Going to Sleep Angry | Fridays with Tab and Chance

[@a.b.8099]

As many have stated, that is in the bible not to let the sun go down on your anger. But I believe there is a difference between going to bed hating one another versus going to bed and agreeing to put a topic on pause until both parties are in a better mood. I believe God is just teaching us to remain at a place of peace and purity of heart with one another even if that's telling your spouse you're upset and just want to let things cool down. Handling it that way sets the tone for the devil to know he ain't gonna disrupt the peace in your home even if we have not finished the conversation right now. Main goal is not letting the devil win and for married couples to reinforce a fortified wall of unity...even when it's just to unite with saying goodnight, we'll talk later.

[@3DSuccess]

I agree wholeheartedly

[@nonyab916]

Exactly! Agreeing to put it on pause until the next day when you can peacefully communicate is not going to bed “angry.” Continuing to love and show love even when upset is top tier❤

[@antoniabae]

Love this!!

[@Reu1985]

Extremely well said ❤

[@Timeless522]

@@Reu1985Not to be confrontational, but it’s extremely well said, but it’s also extremely wrong according to the Bible, the word of God!

[@afiyakaramoko2057]

Can we just acknowledge the fact that chance is embracing the robot now! We are so proud of you 😂😂

[@lanelljohnson5767]

I love this. After 30 years with my hubby. We use to have the worst arguments when we’re both tired. Sometimes you gotta walk away and go to bed and wake up and reevaluate what is important to you to continue to discuss. Before bed I spend time with God to check my pettiness bc sometimes it’s just me and if it’s me I repent and I let go and I start a new day of joy with my mate. This took 29 years to learn 🤣🤣🤣🤣 But my marriage is better! I love y’all Tab and chance!

[@GinaGeeILuvu]

"You ain't got to look at each other.." You guys are so funny and real! Never change!💖💖

[@jesusgymasmrlover]

"Go to sleep as honest as you can... Don't hide it - be honest." 💯💓

[@feliciapryor855]

I remember when Fridays with Tab and Chance first started and how shy/reluctant Chance would be looking. It's AMAZING to see the growth and openness from Him and how GOD has allowed him to open up! He has so much wisdom and realness inside that the world needs!! Tabitha KNEW that the world would benefit from her gift of a husband that God gave her! I could just hear Tab now in their privacy: "C'mon Bae, it's gone be fun and you got so much wisdom, the people need to hear." I want them to see what I see in you Bae." I could just hear it in my spirit, lol...Thank God that Chance gave it a "chance" because what you two possess in your togetherness is a gift to the world!!!! People need to see the authenticity that you to have and the world needs more of it! I thank God for y'all blessing the world with your humor, realness, authenticity and OBEDIENCE. Real recognizes REAL. ❤ Thank y'all Tab and Chance!!!!

[@laclife4331]

They're chemistry is incredible in how they interact with each other. I just came across their channel...Fire..Love it!!!

[@taylorgabrielleellis]

I love Fridays ! Tab your growth transparency & overall ethic is so much motivation for me when it comes to posting content on my channel. Y’all are everything!!!! Sending my support and love here from NOLA❤

[@maryjohnson1144]

KJV.. Ephesians 4:26-27; Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: neither give the place to the devil. Love you both, and if that work for you, do you.❤

[@dynamduofilm2]

My thoughts exactly. I’m Not going against the Word of God…on purpose at that. It’s written for a reason. Some things aren’t about how you feel…rather it’s about obedience to Gods word.

[@ebonylashona815]

Yes, it’s in the Word. ❤ No judgement from me because I am still working on this. lol But it is NOT the dumbest thing. Everything is written to help & better us in this walk of life. 😊

[@Loveisaverb2022]

Ephesians 4:29 also says do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only for helpful building of others according to their needs as a benefit to those who listen. When you are mad sometimes silence helps you to sin not and remain in peace to process better and more helpful choice of words. We all can learn in these tough moment amen

[@crystaledwards7146]

Yes and thank you… I was about to type the same thing….. now I am not going to say I always follow that scripture in the heat of being mad or upset. In response to Tab and Chance statement of not knowing where that statement came from, it is biblical.

[@nonenone3624]

exactly

[@PRISCILLAGIDDENS]

Am I the only one that sing y’all’s theme song every Friday? I love it. ❤

[@shetrieseverything2206]

You are not, I too sing the song and sway back and forth. It is truly a vibe!!!

