MY HEALING ERA: how I went from depressed to loving life (small changes I made that YOU can too!) 💜

[@JayGTheAwkwardBookworm]

“I was moving forward…but toward what” THIS IS LITERALLY ME RN…

[@HaileyinBookland]

Unfortunately all too relatable 😅

[@siyak.1818]

If this video was a book, I would have highlighted that quote so fast. 😭

[@melindaforry644]

Hailey. I truly hope you know how much these videos mean to some of us. I am much older but when you were talking about yourself a few videos back, it was like you were talking about me. None of us are alone and you doing these videos is such a great comfort. I like that you will say you didn’t do so well at this or that, but then you get right back at it. One small “blip” (I don’t want to say failure) is just that. A small blip. Tomorrow is another day to try. Because that’s all any of us can do. Try. You are a light, Hailey, and it’s so great to see you smiling and giving yourself grace. XO

[@HaileyinBookland]

💜💜 thank you for this

[@valengonzvlogs]

YOUR HAIR LOOKS GREAT

[@nicholeparentela465]

I'm so grateful you've been open on your journey as so many of us are in the same boat yet feel so alone.. you've shown me that sticking to habits might actually work in my favor and that continuing to try to change the negative mindset will be beneficial. Thanks for being you!

[@malavikaps5015]

This video feels like it is meant for me. I've been in a depression slump for a year and i finally feel a little ready to get back to getting my life back together. Pleaaase do more of these kinds of videos. Just seeing that the bad times aren't forever gives me hope 💗

[@angelaholmes8888]

I'm sorry that you were struggling last year I too have struggled with depression over the years I hope this year will be better for you

[@HaileyinBookland]

take care of yourself, I promise more videos like this will be coming and I hope they do help 💜

[@sammyg2808]

Girl none of this was stupid!!! Don’t doubt yourself. It was helpful. So happy for you ❤

[@MargaretSy]

I can tell how much you love the burlesque classes because you absolutely light up when talking about it! I did a ballet performance workshop in the last quarter of 2023 and I think having a performance really helped me with attendance. I always wanted to go to drop-in classes before them but could never muster the willpower to get my butt into the studio. I also got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult (in 2021) and it has been so enlightening. Welcome to the club 😆! It's still tough even on meds but having a better+confirmed understanding of how my brain is wired helps so much with planning. On that note combined with decluttering and home organization, I think you'd enjoy looking into the Clutterbug quiz for organization styles. I haven't seen another approach like it - the short version is it classifies you into an organization type and provides tips based on whether you prefer your stuff macro or micro organized, and whether you prefer to have your things visible or out of sight.

[@kandraReadsSometimes]

Setting stuff up for my future self was KEY for me!🙌🩷 Setting out my clothes the night before for example, i have a habit of thanking my past self. When i wake up at 5am, I'm happy i dont have to think to decide what i want, I say out loud "thank you past self, you really care about me❤" 🫶 Love yourself the way you would a dear friend.

[@accalialb]

This whole video is so relatable. « I don’t want to be living my life as endless to do lists », I struggle SO MUCH with that. It takes everything I have to tackle them (adhd-depression-anxiety trio too). But then once I’m finally checking stuff on the list it’s so thrilling and addictive I can’t stop even when I can no longer feel the joy of it. And I need to do something productive BEFORE I can sit down and spend time on a hobby, otherwise I feel bad and end up looking at the wall waiting. I’m working on balance, it’s my 2024 word. 😮‍💨

[@niesjereurink]

Hailey, I have been watching your videos for a couple years now and seeing your growth and newfound happiness in recent months has been so inspiring. I changed my life a lot in 2023 as well, and I feel like I finally figured out so many things that I'd been struggling with for years. Whenever I am lacking motivation or feeling down, I always turn to you and your videos for inspiration and motivation. Thank you for sharing your journey and I hope 2024 is the best year ever!

[@starlasell5698]

There is no need for apologies. The video was amazing, and I'm really happy for you!

[@RaisSmile1]

Thank you for sharing Hailey! I'm so glad you're happier now ❤

[@autumpeacock4779]

Literally as a follower for yours I’m tearing up just listening to you and how happy you sound and I just know you’re proud of yourself. We’re so proud of you❤

[@HaileyinBookland]

thank you so much 💜

[@trinity3272]

I could cry. I’ve been following you for 7 years and I rarely if ever comment. I like reading, that’s why I followed you, but I struggle with bpd and dissociative amnesia. It’s scary and confusing and lonely. I really value this video thank you

[@valengonzvlogs]

I am so happy for you Hailey!!!!!

