Growing Up Anxious | The Signs

[@MedCircle]

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[@bettyboop6292]

She, unfortunately is full of " shit"..I was a " class A student". Didn't stop my brother's rage/beatings/bone(still visible fractures) or sexual molestation. I did fight back. .I did verbally name him. Was witnessed & supported by many teachers/cousin's/family & friends. How did my mother react? I lied. & It didn't or never happened.. and trust me ..mother " shut it down"..she isolated me & removed anything I cared for or loved.

[@yashvardhanjain875]

Well I am 17 yrs old and severely DEPRESSED. I have taken a million depression tests on youtube idk what to do or say orwhere the hell to gooo and i am aware of my depression and idk just dont KNOWW plz plz plz i need help plz plz help I am dying I dont have a choice idk PLZ HELP 😭 🙏I cant say that anymore m tired and drained

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@yashvardhanjain875 Reduce negative thoughts and reprogram the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated as poor gut health is linked to the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@yashvardhanjain875]

@@shyaaammeneen63 well I am meditating daily nd it does help....and abt the health its been really worse.... m feeling drained for whole day and bad stomach and idk what more

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@yashvardhanjain875 Best wishes and prayers are with you.

[@notyayo]

This makes me wish I could hug my child self, tell her she's going to be okay and to speak up about my feelings. that I wasn't alone

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[@Ok_Loren]

I wish that for you, as well as myself. Unfortunately, a lot of people/adults dismiss children even when they do speak up, which I think makes it worse. I hope you’re doing well.

[@fayetopias]

You can! It’s called inner child work and shadow work. Highly recommended

[@SuperMiniHearts]

The more I learn, the more I realize how many parents weren’t ready to be parents and don’t understand the actual work and knowledge it takes to healthily raise a child. It’s also super sad and frustrating to realize the ways I was wrongfully raised, but at last now I know the roots and can go from there🤷🏽‍♀️

[@vickyfibe5340]

Doesn't matter how old the parents are either..my mum and dad was in their mid 30s when they had me, we looked the perfect family outside, but there was so much suffering behind closed doors, I sometimes feel like it wasn't real, but then I see the scares that are left...

[@paolacordova189]

You need to understand that parents always do what they think its best for you. Your kids are gonna say the same about you! It’s lack of education/information. Don’t be too hard on them, it’s your turn to take responsibility and resolve them yourself

[@hazelllhmmm7529]

@@paolacordova189 "Parents always do what they think it's best for you." This sentence is not always true. It doesn't consist all the parents.

[@fruitgum9619]

@@paolacordova189 yeah not everyone has loving parents unfortunately. What about the ones that steal money from their children to buy drugs? Etc

[@oritsejolomiokirika9913]

@@fruitgum9619 I think she means "Good Parents"

[@aziraphaleluvr]

I remember being 8 years old and having to hide in the playground because of how badly i wanted to throw up right before school started, anxiety is trully terrifying and paralyzing. I am now 21 years old and my therapist told me I'm ready and done with therapy until the next stage of my life!! I'm honestly so proud of myself and how far I've come. Truly didn't think I'd get to the point where she'd tell me that I'm ready and that she's incredibly proud

[@marcogangemi6789]

That's wonderful!! I struggle almost on a daily basis with social anxiety, paranoid thoughts, bipolar-y emotions, feeling guilty and depressive thoughts about our reality as dystopia. I am 18 yo, and unfortunately the death of my father at age 13, has only worsened the scenario I was put in and still inevitably am facing right now: sort of paranoid thoughts, isolation, differently "creative" ideas and the need of love as a child. I wouldn't say I've not grown up and changed to the better at this rate, but I'm thinking in regard of what I can't achieve as of right now, that it is not worth it, and hence I lack also motivation and a meaning in my life. Sometimes I gotta experience what it feels like "feeling different from the others", as much as my struggle with interpersonal relationships can allow. I just feel like I'm an alien waiting to get back into my native planet after some research on this so called human planet. But I've also noticed that in one-on-one dynamics I'm better rather than going out with a group of people. I aften feel lonely even in family, but I guess that's just what I gotta deal with and accept in a way as of currently. I have still hope and the only thought of returning to a state of life in which I feel loved, respected and understood, is at the door. I don't know what it feels entirely like, but I'm still willing to face my fears and struggles, for then, to accomplish an healthy life style followed by a nice set of people who surround me and surely care of me.

[@jolonabon]

Same! I felt like a failure already when I was a kid. It was horrible.

[@adamdomenicpacione7574]

I'm 22 and came a long way as well. I think that young adults have our own struggles today.

[@dad4378]

Well done, Lil Dan :D

[@racqueldillon3560]

Congratulations!

[@TheTruthHurts6666]

Wow... Her first words in the video really hits home. I vividly remember crying as a child and my mom or dad would always get upset and yell at me to stop. I learned to hide my unpleasant feelings and now whenever I try to express myself when I'm emotionally stressed, I start crying and can't stop so i would rather avoid any unpleasant situations.

[@shilana4414]

Same.. When I start talking about my deepest feelings or anything serious, I just start crying and my mom ridicules me when I cry. So I'm mostly quiet and keep things to myself or just give no opinion. And my mom calls me a fool for not sharing or having an opinion. I still love my mom and I know she loves me as much...But Idk what I should do. I feel like nobody understands me. Most of the times, I wish I were dead. Not just when I'm sad or stressed, even at my happiest moments I wish I could just die in that moment so it isn't as miserable.

[@1kaz1]

@@shilana4414 do you need someone to talk to??

[@shilana4414]

@@1kaz1 I do wish I could talk...but there's just so many things that I start and don't really know what to talk about. But Thanks for the concern :)

[@1kaz1]

@@shilana4414 alright, I wish you good luck in the future, things can always get better as long as you don't cut them short!

[@-0m3rcy0-8]

Same! When I was a kid I was told “stop crying or I will give you a reason to cry” Aka if I cried over “somthing stupid” I would be beat with a belt to “give me an actual reason to cry”

[@MNJGaGa]

Anxiety can ruin everything in your life. It took a lot of time for me to understand I had anxiety, now what helps me the most is self-awareness.

[@jeeess9979]

Same for me. I had anxiety for years and never realized it until at the age of around 21 or 22 I had such a bad panic attack that I had to pull off of the side of the road. Now, I take medication that helps me immensely at work, in social settings, and in general. My life is better because of the medication and the Recognition that I do have severe panic disorder. It is often very irrational and difficult To explain

[@MNJGaGa]

@@jeeess9979 I'm glad you're doing okay ❤️

[@bettyboop6292]

Self awareness is the KEY. How you choose to drug yourself for years...to placate " others"...is your choice.

[@Misses-Hippy]

@@bettyboop6292 Yeah, I have thought about that. But I went off my meds over the summer and became a bear to live with. I returned to normal with Prozac. I am on it over 25 years. It really dampens the anxiety. Life is much more challenging than it was in the agricultural days. We read in one day what the average person did in their life in the times of Shakespeare. It is no wonder everyone is overstimulated!

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@MNJGaGa Reduce negative thoughts and reprogram the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated as poor gut health is linked to the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@michelleeggers719]

Anxiety really sucks when your parents do not care about your feelings. Mine were only interested in the fact that you have a roof over your head, shoes on your feet etc. If they thought it would toughen me up, they were wrong...

[@ornellabarbaro3861]

Yes, but the majority not all parents, were raised the exact same way. Didn't know any better.

[@michelleeggers719]

@@ornellabarbaro3861 they know how they want to be treated..not buying that. My friends parents werent like that.

[@ornellabarbaro3861]

@@michelleeggers719 But mine were. As I mentioned not all. If you lived the depression and then a war your thinking changes. Starvation, lack of shelter, little education and the terror of being killed sort of changes your priorities. Now being a complete a hole is different.

[@michelleeggers719]

@@ornellabarbaro3861 i guess love, comfort, affection, apreciation, kindness, attention arent basic needs... You have your opinion and i have mine. Have a good day!

[@michelleeggers719]

Ps..they didnt live during war and depression.

[@lalakuma9]

When I was a teenager I would wake up every morning in panic because I had to go to school. But I don't think I ever faked being sick, because I was conditioned to feel afraid and ashamed of avoiding responsibilities. I had good grades and felt obliged to do extra activities because I was constantly afraid of the consequences of not doing well at school. I also liked being alone because I felt tired having to deal with people at school and at home that didn't understand me. But of course it eventually got so bad that I often couldn't get out of bed during college.

[@ranmatsuyama]

OMG... this is almost exactly happened to me

[@RubiAlejandra_]

When you say faked being sick, I just want you to know A LOT of people with severe anxiety do NOT fake, they physically feel sick and the answer is anxiety.

[@harleenkaur3006]

Oh no..... This is exactly how I've felt for a lot of time.....but now I've found a few things I like and but I am still afraid of not doing well.....I almost have to drag myself to study......but unfortunately I do not have a family who would understand They say we can talk but it has always ended with me being fed up of them not understanding... eventually I stopped 🥲

[@heykaybeee]

@@harleenkaur3006I relate soon much! And this issue abt talking to my parents just happened to me yesterday...I cried so much yesterday and started feeling guilty abt being like this

[@Ella-pc4bf]

Some similar happened to my as a young kid and as a teen (because of BIG and serious changes in my life). I never got diagnosed officially I believe as a young child but I can clearly remember the feeling when going to school on a test day. It got to the point of being so bad that I had to be taken out of the testing room because I would have meltdowns and now realized that I panicked so much I dissociated. I was going through so much at the time with moving, becoming a big sister, and having health problems. I had to be put in special classes for this and school counseling. I even had to be taken to several family psychologists to understand what was going on and it went on pretty bad for a year or so. I slowly grew out of it at least the severity of it and began to feel very embarrassed by it when I found out that it was "normal" especially for a 5 to 7 year old. Still having to unpack all that to this day.

