God delivered me from idolizing marriage

[@taytantrum6830]

“So desperate for a husband that you will desperate yourself out of Gods will” 👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾!!!!

[@Golf2foto]

That was me!!

[@almaducatel5830]

Jesus explains that celibacy is a special gift and not for everyone. He recognizes that some people choose to remain celibate in order to devote themselves entirely to the kingdom of God.

[@lekeedragriffin8568]

I desire marriage but I want to stop idolizing marriage so much to the point I live outside of God’s will! I needed this!🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@brijonez]

I was idolizing marriage for the wrong reasons to be honest. I wanted financial stability and a friend to spend my life with. I was engaged twice to two men who were not in alignment with God’s will for my life. I moved to another state, I am financially stable on my own, and I am working on building friendships in my new city. It’s funny because God showed me that I can have the things I desire from marriage - without marriage. This message was spot on for me!

[@daisyg8384]

Sounds good! But when God brought you the right person, at a very young age, and when that person is your best friend, your biggest fan, the person who's loved you the most, respected and valued you more than your own family, and wishes the best for you, you don't see marriage as "extra happiness" but as the best thing that could happen to you on this earthly life... Maybe we should keep in mind that Paul seemed to have expressed his own thoughts, in that passage. Originally, God created Eve for Adam, and wanted them to live together as a couple. So, I guess it's a blessing from God to desire to get married, and then to live a happy successfull life together.

[@aquaabundance4077]

There's nothing wrong with wanting friendship and financial stability, through marriage. Anyone who says otherwise is odd.

[@HeyItsMaori]

I am dating a man who I believe will be my husband. We have been together for 3 years and how we met was God. (we both had prayed before we met each other and put our marriage relationship in Gods hands. I did not want to date another person unless God said we would work as a marriage and he could be my husband) In the last year I have had multiple moments where I have been so eager to get engaged and then married but financially we are not there. My attraction to him is also very strong which makes me want to get married so I don't/ stop sining. We started reading a chapter of proverbs every night and putting God first. We are long distance so I said lets challenge ourselves to have the most Godly time when we are together. So far I feel great. But still have the itch inside me.

[@almaducatel5830]

Jesus explains that celibacy is a special gift and not for everyone. He recognizes that some people choose to remain celibate in order to devote themselves entirely to the kingdom of God1.

[@Natural21Lista]

“Whatever you do outside the will of God with your own strength, you will be keeping that situation with your own strength for the rest of your life” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@HeyItsMaori]

Right. That hit hard.

[@lucykaumba943]

Am sharing this on my social media accounts it's worth sharing

[@rebeccarobinson2547]

Wow!

[@bombyo3634]

As a Man....Just the title alone made me realize thats petty much how i was raised to feel. Everyone wont get married and it is better to focus on Jesus Christ more. Pray for me it aint easy.

[@Annoitedpastorlewiswalkin]

amen brother I on the walk with christ to lately I just been following YAH more and more and I stopped idolising marriage a much a is used to and I got happiness now I just wanna follow Yahuah will for my wife whoever he wants me to get married to I'll marry the person in Yahusha name amen

[@KingdomWoman333]

God bless you brother!

[@ashleysessoms4967]

Thanks for sharing!! This is exactly where I’m at with it all in reference to marriage!

[@themalawiandiner180]

I always stuck by Paul's message, that marriage is a beautiful thing, but it's not for everyone. I don't believe in soul mates or God choosing someone for one, I believe God gave everyone the freewill to choose and he helps bring about suitable mates. I am a strong advocate for seeking discernment and learning or adopting good vetting skills, vetting a man properly and thoroughly is wisdom. I also believe in being intentional by preparing oneself to be a wife, before praying for a future marriage.

[@KingdomWoman333]

Thank you! This blessed me so much.

[@wickmaani116]

correct

[@Versatiledahter]

I will recommend you read the book “God is a match maker “ it changed my perspective on this, using scriptures of course.

[@almaducatel5830]

Jesus explains that celibacy is a special gift and not for everyone. He recognizes that some people choose to remain celibate in order to devote themselves entirely to the kingdom of God1.

[@bryagp]

Wow sis I needed this, as someone who gave up idolizing marriage in November at 29! I’ve waited over 11 years now and it is hard but my relationship with God is more important! Thanks so much for sharing sis, amen! 🙌🏾

[@mirianalajtman7728]

You're beautiful! I'm sure your wait will be over soon!

[@bryagp]

@@mirianalajtman7728 you’re so kind thank you!