[@PRISCILLAGIDDENS]

@@shetrieseverything2206 yessssssss it is ❤️😂

[@shayb5062]

The extra beat in the beginning gave me life!!! I'm really enjoying this series of Tab and Chance, much success and many blessings❤

[@Pal3sa]

I'm with Chance. It's unrealistic to have the "don't go to bed angry" advice. When you're tired, you shouldn't be talking about things that make you angry. Sleep. Sleep. Tired people shouldn't argue. I'm full of nonsense when I'm exhausted.

[@akpakwu]

Ephesians 4:26-32 New International Version 26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.

[@akpakwu]

NLT 26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.”[a] Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

[@The419co]

Agreed. Because depending upon n what it is, I could be angry and upset a few days. I can say I love you and go to sleep. It makes no sense to stay awake angry

[@TiffanyButterfly5]

Sometime in my case it's best that I go to sleep mad rather than saying something outta line. Because my mouth and attitude can be REAL STANK! I pray about it and go to sleep because today is today and tomorrow is a new day🧡

[@Wrappedinhisglory]

Exactly. Like tab said what if the argument happend at night. I say give me up to 24 hours. I can lash out some angry word if I haven't spent sometime by myself to reflect

[@missyla2u]

Exactly

[@Timeless522]

Tomorrow not promise! Do Not Boast About Tomorrow James 4:13-14 13 Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow [a]we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit”; 14 whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away.

[@cynthiahillian]

Donna is Poppin!! Chance is getting that beat ta'day!! Loving the recent format !! You guys ROCK!!!

[@kearstenw3855]

This comes from the scripture “Do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil” (Ephesians 4:26-27).

[@dm1969able]

EXACTLY what I was thinking! I can't believe Tab being a Christian would go against the Word of God!

[@cgray3520]

@divine89 you can't believe that a Christian doesn't do every last single that's in the Bible. WOW, judgy much! They do what works for THEIR marriage and they seem to be thriving in it. IF you're a Christian you might want to take a self inventory and work on the things people CAN'T believe about you. You might want to come down off of your high horse, it's not very Christian like!

[@elles.6768]

​@divine89 y'all know people have different levels of Christianity. 😊 I don't think I've ever heard her quoting scriptures.

[@jaimesonyoung6458]

I have followed Tab for a long time and she is not going against the Word. What was stated here is simple.....do what works for YOUR relationship. She and Chance have had a successful marriage and relationship bc they found what works for them. If u really been paying attention, she is very much rooted in the Word and her personal relationship with God but ok. She actually addressed that very "scripture" about 6-7 minutes into the video.

[@droosyg252]

Be careful when interpreting the Word of God. Having wrath in your heart is very different from having an argument and needing time to resolve it.

[@ouranoswealthgroup7042]

Anger is an emotion like any other emotion. It's like saying, DONT go to bed happy. We put these labels of high and low vibrations or low/high on emotions. I can be angry and still forgive you. My emotions are to be processed and nobody is gonna rush my process. Period 😂 I had to learn this from my bff tho. Cuz I would rush her to be ‘OK’ in my presence. I think I would rush her for me to be OK. Selfishly. It was not realistic for me to out that pressure on her. It was toxic and major codependency issues for me to treat her like that. She process when she process and if I am the reason that she is angry, that's even more reason to give her time and space until she is ready to discuss. She might need time to process. Respect. Awareness (of you) is key!

[@PYTU]

If it happens late or during bedtime. Also, I can pick and choose if I want to engage.

[@jenniferbarthel2289]

Me and my husband just did this 5 days ago. We went to sleep mad and just because I couldn't sleep in peace, I woke his butt up at 1am. We finished

[@missyla2u]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tammybrown7256]

My father reiterated similar advice as Tab's father. My dad told me to tell him "You already have a father." 😅 And you know, I told him.😊

[@Pal3sa]

😂😂😂 Chance with the countdown. He knows his wife.

[@Wrappedinhisglory]

Chance is hilarious. "Okay babe" 😂😂😂

[@tashacopeland9736]

I love y'all energy and how y'all play off of each other a powerful connection.❤️

[@ashleyb994]

I love hearing someone tell the truth about this situation. Every couple is not the same and for a happily married couple to say yes we go to sleep upset sometimes. I love it. Please continue to keep it real

[@btknowles14]

The quote comes from the Bible. “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: neither give place to the devil.” Ephesians‬ ‭4:26-27‬ ‭KJV‬‬. It is possible to do this every time the situation comes but only IF you’ve denied yourself and surrendered your life over to the Lord. Then your affections/feelings are crucified along with your flesh.🙌🏾 In Christ, we can fulfill this every time.

