The Idolatry of Marriage

[@WonderfulActs]

“If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple." - Luke 14:26

[@CCCC-fp5gw]

Recently my pastor read this verse and he said: it may feel like a loss at first and then may much more in the form of spiritual mothers, children friendships etc and I have felt better about this verse since.

[@reneeemigree9004]

Love this verse. ✅

[@mixielaoye7390]

Great video, but please be careful when making public videos that you compare Bible versions to get the better meaning and understanding of a Bible verse. 36:05 you mention Luke 14:26 and indeed the word "hate" is used in a lot of Bible versions. However, we know it's impossible for Jesus to instruct us to hate our parents because one of the 10 commandments literally mentions that we should honour our father and mother that it might be well with us and we may live long. 1John 3:15 says : "All who hate are murderers, and you know that murderers have not got eternal life in them. " So how can Jesus who gives us eternal life contradict the Word by telling us to hate our parents? This is why Bible study with at least 3 different versions (1 of the 3 should preferably be AMP) is very important, or we will look like people who serve a God who contradicts Himself. Please note, that the word "hate" Jesus uses in Luke 14:26 is actually "to love less than", not actual hatred. if you read that verse in AMP or GNBUK version it says : we cannot be Jesus' disciples unless we love Christ MORE than we love our family and our own lives. This correction comes from a place of love my sister❤

[@samlewis6615]

​@@mixielaoye7390Thank you for this ❤

[@randomCHELdad]

@@mixielaoye7390 Ecc 8:4 Where the word of a king is, there is power: and who may say unto him, What doest thou? One true God, one true Word of God, one true word.

[@mrenae6798]

As a single Christian woman it has been EXHAUSTING in my own personal struggles with desiring marriage and having to wait or possibly remain single AND THEN being a part of Christian culture that seems to idolize marriage. On one hand us singles are told not to idolize marriage, etc etc., but all while we are constantly bombarded with sermon illustrations, ministries, jokes, and just the overall elevation of marriage within the church. Married peoole often get plugged in easier at church, recognized, and admonished for "being fruitful" and at least attempting to multiply lol I wish there were more leaders that would bring to light the actual benefits of being single and preach on ways to help singles stay away from things like porn, masturbation, and getting involved in toxic relationships, all while waiting and trying to follow Christ.

[@werringertonney7489]

Baby marriage is HARDDDDDD. I get how you feel because I felt the same way. After 10 years, it’s been very taxing and emotionally exhausting at times BUT God. We are better but there is so much pain in it. Seriously. Not abuse! But growing together can be painful.

[@PhoenixYah]

You spoke the whole Truth I pray Jesus Christ Yeshua God touch your heart mind body and soul by the holy blood of the Lamb. I've been on both sides and it is difficult because the enemy hates marriage and the enemy hates Godly singles so attacks come from all sides and even the church. The more we focus on God and his Son the better we are able to cope and be at peace even during the extreme struggles. Trust the Lord Jesus is able be still praise him and glorify Him. He will be there even if he feels far from you seek His Face in struggle and in joy.

[@PhoenixYah]

I've struggled with the very issues you've spoken of and He can deliver you even when you battle your own flesh because it wants what we don't need.

[@DarkArwen929]

The reason there are so many sermons on marriage is because so many married persons are struggling. So so so much struggle. Then you realize your spouse will never fill the desire you have within you. Christ and Christ alone satisfies. You have all you need right now.

[@kakashi_hatake2364]

@@werringertonney7489 nobody said that marriage wasn’t difficult. That’s a valid topic. However, we’re talking about the struggles of being single. many who are married and are in the relationship, especially in Christianity, don’t put enough emphasis or dismiss the difficulty of singleness and doing things the right way. There are MANY benefits to marriage that single people aren’t able to have.

[@nnelson4557]

Excellent video. As a woman married to an amazing man of God for the past 4 years, it's a daily reminder that the purpose of marriage is to glorify God and come together in service of the kingdom. The more we put our ego to the side and allow God to show us how to act and also how to treat each other, it's wonderful. Not easy, not perfect, but wonderful because we're in alignment.

[@WonderfulActs]

being in alignment is key! thanks for sharing!

[@chickenjoe20]

Well put! ❤

[@nikyahmorgan2603]

I agree ! Amazing! 😌😊

[@derrickhahn3469]

Yes, marriage is a beautiful institution created by God. It brings God glory because it helps us to identify the relationship between Christ and His bride the CHURCH. That's why husbands are commanded to love our wives like Christ loves the church. And wives are subject to their husband's as the church is subject to Christ. If we truly understood the faithfulness of God husbands would strive to mirror this characteristic in godliness towards their wives. You can't have a good relationship with God and a horrible relationship with your spouse. You can't have an unfaithful relationship with your spouse and a faithful relationship with God. It's like the scripture says," You can't hate your brother who you see, but love God whom you have not seen." A pure and right relationship with God leads to a pure and right marriage with your spouse. For Life! As husbands we are also brides spiritually to Christ and therefore should understand the Scriptures so that we are leading our wives in modesty, virtue, righteousness and holiness. For the Lord is coming back for a bride without spot or wrinkle. And the bride is making herself ready for His return. This is why marriages are being destroyed. Satan hates marriage and what it represents. I wouldn't say marriage is an idol, but if you love your spouse more than The Lord then yes you have made them your idol. And God is a jealous God. I'm currently separated from my wife, but I was telling our kids I'm fighting for my wife and standing for reconciliation. I'm not married to that body, but to the one that inhabits it. I've gone past the physical connection to a much deeper spiritual connection. The TWO shall become ONE. I wish I was this man sooner, but growing up religious I thought I was saved though I was a gold medal sinner all of my teen and adult life. Thank God that godly sorrow led to my repentance and turning from sin to Him. Now I have a new mind in Christ Jesus and pray for restoration of my marriage. Until then I have a bridegroom in Jesus whom I'll serve without quitting or turning back. Many people love to speak on divorce and I understand in this world we can't control others. But I can relate to Paul so if she doesn't return I'm free to focus on just serving the Lord and presenting my body a living sacrifice holy and acceptable unto Him. And this will not cease when she returns.This pain and suffering He allowed has helped me put to death the lust of my flesh, eyes and the pride of life. There is truly freedom in Christ. Sorry to leave such a long comment, but I want to encourage all to stand for your marriage and search the Holy scriptures and DO what it says and not only your marriage, but your life will be blessed if you are being conformed into the image of Christ so that you may be a light in this dark world. Take care and much love to you all!

