How To Meet New Women Without Feeling Awkward - Brett Cooper

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you savages. Watch the full episode with Brett here - kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGScpJhmhLasf9U Get a 20% discount on Nomatic's amazing luggage at nomatic.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20)

[@BY-vatic-s]

You should have scooped her up when she was single Chris… the chemistry between you two is clear thru the screen in EVERY in-person interaction Ive ever seen you two in

[@rivevive6093]

He’s married

[@virtual240]

They don't exist.

[@gregbillhill]

Ask 100 women this question you'll get 200 different answers.

[@minifolko]

It's pretty straightforward

[@oliwardcomics]

200 wrong* answers

[@timelyferry]

@@oliwardcomics god i love watching men get confused over the existential question "what do women want?" i will tell you the truth. "we dont know."

[@road_king_dude]

😂😂

[@frederico-d3l]

she gived a 7 minutes answer....... but literally said nothing. "work on yourself"....... hahaha only works if you are handsome already.

[@kelle_li]

Chris knows what he's doing by putting Ana in the thumbnail, great work.

[@tanimal3964]

Literal goddess.

[@paulfitzgerald-jones2903]

She is perfection

[@Prodigy_Il]

Ana who?

[@asterixdogmatix1073]

@@Prodigy_Il Ana de Armas. Actor, including a being a Bond Girl.

[@jakemorrison2104]

Fake news. Spam. Click-bait. Whatever you want to call it, it's fucking trash, and it's a big part of why people hate the internet's attention-based economy.

[@freeottis]

Notice the feminine approach here -- he asked the question how to find (or get) a good woman, and Brett went on to list the traits you need to acquire. This implies passivity that the right woman will land in your lap once you acquire certain traits. The masculine reality is that you need to go through the painful process of approaching, rejection, getting ghosted, setting up dates, carrying conversations with little to no engagement on her part.

[@lars2894]

Well, would you go out with a woman who doesn't actively work on herself?

[@freeottis]

@@lars2894 i think you replied to the wrong comment

[@freudianslip2192]

@@lars2894Your reading comprehension skills are terrible.

[@Martin5rof]

@@lars2894 Have you seen what an avarage woman's inbox looks like on social media or on dating apps? They are flooded with potential partners.

[@lars2894]

@@Ziggyvu Because we men tyically don't notice women who make the effort. We only notice the ones who don't have to. Which is the problem when it comes to men as well.

[@steveclock6051]

Control what you can control guys. This means career and wellness and being consistently proactive about your overall wellbeing, physical and all. The right one may come along, they may not. But at least live a life in which you can truly be happy with yourself.

[@andrebaxter4023]

Good tips, but one key component is the man has to make the first move. Meaning, he has to approach the woman and talk to her. We’re hard wired this way. Woman that approach first are the exception to the rule. They generally wait for us to take the lead.

[@Vantitas]

🎯

[@sandobando9390]

@@andrebaxter4023 they can wait forever for all i care i aint tryna catch a case for just approaching someone HELL NO

[@deliboi93]

@@andrebaxter4023The issue is Women aren’t very good at signaling “Hey I like you” which can easily be signaled with making constant eye contact or maybe giving off body signals. It cannot be all on the man to guess which woman finds him attractive, women can definitely help by giving off a signal.

[@masteraus66]

​@@deliboi93Did you watch the video? Clubs and repeat locations help you build rapport to avoid this problem.

[@robzombie5928]

The reality is even with all the changes, women dont generally approach a guy even if they are interested. They put themselves in a place where they could be approached by a guy they might be interested in, and if you dont do something, then nothings going to happen.

[@ryanblock2115]

Yes exactly holy shit.

[@anabegins7349]

I did ask two guys out and was kindly rejected. At least I know how hard it is. However when some guys got close to me and I already knew I didn't feel anything for them, since they were in my group of friends, I asked the other friends to open their eyes because I was feeling very unconfortable and thought that they would talk about those things. Every single time I was forced to sit with one of them or with the other one. And these other friends -all men- told me that women should help each other. In the end I had to stop going out with this group. I know these guys are now happily married with children and I am happy for them, but I feel the same about them. We had no connection, I felt no attraction at all. One of them was very fat. And it is not that I am a super model or that I wanted to date a supermodel but he did not take care of himself when he was young. I couldn't imagine how he would be when becoming a bit older. It is really hard to know when somebody you like likes you back or is just being polite; however, it is quite easy to know when somebody is after you and you do not particularly like that person. Love makes us blind.

[@Mary-Anne0]

​@@anabegins7349I've never asked someone out, ive been thinking about doing it though, im currently 16 but my biggest dream has always been to have children of my own, i hope to have a kiddo by 21, i feel like im running out of time, hopefully all goes well

[@PettyCrow-n9c]

So read minds? Good to know...