[@loyal8501]

​​@@MrTwonetwoneliving for God for 11 years and not focusing on being married is the furtherest from desperate as it can get.

[@IvyElizabeth918]

@@MrTwonetwonewaiting as in abstaining from sex until marriage. The complete opposite of desperate.

[@jamesdejohnette4106]

It’s not a relationship with God. No where in the Bible do see the word “ relationship “. It’s your Walk with God.

[@kpmich8252]

Sis, this is exactly what has happened to me. I was idolising mariage so much, every time looking around for who could potentially "be the one", glory be to God He has ripped that off of me. The freedom and relieve of stress is immense!

[@Nomelis]

I’m 33 I’m struggling but I need to shift my mind set and focus on God and myself

[@kpmich8252]

@@Nomelis God is able, just keep on relying on Jesus. Let the Holy Spirit lead you, surrender your heart, all areas and let Jesus transform it all. Stay strong, persevere Sister. May God's strength rest upon you.

[@Nitra813]

There’s so much freedom in not idolizing marriage. Matthew 6:33 tells us to seek first the KINGDOM not marriage. This is so refreshing to hear another young lady that GETS it! A lot of our Christian practices and beliefs are born out of tradition and culture as oppose to biblical truth. I wish more would overstand this. Marriage is NOT promised nor commanded. Yet we’re taught otherwise.

[@mashajohns7810]

Amen. !

[@KrissyHall-r7g]

Yes! Culture and not biblical truth!

[@monicawanjiku5699]

I am 34 year old, been married for the last 5+ yrs, and known my husband for the past 15years. I am currently going through separation from my husband and have idolized marriage for a very long time( since I was a young girl). It is only now that I am beginning to understand that all along I had been idolizing marriage and seeing the unmarried as failures. It is unbelievable the lengths at which God will go to reclaim His lost child. I've had to go through a separation (still going through it), for God to shout to me 'STOP IDOLIZING MARRIAGE'. Its a very painful journey, but at least I now know why God had to make it happen.

[@erinmurray1564]

I idolized marriage and I ended up with narcissistic and lustful men. He helped open my eyes; and I am focusing on the peace of being single and growing with Him for the time being 🙏🏻

[@NinaBlow]

If you are in desperation you are not in Gods will

[@ZyleymaCruz]

I take this even when it comes to career

[@FatimaLuv]

Amen ❤

[@keyahninaylor4974]

Amen 🙏

[@EsiriE]

C’mon 💯💯💯

[@margaretchebiwot3084]

That’s me..Ooh God help me

[@Curly_Jay]

All of this was on point! For me, for the longest time I idolized marriage and was so focused on being married. Once I stopped and truly let that go and focused on Jesus and who he is in my life, that's when my now husband came into my life 🤍. I really put it in God's hands instead of my own 🙌🏼 Trying to do it my way and idolize it got me nowhere. This was really good!

[@katherinerideaux]

Amen

[@aquaabundance4077]

It's really weird when women say this "when I stopped worrying about it, my husband appeared". It feels a lil like bragging because these women never give actionable steps as to how you can distract yourself from thinking about finding a husband. And please don't say hobbies, I have a ton of hobbies. I'm 31 and have spent my whole life developing myself.

[@Curly_Jay]

@@aquaabundance4077 I get where you’re coming from 💯 Honestly, the thoughts about being married don’t just disappear, even when you decide to not focus on it. For me, I would shed tears and get frustrated a lot.. But I remember one evening I was praying and I asked God to help me with my emotions. It didn’t mean that the thought of marriage wasn’t there, but no longer did I want to be consumed by the thought of it. So I journaled my desires, created a vision board of things I wanted to do for me in life, and got connected with other people at my church. I also read good books, including ones about being a Proverbs 31 woman. This really helped to focus on me and my relationship with God more, instead of me idolizing being married.

[@oalatishe]

@@aquaabundance4077 tbh, I feel Sometimes what married ppl say can annoy the singles 😂 I think it’s perfectly fine to have a desire for marriage, even if you are a well rounded person with hobbies, friends, secure job, etc. God gives us the desires of our hearts ❤ and having a desire isn’t a bad thing! It almost feels like it’s some reverse psychology (stop caring about it, then God will bring it) tho I know that’s not people’s intentions.

[@vashatilindsay7156]

I had to stop idolizing Marriage when I saw there was no shortage of “lazy predatory men.” The same men that try to coax women into believing we’d be better off miserable and depressed and taking care of HIM was the end all be all.

