Grief Matters: The Problem With Grief

In this, part of Dr. Bill Webster's 18 part series, Grief Matters, Dr. Bill Webster discusses the topic of 'The Problem with Grief' with his guests.

[@douglaswerts4936]

Now this is a man who really knows what he is talking about. Unlike so many “experts” he is worth listening to. He has been there, on the front line.

[@janiboma]

Dr. Webster hit home. Most people cannot understand what it’s like to lose your husband unless it happens to you. While Dr. Webster was going through how he felt, it was everything that I felt. I cried and cried. My husband died 2 months ago. Although I’m brave for my adult children, there is a huge hole in my heart.

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

I'm so sorry for you. Only God can help us. Nothing can change thst.

[@attiatkeddis1375]

Yes very true there’s a big hole in my heart very painful and keep bleeding until I meet him again in the heavenly home no words can describe it and no words can relieve, Only Our Merciful Savior Has the solutions

[@vivhartley6003]

The words you say are so true lonleness with out them is terabble and you do feel so a lone

[@CristinaPerez-ib2uu]

My mother died of covid19 two months ago. You won't even believe how much you're helping me Bill. Thank you over and over.

[@jojogurl83021]

My mother also died from covid in August, 2 months ago😢. It's awful!!! I know just how you feel!! 🙏🙏🙏

[@CristinaPerez-ib2uu]

@@jojogurl83021 I am very sorry. Please stay safe and strong; do it for her.

[@jojogurl83021]

@@CristinaPerez-ib2uu Thank you, you stay safe also🙏

[@wandasewell4501]

This is so true, I wanted him back so much. miss my husband so much. I didn't remember because it was so tramatic. My husband died from demitia, and I thought he was just getting old. He was in the last stage, demitia, and I didn't know-- he would old things but forget new things! I miss him dearly!❤ I thought my husband would come home, and he didn't. I miss him so much!❤

[@laram5104]

My beloved husband died same way ..collapsing on kitchen floor because of heart attack and first reaction was the same. Until I saw him in coffin I thought it s still a mistake and it s somebody else but not him.. and yes everybody think you can deal with that grief and pull yourself together just naturally but it is not like that.. it s much harder..

[@fatimatahi6565]

My prayers go for you, Same happened with me. Grief is very hard. Being numb is not at all being strong.

[@richardmcguinn732]

Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again Lara?

[@tarawehry7105]

My husband colasped on our bedroom floor and I called 911, he was probably already gone by the time he got there

[@kirkformoso9776]

I lost my wife and daughter due to covid this October 4, 2020, she is 6 months pregnant for our first baby we've been together for 8 years, we just got married last June everything seems to be going well this year until this happened! The pain is killing me every day, I've lost my purpose in life she is the one who always motivates me to do best with everything, I've worked hard to make sure that I can provide everything that they need but all of this is nothing without them! God knows I love them more than everything! I'm not sure if I can survive this, no one understands the pain that I've been going through every day! Life is hard! Our house that is full of happy memories is now being covered with darkness and sadness can't live this life anymore, everyday reality is hitting me hard knowing that she is not coming back anymore.

[@gigiogu]

I hear your painful words! I feel your pain! My 19 year old daughter passed June 4, 2020. My life has changed forever! Today marks 5 months! All I can offer you is my condolences! Some people turn away from God and some draw closer to him. My faith in a future resurrection here on earth is what keeps me going! John 5:28, 29 " Do not be amazed all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice, those who did good things to a resurrection of life and those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment." These words do not cure or take the pain away! But it does helps me endure it and learn to live without her for now! Gives me some comfort! I see it as a temporary separation! Another beautiful scripture reads: "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes and death will be no more, neither will mourning or outcry nor pain to be no more. The former things have passed away." I have a HOPE! And that will helo me survive this tragedy! God gives me strength! Day by day! I hope you find your strength! I will pray for you!

