Golden Child Sister Got Kicked Out By Her Husband For Cheating...

[@morganablackwater2017]

Also ...she wasn't flirting with your husband OP ...she was HARASSING your husband. Flirting is only when its two sided.

[@hippyhappyhippo]

Narcissists think the world revolves around them, someone not being interested in them doesn't make sense to them.

[@ValirianDefiance]

it stopes being Flirting when the recipient asks for it to stop. if it continues after that it is just harassments.

[@aznboi1027]

No, it can start as flirting until one party dont want the advance anymore

[@bakedandbeaded]

Not true at all about flirting. Flirting very often starts 1 sided since usually one person makes the move FIRST. So that’s a braindead take on your end. The sister is still nasty and OP is naive.

[@qine6559]

Is flirting twosided!?!? I am not english speaker. I never knew that!!!

[@shinobiuzui3490]

Like, why did op think she was safe? Your sister is a cheater, ofc she might go after your man op

[@Maninawig]

*again.... She already tried going for him before.

[@Arcane_Route_66]

Poisedon said it best in Ruthlessness. "The line between naivete and hopefulness is almost invisible".

[@kokonaharuka1180]

⁠@@Arcane_Route_66ruthlessness mentioned! but seriously though, what was she thinking?? nothing really stopped her sister before, so why'd she think she'd be protected from the same?

[@domvasta]

Yeah, but she also trusts her husband, the first incident of flirting was years ago and she didn't think she'd ever be so blatantly disrespectful as to do it in front of her. Personality disorders are the hardest sort of mental disorders to treat, it's very hard to separate the person from the stuff they continually do, it's not like an episodic thing like schizophrenia or bipolar, it's just constant.

[@boredboi6279]

To be fair she probably hoped that her sister wouldn't have stopped so low as to flirt with her sister's husband

[@Feyra.z]

Not the parents pulling a do-it-for-dan 💀

[@Whykickamoocow]

Buy it for Becky. 😆 🤣

[@ada45169]

I am so glad I got this reference

[@DaxOrien]

@@ada45169 I at the same wish I didn't and am glad I do.

[@justjoshua5759]

@@ada45169me too lmao. I hope do it for dan becomes a meme here

[@ifynwamma]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 That story was crazy af.

[@DarkEinherjar]

As someone else commented here, after reading the whole thing, I wonder if the aunt was really the helicopter parent Becky said she was, or if the parents just vilified her for having normal expectations and rules, instead of enabling their golden child like they do. If she's really studying all the time and facing constant discipline, it makes no sense for her grades to slip or for her to become a narcissist. Narcissists are usually the product of a lifetime of enabling, and the aunt seemed to be doing the opposite of that.

[@reillycurran8508]

Yyyyyyyyup, sounds to me like auntie just got thrown under the bus for trying to keep her under control

[@highlyopinionated5611]

Actually, narcissistic personality disorder is usually caused by severe prolonged trauma + enabling of bad coping mechanisms. I think the best analogy I can give, is a broken bone that has healed crookedly and remains brittle. Narcissists actually have incredibly low self esteem; their delusions of grandeur and perfection are just the way their mind protects itself from the underlying feelings of worthlessness and self-hatred. If they don't pretend that they can do no wrong, and that everyone else is the problem whenever something goes wrong in their lives, then the only other possible screw-up left is them. Logical and not a big deal for a normal person, but to a narcissist this is an unbearable thought that shatters their delusion of flawlessness. Wich they believe they need to keep intact to survive. Literally. Since they are at a point where the only alternative to the lie is self-deletion. Hence why they get protective and start acting crazy as soon as they are confronted by reality. It's a life threatening situation to them to have their ego put into question. To not be the center of attention or the subject of everyone's envy. It's a terrible personality disorder to have, since the narcissist ultimately always sets themselves up for failure. And it's an even worse disorder for a loved one or relative, because living with a narcissist is exhausting and incredibly difficult.

