Why 70% of Divorces Filings Are by WOMEN | Scott Galloway (Prof G)

[@chriswatson1698]

The person who files the papers is NOT the person that ends the marriage. The person who ends the marriage is the person who first violates the marriage vows.

[@danimack38]

This. Every conversation I’ve heard is about who filed, i.e. who formally, legally ended the marriage, not who stepped out of the marriage or ran the marriage into a ditch. That is where the marriage ended, not in the divorce court.

[@andyjohnson5484]

Did you listen at the 4:00 mark?

[@TC-yx1qt]

99% women

[@dirkhamilton2709]

True. For example why would a man who cheats, and gets away with it, file for divorce? Conversely, why would a man who just got laid off from his job be the one to file for divorce? In both of these cases its women filing for divorce, but who "ended the marriage" is very different.

[@yourbodyandyou]

That is it.

[@KidCity1985]

We leave them because they make our lives worse.

[@chubbrockstar187]

💯💯💯

[@beverleyreid563]

Amen.

[@JohnSmithEx]

No, you leave them because the courts reward you for leaving. Because the quality of your life is improved (at least temporarily) at the cost of the financial enslavement of your man.

[@KidCity1985]

@JohnSmithEx I became a millionaire after getting my divorce. My ex sucked me financially dry.

[@szymonbaranowski8184]

marriage isn't honey and roses what did you do to make it better?

[@k.s783]

I appreciate that Lewis lets his guests speak and finish their points. So many podcasters have a need to “show off” by interrupting and adding on - it takes humility and self-restraint to let others shine and show what they know. Lewis is so good at giving guests the main stage, it’s refreshing and actually quite rare.

[@susanmarie8526]

He used to be so bad about this! Glad he has learned!!! 🎉

[@briaf3370]

Agreed a trillion times 😊

[@joanofarcxxi]

I divorced my ex husband because he was violent and made our lives a living hell. Of course he was full of charm and he had a great job and was very well respected. He seemed perfect. Those of us who have been there know exactly what I am saying.

[@James_36]

Oh yea - because people just become violent . He was always like it. You just ignored it at the beginning for your own motives

[@just_lurking4833]

​@@James_36Agreed. Women often will let poor character slide as long as he has money/looks/status and then they cry foul when he doesn't change years later. They're SO CLOSE to figuring it out.

[@LadyDeeCee]

​@@James_36Narcissist are really good at hiding & masking who they are....and my Wazband didn't have a lot of $. And waited until year 16 to commit domestic violence after he found out I filed for divorce. I filed for divorce because he withheld the disability check that he was getting monthly from 2009 -2020 when I discovered the truth. He watched me work two to three jobs to pay for the rent in Los Angeles. So yeah I filed for divorce and filed a Restraining order. Boys never take accountability for their actions and it is NEVER the survivors fault when a man pulls a gun or puts his hands on a woman. Have a great weekend!!

[@MayBlake_Channel]

​@James_36 Violent people usually hide their violence until they've secured there partner. You're probably correct that he was always violent. You're probably wrong that she simply ignored the violence. More than likely, i was charming and treated her well and then treated her worse after she was committed

[@MayBlake_Channel]

​@@fotisstergiou1165 You know nothing about this women or whether she ascribes to astrology. The fact you're projecting these stereotypes onto her shows a failure to think on your part.

[@sylviaking8866]

I divorced my husband after 30 years because I discovered he was having an affair. The minute I realized what he was doing he tried to destroy me. The court ordered psychiatrist tell the judge he was a sociopathic narcissist. All I regret is not realizing what he was truly like for so long. People watch out for covert narcissist they're the most vindictive, premeditated, cruel insidious people you will ever have The misfortune of meeting. I just wanted a kind and loyal man and what I ended up was the exact opposite.

[@danielallan8061]

That's terrible and unfortunate, but this video is about the main reasons women divorce.

[@Mint-kj9kw]

​@@danielallan8061 Sweetie...women divorce because most are either out of touch, are emotionally or physically abusive, or having an affair. Men are some of the most clueless people when it comes to relationships

[@jet4415]

Thanks for the information. I’ve been involved with an overt narcissist I can’t imagine a covert narcissist. They can be never endingly vindictive, probably even after divorce.

[@MrJuliendeLoin]

cheating doesnt mean narcissist, it just mean that you are getting old and out of shape probably, men like younger women. all of them

[@ANGELSVEN]

​@MrJuliendeLoin Well, my complaint is out of shape men who are burnt out. The sword cuts both ways, darling.

[@iantrue2123]

It's amazing how when they talk about women's desires and behaviour it's instinct. And when they talk about men it's insecurities. This narrative is rife.

[@LisaCulton]

@@iantrue2123 instinctually, a man knows that he should provide more than a woman and when he can't, he becomes insecure.

[@DonZimmerman-fz2du]

When we describe women's behavior as instinctual, it's because it is. Fems are evolved to distrust their frontal lobes, & rely on instinct & intuition. If they weren't, they would realize what a threat gestation & birth are to their well being & shun the process. Possibly in #'s sufficient to end the species. I have always admired the nurturing, empathetic nature of fems, & sympathized with the unfair role they are trapped into @ conception. I have a wonderful partner of 41+ yrs that I try to treat as equitably as we can in our relationship. She makes my life richer & I try to do the same for her. I don't know what else to do about the situation. Z

[@iantrue2123]

@@LisaCulton what about women instinct to submit, be soft, lady like, bare children? Why don't we address those things as well??? Oh it's choice for women isn't it!!?? Not feminine instinct?

[@janicewolk6492]

​​@@DonZimmerman-fz2duWomen are catching on. Which is why fertility rates are dropping. Men refuse to change.

[@iantrue2123]

@@DonZimmerman-fz2du what are you talking about instinct when this generation of women don't want to have children and also want to be equal to a men? How is that instinct???

[@dwightbrown]

Two lawyers: Both make $250K one a male, one a female. The male lawyer will date the hairdresser making $50K, but the female lawyer won't date the barista at Starbucks making $50,000. That is just how it is and I don't say this as a slam on anyone.

[@LisaCulton]

It's the natural order of things.

[@dwightbrown]

@@LisaCulton Indeed. People struggle with the way things are.

[@grit1679]

In what world does a barista at Starbucks make $50k?

[@LisaCulton]

@grit1679 In Switzerland.

[@transitionsnc]

@@grit1679 I was wondering that too.

[@LisaCulton]

We get tired of living like a single parent while in a marriage.

[@dlbutler]

True. And we get tired of never being good enough. Not enough money? Spend more time at work, and do less parenting. Not enough time with the family? Spend more time at home, and earn less. And round and round and round. The complaints never cease. So, when the wife leaves, life gets better. Unfortunately, the courts give them the kids.

[@LisaCulton]

@@dlbutlerYep. The complaints never cease and meanwhile, you will never receive a compliment and appreciation will not be expressed in any way.

[@purplelove3666]

​@@dlbutleryou act like only you men are working,grow up

[@melissab467]

💯

[@dafafaaf7679]

Most women are emotional demage!

[@gloriettapatrona6595]

There was a study. Men were given 100 female profiles….they chose 60 potential dates. Women chose 4.

[@lilpinkbubbles6592]

In some households, the man is making less money but not participating in any of the household and parenting responsibilities.

[@matthewr3986]

That's a nice anecdotal statement you got there.

[@carmenricard3332]

@@matthewr3986Actually very common, especially nowadays looking at the stats.

[@Jeremy-ql1or]

See that word "some" that means that there are others where the opposite is true. So what was the point of mentioning those ones while the opposite is also true?

[@matthewr3986]

@@Jeremy-ql1or not only that that these same people never consider household work a man does count for anything. Things like yardwork. House and car maintenance. General appliance repair and depending on where you live varing degrees of pest control

[@aarongrant3799]

Like handing out fruit loops in your pajamas? Putting clothes into a machine that cleans it for you? Seriously, in my circle that's not been my experience. I'm sure it happens.

[@Beyondabsence]

It’s remarkable how most of the relationships I’ve witnessed in my life thrive without any calculative maneuvers. My parents, for instance, shared 57 years of deep love. Even during my father’s financial struggles, my mother never wavered-she loved him wholeheartedly. Similarly, my wife and I have a growing bond, despite her earning more than I do. We share everything, with nothing kept separate. This pattern holds true for many couples in my family: through life’s ups and downs, their relationships not only endure but flourish.

[@vanessacorey200]

When women had less options and less power, as women did when I was a child, women simply made the best of their situation. That doesn't mean there was never deep love; sometimes there was, often there wasn't [at least not a deep love based on 2 individuals being their real selves and loving each other because they didn't want anything else. Women did what women were supposed to do and their men reciprocated as they chose, some with abuse and violence, some with indifference and apathy taking them for granted, some dutifully, and some with loving care. Roe vs Wade, women going out into the workforce en mass, and the spread of the revolutionary no fault divorce, gave women options and power. That changed what men had to do to attract a woman and make their case for a commitment.

[@just_lurking4833]

When people with similar values meet young (under 24/25) then the chances of success are far greater. I think after that it becomes super hard as hook-up culture and past relationship trauma really starts to negatively affect people.

[@barbararichardson2747]

ALet's also consider the fact that in your parents era couples built homes together. They started from scratch; from everything that made the home theirs.Today,in this "shack up era"it's more common to move into one or the other's place. And, most often it's hers.Making a house a home together seemed to be giving some the insensitive to make it work.

[@Yeeha494]

@@vanessacorey200the no fault divorce and the lack of accountability, the hook up culture and these spread of toxic feminism is why relationships are dying so fast, why we have children suffering with single parents, and so on. Abuse can be a hundred different things and women are happy to call it abuse when it suits them: just look at the evidence of countless stories of women doing that in divorces to get the child full custody, get more wealth and so on. Key point: When you don’t to stick it out and work on your challenges together, why not cheat, jump ship or harm your partner whenever you want. Men still lose half their stuff so they actually have a downside to this but women literally have zero downsides, they even get rewarded for it.

