Give Up On Self Improvement & Instead Do SHADOW WORK

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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Give Up On Self Improvement & Instead Do SHADOW WORK
Discover the root cause of low self esteem and how you can improve your self confidence today!
Shadow work benefits and how to do shadow work! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the benefits of asking yourself shadow questions... Discover the best shadow work questions to ask yourself!
This video will teach you how to be confident and how to be more confident in yourself by increasing your self esteem and your self worth.
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[@JulienHimself]

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[@Diagasaran]

Hey Julien I am sort of curious, I have what I believe is called Relax Induced Anxiety. When I try to sit and close my eyes, few minutes go by and I get shot with a jumpscare and like a heart attack I sweat...from nowhere. What is a good focus point to work on it?

[@PremiumUserUltra]

I hope I can join the Guild with you one day.

[@joshcarr_]

Every video similar to this, that I’ve watch, has been a younger individual up front. It’s nice to see older individuals open to helping themselves let go and open up to themselves

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, MASSIVE respect to her for having the courage and willingness to do the work! 🙏

[@sweetbutterfly9137]

@@JulienHimselfthank you for being such great teacher your videos are so helpful ❤❤x

[@dobiminarikova]

This 🙌

[@Amaroc_34]

Grüzi​@@JulienHimself

[@Kadjoaka]

Not gonna lie. This got me tearing up. I resonated with the fear of feeling worthless. Thank you man. You're doing life changing work

[@Sincerely_SweetAesthete]

She's absolutely adorable, one of those people you know you would like. People connect to vulnerability.

[@benackley2612]

Confidence and happiness isn’t something to build up to, it’s something to rewind ourselves back to

[@Ril014]

🎯🎯🎯💯

[@vicentegeonix]

Nice quote.

[@constantthought6082]

Meh, not really, status brings confidence

[@vicentegeonix]

@@constantthought6082 what you mean by status?

[@constantthought6082]

@@vicentegeonix status based on achievement, or status in regards to financial success. These things brings confidence

[@Reversisms]

Bro lives life like he's in his living room, brilliant.

[@ronanderson8490]

She craves acceptance and runs from discomfort. People will judge us whether we speak or not based on our appearance and their experiences.

[@blossomyguri_]

Some ppl are genuinely fked up in life 😞that they throw their own harsh insecurities on us.

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

That's why I don't speak to anyone so that I don't have to put up with any of that bullshit, and if no one is going to be vulnerable whether online of in public, then I don't have to either and also letting go is overrated

[@JolinHard]

@@joshuabuchanan1141wait what, are you disagreeing with julien?

[@GaylineMillay]

I really love this because she talks with the tone of a confident person but she has the same problems as most of us watching this . When she said the words self confidence it made me think we need to concentrate on the word self . It's not for others it's for us .

[@_optimuus_973]

I cried when she opened up deeply Maybe cause i’m emphatic Or maybe cause deep down i understand how it feels.

[@TanyaBrightFuture]

When Lori started to talk about her abusive ex husband it made me cry 😭💔 - it brought my own memories of abuse from my psychopathic ex boyfriend.

[@cararussell2547]

I'm almost all the way better from this kind of stuff happening 10 years ago.... sending positivity and healing vibes to you. ❤❤❤❤

[@kpencil]

I realised that i wanted people to hear and see me singing this one song i had practiced for a week .this realisation was very triggering because i was always taught that wanting someone's attention for whatever reason was shameful and wrong and weak.so, i had a lot of resistance around my wish and ended up telling myself that if i achieve more academically i would not feel the need for others to hear and see me sing. But i slowly realised that it was not true. I am not a singer so it was really daunting to really go out there and allow myself to fulfill my wish. So i headed to the garden with my twin sis and took this opportunity to sing in public. My hand started to shake and the voice inside of my head got stronger but i started to sing louder and it took about one and a half hour for my hand to stop shaking and feeling funny. But to my surprise nothing happened. Nobody stared at me or no one passed any rude comments. Everybody eas just busy doing their thing. This experience was really unexpected.