[@NessieNice]

Yeah. Kinda weird for me too. Depressed and su*c*dal are more likely. Narcisst? Hard to believe

[@fuchsiasecret120]

Meanwhile the aunt literally behaved differently when the family wasn't around... the daughter was doing so well in the first place to go to a good school, that wouldn't change over night when the child Wants and Works for thise goals!!! Most likely the parents favored OP's sister because she was better academically, the aunt abused her and controlled her, breaking the girl down until she no longer had to take care of her niece, based on the aunts story she was likely jealous of how her niece was actually getting a GREAT opportunity for her education while the aunt felt like a failure... after the golden child was returned home the parents never took care of her properly because they felt she was to smart to need therapy (this is also likely where the narcissistic behavior in the sister started)... the parents had already done a good job of gaslighting and brainwashing OP into being a carpet for her sister simply because she was smarter and OP knew that even as a child!!! While yes there are sometimes OBVIOUS differences in how smart your kids are, that doesn't mean that OP shouldn't have had any opportunities given, and she clearly never was praised for her skills by her parents or else it would have been mentioned/the sister wouldn't have been considered a golden child

[@Guerrillapicnic]

When I heard that she suddenly changed I immediately thought she was being abused. It’s really hard to understand hopelessness that you can feel when you isolated from family and subjected to abuse that might not be physical to a child that is growing and developing. Can 100% taint the person that they potentially could grow into.

[@DeliciousBoi]

So.... It sounds like the parents made her a Golden child, and the aunt honestly sounds like she was trying to iron her out and make a half decent person out of her, and golden child put up with it until she couldn't. OP is only just now starting to understand that her family is shit.

[@anakhanair_]

she was nice when she was with her parents tho, her parents are probably doing things to ease their guilt about their daughter who lost all her potential

[@nvm8824]

Nah, aunt made her a Narcissist and parents felt as if it were their fault and overcompensated by making her a golden child

[@ilovesports5468]

@@nvm8824nope. The parents blame everyone but themselves. Look at them blaming OP for her sister not going home… smh

[@vliedtke]

@@ilovesports5468 theres a lot of stories like that though child A goes through something traumatic, parents compensate by making them the center of attention and in turn neglect their siblings

[@yamairad1]

This, a few years, doesn't really make a person NPD. If that were the case, we'd all have NPD. The parents set her up for failure. Also, why on earth would you try to control a grown adult and go out of your way to tell everybody around you how crazy your daughter is. You are isolating her and ensuring she can not free herself from under your thumb. The parents are so obviously abusive it's insane. This is word for word how my X MIL is. It got to a point that people I didn't know looked down at me and with obvious disgust. They were her friends, and she talked so horribly about us that people I never met treated me like trash. So, I can say from personal experience that this is abuse.

[@Peachysodabum]

Is anyone else bothered that the parents are treating this grown woman like a child because she has NARCISSISM?? Narcissism isn’t a disorder that means you can’t live on your own or be an adult. If anything, I think coddling her makes the disorder worse than better.

[@HistoryUwu]

Exactly! She was begging to be left alone and build herself up but the parents refused to give her enough independence for her to manage her own life. She was obviously getting bored with life as she had thought of a great future in her childhood but ended up getting stuck with living with her parents and worse than that , not having ANY profession as such where she has an adequate amount of work and the spoon-feeding was likely annoying her.

[@sarahmaxima]

According to this story she became like she is now due to helicopter parenting from her aunt. Her parents genious solution for this was to helicopter parent her to fix it

[@minus606]

Ngl it felt like misstreatment Like what do you mean you talked to her boyfriend? Gurl has sevear issues and seemingly now narssisim bc of trauma involviert beeing CONTROLLED and...you controll her relationship?? The parents ''allowing her'' to move out...have a boy friend...talk to him about her issues Like omg the oarents just made everything so much worse No wonder the twinn ended up messed up Thr cgildhood trauma might have been able to be draled with, but continueing this till adulthood At this point I can't even blaim the twinn...its the parents!

