Give Men This Type of Pain & They'll Get Addicted to You

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[@marah3298]

“Whatever you cannot predict, you respect.” Thank you, Father Alex.

[@linlino1980]

So Everybody have to Respect Aquarians cause they are UNPREDICTABLE😂😂😂👌

[@92christinam]

Geminis too🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

[@tiffi271]

Hmmm not for me. Unpredictability makes feel annoyed, then I leave annoying things alone.

[@BlackPearlMona369]

Inflicting pain then give pleasure afterwards....Pain: Being not available sometimes, cancellin dates, speaking about other men(no cheating), etc. Pleasure: invitation to dinner, invitation to vacations, etc... Thanks Alex this approach is base on psychology... But I wonder if this will work on a balanced person who has had a healthy childhood! I think it works more on traumatized guys!

[@melaniejackson2704]

Your advice works on dysfunctional and traumatised humans but not healthy functional people.... healthy, functional& balanced people don't play games and use effective communication as adults

[@fromkimwithlove]

He doesn't call himself the "toxic" dating coach for no reason!!!

[@rahmasamir909]

Most people are sick hahahahah it will work

[@thatosegopolo9072]

True Meem Aly in broken people this can become trauma bond

[@nohazamarouny]

yes for sure

[@leaannmaldonado9435]

Yep……they always come back. If they go silent, I let them have the silence.

[@sherrysargent6800]

I once dated a guy who told me I was predictable. His coworkers had crushes on me. Imagine his surprise when I started dating one and friended the other. He didn't predict that!!!! Bahahaha!!!😆 Ahhh.... Good times!😆

[@ladyowl9187]

Gold 😂

[@MegaLadylove2012]

🤣🤣🤣

[@pinkpur37]

Love it😁

[@MissDolittle777]

Love this! 🤣👊🏼 Very well done 👍🏼

[@laurac8894]

Lololol

[@itsHappening-ry2ef]

Ladies stop 🛑 being nice to these dudes ❗️ he’s telling the truth ‼️

[@Mynameisdarkxxo]

“You could actually learn a lot from what people do to you.” - Father Alex 2022

[@vivavidadela]

Exactly because how the hell did I get emotionally attached to someone I didn’t even liked🤔

[@brenrob1965]

Boys only want love if it's torture. Don't say I didn't say I didn't warn ya. -Taylor Swift

[@Ash-qm2xl]

Ohmygawd now ik what taylor meant

[@thegodweardotcom6252]

But women don't want the torture,😭😭

[@vanillakiss8701]

Yeah I get it and in the worst cases it includes destroying your own body and childbirth 🙄

[@ari-jv]

Taylor is a narcissist

[@jenbodhi1133]

For real

[@iknowwhatsup2880]

If you just behave naturally and be a bit more independent -- less needy I don't see this as toxic. It's healthy. Have your own life outside the relationship. This applies to everything. Balance!

[@MegaLadylove2012]

Yep. ‘Idgaf’ attitude

[@datingdiaries1681]

Men looove pain it is absolutely insane

[@cherankimiorak1739]

Toxic guys do not the nice ones

[@kooky434]

They crave it!!!

[@simplymarilyn5295]

.....but it's true! They love a challenge!

[@gracelikerain5039]

They sadists

[@name9601]

women do. u love being played.

[@akonobearica7645]

My boyfriend cheated on me i found out & i cheated back but he can't forget mine,he cries anytime he remembers i took revenge

[@DD_MENEN]

🤣🤣🤣 it's the crying for me

[@m.s.5966]

LMAO you’re in his brain forever love love love it

[@daddy3484]

Yes because that's how all healthy relationships start. I pray your child is spared from being raised by you.

[@anna-lu7878]

😅😅

[@elizabethowen8559]

Lol he cries

[@clara-ee1qe]

✨ Whatever you can not predict, you respect ✨so f*cking true

[@tiflps]

All the men I hurt are obsessed with me . 🖤💃🏽.