[@user-cu3xn4xj3i]

ABSOLUTELY! I know people that are still trying to figure out why me and my husband don't argue and fight LIKE THEY DO in theirmarriage. I'm still told that I will get tired of my husband 😂😂😂😂they say things like this about their husband "I wish he would go somewhere" I'm not saying we've never disagree with each other but WE PUT GOD FIRST. We still enjoy and are thankful to God we are together. Our marriage is to glorify God.❤❤

[@nonnieJ94]

For those of you that are a little apprehensive about the video.. I think the lesson/message here was that don’t let your desires rule your life or your relationship with God. Your walk with Jesus is more important than any earthly desire we have. When our desires become idols we become disobedient to God, willing to bend our convictions, and make decisions solely based on acquiring the desire.

[@WonderfulActs]

Amen. Well said. Thank you!

[@seekinghimdaily92]

I’m actually shocked that this comment section is giving so much pushback. It really shows the level of insecurity and immaturity of a lot of the people who heard the message as a way to prevent people for getting something they only THINK they are ready for. There is more to marriage than simple companionship, more to parenthood than just having a baby. Many of these people are NOT ready.

[@swebilbo]

Gret that we have alternatives to christianity then...

[@machtnichtsseimann]

@@seekinghimdaily92- Yes and No. Where people are truly convicted by the Spirit, your point is valid. Where people ( like me ) wonder where exactly a marriage "goes too far" or where one thinks about one's partner/marriage "more than God". Is deep passion, great romance, abundant sex with one's partner then judged as "idolatrous"? Then, no, I disagree with your point that anyone who asks such questions "really shows the level of insecurity and immaturity" in questions for clarity. I was taught that a husband is to love his wife like Christ loved the Church, i.e. He even went to the point of great suffering and death! LoL. It seems here that if a man did that, he'd be judged as being "idolatrous". See what I mean? There are good questions to get greater clarity, pushback, etc.

[@WonderfulActs]

@@machtnichtsseimannhello! Thanks for your comment. If your intention is to clarify, then let me clarify (even though I thought it was clear in the video)… I mention Song of Solomon. I say the Bible is full of romance. I am not judging anyone for idolatry. I am not the Judge. There is one judge and He is God. This message is shining the light of God’s word to expose our hearts. I never said a husband who lays down his life for his bride is idolatrous. In fact, I actually quoted that Bible verse!a husband loving his wife sacrificially is a beautiful picture of Christ loving His bride. This video is not a judgement on anyone . “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 If anyone watching this experiences conviction, I encourage them to bring those thoughts/feelings to Jesus and let Him examine their heart. Grace, love and peace 🤍

[@HH-qq1bs]

I have made marriage an idol in my life and i truly repent of this in Jesus name. Thank you for this great message. May God continue to bless you.

[@WonderfulActs]

❤️🤗🤗🤗

[@Shadeena13]

My great-grandmother, she's not my actual great-grandmother but my great-aunt. We all called her our grandmother because she's the one we grew up with. She was never married or in a relationship. She used to say her husband is God and she has us for kids (5 grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren). Till this day I have not seen a woman live for The Most High like she did, her entire life revolved around him. She lived a long happy and healthy life until 107 years old. She's the one who made me understand a man is not needed to be whole. As long as God is with us, it is possible to feel whole and loved

[@WonderfulActs]

such a wonderful testimony! wow! thank you for sharing

[@BrotherB1ackHeartSavage]

Beautiful story

[@psb.shakira]

My great grandmother (who ironically i did not live with being that she is in Dominican Republic) is that for me. She is 99 and kicking🦵🏽. I am so elated to see that yours was also blessed with long years! Praise be to God! ❤ Your great-grandma is right, we just need God (:

[@r.walker7986]

A nun without a habit.

[@YaraLavreniuk]

How did she got u y'all then if there was no man, yeah, write more

[@laurenbraidsofficial]

I dont really mind being unmarried, but why am I tortured with the desires of marriage and children. Why cant I just not want it? I am exhausted from the internal war and the pain of it all.

[@r.walker7986]

why would you want to not want it? What are you actually doing to make your dreams realities, it takes more than prayer...

[@msliberated3899]

Ask him to take the desire away, you may have to cry out daily for this, then ask him to align your desires with his kingdom desires. He hears you and loves you more than any one on earth. He is the best husband ever❤As your kingdom minded focus and centered, Yah will either give you peace in your singlehood while you await or bring the ordained spouse for you. Trust you don’t want nothing less than Yahs best, anything else is a mess. A nightmare😩Marriage isn’t the process you want to rush. I believe church’s need divorce ministry to monthly reach and teach and discuss the tragedy, red flags and precautions of rushing marriage or the honest truth of marriage. Blessings ❤

[@JordanCantFight]

Because you most likely veiw Marriage and Children as an object. No different then wanting a car, wanting fancy stuff, big house, wealth, ect. The only difference is that the bible actually says marriage and family are good. So we take something thats holy and sacred and turn it into an idol. We dont actually truly want marriage, we want romance/lust, we want the idea of love because its a rush for us humans. When humans are in love, it has the same psychological affect that cocaine has on the brain. We also tend to see children as pets, Like they are cute little creatures that are there for our desires and pleasures. In realtor, the harsh truth is, marriage is freaking hard, once ur in it there is no going back, and once the honeymoon phase passes thats when you and ur partners true colors come out. 2 having children is even harder. Sometimes we think of children as mini us, but they are only half of us. They are half of another human being as well. Who will eventually grow up to become their own human being. Once you have children. You must sacrifice your life in order to raise them right. So please consider how hard these things are. There is a reason why the bible says its better to remain single.

[@NameiEnnie]

​@@msliberated3899thank God for you Actually acknowledging the difficulty and providing an actual solution. Prayer Thank God you acknowledge how painful it is to desire something and not get it.