[@Dio.ConfessionTales]

It's concerning how misconceptions about narcissism can lead to inappropriate treatment. Education and empathy are key to helping individuals with this disorder thrive independently.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

the gonad donors are the cause of all of this.

[@noobyman333]

After sitting through this entire thing, I'm starting to thing that the aunt wasn't the only problem behind closed doors early on. Unfortunately the "Give her your house" comment proves they have the same tendencies, either absorbed from the sister from constant exposure or more likely was always present. The only path forward for happiness is likely going to be a permanent NC with the entire branch of the family from where aunt came from and a very tentative relationship with the other if you filter them out on a case by case basis. Sucks that things would ever have to get that far but heck this is just not healthy.

[@DarkEinherjar]

These parents were surprisingly good at hiding their favoritism, probably because OP was an obedient and submissive daughter... but the mask slipped off the moment OP went against their wishes. Yeah, she's better off without any of them.

[@arhael3594]

Aunt had 0 to do with sister's narcissism. She inherited it from parents.

[@matthewcardoza1190]

But the Aunt never discouraged the narcissism, and even seems to have encouraged it as well. So the Aunt shares guilt as well.

[@joeysonofjohn]

@@matthewcardoza1190how did the Aunt encourage it?

[@erejnion]

The aunt is the one who broke her. The parents aren't much better though.

[@Eilvain]

Narcissism is theorized to develop in early childhood, clinical narcissism (not what lay people mistake for narcissism, usually extreme self centeredness) is where an individual is emotionally around 4-5 years of age. There is usually a significant trauma in that age and the narcissism emerges as a defense of feelings of intense self loathing/low self worth of the person with narcissism. The narcissistic traits are the show, so to speak, put on so others don't see the depth of the pain and it is even hidden from the person suffering from the disorder as well. So all this to say, pretty sure there was something the parents did or didn't do that contributed to this diagnosis for Becky.

[@js8qp2pwisos]

So rude of the parents to be like "Your husband is loyal so its fine!" What about his comfort?? It doesnt matter that hes uncomfortable??? He should just deal with his SIL sexually harrasing him because what, hes a man and shes a woman so its ok?!?!?

[@yamairad1]

Becky is an adult. She can dissappear without the world ending. The parents are literally insane

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

Regardless of gender, never bring someone with a past of cheating into your home

[@chandrarice9000]

Ain't nobody gonna "convince" me to let someone stay at MY house.

[@chanellerenee5928]

That part!!!! Becky needs medication and a mental hospital!

[@HistoryUwu]

@@chanellerenee5928 Becky needs some independence and being left alone.

[@hippyhappyhippo]

The woman was diagnosed as a narcissist and her sister didn't investigate what that entails. It means she's selfish and doesn't empathise with people, she will blame others for any failings, nothing is her fault. That's someone with no sense of responsibility and a huge sense of entitlement, and it sounds like her parents have assisted in nurturing that behaviour to be honest, even though all the blame was foisted onto the aunt.

[@PringerXYZ]

"I didn't see the point of denying it over and over again" (facepalm) I DO!

[@morganablackwater2017]

Parents messed her up - you can't protect someone from consequences of they actions and be surprised they didn't improve xd

[@SiriusBMermaid]

Its pretty obvious where the Narcissism came from. It was not the aunt that caused it, her parents made her this way and the aunt was probably trying to change her.

[@legiontepes3474]

Nta. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be saved.

[@GmonkeyJ777]

She's never been taught accountability, that came from the parents not the aunt.

[@Omg786uyhbhbghhuiufffhvfvn]

Why these stories have more twists than every Ex Wife's Affairs 😭

[@AWD_Kia]

its the ai giving the people what they want and its getting good at it

[@kimsmith1746]

I cannot believe the parents sued the aunt and won. Clearly, the parents were the issue and enabled the sister. The parents were narcissists themselves. How do I know this? I dealt with this. My parents guilted me on two separate occasions to take in first my brother, who was kicked out, them his adult son, who was kicked out. My parents sided with them. I finally realized that my parents never took responsibility for their mistakes, just like my siblings.

