Go Ask A Girl Out!

I've seen many young women on TikTok discussing their lack of dating experience or dating prospects. Why are many young women unable to find dates?
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[@BigPatFenis_]

As a man, I see this as a win. The real challenge these days is finding a girl who isn't ran through by 80 guys by the time she's 23. The fact that there are girls in their early 20's who haven't even had a first kiss is honestly wholesome. I don't see it as sad, I see it as them having good morals and not just giving it up because they feel like they "need" to.

[@cheesemakerkeesee395]

You act like that's a bad thing

[@cheesemakerkeesee395]

If she's been run through by 80 people than she definitely knows what she's doing

[@BigPatFenis_]

@@cheesemakerkeesee395 I'm acting like what is a bad thing?

[@Camlling]

@@cheesemakerkeesee395 if she’s run through by 80 people then she definitely doesn’t know what she’s doing in terms of relationships

[@mealsome1571]

He is saying that a girl knowing what they are doing sexually is a turn on for him, he like that inside out poon.

[@YYangles]

Dating a girl who hasn’t been ran through by 100 guys already, let alone not even been kissed yet is a literal honor and a dream come true for most men

[@mickbenson9161]

100% Teen girls should protect their purity and innocence as long as possible. Save it for the right man. Unfortunately they all get pumped and dumped by the same Chads on Tinder throughout their teens and 20s. They f around on mind altering hormonal contraception until they have ridiculous double-digit body counts, tattoos, STDs, oxytocin desensitization, and trauma. That's when their biological clock starts ticking loudly, and they settle for doomed relationships with one of the men they have been rejecting for the past 15 years.

[@Stonedgamerguy21]

As a 21 year old guy whos never been kissed i couldnt agree more

[@resonancetides7196]

Lol, delusional incels 👆

[@robogaming9228]

@@Stonedgamerguy21 same with me but im almost 17

[@Stonedgamerguy21]

@@robogaming9228 theres no shame in that dude good on you for not just wanting to get it overwith

[@whatever]

Hey Brett. So the 23 year old girl who has never been kissed (she took down the original video) has released an update video. You mention in this video about how men never approach anymore, or men don't initiate. In the update video, she says she is getting a bunch of "creepy" messages saying "I'll be your first kiss". Here are men, who are DMing her, getting called creeps PUBLICLY because they are trying to flirt digitally. Men do not approach anymore PRECISELY because many women do not have the grace to politely reject men (and in some cases not publicly shame them for their perhaps nervous or awkward approach). Men do not want to be blasted on the internet/among peers/at school. There is very little space for men to approach. Most men view the outcome of an approach as follows: a low chance of success OR be considered a CREEP. There is no room for grace and a woman just being disinterested and politely turning you down. Or, even if she does politely turn you down in person - she may very well go and tell her friends she was approached by some creep at Trader Joe's or wherever women WISH they would be approached.

[@xaylink2221]

So true

[@Real_moody]

Facts .

[@aisherwasher6959]

To be fair, there's a difference between a man shooting his shot to date a woman digitally and a horde of men lustfully messaging to be her first kiss

[@MaxCaliffDPT]

Yup.

[@diskonnekt1313]

Give Brian more likes!

[@keatonsparksvideoproductions]

I'm a guy, I'm 19 ( almost 20 )... never dated, never had bed fun, never kissed a girl... getting my life on track is more important to me than getting a girlfriend at the moment.

[@kathleenking47]

It's best to go that Guys need to get life together, before finding a wife

[@Sampsel2]

I ain't religious but amen brother, in almost the same boat

[@A-man-in-the-box]

Respect unfortunately I can’t take the loneliness lmao

[@Krakatoa78]

Minus dating back in my Freshman year (Which failed quickly), I'm in the same situation. Never kissed, never had sex. But I am looking to have at least a stable income and be in better shape before I try anything. Gonna be 20 in a week.

[@algirdasltu1389]

Real shit bro. Im in highschool and i keep hearing how these ppl date for a few and break up. Doesnt sound that appealing to me. Plus the dread of choosing the wrong career and regretting it for life is more important to me rn.

[@wappoo]

As a guy all we want is a girl who won’t file for harassment if we ask them out but at the same time hasn’t been tag teamed by the Dallas Cowboys.

[@feshersvr]

😂

[@Czaint]

Why do guys act like false accusations are common? 😂 Like your fighting shit that doesn’t exist.

[@ld7599]

@@Czaint 😐

[@RandoWisLuL]

@@Czaint its pretty common. Even if it doesn't involve legalities, some find the need to call men out on social media for shit that didn't even happen. Hell recently a blind dude got kicked out of a gym for being a "creep because you are staring" even after he proved he was blind. Not to say there arnt creepy men but not ALL of them are. its toxic all around and we keep blaming each other ( males and females).

[@joelwillems4081]

@@Czaint It exists and is pretty common. It doesn't always get to the level of police reports but it is there a lot, even if just done in a "joking" manner or "casual" threat. It can be leveled at a guy asking a girl out or even a long-time friend or boyfriend.

[@realmofthearcane7874]

I expect this will go unread but as a guy I'm actually grateful to the women who admit they haven't had a romantic relationships. As a 27 year old guy in the same situation, I just see it as another avenue to bond over. To learn these kinds of experiences together.

[@michaelangst6078]

Yeah, these pure women are sitll not going to want an unattractive unfunny person like yourself though. I just assume these 2 things are true if you're a virgin at 27

[@bobcobb158]

Yeah, it's becoming more of the 'norm' than the exception. Many 20 somethings today are in her and your same position. I am one of them. It's sad to see the state of the relationships between the sexes today.

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

I'm 37 and never kissed a girl. For some of us, life is unfair in that way.

[@LukeplaysTV]

thats just a cope you would much rather your girl tell you "yeah ive never been with another guy before" you just say that bc you are stuck with her now and are afraid you cant get a more pure woman, simple LMAO

[@michaelangst6078]

Genuine women tend to have a lower body count by default for their age, but regardless, I really don't care. It's all about if our personalities connect and our values in life and what she expects of me. I honestly think most non low body count dudes care either... These dudes saying it on red pill channels say it because they have to appeal to the 90%+ of their fanbase who aren't even visible in the dating market whatsoever. it's very easy to 100% feel way more passionate about wanting a woman to have a low body count because you're sexless As far as past trauma's go, everyone has them. You just being in this comment section bitching about women is because of the ''trauma' you have experienced@@LukeplaysTV

[@darkerbinding6933]

The problem is, its no longer "safe" to approach women. You never know when it's going to be accepted or you will be vilified.

[@warfortruth7178]

True same thought

[@Romuluz369]

Plus the payoff is not really worth the risk 😂

[@andrebaxter4023]

Bull. What’s going to happen? I cold approach women and I’m healthy and fine.

[@dinosaur___7209]

Unless you’re a huge creep that’s not true. Even if u are a creep, a lot of men don’t ever get called out.

[@markYBE]

grow some balls

[@Jackie89000]

In my own experience, the issue with approaching girls irl is that there's a good chance they'll already be taken or if they don't find you attractive, they'll perceive you as creepy. Guys don't want to be seen as creepy so that fear keeps them from talking to women irl which leaves just finding girls on dating apps which brings its own issue of most of the girls on there are usually just looking for a hook up.

[@Canyoureadmydeadpan]

Jordan Peterson its your fault for not being better....

[@AmericanIdiotPolitics]

literally me I dont care about rejection I just dont want to be humiliated and called ugly

[@kevinlatulippe6944]

I really don't give a shit about outcomes and I will try when I feel It's right and if that makes me creepy So be it

[@palmanardozza2041]

Most of the guys who seem creepy generally have no shame. They'll be creepy or misread the cues and still won't care. If you're a relatively normal person, you'll be able to gauge the situation and determine if it's the right time/place to ask a girl out. I can't speak for all women, but I never like being approached in a public place, especially if it's not somewhere you'd expect to find a date, like say, the grocery store. I'm sure people hitting the bars and clubs are more open, but idk if they're looking for something serious, either :/ shit's tough out there.

[@Jackie89000]

@@palmanardozza2041 That's where I disagree with you. Even if you're a normal guy, we don't know when it's "okay" to approach a girl. That's the main issue. Girls determine whether a guy is "creepy" or not depending on if they find them attractive. If a girl doesn't find the guy that's asking them out attractive, then he's creepy. Meanwhile, women are complaining that guys they do find attractive aren't asking them out and that's because we can't tell if you find us attractive or creepy.

[@bentuinstra4441]

I've asked out around 35+ women in college, not counting dating apps. I've received no after no after no. Once a girl changed her mind about saying yes to a date because "guys never asked her out and she didn't know how to respond." I'm an engineer, I was a D1 athlete, I'm a Christian, I'm 6' 1" and I am seeking a long term relationship. I don't understand why it's so difficult. It's hard to believe women like this are out there. If you'd put yourself on my radar, I would totally ask you out! edit: y'all, I think I figured it out... I've just been too intense and had expectations that ruined one or both parties enjoyment of the moment.

[@zaklex3165]

They're out there and they are NOT Christian...that is the problem. Christianity is dying, a slow death, very slow death, but it is dying...the faster it dies off(and ALL other religions so that people start THINKING for themselves), the better off we will be as a society.

[@Rustyknife1]

Why waste time on women they are a lost cause nowadays

[@HashBandicoot356]

Many value saying no to inflate their self esteem more than saying yes and potentially having a relationship.

[@katemesser4978]

@bentuinstra4441 It's so strange when I have gfs that get asked out by very nice and attractive men and act offended and say no!!! And then turn around and complain about being single. Sometimes I feel like something's wrong with me because I've never even held hands with someone but it is all in the Lord's timing and we can trust in him!!! It is hard to know how to put yourself on someone's radar tho. But if you really want a relationship I guess you just have to try.

[@bentuinstra4441]

@@katemesser4978 If you want to get on a guy's radar, give him attention! Talk to him, text him first, offer to hang out just with him. If he finds you attractive, then you'll have a good chance! (Ask him out if you want to, as well! A woman will experience much less rejection than a man will for asking someone out)

[@coreythomas5717]

I didn’t have a first kiss until 23. The first guy I kissed was the first guy I ever dated, and now we’ve been married 6 years. I’m so glad I don’t have a whole physical history I had to process through before getting married.

[@jamesjonnes]

This is the way. Kissing random men just damages pair-bonding. A woman who was never kissed is very attractive to good guys, only the bad boys hate this kind of woman because they can't use them.

[@justinedeleyer4894]

This is a similar story to me and my wonderful husband, and I am so so grateful. ❤ No baggage or comparisons!

[@9770G]

You and your husband are very lucky. I would kill to be able to say what u just did. As a 25 yo male virgin. I’m not proud I’m a virgin this late in my life but I’m not ashamed of it either. I have never been into hook up culture. I have always wanted to find a meaningful relationship. I’m not even saying I think u should wait till marriage for sex, but it should be with a person who you truly care for. I have had opportunities to pursue women I knew were giving me “the eyes.” But I never made the move cuz I knew all they were looking for was another hook up. I would kill to find a girl like the one in this video. Feminism and hook up culture has RUINED dating for men.

[@stephensullivan1011]

Good for you. Wish you luck and happiness and may you bless others ❤️

[@nealorr5086]

How many mules did your father include in the dowry? Just kidding, but let's not conflate a kiss at the 7th grade dance with "a sexual history".

[@johnathanweaver2039]

So my wife was a virgin, never had been on a date, never kissed a guy until we met. We started dating in 2017. She was 28, and I was 27 at that time. We shared a kiss, but saved our intimacy until marriage. It was one of the things that attracted me to her. We got married in 2019, and now have two wonderful children. It is worth the wait for the right person.

[@razikazmi6840]

Hopefully u were also a virgin

[@lovelynorah25]

AWWW this is so cute!

[@TanyaRando]

I also don’t blame men for staying single, in a society where if you flirt with someone and ask them out, if she’s not interested, then you’re open to claims of harassment.

[@JohnAnderson-ev3lp]

Exactly

[@blosky5665]

Yeah, a guy asked a coworker for her number at work last week. That was it, nothing more, and there was an entire harassment stand down held because of it... Multiple guys were talking about how they were thinking about doing the same thing, but now they never will. That's why we're in this situation.

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

Yea that's why a lot of men are afraid to ask a girl out because of that

[@bobmilleit1976]

I’m married to my coworker

[@Fanargle]

we had a meeting at one of my jobs that said if you ask a person{lets just say a woman) out and she does not like you she can claim harrasmenrt and have you terminated.