[@RoxanneRock]

I am seriously so proud of you! Have you done anymore singing in public since?

[@TheXsandman]

I sing all the time in public when working I can't help it lol the music is just too good sometimes (I clean pools)

[@c3po184]

I connected so much as soon as she got real. I answered these questions for myself in my head and I had the exact same reaction as what she said. "I keep thinking Ive let it go but I didnt" I couldn't accept it because I did the entire TMA course and didnt want to believe I hadn't let go of my biggest "thing". But this got to me, I turned the video off and I think I had the most intense letting go exersise Ive ever had. This felt so different than all the others before. Just felt like sharing this

[@jewel2022now]

This is awesome. Bless you❤

[@vexhighbie]

Thank you for sharing

[@beasthaven1571]

Teach me what the letting go excercise is? How do I do it i have to start video just pre read comments.

[@tordurhansen333]

​@beasthaven1571 I'm fairly sure the exercise depends on what youre letting go of. So figure that out first

[@Damngoodchicken_]

I connected with her ALOT. My dad used to always call me tacky and make fun of my style of dress to the point I just gave up. Well into my 20’s I wore raggedy clothes because he destroyed my confidence in my appearance. I’m trynna go back to a time I didn’t know him but he’s been around my whole life 😂

[@Driftblocks]

As a KZbinr who plays horror games on my channel, watching you're videos has helped me tremendously.

[@shaunlulz]

You don't know how happy it makes me seeing these people breakthrough barriers like this. When the woman started playing patty cake with him it put such a smile on my face... I'd kill for the opportunity she had. So sick of battling my own mind, being lonely and feeling so hopeless. I will pull through though. Just need to take this advice to heart and get my confidence back

[@chuckennuggett]

I feel for her when she said she had a lot of life wasted. My ex said that and I've been single now for 11 years, preventing myself from wasting other's time. And now I'm improving myself

[@Soul_King77]

I have been wanting to be a therapist for years and your videos definitely help me with that, I feel this childish exitement when I see you helping your clients and it's both wholesome and informative!

[@missstarrynight7736]

I wish this lady was my mom! My mother never protected me from any bad situation or bad news. I knew about her all marital, financial, job and health problems. Same for her mother . Now I am adult with CPTSD. Someone who was let know I failed to save all the adults in my home. And ..... none of them ever tried to save me from being bullied at school, from being abused in a relationship. They enjoyed my insecurities and severe anxiety, because they didn't have to (from their perspective) do anything. I was to blame for being miserable. I am doing autotherapy, I learn about Shadow Work, watch stuff online. I hope one day I will be free, happy and "alive". It's my 43rd birthday today. They didn't even buy me a cake or flowers. That's what I always do to them. Lori - if you ever read it - I am so, so ,so proud of you. You are amazing!

[@melissadavis4981]

My mother-in-law would benefit from this so much. She literally drives me crazy with the way she carries herself... she acts like shes always a burden to people, always apologizing, never puts herself first, never asks for help... which all sound like great qualities but it just drives me insane!

[@scoobybrazzers7874]

julien, i talked to this person that had no friends, introduced myself and told her about me. i was sweating and shaking but i'm glad i did it!! your videos help

[@oraclehaveacookie9737]

She avoids to feel rejected. She has to be entrataining to get aceptance and attention. When she doesnt have to try to win over anybody. She is very nice.

[@lukaslitvak9693]

Thank you Julien, you're giving so much value. I remember in my childhood how I started to hide my emotions of sadness or when I cried in front of my family and siblings. It was because everyone considered that as a being weak and everybody was making joke of me. And it's still something with what I am fighting against. To not hide..