[@pianotnt]

Hell I have one obsessed from 2016 from an old job

[@everlastinglovechild5073]

This lmao!!

[@flyfish2562]

So true!! All the men I have loved and been super nice to have all treated me like aholes.

[@sherryberry4163]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@simplymarilyn5295]

My mom always said, "Men love a mean b!#@$".....sad to say, "it's true!"

[@mysticempath5601]

Humans are strange I do this shit naturally and the more I focus on me and ignore them the more they text 😂 I never have "valid excuses" tho, I just act like nothing happened

[@Pixel_Prince]

Girl, that's such a mood 😂😂💀

[@mysticempath5601]

@@wilted_rose510 its not a game though, just how I live. If they wanna know they can ask lol

[@winninginlife]

@@mysticempath5601 Exactly...but they don't care what you've got going on. They only want to talk/text about themselves...hence why they don't even care to ask. People are so stupid sometimes, life can be simple but most people love being complicated for No reason🤨

[@sadepayne]

It's true! Every time I was the nice girl, they would act like cocky a(*holes. Then I show that shocking side, basically saying f you and bye. Next thing I know they're crawling back and chasing my a** down. I became more assertive and walking away is powerful.

[@MegaLadylove2012]

‘Walkin away is effing powerful!’ Wat more incredible is having an attitude of ‘idgaf’ the entire time. Sometimes u’re nice but majority of the time, you jst don’t give a --

[@witch777000]

You have changed my life I used overthink over care n always thought letting them win to silence conflicts

[@nontobekomajola4049]

Plz don’t teach women to pay for anything-it’s wrong. A woman is not supposed to pay for anything-a man is a giver & a woman a receiver

[@fifii8501]

Amen 😂

[@iodhemind1952]

You mean to say you are a leech? Oh, yes. I got it. Humans incapable of caring for themselves.

[@lovemay5213]

Cute haaha

[@blackknight1037]

Then what's the point of your feminazi movement.Where you scream we want equality on the top of your fucking lungs.If you want equality it should apply to everything not only to fill your self fulfilling double standards.

[@feliciamcarthur7257]

Is this 1930

[@jent6476]

I call out my baby daddy all the time on his shit behavior. We broke up a decade ago, but he's still in love and fantasizes that we will get back together. It won't happen.

[@annaslet5145]

Yeap most men don't like to be called out especially by a woman. Lame and toxic as*** 🙄

[@lovepositivity2632]

😂😂 even my ex was behind me for ten years after breakup donno if he is still thinking of me

[@najabellaa3151]

I do all this naturally. I just thought I had mental issues 🤣😭🤣😭

[@Xiandoe]

You do 🤣🤣🤣

[@Marie-wi2kc]

Me too lol

[@kaymornasinclair5088]

Lol. I do sometimes…guys be calling me bipolar.

[@rahmasaidbana5938]

Me too 🤣🤣

[@midoscent]

Me too😂

[@meca3836]

I’ve broken up with all my ex’s & blocked them … they’ve either stalked me … called me from random numbers or kept harassing me on social media

[@annamillan2903]

Since I had my heart broken in pieces by a man I am going to be a bitch, not totally but I will never give my heart as spontaneously as I did before.

[@many3912]

I second you hun😂

[@jacquelynsimmons6131]

It is hard to come back from that but I love that I'm in control now

[@Fulani_Gal78]

"Whatever you can't predict you respect...

[@ellebee42]

This is genius! I’m going to watch again with pen and paper 😂. I’d been doing a lot of these things with guys just because I didn’t like them, but then couldn’t understand why I couldn’t get rid of them 😂🤣

[@sherrysargent6800]

It's the thrill of the hunt for men. Keeps them on their toes

[@brendahjjakira3944]

So basically if you want to be kept or keep someone, you have to play games🤔.Personally am not built for all this🤦‍♀️

[@Pinkduccidoll]

They naturally play games with us 💁🏽‍♀️

[@imaanhussain5198]

@@Pinkduccidollnot good men. Honestly good men don’t play games, they may make genuine mistakes but if you’re straight forward & he can trust you, they do NOT play games. You cannot build a life long relationship with games, it’s too tiring and painful. The peace of mind you get from just being yourself minus all this drama is pure bliss!!!