[@_Gondor44_]

This gives me so much hope. As a teenager who is surrounded by girls who aren’t exactly trying to make themselves wife material, knowing that girls like this are out there is almost exciting to me.

[@jaroslav3905]

*This* I'm 21 and by age of 27 I wouls like to have started a family and most girls I meet straight up tell they hate kids/don't want them any time soon.

[@aleshyadarling5274]

Get excited! Get social! There is every reason to hold onto that hope if you're smart and play your cards right.

[@BrazilianImperialist]

Bruh

[@nowords8627]

Dude, as a soon to be 20 year old engineer, I've been trying to find normal women since I left Highschool, the road is long but I still believe they're out there.

[@BboyKeny]

@@jaroslav3905 Tv has pushed for women to hate children. I think our cultural leaders are either idiots or want to put an end to humanity.

[@justjoshingyou9841]

I was a 28 year old guy who had never dated. It wasn’t because of lack of trying just constant rejection due to being an average guy. I was depressed for years and never thought I’d get married. Long story short I finally met my best friend at 29 years old who is now my wife. We’ve been married 5 years and have 2 children and are both so thankful that we have only ever been with the other and nobody else.

[@Phyrogenacious]

Thanks for sharing, looking to follow in your footsteps!

[@PlaceOfDestination]

I mean if you are desperate then every chance is a chance, so nothing wrong here

[@nathanlaing8441]

gives me hope, happy to hear this!

[@orange_cat]

@@jakubskyba7946 Look at yourself in the mirror and if there's some fixing to be done, get on that first. You're not getting any younger. The rest should be obvious.

[@trytoo5167]

DUUUUUUUUUDDDDDDEEEE. Thats so cute.

[@Stardust.Creations]

As a 25-year-old gal who has myself never been in a relationship or had a first kiss yet, this type of video is so refreshing to see. I'm so happy to see Brett using her platform to address an issue like this which really does deserve a conversation. As conservative and God-fearing women in 2024, it makes sense that it would take a little bit more time for us to find our person. And as hard as it might be at times, we need to simply hold fast to what we know is right and good, and do what is best for ourselves. We should never try to be like anyone else, because somewhere out there is a man who is looking for YOU, just as you are as your most authentic self. And I believe that right man when he meets you will have nothing but immense respect for your dating history, or lack thereof. Brett is right, these are tough times. But we were born into this time, and as long as we lean on God and His promises we (both men and women alike) can get through it and come out the other side with joy and triumph. Just never lose hope, because without hope you don't have anything ♥

[@richardy2071]

this is wonderful! stay strong

[@theatlantianauthor7051]

Exactly 🖤

[@lukewilliams3334]

This is very encouraging to me as a 23 yr male without ever being in any relationship or kiss etc… It is amazing and refreshing to know there are many people out there; I just have to work hard and show them how much I value their honor and am willing to work to get them as God-fearing women

[@Stardust.Creations]

@@lukewilliams3334 I'm so glad that I was able to give some encouragement for you 🕊 I know it certainly helps to know I'm not the only one in my 20s who hasn't experienced those things yet.

[@fearless6947]

Don't let modern women shame you

[@menocchioscandella]

In my early 20s I started dating this really gorgeous girl who was my age. I had only slept with one girl until that time. On our third date she told me that she had slept with 39 guys. I stopped viewing her as gorgeous on the spot. I wasn't a conservative or a very religious person. In theory, if you had asked me if I would mind dating a really beautiful girl who had many ex-boyfriends, I would tell you that I wouldn't mind, at that time. And yet I felt disgusted. And I suspect that most of us (men or women) feel disgusted in such situations, whether we will admit it or not. Everyone likes to feel unique and, nope, I won't feel that way if the amount of men you have kissed would suffice for the siege of a provincial castle.

[@rimanm6934]

That cause of retroactive jealousy is real thing. Men want subcouncisly women is his and his alone. Doesnt mater if it past or future. That why there was rule in every country to not have sex outside mariage, so guys wont cuck each other. And this way each guy could have atleast one virign girl. Whole idea of waiting till mariage, was to ensure each guy would have virgin wife.

[@anchorsanvils]

you dodged a huge bullet 10 partners in your 20s is fine especially for females, but 11+ is too much, either they don't respect themselves, low self-esteem or they have poor judgement (which will be a headache for you regardless). Great job on reading the situation and leaving.

[@prot07ype87]

@@anchorsanvils *For me, anything above 0 before marriage is too much.*

[@Jasiel.95]

@@anchorsanvilsthat’s one partner a year… what the fuck are you doing wrong that your going through a guy a year. That’s a lot.

[@KazeMunashii]

STD's my guy

[@Theiscariotsin]

As a dude I’m literally scared to even talk to women in a public space sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing. It’s a mix of three things. I don’t want to get accused of doing something I’m not, I don’t want her boyfriend that I didn’t know about to sucker punch me from behind and something inside me knows I’ll get “the look” if I do. The one that says “why are you talking to me weirdo?”

[@joshuajohnson3296]

I definitely know the feeling. It's as if you're talking to a girl, you already feel like a predator. I think talking with more girls, and maybe being in a situation where you meet more (e.g., bartending, cashiering, selling fruit by a roadside - the last one is what I do), will help!

[@midgarw6775]

Dude your problem is you're overthinking. None of that matters. Getting accused of doing something your not, you know your intentions, that's all that matters. Boyfriend, not your problem and shouldn't even cross your mind. I clicked with a clerk girl really well recently, so much so it felt natural to ask for her number so i did. But she said she was taken. Fair enough, i said lucky guy, wished her a good rest of her day. Hell i wouldn't mind if said boyfriend appeared and sucker punched me. Would only work in my favour because what kind of asshole does that just for talking to a girl and then respecting she has a boyfriend when she said she did. Personally i'm not scared of fighting either though so. Maybe work on that as well. And girl that has that response from you just trying to talk to them, calling you a weirdo. Isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's like thanks for showing a major red flag right off the bat. That kind of person isn't a good person and not someone you would want a relationship with anyway. Its all perspective my friend, right now through your putting all these consequences on yourself.

[@Erik-Vr]

You've spoken facts my friend.@@midgarw6775

[@midgarw6775]

@@Scooter110 Feel what way? Having confidence and not being hung up over rejection?

[@midgarw6775]

@@Scooter110 Oh sorry. Said it was a reply to me, KZbin comments are really shit

[@CaptainDizzy92]

I heard this quote about 10 years ago and it still holds up. “The world is full of lonely people afraid to make the first move” I’m very afraid to make the first move and the last 4 girls I’ve asked out or were going ask out either ghosted me or turned me down this year alone. I’m 30 and the dating pool is looking pretty empty.

[@Paul_Atreides]

Just go overseas for a wife

[@izzyash2031]

This could be because they can sense your desperation. Nobody wants to be your second, third or fourth choice. I knew a guy who was engaged and would still flirt with all the girls he could at work and still ended up single. I gave him a chance after they split by going out with him but he was still hung up on his ex. We can sense desperation and it's not attractive. If you want to make a real connection take a real interest in someone and be okay with the friend zone for a while. Let it grow organically. You literally have nothing to lose by being friends at first...

[@CaptainDizzy92]

@@izzyash2031 could be, but I’m not desperate. I’ll definitely take your advice anyways

[@wishingb5859]

Be a friend first. I used to have a male friend who was rejected a lot and I told him young women tend to be superficial and then, suddenly close to 30, they grow up and look for males who are responsible and who are good friends. Eventually he became the exact type of male that women want to marry and have kids with.

[@wishingb5859]

Focus on figuring out your life purpose. Then, look to your left and right and see the single woman standing next to you.

[@beliber6681]

I’m a 20 year old girl, and I’ve never been in a relationship or been kissed. It’s been tough trying to figure out why I can’t find a man. The other day, feeling very emotional, I just laid on the floor and cried questioning if I’ll find someone one day. Usually I just be myself and remember that it’s okay if I don’t, but sometimes I just break down. I put so much into being my best self and being social. We don’t know what the future has in store for us, but I know that whatever happens, it’s okay, we all have so much potential and should never stress over relationship troubles. I know my worth and that no matter what, I am so valuable!!

[@PhileasFogg-qj5te]

It's because if we approach, we will certainly be bombed on the airstrip. this happens to me every time

[@user-lj2wt1zs6b]

​@@PhileasFogg-qj5te i get called a creep even if i don't look like one 😔

[@jurassicthunder]

your last sentence is the reason.

[@PhileasFogg-qj5te]

@@jurassicthunder you're not wrong

[@beliber6681]

@@jurassicthunder i meant value in the eyes of God. meaning, we all have equal value, regardless of how other people see us. if im feeling hard on myself for feeling no one is interested in me romantically, i just remind myself i have my value from God.

[@ezekielflores2149]

As a 22 (about to be 23) year old guy who has also never kissed, finding out that a girl Im attracted to that is in the same boat would make her incredibly more attractive, because it would cancel out that awkward cliche for both of us and would increase the potential for a long term relationship where we could actaully share important experiences. It would also tell me that there is much higher chance that we share similar values, standards, and level of level of social energy. The terrible thing is that people like us are kind of doomed to rarely meet each other, because we are clearly more reserved and less likely to attend social events where we would stand a chance at meeting each other.

[@ssmith3967]

Best of luck to you 🤞

[@katien3022]

Young woman here, I think you’re right about having a hard time meeting each other. But I will say that as a Catholic woman, I would prefer to be pursued. For you as a man, maybe build social circles with other virtuous women and then just go for it. I really feel for men because they’re often put in the spot to be rejected, but I think many conservative women would prefer a man to take up his role and pursue the relationship. Best of luck!

[@hallowrant8091]

You cite your faith...but the one documented story in the Bible that I can think of someone pursuing someone for marriage is a woman pursuing the man. Maybe a little murky if you consider Jacob and Rachel....point is women absolutely should pursue good men. Maybe not just ask them out but pursue...yes

[@Jeremy-ql1or]

@@katien3022 "maybe build social circles with other virtuous women" If it was possible for young men these days to do that then you wouldn't be hearing about how it is hard, if not impossible, to find a virtuous woman.

[@MidwestArtMan]

I'm exactly the same, but a few years older. I want a girl who is very sweet and/or has little dating experience because I think she'd be less judgmental if I'm awkward. Plus, shy girls are cute and they're more likely to be both of those things.

[@CallSignJammer]

My wife and I were both virgins on our wedding night. Our lives are wonderfully uncomplicated and baggage-free. Bring back “waiting.”

[@gaia7240]

People are obsessed with sex now it's unhealthy

[@mateuscosta9960]

That's all I want for my future, a virgin girl as me. However this sounds unrealistic nowadays, mainly in Brazil

[@dinos9607]

@@mateuscosta9960 Good luck with that...

[@ethanbaker5987]

@@dinos9607it’s very possible, unlikely in America. Have money/ time to travel basically.

[@crazysilly2914]

@@mateuscosta9960 Brazil is even worse than america good lord...

[@abigailar3123]

As a girl, it’s so frustrating what feminism has done. Men are more careful about talking to women, if they do so at all. Edit: I have no problem asking a man out. I’ve done so. But I’m a traditional woman looking for a traditional man, so I’m more interested in a guy taking charge. I’m usually the one to initiate conversation and flirting, but then wait for him to make the next step by asking me out.

[@protorhinocerator142]

The risk is too great. A simple question turns into a "me too" moment. Excuse me miss, but do you have the time? POLICE!!!

[@chewface]

What's stopping women from approaching men? ;) Be empowered! Ask the guy out! Break the mold of gender stereotypes! What's wrong? ;)

[@LeeEverett1]

I'm curious, have you personally noticed this? Do less men actually approach you or talk to you?

[@xazarl3381]

These girls want to be asked out but only by certain guys lol thats the catch otherwise noone would be complaining.

[@aaronadamson7463]

@@chewface with a name like "chewface" i suspect its not a lack of empowerment thats keeping that from happening...

[@angrycapsicum6027]

Also went through high school from 2016-2020 where there was this big "women don't want to be harassed by men at bus stops/supermarkets/work/with friends" and for me personally, and I'd imagine others too kind of engraved in the minds of teens and young men that there really isn't any good time to approach women. I seem to remember this being a pretty big thing mainly on the internet but I also definitely remember it in school.

