Goodbye, online dating.

[@LanaBlakely]

Happy Halloween, You. 🎃

[@ratammounika6474]

Thank you, same to you

[@cherryblossoms9491]

Happy Halloween Queen!💐😍

[@lilyland3107]

Thank you so much for such a great video! Hope you all the best!

[@kcreeves6059]

Hey Happy Holidays beautiful, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's holidays coming, I didn't know your channel last year. So these holidays with Lana. Will be great

[@kcreeves6059]

See ya later 💝

[@andrews.7930]

I am in my 50's and lost my dear Partner 3 years ago. I realized the 24 years i spent with her cannot be duplicated ( i think i was already in Heaven). She always reminded me to "enjoy every moment in life"; she and i did - i enjoy your videos and newsletters; please continue doing them you have a special talent.

[@alextroy9202]

So sorry 😢

[@joelansere8743]

🙏🏿

[@andrews.7930]

@A Banana She passed Dec 27th, so Christmas is hard. But I am moving on. Hoping this covid with go away.

[@lifewithnosibusisodingaan6411]

So Sory

[@andrews.7930]

@@lifewithnosibusisodingaan6411 thank you for your kind words.

[@ahmedosman9373]

Nailed the Joe Golberg impersonation.

[@LanaBlakely]

Thanks! 😆

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

DUDE!!! i JUST COMMENTED THAT ABOVE :D The intro is 'You' Intro.

[@OnlyJerico]

Haha trur

[@imanebala1054]

😂😂😂

[@pranayblue]

Exactly, that was what I was thinking...

[@AhmetKaan]

*5 things to quit for all people:* *1. Caring about what others thing* *2. Not believing in yourself* *3. Not prioritizing your health* *4. Wasting your precious time* *5. Chasing meaningless relationships*

[@lavans06]

Wait - why can't we be prioritizing our health? Isn't that how we 'focus on ourselves'?

[@Edrianium]

@@lavans06 he’s dating people should quit NOT prioritizing their health. Meaning they should

[@brechtgeers]

You can chat and really have a good connection online for months, and yet when you meet them in person they're not even close to what you thought.

[@Chrisratata]

I've never liked the checklist nature of it. There's no substitute for reacting to the organic spark of unexpectedly meeting someone in person, hitting it off with them, and going with the flow. Body/eye language when we're in each other's presence says so much more than a profile *ever* could - there's energy there and that's the fuel that keeps the connection moving. A well-chosen pic might be hot but it says little to nothing about how you and I vibe. "Well yeah, that's the whole point of contacting/meeting up with them - to see if you do vibe." ...Okay sure of course but I have to be compelled to meet up with them in the first place, and that's almost certainly not going to happen at a distance so I have nearly zero motivation to go after her in such an inorganic environment.

[@LanaBlakely]

Greatly put.

[@Chrisratata]

@Etevaldo Skylab even then, I didn't like it for the same reasons I stated. Similar interests and philosophies on life, how active we are, and where we are on our life journey all play a role in the connection we have yes... But who we are on paper doesn't necessarily translate to who we are together. There's a gravity between some souls that's indescribable - an energy that you can't feel until you're with them - which is all the more exciting when it's unplanned and not orchestrated by some framework.

[@AdrienneMint]

I agree with what you wrote. But here’s the problem. You can’t meet someone just walking down the street. Nobody else is ever walking down the street when I am. In fact, hardly anyone is walking around at all. It’s still pandemic. So what do you do if you really want to meet someone but it isn’t going to happen organically. Just sit home and wait? I’m in NYC. Some people are going out like there is no virus around. But mostly it’s really quiet, not like NY was before pandemic. It’s nearly impossible to meet someone organically and forget my friends, they are penthouse going to introduce me to anyone. So what do I do?

[@Chrisratata]

@@AdrienneMint i agree that everyone's situation is different, and understand that some people don't have much opportunity at all to meet new people. Me personally, I actually go out to bars and clubs and house gatherings. I fantasize about meeting a girl at the grocery store but it's yet to happen lol... But as for you asking "what do I do?" I would say to not be afraid to strike up conversations with strangers in basic settings (like stores and coffeeshops), with no expectation as to where it leads - that said, I'm sure NYC is a tough cookie to crack in that regard.