[@misstiffaney22]

Wow Lazy Predatory Men!! That was a word!

[@aquaabundance4077]

FACTS!!! ❤

[@xrae875]

I didn’t realize I was idolizing marriage till now, thanks for this video!

[@poppy03-m4v]

i read the title and said “ God let’s have a meeting , stop throwing shade “ 😂😂 this is for me ! so excited to watch this ❤️❤️

[@pd96_824]

Not shade 😂😂😂

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

A flawless marriage or relationship doesn't exist. There's no universal recipe for success in these matters. What suits Adam may not suit Peter. Nonetheless, I discovered that every problem has a solution. Five years ago, my wife and I faced the possibility of divorce due to marital challenges, but we reconciled

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

Your insights resonate deeply with me, and I sincerely wish my sentiments mirror yours. Despite our present distance, I cannot envision my existence without her; my affection for her knows no bounds. I ache to reunite with her, and I'm prepared to go to great lengths to achieve that. We've delved into numerous paths, including therapy, in our quest for reconciliation

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Saying goodbye to someone you cherish is consistently difficult, yet in my case, I received support from a spiritual advisor who kept my marriage intact. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

I value this advice. I'll promptly look her up online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that following this path will bring about positive outcomes for me too; I long for her deeply

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

You are Welcome

[@NyakzOTSD]

True but just like diets, some things work considerably better than others! You shouldn't idolize anything. Be pragmatic, and fluid

[@Pinkpearls555]

I used to see marriage as a fairy tale story book but now I realize the truth of marriage . I don’t feel bad when a guy doesn’t want to marry me anymore because I know I’ll have a lot to lose if he does 😅

[@kylieking8163]

😂

[@raynnanyamboli5425]

I have idolized marriage all my life, God convicted me and he has been delivering me from this idolatry. This video comes to me as icing on the cake.

[@ohemaa3904]

I love the trajectory your channel is taking. Your spiritual growth is so inspiring!

[@j.o.y_aliba]

Gyal I love it as well!! When I tell you I have never missed an episode since she started this new content 😭

[@guestaccount506]

marriage & all things related has NEVER been broken down to this degree to me, not even in the church. when i tell you the message was crystal clear, i mean it. such revelations! thank you for obeying God by recording this video & uploading it. THIS is His will. job well done. safe to say, i’m finally headed in the right direction to being free. because as a woman in her 30s, the desire for marriage had been “tann” me up!!! i can feel a shift happening now though, simply because i understand things better now. again, i thank the God in you.

[@reinacarroll4049]

No I'm noticing at 20, that I'm idolizing marriage and I'm trying to deconstruct that. Thanks for this video

[@Marmae02]

This video was so needed for me. I’ve been idolizing marriage like crazy and I didn’t even realize how bad it was until you gave examples of things you did and I’m like WOW. I do desire marriage and that lifelong union with someone but I also understand that God is not evil. And won’t give me these desires to leave them unfulfilled. From now on, I want to live in God’s will. It’s so freeing to not obsess over every black man that crosses my path and wondering if he’s my husband😂. Thank you for this video. I will be back to rewatch.

[@DanaeLaurenTolbert]

I want God's will. If He wants me to be single, I will be single. If he wants me married, then it is so. I have chased the opposite sex throughout my 20s and 30s. Now, all I want is Jesus. People are making businesses out of people's idolatry of marriage. Do you know even why you are here? What is your purpose? According to Matthew 25, the Lord is not going to be too happy when you have not exercised your gifts and talents. It's like looking for something tangible as if God is not enough.

[@hiyori2846]

This is so so good and healing! So happy I clicked on this video. Sometimes when the church speaks about marriage it actually fuels my obsession with men and seeking vaildation. Marriage really is put on a pedestal. God has been healing me from seeking attention from men and taking me through a whole process. It got so bad I felt like my body wasn’t my own anymore, everything was centered around a man, even the topic of modesty. This is really healing my heart and delivering me from attention seeking and focusing on God and getting that fulfillment in God alone!

[@AM-ii3it]

This message is right on time. I’ve known since the age of 12 that I didn’t want children and I could go years without dating. I was an extremely late bloomer to sex and find that it just isn’t important to me. If I never had sex again in my life I would be just fine. I always thought there was something wrong with me but you explaining that as a gift really blew my mind. Thank you❤

[@zoeymarinus4679]

This is confirmation to me because this was a revelation to me 2 years ago and I just had to dwell on what was written. It has made me feel so much lighter about the comfort I have being single and the relationship I need to build with God before anyone can come into my life in that way. I’ve felt like such a horrible person for breaking off relationships because I have felt so “uncomfortable” being in one. Mainly because I find comfort and happiness being by myself and I feel God has put that in me. I know if it is in his will for my life to be with someone then he will open my heart to being with someone.