[@ClokworkGremlin]

I literally got hauled into the principle's office in middle school and told I wasn't allowed to look at a girl on the bus because it was sexual harassment. I had always hated her.

[@oldmanjinkinsskyrim737]

Women reap what they sow

[@algirdasltu1389]

​@@ClokworkGremlinnawww they were in the same delulu level as those gym thots. We power scaling delusion now its bout to be like goku vs saitama lol

[@areacode3816]

I am an older guy that stopped trying to date years ago. I had a lot of trauma during my childhood so I simply missed out on typical social stuff until later in life. By then there was a stigma for not dating that was very difficult to overcome. I tried dating online, asking people out in person lots of stuff. It was a nightmare. I ran into scams, ghosting, mean insulting comments, by the end of it I felt ugly and worthless. It makes simply asking someone out risky, will they think Im creepy, too ugly, too old, whatever label. And its often not a simple yes or no. Cancel culture is very real. People always want to put labels saying what men and women are "doing wrong" or whats wrong with them. Simple answer nothing its just the times we live in. Im now successful, self confident, and worked out my own internal problems from the childhood trauma. All while being single. Life is good for me. Point is its ok for us to be ourselves. No need for masks. We are all broken but all worthy of love. Be yourself grow with others. Love with your entire being. Will I try dating again? I keep going back and forth. I don't know. Either way it will be fine :). Peace to you all. I hope all that read this find joy in life.

[@jamesjonnes]

Get a passport, try another country.

[@rightcliquegod7653]

Thanks for sharing, I strangely relate to what you wrote a lot although we're different in a lot of other aspects. Glad that you're doing well now friend and hope that you find whatever it is that will make you happy.

[@areacode3816]

@@rightcliquegod7653 Thank you for your kind words. I'm helping others through a nonprofit and find peace through my faith. I used to be very lonely but have found when you heal it fills a lot of that void. People are more alike than different. Our core regardless of culture, race, gender is all the same. Our hearts beat the same. We want love and peace deep down.

[@HelloThere.....]

There is still something you have not figured out. You believe you have solved all your issues but you have not. You are trying to force a change and banking on it too much and it's probably causing another problem. Like if a dude tries to act too manly just isn’t real.

[@davidearea242]

@@HelloThere..... -Wow-how can you know so much about someone you don't even know...? Amazing.

[@joanjaeger8943]

I was this girl when I was 21. I was introverted and very picky. I had just moved in with my very extroverted friend for my last year of college, and she asked if I wanted to go to the football game. It was the last thing I wanted to do, but I forced myself to go and put myself out there. We met with a group of guys she knew from class, and the quiet one in the group caught my interest when he said he wasn’t into partying. I literally remember thinking “you’ll do.” Anyways, 7 years later and we’ve been married 4 years and have 2 beautiful little girls 😊

[@joanjaeger8943]

Just realize that all relationships take work. None of them are perfect. Find somebody that seems somewhat compatible with you, and start talking to them. It’s ok to fib and pretend to be into a show they like until you find things you actually have in common. You’ll laugh about it later.

[@dinokrivic5486]

Is he also introverted?

[@DCflash-sl6oq]

@@joanjaeger8943that’s beautiful! I’m glad for you. It brings hope to a guy who doesn’t exactly know what to do. Thanks for sharing.

[@jonahwhite4195]

I had an ex who once told me about a time she felt really cornered and threatened. I asked what happened and she said this guy approached her and started flirting but she wasn’t interested. I said I was sorry that happened and asked what he said/did to make her so fearful. She told me nothing, it was the fact she wasn’t attracted to him that made her so afraid. I’ve wrestled with that for close to ten years now. No matter how much I want to approach someone I’m interested in, it will never be more than how much I don’t want to scare them.

[@houseofhas9355]

Yeah sometimes some women lie because of that fear. A man says hello, and in her mind she adds in an evil laugh with that hello. Now it's something else. Wtf. 😂

[@breakingthemasks]

That's her fault, not his. Actually, it's her parents fault for raising her so poorly that her threat detection mechanism sees a friendly overture as a threat at all. That or she picked her romantic partners so poorly that she would up getting traumatized through her experiences with them. In any case, it's not on the guy that she was afraid of him. Any more than it's the spiders fault when girls scream at seeing them.

[@nealorr5086]

@@houseofhas9355 It's almost like we shouldn't be telling little boys and girls about "toxic masculinity" and "the male gaze".

[@jamesjonnes]

If a woman considers you attractive, she will be angry because you didn't read her mind and approach her immediately. But if she considers you unattractive, then just the fact that you exist will be considered as a threat to her life by her.

[@nealorr5086]

@@jamesjonnes Hyperbole, but not far off.

[@angelacrobat7332]

Title of this video - “Go ask a girl out!” Me - “Uhhh no. My peace is too valuable. Good day.”

[@DiabloTTV]

I'm a 27-year-old guy and I have no problem asking a girl out. However, what makes me a bit hesitant is the fear of being recorded and ending up on TikTok, being labeled as a creep. Considering my appearance and how I present myself ( I Consider myself a 4 out of 10), I don't fit the stereotypical image of someone who approaches a girl, and I worry that I might be labeled as a weirdo or creep right away. The frustration of constantly getting ghosted on dating apps like Boo, Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and Facebook dating has led me to delete them altogether.

[@Michaela-ub4ue]

Don't give up

[@l.3626]

approaching in real life takes way more confidence than just an app, do that, way more respected, woman are way more forgiving in the looks department than us men

[@DiabloTTV]

@xtal16 I was 316lb now sitting at 256lb currently in the gym going x5 a week and eating healthy. Tired of playing games with these ladies.

[@Palidor]

@xtal16 Dude no, don't be that stereotypical 'just go to the gym bro'' guy. No amount of gym can fix an unfortunate face.

[@nalublackwater9729]

You are being ghosted because 90% of profiles are bots. Go out and meet real people. Join clubs, voluntary work, anything that gets you to have real life connections.

[@cadenwendling3380]

Dating has definitely changed so much. It's been very difficult. I'm a 20 year old introverted man, never kissed anyone, and talking to people I don't know is hard, let alone asking someone out, almost seems impossible in this day and age.

[@brody8857]

I’m 27 and in your shoes brother. I’m just now starting to get my life turned around and start working out and eating better. I put myself on dating apps but havnt had much luck yet. I really just don’t want to die alone lol.

[@nealorr5086]

@@brody8857 Both of you guys should start going to church/synagogue if you want to meet kind, non-judging women.

[@cadenwendling3380]

I do go to church, have my whole life, I just have a hard time opening up, especially when all the relationships I’ve been in have felt very one sided. I know I’ll find a Godly woman one day that will love me like I will love her, that just hasn’t happened yet

[@MauroMavro]

@@cadenwendling3380 Hey, friend, please consider reaching a psychotherapist in your area. (You don't have to quit being an introvert.) Self-knowledge really helps :)

[@estherhinds6314]

Trust me. There are a lot of women looking for guys like you. Just keep trying, you'll find her, because believe me girls are looking for you. My friends certainly are

[@Anchor-Supreme]

Her being 23 and not having had a first kiss yet is honestly pretty wholesome. There’s just a purity about it that makes the whole situation, idk, attractive I guess.

[@GrianaArande]

Purity mindset 🤮

[@elijahwoodell2]

Some people think attractiveness = sexiness, which is false. Attractiveness is simply the ability to be drawn to, which is what this comment is talking about. Everyone has opinions, but this one is just better.

[@trowwzers5057]

I’m 27 and never kissed a girl. I’ve asked out 1000’s of women but got rejected by everyone except the woke liberal fat chick with short, blue hair that identifies as a man

[@_Stormfather]

@@GrianaArande believe it or not, most guys aren't attracted to girls who have been with a ton of other guys. Feel free to 🤮 at that all you want, but that's the reality of the world.

[@zenon7318]

@@GrianaArande Some people just dont want a girl thats been through 40+ releationships, having someone who hasnt been in a releationship is lightyears ahead of someone who has had 40+ releationships

[@theblackheart5727]

I’m 43, single, and was one of the rare cases of single custody dads in the US. My son is currently 25 and lives on his own about 25-30 miles away now. Even with that kind of decent reputation, women want nothing to do with me. I’m average looking, 6 ft tall, and make good money for a blue-collar guy. It’s damn near impossible to find a good woman currently. So I’ve basically resigned to being alone and saving my money for my son and nephews. It’s a bit lonely but knowing my bloodline will carry on makes it worth the loneliness. To all my fellow brothers out there, if you have family, you are not alone. If you don’t have family, I wish I had something more substantial to say to you. I am sorry that I do not.

[@beefchampion2792]

Aren't thre any options that may come along as you practice your hobbies? Recently there have been many women joining gyms in order to keep themselves fit, there are lots of women playing tennis or other sports, or going to cooking classes. The best place of all to meet women, as I've heard, is dance classes. You can always try those social activities, if you can muster the courage! At 43 you are definitely not too old to find a good relationship or to experience something new and refreshing!

[@theblackheart5727]

@@beefchampion2792 Definitely not going to the gym just to be called a creep on social media and my hobbies are mostly solitary, but you’re not wrong. I could make the effort. I’m not sure if it’s worth it though. I don’t think women are interested in a guy like me nowadays. I’m not a bad boy, I’m not super wealthy, I’m not a douche bag, and I’m in my 40’s. I think that ship has sailed.

[@lukewilliams3334]

Hey brother, remember to get into the Word and trust in God. Study out the Scripture and what He says. Dive into the book of Psalms :)

[@michaelbateson8636]

You've got your kid. You've done your part, enjoy your retirement from the opposite sex!

[@michaelsanders7484]

The irony is I would be impressed and attracted even more so to a women who hasn’t had any romantic/relationship experience if it was because she was waiting for the right person. There’s nothing wrong with having good and reasonable standards. I won’t date a girl who isn’t a Christian and who doesn’t take that seriously. I’ve just eliminated like 95% of the population of America lol.

[@cheddarbub6324]

You and me are one in the same brother. Those are my exact parameters, and while I haven’t found her yet, a girl with strong faith and conviction will be the most attractive thing to me

[@ryanbeukes5874]

Maybe God has set you apart to be that person she will listen to instead of just ignoring the gospel whenever it is preached. That's the beauty of a relationship, when you make Love the greatest of the three, faith and hope will follow. If she loves you, the faith will follow

[@danielvalencia9218]

She’s not a unicorn, she does exist! Unfortunately for me, it didn’t work out with her. 😆

[@savanataylor6052]

@@cheddarbub6324brothers, do you see born again women as having “history”? Really?

[@Fanargle]

most men are, we dont want women that are run through by 100's of dicks

[@andybalsa]

This girl's video made me feel so much better about myself. I'm 20 and have never even been on a date or asked out. I'm aware that I am super picky and have a very limited social life, though.

[@LiamHalla-pe5nt]

Ok, how tall are you?

[@dominickleonardi]

@@LiamHalla-pe5ntwhat? How is that relevant?

[@PolemicAutist]

Where are you from?

[@mommasbigboy8656]

@@dominickleonardimore than you realize…

[@CallSignJammer]

Stay the course. Quality over quantity.

[@TENNOM]

I want a girl like this, but its hard to: A) even see any women my age (25) around in public, B) have confidence when everything in society is constantly berating young men

[@QuinnQuell-yt3zm]

Well i think you need to go places where people in their twenties are. My advice: learn couple dances and go to a Salsa Bars and other locations. You can meet women in class or outside of it. Plus women always love men, who can dance. (Might sound a little bit stupid, but it is worth it to give it a try. And lets be honest besides from hookups you don't meet any woman in clubs). Other way would be partys from friends, where there are women your age you can meet. But i also know it's hard, so... i need to be braver the next time i want to ask someone out. 😅

[@summersunsets9556]

@@QuinnQuell-yt3zmHow do you meet people in person without going to clubs, bars, etc. I’ve been having a hard time making and friends or trying to date because I don’t drink, smoke, or vape. I work as a CNA in q nursing home so there’s not really any men that work their especially not ones my age.

[@dorozi8202]

​@@QuinnQuell-yt3zmHow do you expect to meet someone decent at a place like that?

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

Brett just pointed out a gold mine of these women in the US. Get on that thread and talk to the women!

[@bladelazoe]

This is my biggest issue with the world ad a young guy, we’re told if we don’t have xyz by x age that we’re losers. Even if we are late bloomers that we’re running out of time. Lose Lose situation.