[@szymonbaranowski8184]

lucky to find woman who can actually love, rare

[@govegsaveanimals1972]

Men leave the marriage emotionally, and then the woman leaves physically.

[@Orca-hp4zx]

And vice versa

[@Ja50nkAt]

Can easily flip that too.😂

[@ienekeledent6947]

Woman leave emotionally before leaving physically

[@kaybrown7733]

@@Chad_MaxFalse. We marry the guy that lies the best They all pretend to be good. Then they start lying and cheating. Hence why women leave!

[@alyssah8756]

Actually women leave emotionally first men aren’t that clever

[@virginialuisa6769]

Men having affairs and his verbal and physical violence in the relationship....enough is enough: the woman leaves!

[@Ekam-Sat]

Men have affairs because woman become cold and detached after marriage and children.

[@Ekam-Sat]

Yeah right.

[@yusufraage8554]

#BelieveAllWomen

[@bjkarana]

Yeah, women _never_ abuse or cheat.

[@elizabethpears307]

This is the first conversation I’ve heard of this type that did not somehow want to make women less. Kudos for that.

[@smokingcrab2290]

I worked 2 jobs. Made 150k. Gave my wife whatever she wanted thinking it was loving her. All she did was emasculate me and leave.

[@ericjames7819]

You got it. This is the reality of women's nature that society pretends doesn't exist.

[@kaybrown7733]

You chose her. It takes 2 to break up. Take responsibility for your choices. Stop being a victim.

[@c.f.okonta8815]

You married a feminist that’s why she divorced you. You should have married a tradwife

[@lmiller1413]

Maybe should have worked one job and stayed home and told her you lived her more often.

[@fluffyblanket1398]

Then, there must be other issues that made her leave you. It’s not everything about money.

[@deevadkj8210]

I would argue that it is MUCH more complicated than "making less money". Perhaps because men struggle to offer enough physical and emotional support around the home, is why once they are no longer offering financial security, those other deficits are no longer worth looking past over and over again.

[@JohnCarterRocks]

He did say was making overgeneralizations.

[@amandabosca1714]

agree 1000%

[@amandabosca1714]

@@JohnCarterRocks I think he completely missed women's need for physical and emotional support. Money alone doesn't keep a wife.

[@TruthAndLoyalty]

We do see this when that happens. Men in marriages with breadwinning women do less total labor than those women. Women do less in households with breadwinner men too, but to a lesser extent. There's a slight skew across the spectrum as the career/wage gap closes. However, while women have advanced economically, this is still not the norm. On average, men are still primary breadwinners, working more demanding jobs, and women are still working less hours. As the resource gap closes, nothing else changes. So men, on average, still have to maintain the same unmanageable work life balance as always, despite the fact that their partner is far less dependent than they once were. I really don't think the answer is demanding more from men. They're already stretched as thin as they can go. Everybody is. I don't know what the answer is, but it starts with focusing on support of boys and men rather than their "deficits".

[@sheritownsend5359]

More men need to be in boys' lives. It doesn't matter if it's an uncle, grandfather, etc. Too many boys are without reliable men in their lives. A man lying around the house, is not enough. Men need to be as active in the child's life, as the mother.

[@hammerofdavey]

Kinda hard to do that when women keep divorcing the men in record numbers and/or keep having children out of wedlock. How are the men supposed to be involved when women don't let them?

[@Morrisfactor]

@@hammerofdavey Yes - truth bomb of the day.

[@Monica-mm2vv]

I agree. I believe the father is more important in a child’s life. Stats prove that children do better with a father, even if he is single.

[@Ekam-Sat]

Maybe if women wouldn’t divorce men, they could be in the children’s life more.

[@duncan18663]

If women stopped divorcing men who have not breached their marriage vows, it sure would help with that.

[@Lonewolf-i8p]

Women are tired of weak men, liars, cheaters, men that think women have no value and are only there for servitude. I have been divorced for 40 years, got an education, job paying well over 6 figures and do for myself. All the men in my life, dad, ex-husband have let me down and never were supportive. Who needs that? Make your own happiness! ❤❤❤❤

[@teresamagnusson]

Awesome, I'm so happy for you. Well done

[@GracieDontPlayDat]

Where are the older men who care about this? I see plenty of them out golfing on a weekday, though.

[@randomflagg7331]

A woman's got to behave as a "lady" if she wants the benefit of my company. and ears for they will be put to good use, she only needs to know that, her desire for conflict won't be tolerated in my presence.

[@ANGELSVEN]

Me, too. So many ungodly men out there. I've had hardly any support from parents or men in general. So I pushed even harder because I realized I'm 100% on my own. Sad because I always wanted to be married.

[@danimack38]

I can literally trace 90% of every hardship in my lifetime to a man. The juice is definitely not worth the squeeze. Marriage is a scam on the majority of women.

[@primeanalogrecords]

He is very correct about men mentoring younger boys to give them a role model! I had a daughter already, but I wanted once she got to a certain age to get involved with an underprivileged boy and my outlet to do so was Big Brothers and big sisters! It’s a wonderful organization and they do great vetting to make sure they get the combination correct! I started with this young black boy when I was in my late 40s! He was eight! I took him fishing and out in the boat and taught him to shoot guns and mountain bike riding! All the kind of stuff that guys like And I gave him that opportunity! After high school he enlisted in the Marine Corps and he’s still there doing his second tour! I’m so proud of him and his mom and grandmother consider me to be his father to this day!

[@Xianne027]

Thanks for sharing your story. I was also mentored a child in Big Brothers Big Sisters (in Europe). I can vouch for how life-changing it is for the kids and especially the boys from what I observed. I am a woman and mentored a girl, starting at age 7, whose mother and grandmother were single mothers on welfare who had children at very young ages and were struggling financially. The girl I mentored is now 20 and off to a great career program. She feels empowered with her life's direction, has a great focus on her future and has vowed to stay clear of falling into the welfare trap that her mother and grandmother were in.

[@primeanalogrecords]

@ my child that I worked with at big Brother big sisters was a victim of walk away father! The family was so sweet and they were all from Jamaica, but I afforded this little boy opportuneness that never were offered to him! He was born into a life of poverty and the only time his biological father carried at all and showed any attention to my little boy was when I was around doing something with him! He was not even so selfish as to walk out on his own child, but didn’t want his child to be able to take advantage of a situation that I could offer! We got over that hump, but I thought it was worth mentioning! The fatherless epidemic, especially in the black community is severe and causes much heartache! My little boy who’s now a grown-up marine just got married about a year ago! He understands the impact of the father in the family and I guess it’s one step at a time! Looking forward to seeing what his future is going to look like!

[@gregoryharlston0602]

I was a big brother for years in LA. Initially, I asked for two young brothers and was told I could have only one little brother. A couple years later, the Big brother organization asked me if I would take another little brother. I politely told them No! There is a huge need for Big Brothers!

[@Julia-lk8jn]

two thoughts on that: (1) I talked to a teacher once who told me that boys in her school complained about girls having all those women-related activities - how to deal with the beauty-ideals thrown at them day in day out, friendships, whatever - while there was little to none like that for boys. Very true, the problem is: none of the male teachers was interested / willing in organizing stuff like that. Maybe because they'd never had anything like that in school, maybe because there was some vague perception of à la "feelings & emotions = women stuff" , maybe because they just didn't want the extra work. (2) I wonder what effect the whole "Oh No Groomers!!!!!" panic has on such organizations. Right now, as a man, I'd be half-expecting to be accused of that if I were to seek out contact with young boys even for the most selfless and well meaning reasons.

[@primeanalogrecords]

@ I totally understand where you are coming from on #2 but if you have no intentions have broad shoulders and don’t care what busy bodies have to say! Just know all the good you could do in a child’s life! BBBS organizations do lots of interviews and background checks to carefully vet and protect the kids!

[@luannkelly5071]

My hubby cheated on me with 3 different women. Sorry, I filed for divorce.

[@alimd9447]

I also don't believe, she supplied his husband sxually.

[@truthtelleranon]

i don’t believe you. also need his side. also don’t know what kind of wife you were

[@Nah-ah]

Good for you! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@pedritonavaja5596]

Most divorces are not for infidelity. irreconcilable differences is #1. These women just weren't happy so they destroy their families. Very sad.

[@jackdeniston6150]

@@truthtelleranon We do know what kind of woman she is.

[@starr234]

My first divorce was because of how he treated me and my daughter. My second divorce was because he became an alcoholic and was not faithful among other things. In both marriages, I was the breadwinner.

[@Tirelesswarrior]

Interesting...would you consider another after these experiences? 😮😮😮

[@jgats2361]

And terrible decision maker.

[@sumralltt]

As you get older it is really hard to find a good wife or husband - I prayed a lot after my second marriage ended and God provided - I've been married to my 3rd wife for more than 30 years - She is my best friend!

[@Tirelesswarrior]

@@sumralltt Wow... That's so refreshing to hear. Thank God.

[@yusufraage8554]

#BelieveAllWomen It is funny how all ex husbands are narcissists and abusers, when less than 8% of men are narcissists.

[@Monique-yj1cw]

Alcohol is a big reason women file for divorce, and bi-polar

[@Orca-hp4zx]

70% in alcoholic or bi-polar relationships? Then make better mate choices

[@slylockfox85]

A greater percentage of them are alcoholics and on psyche medication than men. Care to try again?

[@annjames1837]

Then why marry an alcoholic?

[@slylockfox85]

@@annjames1837 Because those are the "fun" guys, duh! At least until you have to deal with them every day and kids are involved.

