop writing him for a day to keep him interested? I'm quite unsure about that. I don't want to show too much interest. Is that necessary after he told me a few times indirectly he really likes me? It would be more than great somebody answering me! (Oh I'm 16 and he's 19)

[@zoeparkour4665]

please! It's so important to me!

[@glaizajvasquez]

You are 16 my dear, you are young. If you are not "past the bloom of youth" (where sexual attraction is so strong) then feelings can easily develop. Take you time :) get to know him more. Remember that "Attraction" is base on what you see. "Infatuation" is base on what you feel. And "True Love" is base on what you know. Don't rush into relationship very quickly if you have doubt. You know I'm 28 and haven't dated anyone yet. Sounds boring but who cares. look there are a lot of fish in the ocean. I will just smile, soon they will be gone. hahaha

[@shellb1633]

loved this

[@yesyoga]

Wonderful! Whew, helpful. I have a date in two days and my stomach is in knots! I know the person too! So this is irrational. 😊

[@BW-81]

You know, this applies to guys too. Thanks.

[@KillahKoncept]

Great message and advice! I like that snowflake analogy 👍🏼

[@Minni11-q3q]

showed this my date bc i was so drunk

[@rachialcombs3748]

Thank you i know that I'm 17 and i shouldn't stress about these things a my young age, but i do but I don't think to much. I have a question is it okay to tell a guy after the date that you liked it better when you were just friends? P.S. I love your advice even though i am really young compared to most women it helps me and others around my age and a little higher. so again thanks

[@blackpearl1t]

great vid thanks mat

[@Chocokaylarobin]

Going on a date Sunday, so nervous 🥴

[@henrijslacis2035]

this is very helpful thank u bby

[@Cybraxas]

Good thought, could use it for sports. But in dating terms, I'm quite the opposite - I make the mistake of relying too much on the other person's indulgence. Which is not good.

[@ShwetaSharma-fp8wo]

Matthew I so love your videos. I guess they are the only guide to all the women out there. Can you please tell me what should I do if my boyfriend abuses my parents for no specific reason? Although I have made it clear that he shouldn't do so and respect my parents but I still need guidance on how to prevent such a situation in future. I guess a lot of women must have a similar experience in their love lives. Thanks! And keep up the good work.

[@SammieL80]

we are all different but for me if my man did not treat my loved ones with respect and love I would kick him to the curb I don't want that bad energy in my life. If a man truly has respect for you then he will do as you say. Have your parents upset him cause maybe you need to talk to them as well. How long have you guys been together for. Sorry you are going through this.

[@ShwetaSharma-fp8wo]

We are from different regions of India. My mom called him Southerner. Usually he's sweet to my parents but I guess he was overworked and stressed that night. He apologised after a few hours when I hung up and asked him to never call back because I would not tolerate such a behaviour. But even after the apology I am still not able to justify such an egregious behaviour for such a petty thing. We all have our share of problems and stress but it doesn't give either of us the right to disrespect anyone's parents.

[@SammieL80]

Shweta Sharma have you been dating him for a while? I guess you just need to see how it goes and see how you feel about things but if he learns a lesson from it that is all you can ask for right. Least you made it clear how you felt about things but you are right taking our stresses out on others shouldn't happen we all have probelms but i have noticed this in a lot of relationships people don't know how to handle their stress so take it out on others.Hope things work out for you and him

[@ShwetaSharma-fp8wo]

That's so sweet of you Brooke. Thanks for being there for help.

[@SammieL80]

well if I have helped you out at all I am pleased to hear that the best advice I can give you is always go with your gut. Look after yourself and hope things work out for you.

[@Tebbles07]

omg.. I enjoyed this video.

