Girl chat: birth control, side effects + sex after babies

[@myspce]

Normally i dont listen to other people when they have these sit downs, but girlll!!! I'll listen to Bonolo because she makes it fun 😂😅

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah man yay! Thank you thank you 🥹🥹

[@zamagwalagwala5739]

Also Bonolo is open, vulnerable enough and just herself really❤

[@myspce]

@@bonolo_mphamo ❤❤

[@myspce]

@@zamagwalagwala5739 yesss!! 100% there were moments where I laughed at her honesty and I love it!

[@thuliswaklaas261]

This talk was so real. It's giving membership perks . And the fact that this is free, we appreciate it❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

As for membership 🥲 you guys don’t want to see me great! Glad you enjoyed it!

[@zandisilendlanzi2476]

The checking on your partner advice is so insightful. People don’t delve into that. Thank you! I really enjoyed this video. 🥺

[@JannetFransisco]

Just love how real you are 🤣🤣

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thaaaaanks😂😂😬😬

[@zamaguma99]

I love that you spoke about your side effect experience with the different birth control brands and forms. It helps to know someone's lived experience. Otherwise, we're just having to take the doctor's word for it and try things for months at a time before changing. It's exhausting. Love, love, love it❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you so much! 🙏🏼 I know exactly what you mean! I honestly wish I shopped around but ke

[@siphentshongo3618]

Aaaah I knew that there's coming a day when you would mistakenly call yourself Bonolo Monaisa😂😂😂😂❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Listen, it’s not the first time I just usually edit it out 😂

[@reabetsweprudence3875]

😂😂I used to struggle with my new signature

[@Flourish627]

Thank you for the message in the beginning 😢❤ Waiting is hard… But thank you for your sincerity and empathy.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

It is well. You are most welcome ❤️

[@ephphatha7269]

I love girl talk😢 This literally felt like was have a conversation with my sister, Thank you Nolo❤

[@kwenamoabs]

oh i can listen to you talk all day, everyday. your videos always feel like a safe space 🤍

[@bonolo_mphamo]

That’s so nice to hear! 🥹🤍 you guys make it feel safe for me too

[@motlounggrace7594]

You are such a breath of fresh air ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you so much 🥺

[@Astridah_M]

I just love how you articulate so beautifully and make your points clear

[@happym3585]

The braids suit you so much 🤩 Thank you for the wonderful chat momma 🌸💕🎀

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah thank you 🥹

[@Elizabeth-vu1tb]

Girl Chit Chat time..💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 16K; we are COMING FOR YOU.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Chit chat time!🥹🥹🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️

[@lizhlungwani3438]

Why did you start the chat by bringing us to tears? 🥹🥹My heart goes out to every mom and dad TTC and to those grieving. Thank you mommy ❤️.

[@katlegom114]

Thank you for taking time to learn, listen and delivee the type of content you believe your followers want..❤❤❤ this channel deserves to flourish cos of that❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah, thank you so much 🥹🥹🥹

[@Tish-y6v]

Loved listening to this. Please don’t forget to do “word of the day “ on the next video- absolutely love it when you do these. Thanks ❤️🙋‍♀️

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Glad you enjoyed! I don’t always dive into the word of the day but it will always be in a video in text 🤍

[@kaziasa]

I need you to have a podcast!!! 😂❤ please!!!!!!!

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You’re stressing me!!! 😂 I envision it a certain way and I just can’t start without this one thing 😩

[@ronellecandice1536]

You are so intentional about anything you say… I love this sisi, keep doing good let’s talk about the sex chile🥂🥂

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you so much 🤍 let’s talk about seeex!

[@babysibanyoni21]

Bonolo I had the most excruciating period pains during my high school years. Now I would say neck to neck with labor pains. I would literally be paralised for the first day and I thought it was normal. It went away after I gave birth thank you for this video❤

[@victorialikando7994]

Thank you for not ghosting us and always dropping content. Consistency really keeps your community growing ♥️🔥.