[@SR77736]

According to what sources?

[@MichelleBrelaz]

Homes are meant to be a secure nest for a woman’s family, including their partner. That’s why a man who can manage money well is important.

[@TartarugaGracie]

Equal rights, equal responsabilities.

[@jacquelynn2051]

​. Whomever test you cheated off of was dumb too.

[@DrJohnnyJ]

Manage money or make money?

[@MichelleBrelaz]

@ and perhaps, equal pay.

[@Judith-p2o]

All people should know how to manage money. People can really screw up their family's life by being irresponsible with money. Either partner.

[@marygard4608]

Isn't it amazing how men always seem to know every minute what women are thinking, but actually listening to women themselves is an insurmoutable, tedious exercise for men?

[@MrJuliendeLoin]

cause you talk out of your feeling, women dont think with logic, men do.

[@CarrieLovesLife.]

@@MrJuliendeLoinyou just completely proved her point dude.

[@szymonbaranowski8184]

you fail to notice which one should listen more... the one with more planning long term brain

[@just_lurking4833]

@@marygard4608 Imagine thinking men don't listen to women when they literally got on board with feminism, gave women more rights, and men STILL listen to women when women lie about "only liking guys who are nice" while every one of those women have multiple experiences with dating bad men. The issue isn't about listening. It's about women being dishonest and manipulative and how it's now socially reinforced to act that way as a woman because "women can do no wrong".

[@DuskyJewel]

Bingo 🎯! Men only respect other men and will only listen to men _about_ women rather than an actual woman. That’s why women initiate over 70% of divorces and will continue to do so.

[@YW19832]

I think men also need to be taught not to abuse financial advantage they have. I think it’s been the driver of women wanting to be financially independent

[@lorrilewis2178]

The most basic advice mothers give daughters and women give to friends ... is to move heaven and earth not to be dependent. Dependency opens the door to having to live under any kind of abuse he might dish out, with no way to escape.

[@GracieDontPlayDat]

@@lorrilewis2178yes! I didn’t realize I would be TARGETED by a fake Christian because I could do that. They don’t discard you until they destroy that ability. All I needed was for a Christian woman I respected to tell me Catholics aren’t always Christian.

[@IAmTheEggMan111]

Men don’t have any financial advantages women do

[@carmenricard3332]

You have no idea. I wish that subject was discussed and acknowledged more. I don’t make bank to attract someone, I make the money I do to make sure I’m secure when the man turns out to be a bad apple. No woman should be dependent upon a man financially in the event he chooses to be financially, emotionally, verbally or physically manipulative or violent. Every woman needs leverage in case she needs to flee for her life. Saw it first hand with my parents. Mother learnt the hard way, stupid woman.

[@workingshlub8861]

@@lorrilewis2178 no way to escape?? nobody should be abusing anyone but ive never heard of a battered mens shelter....woman have tons of options

[@StacyAdellMT]

Men need and deserve to be respected so many women instinctively do not date men they can’t admire and respect. For his sake and ours. You can love a man you don’t respect to some extent but is impossible to desire him physically.

[@mrunaltandel8732]

What are you suggesting exactly?

[@James_36]

Only entitlement makes them have no respect

[@StacyAdellMT]

@@mrunaltandel8732 not a suggestion just a statement.

[@StacyAdellMT]

@@James_36 being with a man that feels more like having a child than a partner causes the lack of respect too.

[@James_36]

@@StacyAdellMT yea because the women of today are so mature 🙄

[@amyleslie538]

Fe, Married 30+ yrs. Money was NOT the impetus for divorce for me. It was the fact that whatever I did or did not do, whatever I said or did not say- it was never correct for him. It was never enough, I was never enough.

[@Hustada]

But it is for a lot of women. Which was the only point being made

[@Ekam-Sat]

Maybe because you never gave your guy a hug or told him that you loved him.

[@Ekam-Sat]

You’ve got a divorce after you took his money. 💰

[@heyalexiajanee]

​@@Ekam-Satthat's projection

[@carrieeubanks549]

Men become emotionally unavailable and the wife gets tired of trying to carry the load of the relationship. We want a partner, not another immature child.

[@conscioustruth-i8v]

The way he lies is crazy work. Majority of women worry about financial stability because they have to think about wanting to raise kids without financially stress and struggles. Women file for divorces because the amount of stress they been through.

[@Gnosis639]

So that's it. All women file divorce because the husband was unavailable? Interesting.

[@МаксимЛонгин]

It's very interesting that all women marry a "partner" and get divorced with an "emotionally unstable child". What are you doing to your men that they become like this?

[@hollieooo]

​@@МаксимЛонгинMost men are afraid of a woman's displeasure, and start lying to placate her. After a while, it feels like living with an errant child. Not much of a turn on for a woman who is already a mother. Communication is key, and it takes courage, and it goes both ways.

[@hectorzero8545]

​​@@hollieooo most women discourage emotional communication and ignore the man's needs as well, it goes both ways. Most divorce rewards the woman, hence their incentive to break up over any little thing like a petty tyrant rather than fix the relationship. When u get the house, kids, and most of his life earnings while the guy becomes homeless and depressed and poor, it's easy to make up any reason to justify your divorce. Its simple women are rewarded for divorce so they'll sacrifice their partner, children's happiness, and stability over their petty whims and financial rewards. Society doesn't hold women accountable and rewards their narcissism. Why would they NOT divorce? Never agree to a contract the other party is rewarded for breaking men.

[@t.j.5574]

Crazy how men on podcasts have to use so much tact saying that more women graduating college is a good thing. But when we say that men need more empowerment and more encouragement so we can get their numbers up, people instantly think that that’s anti-women.

[@aysyaw6038]

Why don't men "empower and encourage" other men?

[@t.j.5574]

@ I guess men are too busy working, paying bills, and making a living.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

@@aysyaw6038Who says they don’t?

[@yusufraage8554]

@@aysyaw6038 Because men are in overt competition with other men. That is why men have no problems praising the winners amongst our selves. Women on the other hand are in a covert competitionwith other women and that is why they will support eachother in public but in private they are their own worst enemies.

[@notmarealnameboi]

Yeah, it sucks. Sick of it.

[@jangilbert8028]

My husband was a narcissist! After living with emotional abuse for nine years, I decided not to take it anymore. I have never regretted that decision!

[@greedo1228]

Why'd you marry him?

[@Luver4lyfe]

@@greedo1228because narcs are deceitful and always come with multiple personas. Aren’t you listening ?

[@greedo1228]

@@Luver4lyfe Yep, how convenient. You make the choices, and somehow it's always entirely the other person's fault.

[@Ekam-Sat]

Accountability is kryptonite for women.

[@Ekam-Sat]

I’m pretty sure you’re the narcissist

[@tiararobinson3965]

Thank you for mentioning and speaking on kindness. That's major key! I divorced my partner of 15 years due to not feeling emotionally safe in his presence. Lack of feeling safe, whether emotionally or physically, is a reason women move towards filing. When we, not only as women, but men too, feel unsafe, we react to that. It is primal! Some react with anger/defensiveness, some react with fear/sadness/depression. However it's done, there's always a human reaction to not feeling safe. My ex and I are doing fine now, coparenting cordially and respectfully.

[@evan3087]

I’m hugely surprised it took 15years for you to realise your man isn’t kind. Maybe there is more to the story for you both separating

[@kevL219]

I agree, there are just as many immature women who think they are a princess. Men are tired of dealing with their drama and narcissism.

[@saimedi2100]

“emotional safety” = lack of accountability

[@wendyblaauw2578]

@@saimedi2100how did you come to that “equation”?

[@lealovestravel]

​@kevL219 maybe its the women you're choosing i.e. going for young 20 somethings.

[@01watercress]

I appear to be the exception re: the socio-economic dynamic. And have I paid the price. More than once. It sounds superficial - but it is very important - amoung other things - like picking a man that actually see's you and is not only confident but willing to show you that he does love you.

[@ANGELSVEN]

Men seem to withhold their feelings from women and see feelings as being vulnerable. Or they withhold to control. Feelings is exactly what women need! Someone who sees commitment as a way to enrich their lives, not as something seasonal.

[@fanshaw]

"Women are doing great - I would never want to take away from that. How can we lift men up?" You can't be equal and look up to someone. The problem is the relative difference, not the absolute level. If we lift men up and they are earning 7 figures, the complaints would be rolling in about how women are disadvantaged. So we lift up women, and the pool of attractive men shrinks again and everyone is unhappy.

[@garthwood5104]

A good piece of this puzzle is hypergamous behaviour by women. Such behaviour made good sense when men and women formed marriages where the man provided and the woman nurtured. Now, after three generations of affirmative action programs etc. (coincidentally, supported and promoted by tens of millions of good, well-intentioned men throughout the Western world), "women are killin' it," but they're still behaving as if this were one million years B.C. In such an environment, hypergamy is a trap for the individual woman. Women who recognize the trap and adapt their mating behaviours away from hypergamy as the default are doing (and will continue to do) better than women who still insist on men being "above" them resource-wise. The pool of men who "fit" into the slot that hypergamous behaviour carves out is shrinking, and I don't think there will be any society-wide responses to this problem that will work, absent women becoming more self-aware of this now-maladaptive behaviour and compensating accordingly.

[@mrsheabutter]

This dude is a simp. Dont take any of his words as profitable advice.

[@Yeeha494]

@@garthwood5104 the turn out will be those women will be single with cats and the men will have gone their own way. Saving up to live overseas and start families there. These women don’t really deserve the love they never gave to anyone but themselves.

[@niamarielove]

​@@Yeeha494 I think women are okay with that. More and more women are choosing to be single and childless anyway. Being considered a cat lady is no longer an insult.