[@isakjoseph747]

I'm currently celibate an this is a sign not that I idolize marriage but that if it happens it happens if it does not I'm still content ❤

[@lydo7483]

Though we should not idolise marriage and there are some true points to this, she is speaking as a single woman so she cannot fully talk on “God didn’t tell you that” or give too much advice on the subject of marriage. I feel that the message is important, but then to me, at points, feels as though things are being spoken from a bias opinion that we should remain single or that it is better. It is also possible for me to look at verses in the bible and passages which God says that we shouldn’t be alone, for example “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him” - this came directly from God speaking about giving Adam a wife. I think it’s important that we lean not on our own understanding because this is when sharing your “revelations” can be dangerous. Sis was more focused on the negatives of marriage in a woman’s perspective… what about the two becoming one, serving God together, praying together, strengthening each other through their walk and bringing each other closer to God. Instead i heard in this video about not wanting to have to tell the husband about whereabouts etc, that is such a minor factor to a whole marriage which is not even thought about and is ultimately thinking of the self. Also in regard to Paul’s view on marriage, this was in the context of him as an evangelist who had dedicated his life to spreading the gospel from country to country, so it’s understandable how he would find marriage to be a distraction. I do not believe that everyone should get married, but also that is our own journey and whatever God has not revealed to her about a husband, it does not mean that he cannot. God speaks to both individuals, it feels as in her message she is taking men as being the head in another context. As a married woman, I can speak on the fact that God revealed it to both me and my partner that we should marry as BOTH of our hearts should be open. Speaking on not idolising marriage is all good, but speaking on other people and their situations with marriage seems bias and a little bitter coming from someone who is not married. I understand the bible is the truth, but that is her understanding, I also do not see where the bible says it is a gift to refrain from marriage. Let God lead and if it leads to marriage then so be it, if it doesn’t then so be it. I see a lot of single people now agreeing to not get married and saying “I needed this” but I can vouch for marriage bringing me closer to God and not away. I would understand if I was a missionary going from country to country, but for those sitting at home and saying it’s not Gods plan remember what God says about man not being alone... I’m not saying search for marriage which is why I agree to the overall message of this video, but I’m saying our hearts should be open to the possibility of marriage. I’m a married, young woman with a GREAT plan & path that God has set before me and my husband on our individual spiritual paths.

[@L_Williams313]

This was so good! Be careful with phases “in the cards for you” is a reference to luck in tarot card readings. Keep doing the Lords work!

[@tayja3521]

I had no clue!

[@Aubaofficial5023]

The fact that she speaks on the things I am worried about makes me feel like I’m not that bad just need to choose GOD over my earthly desires.

[@natibelfortunato6879]

thank you for sharing your experience. God delivered me from the same. married someone despite what i felt the Lord tell me, out of desperation and “trying to do the right thing” in not being sexually active before marriage - the absolute worst person for me. destroyed and uprooted my entire life. my physical health. thankfully now divorced and recovering but it has been HARD. so hard. but God is working and i realize that that’s why i couldn’t let go when God told me to. because i was putting a relationship and marriage above God. as a young girl, they start to implant that into your brain and the devil used that and ran with it for me. i wasn’t spiritually mature enough to see it and obey God in faith. and it has severely set me back.

[@AT-uj3rx]

Currently going through the same situation but I got married extremely young (18)

[@deliaogola8694]

Man I’m currently stuck in this void right now. Still believing in a fantasy that god has repeatedly told me that it isn’t for me. Why I can’t separate or let go especially when I blatantly see the person I’m with is no match for my worth and continue to tear it down when it deems fit for them. Listening to your story and how your saying you have been severely set back scares me. I don’t want time to keep going for something I’m hopelessly fighting for. God bless you thank you for sharing I needed this ❤

[@iraniamorales]

I’d been scrolling through these comments trying to see if maybe someone was in my similar situation. Thank you for sharing. I’m currently married but on the brink of divorce. My husband betrayed me but even then I’d been trying so hard to make this work and trying to control this myself instead of leaving it in God’s hands and will. I feel like I’ve been idolizing this marriage. I had so many dreams that I’d thought we would accomplish together, never thought I’d be in this situation. But this video helped me realize I need to trust God’s plan more than my own ❤️‍🩹

[@TheWIncrease]

Praying God catapults you forward in a way that restores the time. 🙏🏾❤

[@natibelfortunato6879]

@@TheWIncrease thank you so, so much. you have no idea how much that means to me.