[@deanfirnatine7814]

Go on dating sites that are intended for relationships not pick up sites, the girls will chase you.

[@Optimistic_Cookie]

That’s all great advice. But how do we find Ana de Armas?

[@nehemiaszkajrys6190]

Be Ana de Armas equivalent in the male world:)

[@Microbex]

Its an off the shelf item, sorry.

[@danielhuellbusch]

Learn Spanish go to Columbia

[@Bully____Maguire]

You become a Blade Runner

[@misterchuck6866]

Just be yourself (comma) Bro

[@CSPaffy]

Step 1) go outside

[@freeottis]

and?

[@prestow]

That's one of the most important tips my father gave to me, and it really works, be it to fix your mind, to find women or for a job.

[@kelle_li]

Noooooo

[@vision4life483]

Nooooooooo 😂

[@M.IbrahimSammad]

Mission failed (as an introvert)

[@ArneAsada69]

Ask a pretty 22yo lady where to find a good woman.😂 They will say, “I dunno. Guys usually find me wherever I go.”.

[@albertoj.mollinedo4116]

LOL thou art wise!

[@exetrius2918]

0:11 “Work on yourself, for sure. Be constantly improving.” I think this almost gets it right. However, “be improving” emphasizes on the *result*, while a successful outcome is not always in your control despite your efforts. Instead, be dedicated and devoted to yourself: to tackling your fears, insecurities, your weaknesses. For me, that meant practicing eye contact, giving compliments (not only to girls, but in general), showing up to busy social situations, and *eventually* asking a girl out. It has been a long road, but if you're unwilling to walk you'll not get anywhere.

[@PettyCrow-n9c]

That's terrible advice, and the reason why dating is a waste of time. Women like Bret Cooper want a man who has already struggled, already achieved his goals, already reached the top. It's simply not worth taking these women seriously anymore.

[@rds6129]

Some of these women have their expectations set by social media it makes dating impossible.

[@memoranda1]

so are Brett Cooper's expectations as well......otherwise she would have married an ice cream vendor.....she ain't gonna marry beneath her means and expectations...... sure she might be understanding what the common average person has to go through in the dating world today but she will still aim high cause that's the world she was raised in

[@mikebassett9195]

The women you want have these expectations. Plenty of women don't.

[@Jasper_Seven]

Back in the day it was the singles group at church for me. Everyone is nearly on the same page where it is really important. There were always people to talk to and things to do. We also got together with other church singles groups to do all kinds of activities. It was the most free I ever felt to just talk to girls. I finally met my bride there. I was bristling with confidence and built a relationship from a good starting foundation.

[@nKarje]

Women ignore me when I'm not even interested in them. When I'm in coffee shops/sauna/hiking/gym etc - women basically NEVER initiate any conversation first. I basically only speak to guys, they actually make effort to start conversations. I went on a hiking trip recently with 15 strangers and all the women ignored me until I spoke to them first. Women passivity is the same in dating, they expect me to do everything - approach, plan dates, keep in touch etc. They don't even give any signals of interest. Juice ain't worth the squeeze for entitled women. Guess I'll stay single.

[@carlwagner4565]

I feel that brother and im an attractive physically fit young guy😢

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

Exactly. Why even bother when they treat us as invisible. There should be atleast some signs of interest from them for guys to feel motivated to initiate talk. If not, there's a good chance that the relationship won't last long.

[@nKarje]

@@carlwagner4565 seriously though, why do you think this is? Many people have said I'm good looking before and I'm 6'5. I almost know for a fact it's not my physical appearance. Is this just how it works? Women essentially ignore men? They can't even speak to us in a friendly manner?

[@delete1805]

Well, I'm sure there are many factors at play here. The first thing that I will say is the size difference. On average, men are larger than women, and they may find this intimidating and if they are intimidated, they are less likely to initiate a conversation. I saw that you mentioned your height and if that is true, then they may be intimidated by your size, regardless of your perceived looks. Secondly, I will mention the gendered differences. I know there is equality today and so on, but there is less of a 'burden of performance' in regard to women. They aren't expected to be assertive and start the conversation, which is seen as a masculine trait. So, they may have never learned to put themselves out there to initiate anything, especially with dating. They will wait for everyone to come to them first, because why not? They don't need to be the one who risks rejection and can be the submissive, docile one. My third and final point is about the social media world and how women and men trust each other less and less. The social media creators are talking about how the opposite sex can't be trusted and blah and blah. I'm sure there are more points, but those are the three that I thought of. TL;DR 1. Size Differences -> Intimidated -> Less Likely To Start A Conversation 2. Gendered Differences -> Women Aren't Expected To Be Initiators 3. Social Media -> General Distrust Of Opposite Sex

[@Deimonos85]

@@delete1805 nah.. that aint it.. it is pretty simple.. dude is average or maybe above average.. point is, even an average chick will get tons of dms in her instagtam so she doenst feel the need to "chase" after guys.. no incentive to start convos when extremely attractive dudes are already doing it.. that is it

[@KorisnickoIme84]

So basically what she said you need to become the best version of yourself possible: become successful,fit,mentally-emotionally strong and in return you get a woman who doesn't do sh*t but she expected for you reach your pinnacle..

