Grief after suicide: Chris' story

Chris tells the story of her grief, after the death of her son Luke by suicide in 2005. 11 years on, Chris reflects on the experience, including how she coped.
www.supportaftersuicide.org.au

[@user-mh9oh7tk3k]

Chris,thankyou for your story of your son Luke and sharing his loss with us.I lost my son Sean,50yrs old the day after Thanksgiving last year.He had struggled with anxiety and depression for many years.He had tried many things to help.He was finally put on disability.After your child turns 18 they have to consent to treatment for mental health.I had taken him to the hospital several times but he could always leave pr not take the medications.He was a smart,loving funny man,He was very tenderhearted.My health turned bad last year and I wasnt able to be with him or talk to him as much with 2 hospitalizations.He had 3 children in college and so he had empty nest syndrome.I had texted him and talked to him before Thanksgiving.His daughter said he asked that his kids come over another time but now on the holiday.That alerted me something was very wrong.He always wanted to be with his kids.When I got home from being in the hospitalizations I found a package.It had a silver cross necklace in it.We were notified the next day that he had shot himself,I was so stunned and still am.I think Im finally able to feel some of the loss now.He has 2 sisters.We have pulled together to be closer.Seeing these videos and comments have helped me to know Im not alone.Thankyou so much for sharing I appreicate you and care.Dori

[@LynnRedwine800]

Sometimes, love just isn't enough.

[@sineadgrier2182]

Same lost my son Michael 8 weeks ago ,age 32 heard a voice 'God pulled Michael out ' and his presence in the car next to me in front of the crematorium .I did not go to the funeral but I saw his coffin leave the funeral home. He will never leave me, we were very close.But I was very,very ill when my 3 children were grewing up after my own depression , In my thoughts and prayers ,thank you Sinead Cornwall U,K

[@debrakaminski5201]

Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss. I have also lost my beautiful funny talented son to suicide just 3 months ago. The pain is unbearable at times. Your video was helpful to watch. I hope you and your family are doing OK. I know we have a long way to go.

[@petalpinkton8682]

Nothing can take away this pain, the empty feeling and the nervous tension. The pounding in your heart and the guilt. No future children, no grandchildren nothing can alter the fact that you will never feel those arms around you, hear that voice again, laugh with that person again or indeed share anything at all. The loss is massive, the grief is even more massive and you find youself longing to join your lost one.

[@followtruthwhereveritleads]

People leave for why they leave. People have a right to their own thresholds of pain. If somebody is ready to go, let them go. People need to learn that life is evil and antinatalism ought to be practiced. Yet I bet you are still pro-life, despite having your life tainted by the loss of your loved one.

[@jlnriddick]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I appreciate you sharing your story. My sister experienced this loss in 2011, and I will share this with her so that she's aware she isn't alone. Your story is incredibly familiar!

[@Beswift1989]

18 years later pray she is well and healing.

[@user-iu2sc4db5e]

Wow I'm a mom also my heart is broken for your family i have a daughter with cerebral palsy she is now 40 she always thought she was a burden to society because of what people would say to her she tried to commit suicide twice in her teens Thank The Good Lord shes still with us but I'm always holding my breath

[@DonHendrickson-xd7jw]

My dear lady, my heart goes out to you for the loss of your son and for your valiant struggle to cope with the tragedy. May God bless and strengthen you now and always.

[@williamparker1085]

go away with the your god delusions

[@lindelwanothandongcobo8863]

I’m so sorry RIP Luke 🪦🌸🕊️

[@vmwid]

Today is day 30. My son age 16 did this. I have been in hell ever since.

[@Sam7seas]

I too have been down this treacherous road. May you know peace in your heart thanks for sharing your experience it will help many. ❤️ sending love

[@slopez1901]

I’m going down it now my brother killed himself 2 weeks ago😭

[@Sam7seas]

@@slopez1901 sending you so much love and please connect to a support group if you can it really helped my family to know we were not alone in this.

[@bigworld4089]

Thank you so much for your sharing🌷 Bless you and your family 🙏🦋🙏🦋

[@roviannematovu3756]

Beautifully described. Bless u.

[@lindawilliams8596]

Thank you for sharing

[@lilit8934]

I am so sorry for your deep loss 😢

[@kymmazelle8424]

My God 🙏🏾💔😢 we're not even near 1 year yet. I have no idea how the future will be. I'm trying 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💔💔😢😢😭

[@lydiamoore142]

Turn to Jesus.

[@slopez1901]

My brother killed himself 2 weeks ago!😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔Lean on the Lord!!! That’s all we got

[@JB-ChildOfYah]

@@slopez1901My daughter attempted 3 days ago by overdosing. She was home alone and she says she doesn’t understand why she called for help but she was in her mind fighting herself. I KNOW that was God pressing her to save herself. She’s still in a bad place mentally but she’s 15 and belongs to God. The enemy is attacking our youth right now because we are in the end times. Pray for these children in the world! They need our prayers 🙏🏼

[@harrietlumb6449]

I lost two of my best friends to suicide xx

[@roseault6335]

Thank you for posting this. Do you think the anti-depressants which Luke started 6 mnths prior had something to do with the suicidal thoughts? I've heard that can happen. Also, did you go through any anger? Or blame?

[@JB-ChildOfYah]

Oh my gosh, don’t say that. My daughter attempted 3 days ago and they are putting her on Lexapro and Abilify. My nerves are shot and will certainly be researching these drugs as I can’t allow her to feel worse when we’re trying to get her better. This is SO hard!! 😔

[@slopez1901]

My brother killed himself 2 weeks ago😭😭😭💔💔💔

[@danielgiordani7625]

Very sorry for your loss.

[@MarionRoutledge]

❤

[@jesusreturning3003]

For those struggling, hang in there, Jesus loves you. Seek him daily and he will carry you through your trials and heal you along the way. He is very near to the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds and comforts them, He is coming soon (Revelation & John 3.16), continue to seek him, one day our tribulation will be over, our tears wiped away and we will not have anymore sorrow. God bless u all, praying for ur healing, your life is valuable to God, he is the one that created you and the only one that can fill that void we may all try to fill with other things 🙏

[@colinwee9981]

M so sorry for all ur losses..to all...dont believe that jesus is real...coz im ending it all to

[@williamparker1085]

you knpw what they say about comedians

[@mattheww797]

What do they say?