[@boredpersonstory553]

No the Aunt didn't ruin the Sister the Parents did the Aunt just gave it push but its the Parents who won't let a 30 y/o Woman face any consequences

[@slyph63]

What happens when you convince someone they are special

[@Killahbee168]

You know what's killing me about the story how the parents never take accountability for anything they messed up with this child it's not your responsibility

[@edenfieldjason]

The aunt sounds like she tried but the kid was a lunatic

[@mursukkiii]

Girlie saying to people who have their own house, their own relationship and their own careers that they are "loosers" meanwhile she does nothing with her life and make mommy and daddy buy her an apartment and that is the only thing going for her 😂 and showing it off like she was the one to work to have that singular thing. Delulu 😅

[@CatPeterson-jx3pt]

when they said "she started snapping at us, was distant, became troublesome in school" I just knew the aunt was abusing her in some way, these are the signs.

[@prestow]

Never fix a problem with another problem

[@prestow]

Also, parents could've given their own house to becky instead of telling her daughter to give hers.

[@Spacemanct]

Your horrible sister screwed up immediately after she moved in. Im shocked. Heres my shocked face 😮

[@gtdc4685]

Here’s mine 👁️👄👁️

[@behiyepalo2985]

lol

[@chanellerenee5928]

Here’s mine 🤨

[@changedmyname26]

😂😂😂

[@xydis.06.03]

Hold on. I just found mine. 🙄

[@retromurph_6061]

"You can deal with it or give her the house and go somewhere else" Sounds a lot like they'd be finding her on the streets, cause she'd be getting kicked out regardless

[@georgewashington4866]

I bet the sister believed that every man was in love with her except those that are related by blood

[@TileBitan]

it's a bit naive to think it was all on her aunt

[@estrella9944]

The parents needed someone to blame and the aunt was it. The parents made the narcissist. Not the aunt. The sister is a diagnosed narcissist. That rarely happens because A narcissist can do no wrong in their mind. The OP was just trying. The OP is a good person and tried to do a good thing

[@TileBitan]

@@estrella9944 Still, after all those problems with her sister and her parents, isn't it time to stop believing whatever lies the sister told about her aunt? She never cleaned up her name lol

[@chrisj.1608]

So just because someone has narcissistic personality disorder it doesn't essentially destroy their life it's basically just means that they're all about themselves and they're stuck on themselves you paint her as being almost an invalid and can't do anything that's why I'm leaning towards the story being fake because that's not how it works

[@reshawshid]

"After a while, I didn't see the point in declining it over and over again, so I ended up agreeing to it..." Excuse me, what?

[@kevinrowley55]

Narcissism isn’t something you catch, it was there the whole time the aunt just made it worse.

[@uberpatriot4152]

It's bad manners to shit on someone's dinner table when they offer you a meal, it's completely delusional to get angry with your host when they request you clean up your own mess or leave and never return!

[@royal-wolf]

Op's "family" will try to get in touch once OP announces she's pregnant and they will demand to be in the child's life

[@ThatIronHandsGuy]

the aunt giving her NPD is just sickening like seriously it just boils my blood

[@Marlontboi]

Nah the parents said take one for the team💀

[@ragingdid]

WE LET OP’S SISTER COOK AND IT’S BURNT!!!!!🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@Erebus04]

This story has a lot of range for a simple cheating story, kind of feels like the OP is also trying to justify what the sister did/tried to do

[@valeriecomplex9685]

My sister flirted with My husband. Am I the Asshole for kicking her out These post are borderline pathetic because you’re telling me you feel bad after kicking your sister out after she flirted with your husband? People feel guilt for so many things when they shouldn’t

[@notting2640]

It’s Reddit 😂 the type of place where people would cry for days just because they accidentally stepped on an ant

[@Ocean_Monae]