[@ottymatir7143]

My anxiety goes on a scale of “i don’t feel my best today” to full-on depression. There’s days where it’s harder to smile and joke around because i keep obsessing over little things like “why is she laughing? is she laughing at me? i’m being paranoid but i can’t stop”. Then there’s days where I can’t even get out of bed, straight up mental breakdown, everyone hates me, I’ll die alone, why even bother living at this point, I don’t even have enough strength to take a shower, i’m pathetic, blah blah blah. And of course there’s no one to talk to cuz who cares about a possible anxiety disorder? There’s worse. Edit (2): Hello, thank you for keeping up with the mess. How are y’all doing? Hope better than me. The depression has gotten better but my anxiety comes and goes constantly, I have a lot of toxicity my life that i need to get rid of. Planning on getting a therapist around February, before things start to go down again. But don’t worry I’m definitely not as bad as i was when i wrote this comment! Life goes on, this is just temporary, remember it. Take care of yourself.

[@kateapple1]

It seems like you’ve backed yourself into a corner why don’t you try other things? I have BPD, anxiety and depression. Pretty bad. I quit sugar and grains and that helped SO SO much. Also quitting booze and other drugs. It’s ridiculous to think there are worse things.. no ones life is more important than your own. Takes some doing but finding the right therapist is a god send. And not for nothing it sounds like you have something going on that’s a whole lot worse than just anxiety. All of us every single person on this planet has depression has anxiety has OCD has autism! It’s all just a spectrum it depends on how low or how high on the spectrum you are. Good luck 🍀

[@arahjabanks8542]

@@kateapple1 it’s so hard for me to quit sugar but when I don’t eat it on some days I accidentally starve myself. I feel a lot better

[@miksobrado]

@@arahjabanks8542 the best thing for anxiety is actually excercise. Even if you suck at it is going to better cause is not about being good at it, its about how it wears you off. The quimicals that are generated with anxiety wear off with activity. Sugar is like your worst enemy, is gonna help you cool for a moment and the next one comes faster and worse. Eating better is the real answer, is just a pain in the ass.

[@ottymatir7143]

@@miksobrado I feel like i binge when I’m really anxious, i rely a lot on food especially junk and sugary one. Even tho i know it just makes it worse, it’s the only alternative i have to help myself feel better. That or basically sleeping my anxiety “away”.

[@miksobrado]

@@ottymatir7143 i know, i have that too but give it a try, the best is that it lesses your crave for sugar. Exercise eliminates the feromones that anxiety creates like medication when is properly given. If you dont know what to do talk with your therapist , if you dont have one please get one. Theres a lot of organizations that offer accesible health care

[@user-cv9qg]

I was seeing a lot of therapist as a child. They always said I was fine and should just try to not be so dramatic about everything. When I was 16 my neighbour told my mom he thinks I could be haveing an anxiety disorder and maybe be autistic. We went to a specialist and got my diagnosed with both. It really helped the people around me understand me better.

[@churtangle]

Shitty therapists

[@Dannniellleee]

Great, really aware neighbor! 👏🏽👏🏽

[@snowbird7377]

There are likely more terrible therapists than good that we invest our time, energy, emotions, and money into. They do a great disservice.

[@user-cv9qg]

I don't blame them because I think they tried their best. To be honest I was not an easy patient. I never told them about social problems, shutdowns, sensory issues or panic attacks. I had them all my life so I just thought that it is a normal thing.

[@jessecoates1562]

@@snowbird7377 You sound like you may have had a specific bad experience or maybe very pre-defined expectations. I'm careful to speak up if something I need isn't getting better, and to move on if I'm not making progress.

[@LittleMissSkelling]

Growing up I always told I was just a ‘shy’ child. Even though, growing up I always felt I was different to everyone else and something was wrong with me. It was only till I got older and mental health was made more aware I became aware of my own anxiety.

[@cynthia2553]

Same here!!

[@katherinelawrence5434]

Omg that's exactly what happened to me

[@Ilovesky1223]

Yes I can relate. I was also called a shy child. I'm not really shy, I was being abused and that caused my anxiety and mental health problems alike.

[@wowiearting3947]

Same guys

[@Adrian-bu1oc]

I always THOUGHT I was shy and nothing else, through all my life and I've realised that it might not be shyness, anxiety and being shy are completely different things, I was always scared of people and always wanted to be alone and it made it harder to even remember my childhood but after awhile I realised and it all makes sense now.

[@katrinkasanfranciscobayare7364]

"The loneliest people are the kindest, the saddest people smile the brightest, and the most damaged people are the wisest. All because they don't wish to see others suffer like they do" ~ anonymous ~

[@katrinkasanfranciscobayare7364]

I've Loved, borrowed and shared these words for several years now. Please feel free to borrow and share them as well. I appreciate your kind messages. Mahalo and Aloha From Katrinka, San Francisco Bay Area🌺🌴

[@marionsanford524]

Wowww...so true

[@katrinkasanfranciscobayare7364]

@@marionsanford524 My exact impression when I read these words years and years and years ago Marion. Thanks for your message and have a great day💞

[@mandeep3.14]

Depends on if you’re aware/ toxic I think

[@katrinkasanfranciscobayare7364]

@@mandeep3.14 I appreciate your message. Everybody gets a different feeling about these words. I'm glad that you were able to make connection with yours. Thanks again for your message and have a great day💞

[@Ranaluv77]

I was punished for ever being “angry” or “upset”. I’ve had anxiety since I can remember. This video makes so much sense.

[@pandora117]

My family and people in general punish me for being angry and upset too. It sucks.

[@carolyntu367]

I’ve also experienced exact same behaviors as well. It’s appalling and disgusting.

[@adriennem9832]

Or the doctor made up their own shite. Even when she said I was jealous of my new baby sister and I told stupid Dr I loved her but couldn't Get out the real reason was the monsters I lived with.

[@jessicadoban2564]

I learned and acted early. Then, it pushed into real life. Now, any emotion beyond my "character" is bizarre .

[@PlatinumIrishrose]

ME TOO! I'll pray for you!

[@sarawawa8984]

I wouldn’t just “say” I felt sick. Anxiety would make me actually, physically ill. Not eating for days, stomach in pain, nausea, headaches, etc. It wasn’t in my head, it was in my whole body. I wasn’t lying about how I felt.

[@missednoahsarc2654]

Yes!! I would vomit every morning before high school. But also I was a freshman and a kid who had abused me and my brother when we were small was a senior at the school. He did the morning announcement and was a model student. He molested my brother and almost drown me in the lake and I had to go to school with him. My parents knew this and thought it was no big deal!!! Kinda ruined me

[@Dani_1012]

@@missednoahsarc2654 I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you and your brother are well and have healed now. Unfortunately a lot of parents don't do anything about bullying as they see it as something that one should resolve on their own

[@lovelifelaugh2727]

Yup “my stomach hurts”

[@BananasAndChickens]

Me too

[@anunimus_2706]

I have horrible stomachaches when my anxiety acts up

[@Bunefoo401]

One of the worst things you can say to someone experiencing anxiety is … “Just don’t think about it” Geezus !!! If only it were that simple. Makes you feel like a failure because you can’t STOP thinking about it VERY helpful and informative video. Thank you for sharing

[@roseel6251]

And also when they said " that's life, you should face it "

[@userm180]

if u guys need to talk, im here

[@roseel6251]

@@userm180 I do seek for a professional. Sadly, my pyschologist dissapeared without any further treatment.

[@jordanrayne4779]

My mom never told me that i couldn't have negative feelings but she sure as fuck made it feel that way. If i cried it was "oh you don't have a reason to cry, IM THE ONE WHO WANTS TO CRY." i couldn't express anger or stress, i couldn't ask them to leave me alone for a while. It was always "stop acting like a brat" or "don't take that attitude with me."

[@artismyheart4886]

I would tell my Mom that I was stressed or overwhelmed in JR and SR high school, she laughed at me and said “ You don’t even know what real stress is!”

[@jessecoates1562]

Same. I suffered with shitty self esteem, depression and anxiety until I realized that I needed help, despite my middle class, intact nuclear family upbringing.

[@sickofcrap8992]

It sounds like your mother MIGHT (please note the emphasis) have narcissistic tendencies. Either way, I'm very sorry you were treated in that manner.

[@jordanrayne4779]

@@sickofcrap8992 She most likely does, she was diagnosed with severe depression and bipolar. Thanks for the kind words.

[@enooeeelelee_]

That was my childhood and unfortunately I became that tyle of parent. I'm only now just realizing it but it's too late, my son is an adult. I feel so sad for both of us.

[@TeamCat1128]

As soon as she mentioned not feeling safe or cared for the primary care giver, I lost it. So many tears.

[@jessecoates1562]

Same here. I'm finally getting it at 56, starting to truly connect and recognize what went on.This is helpful. Hope you feel better.