[@bokamosomorema949]

your energy? i loveeee. thank you for thisssss

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You are so welcome! 😊thank you 🥹🥹

[@nokulungathabethe3754]

I just love you! I can listen to you speak the whole day❤️

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah man thank you 🥹

[@tshepisompala2236]

Loved it! Thank you for your honesty. Also you're hilarious 😂😂. Please I love you!! Also unstigmatising talking about sex!!🤞🥺 In all its goodness and glory. This was amazing.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Oh thank you!😂 I don’t even know what you’re laughing at but it’s fine! I’m so glad you enjoyed it 🥹

[@ndapewaaaa]

@@bonolo_mphamoshe’s probably laughing at the way you describe it, so openly😂❤️

[@GaopalelweMoerane]

Car therapy sessions are my fave fave fave! This topic? Much needed hey, especially because I’m the first of my friends to have a child and so these conversations I don’t get to have to them often and you know our moms and aunties are from a different generation sana, oe thoma ka bathong 🤣 I appreciate your honesty man, so refreshing! Checking in on your partner? So true, so true! Lovely lovely video, thank you so much! I giggled, felt validated and had lots of food for thought!

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You’re most welcome! 😊 it’s not easy being the first but it does get better and friendships end and change

[@mogomanemichell7879]

I so love you Mrs Mphamo, your honesty is what makes me drawn to you. Please guys lets watch the ads, she deserves her flowers. The car convos slaps. I relate with everything you said in this vlog. nd I totally agree its not normal to go through extreme period pains that prevents you from doing normal everyday activities. I am scheduled for laparoscopy in few months and after hearing you talk about it gave me hope

[@MrsP_Mkhabela]

Your car therapy conversation very necessary. Thank you mama ❤

[@LelethuS]

I am also on the Microval as I am breastfeeding. It’s nice to hear someone else speak on it.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

It’s always nice to hear 🥹

[@ladyras]

It's because you don't curate this perfection that you think we want to see. That's why am here❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah man thank you 🥺

[@thembelihlevivian435]

Thank you so much for this conversation Mrs Mphamo, as a newly wed this is very helpful information 🙏🏾

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You're so welcome! I hope it helps 😌 keep it in mind always

[@sechabamashamba9354]

Oh I enjoyed this chit chat❤I fully agree with you especially with the “roll over trick”. Thank you for enlightening us. Looking forward to Dr Z to join in😅

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You are so welcome!🥹🥹

[@mogomanemichell7879]

yes, that lunch date with you and Dr Z. it needs to happen

[@Msmissymist]

You are such a star ! I’ve been here from the beginning but I’m still so happy I found this channel

[@loveangie2951]

Bathong, madam Consistency Mphamo🎉 thank you for yet another therapeutic chat hle❤❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You are so welcome! It’s my pleasure.😊

[@khanyothandeka3206]

Loved this sit down, very informative and relatable. And gurllll sex after marriage really hits different. 🌸♥️

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Oh my gosh right?! 🌸🥰

[@jabulileradabe6004]

I love these car therapy conversations ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Me too! I really do 🥹

[@beekaym4422]

I wish I could like this multiple times. Thank you ✨

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You are the best! 😊

[@leratomoratele]

Why have I been feeling sooooo bad for choosing to have C-sections with all my babies.Because of the same reason as yours momma😂❤I love you for being real B.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Don’t ever feel bad for your choice, it’s totally okay 🥺

[@lunnngile]

Please don't feel bad about it. You are a mother to healthy babies. That's what counts. You being here is more important than everything else. We have different ways of doing things, yours was a C-section, that is more than enough honey❤

[@fezekambonani9756]

I would love hearing your voice on the radio

[@bonolo_mphamo]

🤍🤍

[@DrMrsmashlife]

Nice conversation, Sex. In marriage is complex, and it’s always more than just someone waking up and deciding I’m going to use sex as a power play, It’s a two people thing that must be figured out by two people,

[@lungelomathenjwa3815]

Hey B, I always here people complain about the Mirena. I actually had it for 10 years (2 IUDs for 5 years each). I had it since I was 14🤔(I think), I had extremely extremely heavy periods and I got sick. I had no issues with it, even when I started having sex. I stopped my periods completely, I never bought pads for 10 years😂I started buying them 3 years ago when I took it and I am still not used to the whole period’s experience.