[@afrofaeries]

@@JordanCantFightYou just healed something in me when I read this, God bless you❤

[@oophelia46]

Great video. Once I stopped idolizing marriage, then God sent me my husband 25 years ago. Putting God first takes so much stress off my expectations for my spouse, and our marriage!

[@Vlindertjeab]

Amen!!

[@MelissaLona]

How do you stop idolizing it? I had a normal healthy desire for marriage for a while, it didn’t become an idol until it just started taking forever to happen. It’s like hunger. Yea you can eat a little something but what happens when you don’t eat in days and now you are starving and people tell you to stop starving. I wouldn’t be starving if I was fed when I just wanted a little something to eat. I hope that made sense. How do you stop idolizing marriage when a healthy desire at 3 years single becomes an unhealthy desire at 10 years single. What happens when you’ve prayed, fasted, did therapy, serve God, still serving God and you still have to do life alone. What happens when your friends or family members that didn’t do it God’s way is celebrating 10, 12, and 15 years of marriage and you are still single. How do you tell that person to stop idolizing marriage as if they’ve always idolized it? Most people idolize it when a healthy desire go on for sooooo long.

[@divinedianec3170]

@@MelissaLona Like many of us we want to be married or have kids which is normal. However, when you start overthinking just like many women who have wedding dresses inside of there house, and still single that when the idolization begins. Yet, they have not build a personal relationship or even got saved to Jesus Christ.

[@MelissaLona]

@ yea buying a wedding dress and you’re not even in relationship is a level of insanity

[@BlissfulMartini]

This is my first time here and I loved everything you presented! I had a moment in my mid 20s where I looked around at my life and realized I wasn’t where I THOUGHT I should be. I remember saying I wanted to be married with 2 kids by 25. I had neither a house or a husband and no kids at 26, and part of me felt behind because a lot of my peers were in that exact place in their lives. Fast forward a little bit and I was sitting one day, again, thinking about where I was in life and feeling like nothing had changed. I said a prayer that was something along the lines of, “God, whatever you have for me will be for me, and that’s what I want. If I am to be married, I’ll be married. If I am to have kids, I’ll have them. If I’m not to be married or have kids, I’m okay with that too. Help me to be at peace with whatever Your plan is for me.” And I left it at that. Another 2 or so years later I met a man, who is now my husband. We got married in August 2023. He has a son from a previous relationship and I am learning to be a step mom and I feel content with everything. God’s plans for us most of the time will NOT look like what we envision our lives to look like. We have to be careful not to miss out on what He has done us because it’s not what we think it should be. ❤

[@meagan.phillip]

The way you described my life is scary accurate. Currently almost 27 and still waiting for what’s meant for me. Recently instead of asking God to reveal my husband to me I’m asking him to reveal the kind of WIFE I’m meant to be. Seeking Him first and changing my approach to prayer has given me hope❤

[@gizzellemcleish1837]

I'm glad I read your comment, because I am right where you were. 26, unmarried and childless, and feeling like I'm being left behind. Your comment touched something in me and that prayer is exactly what I need to be praying right now. God bless you and your family.

[@crystalclearwords]

This was so good and something that not enough people teach on. The Holy Spirit checked me about 3 months ago and told me that I had made idols of my marriage and husband. My spirit was so grieved because I assumed that I was honoring God by honoring my husband, but instead I had raised an altar to my marriage. In fact, I had made idols of pleasing people period, which led me deep into perfectionism and frustration as a result of never being able to be perfect. In His love and mercy, God really began removing the scales from my eyes, and He just comforted me and corrected me like only He can. For the first time ever, I truly learning that God is really more than enough, and He's so worthy of our praise and devotion.

[@WonderfulActs]

amen!

[@hiyori2846]

Wowww, this gets me thinking. I see a lot of videos of women talking about serving your husbands and what a wife is supposed to be, and that is not bad at all, but now that I’ve seen this comment it makes me wonder…how many women are actually preaching from a place of perfectionism and people pleasing cause I think you can actually be a people pleaser towards your husband as well.

[@crystalclearwords]

@@hiyori2846 Absolutely. We are to serve God and GOD ONLY. Now, as wives, we have been instructed to submit to our husbands; we have certain responsibilities in the martial union. However, we do our work (not just in marriage, but in everything) as unto the Lord. We put our trust in God, the Creator, and not in the creations. We must love God, our Provider, more than we love what He provides. Our worship belongs to God alone. I have learned, from experience, that when we put anything or anyone in God's place, He will remove that thing or person so that He is put back in His rightful place.

[@SueHerr]

​@@WonderfulActs I think what the OP said is very interesting. There is alot of content out there of how women are to behave and be in a marriage. I watch them to prepare for marriage. I'm single and have never been married. But I think it would be helpful to make a video, from a married woman's perspective, of how marriage can be an idol and what that looks like in a marriage. How do you know when you're crossing a line between loving your spouse and wanting to please them to marriage being an idol? Just an idea!

[@matthewashman1406]

Yes wives honour your husband

[@zarinahelizabeth]

This ministered to me as a widow coming up on the anniversary of my husband's death as well as his birthday, I've had a longing for marriage and the covering of marriage. I've felt overwhelmed, lonely, scared even at times. But this reminded me that the covering that I was seeking in man, in marriage in my husband and even considering trying to date again just so that I can have that experience again is really something that I need to be seeking in Jesus himself because He is the covering, the protection, the love and the piece/peace that I am seeking. Thank you for sharing this.

[@huelaura4691]

Thank you for sharing this. Because I've been searching for this in a man for so long and I see now it isn't in a man but in Jesus Thank you for your testimony❤

[@zarinahelizabeth]

@@huelaura4691 Amen. God bless you ♥️

[@huelaura4691]

@zarinahelizabeth9853 God bless you too in Jesus name ❤️

[@Berurot]

Amen. I am reading this as a young single woman. And this is my prayer too.

[@zarinahelizabeth]

@@Berurot ♥️🙌🏾

[@crystalclearwords]

Leah was so loved by God that God brought Judah forth from her, and as we know King David descends from the tribe of Judah, and, of course, ultimately our true King, Jesus descends from this tribe. This just lets us know how much God loves us and how His love for us cancels out every scar, wound, transgression, and anything else that pains us. Christ is truly the perfect husband.