[@iamjoy888]

Your comment spoke to me, but in my case, I was conditioned to suppress anger and all of the other shades like that, which made me people's pleaser and being scared of a conflict. Not to mention, that type of behavior provoked even more of conflicts, and I just went from one experience to another, completely unsatisfied with the situation and my reaction. Nowadays I'm gently providing myself with being a safe space for myself and all of my emotions, feelings and states, and that is crucial for me in my self-healing journey. But because I had such a little contact with my anger, I still often times don't use it when I feel so. Right now, when war came to my country (Ukraine), im dealing with tons of anger, hatred, pain etc, and I wouldn't be able to even stay on this planet if I didn't start to be a safe space for myself, at least a little bit. So my point is: I'm sorry you had to deal with that reaction of your family. Your emotions are valid, and exactly in being able to feel them all lies a great power. True power is in admitting weakness as well, because there's nothing wrong with that. When we feel overwhelmed with shock, for instance, there's nothing wrong with feeling powerless and hopeless, and true power is in admitting that. It seems to me members of your family were not in contact with their raw emotions and were conditioned themselves to think so, and you as a child triggered their fear to be true. Now you're probably one of a few from your clan who realizes reasons and effects, so be there with yourself every step of the way. 💔🤝🌌

[@kathyannk]

@@iamjoy888That was beautiful and insightful.

[@peenypeep9436]

I tried the cold shower mentioned in this video Not experiencing it for a second and leaving, but truly embracing the discomfort of it. I felt my body lock up as I stood below the shower head. In that moment, the discomfort I felt was raw and intense, which lead me to believe I would give up instantly. However, I stayed- hoping to reach the epiphany that is accepting my fear and discomfort. While my mind revolted, irrationally believing I would pass out, I forced myself to stick it out. At some point (I couldn’t even comprehend the amount of time passing) my body relaxed, and strangely I felt warmth and relaxation. The experience was nothing but surreal. You might love cold showers (more power to you), but that experience to me was daunting at first. All my mind could do was panic over the sudden shock to my nervous system, and to stay with that feeling was something else entirely. However, I feel as tho I’m beginning to understand what Julien meant about embracing raw emotions: we elect fear and discomfort as “bad” emotions, but as I came to accept what fear and discomfort really were, I realized that these emotions are vital to life. While we may choose to block out certain emotions as a way to promote the perfect life (I feel like I’m a perfect example of this), we’re actually selling ourselves short of our natural existence. While I may not be an expert on the matter, I can say with confidence that fear and discomfort are good feelings if you allow them to be, for it’s what gives life depth and sensitivity. By blocking out emotions, we are choosing to numb ourselves and shy away from the possibilities life may offer. Again, a cold shower is nothing compared to all the fears and pain this world can conjugate, but it made me aware of the possibility that theses emotions aren’t as “bad” like we play them out to be. Similarly, both happiness and sadness are essential to the human experience, with neither being worth more than the other. While I’ll continue to have irrational fears surround me, I’m learning to embrace them. I hope that you all can learn to accept your existence as well, and learn that you are A LOT stronger than you allow yourself to see. Thank you Julien and thank you all! ❤

[@kiselakobasica5867]

I agree with everything you said. You realy have a great way of explaining in detail, i learned something new. I just wanted to add that in this modern world theres so many ways to distract ourselves from feelings. Not just talking about the internet but our job and fast pased disciplined life. I just realised that being alone with our thoughts is a lot more valuable, and it should be practiced every day.

[@Gloriaglo0502]

For her to just get up and come up was a big deal! This was a not a easy tough cookie to crack. I am glad to see a situation where you not always going to get what you are looking for, even as a master teacher. Julien tried and tried but guess what it's a reality called time. ❤❤

[@vicentegeonix]

Time?

[@PowerfulVillain]

Julien is changing lives, old and young. Making people become wholesome again, conquer their fears and just an awesome person to learn from. Thanks bud.

[@formulaic78]

What do you think about his former life as a PUA? I hadn't heard about it until yesterday. First came across him a few weeks ago.

[@TheHenryDuong]

@@formulaic78 He started out giving advice on how to pick up girls but got cancelled, like his events got cancelled cause it got a bad reputation. RSD Julian le blanc was his name lol along with RSD Tyler. He revamped himself quite well though and i can see how he helps people come out of their shell. He knows pyschology really well

[@DannyD-lr5yg]

23:13 danggg.. that “he didn’t wanna hear me.” response was so powerful. You can tell it has been there under the surface for a long time, itching to come out. If you ever see this: you are VERY WORTH listening to! You have worthwhile things to say, and we want to hear them!!!