[@mosimamaheya235]

"Pray for patience, peace, and love."❤❤❤ Modimo o gona....🙏

[@biancamukwevho]

I don't have kids yet, but this helps a lot thank you B❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Glad it helped! 😊🥹

[@palesatsotetsi1771]

I enjoy your honesty so much. Have not even watched this video yet but I already know😄

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You're the best!😂

[@yayampiti4038]

Heeeeey Bonolo Consistency Mphamo🤣♥️

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Hey now 😌😌

[@lethabos1]

These braids suite you soooo much, Ausi🥹😍

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you so much ☺️

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

I love this girl period ❤❤❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah and this girl loves you!🥹

[@kellywise8507]

Thank you so much, this was super informative.🙏♥

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You’re so welcome! 🙏🏼🤍

[@bayolisemanjezi3501]

❤❤notification gang, enjoyed this so much. Lol it’s my first time commenting on your videos I just watched, liked and moved on .🙈 , thank you for your consistency also❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you for watching! So glad you enjoyed it ☺️😌

[@zenandemzantsi2519]

✨love these car sessions 🫶🏼

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Me toooo!🥹

[@BoitshepomMonareng]

Thank you so much for the video Bonolo❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You're so welcome! 😊

[@andzaniritshuri6179]

And yes the blood flow thing is real on the tightening

[@fulufhelomatodzi649]

Loved this so much. Let’s organize that brunch date please momma

[@bonolo_mphamo]

2025! It’s on the list 🙏🏽

[@rachelsmith7729]

A wholesome sit down ever😊❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah man 🥹🤍

[@abigalharuzikanwi8950]

I am loving the consistency 😌 🙌 ☺️

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Goood!🥹🥹

[@tlabegochiloane7148]

Loved the episode ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

I’m so glad you enjoyed! Thaaaanks😌

[@kutlomasole712]

Thank you for this video Bonolo❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You are so welcome 🥰

[@ThulisaKohliwe-t6q]

You are so beautiful ❤thank you for sharing mama❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you so much 🥹Thank you for watching lovely! 😊

[@silindilemtshali9735]

Loved this mama❤❤❤❤😊

[@KwaSthande]

You know what would be great? Listening to your content on Spotify while taking my morning jog ❤😭

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You hate me😩😩 one day I promise

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

I enjoyed this chat so much it felt like I was in the car with you. I learned so much as a 41 year old having no sex waiting for the right man to come 😅😅😅❤❤❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Haha you are so funny! 😂 thank you thank you. Honestly, it’s just not worth it and I know that now

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

No really you dropped nuggets, gems keep it up lovely lady I appreciate you very much 🙌🙌🙌❤❤❤

[@victorialikando7994]

The awkwardness during the c-section question😂😂💀

[@DrMrsmashlife]

Would you share why you think people should wait for marriage if you don’t regret not waiting?

[@bonolo_mphamo]

The short answer is it preserves you from so so much even the child you bring into the world/relationship. In a marriage you don’t just call it quits and make selfish decisions.

[@Katleho-mafisa]

This was so good ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

❤️❤️❤️

[@nosiphomanana2630]

First one and I just wanted to say I love car therapy ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Me too! Its my favourite time☺️

[@andzaniritshuri6179]

I’m with you on the C-section, I’m not interested in natural birth at all. Like I don’t want to know

[@dionzulu4887]

Wow thank you for this 😊

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You're so welcome!

