Morning routine

[@grieftherapist]

Let me know if waking into your Grief every morning has been exhausting for you! Learn and try this simple routine to establish a new experience in your mornings!!

[@tracyroman9254]

Mornings are brutal.

[@AnnetteMilton-l4f]

Thank you for such a practical exercise to try and cope with the never ending waking up to my grief of fear and panic I will certainly try this and tell a friend who also experiences this too

[@RrhondaBrooks]

I’m 11 months into my grief. Nights and Mornings are the worst for me. Trying so hard to hang in there.

[@christinagutierrez7694]

Yes this has been my biggest challenge, i would just as soon not wake up.

[@lisawesner1548]

Thank you! I thought something was wrong w me, every morning opening my eyes and saying this isn’t a nightmare my soul mate is going forever. No more talking to him, seeing his sweet smile, getting a great big hug from him. He was the best hugger. Tha you again for talking about this, I really needed to hear this today. 😢

[@amberbrock6440]

Yes, mornings are the hardest.

[@sharonlujan9497]

im always waking up to sadness an depression an fear.

[@nickspitzer1896]

Ive listened to this half a dozen times. I am almost at the sixth month mark . Exsperiencing the side effects of fear . I tried i am safe better days ahead its a place to start...i hate the mornings now i hate life im angry i hate this reality. Life days You have no control then life asks you to please control its absurd. Waking up knowing that she is gone i don't even like thinking about it

[@Grungefan2018]

I need to feel a connection with hope as I isolated to the point where I need to build a social support network from scratch at nearly 60 yrs old in a rural area working odd evening shifts . Never married no kids. I pray every day but it feels so empty and the state of the world is getting very complicated and frustrating. I just do not want to be afraid anymore. Thank you for listening

[@annekebrinkhof991]

Dear Simon How are you doing now? I know what you mean , two years after the loss of my husband I feel worse then ever Have you tried online support groups? I hope you find comfort in these video’s , know you are not alone ❤

[@karencrecco2922]

The vagus nerve is KEY! A year after my husband died, I had a panic attack. My heart was racing so fast that I could actually see my chest moving back and forth. The doc in the ER told me it was my vagus nerve. He taught me how to regulate it by bearing down like I was giving birth. It WORKED! It never happened again.

[@lozb1631]

Morning is definitely worst time for me

[@AngelaFortunato-u9v]

I definitely am going to try this. I can feel my body tighting.

[@toniwaugh1823]

Hello Jo, Thank you so much for creating this video. I agree. Mornings are the worst. The reality that my beloved husband is no longer here hits me to the core when morning arrives and I wake up. I force myself to get up, make my bed and have a shower. I am going to try your morning rest practice. I have a name for your practice: My morning grief buster. Also, My silver lining to Morning grief. Just a couple of ideas.

[@marceapardus6526]

Thank you for this comment. My beloved husband died almost a year ago & the reality of loss is still heartbreaking for me too. I love the name of you gave this practice, My Morning Grief Buster!

[@maureenhalliday]

I feel this each morning . Anxious and fearful 😢

[@biondna7984]

I am safe. Better days ahead. Thank you. Definitely doing this tomorrow morning. I do yoga, walk, take salsa classes, and work on my land. Still, for a few weeks - months now? - I've stopped making my bed. I don't like how it looks or feels anymore. For the years I took care of my spouse with Alzheimer's, and the first year after he died, I made my bed every morning. It felt like a gesture of some control over my life. I tell myself, my priorities have changed, and I still get work done most days. But it's harder. I've been told (maybe by you, too?) that the second year is harder than the first, when the numbness wears off and you really feel your loss. I'm having a hard time registering my grief; he died slowly over 7 years. I felt shock, grief and blessed relief when he died. I would very much appreciate some advice specific to how grief progresses in someone who's lost a loved one to any of the dementias, which are aptly described in that book title, "The Long Goodbye."

[@jennifershort3104]

Still exhausted from my grief a year in. Have woke up with anxiety a couple of days recently. The house is about to go on the market this week so that will be more loss.

