i left my family, not for religious purposes but because of severe abuse i was put through, it’s been a year now and yes the night i left my mom started throwing my stuff away but my little brother hid everything important for me, he’s the only person i still speak to. just thought that part was relatable lol
@elsisjssosigma8 ай бұрын
im glad u still kept that relationship w ur brother and still talk to him, but im so sorry about all the other parts
@estrellassoliloquies10 ай бұрын
I feel a knot in my throat everytime I try to express myself in front of them, this is so scary but so empowering!!
@zahraashamseddine10 ай бұрын
A message to all Muslim parents yall shouldn’t force anything on your kids especially in the west instead make them fall in love with islam teach them why we do certain things with love dont be too extra or youll simply make them feel like they’re in prison which is the complete opposite of islam ❤ cause as we know الدين يسر و ليس عسر
@mirandadavis547210 ай бұрын
real
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@sinderbells10 ай бұрын
LITERALLY! cannot emphasize this enough
@themeowparlour10 ай бұрын
Sometimes, for some of us, we need to experience mistakes in order to learn.
@tracymay670210 ай бұрын
brainwashing 101
@k8tiebee10 ай бұрын
Girl, I'm in my 30's and this story was inspiring! I loved it, thank you for sharing!
@rue259910 ай бұрын
I don't know if it's appropriate to say this because I am Southern African, but I relate to her story so much and seeing how she's made it out of her prison motivates to keep on working towards escaping mine. Being dependent on my mom is literally detrimental to my future. She won't let me study but prioritises me doing chores over my schoolwork. She has never sent me to school since I was 4. I've been home schooled my entire life basically, with no teachers. I have always had to teach myself, raise myself, and take care of myself since I was just five. She's perfectly comfortable seeing me make no academic progress whatsoever, and I feel like she's always been sabotaging me because every time I want to do something academic, she holds me back e.g. not buying textbooks for me at all. She does not let me out of the house except for once or twice a month for grocery shopping. I just want to be free from her already. When I leave, I'm never coming back.
@orangetrees16710 ай бұрын
So so sorry to hear that. Sending you so much strength. You will make it out and your future is so bright. Hang in there.
@afanxyfox10 ай бұрын
Omg that Sounds so awful!!I hope you find freedom some day, i know sometimes everything is too much but always remember that in the future there is a way for you to escape,you just have to be patient. Also idk how it is in your country, every child has to go to school and cant be lock up in mine
@zainabalhassan140410 ай бұрын
Hey hun I hope u r ok. I’m sorry to say ur story is so different to all those girls commenting l. You are being mentally abused and locked up, I hope things work out for you please take care of ur self and find a way out of this abusive household. You deserve a good education and to simply live life.
@chosengloria20089 ай бұрын
Hi rue I hope you're still doing well. Thank goodness you atleast can teach yourself through youtube and your drive to get where you want will get your there ♡
@ummesawdah9 ай бұрын
That's not even islam though.. islam prioritieses education and self empowerment. I think your lazy mother just feels you're a extension of her and is just controlling you, and that's very toxic. God created us a free beings. I pray your situation improves insha'Allah
@MrRafolin110 ай бұрын
Im also an afghan girl, and i had the same situation growing up but maybe a little less strict. Looking back im actually glad that my parents were sometimes strict but just wish they would give me more guidance instead of simply restrict something. Im not for the promiscuous life and will never root for a girl or boy to ever live a life like that. I do feel for families that end up being torn apart bc some boys and girls do wanne live like that, which is so sad bc a mentally healthy person would never go down that path. I hope and wish that there will be more understanding between afghan parents and their children, so they can make them conscious individuals. Wish you the best Mina🙏🏻🌹
@mboko795510 ай бұрын
Same here 💯
@szr03026 ай бұрын
Agreed!
@BleedingxRainbow6 ай бұрын
These types of stories make me appreciate my cool mom even more.
@OliviaPrince-mu3yg5 ай бұрын
Same
@Chimchim-y3i7 ай бұрын
The definition of throw anything at me & I’ll rise like a Phoenix. Truly motivating. 👏
@TheMusiclover07778 ай бұрын
I cannot believe they would throw out your personal belongings. You are a strong woman.
@lisatotaram858410 ай бұрын
I felt this whole story time coming from a strict Hindu household with 2 brothers who played “dad” everywhere I went. 😤 But keep shining bright girl!
@beemodh7 ай бұрын
REAL
@a1vi310 ай бұрын
from a bengali girl who’s parents are Muslim and strict, this video felt like a big hug from an older sister.
@janemarie858910 ай бұрын
You know, I wasted my time replying to the comment who replied to you when I should have been replying to you… honestly girl live your life, do what makes YOU happy. And don’t let anyone force religion or anything down your throat. What you choose to believe is YOUR choice! ❤️
@n.k.759610 ай бұрын
Don’t forget your akhirah sister, this world is just an illusion
@urmom-hs4uy10 ай бұрын
exactly @L7a_Xx
@afanxyfox10 ай бұрын
@L7a_Xxlet people decide their own future,not everyone has to have the Religion in which they were born in.People and their believes can change
@urmom-hs4uy10 ай бұрын
fr even bring up the idea of being righteous and having self control and people will say your forcing it down there throat and oppresing people
@NoaTakhel10 ай бұрын
Girl I rarely ever comment on KZbin but you girl are a GRINDER. I am so proud of you and how you took everything you went through head on and came out the other end. I really believe you're going to be a huge star... just a gut feeling :)
@Anniyahhhhhh10 ай бұрын
Girlyyy we all make mistakes but it’s good you stayed strong and realised your parents emotions, just wanted to say your makeup is absolutely gorgeous oh myyyy 🫶🏼
@khadijjjj10 ай бұрын
i feel you. my parents are so strict and i needed this form someone.