[@leetricejones3967]

That was my biggest lightbulb when she said that I was like wow this is my life

[@pandora117]

@AllThat Remains I don't feel safe in the house I live in, but I don't have anywhere else to go. I hate being in this situation. My family put me in this situation. I don't think I can get out. I think death is the only way out.

[@jessecoates1562]

@@pandora117 No, it's not. You CAN get out, especially if you think that the alternative is dying. Are you in school? Tell a counselor or teacher today what you wrote - we're trained to be the people that hear these things, we know how to help. Please try talking to an adult if you really do feel unsafe, trapped and are thinking about death. I've been there, it's never the only way. I would give anything if a student of mine told me something like your feelings! Please try it. Answer back if you need more help.

[@pandora117]

@@jessecoates1562 I'm not in school. I'm an adult. I just don't think I'll ever get out of this situation because I'm nothing without them. I can't do anything without them. I'll end up homeless. I can't be independent or stand up for myself. I'll always be bullied and a victim. I'll never be free again.

[@davidk.7264]

I can relate to this a lot, as a man,60 years old, I have been with anxiety as far back I can remember, thanks

[@scottclute7443]

Thanks to you sir. Same here. Was born with asthma.the medical advice back then,was. Wrong. It led to extreme anxiety. Panic disorder,then.heavy experimental. Self indulgence on the early 70s!!

[@melliebw3248]

SAME! My home life was hostile and toxic. I'm 52 and still have difficulty "feeling safe" even though I have a wonderful partner and beautiful home. I take Gabapentin for anxiety and it really helps.

[@davidk.7264]

@@melliebw3248 YES, and with myself, I didn't know I was in a toxic home environment until I was and still am in therapy

[@azryder2919]

I absolutely was anxious as a child and adult. I wasn't diagnosed until my 40's after my last child was born and I went into anxiety overdrive and finally talked to someone. Meds changed my life.

[@davidk.7264]

@@azryder2919 YES, for myself, when I stoped drinking it (anxiety) took off, Last year I went inpatient for aniexty, that helped, lots of talk therapy, weekly basis, Take care

[@elevenoutof10]

I've been anxious my whole life and I always wish that someone had intervened and helped me deal with it as a kid. It would have saved a whole lot of suffering. I honestly mourn for the life I could've had if someone had just supported me and helped me navigate my anxiety.

[@sefje290]

I'm sincerely sorry for you ❤️ I think it's not too late to work on yourself you can still do it and I'm hoping that someday you will feel better ❣️🙏

[@elevenoutof10]

@@sefje290 Thank you

[@coffeetae]

I’m currently on the same boat. I always console myself by realizing I’ve become a stronger person through enduring it all this time. Also by acknowledging that every day in life is an opportunity to live to your fullest. I hope you soon find peace with the live you’ve lived ❤️

[@pandora117]

@Emma Sh I mourn everyday about the life I could've had too. It's my own fault though. I messed myself up. I scared myself and brainwashed myself. Now people bully me worser now and treat me like some helpless victim. I hate it. I just wish I could act normal again.

[@elevenoutof10]

@@coffeetae thank you! I'm glad you've managed to stay hopeful and move forward with your life!

[@MalonsMilk]

I would say that I have an avoidance issue so that I can side step anxiety. I get anxiety when I feel that I have a lack of control. When I used to ask for help often I would get snapped at, laughed at or derided so to avoid that feeling I would never tell anyone what I was struggling with. My idea of hell would be for people to notice me and allowing them the opportunity to pick out what’s wrong with me. This doesn’t mean I’m unhappy though and can’t function but self doubt is constant and wanting to appear perfect and blend in is what I’m always trying to achieve.

[@Misses-Hippy]

I thought my animal was a cat, turns out to be a bunny.

[@milleirafernandez5637]

You just laid out my entire life story.

[@nousername11851]

This.

[@crypticsios2254]

@@milleirafernandez5637 .

[@humankaleidoscope4989]

I can relate so much to that, especially the whole feeling out of control thing. It's really hard but I try not to avoid situations that make me anxious too much; I've noticed the more I do it the more it seems to get worse. It's hard feeling constantly uncomfortable, but keeping ourselves comfortable often means that we'll be more sensitive to things that can make us anxious the next time we face them. Also, have you tried the workbook "feeling good"? It was developed by the guy who developed cognitive behavioural therapy and it's one of the only things that has genuinely helped me. I'm still hopeful that therapy will help too, but I haven't had good experiences so far, so it's helping fill that gap until I am able to find a good therapist that can work with me.

[@Ciela887]

I notice that she said kids with anxiety "say" they don't feel well in order to stay home with their primary caregiver, as if they're telling a fib, but in my experience, I would say I didn't feel well because I didn't know how to describe or manage my anxiety symptoms (or that they WERE anxiety symptoms). If someone sat me down and had an honest conversation about what was going on with me, I think it would have changed everything. Communication is key!

[@neverending9803]

RIGHT! thats exactly what i was thinking. I remember the pain feeling very real, it wasnt a way to get out of school directly, i just genuinely wasnt feeling well. I didnt know what anxiety was at that age, all i could say was that my stomach hurt and it was painful to do anything at all.

[@hellogorgeous3194]

I always felt sick waiting on the bus and it got worse when I got to school. I always felt like I was going to throw up and sometimes I did. I started getting in trouble for having to have my parents come pick me up from school. One time the art teacher ignored me forever when I had my hand raised to ask if I could go to the bathroom and I threw up all over the table with kids surrounding me. So it is not pretending. I remember one time I acted like I was asleep so everyone would leave me alone but the teacher just had the whole class trying to "wake me up"

[@Ciela887]

@@hellogorgeous3194 I'm sorry you went through this - my experience was similar. I made myself throw up every day before elementary school. I missed so many days of 3rd grade that I almost got held back, even though academically I was fine. I can't even tell you how different things would have been if I knew other kids existed that felt the same way I did. Sending healthy and healing thoughts your way.

[@user-qu8zs7vs1x]

Yeah, I didn't like how she basically said that kids with anxiety lie. There are very real symptoms that come with anxiety, even at a very young age, such as irritable bowel syndrome, cramps, diarrhea, stomach ache, headache, and even shortness of breath. Downplaying those symptoms can lead to much worse consequences such as full-on panic attacks and even derealization and depersonalization. I believe this therapist is providing a misinformed and misleading narrative that makes kids with anxiety even more misunderstood.

[@Ciela887]

@@user-qu8zs7vs1x I noticed she tried to change her wording a little later in the video, but yeah at that point towards the beginning I was like..wait..there was no lie lol just a lot of distress and confusion

[@franknutson6245]

Anxiety attacks can go beyond the pulsing heart, sweating head to toe and just general feeling like you want to crawl out of your skin. Unfortunately they can end up with your bowel deciding to evacuate. It the worst thing when it gets that bad.

[@TheYazmanian]

Thank you! Literally nobody mentions this.

[@brandycottle5169]

Yes. It sucks bad.

[@Dannniellleee]

I’ve had gut issues all of my life. I just learned a few years ago that it was connected to my anxiety! I haven’t resolved it yet, but understanding is the key to working through the issue.

[@TheYazmanian]

@@Dannniellleee my IBS definitely got better with SSRIs and eating regularly. An empty stomach was not my friend at the time but now I can intermittent fast. I still bloat like crazy though. Stress and gut health are super linked

[@Dannniellleee]

@@TheYazmanian They call the gut the “2nd brain” and it’s so true! Thank you for the tips!

[@jeannettemcghee5775]

Amen shouldn't never tell your children that they should not have an emotion that's the part of life

[@anitaroempke7310]

Parents and near family my aunt I remember, never even allowed us kids to talk about our feelings, on the contrary, they would ridicule us in a very cruel way, if we ever dared to try . This has been so devastating to me and my siblings, we all have anxiety.

[@Misses-Hippy]

@@anitaroempke7310 I hear you.

[@purplerobin92]

my mom liked to tell us crying children are ugly and she didn't like them. Everytime we cried. she looked at us in distqste saying "look how ugly you are" 🙄 to this day if I wanna cry, I hide

[@Misses-Hippy]

@@purplerobin92 Mine would point to other children and say I do not like whiners, I or shouters. I am 64 and cannot speak above a whisper. It has been a major handicap when it came to my job.

[@namehere4954]

It's not only important to not suppress emotions but kids need to be taught techniques on how to process emotions so they don't get stuck in them & use them for their benefit. Feel, surrender, release.

[@ghostfaeries]

I am diagnosed now with generalized anxiety disorder. It took till I was 18/19 to get a diagnosis. I remember in school, as young as 3rd grade, getting super bad stomach aches and feeling downright awful when placed in environments that made my anxiety worse. I didn't understand it at the time. I'd go to the nurse nearly every day with stomach pains from the anxiety and eventually staff would just scoff, roll their eyes, and not take me seriously. My anxiety grew worse and worse, I continued to be undiagnosed and didn't get the help I need. By senior year, I had a full on mental breakdown and dropped out of high school. I genuinely felt so much despair. The anxiety mixing with depression was suffocating and I really didn't think I'd be able to continue living if I forced myself to stay in environments that made my anxiety worse. I just wish one person back in elementary school would have stopped to think 'wow, this kid complains about feeling sick every day... maybe we should have someone look into that'. But nope. Instead I was ignored, and it taught me the bad habit of thinking 'I'm just being overdramatic, I'm being a burden.' Here's to hoping now adays things are better in the schooling system and kids are taken more seriously.