[@doreen3763]

Morning is the worst, morning yoga really helps.

[@cp-ek5rs]

I will definitely try this !!!❤Am stuck in complicated grief.Influencing my whole life .

[@wendycopeland5147]

Totally with you on this. I'm experiencing complicated grief too, it is completely ruining my life, has affected every aspect. Sending you love ❤

[@cp-ek5rs]

Thank you .❤hope we both heal .

[@robertmerrill4018]

I wake up knowing she is gone,eight weeks, and I cry ever mornings

[@wadeharris6002]

I will definitely be trying this. I wake up

[@steveparker2938]

For me, the hardest thing to do was to climb into bed at night knowing I'd do so alone from that day forth followed by realizing I'd also wake alone. Still have the same bed but will not sleep on his side even after 2 1/2 years.

[@louetputter180]

After 2yrs of staying buzy and crying and pretending I am fine,,,I now except my grief,missing him,and our life,,and trying 2 be me

[@susanritter8344]

I will do this routine. Hoping I can cry

[@amberbrock6440]

I just took an intentional deep breath during this video and immediately broke down crying.. i feel like ive been holding my breath since February in survival mode, one loss after another this year, running on empty with no support or time to grieve, afraid to breath because if i do ill falk apart and i cant fall apart because i have to be strong and fix everything because no ones going to help me and no one cares.. what just happened makes me think i must be holding my hreath constantly so i dont fall apart crying..

[@marija2387]

I find this very interesting. Will do.

[@l.u.5862]

It's been a challenge in the morning. I will wake up and do this. Will brb to let you know.

[@catherineperreault8939]

I am one full year into my grief and feel I am managing my life pretty well. I will try this morning exercise in centering myself. As I awake I see my husband's picture on the bedside table. I've been promising him every day to work on my resilience and coping mechanisms and keeping that promise. This seems similar to my EMDR therapy with my grief counselor, so I feel it is well worth trying.

[@tracyfaw]

My daughter was the one who always woke me up so now I still hear here voice and feel her touch when I wake up. Then I realize she is gone.

[@candicebowden4123]

❤

[@Jo-im6iz]

Thank you Jo. This was perfectly timed as I was noticing the fear, sometimes terror that arrives out of the blue. A year on in my grief from my daughter passing, waking isn't as disorienting as it was. It is still an effort and empty. I will certainly try your suggestion. Love to all 🤗

[@carolmusselman8859]

How are you feeling now? I'm grieving too

[@Jo-im6iz]

Hi Carol, I am sorry to hear that you are grieving but glad that you reached out. Things are still up and down but less so and I am having longer periods of stability and happiness. I realise that my first year of grieving were filled with shock and trauma from my daughters passing. It was her birthday yesterday and my thoughts were more celebratory than last year. I miss her and still think, oh I must call and tell her something that comes to mind. When I realise she has passed I tell her mind to mind. I hope this helps you, though I know we all experience grief differently. Sending love x

[@carolmusselman8859]

@@Jo-im6iz thank you, how old was your Daughter?

[@Jo-im6iz]

@@carolmusselman8859 Hi Carol, my daughter was thirty seven when she passed 🙏

[@carolmusselman8859]

@@Jo-im6iz did she have any children?

[@julieoscarsrealtor]

Good morning Jo. Thank you for this morning routine. I will try it and I do believe it will work. I’ll let you know.

[@rogersutherland7232]

Thank you 🙏. started today (24/01/23) even made the bed 👍. Suggestion for name of the reset….say goodbye to the sneaky bastard 😳….KT/K❤/KW …..Roger

[@LittleSuzi86]

Kind thoughts🙏🏼,kind words,🙏🏼kind heart🙏🏼Ty🤍

[@janetomalley7450]

I am going to try this. Thank you for sharing

[@pippenlapue9643]

Yes, ground hog day. I immediately started what you suggested. As something so simple todo. Made my bed immediately while feeling the anxiety. I would than lie back in bed. Im on automatic now.