[@briannajones7322]

This is so relatable! I am so glad that I am not the only one who is going through this (also 23yr old single female who has never done anything)! Thank you for the advice Brett, hopefully not all hope is lost.

[@marcintosh4040]

why do you guys think being a virgin is bad? like seriously? a guy will marry a virgin girl over an actress that has kissed plenty of dudes on screen

[@isaacmkay9792]

I just turned 16 and as a teenager, I've witnessed all of the "relationships" that my friends go and have gone through. I personally get made fun of for not having a first kiss or having a girlfriend. It's okay to not have your first kiss or 'time' yet because it just makes it that much more valuable when you find someone who you truly love and will truly love you back.

[@badsubtitles498]

Same here bro 👍

[@AceArata]

Absolutely correct, man. Im 25. Lost my first time and first kiss when i was 19 to a drunk woman at a bar that took me home. Not worth it. I felt like I lost part of me to a stranger whose real name I didnt even know. When I met my first girlfriend at 21 I felt so bad I couldnt give her my first kiss, and that I could never give her my first time.

[@carmeister_]

@@AceAratadam that’s real

[@jager5533]

Same. My friends are constantly up my ass being 16 and single without my first kiss. It just seems like kids our age are trying to gain kissing or dating points or something. I just don't get it.

[@KingOfAllGigas]

Feel you bro 🥲

[@Chilrona]

I'm a 25M. Throughout middle school, high school, and my young adult years I pursued girls and tried so hard to find a relationship and got burnt so badly so many times. Most of the time it was because girls tend to be afraid of hurting men's feelings and end up leading them on and confusing them. I finally had my first real relationship at 23 and as a result learned what it's actually like when a girl likes you. It's not such a big problem any more. But damn, girls please be blunt, honest, but still polite.

[@Xxgxxaxx]

Yes please tell me straight up don’t tiptoe around my feelings just speak your mind

[@jeusmarcomascarina4102]

You something funny if ads become reality. many lonely girls in your local area. Congrats by the way and do all you can for your partner because its hard to find pair this days as instead of partners they want dogs so they can live easily whenever they bored.

[@Wyomingchief]

It's not a new Problem by any stretch of the imagination. I'm Gen-X, and I've gone to the same thing. But these days I don't even bother to ask, because every single time I have approached a woman to ask her out ask her coffee date anything, I get rejected or I get accused of being a stalker or just it's it's outrageous. And honestly I think the women of my generation are broken, now whether that's because of feminism or because they've been with assholes I don't know but I've yet to find a woman anywhere close to my age range that isn't broken

[@j.a.hernandez9742]

bruh what kind of girls have you been talking to, all the girls I know hang out in sheep herds(I'm talking herds of like 10 or more, and the moment a guy gets the confidence to ask on of them out, they all start clowning him

[@craigswanson4127]

Just gotta say as a 21 year old male who also hasn’t had any physical interaction with the opposite gender and is around only people that have a high body count, this is wholesome and hope inducing, I also think that (I think) not having any serious physical interaction before marriage shows respect not only for your partner but also yourself!

[@svenolsen8184]

21? Too immature. 35? Too old you freaking pado. So basically if you're a man, you will never ever be loved. The one thing that makes life worth living, women are incapable of. I've never been kissed either. Don't want to. It's not worth the false SA charges.

[@youtuber-tg1pu]

Bro gets no bitches, unironically kinda funny

[@Dellzions]

​@justinwentzel5166I know bro 😮‍💨😕

[@rdptll]

Not having sex before marriage is only a virtue for women. Your sexuality as a man is worthless. You need to understand this. Like really understand this. You have no sexual value in todays society. If you want to view yourself as being pure or think that abstaining from sex gives self-respect then that's fine, whatever makes you feel content. Even very good looking men young or old have very little sexual value to women that they truly are attracted to. Women use sex as a means to attain a lifestyle or obtain the services of a man- labor, protection, servant, etc....This is 100% fact. If you are a very attractive man then you have lots of "fun" but only with women you don't find super attractive. Beautiful women don't go around having fun except with the wealthy men. The dream that you might find this perfect woman who is demure and nice and smart and funny and attractive (to you) and not sexually experienced---this is not reality. Just like when women say they want a man who earns $200k and is inshape and votes Democrat and blah blah blah---that is also not going to happen for her. Best she can do is find a teacher or a small business owner who earns $75k-$100k, who isn't super handsome but is masculine and does things for her. She'll divorce him after 7 years and collect alimony. You probably aren't going to find this special perfect woman that bonds off video games or being shy or whatever constellation of quirky things would be great. If you find a woman who appears to be like this, you can be almost sure she has slept with a bunch of guys, has a drug problem, is bi polar, is a single mother, etc....there is always something.

[@crazysilly2914]

@@youtuber-tg1pu have fun with E.D.

[@theauthenticwaffle651]

In like middle school and through high school I asked out several girls, some said yes, majority said no. I was promptly made to feel pretty awful about myself for several different reasons when I wasn't creepy or going past lines at all. I know a lot of guys that this has happened to and resulted in them just not talking to women and continuing to be awkward with women because they avoid flirting or asking girls out generally.

[@roccociccone597]

My experience in high-school definitely didn't help. They treated me like dirt. The classic ew, not with you response. It's pretty hard to fix your self-image and confidence if all you ever heard when asking someone out was that you're gross, ugly or creepy. To me this crap is self inflicted. They want to be c*nts to guys in school and then later in life wonder why they never get approached or asked out.

[@gaia7240]

Dude who want a boyfriend in middleschool?

[@theauthenticwaffle651]

@@gaia7240 You missed the point. The issue isn’t that women turn men down. It’s that from even the earliest ages boys are mocked, laughed at, and belittled. Which for too many guys simply convinces them that either they’re not good enough for anyone or that pursuing women at all isn’t worth it.

[@gaia7240]

@@theauthenticwaffle651 the point is why pursuing women at a young age? You say boys are laughed at but girls are molested by those boys

[@theauthenticwaffle651]

@@gaia7240 Because biology? Young boys naturally develop an interest in girls around that age. A lot of girls develop interest in boys at that age as well. The molestation point is beside the point. What men are trying to express is that the way girls treat them from middle school all the way into adulthood causes men to quit pursuing women all together. Statistically, few of these boys are trying to assault girls in middle school.

[@zombiekillers1231]

As a 33yr man, I have basically given up on asking women out. The sheer amount of rejection and being told "Sorry, just not interested" really weighs on the mind. And I'm even told I'm relatively good looking, so I don't know what the issue is. Oh well.

[@GwoonHarry1992]

Sir are really 33 years old

[@protorhinocerator142]

And they act all friendly and seem like they want asked out, but it screeches to a halt the second you ask her out. Women want all the options. Have many guys ask them out. 1. Take him up on the offer and have a great time. 2. Call him a creep, throw a vase, and scream for the police.

[@vs71597]

Maybe it’s because you don’t know the difference between “ways” and “weighs”

[@ZeroDarknezz]

Same bro

[@SR-ti6jj]

@@vs71597 Yep, undateable from the first message. There's your answer buddy

[@Merchantic]

As a guy, I am just tired of being rejected and then asked to "just be friends". I would love for someone to think I'm worth their time and affection.

[@psycholol4855]

U dropped this 👑

[@MatthewSchellenberg]

Start working out

[@psycholol4855]

@@MatthewSchellenberg no offense but u definitely don’t work out so that’s ironic

[@magda_pie]

Focus on yourself and do what you like, follow your heart, find joy, and soon people will start seeing this, and before your know it, it’ll happen!:)

[@ultimatevengence4656]

one thing that make it hard also is if you ask out the wrong person thanking there a good person they will talk about being asked out (internet/irl) by a friend and they will label you as a creep and if you live in a small town like me it makes it hard when i was in high school a guy was hanging out with a girl he liked her she seemed to like him then one day over spring brake she got a BF and when school started he aked her at the BF found out beat him up and he was labeled as a creep by everyone in the school to the point where he tryed to leave this world

[@thatpenguinate]

I agree. Men have started to no longer pursue women because of what you said and also because we simply choose not to do such an act anymore. A few months ago I got approached by a girl and was asked on a date! Still together months later and she is amazing. I personally was never going to ask anyone or take that first leap because of the stigma social media has generated and I WAS FINE WITH THAT, I would rather be alone than be persecuted and ridiculed in front of a group of people for simply asking someone, I was not going to put my self through that. I can tell you this much, women, if you wish to approach a guy and ask him on a date, 99.9% of the time he will say yes. FUNNY ENOUGH, men have been experiencing these EXACT things for the last few years and now that the turn tables have turned now its time to recognize the issue, like nah. I know things have changed for the worse but it has also changed a bit to where men now start valuing their time and their selfs so they simply take one look and say, maybe but not worth it.

[@sharknadofartquake2449]

I feel like I'm being discriminated against because of only being 5 foot 7 inches tall and that's why a girl never asked me out. How tall are you?!

[@doubtingthomas6752]

This month, I had a woman ask for my number, and then she friend-zoned me after 2 dates. Men eventually get tired of the rejection, the games, and the manupulation. Over time, we prefer our male friends, our hobbies, and our own peace and security. Sure, the pain of not having a woman never really goes away, but it does lessen with time, and the benefits of being single greatly supercede the risks of modern dating.

[@johantolli372]

Sorry to hear it didnt work out. I get what you are saying and i do agree but it sounds like in this specific case that the woman deserves some props. She did shoot her shot, stepped up and asked for a your number and tried to take some initiative. Not every date is gonna lead to marriage and i get how the friend zone can feel rough but atleast she went for it, probably felt like you didnt click and ended it the way many women do by asking to just be friends. You absolutely shouldnt accept the friend zone and just say something like "thanks but i dont need more friends" and then go about your business. Its so rare for women to do anything more than "look and smile" these days and then just expect men to do litterally everything. She gets some respect for trying at least.

[@flowersent9614]

Haha this brings me joy. Natural selection doing its job making sure yall losers dont have offspring. Stop whining and be a real men. Ooh tip! Dont objectivy women, maybe date women who arent 17 years old with a supermodel body😮😮

[@yeeyeebrudderz8629]

I agree with @johantolli372, she wanted to try it out so she went for it and decided it didnt work between yall, thats the 2nd best outcome for any dating scenario

[@TheNinjapancake14]

That means you’re good looking and inviting enough for a girl to reach out. You guys just didn’t match, but this is a good sign, no?

[@nateo200]

​@@TheNinjapancake14 I've been told I'm good looking non-stop since as long as I can remember but it only last so long, maybe with a really unstable girl she will stick around for your looks but generally a good looking guy only gets his foot in the door with his looks and after that all the insane high standards women have still apply. Also, women kind of see really good looking guys as short term prospects a lot of the time sort of like how a lot of men might only see really good looking women for only short term flings. I'm not saying I'm not greatful for my looks but I swear to Christ I want to put a paper bag over my damn head some days....this probably sounds arrogant af but the grass ain't always greener on the otherside. The most magical chemistry I had with a girl was when I was slightly overweight, unshaven and wearing a mask and sick as hell and the girl was also wearing a mask, after three weeks I shaved and showed up without a mask and she took hers off and we finally saw eachothers faces for the first time only after getting to know eachother. You've never seen two people stutter so hard lol. My point is this: I feel a shit ton of pressure to be as good on the inside as I am on the outside so to speak and I think I am but I never really know.

[@cabman86]

As a dad, I would be proud of her. Just keep on doing what you are doing young lady.

[@cabman86]

The woke feminists have screwed it up for them

[@joshitheyoshi2533]

I'm a 34 year old man and never had a relationship. Are you proud of me too?

[@rubenvilla2224]

In the past, I have dated a girl who had never had a relationship before. I really liked the fact she had no other relationship baggage and that I could be her first relationship. I considered it an honor. Ladies don't worry about society, just go to the places you would meet a good guy and hopefully one day you'll find one that deserves your first kiss.

[@harleyquinn9513]

Well said sir 👏 👏

[@FutureLegendDDX]

I've dated a couple of women where I was their first relationship and kiss and those sadly didn't work out

[@Alicia-vq8jg]

I feel like most people don’t think like this to me like doing anything with a virgin or someone that hasn’t done anything in a really long time you have to be so nice to them and cherish them but that hasn’t been my case maybe it’s all just limiting beliefs sometimes I’m worried that no one’s gonna be nice😭

[@Cloxxki]

I've dated a few as well. Some upbringing stuff can lead to this. Taking warnings from parents too seriously, considering intimacy dirty or unholy. It sadly easy, and there are many ways, to eff up a child for most of life.