[@WonderfulActs]

YES!

[@Thepisceangem]

I’m 20 and have been idolizing marriage lately, mainly because I don’t think it’ll ever happen for me, then this video pops up at the top of my feed. God is hilarious. Thank you for your obedience

[@crystalclearwords]

20 is so young, love; please don't rush anything. I have children your age, and one of the things I always tell them is to be selfish early on and just enjoy the time with you and GOD ALONE. There will be plenty of time for marriage, children, and the works. To whom much is given much is required. Enjoy not having all those extra requirements right now. This is the perfect time for you to know God fully and fall in love with Him so that you don't settle for anyone who isn't madly in love with God as well. Be blessed, hun.

[@Thepisceangem]

@@crystalclearwords Thank you for the reassurance and wise counsel. 💕

[@WonderfulActs]

🥰 I love seeing the LOVE in the comments!! And I totally agree, 20 is so young!!! God is faithful, sis, just enjoy being with Him and if/when it comes- it'll come 🤗❤️

[@crystalclearwords]

@naishipae Amen. Take your time. It's not that God wants to be first in your life because He's selfish; it's because He created you; He loves you, and He knows you. He knows what He has planned for you. However, when we don't know God, we tend to accept things that are not of God, and this only leads to undue stress and pain. We are to trust God with all our hearts and lean not to our own understanding; this is hard to do, though, if we don't know Him. When we know Him, we can trust Him. I'm praying for your strength in the Lord, hun. 🙏🏾❤️

[@crystalclearwords]

@@Thepisceangem You're so very welcome. Be blessed, love.

[@bessellina]

I love this. So good! I block any so called Prophets who have a video talking about. “God is about to bring your spouse” BLOCK!

[@danieltakawi9919]

Don't block, but rather teach them. As the church we are meant to build one another up, not block.

[@ebonysharee]

yeah, over that Kingdom Spouse mess LOL

[@danieltakawi9919]

What do you mean by Kingdom spouse?@@ebonysharee

[@kevindavis4709]

They using Gods name in vain lying saying things God didn’t say is trouble

[@melbeth79]

Really needed this. Almost 45 with a 22 year old son, engaged twice by 25 yet have never been married. Stopped dating for years and became celibate and rededicated my life to the Lord. Recently I went through a situation that lasted nearly three years where I finally thought the one had come - I waited 42 years for him but it turned out to be a lie. Like your 49 yr old friend I'm beginning to ask the hard questions, one being, Lord do I even have a one? Because I don't know anymore, especially after this latest thing I waited so long for. I'd thought my idolization of marriage was over years ago but now I wonder. Not because of this video but because of what I just walked through and all it's revealed to me. But I know God is good and He's delivered me through so much and if it's His will to have me single for life, then I know He'll make a way and provide. Through many hard situations He's never allowed my son and I to become homeless even when it looked like we would. Unfortunately the church can kind of idolize marriage too and when I became a single parent at age 22 I know what it's like to have people try to push it on you, or ask years later if you're married before even asking how you're doing as a person. Just know if you're over 35 or 40 and not married, you're more than a marital status, you're a person made in the image of God. These types of reactions from people make us feel less adult, less womanly and generally less worthy than our married counterparts but we're not. I had to walk through forgiving these people for some of their reactions as well. Again, thank you for posting. Was definitely meant to come into my feed today as I'm not even a subscriber but after this I probably will be.

[@WonderfulActs]

thank you for being here and sharing your story... God works everything out for good in our end.. even the things we don't understand or thought was lost/broken.... God is faithful until the end. Love you, friend!

[@melbeth79]

@@WonderfulActs Thank you, that means a lot.

[@kodwat2134]

Thank you for sharing this. What also annoys me is that even in churches and some Christian influencers, marriage is preached more than teaching people how to seek the kingdom of God and His righteousness. Teaching about marriage is important, but I think teaching about ‘walking as dearly loved children, walking wisely redeeming the time, walking in love’ (married or not) can build our faith in the Lord.

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

​@kodwat2134 so true... I avoid those kingdom marriage videos. They feed the obsession about marriage. Sadly, done by Christians and the church.

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

It's like you sharing my life.... I am single mom, same age as you. Our children are same age. Only now I'm accepting it may never happen. But I pray my son becomes a great husband to his future wife.

[@estheri5944]

As a 28 year old woman who is currently longing for marriage, all I would say is loneliness is real, the need for love, affection and connection is real, the need for sexual intimacy is also real. I think it’s easy for some people to say just wait but the waiting gets lonely. I have girlfriends by the way but my friends will never be able to fill the void a romantic partner can.

[@laurenbraidsofficial]

im right there with you

[@WonderfulActs]

“And it shall be, in that day,” Says the LORD, “That you will call Me ‘My Husband,’ And no longer call Me ‘My Master,’ - Hosea 2:16

[@godislove1602]

Thank you for this amazing revelation and reminder. I went through a season to find out that the LORD is my Maker & HUSBAND 🙌🏽❤

[@Pickedpurposely]

From a married woman who got a reality check once married , I thank you for this 🥰🙏🏾 I posted my testimony in the comments concerning this .

[@keelhe893]

This scripture right here was a major paradigm shift for me 🥲

[@allayziacruz]

You have no idea how God just used this to deliver me. I prayed before watching bc I knew it was important for me to watch. Seeking confirmation on this but I might be someone who’s been called to life of singleness. I feel nothing but peace, it’s a miracle. Thank you.

[@allayziacruz]

I know it is not me who put singleness on my heart. I am so excited. He gave me grace to receive this.

[@DovesDescent]

Careful, test the spirits. There may be a man right in front of you and you just cannot see him because of lie. We can become blinded, I was blind at one time and missed a great gal, it was to my loss. I am strong now again, and you know what? I will not miss that opportunity again, I will not reject such a great woman again.

[@786valerie]

This was a good video. Difficult to hear but much needed…I question if accepting my singleness is accepting God’s will or is a lack faith or patience that I will be married one day. I have prayed that God removes the desire for marriage if it isn’t in His will. And I also question why God would place a desire on my heart if it wasn’t in His will. It’s a constant struggle. But I am grateful that I can pray to God and ask Him for comfort. And I am grateful for the scriptures you shared today. Praying for all the other women longing for marriage and children that we accept that God’s Grace is enough to fulfill those desires.

