The #1 Lie Grief Tells Us

[@rw4754]

I was so overwhelmed with grief this spring, the anxiety attacks at 3am felt like there was a pigeon in my chest beating its wings to get out. I am still in grief but it accompanies my life beside me as I get on with enjoying with others & finding appreciation & joy and something funny daily where I can find it. I have made 'friends" with my grief rather than denying it, or getting 'over' it, or being buried in it.

[@dorisdaylight8415]

Making friends with grief is an interesting concept. Thanks for commenting, that inspires me a little and it could be a helpful way of carrying it. I hope you continue to find joy in your life and hope I find some in mine one day.

[@jbc382]

My husband died nearly 14 months ago. I know I have value. I know I contribute positively to the world. I know I have friends who love me. I don't have problems laughing or enjoying things--I don't feel guilty about that at all. But without the great love of my life, everything seems pointless. Simply put, it's hard to look forward and plan for a future I don't want.

[@mygreenenvy]

I'm trying to practice some of these things but it's easier said than done especially gratitude. So hard to be grateful after watching my wife suffer from an incurable disease for almost 3 years and then pass away at only 66yrs old.. I know there are so many people that die so much younger than that but it still doesn't make it any easier.

[@meskalokys]

You’re a beautiful soul Jo. Reminders, reminders, reminders. So easy to slip into negative bias thinking.

[@marystele1197]

Thank You Jo for your kindness Much appreciated. Best Wishes Karen 😻👍🇬🇧 X

[@goinggreen4720]

I am a nurse and after my Mom passed I am so thankful to have a job where I am around others. My Patients's have actually been there for me emotionally and have so many words of wisdom. I was not expecting that.I was always the caregiver who now finds myself being taken care of in a strange way by my many Patient's, thank God.

[@MargaretMichelle1912]

Thanks Jo. Much love to everyone here❤

[@merrildegroot7862]

Thank you so much Jo. I lost my darling husband 2 weeks ago, and besides my faith, your talks have been very helpful. It is unfathomable that after 33 years, I have to navigate my way out of this open wound in my soul, and first contemplate then build a future without him. I know I must, and I will, but wow is it tough right now. Yes, I had a meltdown in the grocery store this morning. Suddenly I am afraid of everything. I trust this is normal and that I will gain a semblance of my confidence as time moves on. I read my Bible, walk on the beach, and cope one breath at a time, and copious cups of tea (very British). John will forever be in my heart, every cell and fibre of my being, simply because I love him. Keep up the fantastic work, and thank you again. God Bless.

[@annebeyrer728]

THANK YOU! I do know I have purpose, I do know I have more to learn, love to give and that’s only because I’m following my gut instincts to watch birds, the sky, the water, comedy TV, inspiring stories…..and reading the comments here after each talk…when guided by you, Jo, this is profoundly helpful.

[@pippenlapue9643]

Thank you Jo, you always seem to know which video to post. I love it when you confirm things That Ive been doing. I was feeling guilty laughing at funny videos. You just confirmed it okay. Thank you.❤❤❤

[@Orangestanley64]

I try so hard every day to find beauty in life and thinking of the future with positive thoughts but I’m a few weeks away from my husbands first “deathiversary” and we will be going to his favorite place to sprinkle his ashes that day. I last time we were there as a whole family was a long time ago and bringing him to where he wanted to be after death is like the final piece of this puzzle of torture. I dip into these dark holes and I pull myself out in a few days. This will pass also but this current hole sucks.

[@crystals6352]

Sending hugs your way

[@craigthomas3941]

This is so helpful ❤❤❤ I’m going to be replaying this segment regularly

[@erikafranco609]

Im waking up at 2 am My brother just passed I havent talked to him in 11 years

[@teresareed7358]

I doing what you are talking about.

[@a.5003]

Thank uou for your videos. 🙏🏻 Sometimes my grief makes it hard to breathe and I feel like I'm hovering over an abyss of some kind. But other times I feel my departed loved ones are very close. I can't really explain it, but it eases my sorrow. May everyone find some reprieve from the pain of your sorrow. 🙏🏻

[@YvetteSmith666]

Lens of gratitude...

[@YvetteSmith666]

Thank you for posting this video. I think grief is forever? It's not ever healed bc we love forever. So the best I can do as I cannot speak for others is healing is coping that grief is now part of your life. A new bill you can never be released from. Some months it's hard to pay that bill. Other months it's smooth. But it's always there. The 1st of the month bill(s) are forever. Did I explain that correctly? 🤔

[@YvetteSmith666]

I cope with my grief is distraction. Exercise. Animals. Helping others. That way by the time I'm done helping everyone, everything...sweating out toxins...I only breakdown once a month. Sometimes I go weeks without crying. What is difficult is when my parents visit me in dreams as I wake up for a few seconds my dreams so vivid I can still feel the hug! Literally feel it! So for maybe 3 seconds, 5 seconds I'm so happy my mom hugged me. Good morning mom. I get confused for those few seconds that she's alive and her death was all a nightmare and I want to tell her my horrible dream. Then as I sit up to say mom I just....😢I realize I'm living the nightmare. Those days are very hard on my heart. My soul. I'm doing my best without my parents. Some days its unbearable.

[@Saoirse-xt7mi]

💖The passage of time does ease the pain, but you do have to dive into life for those moments that will take you away from this type if crushing grief. How fo I know so much about it? I lost both my parents almost exactly 6 mo. apart. My Dad was first, then without much warning, my mother 6 mo later. It's been a little over 7 yrs since they died. I was their only child, and they were my best friends. I had to carry on. Life moved me forward sometimes when I didn't have the strength to move myself. I'm much better now, but it has been a long, hard road to this point. I'm still sorting through some of their belongings because I now live in the house I grew up in with them! That's a whole other story in itself. Hold on, distract yourself when you can, and let the grief flow out when it needs to. We'll get to that better place soon.💖

[@Otessa-j4u]

I am carrying a load of burden in my grief, as my in laws never wanted to celebrate my late Husband Robert wedding, but sure in their way celebrate his death.

[@dorisdaylight8415]

In laws can have lots to answer for. I am sure this upsets you, but hope you can find happiness without them. 💖

[@teresareed7358]

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[@carmellarkin4803]

No matter what I do my little girl is still gone and that black hole can't be filled by a positive affirmation.

[@jennebeattie3168]

I lost my 14 year son. I'm so sorry for your loss. The despair 🥺💔😞💔

[@XNateXXDawgX]

My partner and I were going through a rough patch and he took his own life. Now I'm stuck in this permanent rough patch that he left me in with no possibility of resolution.

[@teresareed7358]

@@XNateXXDawgX lm so sorry. There's a great book that helped me. GRIEVING A SUICIDE BY ALBERT Y. HSU. I LEARNED ABOUT HIM AT MY GRIEF SHARE GROUP. GRACE AND PEACE TO YOU.

[@lightbulb888]

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[@teresareed7358]

@@XNateXXDawgX The book Grieving A SUICIDE by ALBERT Y. HSU helped me.

[@alisonblakeley5367]

I am so sorry this happened, it must be very difficult for you to carry the burden of guilt. I do hope that you will find some peace and a way to forgive yourself. ❤

[@meskalokys]

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[@MADELENEC1]

I feel like a failure and just want to curl into a hole and never come out.

[@YvetteSmith666]

I didn't know we naturally are negative biased. How horrible. A "aha" moment for me. Thank you. I'm going to rewire my brain.

[@YvetteSmith666]

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