[@independentvoter8710]

Actually, I'm dating someone, but both of us have had a history of past partners. I think that has benefited us because it provided us with the experience to make each other happy.

[@Nightstalker102]

I’m a 31M went through middle school , high school, and beyond trying to get into some type of relationship and kept getting rejected. Even to this day I still get nothing but rejection.

[@ElliottReid99]

I'm 23 I've kissed a girl once and I'm a virgin. I have asked girls out at work, at school and college when I was younger and have been blanked, received well and acknowledged but got no reply after getting the initial "yes" and just out right ignored. I haven't spent this time idle though, I have gone out, enjoyed myself made new friends but I would never say "I'm a ladies magnet". I have grown up in other areas of my life but relationships and love is just something that seems to pass me by; like its an inside joke that everyones in on but me. From watching your video (even though its from a women's perspective) I must say I feel relieved as when your in this situation you definitely feel like the only one and it can be soul destroying at times. So I just wanna thank you for bringing light to this and that there is hope out there.

[@CharizardIsTheGoat]

The girls being upset not being asked out by guys can thank feminism and other women for that. Feminists and other women complaining when us men ask them out or call us creepy/being accused of something have totally ruined it for the others as it has us against the idea of doing it due to these reasons - nothing worse than trying to be social and ask a girl out only to get called creepy

[@thevirginmarty9738]

Feminism isn't the problem. Misandry and feminism are not synonymous.

[@Czaint]

False accusations are rare stop complaining about someone that really doesn’t even happen to the average man. 😂

[@ld7599]

@@thevirginmarty9738 🤨

[@user-ov5ir9pj9c]

yes thank stupid feminism

[@brandosoftbear751]

@@thevirginmarty9738yea they kinda are… modern feminism and misandry are basically interchangeable

[@MrCameratape]

The world needs more women like Brett, especially in this day and age.

[@jericoba]

There are women like Brett but they don't have a popular KZbin channel with 2.5 million subscribers. You just have to find them out there.

[@Gaze73]

She looks like Ben Shapiro's daughter.

[@jriamyou8156]

@@Gaze73 That's right Baby. Ooh la la.

[@Spartan086]

@@Gaze73 I never knew how to put it into words but that is it

[@Desolaytore]

@@Gaze73 She looks like Ben Shapiro's son

[@beepboopbop6866]

I have a sister and I'm not going to risk the women in my life thinking I'm a predator because I was too awkward when asking someone out in public. Also the spectrum of reaction in those situations is too far and "no" isn't the worst thing a girl can say.

[@ClokworkGremlin]

As someone whose social life in college was ruined for getting rejected... Good choice.

[@d-vicious1931]

I'm a 37yr old man and I've stopped asking out women... my last few relationships I've been used lied to cheated on mentally and physically abused and treated like shit. I just have no urge to experience any of that again

[@rasmusgregersen9818]

trust me lad you will find the one! take a few months or years of rest from the dating life, and trust me you will be refreshed and ready to find the one!

[@IronClique]

​@@rasmusgregersen9818There is no the one. You settle for less or your alone

[@jasonmiller1271]

Im 39 and inthe same boat...a lot of the women i meet are the definition of crazy

[@networknomad5600]

@@rasmusgregersen9818 There is no "the one". There is only compromise.

[@PlantDaddy1991]

32-year-old man here, pretty much the same situation. I have no inclination to constantly ruin my own life, so it makes the prospect of even asking a woman out pretty, ah... unappealing.

[@camillec5470]

I’m 18 and never been kissed but I was lucky enough to be surrounded by people growing up that did not make dating and ‘getting kissed’ their priorities. Plenty of my friends haven’t been kissed and I also know a lot of girls who regret the guys they’ve kissed. I’ve dated a couple guys but it never seemed right. I know I’m young but don’t be embarrassed by not having a first kiss and don’t let anyone shame you for that fact about yourself.

[@robin-hr7tc]

Same i am 18 too

[@utrock5067]

If you think 18 is bad than what can middle-aged single men say?

[@alexzanderroberts995]

I know an engineer that is looking for a future house wife, you interested? Edit- He is 22, 6 foot 2 inches, in a masters program and living in florida

[@thatcrazymick]

Stay with what you're doing. So many young women out there today are straight up disgusting with the amount of men they bed. The fact that you don't give anything away due to societal pressure says a lot of good things about you. You're one of the few respectable ones out there. Keep your head up!

[@ZIbroweed]

Always happy when I hear about the next generation doing it right. Keep it up Gen Z. You can make a better world if you hold onto your values.

[@combatcarl]

Brett really just hit us with the ol "son, you don't need a girl friend, what you need is a grill friend"

[@Canyoureadmydeadpan]

Women's number one love is attention and their second love is money

[@flowersent9614]

​​@@Canyoureadmydeadpanens number one love is sex and number two is sexual assault

[@joshua50101]

@@flowersent9614 Nothing wrong with attention and money. Now you called us men rapists, you should be ashamed of yourself. Look like you don't have father not brothers. Your life must be so sad.

[@UltraConservativeMonarchist]

@@Canyoureadmydeadpan If that's the kind of people you surround yourself with, that says more about you than them, as people generally surround themselves with like-minded individuals. If you surround yourself with disgusting degenerates, you are probably a disgusting degenerate yourself.

[@UltraConservativeMonarchist]

@@flowersent9614 If that's the kind of people you surround yourself with, that says more about you than them, as people generally surround themselves with like-minded individuals. If you surround yourself with disgusting degenerates, you are probably a disgusting degenerate yourself.

[@Ruzeth]

Thank you for sharing the truth honestly, briefly, and precisely Brett! Every young person should watch this video.

[@thel3giteclipse843]

After dealing with countless rejections, friend zonings and disappointing relationships, ive just gotten so discouraged as a guy to even try anymore. I used to ask girls out a fair amount in highschool, but not anymore. Im 22 now and just trying to work on myself, but since covid happened i think i realized that idk how to do that stuff anymore. Im glad to hear that this isnt just a me thing, which is a relief but sad at the same time. Wish everyone the best of luck finding someone!

[@Randy-us1uf]

In the same boat man. Been ghosted and friend zoned so many times. And I just wanted to experience a relationship like some of my friends have. Right now I’m focusing on myself and getting my money up

[@jaweel6205]

You’re only 22 bro. I was a virgin until age 17, but then through a miracle I had hooked up with over 60 girls from ages 17-25. I’m decent looking and tall but being in the military then a fraternity helped a lot

[@thegoldengent]

ikr like the problem for me isn't getting label as a creep or something, for me it's just not even worth it at this point.

[@nansifyanimations]

You’ve been discouraged as a man since high school? That’s way too early to even try cause the women around high school most don’t want too much of that and it wouldn’t last. Good that you focus on yourself but once you’re ready and all, ask a woman you find appealing in character etc, I believe you will find someone only if you try. There’s never success without failing. Good luck man.

[@osborne_ruan]

This sounds exactly like my story.

[@bookishtheory]

The sad thing is is that there is so much pressure on our generation to get this experience while we’re young so we “won’t be behind”. I remember my first year of college my group of “friends” made fun of me bc I said I am waiting for marriage, and I had received so much backlash from them. I can only imagine what this girl experiences from her friends/the people she surrounds herself with.

[@CaptainCJ97]

Sad truth

[@felipeferreira00]

I mean, hate to be that guy, but if they are making fun of you for making reasonable choices, are they really your friends?

[@kairon5249]

@@felipeferreira00 read the comment again. She put friends in quote marks

[@felipeferreira00]

@@kairon5249 Still leaves a bit of room for interpretation

[@lewisr8657]

Mad respect to you for waiting until marriage. Don't let anyone knock you down for that, it's honourable and in my opinion, a great thing to do! :)

[@dailywire_memes]

Women are unable to find relationships due to either high expectations of what a man should be or due to men being scared of approaching women due to the possibility of being part of a “me too” scandal or being called a creep. Men also need to step up their game by touching grassing, get hobbies and staying in shape.

[@SD-mi2vc]

Bingo

[@Dreamworksbabe]

Of course everything is a woman’s fault

[@Wyatt-kj7ou]

Exactly

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

Yep exactly what's going on here

[@AutomaticDuck300]

If women think I’m a creep, it’s on them. A me too scandal is fairly unlikely and its occurrence has been blown out of all proportion.

[@user-tb4tu1tg9d]

As a soon to be 35 year old man, this is very refreshing, Its been a few years since my last relationship, during my single years I was going on dates but nothing went anywhere, it was hook up culture which was pretty gross TBH. then Covid happened, the serious entitlement issues were picking up steam as well and are still going on at least where I live, after getting ghosted and stood up multiple time I decided to not bother with dating and just focus on other things which played out very well for me. I still plan on moving for dating / culture reasons, but I'll keep this in mind while I'm out in public and approach like I used to back when the world was normal.

[@doc9749]

I have met my fiancée almost a year ago, and she was 27 and had never kissed anyone. I was actually shocked about this, but she saw it as her value/standard and was (is still) proud of it. Unfortunately for her, we kissed… Whoever you are, do it right and don’t lower your hopes just to fit a society standard.

[@Canyoureadmydeadpan]

Dont get married. -80% of divorces are initiated by women -over 50% of marriages end in divorce -she will take just half of EVERYTHING you own if you are lucky -you will lose custody of your children

[@jamesjonnes]

Hope you guys marry and have a great family.

[@bman6198]

Damn bro you asked her to marry you in a year, best of luck

[@billusher2265]

Some women will sleep with guys but won’t kiss them

[@doc9749]

@@jamesjonnes if God's will, we'll achieve that. Thanks a lot for the support!

[@Viperacrx600]

I'm 29. All i want at this point is to find a nice, traditional, conservative woman, fall in love, get married, and raise a family together. But A.) Finding one who wants to be found is extremely hard and b.) The stigma of a guy approaching a woman to ask her out or even just compliment her is such an enormous hurdle that i usually just don't take the step out of fear of being labeled a creep or worse.

[@RemiliaVampire]

That's an American problem. I went to Thailand and it was so easy. I wasn't even trying to hook up or anything. I went alone and went to find people to drink with and it was all natural. In America, I'm not white enough to speak to.

[@OldsXCool]

That's very true. I've held giving compliments to women out of fear of being labeled a creep for even noticing. I can handle rejection, but I'm not ready to be falsely accused.

[@agees924]

Get on a Christian dating app if you are religious. Something like the one called Upward. There’s so many good Christian women in their late 20’s dying for a husband and waiting for a man to approach. Just be careful, don’t go for the ones with provocative pics, bikini photos, or filters, if you know what to look for it’s not as hard as it seems.

[@rubikscubedude4028]

If you want to find a good future wife, you need to be looking in the right place, just like Matt Walsh has his own fishing spots. I don't know about your religion, but looking to date a woman that shares your religious beliefs can help you get there. People who go to church tend to be more conservative, and even if they aren't, would still not call you a creep (don't do to others what you don't wish upon yourself), as long as your approach is not creepy.

[@allenjackson2846]

@@agees924yeah those don’t work either

[@Devinfrbs]

I'm just an average dude. There's no way I'd ever ask out any woman. Too much potential legal liability. I've had a woman threaten me with it. That was it. I was done.

[@Skeleton_Dork]

Oh god what's happening to the world

[@christellen3077]

What did you do? Did you touch her in any way? or followed her? Asked repeatitively? Just asking to understand better?

[@Devinfrbs]

I did not touch her. I did ask only once. She informed me she didn't like me and used it as blackmail for me to stop hanging out with our mutual friends.

[@jwicy]

@@christellen3077 those kinds of assumptions are why men are opting out of relationships you know...

[@unathorizedbargain8862]

lol same it actually scary af cuz if you go to court for some shit like that its forever i stopped going to clubs after a fake grope allegation

[@Jordan-116]

As a guy with crippling anxiety, it is so hard to get out there and ask a girl out. Just wish I knew if they liked me first. Rejection is no fun.

[@aussieskid215]

I went to a Christian university for an entire year. Got involved in many activities and even a music group. I only talked to 3 girls while I was there. None of them ever expressed any real interest, and I was always having to do all the social heavy lifting like carrying on a conversation. For a guy with ADHD and really bad social anxiety, I'm surprised I got that far. I know it's not because of my looks or because of my personality. I have many friends across the states alone who love me for who I am, and I am very confident in my appearance. I've just never had a woman be seriously interested in any sort of relationship with me. I'm still pretty young, so I'm trying to keep my head up, but it's tough out here.