[@courtr1588]

I'm glad that you ask Him for comfort. Please keep talking to Him. And don't stop sharing your story, either. I wish you the best. May His will for your life be done! These scriptures may or may not be helpful for you: "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" Jeremiah 17:9 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” Mark 9:24

[@Rachel-nb2vn]

@@RachelNichols-writer What in the world? You're not useless just because you're not married or dont have kids. Paul said it is better to be single. Also just think about how many people you can serve! There is more to life!!

[@ChrystelMane]

​​@@RachelNichols-writerit' will be done to you according to your faith. so, If you think that you are a failure, then , you are a failure and you are looking down on the sacrifice of JESUS-CHRIST Marriage is not the goal of life

[@themoviereviewwarriors939]

You prayed that God remove the desire for marriage?

[@786valerie]

@@themoviereviewwarriors939 if it isn’t in his will for me. Basically I prayed that I would desire what God’s will is and not my own desire.

[@breesty4229]

A problem I see that’s not discussed is how do we feel the love of God? If it’s really true that his love is greater, why am I on my knees begging him to remove my desire for marriage and trying to feel his presence?!?!? I feel nothing while reading scripture, nor during worship. I just want him to talk to me and I only get radio silence. 😡😡😡😡 it doesn’t help that all these churches make long standing ovations anytime someone gets engaged, marries, or has another kid. Where’s the ovation for the people honoring God in singleness for decades?? All these people say singleness is just as good as marriage (or better) but they sure don’t believe it. All these churches, offer marriage counseling groups, marriage fellowship nights, free childcare, but when you ask about singles group they’re like “huh? Nah we don’t need that”.

[@RachelNichols-writer]

You are spot on about the inconsistencies. The 21st century church needs an attitude adjustment regarding its views on both celibacy and marriage. For starters we should say "celibate" instead of single because the latter has been co-opted by the world to apply to ungodly lifestyles. Those who are single but not celibate should be told to repent. Married people should stay married. There are ways celibates could serve God better than their married counterparts, but churches don't offer them opportunities to do so.

[@corishim629]

Read Job. It won't change your situation, but God's response at the end may help you ❤️

[@yurmyinspiration]

I been praying and asking God to remove my desire for marriage but he hasn't 😭 your right and spot on with what you said I truly agree!

[@shavonhall9855]

I have NEVER NEVER cried so much watching anything, ever. I have idolized this very thing and this has been confirmation amongst many other confirmations this week. God is leading me to go into relationship/marriage with Him. I woke up so uneasy I’ve been in my prayer room since 7:01 it is now 12:14! And the Holy Spirit has lead me into truth and confirmation with this very thing I’ve been struggling with my entire life! My Lord, I hear you I wholeheartedly want to be obedient to what you are calling me out of and into. Search me o God! and know my heart and my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you and lead me along the path of everlasting life (Psalms 139:23-24) Let me worship you Lord and let me not desire being married more than desiring your love Lord.

[@WonderfulActs]

Awww sis!!!! I love this!!! Praise God for your heart of surrender!!! May the Lord give you your heart's desires and draw you back to Him in the secret place. Love you!!! Thanks for being here. 💜

[@kizzy7562]

The timing of this video...God is speaking. Thanks for your obedience as always!

[@jesuschristdiedtosavesinne4420]

For a moment I thought you were going to expose the idolatry of weddings that spend tons of money and the vanity behind it. Praise the LORD for ALL the Scripture you shared.

[@furrymonkeything]

This too. People get way to mushy about the wedding, what about after?

[@lowkey_babe77]

It’s not a faith based video but this one perfectly discusses the hyper fixation on weddings - kzbin.info/www/bejne/bmHWpnl3lLd9htEfeature=shared

[@ondreatorrence4322]

This is a great video. I recently let go of my plans for my life (to get married), and I've embraced gods plan, and i thinkcthats long term singleness. And i have peace. This video would be hard to listen to if i was still in the throws of bitterness. Once we get bitter, it's so hard to listen to this kind of advice. Im thankful for Gods grace in teaching me these things.

[@PoSHEmediaglobal]

I cried through out this video 😢 Thank u for this I have turned my back on God cos of the issue of marriage and singleness

[@jjbnj4]

As someone who has been struggling with idolatry this is so good though my idol was not marriage I found this video to be very useful to me I am watching it for the second time and I had never really read Hosea and went ahead and read it after watching your video and it was the reality check I needed. God is letting us know he was the one who covered them, took good care of them and they went and served something that yields no blessings or salvation so God goes ahead and shows them that the idols will never be enough. It’s like Romans chapter 1 when God gives them over to their Lusts, it’s like he is saying if that’s what you love more than me then I will let it consume you and eat you whole. Truly powerful!!! I have been forced the past couple of weeks to have honest conversations with God on why I have relied on things that have hurt me more than helped me and slowly but surely I am being released from these strongholds. Thank you so much for this video I really needed it and will be coming back to it often.

[@WonderfulActs]

Girl, Hosea will take you out!! God is so good! Thanks for watching, sis!

[@catholicfemininity2126]

This is definitely a thing in society... and I definitely struggled with this my whole life and just realizing it lately. That's why I hear about people saying "you meet someone when you least expect it" even though I think it's nonsense, it's true that you have to be happy being single, you can't expect marriage to rescue you from your problems. You're just going to bring problems into your marriage and pass it to your kids.

[@furrymonkeything]

Thank you for this. I married twice. Both times looking back I can see they were for the wrong reasons. I agree with you the single life is better. All my friends who are married currently in the year 2024 are inundated with the busy busy life. Endless children's entertainment and a full time job. They desperately try to keep up appearances , some don't even bother. It's maddening. A question was asked of single women particularly, on Facebook, and what it was like being single. The over riding message is that their lives were peaceful. These responses weren't the feminist independent woman. Just women who after a while realised they were ok. Their lives were not troubled. I am currently alone, but I'm not lonely. I miss the intimacy of a lover, but realise these desires are natural. I am committed to Christ. My circumstance will only change if he says so. It ent worth it. It is rough out there.