@hibbahmalik347311 ай бұрын
I am so sorry your parents treated you that way. In Islam, there is no compulsion in religion(2:256). I know our cultures can be so abus1ve. I pray Allah heals and makes you more successful. My parents are super abus1ve but I learned it was culture and not the faith. I left Islam and came back. Stay strong 💗
@minaamouse233711 ай бұрын
We are on good terms now! Thankyou for the support ❤
@H..90810 ай бұрын
Genuine question, what made you wanna leave Islam when you say you know it’s culture. No hate😊
@minaamouse233710 ай бұрын
ive never said i left@@H..908
@H..90810 ай бұрын
@@minaamouse2337 noooo it was meant for the other girl but after rereading her comment I see she came back sorry😭😭
@hibbahmalik347310 ай бұрын
@@H..908 My parents were really misogynstic and abusive. I thought Islam allowed this because I was a woman but it was from culture.Islam NEVER allows oppression towards animal or human. It is a major sin to oppress a person. It took me a long time to find my faith back. Alhamdullilah Allah guided me.
@xyg278810 ай бұрын
this story was hitting home for me with the way my parents and family are. Thank you for telling your story.
@araverse10 ай бұрын
Wow this story was incredible. You have it in you to make it big.
@rolae.384811 ай бұрын
Man this brings me back to my story about 6 years ago, where literally the same thing of strict parents in terms of going out/friends/boys… so many story times… I convinced them that Ottawa is the school I NEED to go to even though the closer ones in the GTA were fine. I ended up moving to Ottawa and still had to deal with some things but I’m so glad I forced my move. I’ve reconnected with my parents after I moved back to the GTA and got married. I wouldn’t change anything as it really pushed me to be independent, live on my own and on my own terms and now I’m a successful person striving and happy. Covid was a dark time as well because I moved back in with my parents for a short while but man it’s crazy to see how I went from hating them to 6 years later, we have a decent relationship and actually make plans to hang out!! Thanks for sharing this! So much of this is buried for me cuz it’s so much to unpack, but seeing you talk about it makes me feel like I wasn’t going crazy. Wishing you more success and happiness and you got this!! ❤
@salmabegum2110 ай бұрын
Mina I have a lot of love for you because you’re intelligent, so brave and beautiful. . I see it wasn’t just about being western or fitting in it was about taking ownership of your own life which I can relate to, us ethnic girls born to immigrant families deal fight for that our whole life and you’re still in the process of finding yourself and growing. I would advice you as woman to woman please seek out therapy / counselling particularly somatic counselling. That will be the ultimate investment you make for yourself along with everything else you’re doing. Once you’re ready seek out coaching from women who are spiritual (I’m not saying religious) who are few steps ahead of where you want to be in terms of your healing. My intuition tells me you’ll be very successful and achieve your dreams. . But you can’t do it all alone, that’s why seek a mentor / therapist / coach when you’re ready. ❤
@emmajuuu123310 ай бұрын
Honestly, I can relate to this but cannot either. My sister had done the same many years ago, she ran away from home and stopped communicating with us for like like 5 years. My parents wanted to force her into marrying one of my cousins, and she obviously didn't want that to happen. Even when she was 15, they wanted to push her into child marriage and luckily again they didn't. For all those years she was scared that at any moment they would marry her off and that's why she mainly left. She also felt remorse towards my parents for always being so strict and just pushing Islam onto her (we are 4 girls including me). She was never allowed to go out and always felt left out, while everyone out there had fun going out and whatever else. She wanted that freedom as well but my parents just never understood and would say, "It's for your own protection". However, she would ask to go to our neighbour (it was a single mum and her 2 daughters) and my parents would say no. They only ever wanted her to study and nothing more, as they would always compare us (still do) and make us feel like we're nothing compared to other kids. Now she's 26, living much better (still got trauma but living off better), she sometimes comes and sees us and she doesn't mind but she hates coming back because my mum always tries to make her feel guilty. I'm 16, and nothing has really changed since and I've been thinking of leaving for so long because of them. They're just really toxic, all they want is for you to study and do nothing else. I've literally attempted so many times to kms but I've still held back. This really isn't about religion, because when I do leave my parents I'm still planning on wearing the hijab and praying daily. It's about being treated in a very unethical way. I want to have some freedom and power over my life and I don't want them to have any say in this. Islam is a very beautiful religion but being brought up in a toxic environment makes you want to leave it. No parents should push you into anything, they should teach you to love Islam in a soft way, without forcing it onto you. Like not allowing your children to go out, isn't part of islam. I understand that they want to protect us etc... And I most definetely undestand not them wanting to let us go out at night. Which, I understand but there's no where it says you cannot go out in the day to just have some fun. I literally feel bad because whenever my friends ask me to go out, I just say "no" because I know my parents won't allow me either way. It's sad for myself to say I'm going to leave my family, but it's for the best. I don't encourage it, but sometimes this environment will really push you to death. If this is your last resort do whatever you can to take it. It's for your own good, yes you may feel selfish but if it's the only way to save yourself you have to do what you can. You're important as well!
@Heartsfromlu9 ай бұрын
Omg, she's so strong.I hope you can be safe too.Keep up your strength girl!And if you ever need, just know a stranger on the internet is here for you :)
@daniellaezemadu339 ай бұрын
im so sorry you went through this, keep pushing through it. It will get better
@BlueOcean-c2y9 ай бұрын
I don't know from which country you belongs but can you help me in a matter my daughter is 14 years old she don't want to go school every morning its a hard task to wake her up and help her to get ready and send her to school she mostly wants to skip school and last year she had so many leaves from school i got a letter from school to send her everyday and she doesn't wear scarf i didn't force her i left this up to her choice she doesn't do study at all at home she have her own cell phone and she plays games all day i don't force her for study just say her to plz do your home work on time but she doesn't do that even know from morning she is in her room she isn't coming downstairs i call her but she ignored and after dinner she will use her ph again and then she will sleep she doesn't even clean her room everything i do for her and family and i want to tell you that she says i am strict mom she became very rude to me am i still a strict mom plz help what more i should do to be a good mom i always be worried about her behaviour i always feel worried about her future when she will grow up what she will do how she will manage her life her expenses everything because we will not alive to support her you know sometimes i couldn't sleep because of these thoughts but i can't ask anybody
@emmajuuu12339 ай бұрын
@@BlueOcean-c2y Very sorry to hear that, I'm sure as a mum you are trying your hardest for your family and providing your daughter with the best. I think you should genuinely sit her down and have a conversation with her. I know for sure during this time teenagers are usually just very rebellious and do not want to listen to anyone. Might take her a bit of time to get out of that habit, it's a bit like a phase. However, I do think there needs to be a balance, as much as parents shouldn't be too strict with their children. I do think you should put reasonable boundaries, to make her understand that she cannot just do what she wants. If she doesn't want to speak with you, maybe try to consult her school to know how she is doing and if everything ok. Sometimes behaviours like this may just be derivred from school and the environment. Just when you speak to her, listen to her problems and then maybe think of a solution and ask her what how she'd like you to support her. Just be very supportive and I'm sure you already are! I know parenting is very hard, I try not to give my parents a hard time even though, I'm not treated right most of the time. Maybe also consider introducing her to like activities and hobbies; to get her off phone. Decreasing her screen time that way too. Homework, maybe try to take her phone away for that matter (sit her down for like 1-2hr with breaks in between) and then at the end when she has completed all of it you give it back to her.