[@AdrienneMint]

@@Chrisratata I will definitely try what you suggested, I do still go to the market and the drugstore and sometimes to a park. They seem safe , regarding the virus, though I am vaxxed. I still want to be safe and not catch it. I used to go to clubs and bars a lot and I did meet men that way but I don’t do that now. Believe me I’ve done plenty of online dating. I went with a doctor that I met online, for 6 years. I take full responsibility but he did steal over a quarter of a million bucks from me. I still tried again last year .,I met some men but I didn’t click with any of them, though I was asked out for another date by all of them. Nothing worked for me. I don’t want to give up. I’ll keep trying. Thank you!❤️ and I wish you the best.

[@taylorjackson9660]

It’s so hard to find people nowadays. Which is why online dating becomes the best option. But a relationship I feel has to start with in friendship stage and not rushed in to the partnership stage. But it’s so hard to find that.

[@krii9]

I totally agree. I think it was easier in older generations because people were not so complicated as now, they literally had matchmakers or someone from their family would set them up to somebody else (most of my family members met like that). Maybe this is not for everybody but people today have such high standards.

[@Hampappi]

I wonder if there’s a only friends app. Like tinder but it’s to meet friends

[@indimist390]

@@Hampappi bumble bffs is a good app to make frends

[@Hampappi]

@@indimist390 so I tried the app for a week or so and I gotta say. Wasn’t impressed lol, a lot of dudes on there assumed I was gay and wanted to hook up and the females were more or less the same. I think it’s a hook up app lol. It’s been since deleted

[@Nicole-ld6ev]

Same lol.

[@peterjuff]

To me, someone who is shy and not very confident online dating is a necessary evil. It's great when it works, but it seems to work less and less the older you get. Being in a good relationship is wonderful, but being off dating apps and getting away from the game is equally wonderful.

[@Xatex18]

Good news, shyness can be overcome...through exposure and facing our fears. That's what I did and now I am a confident man.

[@weekend1rocks]

Why not work on self development? Btw this is exactly why I stopped online dating. There’s a certain kind of guy on there. I don’t want to end up with someone who wouldn’t have the balls to talk to me face to face.

[@mcho8137]

@@weekend1rocks wow u get all my respect. Most girls think like you but arent bold enough to say it

[@salmanisrar3772]

I think meeting people by cultivating your interests in a social setting or purusing social hobbies is the best way to meet possibly compatible partners/friends!

[@RetroCaptain]

From previous experience; It needs to have more than 3 females in the group.

[@ColonelFluffles]

@@RetroCaptain so, having only one girl in my fight club ain't enough he? 🤣

[@ebrowntaylor1]

Well said!!

[@BrownieEXE]

i never used those apps. I find that old fashioned way is a lot more charming. Kudos to those who found your special someone online though

[@Hybrid_Technique]

''that old fashioned way'', I have the feeling you don't get away with that stuff anymore these days since most people (mostly women/girls) think it's creepy or weird.

[@Runningmaster2025]

@aleagria03 i must be good looking to my wife then because online dating worked for me.

[@PimpMatt0]

Same. That's how I found my current girlfriend when I was 25. I think online dating lowers the standards (depending on app) and I would rather get a first impression first.

[@kshitijsharma5974]

@@Hybrid_Technique if that’s the case then men needs to start getting used to being called creeps and turned that thing into something positive.

[@Runningmaster2025]

@aleagria03 I was instantly touched. I misinderstood though.

[@ethancohen12]

After a year long on/off relationship with these apps, I finally just put them down. I’d much rather feel lonely than feel the multitude of other things that dating apps made me feel. You can only hope the Universe favors you, but in the end you just leave it to the wind.

[@nemo2179]

the universe has no power

[@yamiyo6050]

The feeling of loneliness isn’t worth it

[@psibrunojusto]

Same.

[@psibrunojusto]

The feeling of loneliness in the dating app is also big

[@DeerghKataria]

I am 19 years old and I have never dated anyone. But, for some reason society often makes it seems that not dating means you're a loser (or at the very least not cool). But, I can honestly say that I have never met someone who indulges in online dating and is happy. Everyone regrets that and still makes it seem as if it is cool! So, what's the meaning of dating like that anyway?

[@Capybaragee]

I heard of people who have met online and matched perfectly, but NOT because of a dating app. I find them (the dating apps) so fake anyways, like I hate judging people based on their appearance, and a few lines about them. I'm also 19 and I've only tolerated being on a dating app for a week. Afterwards I become too self-conscious and I hate being ghosted.

[@jgtheman84]

@Anthony A Lol true, What exactly is the difference between "dating" and just having some conversation here and there. I see no difference. I don't like going out and spending money on a bunch of BS. Seems like such a waste. Also, women will often ask you to "hang out" instead of asking you out on a date. Its just a clever way for them to protect themselves from the sting of rejection. Its BS I can see right through it.