[@mychoice1489]

I pray for you to be strong. Take one day at a time I lost my brother two months ago, it's heartbreaking. I lost my parents when I was 21 and my sister at 33. It's been so hard grieving. You must carry on that's what your wife would of wanted you to have strength. Love and healing to you.

[@lydiamoore142]

I totally understand how you feel. It’s like life isn’t worth living anymore. It is pure hell. I will pray for all who grieve, that there will be peace in our hearts.

[@ignatiusjacob5491]

Thanku Dr Webster. Keep up your healing work .My best wishes to you and your lovely sons. May Caroline be at rest in heaven.

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

Yes. I just lost my precious husband just suddenly died on 2/16/23 from a massive heart attack. We would have been together for 17 years come this June 2, 2023. I'm totally devastated over his death. It's the most heartbreaking agony anyone will deal with. I miss you my darling with all my heart. I know I'll see you again in the new system soon to come, but it's so hard to not see your face and talk with you. I miss you with all my heart.😭

[@brookesoldiersunite3325]

Every word you spoke I related to 100%! I lost my daughter 2 months ago.

[@brookesoldiersunite3325]

I can’t believe how spot on this is. I felt the same exact wat he did.

[@susieq8008]

I'm so sorry for the pain n anguish you are going through...this is so very true what he describes. There is no tragedy in life greater than losing a child....

[@tarawehry7105]

I wish I had your video when my husband passed

[@suzanne5651]

Thank you so much for sharing. My beloved father passed a away a few weeks ago to COVID, and I can relate to some of these feelings.

[@MohamedSinclair]

So right, so many 'boxes' ticked! My son, a fit man of 40, died suddenly of a heart attack in Feb 2020 in Jakarta, leaving behind his widow and his son, not yet 10 years old. What Dr. Webster described is almost exactly, word for word, emotion for emotion, what I felt and have been going through since. His birthday is in 10 day's time, and his son's 10th birthday, four days after that...this is a hard month to get through.

[@dianesmith5898]

Pls pray for my sister who is overwhelmed with grief. Her husband suddenly died two months ago. They were together 46 years

[@carolmoore473]

I hope your sister is copeing i will pray for her xx

[@angeloscalzo7609]

Grief I am 65 and all's we can do is cry 😢

[@jimmiepatrum]

You words describe how I'm feeling right now. My husband died in a tragic accident three weeks ago and the grief has completely broken me.

[@epluribusunum1460]

The only real thing that I can say is “I know”. All of us struggling with the worst loss, all over the world, we know. You don’t know any of us, but I know we all want to comfort each other and comfort you and wish you every small moment of peace to help you.

[@jimmiepatrum]

@@epluribusunum1460 Thank you so very much for your comments. It's been exactly 27 months today since my husband died. I still miss him terribly, but with God's help, I have managed to keep going, knowing that Jimmie is happier than he ever was on earth now and that gives me peace about his death. How beautiful that you took the time to comfort me. God does give those like you and me a new yearning to try to help those who have suffered losses similar to our own. Diane in NC

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@jimmiepatrum I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on KZbin. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹

[@moniclare4214]

Me too!

[@zigzag5805]

I lost my mum in Feb this yr and then at the end of June this yr I found my wife dead in bed she had heart failure during the night. I do relate to what your saying. but in my head life and death share the same street. and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it . no one can do anything no one can say anything which makes the situation any better. on the hole 2019 as been a totally crappy yr but on a bright side 2020 could be brighter carrying very found memories of my late mother and my lovely wife. DEATH IS A HEART BREKER LIFE IS A CHALLANGE COMING TO TERMS WITH GRIEF A MOUNTAIN TO CLIMB

[@madmoe4]

I lost my wife of 37 years to ovarian cancer. Even though her death was expected it didn’t make it any easier. She was home on hospice when she passed. I’m glad I was there but wish I wasn’t, some things you can’t unsee.