[@josephtreadlightly5686]

@@KorisnickoIme84 Basically confident without being cocky. Tons of Rizz & authenticity. I'm pretty old but your age doesn't even register with them when they recognize & gaze cuz they caught u cruising through their area.

[@nanofyurbiznes]

well, what type of woman you end up being with is entirely up to you, isn’t it? have the self respect and don’t date women that don’t do sh*t. go for women that actually want to improve themselves, put in effort and strive to be their best too. you have women that don’t work on themselves at all expecting a prince, and you also have men that lay on their couch all day, don’t work on themselves and expect a princess because they’re “nice”. look at ask yourself honestly, and ask yourself “what do I deserve” and don’t settle for anything less.

[@josephtreadlightly5686]

@@nanofyurbiznes I have the wisdom now & sometime when I was younger I had the ability to see potential. Never gave the look @ the ones that were showered with attention. But the gals that were mentally there with a kind & soft spoken way about them caught my eye & still do to this day.

[@jacksonwilliams1262]

fax bro, women just dont seem to provide anything or bring anything to the table. it’s like dating a bunch of rocks

[@nanofyurbiznes]

@@jacksonwilliams1262 low quality women don’t. there are good women out there, my friend. but remember that they also expect the same from you. keep working on yourself and don’t settle for someone who isn’t worth it.

[@halolasomaster3900]

Brett pretty much confirming that women dont love men unconditionally they love what they provide.

[@TheBaldEagle24]

Which I love watching Brett Cooper, but I do have to agree with you as well. Guess I'll just die single. Dating has been ruined by feminism anyway.

[@studiogenix2933]

10 pushups changed my life, I started with 10 pushups and now I do 5K a month. I've also been able to face and overcome challenges that have had the biggest and best affect on my life. 10 pushups is everything, man.

[@cocopopsbrahhh]

instructions unclear, i am not dating ana de armas?

[@theflyingsmiley01]

What she is failing to mention with "pick up the conversation" is as a man it is up to you to pick up the Indicators Of Interest. You cannot be her "friend", continue to talk, and not make a move. If you do not pick up the IOIs then move along and start chatting with the next girl.

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*The trick to overcoming awkwardness is to approach with a mindset of curiosity rather than impressing. Ask open-ended questions about her interests - it keeps the conversation engaging while taking the pressure off you to perform.*

[@mejdlocraftci]

I'll try to live by that. Not in seeking of relationships necessarly, but just in conversations in general. Thanks bro

[@ddomingo]

Summary of Brett's Answer: I don't know

[@bill4632]

No woman knows....lmao

[@Doberman_6773]

"How To Find A Good Woman" - here in the US, it's a simple 2-step process: 1. Contact the State Department, and inquire about something called a 'passport'; 2. Wait for little blue book to arrive in the mail.

[@MrJimtheRooster]

It's sad, but true. The more I experience the dating world, the less I want to experience dating in the west. It's truly disgusting. Brett may be an exception, but I honestly don't think she's as wholesome as she puts off. She still believes feminism was a good thing even after seeing the end result. From what I've seen, she's shown to not really respect her husband. But what do I know?

[@fuzzy_wuzzy45]

word of advice brother, WHATEVER kind of WOMEN you have in YOUR country is the SAME kind of WOMEN in OTHER countries. you MAY NOT be the TOP percentile MEN to WESTERN women but you WILL certainly be the TOP percentile MEN to OTHER women.

[@timelyferry]

@@fuzzy_wuzzy45 yup women are same everywhere. this victim mentality needs to go.

[@chillpengeru]

​@@timelyferryevery society has the same dating culture? That's news to me. Especially since in the US women will call it sexual harassment if you say hi at the gym.

[@JonathanWymer]

Delayed gratification. That's relationships, that's marriage, that's commitment.

[@etf42]

Would love to hear a conversation with her and Patrice ONeal..RIP

[@MrCleates]

Patrice was ahead of the curve in regards to understanding women via the “Red Pill” lens

[@eltonarthur1233]

Improve yourself - internally and externally. Be a leader Understand the nuance of dating - go beyond dating. Be able to carry a conversation beyond romantic interests.

[@aqualust5016]

I've been doing all these developments this year and the women in my area are either married already with kids, not worth a shit, or I'm not attracted to them in the slightest. What a fun situation that will eventually force me to up and move somewhere else.