[@lolitzshelly7229]

Please don’t feel pressured to date. That’s literally the worst reason to date. Be free and single until the right person comes along that you feel being in a relationship with, is better than being single.

[@toorimakun]

@@jgtheman84 The relationship process has been eroded by "progress" 1st: Become friends with a girl 2nd: Decide you like each other and think you want to marry 3rd: Ask the father if you can date his daughter 4th: Go on dates to "test drive a marriage" 5th: Ask the father for the daughters hand in marriage and then propose to the girl 6th: get married - at witch point YOU became responsible for her and were expected to provide clothing, food and health. That is right, dates were meant to see how you got along on a 1 on 1 basis and get a taste of what it would be like to live with each other. The meal part was to get a feel of what it was like to have a "family dinner" at the end of the day And dates were required to test the 1 on 1 conversations as at this time you DID NOT have a girl and boy alone with each other as it was improper and lead to temptations.

[@aqmohra4]

You're literally a loser according to evolution

[@Capybaragee]

This is super convenient because I recently gave up on online dating and decided to ask my crush out on a date directly. She said yes!

[@LanaBlakely]

Ohhh this is so awesome!

[@LanaBlakely]

Keep us posted on the date

[@Capybaragee]

@@LanaBlakely Just got back from the date! It was really fun. I feel like we're closer now. Idk how she feels about me but at the very least I think we could be good friends :-)

[@lotuswolf1518]

Big congrats buddy

[@Capybaragee]

@@lotuswolf1518 thanks, although she started ignoring me so 🤷

[@DemetriPanici]

*"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." - Marcus Aurelius*

[@cherrystar16]

Demetri you comment on so many KZbin videos, honestly it's very spammy...

[@apparently_sonam]

@@cherrystar16 yeah but you are just shaming so who’s the troll?! Show me a woman that cares for Marcus aurelius….

[@JoostEurovisionFans]

But what if you don't know where it is in yourself?

[@kannot1]

Have you ever been to a university history lecture? It's mainly women dude...💀😂

[@BrotherTree1]

I prefer first time meetings face-to-face rather than online meetings, whether dating or friendships. Far more genuine because it forces you to be on the spot with your true character as soon as possible when in person because it's unexpected to meet someone that catches your interest in person. For romantic interests, I find it far more "hotter" too because of the mystery of first knowing the person face-to-face.

[@misspia4142]

I agree so much. I feel like online dating just feels weird. Like if you don’t know the energy of the person, you’re talking to a total stranger, how are you supposed to act normal when you first meet? There’s no magic, no mystery.

[@nathanjohnson6543]

Online dating, especially ones like tinder, are extremely toxic. There's nothing quite like getting rejected without even being present.

[@uprise.6183]

That’s why I don’t do online dating. It’s all about hookups and I’m the type of person who seek for emotional and supportive relationship

[@LadySnowflakeLovesGrey]

Me too, only irl dating for me tho.

[@AmaO-pj8hj]

Right

[@benatkinson3160]

It’s not all about hookups. U can use for hookups or dating

[@CometGarcia-y1c]

The majority of guys just want sex. I'm so tired of dick pics and tired of feeling like just a sex object

[@ChanakyanStudent7971]

Can't approach women in real life because can't risk getting harassment case filed against me, can't approach women online because of hookup culture. That's why I don't date.

[@RealJamieBarclay]

What a wonderful exploration of the topic. As someone who used to go on online dating sites all the time, I can tell you I was only there to temporarily rid myself of loneliness and poor self-esteem. In order to find the real shit, you gotta get outside.

[@YayanFauzi]

FACT!

[@JaimeWarlock]

Don't limit yourself to the USA. It is easy to find a wife in SE Asia. Admittedly, you don't need an app if you go there first. But using an app to talk to them first might motivate you to get your passport and plane ticket, especially if you suffer from low self-esteem.

[@JaimeWarlock]

@gab hug Ukraine is good if you are looking for a Caucasian wife. Nothing against it. There are a lot of good countries for finding a wife. I retired in Kenya with a good wife. The reason I suggest SE Asia (especially Philippines) for beginners is that their culture is similar. It is always best if you can save up money and retire in her country. Bringing a foreign woman to USA is often asking for problems, especially if she is a lot younger and the guy is inexperienced with relationships.

