God's Plan for Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

[@Kris_Reece]

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[@richardjohanson612]

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[@richardjohanson612]

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[@suetyas6636]

Thank you for sharing your professional advise and truths. They are helping me heal

[@SLAYERSARCH]

Is being depressed toxic?

[@user-zq4fv8sj6v]

@@Kris_Reece Dear Kris, I would appreciate a video from you on how best to handle Catholic narcissists specifically. Thank you.

[@AwakenedOne-qu]

My biggest mistake in life was under estimating the maliciousness of people. You're never the same after a narcissist attack.

[@DJ-jf8ts]

People pleaser here, who loves to help and ease burdens. You know what that means? I was easily manipulated and didn't see it coming. It took God to discipline me, help me create boundaries, turn closer to Him, and care less what people thought as long as I wasn't trying to hurt anyone. Without God, I would be dead in the water.

[@Winnyfruits]

@DJ-jf8ts I'm happy for you. I'm the same. This year, my lesson was to speak up for myself and to create boundaries. This year, I have learned who my true friends were.

[@rockyp32]

Amen Jesus is lord

[@marcusappelberg369]

Amen! I recently ended a friendship with someone that borrowed from me every weekend, without paying most of it back. She was highly manipulative, and in the last call between me and her, she demanded to speak with my mother, for some strange reason, and insulted her by saying that she didn't sound like my mother. At the same time, my cross necklace broke. The cross got literally broken in two parts, right down the middle! :O So I cut her off, and have felt so much peace since. I will unfortunately never get back the money she owes me, but I am ok with losing it, as I have gained my peace. Lesson learned. I will dive into the Word and learn to be more kind towards myself instead of users.

[@rockyp32]

@@marcusappelberg369 watch gene Kim too If you died right now are you a 100% sure you’d go to heaven? All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Due to our sin. Hell is the punishment .“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”Revelation‬ ‭21‬:‭8‬ ‭KJV‬‬ but Jesus who is God. Came down to earth as a man lived a perfect life never sinned people got jealous of him got him convicted on false charges then he died buried and resurrectedRemember how I said our sin is why we can’t go to heaven? The only thing that can wash away your sins in the blood of Jesus “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.” Roman’s 5:8-9 KJV So to get saved is super easy “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: not of works, lest any man should boast.”Ephesians‬ ‭2‬:‭8‬-‭9‬ ‭KJV‬‬ Salvation is a free gift by faith alone. You can’t earn it by going to church, getting water baptized, or by any good thing you do. “For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”2 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭10‬ ‭KJV‬‬ Then you just have to feel guilty and sorry for being a sinner and repent for being a sinner. Do you feel guilty for being a sinner? If you do then there’s just one final step. “that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”Romans‬ ‭10‬:‭9‬ ‭KJV‬‬ all you have to do is tell God out loud with your mouth that you believe the gospel. You MUST mean it from your heart to work. You can pray something like this “dear God i repent as a sinner. i believe jesus is God, who died, buried, and ressurected, so his blood can wash away my sins. so i only trust in the blood alone to save me not my good works. Save me from hell in jesus name i pray amen”

[@godisgood9173]

The Job of a Christian: 1- Read your bible and apply it to your life. 2 - Love your neighbor as you love yourself…are you doing that? 3- Jesus commands his followers to sale your possessions and give to the poor. He said: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. Sell your possessions and give to the poor. Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, a treasure in heaven that will not be exhausted, where no thief comes near and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Luke 12:32-34 4- Christians MUST DENY YOUR SELVES each day and carry YOUR CROSS…that means to OBEY what Jesus said in the scriptures NOT do what YOU want. READ YOUR BIBLES!!! You must put your will to the side and do what the bible says. 5- Are you feeding the hungry? Visiting the prisoners and the sick? Are you giving drink to the thirsty? Read Matthew 25:35-40 Are you doing that? Do not follow these false prophets because they are leading you to HELL. Do not give money to this SCAM ARTIST. She is not following Christ. Cancel her and go pick up the bible and read the word of God not the BS of this woman who wants to make a BUCK of of the feeble minded.

[@DROSKI300C]

I just started reading my Bible. I have always known God to keep me really close. Almost feeling like I have been extra protected by his grace and unwavering love.. GIVE THANKS TO THE MOST HIGH

[@cassiebennet4262]

Amen. I feel the same way. His grace abounds and I'm extremely grateful.

[@CamperEra]

AMEN 🙏🏻

[@godisgood9173]

The Job of a Christian: 1- Read your bible and apply it to your life. 2 - Love your neighbor as you love yourself…are you doing that? 3- Jesus commands his followers to sale your possessions and give to the poor. He said: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. Sell your possessions and give to the poor. Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, a treasure in heaven that will not be exhausted, where no thief comes near and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Luke 12:32-34 4- Christians MUST DENY YOUR SELVES each day and carry YOUR CROSS…that means to OBEY what Jesus said in the scriptures NOT do what YOU want. READ YOUR BIBLES!!! You must put your will to the side and do what the bible says. 5- Are you feeding the hungry? Visiting the prisoners and the sick? Are you giving drink to the thirsty? Read Matthew 25:35-40 Are you doing that? Do not follow these false prophets because they are leading you to HELL. Do not give money to this SCAM ARTIST. She is not following Christ. Cancel her and go pick up the bible and read the word of God not the BS of this woman who wants to make a BUCK of of the feeble minded.

[@ronpineda715]

Yes! long-ago I cried-out to God "Please never let me hurt like my first Love has hurt me, ever again!" Now, I've been delivered from a Covert Narc wife -- *and somehow I am not hurting* ??? Thank you Father! -- He did a heart-bypass!!!