[@susanfitzpatrick7457]

Thank you for making this video, Bill. It’s helped me

[@TT-ny6kz]

Thanks I have really listened to you you explain grief so well I'm so so lonely for my mum and husband I wish others would at least try to understand

[@jwlundgren]

Exactly. My husband died 1 October. My heart has died, my body just does not know it yet. There is no point in living without him.

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on KZbin. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹

[@jwlundgren]

@@richardmcguinn732 I was doing better until 1 August. then as the one year mark approaches, things are tough again. I have alot of stress right now taking care of things that he used to do.

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@jwlundgren My deep of condolences 💐 to you once, I’ve personally experienced how unfair life can be to us at times. We only learn how to carry the burdens as time goes on

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@jwlundgren The stress can be unbearable at times, watching my late wife suffer right in front of my eyes has been the hardest pain I’ve ever felt in my whole life!

[@jojogurl83021]

Only time if even that could help☹️. It's so awful 😞😭.

[@WildKatatHeart65]

Thank you.

[@angeloscalzo7609]

I lost my godaughter Sara James crossley at 17 one year ago I raised her not my blood I have persistent complex bereavement disorder at 65 all's I do is cry till my nose bleeds they said iam beyond help life sucks 😞

[@TT-ny6kz]

I fully understand everything you have said my beautiful mum died a year ago my dearest darling husband died 2 months ago

[@richardmcguinn732]

I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on KZbin. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹

[@bernadettecostello385]

I hurt all the time, Because I loved him so much.one day I hope we will be together again🎉❤

[@raew5263]

It’s so disorienting all the time. I’m so very sad after losing Mom 5 months ago. All I do is cry 😢 I feel worse now than a month ago. It’s the worst event that has ever happened to me.

[@willpower9117]

I have total empathy for your situation. I too lost my mother recently and what has come to pass has been the toughest time of my life. There is a battle going on, with my head saying it was for the best and my heart yearning and searching for it’s lifelong friend. I live in hope that the peace my mum would dearly want me to have, comes one day. I wish you the same.

[@raew5263]

@@willpower9117 Thank you 🙏🏻 for the kind words of support. All caring has moved on. I am alone with my sorrow. Grief is a thief that keeps showing up, at odd times + intensity. Prayers to all of us going forward. It’s a complicated grief. I’m absolutely heartsick 🥲💔

[@willpower9117]

@@raew5263 Grief is personal and affects people very differently. If you were a carer, you must know that you will always be one. That part of you will never die. Sadly and paradoxically, the more love and care you put in, the more you suffer when the person you were caring for moves on😥. Please take good care of yourself now.

[@raew5263]

@@willpower9117 Thank you 🙏🏻 so much fir your kind words. So true; the closer we were, the harder we fall. My siblings moved on rather quickly while my sorrow lingers. The world/life is so dull w/o her. I miss her terribly. 🥲

[@ليناوصاف]

My boyfriend died In a Thursday night august The 5th ,islem was accidentally suffocated in his car because of air conditioning while he was in the garage,we planned to go out few days before his death but it never happened I saw him last 3rd of July I never knew it was the last time I would ever see his beautiful face I miss him terribly his death was a shock the worse thing that happened to me he was 24 he was beautiful inside out fun full of life sweet gentle smart 😭he was the perfect boyfriend although our relationship was short we didn't have the time or chance to live more together I only have beautiful now painful memories of how he made me feel how we made each other feel💔 Islem bendada you made me feel like I was flying I miss you I miss going out with you hugging you kissing you I miss talking to you I miss your details im in pain and darkness I don't know if there is any hope left for me your death took all my hopes and dreams and joy

[@TT-ny6kz]

Same with me

[@treatmenice1564]

yes i want them BACK!

[@roelienbooysen894]

True

[@annekevandeven4895]

🙏

[@roelienbooysen894]

Numb.

[@victorjohnson6699]

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