Thank you! It's irks my damn nerves, like do you really need to ask if yta for shit you CLEARLY aren't The asshole for

[@Killahbee168]

And that's the second thing I can never understand about parents what's the point of having a kid if you're going to put them on somebody else's their responsibility and this is the main issue why kids grow up entitled to no guidance

[@kabbage5]

NPD and BPD, stay awayyyyyyyyyyyyy I dated a BPD, it was a nightmare

[@valerinaaz]

THE TITLE MADE ME GO WOWZAAA 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

[@WAHegle91]

As soon as I heard the name “Becky”, I stopped listening to the story and couldn’t stop thinking about the song “Baby Got Back”. I forgot it existed, but now I won’t be able to not hear it all day long. So thanks for that Telltales.

[@sosamma090]

Bro heard everything about problem daughter and got into relationship with her lmaooooooo. Some people need to learn the hard way.

[@flea9284]

I think the only person who's using their brain is the crazy sister cause she's playing everyone the fool.

[@Jerseybytes2]

is op that crazy?? her sister flirted with her husband, cheated on her own husband, and now she's allowing her to move in with her? what part of this sounded like a good idea at the time?

[@changedmyname26]

Too much info on the pathetic sister. Did op really expect her to be respectful towards her and her relationship? Shes a cheater that should have been enough to not let her move in and build a relationship with her.

[@jamescarter2059]

So what I understand from this is the aunt trying to get Her on track and she had to break down over it and the family Sued Her because of this What a terrible family

[@ValirianDefiance]

seem like the parents innocently fed the sisters ego all their childhood intel she moved in with the aunt who demanded perfection and the stress caused her to develop severe NPD. Now the parents baby their traumatized daughter treating it like its PTSD and not NPD witch are both vary different diagnoses requiring very different treatments even at OPs expense and that is unacceptable.

[@RepellentJeff]

Trying to cure narcissism is like trying to cure uranium of radiation. 🤪

[@Theforce8888]

Narcissistic behaviour is not a disease, it comes from parents who enable their child to get away with anything. Lack accountability causes that.

[@phil1511]

Im curious if it's actually possible to develop NPD due to strict upbringing. I'd expect it to be more of Anxiety or trauma related 🤔. I'd say this started way before she moved in with said aunt, though aunt might have had a hand in its development

[@Flynnisthename]

“There’s no fixing a nutcase like this because they’re always going to be ungrateful.” Maybe uh. Don’t lump all people with NPD in with her.

[@SungJinWu_]

If she got her health bas it's totally HER fault they said she could go on campus but she refused the divorce was also HER fault

[@Mayastoryes5328]

I think becky needed help

[@Teabag-jt]

If she has NPD, it wasn’t your aunt which caused but definitely stroked it deeper. NPD is personality disorder, meaning it’s connected to genetics, brain development, neurological pathways and much more. The question then comes are you identical or not. Based on the facts your presenting I’m guessing op isn’t identical. This means Becky could be 100% you could have been send the same outcome could have occurred back home.

[@CodyJonesXD]

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[@migueltucen3781]

Its the parents making all the bad decisions.

[@mathewbuendia1038]

Mental health may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility

[@Heiura]

No bro ... That's full on craziness bruh ... Tf

[@treehouse2902]

They should have taken all her belongings and dump them on the front yard then lock the door. OP needs to go no contact with he crazy lot. Why do these OPs seek validation from people who have made it clear to them that they don't care?

[@BrianLiamson]

This golden child sister really does have a narcissistic personality.

[@Thaddius0]

Parents gonna throw away all their money enabling the nutcase daughter, then when they get old act surprised that the stable one puts them in a home and doesnt look back

[@brianarnold8666]

4:33 she didnt want to leave but she decided to screw it up entirely

[@scottwilson3117]

Older brother pulled that crap 💩 and wondering why I put him in the ER.

[@Panwere36]

Twins this different.. I don't doubt this is true.. but this sounds like something out of the _Sweet Valley High_ series of novels....