@daniellaezemadu339 ай бұрын
@user-xw4fu6lt7v Things must be hard for you. I say talk to her make sure everything is fine. Ask her what wrong and why what she is going through sit down with her be there for her because that's when she needs someone the most. And if its school the problem ask her if someone is treating her bad or bullying her at school. Maybe also consider the option of changing school maybe the current school she attends is a very toxic environment for her. Ask her what are her hobbies and sports or activities she likes to get her to be social and stop being constantly on her phone. And make sure u give her liberty to go out with her friends and hang out with her friends being strict is to protect but sometimes it may stop the child from experience that may benefit them. Let her know that u are there for her and u love her and u she can talk to u with no judgement.
@soofu7 ай бұрын
The struggle you went through financially and jumping from couch to couch literally just happened to me last month especially with my parents disowning me for religious reasons (Christian cult sect) and it was so hard I was so mad I would cry from anger and cry from missing them so much. I know how you were feeling I’m so sorry you experienced this too 😢 no child deserves this
@alina984310 ай бұрын
damn feeling so seen and valid from your videos and so proud of you for where you are rn bc ik that was in no way easy ur stronggg girlie
@Olaaaaa109 ай бұрын
That was so heavy. You are brilliant,an inspiration,amazing and a success story. Even as a stranger, I am so proud of you and I wish you all the very best in life.💗
@AF-ho6nh10 ай бұрын
Please do a story time on how you reconciled with your parents
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@cerisania9 ай бұрын
i swear we are like sisters in a different cultures. cause i have a grudge with the my older brother- we just don’t get along, even if i act nice, he still a bitch to me. and i always try to support him and then he would never support me, so we didn’t have a good relationship. i also have 3 brothers. my little brother was the one who actually believed in me. but like both my parents were guilt tripping everything i do. i also have no idea what i want to do with my life, but just to escape home. turns out my dads a narcissist and my mom I don’t even know. It’s a living hell for me to live w my parents. currently 17 yrs old. so happy that u are sharing this story, so proud of you tho! 💕
@y.mma096 ай бұрын
I feel sorry for every child that had to live/still lives with parents like hers
@Mannequinned10 ай бұрын
Shoutout to that little brother! I'm glad you had someone there for you :)
@Morrocanprincess10 ай бұрын
You will literally succeed! Sometimes time away from a toxic situation is much needed. Your cat is super cute by the way with the little angry face aweeeeee 🤗🤗
@sarabintfaiz176310 ай бұрын
Omg mina, wow. I love how you are just your own individual and fight for your rights, i wish to be you someday!
@dyalaalabdallah68554 ай бұрын
What a toxic parents I’m so sorry you have been through all of that shit so grateful you’re okay now! ❤❤
@Itsmiyahhsworldd11 ай бұрын
I am hijabi and everything but I want you to know that I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself! I love you so much Mina ❤
@wifaqal-hdabi856110 ай бұрын
what????? Are you dumb???
@BobbiSmithinwuss8 ай бұрын
im thankful as a muslim, that my parents didn't force islam on me, yes i was born into it and taught that way, but not in a super strict way. I was taught Islam in such a beautiful way that i genuinely accepted the religion and followed it with my own free will. My parents told me that their job as parents was to teach me about god/Allah and Islam principles, not Force it. And they told me that it's HARAM, to force someone into a religion or the hijab, and stuff like that, even with your own kids. All parents should teach their way of life to their kids and stuff, but at the end of the day its their decision how they live their life.
@RA-wp6th7 ай бұрын
growing up with strict parents, i can relate so much
@Pabloescobar0211 ай бұрын
This is too relatable 😭 like my parents aren’t abusive but they never let me go anywhere and do anything with friends (I wasn’t even allowed to go to bday parties as a kid) but it’s so hard to leave them
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@Candycloud_1910 ай бұрын
Same I’m currently almost 20 and still live with my parents. I basically have 0 social life outside of college. It’s so depressing idk what to do
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
go get closer to ur lord thick girl @@Candycloud_19
@mahaa358110 ай бұрын
Please leave. :)) you’ll feel soo much better! As soon as you get the chance to move out, please move!
@mondrella62710 ай бұрын
@@mahaa3581bruh worst advice ever. You do realise your trying to ruin a kids bond with their family? Whats wrong with being strict, not letting her go outside if because they care abt her. The outside world has become crazy with all the monsters in it. Maybe there a little overprotective but no way thats a reason to cut your own parents off.
@I_talk_ALOT-lmA08 ай бұрын
Your amazing and so brave for standing up for ur parents And Ik u will achieve amazing things one day because Ik the ur brave and strong energy u will be AMAZING LOVE U GIRLY ❤️
@k.k.nonchalant10 ай бұрын
I'm literally rooting for you! I'm so happy for you, I can't wait for you to grow and see where the journey takes you. Stay safe and have fun bby girl!