[@Yeeha494]

@@niamarielove yeah personally I love cats. The issue is both of these people want partners or we wouldn’t see so many of them crying on social media on how the good men have left or they are friendless/relationship less. When it was their own behaviors that pushed those people away. Oppurtunity cost exists for all people, you cannot blame others for the oppurtunities you decided to ignore or shame men for having standards/ not accepting a trauma ridden partner who lacked self control when young.

[@kathym8453]

I think we overlook the impact of deliberate social engineering by the elite. If the goal is population control, and it has been proven that they want to decrease our numbers, what better way to do that than to make sure that stable families don't form? Deliberate economic destabilization, harassment and humiliation of heterosexual men, decreased access to training in the trades, and suppression of work salaries, are all factors that make it increasingly difficult for men to have access to decent paying work. No decent work, no decent pay, social stigmatization results in increased difficulty in finding wives and creating families.

[@Xianne027]

9:07 - why are there far less male teachers in public schools? I understand that it due to the fact that school teachers are paid so poorly in most countries that it makes it difficult for a man to support a family with that kind of work. Yes, we definitely need more male role models in schools. Teacher's salaries need to be raised.

[@jessedeane6036]

I'm a massage therapist and went to school with some people that just signed up.Cause I thought it was a great way to make money even though they didn't have the inerability to connect with people. They were just money chasers inside as a business. No inherent healing attributes like the rest of us 2 of them in my class.They don't even know what empathy or integrity Means.😢 So giving a very high pay range for teachers and having people just chasing money going up through these professions.I don't think is a right way to go. Also, you have predators.My daughter went to a private school and they had issues with men being in that school so the majority were females. Although we do have women predators at school that our teachers this is an issue as well. I think they should give teachers a higher wage packet.But they should also give them task to ensure that they are passionate about being teachers that they're just not chasing a paycheck. I've seen videos on students where the teacher says something that reveals.They're just paycheck collectors and many people are just paycheck collectors.They go to their job everyday.They don't care about customers.They don't care about anything.They're just collecting a pay check.

[@Xianne027]

@jessedeane6036 Thanks for giving your insight on that. I'm older with no grandchildren so I don't have an inside view on what's happening in schools. Interesting that a dad is wary about male teachers. That says something.

[@jessedeane6036]

@Xianne027 I'm a transmale. Male spirit. No living critters hanging arond in sacs..lol.

[@duncan18663]

Women prefer all of the "caring professions" and anything dealing with children more than men. If teaching salaries are raised, it will attract more women as well as more men. The only way to change the ratio would be to actively discriminate in favour of men.

[@dudeguybro-bb1wg]

They could consider bot having 5 months a year off to make more money

[@salivadriven]

Women need fathers too.

[@lori6156]

Women need emotionally loving and kind fathers

[@evan3087]

@@lori6156women need everything possible they can get. They can never be satisfied 😅

[@zerotolerance2026]

@@evan3087. So asking for an emotionally loving and kind father is asking for too much? 🙄 No wonder women are leaving you in droves. The bar is in h3ll.🔥🔥🔥

[@zerotolerance2026]

@@evan3087 The stats say women leave 70-90% of the time. So you leaving these imaginary women you created in your little pea brain doesn’t count.

[@evan3087]

@@nivaeva2411 Another 🙊 spotted. Without knowing what’s meant, they all join the que. Read my first comment again. If you still don’t understand, go ask your daddy. And your assumptions even more funny, says a lot about your family IQ and the way they brought you up

[@kathrinscharrer3923]

I agree on the essential role of a father ( and uncles/ grandfathers/ male cousins) in boys lives. I have two sons and I see it every day. And I have no " conservative" or religious background.

[@DNA350ppm]

Indeed! Women need responsible coparenting, boys need male role models (or they will think that a man is the diametrical opposite to their mother), and girls need to see loving and responsible men to understand the difference between good men and predators.

[@dimekoza]

On the height thing...I'm 40, single and 6'5, in my entire life I have never ever seen anything positive coming from being tall, especially when it comes to women.

[@lede1810]

Women are very vulnerable when they get older so when they’re young they have to consider good providers and financial security because they need to secure the future of their children and themselves.

[@BetterLoveMovement]

PRECISELY‼️ Women are by their very nature “hypergamous” and whether you agree with evolutionary psychology or not, it is what it is.🎯

[@cpope3235]

Men get vulnerable when they age as well. This is a silly take. Plus what about equality? Women have just as much ability to earn as men.

[@DNA350ppm]

@@cpope3235 No, that's not true, traditionally elderly women were not the first choice for employers, and society has not adapted to elderly women's competences and limits, yet. If women (mothers, grandmothers) give a lot of time and effort for kids, then they when older have problems with both money and health, which limits their earning-ability. They can't in middle-age and later, compensate for what they've lost in giving care to children, so then they have less to live on, when retired.

[@satoshi_yukamoto841]

Women live longer than men...seems pretty self evident to me which sex gets the short end of the stick!

[@hurricaneaquatics]

My advice to older women, if you're married earlier in your life, treat your husband well as long as he treats you well. Don't think because you've been married 20 years, that you can give up and ghost the marriage without consequences.

[@jet4415]

Uhm, my husband would NOT complete any of the common daily/yearly paperwork during our 10 year marriage. He had a Masters degree in science, so no dummy. Of course, I, the wife, the female completed the paperwork of the divorce or I wouldn’t be divorced. The bald guy needs to reevaluate his stance.

[@Ekam-Sat]

Poor baby.

[@workingshlub8861]

so that masters degree did not provide a roof over your head and food?? get over yourself

[@jet4415]

@@workingshlub8861 You have missed the point of the comment….forest for the trees 🌲 situation. The interviewee’s point was that the majority of divorces are started by women. My point is that women do the paperwork, not start the divorce. Geez.

[@narayaniji8699]

Women want to be married to EMOTIONALLY AND SPIRITUALLY mature men. They don't want to be their husband's mother. This is why most marriages die.

[@m2pozad]

Not remotely true.

[@lealovestravel]

Amen! Totally true.

[@barbararichardson2747]

She probably played mommy too reel him in😅!

[@GracieDontPlayDat]

You WIN! Best comment.

[@m2pozad]

@@GracieDontPlayDat What is a mature, spiritual, woman?

[@lenitavanhoff2961]

Yep, men need to step up. Not just financially, but especially in the softer powers. We women, don't stay with men because we no longer have to. If we are financially independent, we don't need their money. We need empathy, and emotional maturity to stay.

[@robertott2631]

Yes you do need men’s money., 😅

[@Josh-bp1km]

Men are not women, kids need both parents and the different characteristics they offer. What’s the point of having two parents that are both soft ????? Men are not women and they do not have to be like women to make you happy not that it will make you happy anyway because which woman wants a feminine man ? You leave marriages because there is an incentive usually you get the house and spousal support. So yes, you do in fact still need men’s money however you try to dice it.

[@veronicagomezcalvo4001]

Spot on!!

[@veronicagomezcalvo4001]

​@@robertott2631excuse me??

[@john7787]

I believe this until I saw my "independent" ex wife fight for assets and alimony that I earned even though I was paying for her schooling and career, failed businesses and we had no kids. I'll believe you when you abolish alimony and child support.

[@lealovestravel]

I agree with most of this. However I think its important to emphasise that women's attraction to an economically prosperous guy has much less to do with being a princess (in most cases) than it is about being able to raise a child in a functional home where she can take time off to raise those children, if she wants to, and provide them with good schools and security. It's hardwired in us to choose a mate who will provide, just as it's hardwired in men to go out and hunt/compete.

[@andre1987eph]

what are you kidding? women aren't having babies any longer.

[@ABC-hi3fy]

Don't agree at all. Women leave because of physical pleasure and because they take most of family's wealth with them. Women before 40 have a lot of sexual market value and they simply upgrade, while the divorce courts incentives them.

[@miaranee]

Actually it's hardwired in men to want younger women with motherly tendencies. It's hard wired for everyone to compete if you're basing it off of modern American and European models

[@lealovestravel]

Hardwiribg goes back to early civilisation times, so western world models are not part of the hardwired argument. I do agree with you about hardwiring of men for finding younger women though. Hardwiring works against all of us, in some way or another, when discussing the evolution of modern day relationships. The model doesn't work anymore

[@miaranee]

@lealovestravel if the evolutionary model doesn't apply anymore, why not work, save up money, and find a guy to have your kids with? He can stay home the entire time and never work the entire relationship. There are many guys willing to do this, do you find it attractive?

[@georgelyden]

I agree.. my fiancé reminds me constantly of how she feels very safe and very secure because all the bills are paid. She says she has never been happier. Now all I have to do is keep making money for the rest of her life, or I’m out on the curb like Thursday trash day.. this is life gentlemen. Suck it up..

[@david-o6g1h]

If that's her overwhelming priority in the relationship what happens if/when she meets someone who can give her more security (make more money)?

[@UnlimitedWomen2]

@@david-o6g1h Boom!

[@you6382tube]

Women want men who can provide, protect, communicate and be kind. Men are looking for an attractive sex partner to do the domestic work.

[@you6382tube]

@@david-o6g1h What happens if / when he meets an opportunity for sex outside the relationship?

[@andre1987eph]

It unfathomable that you're getting married circa 2024 with all the Family and Divorce court laws stacked against you.

[@keithrogers9741]

This commentator is excellent, I am sure most of us wish we had a dad like this

[@Ekam-Sat]

I can be your daddy.

[@simba8665]

I think culture is a big factor. The more liberal the culture is eg western cultures, the higher the divorce rate.

[@kingmaafa120]

Yep

[@ericjames7819]

I don't know. Divorce rates are pretty high in most of the world.

[@okigi-wo5zm]

​@@ericjames7819Arab too?