[@musicalgal1992]

I think Kris hit the nail on the head when she said, "Sitting around hoping & praying for the abuser to change inwardly is a sign of Christian codependency." It really rubs me the wrong way when people, especially self-proclaimed Christians, use the "forgiveness" card to enable abusive behavior, let alone as a guilt tactic by accusing the rest of us of "unforgiveness," because we choose not to trust our abusers again. Either these people clearly did not read the Bible, or they're just cherry-picking their favorite verses & create a whole doctrine out of them, while simply leaving out the rest. One of my favorite sentences from one of these people (favorite as in sarcasm), is, "But what if you're the only one who can share Jesus with this person?" Newflash: If someone has ALREADY VIOLATED your Personal Boundaries by acting abusive towards you, it is NOT YOUR JOB to stick around & try to MINISTER to those people. God will send SOMEONE ELSE to handle that part. When Potiphar's Wife made multiple passes at Joseph, he DIDN'T STICK AROUND trying to minister to her. While Joseph didn't carry animosity in his heart toward Potiphar's wife, he KNEW he had to Get The Heck Out of that situation, before it got any worse. Yes, we as Christians are called to forgive others the way Jesus forgave us, but "forgiveness" DOES NOT require "trust," NOR does forgiveness mean there Aren't STILL Consequences for sin. God forgave Adam & Eve, but they still weren't allowed back in the garden. God forgave Moses, but he still wasn't allowed to enter the Promised land. There are multiple other examples in the Bible where God forgave, yet he still allowed people to live with the consequences of their sins, & the relationship was forever changed. Thankfully, I have enough knowledge & wisdom in my Christian faith to know that "Forgiveness" does not require "Trust." But what if I WASN'T? That's the problem. Such a False, Enabling message on "forgiveness" is not only twisting scripture, but is also promoting evil. And it keeps New Christians (who aren't spiritually mature enough to know better) STUCK with their Abusers. It FINALLY got to the point where I ended up Writing These People Off as well. Sometimes, the enablers have to go, too. Keeping those type of people in your life will do you more harm than good. You know your loyals. Cherish them!

[@jameewilson7570]

@@musicalgal1992 in agreement with

[@natatattful]

So well written, thank you!!

[@claudeteswank7382]

You wrong exactly what I wanted to write. Many Christians believe they have to forgive these narcissist all the time and continuing be with them like ask for a divorce or be far from even if they are your family is a sin.and you will be dying of so much suffering because of the abuse.

[@CarolCote-kd2is]

Satan has used the gossipers, clicks, self proclaiming Christians full criticism to chase people from church ⛪️

[@djomega8462]

I had to learn the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. Once I did, I cut off one of my abusers (more to what happened than that, but baseline, it helped) and God has been helping me heal since. I've seen some significant progress, to boot. Unfortunately, I've also found a new and rather problematic reaction I have to that abuser. And, worse, I have other toxic people to deal with that I can't escape at this time. Most not quite as bad, but still toxic in their own ways.

[@tinahill2134]

My mother is a Narc,always treated me badly.Before I went no contact she told me that she loved me . I told her that I didn’t want the love that she gives.

[@wellnesstree]

Trust does not equal forgiveness. So true. One thing my dad used to say is „why can’t you just forgive me” „you are just hurting yourself”. When I said I forgave him, he would just take it as the slate is wiped clean and he can go about doing exactly as he did before. It was infuriating as a child and he never apologized or took accountability. We are estranged now. His story is that he doesn’t understand why I’m hurting the family.

[@TheBlondiekitten]

I have the same situation but with my mother. It’s crazy making. Keep strong xxx

[@Itsallgood-l5y]

Same , but it’s my husband

[@georgiakritikos4955]

Pass THE Buck🤔is Theater assisted 👍 don't fuel the stage👌excellent Testimony

[@georgiakritikos4955]

SAME SCRIPT 🎬DIFFERENT CAST 🤔

[@dediemcmann-tiscani5720]

Same situation with my husband of 27 years. I finally had enough. He is soon to be my ex. Now the healing can begin.

[@jennyfox1398]

If your with or around narcissists just get out. Forget trying to find biblical reasons of why you need to be the better person. You've done your time. You stood by, you took the abuse, you did your time. You don't need to make them see anything, make them understand, you don't need to wait until some sort of truth becomes known. Get out. Stop waiting for a miracle, magical intervention, some sort of divine sign, just get out. Leave. Don't give notice, don't wait until it gets harder to leave, don't wait for life/finances to be perfect, just leave. Choose you not them. Let your anger fuel your exit.

[@oaktreedialogues6318]

@@jennyfox1398 Yes, you are absolutely right. The first step is always to get out of a toxic relationship. But once you have left, the healing begins and you need to rebuild yourself from the ground up. What she teaches here are sound principles to guide your journey AFTER the narcissist abuse.

[@elizabethy2912]

I really learned a lot from Pastor Mark Driscoll and his sermon on leaving toxic family members. Teaching godly boundaries is so so important, and I'm learning how important they are.

[@debbylee6329]

Very well said!! You are spot on!!! Thank-you!!!

[@howdydocowgirlcowgirl181]

It's called "...shaking the dust off your feet..." & it's Biblical: Matthew 10: 11-15: 11 And into whatsoever city or town you shall enter, inquire who in it is worthy, and there abide till you go thence. 12 And when you come into the house, salute it, saying: Peace be to this house. 13 And if that house be worthy, your peace shall come upon it; but if it be not worthy, your peace shall return to you. 14 And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words: going forth out of that house or city shake off the dust from your feet. 15 Amen I say to you, it shall be more tolerable for the land of Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.