[@JaimeWarlock]

@gab hug Wrong. Americans living overseas are in high demand even if they aren't returning to the USA. We have a lot to offer besides a visa.

[@JaimeWarlock]

@gab hug I am from the USA, but have lived all over the world.

[@sorchx]

27 and never used any dating app or tinder. All my long relationships were from my travels or old friends. Now I'm at a different stage in my life I do worry about how I'll meet someone. But I've decided that it will be organically for me, somehow. I still have hope. I really don't want to be swiping people and judging from a one page profile.

[@Hampappi]

You and I both lol. We got a long bumpy road ahead of us. Although I have heard people meet each other through social media such as Instagram

[@Azde131]

Yes is happen sometimes

[@bradleydurbin6784]

Online dating is toxic. It does work for a small amount of people who are looking for a meaningful relationship. But for most people who have been through it, they will tell you that it's not worth it. Just last night I was watching a KZbin video of a guy that was putting himself out there on apps and getting frustrated with the revolving door of women and rejection. But we now live in a disposable society and it's so easy to pick up a cell phone than to get out in the real world and meet real people in realistic settings. Family, friends, school, church, work, the bus stop etc. It also leads to more depression and mental health issues like low self-esteem. Being single is hard I totally get that.

[@Invisibility397]

9 years off and on when I got bored yet nothing not one person. Combining with the few in my area in person. Now is the time to go within where happiness and love exist. With abuse negativity nothingness is what exists externally. At least there is a light inside

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

Interesting topic. I've been married for over 30 years and never had to date online (it didn't exist back then). I can see where it can be tough because of the "ghosting." Also, I used to live near Baltimore, Maryland (Gaithersburg, Maryland to be exact) and I'm vegan so I enjoyed your intro! Thanks again, Lana, for the awesome video as usual! Stay healthy!

[@nadilahh6417]

Lana, its still haunting me how we are somewhat in the same path and you upload these videos which depicts my life. First, the 'taking a break from social media' which I too decided to do the time. And now saying goodbye to dating apps which I'm currently doing starting a couple of weeks ago. I love you. I love us. I love our journey together.

[@AhmetKaan]

*You can't always wait for the perfect time. Sometimes you have to dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been...*

[@gionagrace6279]

Everyone should allow yourself to do online at least once so you can have a chance and the experience. 😊

[@Bazonkaz]

It's a mcdonalized take on relationships, giving you consistent mediocre experiences. It's incredibly rare to find quality but then again why are you going to mcdonalds for quality, you know what I mean? I stopped using online dating and I've felt so much more relived.

[@kyelisha7668]

I'm a bit old fashioned for a twenty something. I definitely prefer meeting people in person whenever I can. It comes with its own risk, but you get a better feel for a person when looking them in the eye. I used tinder for one week in college and immediately found it too overwhelming. Though I have a friend who met her husband on tinder. Its all preferences and a bit of random luck.

[@thegritsch]

I never met anyone I would go on a date with offline - and I never met anyone I would have gone on a date with online. In the end, how you meet people is secondary. The people themselves are the most important. And someone who is very "abnormal" is gonna have a hard time either way. With that said however, my obsession with getting a six-pack definitely started with tinder...

[@MrMileswiles]

You know, Im almost done too. Im always talking to people who are draining me for no reason on fb dating. Torment of the heart, no lie.

[@alexdavid9335]

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[@MrAug80]

I used internet dating sites for a good 13 years or so & I got absolutely nowhere with them. Met up to 30 women and everything Went tits up basically. Heard the same old excuses & bullshit time & time again like “I just want to be friends” or “there is no chemistry between us” hearing that all the time combined with a lot of ghosting made me feel very very depressed.

[@streetrider1977]

I wouldn't date online again. Did it once, even got engaged. Tried again afterwards on a number of sites. What a joke the whole thing is. Never ever again.

[@SanjaySkar]

This video is so well made and so insightful!! I agree with these points, and I have to say that I had really bad experiences with these apps. And you never know the intentions of people in the beginning. So, as someone who looked for genuine meaningful connections, it was just too hard, and constantly having to start over with new people was just too exhausting, at least for me. I used those apps because as an introvert living in a big city, 'online dating' felt like the only way to find the right match. Maybe most of the introverts living in big cities feel the same. Thank you Lana for sharing your thoughts!! Glad to hear someone telling the truth !