[@CherryBlossomr7]

I like asking guys questions about simple stuff like music when I first meet them. they think the reason I ask them the questions is because that's what I like so they tend to "agree" to it then I say oh, I actually don't like that and watch them trip over their words lmaooo.

[@ruthezenweani4152]

Basically just be disagreeable

[@PunkinDunkin314]

On Time Video!!! I'm a Recovering " NICE Girl " and I will look into your course at a later date for Sure!!! Gotta work some things out first...I really Appreciate what you're doing!!!

[@queen_vic3111]

I like that “recovering nice girl” lol 😂

[@JaeElise]

Watch Chloe_ , Lisa Hart, Karine Arloude and Love Dorsey (I’d start with Love Dorsey first). She may be harsh when it comes to approach but she helps you with getting back to yourself first before dating , then go to Chloe , etc.

[@winegyaldine96]

He said, "you can't just keep inflicting pain, your not a terminator..." My toxic ass, "yes I am! " 🤣🤣🤣

[@KatXYZ]

Dude… does this guy have an education in psychology or something? He’s too intelligent for YT 🤯🤯🤯 I ain’t heard no other content creator speak like how he speaks

[@kaymornasinclair5088]

I know right.

[@linlino1980]

He could be born with it? You dont need any graduations/educations to know these things

[@socaligurrl]

He was child prodigy that preached the gospel to adults.

[@rensii-e8b]

He is impressive indeed!

[@ScrumdiddlyYUMMtiousASMR]

He studied psychology and was a social worker

[@sthendlovu8844]

I think I'm happier knowing he's in pain lol... He'll have to soothe himself 😛

[@Pixel_Prince]

Period 💅 well said, sis

[@beverlysmith9415]

Invest in those who earned and value you period!!!

[@naliahmed261]

I always broke up with them first, and never came back crawling 😂

[@jenm5178]

I broke up with a guy and he moved on within weeks, started living with the new gal almost immediately. Didn't try to get back or anything.

[@annaslet5145]

He wasn't for you anyway

[@EcoworksFL]

Same here..he was with someone else anyway!

[@Sarablueunicorn]

You were a placeholder.

[@annaslet5145]

Obviously all these kind of dudes can't be serious about anyone to begin with 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🙄

[@Braveh3artGirl]

He did that because he was trying to get over you and imagined the idea of you with her. Its a rebound relationship, he will always be thinking of you! If nothing bad happened before you guys broke up that was insanely damaging.

[@englishwithkim6838]

wow,it is so interesting that i have done such things you mention in my last 20 years of my youth,now I'm 37, and it still works ;)

[@sonias9722]

The only rewards I'm good at is sex and physical affection, because I never want to be vulnerable, show feelings and lose pride. More videos on how to give warmth/good emotional rewards?

[@marah3298]

That’s me usually too!

[@ladyofspa]

Acknowledging his plans for you two. Dates, and acts of kindness, supports, gifts, compliments. Reward his efforts, when he keeps his word.appreciate after he pleases you.thank you, being happy, smiles, affection. Sex as a reward ummmm nahh for me unless engaged. Respect always.

[@annaslet5145]

Currently trying to regain control of myself and emotions as he almost succeeded at the game he was playing on me. I thank God ❤️ now he will pay for whatever he has done to me. It's a shame he's toxic and is responding to these kind of manipulations though.

[@ladyofspa]

Wait so you are investing your beauty intelligence energy, time into what you just described. Uhhhhh? He still wins.

[@OolongG952]

Temporary “no contact” messes them up too😆

[@verycherry4459]

My no contact has gone on 3 months so far. Oops. Oh well.