[@JH-D4075]

​@@ericjames7819Not in non-western countries

[@ericjames7819]

@JH-D4075 not true. Russia and China have higher divorce rates than the US.

[@mcasile1958]

Excellent interview all the way through. The closing point about all boys needing male role models cannot be overstated. Sadly, I also agree that many men will avoid this role due to the stigmatization Scott mentioned. I would love to see this change.

[@human8454]

They don't stay with struggling men

[@broco6608]

And, for good reason.

[@danimack38]

And why would they? Men dont stay with women who struggle with infertility and illnesses.

[@mirrorglassgames]

​@broco6608 so it's transactional and horse trading. Everybody struggles, doofus. Even the most successful people lose everything

[@helgaioannidis9365]

My husband had major heart surgery and couldn't work for months. No sex for a long time and a man who gets stressed very easily. I stayed and will stay, because he's always shown me love the way I understand it. He's a loving, caring person. He makes me tea every morning and if I am sad he'll notice and make me open up and feel taken seriously.

[@t.j.5574]

Nope. Women aren’t there for men through thick and thin. Marriage vows are bullshit. “For rich or for poor.”😂

[@user-st6nt4ou6f]

I can put it into my experience and what I think - women file for divorce because the man wants to control her in ways that he didn't necessarily display until after the commitment was done.

[@ericjames7819]

Women are biologically programmed to follow their emotions. And they marry and divorce based on their ever changing emotions.

[@andre1987eph]

Translation: "I thought he was foolish enough to allow me to cheat on him, but he didn't go for that. Thats so controlling and abusive."

[@jalisazari9387]

​@@andre1987ephI thought men and women cheat the same. Traditionally men cheated more had whole side families, now women are like not on my watch I don't need ur money. And the men are like what I can't cheat in peace like my grandpa did.

[@buggyrockz2635]

@@andre1987ephit’s usually the other way around

[@reneesmith5403]

​@@buggyrockz2635 Exactly.

[@tacocruiser4238]

Becoming a stepfather is the WORST decision you can ever make. STAY AWAY FROM SINGLE MOTHERS!

[@Xianne027]

But why do men ALWAYS gravitate toward single moms (hero complex maybe?) while avoiding gainfully employed childless women like the plague? I'm a 60+ woman, have lived in both the US and Europe and have always wondered why men prefer to fall into that trap, rather than to seek an equal partner. Even more baffling to me is why so many men get involved with single moms who have several kids already, each from a different father. Why don't men see that these women are USERS! They produce a child with each partner in order to collect child support. Figure it out guys! Teach your sons to avoid these kinds of women.

[@chinadoll534]

I agree. And women need to leave men who are just sperm donors. Too many women with no or one child, for some reason like being with men who has too many children and baby mamas drama, who won’t and can’t pay child support. Ridiculous

[@Xianne027]

@@chinadoll534 I don't get it either.

[@chinadoll534]

@@tacocruiser4238 issues on both sides. But hey people like who they like. Not my problem. Idc one way or the other for real. Just trying to keep up with my world 😂

[@jettykoers8720]

Becoming a stepmother is the WORST decision you can ever make. STAY AWAY FROM SINGLE FATHERS!

[@Maya-zd1pc]

You should invite Priscilla Clark, the Queen Maker. Constantly inviting men talking about women is one sided. Invite a women, like Priscilla Clark, talking about the same topics and see what she has to say. It's called changing perspective in order to understand reality instead of creating an echo chamber to confirm your own belief system.

[@SR77736]

Great idea. She is intelligent and confident. Women need to speak for women.

[@JT-rx1eo]

Nice try.

[@patty518]

Yes, my thoughts exactly! Have women speak for women!

[@heyalexiajanee]

Yes, why invite a man to explain for a woman. He didn't touch on any of the points women highlight when discussing the woes of marriage, like the fact that women handle most of the labor when it comes to marriage. Work, manage the husband's life manage the husband's emotions, , cook , clean, children, on constant repeat

[@tinyshepherdess7710]

I divorced my husband because he worked all the time and we didn't connect emotionally. A woman may want a man who can provide equal to or greater than what she provides financially, but she also wants connection and shared partnership. Many women are breadwinners these days - and are expected to do all domestic labor/childcare and mental/emotional load of the relationship and/or family. It's too much! Men need to step it up, be present in their wife and family's lives, and be more than just a paycheck.

[@ssehe2007]

WOMEN NEED TO STEP IT DOWN

[@truthtelleranon]

Ungrateful, bad wife. Pathetic. He should strive for much better. I can’t say he deserves better though because he committed to you

[@barbararichardson2747]

​@@truthtelleranonUnfortunately that's the mindset of many.So in the process of accumulating stuff, the family is sacrificed.When is enough enough😢?

[@GracieDontPlayDat]

@@barbararichardson2747. Most of us are surviving more than anything else. Right after we saved money for a house, my husband was a victim of white collar crime at work for multiple jobs in a row! The cult that pushes people down to save them simply just destroys people who work hard. This cult (let’s call them elites) should preach the Simple Gospel of Christ, and we would all be better for it.

[@MrJuliendeLoin]

how can you ask for a provider that stay at home and work part time ? your expectations are unrealistic, like many women. you can't have both

[@leannesampson3199]

Personally i 100% agree on his criteria for what women look for in a man/mate/partner : 3) kindness 2) intelligence/sense of humour 1) promise of ability to provide (and protect) - if i got those correct.... otherwise that is just my personal list 😊

[@GreatnessClips]

Appreciate you for watching!

[@heathergrahame9647]

I agree with your list

[@alyssah8756]

That so correct

[@evan3087]

When a person lacks things in themselves, they go look for it in another person. No wonder women love it when things fall in place easily

[@heathergrahame9647]

@@evan3087 There's bitterness in your tone. I wish for you a bright future where you're able to resolve the angst you feel.

[@saltchuckwest]

Menopause is a bigger factor than most think.

[@cmorillo2865]

This is the first “men and women” speaker that I really agree with. Women DO want financial security because it means safety for their children. Women DO want kind men because there is nothing more dangerous to a woman and her children than an abusive partner. I would argue that women still have some growing to do by not immediately eliminating men who do not make as much. As long as he makes enough to cover the billls if the wife is unable to, that’s all that’s needed.

[@ThePinkPantha21]

Where are women eliminating men that don't make as much? I don't know many women that are married to wealthy men or men that do not rely on them for help with bills. It's primarily women helping men in all ways including financially. Even so much so that lots of women are breadwinners nowadays.

[@faethe000]

No. Merely surviving is NOT enough. What about comfort and happiness?

[@MrsDazl]

Omg! Stop wanting more than the bare minimum! 😉​@@faethe000

[@James_36]

Really? He is lying out his backside in half of it

[@randomflagg7331]

@@James_36 I know, the truth is if you look around, the reason society is collapsing is because women failed our society. and they didn't raise their children responsibly. they were too busy making it happen to care about the kids. So basically she quit on her husband and then she quit on her children. That's the fact. not this fairy tale. they have not been embolden to muscle through since the 60's they've done nothing but look out for themselves and with guys like this simp doing the storytelling the skies the limits. while everything burns and collapses. because women are not "team players" too much I in their definition no room for anything else. and so it becomes predictable that they tend to prefer only flattering simp logic that makes them sound like rocket scientists like they got a plan. they all got a plan they aren't just using men to get to the top. no no no certainly not. it's love cause women are not users..... I mean they are cold and devious selfish but certainly they got heart. nah, men finally figured it out. it's best to differ when the hot chick offers you her soul. because she can't give what she doesn't possess. that's why they are in a rush to grab as much of everything before they die. because they don't believe in God or the afterlife. all their beliefs are in voodoo and witchcraft, they are master schemers temptresses, they are not the good guys. man's problem is he's so generous with decency he kept applying it to someone that used it as cover to destroy him. enough of them have been caught doing men in that we can classify their entire gender as a clear and present danger to the United States. they are deeply troubled psychopaths. men would do themselves a great service and avoid these women at all costs. they are dangerous. in all honesty we need to institute laws and have them arrested. no more playing around. they've been misusing police for theru own ends for a long time now. time to return the favor.

[@BornintheUSA-1984]

Women hold 80% of credit card debt!!

[@Eli-tq8fj]

And student loans!!!!!!

[@broco6608]

Education costs.

[@vp5134]

Because they bear so much more of household expenses

[@itsme-sq5rd]

​@@vp5134student loans

[@ChrisJohnston-z7u]

Could you give a source for your "statistics"? It sounds very much like you pulling this percentage out of your azz.

[@niamarielove]

I don't usually listen to male podcasters, or men in general, but this was very informative. I appreciate how evenly keeled the speaker was. It seems the solution for men is more male role-models. I can agree with that. However, most men I've spoken with or watched are quick to say they are not responsible for another man's child. I'm wondering how that dichotomy can be overcome. Wonderful discussion 👏.

[@misslashaybay]

Males are usually more selfish so they don't think about society as a whole and our kids being the next generation of adults. Only women seem to think out that far, COLLECTIVELY.

[@Badficwriter]

It wasn't always like this. My father in law believed it was a community's responsibility to adopt. But he was an abusive father. His son is a more responsible person, but too emotionally reserved to adopt children.

[@user-vx1up7ty7z]

@@Badficwriter That makes sense when the father's a deadbeat that abandoned his family, or a child was orphaned, and it was exceedingly rare. With today's rates of single motherhood that come about because of women getting pregnant without being married, or willfully leaving men because they "aren't happy", our "community" can't sustain this much adoption.

[@MrCPPG]

Quite simple. You CHOSE the man to reproduce with. The men not chosen have no responsibility. If they weren't good enough men to bed down with they are not good enough to be involved in your child's life. Choose wisely. Isn't that what you women always advise the men to do after they have been eviscerated in the family courts?