[@hellogorgeous3194]

I was the same way very sick at school and no one ever thought something could be wrong

[@jackiepowell7513]

They had in the 1920 s too. Human condition.

[@annachill7552]

Please get tested for celiac. Anxiety/stomach pain can be a sign. I thought my son had anxiety for a while (and he did), but that was one of our “whys”

[@justagirluwu]

I’m sorry you went through this, I had the exact same experience. And my parents always thought I was a difficult kids but deep down we needed help so bad. Now I’m 25 and have panic attacks anxiety sleep disorders and general stress when it comes to even speaking up.

[@hellogorgeous3194]

@@justagirluwu so do i!!!

[@michaelknapp8961]

I’m 54 and I had serious anxiety starting when I was in kindergarten!! Nothing was said and nothing was done about it. I didn’t let that happen to my kid. I was right there to be with him and got him help.

[@ruthortega6192]

My parents idea of teaching me how to deal with emotions was “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”

[@vickyfibe5340]

Exactly...I would smile cos that's how I handled my emotions, which meant the slaps would get harder...

[@huffhuff4604]

@@vickyfibe5340 ...right... what tf were parents on back then. Mine would hold me down and smack me and scream "SAY SOMETHING!" "ACT LIKE THIS HURTS!" "HAVE ANY REACTION OTHER THAN A STONE FACE!". like... you wonder why I dont call, text, come to events, ect and then gaslight me for being a shitty kid because all the other kids were "fine", in their own fucked up way. I am just so filledwith rage now days because of how much they fucked me up as a kid and how much it hurts to be dealing with adolescent emotions, that any normal person would have already created coping mechanisms for, into my 30s. So now I get the fun journey of trying to grow past this trauma while not letting this rage get the best of me and fucing punch my 65 year old parents in the face becausemy Stoicism says "control that which you can control". So instead I get no support pillar for family and my wife gets that full burden. On the bright side, I get a fun inner voice who lives with me everyday cheering me on because it was my coping mechanism after trying to commit suicide when i was 10.

[@julieh7953]

I’m sorry Ruth. That’s just abusive. You have every right to feel what you feel.

[@vickyfibe5340]

Omg god Ruth, it's like your telling my story....I left home at 16 and live on my own ever since. I only speak to my mum now as she has mellowed as she has got older and there is a side to her that I like, so I concentrate on that, and since the gran kids come along it's like she is a totally new person. I feel like I made it all up...but I still have the emotional scares which my husband has witness over the last 20 yrs..I work with children now and I just can't figure out why they did what they did...I've suffered with confidence issues all my life, I hate that, why should I feel I have to doubt myself all the time...it's not fair..

[@carriemorley356]

I can relate to that,

[@princepeterwolf]

She's an incredible doctor, everything was so well explained and clear.

[@BessmaITube]

I love how the interviewer is really smart and attentive, he's really comfortable and conversational and is actually asking smart in the moment questions, not the scripted fake ones I'm used to seeing on tv ... very informative thank you very much

[@karolcat]

My mom used to get really angry and shout at me for the littlest things, one time she admitted it was because she gets stressed and takes it out on someone else, or the “weakest” ones. When I was little and got angry for that, it was always me who was wrong for getting angry at her. It took a long time to realize that there was nothing wrong with what I was feeling, if I was not disrespecting her. My dad also helped me reassure that a few years ago, when I was like 20. he told me “If your mom or I ever do something bad to you, you have all the right to feel angry and it’s okay” i just needed those words, for my feelings to make sense. I believed in what I was feeling but I was told the opposite, it confused me for a long time. My mom also hurt my dad a lot. But hurt people hurt people they say, so its probably my mom who is the most hurt on the inside.

[@petruskafranova]

Reading all these comments makes me want to cry….so many people got their happy childhoods stolen by anxiety 😢

[@christyhoehn8244]

So my mother telling me “ oh, you’re not nervous”!, “oh, that doesn’t hurt ( at the dentist she didn’t allow numbing )! ” “ don’t be upset” etc….. not allowing me to really feel anything…….. could that be part of the reason I’m a mess?

[@zkatt1959]

But you were feeling pain at the dentist right? Of course you are effected by all that negativity.

[@wrenross5315]

Yeah, this is really damaging to a kid's psyche and it'll carry on into adult life. It has so many horrible effects. Being told you aren't feeling something when you are breaks your ability to trust your own intuition, your body, and your emotions. It teaches you emotions are bothersome to other people and that you're better off bottling them up, or not feeling anything. It prevents you from reaching out for help when you need it. And ultimately, it will ruin the relationship between parent and child, especially later on in life when you can look back and see all the times your parent failed you, when your pain was real and they didn't seem to care. Parents who say stuff like this can never really connect with their children emotionally. This term gets thrown around a lot lately, but saying "that doesn't hurt" to your daughter after a dental procedure without numbing is literal gaslighting. She denied your obvious, real, physical pain so that you would shut up. The fact that you remember her saying this to you at all is proof enough that it was a formative experience for you, and not a good one.

[@jeeess9979]

This is bad because it belittles your own feelings and in a sense it gaslights you. Your own relative is gaslighting you or has gas let you

[@Dannniellleee]

No numbing at the dentist?! Omg! What she did sounds like intense gaslighting, and it can also lead to cognitive dissonance. I’m sorry ❤️🧡❤️🧡

[@zkatt1959]

@@Dannniellleee no not gaslighting that is child abuse!

[@sophiery339]

my anxiety manifested in stomach aches throughout my entire childhood lol

[@impastabowl2328]

Is it any better now?

[@thatsjustmelinny]

mine too, it still does. i would get so ill when i knew i was going somewhere, if anyone was coming over anything.

[@rosepalomares3868]

My 11 year old has stomach aches every day before and at school. Are you better now? I hope this passes soon for her.

[@Demi.d3mi]

@@rosepalomares3868 get to the root of it NOW. Trust me, I feel resentment towards my parents for just ignoring it. It doesn’t just go away for everyone

[@thatsjustmelinny]

@@rosepalomares3868 mine hasnt, its slowed down a bit now in the past maybe 5 years that im alot older (24) and can kinda talk myself out of anxiety because i know its going to be okay. i have anticipation anxiety (and more but havent been diagnosed) , like i think about what could happen in the future. i overthink too much about like things that can go wrong and go right. i can come up with so many scenarios and drive myself insane lol. i feel like its a self esteem issue too which causes me anxiety aswell.

[@miamyos]

I don't think anxiety only happens when you think about the future. I think it also happens when you find yourself in a situation that you recognize as historically harmful, stressful etc. Also there are true physical effects of anxiety, it's not only pretending to be sick. I actually had a lot of heartburn, headaches, sleep problems and at occations when I was extra anxious about going to school I threw up in the morning and had to stay home.

[@userm180]

are u ok now? :(

[@miamyos]

@@userm180 @m I'm better at least, on my way to getting the help I need. Thanks for asking ❤

[@userm180]

@@miamyos im glad

[@rin-kd8ow]

2 mins in and this doctor is so well-spoken and clear in what she's saying, i'm super impressed

[@HumanSagaVault]

my heart hurts watching this, cause its like hearing my childhood and reliving what I went through. I really hate my childhood and teenage years T_T

[@mya6506]

Same, wish I could be there for the me then in her early teenage yrs

[@AW-xc1xc]

We'll make a better future for ourselves, the future that our childhood selves could only dream of

[@jessicayoung7132]

I internalized it as a child especially at school and being picked on by others and manipulated by my best friend who really wasn't my friend in the end. I just shut down and kept to myself. I daydreamed a lot to escape. I didn't realize it hurt me more as I got older with trying to focus. Was diagnosed with anxiety/moderate depression. I've used alcohol to cope as I got older. I'm dealing with that now too. One day at a time. Had another recent wake up call too with my high blood pressure and panic attack that had me in the emergency room for the day. Blessings all.

[@hellogorgeous3194]

I also day dreamed a lot. Never was interested in extra activities in school. The times I tried I just felt like I could not do it and gave up. Then when I got older I did drink a lot to where I felt like I couldn't go anywhere do anything without drinking. Because I was a more social person. Thankfully I am no longer drinking like that anymore and realize it was no kind of life to live

[@marianneregalado2235]

Same here. I daydreamed a lot and even made up stories in my notebook/diary of an “ideal life” of me wherein my needs are addressed and I am a princess who feels no pain. I also notice that children with anxiety gets to be bullied a lot. Bullies can really spot a target

[@vonshill]

My anxiety disorder started in 5th grade. I've fought it off and on throughout my life. We are all in this together folks there's always a brighter day

[@mgnwill]

But sometimes anxiety is because you know that abuse is going to happen - again - and you’re priming yourself for the occurrence. I find that the two basic types of anxiety are often not distinguished between: anxiety from an overactive imagination (to put it very broadly) about a possibility that mightn’t and probably won’t happen, or working oneself up into a frantic state about a challenging but normal life situation such as a job interview, as opposed to anxiety over something negative that you know definitely will happen (e.g. child abuse or serious bullying at work ). I was told by family members, teachers, so-called ‘friends’, and later, counsellors that I needed to control my mind and imagination, and that positive thinking and meditation would help alleviate the situation - as though my abusers had a right to abuse, and that I needed to be the one responsible for ‘thinking’ the situation into a neutral state. Apparently, abuse is only abuse if the person on the receiving end ‘sees’ it that way. If they don’t, then they’re suffering from anxiety that needs to be ‘fixed’. Suggest that the abuser needs to be stopped, and you’re told ‘you’re not taking responsibility’. The story of my childhood.