[@queennovella7723]

This video was so beautiful and enlightening.I don't usually talk about this publicly but I have also struggled with similar issues, so I can definitely relate to a lot of what you're saying. Not to get into too much detail but I had gotten into a fixed mindset because I failed at something major back in 2018 or 2019. The fact I had a not-so-great person in my life at that time didn't help either. Either I didn't realize I was depressed or I was in so much denial at the time that I didn't care to explore it. I finally told my family that I needed help around a year ago and have been getting the help I needed ever since. A lot of things you have mentioned in this video were things I was told. Such as: making small changes first, the difference between something that brings you joy and a distraction, and even the spiritual self-care you were talking about. I also learned that motivation is not actually something that comes naturally, it is something that is earned. It is earned by doing things that make you feel good and sitting around all day doing nothing was more of a distraction. I was also talked to about acceptance and how important it is to accept you: your successes and your failures. Thank you so much for sharing, I understand this can be hard to talk about. Heck, it made me nervous just typing out this comment. Just like this video, I hope this comment can help someone know they're not alone 🙂

[@melindaforry644]

I’m so glad you were able to write this. It’s always a good to talk about these things and I think Hailey has been doing a fantastic job with these videos. I hope you are doing well and giving yourself some grace😊

[@queennovella7723]

@@melindaforry644 Thank you so much 🙂

[@melindaforry644]

❤️

[@HaileyinBookland]

Thank you so much for sharing 💜

[@helenvanzetten]

Thank you for sharing all of this❤

[@thebookbelle]

Thank you for making this video Hailey! It really inspired me and has got me thinking about ways I can stop waiting around for life to change and begin to actually implement those changes. It’s been so amazing watching you go on this journey! ❤

[@emmaskapetis7603]

Amazing video❤. I love how open you are are about your mental health because this topic definitely needs to be talked about more.

[@coke-cinelle]

I love this ! So inspiring ! My big realization in 2023 was that I don’t have to live with the schedules I grec up with for foot and sleeping. So now I eat dinner between 6:30 and 7 pm instead of 8pm like most french people because at that time I still have energy if I need to cook and then I have time to relax and start getting ready for bed at 9:15 9:30 and that means I am more likely to do the dishes, do my skincare routine...

[@dominikaw.6488]

Amazing! So proud of you, I've been following for years and the change is so visible now it's amazing. You're very inspiring and motivate me to take care of my space and habits so much, thank you!

[@artemsapegin]

I understand what you say about time blocking - these calendars without a single empty spot look intimidating to me. I’d procrastinate half of the day, and then all the tasks would overlap, and I’d feel super stressed. That’s too much!

[@rebeccawickham7317]

My therapist has always told me its natural for my thoughts to wander when meditating and to acknowledge it and then bring them back in.

[@shelbyfisher3734]

Thank you for this video Hailey!! I relate to your situation & struggles so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD two years ago at 27 & I'm still trying to understand myself through different "lenses." I saved this video in a dopamine boost playlist - a resource for those moments I need a laugh or a smile, or in this case, to not feel so alone in my struggles ☺️

[@chrissyodonnell1507]

Besides reading, I started doing diamond art! It’s so fun and relaxing!

[@katerinazacharopoulou9522]

Hi! I watch your videos the last almost 10 years and I feel you as a friend. I'm so happy to see you thrive! Kisses from Greece!

[@shandaboreson2998]

You look and sound amazing! You are shining, so happy for you!

[@ChapterandConverse]

I really enjoyed this video and appreciate your sharing what worked for you and that the journey itself isn't always quick or easy. I could relate so much (though I'm more 2023 you figuring it out). It can be so hard to keep going and pushing forward. Would *love* to see how you are tackling the declutter. Shopping while sad is 100% me and the too much stuff situation is *real*. Was just talking about how overwhelmed I am by my stuff and the decisions that led me to it. Excited to keep following along and so happy you've found your happy place!

[@Jaszies.many.worlds]

I love your positivity

[@17caria]

I'm so happy for you that you are in a good place! The dogs growling while you were talking about peaceful journaling was pretty funny timing.

[@maeveokay]

Oooh girl I feel you! I was diagnosed with adhd 1 year ago, and it changed everything for me. I also just moved to Germany (my partner is German) and I don’t speak German well enough to communicate. Yes, it is hard, and that’s okay, AND it’s possible to get to a better place! Thank you for this video, even just to show people that you aren’t alone, and it can get better with the right steps, which look different for everyone ❤

[@abigailbeauregard3459]

Hi Hailey! I appreciate you sharing this and am so happy to see the positive change in how you’re feeling! I’ve been feeling exactly the same way in a lot of cases, so thank you for sharing what helped you. Hopefully some of these things will help me too ❤

[@lorielovesbooks7315]

Thanks for this especially since i woke up at 12 today and had trouble figuring out my plans for the day.