[@evegem8978]

Such a good teaching❤ Sisters be patient trust Yah with your life. That man is probably still being molded by Abba and still needing some maturing so it’s better for that mature version than the immature man he still is. Wait for Yah to finish molding him and you too. ❤

[@meechynailedit]

I got saved after I had my daughter. I just realized I was idolizing marriage to my bf because I want a family. We have been abstinent for a bout 2 years since I got saved. But as soon as I brought up marriage it’s like our relationship has been going down hill. I can’t imagine my daughter growing up in a broken home like I did. I know that God has forgiven me for my sins, but I can seem to forgive myself for bringing her into this world into a broken home. So I think in that unforgivness for myself, I tried to push marriage to make it right and I realize now that that was not the way to go. I don’t want to be in a co parent situation, but God comes first now and I’m really having trouble letting go of the relationship with my bf. Please pray for me in this time of transition.

[@tolulopefawole9796]

I pray that God will help you in this season of transition to choose Him daily. I pray for strength for you in your inner man in Jesus' name.

[@jamilawal6214]

Totally had this revelation too and still have to remind myself to focus on His kingdom. Praying God keeps your eyes focused on him and you walk in Christ.

[@Jacqueline_Oat]

Testify sister!! AMEN! I have never been one to tant a husband, but when i started following jesuss after meeting my boyfriend, ive been so confused about marriage without realising i had it on this pedestal. I needed to hear you talking about this in the way you did today. Thank you for making this video!

[@jahzyjase]

I see i'm not the only one... I pray that God's give me the peace I need to live the life He want me to live in faith and patience in His Word 🙏🏽 amen

[@octaviashane_]

Girl when I say these people should feel free after this message. God spoke to you and spoke to me in this message and gave me clarity! I am so grateful and excited that his truth came out in this message and so many people get to witness it! God I pray that whoever you have the gift of marriage for that you reveal it to them and whoever you have the gift of celibacy for that you reveal it to them. Father I ask with pure intentions that you reveal your will to us and reveal your way of doing things to us! God I ask that you remove all desires in our hearts that are not in alignment with your will for our lives! God I ask that you purify all of our desires, intentions, thoughts and plans in our hearts that are according to your will for our lives. God may you give us the strength, endurance, confidence, favor, wisdom and understanding to walk this faith walk out obediently and according to your word so that we may hear you say, "Well done, thy good and faithful servant" ! Lord I thank you in advance by faith that these things are done and all things are well. In Jesus name Amen!💜🙏🏾

[@KingdomWoman333]

Amen!

[@Qeqezwisdom]

This was a right on time word! 21:04 thank you for talking about the epidemic that is going on in black communities where black men are withholding marriage and black women are left to desperately pine after unworthy suitors in order to achieve their dreams. It’s sad. I’ve seen some plain old settling in recent years that is the true definition of the danger of desperation.

[@4LADYSWEET]

I just love to watch how God is growing and using your platform each and every time I watch your episodes ❤

[@Dajthebookworm]

I needed to hear this i have been losing my mind over my boyfriend when he doesn't give me attention, creating dating apps, looking for men. and still felt empty it's time to really submit to god

[@daydaphne2207]

I got married at 18 and right now years later just working on making God the priority and center of our marriage and household ❤

[@latireeajones7100]

I was idolizing relationship/marriage. Seeking those things instead of God, but no more. I surrender to God and allowing his will for my life. I want to continue to strength my faith, and walk with God. Because I’m single not lonely. With God, family,and friends I could never be lonely. Being single is the most important season/time in our lives. I learned to embrace it. Plus I get to know myself better, and prepare to be a wife. Preparing to be the person God called me to be ,and walking in the image of Christ.

[@mariahyelhsa]

Now why would you chew me up and spit me out like that? 😂 Such an honest and much needed video for many. Thank you.

[@hannatadesse2117]

Same here. I had a date recently, on our 2nd date he wanted to jump in bed. I said no. He said "I can't imagine how many good men you pushed away with this thinking" I've never idolized marriage but now in my 30s peoples opinion has def gotten to me.

[@dw3675]

That’s crazy. I can’t believe this. The dating pool’s in the sewer.

[@Actavella]

He may think think he is a good man, but what he is not is a godly man. And he is good by society standard not by Gods, so you actually didn’t ever push away any good men by standing on Kingdom business!