[@57andstillkicking]

@@jennyfox1398 Thank you.

[@ref7249]

Your journey of God working in you is spot on with how God brought me out safely from a 32 year marriage with a narcissist . . . He changed/healed me and helped me see my contributions to the unhealthy cycles. Once I was changed and my then spouse chose not to make changes is when God said it was time to leave. I did and have been blessed in so many ways.

[@kajalnanda5806]

How did you heal dear and what symptoms you were having

[@ref7249]

@@kajalnanda5806 that’s a loaded question. I have several 4” binders of writings. Where I am processing oh so very much. At the end I will send a paragraph about my thoughts on some of those writings after the fact. My ex was also a pornography addict so there was a two year (counseling) program that we attended (separately) that taught me many skills. Nonetheless, it came down to taking the “knowing” from the head to the heart and allowing the Savior’s Atoning sacrifice to work within me. My first challenge was figuring out how to do that. One evening, my mind was opened, what I saw was myself carrying a huge sack of (childhood trauma/neglect/abuse mingled with my current situation) weighing me down. I KNEW there were things I needed to address in order to learn and heal. But what I did (in my mind’s eye) was throw the whole bag before the Savior’s feet and say, “take them all” (He had suffered for all already) “and show me those things that I need to know in order to grow and become who you know I am to be”. Some of those lessons: being shown I was passive aggressive or a perfectionist were not easy to overcome but with the Savior’s help and perseverance and many many mistakes WE overcame-at least until that well worn unhealthy rut occasionally pops up yet again😉. When that happens (very seldom), I try to be kind to myself and remember I had 50+ years of unhealthy coping mechanisms and am only 6 years out of the marriage. You’ll get a glimpse of my thought process with this piece of my writings when I learned I was a perfectionist: “My coworker said to me today that I was a perfectionist. I have never thought of myself as one. We laughed. I looked up perfectionist traits. I am a perfectionist! Of the ten most common traits I am a complete match for nine of them. I have printed a quick paper on how to overcome perfectionism. I have so very much to work on . . . . but when I have perfected being imperfect paradoxically I'll be more perfect than I am now😄.” Here are my thoughts upon reading my writings: “I've just spent the last hour reading through some of the writings from Mar/Apr/May/June of 2015. I laughed; I cried; I was indignant; I plead from the depths of my heart as I routed for this woman's unfailing faith and determination in her Savior's ability to conquer the unconquerable! The story is gripping, heart wrenching, faith promoting, testimony building and painfully honest! I lived the story; however, as I read it, I do not see myself. In other words, I connect to it as a reader not as a participant.” There is no longer pain attached to my past and I am very comfortable sharing my experiences, foibles, mistakes, growth, and even the things I’ve right😉.

[@swissherbgirl2917]

I also divorced after 20 years. He was not willing for change or marriage/ family therapy . But he then said to me: you have changed , you are not submitting anymore

[@ref7249]

@@swissherbgirl2917 Sounds too familiar. Mine said, “The pendulum has swung too far. You used to be weak and submissive and now you are strong”. That is not an exact quote-I’d have to look it up but it is close. Narcissists do not like their parade to be rained on. I am happy for your strength!

[@swissherbgirl2917]

@@ref7249 no, I am broken. God is my strength. Often I think I left to late. My 2 oldest kids did suicide, while I was still in the Marriage. Only then my eyes opened when I realized the lack of Empathy

[@sarinaelaine17]

I played this slowly and took so many notes. I went back to a narcissist and it almost killed me. Your videos are helping me along with me being in my word daily. He was an ungodly influence and I forgot who I was. ❤

[@emzkie7554]

It is such a blessing to listen to these things for free. ESpecially for people like me who have financial constraints but are looking for any means to just heal and keep on living in the hope that God has a good purpose for my life still. I really pray for strength, blessings, and profound discernment of God's spirit in your life, Kris. Thank you.

[@dediemcmann-tiscani5720]

Amen to this!!!

[@yvonnemariehorvatr.h.n.nut3315]

the thought of being with an narcissist relationship makes me want to barf or throw up. I get the drive heaves. This is what renewing my mind is doing in healing

[@keithstewart7514]

I experience nausea when my NARC MoMster says she loves me...

[@angielinda487]

I wondered if this was a unique experience, but I feel sick in my stomach when I am faced with toxic evil people and have to deal with them. Perhaps like having to clean up someone elses crap or barf or being in a locked room with someone who never washes themselves and their house is filledwith garbage. The cleaness in you cannot stand filth. They sure are toxic I understand the nauseous reaction now. God help us🙏

[@dreamscape405]

​@@angielinda487 Me too❤ I saw this other channel on narcissism saying they're demons. Which makes a lot of sense. If you think about the traits of narcissism, it aligns with the devil. He uses them to his dirty work. And I think that's why we're so Absolutely disgusted, and made physically I'll, just being around them.

[@Randy-v9x]

My new path seldom extends past my front door. Biblicsl truth: better dry bread alone than more lies, thefts , frustration and depression .

[@chartman194]

When I learned forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation, I took courses on Boundaries and Safe People. I feel like the Aladdin. It’s a whole New World* a whole new point of view. I will never go back to a narcissist. When I recognize them, I shake the dust off my sandals and walk the other way. The only person I can change is myself. I thank the good Lord for Kris and other people like her that are teaching us and sharing a healthy way and a godly way to get away and stay all way! Enjoy life. You get old fast. Do what makes you happy.