[@BrebearMckae]

I also fight the emotional spending battle

[@whenhelfrozeover]

I just found your channel and love your content as I relate to it a lot. As an aside, girl! You're GORGEOUS!!!!

[@pariah_haven]

I'm really liking this content from you, it's relatable. I've been following you for years and I feel like your content has grown so much. Thank you for sharing all of this.

[@harleymonroe6018]

Thank you this video helped a lot

[@cookiethief100]

So helpful, Hailey

[@rosannacabrera0191]

Since 2020 I felt I was a different person but this is the year I’m going back to being me

[@kendrapost1133]

I love this so much!

[@lindseygundersen3951]

Love this video thank you!

[@daisydaisyrust]

I'm 19 and just a few months ago got diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD. It all suddenly hit me why I feel so behind and broken compared to everyone else. I feel like everyone is able to shove so much into one day and it makes my accomplishments feel meaningless. I want to fit more into my day but the problem is that I don't want a strict schedule. For the first time in my life (as a freshman in college) I get to wake up with the sunrise, eat when I want, and go wherever I want. I like the fluidity of my current lifestyle, and I'm on top of assignments- but it feels like no matter how much I work into my day- classes, schoolwork, personal projects, social outings, self care, physical therapy- it's not enough. It's not that I don't have the time for it, It's just that I am so physically exhausted. I'm doing more now than I think I ever have in my life and so many things are happening that feel like wins but it still feels like it isn't enough. Thank you for this video. I want to try to check out some of those books you mentioned, and if nothing else, this video made me feel seen ☺

[@chibireads2531]

Thank you so much for this! I’ve been struggling so hard but now a little positivity will get me to where I need to be. So that I can stay happy and secure 🩵

[@ElinWinblad]

This sounds like my adhd. I’ll go while with slumping it then clicks and I can hold onto the attention and energy to get my shit together and then it drops off again 😢

[@SavannahStuermer]

Hailey, I loved this video, it was so enjoyable for me to watch. Thank you for being vulnerable and opening up conversations around mental health. As someone who has been in the mindfulness space for over 5 years, I personally don't believe you can be 'good' at meditating. I can definitely relate to working on not feeling guilty when I am not being 'productive'. This is something I have struggled with for basically as long as I can remember. I highly recommend the book The Comfort Book by Matt Haig. The book is full of short passages and you can flip to a random page and read it that way or of course you can read it from cover to cover. It is one of my favorite books of all time and can be so helpful for your mental health. I also really enjoyed Jennae Cecelia's book 'healing for no one but me'. How to Keep House While Drowning has been on my TBR for some time now, so thanks for the reminder to read it. I am so glad you found your community with burlesque. More importantly though I am so glad you are feeling better. The end of 2022 and the start of 2023 was an extremely difficult time for me. So once again I just want to say how much I appreciate you making this video about your mental health. One final thing I wanted to share is that I am a yoga teacher and I have a youtube channel where I share yoga classes. I have several yoga classes for anxiety and a few to help boost your mood as well. The name of my channel is Savannah Stuermer, if you are interested.

[@crazybooklady2104]

You are inspiration

[@MySUPERkate]

Loved this!!! More of this content please!! Xx

[@ivydeliz]

“I’m not trying to do the most” hits different! Haha we all have to make it to that mind space.

[@lalaland5780]

Love your openness in this video! You inspired me to download notion but wow it is intimidating!! Would you be willing to share how you set up your notion? 💖

[@hanin2729]

Hey Hailey. Your notion templates are so gorgeous! Is it able that you can share empty ones with us? Thankssss I am so happy for you and for your glow up journey!

[@SaraKat886]

Thank you for sharing! I’d love to see a list of the self help books you read and which ones worked best for you. I know they wouldn’t necessarily then work for everyone but would be a great list to work from for a lot of us. Thanks 😊

[@scoutthepages]

Is there any chance you'll ever share templates of your notion databases? I LOVE yours, but don't know how to create one like that myself quite yet.

[@MySUPERkate]

Would love to know more about ‘notion’ xx

[@shaleyflowers]

Thank you so much for making this video and by the way your dog scared the crap out of me before you said anything I thought I was hearing things because I have a speaker on and the bass was just getting the growl I'm like oh my God is there a demon coming through my speaker lol 😂😂

[@superpc9]

How do you always post the exact video I need right when I need it ???

[@autumpeacock4779]

Do you have a video for your nonfiction/ self/ help recommendations? The ones that worked for you? If you’re ever up for it, I would love to watch!

[@ajesguerra9560]

Do you have an affiliate link to where you got the digital Notion templates?

[@rekhaaa2313]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@theforgottenbrawlers]

Namaste