[@SGTMARSHALL1]

I have tried online dating since 2009/2010, never been on one date, just wasted time and money . . . At the end of the day you should always date someone you know that compliments you, holds the same values and makes you feel good

[@DavenH]

Presumably you meant "complements"

[@SGTMARSHALL1]

@@DavenH you must be bored to look up something I wrote 2 years and point out one vowel. My condolences

[@lauraceciliakraft]

THE END is so Lana - love all your videos.

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you!!

[@theperfectunion1431]

@@LanaBlakely and if it would ever cross your mind that I’d be happy if you left, your right, I’d be happy.

[@Jubair194]

I have seen a lot about online dating recently and the negatives. When I was on online dating apps, I learnt a lot and it's true about what they say. Although dating apps have been successful for me, it took so much of my energy and I don't think I could ever do it again. Great video Lana!

[@Ednet34]

Yeah that is very true. I have the same/ a similar experience. I changed my behaviour towards swiping and so on. We all know, that we as men can just see a blurry image of the Girl that liked us. So what i did is, i just waited to get a like and tried to find that person who liked me. For me that works. BUt many people on these Dating Apps have serious Problems and thats a whole other Issue.

[@rogerm3708]

It's much easier to start out with a common interest and build on that. Really the best way to find someone that way is to have many interests and to travel everywhere locally. Even if your not the one that meets your special someone, one of her girlfriends that you have met will recommend you to her

[@JamiePittsSCM]

You are a good example of a stoic mindset. I love your content, Lana.

[@thatclover123]

online dating is awful, if i don’t respond to their message immediately i get the flip out, one date couldn’t get off his dating app during our date👀, your profile says u want conversation and when u get conversation u say i’m not looking for a friend, 👋 goodbye. Apps make people disposable like shopping for a pair of shoes, easily replaceable, meaningless and terrible. I love just being single, taking myself out, it’s pretty great actually once u get used to it.

[@zammy92]

Recent weeks have been hell, working from 7:00am and getting home at 12:00am at the earliest as well as working through the weekend. As lame as it sounds, listening to Lana before sleeping has been the highlight of my day!

[@mollybridgette9103]

You are so intelligent and well-spoken… I’d love if you could make a video on your tips to communicate thoughts more eloquently and clearly

[@DannyBoy443]

THANK YOU! Finally someone FINALLY brings it up. I've literally never matched w/ a real person on Tinder. I've tried it on and off for 3/4 years. I don't know why this is or how actual people are matching/meeting.

[@chadmichael5700]

Give up on online dating. It’s gross to be honest. I gave up dating years ago, much less online dating. That too is also why I am celibate, but I don’t think that’s a bad thing either…

[@alexdavid9335]

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[@LoveIXTC]

Dating Apps want to keep you on their platform. Also i do not like texting that much, rather spend time with her, have conversations and see if there is a "spark".

[@badjoj015]

i too hated the idea of dating apps, probably because i dont got nothing to show but my personality thru chat (first). I approached it differently compared to other people, by adjusting my mindset which is really to seek people to just hangout with since i maybe new to the area and basically looking for an attractive, fun tour guide who i hopefully get a connection with on some level

[@BENXONESTUDIO]

So real human interaction is more essential like meeting friends and families that are closer to you than from online social platforms.❤️

[@analukac5301]

not only is this a great, well-spoken video with clear points, but it is also beautifully shot and edited! i think i just found a new yt chanel i love

[@danbarazani]

This is a really thoughtful and well-analyzed video, and you make lots of great points on the limitations of online dating. But, on the other hand, you state that 30% of people do find their long-term partners online - so presumably it does work for many!

[@surajhegde1304]

Very true.. there is a gulf of difference when you talk to a person online and when u meet someone in person..

[@nurefsandavulcu6460]

amazing video! I've thought quite deeply about online dating myself and the Anonymity point really agreed with me

[@mariuspienaar7779]

Stumbled by accident on Lana's channel. What a great girl. As an old man, I found her presentation interesting, and her advice very pragmatic.

[@aidalay8631]

I like that you combine this video with better help sponsorship. Also, I like that you clarified that online dating can work for some individuals. I can definitely agree with that.

[@capitangian]

What I really enjoy about your videos is how you explore a subject from an anthropological/societal point of view - you don't simply talk about it from your perspective (which is already relevant), but you explain it with very interesting insights that makes so much sense - and makes the overall online dating experience not as lonely as we actually think, meaning... we're not alone, so many people are experiencing the same. Which leaves me wondering: are we all just little islands trying to connect in a big ocean of noise, and we never really reach other no matter how much we try?

[@mariatoro8439]

Super interesting to link behaviorism and online dating. I also appreciate the research you put into this. Congrats!