[@joshuamutombo4927]

She's very wise. Toxic Narcissistic people can do a complete mind mess, what a powerful word I think that explains why we feel depleted totally empty around them the psychologist Sam vaknin says the Narcissist is dead wanting you too dead, living with one is like in death cult nothing works out everything dies your ambitions, dreams, friendships😢

[@WortundGebet]

TRUE

[@swissherbgirl2917]

@@joshuamutombo4927 my teenagers did suicide. Mind mess is the exact description of what their father did to them.

[@Hadtoleave15]

This describes it. It’s how I felt as time went on. I struggle to figure out what the point was and not feel that my life is worthless in so many ways.

[@godisgood9173]

The Job of a Christian: 1- Read your bible and apply it to your life. 2 - Love your neighbor as you love yourself…are you doing that? 3- Jesus commands his followers to sale your possessions and give to the poor. He said: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. Sell your possessions and give to the poor. Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, a treasure in heaven that will not be exhausted, where no thief comes near and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Luke 12:32-34 4- Christians MUST DENY YOUR SELVES each day and carry YOUR CROSS…that means to OBEY what Jesus said in the scriptures NOT do what YOU want. READ YOUR BIBLES!!! You must put your will to the side and do what the bible says. 5- Are you feeding the hungry? Visiting the prisoners and the sick? Are you giving drink to the thirsty? Read Matthew 25:35-40 Are you doing that? Do not follow these false prophets because they are leading you to HELL. Do not give money to this SCAM ARTIST. She is not following Christ. Cancel her and go pick up the bible and read the word of God not the BS of this woman who wants to make a BUCK of of the feeble minded.

[@TeddieBateman]

I would add, as in my case, your feelings.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@QueenJessica-z5j]

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[@Moon_Fire_Water]

this comment has been copied and pasted across many channels involving narcissism just fyi to those responding

[@deksper]

Thank you for your message today Kris. In a nutshell: "Whatever asked for in prayer, DON'T YOU DARE DOUBT!" (18:22). - If it is life giving, if it is in God's will and timing, and if we play our positive part (practical steps of obedience toward the obvious); IT WILL COME TO PASS.

[@godisgood9173]

The Job of a Christian: 1- Read your bible and apply it to your life. 2 - Love your neighbor as you love yourself…are you doing that? 3- Jesus commands his followers to sale your possessions and give to the poor. He said: “Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. Sell your possessions and give to the poor. Provide purses for yourselves that will not wear out, a treasure in heaven that will not be exhausted, where no thief comes near and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Luke 12:32-34 4- Christians MUST DENY YOUR SELVES each day and carry YOUR CROSS…that means to OBEY what Jesus said in the scriptures NOT do what YOU want. READ YOUR BIBLES!!! You must put your will to the side and do what the bible says. 5- Are you feeding the hungry? Visiting the prisoners and the sick? Are you giving drink to the thirsty? Read Matthew 25:35-40 Are you doing that? Do not follow these false prophets because they are leading you to HELL. Do not give money to this SCAM ARTIST. She is not following Christ. Cancel her and go pick up the bible and read the word of God not the BS of this woman who wants to make a BUCK of of the feeble minded.

[@misshari1964]

I am extremely challenged with bitterness and anger. I am a Christian woman who married a wolf in sheep's clothing. I feel so mad and used💔

[@CarolCote-kd2is]

These narcissists are everywhere. It’s exhausting

[@Non-Artificial-Intelligence]

The TRUTH of God's word hidden deep in one's heart indeed does set us free!

[@FaithWorksHealing-z3p]

For sure! I can attest to that. Your username is great haha.

[@jenaya_laila2442]

There is also reactive abuse, where the abuser riles you up on purpose...and then gets a kick out of seeing you completely lose it emotionally because youve been hurt. It's a firm os swlf gratifying control:" I have the power to make her so hurt, she loses it"...

[@Toikag]

@jenaya_laila2442 my mother did this to me for years!!! Eventually I learnt to stay calm and she started doing it less once she realized it didn't have the same effect

[@Non-Artificial-Intelligence]

In the Narcissistic relationships that I have with close family members, some of which are the "flying monkeys" of the primary person, I've found that the Biblical truth of "iron sharpens iron" always hold true - even when an enemy is wielding one of those swords - because God uses their behavior for good in advancing my own sanctification!

[@Criss-py3sx]

I've been thinking the same thought! Thank you for this.

[@howdydocowgirlcowgirl181]

🕊️✨💐✝️💗✝️💐✨🕊️For the Glory of God 🕊️✨💐✝️💗✝️💐✨🕊️ Amen! Alleluia!🕊️✨💐✝️💗✝️💐✨🕊️

[@marisolflores1419]

I think when we have God in our hearts we will do it cheerfully if we stay and give this narcissists a second chance . I gave him many Chances , but God delivered me and my children from this hell … It will leave you confused . God is the answer out of this ❤

[@jamimccormack9220]

Yes.. confused.

[@indigomosquitospeedos]

jew god is OBVIOUSLY one and the same as thee NARCISSISTIC illegal-alien OVERLORD devil --- or else he would have cleaned this diabolically-retarded mess up looong ago --- but instead, that motherfracking peeping-tom eyeball at the tippy-top of thee proverbial pyramid scheme on the $$$ we're all indoctrinated into worshipping - OR ELSE ! --- just gets himself off watching all the senseless suffering and violence and dis-ease. all glory and blame to thee great glory-hog glory-hole in the heavens . schlalom motherschmuckers ! yet nevertheless we need to remember it's mother nature that truly nurtures us - so goddesspeed again regardless yawl !