[@JohnSmith-fo5cx]

same brother. It's rough out here

[@julianton3340]

She doesn‘t answer the question. The question was: „How do I find a GOOD woman?“ The question was not: „How do I attract (as many as possible) women?“ This is a big difference!

[@ericirwin4385]

It's probably a numbers game...the trick is to NOT fall in love with a not so good or bad woman.

[@By.daniieel]

There's not a difference All women want the same traits Leadership, ambition, humour, charm, shamelessness, etc What gets a man many women is what eventually gets him a "good woman"

[@freudianslip2192]

The problem is women are so picky you have to try to attract a wide array of women. I don't understand how women don't get this. That's why the guys that can get lots of women don't commit. If they have to put in all of this work to attract you then why work on a relationship when he can kick you to the curb and gl after the next woman? (until she asks for more, then repeat)

[@johnnymac6178]

Don't ask the fish how to catch fish...ask the fisherman.

[@Droviderion]

​@@johnnymac6178😂😂😂 The life of the Fisherman would be much more better if he could know what fish really want...

[@GMMW-s2x]

Strange because Ive done just that in my life and all it got me was a wife that doesnt listen, doesnt respect me and turns people against me. So let me add this, vet the hell out of any woman you want to be with before investing energy and heart into the relationship. Im not knocking the advice, just saying it aint so cut and dry.

[@alenaadamkova7617]

So you a lo say that partially its mens fault...that most men raised their daughter in wrong way. Because as Dr. Bruce Lipton exaplains in hudreds oif videos the behavior of adults is affected 90 percent by their childhood, and hgow thye laerned in childhood, because subconmsciosu midn was created in childhood. and it contoinues toa dulthood because its 90 poercents ubconsciosu program, but its possibel to reprogram bad habits.

[@MariCatherinee]

You picked wrong then. Thats not all women.

[@joshchapman4753]

They didn’t say anything here about how to choose a partner, or how to make an insufferable marriage workable. That’s another topic entirely. Plenty of podcasts about that out there, but what they did say about dating is common sense and reasonable. Unfortunately relationships often do not work out, and if that’s the case you don’t have to stay within it.

[@TheoHawk316]

@@MariCatherinee That's his WHOLE POINT! He's saying not to make the mistake he did!

[@AccordingtoVS]

Asking a 22 year old this question has gotta be the worst question Chris has done😂😂😂I love you chris but damn dawg

[@christianrodriguez5346]

I mean I am a 22 year old guy and I have 5 exes. I feel like you need to learn lessons and be better as you grow. You can be 22 but have the wisdom of a 60 year old. lol my friends and my most recent ex said that 😂

[@WLJ1287]

@@christianrodriguez53465 exes where you did the breaking up?

[@Brian-zx2pf]

She’s married and a good woman so

[@frederico-d3l]

@@Brian-zx2pf she does dancing and showing her "outfit" videos in tiktok.... and she is married? thats NOT a conservative woman.... she lives from men's attention

[@nadura55]

How to get a good woman. Answer, work on yourself to attract any woman implying that all women are good proving that very few women are capable of taking accountability. Yes work on yourself. But mainly learn to love yourself , set standards and boundaries and learn to decipher between the qualities necessary in a woman to make her your wife

[@YonatanBornstein]

Literally first words out of her mouth. I'd like to know when are women going to start working on themselves.

[@ronmexico5908]

What are the “very little emotional things we do” mean? I’d say if you aren’t good enough at communicating then don’t blame it on emotional things to protect your ego. Sacrifice your ego if a relationship is more important than your ego

[@CyclingMartialartswithMusic]

1. Go out. 2. Get a passport 3. Go overseas.

[@PickI3s]

😂😂😂😂

[@iLLeysScriptDealer]

The G trials.

[@zonomena9153]

It isn't much better in most countries tbh

[@TheBaldEagle24]

@@zonomena9153 Surely can't be worse in some of them compared to America... right?

[@frederico-d3l]

this girl thinks she is a 10. but she is a 6/10 being generous.

[@nirmalmanoj]

I just loved the sponsorship promo he gave. So much passion. Actually made me want to go and see the product!

[@ranglumoje5649]

This girl is just so smart, very mature

[@eddielacrosse2]

We just have to keep doing stuff and not get reciprocated.

[@onestepatatime4002]

The most important thing to me was not mentioned - character development: integrity, faithfulness, kindness, gentleness, meekness, patience, empathy...