[@annabennallack672]

I have not been able to take a full breath since my son was murdered in June 2021

[@aditichawla476]

Will definitely try it out

[@susanb2171]

Yes, full blown heart racing shallow breathing,sweating and a general feeling of getting a hold of myself and keeping it together. Put on the mask and face the day

[@ellygan]

I woke up this morning, and at first the sun rays looked so beautiful and I thought "what a beautiful day".. and then, out of nowhere, all of the thoughts crept up - questions, regrets, guilt (though probably irrational) and I felt like there was a black hole in my chest, pulling all of my breath/air within and not allowing me to breathe. I had to sit up, just to move my body, because I felt like I was suffocating. It's awful.

[@valeriesmith9626]

Thank you Joe I have been grieving for only 6wks for my husband I will definitely give this a try I wake up each morning feeling nervous sick and panicky during the day I get this feeling in my chest like a very heavy ache it goes of but Comes back So I will try this and see how it goes thank you, 😊 and see how it goes

[@christinagutierrez7694]

I'm going to try it

[@shirleymayorga5154]

I just lost my adult daughter on August 1st. I'm grieving so bad. My heart is torn apart. When I wake up I feel very short of breath. I'm just broken.

[@carmellarkin4803]

I lost my daughter too. I know that horrible broken feeling. Morning is always the toughest time of day for me. Picking up the burden of her loss and knowing I have to keep carrying it for the rest of my life.

[@joanneconte1942]

I’ll try

[@wendystevenson6726]

Every morning I awake with fear and anxiety even two years on. I go about my day as usual but I always have those underlying feelings😩 I have tried so many things to calm myself down. I will try this 😊 thank you

[@bluestarfc7370]

Thank you for this morning and night routine i will use it

[@annaolejasz7597]

Dear, Dear, Dear Jo, THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH❣️❣️I tried it this morning, and it really works❣️❣️❣️I had more energy and it took away the chocking that I have had for a year and a half. You are a great person to have shared this. ❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗 Anna

[@rhondamaryjenner7868]

Yes difficult in morning wake with nausea and fear it only 5 months since my husband has past the reset is helping me thanks Rhonda

[@miltonvann646]

T. Vann: Thank you so very much. I will certainly try this because after 7 months of grief I find myself between depression which equals helplessness, fear and lack of safety. Going around in circles trying to fill the emptiness and find some purpose. And that’s when I can get myself moving.

[@carolmusselman8859]

How are you feeling now? I'm grieving too and I have depression

[@miltonvann646]

@@carolmusselman8859 In June I was able to step very much out of my comfort zone. Took a trip on my own, but not without experiencing a lot of anxiety. But the loneliness and hole in my life goes wherever I go.

[@miltonvann646]

@@carolmusselman8859 I should have used the expression emptiness instead of hole, the vacancy that is.

[@clarencehogrefe1220]

Me also

[@clarencehogrefe1220]

Me also

[@mightymouse2098]

I try to make coffee the night before as I have done for years. I enjoy coffee and a bun for breakfast and I turn on the TV to watch some news and then turn it off and check to see if any bills need to be paid on line etc. At night I have finally turned off my TV and go to sleep.

[@shannonwilson65]

I’m willing to try this - thank you! I put up a post note with todays date - I am safe better days ahead! Hopefully a good reminder:)

[@annabennallack672]

1 yes I will try it. I will let you know how it work. I will call Liz may wake up routine.

[@joereyes3913]

AWESOME INFORMATION👍💖. Mourning morning has had me confused and wondering. But now I know what it is. The enemy has been detected. What it is makes the moment understood💖.

[@lindahobbs2136]

Would you share thoughts on routines for Anticipatory Loss and Ambiguous Grief? I watched your videos on the subjects. Since these are chronic, continuing, and without a defined end, it's difficult to feel that today will be better.......

[@nancybosworth4998]

I tried this routine this morning. I found it helped to alleviate the fear of facing another day, even though it is 22 degrees and snowy in upstate NY.