[@rahmasaidbana5938]

So true 😂 am doing in it now 🤣🤣🤣

[@jackiewisniewski7167]

😂🤣😂🤣

[@bora8393]

Hey alex ! Next topic about attracting new dudes ? Specially over social media

[@Blossomandbalance]

I agree

[@fatemajabeen4436]

Attracting new dudes is easy. Its hard to keep them

[@akemishun165]

Yeah!

[@xmswayzemx]

Ooo this! And how to keep them.

[@MindfulAttraction]

You don't need that. They come to you

[@tiflps]

I did all this in the beginning. Sh!t I was on point!

[@soulspirationgoddess]

This is the best I’ve ever seen your hair Alex!! Lol

[@Greenteajohn]

Can you make a video talking about how to make dismissive avoidants chase? I mean, how to trigger the needy part of a dismissive avoidant.

[@542pixie1]

U can try on me 🤣 i have dismissive avoidant

[@trinap.8904]

Why?

[@verycherry4459]

Yaaassss

[@ladyofspa]

Way way way too much work for the rest of your life. You will really doing the chasing.

[@leblancvautour1103]

The best way is by being cold and distant to them.

[@treeseer1573]

Manipulation - this is what narcissists do...

[@patriciaviii]

Or like when a short guy tries to diss me, i hurt their ego and say “too bad, youre the first short guy i ever liked”

[@allabout6552]

this works? this can be something like ,,too bad, you re the first notmytype guy, I was attracted to"? XD

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

Nah. Thats not what I meant. They may not forgive you for that

[@annaslet5145]

Awesomeness 🆒

[@JaeElise]

Lol maybe not that. Say something like “your temperament is short like you. Calm down, little fella.” Something like that maybe ? 🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t care to hurt male egos depending on the type of man

[@ladyofspa]

Careful men pay back with long game. Consequences might work better then disrespect, depends on guy.

[@rainbowbgood]

I used to do this unconsciously all the time in my twenties.. just coming from a place of distrust and resentment and bitterness. LOL. I didn't think it through but the root belief that men suck just guided me the rest of the way. But then again, I attracted guys who suck.. so.. there is that. Maybe the men that go for this also hold the belief that they as men -- suck. At some point men have to just decide they are worthy of the real deal, trusting, sweet, considerate, consistent and sure, non-doubting true love. Its a journey I guess.. but I am so glad I don't act this way anymore. My insides are waaaaaay happier.

[@staceywilliams1624]

I can’t wait to try this course. On pay day. 😩😂😂❤️

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine in yourself, so that you can hear it in others.*

[@loveloveloveme3667]

The cat mouse game gets tiring after awhile and old. A balanced individual… a healthy one will move on

[@ladyofspa]

Men need to be challenged, cat and mouse will be natural if have own life. Little resistance, delay gratification unavailable at times. Its not hard adds spice.

[@Mindful.Movement.01]

Yea . I’ve blocked many men for this and they always come back looking stupid like a deer in headlights. I’m a grown ass woman and I don’t have time for these low vibrational childish ass games

[@madeline7969]

​@@ladyofspaexactly

[@1380576]

Ladies listen, this is so true.

[@Ilocsitdown]

This works on toxic men… 😂

[@sophiapeart9420]

You sir seem to be experienced at the heart of mind games

[@princessxoxo7582]

Is all fun and jokes until they start doing it back to us, and we don't like that!! LOL

[@iyaloyola4026]

You're facial expressions always make my day 😜

[@flower_7890]

When I was Neurotic back in time I would get hooked on someone who'd do this...right know, after working on myself these things " hot and cold" repel me, I lose interest 🤔

[@verycherry4459]

It's been 90 days no contact... Oh well. Lol

[@pumpkins5390]

9:26 some guys are not willing to compete so if you really like them you could lose them by that They’ll now put you in a position to show how interested you are in them so you can’t use it on any guy

[@Perhaps424]

You’re a gem Alex

[@Rebecca-vt7rp]

I like how this applies to relationships too, thanks for targeting a wide audience Alex 🥰

[@vivavidadela]

I don’t want these type of attachments/soul ties. Don’t have time to play games like that.