[@alannaalbritton381]

He’s disgusting!

[@caribbeankpoplover]

@@Actavellaexactly! Amen! 🙏🏾

[@leashawilliamson2766]

@@Actavellaamen to that!

[@tumelothobejane4284]

"God will provide for me where I am"

[@Natural21Lista]

I watched this before bed last night but had to come back to it this morning! You have truly opened my eyes. I have filled my bible with so many notes. God bless you for dropping gem after gem. ❤

[@IvyC-bc1mb]

Well said. I believe it should also be noted too for us women followers of Christ that we are not to be searching for a husband. As scripture notes from Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” The wife is to be discovered by the husband.

[@cassandragrayes6149]

Im only a few minutes in and sis, I feel so convicted of idolizing marriage. Lord help me. I’ve been praying about this the last few days. Also @amani, I would love to hang out with you girl! I live in Atlanta and need some Godly friends

[@JayceekahOgbonna]

Gurlll, you just gained a loyal subscriber, because this is wisdom. The spirit of God has been putting this in my heart and I didn't know what the problem was until someone said, "I WANT TO STOP IDOLIZING MARRIAGE" and then your video popped first

[@graceandmercy365]

nobody talks about this!!! thank you for bringing this to light sis 🩷

[@kayliahtaylor1475]

Wow AMEN! I was just praying about this. God is so good and he’s everything I need! Beautiful to see you standing on his WORD. Yes Lord! We need more young people being an example of Christ according to his will and not our own Thank you Lord ❤️🙏🏼

[@nanetteturner619]

Excellent greatly spoken God is using you this is me Thank you Jesus for using this young woman. AMEN

[@dinobichukwuvictoria5934]

Nigerian's need to watch this podcast

[@CassandreAman]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bukolafulani]

You’re mean for this 🤣😭🤣. But, loud it for the people at the back.

[@BukolaOKEOWO-tj6wx]

😂😂😂

[@andilemnyandu6067]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🔥

[@odeyemipelumi6296]

Lol as a Nigerian, this hit home! Try convincing our parents😅

[@alonatink24]

I needed this so bad. I also jsit came to this realization and still reeling from my false idolization. Thank you for explaining!

[@Ms.chelsea1811]

This honestly blessed me because when I tell people I am waiting on the Lord they always hit me with that line. Nobody is perfect and I just said recently this needs to be used and it’s proper perspective Paul status specifically if you’d be like me and be single you worry about the cares of the Lord While the desire of marriage is in my heart. If it never happens, I know the Lord has me and my purpose and what he’s called me to do.

[@AffirmedBeauty]

This was so needed. I desire marriage. And I pray it’s God’s will.

[@kuzikay1984]

This is so good! I needed this message as a woman in her late 20s who desires marriage but I should not idolize it. God will reveal to my husband that I am his wife and it is not my responsibility to seek him out 👏🏽

[@King_Kassie]

😮‍💨 this was very much needed. I’ve watched a few videos on this topic but this is by far the best. I’ve definitely been living in desperation and idolising marriage/family and although I realised this, I didn’t know what to do about it. Thank you so much for this. Also, love your hair and that red on you.

[@nappilyeveresther]

I gotta be the one lol 🤭 I pursued my husband initially, he reciprocated and led from there on. He leads us both through the Most High and has brought me closer to Him & scripture. Great points though!

[@emem1828]

That’s part of her point! It’s unique and personal. I love hearing/seeing different perspectives and knowing there isn’t only one way and if it doesn’t happen we are still ok!

[@ryliedoesnails]

this is such a valuable message to me. something i needed to hear for so long!! thank you for posting this and what you've done for all the young 20-somethings (like me) who believe they were missing something.

[@camillemanuela]

This was so eye opening🙌🏾 God bless you girl ❤️❤️

[@EbonyMzila]

God will provide for me where I am. AMEN ❤✨

[@Golf2foto]

I always had a weird relationship with marriage as a child of divorce . Oscillating between idolizing it and telling myself that I don’t need it. I knew all of the principles that you mentioned and didn’t find them helpful. However, I just had this revelation of another principle that was eye opening and feel might be helpful to women struggling with idolizing marriage: Matthew 18:20. "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, I am there among them.“ Being married to a follower of Christ gives you a close prayer partner and thus enables you to be more effective in seeking and following God‘s will!!!