[@thebeast9180]

What's interesting is when she says he didn't want to hear me, she's referring to her ex but really referring to her dad. As a father, I can see how badly my children want me to look at them, to approve of them. I saw the little girl in her wanting her dad to hear her.

[@hayleynoir1849]

I cannot stop banging on about you to everyone around me 😂 I wish I found you years ago, everything has fallen into place in my mind after listening to you and I can't put into words how much of a difference there is to my mindset and the way I think about things that trigger me. I'm noticing the things that wpuld trigger me so badly now don't and its only been about a week!! I am beyond grateful, thank you julien ❤

[@dmtdreamz7706]

There was a waterfall near us, such a lovely thin streak of water, like a thread but white and moving. It fell from a great height, but it looked quite low, and it was half a mile away, though it did not seem fifty paces. I loved to listen to it at night, but it was then that I became so restless. Sometimes I went and climbed the mountain and stood there in the midst of the tall pines, all alone in the terrible silence, with our little village in the distance, and the sky so blue, and the sun so bright, and an old ruined castle on the mountain-side, far away. I used to watch the line where earth and sky met, and longed to go and seek there the key of all mysteries, thinking that I might find there a new life, perhaps some great city where life should be grander and richer--and then it struck me that life may be grand enough even in a prison.

[@dancole2994]

All social fear comes down to fear of not being welcome - you could become excluded from the group (primal fear) or being attacked - either way you subconsciously fear consequences leading to death. That's why fear is there, to protect you from making mistakes by making us flee or flinch. Trouble is, it doesn't always serve us. The only thing I have found that can conquer the fear of death, is to have a greater fear of not living with courage.

[@war6nheaven]

what could you describe as courage? you have an interesting point and you're using that fear to your advantage, something everyone should implement.

[@strzaa]

Julien you are talented in analyzing people, asking the right questions and making them realize the aha moments in funny, authentic and human way. You are a real healer, just wow! Keep doing your work, love it. You can have great impact on society in the process of awakening !

[@joetlr41]

Such a sweet sweet lady im so glad you were able to open her up. I hope she finds happiness and continues to grow❤️

[@SamRoff]

A beautiful penetration of the intellectual mind/front while still creating safety. Well done to both you Julien and the woman here.

[@Neezy9]

This was great...your content gets straight to the point and challenges your audience in a way they (we) need in order for growth to happen.Much appreciated 👍

[@jewel2022now]

Im glad this lady stood up and dud the hard work. Thank you for being open. Thanks Julien as well for leading her so gracefully❤

[@thebeast9180]

My heart tells me it's not her ex, but her father. Her ex reminded her of her father in their lack of attention and approval. The little girl in her still wants her fathers attention and approval, and looks for it in everyone she meets. Her fear is that they will react the way her father did, triggering that same pain, and that would be unbearable for her.

[@Amaroc_34]

IS that whats called Daddy issues?

[@RagnarGer]

It’s more than a feeling, it’s the consequences of that action, being left alone when speak out for yourself/your own opinion in a group, being broke cause you criticized your boss infront of the team and getting fired and so on. Scared of not being able to handle the new situation and ending completely wasted, depressed, suicidal. Getting physically attacked by someone who doesn’t like you when speaking your mind.

[@m.h.1159]

You're videos having been helping me identify what's been going on in my mind and body for 30 years that i could never put a finger on. So helpful. I love when you feature women too it makes it really relatable.

[@opossumdreams]

Oh my goodness. Julien…..you have helped me SO much my emotions are leaking, like um, in response to a LOT of your videos. I want you to help me. I have made a lot of changes. I have dug kidney-deep. Felt the feelings. I’m beginning to value me, love me. I’m a recent widow. But the pain has broken me open, instead of breaking me. Im so close. (I actually thought you were a bit of a stinker….before I began digging deeper. 😂😁♥️) Your work brings light to me as I peel the layers. Yours truly, Another imperfect human comprised of stardust and silliness

[@PedroBlazeArt]

I'm always crying in videos like this. I fkn need healing man. This video makes me realize what I need to do.