[@gbmatt]

man: advice for find a good woman? woman: just be a perfect man.. man: what do y...? woman: ...in every single thing man: ok but.. what should I do? woman: everything man: ... woman: .. and in a good way

[@aqualust5016]

Lol and when asking women how to improve themselves the crickets chirp

[@drwayne_carter9115]

Step 1) get a passport Step 2) leave the US Step 3) do all the same things you're doing now in the US and watch how many good women you find that actually want to socially engage with you

[@SahramiSaukko]

​@@TheOlzeethe Philippines

[@MrOdaddy2011]

Not just the US, anywhere that is westernized or has a western culture like the states

[@curtis.albrecht.79]

@@SahramiSaukko I've lived in the Philippines for the last 6-years. My girlfriend will be delivering our 2nd son on October 12th. I also have another son, from my ex-wife. He started 5th Grade today. Anddddddddd..... OMG!!! His teacher is HOT!!! 🔥🔥🔥 Men??? GET YOUR PASSPORTS, and fly into CRK. The women are Fit, Feminine, and Family Friendly.

[@thomasclarke6934]

I recently had the experience of going from being a 3 in the US to an 8 in Thailand. Girls were talking to me, I was getting over 100 likes a day on Tinder... Absolutely mind-blowing. Now I have zero interest in trying to meet a woman in the US - it's just a bad market.

[@SahramiSaukko]

@@curtis.albrecht.79 and many of them prefer/don't mind a bigger belly on men. My math tells me that 5 more years of work and I can safely retire and move to SEA. I'll be 41yo so little ahead of most retirees, lol. In the US I would have to work till my dying day probably to get the same lifestyle not counting the women aspect. I've got yearly PH holidays planned until then. Not gonna be having kids tho until I've known the girl for at least 3 years. And I'm not in any hurry to settle down either lol. :)

[@mobiusinversion]

I’d like to find a clear and unconfusing woman. That would be good.

[@Ch1naVirus]

I think hell will freeze over first. Wish ya luck brother!

[@prestow]

It's the opposite, you should be so confident and experienced that no man or woman will throw you off your game

[@mobiusinversion]

@@Ch1naVirus possibly, but I have a lot better things to do with my time until then, so win win 👍

[@mobiusinversion]

@@prestow that sounds naive. Anyone you let into your heart can hurt you. The idea that it’s all on men to be perfect in the face of a rollercoaster is honestly a bit toxic.

[@prestow]

@@mobiusinversion We're both right. What I'm saying is that first you should be a man's man, then you'll of course want a woman as capricious as you are. You're not even have friends that put you in trouble. But you only deserve the good ones when you're safe yourself first.

[@LalienX]

Overseas. That's where you find them.

What are you British or something

[@anonsoldier8907]

And or stay away from big cities

[@dirtytrout3489]

What ever you do never go for French girls

[@SAYWUT]

the real pro tip for success. Dont go asking other people for advice before trying something your genuinely interested in. just go for it, and when your there in the middle of it all youll figure out if its working or not working. and simply allow yourself to reserve judgement for later. unless it puts your physical health at risk then of course do some homework beforehand. i mean some ideas are not bright ideas. but if the root to your concern is fear of embarrassment or fear of hurting your ego well then stop that. go find out there and see if you can date that girl or go out there and get a job. dont stop yourself from doing something because you think too much or worry to much or dont know enough. its a whole lot easier to know exactly what something is by doing it. then thinking about it later.. example: l know when your mopping floors for 10 bucks an hour you probably think " fuck man i dont want to be a janitor" unless thats your thing then more power to you

[@pdannysan13]

I didn't know Ben Shapiro also did dating tips. Thanks Ben!

[@Godmaceplus1]

Step 1) build a Time Machine

[@knightmer3645]

5:00 - "Go to a run club, nobody goes there for the running anyways, they walk half the time and just talk" 5:20 - "It's crazy that it's revolutionary" Sadly telling people they need to be AROUND the same women, CONSISTENTLY week by week at the very least is REVOLUTIONARY today because most guys (me included) don't even have outdoor hobbies anymore (I created a home gym because the commute kills my drive to workout, so I just started cold approaching which is WAY scarier than what these guys suggest, but also way more rewarding as it's a SKILL of COMMUNICATION with strangers and that's valuable anywhere you go. You don't have to be crazy like me, but just join anything social OUTDOORS - WOW 2024 sure is a crazy year

[@tridentgum63]

Low key love the Lululemon shorts. Running a marathon in them I get no chaffing or anything. Feels great.

[@ledgnr197gaming5]

Ana de Armas in the thumbnail is very smart

[@v12tommy]

Brett is amazing. She reminds me of a younger version of Kayleigh McEnany. So well spoken.

[@LeeEverett1]

Feel like this was misleading. She explained how to attract good women but not where to find them

[@curtis.albrecht.79]

Get your Passport and fly into CRK. THEY ARE EVERYWHERE!!!

[@rahulshendre7089]

she is so well spoken

[@Kyleaholic]

Brett is literally my dream women.

[@ThomasAnnulis-z3y]

Excellent choice for the thumbnail, Chris 👌

[@lewisj2au]

I love Pickleball, I started a few months ago, and I play 3 to 4 times a week with 2 hour sessions. I have met more new friends in the last 3 months playing pickleball than I have in the last 5 years of my life. My mood has been more upbeat, and I have something to look forward to do in the week. I get a lot of exercise from it. I have become more social, and I feel it has made a very good impact on my life in a very short period of time. Yes, running clubs are definitely low key dating events.