[@georgecasseus6893]

I rarely hear the rest of Ephesian 5. As a man I hear that a wife should submit to her husband, and they use that scripture as proof, but they leave out the rest. It’s a shame! Treating your wife how Jesus treats the church, and how loving your wife in order to love yourself is HUGE. Changes the whole idea of submission and shows that it’s working heavenly relationship.

[@TenaciousB20]

This was really good. Guilty of idolizing marriage & going through waves of discontentment of wanting marriage even while having a boyfriend. If its God’s will it will be. I truly believe because God knows I need more maturity and a deeper relationship with Him. I also know God prepares you for His assignments. Lord take all the time you need on me!. I repent God. God be bugger than my desires. Bless you Wonderful Acts 🙏🏾 for your obedience

[@raquelmacdonald8572]

Not Paul backing up the studies on why single women are happier 😂😂😂 love this segment. Great video!

[@lailas.3205]

I thought about those studies when I heard that, too 😂😂

[@JustLex98]

This is good. Because yes, my marriage has been an idol for me. I’ve been longing to please my husband so much that I kept failing. God had to check me on my actions. This has really solidified some things for me.

[@86Kera]

I can honestly say I have never struggled with the idolatry of marriage but I have struggled with negative ideas about it but this is just me being transparent. I believe this has been shaped by the idea of struggling through a marriage. However, I’m also leaning struggles will happen eventually but when you’re yoked with the wrong one this adversity and trials most times are brought on by our own actions as with any season we face. But how you laid it out makes soo much sense .

[@nicholediamond2430]

This is a wonderful video, I'm thankful how you broke everything down with scripture. As women, we are beat down and weighed down with needing to be married. We're told if you're not married, something is wrong with you. I'm so thankful for this message, such a blessing.

[@melissabx7807]

First time viewer...thank you for this video/commentary. The title alone struck a chord with me...there was a time, a season, when I didn't know that I was idolizing marriage, but I entered every relationship believing naively that it'd result in marriage. I was consumed with getting a ring, the dress, the pics, the status, the kids, the showers and gifts. And God never let it happen. And He blessed me to live and grow past it, understanding in maturity the demands and sacrifices associated with marriage. It's two real lives, not just for public appearances, but a covenant that is intended to glorify God. My ego had me pursuing self uplifting status to satisfy a deep rooted need to be loved. Believing that a man would validate me, a husband would fill in all my gaps. Not fully understanding that top spot is for God and for God only. We often say, Thank You God for the things I prayed for and never got! It took me a while to get this out of my spirit, lusting after marriage, the ceremony, the vacation pics, and all the things that feed the flesh. These kinds of teachings are important for our youth to understand first and foremost to love God and no one is supposed to come before Him. To understand that ANYTHING can be an idol. Your beauty, your lineage, your finances, your athletism, your talent, your organizations, your children, etc... Don't let Satan pervert what God has given us to humbly go through this life as pilgrim's traveling to the next life. Don't get me wrong...my heart still aches, my days/nights still get lonely, some days a really need a hug, but I am comforted even in my discomfort that God knows and God sees. Thank You Jesus!! You are enough!! Please visit these channels for understanding about the church (singular) that Jesus built Matthew 16:18: Herb Evans North Colony church of Christ Palm Beach Lakes church of Christ

[@4EVABLESSED7]

Thank you for sharing this. Although I still desire marriage and children, I understand that God's will is what's best and I trust His plan for me.

[@JahRootsRadio]

FINALLY FINALLY!!!!! I’ve been seeing this for a decade now and wondered if it was just me that sees this. Of course it’s not just me. Praise YAH for you expounding on this.

[@jdog4usmc1]

Was reading the book of Hosea yesterday and it stood out to me just happened to click on this video

[@healwithmare]

This video came right on time. Thank you so much for taking the time to find and read these scriptures to us. I really want to put my marriage back in its rightful place and not place too many expectations on my marriage. ❤

[@nicoleroncone4496]

The Lord had me studying Hosea a few days ago. This is a really great lesson!

[@WonderfulActs]

thank you! Glory to God

[@RajeyaMiller]

I am literally over here bawling my eyes out. Thank you Alyssa for your obedience to the Lord for making this video. ❤

[@lori9822]

Praise God! Thank you for your message! I never thought about idolizing marriage, but oh my, I know I have!! You are right, we will not always get the desires of our hearts, especially if it isn't aligned with His will. I still struggle with the idea of marriage and the idea of loneliness. I will continue to stay in prayer.

[@reneeemigree9004]

Video is just started, and we’ve always felt that way, especially in America. Idolatry in marriage and idolatry in children, family, pets: dogs, cats, etc. Ty for an unusual topical video, long overdue. They do not ever talk of the gift of singleness, we prefer singleness all the way. Not marriage.

[@MummybearTee]

Thank you for this. You’re a great teacher. The Holy Spirit was speaking through you. This made me cry and get upset a bit. But I trust that it’s going to be well with me. I hope to experience His love and be content with just Him and His love. All my life I have felt so unloved, majority of my life has been isolation either being abandoned by my parents, loss, being betrayed by friends or lovers, being rejected, not being chosen. Recently I’ve been going through a hard time due to unforeseen circumstances and I’ve been thinking things would be easier if I had at least one true friend, or a family member that really cared for me or a partner that actually loved me and I have been asking God to allow me to meet my kingdom spouse so I guess this was Him showing me that I was making that an idol. I just want at least one person in my life I can rely on and that loves me. I have been praying to have a revelation of His true love so it takes all the pain away and I hope He does so. Even though this was hard to watch I’m glad that I came across this video it’s taught me alot. God bless.

[@brianaroberts6342]

Your messages have been ministering to me for the past 6 years, since the first time I came across your video about God blessing you with your dream apartment. Thank you for letting God use you! This message was so spot on

[@lsob_ers1405]

Reesa Teesa basically confessed this and showed what happened to her

[@AmandaGabriel876]

So timely...I'm a young Christian who desires marriage but recently the Lord has been speaking to my heart about where I have laid my treasure. I've secretly held marriage in high esteem, making it one of my life's major goals not realizing that the satisfaction I seek can only be found in God❤ Marriage is truly honorable, but even better is remaining content if that's not the path God has for you.