[@brunetteRapunzelLife]

My boyfriend broke up with me OVER TEXT. Help Matt. plz

[@nesha50421]

brunetteRapunzelLife I'm sorry to hear that

[@liezelmuller6648]

I know this is tough to hear, but If he broke up with you over text then he's not worth your time. ❤

[@Adam-qs5ir]

You shouldn't have a perfect date. If that's your focus you'll never show your true self or see their true self. Enjoy the date and enjoy the person you're getting to know. 😊

[@revatishinde_]

Ahh this is gold. :)

[@hfvkhnml]

This color fits u prrfectly

[@Julia-kv2po]

I'm about to go on a date with a guy I like and I'm damn nervous because I don't remember the last time that I dated someone three times in one week lol wtffffff

[@AnnaCecilia95]

Thank you so much, that was great advice 😀 I do get really keyed up before dates, so being reminded of these important things did me good! By the way, could you maybe make a video or tell me a video where you talk about how to not get too attached too quickly (in an unhealthy, thinking-about-that-person-everywhere-always) in a new relationship? What to tell oneself when that person takes longer than one would like to reply to texts? (It's a person I know likes me so I needn't worry as much as I actually do...) ? Thank you~

[@cuddlesxyz]

doesn't he look like mc dreamy from greys anatomy

[@721rena]

He looks much better!

[@ajas558]

Thank You + Matthew

[@GameArchon215]

THANK YOU!!!!!!

[@froyo9674]

Amen brother, thank you

[@lizg4690]

As a Virgo I needed this

[@honeyblood6904]

I occasionally get nervous speaking english xD

[@taemindazs872]

I love love listening to you 😘😘

[@victoriaurraco9052]

I want more!!!!!

[@tatianalytra6625]

omg your face is a combination of Orlando Bloom and Ryan Gosling😱! 😻

[@eugeniamikulan3328]

you look a little bit younger in my imagination. i should watch your vids more often right? 😘

[@bdjessy8610]

Love you Matthew

[@zoeparkour4665]

thanks. For nothing! Had my fist Date *yesterday*!

[@ameliorated]

In fact on a frst date you should feel some butterflies and mess up a little :)

[@debsterf1590]

anyone else wondering what happend to that lady from last week's video?

[@SammieL80]

yes :) hope he does a follow up vid.

[@Leen95M]

Which lady ?

[@SammieL80]

1xXxIceGirlxXx1 watch Matt's video he did, last week. :)

[@didabella6831]

thank you

[@LorenzoBarichello]

I am about to meet a girl I find beautiful and funny. And I am gonna have fun! Wish me luck people from the future!

[@专治不服-t2j]

hope l would have seen this yesterday...

[@vaishnavisolanki3019]

hey my fiyonce bheru he is over work addicted n he dnt lyk texting me... how can i make him towards me..?? he luvs me alot... we share evry moments together bt he dont gives tym..

[@Amy_Stanmore]

Smell nice, be comfortable and have fun. Yes a snowflake!

[@DigitalicaEG]

Wish I've seen this video 1 month ago. FML

[@koutsoullis]

Still can't get the free texts ? anyone can help pls?

[@elizabethsantiago9890]

Awesome.

[@luciadefalco]

Perfect! ;)

[@ShutUpJustPlay]

My problem is I dont get a second date

[@IamKarryanne]

.oh so true.

[@francinestone]

Oh Matthew!! ;)

[@Tebbles07]

FYI you look handsome.

[@joest3535]

Has anyone tried Troplusfix Dating Secrets? (google it) I've noticed many awesome things about this popular dating course.

[@fionyung7127]

Did Matthew have girlfriend ever?

[@kmariew2416]

matt i think we need to do a male an female show. with ur experience and mine we can make majic an grasp male n= gemale audience. think it would be a home run. i challenge to to take a risk an try this one season. if no one likes ill move on an make my own hit show. if not we can blow Tony Robbins out of the water!!'have ur agent reach out an watch the magic unfold💯

[@Zoelis17]

You are contradicting yourself. In another video you said not to "be yourself"...and here you said to "be yourself"

[@polilla702]

I never rehearse a date. Does any other woman rehearse a date, because I think that is more of a guy thing.

[@tasnimk1891]

Visit us in South Africa!!!!

[@gilmasrya2126]

Trust me am a snowflake but I end up being misunderstood.very unpredictable what humans expect from each other

[@JB-km1yk]

40% of this video should have been of the boxing... just sayin. 😊😘