[@KatB717]

Its the intro "Bring the beat in"...for me. My hubby and i love yalls Friday show. We watch alot. He is Chance in his personality amd mine is more like Tab. Keep letting God use you all. Its so helpful . God bless you both ..truly

[@thesourceofinspiration]

Oh I love the energy!!!!!!! I remember when chance was concerned with the badomp addlib🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@IAmDionneKelley]

I absolutely LOVE the real transparency of you two! Real life topics...THIS one wad real and SO necessary for so many (on different levels) to hear.

[@globalconcern4995]

Dropping gems with laughter and fun. I'm liking this

[@saeintrests]

I believe in the power of-EXPERIENCE. That’s the best advice. Yesss tab. I think I could tell a couple what doesn’t work. Because at the end of the day-it may work for you and it didn’t work for me. My marriage ended at 36 years and what didn’t work for him or I is the lack of change within ourselves that made things difficult in the end. That caused one individual to say -this doesn’t work for me. All in all you have to put in the work-whatever it looks like for your marriage. Even if it means change. I fail miserably at changing and so for my ex. Critical things became critical. Our marriage had become cancerous and hit stages to which it died. So what doesn’t work is never changing or evolving as an individual. And trying to change each other should be off the table for your marriage journey. Thanks Chance and Tab. Your on point

[@teresam2060]

Not the 3 head nods and “okay babe”! 😂🤣😂🤣

[@mamaslitterbug3071]

Your husband's is so funny !! You both are blessed!

[@mamakarin8592]

It's scripture Tab and Chance! You can agree to disagree, that's one thing, but if you're going to bed with anger and resentment in your heart, that's another thing.

[@antoineerikascott5022]

"do what works for you" is a way to go about it... I'd like to summit that maybe taking that approach could be the problem... marriage reveals to us some of our biggest weaknesses, toxic behaviors, and blind spots...let's be curious about "our way" and investigate if there's a better way... especially if we continue to face the same challenges over and over...maybe changing is the best remedy

[@melbaknowlton]

Very good Tab and Chance!! 😊This again were some transparency moments! I love to hear married couples talk about how they overcame issues in their marriage. It gives me hope to keep on keeping on! Love y’all and wish nothing but God’s best for you two!!

[@BabyBreath2012]

I’m loving these! I’m interested in how you were both able to grow and mature to cultivate the type of relationship you have now. So many of us couple go thru growing pains and it seems like there’s no end in sight

[@Carlyon100]

How you fight is a measure of how you love. Even when, not if you get mad at your partner your relationship should be such that you are still assured that the love, tenderness and devotion is still there sizzling in the spirit.

[@annrogers3859]

Sadly Ive done this for along time. But when I met the man that truly loved me unconditionally n treated me like a queen I stayed silent n he passed n I'm no longer the same person. I dnt even want to let my heart go n e more.

[@3DSuccess]

Tab shared she wasn't sure where the term came from. The term came from scripture. Ephesians 4:26-27 KJV Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: neither give place to the devil. It is not the easiest thing to achieve and definitely can seem unachievable, but definitely a good principle when possible. I guess God's intent was to prevent things from festering. You guys did a great job of bringing sound human scenarios to this. You all are such a beautiful couple.

[@latashastewart-estelle1363]

You should go to Ghana! They are just as excited to see us there. Ghanaians are extremely friendly and it is customary to greet everyone as a family member.

[@lisaanderson2080]

We're talking about extreme anger. Disagreements and vindictive anger is different. When it's vindictive you shouldn't want to sleep.

[@michellehollien3394]

Takes discernment and wisdom. Comes with learning one another if that's each others desire. Awesome discussions keep them coming.

[@Iam_Celene]

Me and my childhood friend plan on getting married ❤ we dated in middle school and we’re each others first kiss. We are planning on a small wedding with some immediate family and friends and some teachers. I will love inviting my teachers because they know we both dated and we decided to resume our relationship and being the best we can be.

[@michellemann6362]

Congratulations 🎉 to you both. May the Lord bless your union, know that God loves you and keep The Lord first 😊🙏❤️

[@Iam_Celene]

@@michellemann6362 😊

[@srswms5157]

Congratulations 😊

[@lorinunery2353]

You two almost had me busting out laughing at my desk. You gave some real advice. Chance, you stopped something with three nods then ok baby😄. I love you both 😍

[@lorinunery2353]

*I meant "started something

[@donnahale1011]

Tab ur soooo funny...and Chance is so cool and calm...lol

[@ayannatuitt6533]

I love y'alls transparency.