[@TimesUp2590]

@user, These women get pregnant all by themselves?

[@marisolorosco4345]

I disagree that it’s not when the man makes less money, it’s that the man is letting it affect his self esteem and acts like a jerk. And he tries to tell the wife what to do when he needs to get his butt out there and provide and protect. Women know what to do to keep a household going.

[@yusufraage8554]

sure

[@ione8548]

Because women do not care if children are raised without fathers....which is a serious threat to their adult life!

[@James_36]

They would if the state stoped supporting them and there lies the issue

[@ione8548]

@@James_36 The state supports a demographic disaster...is what I already understood.U can.t fuck up men at such extent...thinking that men will not finally realise that it does not make any sense..being with a woman...specifically western one

[@randomflagg7331]

yes. it is the reason our society is collapsing. because of their g-damn selfishness. and man's generosity sitting idly by allowing this disgrace to destroy his legacy. hoping she'd come to her good sense she never possessed,. because too many simps are ready to remake history to protect them

[@ione8548]

@@James_36 the state support them to break the family ....and invent laws to take kids away from fathers(emotional abuse)...go to figure out who.s the abuser...woman will be anyway the victim

[@aysyaw6038]

@@James_36 I definitely agree that the state should stop supporting them and make the real fathers support their children. DNA test should be mandatory and so should joint custody as long as the father is responsible and mentally stable.

[@mochamommyATX]

Why is it a bad thing to look for someone who can support a family if you have to take time off to birth and raise kids?

[@yusufraage8554]

Nobody said is a bad thing. What is a bad thing is letting that sucker with the money believe you love him and not his money

[@terryhutchings7701]

I think for a lot of women it’s a matter of if I have to work, do the majority of childcare and housework by myself, then I might as well be by myself. There are good men and I’m not male bashing, but after 20 years of making sure everyone else was taken care of, I was just mentally and physically exhausted.

[@Ekam-Sat]

Yes, I know you are the victim.

[@debs2026]

I KNOW THEM FEELS.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

@@Ekam-SatOf course she is. It’s interesting that she gave no thought as to whether the husband might also be tired and exhausted from working his ass off at the factory for 20 years.

[@yusufraage8554]

Women dont know what they want and if they do know they will want something else.

[@terryhutchings7701]

@@Ekam-SatNo, I was just married to someone who couldn’t or wouldn’t pull his weight. I later remarried to a wonderful man. Like I said, there are good guys out there, just harder and harder to find. You sound very bitter and should probably seek out some therapy.

[@sebastienseb919]

I'm a single, lone wolf, 57 year old man and I'm having the best most joyous time of my life.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

Well good for you. Here’s your sticker: 🙂

[@sunnyd4734]

Same here, 59. I stand back and watch the drama, and so glad I'm not part of it.

[@Badficwriter]

Oh, I'm so glad my ex left me. Sometimes he comes back to complain about his girlfriend. Apparently, actual relationships are more difficult than cheating. I think about them being stuck with their drama together, and I laugh.

[@MrCox2121]

They leave because they get paid to do so. Marriage is a dead end road for men, absolutely no ROI. Men need to wise up and avoid this trap. Do not commit in any way that legally binds you to her. No marriage, no cohabitation is the only way to protect you from predatory women.

[@donnadrane4977]

Oh yeah? I have literally taken care of my husband since he was 48 years old, through heart attacks, stents, knee surgery, gout, and finally a triple bypass heart surgery. I emptied bed pans at home. If that isn’t love and devotion I don’t know what is. My husband’s life was infinitely better because of me.

[@susanharris3552]

If that's the attitude you have, do women a favor and marry a man.

[@dh12.]

​@@donnadrane4977😂 do you represent all women?

[@lorrilewis2178]

Tell me you're Red Pill without telling me you're Red Pill.

[@carmenricard3332]

@@dh12. This is actually an extremely common thing for women to do. It’s literally engrained in how most young girls are socialized. So, ya it probably does represent a substantial portion of women.

[@kristina4395]

true: no1 - kindness in a man Its simple: if you dont give a woman what she Needs she will leave... every woman needs different things, i have much more 💰 than my man i don't need him to provide in monetary way but other ways.. emotionality, security, trust, good energy Simple: ask what she wants and needs.. give her that.. she is yours forever

[@PS-qn4oz]

Not everyone is equipped the same way, though. If I weren't married I'd be looking for a man who just gets me. True compatibility cannot be summoned from within or manufactured. Two people either have chemistry or they don't. They either have a desire and willingness to stick together and be there for each other or they don't.

[@uberboiz]

@@PS-qn4oz well said

[@CabbagePatchkid-r8e]

If you give a woman what she wants, she gets miserable

[@James_36]

Hahahahahaa

[@MrJuliendeLoin]

the most narcissist answer i ever heard. We are not YOUR TOY

[@noneyabeeysnass8283]

They leave because the laws and courts support their ability to do it, Financially. It’s that simple.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

I'm a counselor and it's not that simple. There's many different reasons and scenarios going from entitled wifes who married because they wanted to be taken care of to women who were raped and physically abused by their husbands. There's a large range of reasons, believe me. There's women that find out their husband has been cheating on them, there's women that fell in love with someone else, there's men who abuse their children, there's men who don't do anything in the household, there's men that are more attached to their mother than to their wife, there's women who were brought up very strictly and during their midlife crisis go crazy, there's men that have no empathy for their pregnant wife and there's women who struggle with post partum depression, there's women who got married to escape abusive parents and there's men who get married, because that's what their parents expect them to do. People are complicated.

[@breft3416]

​@helgaioannidis9365 Face it, most of the time, it's boredom and money.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

@@breft3416 face it, you're not an expert

[@e.a.miller6503]

I’ve never been attracted to a man bases on income. NEVER. Sexual attraction has to with chemistry. Period.

[@Mint-kj9kw]

Yep...money is not even in my top 20. I'm from the Midwest where everyone marries their highschool/college sweetheart. Guess what? Guys in their early 20's are broke.

[@broco6608]

​​@@Mint-kj9kw Even so, 20 year old men should have a plan other than laying up all day and playing video games.

[@barcaman1013]

This guy doesn't know what he's taking about

[@MrCPPG]

That is why you bed down with bad bay Chad, the pump and dump stud.

[@solitarymystic4672]

The response is Abuse and neglect - physical, emotional, mental. Time saved - 10 min

[@JohnSmithEx]

There are more in the video than your synopsis. For example it's the financial aspect (3:42) that you haven't even touched. When the man loses his job or goes bankrupt, the woman leaves. So you might want to go back and watch the whole video. It will be 10 minutes well spent.

[@solitarymystic4672]

@ no thanks

[@JohnSmithEx]

@@solitarymystic4672 why not? Don't you want to be informed?

[@solitarymystic4672]

@ if you think these men have an authority to inform you, you go ahead and be informed. My opinion is that women are better off without men, any kind of men, period. Sons and co-workers are enough.

[@DuskyJewel]

@@JohnSmithEx Why would a woman listen to a man tell her how a woman thinks when she knows what she thinks and feels? Doesn’t it make more sense for a man to actually ask a woman herself since all women are different? Or do you subscribe to the notion that men are superior thinkers and can therefore tell women what they think?

[@vanessacorey200]

Go into a relationship with your own power, money, and independence and look for a partner who complements your qualities, resources, needs, interests, desires, and values. Remember, you don't HAVE to have a relationship or get married unless and until you actually want to and you find a great partner.

[@yusufraage8554]

hahaha

[@marlenedolores]

Not always possible, especially if you marry young and raise a large family and they leave and cheat and resent you because they had to go to work

[@vanessacorey200]

@marlenedolores That's exactly why I didn't do that. I think an adult should be mature and reasonably independent before they marry, especially a woman. Secondly, raising a family is costly and the adults can be costly to society or benefit society largely based on how they are raised and educated so it helps to consider family size and family planning with considerations of the present and the future before having lots of children.

[@colettemallory3813]

Absolutely wonderful interview! Thank you for making this.

[@GreatnessClips]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@rockefellersilva]

One main reason for women starting over 70% of divorces wasn't mentioned: the fact that the system is biased towards benefitting women, no matter what. They are rewarded for breaking the marriage contract.

[@TheMrplayitsafe]

"Education is set up for girls' that's a great quote, and the fact we pretend that it's the other way around is amazing.

[@aldorodriguez7310]

10:32 This moved me , I literally cried. Fraternal love to all fellow men.

[@soundsgood12]

Thx nice, but they still need to wake up to themselves and get moving.

[@Mrmajellan123]

Cried? For what?

[@worldadventuretravel]

This guest's framing of our prioritization of economic viability is typically disingenuous, saying women"are just in it for the money," as can be expected when men sit around talking to each other about what women think and feel. The FACTS, from a woman that knows how women really think, are: 1) Women know there is no more dangerous, disloyal and abusive man than a broke man- or even a man that just feels broke compared to his partner.* That has been proven again, and again, and again. These men will ruin your life, baby-trap you to keep you down, or outright even unalive you. It's not about the money. 2) Women also know never to "build a man up." When we put men through medical school, or pay the bills while they start their business, or support their political career when nobody knows who they are, that man will start cheating on us our outright leave as soon as he feels like he has "arrived" at his goal. Men don't go after their dream girl when they don't have their stuff together. What they do is waste other women's time-- years upon years of our lives, our fertile, income-generating years, and our youth-- using us for all of the statistical rewards they receive from partnership and using our money to get what they REALLY want and then they go after their dream girl. 3) Any person claiming to be an expert on cis-het relationships that does not include the flagrantly unequal and exploitiative division of household, family, emotional, and caregiving labor in the conversation is discredited on their face. What woman is interested in working a full-time job for a man that can't or won't provide for her and then ALSO work a second job at home bearing all of the domestic responsibilities for a grown man that feels entitled to a servant? Be serious. If you add no value to a woman's life, she has no reason to be with you. Men are not competing against the richest and tallest men for women's attentions. They are competing against our safety, our peace of mind, and our quality of life without you. No woman these days is going to give her energy to a man that isn't treating her as well as she treats herself. We have emotional connections already. We have hobbies and interests and friends and communities. If a man is going to take from us to serve himself and isn't bringing anything to the table, we're good over here by ourselves. Do not forget for one moment that for a woman, men are inherent labor and inherent risk. When we waste our youth, our fertility, and our peak income-earning years on the wrong man it costs us for the rest of our our lives. We can NEVER get that time or those lost earnings back. Many times, the wrong men just slowly kill their female partners. Look at the rates of chronic and autoimmune disease that develops in women that have male spouses or long-time partners in their lives. And in the worst case, a man can and often will literally unalive us. The greatest risk of death in pregnant women is being murdered by their partner. Facts. So when 70% of women are filing for divorce, look no further than the above. And the number one reason they file for divorce is because they are sick of raising a grown man that can't or won't show up like an adult and a partner and contribute real value to her life.