@qquietskies10 ай бұрын
im bengali and have extremely strict muslim parents, and i relate to this video sm bc i feel like my parents are weighing me down so much and i cant freely say whats on my mind or else ill feel bad when they start crying or think im not gonna be like them. im trying my best but they expect so much more from me because i'm the first child that was born in the us from family back home, and they keep telling me not to go astray from islam, etc. but i wont leave islam and im confident in that since im trying really hard, but they restrict me from many other things just because of the religion and everything, such as simple makeup bc i just wanna feel a bit prettier, but they dont understand and my mom immediately gets sad and it makes me so so so guilty that it eats me alive when i cant say something that i wanna do about anything and they react in such a way. im really happy that i can relate to u, mina! yr js like a big sister! may allah bless u 💗
@fiddah6 ай бұрын
do you say to a thief “steal if that’s what makes you happy?” Animals don’t wear clothes. Humans need clothes. It’s good to dress modestly. It’s for our own good. الحَمدُ لله . Do read the Qur’an 🌹 . ALLAH CREATED us. ALLAH KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR us. ALLAH DOESN’T NEED us. We need to obey ALLAH. Do you know what is THE TRUE PURPOSE OF LIFE? We didn’t create ourselves. ALLAH ALONE CREATED us. We should be GRATEFUL TO ALLAH. We should OBEY ALLAH. A person who disobeys ALLAH, is MISERABLE. A PERSON WHO OBEYS ALLAH FEELS HAPPY. الحَمدُ لله .
@azu802210 ай бұрын
im 18 and ive been thinking of leaving so much recently, my parents and sisters have been restricting me so much like i can never go out and do anything. my dad has always said if i ever leave then im no longer his daughter and i wont ever be allowed back into their lives, but its so restricting and suffocating living here when they literally track every single thing i do. still dont know if im gonna leave i think the guilt and the religious pov is whats really making me stay otherwise id feel so much guilt and fear once i go.
@H..90810 ай бұрын
Salam alaikom sister😊. If you don’t mind I’ll advise you. Be your own reason to stay, do your research on Islam and the subjects that interest you as a person and get into the narrations and perspectives. This way when your family tries to force you (which is very much haram and the wrong way to go about it) your soul and heart will know what you’re doing it for. Not because they say so, but because of your own love and faith. May Allah bless and guide you❤
@azu802210 ай бұрын
@@H..908ty for ur advice i appreciate having someone taking the time to reply😭 honestly ive grown up with religion and i do believe in islam, but growing up it always felt shoved onto me by my parents. inshallah i take the time to grow and learn more about my religion at my own pace. ill still consider leaving cause living here feels suffocating and extremely sheltered but i will definitely take ur advice so thank you habibti🤍
@H..90810 ай бұрын
@@azu8022 you’re so welcome love🥰 I feel you. I’ve felt some of those feelings as well but it’s gone better alhamdulillah. It will for you too InshaAllah. Know Allah and the ummah and the profet loves you🥰 and I hopenthings get better and you get to see the difference between culture and Islam❤️
@raheekahmed-e8l10 ай бұрын
i wasnt going to reply but i relate to this and wanted to reach out due to your response to the other comment replying to you ik u need some feedback. i went thru the double life thing and now im 16 and j stuck at home all day, got moved to online school and over all just feel trapped but what i learned from the past 2 years for me is to just stay in your own lane, keep things to yourself more, talk to ur family but keep ur distance as well, avoid thinking of them and their ways, feed ur faith let it grow quietly, become more independent, trust yourself and god only and dont let the built up anger and hate towards your family be the reason you leave and force your life to become harder because the world is a hateful and dangerous place. ik im young and dont know much but ik enough to try to help you. ik it can be irritating when u talk or try to reach out for help and the only response u hear is "pray this, pray that" you are allowed to feel a certain way and praying is something that will find its way to u and will heal u once u come to terms with it. anger is a strong emotion that leads to outcomes that arent fixable, dont let it get it your way. muslim parents tend to say some of the hardest thing that are so hard to forget but remember at the end of the day, they are hurting themselves. you will grow to become the greatest version of yourself, inshallah you find ur inner peace and ur true happiness.
@sistersgames264910 ай бұрын
You are making the right decision don't leave your family, they love you and are working hard for you and doing all that for your benefit 💜
@talia42057 ай бұрын
So happy that you talk about this important topic
@clari88210 ай бұрын
From another culture and hearing how these men terrorize women in your culture is just beyond. I have nonwords. Like an adult woman having to hide from an uncle in a closet is not acceptable. I am so proud of you for leaving and i am so glad you are alive. Just know so many people are rooting for you. Cruelty, control, coercion, and threats of adults is never ok anywhere.
@clari88210 ай бұрын
@L7a_Xx most people leave after converting and this is not ok. Everyone has a right to autonomy and consent to choose their own path. It legally codified in laws.
@allieeeekatt8 ай бұрын
crazy how this is similar to my family story minus the religion factor . i’m so proud of you girl !!!!! you abundant on your own that’s beautiful and your ability to stand up for your independence is inspiring 🤍🤍🙏🏽🧘🏽♀️✨
@zenaguimeliza350210 ай бұрын
My father is not a bad person. He is controlling too but gives me a lot of space and privacy. I'd say I'm the one who has always put boundaries and eventually became distant from him. Whenever I had a problem at school, I kept it to myself cause dad at the time had 2 jobs and was barely home. Whenever I did something wrong, he used to hit me because that's how he was raised and that's how he wanted to raise us. Even that didn't annoy me as much as the fact that he called mum names and yelled at her a lot over the years. I've always felt stuck between them, she'd always say horrible things about him and he'd always treat her in a bad manner. All of it affects me a lot, I have that gut feeling you spoke about. I believe that if I get a chance to move out, I'd discover many things about myself and heal many wounds my life with my parents left me with. I wish I can find my own freedom and peace of mind one day...
@miak40069 ай бұрын
Hey umm your dad calling your mom NAMES is definitely unacceptable and he is bad for doing that. Dont excuse that even if you have empathy for him. Husbands should RESPECT their wives and treat them well, like a treasure! Depends on how the voice is raised and how he talks to her and which things are said, and whether she can raise her voice back at him?
@janathaider527310 ай бұрын
Finna watched this instead of studying for my exam cuz I needed to hear this shit. Seeing u thrive makes me wanna move out too, especially since I’m livin the life u was livin. The sneaky, double life. Can’t do it no more, it’s takin a toll on my mental health.