[@Jenishabadoo]

These videos are a great tool. I’ve watched them in the past and it just popped up again so I’m sure there’s some reason for it. We’re all on our journey. ❤ hope healing finds you.

[@superanxietychick7035]

I am so grateful to have found your videos. And you are absolutely right, keep your childlike spark ❤ i will never hide that part of me again, if people don't like it thats fine. I don't need their approval.

[@dmtdreamz7706]

Disease and health, like circumstances, are rooted in thought. Sickly thoughts will express themselves through a sickly body. Thoughts of fear have been known to kill a man as speedily as a bullet, and they are continually killing thousands of people just as surely though less rapidly. The people who live in fear of disease are the people who get it. Anxiety quickly demoralizes the whole body, and lays it open to the entrance of disease; while impure thoughts, even if not physically indulged, will soon shatter the nervous system. To live continually in thoughts of ill will, cynicism, suspicion, and envy, is to be confined in a self made prison-hole. But to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in all-such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of heaven; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to their possessor.

[@JolinHard]

Where did you get this. Its good

[@dmtdreamz7706]

@@JolinHard As A Man Thinketh

[@vicentemorales2533]

I am afraid of the feeling that will result from experiences, and that's why I run away from those experiences. 😮😮😮 Massive breakthrough

[@jackmcwatters7383]

She should have called out Julian’s resistance to play paddy cake and made him play more

[@hellentatendakajawu]

as you were speaking to Lori i felt as if you speaking to me. i struggle with confidence and speaking too. and I felt everything she was saying. what a powerful demonstration of doing the work. I'm blown

[@brianpapapapa]

"you're a grown man. Love being a kid with me." Lori has a beautiful soul! love her energy!! great video!!

[@mariahsarahmarie]

What an actual sweetheart. I wanna be friends with this woman! I love her smile and she was so brave and relatable. I feel like I blank out a lot

[@riseup9190]

Wow! Amazing that this work is bringing different GENERATIONS together to rise to their potential as human beings!

[@JulienHimself]

Yes! 🙏

[@shaun0110]

I can’t help but tear up for that beautiful woman. It just tells that life is unfair and we just got brave it with grace and an open mind.

[@beatrixphilippin]

This lady is shining like a star. Thanks for sharing

[@saxh__]

Grateful for having an Educator with swag teaching me how to talk with confidence. I have a speech tomorrow on AI in front of my class. Thank you again for your videos!

[@user-ve4oz8kj3q]

swag?

[@icytidal3228]

“With swag” 😭

[@saxh__]

He has good sense of fashion lol@@icytidal3228

[@alanissac1294]

@@icytidal3228swag swag 😎

[@Issa._.arison..222]

Bahaha swag

[@RobotDude375]

3:15 “stop hating bad sensations” this guy is a fucking genius

[@jasmineeyre1356]

So grateful for your videos Julien. You are an inspiration and help so many. I wish you all the best in life!

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you so much! 🙏

[@muroturco]

Hi Julien. Doesn't anybody fear that when they are talking to a group of people, their facial expressions and their gestures in their delivery are not going to fit into the standard facial expressions and gestures of the society and they stand out as a weird character? Is it just me? I always look for someone who talks about this and no one did so far.

[@tadeuszmusic]

I feel this way all the time, u are deffo not alone.

[@muroturco]

@@tadeuszmusic thanks for sharing

[@joelgutierrezz5954]

I think the same, the facial expressions when someone has social anxiety are very different, I would literally be there blushing shaking, my voice would shake simply in shock.