[@tyoung8032]

I love the energy you both have together! ❤

[@tyara.collins]

I love how y’all are giving each other butterflies after all these years! I am 29 and my bf is 40 so I love your take on these topics as we hit year 2 in our relationship this is something that we’re still working on it is hard. If we don’t work it out that evening we will get up and talk about it first thing the next day and hash it out.

[@MsAware-ck9nd]

I love it! I don't need your head! Hahahahaha 🤣😂🤣😂 That's too funny!!!

[@ouranoswealthgroup7042]

‘Its a different time zone’ 😂 right.

[@wendyhestick8514]

Thank you for your honesty and candor!

[@cassandrahansberry1195]

Hello beautiful family, On my drive home from work I started singing Friday's with Tab and chance in my mind. So here I am listing to your words of wisdom as God prompted me to do.❤Love y'all❤

[@IAmDionneKelley]

People giving that advice are referring to a scripture in Ephesians 4:26 but usually they 1. don't share the text AND 2. give that "advice" and use the scripture out of context.

[@cynthiahillian]

Yes. And is anger wrath? Nothing wrong with anger... Be angry and don't murder... Don't sin. Rightly divide the word... Good point!!!

[@mizbee2476]

Love this couple, love how transparent they are regarding relationships.

[@roshellejohnson2996]

I enjoy every session this was hilarious

[@aysherbint2684]

I love you both. So raw and true. I know what the word says but like you Tabitha, I’d rather go to bed Honest than Disrespectful.”imma leave this for now before we go somewhere we can’t get back from fast.”

[@QueenZsWorld]

No words, just that these videos are a blessing. God bless y'all for sharing.

[@ladyt3182]

Y’all know one another so well!

[@marchettalemon2285]

Yall truly look refreshed and blessed beautiful couple keep up the great work 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@ARTTLife]

“..Ok Baby” 😅😂

[@ajanineamartin7839]

Chance is a whole vibe😂😂😂

[@alicehayden253]

My husband and I have made a cautious decision not to get in the same bed and fall asleep with anger in our hearts towards each other. For us, it's biblical, and obedience is better than sacrifice. Besides, I'm not laying down mad and waking up mad over the same mess!!! Bc now you're spending a new day dealing with yesterday issues! Joy comes in the morning, not being sad or mad about something that could have been resolved yesterday.

[@nicole_rn_scott]

I think I smiled the whole video. I absolutely love you guys ❤

[@ebonieyez8683]

Come thru Nick with the good topics!

[@readthebible7426]

Your hair is EVERYTHING! just beautiful.

[@desiredsolutionz3536]

Yall always make me laugh!! 😅😅But soo true. LOOK, not tonight. Well, discuss tomorrow. I think it's the heart posture when you're angry. If you have strife in your heart, you need to release that to God or even write it out. But yall were sooo right. Sometimes we can't talk, but we can get it in!😅😅😅. I'm still mad though 🤣🤣🤣. Great topic.! Hey Chance, That head thing is THE TRUTH. Not only for men either. I do that to my husband now. It works. 😅 . Love y'all

[@nikkil1212]

Love you and this series Tab and Chance ❤

[@brendabey3403]

I love y'alls show Tab you and the robot is everything.

[@michellemann6362]

I believe we're all guilty of this 😊. This is why the Lord tells us "not to let the sun go down danger" Ephesians 4 26-27❤️👍👍🙏☺️. It's hard at times ❤️

[@dwalker6868]

Thank you

[@SonSceray]

I hold deep.. to the T 'FAITH'... that I'll encounter a 'Chance' to my 'Tabitha', & to be a 'Tabitha' to a 'Chance' in the most positive light, & joy possible.. no matter the hiccup/dark moments that I may face (& my daughter in her future comings). ~ Honest. I have a connection, reassurance, & confirmation when watching these (Knowing my knowledge, wisdom, head & most importantly.. my heart.. is in alignment with my greater knowing, Inner/understanding). I would let Tabitha/Chance seek-out my partner anytime

[@catherinefrye7269]

I believe we have all done this in our early years( going to bed mad at each other)! As we mature in life we will learn better how to communicate with each other. Some things things can wait if it isn't that important. My husband and I are in our 70's and we do what the Lord told us to do in ( Ephesians 4:26-27) and that settles it for me and him. When end up laughing at each other like You and Chance! Lol😂😂😂 Chance and the 3x's head noggin, lol😂😂😂

[@ultimategamer2585]

Sometimes your argument may start about he didn't wash the dishes tonight, and then it will turn into well 2 months ago I felt that you called me lazy because I forgot to get my clothes together for laundry. And you're not my Mother, and just a whole entire WTFudge. And you're like wait what, I don't know what just happened. Stuff can go left in a heartbeat, even though you're saying exactly what u mean. Your spouse or mate, just isn't ready to receive yet, so yes sometimes u have to patiently wait until u can have a calm cool and respectful conversation, which we all as adults know may take some TIMMMMMMME. That's not a typo, I'm only saying sometimes things have to marinate or slow cook before u can enjoy it. God bless u guys and your family.