[@jhwilson00]

In other words, the stats show if you want to have a legitimate relationship these apps can be a HUGE waste of time. I think people need to come back to the real world and meet people (love interest, friends, etc..) the old fashion way, face to face.

[@GJones247]

from someone who does not use dating apps, i have noticed how socially awkward women have become (or maybe it is just towards me). It is very hard for a man to breakthrough your walls to get to know you, when someone isn't receptive in conversation cues. Some people have full personalities on social media but in person they are totally different. I think that is why people use dating apps.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

1000% agreed. Social Decay has been brutal IRL since the 2010s, and affects both genders. Not talked about enough. Rare millennialz that are time connected to living/mostly dead older generations or history itself, know things haven't felt quite right since maybe the 2000s or before then. Rock on, brother.

[@HarryStyles_01]

I don't know about anyone else but i personally feel that when it comes to dating offline is always better than online

[@PreyForPenguinsMusic]

My new opening line will actually be “hello fellow human, do you belong to the 49 percentile group or the 47 percentile group or are you just bored?”

[@DemetriPanici]

Online dating is a pretty weird concept when you try to take an objective view about it

[@matisyahup613]

our entire world is

[@w2best]

Oh I'm really looking forward to watching this Video! I've been thinking about the topic a lot recently!

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

When you said in the beginning 'Hey You' I suddenly remembered Joe from the Netflix show YOU :D the way you talk is so calming, same mind speech as Joe's. Looks like its an INFJ thing.. well many INFJs think he's one :) Loved the video. Definitely online dating is a dilemma... The ending was funny lol

[@themichael3105]

I was never too keen on Dating Apps. I'd rather just have it come naturally and unexpected. Guess I'm old school like that. Nice vid. Cheers

[@slowbrodragon6951]

I'm addicted to the dopamine I get when I get a match or when a girl sends something!

[@AmorDivino-e5q]

You don't look for love anywhere, specially online. Love find you in Divine timing wherever you are and when you less expect it.

[@yzh7728]

That's so true!

[@Runningmaster2025]

As all these points are valid, I met my wife via online dating. So, I am heavily biased and think Online Dating is fantastic for this day & age. People just have be careful. The pandemic accelerated the modern ways people court each other through technology. Or was invetiable it was going to increase in popularity. Its hard enough to meet people you connect with in-person these days. You have to be extremely lucky and be in the right place at the right time. In the end its about patience and not giving up. True love is out there and if one wants to marry for the right reasons that correspond with him or hers and meet someone under the right intensions- it all works out in the end.

[@morupiepen]

i highly agree w u !! online datin apps can b so fantastic for sum ppl. But, not for many others

[@wenbemol888]

I think it is something related about luck. I've had twice these apps and at one time it was awesome but at the 2nd it was terrible

[@LanaBlakely]

Thanks for sharing!! Glad you found your person. May I ask what year you me her? From what I've heard, the apps are getting less and less "serious" with time.

[@Runningmaster2025]

@@morupiepen Very true, its not for everybody. I would argue anyone having a issues in live situations; should give it a shot. Anything ia possible in dating.😉⚘

[@Runningmaster2025]

@@wenbemol888 100% it depends what site, where you live, are you open to long-distance temporarily, time of year, how long you stayed on the site, how you engaged with others, how frequent or long you stayed on the site/day or week.........etc...I could go on 😉😅 but these variables with a mix of some good/bad luck determines the experience and outcome of obtaining a spouse.

[@scheck006]

I think there's an inherent insecurity that comes from meeting anonymously online, and it has to do with how much our social groups inform our identity. In order to meet certain types of people, you would (normally) have to be interested enough in a certain activity to not only be good enough to do it with other people, but also to plan time for it in your life, and find a group of people to do it regularly. If you made it this far, there's a lot of social filtering that's already taken place, and the people you meet will trust you more and know much more about you. With online dating, the ''price of entry'' into a person's life is so low that you have to do all of the work of showing who you are from scratch. It's a bit weird, seeing as how a big part of why we find someone attractive comes from our perception of how desired they are by others. For people that already have vibrant social lives and strong identities this is probably not as big of a problem, but I imagine those types probably don't spend as much time looking for dates online.

[@StrumVogel]

I got ghosted by a mother of four who has no job.