[@lorrainenkosi7940]

My girl ❤❤❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Hey☺️

[@nomboniso4331]

I like the wait for marriage part 🎉🎉

[@teyamkhonza7439]

Same feelings on pregnancy. I don't miss it. Grateful that it was healthy and had no complications but yeeer it was boring.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

And it’s okay to feel that way. It’s just not for everyone 🤍

[@nomvelobuswana]

This was so good.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Thank you 🥹

[@bridgetsebolai6207]

The way I ran here❤❤❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️

[@entlengcamu]

Love it here ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Yay❤️❤️

[@she_lee]

Hie Bonolo very informative, I wonder when you said you had heavy long periods is like continuous bleeding for the 10 plus days, I have heavy bleeding as well but for like 4 days then it can stop for 2 days then it comes again medium flow then brown stuff upto the 10th day, is this normal

[@bonolo_mphamo]

80% of the days were heavy and then the rest was normal like a normal persons period

[@fundilengcobo8511]

I could listen to Bonolo the whole day🥹

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Yoooh no ways 😂🥹

[@conniemohlokonya]

Catching up on my fave❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

You're the best!

[@zandileskhosana7059]

This talk is so informative❤. I no longer enjoy sex since I gave birth; it has become work, and I am not sure if it's because of contraceptives. I'm on 3 months Depo and I want to try something else. Send help😭

[@bonolo_mphamo]

It truly does happen it’s just not nice. Contraceptives and hormones just interfere with the natural way of things 🥹

[@yangamangisa8103]

Notification gang ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Hey now!😌

[@beryldube870]

This was great

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Goood!🤸🏽‍♀️

[@nosiphomanana2630]

I love you vulnerability it reminds me of old bonolo pregnancy story

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Old Bonolo? Hmmm… glad you enjoyed the video 😌

[@NONTOBEKO_BRIGHT]

❤❤❤❤🎉

[@andiswandubela6840]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@polokontamehlo]

Hey Momma 😊❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Heeeey!😌

[@channellenozipho9480]

💗💗💗💗💗

[@ms_inganana1848]

😂❤❤❤

[@sibongilemkumatela5567]

❤❤❤😂

[@sebabatsochonela9365]

Yaaaay! Bonolo Monaisa!🎉🎉🎉 that little mishap made me so happy 😂❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ooooooh😬😬

[@sebabatsochonela9365]

@bonolo_mphamo I really love the way you say it. No shade or weirdness to Mphamo, I am sure it will grow on me too

[@RueHaze]

✨🤍🎧

[@nokwethabamdluli6694]

Ubuhle bakho bona🔥💯

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah thank you man🥹

[@tlangie_mathaba]

God would have never created Natural birth if he knew the V wouldn't go back, just my thought

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Mmmm 😊 that’s your thought

[@oratileK]

Is it even true that with c section you can only have 3 kids?

[@bonolo_mphamo]

I think it’s recommended and also probably depends body to body and the age gaps😌

[@nkatekondlovu7031]

You make 40 minutes feel like 4minutes🥹❤️ it’s so nice here!!

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Oh snap! No ways, this is such an awesome compliment 😂

[@nokukhanya.buthelezi_]

Car sessions are a good vibe 🤍 love it for us 🤍 I should say I'm proud of you

[@bonolo_mphamo]

Ah man I love it for us all!🥺 thank you!

[@wendysibahlemasilela9955]

I thoroughly loved this conversation, I legit want to meet Dr Zenda now🤧👀🫣🥰😍 I think she is the Dr Sexologist that featured on the reality show “Married at first sight,” loved her energy.

[@bonolo_mphamo]

That’s her!!!! She’s incredible🥹

[@boitumelosenwelo1816]

Only managing to tune in now🥹 Buuuuuh, I know it was worth the wait😊

[@praymudau6672]

Love it here ❤

[@bonolo_mphamo]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Hlemhlanty]

❤❤❤

[@PalesaV]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@KoketsoMnguni]

♥️♥️♥️

[@deminabwire3599]

❤❤

[@leahmakhafola4689]

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[@nicolletnyoni4371]

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