[@valuerjtp7]

I​ Disagree

[@tabbypanda82]

@@worldadventuretravel🤝🏾🤷🏾‍♀️Facts

[@naturaldeterrent]

I think it’s important to highlight the drastic increase of divorce filings by women who have been “educated“: 90%

[@alyssah8756]

I think it’s important to highlight the drastic decease in males masculinity by their own lack of education in blue collar work skills alone for starters!

[@naturaldeterrent]

@ totally agree.

[@you6382tube]

Why aren't men doing more with education? Building / expanding skills for elevating their careers, their own businesses. With education comes some benefits: confidence, communication skills, personal development, opportunities for leadership and networking. More attractive to potential employers. More attractive to women/ mates too.

[@UnlimitedWomen2]

@RubenWalsh-iv5ik nice

[@axiosschmidt6001]

@@you6382tube You know that society is built and maintained by men.

[@ladyterp31]

I am a single woman who makes 6 figures and own my own home. I don’t need a partner who makes any specific amount of money and I have dated “down” a lot previously, but I don’t have plans to do so again moving forward. Any time I have dated men who make less, I get one of two types: the men who decide to “stay at home” and leech off of me, or the men who eventually turn into big balls of insecurity that they aren’t at the same place in life as me and I’m turned off by that insecurity. It takes a special third kind of man to accept that they aren’t the breadwinner and still have their own ambition and pride in themselves, and I do know a couple who are happily married. I’m just done sifting through the frogs to find that elusive third type and will preserve my sanity by only dating men who are my financial equals or better.

[@amen_ra6926]

I've never had issues with a woman making more than me. I dated a girl for years who earned more than me when were in the same technical industry. She had two cars and had a nicer place. It never bothered me. I guess one bonus was I could always make her laugh. We're not together anymore but still remain friends. After dodging me for a couple years, she agreed to go out. I worked out all the time and she said seeing me outside of the suit & tie workplace we were in caught her off-guard and she knew she was in trouble. She said she didn't see me coming. Funny how things work out.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

Moral to the story: She went and found a better deal.

[@marissaproulx3516]

I think there's waaaaay to many people that actually want to or should remain single. Men have become dead weight in relationships and women with children end up doing just about everything. Its been named the Second Shift, Emotional Labor, the Mental Load. Thank goodness i was an observant child and saw these scenarios early. Opting out of motherhood and currently single, best decision of my life. But I still am looked at as a default caregiver to my parents, niece, nephew and some friends. I had to put some strong boundaries up and cut people out of my life. I want to be treated like a bachelor. Just want to work and enjoy my free time. No second shift please.

[@t.j.5574]

Yeah, men working their asses off to pay for the woman and the child aren’t doing anything.🙄 American women are incredibly ungrateful and entitled. Like all of you deserve a Kardashian lifestyle.

[@Badficwriter]

I agree that many SHOULD not parent or be caregivers. People don't want to admit that some people would abuse others, physically or mentally. They want to preach about caring as if it was a given.

[@r9999t]

Right, like what did your parents ever do for you... ya know, besides feeding and sheltering you for 15-25 years. Enjoy your alone time, you deserve it!

[@angeronal]

@@r9999t I'm not arguing that everyone has some reasonable degree of responsibility for their parents' welfare in their older years. The OP states she is seen as the "default caregiver" when she obviously has siblings. That is where the problem is. I did not read that the OP is unwilling to do her part -- only that she doesn't want to be assumed to be the primary provider just because she happens to be female.

[@Mayfitz]

Ditto. My Auntie Mame days are over. Boundaries

[@Jess_2025]

Terrific discussion! I appreciated how both gentlemen discussed this topic with respect and kindness. 👏🏻

[@GreatnessClips]

Thank you for watching!

[@CarolHarris-y6l]

I'm from the generation of women who had to be twice as good to be paid half as much. Add the financial penalty women face for having kids, and yes, it makes sense that women want someone with their act together.

[@yusufraage8554]

#BelieveAllWomen

[@Sage_puppets]

Wow! This was not what I expected...Here's what I understood...how good men can step in for all absent biological dads and nurture and heal the future of boys to become men, and mature into their purpose, to protect and heal our women and children, and heal our families! Amen! .

[@Hustada]

“Good men” = provider betas who get duty sex if any at all while raising …. “Biological dads” kids. Translated, these are the hot bad boy alphas she really wants to fuck but they never stick around, which is part of why they’re so attractive to women.

[@CindymeCindy]

I wonder if your results are skewed about women wanting men with money. I’ve never looked for a man with money, but instead looked for a man who was a leader and strong and had integrity and who wasn’t wanting me just for sex. When you have those things you’re more likely to be making money sure. Whereas a guy who’s not making money it might be that he has no drive, no ambition sits around on his ass and waits for everyone to do something for him. We are looking for good qualities, not money. The money just tends to come with those who have the good qualities.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

As you age, less and less men will be perusing you for sex, so you’d better lock down one of those “strong, driven leaders” of yours quick smart.

[@yusufraage8554]

sure

[@seanbeighley4078]

So being an elementary school teacher can pretty much force me to be single my entire life.

[@user-vx1up7ty7z]

You'd be surrounded by women every day, which is a huge plus. It's an in-demand profession, so there is a ton of job security, and there are other government benefits. You would probably end up with another teacher living a modest lifestyle, but that's a lot better imho than living a lavish one surrounded by a new woman every month you hardly know. Most of the male school teachers I know are married or in relationships.

[@ky7299]

Women being more picky doesn't explain the very higher rates of them initiating divorce. Didn't they *pick* the husband they are divorcing?

[@LDaydreaming]

People are on their best behavior early in a relationship or marriage and then they sometimes change.

[@ky7299]

@lisaeast1965 And doesn't that apply to women as well?

[@LDaydreaming]

@@ky7299 Yes, that’s why I said people and not men. However I’m 59 and married and I’ve seen that a lot of women my age are still active while the men are grumpy and prefer to hang out in bars.

[@user-vx1up7ty7z]

They're as picky as possible and gradually become less picky over time until they find someone willing to marry them. They try to make it work, and sometimes it doesn't work...

[@MrCPPG]

They are accumulating assets through divorce.

[@lealovestravel]

I think that more women file for divorce because there is inequity in the give and take in marriages. Now that women can support themselves, they no longer feel inclined to put up with coming last in the relationship. Women don't need men as much anymore for survival, so to stay in a relationship, that relationship needs to enhance a woman's life, not detract from it. Unfortunately, as men are failing to grow emotionally and are becoming more and more insecure with every achievement a woman has, women are now less inclined to bother because relationships have become detractors.

[@DarkWandererAU]

Men aren't failing to grow emotionally, the problem is that women don't know how to help men with their emotional problems

[@GBU61]

The irony is, it is women who push for marriage in the first place more than men in order to get a commitment. Then once she has it, gets bored or loses respect for him over time and leaves. I think more and more younger men are seeing the end result of women/marriage and are avoiding it much more.

[@evan3087]

For centuries, men have supported women for survival and security. Didn’t you think of inequity then?! Even if women can survive on their own, they still need men to be with, most of them aren’t strong enough to be on their own for lifetime. I would argue that there are plenty of men who seem to fail emotionally is due to dealing with women who are simply grown up babies, no self growth whatsoever. Hence, they don’t prefer to be a father figure to an adult who hasn’t put effort to be mature to act sensibly.

[@LisaCulton]

​@@evan3087"Grown up babies" with their own homes, businesses, and careers...

[@misstunes1765]

😂 Hilarious how you conveniently fail to acknowledge the oppression of mens "support"! Afterall, keeping women "barefoot and pregnant" is the patriarch mentality that was the theme of Sen. Brit's State of the Union address in a kitchen, right? White men have Never wanted to compete with women, or anyone else for that matter, but their influence is decreasing, the empire is in decline. Trying to put the genie back in the bottle is futile. Now that women desire emotionally mature and intelligent men, men need to "support" each other to teach them not only how to be more compassionate, productive members of society, but worthy mates.

[@bobkat1911]

Many men these days want a woman who is a successful professional. They don't want someone who work retail for example.

[@steve3687]

"It's just his own insecurity issue" for guys having issues when W make more $... Really?! No, its because the woman loses all repect for him and treats him horribly like he's not even a man and her dogs get far better treatment.

[@borisnegrarosa9113]

When women build the infrastructure by own hands then we can talk. They totally depend on men regardless what pseudo thinkers say.

[@maijensen3317]

We all depend on the society we live in. Do you expect special treatment because you are born with male genitalia?