@sky-wq7th10 ай бұрын
That isn't "cool" bro. You're deceiving no one but yourself
@janathaider527310 ай бұрын
@@sky-wq7th u call it deceiving, I call it escaping. And dw, I’m good at school💪🏽
@janathaider527310 ай бұрын
@@thatgorl24 no ofc not! I know what’s right and what’s wrong. I’m talking about escaping the constant pressure that ur parents bring when holding u back to even do the simplest of things. Like going to ur friends house to study, or go to an amusement park with ur cousins. That restriction is what we r escaping. Not Allah’s mercy, never. I hope that helps explain, cuz no where in the Quran says I cannot do that. It’s the cultural aspects our parents carry. U dig?
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x@@sky-wq7th
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@humeraanwar483510 ай бұрын
I feel like sometimes we forget that it is also our parents first time going through life , I am sure you all have your regrets . I am glad you guys reunited., You were young and they might have gone hard on you . I am sure their intentions were pure , I hope you guys have a good relationship after parting ways for years ❤
@milkhomie458210 ай бұрын
Hmmm I disagree
@lensbygajoo7 ай бұрын
gurll u got guts !! ur so brave for doing something like this.
@stacyxiong493110 ай бұрын
This is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story with us and I hope you continue to thrive and grow!
@hasnaelmi306910 ай бұрын
Love ur account can totally relate girl , live your best life don’t let anyone stop your happiness what is for you will find you . Sometimes family ain’t shit ! I’m right in your position and was able to get my own place too starting an Airbnb business. Life is so short don’t let anyone bring your self esteem down ! Subscribed ! You’re a great story teller 💗
@azu802210 ай бұрын
omg im literally planning on starting an air bnb business too! currently tryna work as much as possible to save up and hopefully my business is successful so i can force my move😭😭
@sabahetful10 ай бұрын
it's just amazing how casually you're talking about this.
@Tiaa4710 ай бұрын
i live the same story but the thing is i can't move away cuz I'm in an Arabic Muslim country. i just hope that next year i go to another country for college. I'm so proud of you that video was Inspiring
@anisa22736 ай бұрын
surprisingly a more nuanced and positive perspective than i expected. im glad your in better terms now and that you know that islam isn't the problem and didn't leave it
@Parilaan9 ай бұрын
I mean I understand her point of view but I fr feel so bad for her father he actually wanted her to have a best and clean life he would pay for her college get her home safe and get her things whatever she wanted he was also a immigrant to Canada, which means he had to work more then 1 jobs to support his family she said she was depressed and imagine how her dad was depressed and her dad friends and family members might be throwing shames and talking crap about like oh his daughter did this and that like every afghan people does, and to the fact you posting about everything makes the situation even worse for him. He might feel like he failed as a father. 😢
@nufailanoon9 ай бұрын
I know right! He is clearly not a bad person, I dont remember him harming her or something. He is just a heartbroken father
@coffeearithmetic5 ай бұрын
Yes but he was most likely doing it from a misogynistic, dangerous perspective! Same as her older brother. Bet the dad wasn't running around being that strict on the older brother, who as Mina says in the video, was out here talking to girls, going to parties, acting a fool. The audacity of the older brother to snitch and scream at her, is evidence of hatred and control! And ultimately, no matter what your child does, you literally brought them into this world. Your job is to protect and love them - not throw them into the streets when they start behaving differently. If she harmed or killed someone, that's worthy of disowning. But geeee, the girl wasn't doing anything inherently WRONG. So to completely disown your own child like that is surely the biggest sin here and for that he will face karma.
@juliakatherinexx10 ай бұрын
Im not muslim, but my situation is like the exact same. My parents are super strict christians, i grew up in a cult, i wasnt allowed to do anything, ive done online/homeschool my entire life, i was not allowed to wear pants or shorts growing up. Only long skirts and long sleeves. And when i reached middle school thats when they loosened up finally and i could wear pants and short sleeves. It wasnt till highschool where i wore like my first somewhat croptop and shorts. I got a phone only when i turned 14 and when they found out i had like a situationship with a guy they took that away like immediately. I dont have any friends right now, because they all got sick of my situationship and just went against me, and my mental health is like at an all time low, i have no clue what to do. Im almost 16, i cant get my license, i dont have a phone or friends,. I do have a job yes, and i could buy my own phone but im scared they will get really mad.
@EvangelineBirke10 ай бұрын
i’m so sorry about your parents that sounds horrible. I have one question how did you write this comment. i hope everything gets better for you 🫶
@juliakatherinexx10 ай бұрын
@@EvangelineBirke i have laptop for school reasons, but thank you so much. :) i really appreciate that, i hope youre having a wonderful holiday season💗
@KamilaMukhammadova11 ай бұрын
Watching Mina is like FaceTime with bestie 🤍
@Blinngypinkbow8 ай бұрын
i get so scared whenever my dad speaks to me, i cant express myself infront of him. It had always been like that, i listen to whatever he decides for me even though i have to suffer the consequences. i wish my parents would see me as a person, an individual with an opinion and think that its completely fine if i dont wanna...i cry so much wishing it could've been so good if my parents could understand what i feel and stop treating me like a kid and that i cant take care of myself
@fiora564310 ай бұрын
So many of the comments blaming Mina for her parent’s abuse are abhorrent
@Golden_Queen_88810 ай бұрын
Just let me tell u.. U r on the right I swear God wants us to be free & happy All those deformed believes about religion r actually from the devil himself, any form of obligation or restriction to personal freedom joy & expression r devilish in nature.. But at the same time u have to understand that ur parents mindset or even traumas are what’s controlling them.. even if dealing with them is not an option right now, but understanding that is really important for ur own peace.. I know nomatter what u love them at ❤ Keep loving’em from afar it will make u a lot happier & more grounded & surefooted..
@IKRAMHOFFMAN10 ай бұрын
I respect you and your decisions - you go girl !! ❤
@maryamoo825610 ай бұрын
i have rlly strict black parents and recently i have been "rebelling" in the eyes of my parents. I spent a few hours to go to a cinema w my friends for freedom w/o my parents knowledge and ended up getting in alot of trouble being told i completely lost their trust and my mum calling me all sorts nd telling me i wasnt her daughter. I tried speaking to my dad nd he just didnt talk to me. I have been thinking of going uni as a way to escape but it feels like i might not even get to that point bc of how fast things r going downhill. Previously it was just me and my mum bc when my biological dad was w my mum he was very promiscuous and was only after money and sex etc. So obviously my mum is very protective of me falling into a bad pathway and talking to guys who arent good for me. but i know in my heart that i wouldnt dare be so reckless and just slut around like she thinks bc i rlly do care about my future as much as she does. However its gotten to a point where me nd my mum are dislike eachother sm that we live in the same house but barely even speak to eachother nd im dying to just leave even if it costs me the contact i have w my parents. What should i do?