[@C-Schlauch]

Do it for Dan😂😂😂😂😂

[@Maninawig]

Guess the parents chose their daughter over rhe future grabdkids.

[@Larchkty0324]

You don't develop narcissistic behavior like that, most likely she was a narcissist from the beginning and hid it (as many do). Sounds like she was treated as special at home and moved in with the aunt where she wasn't treated special anymore and that set everything else off. It sounds like she's always been the special child and felt she could do whatever she wanted. She couldn't handle OP's husband not wanting her. I HOPE oP goes no contact with all of them.

[@vivianaanzaldo4355]

The aunt did not cause her to be narcissistic

[@pirubix]

Anyone else guessing she probably made up everything about her aunts treatment?

[@goatkiller666]

I honestly don’t know the answer here, but… does the grey rock method work on people who aren’t spouses in an ugly divorce? Like an annoying SiL who keeps sexually harassing you?

[@jadedkorean]

it works even better if you go no contact and dont let them live with you

[@raffifl]

It seems your parents were also super intrusive with her after she returned. Exactly the opposite than what she needed :-(

[@InterExpertz]

I feel like her sister didn't do anything wrong. Her aunt quite literally ruined her whole life by treating her like that.

[@grayfilms8751]

no the sister 100% something man. but yea its also the aunts fault too

[@Boodikii]

If she doesn't have the ability to produce a filter than it's kind of like getting mad at a guy with tourettes for swearing.

[@ix7958]

*after smoking 4 pakes of cigs* "its a twin story"

[@reneeharper84]

The aunt may have caused the trauma that led to NPD but the parents didn't help by then turning into helicopter parents themselves. In fact, they probably made it worse.

[@AtaurRahman-tk9hm]

Single people especially women are not bad news ,

[@t.abellard6280]

No. Next question.

[@mikeconnors9287]

The shit apple doesn't fall far from the shit tree.

[@taylordaenzer4852]

It's not your fault it's her fault for flirting with your husband.

[@ThePawerStation]

Parents turned to be as PoS as sis

[@ImaginationEngine-xq3wg]

Why are women such poor judges of character

[@NourAmsterdam]

Stop taking in toxic family members

[@grt8guy03]

My sister-in-law is a narcissist just like becky

[@kauerranger735]

u need to get a different music somehow... getting depresed with the same music all the time xD

[@qlof]

F*ing Toby always messing up things... I think he could be the Scranton stranger.

[@anim_ex]

He didn't mess up?

[@mongviemong]

Im sorry but i think she already a narcissist since the school invitation come 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Eric.43]

Seems fake

[@Yue_Jin]

Funny that the parents somehow supposedly sued the aunt, pretty obvious there'd be no claim for that and part of the issue is the parents. But hey, fake story.

[@someguy-sq1kg]

Of course the sister is called Becky can't trust them

[@farisalsadig5914]

I know it's fake but it's pretty interesting

[@MissMollyDoll311]

Who else thinks Becky is faking being incompetent and mentally ill to always get her way?

[@fabianafagundezmuniz8119]

I understand she is a adult that has Made a Lot of mistakes and ver family can't put up with it anymore, but I feel Bad for her, she was sent away to someone that wasn't qualified to be a parent just for a posibility of a distant Future wich probably gave her a Lot of pressure, then we can't really know what else could have happened when she lived with her parents, if the treatment was actually working, we just have some story about OP telling us distant memories. The cheating was completly wrong plus flirting with OP's Husband, but this happened when she already hit a low point and no One could do anything by then, but she still needs Help.

[@amyk9397]

i dont feel bad for op. how dumb do you have to be to allow a women who cheated in your house

[@lucifersatan8240]

Genuinely decent parents. That's rare for these. Maybe they don't understand what narcissism actually is but they tried their best in a difficult situation. The "do it for dan" was bad but I understand how they thought it was justified.

[@user-oq4fv3wh4o]

Hey creator of vids- do you decide how many ads go into the video? It's becoming unbearable