[@harrisq]

As a man I believe that the 3 most important decisions you can make is 1. Choose a master ( your God) 2. Choose your mate 3. Choose your purpose We are not meant to be alone in this world. We are meant to be married, have children and serve our community through the gifts God has given us. A man doesn’t know everything and neither does a woman. You get married to have someone to balance your thinking and most importantly display Godly love and to have children to expand God’s kingdom. We need more Godly people to bring more people to the Lord. Love the video sister in Christ…keep them coming

[@jasminealexia]

Have not watched just yet but the title is what made me click. What determines the difference between idolizing or just having a natural desire for? For me, I know that the Bible says it’s not good for man to be alone. That Adam needed a help mate. The Bible says that two is better than one, and it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Those scriptures just off the top of my head tells me that marriage is a good thing! That said, I believe that marriage can definitely be idolized! If it takes up most of your time, if you’re putting yourself and others into compromising positions to get to that goal of marriage, if you’re settling for the person that’s taking you away from God, etc. but the persons who have a genuine desire for marriage just like you would have for perhaps a new car or to be able to afford healthier groceries or a healthier lifestyle, I don’t think that’s particularly a bad thing, in fact, it’s taken a lot of us a long time to get to a place where we recognize that we desire a life partner. I think it’s important to know yourself and what you truly want in order to receive that. I know people who say I’ll never marry again and that has been their reality. I know people who complain about there being no good men and that’s all they tend to attract or allow into their lives. I think having a HEALTHY desire for the life partner is okay. God saw that Adam was lonely and wanted someone and so it was done for him. I think the best things we can do as singles is enrich our own lives and get ready as much as possible whilst not idolizing. I do believe that the enemy is against kingdom marriage. Why wouldn’t he attack that? So we should continue to pray and fast if lead to and have faith with our works if we are to win the battle!

[@bjoneswhite306]

Love this so much ❤. Please keep speaking on the truth of the Lord. Amen to you my sis in Christ. Now I wouldn’t say that we have “soulmates” perhaps ordained spouse, but you have to understand this God has already planned our lives out way before we were even thought of by our parents before we were in the womb. Jeremiah 29:11 (as we all know) and Psalms 139:16-17… save time on writing I won’t put it here but basically the Lord has already written our lives out and it’s up to us to follow that and sadly some people don’t because we do have freewill. So this tells us that while God formed you he had your husband in mind too. He knows who you were or going to be with in the future. And this also goes for any relationship you form or people you connect with. Everything we do isn’t about us. When God tells us to do something or go somewhere you ever notice that someone else is blessed because of your obedience or vise versa. Both you were on the Lords appointed time/ ordained time. As you read your word you see that our Lord is in the details and very precise. Jesus didn’t just say “Oh let me find your husband today” 😂 NO! He has already been created and design for your life specifically. Hopefully I made sense to you all. Edit: yes you don’t have to find your husband because when you are living on the Lords plan and walking that life with Him you are already in alignment so eventually you are going to bump right into that man He had for you the whole time. AMEN AMEN HALLELUJAH!!! So yep I agreee I don’t listen to how to find a man only thing we need to do is how to prepare to be a wife that’s it 😂

[@tishalou8591]

The change is refreshing. To see God re-grab his children from the world. I've watched you before and I'll watch you now. You've always had His wisdom even though you fought against it. 🖤🖤 He was leading you to minister to young women. 🙏🏿

[@staceyregina9936]

I love Everything you have said. You have really blessed me.

[@crystalsimon8860]

I can honestly say, this has been the best video I’ve heard yet on this topic! Thank you!!

[@biancarowena9040]

Such a good message! Thank you. After getting divorced after a 20 year marriage I was thrown for a loop, looking to replace what I had. But I am so content now, after 4 years, and your message is right on point. It can be hard to get there, but being in the will of God, seeking Him, living in peace, that’s what is God’s will for every woman. The rest, if He thinks we need it, He will provide ❤

[@Power-SekaniSeven]

Wow just wow it's such a hard pill to swallow but gosh! It was highly needed. May the Lord keep you Sis

[@CharityRaelin13]

This is what I needed to hear! Amen 🙏🏾

[@lowkey_babe77]

OH. MY. GOSH. You are PREAAAACHING!!!! Thank you for being obedient to God and speaking on this topic because, phewwww gurrrrl, SO many points were made😮‍💨

[@Coolct]

So guilty of trying “ to help “ God especially since I’m over 30… the dating going out look in cute scene is exhausting….😮

[@nadia___]

Thank you so much for your podcast may the lord keep guiding you in his endless ways and protect you Amani

[@user-xt9yc1gq4d]

"Whatever you get by your own strength...you keep by your own strength. How exhausting!" GIRL. I needed to hear this. I'm not even that assertive but I've always been the one to initiate/ask guys out...all so I could say "hey, at least I'm putting myself out there. At least I'm trying!" I.E., if I don't do it, nobody else will. It's honestly a relief to hear I can just be a woman and trust God. Good lesson to learn. :)

[@tarae4626]

This is such a good Bible teaching. Thank you!