[@susanjones3513]

Witnessing this happen to my boy now. It is torturous.

[@Fluidx808]

"But sometimes anxiety is because you know that abuse is going to happen - again - and you’re priming yourself for the occurrence." Ditto! I was surprised this wasn't covered at all.

[@mgnwill]

@@susanjones3513 If it’s a counsellor you need, I can only hope you find the right one, which seems to be someone who also has a pro-activist streak to them. I find that in some anxiety-producing situations, warm fuzzies alone don’t cut it, so someone who is a human rights activist is perhaps sometimes more useful in certain situations.

[@mikejames509]

You are exactly right. The abuse is abuse, your personal responses are not the enemy, but the self-preservation actions you instinctually take to protect yourself. I'm sorry about what you had to face, but I can tell through your attitude in examining what happened to you, that you are capable of the metacognition to explore and effectively handle what has happened to you. I'm no therapist - but here's an exercise for you - think about all of the wonderful traits that are yours, becuase what you have been through. Think them over, maybe ask others, and write them down. Maybe even bullet point those. Then, when you have those anxious thoughts return, read your list, or go over the memorized list! of ALL of your great qualities developed because of what you were dealth. Then look at you! You are a champion - now when you have a chance to help somebody with anxiety, do it!

[@desertangelfish140]

Yeah, my mother had issues (personality disordered) extremely abusive that gave me behavioral problems in childhood. When it came to counseling, my mother professed I had the issue and not HER. I left home at 14 gratefully, into a somewhat healthier environment. In adult life I have generalized anxiety disorder and a digestive disorder that presents under stress. I consider them childhood scars. My triggers are off the charts when I get around people with similar characteristics as my mother. I'm Practicing mindfulness, self mastery and managing my emotions, but I have CPTSD. I live alone in the rural desert with my animals. I keep people to people contact very minimal. I volunteer and do what I can, when I can as I believe in being of service to others. But, as an introvert my alone time is invaluable to me and a survival strategy. I'm also an empath, so takers naturally gravitate to me, which exhausts me. Hugs to anyone else that has similar issues. Self love is the best love. 💕🤗😇

[@seragonsalves8164]

I love how she's saying "primary caregivers" instead of parents or mother and father.

[@reaganreidenbach5155]

I found it interesting that the kids who have the ability to think about the future, are also the ones with anxiety. I am 18 years old and I struggle with this on a daily basis. I think a lot of it has to do with school and my social life. We are forced to think about our futures whether it's to go to college, get a job, or trying to figure out what to do with our life. It is hard to focus on the moment when we have all these distractions. These distractions are not letting us live but are forcing us to make decisions we don't need to be making right now. If we give ourselves more time to figure out what we like and want to do, then I believe we are more likely to become successful, because we are confident in the decisions we make.

[@idontknow-ms8mc]

I have always been an anxious person. And I actually was thinking about this earlier today, I have a hard time staying in the present moment. When things go wrong or when the unexpected happens I either shutdown or I mentally spiral and start trying to anticipate what other things can happen or go wrong and come up with contingency plans. 😬

[@YewrinePish]

Disassociating. For me it's hypothetical like that, but more often they're invasive memories- flashbacks.

[@jessecoates1562]

You could really make that lots,lots better by going to a Cognitive Behavior Therapist. It doesn't take that long to see results.

[@TheGeekMonster]

Same. It's a defense mechanism, to try to prepare for the unknown, to anticipate every negative possible outcome, etc. I was in therapy at age 14 and was already expressing to the therapist that I had trouble being "in the moment", all I could think about was dreading the future.

[@jessecoates1562]

@@TheGeekMonster Have you found anything, either long term, (therapy, meditation, EMDR) or shorter term, (CBD oil, etc.) that helps you manage daily?

[@TheGeekMonster]

@@jessecoates1562 I went through several years of therapy as a teenager (both inpatient and outpatient) but I still struggled hugely. I did well through my college years and most of my 20's, but anxiety reared again in a big way right around the time I turned 30. I couldn't find a therapist, I didn't have anyone to guide me on *how* to find one, my PCP was no help and just wanted to medicate me. So I just struggled through it on my own, really. It was not a good time lol. But over the years I've done research on my own, and learned about CBT, mindfulness, meditation. One of the biggest tools is learning my own boundaries and abilities; what I can and can't handle, what "triggers" my anxiety, what signs to watch out for, and what I need to do to keep my mind as healthy as possible. Sometimes that requires me to do things that other people may not understand or approve of, like take a "mental health day" off of work, or politely decline social activities so I can spend time alone. Learning to deep breathe is also a life saver, it's spared me from going from anxious into panic attack territory many times. For the most part, I live a "normal" life. I just have to take good care of myself; eat healthy, exercise, sleep enough, avoid stressful/toxic people and relationships, take plenty of time to just relax and enjoy hobbies, and never try to please others if it means stressing myself out.

[@funnlivinit]

Another video on adult anxiety would be helpful. I’ve known some women, in particular, who are very anxious when it comes to social interaction. It can be paralyzing for them. Definitely talk about the differences between men and women when it comes to adult anxiety.

[@jackiepowell7513]

Often they drink as older

[@MedCircle]

This is good feedback, we will add it to our schedule!

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@jackiepowell7513 Reduce negative thoughts and reprogram the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Like me make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Never be constipated as poor gut health is linked to the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@jackiepowell7513]

@@shyaaammeneen63 I just pray. Less self absorption.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@jackiepowell7513 ​God helps those who help themselves. Do the practice daily. Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath even when walking alone, reading, before sleep etc and feeling relaxed and healthy. It is very simple but a strong desire to transform from within is needed. Stillness brings peace in the mind. Read more about positive effects of breathing on the brain on google. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.

[@leehannah561]

Wow these explains why I had so many “stomach issues” as a child and ended up being out of school so much, why I got a child colonoscopy, endoscopy, and ultra sound and the doctors found nothing so decided it was IBS, and as an adult and got on anxiety medication all the sudden my IBS went away.

[@Purpleindi]

Same!

[@vonshill]

Same here! This video made me tear up remembering it all but I think it was tears of joy knowing how far I've come. Thanks for sharing

[@TheLittleBunns]

Ive had issues with anxiety and my stomach from at least 5 years old. I'm 27 now and it's the worse it's ever been. After food poisoning a year ago I was so sick that I couldn't eat normal meals for 6 months. I still can hardly eat anything and it's been over a year. Tests just say IBS but if I had my anxiety delt with sooner I probably wouldn't have had to suffer my whole life.

[@eval4495]

Same, I had so many stomachaches when I was an elementary school student. My mom was probably fed up with me. 🙃 I told her about this video and she totally understood because I've been having anxiety problems again.

[@sodaleche]

This video made me feel so seen. It took a long while for me to realize that my issues with anxiety were present even when I was a small child. And this video helped me pinpoint even more symptoms, other than the nightmares and overall feelings, that I hadn't even attributed to anxiety (incessant stomach aches/nausea, acting out, easily distracted, eye contact, crying). A part of me wonders what exactly I can do with this information about my younger self now that I have it. I have a few ideas, but I will try to continue working on myself in the future as I still struggle with anxiety and other disorders. Thank you for making this video and for continuing to provide informative content.

[@angel_luh0]

I'm a teenager rn and I really have bad anxiety. Before when schools were still open I really have bad anxiety and stage fright, every time I get called for presentations I wanna cry and sometimes my friends tell me why my eyes were so teary every time I get called and all my classmates would notice it too. Now I've been practicing to be confident and not be afraid of making mistakes. I hated myself before and now I'm starting to change and love myself. To anyone who has anxiety don't worry you are not alone, you are special and never be afraid to make mistakes. Love yall

[@katieanne.7591]

I’m glad you’re feeling better in yourself because anxiety is horrible, it’s been difficult for myself..so I think I needed to see this 😅Thanks for sharing!

[@therealdeal3672]

When I was growing up in the 1960s and 1970s, there was no language for anxiety or panic attack disorder. I had no idea what was going on and so I kept it all within myself. It was very distressing not having any understanding of what I was really experiencing. None of my friends seemed to struggle with that. A friend's mother had observed, I found out later, in my 50s, that I was suffering as a kid. But my parents never noticed. I guess it's because the stuff causing me anxiety was happening in my home. Children who have the language to express, and parents who have the language to support, is a beautiful thing and something I wish I could have had in my young life. Talking about mindfulness and being in the moment is not helpful for a child. Because the child feels that what they're feeling in the moment, is in the moment. A child doesn't understand and can't really grasp that what they're feeling comes from imprints of fear evoking life situations. That takes perspective that only can come later.

[@3beanmachine126]

I've had anxiety as far back as I can remember. I have O.C.D. as well. One thing that can be problematic with mindfulness and self awareness is if you have health issues and health anxiety. My bodily sensations GIVE me anxiety. It's horrible. It isn't always thinking about the future which causes anxiety and can be what is happening in the moment that causes it as well.