[@DiggitySchwag]

At the end of the day, you should be doing all of these things just for yourself. Not to attract any woman or anybody. Society puts all this pressure on men to do these amazing things, yet women can just sit there with little to no improvement. Work on yourself. Become the best version of yourself. Do it for yourself. If a woman happens to come along, and you find her deserving of all of your hard work, that’s great. But do it for yourself.

[@ricolives1166]

It honestly hurts the amount of truly beautiful women that have a of. Easily 8s, 9s, even 10s who have of. Finding a loyal woman is incredibly hard

[@sunshine10005]

Why does this conversation feel so superficial?

[@riverwillard1]

Actually though it pisses me off somehow

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

Because it is with a 20 years old kid. What do you expect?😂😂😂

[@kennethstephens1110]

Because he's talking to a woman

[@WhitePatriot50]

Well this was helpful. Dating has to go both ways in the real world.

[@Infamous1892]

What man would take advice from a 22 year old girl who's never experienced a day in the life as a man? That's like asking a homeless man for financial advice.

[@MakisCorporations]

1:04 which is impossible sometimes. Thanks for the tip tho

[@Deevesh950]

The lighting is excellent

[@DepressionVarietyVlog]

I thought a good relationship was when two personalities get along together happily. None of this be your best self mentality. That's something totally different.

[@LMP89]

Approaching a woman is not scary. What is scary is her way of reacting to you. A lot of women are just mean and if you as a man expecting a sweet and lovely human being and she is distant, cold, and with contempt then it becomes very scary. Brett will react in a good way, but you can’t see that on the outside, do you? Better is it, to not care if she likes you or not. Just be a fun person to be around. Pick up the conversation IF YOU like her. As a man you can choose too. Don’t go for a woman that just gives you attention. Go for the woman that also works on herself, and is fun to be around. If you find it scary, most of the time it’s a sign that she can be bad in reacting to you. It’s a signal to be aware of the possible rejection.

[@kartikrayavarapu2044]

Don’t overthink it, you see an attractive women….talk to her, that’s it! Let the energy and tension take it from there.

[@gm9460]

So it seems like commenters here find Brett attractive and so are less likely to scrutinise what she says. Sounds about right for society in general

[@albertoj.mollinedo4116]

Be Gigachadd!

[@logantidwell7698]

To me this stuff has always been obvious. I think most people know what a good, desirable person is, it's just difficult to pursue that ideal. People either don't know how to start, what to do, or they know what they have to do but they're afraid to start because they're afraid of failing or have so much self loathing that they just can't find the motivation to better themselves. The first step before you do anything to make yourself more desirable is to get your head in order. Deal with your demons and find help to better yourself so you aren't just floundering on what to do with yourself. Then you can start improving in other ways without any handicap. Once you're right with yourself you can worry about finding the right one

[@nailsi-am5324]

All these opinions seem like they were just passed down from others. Apply your own critical thinking to your own life and deal with the consequences.

[@JCJW101]

No one has time to learn everything from scratch, you'd be 250 years old before you worked it all out. Learn from others who have already made the mistakes and the apply your own filter if it's relevant for you or not.

[@shoumeifps]

@@JCJW101that’s essentially what he said

[@KomatiPoort]

I think a better question is "Why do you consider Brett Cooper of all people an authority on what constitutes a 'good woman'?"

[@tonybayarea]

Most woman from 18 - 40 (1984 - 2006) in America 🇺🇸 don't know what they want when it comes to dating. Will tell a guy that they are not interested in them. Then when the guy goes away they get there feelings hurt and ask "Why isn't that guy paying me attention anymore!?" You literally just told the guy you are not interested in him, but you want him to stick around to keep getting rejected by you. What guy out there wants to talk , spend time with a girl/woman that isn't interested in them.

[@SAHtoshiDude]

I always assume women that want to talk to me are just being nice, I am basically blind to signals due to misreading “signals” so bad in the past. Dating is hard

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

That’s wild because as a 28 year old girl, you seem very attractive to me

[@esoartbook5955]

what he said about running club, that was really hilarious... I run randomly for health reasons. I just do long distance running for the fitness only. and I do not meet people or make any connection

[@anilbalram7768]

I was going to comment about dating advice but she's absolutely right about pickleball.

[@pravitt4852]

Be a good one first.