[@ElizabethBaileyBailey]

It must be be very tiring for the Narc, to pretend and put up a front all the time,hence their stressful look on their faces,facade,body language,they never look genuinely happy and content,I am still trying to figure out how I couldn't pick up that my own fnlesh &blood are Narcs, was married to one for nearly fifty yrs,and never had any inclination to what a Narcs,is like,sheer hell, thanks for your helpful info and inspiring program,God bless😢😢

[@stevenmartin8884]

We are given PROVERBS for HIS wisdom, and there is a reason there are 31 chapters.

[@MoM-do7js]

Mistaking kindness for weakness. The Almighty is an advocate of TOUGH LOVE when necessary ☘️🩷🍂

[@glendapeglau4694]

Right! Remember this the difference between being nice n being kind 💖

[@elainesmith5313]

I had to take the stance, that I only had God to please. His opinion of me had already been written in his Word. And letting the Narcissist I was married to, do whatever he did in front of God. His wrongs were not mine, he had to own them. But I didn't not take what he did or said for truth. Emotional Detachment helped me more than anything. Giving it all to the Lord, and letting Him deal with the Narcissist. Let Go and definitely Let God. Thsnk you Kris!❤

[@TwinklingofaneyeLoveStoryofGod]

Rebuke the devil and he will flee! Shalom

[@byron8657]

A wise man learns from his mistakes, a wiser man learn from others mistakes k!

[@venusianpearl]

I struggled for a long time with scripture(and churches) that seemingly encourage us to continue adopting welcoming sacrificial and completely accepting attitudes towards abusive people after they have exploited us, and your work has helped wonder if that was truly God's intent

[@AndreaDowlat-g4g]

He has drove me to the point that I have no confidence, no self esteem I have ❤

[@enduringhope6859]

There are no should have, would have or could have. Np going back. Just move forward.

[@yvonnejones3572]

It is God said He will judge everyone according to their works!!!

[@sunset.gospel]

'We do the right thing because it's the right thing, not because it gets us the result we're looking for.'

[@lisadimarzo]

💟😍Thank You💟 Kris💟❤✝️💜 GOD 👑💜Used Your Videos to Help Save Me 💟from Abusive Raging Alcoholic Narcissist❣️Dealing with the Affects of 3Years of Serious Abuse😔💟 I'm Healing & 🦅Doing Whatever it Takes to Ensure it Never Happens Again ❣️

[@chartman194]

So happy for you. I’ve read the lyrics to the song Aladdin and will never go back. For me. It’s a whole New World a whole new point of view.

[@dianajo6301]

Yes He been show me who I'm , and my purpose in life, after been ICU ... After been in abuse form narcissistic man. . Thanks Kriss ❤🙏

[@dianajo6301]

God is show me , even with all my mistakes , He's good. God bless you Kriss

[@alfm6093]

So this video is at the top #1. What resonates with me is... "You are the problem * I would say that all to often. He is a *problem*. I truly agree with all that was said. I am now able to understand what I need to do. I was so focused on what the Narc was doing that I couldn't give it to God. Healing one step at a time.

[@LR.8888]

During our healing process, we must be careful of what we take in. While I agree with the behaviors, remember GOD uses others to show us what we need to change or strengthen within ourselves. I was at the lowest point in my life after dealing with an ex, but he was an unhealed individual looking to have his needs met. I was unhealed believing I could love him to health. 2 unhealed individuals. Let us not become victims of our circumstances. I empower you to be victorious. ❤ I pray the speaker finds her healing and peace within. 💌

[@leefossett5777]

Thank you- I learned a lot here today. had a narcissistic stepmom (still do for over 60 years). I thought God was like her. Now I can't spend enough time with Him. Now I know the Truth and the Truth is setting me free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@JewelsQuinlan.333]

Me too. 🙌

[@masoodpervaiz6044]

I always learn when I listen. God bless you my dear Kris. May you be a blessing to Millions amen.

[@MonteVigh]

I have been loving the videos about narcissists. I have my own story. Your videos have been so helpful, and I am sharing them with family members as I have opportunity to do so. I noticed in this video a repeated reference to "renewing our minds". I just learned something about this that helped me immensely. In Romans 12:2 where Paul exhorts us "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind," (ESV) the expression "the renewal of your mind" is not a verb, but a noun. All the time I thought "renew our minds" was a verb, something we should do. But it really is a noun, meaning something we have. This means Paul was NOT telling us to do an action (verb) of "renewing our minds". He was telling us we HAD something called "the renewal of our minds" (noun). His exhortation is about what we DO with the "renewal of our minds" we already have. The verbs (the actions that are exhorted) are "do not be conformed" and "be transformed". The "world" is the noun that calls for the negative verb (do not be conformed), and "the renewal of your mind" is the noun that calls for the positive verb (be transformed). With this emphasis, when we stop trying to renew our minds (because that has already happened when we were born again and were given our new hearts) and put the focus on "be transformed" BY the renewal of our minds, we stop trying to make ourselves believe something is true (our new hearts already know God's truth is true) and put the attention on what those truths are working to change in us. My testimony is simply that when I understood that "renewal of your minds" is a noun, not a verb, it helped me stop trying to DO something I already had in Christ, and turn my attention to what God is transforming in me because those things are true. It certainly has been helpful to me to know this difference!

[@richardjohanson612]

Psalm 139 16Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them. 17How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! 18If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand; When I awake, I am still with You. 23Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; 24And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.

[@isaiahchauke4323]

Thank you so much. I really needed this, just got out of narcissistic marriage

[@joshockey7447]

Wow. That’s really good!! The best so far ( that I needed to hear )!!