[@fallingthroughthevoid]

SAME, it makes it so hard for me to be "in the moment" because this moment is causing me to panic. Anxiety is such a nuisance.

[@cinnabeld8284]

thank you for this!! I think this is my biggest obstacle!! I've been fighting and living with anxiety for years, also had therapy, but I'm still not a 100%

[@d3muskatears695]

My anxiety disorder is due to years of stress as a teenager ( abuse , parental domestic violence) … all the stress hormones constantly coursing through my body has made me hyper reactive and often there is disconnect between my actual situation and my body’s perception of one.

[@AnitaSperoDesign]

I'm 54 and always thought my anxiety and severe panic would go away with age. Tons of therapy of all kinds for years and here I am with the most severe forms of this. It is horrible. Sadly nobody gets it.

[@rudyleotardo8278]

As we age it grow stronger and one become fearful to the point to avoid strangers or even family :(

[@elishaautencio6517]

One minute in and its already giving me war flashbacks. I don't think I can finish this video without tearing up.

[@jumbajorge]

Wish all of this information was available when I was a kid. Glad the next generations will have so much help and support available to them and their parents. :) Great video!

[@lynnloehr1566]

In fifteen minutes this woman described my entire childhood. I really didn't realize this started so young.

[@Lemoncatsf]

As a parent of a child with an anxiety disorder this is interesting. Unfortunately too many professionals are ready to sweep children’s issues away. We went to countless therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, doctors, evaluations etc starting when he was about five to six years old. The awful school district that we were in ( SFUSD) refused to help; I cried during many SST meetings as they were useless. They always said that his learning issues weren’t severe enough. He went to so many different private and public schools and programs that I lost count. He was finally diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and ADHD at fourteen and finally was given an IEP at sixteen. Way too late. He’s twenty-five and a wonderful amazing son but still very frustrated with his life. I hope that someday as a society we will be able to help everyone who seeks help.

[@carolynperry7412]

What to you consider children I. mean what ages

[@katherine5211]

I have had a similar experience. Schools and therapist. My son finally was diagnosed after many years and had an IEP. But still it is not good enough. Schools are cookie cutters for kids. Sending you and your son good energy.

[@sriku1000]

A calming video on how bad parents are made kzbin.info/www/bejne/r4PUY6ePo9WahZI

[@eval4495]

I feel for your son. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 30s. I was very calm and quiet as a kid but I also had learning problems, inattentiveness, and other problems related to ADHD. I've also had anxiety from a young age. It's frustrating to me because it's hard to find my place in the world and there are people in my life who don't know what ADHD is like my dad. I've tried explaining it but it's hard sometimes. I'm not at all good at explaining things. But I find that it helps to look for people on KZbin who have ADHD, and what they do to make their life a little easier. There are also techniques on how to deal with anxiety which I find very helpful.

[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[@danie4819]

I grew up being told to behave and be good to my mom because she was going through a lot. As a six-year-old, I feel confused and angry at her all the time. I feel responsible for everyone's emotions as a child and adult.

[@simonssecretyoutubeaccount1508]

"You're always so calm." *me frozen with anxiety*...uh..thanks.

[@Mindy14]

I relate to this so much. I have always been an anxious person, as a child my mom always said Iwas just Shy. My biggest fear growing up and still at times, is rejection.

[@SisterMinnie]

I feel so emotional watching this. I used to wonder when did my anxiety start. I told myself it started in my teens. This video opened up my eyes. My anxiety actually started when I was 4! That's crazy! Honestly thanks for opening my eyes to this.

[@SophiiLuca]

What about growing up with social anxiety? I feel like this wasn't really included in the talk, and couldn't really relate to a lot of this because of it.

[@dk1828]

Dr Judy is so warm, caring, articulate, and a very knowledgeable professional! 🙌

[@kiragamerdiys4489]

As a person that didnt know they had anxiety I realized when i went to therapy, without a real reason i just wanted someone to talk to, and later on found out that my irritable intestine was a major symptom of such severe anxiety that my therapist was scared I’d soon fall into depression due to the amount of stress and the time (for years) I had been dealing with anxiety. It definitely never goes away but now i can eat ice cream or a slice of pizza without my body going into the most painful episode of digestion or actually any food, at some point even brócoli would make my stomach hurt. (Ps. I just hope this helps someone, this is just one way it happened to me and i had it this bad for about 5 years or more until i was finally treated but I hope i can help someone)

[@ottymatir7143]

This helped me realize my situation could be more serious than I thought. I really wanna talk to a therapist cuz I’ve been experiencing severe anxiety to the point where i can’t even get out of bed and i start spiraling in depressive episodes, feeling worthless and constantly worrying about the future. Most of the times I can’t even enjoy food cuz it will taste like cardboard and I would feel full immediately, if not that I would force myself to eat and then feel horrible after. I always feel tired and worn out and social interactions are like a burden, almost nothing brings me joy anymore.

[@cinmingrl]

Anxiety and digestion really are connected. I had severe anxiety for several years that tipped into depression. I had terrible digestive issues that I thought were unrelated, just another problem in my life. I started taking a pre-biotic to see if it made any difference. Not only did it it make a difference in my digestive woes, but I was shocked after a few months that my depression lifted and anxiety came down from a constant 8-10 to a manageable 2-4! I've been learning about and doing other mental health stuff too but the pre-biotic has been a huge part of getting better

[@debbieflaherty1975]

💁🏻‍♀️ Mission Accomplished, Miss. Kira.

[@elizabethsullivan7176]

Food has always been a major part of my anxiety. For many years I was so afraid of food that I couldn't even eat (which is why I've been anemic since the late 1980s) I would be up all night with panic attacks when I was a teen. There's something known as "Avoidance/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder" that you might want to read up on. It was the closest explanation for what I've experienced all these years.

[@bookgirlification]

It’s so nice hearing my experiences vocalized. This video should also be applied for teachers, I had so many teachers send me away to the bathroom to take care of my panic attacks by myself.

[@jerry5117]

I've been adapting Behavioral Psychology to management development and performance improvement for the last 50 years. I worked for 3 years in various psychiatric hospitals while going to school. I spent 3 years in therapy with a Psychiatrist trying to deal with anxiety and depression. Teaching and talking in front of large groups was the best therapy I had and it eliminated a lot of my anxiety through self-confidence. I loved your explanation of how anxiety develops and the role certain parental experiences play in developing anxiety. Best explanations I've ever heard and the clearest. Pschology classes are never this clear about development. You're great!

[@SarahSmiles4u]

52ys young and been peeling the onion of my childhood trauma. I am in counseling because of anxiety issues. I look forward to learning more here. It's been a real struggle.

[@knzay]

i wonder how i woulda turned out if my parents recognized my anxiety and got me professional help instead of spanking me lol

[@mikejames509]

You might have turned out to be mean like them, without learning for yourself that physical pain manifests mentally much sooner than mental pain manifests itself physically.

[@kinglas9056]

My mother just straight up hit me and then gas light me into thinking she didn't.

[@cjbrown8245]

Amen

[@taowielynne5019]

Kola Same!

[@cutecookie1111]

@@kinglas9056 same with my dad

[@loonylinda]

yep that was me..and no one did anything...no support from my parents therefore i have suffered with anxiety state and depression all my life. And the symptoms of being afraid when i was a child were real physical symptoms, but drs just said "it was nerves"...thanks doc

[@bridgette8476]

I wish I had been diagnosed as a child, they just assumed I was emotionally immature and was held back a grade for this. I was an absolute control freak and perfectionist as a kid and would panic when in my head it didnt meet where I needed or wanted everything to be. I cried a lot because of all of this because I had no other way to get those feelings out. So most adults assume its because I was a crybaby, but I was always worried about messing up or in my mind getting in trouble.

[@hopegill8408]

I had a thought or second scenario: maybe you were picking up on the anxiety of the parent that the parent learned to cope and keep hidden for so long but you projected the anxiety outward because kids don’t know how to hide and process their feelings like that yet. The you aged and it became your own, but it was always linked to the anxiety of the parent creating an atmosphere of anxiety. The parent became so used to their own anxiety that they weren’t even realizing they were secretly projecting this and then that was the environment you were formed in, got used to, and now are comfortable with.

[@vonshill]

I believe this as well. I'm a long-time anxiety sufferer I had good parents but my moms personality i believe triggered a lot of anxiety in me in the way she handled stressful situations

[@hopegill8408]

v hill 100%. I’m almost 24 and I’ve spent most of my 23rd year learning who I actually am apart from the environment I was raised in. Sometimes we think we are one way and through healing and time away from an environment that didn’t cultivate self discovery or was toxic, we can discover we are actually completely different than we thought. I thought I was a shy INFP, 9 and through healing, and breakthrough with God as well, I’m discovering I’m actually an ENFP 7, crazy!!!