[@barbiec8179]

Funnily enough, I sat on this exact worry for YEARS until I realized that it’s linked to the fundamental fear that I’m not ‘normal.’ It made me feel like I was always putting on a performance when I was with other people and overthinking every single detail that often MADE me awkward and weird. It kind of went away on its own after I started reading about other people’s embarrassing stories on the internet and making an effort to notice nervous tics and awkwardness in the people around me. It struck me how often it happened and how little anyone actually cared about people’s social missteps (unless they were really rude and thoughtless). It helped me release judgment of myself because I realized I wasn’t feeling like judging other people and no one else around me really did either. You really are your own worst critic. When you just give yourself a chance to relax, body language does what it’s supposed to do intuitively, you don’t have to think about it

[@tadeuszmusic]

@@muroturco No worries 💜

[@JessAnonymous]

Soooo glad i found this channel!!! Im ready to navigate the shadow side of my healing journey. I can relate to Lori a lot

[@user-vg8vf6yw2e]

the energy shift by the end was beautiful

[@miguelchavez2821]

I've been following your advice for years now and it's nice to see your demographic expanding. I am very happy for your continued success.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! 🙏

[@jpalomalitteral637]

Wow. This was particularly helpful today. I've been struggling for a long time with letting go, specifically allowing instead of constantly pushing. There's far too much to unpack in a little comment here. Briefly, the series of "why" questions to dig deeper struck a special chord today. I realized: for 40+ years, I've been pushing so hard to become "enough" by trying to achieve ideals, things that may just not be possible or reasonable or most beneficial in the moment and then vilifying myself if I don't do it better than perfectly. That needs some editing, now doesn't it? Thanks so much to all involved with this video for your contributions to far more than what we see in the video itself.

[@Wowa-ij1yf]

Julien. We need a book written by you about shadow work. This thing is real

[@adienbrooks8281]

I teared up because I saw how far down she had put her younger self , just put it in a cage and said nope

[@Itssimplyaisha]

This is quite weird to mention but yesterday I traveled to my village and a lot of mosquitoes bite me round my neck. I was resisting to feel how itchy it wa and it got worst then I remembered a part of your video that said it’s beneficial to feel then I leaned into to sensations and discomfort of it and it was crazy hard the scratch was bad I even had a tear but I softened into it and eventually fell asleep. When I woke up the bite didn’t scratch at all and almost looked healed, which hardly happens cause it always get worst. What that taught me is really what you resist persists

[@Gragon777]

Go Lorri! You can do it. Let it go dive deeper and you will crush it!!!

[@i-am-abraham]

This was so moving, also to see the raw emotion in you by the end, txs Julien

[@hanksung]

Before I finished watching this video, I just wanna talk about this and comment here that, when I heard Julien said that: I'm disappointed that you don't dig into it deeper or something. I felt SOOOOOO FUCKING MUCH when I heard that, it's like the only person who supports me in my life is disappointed in me of NOT trying hard enough? I felt a VERY SARROW feeling when I heard that. It's like an uncle figure of mine (which I DON'T have in reality btw) that I'm REALLY close to say that to me. I'm I felt like I wanna cry about it actually. This is the one of the few times in my life when I feel something about my emotion and I wanna cry about it. (From my therapy sessions, I know that I'm supposed to feel that way A LOT/REALLY OFTEN? But I don't feel really DEEP into it. Usually my therapist has tears for me, instead of me having the tears myself, so... yeah. Just imagining myself if I cry, I guess that I would cry pretty hard. Anyways.) And just imagine Julien judge me like some other people on KZbin that I type whatever I was thinking about out loud or something. That I shouldn't do it, I'm weird or something. (Then I feel like there's an oppressing feeling on my stomach.) Anyways, I just really want Julien to know that this is how I feel when he said that. I think that this is REALLY IMPORTANT, I've NEVER felt this way in my life before. NOTHING in my life that someone had ever told me makes me feel more/deeper than this sentence, a sarrow feeling that I've NEVER felt before, or hadn't felt since 3rd or 4th grade, which is THE DARKEST years of me getting SERIOUS bullied by my classmates, and the memories gets blocked in my head because it's TOO TRAUMATIZED for me to remember/acknowledge it. (I wonder if I subconsciously wanted to suicide, so I had a dream about it?) So yeah, anyways. And then I'm just thinking about that I'm just NEVER be enough for my grandpa and my aunt, who are the two people who raised me mostly, so... yeah.

[@joelgutierrezz5954]

If my fear is that they will look at me nervously and judge me negatively as someone weak or incompetent, what should I do to avoid that?