[@sayno2672]

Thank you Kris for your dedication to help others. Jesus loves us including people who hurt us. What a love to lift our burdens. Jesus is the truth. I'm facing another spiritual battle, but I am standing in faith. Love you all brothers and sisters in Christ.

[@enigmatowles]

I like the concept of bringing Zoe into the mix for videos. She’s a natural. Great video.

[@Explorer63-k6d]

Your analysis on forgiveness and self gas lighting so helpful. Often some Biblical teachers misinterpret forgiveness as being incorporating automatic trust and reconciliation. Also taking responsibility for the actions and behavior of another person is very damaging to one’s emotional state. Thanks again for this content.

[@ChristinaStandsFirm]

The part about gaslighting myself, wow, really opened my eyes. Great video, thank you! ❤

[@Yaaqovreapersin]

I have recently stumbled across your content and feel like I am in a very toxic relationship. Only heaven knows what I have gone through in this marriage. it has brought me to my lowest and down so far that I have been condition through disrespect and neglect to not only doubting myself, but the voice deep inside that keeps me safe. Since meeting and marrying this person I have struggled with thoughts of self harm Thank you for what you do. Although I am invisible I can hear what youre saying. God BLESS

[@haroldjackson1737]

Thanks for your help . As a Biblical researcher, I've learned that the Renewed Mind is the key to power!❤

[@iristan2049]

Hi Kris, I'm not really out of the narcissist issue yet but I'm staying strong with our Lord Jesus Christ blessing. I know how to handle nowadays without opening my mouth. Thank you Kris

[@PaperbagPrincess-qj1bt]

Thank you sisters in Christ...I have suffered immensely by my son's narcissist abuse and had a breakdown after the problem was gone from my eyes. I behaved badly towards my husband, he was a victim too. The word gave me strength and renewed me but I had to know who I was in Christ....I feel my spirit grow while I'm still suffering from the trauma...I'm feeling low today and you have brought my receptors back, I feel the wisdom in my heart. My advice for others: don't rush your thoughts and feelings, give yourself some time for them to become wise, and read the word, Amen and God bless the church 🙌🙏💗

[@hkramer26]

I REALLY like this lady!!! I suddenly found someone who GETS IT. This is what I needed to find. Odd-this video just randomly showed up in my inbox

[@richardjohanson612]

Im suffering from Multi-Generational PTSD My mother escaped Holocaust dyed hair red said we were Irish. No Irish in blood! Grew up in a covert narcissistic family 3 older stepbrothers younger legit step sister. Blacksheep in the family scapegoated all my childhood.

[@richardjohanson612]

My dna Shick Ethnicity Breakdown Black .69% White 93.72% Asian 1.67% Hispanic 2.33% Mixed Race 1.22% Indian-Apache .37%

[@richardjohanson612]

The Sephardic Golden Age ended when Christian princes consolidated their kingdoms and reestablished Christian rule throughout Spain and Portugal. In 1492, King Ferdinand and Queen Isabella expelled all Jews from Spain; soon after, a similar law exiled Jews from Portugal. Sephardic Jews immigrated to Amsterdam, North Africa, and the Middle East. Others established new communities in the Americas or converted publicly to Christianity, sometimes secretly maintaining a Jewish life. These converts (known in Ladino as conversos and in Hebrew as anusim, forced converts) often maintained their Judaism in secret.

[@richardjohanson612]

Mixed Race Jew Ashkenzic and Sephardic Jew Albert Einstein and all other Ashkenazi Jews can trace their roots to a group of about 330 people who lived during the Middle Ages, a new study finds. (Associated Press)Shick Family History Shick Name Meaning Jewish (Ashkenazic): variant spelling of Schick. Source: Dictionary of American Family Names ©2013, Oxford University Press

[@ronpineda715]

*GRATITUDE* and forgiveness is the key to letting go! *Gratitude* while remembering the "good-times" will offset the hurtful memories of the "bad-times" -- and allow you to heal. (i.e. "I'm so happy I met her ... and I'm so glad that season is over!)

[@charlottemuller2233]

GOD always leaves room for FREE WILL to test us!

[@mariesook9141]

@charlottemuller2233 Sometimes leaving room for learning the hard way, in certain cases.

[@marvthedog1972]

great video. I really needed to hear that bit on forgiveness and trust. Had someone who i trusted as a best friend. Thought she would be mature and want to talk about the issue i had with her. Instead she gave me the silent treatment after turning it all back on me playing the victim. Then when we did finally talk 6 weeks later, in chat and not in person, she completely didnt want to hear that I was also hurt by what had happened. Make it worse, she's a co worker. When i stood up for myself and did the right thing by telling her what she did that hurt me and telling her i forgave her, I got wrote up for 'threatening/harassment'.

[@theworkplaceabuseexperts9484]

@@marvthedog1972 Welcome to my world.This is what I spend all of my time doing on my youtube channel and dealing with this evil crapola

[@LindaLee-v6t]

I just ended my relationship with a narcissist so I'm in need of your prayers. We go to the same church and I will see him so prayers it needed I'm not leaving my church I'm not giving him that power his use to me responding a certain way but those days are gone.!