[@hannahed7353]

I did all of this and he cut me off😂😂😂😂😂

[@lurhrose]

😭😭😭😭😭

[@Helenodraculus]

You were too obvious with it

[@Challenger2A7]

I think the supreme example of how to get a man to adore you by inflicting pain must be Estella's treatment of Pip in Dickens's "Great Expectations." That's where I learned it, anyhow! Estella is my role model, though not when she marries the wrong man!

[@FreePalestine123-b1x]

You're forgetting the social status disparity between the two individuals in Great Expectations. Pip has Estella on a pedestal, he feels unworthy of her love to a large extent. If he was of equal status and felt worthy of her time and attention I wonder whether her tactics would have had the same effect. She's also dysfunctional in that she's learned through her aunt that true love can't be trusted / doesn't exist. She creates an environment for herself whereby she doesn't recognise love when it arrives, instead pushes it away by hurting them before they hurt her. None of that is a healthy or secure way of relating.

[@misskitty2270]

Such a good read; one of my favorite novels!

[@bodnarova05]

@@FreePalestine123-b1x it’s wiser to marry for $$ and status though, that never changed. Women have just been programmed through Disney and other media to seek love

[@goddessglow6996]

Yes !

[@pochorooster6370]

Give me pain and I'll send you to kick rocks. I love myself far too much to put up with shit. I'll tell her to kick rocks like I have with even the closest people in my life. Hell no , a reward is a lot more motivated than pain. The avoidance of unnecessary pain specially is a great motivation but not the pain life is too short to be dwelling in pain.

[@Untamed_ayla]

I don't understand these guys telling all these women to give these men pain...love love love. Love without expectation and love yourself is all you need. There is no need to play games with men in this world. If they want you, they will naturally flow with you in their own time, if you don't want to wait for them, then move on. People are not all the same.

[@ladyofspa]

You might be healthier, use of this is for more hard headed males. Pain is consquence of disrespect neglect or pain inflicted.....not just because. I agree with you rewards are more effective, and if pain was part of my relationships I would be OUT. The purpose of relationship is to be loving consistently otherwise what's the point, but I do understand Male psyche, and they require a challenge, and its give when required.

[@Mindful.Movement.01]

Trust me I don’t agree with this video. If I man does this to me I run for the hills and remove myself without a trace. I cannot

[@user-js1gw1sx9i]

My brother I hope you discuss that intimate relations is as much spit as physical! People seem to forge that I know you have known this forever! So thanks bro

[@empressnyase]

How can you play a girl with a toxic dating coach father Alex let's go 😂😂

[@forestfairy352]

Unless, “it’s for revenge 🤫 🎤 ”😂

[@havvaalexander9520]

Lol, i noticed that facial jump when I was being interviewed. I got the job.

[@jenbrady7566]

Tyrone the personal trainer busting in the video was hilarious! 🤣

[@carinesosanwo6304]

Is it OK to cheat on my husband the same way he cheated on me???

[@Nicolegin]

Fuck yes

[@tracym1989]

Do it

[@valleriejoseph]

Sure

[@Nicolegin]

I love us 😎

[@melonyjones9776]

Yes! The only way he will appreciate you, coming from a married woman.

[@FEEDING_BIGFOOT]

Intermittent reinforcement always works 💖

[@ArthurGraham-vy1ze]

Be careful when you play pain games with a dude unless you know his ENTIRE background.. For some of us, pain comes as a light to the eyes.

[@shannonpickens7695]

That is pretty funny 🤣. So if you are with a guy and obviously his phone is on “do not disturb” (pretty obvious- not 1 notification comes through in 2 hours). On one hand it’s kind of sneaky. On the other he is giving you his undivided attention…. Trying to decide how I feel about this. Lol. I’m being a dork and over thinking….

[@fairy9749]

Look for consistency. It will tell you if it's an act or he's really into you and listening!