[@beautyandbrainz]

There’s someone out there for everyone. Even the crazies lol. Takes time, but in the meantime keep putting yourself out there. Someone will give you the same energy and time you deserve. Make sure your morals and values line up.

[@joshua50101]

@@beautyandbrainz That is not true. Sometimes there are 10 women for a guy, 2 wives for a husband, 100 women for only 2 guys, they put them in rotation, etc. and sometimes they do it at once. Could we just avoid downplaying a serious problem the dating market has these days? Hook up culture, feminism, parties, Metoomovement, pornography, female hypergamy, you name it, it is not that simple.

[@Jeremy-ql1or]

@@beautyandbrainz "There’s someone out there for everyone." Any cursory examination of society would quickly tell you that is not true.

[@agees924]

I’m a girl and I’m in nearly the exact same boat

[@aussieskid215]

@@beautyandbrainz I appreciate the encouraging words! And will do!

[@Pragmer]

I am a young dude. My perspective on dating and asking a girl out is fear. Part of that is the fact that I live in Southern California; so there's roughly a 70% chance of whoever I ask out to be a nut job who will publicly embarrass me or accuses me of being a horrible person. Part of it is the fact that the only women that I would actually want to ask out are women that I work with or have worked with. This means that the potential consequences in today's day could be that I get fired because I revealed that I hold more conservative views to a coworker. Another part of it is that I don't want to constantly be expending not only my time and effort but also money, just to get backhanded again and again. Maybe this is some terminally online shit but I don't wanna pay for none of that girl's stuff until I know shes serious and not just going on a date to get a nice free dinner. And obviously there is another part of it: me just being a pussy and not wanting to do it. I would hope that last part is less of a contributor than the others , but you can never be so certain.

[@flowersent9614]

Blablabla get of the internet man. Touch grass

[@nonmagicmike723]

Yeah, you pretty much summed it up. Too much risky investment that doesn't feel worth it unless it's for something real serious. That, and the ever-present risk of rejection and public humiliation.

[@abbyhoglund2184]

Southern California is a beast on it’s own. I live in Texas, I also have conservative views, and it is a absolute nightmare trying to find a guy who shares the same religion and political beliefs as I do. I kid you not I was in a duel credit program and out of 180 students 3 where conservative and Christian.. I was one of the three and the other two were brothers. Either I need to move to a different state or I’m never going to find someone lol. It’s so sad that all I can do is laugh at it and hope for the best.

[@nonmagicmike723]

@@abbyhoglund2184 If you're looking for a conservative Christian, then there's no better place than church. That, or some kind of Republican convention or event.

[@nateo200]

Yeah I'm pretty sure the rate of cluster B personality disorders in Cali chicks is probably 10x higher than most states.

[@adester1]

I'm now 38 and when I was younger it was immensely easier to talk to, interact, and be around women. Then somewhere things changed and the process seems like its overthinking. It's like walking on egg shells with women on so many levels. I always felt I had to do everything in a relationship and I think that's gotten worse with the girl boss mentality. I think social media has done some real damage to both genders and social interaction.

[@frogfell3126]

I’m a female and I agree but I’m younger and so confused. A few boys called my friend a slut for sleeping with a guy and having two exes but they made fun of me for never having anything romantic in my life

[@jrmy6519]

@@frogfell3126sounds to me like the people of your age group aren’t fully developed up there and just need some time to mature. give it time and the confusion will clear, just trust the process 😉

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

Yeah I'm 29 and I can tell you that up until 2016 or so dating was very easy. Tinder even was easy as pie, nobody overthought it, everybody was chill, you could meet people in person, things were relaxed. I really noticed it around 2018 or 2019 that women had become very mean and nasty, scammy, or, well...they were dudes who became ladies

[@brittsorber9754]

Nailed it. Social media has damaged peoples abilities to socialize in person.

[@cosmicrae]

​@@frogfell3126This generation does not know what it wants.

[@mormelgil5017]

Hey Brett, I'm from Germany and although there are some differences in dating between the US and here, we also have very similar problems. We also have a joke that everything that happens in the US will happen in Germany in about 5 years because everything spills over with a time delay thanks to the Internet. I've never had a relationship myself, I'm currently trying to change that, but the success leaves a lot to be desired. First, about the mentality presented by cdir that men should make the first move: The problem here is that, at least in my experience, there is simply nothing that would make it worthwhile. You don't get any respect for it, nor does it pay off; in most cases, you get more of a feeling that you're bothered. In addition, communication is often extremely one-sided and is made unnecessarily difficult by various things. I was recently talking to a friend about this and she said that compliments, for example, would be a direct turnoff. It seems to be generally accepted that you shouldn't ask for dates - the expectations that would be implied would put too much pressure, instead you should simply ask for meetings on a friendly level. Also, you should be nice, but not too nice - a bit of a bad boy should be part of it (and women wonder about toxic relationships, I really wonder how that happens when all they do is romanticize toxic traits). Before you start a relationship you should first be friends (so that it is easier to banish the man to the friend zone later) and then you would like to see what develops. Brett why should I, why should any man take the first step, do all the work of getting to know and trying to please a woman in this process that is not only extremely confusing in terms of communication, but above all quite strenuous and time-consuming, at the end of which you maybe, just MAYBE has a relationship, but is more likely to be rejected and hurt? Something loose seems much more desirable. A modern woman is simply no longer worth the effort of a relationship. And if it's really that important to women that they're not lonely, then maybe they could show it by showing commitment themselves, not having to tell them everything, allowing clear and unambiguous communication, and stopping making absurd demands on men and yes, sometimes making the first move. It seems to me that's not too much to ask.

[@nickw8160]

It's sad to hear you guys in Germany are experiencing the same frustrations

[@jeroenOffereins]

yep same stuff here in the Netherlands. it not a joke, its reality.

[@Razor-gx2dq]

Its like a virus

[@claudetherabbit]

I didn’t have my first kiss until age 30, and I was ridiculously self-conscious about it. Figured guys would make negative assumptions about me for my lack of experience. So dumb. Met my now husband and he viewed it as a positive. And I love the fact that my first kiss was with the man who became my husband. I have zero relationship baggage and it is so great. I agree wholeheartedly with Brett: don’t chase after experiences just for the sake of an experience or because you feel like a loser. Make it meaningful and you won’t regret it.

[@websterri]

Thats the dream. So many guys are looking for this.

[@lauracruz2021]

My first kiss is my husband too! He feels so so special that he has that from me. 😊

[@loganblackwood2922]

​@@websterriLooking for a 30 year old? I'll take a 30 year old virgin over a 20 year old sloor, but let's be real... men are not looking for 30 year olds in aggregate for relationships.

[@drakomus7409]

30? bit late, you cant have 10 babies if you start at 30. 3rd world is breeding us out of existence

[@kristinewberg7656]

I agree wholeheartedly about the not chasing experiences. I had my first kiss days before my 23rd birthday, but it was with my now husband as well. We're actually each other's first kiss, and it is so special for both of us.

[@tbcmiles3542]

23yr old man here and in the same boat. And the risks of asking out a girl in this era just honestly isn't worth it. I'd prefer to not be dragged through the streets and online as "a creep"

[@JohnnyWolfblood]

Bro, forget the harassment and other false accusations. Just trying to get a straight answer out of a woman is painful as all Hell. How do women even make it through a day with this terrible decision making and indecisiveness?

[@courtney4261]

I feel like some of this needs to talked about and normalized more. I didn't have my first kiss till 31. I had severe eczema growing up (which made me feel very ugly and uncomfortable in my own body) and came from a broken home and kinda just kept to myself. I worked on myself and got a well paying job and used my money to help my skin/psychological issues. When I turned 30 I decided to finally put myself out there. I dated my now boyfriend for a couple months before I let him kiss me. We just got to know each as friends. Thankfully he was very understanding and didn't make me feel bad at all about my lack of experience. I am very glad I waited all this time. I don't think I was ready to experience intimacy before and could have ended experiencing it with someone who didn't care about me. My boyfriend has always made sure I felt comfortable and doesn't want to hurt me.

[@MichaelDavis-cy4ok]

I think you bring up a good point. A lot of the Red Pill community talks about how they grew up watching their fathers/grandfathers/uncles/older brothers getting their lives destroyed in divorce court, and it makes them paranoid about marriage. But I don't think I've heard anybody bring up the effects that divorce has on young women. I think it's a very big factor that's helping to wreck the dating market and hurting our society. I'm significantly older than you, and I've been in the military for over 25 years (combat veteran in Afghanistan), so I tend to put things insanely bluntly compared to most men my age, and especially compared to the younger generations. And to put it bluntly, most of the time that I see parents screwing up their kids with the Dad ditching his family (or the Mom driving him out the door), the thought that comes to my mind with regards to the daughters is, "Good grief. They're going to be lucky if they don't give that girl a complex and have her in a string of abusive relationships or on a stripper pole." Like I said, that's kind of how some of the more blunt members of my generation viewed idiots who were messing up their daughters (with sons it was a case of hoping they didn't kill themselves or end up getting their lives wrecked in divorce court themselves). Obviously there's a lot more nuance to it. I'm very glad you got help and turned out healthy and seem to have found a great guy. It takes a lot of strength to come through a family breakup without a lot of very damaging stuff (I've seen it happen in my own family). We clearly need a lot more research into how young women are being affected by the destruction of the nuclear family.

[@BD-1-And-Only]

Honestly lack of experience is an extreme turn off for me, but I also don’t want a girl who’s been ran through.. it’s a delicate medium

[@datdudeinred]

I don't understand why you thought that men just generally want to hurt their gf? Like sorry but what? Yes ofc there are men who only live to hurt people(mostly women) but that's like 1% of the men. This doesn't mean i hate you or anything i literally loved every single word you said & very happy for you but I didn't get that part. All I'm saying is there are billions of men who will be just like your bf who wouldn't have hurt you.

[@crazysilly2914]

@@BD-1-And-Only dude. you got to TEACH her to be ‘experienced'… Thats why it’s so fun… because you get to ‘practice' over and over again until you both know what the other likes in bed...

[@davidchambers44]

While it's unfortunate that more and more people are struggling to find the right one early on, this was a very wholesome read. I'm so glad you found someone!Really happy for you!

[@user-ty2he7jt4k]

Great video Brett, as far as not asking women to hangout and women not being asked out on dates. I’m not saying all women but unfortunately I have experienced first hand with girls that I know. That have and will go on a date with a guy for the soul purpose to let him pay for the food, and make up excuses to leave early if possible and never speak to them again, and then clown the guy to their friends later that night. Not all saying all women but not being able to socialize properly amongst a lot of other things is why men are so scared to approach women. You’re spot on with the “that’s harassment” for approaching a woman, seen that first hand too.

[@MarcoEvens]

At some point there just comes a breaking point where you feel like you want to give up pursuing people. I’m 25 and have never had a girlfriend, have never had my first kissed, am still a virgin (proudly), have only had one date, it’s not easy. I’m pulling for you, we’re all in this together.

[@IronClique]

How is it "not easy"?

[@ncamachoguy]

Good luck Marco.

[@ncamachoguy]

Good luck Marco.

[@drake7836]

@@IronCliquehow is it easy?

[@maxwellschneiter]

You aren't missing anything buddy, mark my words, there will come a time when you'll wish you could go back to your current situation.

[@davebruner3541]

My wife and I started dating when she was 21 and this is exactly her story. We've been happily married for 10 years and have an awesome little boy with another on the way. Before her, every girl I was with had high body counts and were toxic as all get out. I was ready to just accept that the day of a good woman who respected herself and valued her partner were long gone. I'm glad I was wrong.

[@Canyoureadmydeadpan]

Enjoy divorce when she goes through menopause, blames you for her being unhappy and takes half your stuff. Btw... a prenub isn't good enough for family courts anymore

[@Ogletort]

@@Canyoureadmydeadpanoddly specific 🤨 📸

[@shaneminer15]

same here, I was my wife's first kiss. coming up on 8 years. one kid, second on the way. our lives sound very similar.

[@Canyoureadmydeadpan]

@ccastro603 Given divorce is over 50% in the US and 80% of it is initiated by women specifically around their 40s... it seems like an oddly specific common outcome.