[@eisenhower9069]

Lol

[@DavenH]

your win

[@portogonzales7027]

They always say don't go desperately seeking for a girlfriend because women sense you're desperate and ghost you, ignore online dating unless you're very attractive looking, or that the right person will cross your path when you least expect it... So, well, here I am, 50 years and I'm still waiting for that one person! 🙈😂😂

[@Evanmander]

Thank you. You've certainly articulated what I've suspected and given deeper insight.

[@jebiodjebi7408]

Thank you going through onlinee dating and needed thisss!

[@BRIAN-sh3ei]

THANK YOU FOR NOT UPLOADING IN 60FPS! I LOVE THE PURE HD!

[@daybreakrebornedits]

Lana, was that intro a Joe Goldberg tribute? You really channelled the Penn Badgely style of self-aware narration, hahah!

[@LanaBlakely]

It sure was!! 😆

[@daybreakrebornedits]

@@LanaBlakely nailed it!

[@huntervolcan9218]

Dating apps and social media have destroyed dating and courting today

[@ChaosUNLEASHD]

Lol I saw this title less than 10 minutes after re-activating my dating apps. Holding out hope. Definitely prefer meeting new people IRL, it doesn't happen often though.

[@LanaBlakely]

If it feels right for you, go for it! You never know what may come out of it.

[@alexandraaikonika]

It’s still nice to meet new people, no matter what the outcomes are. So enjoy it, nobody knows who you’re gonna meet on there.

[@jakubdthomas]

I like the editing, music and subtle sound effects of this video :) Especially at 3:32

[@LanaBlakely]

Thanks for noticing! :)

[@fireandsugar2625]

I'd be too insecure and anxious for online dating. So glad I found my man traditionally :)

[@LatinaLife]

Wow this video is a lot more on depth than I thought it would be!! Thank you for doing interesting research and sharing such valuable insights with us 😊

[@ImprovementGang]

I was able to meet cool people through online dating apps, but it would always leave me a bit unsatisfied. The fact that there could be a better catch if I kept swiping is what makes these so prevalent in today's age - it is a bit toxic, but we ultimately have the decision.

[@eSKAone-]

💟 This is definitely one aspect of social life that got worse with the internet. Before this girls really liked being aproached in real life, nowadays many of them think it's creepy. So stupid.

[@AshleyHernandez]

i deleted every single dating app only because i really want to push myself to approach someone i'm interested in real time. wish me luck

[@XxxX-wx3er]

7:20 tinder vs bumble information requirement differences: tinder was created by men for men to get laid as easily as possible - zero information needed, let’s just get f**king. Bumble was created by women for women looking for meaningful relationships - the more information gathered the better as participants can get to know each other and form meaningful bonds.

[@LanaBlakely]

Didn't know Bumble was female founded!

[@tiamelancholyjeoncockity]

I never believed in online dating 😅 I absolutely cannot date anyone just knowing them online and never met them in real life.

[@aidaju9789]

Omg Lana, finally someone I can relate with! 🙏🏻

[@atom7134]

I'm a gay dude in the US, and let me tell you that queer dating is largely based on the apps, especially if you live in rural areas away from urban centers that have more active LGBTQ+ communities. I met my current (and first lol) boyfriend on Tinder, but I had to wade through people who weren't honest about what they're looking for, as well as people who were just looking for validation. Also, if you live in an area like I do, unfortunately there's a lot of desperation and queer folks who are dating only because they're lonely, which is obv not healthy. I even caught myself questioning if I was on tinder because I was lonely, or if I was actually here seeking something real and long lasting. It's tricky though. So many positives and negatives of apps like Tinder, especially in queer dating. You can easily put yourself into the queer community, which is sometimes just plain hard to find unless you seek it out on an app in rural areas, but also if you do find it, the people within the community have a lot of problems they need to work through themselves. Thanks for the video : )

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you for opening up and sharing! I have little to no insight about that side of dating, so this was interesting. :-)

[@kerstineyara6212]

I've always loved your content, Lana. Thank you so much for bringing inspiration.

[@LevelUpYourLife]

Thank you for another great video. I feel that when you are in alignment and you are truly meant to meet someone, you will naturally run into them in person. It happens all the time you just have to be open to it 💖

[@darrenmooruthv2]

I’ve missed your content. Love your perspectives and factual findings whether it’s old or new. Interestingly, I found you again through another rising KZbinr, Akta, expressing her admiration for you and another. Listening to this makes me feel like removing the apps I don’t even use. Actually going out there and meeting people organically. Whatever happens, friendly or long term. There are more hurdles with online dating, so much conversing to finding a connection, meeting and they are not as interesting in person, all the way to lack of conversation, catfishing and ghosting. I agree it is a choice, providing more options… just something we live with. In person or online, dating is a risk, but could be worth it… Or happier alone ☺️ I’m sure there are many more people who like a balance, their own time and space. Well thought out video and last segment ❤️😅 Love the cliff hanger!