[@BrandyH-eh9up]

My dad was in and out of my life and i always had to worry about it. Never realized how much that effected me in my adult life and I’m 39 now 🤦🏻‍♀️😢

[@Ivy3h]

Cw//vent Everyone around me has been nothing but lovely to me yet I still think I may have some form of anxiety. On my first day of school, I accidentally took some milk that I wasn't supposed to, and when the teacher asked who had taken it I tried to hide it behind my back and started crying because I thought I would get in trouble or be perceived badly. I always hated being the centre of attention or saying things in front of lots of people, and until I was about 13 I still cried every time a teacher raised their voice at me. Now I get incredibly anxious about a lot of situations, and my hands are constantly shaking (I went to the doctor and she said I have an essential tremor, but it gets worse when I'm anxious and that happens a lot) I don't want to self diagnose and I have no idea how I would go about getting a proper diagnosis. My parents don't want to take me to see anyone because they say it won't change anything anyway, and that the way to fix it is just to expose myself to these situations more (which isn't false). Anyway, sorry for the long vent, I hope you have a wonderful day

[@Meeeeowowow]

Anxiety was incredibly apparent in my childhood. I started puking daily from how anxious and terrified I was from being traumatized daily from 3-7. My parents ignored it, said I was too sensitive and a worry wart.

[@nagmadhingra]

I experienced this too. Feeling too afraid that I would end up puking every morning. There was at least one cleaning lady with me at all times in school. I was made fun by my classmates as my breath smelt bad from puking all the time. I couldn't ever have my lunch in school as I was too anxious. I remember putting my head down on the desk and crying. Sometimes when the cries would subside I would play with them making shapes with them.

[@flowieedenn]

as a child who grew up in a messed up family, please respect and love your children, Your child doesn't ask to be born, but parents ask to give birth to a child, don't know how many children out there are suffering because of their parents, because of the lack of attention and love from their parents. I grew up full of anxiety, trauma and PTSD, I have no place to hide and tell my stories, once I wanted to kill myself and I always asked why I was born, and all these things are so painful. I know raising a child is also not easy, but if you still have issues within yourself, or are not ready to have children, it's better to think about it first, the impact is your own child, because parents also share the same DNA with their children and all the issues and traumas that existed in their parents will also be carried over to their children from the time they are in the womb. I know I have no right to say anything here but please heal yourself first and make yourself ready and happy before having and raising a children.

[@theshimmering2064]

What a concept. Parents checking in with their children to see how their doing emotionally and mentally. For most of us Gen X and older did this ever happen? When I think back about how I was as a child with all sorts of nervous ticks and periodic outbursts that didn't line up with the good kid I normally was, how this got ignored is truly a feat. Everybody else could see it except my parents I guess. I've come a long ways, but still struggling with anxiety in late 40's after all the inner work sometimes gets me down. But like the song, I get back up again. The thing is even my closest friends can't understand why I am so anxious. They are supportive and kind, but you also kind of see this confusion going on a bit because they don't know how to help you or where it is coming from. And I feel unfixable because I don't understand it either. All that being said, I am gentler and kinder with myself these days thank God.

[@jooliagoolia9959]

Anxiety comes from shame. That understanding helped me move out of some of my anxieties.

[@ضاد-ق2ج]

Whenever I think of my childhood, I have panic attacks to the point it is affecting me that I don't want to have kids.

[@Misses-Hippy]

I chose to be child-free, and at 64, there are zero regrets. Happily, women have the choice today, well except in Texas.

[@user-qu8zs7vs1x]

if thinking of your childhood makes you have panic attacks, definitely try trauma-informed therapy and EMDR

[@ضاد-ق2ج]

@@user-qu8zs7vs1x I will look into that. Thank you for the information.

[@Misses-Hippy]

@@user-qu8zs7vs1x Thank you.

[@jessecoates1562]

@@Misses-Hippy Me, too at 56 in NYC.

[@xxvoid4]

When I was a child under 10 I used to have anxiety attacks about my households financial status, now I’m 18 and can’t get out of bed without having uncomfortable pain in my chest and have a panic disorder.

[@userm180]

im so sorry love :(((( if u wanna talk/vent im here, alright? whatever u want to talk ab.

[@xxvoid4]

@@userm180 I’m getting better, been going to meditation classes & I do yoga now. The pain is uncomfortable but I need to be uncomfortable and break this habit before I can find a new comfortable

[@userm180]

@@xxvoid4 ahhh i see i see. how about your mental health?

[@tiffany8154]

I had a lot of fears growing up as a child that I voiced to my parents but other than that I internalized my anxiety which also was panic attacks. So no one really knew and I became that shy good kid that did everything correct.

[@kristajohnson9255]

Watching this has helped me understand that my anxiety may have been around longer than I thought. I grew up in a big family of 7 with lots of noise and commotion. My parents found it hard to fill all our needs, so we all learned to self soothe. So far 3 of my sisters have been diagnosed with anxiety and I resemble a lot of the same things as they do with that anxiety. I'm not yet diagnosed, but I have plans to get that done. I have a strong feeling that I do have it since majority of my family does have it. My dad has anxiety as well as my mom. From both their anxiety it has been a learned behavior from the environment I was in as well as something that we all obtained through our experiences and maturity. I have always been someone who loves to talk, but with anxiety I'm very quiet, closed off, and stuck in my own head and world cause it felt safer. I still to this day feel that way, when I feel unsafe I close up and stop talking and go into my turtle shell. I especially lately, but even as a child would go to my room and stay there not wanting to interact with family. All the noise, commotion, and etc was overwhelming for me throughout my life. Even more so as an adult when there's too much noise my heart starts racing and I start sweating with an extreme headache. My family loves to collectively fight for attention. When the attention would be turned on me I'd close up and go quiet and try to run away, I hated attention. When people tried talking to me as a kid I would ignore them to avoid talking because I didn't wanna engage with anyone. I avoided any kind of communication and learned to self soothe and cope with being alone. I separated myself from others and have learned as an adult to be happy on my own and prefer being alone. I feel safer being by myself and less stress or anxiety. I can be in a calm quiet environment. My parents raising me always taught me that what was mine wasn't really mine (unsafe/insecure in my environment), my father was physically verbally and mentally abusive as well as narcissistic (as stated by my sisters therapists),I was raped, and all of that contributed to me feeling unsafe. The anxiety I get around my father in fear of being hurt has caused an extreme anxiety when around him. I've learned that anxiety is not as extreme when I'm on my own. I'm safe with myself rather than with others. In school I got good grades, but as the years went by I was bullied in school and felt unsafe there too with people threatening to beat me up. I grew anxious of going to school and anxiety to go home. I started lying about being sick to avoid going to school. Through all that anxiety I actually got sick and got a stomach illness caused by stress. To this day I still have it and notice it flares up bad in times of high stress and anxiety. I always had good grades until I started getting sick and bullied. Then after that my grades dropped and my confidence did too. I became VERY shut out from the world and ditched all my friends. I kept to myself and still do to this day to a point that even family gets mad at me for always being alone. They have tried making me feel bad for it and pressure me into spending time with them. I've had quite a few anxiety attacks that a few of my family members have been present for. Some of which actually have anxiety and told me it looked the same as when they had anxiety attacks. I have headaches on the daily and struggle with anxiety to a point that I feel a tightness in my chest or pain. I have major fits of shaking uncontrollably and heart racing along with nausea since it flares up my stomach illness with the anxiety. My parents always have been upset and reactive when I'm upset. Even to this day if I tell people I'm angry my family reacts like it's terrible and makes me feel bad for having this normal emotion. I've learned to cope with my feelings and not upset others but to instead cry myself to sleep. I know I won't be able to get better and be myself until I can heal. Anxiety has been around for as long as I can remember. I just want to heal and get better for once cause I'm tired of feeling this way.

[@gen3044]

I read this whole thing. I can relate to you on some but not all the things but you’re so strong and I hope the best for you and your siblings 💗💗 it’s nice knowing I’m not alone I sometimes worry about my siblings too because it’s not something we discuss often together. Only in a casual way I’ll say dads crazy or an asshole or mom is being insane today; but, never have we talked ab the real issues with them and with the whole way our family functions in general.

[@SX-sv6vo]

Prayers for you.🙏🙏🙏

[@pattoncase468]

This makes me sad. As a kid I was afraid of being sick and death (I used to not be able to fall asleep until like 2 am almost every night because I was afraid I would die during my sleep, and I was bawling most of the time). I always had social anxiety, I didn’t even form a true friendship until maybe 8th-9th grade (currently in 10th). My parents always made fun of me as a child for crying so much. As a child, what am I supposed to do? Just calmly say “I am anxious right now”? I wish I could have gotten treatment for it, because my anxiety is still so bad, and I constantly struggle with it. I have asked for therapy but when I had it for a little bit my therapist made me extremely uncomfortable and didn’t help at all (simply told me what I already knew). I don’t have the time for therapy any more because I have school going on. I hope that eventually I can get my anxiety treated, because it really, as much as I hate to say it, has not gotten much better. In some aspects yes, I’ve gotten more confident, but confidence doesn’t solve irrational anxieties and worries

[@lolaloud7082]

Wow I thought only I did that. I told my mom about it when I was 8 and she took me to see a doctor. They just said that I was just experiencing some basics stress and anxiety and then just gave me a journal to write my feelings down in. She hasn't taken me back to check up on it in 2 years. Im 11 right now and I feel much worse. I cant even talk in class and everyone makes fun of me for it. What do I do? I feel horrible.