[@IronClique]

​@@Canyoureadmydeadpanbro is on to something

[@allthingsnerd.4484]

The difference between “harassment” and “flirting” is how attractive she finds the guy to be. So; most guys who are not “top tier” in attractiveness are simply not communicating with women as they fear they will be roasted online and accused of awful things. I am so glad my dating years are behind me and I am married now… I hate what the current young singles are having to deal with.

[@IronClique]

Yup

[@abjectmadness1111]

This is not true, can men stop telling us this? 1, women are turned on by touch. Not sight. Men are turned on by sight so they’re projecting their own thoughts onto women. 2, I’ve been harassed by what people would deem “good looking guys” and it’s still horrible. Stop telling women this. Absolute Bs.

[@abjectmadness1111]

@@spagooter1807 A lot of people still care about the personality, I’m a woman and I genuinely would rather an unconventionally attractive guy with a great personality than anything else. It’s very sad seeing men and women alike become vain

[@bogdannn1343]

@@abjectmadness1111 how can you know the man personality if you are not in relationship with him? stop lying please you go first by attractiveness.

[@abjectmadness1111]

@@bogdannn1343 I’ve only ever fallen for people after I’ve first gotten to know them, stop assuming. How does nobody understand what being friends is anymore???? 💀😭 I date to marry so I’ve only dated once before, and the last person I dated wasn’t that good looking… BUT his personality was to die for. That’s what got me. Soon, everything about him was beautiful to me . Do I think some people look objectively better than others in my own personal opinion? Yes. I love striking features and unconventionally attractive people more than conventionally attractive… BUT, it does not mean I love them. I could only ever love someone for their personality.

[@Krypt.CoPublicRelations]

The socializing thing is especially fascinating to me, I'm in high school and a lot of conversations always seem to boil down to a contest of who's the most traumatized and who's more "mature" by being downtrodden by the world as a whole. I'm glad I have friends where we can talk about fun things as well as sad things but they're always real things

[@Ironsamurai-lr6nd]

I'm 23 and I've asked out countless girls and every single one turned me down, so for the time being I give up. The thrill and excitement of asking a girl out is completely gone when I already know the answer

[@jessemiller3108]

I've been with a decent amount of girls, but I've been turned down by at least 5 times as many. It's a hard thing to not take personally. I tried to just ask girls out one day. Like, that was my goal, kind of like a homework assignment. I kept it pretty short "Hi, I'm Jesse would you like to go out on a date with me". 99% of the girls response was a pretty blatant no. And the other 1% was still a no, she was just nice about it lol most girls don't like being asked out, at least not directly, I concluded. They like getting to know you and all of that first which makes you EVEN more vulnerable when you get turned down. OR they want the most charismatic guy on the planet which most of us aren't... So yea, lol it's tough out there

[@logankearl8115]

​@@jessemiller3108speaking facts. That's exactly the same with my situation. I think door to door sales is easier than adding a girl out. I've had a chance with one girl but I was young and dumb then. I still am dumb though when it comes to hints.

[@jonathand6952]

Girls get asked out all the fucking time. Guys often want to fuck them. That gets old. If you get turned down and really like them then try again another time. Make a joke of it. If they say no a second time a month later then ok. Work on how you ask girls out. You do not know the fucking answer until you get it. Good luck. Don't take it personally because they get asked out a lot.

[@kaades_]

​@@jessemiller3108I found that getting to know each other a bit is really the thing needed for a yes. Literally just a few good conversations help you out massively. Also You can see if theres a spark or not

[@scottymackay1801]

By the way, it's always worth analysing your approach and also appearance. Everything makes a difference. There's only so much one can do with appearance but you need to maximise and also make an effort with how you dress. Looking fit and a bit muscly helps too. I used to be super skinny and had limited success with women. But when I bulked up a bit it made a difference.

[@Alex.AL_26]

It is just a shame what this world has come to that us guys literally have to fear getting into legal trouble if we ask a girl out and she takes it the wrong way.

[@Mark---W]

Yeah definitely seems like women need to ask us out....to kinda makes it simple clear.

[@TheNinjapancake14]

I think the fear has always been there. Make the leap. Even the girls are starting to ask out the guys.

[@WilliamHollinger2019]

My sister is 17 tried to ask her crush over fb he should just said no. But he thought she was a creep he is soon 19 and my sister soon 18 sad where men just not look a chance to date a women. I am 22 still have my V card and trying to get porn away from me. I think roles should flipped females needs to ask guys out more because of current events. I am a stright male.

[@suhtangwong]

I lost a bet and slapped this one girl's 🍑 thinking she'll slap me. Guess what? She liked it and wanted to get my number... I just walked away, I felt harrased and uncomfortable 😢

[@baum9048]

​@@TheNinjapancake14maybe but today it can completly fuck you over and back

[@fakename7255]

I quit asking women out after college. Every girl I had ever asked out since HS rejected me. I'm average, not handsome, not ugly but I am 6'3 so at least I have that. I had a friend that forced me on a blind date with her friend, I didn't want to go knowing I'd get rejected yet again but I relented. We've been married 10 years now.

[@m.v.r752]

I guess from what im heaing. Its just a game of taking chances

[@ewanwaddell2082]

@@m.v.r752that’s what love is sometimes you just meet someone you click with sometimes it doesn’t work out

[@GearForTheYear]

@@m.v.r752and 80% of the time you lose. Yes, that includes after you get hitched. The game is not worth the risk.

[@deviantntskink7244]

The best advice I’ve been given was. “socialize by exposing yourself purely without intention of receiving anything” “ once you learn to be intentional and react to the environment you’re anxiety will be reduced significantly”. I was also suggested to take this experiment weekly. First week. Focus on enjoying my environment ( whenever you feel uncomfortable. Focus on your environment not others). Second week engage more with staff members. Third week intend on continuing conversations, but only when approached( distract yourself with your environment, when you feel pressured to be approached)

[@HighpointerGeocacher]

In the past, when I've asked girls out in the social and recreational groups that I was a part of, I got rejected, but was accused of making women uncomfortable, "hitting on them," or being accused of being "creepy." This resulted in me being told that I was no longer welcome to participate in these groups. Since I was no longer welcome in these social and recreational groups, I had to do activities by myself or with groups that had few single, eligible women.

[@zermanman9891]

That’s wild

[@TheMrCODVideos]

Wild, but not rare

[@hhhhj5831]

Then don’t be creepy

[@EOTG_AK]

What you got was feedback! You have to take the information and change your behavior. EFI cars have an o2 sensor in the exhaust pipe and an airflow sensor on the intake. It is constantly getting feedback on the air volume coming in and the amount of o2 going out and adjusting the amount of fuel it is injecting. If it stops taking that feedback and adjusting then it will run like shit. Your daring life is running like shit because you aren’t adapting. If you touch a hot burner on a stove you will get burned. That doesn’t mean you should stop cooking. It just means you need to learn to cook without touching the damn burner! Don’t sit there starving and blaming the stove.

[@Npc1488-wc1kf]

He wasnt being creepy, the women are being wicked We know them by their fruits

[@massdragon1452]

Dating is a nightmare. It sucked before Covid and amplified after. If you’re tired of waiting for a dude to ask you out, ask them out.

[@aikowhite7783]

as a girl u dont understand how worthless we feel after getting rejected. it can take YEARS to get over one rejection. yall men arent as sensitive, ask us out instead!

[@antbanks415]

Lol nah

[@glided7560]

i gotchu fam

[@Peter-ui6ey]

@@aikowhite7783 bruh Listen to yourself. "Y'all men aren't as sensitive" ??? what the actual crap

[@hyperjow]

@@aikowhite7783 You've got to be fucking kidding me

[@PartiBunni]

I got my first kiss at 23, and I definitely felt that way. Then I met my now husband, and he was in a similar situation. I’m really glad we were able to muddle through the awkwardness together, and it gave us some really funny memories.

[@Colton-wz5sh]

That was your choice though

[@pappousmakis9062]

This comment gives me hope

[@luiz8755]

​@@pappousmakis9062do not allow it. Ignore this problem in your life. Hope is the first step on the road to disappointment.

[@pappousmakis9062]

@@luiz8755 bro i hope you find god to give you hope 🙏

[@RobertDownySenior]

Nice

[@tinadee8488]

😭😭😭 your ad transitions are epic and hilarious, they get me every-time. Slick!

[@samanthahaque1412]

In Asian countries the concept of arranged marriage exists where the parents choose a guy or girl for their daughter/son and if both girl and boy agrees then they get married. Seeing your video today makes me think that this the existence of this concept actually helps a lot of people to find partners and have a married life and kids which probably would've been harder if they had to do everything on their own.

[@qwmx]

Then their spouses cheat on them. Happened in my family and I really can't feel bad for my Aunt on some level. Not because I think it's her fault, I think it's good her husband showed his shitty side and decided to put his dick in another employee (who for all I know, may have been manipulatoed or she's a poor gold digger trying to get into a better country) ALSO, because back then the husband is of a family who has MORE money, is settled in a first world country, so it makes me suspect there is financial benefit and living benefit there. Her parents actually found her a marriage partner because they loved their daughter and not because they're assholes at least.

[@meenakshimeyyappan22]

OR the husband is abusive in one or more ways. It's too real 🥲

[@xSkyWeix]

Like this doesn't happen in not arranged marriages 😅 They have their perks and downsides. Good for demographics. Bad for economics and progress (young guys don't have the motivation to strife and compete so much).

[@rainingdewdrops]

I remember when I was single for the longest time, and I would see my friends around me who are from asian backgrounds and were able to meet serious/well-intended guys through family and without lifting a finger. I really envied that haha, it seemed quite handy and I felt like I also needed all the help I could get.

[@jkn.01]

​@@meenakshimeyyappan22 You act like this doesnt happen in love marriages or whatever.

[@benjaminweaver8760]

I am nearly 20, and I've never been in a relationship. Hope all this hookup culture blows over so i can find a wife😂😂

[@itsathejoey]

I've never been able to get in the hookup culture.

[@noviiora]

I am a traditional female, and I want this hookup culture to end!

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

Yep I hope hookup culture goes away asap

[@zacharyjones9755]

I'm 20 too man, I hope the same.

[@kaneasax4923]

Also 20. Had a "relationship" for like week. Thats it

[@viriddiannaa]

I didn't have my first kiss until my first boyfriend (now my fiancé) at 20. It was a nice experience to wait for the one and was worth it. I never dated before since I was technically unattractive in high school. Now at 24 about to get married next year to my first love! Love your videos Brett!

[@Sampsel2]

I'm an 18 yr old dude and I ain't never been in a relationship or had a kiss either, just waiting for the right person to come along when I believe I'm worthy of that commitment. Fellas, just be patient, and always talk to/date a girl IRL

[@TheNovelArtist]

To the girl in the video, I'm a 28 year old girl, never been kissed, never been on a date. No romance, no nothing. It's not embarrassing. It will happen when/if the right man comes along. I'll be happy to have waited for him OR I'll be happy as a single woman, not having slept around or had meaningless relationships to hit "social milestones", only to feel empty. However, I'm surprised this isn't just me or a couple girls online but rather more common than I realized.

[@thegamewin100]

I’m 23 but I’m a guy I don’t control sex just marriage and I’ll gladly wait until I find the “one” just working as much as possible right now not worth it to get together and not be able to provide

[@protorhinocerator142]

Keep in mind that at 30 a woman's value decreases dramatically. Don't wait around too long being picky.

[@GM_Harry]

Don't worry, the perfect guy is out there, I'm sure of it. Life always has a funny way of working itself out in the end

[@davidbozic3472]

​@@protorhinocerator142harsh truth

[@Heisenberg51]

Are you a femcel

[@tarheelwes]

I’m a 26 year old male. I’ve been on and off dating apps for about six years now. Found a girl the other day and did a FaceTime date with her that went really well. We set up an in person date, and the day before the date, she texted me saying she actually had feelings for another guy. I’ve lost count of how many times this has happened to me.

[@raketensven3127]

FaceTime date...wtf is even that?

[@BibleNutter]

That sucks!

[@roryf.1349]

The irony is that the internet is the problem. Women have too many choices, and aren't given the needed social pressure to pick a man in their prime (early 20's). 95% of us men lose out as a result, and they jump from man to man like we're all different flavors of candy, rejecting us for equally trivial and superficial reasons. That and divorce is financially incentivized. But hey, let's support governnent-endorsed feminism (which is a hate and supremacist group) because Uncle Sam wants that extra tax money, and listen to Brett who doesn't know what she's talking about!