[@whoguy4231]

That was a great presentation on online dating and is true from my experience. I must say online dating is a numbers game and I did find success surprisingly... But if I were looking for a life partner, meeting someone at the library, shoping centre or via friends/family would be much better!

[@danielec392]

It can be an easy way-out for people (especially guys) who are scared of approaching others romantically or sexually in real life. This past year I got super close to two girls (at different times) who lived far away from me and I got addicted to the high of being liked and appreciated. I put myself out there more easily, in ways that I absolutely couldn't do with the same confidence in real life. But at the end of the day, it never felt real. I never met neither of the girls. Now I look at myself in the mirror and I realize that I'm still the same insecure guy when it comes to relationships and intimacy. I realize that the the online world can get you hooked very quickly if you let it. For a guy like me, afraid of intimacy, with low self-esteem, it was so easy to fall into this trap. It can be a trap. But I don't want to be trapped any longer. I swear that I'll resist the tentation and that I'll do my best to improve and experience the real world fully.

[@timeless_heritage]

Tinder is most definately "confidence boosting procrastination" for me Sorry to every dissaponted match who never got a message

[@BPTtech]

What the dating apps are doing should be some kind of fraud or consumer trade violation.

[@naraendrareddy273]

I'm 23m and never dated ever. I'm in University and kept thinking that I'll find someone after I start my career, but what I heard is meeting people after you start working is incredibly difficult, especially without online apps. Also I'm Indian, so I guess arranged marriage is my fate 🤷

[@manni06]

lol, good luck buddy

[@zakeeakhtar3611]

it's good you will save a lot of time from going through a lot of relationships. Just make sure your compatible with the person you have been arranged with.

[@josephzsoka874]

I have a friend from Goa who had his marriage arranged..that was 30 years ago...they're still married, kids are grown, and they're doing fine. Your 23 my friend, and its a long life... let go of that anxiety, you'll be ok.

[@lindsaylau1982]

thank you so much for the message, i am greatful.

[@azlxx9868]

I love your videos. You're witty and smart and very relatable!

[@azlxx9868]

not to mention that you're absolutely gorgeous c:

[@DavenH]

@@azlxx9868 would you really notice the first two without the third? hmmm :)

[@0Flow0]

Best advice I've gotten for dating is to give time to actually get to know each other. Don't make assumptions straight away and be more open.

[@timwhite2875]

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

[@timwhite2875]

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

[@timwhite2875]

Whatsapp him for help..

[@lisaariottiart]

Dump it- its a hyper sexualized, predatory cess pool.

[@GB_i25]

i think the same ! you’re like another version of me … thank you creating this channel.. it’s good

[@CeliadelaHoz]

online dating is more terrifying than Halloween for sure 😂

[@markbartel216]

I don't think I've commented on any of your videos before, but OUTSTANDING outro there, Lana xD

[@robertct06]

Anyone who uses tinder as a confidence booster is attractive already. I definitely did not have any success when I made one 10 years ago. I was in high school and had zero matches for a year. People did say I looked super young back then though and nowadays I get people checking me out now

[@zilanka389]

I am obsessed with your channel!

[@arina85258]

People don’t just start conversations in the elevator or in the grocery store nowadays. We don’t invite each other to have a cup of coffee or to have a walk in the park just to talk. I thought that that was my problem, because I’m a socially awkward introvert, but actually today almost everyone is a socially awkward introvert. We don’t live in “How I Met Your Mother” universe. Dating apps are horrible, but also effective when you want to get what you want. Cause it’s not about the romantic story of how you two met to tell your children, it’s actually about meeting someone to have children with (if that’s what you want). Waiting for someone to magically appear at your door or to start a conversation in an elevator might take years or even decades. I hate dating apps for many reasons, but I also love them, cause thanks to one of them I have a success story of my own. I hope never to download Tinder ever again.

[@markwolfe947]

I gave up on being with another at 19, tried again in my 30's and on the third date in numerous terms; the expression was the same as Netflix and Chill. My interests fall apart; I'm not too fond of the physical part, as the bonding mentally part. So I am single still, now 36, probably going to be for the rest of my life as no woman likes an old guy who doesn't like the physical aspect of being with her.