[@krimgi6477]

I have a lot of anxiety, i always thought i did, this video confirmed it, i'm trying to be better around people, i have a really good friend who makes me comfortable, i can't wait to meet him in real life, i hope you guys can find someone that comforts you too

[@clockworkoregano]

This is really insightful. Something that came up for me though watching this is how do you define "impairment" when you ask the question "is it impairing them in daily life"? I know that is a question that comes up a lot but thats also why so many people with a variety of problems and ages go undiagnosed is because they are high functioning and its just an extra burden to try to keep up until that fails and a big blow out happens. But being a high performer, people don't notice until a blow out happens and then its seen as momentary when it probably took a lot to get to that point. I guess just for me, I have had my problems since childhood, into adulthood but only now as an adult have been able to star the process of getting a diagnosis. This video is helpful to me for reflecting but, especially if its rooting from caregiver problems there's no one who will really look deeper for that child, let alone how easy to overlook it is for full grown adults when the indication is "impairment" so thats my point of question.

[@Indijana]

Well said. I was about 27 when I was diagnosed and even during that process it was difficult to explain my symptoms of depression because I only knew what the non-functioning one looked like, and here I was still going to school, hanging out with friends etc. Turns out, my fear of failure which comes form my avoidant personality drives me to do things i believe other people, authority, wants me to do... despite my anxiety and depression. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Even now, it's difficult to realise I'm in a depressive state because I'm high-functioning and I don't realise until I'm in deep and really spiralling. I believe a better word to use is whether they feel "uncomfortable" or something alone those lines. It's easier to discuss and more quantifiable. I don't know, just a thought.

[@killuazoldyck7431]

Everytime I watch a video from MedCircle, I cry from being overwhelmed. I feel like my feelings are validated.

[@venusvisions]

halfway through i just started crying while watching because this hits so deep. i wish i had someone who cared enough to look into all the same behaviors i expressed as a child and teen in the video and took the time to understand and consider that i probably needed help. i just think about if it was treated early on or if i just got the proper care it wouldn't be as bad as it became now as an adult. sigh. so much fucking neglect and dismissal of feelings i can recall as like a damn 8 year old

[@lunae12]

Me too I was crying badly halfway watching it. I avoided my own feelings growing up and most of the time disregarded too and now I’m having a hard time handling my own emotions and anxiety, it’s just so exhausting.

[@venusvisions]

@@lunae12 I feel you love. I’m sorry.

[@CassperTHEGHOST]

Asking very specific questions is very important because I’m 25 and still never find the words to explain myself when I’m upset or anxious about something

[@Cat-xv5bn]

At 67 I have General Anxiety Disorder. I cannot remember any time I wasn't anxious as a child. Look back and know I didn't have a bad terrible childhood, but did experience sexual abuse. Then I started cutting which turned into picking, which continues to this day.

[@hellogorgeous3194]

I am so sorry that happened to you I hope that you're getting some type of therapy and no it was not your fault

[@destinypalin5657]

I agree with this I had anxiety as a child and it grew into my adulthood and sending my love to everyone in the comments 💙

[@jestronixhanderson9898]

45 and had anxiety entire life, weeks of confidence and then wake up with anxiety independent of any life events. Wonderful childhood as well, parents both have anxiety and grandparents both sides. Medication is horrible, much rather the anxiety mix than no anxiety, feels foreign when it’s not there.

[@rosao1056]

I remember when I was 9 yrs old and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, my dad told the psychiatrist that I was a kid and there was no reason for me to be depressed. That stuck with me and I feel guilty for being depressed and anxious for no reason other than the chemical imbalances. I’m 25 and doing a lot better, I got myself help medicated for a while and am trying my best everyday.

[@luccent1592]

i honestly am struggling so much with anxiety right now. it has even come to a point where i have decided that im not going to do a presentation for a specific subject in my course. But im trying my best to work up the courage to ask my parents if i can start going to therapy, just sitting here typing this made me burst into tears. Watching this video and reading the comments really feels like the first step to a better life.

[@AnuskaZm]

You know? Even allowing yourself to burst into tears does help. When we have anxiety, so many emotions are bottled up and add to the tension we constantly feel. It feels extremely uncomfortable in the moment, but having a good cry helps us release all those emotions and allows us to feel calmer. I would encourage you to do that presentation - if it's not too late for that! But this also applies to similar situations in the future. These struggles you're facing are an opportunity for you to confront those feelings that make you think you are incapable. Once you realise it's anxiety making you feel that doing things imperfectly is a catastrophe, then you can get a better perspective of your problems and take the right steps to solve them. Progress is a process, and you are on the right track!! If you choose not to do a presentation/project/assignment/whatever because, instead, you want to focus on your health, that's fine, too. In my personal experience, I have learned that health should always be our #1 priority and everything else comes second, even our studies or our jobs. I am glad you want to talk to your parents about this. I really hope you get the help you need!!

[@lizlovestruecrime983]

Also, self help groups and spirituality are great. I am in AA for my recovery from alcoholism. It has helped me so much with my anxiety. It has become so much more manageable. I have a higher power so I know as long as I do the next right thing, things will work out the way they are supposed to, but not necessarily how I want them to. It brings me a lot of peace!

[@saossurvive]

My anxiety was intense from 1st grade on... I never knew what was wrong with me, but man it was torturous as a kid to have consistent panic attacks and get no help from adults as I literally cried for it. I understand now that they didn't get it either, but I'm very hopeful I can help my future children if they develop this same disorder. My doctor told me mine was genetic so I'm fearful they'll feel the same way I did.

[@hellogorgeous3194]

I think my child will because she is already shy just like I was and gets very nervous

[@saossurvive]

@@hellogorgeous3194 I hope your kid grows out of it! At least you'll know how to help though!

[@sandysmom100]

Me too .

[@mya6506]

What helps, I think my nephew (5 yrs old) is going thru this in school

[@itsanalias969]

I had so much anxiety as a child that I ended up going into psychology. My mom was sick and bedridden when I was 7, then again a few years later, then again until she passed on. There was also a family predator and I hid every day at school and didn't go home until there were safe adults around. As they talked about here, I had that ability to see into the future - what's going to happen if my mom dies, what will this bad man do to me if I go home, etc. There was no therapy, so music became my saving grace and it's actually a thing as it turns out - music psychology. Nipping anxiety in the bud for a child is extremely important to his/her well-being as an adult. Neurosis is a real thing and learning coping mechanisms and practices young is much easier than learning them later in life. Feeding children nutritional food protects their bodies, but their minds are just as important to safeguard. The key is to watch your kids, notice new behaviors, phobias, isolation, etc., and talk, talk, talk!

[@pantherinae_art]

This is very interesting. I'm 37, and I've had depression and anxiety as long as I can remember, but only diagnosed with anything when I was 19. I remember a teacher at school when I was about 7 telling my mum I was a "worry wart" and I would stress about everything. I was just thought of as being someone who worried a lot, not someone who was anxious. As a child, how was I supposed to know that anxiety is even a thing?! It could be so debilitating, I mean it still is, but at least I know what it is now!

[@ethereallioness]

It wasn't your responsibility to know what it was as a child

[@jacquidoucet8308]

I grew up with horrible anxiety. It was the 70s. No one knew all these things so I just suffered. I'm so happy parents are aware of this now and kids can get help and not go through what I did.

[@kelseymariel2127]

Same! My mother who suffered from it too made it worse by telling me I was being selfish by not appreciating everything I had in life. Very hard. I learned to hide my emotions.

[@Emily-wq4dn]

So much of this makes me think of my younger self. I can remember experiencing so much of what was discussed, but I was always the kind of kid to hide all of it away. I was never a cryer or one to complain about my symptoms. Even as I got older, my anxiety didn’t manifest in a way that negatively affected thing like my grades, it often did the opposite and made me unsatisfied without anything besides perfection. I wish I would’ve been sent to see a psychologist earlier than I was, but I can also see how, from an outside perspective, it would’ve been hard to know that’s what I needed.

[@yeruchii7817]

This.

[@eternity449]

5:00 "I'm upset that I'm upset and can't do the things I have to do" resonated with me so much

[@Amanda1304pol]

I know I've had anxiety since really early on. But this is so spot on for how I behaved as a child in school and at home. Everything was just so overwhelming. I would cry very easily. Here most adults would think that I was just crying for attention. I was a pretty spoiled only child after all, but I HATED attention. I actually saw a professional when I was about 8 years old on my teachers recommendation but I just thought it was because I was bad at multiples in math (lol). The problem was, I would go to see her during school hours, and because I was afraid of being different or out of line, I stopped seeing her when I got to make the decision to stop or continue after a few meetings. I haven't seen a professional since then. Anxiety continued to be pretty bad in my teens but I would say I'm somewhat functional now.

[@leahtheanimationfan40]

"Anxiety only can occur because we have the ability to think about the future." is one of the truest things I've ever heard

[@jerrymartinez6700]

I've been screwed up all my life cause of traumas put upon me since I was very young

[@Bubbyzmom]

I can remember as far as 3rd grade when I started to have anxiety. My parents didn't know. I didn't know the word until I was 24. I'm 40 now and still suffering but I've learned to cope with the problem better than I did when I was younger. I wish we had this information back in the day.

[@aestheticgcddess]

I couldn’t relate to the majority until 10:01 when she says that another form of having anxiety is crying very often because of a pin drop is the deal breaker for me. I definitely cry a lot due to how stressed out and/or uncomfortable I am because of too many things happening at once when I’m trying to focus on one thing at a time. It doesn’t make a difference when the person is calmly talking to me or they’re shouting at me or when no one is around I will burst into tears because I feel overwhelmed by the situation whatever it may be that causes me to make me be extremely anxious.

[@luisamilleneinciong3858]

🫂 and I thought because I am just a crybaby, i really thankful