[@rebeccaarwine2768]

Thank you. God is for us always. Let the door open to God's reality. Awesome episode 🙏

[@lynnramreddi3244]

I love that our identity is in Jesus and His unconditional love for us and not in anyone else. I have been gaslighted by my narcissistic in-laws for years. My husband does frustrate me when he takes me for granted and does not confront these people but instead chooses to just stay away from them. I feel that this does not address the problem and they continue their bad behavior. However trusting our Heavenly Father,walking in His greater glory in Jesus our Lord by the power of the Holy Spirit is the best life ever. It is an empowering and peaceful life 🙏 Thank you Kris Reese for your brilliant and encouraging messages 🌷

[@susannakotoff7095]

Yes I have toxic covert religious narc sil and her husband and bully mil. He warned me about my narc sil, there s no getting along with her cuz of her entitled gaslighting antagonizing personality. He said my mil will always take her side. So going no contact after putting up with her inner chaos for years

[@susannakotoff7095]

Never no resolution or apologizing like they ve said the older in the family has the role. Which is to be entitled and always has double standards and create immature manipulating drama. Not in christ at all and not christian behaviour

[@Coco-og7zw]

This was so good!!! Wish it was longer.

[@shannonkampa2757]

At the end of the video you say, turning off the receptors is not biblical… But it is, you nailed it! 1 Thess 5:19 do not quench the spirit. When we pray and ask the Lord for wisdom, he is faithful and does show us, but then if we choose to not follow, or ignore, that is quenching the Holy Spirit and his leading.. ❤

[@rickhanson3293]

That was a good discussion between Kris and Zoe. Allowed me to absorb and understand a little more than I usually can especially with the questions and segways into follow-ups. I usually need the extra help in that regard anyway. My ongoing issue is that despite often knowing logically, factually or otherwise that I am not responsible for several things that go wrong with others sometimes they still manage to get to me and make me feel that way. I have been getting better in that aspect and it is lessening. My anxiety is that I will relapse as it were when stressed or weakened etc. Either way, it was an eye-opening topic presented in way that will sink in better.

[@Schquirl]

3:40 1) Not to confuse forgiveness with trust. Trust is earned. 6:15 Christian codependency/ manipulation 7:53 2) Renewing our mind. Toxic people mess us up. 9:19 difference between gaslighting yourself 15:00 3) find identity in Christ and what we were created to be 17:08 Say goodbye to codependency and people pleasing and say hello to God-pleasing 17:45 LASTLY Get wisdom and not doubt it. Act wisely... If you don't use it you lose it.

[@angielinda487]

Healing has been quite the journey of self awareness and keeping steadfast in Gods truth. Integrity. In the midst of a world which imcreasingly has so many toxic dysfunctional people. I am thankful for these videos they have helped me in dealing with the "world" all types of relationships family friends work and everyone else...the patterns in toxic people is the same but the situation is different depending on who you're dealing with. The ideal is to remove yourself from it and begin to self refect to heal renew our minds in a safe space. But that is not the reality in our world. Standing in truth when everyone else in your circle is in the lie is very wearing and insidiously messes up your ability not to gaslight yourself.

[@joeturner3970]

Here I am again Kris , lapping up your advice and wisdom. Thank you

[@AlfredaJones-ei2bs]

Im kearning to trust myself and stay closer to God Provbes 3 verse 7-8 trust in the Lord with all your heart he will direct your path Amen Amen ,🙏🙏🙏

[@cmangiapane5846]

Thank you Kris and God bless you! I’m viciously fighting un-forgiveness over 40 years of narcissistic abuse in 4 relationships. I understand on an intellectual level that I must forgive but it has been a struggle to get there.

[@charlottemuller2233]

Every one has a FREE WILL GOD won’t controll!

[@gohawks3571]

Geez, glad you popped up! I just got through Job, and now I'm all messed up. I know it shouldn't do that, but going thru hell and escaping while smelling like sulfer doesn't make me ok. God gave me peace and a great small circle, it's just the flames still hurt😭

[@hopemiele1549]

So true, this is what God has been showing me.

[@Savedsister]

In both cases, narcissists or victim. They must be willing to go to God and be surrendered to the work of the Holy Spirit.

[@Janderra]

You don't need to be wrong to get better ❤

[@michelledurand7093]

Thank you so much for your work. I have learned so much from you.

[@sherrilynn8043]

Great Videa and Great Advice! God Bless!

[@gregoryward3815]

Yes that so true. Thank you.

[@JudithRuizBranch]

Thank you so much for this. So helpful and refreshing to hear how to heal from a biblical perspective.

[@plutobars7700]

Were you with a narcissist?

[@todddanforth8853]

Excellent, realistic and faith building conversation. Thank you!!!

[@magiproductionsinc.]

NAILED IT!!!

[@bonnieinthespirit6373]

I ve learned to take all within me : the heart n ache, the brain n pain and give it to god the father. To remove it from me so the hurts, & pain & emotions are removed from the memory. Cause in reality it’s more than I can bare. I have to move forward. N be healed completely. Yes it’s happened. But I don’t need to experience it over n over . Acknowledge it . Forgive self n other ( involved) then ask gid the father to remove the situation. The drama of it. The roots of the …, it’s too much pressure in the mind body .., he taken two or three things I’m good. This one trauma has hit unexpected and the onset n setback it not a good thing. I’ve got to move forward ❤

[@Betternow1974]

I love have you talk about self gaslighting!!! Someone told me I was doing that

[@solideogloria007]

Thank you!! This video is so full of truth.

[@Lily_and_River]

I agree with everything she says but there's a big focus on the cognitive process, which for me can interfere with the emotional healing that needs to come aswell. I believe there's a time for everything and a lot of what she says comes across as advice that will be useful when one wants to start new relationships and really move on with their life. For now I very much need to allow myself to feel whatever it is I'm feeling and allow my trauma response to happen even when it means I finally shut down or get angry or have a panick attack. I've acted like everything was normal for so long. I've had those reactions she talks about to the abuse but it was nowhere near toxic behaviour like his behaviour was. He made me believe every tiny emotional reaction was already disproportionate. So trying to figure things out in my mind and overanalysing what the real truth might be or trying to have a 'christian' response can very much stop me from allowing the emotions that finally need to come out. I know that's not what she means, because it would be a false christian truth to surpress your emotions. But talking about these things in a very cognitive way can already cause one to distance oneself from their own emotions. She says it herself, many know it all in their head but not in their heart. So how is renewing your mind going to help with that? This often also happens with cognitive therapy... talking about it will trigger the trauma and the trauma victim won't be able to learn or apply anything anymore that is said. For me the best thing to do is just invite Jesus to come into my mind and soul and emotions and heal me.