[@bemytoyfriend]

Totally agree on not idolizing it before God...BUT ALSO, let's not mistake and try to eradicate that genuine heart cry and desire. I strongly believe that the desire and yearning for marriage especially, if we have it, is something from God that he wants to use to bring us to him in those deeply vulnerable parts of our being. Like, don't obsess over and put it on a pedestal before God in your life....but DO allow it to be there, get on your knees and real with God about it...put it on the altar. Careful not to mistake this God given passion for idolatry.

[@WonderfulActs]

exactly!! It is not sinful to desire marriage, but God doesn't want that desire to take place over a desire for Him. ❤️ I totally agree to be real with God! Let Him know (He already knows anyway) and lay it down again- and again- and again! Only God knows if the passion has become an idol.. we must seek Him. But I agree- the desire for marriage is not a bad thing we just gotta give it to Him.

[@veronicajata3121]

I literally started doing this this week and I thought that maybe I'm idolizing it and it's unhealthy. I do want to get married soon but I've been impatient and scared I won't get married when I want to. I just have to give it to God and be obedient ❤

[@rockkstah2550]

Marriage is about Holiness unto the LORD. And Holiness unto the LORD GOD JESUS should’ve already started while your still single and loooong before you get married…

[@ChristLF]

I think Christians have a lot of questions about marriage. Some say that we should not idolize marriage, but around me the women who are married are those who made marriage their greatest goal and who were obsessed with it. The women who got married around me were also the ones who didn't wait until marriage. I don't know if there is really a way to do or think about being blessed by marriage. Everything is given by God by grace. I feel like God's blessings don't depend on us but on whether He has planned this thing in our lives. There is no path to take or way of thinking or doing to achieve anything. Maybe I'm wrong?

[@thatssoblasian]

Thank you so much for addressing this topic! I've met many people at church (both young adults and seniors) who idolize marriage

[@peace5432]

This was amazing! Glory to Yah! Thank you woman of God for your obedience. This was a friendly reminder and very edifying for the BODY OF CHRIST

[@BigJazz522]

OMG. This video was like Thanksgiving dinner for my SOUL!! I needed to hear this so much and i think that I am going to listen to it a few more times. God's word is so good. Thank you for sharing this. It has truly blessed me!

[@SoundsofKemena]

A very powerful ministration. Thank you, God bless you.

[@MitchelleNdebele-fh9lk]

Thank you for your obedience in sharing this teaching sister Alyssa. It couldn't have come at a better time in my life and in the lives of other fellow young single (and married) sisters out there. I've been subscribed to your channel since I was in my sophomore year of university in 2018 and God has continued to use you to deliver convicting teachings that draw us closer to Him. God bless you and your family woman of God.

[@WonderfulActs]

Thank you for being here!!!!

[@nontsikelelonoruwanahealth8035]

Sister I burst into tears watching this because I always said I want to date God not humans I have been ooh God my love .

[@tansahasonyu1071]

God bless you, i was soo blessed by the video. I repent for each time i have idolized marriage

[@Youtuber1441_]

When you paused and said “you just want a drink” that hit me, I’d admit I made marriage an idol, I’m at peace releasing that desire to God

[@mariono244]

Looking forward to watching this

[@camenelson5373]

I honestly feel like God made me find your video because I am struggling so badly in my marriage for years because I haven’t been turning to Jesus for love within my marriage. I feel like my husband and marriage was first priority. I am going to work on renewing my vows with Jesus. Thank you so much for allowing God to use you as His vessel to get the word to us. I honestly feel blessed and I will probably rewatch your video over and over again during this dark season that I am in. Stay blessed! 🙏🏽🙌🏽💜🌻

[@ZARiNA851]

This new set up, the scriptures, the message 🙌🏾 I’m not crying you are. 😭🥺 Father, I repent publicly of idolatry for thinking of a person, my situations and circumstances and certain answers I desired. Praise God!🫶🏾🙌🏾 -Z

[@WonderfulActs]

thanks, sis!

[@Jennifer-bz1mh]

Thank you so much for highlighting this truth. Ever since I was a little girl, I idolized marriage and deeply desired it for all the wrong reasons (believing it would complete me and unlock the life God has for me). It wasn’t until my late teens, God said “Stop believing that you need a man to give you the life I have for you.” As like all His creation, marriage is something we should enjoy but not worship. Believing it will save, complete, and fulfill us (rather than Christ, alone) will only lead to disappointment as you’re putting it in a position marriage was never designed to do.

[@snowmanii]

Thank you for this and thank God for you. Tieing all of these scriptures together was awesome

[@tessyakpoveso5307]

This video popped up on my feed and for some reason, it stuck to my head. Now i am here

[@demetras2166]

This was soooo good. I love how God used you to deliver this message it was timely and I love the scripture references to support the message. I am definitely in repentance for putting so much emphasis on marriage

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

Thanks!

[@briellemayes6723]

I've seen a LOT of youtube videos about this topic but I finally understand because of this video

[@Vintage.Crystal]

This has blessed me!!! Hosea 2 really spoke to my core. 😢 had to repent for for forgetting about God, my first love. I am married to Christ. That should be enough for me!

[@emmaonthenet]

Thank you for this video. To God be the glory 🙏🏾

[@topneverstop]

If I'm being honest. So close to giving up. I've been on a fast 8 days so far, but just broke it bc I feel so unloved and my ex is still trying to contact me and I thought someone was going to be my husband...idk And just right now a childhood friend of mine just texted me out the blue "I love you!" Literally crying in this restaurant.

[@tbabyyy333]

The Truth will see you free and it has set me free! Thank you for your obedience that last story of the woman who desired children but never got it just gave me so much hope! It is so encouraging to see others standing that DON'T get the husband or the children and to see real life examples of GOD still being good and faithful even to them is such a blessing to me as well! Thank you!

[@stephaniemcdowell2368]

When I say I am happy without being married at least for now, several christians refer me to the verse that it’s not good for man to be alone. And I feel like they think I am wrong. I’m not sure what to say to them. I’m more tired of others making me feel bad for being happy with just God in this season. It makes me feel guilty.

