Grieving Is the KEY to Emotional Healing with Dr. Gabor Maté

[@annahgibbus8]

Oh my gosh I want to slap that doctor that told your mom to feed a newborn on a schedule! Thank goodness I had a wonderful family practitioner that told me you can't spoil a newborn. When they want to be fed & everything else like changing & cuddling, You do it. The baby needs the security. Once the baby is 1 year old then you can introduce the word no, and of course that's not saying no to a need, that's saying no to something important, a teaching moment. I'm sorry I can't explain the no moments better, but my family practitioners wise advice worked very well for my children & me with zero experience. I have had much healing from watching many of your videos & video lectures & Thank you very much ❤️ I was adopted & knew that. Raised in a great loving teaching home by selfless parents who dedicated themselves in my nurturing. I experienced terrible depression & worse when my adoptive Mom passed in 1989. Geez I fell apart extremely bad & I was 29 years old then. So I searched for my biological parents & long story short found out I had been neglected from birth. I was 4lbs at 4 months old. The biological parents were sent to prison & I went into foster care. I was transferred to 5 foster homes from 4-18 months old because nobody could handle me I screamed the whole time. My Mom found me at 18 months old at my last foster home & I had failure to thrive, couldn't even sit up. I was also very little. I had no idea how bad my infanthood was. My Mom put everything aside to love me into security & growing up a happy well balanced as possible little girl to adult. This is why I put nurture above nature. Had I not lucked out with my particular Mom I would have probably been placed in an asylum drooling on myself. Losing her really brought up horrible things I didn't understand what/why I was experiencing. I had a terrible time with quack therapist's & misdiagnosis's. Until a neurologist in 2011. Finding you & Dr. Van De Kolk ( even if you may have disagreements, I needed both of your teachings to learn, grow & recover/heal.) both your lectures & books & workbooks have been extremely valuable to me. Thank You so much Dr. Mate❤️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thank you for sharing your life experience in here, I am sorry for what you been through. Sending so much love❤❤❤. I Hope the best for you.🙏

[@annahgibbus8]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Oh Thank you so much I appreciate that ❤️ It was really devastating to find out the truth about myself. I cried my butt off if it were any child & I realized it was me. Yup it hurt like Hell, but I went through it. It explains so much in my life & why I had troubles even though I came or was raised by great parents. GD therapists never put it together 🙄 When I was a teen I was cutting school & I saw my Mom on Phil Donahue! She was with her BFF. Nobody knows what the show is going to be until they get there. At first I see my Mom & her BFF smiling & clapping until the subject came up & my Mom's face went into battle mode. The subject was: Biological mother's that want their children back. When Mom got home I asked her what happened to you? She said & I quote & she was a very wise in control woman: If Your birth mother ever came back to get you, I would of killed her with my bare hands!!!!!!! She scared the beans out of me, but I had no idea what had happened to me from birth to 18 months. Blessings to my Mom ❤️ my real Mom my adoptive Mom ❤️ When I had called the caseworker about finding my birth parents she was retired. Out of all the thousands of kids she placed she remembered my case. I had no idea how significant that was at the time. I'm sure you as a nurse in this field understand what a miracle I am & all because of my Mom ❤️

[@veganworldpeace2649]

It is so great your Mother beginning at 18 months old properly nurtured you with her wonderful heart and hands of Love. Life is very hard & full of losses &: much pain for many of us, I know this from my life experiences, too. Blessings of love & empathy to you. Virtual Hugs!

[@deborahseaman8470]

Thank you

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Thanks for watching

[@annahgibbus8]

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thanks so much for the heart & ❤️ back to you nurse❤️ LoL I read the description after the video & posting. Thanks for your channel ☺️❤️

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

@@annahgibbus8 thank you too, dear

[@aggeliki74]

His words are amazing, to the point and bringing such relief as always! However, the video compilation is really bad, i find.. just show the man speaking is enough. Thank u 🙏

[@yourinnerchildmatters]

Sorry about that dear, but we creators can get strike from KZbin if we dont make bit of change of the videos of our content. sorry

[@sharonramsey715]

I would like to slap councillor called Elaine from the N.Ireland for using this compassionate inquiry to harm myself as a client. No one should use this councillor she is dangerous.