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

Im a self aware narcissist and I have a channel here called Narcissist Hex if you're interested in learning more about us. God Bless!

[@JSdolly78]

Your identity should be in Christ, certainly not your partner.

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

God checks every box for narcissism big time though.

[@chuckn8885]

Or your children

[@JSdolly78]

@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 no actually that’s Satan

[@chrissynickson9379]

Hi . you are brilliant. Thank for the message to help other who are struggling with life. ❤

[@WeCanHearYouNowwithPeggiMerkey]

The opposite can also happen, where you’re with a descent man, and he has weaknesses, like all of us do, but we split because he’s not perfect!

[@EstherHadassah333]

Loved that's it's difficult to be in a toxic relationship and not realizing that we can develope toxic traits... And I'm oaraphrasing

[@waitwhat564]

Brilliant. So good ❤

[@arielperez797]

When I get angry...people look at my eyes and they make a shocked face...almost like they are in awe. I never understood what they were seeing...until I dated a girl and broke up with her....she said she looked into my eyes and they changed. They terrified her...she said there is something wrong with me. This was about 12 yrs ago and that line "something is wrong with you" rings in my head. I think I'm a demon.

[@Ocean1688]

That happened to me too! The therapist told me that happens when we are so triggered and stressed by horrible evil behavior. That’s what happens. Gotta stay away from ppl who cause that.

[@auroracastro2310]

@arielperez797 I've seen this happening a lot on some beloved family members. Jesus healed them. It's not your fault, you need to seek deliverance from evil spirits.

[@Ocean1688]

@@auroracastro2310 It wasn’t an evil spirit for me. It happens when someone is bullying and demanding to a point causing severe stress and shock to another person. The severe stress reaction of the bullying slows down the oxygen to the brain and their eyes change. Hope that makes sense.

[@auroracastro2310]

@@Ocean1688 Sorry it happened to you!

[@cassiebennet4262]

More context should be given here.

[@abdulrahmansaaddikko4073]

Through His grace, He brings people, like Jeffery Richardson, into our lives to provide guidance and support. These mentors, counselors, and spiritual leaders can serve as vessels of God’s compassion, helping us recognize our worth and reclaim our identity. Richardson’s approach may center around understanding the truth of God’s promises - that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that He has plans for our welfare and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11)

[@abdulrahmansaaddikko4073]

With faith, prayer, and the support of godly counsel like that from Jeffery Richardson (Jeff_hightech), survivors can gradually replace the lies of narcissistic abuse with the truth of God’s love and acceptance. Healing is a journey, but God walks with us every step of the way, leading us towards freedom and renewal.

[@C.C.1812]

I love the term "Christian codependency". So many churches preach that. My ex certainly loves it. It keeps the wife in place so he can keep having affairs and the porn habit and demanding forgiveness.

[@jim52536]

Hear my Song to my Beloved Father LORD Saviour King Redemer who we'll all see soon... A little sunshine and they'll be rainy days Christ see's us growing With each new day... We have a lifetime to live and learn To take our chances To heal the hurts... Tears and your laughter Will help keep your heart True And always look up Christ Jesus is Watching Over You... Guard your heart now like a two edged sword Truth cuts both ways Only keep whats yours Hope for tomorrow Keep Faith alive in you Love will concur all Your hearts going through... Tears and your laughter will help keep your heart True And always look up Yeshua is Watching Over You... And He'll be there for you With His Nail Scared Hands Full of Love and Mercy As for the Cross that you bare And the burdens you carry Christ said Cast Them on Me... Tears and your laughter will help keep your heart True And always look up Christ Jesus is Watching over you... A little sunshine and they'll be rainy days Christ see's us growing Trust He's the Way... By Jim and the Holy Spirit... Holy Grace Truth and Blessings to those who Believe... ~~~😇😇😇😇😇😇~~~

[@emmamatos5416]

Thank you!

[@digitalwarriorbride4253]

Trust is also Learned

[@charlottemuller2233]

It is seen!

[@jenniferbenavides7031]

great video!

[@DROSKI300C]

This helps ❤

[@cathyjennings5580]

How we SHOW UP???? LOOK RESILIENTLY STRONG, Confidence, poised, POISED Position to STAND FIRM.. 😊❤😊

[@marticross6014]

Thank you for putting God first in your steps toward relationships. I I had a question is there somewhere I can go? It is about a narcissistic sister and a family will.

[@brinicole87]

This is so powerful and freeing!

[@CoffeetheRagdollCat]

The struggle I have is with memories... memories of when things were good in the beginning. He seemed like such a beautiful Christian man. I admired him so much, I fell so deeply in love with him...but it was all a thin facade. Just under the surface was evil but I still dream of him...still grieve the loss of the good him. He manipulated me into things I never would usually choose. 7 wasted extremely painful years. Eventually I couldn't find any reason to stay because he gave me nothing but pain... How do I escape the memories, the dreams, the nightmares?

[@richardjohanson612]

1 John 4 17Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world. 18There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. 19We love Him because He first loved us.

[@staceydelbucchia2576]

Praise God💕💗