[@biancacherry7059]

Eh I have my phone on do not disturb 24/7 but that’s because otherwise I’d be on my phone all the time. I don’t think it’s that deep plus if he had his phone on and it was going off that would be rude

[@Smokillo]

I have my notifications off for all social media, if it’s important they can text me or call..nothing sneaky going on.

[@storm4515]

I just broke it off with a guy last night because he got me all worked up sexually and then wouldn’t do anything about it. We’ve been dating for 3 months and haven’t done anything and this is how it went down.

[@DeniseLWrightHiers]

Great Insights 🍁

[@Tigman396]

Throw this type of shit out into the world and see what comes back on you!

[@Pandababyy247]

Loving the stashhh!!!! 😍😍😁💓

[@angieharrison3935]

Love you Father Alex. Thanks for this info. 😏

[@themoonbleu627]

I do this naturally but I’m healing bc I’m considered toxic but yea it works and long term only been single 6 forced months of my life 2 long terms in the second now

[@Jhonsmithandy]

Come back tomorrow I like your videos everyday you make me laugh

[@geneveweil2938]

So true!

[@Trustheprocess23]

My guy friend gets soo jealous but he doesn’t make a move wtf

[@buhleangie5907]

My crush blue ticked/left me on read and woow he was on my mind 24/7.

[@crelove9959]

In the beginning I was gonna say the worst time to have a heart attack is while your having sex 😂

[@Braveh3artGirl]

But if you die, you die happy 😂

[@AmalFarah-w5p]

😂do you have to sip so loud 📢 dude. But good advice.

[@seolajun3653]

Hey umm bro… I did this on a first day and poor baby had anxiety he got so nervous he got down on himself and didn’t think he wants to date anymore. So what is this advice for. ??? Not for first date?!

[@septemberjai5216]

The introduction lol *Byee* 🤭

[@Tresieeeeeeèe]

I lovvvve this toxic shit🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@joannavantkruys4037]

You look like someone from a movie 🤗🤗your so beautiful with your hair 😘🤗

[@_sirenabxxy22]

He looks like that little boy from the encanto movie but in a grown up version lmao

[@exposinginsanity]

This guy is teaching scary game playing methods that will harm Humanity

[@NK-df9hf]

Muah ha ha ha ha 😈😈

[@Mindful.Movement.01]

He really is

[@JMthdjhgbnjk]

Alex showing off your Tyrone muscles. Lol

[@ladywhite79]

My husband still loves his licentious, gold digging ex. Makes sense. Thank you

[@nataliecheney3177]

Betta call up Tyrone🎶🎵🤣

[@beverlysmith9415]

I really don't care, I treat folks like I do and they show who they are, they have no value toy emotions humans are carnal and that's their downfall get over yourself no one is more important than the Higher Power, I am simply unbothered

[@cindybrown9898]

i never heard of any of this how aweful why would ANYONE be with a toxic person?? ive been married 25 yrs happily i would NEVER do anything bad to my husband a person that i love...this is sick stay away from any woman who is mental there are plenty of us sane, normal hard working loving women out here.

[@prashanthb6521]

I was searching for a sane comment and I found yours. But there are far too many women in the comments who say they have been doing this to men and they seem to love it. This just reinforces my views about women in general that they like to be mean and hurtful to men.

[@Mindful.Movement.01]

Wow I really love your comment. Good stuff

[@CorporateCandy22]

Why are you watching this video

[@notallabouttarot5194]

Why are the both of these people watching this video? And the happily married one…are you happily married or are you both happily married? It has to be something that brought you too this channel

[@stilettoheel3543]

This shit is halarious!😂 I laughed all the way through!

[@Munchkinbaby777]

Thumbs up for Tyrone

[@carolynbraun2789]

I don't want to play games it's uses to much energy

[@AAA-zu6rw]

Do it all bros out there , the reverse psychology technique

[@hopelopez-ro9co]

Thanks

[@tinastroswitch7007]

This is my venus in scorpio alone 😂

[@breethembi4410]

Its the way he started the video😂😂😂😂

[@lowandaturner5859]

So what do you do when a woman and a man are thinking and doing the same thing alike?