[@annettecummings9913]

Love this good advise

[@ouranoswealthgroup7042]

That was very good advice to a daughter getting married. Ok, Tab’s DAD!!! If he said that on a wedding video, that was a perfect thing to say to both of you. Beautiful.

[@carolynlong8701]

Their are couples who say that they never go to bed angry. God bless them 😊❤

[@ouranoswealthgroup7042]

Happy Mother’s Day to you and your mom, Tab!! Have a fabulous and prosperous weekend 💛👑🏁

[@Mrs.DoinDaMOST]

I agree with that becuz sometimes in anger u say stuff u don't mean and I don't like to lose my character so I'll sleep on it and we can resume more level headed the next day

[@tammywilliams9335]

Hi, Tab & Chance what a great subject/ topic for married couples. Thanks for always being 💯 with us. And Happy Mother's Day Tab 💕🥰🙏🏾🫶

[@jesuslittlegirl2710]

YES LORD YES LORD LORD YES LORD YES AMEN 🙏 RIGHT ON POINT ✝️SO SO TRUE, AMEN ✝️ HALLELUJAH GLORY TO GOD 🙏 ✝️ 🙌

[@TheFaithful58]

Okay, in the Bible in Ephesians 4:26 says" Be ye angry, and sin not let not the Sun go down upon your wrath". simply means, Don't let the day end before you begin to work on mending your relationship.

[@Its.Azaria]

Y’all are so real and I absolutely love it 😂🤍

[@WonderfullyMade_Lex]

The saying comes from Ephesians 4:26. It's actually a scripture.

[@cynthiahillian]

1 2 3 Okay babe!! Great marital advice😂

[@baabylove76]

Speaking for a married woman of 26 years I wanted to chime in with food for thought and do with it what you like because that's yo business... however the notion of not going to sleep angry is not for the other person as much as it is for you. No one thinks about if you find yourself on the other side of eternity in anger or unforgiven it may not be the resting place you prepared for! Just like forgiveness is for you, not going to bed angry is as well.

[@sunearthmhoon]

I love these talks. I think it’s helpful to really know your partner. If you have a partner who’s been through trauma or possibly has trouble letting go/sleeping when their mind is going or stressed, l think it’s worth considering to make a rule(s) for the health and well-being of both parties. I hope that makes sense.

[@talyja16]

I can't drift off mad. There's no peace in going to bed mad, for me. I, personal, can't sleep without being resolved. I think this goes on case by case measures.

[@pamelacohen5945]

Another Great Topic ❤❤❤❤❤

[@KyleMacpherson]

I can't even tell you how much I love you two! You crack me up!!!

[@rickismith1259]

Great topic. I agree. Forcing a conversation doesn't solve anything. Y'all are hilarious

[@diannemontgomery7216]

So so good..love you two immensely

[@rosebowman7520]

That was some of the best advice, or non-advice, I’ve ever heard. My friend always had that “don’t go to sleep angry” mess. Sometimes you can’t solve the issue before you go to sleep. Sometimes the issue is so major, making up just for that reason isn’t even justifiable. Thanks Tab and Chance!

[@Ms614Queen]

Yes he kept the beat going so Tab can break it down.

[@MsAware-ck9nd]

Choose your battles

[@santibamoss9050]

Yall are so real love this one

[@IAmDionneKelley]

3 nods...and #okayBabe🤣🤣🤣

[@shirleytowe7649]

Hi Tab and Chance, read Ephesians 4:26 and 27. The Bible instructs us to not go to bed angry. The New King James Version says, “Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath”. The Message Version actually says “Don’t go to bed angry…..it gives the enemy (the Devil) a foothold.” Love you both and I felt compelled to share ❤

[@MsAware-ck9nd]

Yes dear!!

[@verniawilliams4662]

Very good point

[@sheltryroberts8937]

Love the conversation.

[@AngelineSims]

What about the people who cannot sleep until it is resolved.