[@bitmapog335]

Dive in that fesr and let go

[@jewel2022now]

You should try ...stand there and feel it

[@KatsC100]

You’ve missed the whole point. You don’t avoid feeling that fear

[@kpencil]

I realise that i have made certain emotions bad or difficult in my head and so i want to refrain from having those experiences which trigger these uncomfortable emotions within me. So i can say that technically i am afraid of having those experiences which make me go through these emotions. Experiences like facing a fear where you get triggered.

[@iliketrees8708]

I admit, i usually HATE coaches. Glad to see an actual person talking here, rather than some sales-machine. As to the take-away: From what i have learned - the only thing that can fill this void is love. I believe every human is actually striving for the same thing, while trying to stuff it with money and by seeking it from others. But it can only work if it's coming from the inside. Maybe I'll get there one day. You're always your own worst enemy after all.

[@mahmoodabdulbaqi824]

Her opening up about her experience made me cry because i have similar experiences with my dad. This video was incredibly helpful thank you so much.

[@di7787]

This one episode especially is like free therapy. I almost cried.

[@MaybeMe...862]

I had an interview for the new job role. I wasn't very keen to get it, so I was talking to the interviewer relaxed and inside my mind I thought I don't give a shit if I will get the job or not. The Interview has turned to the nice and funny conversation and I got the role. It's been a week since I work there and I am back to normal , stressed, confused, not relaxed , just can't let it go. It so stupid I really feel stupid. New people around me . Why do I care about what they think of me???? It so wrong . I understand, but I can't do anything.

[@YourFearIsReal]

23:00 "When did you start feeling like being you wasn't good enough and why?" Did anyone else feel emotional when Julien asked this?

[@scoobybrazzers7874]

Julien coming out with another banger! i take notes while watching your vids

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! And great job taking notes! 🔥👊

[@Narmbad]

Wow. It takes lot of courage to take a step towards real stuff like this in my opinion and she did that!👏🏻👏🏻

[@rishabhprajapati8423]

When she went deeper, I stopped moving my chair and completely got hooked to the video. I felt as if I'm there and got triggered. My jaw started shaking, throat felt pain and I start yawning tensely whenever I get triggered ( I know sounds weird but I've observed that frequently). My facial muscles felt pain and my eyes got watery too. Suddenly I got a flashback me being bullied at school. I feel like letting go is going to the darkest fear or the worst possible scenario we fear. THANKS a ton Julien! Your videos are always a great introspection session for me and others.

[@Aroacerat]

I have that question, too, so I’m making this comment to get it higher and maybe get our question answered

[@user-su3ys7tz7c]

No, u dont, just let your body and mind do its thing by itself, resist nothing

[@bjaxstriker5245]

Just going through the sensations that come up is enough. I know Julian’s specifically said somewhere that we won’t always remember the memory and that it’s not necessary. I’ve experienced this myself too doing the work-sometimes memories or only parts of memories will come up, and other times it will stay only as sensations throughout the release, but in all instances there’s the same relief because it’s us being with what’s going on that makes the difference.

[@rishabhprajapati8423]

@@bjaxstriker5245 Thanks! That was helpful.

[@sEvan_el_Evan]

Wow this was amazing thank you 🙏 😮😊

[@JulienHimself]

You’re very welcome! Glad this resonated with you!

[@tamisopcakova2789]

Thank you for what youre doing Julien… I am so grateful for you creating awareness amongst people and great things start with awareness🙏🙏♥️

[@tigerpaws111]

Seeing the moment she opened up and really dug deep and removed that mask brought a tear to my eye.

[@berke9270]

There is a Turkish saying that goes like "A friend in need is a friend indeed."

[@Teona_G]

Very emotional video! and so real! Thanks Julien for helping finding the root causes of the problems! Very useful ❤

[@mr.midgardville]

At first i had trouble finding the right words to describe the feeling in my own case, but i would say personally it's that i would be afraid that their negative opinions would turn out to be true. I've just gotten lucky and managed to fake it and make it thus far but this is where all these people are going to prove it to everyone that i am a failure. 🤔. ... Thankfully i've gotten much better at with it but still creeps up sometimes. 😂

[@tietoinenyhteys]

Nicely done Julien. I've watched your progress and it's great through the years! One of the rare teachers that I find helpful.