[@lovelylight]

When women leave a man after he loses his job or business, it could be because now she is doing most of the domestic work, childcare and making the money. It’s not materialistic to want equity in a relationship.

[@valuerjtp7]

Yes.. Because your feelings are more important than your family and the issue at hand. Awww so supportive.

[@uberboiz]

It's always easier to walk away when things get tough, isn't it?

[@lorrilewis2178]

100% My ex-husband quit his job to do day-trading at home. The first thing he said to me was, "I'm not going to be a house husband." So, he did zero housework, even though he had far more time for it than me since I worked full-time. If our situation has been reversed, he would have had fit if I hadn't done the housework.

[@carmenricard3332]

Tale as old as time unfortunately.

[@lovelylight]

@@valuerjtp7 it’s strange that you think the woman who is making the money, taking care of the house and doing the childcare is only attending to her “feelings.” And she’s the unsupportive one! I mean that is some real insightful thinking there.

[@BrianMolstad]

The risks are astronomical, the chances of success low, the rewards even lower. Rent.

[@overbaugh73]

I agree for the most part. Everybody has their own experiences that help form who they are going to be as a man. I grew up only seeing my dad for 2 months a year in the summer and only talked on the phone with him during holiday's. As far as my male interaction, I was heavily involved in sports growing up. I never really felt like i was missed out not having a regular male influence. As a young adult I knew that if one day I had kids, I would want to be the kind of father I wish I had. Now as an adult, I have 2 kids. Marriage didn't work out for me, but I have full custody of both of my children, and I believe that I am the best father that I can be.

[@lucindabreeding]

I think the roots of this are just in our history and tradition. For all the criticizing men do of hypergamy, that was how marriage operated historically. Yes, women are earning more now than they ever have at building more wealth than they have. But it's still somewhat routine for women to be at much higher risk, economically speaking, when marrying and having children. Women tend to make less money and spend more time out of the workforce caring for children and other relatives. I just think this is how marriage has traditionally worked. And I would think any mom would feel more safe and calm if she felt her husband not only made enough money to either cover the cost of housing, health care, and home inventory all together, or made enough to do so combined with his wife's and come. As corporate culture has changed and atomized workers, it places even more pressure on parents to provide more care that used to be shared among family members and community members.

[@davezollner5674]

The speaker's point is absurd: he strongly summarizes the topic starting at 2:42 stating effectively 'We don't want to get in the way of women taking over ...but we have to do something about the dire decline of men.' He has just built the casket for his son. But he is in much company, as essentially all men fall for this. E.B. Bax noted this phenom in England in his 1913 book: Oh, how much more 100 years later.

[@KatieLately]

What would you want men to do instead? What would you want women to do instead? We are just trying to succeed in this capitalist system the best we can. Sorry that doesn't include serving men like it used to. Do women have to be subservient to men in order for men to fulfill their purpose?

[@shawnn7502]

I appreciate the professor who has been talking about these issues for years. However, let me get this straight, women are having babies with baby daddies who won't commit or husbands that they are later divorcing, and other men are supposed to jump in and save these boys now? Wrong. Men want their own children. It is an instinctual drive. Professor knows this. You can't just shrug off women's instincts for safety and security and then ask men to ignore their own. I have an easier solution. How about women stop getting impregnated by disinterested men and stop divorcing the father of their children? There, problem solved.

[@dh12.]

This professor panders to women because he knows damn well if he tells too much truth, It's only the women that will scream bloody murder and basically ruin his career. A man telling women to be accountable for their actions is toxic masculinity 😂

[@thesilkpainter]

Face palm.

[@AfriqueNY]

Actually. I'd argue that women should be 100 percent free to do whatever they want. It's what they fought for. Men have to adapt or become irrelevant.

[@dh12.]

@AfriqueNY all good until you need your car fixed right

[@shontoo6979]

The professor acknowledges that there are bad actors on both sides. That is not what this discussion is about.. we are not trying to fix the completely broken individual, we are trying to uplift people who simply need more direction.

[@bromack3]

Simple, we developed government policy to favor women over men. And we are now witnessing the fallout. It was assumed that men will always thrive. But today, we are seeing that is not true.

[@NidzShah-ps6kr]

Except that that isn't true. It's just that no one puts marriage above their own safety and sanity. Women shouldn't do it and men definitely don't do it.

[@Cuttyfud]

What government policy? Allowing women into the workplace and being able to have credit and access to banks?

[@oliviae369]

​@@Cuttyfudexactly. It only took 30 years / 1 generation after woman got a tiny semblance of equality for us to OUTPACE men? Sounds like men are the true DEI people 😂

[@DogpatchActual]

@@Cuttyfud family court, education policy, scholarships, grants, finance policy, etc etc

[@aurelia5614]

@@DogpatchActual More unpicking needed here…don’t buy it.

[@Paganini2222]

If wmn are so choosey then why do they often end up with the worst one of their options? 🤔

[@sharonberry410]

Men are sociopaths who hide who they are until married/pregnant.

[@JohnSmithEx]

They are choosing good genetics. Watch the video 5:01, one inch (height) equals $10,000 annual income.

[@C12341]

Narcissists and/or abusers run a long con game until you’re trapped. The female ones are the same way. They only need one scapegoat to abuse and then they can treat everyone else well. So the victim isn’t believed. Read up on it and learn the signs

[@user-vx1up7ty7z]

Because that's the only one that sticks around. All the better ones found someone on their level

[@Luver4lyfe]

Because certain people are l!ars and present multiple false faces before they reveal who they truly are at their core. Ask most women when their husband changed - they will tell you after they gave birth and after they said “ i do”.

[@Sarahmint]

A lot of times men don't make as much as the wife, taking it against the wife is what will lead to the divorce. I know a woman who had a divorce because the man wanted her to be stay at home and she refused and it was the man unable to cope with it leading to her leaving the man.

[@TheUnkindness]

"a lot of times" not really. Most of the time women don't even consider men who make less than them in the first place. And when they do they end up resenting him and no man wants to feel resentment from his wife, especially not for something as superficial as money. Women are the ones who initiate divorce most of the time. Men don't care how much women make, most men would be happy if their wife made more but we know better.

[@Sarahmint]

@@slylockfox85 there is a difference when it's two people and one says to the other "live the way I want you to" and the reply is "why not live the way we always have?" and the rebuttal is "no, I prefer the traditional way the woman is in the home and I'm out of the home unlike we have ever been in our lives" Do you see what I'm saying? You can blame whomever you like but putting pressure on a person to be something they never have been before also kills a beautiful thing. People forget people are human beings and not celestial beings of purity or deathless heroes of myth

[@smokingcrab2290]

Lol so where the hells the "muh wage gap" now?

[@larrylorimer3065]

What happened to the wife's money is hers and the husbands money is hers too.

[@Sarahmint]

@@TheUnkindness "most men would be happy if their wife made more" thats the difference. Some people are jealous and petty or worse get mad when marriage isn't the fairy tale they believed it would be in a disney movie or magazine picture of a perfectly dressed wife in a perfectly clean home with obedient kids while the man doesn't have to do anything. imo people just got lazy over time with increased technology and stopped working to keep home and emotional stability towards each other. It's all about being "alpha male" and "boss bitch" which is not even real.

[@chilekwak.chilekwaii4960]

0:38 Most marriages and relationships have been anchored and sustained by MONEY but LOVE seem to take the fake credit for it.

[@Badficwriter]

Love is just chemicals, tricking you into spreading your DNA. The influence lessens over time.

[@bensanderson7144]

Interesting. If you’re a 5’9” man, you need to earn 130k per year in order to attract the same woman a 6’2” man earning 80k per year can pull.

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

Yep. Too bad so sad. That's what the numbers say. We don't want stumpy children.

[@renjit9044]

That's basically wrong. It would probably be more like a million....

[@jalisazari9387]

Yet most men are not 6'2 or making 130k, but still get married. Data show most ppl marry in their same socioeconomic bracket. And average height of men in usa is about 5'9-5'10.

[@thesilkpainter]

Relax, dear. Remember the provisor he shoved in just before that mental acrobatic stunt? “ HUGE reductive generalisation “ so chill.

[@bensanderson7144]

@@thesilkpainter it’s ok, I’m 6’4”, I just thought it was fascinating, the calculus behind mate selection.

[@glendavis1266]

My opinion…..men lack drive and ambition that could change the dynamics. Then there are men making average wages but they have their need for toys, like big trucks with BIG tires and other costly items above the financial welfare of wife and children! They might not have life insurance in case of death. I mean the mental block is not wanting widow wife to have a lot of money if they prematurely die.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Literally the opposite. It's women who spend all the money

[@you6382tube]

Big trucks with BIG tires! Yup! That's often true.

[@jalisazari9387]

​@@smokingcrab2290data actually show the opposite. Men take more risks financially and gamble more, buy bigger more expensive things. Women buy cheaper and when they say women buy more it's household items like family groceries and clothes for the kids. Simple Google will bring up the data for you.

[@jet4415]

I live in a deep, red southern state. The women work and their men gladly take their wages for their hobbies, expensive trucks, etc. Why would they want to get rid of the cash cow?

[@Badficwriter]

My ex used to complain about us not having enough money, then I found he'd buy commemorative assault rifles. And rebuild his old 1982 Pontiac, over and over again. (There are so many weak points in an old car, it would fail again, sooner or later.) This isn't really a man thing, its human. Responsibility is hard, restraint, self-sacrifice. If they were easy, society would have no problems. What annoyed me is that he wanted me to have more children, when he'd turn around and say we were so poor.

[@Emptytopfloor]

7:57 okay, so if what he’s saying here is true, who put men in power?

[@DloziMthethwa]

👏great question

[@onesecplz]

Wow insightful thanks to his measured speech and the interviewer’s ability to listen regarding a topic(s) that is not so obvious. Thanks!