[@ELLENPeters-q5c]

I miss my mom i hope this works

[@almashapaka4678]

I will definitely try this. ❤

[@kathrynclark4524]

Thank you so much. So glad to have found your page.

[@maryannehaffner3294]

Tomorrow morning, I am doing this! TY, Jo. I will report back on how well it worked. Blessings.

[@suehildreth3998]

I will definitely try this

[@tracyroman9254]

Yes I will try it.

[@adriennetowell5186]

Thank you so much. I'm going to try this from tomorrow morning. I love you videos; and the ones I've watched have really helped me.

[@judithwallace2091]

Wonderful, thank you!

[@twinwillows2705]

Still after 5 years,my thoughts go there…Like I’m afraid and I have to concentrate on breathing more deeply.

[@dawnhopkins5495]

Thank you for this...I've just discovered your videos and they've been so helpful.

[@rinavanrensburg2289]

Thank you Jo. I will definitely give the routine a try.

[@annaolejasz7597]

Thank you❣️I will try this❤️

[@karenkleinmaier1019]

Mornings are hard. I have had a number of grieving events over the last couple of years that I have not allowed myself time and space to deal with the emotions involved. It has all just manifested as high anxiety. So glad I found your videos as I have experienced so much of what you have shared and I just got stuck in a down spiral of "what is wrong with me" and "why can't I shake this off". I still haven't even cried after my father died 2 years ago. I am trying to hold it all in and just feel anxious and like exploding in tears most of the time. Gonna try this routine tomorrow. Is crying considered a relaxation response like yawning for the vagus nerve? Do you have any advice on anger and resentment and the grief process. Can it stop the natural flow of grief?

[@VictoriasRoses]

Thank you this has helped me a lot! Mornings are the worst. Thank you!

[@simplyaj4006]

I've tried this routine. It will be apart of my morning routine. I find it helpful. Thank you!

[@derekherbert5701]

Will start tomorrow am.

[@boatergirl4811]

8 weeks since I lost my sister. The morning anxiety is brutal . When does it go away?

[@annekebrinkhof991]

Do you have a sugestion for when I go to sleep? Already afraid of waking up with pain in my body 😢

[@BellyLaugher]

Thanks very much for this❣If you can spare the time : I'm getting a negative hook on 'better days ahead'; my mind equates phrase w/leaving them behind (4 major losses in 14 mos w/2 to 6 mos between each), dismissing painful loss vs the phrase's intention of reassurance that this state won't last forever/l will be able to engage in my life w/out grief as the center. Any suggestions on an alternate phrase to bypass my mind & body's belly-drop sensation/fear response to the phrase, or should I keep trying it, and see if it dissipates? Thank you.

[@maureenhalliday]

Thank you Jo. I will try this tomorrow ❤

[@valeriebatchelor7013]

Does make a difference thank you joe

[@nocellphone]

Thank you so much for this! I've found that the grief storms hit hardest in the mornings as I wake up back into the sometimes crushing reality of the changed landscape of my life after several significant losses. I'll definitely try the strategies you've offered! I'm writing a book on my personal experiences with grief and recovery and hope it would be ok to include some quotes from this video with proper attribution... 🙏 I look forward to exploring more of your content and am grateful for the work you're doing, thank you so much!

[@grieftherapist]

Yes please … share away… Grief takes a village. 🙏

[@kelseyjowest9974]

I too, have breathing trouble. I didn’t even know it until I saw a naturopath and she told me to “breathe “…

[@LivingInFullEssence]

Thank you for this video. Mornings are a very tough time. I get tripped up with the second affirmation of “better days” ahead. Will mu body respond even if my logical brain protests?

[@grieftherapist]

I believe our logical brains are designed to protect us..give it a try as a bit of research??If no shift happens after a while, find your own words that that hold some hope for some solace. 🙏🏻

[@MADELENEC1]

WAKE TO NOTHING

[@tracyroman9254]

Yes I will try it