[@joelgutierrezz5954]

It happens to me that I am afraid that another person will look at me nervously with some nervous or suffocated tic when I speak, but that is how I end up behaving and then when I speak I think that they are already judging me for that, it is a vicious circle, how can I break it? ?

[@margaretdoliet1630]

I get it 😮‍💨I feel the same way.

[@IamDoomed15]

Bro when a group of neighbors ask me, I always sweat, shake, mumble and stutter so much. Idk what to do.

[@TheColtonStreeter]

Im definitely not giving up on self improvement though!

[@superzjon4308]

You are in fact whole and complete, u just dont know it yet :)

[@iscareurmum1508]

Thank you Julian

[@JulienHimself]

You're so welcome!

[@Lyrielonwind]

I think we all have been in situations when we felt powerless, embarrassed, humiliated but we all have been taught to hide those feelings which are universal. Doesn't it sounds ridiculous that we all are playing the hide game about the most common human emotions? It must have been a real psychopath who decided that emotions are to be avoided and be ashamed of unless is wrath in certain context like war.

[@MG-vp6kd]

Lori and Julien that was so helpful to me! Thankyou for the leg-up! ❤

[@096880]

I feel like my mom is like that, she "changed" a lot once me and my sister became working adults. Sometimes I feel like my parents envy me, for doing good at everything, but at home I'm completely quiet. I will find the courage to ask my mom on what she wants to do, how she feels about me not helping as much around the house, especially her, and find what truly she wants to achieve, I'm fearing she is passing through this "wasted years" emotion.

[@096880]

I'm truly thankful to her, even though I got a really hard childhood with her parenting. I'm coming to a really great position in life, and I'm scared to leave her behind alone.

[@096880]

I told her I was leaving for a work opportunity by January. In our family we don't really give out emotions away easily, so I don't know how she feels, but I can quit being a piece of shit and ask her at least how she feels.

[@superzjon4308]

@096880 Thanks for opening up

[@lindarockower6028]

This lady is so precious ❤️ i love her

[@Matt-iy2cf]

If people loose interest it’s not about sensations but about reason. It means that I am not a good stand up comedian and wont make much impact by speaking. Those who focus on they feelings and ignore reason end up on xfactor thinking they have something to show when in fact they are making fools of themselves.

[@spiritgangsta]

Keep the childhood spark- and a tune it with focus and you'll be able to get through

[@marijavanduijn4642]

So grateful that I found your channel! Great videos. Just took a cold shower, haha

[@bertinereuvers3363]

yes being afraid of the feelings thats right because you have to surpress them when you are with others because they will judge even if you feel vunarable no one is gonna be vunerableand so they hurt me again and again thats why im isolated now the message i get is you have to deal with it alone no one wants to be around me when i have feelings and besides that in order to have suport for healing you have to have money without that no right to heal

[@shea5542]

You can’t just tell someone “okay, goof around.” You have to prompt it somehow

[@snake-rp1yz]

She made Julian anxious for a moment 😂

[@bezoznaught5261]

I'm so interested in human psychology, and you are insanely good at it, I could have a full ass conversation with you, I should check out one of these sessions

[@hilimarin9665]

To me everything come down to the feeling of rejection. People wante to be likeable, and in my opinion that's where all our fears and bad thoughts come from.

[@mindfulmomentswithColm]

I appreciate this content it helped me reflect on "my" life and translate this technique to my self.

[@Frankya92]

This is beautiful. Thank you for what you do. Very similar to when I went to therapy. You allow myself to ask the important questions.

[@Enrikoh]

So by letting go of the sensations that come with the thoughts, you start to think in a more positive way?

[@BurnThePastCreateTheFuture]

10:42 Levels Experience can lead to compensating, not confidence

[@biruhtsegaye1521]

The first cold shower advice was actually so true, I thought it was only me lol 😂 Big hugs Justin