[@roryf.1349]

​​@@raketensven3127he way Zoomer men, likely unknowingly, indulge the female desire for attention, validation, and promiscuity by "dating" virtually, by also having her keep him at a safe distance. This was originally for most of their sheepish fear of the C-sickness, but then women kept it cuz it felt "right."

[@FBicoolshaman]

you are what they call a bench bro I wouldn't worry about bro just hit the gym make money get better skills become comfortable with yourself and trust me you are not put up with this kind of nonsense

[@kylewilliams2943]

Brett “a good man approaching you isn’t an attack” Reality “that’s right! A good LOOKING man approaching isn’t an attack… but when women find 80% of men unattractive… it’s likely it’ll be taken as an attack”

[@goranmilic442]

Good looking or bad looking man - what does that have to do with being an attack or not?

[@CNCGuy]

@@goranmilic442 aka Verbal Assault and grounds for internet humiliation... If you look like Brad Pitt though, no problem.

[@deltaflux2381]

@@goranmilic442 Because women only want to be approached and receive attention by attractive men. As soon as the man is unattractive, their advances are perceived as creepy

[@mikelowe9198]

You just have to approach in a different way brother. Be funny. I swear the okay or bad looking men have the best game and the gym exists. I’m good looking but have terrible game so I get looks but not dates lol.

[@MrCakerape]

If the woman considers you attractive then you walking up and speaking to her is fine, if she doesn’t then you’re a creep and harassing her is the jist of it

[@keithcampbell8985]

Glad I was in my teens/20s right before it got harder out there. I'm 32 now and definitely less appealing than I used to be (losing hair, gained weight, sleep issues, etc) I don't even want to put myself on anyone right now!....But thankfully, I did have those experiences in a time when it was fun, college, clubs, etc. I feel for the guys 10-12 years younger than me though, who have grown up in a very confused time and are not sure whether to ask someone out or not because of fear of being accused of wrongdoing. Also, the notion that 10 to 20 percent of the men are dating 80 percent of the women seems to be true. Seems like a few of my friends are dating/hooking up with a lot of women and others are getting nowhere.

[@Yvs8962]

I swear still being big on feminism in 2023 is like being a heroin addict. It has so clearly gotten to a completely unhealthy point and is the thing that has caused this entire generation of women to be miserable, lonely, and mentally unwell, and yet they just CANT give it up.

[@adude661]

But on the other hand, it is "men fault" :)

[@daftpunk89]

I'm a 33 year old man who has never dated, kissed, or even held hands. I grew up extremely sheltered and in a religious household and as a result I am very introverted, to the point where I'm basically a hermit. I don't have friends, in fact I have never had any friends, or a social life. The thought of approaching a woman and going through the process of getting into and maintaining a relationship is such an alien concept to me that I don't even try because I wouldn't want to put a a woman through the mess that is me when there are so many other people who are more deserving of love. I'm not sad about it and I don't blame anyone for it. I've come to accept that I am just someone who is not meant to be loved by someone and is meant to be alone.

[@agees924]

Believe me, there are women out there in a similar situation.

[@zeroman155]

I'm the same as you in every way you described, but I'm 36 years old. 🫣

[@xmobius0ne]

Same here. I'm not afraid of it, I just don't have the desire to pursue or even see the point of relationships

[@roberth.1201]

​@@agees924although there numbers are very few

[@Ninetails113]

I’ve never had a meaningful relationship with a woman before either, I’m 27. I always figured that I would be the one telling her that I had no experience in this. It’s refreshing to know that we both could be clueless; it’s kind of a cute thought too.

[@RobertTaylor-gz2fu]

She'll want someone highly experienced & highly skilled, regardless of how much experience she has or hasn't had.

[@cloudmmvi]

@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu no because 'she' is not every girl. Also if a girl hasn't had experience before how does she know what's good nitwit

[@Greg_Nieves]

This is 4mon old, but oh well. Everyone is a beginner at some point. Do not sweat who has more experience. If you care, you're only discouraging yourself. If they care, well maybe that's something to think about what they value vs just you as you are

[@RobertTaylor-gz2fu]

@@Greg_Nieves Inexperienced men are usually rejected & ridiculed for being unskilled, unwanted, unpopular etc.

[@Jamhael1]

Man, you are losing your youth, and for what?

[@guillermoportillo7949]

Right now, I’m 15 and I have some urges when it comes to dating and getting in a relationship, but I choose to focus on self improvement by going to the gym, playing basketball, and working on becoming a better person. The thing I like to tell myself is that dating and relationships shouldn’t be out of desperation, and that it is very difficult to support and be committed to another person when you don’t have yourself figured out yet.

[@fewwiggle]

You will never figure yourself out, not totally. Start practicing relationships now -- that's the fastest path to self growth.

[@unicyclepeon]

Smart

[@thundercreekcustoms]

Take it from someone who was in your exact situation at 15, four years ago. Work on yourself. You’re absolutely right that relationships should never be about desperation or peer pressure. Nearly wrecked my senior year because of it.

[@tbp_Nxon3727]

Focus on yourself first

[@ct7567CaptRex]

Stay on that grind young brother. You've got all the time in the world. Persue your calling and attain excellence and girls will follow automatically. Don't be shamed into any concession or compromise. Its your way or the highway. Good luck with your goals.

[@keithrickson8522]

Both my wife and I were virgins when we were married in our mid 20s. It was the absolute BEST thing we could have ever done for our relationship.

[@Darncoolcreeper]

That is awesome.

[@drakomus7409]

these girls do not watn you tho keith, they want the top 1% that has every girl chasing him. normal guys dont do it for these never been kissed girls.

[@keithrickson8522]

@@drakomus7409 My wife's pretty far out of my league, but she was interested in me. Don't know why, but I was exactly what she was looking for. Granted, this was 16 years ago, before online dating was a thing.

[@robsp32]

I stopped dating almost a decade ago and just focused on myself and I am very happy being a single man. Last straw for me was being accused of something for just speaking my mind on a social issue and I was like you know what, I don't need this. Don't need the drama of the opposite sexes social issues, don't need the drama of ex boyfriends, baby daddies, single mothers, etc etc. I'd love to have an intelligent partner to talk to on a daily basis and share life with, but honestly I am just as happy being single.

[@flowersent9614]

Ay cheers!! Same exact thing, but I am a woman. Not a feminist, never been one and I despise them. Personally I will never marry because of the risks that men carry. Talking about redpill or feminist men who think crying about spilled coffee is breaking the gender roles. Or the worst kind, manchildren. I guess this whole thing is not a men or women problem, but a society. Almost everyone sucks nowadays, maybe they always did but just hid it so well. Anyway, I believe a single life is the way to go. I hate that people think single means depressed and alone. NO! It means some freedom, family and friends and yourself. Cheers on the single life, mate!

[@CykMyBlyat59]

As a 19 year old guy who has never been in a relationship, I feel like it would be creepy for me to ask a girl out or even flirt with her. I find it a lot easier to flirt with women in their late twenties to mid thirties. I don't want to blame the women of our generation but I think it has a lot to do with how they act, in the sense that they make you feel worthless if they don't like you and you even try talking to them. I gave up in high school and figured if a girl liked me enough to ask me out then that was the type of person I want to be with. I feel like less of a man admitting that but it's the truth.

[@DavidRungart]

Money right here lol. I think its all in the intentions. Women know if you just want to get into their pants or if you actually like them

[@chuckthegirl]

Xennial here who just turned 40 and all I've experienced in the dating, romantic relationship scene are 2 blind dates. No kissing, no hand holding, no being asked out, no dating. I've always been given the, "You're such a great friend, easy to talk to" or "You're like a sister to me," lines. College was the only time I was really around eligible single guys. Throughout my professional career life guys who are in my circles are married, in serious relationships leading to marriage, much, much older/younger than me, or just not compatible AT ALL. I've seen friends who've gone against their principles to be with guys who were trash just to try to fulfill their longing, but only ended up more depressed and hurt in the end. I've never felt the need to disrespect myself just to "experience" those things. It sucks because I've always wanted to be married with a family, to be a wife and mother, but I've just never met any man who wants to share that life with me. Any guy who has seemed "interested" in me has only had a moment on his mind not commitment. I've just resigned myself to this is my life: single, who's a fun aunt, sister and daughter, who travels the world spreading the love of Jesus to those who don't know Him. And I think that's pretty special.

[@powmod]

Millennial about to turn 30 and have never kissed a girl romantically. I was the nerdy guy in the class and am also introverted so my self confidence was very low to begin with being made fun of and not getting social cues. I have to thank my younger sister for not becoming jaded by women as a lot of the social bullying that I received came from girls. Was able to make friends with girls by the end of high school but they all saw me as just friends (at least they let me off easy). By college, every girl that I was interested in already had a boyfriend and I made excuses to not pursue relationships outside college since I was busy studying. After landing a 6 figures job and becoming stable, I looked back to the world of dating and notice that I haven't developed any "game" to create romantic attraction. I feel it's just the difficulty of being introverted. I never liked loud parties and my parents taught me to live a frugal lifestyle so I don't tend to spend much or show off. I get dates with girls but feel insecure about getting physical. It's also really weird on social gatherings and at work how colleagues and family just say how many women I must get due to my appearance and polite attitude 🫤

[@The_Flamekeepers]

I know it must be difficult, especially when the biological clock is ticking on family formation. I pray you meet someone soon in your area that loves Jesus as much as you do and can be the husband, spiritual leader, and quality father to your potential children that you appear to seek in your life. Guys if you're a Christian and you're just fooling around, not being serious, toying with a woman's hopes and emotions... you're wasting golden opportunities that you may not get back and being cruel to her in the process. Sober up. Grow up. Get off your Xbox and learn what it means to be a man and take responsiblity for more than just yourself.

[@DarkXessZ]

@@powmod Dude i am the same as you. I am currently 31 about to turn 32 this year. I never like to party as much either and live a frugal life style because i think showing off leads to more problems in the end. I have did try to approach some girls back when i am still in America, but never had them romantically interested in me or some them give me worse than flat out rejections to the point I dont want to approach American Women. Now I became a passport bro to find love outside the country.

[@J.Young808]

I feel you I’m creeping up to 1/2C and it’s hard to find someone to go on a date with. I don’t do bars or clubs and like another commenter it is just too hard to approach women nowadays for fear of online shaming/ridicule. I was out of the dating scene for 21 years and I am unlucky in love. God has His plan for you.

[@Crainiac0_0]

As a teenager, it sucks to try and find a girl with my values and beliefs, I'm hoping that something in culture will change.

[@YmirLucius]

Brother, i dont know why, but i feel like you have good values 😂

[@D.A.N.....]

​@@YmirLucius😂

[@DavidBergman1776]

As a fellow teenager (who is a Christian who holds scorned Puritan values), my advice would be: Wait. Be patient. Teenage relationships pretty much only happen because you feel pressured (because your friends are also in relationships) to have a girlfriend. Just wait, and you will find someone. I've seen it happen with my older siblings. They waited, they found. Most people would find the values our family holds EXTEREMELY strict, to the point of cultism. I personally hold the same beliefs as my parents do, so I know that girls are very findable. It just takes time.

[@mr.metamovies2419]

@@DavidBergman1776 That's a lie.

[@electroshot8872]

@@DavidBergman1776that’s it. I’m a muslim and I find this peer pressure thing very unfortunate. If you want a meaningful relationship, you should be patient and seek one with good values and long term intentions.

[@Proud_Troll]

I have never been in it, and I will continue to stay out of the dating game. My brother (16) tried, and he says it's an absolute mess. Some female blocked him because he didn't respond to her texts for a few hours (they had been friends for months). It just isn't worth it.

[@pineapple1784]

Isn't it bad to generalize though?

[@williewilson2250]

​@@pineapple1784yep, people will do it anyways

[@LeafyReuploads]

My friend wants to be a marine biologist and one time in science class he was disecting an animal to help towards his goals, He didnt tell me in much detail, Anyways he tells this one chick he is friends with, she gives him attitude and says how cruel he is to cut open a dead animal and he should just die for being a piece of shit, they were friends for a few years apparently, she just exploded on him for no reason.

[@silvy7394]

No they're literally all like this. @@pineapple1784

[@holographicfrog1503]

Only if you're a liberal and think the individual is above everything. @@pineapple1784