[@michaelcdarby]

I’ve worked on myself by losing 150 pounds, got a good job as a software developer where I have a good amount of money and yet it didn’t make any difference in my chance of even getting a first date

[@scottsmith2724]

1. Go to the gym I truly believe fitness is the onw thing in life you truly can't fake. Doesnt matter if you take all the gear or none at all. You still have to put in the work. That's why when you see someone who is in shape you automatically subconsciously have a base level of respect for them because of the consistent discipline they put in to build and maintain their fitness. You automatically respect them just for that alone. 🙂💪

[@Goatlikeitornot]

If you're 5'7 and look like a greek god you'll still get mogged by a skinny 6'2 guy.

[@CartoonSlug]

​@@Goatlikeitornot That is so fuckin not true brother

[@Goatlikeitornot]

@@CartoonSlug yeah it is

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

Really? Before I went to the gym, I always thought that men with big arms are like that because of genetics. 😅😅

[@CartoonSlug]

@@Goatlikeitornot Oh ok

[@danieltimbers400]

Out of 100 percent there only 5% good women

[@Vinnie542]

What you say I was too busy focusing on Brett

[@ScottsThoughts]

I’m in no way an expert. But I married in my biased opinion the most amazing woman in the world. And I didn’t expect it to ever happen. But one thing she even will say to this day is when we first met I never talked like it was a “first date”. I just would talk to her, and we’d learn about each other organically. She always liked how a week would go by and we’d go on another date and I’d greet her and be like “so this wild Thing happened!….”. Also I taught myself to cook and worked out. But just showing her first hand of having those skills. So many dudes just don’t try to show their day to day skills, and they need to. I remember I went over to her place to cook for the first time and I just busted out a recipe without any instructions. Made her leftovers to take to work. And cleaned up the kitchen after. It’s not “simping” or “trying too hard”. Just show you can socialize and do something more than heat up a tv dinner.

[@chillpengeru]

Does she ever do anything or?

[@ScottsThoughts]

@ all the time. It’s a two way street in a relationship

[@Room-ms6wj]

You don't ask a fish the best way to catch it. You ask a fisherman. Don't rely on a woman for dating advice.

[@Pozywny]

step 1: dont view women as fish to catch and instead view them as human beings

[@Room-ms6wj]

@@Pozywny Don't rely on women for dating advice.

[@pdawg2716]

The guys who say this don’t get any girls and probably never will

[@shayraecok578]

@@Pozywny that's a well know analogy you little princess of PC

[@HellGod67]

@@Room-ms6wj don't rely on anyone* use your own resources

[@bluestang9530]

Forget everything she said. Focus on making YOU happy. If you are happy at your 9-5, don’t feel the need to change. If you are happy with your level of fitness, own it. Be confident and comfortable with who YOU are. Because the rest is just vanity, and women who chase that are unreliable and not worth your time. Be who you are and if a woman accepts you for that and wants to be with you, you have a much better chance. Online dating is not the demon people make it out to be. Yes, it’s difficult. There’s lots of rejection. But you are able to put yourself out there in front of 1,000s of women. If you go to a run club you’re going to put yourself in front of like 6 women and 3 of them probably already have bfs/husbands that run with them.

[@IAmBetterThanIWasYesterday]

😂 let a man tell a woman to work on herself and see the outcome. Let him tell her to lose weight, drink more electrolytes and move more 💀. It all fun and games until the tables have turned💀. Too many excuses but also not much accountability 🤡

[@Ncc0990]

Exactly. It’s all a one way street with dating nowadays. The girls nowadays are told that they’re born perfect and die perfect and that they don’t change themselves for anybody or anything. All of this “self improvement” and “working on yourself” garbage is for the blokes. That’s basically all I ever hear from these “dating advice” vids.

[@frikkievankradenburg3514]

and yet I still dont know how to FIND them. I know wat Im looking for, I just dont know where to look.

[@tanbow10]

she literally just described stalking someone, that's how you find a good woman according to Brett 🤣

[@chriskirsten8221]

"Good women" are now unicorns in todays world.......

[@BirdManUnlimitedLove]

This is super easy men. Norm made this very clear. Money.

[@determineddoug2945]

so lets review this list of things that are needed to get a good woman lol get to be above average in wealth get to be above average physical shape Be "truly prepared to protect" worry about your partners health more than THEY care about it become a leader be assertive/take initiative understand women and their "nuances" and this last one is to even "get in the door" "play the game" physically go out and meet women, but make sure you lay the groundwork before asking for their number goodness gracious

[@jonathanfarley2023]

It's like a full-time job and can only begin to work after 6 months (the length of time it might take to get in shape).

[@timsas]

Lets listen to the 22 year old with her vast wealth of experiences and knowledge...

[@AccordingtoVS]

Literally lma9

[@kevindittler6524]

😂😂😂😂 😂😂 I will. BOT is learning💥!

[@mooninites755]

and if she was 62 you would say that she was 'old and out of touch with the dating market'. Some of you will find any reason to continue to be a loser.

[@user-og6hl6lv7p]

@@mooninites755 I mean you ironically make a good point. Why would you take advice from someone who is either too young to have experience or too old to understand shifting attitudes? Listening to people in between makes the most sense.