@2layIa10 ай бұрын
whyd u even go without their knowledge obvi theyre gonna worry
@maryamoo825610 ай бұрын
@2layIa I'm 16 (turning 17) nd I've never gone out with friends, I told my dad a lil bit about me going out with friends b4 I did so they already had an idea about it but they didn't expect me to actually go out. All I wanted was a little bit of freedom. And It feels like the more I get restricted, the more curious I get to want to do things.
@samirash291010 ай бұрын
I have been in your shoes and I’m 21 now. Don’t worry just try be apologetic and get through this tough part of your life and then go to university and be independent. Of course you will be able to go. Try to stay at home and work as hard as you can go get into a good university and everything will be okay you will be free ❤️
@maryamoo825610 ай бұрын
@samirash2910 Thanks so much, that really encouraged me alot ❤️
@smritishaw507210 ай бұрын
Such a strong woman ❤so proud of her
@nitinsharma981010 ай бұрын
REALLY WANNA KNOW HOW YOU MADE IT FINANCIALLY ,COZ THATS A BIG ASPECT OF BEING INDEPENDENT!!! n also imma luk I AM VERY PROUD of you
@jiminie23811 ай бұрын
i went through the same thing except i wasnt strong enough to leave. i was so scared back then i wish i got help before. the only reason i stayed was because my parents had a lot of money and i didnt want to risk being sent to a poor family where id have to struggle for a job... looking back i wish i was strong enough to leave. (im a brown girl too and had no freedom)
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@duygukurban293110 ай бұрын
@leyahali6314 may Allah reward you sis ameen. What a lovely response ❤
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
thank you hun ameen x@@duygukurban2931
@andreacardona702310 ай бұрын
Your little brother a real one fr
@Maniiii11010 ай бұрын
i am afghan and have really strict and toxic parents. my mom is really narcissistic and i have come to the realization that this toxic bond is going to eat me up eventually if i let them cross my borders any longer. i’ve decided i am going to no contact.
@safoorak608510 ай бұрын
Some parents struggle to understand that some children can only learn after doing bad. And you are slowly learning, by admitting you regret some of your past things. After a storm comes a calm. May Allah give you sabr and give you the ability to come back on the right path. Take everything easy and dont put too much pressure on yourself. And always confide in Allah when in difficulty. He hears you.
@khaulausman185210 ай бұрын
I am sorry you had to go through all this. I think what most parents do wrong while raising kids is that they tend to enforce the external legalities of Islam before connecting them to Allah. If love for Allah is developed as child by connecting them with nature and making them see the signs and blessings of Allah with an akhirahcentric perspective, the external change manifests itself. You seem like a nice girl , I pray you get to connect with Allah and get to experience the peace and beauty of Islam without feeling imprisoned.
@themeowparlour10 ай бұрын
This is a part of your journey...growing up. You won't be in your 20s forever. You'll remember this time as a catalyst, valuable to your evolution in becoming a woman.
@duygukurban293110 ай бұрын
I agree. Coming on here to expose her parents and herself could potentially be something she'd regret once she becomes wiser and understands certain aspects of why her parents acted upon culture. I'm not saying I agree with her parents, but I definitely don't agree with her, either. Essentially she was sick and tired of rules and wanted to live without having to answer to anyone but what I don't understand is why on earth brown girls have to be so expressive about turning indecent, it's not like it's something to be proud of?
@themeowparlour10 ай бұрын
@@duygukurban2931 it's liberating I guess.
@duygukurban293110 ай бұрын
@@themeowparlour once she hits 26 and left on the shelf like the rest of these "modern" ones looking old and battered from the amount of makeup and fillers depression will hit. It's extremely sad 😔
@themeowparlour10 ай бұрын
@duygukurban2931 let's see... its hard being under 30 in this generation. I'm not that much older, but there is something to be said about the pressure to conform, to be 'somebody' and to form some sense of identity, not really grounded in wholesome values. It's all a part of learning and evolving. As parents, accepting who our children are is a part of our evolution as well.
@duygukurban293110 ай бұрын
@themeowparlour I agree it's hard. I just believe that you have to rise above superficial and focus on true happiness. Anything temporary is just that. She's 22 and has had multiple cosmetic procedures, each to their own. A lot of them like this lifestyle but put a reason behind their actions to justify to the world when really it's a matter of being true to yourself.. maybe I'm just old fashioned 🤷
@maleekakhan231610 ай бұрын
Hey I’m new to your channel. Sending you all the love from the uk queen. No matter what’s happened I still love you watching your vlogs for the past couple of days girl you have confidence keep up the amazing work you got this ❤❤❤❤🥹🫶🙏👊
@Sirenamia7779 ай бұрын
You are so brave and driven. It takes a strong will to be able to just live your life on your own aftwr being raised in a conservative house regardless of religion. I'm pretty sure you are younger than me and I admire you!
@SaraLovesTea10 ай бұрын
Wow Im like so inspired by your positivity. I think abt what I would do with no money and tuition due etc but like how u handled that shit and managed to get thru covid as dark as that was its insane what you hve been through and still handled it? 🥺🥺 also u DEFFF need to do more makeup videos btw 😍
@Germanontop.x7 ай бұрын
Hi Mina you’re so pretty and seem like a genuine nice person, and I’m so proud of you for overcoming all that! And I know you already said a disclaimer but I want to say again Sahih Muslim 2556 “Those who sever ties with their family will not enter paradise” Love you all ❤ x
@AyeshaSiddiqa-v5l10 ай бұрын
I am indian my parents are also Muslim I am happy to be Muslim but my parents are extremely strict they really control me so bad I really don't know what to do.