[@sittingpretteawithcarol]

I have been married before, and not sure if God wants me remarried or not again. In the meantime I’m doing my work in the land and wishing for comfort through my gifts that I’m sharing with the world.

[@its_me_sd.]

Thank you for taking the time to make this video and for the scriptural breakdown. I needed this more than you know.

[@leebeyou992]

This is definitely a Beautiful Confirmation! ❤ The song that inspired me is the song HE KNOWS MY NAME!Truly a Blessed Message! Thanks 🙏

[@bridgetlilly-02]

so beautiful,l am so grateful to have listened to this. Thank you God

[@ally8744]

Thank you for your message of truth. I feel this was my confirmation. May God bless you.

[@lifeisbeautiful6768]

Thank you Sis for your obedience to the Holy Spirit this message truly blessed me as a wife and a mother. Indeed true happiness and love is rooted in Jesus.

[@naturalbailey8866]

New to your channel and you have inspired me. Thank you for this video. ❤

[@shellytravels]

That was so good to my soul, my sister in Christ. This is my first time watching and it is apparent that you have the heart of the Father. I’m so glad I ran across this video. Stay obedient to the Father and our Lord Jesus Christ and continue to be blessed. 😊

[@EsanBeauty]

I don't know if it's true idolatry or that we are in a world in a superficial community but our spirit still longs for a true genuine and physical connection. The entire Bible is about Yah/Yeshua trying to get his bride. Most women I know are past the party phase and desire to find a mate to help and be helped. I also noticed that it's its married vloggers that put out this type of content. We are supposed to desire marriage it was literally in the beginning and end of the bible. I also don't think Paul shouldn't be the go-to. This was his OPINION. "In my judgement" This was not from the lips of the Father.

[@Pickedpurposely]

Please go look for my testimony in the comment section 💕🙏🏾 I am transparent about the importance of what she’s speaking on!

[@onlyHEknowsme]

Please go look at my comment I posted on this video saying almost the Same thing. It’s very disheartening coming from married vloggers.

[@786valerie]

I agree with you. We have to determine if our personal circumstance is true idolatry. And that’s why I commented that accepting singleness can either be accepting God’s will or giving up and saying’ “I guess this is it.” I think finding joy while being single is why this message is important. But there is a difference between desiring marriage and idolizing it.

[@brishelle1659]

Wonderfully said and agreed with this thread. I too struggle with jumping back and forth with the idea of desiring marriage because I see the benefits of it and I want to be the one in my family that break this curse of prior failed marriages but also take a step back and wonder if it’s idolatry or the longing is so deep because as mentioned before we do live in a superficial society that doesn’t value genuine connection. In the end, overall good content and she has dropped another gem that wrecked my soul lol. As of now I’m working on being content with being single and possibly not being married at all as long as I’m aligned with God’s will for my life. The gifts he’s placed in me and the tasks he’s assigned to me in this season brings me more than enough fulfillment at the moment and I’m happy about it.

[@marlyb176]

@@onlyHEknowsme as a young single Christian woman, I totally understand what you’re saying. It can be disheartening, but you also have to understand like this woman said in the video that they were married people who are in the wrong type of marriages. Sometimes the marriages we may look at and one for ourselves based off of what we see on the outside. It’s not all Rosie behind closed doors. And many of those people that you see that they be married entered into those types of marriages through the idolatry. They rushed into it, got desperate and ended up marrying a thorn onto their flesh think about it, how many Christian women do you see constantly saying, or asking for advice on Advice for how to pray for their wayward husbands. Many of whom would professed to be Christians themselves. It’s not to say that a Christian should be perfect because no one can be. But many of those women they rushed because of idolatry of marriage and they ended up marrying wolves. In sheep clothing I think that regardless of whether the messenger is married, is still worth listening to.

[@jocelynd_sunshine]

Beautiful message wonderfully presented. Very timely truths.... Thank you for sharing and may God continue to bless you.

[@lindaprimm667]

What a beautiful picture of what our relationship with the Lord is and what our responsibility in it is. Also very applicable to our earthly marriage and what that should look like.

[@LaurenTSmith-wi8ng]

I really needed this.........thank you for being obedient to the leading of the Holy Spirit....may God Continue to bless you!

[@Mercy-vq4ow]

I truly believe that the Lord is calling us His bride back to Himself as our bridegroom ❤

[@chorizoramen93]

Christian or not, women use the idolatry of marriage to be extremely elitist towards other women. Its disgusting.

[@msliberated3899]

Excellent video! Thank you for reading deep into this subject with scripture ❤

[@arzeena3152]

Looooved this, Alyssa. You killed it!

[@WonderfulActs]

thank you! praise God!

[@JummyAdejonwo]

This video is so good! Thank you for this, I really needed this. God bless you! ❤️❤️

[@omr1022000]

You are blessed. Thank you for this message!

[@christinme8375]

Excellent biblical perspectives in this topic

[@Listentomusicist]

A sobering word, amen 🙏🏾

[@KHH_HN]

Girl!! Glad to have you back. I was just watching one of your old videos this morning, SA time ☺️

[@WonderfulActs]

Yay! Thank you!

[@Angel-bg3ow]

Thank you for being a willing vessel of the lord. This was truly a wonderful message

[@maurinedknyantika2289]

Hi. Thank you for sharing the verses on marriages, was a truly a Spirit led message. Anything thats bigger than God is an idol.

[@Ella-ij4qz]

This video came at a time I really needed it. Thank you so much ma'am for following the leading of the Holy Spirit.

[@CCCC-fp5gw]

So glad I clicked, great message and the way you read Scripture (so many people don't want to read the word as they preach/share.The church has made an idol of marriage yet it hasn't been practical or kept up with the times: teenage hormones, late marriages, economics. We were not meant to be virgins well into our twenties or later. PAUL gave the best advice and I hope young women now have the tools they need to make decisions not for the now but for their future and well being

[@monicahodge5664]

Thank you so much for such a wonderful message, which has truly been a blessing to me.

[@BrokeTruckerGyal]

This was an awesome watch! Surprisingly reassuring.