[@mooninites755]

@@user-og6hl6lv7p I think the broader point is the second half'; Brett could be any age and these people would find a reason to discredit her advice because they're not looking for advice and they're just looking to be validated. These are not single people looking to find a partner, they're single people looking to feel justified as to why their single.

[@sreeharics8066]

I would like someone who just doesn't beat around the bush and says the point straight.

[@aljjjjj]

Just remember that you are not looking for a particular person- you're looking for the general people who vibe with and even accentuate your natural authentic self. All the rest- peacocking, etc fade away and then you're f*****.

[@sherylT1970]

I feel sorry for young people dating. Maybe bring back barn dances! They’re fun!

[@gm9460]

Dancing has a whole different level of mixed messages and signals when it comes to gauging romantic interest

[@kc270352]

@gm9460 it's not dancing, it's twerking now lmao 🤦🙄

[@sherylT1970]

@@kc270352 Hence, the problems 🙄🙃

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Lovely idea

[@phillipstoltzfus3014]

I love dances especially barn dances I've been to one!

[@whatshappening3327]

Just find your lifes mission/ purpose and if she doesnt fit into that there is no business messing with her.

[@PinPinKula]

the only sensible advice that was given here, pretty much settles it

[@LazizbekQoldoshboyev-b1r]

Step2) do not forget your future

[@oust556]

It's not complicated, women are attracted to effort. If she likes you, she'll cleverly invade your space. Just say hi and be yourself. If it doesn't feel right, you'll know quick and it was fun, but you may end up with a new friend. win win!

[@CryptoMaximalist]

Am I sensing chemistry?

[@leanhdao4281]

Practically: Actively do your own things, even apply to ladies too. Sometimes we can be a little bit lazy, but not too passive that 'expect to have millions of dollars fall from the clouds above as a rain' Don't try so hard just to please (wo)men, set up your own green & red flags in your standard lists Honestly, to simplify things in shorter lines: Most couples broke up with each other derives from the very fact that, they are not IN SYNC with the significant other

[@starX7995]

i want a good women like the woman in deep water

[@GiDS222]

"stop fucking oppressing us" was comedic, but also valid lmao

[@richardy2071]

So I need to become the top 1% man, but I'm expected to settle with any old woman that's insane

[@Zen-vm5tc]

I mean seeing some of you beat up on yourselves is sad. I’m not attractive, and I’m overweight. I’ve found success in relationships. It’s a lot about personality, if you’re funny it’s a cheat code. Be confident in yourselves and carry yourselves well. Work on your image, improve your wardrobe, walk with your head high, socialize with everyone. Treat rejection as practice. And remember if a girl likes you she will not make it hard for you. You will more than likely still need to initiate but if she likes you there will be no resistance. And then from there say the right thing a couple of times and boom you’re married.

[@christianrodriguez5346]

Fellas go after women that want you. Pick wisely that is it. Never go after a woman. You will lose if you do. They let you know obviously if they want you and you decide if you want to pursue. Just be a good simple dude and don’t mind being single for a while. Work hard on yourself and do things for yourself that make you happy. Don’t search for them actively. I had to go through 4 really physically attractive girls (exes) and they really had bad character and weren’t that good with me. I am with a somewhat average looking girl but her character and personality is what really gets me attracted to her. Looks isn’t everything cause that fades but character doesn’t. Remember the really pretty ones will never treat a guy good until her options begin to decrease and if anything most settle down for the men they aren’t even attracted to. Go after the average ones who are wife material from the very beginning. They will treat you like a king. Reality is if a woman does not fear the idea of losing you she will never ever submit to you or hold on to you. This comes with options as well. Really pretty ones have too much options and will not mind losing a guy cause they don’t value them. An average girl will value the men she gets cause not too many are around coming after her.

[@SimpleGamero7]

what if no woman wants you ? :))

[@christianrodriguez5346]

@@SimpleGamero7 trust me if you look physically fit not buff (lean body), a haircut that fits your face shape (for me it is a buzz cut), have a nice taste in style, and clear skin, you practically attract many many girls. I know I do. I simply don’t pursue most cause most are not good women and it is obvious. Once you have everything you will be the one to pick them. I even attracted taken girls man. Trust you will look too good that even taken ones can’t stop to admire you.

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

@@christianrodriguez5346 lot of guys are not even acknowledged despite doing everything you said..because women aren't rejecting guys based on those, its on immutable genetic features like height.

[@Again-AGN]

This is so funny as a middle aged man. This ain’t rocket science. She had some good advice. But that’s in a perfect world. How do you “lay down” all the ground work when it’s a person you see in a grocery line or news stand or grabbing coffee? What do I carry around a CV of my love life and ask her to review in right then an there and then ask her out?