@sunvavachi8 ай бұрын
Your story is absolutely amazing. ❤
@claudiaalcala761610 ай бұрын
I stop talking to my family 6 years ago had a strict parent too n it's been the best decision I've ever made being on my own
@LoveNadjwa9 ай бұрын
Although I’m really comfortable being muslim, my family would literally mix religion and culture together to make me feel bad but I know what islam was like so I didn’t wanna follow the cultural traditions (have to know how to cook, wanting me to marry a 26 years old at 16…, wanting me to be the “perfect child”, doing literally everything i’m told,etc) they would us emotional abuse, yelling at me for every mistake, calling me names, talking about me, judging everything I do, and using “respect your elders” to take advantage of me, use me and control me. It still happens. I have to cook for them, clean after everyone, wash her clothes and iron them, run errands since I learned to drive, I can’t say i’m tired bc they would say “from what?” my mom is self-centered and selfish. She says she always does everything, she works so hard, she is my mom, but never sees the things I do. I’m literally depressed and have social anxiety because of her but hey she’s my mom
@sarae79510 ай бұрын
But seriously, you are so beautiful mashallah ❤ relate to everything ❤️
@userabdhshhshs10 ай бұрын
this video made me feel so save. i cant really explain. i wear the headscarf, but i really dont want to wear it anymore and i just wish i could take it off, but i really dont wanna do it just for my dad actually. he would never get mad, but i think he will be very disappointed. its just that im not a perfect muslima and i wanna experience clubbing and not only eating at cute restaurants, it may sounds weird.
@BlueOcean-c2y9 ай бұрын
So if he fulfilled your demands and keep you in good environment my suggestion is don't disappointe him he is just doing what God said him to do know if you are adult this is up to you scarf and covering body isn't a cultural thing this isn't which is for any benefit for our parents its just obeying God if you are wearing head scarf just think you are pleasing God my dear
@venicebeach0099 ай бұрын
do what makes you happy. your happiness is the most important. don’t live your life trying to please someone/something else.
@BlueOcean-c2y9 ай бұрын
@@venicebeach009 she don't disappoint her DAD he isn't someone else she should respect him and try to make him happy why not we aren't animals to just please ourselves and think about just ourselves no our parents did everything gor our comfort and our happiness and now its pur turn to think about them
@userabdhshhshs9 ай бұрын
@@BlueOcean-c2y honestly my dad does more than he should be doing as a father. he showed me how a woman needs to be treated and i never had to work a day in my live nor ask for love somewhere else. wearing it just makes me so insecure and i do not feel like my best self wearing it.
@venicebeach0099 ай бұрын
@@BlueOcean-c2y parents should be happy and content with what makes their children happy, as long as they’re not hurting anyone. i find it hard to understand your point here. why wouldn’t someone live for themselves?
@lalaisvlogging9 ай бұрын
girl you're so witty and funny I was dying and multiple points in the video
@H..90810 ай бұрын
As a Muslim gworl myself. Let me make some things clear from my perspective. There’s a lot going on here. So I wanna begin with we are all humans who make mistakes, Allah knows us and our souls, and nobody can judge because everybody has their own path, story and struggles. This poor girl has obviously struggled a lot, with faith, culture and family. I can say from experience that this Can be very hard varying from the situation. What (Muslim) parents don’t realize is that when you force faith without love for Islam, or god, then (a lot of) kids push with a bigger force the other way. When raising a child with faith you should do it (in my opinion) with love and affection, showing all the good things, so that the sacrifices like dressing a certain way or talking a certain way will seem less of a chore and more of a routine that calms your soul. So even though this girl has from an Islamic standpoint not made the best of decisions, and it’s def her own responsibility, her parents are also at fault, so don’t try to defend them. Our profet told us to be love ing and caring and if u just tell someone “don’t do xyz because I say so” instead of “Allah told us xyz because of xyz reason and xyz reward, and it benefits us in xyz, wanna try getting to that point together?” Btw the western environment doesn’t help either. Us girls are being told to look and act a certain way, then told to be our own person, but also follow trends, but also looking sexy, but not slutty, but not modest. Not a very great environment for Muslimahs. And no most ‘Muslim’ countries aren’t the greatest either but that’s because culture is being mixed in there which is very damaging. Anyways I’m trynna say don’t judge her, don’t make the mistakes of her parents and don’t mix Islam with culture or force. If anybody has questions about this unnecessary essay or Islam ask away😅 also may Allah bless and guide you all
@y2kaestheticss10 ай бұрын
*girl
@H..90810 ай бұрын
@@y2kaestheticss girl I know I just like it that way….
@y2kaestheticss10 ай бұрын
gworl 💀
@H..90810 ай бұрын
@@y2kaestheticss u hating like a man💀
@heartattackchuufromloona3610 ай бұрын
what is xyz sorry idk math
@ashleyalvarado8811 ай бұрын
It’s crazy on how you hide your stuff from ur parents and very sad. I hope your good now!! ❤. Much love ❤️!!
@KRITIKA555.7 ай бұрын
watching this i realise i am not alone
@dunphy123810 ай бұрын
Dignity, Integrity and Self- Respect. You don’t need to believe or not believe in God to have those things.
@LivingLearingChannel10 ай бұрын
Heyy girl, I’m go glad you able to change and grow from all what you went through your childhood. I’m glad you were able to be grateful for your parents despite what they have done to you that’s a big heart change, not everyone can do that, And you were able to do it and forgive and be grateful for that
@LivingLearingChannel10 ай бұрын
Love you girll, I could similarly understand what you been and this also gaved me courage to prepare for my future and hardships but I’m just 16 and we kinda have a similar experience and what you said help me view life differently especially for giving your parents or even being grateful for having your parents despite of what did you eat amazed me and I’m glad you did too cause The Bible says that we should forgive others just like God have forgive us and if God for gave us dummies we should forgive others and forgive our selves
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@lunavb1wp9 ай бұрын
don’t tell someone to “wake up” just because they don’t have the same mindset as you, fool
@Lilia-e7u9 ай бұрын
omg we need a haircare routine tou have beautiful hair!