[@danalampkin5589]

Thank you for this! Thank you God for this message and the clarity within the message!!

[@Yaajennifer_]

this is soo good ! God bless you for sharing this with us ! 🥺

[@AllBoutNaturalBeauty]

Honeslty some of the things you said in this video felt deep in my soul!! Needed this thank you!

[@DoNotFeedTheAnimals]

I love this! As Christian women, we really need to also take this perspective into great consideration like we do the other. Thank you.

[@cassandragrayes6149]

Im only a few minutes in and sis, I feel so convicted of idolizing marriage. Lord help me. I’ve been praying about this the last few days.

[@supermommy2717]

This was a word I didn’t know I needed, thank you Sis for this 🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@Just_Kamoni]

When I tell YOOU, you checked me in the way I desperately needed to be checked. 💕💖💕✝️ THANK YOU for making this video

[@jasminetv8k]

Paul is my favorite writer !!! I also think 1 Corinthians changed my life. That’s when I got SERIOUS about reading the Bible ! I just finished reading Hebrews as well. Extremely good book !

[@AsiaDumas]

God delivered me from that, so thankful 💜

[@Kadywady32]

Very profoundly knowledgeable! Praise God! Thank you for using scriptures as examples!

[@LovelyLenish]

I put this video in watch later and forgot to come back to it. Last week I stumbled upon 1 Corinthians 7 and it freed me! Had I have watched this video, it would have freed me long ago.

[@avanoelle5333]

I need to stop idolizing marriage. Thank you for this video. You are so strong I honestly don’t know how single Christian women do it. It’s beautiful. I’m gonna be vulnerable but with the way my life has been since a young age I burn for desire and passion so much. Being celibate has been the hardest thing for me. I crave a husband and a head of me to lead me and tell me what to do in my life. But I know God is the priority. I have to focus on him.

[@Matshepo_Pearl]

6:18 here’s to finding God. Thank you Sis, God was loud in this video heard every word ❤

[@faizanganso8199]

Amen, thank you my dear. God bless you. Amazinggggggg! Please don’t do it yourself. God, I’m giving it allllll to you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 have your way Jesus.

[@crystals6337]

🔥 message! I am led by the Lord to put this in your comment section, because people will take literal what you said regarding not making a first move towards your (God ordained Husband) We have to remember to never place God in a box on how he does things. If the Lord leads you to reach out to a person first please be obedient. No where in scripture says that a woman shouldn’t approach a man first. Again, this is at the Lord’s leading regarding the marriage he has for you. Not everyone marriage story will be linear.

[@abigiasamson3685]

I needed this, PREACH🗣🙌🏽✨!!! God bless you abundantly sis❤.

[@ivanaowona9146]

I am so free now that I look back and see that without the social pressure, I would have never had all the heartbreaks I have been through. I used to have crushes, tell them feelings, pursue them ... Lately I have let a man cross my boundaries because I thought he was different and marriage was soon to come. When it ended it made me realise that if I am willing to let a man cross a few boundaries because I am hoping marriage is coming, I am desperate and not ready at all ! God will never give you anything if your heart is not ready. I thought my self worth was on point but when it came to the practice and the test, I failed. God exposed that I was still desperate for a man to marry me. Now I am done with the desperation.

[@almaducatel5830]

We all need to hear this sis. Thanks.🙏

[@ijeomauwakwe8936]

I’m glad to see young ladies ready like this. I don’t know why, I’ve never idolized it. I believe it’s a beautiful thing but it also a calling to serve. Ppl just over romanticize it n not see the main purpose.

[@courtneycurvezbell2564]

Amani your spiritual growth is awesome

[@Thehatianbaddiie]

Wow girl God is using you ,this has truly blessed me❤️

[@sorayaoruyamd]

Girrrlllllll, this is sooo goood! Thank you! God bless you, this message will help SO MANY people ❤️🫶🏾👏🏾

[@QueenVashhh]

I so glad that you are sharing the things that many women today re afraid to say. The showing up to church to see the guys that are there hit me.