@money592810 ай бұрын
I'm a 16yo North African girl (morrocan) from my father but I was born n raised in France, and for my case your story reminds me of mine. First of all bc my name is Mina too lmao, and also because I was the little "princess" of my strict Muslim dad but one day it goes wrong. I've always been raised in the idea that love and relationships with boys in general are taboo, but I was also raised in a more open-minded way thanks to my mom bc she's White n atheist, so I've always been 50/50 but my dad never "met" this part of me. When I turned 14-15 I started to be more curious abt "intimacy" things in a relationship. Then I had my first official boyfriend (north african too) during my 15, but our relationship made people talking a lot, such as friends of friends and all this stuff, and we're living in a little city where everybody knows each other. So, one year n half after this, (2 months ago from now) I had an argument with 2 of my close friends, and then some days after my dad learned everything abt me and my life outside of the house, and especially he leaned abt the boyfriend, and some pictures and videos abt me and him doing private things would have been send to him. I knew it was my "friends". Hopefully my parents are divorced since 6 years now so I was at my mom's house the day he discovered everything, I can't even write all the things that happened after, he tried to get inside my mom's house to have an expelanation, but he was sooooo upset and extremely angry that he became violent and hited me, he went crazy called all my family, and they tried to call me as well, he told me that I wasn't his daughter anymore etc... The days after my mom kept me home bc my dad went so crazy that God knows what he could have done to me, then he tried to search my ex to beat him, he cancelled my phone subscription, my bank account transfers, and all that was making a link between him and I. Finally he never spoke to me again
@Zouhra079 ай бұрын
im a moroccan too living in spain and im literally going throught that shit too, i hope things get better for us
@pwetty4r410 ай бұрын
omg your brother is such a real one for hiding your things for you
@aleeshababer62566 ай бұрын
It's a choice. You chose dünya over Deen/akhirah! May Allah guide you and make life easier for you. And seeing the comments on this post, make me sad how many girls feel like the religion is oppressing them. Please do your research before having your parents control your life. So you can differentiate between Deen and culture. May Allah guide us all towards the rightousness❤
@jinxvs9 ай бұрын
my parents arent muslim, but my parents are evangelic and im 15 currently going through this at the moment. It is literally such a pain. i'm noticing how much we relate to eachother because my dad actually got sent these types of photos about me wearing pants or crop tops or even me using makeup, dancing or anything else of that nature. i feel trapped and im still planning on my way to just leave. my parents love me and stuff which i do understand but i feel like even from religion there is so much toxicity. my parents tell me i cant do one thing because "i'm christian". which yes. but what if i dont really want to abide it how others perceive it? middle school was honestly a blur, i know that i started my rebelliousness once i started 9th grade so from there honestly there was a lot of suspicion and things like that. my phone has been taken away for- a year now because of a toxic friend i had at church. she was literally like. sending stuff from my highlights to my dad and i know this is kinda spreading a lot of info but literally. this is the only time i have really resonated with someone. and im glad im not the only person who is literally going through something like this. i js wish to wear makeup in front of my parents without them judging or saying im demonic, or have my own clothes. i would swear that i wouldnt wear anything scandalous. i would do absolutely ANYTHING.
@fiddah6 ай бұрын
Animals don’t wear clothes. Humans need clothes. It’s good to dress modestly in public . It’s for our own good. الحَمدُ لله . Do read the Qur’an 🌹 .
@jinxvs6 ай бұрын
@@fiddah of course, modesty is accepted. wearing something thats scandalous is obviously a nono.
@HatiahBegum7 ай бұрын
this is a story of you disowning you parents and not the other way around
@Mal_hunny7 ай бұрын
Frr
@elenika36016 ай бұрын
What this comment section doesn't understand is that she doesn't talk about religions she is talking about strict parents
@LunaxPumpkin5 ай бұрын
Fr
@heartz4_maryam10 ай бұрын
As a Muslim girl with trig parent I am the same way 14 in 8th grade and I ALWAYS wear hoodie and pants with other clothes under, scared of this happening
@Am1na.096 ай бұрын
I feel bad for her.. Insh'Allah she will find her way back to Allah because he's forgiving every sin
@BK-tp6jf3 ай бұрын
Feel bad for all the oppressed women
@Am1na.093 ай бұрын
@@BK-tp6jf i feel bad for you
@rockinroyah10 ай бұрын
my Afghan dad has actual mental issues which he put on his family. Like no one in my family supported me. My gf called the police on my dad hahahah and that's the last time I saw him. So much more happier now.
@aljoharah911910 ай бұрын
A lot of religious people would think like how could she do this but as a Muslim with supportive parents alhamduallah and being close to Allah I get it like imagine living in a western country and going to a western school you are unconsciously going to try to fit in for example how they dress and act
@makeupzonedonna127210 ай бұрын
I’m so proud of you
@kawtharch671610 ай бұрын
for becoming a hoe ???
@Moon-cw9ku11 ай бұрын
I got really emotional watching this I actually feel like crying 💔
@leyahali631410 ай бұрын
Consider the plight of the Palestinian people, who are facing extreme suffering and trauma. Let us not take our lives for granted, for we never know when our last day will be. Allah emphasizes the importance of mothers by mentioning them three times. This should remind us of their significant role in our lives. It deeply saddens me to witness the heartbreaking scenes in Palestine, such as a mother crying over her lifeless and helpless child, apologizing for the situation. However, we hope to reunite with our loved ones in paradise. If such tragedies fail to move or upset you, then may Allah guide you, for if you hide anything from your parents, rest assured that Allah sees everything and you will be held accountable in the hereafter. When your parents pass away, refrain from shedding insincere tears or creating a dramatic KZbin video, as you have treated them poorly despite their best intentions for you. Having caring and overprotective parents is a blessing, as their love and guidance are driven by their faith in Allah. They raised you and endured the pain of bearing you for nine months, so do not disregard their efforts. May Allah lead you to the right path and grant you forgiveness, ameen. Even one step closer to Allah will be amazing, read the Quran translation in English and books on how to better yourself as i think you really need to wake up x
@Tigertxt9 ай бұрын
can you please do a story about when you lived in your cousins wardrobe? tysm!
@LunaxPumpkin5 ай бұрын
I understand how you said you had always wanted to be free and live your own life, but a house in London? Live with my friends? Only my friends? I would have already been gone
@mathsisdeadtomenow2 күн бұрын
that would have been so much fun
@sharnadejong13458 ай бұрын
I m so glad I just found your channel, feels like we've literally lived the same life!!! I m from Mississauga but I went to Laurier to escape my parents haha